MELANIE'S MUSINGS...

MY REVOLUTION: A JOURNEY TO A HEALTHY ME: Day 5 Back On Weight Watchers

2012-06-06T14:42:00.001-05:00

Y'all give my sweet sister-girl some love. I am soooo proud of her!! You are not defined by how many times you BEGIN the journey, just how you FINISH it... and that you DO finish it!! :)

MY REVOLUTION: A JOURNEY TO A HEALTHY ME: Day 5 Back On Weight Watchers: Greetings all I am new to this blogging thing as you can probably tell. I decided to do this after being inspired by my niece and watching...

2012-05-16T01:07:00.002-05:00

I struggle, on a daily basis, to do what the Lord has called me to do. Actually, that's not entirely accurate. Actually, I don't generally have a problem doing what the Lord has called me to do. Surprisingly enough, I really don't. For this past people-pleaser who never knew how to say "no", I have grown. Sometimes that's a good thing, sometimes not so much. I may veer too far on the other end now just because I have become jaded. I don't really care about people pleasing anymore. I have no problem saying what I feel or what I feel I need to say because of this. I think that this is God's use of a bad thing made good. If I don't care about people-pleasing or what others will think, I'm not afraid to share the message He has for me. I do seek to care for people, be there for them as much as I can, and try to be a good friend. But I'm not so sure that I always am. I'm scared to, quite honestly. I don't trust people. I don't trust them not to hurt me, to cause me pain. I am jaded. A wise friend once told me (repeatedly) that having expectations on others only hurts you in the end. I thought that was a kinda cynical viewpoint, which really surprised me because I didn't see this person as particularly cynical. But the dreamer in me fought that. I thought- people will only rise to the level that you expect of them. But I've learned differently. People are disappointing. And rarely ever what you think they are or make them out to be. I don't want to be a cynic, but a dreamer doesn't fare well. Too much brokenness lies in the past of a dreamer. So a realist is better, right? So can't I just be "real"? Why must I constantly be disappointed by the expectations I have that others are better people than who they really are? It's so continually disappointing.
For me, my daily "sins", if you will, are that of trying to maintain my dignity and purpose and not allow my spirit to be crushed. It is in trying to be the strong Christian that God has called me to be and not to succumb to the enemies plots to destroy my joy. It is in trying to FIND my joy in the LORD and NOT in MAN! Really- that part isn't too hard anymore because I'm so burned out in that area that I don't expect to find joy there anymore. Problem solved! But it's hard when we are surrounded by sin and negativity. Like our Sunday school teacher said this past week- just a little sedation here, little sedation there- this is okay, that's okay- not a big deal here, not a big deal there... just keep on being sedated by the things of this world and before you know it, you're under. THE MOST FRUSTRATING THING IN THE WORLD TO ME IS THIS... PEOPLE NEVER KNOW THEY'VE BEEN SEDATED!!!!!!!!! UGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! I could scream at the top of my lungs for days on end 'til my lungs collapse from my frustration with this! They won't listen, they don't hear you, they are CLUELESS! They think they're A-OK! All good on God's list! And that's fine if it doesn't affect any one else's life in any way (actually it's not, but I digress...), but when it DOES... what to do? I am HORRIBLE at just "let go and let God" with this. HORRIBLE. God knows, I'm not going to pull any punches with you. HORRIBLE. I want to pound them over the head with a Bible 'til I beat the truth into them. I want to pull my hair out and scream. I get SO frustrated by what seems SO SIMPLE and BLATANTLY OBVIOUS to ME. But that's just it... TO ME. God has revealed these things TO ME because I have made myself open to them. I have requested the truth and He has opened my blinded eyes to see. If you don't want to see, if you do not ASK to see- you will NOT see. Of course, then there are those who KNOW to ask and still do not ask and their judgment is on their own heads. It's not that they haven't had access to the truth, it's just easier for them to live on in their "ignorance is bliss" and "what I do is not sin" mindset and that works for them. Or so they think. But they're not fooling anyone (at least not me) and they're CERTAINLY NOT fooling GOD! They will figure this out eventually, I pray.
Patience is not my virtue. Compassion is my strong suit, though. So I pray for more patience so that my compassion may be better utilized. People don't respond as well to a brick over the head as they do a soft shoulder, I know this. Or- as my Grandmother used to say- you can catch more flies with honey than you can vinegar. I haven't tried either, but I believe it to be true. However, I think there is a time to give a soft answer and there is a time for strong truth. I think there is such a gray covering over people in this day that we have TOTALLY lost sight of the black and white we are to live our lives by and they NEED a strong dose of reality, soft wont' do it! It's black & white. It's God's or satan's- period. There IS no gray area. It's black, it's white. If it's not OF God, it's OF satan. Period. That movie you're watching, that song you're listening to, that book you're reading- is God in it? Do you see God ANYWHERE in it? Then guess who it belongs to? It's not that hard to figure it out. Now average your day based on how many things you're partaking in that belong to God, versus how many belong to you-know-who... the other guy... So who owns your day? But do you think of it that way? No, probably not. You're a "good person", right? Get real. Wake up before it's too late. People living with blinders on because they don't want to see the TRUTH.

So what was this blog about, really? I don't know. What did you get out of it? What did I get by typing it out? Isn't that enough? There wasn't any real theme, other than to say that people living in delusion frustrate me and that people purposely do so- most likely, so that they may continue on in the sin that their committing and not feel guilty about it. So don't. Do what you want to do and don't feel guilty about it. But do not for one second believe that your lack of guilt about it means that you will have a lack of consequences or judgment for it because that's just not true. You will. Someday you will have grave consequences for it and I pray that you have a strong heart for that day. I pray that the Lord goes easy on you for all the harm you have done to His elect. But I know that He won't. Because He is a God of justice. His heart is for mercy, but you choose your own and will reap accordingly.

2012-05-14T21:45:00.001-05:00

Today, I made a choice. It was not an easy choice, in fact, I was quite conflicted about it. And I'm sure that I will get flack for this post, but here goes...
Ever since I heard that the Susan G. Komen center supports abortions, I had vowed not to support them anymore. It's a fact that made me sad because even though I have not been a huge supporter with any vast donations, etc., I had, however, on many occasions opted to buy products specifically because they had the little pink ribbon on them. So many instances that I can't even name them all, just because I knew that it was going to help breast cancer awareness, treatments and, possibly, a cure. Though I will say that I don't believe there will EVER be a cure for cancer- breast or otherwise- because that's just not the way this world works and we're just not as smart as we think we are, but that's a blog for another day. All that to say, I had made a definitive mind switch about supporting them, just as I had stopped going to Starbuck's for the very same reason. It's not an easy decision (especially the Starbuck's one!), but one I felt convicted of so I have to remain true to that. Until today...
Today, my hubby was running in the "race for the cure" in Tyler, in honor of his Mom who he lost to breast cancer 14 years ago. When he told me he had signed up for this race, he also precluded it by saying- "now, I know how you feel about them..." I appreciated his understanding of my conviction. But I was faced with a dilemma... stay true to my conviction or support my husband. I feel I am called to do both. So when faced with a choice BETWEEN them, what do you do? I told him I would have to pray over it and I would let him know what I decided. I felt very strong in my conviction, but at the same time, I could not IMAGINE my husband going to run a race (especially in honor of his Mom!) and me NOT being there for him. I have been there for every race he has ran in and it would be very sad for me to miss it. In the end, I made the choice to go and support my husband. And I felt I held true to my conviction at the same time. I did not, personally, provide money to their organization. My husband did and that's between him and God. I did not purchase anything while I was there, did not promote it in any way, other than to support my husband running in it. At the end of the day, I felt I made the right choice and that God was pleased with my decision.
But while we're on the subject, I have to say this... this is what came to my mind while sitting there at the awards ceremony, seeing all the survivors of breast cancer come filing in. It made me very happy for them, that they are winning their battle with breast cancer. But I also found it very ironic. How do you spend countless hours upon hours in research and fundraising and working to try and find a cure for breast cancer and all the money that it entails to do that- how do you decide that all those women's lives are worthy of doing ALL that, but that the innocent life of an unborn child is just meaningless? How do you go through all that to save as many women (and men) as you can possibly hope to save, working towards a "cure", but throw out the unborn children with the trash. I'm sorry, that's harsh, but it IS the reality! Like I told Bri... if a baby was just a day old and you killed it, life in prison. Right? But INSIDE the womb, different story? Bull. Bull. Bull. Bull. And bull! I'm not buying it and neither is God, quite frankly. God puts children high, high, high up on His list and people discarding them like yesterday's trash... all I can say is I'm glad I'm not one of them. I can't understand it. Cannot comprehend it. Cannot wrap my mind around it. I thank my God that despite ALLLLLL my mistakes, that is one that I never, ever could wrap my mind around. And my heart breaks, it weeps deeply for all those precious babies that have been deemed unworthy of life. You know what though- judgment comes for those who disregard their precious little lives. And God rewards them. "But most fortunate of all are those who are not yet born. For they have not seen all the evil that is done under the sun." ~ New Living Translation (©2007)

So no, I will not/cannot support Susan G. Komen any longer. That is my conviction. I will no longer support Starbuck's any longer. And any others that come up that I find out about. Because I can only do something about the ones I know about, that's where my conviction begins. But once you know and DON'T act, that's when judgment comes... (blog written on Saturday May 12, 2012)

American Express... lot of hype, no reward.

