Meghala Devi

Marital issues among problems caused by cell phone addiction (calls,messages, mails, face book etc!)

2013-07-31T03:51:00.001-07:00

Cell phones have improved our lives in many ways! Absolutely, there is no doubt in it.

Butttt these mobile devices can take over your life! We should understand and operate it within limits.

Technology is replacing personal interactions at a bigger cost! It is not just about personal interactions.. It costs more!!

1. Safety Hazards

Research has shown that overuse of cell phones causes cancer, headache, irritation, concentration problems....But who cares? People speak as though they speak to an engaged partner during the first week..lol

2. Accidents

It is irritating to see people bending their neck and speaking whole riding the bike...What will happen if you speak after parking the vehicle? Or you can even speak later? Is there someone at the other end in death bed, wanting to hear your words? Sorry for the sarcastic remarks

3. Friendship issues

5 youngsters sit at a table, having a drink. Their eyes are all glued to smart phone, either texting or surfing!
Excessive cell phone use could lead to a decline in social skills!.

Live in the present moment. Concentrate on the people who next to you.

4. Parental concerns

Cell phones have come in between parents and children. The children speak to their phone more than their parents. Our children spend more time strengthening their thumbs than learning the skills to be competitive on the world stage, nurturing relationships, playing outside etc.

5. Relationship issues
Being preoccupied with your smart phone, making calls when you are with other people can send the message that they are not all that important,” she said. “It also stops you from responding to non-verbal signals and this could lead to a communication breakdown.”

If you are constantly texting or taking calls when you're with someone, the person you are with might be offended because you are connecting with someone else instead of communicating with him or her.. The person would feel neglected and resentful!

Prioritize the time spent with your spouse and children!
Love the one you’re with! When you’re with someone, that relationship is your priority.

Disclaimer:
I don’t mean that we should spend time only with spouse and children and don’t speak with anyone else. We should maintain a balance in everything and know the limits. It is good to speak over phone for some reasonable time with whom we feel are very important for us. Butt we should make sure too much speaking over the phone does not jeopardize the time spent with our spouse and children!

வாழ்கையின் வெற்றிக்கு 20 கோட்பாடுகள்

2012-10-03T00:41:00.001-07:00

* எந்த விசயமாக இருந்தாலும் அல்லது எந்த பிரச்னையாக இருந்தாலும் அதை அழகா கையாளுங்கள்.
* அர்த்தமில்லாமலும்,தேவையில்லாமலும் பின் விளைவுகளை அறியாமலும் பேசிக் கொண்டிருப்பதை விடுங்கள்.
* தானே பெரியவன்,தானே சிறந்தவன் என்ற அகந்தையை விடுங்கள்.
* விட்டுக் கொடுங்கள்.
* சில நேரங்களில்,சில சங்கடங்களை சகித்துத்தான் ஆக வேண்டும் என்பதை உணருங்கள்.
* நீங்கள் சொன்னதே சரி,செய்வதே சரி என்று கடைசி வரை வாதாடதிர்கள்.
* குறுகிய மனப்பான்மையை விட்டோளியுங்கள்.
* உண்மை எது,பொய் எது என்று விசாரிக்காமல் இங்கே கேட்டதை அங்கும்,அங்கே கேட்டதை இங்கும் சொல்வதை விடுங்கள்.
* மற்றவர்களை விட உங்களையே எப்போதும் உயர்த்தி நினைத்து கவலைப்படதிர்கள்.
* அளவுக்கதிகமாய் தேவைக்கதிகமாய் ஆசைப்படதிர்கள்.
* எல்லோரிடத்திலும் எல்லா விசயங்களையும்,அவர்களுக்கு சம்பந்தம் உண்டா இல்லையோ,சொல்லி கொண்டிருக்காதிர்கள்.
* கேள்விபடுகிற எல்லா விசயங்களையும் அப்படியே நம்பி விடாதிர்கள்.
* உங்கள் கருத்துகளில் உடும்புபிடியை இல்லாமல் கொஞ்சம் தளர்த்திக்கொள்ளுங்கள்.
* மற்றவர்களுக்கு உரிய மரியாதையை கட்டவும்,இனிய இதமான சொற்களை பயன்படுத்தவும் மறக்கதிர்கள்.
* புன்முறுவல் காட்டவும்,சிற்சில அன்பு சொற்களை சொல்லவும் கூட நேரமில்லாமல் நடந்து கொள்ளாதிர்கள்.
* பேச்சிலும்,நடத்தையிலும்,திமிர்த்தனத்தயும் தேவையில்லாத மிடுக்கையும் தவிர்த்து அடக்கத்தையும் பண்பாட்டையும் காட்டுங்கள்.
* அவ்வபோது நண்பர்கள் உறவினார்கள் நேரில் சந்தித்து மனம் திறந்து பேசுங்கள்.
* பிணக்கு ஏற்படும்போது அடுத்தவர் முதலில் இறங்கி வர வேண்டும் என்று காத்திருக்காமல் நீங்களே பேச்சை துவக்க முன்வாருங்கள்.
*தேவையான இடங்களில் நன்றியும்,பாராட்தையும் சொல்ல மறவதிர்கள்.