2012-05-08T19:46:00.002-05:00

American Express Prepaid Cards... DON'T DO IT!!! I don't recall which coupon, freebie-lovin' Momma somethin' page that I took the advice from to get these things, but I would like to apologize if any of you took it from me and got one. They are worthless! It has cost me almost $5 every time I wanted to put money on the stupid thing and IF you want to use your bank acct to do it instead, it takes like a WEEK just to put the funds on there! Additionally, 80% of the time that I tried to use it, they wouldn't take it! Because a lot of merchants can't afford the exorbitant fees that American Express charges just to accept their cards. It's ridiculous!! To add to this frustration, and please understand me here... I have friends from India, had a best friend from there, in fact, but let's face it- there IS a communication barrier there and every time I called them to get my elusive "free $25 gift card" just for getting one of these stupid cards, I had to repeat myself over and over and they STILL didn't understand me half the time and I couldn't understand them half the time so it's just insult to injury here. Bottom line- I'm not going to get even ONE of the $25 gift cards for getting the prepaid cards, much less the "limit of 3" I'd been promised because somewhere, apparently, was the fine, fine (like- nonexistent) print that said you ONLY got that deal if you received an exclusive email from American Express themselves. Huh. Imagine that. After 2 months of dealing with this thing and being told it would be "4-6 weeks" repeatedly, NOW it's that I needed some elusive email. Can't imagine why this was not mentioned- oh, say- like the first TEN times I've called!!
Soooo... moral of the story is... if it sounds too good to be true... ya'. This is my rant and it's over now and I'm truly, truly sorry if any of you have this same experience because of my taking it in good faith from a source that I trusted that this deal was legit. Bogus. Sorry!

Gratefulness

2011-10-02T17:40:00.002-05:00

Recently, I read somewhere that a woman had determined to write down at least one thing, everyday, that she was grateful for. In an attempt to get herself through some hard times, she thought it might help to remember the blessings, as well. I thought this was such a great idea so I took my organizer and on the daily sections, I write down at least one thing that I am grateful for that day. I have tried to stay consistent with this and do it when I do my morning devotional. As I have a tendency to do, I have days that I have missed, but I don't know that that's so important as what it does on the days that I do remember to do it. Some days life can be so overwhelming and the problems of the day tend to take over. That's the life we live in the world that we live in. Thank God for Heaven, is all I can say! I will be SO glad to get out of this stinking, sin-cursed, fallen world (as our Pastor calls it) and spend eternity in perfection! But until that day, I have to get through each and every day of relationship problems, family squabbles, money issues, and just general life. Sometimes I truly hate it. Sin is everywhere I turn and I detest it. And more upsetting to me than anything is how those I love and those who claim to know better fall victim to it. We seem to rate ourselves on a sliding scale of "well, at least..." fill in the blank. At least I'm not as bad as ________, at least I don't ________, and so on. We trick ourselves into thinking that we are somehow better than the rest because we are *saved*. But Jesus didn't come to save us so that we could frolic in that same sin. He didn't lay down His life so that we could dabble in "smaller" sins. The things that we chalk up to just being human are not of God and the proof of that is in the destruction that they cause. If there was "nothing wrong with it" then nothing would become of it. But we have a responsibility... when someone calls our attention to it, when we hear a word that rebukes it, when we are made aware of it- we have a responsibility to acknowledge it as sin and turn from it. If we do not, it festers and creates a deep wound that- if not taken care of- over time will just grow deeper and deeper until it rots the core and affects everything else. "You will know them by their fruits". There is a fundamental truth and it is that you will be judged by every action and word and deed. If you're okay with that it doesn't mean that you're right, it just means that you're probably in some serious denial. And your denial of the truth doesn't make it any less true. So what am I grateful for today? Today, I am grateful that God has given me a deep moral compass that- when I listen to it- will steer me clear of temptation and pain. I am grateful for a conviction that brings me to my knees and gives me a clear conscience. I am grateful for a God who loves me enough to direct me in the right path when I'm going down the wrong one. And I'm grateful that I can hear the voice of the Lord through others and heed their warning. I realize that this is not so common, apparently, so I am grateful for it.

Sprittibee!

2011-03-09T17:09:00.000-06:00

Just found this ADORABLE blog called "Sprittibee". It is PRECIOUS! You have to check it out!! AND she's giving away an entire set of AWESOME, WHOLESOME movies!!

Here's the link...
http://sbees.blogspot.com/2011/03/family-friendly-movie-night-give-away-5.html

be blessed...
Melanie

Church Signs...

2011-03-04T10:36:00.000-06:00

I saw these in a video and just wanted to post them here. Clever, clever stuff. Love it!

* Don't Give Up! Moses was once a basket case! *

* "TRY JESUS"! If you don't like Him, the devil will take you back! *

* If you don't like the way you were born, try being "born again"! *

* FREE COFFEE ~ EVERLASTING LIFE ~ Yes, membership has its privileges! *

* ATM INSIDE ~ Atonement, Truth, Mercy *

* Be as good a person as your pet believes you are *

* God does not believe in atheists, therefore, atheists do not exist! *

* What part of "THOU SHALL NOT* don't you understand? *

* Let's meet at my house Sunday before the game ~ God *

* Forgive your enemies, it messes with their heads * (love it!!)

* YOU'RE on Heaven's "Most Wanted" list! *

* (and on an old gas station light up sign) JESUS - COMING SOON *

* Don't be so open-minded, your brains fall out * (ba ha ha ha!)

* Can't sleep? Counting sheep? Talk to "the shepherd"! *

* You may party in hell, but YOU will be the BBQ!!!! *

* God so loved the world that He did not send a committee! * (can I get an AMEN!)

* Keep using my name in vain... I'll make rush hour LONGER! * (my personal fave!!)

* Tomorrow's Forecast... God Reigns and the Son Shines! * (CUTE!)

* We believe in UFO's... "Unity, Forgiveness, and Outreach *

* To be "Almost Saved" is to be Totally Lost! * (AMEN!!)

* If God had a refrigerator, YOUR picture would be on it! *

* Life stinks... we have a "pew" for you! *

* Read the Bible... it will scare the HELL out of you! * (GREATNESS!!)

* There ARE SOME questions that CAN'T be answered by Google! *

* Wal-mart isn't the only saving place in town! *

and this one I actually saw at a church here in Tyler...

* if you don't evangelize, you will fossilize! *

Hope you have enjoyed these! Orleans Christian Church in Orleans, Indiana gets credit for compiling the video with all the signs. :)

be blessed...
Melanie

What Do I Want Out Of THIS Life??

2011-02-27T16:23:00.001-06:00

I find myself asking myself this question lately... what do I want out of THIS life?? What are my goals and aspirations for THIS life and how do I make them a reality? Now- when some people ask questions like this, it typically means some sort of career goals or success and since that means different things to different people, those answers may be different, but mostly- the same. As being true to myself as I can be, my answers do tend to veer from those of the *mainstream*. So what IS my answer?

Well, for one... I want to make a difference. I want to impact this world in a significant way. How do I do this? I have my ideas, but those are between me and God and- ultimately- up to His will and His timing anyway. God knows my heart and He knows the significance of my *dreams*. I loved what I learned at Feminar this weekend... my job is OBEDIENCE, God's job is RESULTS. How very appropriate this word was for me at this particular time in my life. God has been speaking this word *obedience* to me consistently lately. My question was and is- obedient to what, exactly, Lord? What is it that You're calling me to do, exactly? Well, as God typically chooses to do- He only lets me in on bits and pieces of His plan. Probably because if I were to know the full broad scope of it all at once, it would completely overwhelm me and I would go running the other direction! God knows our capabilities and knows that we DON'T tend to know them. I think we don't give ourselves credit for what we are truly capable of- through HIM. That is key... THROUGH HIM! We are CAPABLE of moving MOUNTAINS... THROUGH HIM! So to question that *we* can do what He has called us to do is truly to question that HE is capable... because He has said that He would never leave us nor forsake us. Nor will He ask us to do on our own what He has designed.

I learned so very, very much over the 2 days of Feminar and was truly blessed by this experience. Lysa TerKeurst of Proverbs31 Ministries was SUCH an inspiration! And Lori Salerno was a captivating speaker! Phillips, Craig and Dean were awesome, as always and Jeff Allen kept us ROLLING in Godly humor! Janet White moved our hearts on the righteousness of God and marriage and men. And Laura Story is an AWESOME worship leader from Georgia who wrote the now famous "Indescribable" as sang by Chris Tomlin. There were so many aspects of this that I cannot even begin to tell you all of them. But suffice it to say- God moved in an incredible, incredible way... at least for me. Almost everything He has been speaking to me and whispering to my soul lately was addressed in those 2 days, in some way or another. And when they began to lead us in worship with the song "It Is Well With My Soul"- I just lost it!! Just the day before- out of nowhere and I had no idea why- God gave me the tweet post that I made that simply said "I have learned to say... it is well with my soul. No matter what." Clearly, clearly the movement of God. I mean- what are the odds? That song of ALL songs or ALL hymns that could be sang?

So my question again today is... what do I want out of THIS life? Not great *success*, not great wealth, not a fancy home or expensive car (although that WOULD be nice! ;) my greatest desire is to make a DIFFERENCE- for my life not to have been just a subpar life that didn't greatly impact anyone or anything, but for those that love me and are close to me. Not that that wouldn't be enough- mind you. I LOVE my life and my hubby is ranked above the best (if I do say so myself!;), my children are the absolute light of my life and I have some of the best, best friends a girl could ask for! I love my job and my talents and all of these things and it's not that I'm not grateful for any one of these things... but... it isn't my real purpose here. God didn't just put me on this earth to have a family, have a job, have friends, and have hobbies. He put me on this earth to make a DIFFERENCE! So my greatest desire- my hearts' song- is have your way in me, Lord! MOVE ME!! Lead me in the direction You would have me to go! And when I'm there, let me know it!

I know you have put a story in me to tell. I didn't go through the things that I have gone through just to be another sob story- You have a PURPOSE for it... allow me to tell that story! Let people be moved by it- for YOUR glory! All for Your glory, Lord. For if it is not, it is all in vain and I don't want any part of it.

I've lived my 40 years on this earth- about to be 41- *for such a time as this*. I believe this with my whole heart. But I'm running out of time. I also believe THAT with my whole heart. I need to get off my duff, stop wasting time, and DO what I've been called to do. That is my cry to the Lord now. Don't let me waste anymore time, Lord! I have wasted enough...

Tell Everyone! A beautiful story...

2010-12-13T13:49:00.002-06:00

A beautiful story from my friend Tim. I have asked, exclusively, to be able to share this with you here and was given the approval, with the simple condition of referring you back to his page so here it is. :)

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December 13, 2010

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Isaac's head began to nod. His hand slowed down scratching the dog's head. It was hard for a boy of ten to stay awake all night in the field. The dog licked his face. "What? Oh, good boy," Isaac said. He rubbed his eyes and stretched. The sky was clear and full of stars. Isaac was glad his father thought he was old enough to help with their flocks of sheep.

Isaac's father and his uncle soon came by to check on him. The three of them sat to share a loaf of bread and some cheese. Suddenly a bright light washed over the shepherds from above. They were scared. They looked up to see a host of beautiful angels. One of the angels spoke to them. "Do not be afraid," the angel said. "I bring you good news of great joy! Today a savior is born in Bethlehem. He is Christ the Lord. Go to the city. You will find the baby lying in a manger. Follow the brightest star."

Hundreds of angels appeared and sang praises to God. As suddenly as they appeared, the angels returned to heaven. Only one bright, shining star over Bethlehem was left in the sky. The shepherds were amazed. "We must go to the city and find this savior," said Isaac's father. "We must hurry!" said Isaac.

The shepherds began to round up their flocks and herd them toward home. Once the sheep were penned up, Isaac and his father and uncle walked quickly to Bethlehem, where the star was shining down on the stable behind the inn. There they found Mary, Joseph, and the baby in the stable.

Jesus was bundled in clean cloths and sleeping in a feeding manger full of fresh hay. The light from the star shone back from the baby's face. The shepherds fell to their knees.

Isaac knelt by the manger and said a prayer, thanking God for giving a savior to the world. Isaac's father thanked Mary and Joseph for letting them see the baby. When the shepherds left, they told everyone they saw about the miracles they witnessed that night.

The star shone over Bethlehem day and night. One night a large caravan made its way past the shepherd's field. Isaac went to the edge of the field and called out to the men. "Did you see the one they call Jesus?" he asked. "We did!" the men replied.

These men were not like any men Isaac had ever seen. They were the three Wise Men. "We saw the star from our lands very far away. We have traveled a long time to see this child called the Savior. The kings from our countries sent precious gifts to give to him."

Isaac said to the Wise Men, "You did not come by my fields when you came to Bethlehem."

"You are right," said the tallest man. "We asked King Herod where to find this savior."

"The king did not know," continued the man, "but he told us to find out so he might worship him also."

"We followed the star to the house where young Jesus was staying," said the shortest man. "We gave our gifts of gold and frankincense, to scent the air, and myrrh, a costly oil."

"Then we were warned in our dreams by an angel not to return to Herod but to go home another way," said the oldest man. "So that is what we have done. And now we have met you, my young friend."

"I am Isaac," said the young shepherd. "I'm telling everyone about God's glorious star lighting the way to the King of Kings."

Jayleigh's Christmas Pics ♥ 2010 ♥

2010-12-12T11:40:00.001-06:00

My sweet girl... :)

http://www.SearsPhotos.com/ViewSharedAlbum.aspx?ShareID=65dbdf29-b212-4add-ae52-e489537c6788

My 2 Baby Girls :)

2010-12-12T11:38:00.000-06:00

Check out this entry I found on Shutterfly Holiday Photo Contest.

A.D.D. much??

2010-12-12T08:23:00.003-06:00

Ok, so I have a self-diagnosed condition of A.D.D. which I have come to believe is nutritionally based, due to the brilliant PhD I recently assisted at a seminar. The changes I am planning to make soon *should* assist with minimizing that condition, hopefully, and I will blog about my findings on that. For the meantime, however, I have just accepted a PERMANENT (thank you GOD!!!) position that is very high profile and demanding and will require that I "hit the ground running", so to speak, every morning. Now I'm not a "morning person" and anyone who knows me can attest to that fact. I'm a "give me my coffee first thing in the morning and noone gets hurt", "my brain doesn't even begin to wake up 'til 10am" kind of person. You feel me? My *best* hours are between 8pm - midnight. I'm completely nocturnal and that's when I do my best work. BUT I live in an 8 to 5 world and so I must adjust myself accordingly. All that said... I NEED help with my energy level and my focus. I need something to take that will help me focus and give me an energy boost in the mornings, that is NOT bad for my body, chemically or caffeine induced (as that doesn't work for me anyway) and I don't feel bad about taking or won't "crash" or shake, etc. on. Any suggestions??? Anyone familiar with a product called "Focus Factor"? I am considering getting some of that and seeing how it does since I have a really good coupon for it anyway, but I don't want any of the above so... And no, I won't take any 5-hour energy or like products. My body is VERY susceptible to things like that and I HATE the feeling that it gives me- all jittery and heart palpitations,etc. I could never be a *druggie* for that reason, if nothing else. lol

Anywho... if anyone has any advice or suggestions about this, I would greatly appreciate it. What have you tried or are you taking now? What has worked for you? Or hasn't worked for you? Etc. I'm interested in hearing all of it. :)

Until next time! Be blessed...
Melanie

Today's Savings...