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http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=421378481245485&set=a.253627884687213.64617.253432604706741&type=1&relevant_count=1&ref=nf

Link to find Bank ifsc code

2011-08-29T01:50:00.001-07:00

http://banksifsccode.com/

Infosys Sudha Murthy

2011-08-22T01:54:00.001-07:00

http://worldofdilip.wordpress.com/2008/05/23/infosys-narayana-murthys-wife-sudha-murthys-experience/

http://www.hegdekiran.com/2011/01/love-story-of-sudha-murthy-infosys.html

Very Useful Info

2011-03-08T20:38:00.000-08:00

1. If you see children Begging anywhere in TAMIL NADU, please contact: "RED SOCIETY" at 9940217816. They will help the children for their studies.
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-Plant more Trees.

-Don't waste Water & Electricity.

-Don't use or burn Plastics

8. It costs 38 Trillion dollars to create OXYGEN for 6 months for all Human beings on earth. "TREES DO IT FOR FREE" "Respect them and Save them"

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Landmark: Near Michael School
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If you have a function/party at your home in India and food gets wasted, don't hesitate to call 1098 (only in India ) - Its not a Joke, This is the number of Child helpline.
They will come and collect the food. Please circuate this message which can help feed many children.

Anbae sivam . Love others, then worship God

2010-08-24T22:35:00.000-07:00

Anbae sivam anbae sivam yendrum

Anbae sivam anbae sivam yengum

Anbin paathai saerndhavanukku mudivae iLLaiyadaa

Manadhin neeLam yedhuvoe adhuvae vaazhvin neeLamada

I'm not against worshiping god. I do worship God :-) I'm not against performing rituals. I'm concerned about people who are not divine at heart and worship god. First love others. Love your family members, relatives and everyone. Love everything, including non loving things. If you fight with some one, they curse you. And it gets registered in your body as paava padhivugal. It affects not only you, but also it passes on to your generations. Try to avoid conflicts with people. It only fills the environment with negative vibrations. Worshiping God alone does not help. We should have love at heart first. Love starts at the family. If a person fights with his/her spouse, the house will be surrounded with negative vibrations. The vibrations affects both of them, their children and the people visiting their home. Imagine if negative vibrations are in all homes. This is the situation in many families. What is the use in worshiping god and fighting with people? First we should learn to love people. If we learn to love and avoid conflicts, the whole world will have only positive vibrations. Love should exist in individual families. Then it will surely exist in the whole world.

God Notices your deeds

2009-02-17T19:30:00.000-08:00

If we plough our field properly and sow the right seeds, nothing will affect us, be it storm or rain. Our seeds will bear the fruits for sure. God is there, who notices our labor. You will surely reap what you sow. Your good deeds will be surely rewarded.

These words mean a lot. Each individual who reads this would interpret in a different way :-)

I had my best Birthday !!!

2008-09-22T04:41:00.000-07:00

Birthday is a special occasion for a person. My special day fell today (September 22). Generally I don’t like celebrating birthdays. Birthdays come and go every year and I scarcely remember the things done on that day. But this birthday will linger in my memories forever. My roomies made me to cut cakes and they presented me a nice gift. And I received phone calls from friends around 12. Some of my friends share the birthday with me – Rajathi, Vivek, Dhivya, Swarna, Mahendran and Arun. I wished them too. And today, the birthday mails started flooding. My team mates composed nice birthday mails for me. It was totally unexpected and it made me very happy. And there were some disappointments too. Some distant but close ones forgot to wish. Some near ones dint wish me!

You may feel what’s special in it. All these are usual and most of us have these experiences. I did something different for the birthday this year. Yesterday, I went to BalaJothi, a centre for the disabled along with members of DISHA. Fredric, the founder’s son (Rahul) was affected with autism, cerebral palsy and mental retardation at a tender age of 3. The doctors told that he would be bed ridden and would not be able to do anything. He would not be able to speak, walk or think on his own. Nothing could shake Fredric. He took it as a challenge and started training the child on every aspect. And now, Rahul is 7 years old. He walks, understands five languages and operates computers too. That is really a medical miracle. This happened only because of the love which his dad and his grandparents showered on him. We were so moved to hear Fredric speak about his experiences. Kudos to you Fredric. He also provides special education to 30 disabled children. We provided funds to them. Though a small amount, we should understand that little drops of water makes a mighty ocean. From now, I decided to regularly help people in need. Every one of us should do the best possible by us, at least on our birthdays. In this way, we can surely become smile in each and every individual.

The deepest desire of each and every human is to love and be loved

2008-08-24T20:59:00.000-07:00

I am a member of DISHA foundation. Me along with five other members visited Asha Niketan yesterday. It is a home which gives the people with mental handicaps a new ray of hope. The people there are really cared so much. And they also involve in creative activities like candle making, craft work, bamboo work etc. Those people were abandoned by their own family members and now they have got a new home. A place were they are loved and cared for. It is managed by Katherine, a French lady. Kudos to her work, her energy, her passion to make a difference in peoples lives. Many people have a desire to help others. They stop with it. But she has gone an extra mile and serves people. She chose to be single and be with the people. That’s really great and she has to be very much appreciated for it.