2010-12-11T18:52:00.003-06:00

I was pretty happy with today's savings. Here is the rundown...

* 8x10 portrait collage from Sears (no sitting fee either!) = FREE
* pkg of 18 Keurig (K-cups) @Bed, Bath & Beyond = $8.99 after $1 off in-mail coupon
* kissing mistletoe crystal @Hallmark = $5.95 (b/4 tax) after $10 off print-out coupon

AND THE MEGA DEAL OF THE DAY!!!
* 3 pc fleet hat/gloves/scarf set = $2.15!!!
originally $20.00, on sale for $11.99, minus $10 in-mail coupon, +tax

TOTAL CHARGES = $2.15 + 7.27 + $8.99 + FREE = $18.41
TOTAL SAVINGS = $10.00 + $10.00 + $1.00 + $34.99 (cost of collage + sitting fee) = $55.99!!!

It's been awhile...

2010-12-11T07:57:00.003-06:00

I haven't kept up with this blog in quite some time, but plan to do so in the coming weeks, months, etc. One of my latest "ventures" has been to really get into couponing and saving money with discounts, surveys, etc. It's been fun to see how much money we can truly save by doing this! What has made it even MORE fun is my hubby joining in with me and us doing it as a "bonding" thing. lol He'll find stuff and tell me about it and vice versa. We've also learned some lessons along the way of what NOT to do, what sites NOT to trust, who will follow through on their promises and who won't, etc., etc. I will be sharing those with you here. Suffice it to say that my general rule of thumb of "if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is..." is very true in this arena. No one is going to send you a $1,000 giftcard for $4.95 "handling" fee. It's just not gonna happen. So use your common sense or as Grandma used to say "your good horse sense that the Lord gave ya" to weed out the true offers from the duds. And I will do my best to share them here so you don't even get that far. ;)

be blessed, all...
Melanie

The Analogy Of The Dishes

2009-08-30T11:54:00.005-05:00

This morning, I got up and was doing some cleaning and going through some articles that had been given to me that I planned to put in a garage sale. In the stack, were a set of dishes that I did not need and planned to sale, but they had something on all of them- some kind of oxidation or ? I wasn't sure what it was, but I threw them in the dishwasher, just knowing they would come out clean. They did not. I thought- what in the world is on them that the dishwasher would not remove? Regardless, no one would want them that way so I was about to throw them out when a thought occurred to me... what if I could wash them by hand and scrub that stuff off of them? It was worth a try so I opted to do that first before just tossing them out. As I preceded to scrub, an analogy came to mind. Now anyone who really knows me knows how I LOVE analogies. Especially my girls. ;) As I took that extra time and effort to scrub and try to remove the yucky substance from these dishes, I thought... how often do we do that with people in life? And what if God chose to do that with US? What if He looked and saw all the *yucky substance* in our life and decided just to *toss* us out without giving the special time and effort that it takes to bring us back to looking new again? And not only that, but just because those dishes have something that is clearly affecting the OUTSIDE of their appearance, they were clean on the part that you would actually eat from. So how often do we disregard people because their outside is a little rough, without ever truly giving the INSIDE a chance? Isn't that where it really matters? Does it really matter that the outside of those dishes don't look spotless? Or does it truly only matter that they would still serve their purpose in being good enough to eat from?

God truly works in mysterious ways sometimes, at least I see it that way. Sometimes He speaks to me through butterflies, sometimes through presents, sometimes through ice cream and, yes- sometimes- even through dishes. ;)

Have a blessed day, all!
Melanie

Interesting Cuteness!

2009-08-29T15:04:00.005-05:00

Random Trivia

1. More people are killed annually by donkeys than die in air crashes.
2. The term, "It's all fun and games until someone loses an eye" is from Ancient Rome. The only rule during wrestling matches was, "No eye gouging." Everything else was allowed, but the only way to bedisqualified was to poke someone's eye out.

3. A 'jiffy' is an actual unit of time for 1/100th of a second.

4. The average person falls asleep in seven minutes.

5. Hershey's Kisses are called that because the machine that makes them looks like it's kissing the conveyor belt.

6. Money isn't made out of paper, it's made out of cotton.

7. Every time you lick a stamp, you're consuming 1/10 of a calorie.

8. Coca-Cola was originally green.

9. The first couple to be shown in bed together on prime time television were Fred and Wilma Flintstone.

10. The phrase "rule of thumb" is derived from an old English law which stated that you couldn't beat your wife with anything wider than your thumb.

What Does Love Mean?

1. "Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." Tommy - age 6
2. "During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared.looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore." Cindy - age 8

3. "My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." Clare - age 6

4. "Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken." Elaine - age 5

5. "Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." Chris - age 7

6. "Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." Mary Ann - age 4

7. "I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." Lauren - age 4

8. "When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image) Karen - age 7

9. "You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." Jessica - age 8

You'll Never Know...

2009-08-28T14:38:00.002-05:00

You'll never know...
every moment of the wonderment that is a life- that you created- growing inside the womb.

You'll never know...
the anticipation of hearing your baby's heartbeat for the first time and the joy that it brings.

You'll never know...
the anxiety-ridden moments of that first sonogram and the elation that it brought in knowing that we had a perfectly formed little being in there.

You'll never know...
the instant that precious little life became so real as you saw her moving & kicking on that screen, as you stared in awe at those precious little features that were her eyes, her nose, her mouth, her arms, her hands, her legs and how she had them crossed at the ankles, like a proper little lady, that would become her *signature* move.

You'll never know...
the relief as the tears streamed down your face and you thanked God- over and over again.

You'll never know...
being in that same awestruck wonder at every sonogram and everytime she suddenly sprang to life on that screen- as you saw her put her hand over her face, or spring her legs up, or stretch out just to curl back up again, to see her- seemingly- playing peek a boo with us.

You'll never know...
the excitement and fun of going through the store and selecting items for the baby registeries, knowing it will be your baby utilizing those items in just a few short months.

You'll never know...
how it feels to know this is the day you will find out- for certain- whether it's a boy or a girl and how exciting it is to finally know.

You'll never know...
what it feels like to put your hand on my belly and feel her kick and to know that is the precious little life that we- with God's hand- created.

You'll never know...
every moment along the way that you missed out on and will never, ever get back.

You'll never know...
the anxiety of every passing month- hoping and praying that she is growing well and perfect and healthy, and the mixed emotions of wanting her to just *be here* already, but also wanting her to wait so that she's ready and the world around her is ready for her.

You'll never know...
every prayer that went up, every tear that fell, every hope that was dashed, every stab of pain in my heart at the slow dawning of realization that you were not going to come through and be here for every step along the way.

You'll never know...
how much it hurt me to give that up and try to muster through without you to answer the *Daddy questions*, to explain time and time again that- no, you weren't involved nor would you be, to see the looks on people's faces, to have to leave half the paperwork empty because you weren't there, and to know that- someday- it will be even worse than all that when I have to try to explain to this precious little child why you weren't around for all of that.

You'll never know...
how this plagues me day and night and how I worry that- despite the unbelievable and unconditional amount of love and adoration and support this baby will receive from so many others, yours will be the one she misses and seeks the most.

You'll never know...
all of this and so, so much more... and that makes me very sad for you... because a path that God chose for you to go down and experience and be a part of, a blessing He tried to give to you, you'll never know...

Hodge Podge...

2009-08-28T00:08:00.004-05:00

Just some hodge podge stuff... ;)

J-bug now weighs 9 oz!! She's growing very well and about the size of an avocado. Hmmm... new nickname? I think not. lol "My little peanut" is cute, but I draw the line at vegetables. ;)

I don't know what my weight is and I don't care. lol I'm being sensible, not indulging in lots of sweets or stuff that's bad for me. I did before, don't get me wrong. I went through a MAJOR ice cream phase. MAJOR. And of course the cereal phase, but that was mostly good for you kind of cereal so it's all good. Now I'm just being *normal*. I'm just making sure to get things balanced and make sure my little peanut keeps growing good and strong. :)

STILL looking for a job. Had an interview last week that I felt good about, but still waiting for them to make a decision on it. It would be part-time, but maybe just as well with all the Dr's appts during the day. I could have time in the afternoon for those then work something around that. We'll see. Did a one-day assignment today that basically paid me to sit and update my pregnancy journals, etc. lol Gotta love those. ;)

Ok, here it is... I keep getting these questions. Stats are good, glad to know J-bug is good, but how are YOU? I get it. I know. ;) Truth is, it's an easy question for me to avoid because I don't like the answers I have to give. I know the questions are asked out of love and concern and I do SO appreciate that, it's just hard to answer questions you don't have the answers to- you know? I can't say a standard pat "I'm fine" because I'd have to be living in a fantasy world to believe that answer and if I don't, then it's just a lie. But the truth is- most of the time I am. Really. My days have now become moments and that's a good sign, I think. :) It is hard for a person who analyzes, re-analyzes and OVER-analyzes EVERYthing to just accept that some things don't make ANY sense and that no matter how many times, ways, etc. you run it through your head- you're just NEVER going to make it make sense. It's a hard conclusion to draw and an even harder conclusion to accept. But it is what it is. To try and make it what it is not is just frustrating and leads nowhere. So I understand the questions, but the answer is always the same... no. Nothing. Nada. Zip. And that's a painful acceptance process. At the same time, I have such joy most of the time from this precious little J-bug the Lord has blessed me with that it is hard to be anything but that. :) And I have all of you- you amazing, wonderful, loving, supportive, incredible people that surround my life. :) I love you and appreciate you more than I can begin to tell you. You guys have just ROCKED me with your support through all of this and I am overwhelmed by your amazingness! And I thank God for each and every one of you who contribute so much and something so special and unique to my life. How blessed I truly am. So that one little rain cloud won't darken this sky for too long, I promise you. It's merely in glimpses... and then it passes and the sun is shining once again. So please, no worries... :) And yeah, less of *those* questions would be appreciated. Believe me- if something changes in that way, you will know. Otherwise, it's safe to assume that nothing has changed. Sad, but true.

much love & blessings always...
Melanie

J-bug is a...

2009-08-25T20:51:00.003-05:00

Girl. :) 100% positively now.

Today was our level 2 sono to look for certain defects, etc. For those of you who know, my history with Kalann having "anencephaly" coupled with my age (yes, apparently I'm OLD! lol) and some other factors have put me in a "high-risk" category with this baby. I met with the Genetic Counselor first to go through all the risk factors given these statistics, family history, etc. She stated that she really wasn't worried too much about me or this pregnancy. Then we went into the sono. I met with one of the residents first who I liked very well. He was very thorough and explained as he went along, which I appreciate. Funny how the ones they consider the "specialists" hardly tell you anything when they're the ones you really are looking for the answers from. But I digress...

The "specialist" then came in and basically did the very same things the first Dr. had done. She measured a bunch of areas and was pretty intense on trying to see her feet straighten out. But J-bug would have none of that! lol She has now had her legs crossed at the ankles in EVERY sono we've had done. (I told Bri she's going to be a ballerina :)

At any rate, they were able to see everything else they needed to, except the heart as well as they would've hoped to. They said it is still a bit small at this stage to see it as well as they need to, but I will go back in a few weeks when they can see it better. They're looking for defects in the chambers because it is a sign of downs syndrome. Now comes the bad part of the appt...

The Dr. then, very matter-of-factly, tells me- "you tested positive for downs syndrome". I don't think I even reacted because she was so nonchalant about it, I think I was just shocked. Remember all the 2 tons of blood they took from me a couple weeks back? Yeah, from that apparently they got those results back. So guess what? Yep, back to the Genetic Counselor to discuss the "options" and "percentages". Thank God Faith was with me and had seen all the stuff prior so she kinda got a grasp on what this could mean. She had been very focused on eating the whole time and couldn't wait to get out of there so she could eat. Suddenly, she changed and was very concerned with me and how I was feeling. I honestly didn't know what to feel at that moment. But I was glad for the G/C as she explained it all in full detail and I felt a LOT better after leaving with her. She showed me all the percentages of everything they tested for and how they all were almost at 1%, which is good, so she wasn't concerned about those at all. She also showed me how I was at 80% risk and when all this figured into it, I jumped to 240%. That meant that every 1 in 240 pregnancies with exactly the same stats as me (same age, same kind of history, same genetics, etc.) will have a baby with downs syndrome. When she showed me the line was at 270% and that had I been below that, there wouldn't have been a "positive" reading, I was no longer concerned. If you're talking about on a scale from 1-270 and mine is 240, those are pretty good odds. ;)

My "options" were to have an amniocentesis to determine, positively, a yes or no. I declined. First, there is a 1 in 3 chance of miscarrying by having that test done. I don't like those odds- at all. Second, it wouldn't change anything for me. It's not like I would choose to do anything other than what I've always done and that is to carry the baby to term. So what is the point? I couldn't see it. The G/C felt I made the right choice and reiterated that she was totally not concerned, that the Dr's are just VERY conservative these days and were just being extra cautious. I can appreciate that.

Thankfully, when I told the Dr. I was supposed to be coming back in 2 days for an inner sono to determine the competence of my cervix, she went ahead and did it. Yay! Saved me another trip to the hospital- woo hoo! :) Cervix looked to be fine, she said. Plenty long and strong enough to hold throughout the pregnancy. The only concerned mentioned- once again- was the placenta being so low. But she said the same thing as the Dr. that first discovered it, in that it should have plenty of time to move up and out of a way.

SO... that's it for this time. It is now *official*... "J-bug" is a little "Jayleigh Sheree". Happiness! :) I have 2 girls happy about that, anyway. lol Faith is used to being the "Princess" and really doesn't appreciate the thought of having to share that title. ;)

Thanks for all your love & support!

be blessed...
Melanie & J-bug

Happy 7th Birthday, Kalann Joy! :)

2009-08-24T11:53:00.001-05:00

For those of you who don't know, here is the story of our precious *baby butterfly*...

"You Have Touched So Many Hearts"

~ Kalann Joy ~

At the time of writing this (5/20/02), our family is in a very deep valley of emotion, grief, and- at the same time- hope. Five days ago at a routine sonogram, our baby- Kalann Joy was diagnosed (by my OB/GYN) as having "anencephaly". I looked at her with a blank look because I had never heard of this- to me it was just another medical term that I didn't understand. Unfortunately, in the days to come, I would learn all too well what it was. "Anencephaly" is a condition that basically means that when the baby is developing, at about 3-4 weeks after conception, the neural tube does not close as it should, therefore, the baby's brain does not fully develop.

There are a million ways to describe what I felt that day- disbelief, shock, grief, devastation, denial, hope.. and many more. We went to church that night because there was nowhere else I'd rather be than in the Lord's house. The baby and I got prayed over and anointed with oil and I prayed that at the sono the next day with the specialist, he would see that it wasn't true. Unfortunately, he saw the same thing, as did 3 others that viewed it. The worst was that we could see it, too. Now I wasn't just dealing with trusting what 1 Dr had diagnosed or 10 Dr's.. Jimmie and I could see that black, dark blankness above our baby's precious eyes where her little brain should be. It hit me like the world had just ended. I was devastated and began crying uncontrollably.

The day before, I had been so weakened by my emotions and Jimmie had been so strong for me- this day would be no different. I remember moments of feeling bad for him because I couldn't find it within me to be strong for him- if but for just a moment. The only time I saw him breakdown was when we told our 6-year old, Brianne, after the second sono. I had taken both of our girls out of school the day before to go see their little brother or sister on the screen. Instead of seeing the baby, they were sent out of the room and instead of being told what we were having, we were given a death sentence. It took everything within me to keep it from them 'til the next day when it was *confirmed*. Later that day we picked Brianne up from school a few minutes early to take her home and tell her. While we were at the school, we told the Principal so that they could be on the lookout for any changed behaviour at school. She said she would get the counselor to being grief counseling immediately if they noticed anything. At any rate, we brought Bri home and showed her the video of the baby's sono and then told her that the Dr's had said that the baby didn't have a brain and, therefore, she would die. Bri looked blank at first, but then it was like reality dawned and she- just like us- started trying to understand. She asked why Jesus couldn't just make her have a brain. I remember that question being the one that hit me the hardest because it was the same one that I had. How do you answer that? I told her all I knew to tell her.. I didn't know why. But even if she didn't have one on this earth, Jesus would give her one eventually and she would be perfect in heaven. Not that I believe that you need a brain in heaven, but it was what she could understand. On this earth, her baby sister could not live without a brain, but in heaven she would be able to live. I honestly don't remember all the other questions or comments that she made.. I just remember the look on her face, one that I will never forget. In her short little 6 years of life, I had never had to see that look. She was just as heartbroken as we were and it was so painful because we couldn't save her from that pain. Her Daddy absolutely fell apart at this point. To see his baby girl so torn up was too much for him to bear. We didn't even think to give her hope for a miracle or to have her pray at this point, we were just dealing with what we were told was *inevitable*. Some would question if we should've told her at all or if we should've- later- asked her to pray for a miracle. All I can say to those people is that I have always tried to be honest and upfront with my children and this wasn't the time to change that. My children understand and know that my faith and belief in God far surpasses anything that we experience on this earth and had I done any less than to have them hope and pray for a miracle, but to prepare for the worst.. I wouldn't have been true to myself or to them. They count on that from me.