As Mahatma Gandhi said, “A man’s greatness lies not in his mind, but in his heart” we should also play our part to make a difference in peoples lives. The happiness you get by helping others is much more than what you get by other things like succeeding in your career, obtaining material possessions etc. Such kind of happiness is short lived. But if you make some one happy, if you make a difference in some ones lives the happiness stays longer. So, decide in what ways you can make a difference in people’s lives. It can be as simple as a smile. You smile has a great power and it can create great miracles in people. You can understand it only by experience. Start your day with smile. When you meet a person, smile and greet him/her with a good morning.

Work Work Work

2008-06-16T20:40:00.000-07:00

At times people become overwhelmed with work that they do stupid things. I don’t say that I’m always sane. Some of the things which I have done…

Adding salt to tea
Using access card for my home
Giving ATM card in the place of Sodexho card.

Extreme stupidity rite? You must also have done one of these.

We should not allow work to overwhelm us. There should be a proper balance between work and personal life. I too wish to follow this but some times it is not possible. Many of my friends and relatives scold me for not following this. I wish a day would come when I follow a proper schedule.

And in spite of all these, I enjoy work. There is a steep learning curve here...
Of course, we can achieve things only if we put effort...

EARN for a healthy living. What does it really mean?

2008-06-11T04:18:00.000-07:00

EARN for a healthy living. What does it really mean?

E - Exercise (15mins minimum)
A – Attitude (Positive Attitude)
R - Adequate rest (Deep sleep from 6-8 Hrs preferably from 2200hrs to 0400hrs)
N – Nutrition (from food we take)

Disease free life!!!

2008-06-01T20:12:00.000-07:00

An apple a day keeps doctor away.

An egg a day keeps cancer away.

A lemon a day keeps fat away.

A cup of milk a day keeps bone problems away.

3 liters of water a day keeps diseases away.

By British Medical Journal, March 2007 edition. Follow this and have a disease free life

Think of participating in Olympics!

2008-05-14T23:16:00.000-07:00

I used to participate in sports in our School and College. Got few prizes in running. (People used to say that I dint run and it was the air which helped me to run). No sports activities in companies. But I do sporting in Company sometimes. How???

Sometimes, I start from my desk just 10 seconds before our company bus departs from Office. Though my team mates ask me to not to hurry and go by the next bus, I run to catch the bus. After catching the bus I feel that I have climbed Everest. My happiness knows no bounds after grabbing a seat.

So I think I am good enough to participate in Olympics or Marathon race. Am I? I can hear many people telling, "This is toooo much".

Dog !!! Oooo God….

2008-05-14T05:01:00.000-07:00

The other day I was going to my home in Cab. It was late night. The driver dropped me on main road. I had to walk a bit to reach my home. Since the road is narrow, cabs can’t reach till my home gate. I was approaching the gate. Four dogs were standing to welcome me. O my god! That was a breath taking experience. I was thinking, “Should I take the other road” or “Should I fight with them and enter inside the home gate”. I didn’t choose option two since I am not that brave. :-). Then I thought of taking the other route which leads to my home and went back to the main road. Luckily, The driver was standing there. He escorted me, droved the dogs and I went in happily. Thanks a million to him. And remember, there were two other persons who accompanied me in the Cab, my team mates Dhivya and Amal. They were laughing like anything. It looks funny now but whenever I require go home late nights, my heart beat increases. !

Some other incident... I was nearing home. There was only one dog trying to chase me, bite me or whatever. (Who knows what it was planning!). I dint know what to do. I thought of giving it a biscuit to eat and get in to my home. But I had none. Luckily found an orbit chewing gum. It was raining so heavily too. I took the orbit, closed the gate and threw the orbit outside the gate. And then only I remembered. “O God. It is a bubble gum. If the dog eats it, it will die. I did a blunder”. The dog smelled it and didn’t eat the Orbit. Thank God. I went in happily.

Happiness!

2008-04-30T05:23:00.000-07:00

There is real happiness involved in making others happy. Working in software industry has its own pressures and challenges. We have to do something to make ourselves and also our surroundings pleasant. Productivity increases when you are happy and calm.

Smile! Smile is a curve which sets everything straight. Smile at people. Your smile should be a genuine one. Start your day saying a vibrant good morning to people whom you happen to see. There are fewwwww medicines in the world which are as powerful as laughter.

Well. I compose birthday mails for the team and send it out when their day comes. It takes some time to gather information about people and compose something funny and interesting about them. I see the smile in their face once they read the mails, especially composed for them. The recent one was for my cubicle mate. He was so happy to read the mail. The entire team wished him, teased him and there was so much of laughter around. He said “You made my day”.

Happiness is contagious. Be happy and make others happy too.

Starting Trouble !!!

2008-04-28T03:25:00.001-07:00

Got a sudden interest in Blogging... But I dun no what to start with...
As the saying goes, "A journey of thousand miles begins with a single step", let me start jotting something which comes across my mind!