Later that evening, after Faith returned from a choir competition, we told her. We also showed her the video first, we did this because we wanted the baby to be real to them- not just something in my tummy that they couldn't identify with. She cried alot, but she didn't ask questions much.. just said- over and over- how unfair it was. I had to agree. But how can we say it's not fair for us to experience this or feel the pain of losing a child when so many others have had to deal with this very same thing? What makes us so special that we should be excluded from such pain? If there's anything that I've learned in this life it's that it is NOT fair! There is no such thing as fairness. Why do some children grow up in normal, wonderful homes with great parents and other children are abused? Is that fair? What I've discovered- more than ever- is that it does no good to question why. We can ask why and I think God understands our need to question why, after all He created us.. but it doesn't mean we'll ever know why. And does it really matter to know why anyway? It won't change what is. Does the why of it really help diminish our pain? I don't think it would. *Faith* is believing when you have no reason to believe. I preach faith to my children and others, I even named my child Faith, but if I don't believe what I say I believe then my words are nothing more than lies. So I believe, I hope, I have faith. I pray for a miracle. I wake up in the middle of the night- numerous times- trying to believe that it's all a horrific dream and then it becomes real to me and I pray some more. I believe that Kalann's spirit communicates with me. She hadn't been very active at all until 2 days before the sono appt and she's been very active ever since. Coincidence? I don't think so. I felt that she was telling me something. Before I could even comprehend what the Dr was trying to get me to do by "inducing", I came home and collapsed on the bed in a heap of tears and she started moving and kicking within me. I felt like she was trying to plead with me not to *get rid of* her. Anyone who knows me knows that this would never be an option for me anyway. God put her within me and I'm her life-line right now. If God wants her, He will have to literally remove the breath from her because I refuse to. So we're in this for the long haul and, in the meantime, we'll pray furiously for a miracle. Noone can take that from me. And when it's all said and done, if God chooses not to heal her and she goes home to be with Him.. I will know that I've done all I could do.. and that's all I can do. We have alot of wonderful, loving supportive people around us.. family, friends, church family- they've all been so incredible. If you are any of them, thank you.. from the bottom of our hearts. It DOES ease some of the pain to know you are supporting us and praying for us. God, give us all strength....

Advice For A Friend...

2009-08-20T20:44:00.006-05:00

I was asked for advice from a friend of mine today who was having trouble knowing which way to go in his life. He shall remain anonymous, but while I was responding to him, it occurred to me... how many of us have actually been in this man's shoes? How many of us have had this very same (or very close to it) situation? It's not that we don't KNOW the answer, but sometimes it helps for someone to gently nudge us in that direction- to help give us the courage or motivation or confirmation that we need to do it.

He currently has a girlfriend that is wanting to get married, but he doesn't want to because he's not in love with her. And despite the fact that she's a good, Godly woman and he cares about her greatly, he knows it would be wrong to marry her when he is still in love with his ex. The ex is not in love with him so she's not in the picture- truly- either. He doesn't want to hurt the girlfriend, obviously, so he's torn on what to do. Not really. In his heart, he knows what he needs to do. I just reminded him of that fact. ;) Here was my advice to him and a little of my own experience with those same situations...

HIM: "can you tell me what I should do? I just can't think. I'm so confused"

ME: "Yes, in this case, I can. You have to tell her and break it off. I know you don't want to hurt her, but you have to do this. It truly would be hurting her more in the long-run. I promise you. We always seem to think that the things that are temporal are less damaging- they are not. Trust me, I know of which I speak! Had I ended things- TRULY ended things- with my ex-boyfriend back when we broke up, I would not be sitting here today- pregnant and PRAYING that my child somehow does not have pain from this... a decision that I made to not break it off. Now other lives are and will be affected by my inability to do so.

If there is ANY good that can come from my situation (besides the obvious of the little blessing that I carry- smile), it would be that I could advise someone on a situation in their life that can learn from mine. You say she's a good woman? Then she deserves better. Not better than YOU, just better than someone *settling* to be with her. I'm sure you know in your heart this is true. She deserves to be with someone who will love her the way that she deserves to be loved. That was the one thing I told my ex-husband when I let him go. He was a good man to me and my children and he deserved to be loved the way he had loved me all those years. I could not be the one to do it, but someone else could. He now has found her and is happy. Your lady will find that, too, in time. And you will feel better that you did the right thing by allowing her to do that.

As far as the past thing- honey, I can identify with you on that one, too! I have three words for that one... LET-IT-GO. Seriously. Yes, I KNOW how hard that is- believe me! I live with that one EVERYDAY. But it's slowly but surely getting better. Let's do it together, ok? We'll help uphold each other and get us through each day of letting that person go. If they don't love you, they are NOT WORTHY OF YOUR LOVING THEM. Say it with me now! ;) In all seriousness, they aren't. YOU deserve better than that.

I hope this helps you. Yes, you have a hard chore ahead of you. It will hurt and it will hurt you to see her hurt, but it is necessary. Let me know how you're doing, ok?

be blessed, sweet man...
- Melanie"

HIM: "this is gonna be so hard. I'm going to be even more alone when she's gone, I'm not sure I can handle that. Has God sent me this good woman? Will I be alone until I give it to God?"

ME: "I can't answer that other stuff for you, sweetie. That's God's territory. And I don't dare tread in HIS territory. All I can say about that is you need to pray about it and earnestly seek God on it.

None of us like to be alone. It's not in us. We weren't created to be alone. If you think about it, there's a reason for that. The VERY FIRST MAN GOD CREATED- He said, it's not good that he should be alone. And that's why we're even here. That should tell you something. No, we were not meant to be alone. I have had this conversation with one of my girls SOOOOO many times. She just hates to be alone. She thinks she has to be doing something every single night, has to have people around. And I keep telling her- you HAVE to be okay with just being alone sometimes. I never thought in a million years that I would feel that way. I am SUCH a people person, such a romantic, and was with my husband for 15 years! And before that, I was NEVER alone. I've never lived on my own- EVER, before now. But I have learned that I am just not willing to compromise myself JUST to have someone around. Not for a moment, not for a night, not for day in and day out- period. I'm just not going to do it. I did that badly enough with this last situation that led me here! I have made a commitment to God and myself that I just refuse to break. It's not worth it. TRUST ME! It's SOOOO not worth the consequences.

Find things to do to keep you busy or spend time with friends and family, etc. My girls and my friends are my SAVING GRACE! Believe me... I would be SO lost without them!! And sometimes- when none of them are around or available and I have to be *alone*- it's okay. I'm okay with that. I have so much going on in my life right now that it's GOOD to have that time sometimes. Just to be alone and think or spend time with God or whatever. I do believe that God is bringing someone into my life eventually. I know He knows what I need and desire and that He wants that for me as well. But for now- I'm okay with the waiting. :)

My focus is on my precious little one right now and making sure I'm doing what's right by him/her and trying to get through these next several months, physically. Obviously, that's different than where your focus would be (wink), but you know what I mean. Relationships should just be the icing on the cake for us- they should not be what makes or breaks us. I am learning that one, too. I've spent SO much of my life with my focus being on MEN that it always just leads to heartbreak for me. Because I just revolve my whole life, my whole being around that person that I lose sight of everything and everyone else in my life who should be important to me. First of all- God. He HAS to take that place for us- otherwise, we lose. I'm not saying this has been your issue, I'm just saying it's been mine. ;)

Whatever the case, I am praying for you and I wish you only God's best.

be blessed...
Melanie "

Fibroid Tumors & Pregnancy

2009-08-15T19:31:00.005-05:00

For all the questions, and to alleviate some of my own questions & concerns, I did what any good pregnant Mommy would do... I googled it. ;) For those of you who know me, I live to google! lol I won't go into my *google worship* mode right now, but I will just say it is the BEST thing EVER!!

This is what I found on the subject from babyzone.com. *Warning* it's quite lengthy, but very informative. This might also explain why I look 6 months along already at just 4 months.

In this article:
Fibroids and the Growing Fetus
Signs and Risk Factors
Near Forgotten Fibroids
Moving Beyond Worry
Healthy Babies

"Even if you have fibroids, the chance of delivering a healthy baby is high. Learn how fibroids can affect pregnancy from medical experts and two women who had fibroids and birthed healthy babies.

They can be microscopic, the size of a grapefruit, and even grow to volleyball proportion or beyond. These unwelcome guests call a woman's uterus home. We are talking about tumors of the muscle of the uterus, commonly known as fibroids.

The good news is that with the monitoring modern technology enables, the great majority of pregnant women who have fibroids give birth to healthy babies, says Dr. Pedro Arrabal, MD, a Baltimore OB-GYN and maternal fetal medicine specialist.

According to Dr. Bobbie Gostout, MD, an associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology with the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, fibroids infrequently cause difficulty with conception. Yet once a woman is pregnant, fibroids can enlarge rapidly—especially during early pregnancy—cause severe pain, and even necessitate hospitalization, Dr. Gostout explains. Still, she says most fibroids do not cause any difficulties with pregnancy.

Nevadra Johnson, of the Washington DC area, was about to undergo surgery to remove her fibroids when she learned she was pregnant with her second child. "It was kind of bittersweet. You're excited about it. You're also worried," she says of the news. "You're saying, 'Will the baby make it?' There's a lot of worry in the beginning stages of pregnancy. It's even more so when you know you have a condition."

Fibroids and the Growing Fetus

Johnson, who was referred to Dr. Arrabal, learned that for the safety of her unborn child, her surgery needed to be postponed until after delivery.

"During pregnancy, fibroids are not treated," explains Dr. Gostout. "We simply try to manage the symptoms in a woman who wishes to preserve fertility." After pregnancy, she says fibroids can be surgically removed through a myomectomy and adds while there are newer treatments which appear promising, so far they have only been applied in large numbers to women who are done having children, "mainly since the unknown effects on the strength of the uterus and the ability of the uterus to carry a healthy pregnancy."

When Johnson's fibroids were first discovered in 2000, she had a five-year-old son, but in early 2006, pregnant with her second child, her three fibroids ballooned from the size of a quarter to grapefruit size. At three-months pregnant, Johnson says her protruding stomach made her look twice as far along.

Johnson admits wondering if the fibroids were cancer. The answer was no. Dr. Arrabal says that the odds of developing cancer as a result of fibroids during pregnancy are less than one percent.

"Whenever we tell anybody things are out of the ordinary, people tend to assume the worst. The way I look at it, it's my job to assume the worst and to try to prevent the worst," says Dr. Arrabal, who asks patients to leave the worrying to him and to stay as positive as possible.

He explains as a woman's estrogen levels significantly rise during early pregnancy, fibroids can grow tenfold or more. The traditional method of measuring a mother's abdomen to determine a baby's approximate size can give a false sense of security, as the fibroids can throw off the numbers. Thanks to major medical advances in the last 30 years, Dr. Arrabal says the baby and the fibroids can be monitored in ways never before possible. Ultrasounds and other tests are used to track the baby's size and the location of the fibroids.

While Dr. Arrabal emphasizes the favorable odds, he also prepares patients for potential complications, such as an obstructed birth canal necessitating a Cesarean section, preterm contractions, and preterm labor. In a minority of cases, the fibroid settles under the placenta, forcing it to separate from the uterus, which Dr. Arrabal says can cause a woman to hemorrhage or have a stillbirth.

Dr. Gostout says there are also potential complications in the first trimester, including the chance of miscarriage.

Signs and Risk Factors

When fibroids are detected during pregnancy, an ultrasound often reveals their presence, says Dr. Arrabal, who lists such symptoms as a larger uterus than expected, pelvic pressure, and premature labor pain. If a woman is not pregnant, signs include a lump or a mass in the lower abdomen, pelvic pressure, and a higher incidence of heavy periods.

Dr. Arrabal reports fibroids are seen more often in African American women, risks increase with age, and once a woman has one fibroid, there is a predisposition for more.

Dr. Gostout adds about 20 percent of women in their twenties and about 30 percent of women in their thirties have fibroids. In a majority of cases, she explains, the fibroids are small and asymptomatic. "The actual odds of fibroid-related problems in pregnancy are unknown," she explains.

Near Forgotten Fibroids

Heather Scott, of Boston, Massachusetts, learned on the day of her daughter's birth in 2003 she had fibroids. At her 37 week exam, her doctor detected fetal stress, high blood pressure, and fibroids. Hours later, she had a Cesarean section.

After the pregnancy, Scott's fibroids shrunk to about five centimeters, and she was told not to worry about them. She nearly forgot about them until her next pregnancy when her fibroids more than doubled in size. Eventually, the fibroids created uterine distress and caused low level daily contractions, resulting in orders for bed rest. "Just taking it easy really helps," Scott says about the uncomfortable sensation of heaviness.

Scott met with a fetal maternal specialist every two weeks to access the size of the fibroids and of the baby; she also received a fetal fibronectin test to check her risk for preterm labor. By 30 weeks, her fibroids were bigger than the baby but fortunately hadn't stunted the baby's growth.

Despite the discomfort, Scott maintained her humor. She says after giving "lots of love" to what she assumed was her baby's back or bottom, a nurse pointed to the same area and said, "'Look at that fibroid.' Surprised, Scott replied, 'No, are you kidding me? I thought [it] was the baby.'"

Moving Beyond Worry

Like Scott, Johnson also was put on bed rest. After a rocky first trimester with several emergency room trips following episodes of intense pain, Johnson says her fibroids became more manageable, but far from pain-free.

At 29 weeks, she spent a night at the hospital after experiencing minor contractions and was given medication to calm the fibroids, which when agitated can cause the uterus to contract.

"I was a little concerned… when the pains were coming," says Johnson, who found herself able to manage the pain once knowing the baby was okay.

Johnson says six weeks later she was confident that the baby was a good size and that she shouldn't have any problems if the baby made an early debut. She focused on trying to enjoy the pregnancy and getting the baby's room ready.

Healthy Babies

Last April, Johnson, her husband, and their 10-year-old son, welcomed a healthy baby boy.

Johnson advises those facing a similar situation to "Do the best that you can. Eat right, take care of yourself, and just have faith." She adds seeing a high-risk doctor and having the additional ultrasounds eased a lot of stress. Johnson had her fibroids surgically removed three months after giving birth. "It's a relief overall to know they're gone," says Johnson.

Scott, who gave birth to a son in August 2006, marvels at the power of modern medicine. "Several years ago, I think [the fibroids] would have been a huge deterrent and potentially a cause of premature fetal delivery or even death, but today thank goodness for modern technology and great doctors. It definitely bumps you into a high-risk group, but as far as high risks go you are on the low end, because it's manageable."

Today's Visit

2009-08-14T23:41:00.004-05:00

I know- I'm late on this one. But because of the 24 hour period thing, I couldn't go back to the hospital until 3:30 today and then I got home and was messing with the computer (some memory issue- who knows?) and then I was just tired so I took a nap. I didn't have a nap but just once once or twice while I was on va-ca the past 2 weeks so between that and all the running around the last few days, I'm just whooped! On to the appt...

Ok, here's where the medical community really frustrates me! Yesterday, they told me to come back today, bring my 24 hour *stuff*, get poked again for another test (the one I said they determined at the last minute yesterday) AND drink the yummy orange stuff in a bottle (not!) for the diabetes test. So considering they didn't give me the 24 hour thing until around 2:30pm and it was 3:30pm by the time I got home- would the logical conclusion NOT be that it would be past 12pm today when I took it back to the hospital?? Would you think they might- at that time- TELL me that they CLOSE on Fridays at 12pm? Ya', not so much! I was not a happy camper going all the way back to the hospital for the 2nd day in a row anyway (after being there for 5 hours yesterday and considering I am supposed to be at the point in this pregnancy where I only go once a month!), but was obviously willing to do it and get the stuff done. They just don't seem to think about people's time, having to pay for parking, gas, etc. It's frustrating!

So I was at least able to turn the 24 hour thing in, get poked for my other test (which took all of about 2 seconds and 1 itty tube of blood compared to the 8 big ones of yesterday) and turn in my pre-admin paperwork to the hospital so at least it wasn't a completely wasted trip. But they will just have to wait for me to do the diabetes test until I go back in 2 weeks. So there. lol

I have to say- as much as I DETEST needles and have to psyche myself out everytime I have to give blood or get a shot,etc.- these people really seem to know what they're doing. Both yesterday and today, it hurt very little. I was scared when she wanted to poke the same arm today as yesterday, but I also didn't want to have TWO sore arms as opposed to one so I let her. I typically bruise very badly just in general and very often where I get blood drawn from so I expected bruising today, but there was very little. And neither of them had to poke me more than once, which is odd for me. I have one major vein that they always want to hit, but I always tell them- I've been told it *rolls* so it LOOKS like it's an easy target, but it will fool you once you're in there! So they usually have to end up digging around for it, which is where my hate for the whole process comes in! That crap HURTS! And I nearly pass out everytime. So then they end up having to try and find another vein which is- apparently- easier said than done. Anywho- all that to say that these ladies are apparently very skilled at what they're doing and none of that was necessary. I'm assuming it must be that because I doubt my veins have just suddenly changed somehow after 39 years of life. ;)

One thing I forgot to mention yesterday... during the sono yesterday, the Dr. found a *mass* that appeared to be on the inside of my uterine wall. She concluded that it is *probably* a fibroid tumor and should be fine. Perhaps this is what's been causing the pain to my lower left side that I've mentioned. If not that, I don't know what it would be. Either way, she said we'd just "watch it and see what it does" over the next several months. She didn't seem to think it would be a problem nor do I. More of a problem might be the lack of water in there. J-bug needs room to swim! And right now, my water is just barely enough for her size. All my research showed that this week would show a growth spurt for her and it was right! My little *avocado* sized J-bug is filling out that space rather nicely now as opposed to 3 weeks ago. :) It also said I would have a growth spurt as well. Yeah- could've done without THAT one! lol

Guess that's it for now. Will keep you updated!

be blessed...

Melanie & my little *peanut*, J-bug ;)

The One You've Been Waiting For... ;)

2009-08-13T19:27:00.008-05:00

Well, I think I can honestly say that today was the LONGEST Dr.’s appt. I have EVER been to in my LIFE!! They told me it would be long, but good grief! I got there at 10:00am and we didn’t leave there ‘til amost 3:00pm! So be prepared for a LOOOONG blog! lol

I am going through Baylor (where I had my last pregnancies) and today was the first time for me to go. I got registered in and all the “pre-admin” paperwork filled out, etc. While waiting for the actual appt.- Holly, Faith and I went downstairs to grab something to munch on and come back and wait. I forgot to look at the clock then, but I would guess it was about an hour from the time we got there that we were going into the room. My Dr. was busy with another sono so she sent in another Dr. that was just a joy- and was appropriately named “Joy”. :) She asked a TON of questions about my medical history (which is extensive) and then asked about the other side that I couldn’t answer. That has to be the most frustrating part. Anyway, I digress… I answered what I could and she moved on to the physical exam. I won’t go into details here (lol) other than to say that they did a typical “physical” and then the women’s exam and I’ll leave it at that. ;)

Then it was sono time… YAY!! Their equipment is SO much better and more advanced than that of the other 2 I’ve had so everything was MUCH larger- on the screen and in pics, as you will see. The girls, of course, just wanted to see one thing and I think they were both waiting with baited breath… but on opposing teams! LOL (Faith wanted a boy and Holly wanted a girl). The Dr., of course, had to give her little shpill about how- “I can’t be positive, but if I had to make an educated guess…”

Oh, did you want me to tell you what she guessed? LOL We determined that J-bug MUST be… wait for it… lol

A “little lady”… because in every sono thus far, she has had her legs crossed at the ankles! lol Which is absolutely adorable, as you can see in today’s sono pics. ;) Again- it isn’t 100% positive at this point, but pretty darn sure. That’s what Sheree and I guessed after the first one, too! :)

J-bug was more active than EVER today- too cute! She was moving CONSTANTLY! And I told the Dr.- well, I did have that sticky bun this morning… she’s probably on a sugar-high! lol So after Faith bursts into tears and determines that God does not love her after all (joke) and Holly and I practically dance around the room (another joke), they release us to go BACK to the waiting room to wait on labs. That took almost an hour because the system wasn’t working properly and inputting my extensive medical history, etc. Finally, about an hour later, I get called to go to the lab. My FAVORITE part! NOT!

They tested me for everything under the sun. Ugh! They took 8 tubes of blood and only stopped then because the needle came out of my arm and she asked if I wanted her to try and make due with what they’d already drawn or to try and re-stick me. Hmmm… let’s think about this, shall we? Uh- NO! lol I HATE needles. I mean HATE is really not even a strong enough word for my feelings about needles! I have not had NATURAL childbirths for nothing! I loathe them! So we compromised… I have to go back for even MORE tests tomorrow (having a high-risk pregnancy, I’ve determined, pretty well sucks! lol) and a diabetes test so I told her if they determined today’s blood was not enough to run the plethora of tests they need to run, she can stick me again tomorrow and get more. Aren’t I just the supreme negotiator?! lol Whatever the matter, she agreed so- works for me! ;)

So I am on a 24 hour collection period (I won’t tell you what and gross you out. lol) that I have to take back tomorrow for more testing. At that time, they will have to stick me again anyway for ANOTHER test they determined at the last minute they needed to run. I will also have to submit more hospital paperwork then. The fun has officially begun- woo hoo! lol

I have my next appt. in 2 weeks for an “internal” ultrasound to determine the need for a cerclage’. I discussed it with the Dr. today and my concern of the time running out for it. Normally, it would have been a month before I had to come back for another appt., but due to the time constraints on this procedure, I will go back then for them to measure the cervix (internally) and make the determination for the need for it at that time. If so, they will schedule the surgery immediately to go in and do that- before I hit the crucial 20 week mark. Like I said… having a high-risk pregnancy is really LOADS of fun! ;)

Ok, so that’s all that with my REGULAR Dr... NOW I get to ALSO go to the high-risk SPECIALIST Dr. Oh- YAY! lol I am going to be SOOOOO sick of hospitals and Dr.’s offices by the time this is over that I will be more than happy for them to remove my tubes when it’s all said and done! lol

So I guess that’s it for now. I’m SO excited to share these pics with you, as they are my favorites, thus far. :)

Thank you for all your concern, love and support. You guys are awesome and it means the world to me to know you care so much. :)

be blessed...

Melanie & the *little lady* (he he) J-bug

2nd SONOGRAM!

2009-08-12T16:57:00.006-05:00

The second sonogram appt. was today and the Dr. said all looks well. Our little J-bug is a stubborn one, though. He/she kept *hiding* from us by putting his/her hand in front of his/her face so we never really got any good pics or visuals. And then he/she decided to pull the umbilical cord up between his or her legs so we FOR SURE couldn't tell what he or she was! That's my child alright! lol However... I have my first Dr.'s appt. tomorrow morning and will have another one then so maybe J-bug will be a little more cooperative for that one. ;)

The Dr. that was volunteering at the Resource Center today- get this- is actually over the Baylor that I will be going to so how cool is that? She made a quick call over and made sure they'd be doing the *works* (sono, full check-up, etc.). Good to *know* people in high places I guess. lol

Only *worry* she brought up was the distance between my placenta and my cervix. Right now, my placenta is covering my cervix which would mean- if I were at 28+ weeks at this time- I would for sure be having a c-section. I wasn't happy to hear that considering I've had ALL my children the *natural* way, thus far. I didn't really plan to change that this time around. :( BUT she said it still has plenty of time to move at this juncture so we will be praying that it does.

Regarding the cerclage', she said that the Dr. tomorrow should be able to more fully determine the need for that or not. I'm getting close to the point where I wouldn't be able to do it any longer so it's pretty imperative that they determine that quickly if it's going to need to be done and schedule the surgery for it pretty soon. I'm right at 17 weeks right now and they *like* to do them at 14-16 weeks, if possible. By 20 weeks, it's too late.

Oh my goodness!! Let's just say I could've TOTALLY done without the weighing thing today! Ugh! I go off on vacation for 2 weeks and 3 weeks later I weighed 10 lbs more! Good grief!! I was so proud because, thus far, I had only gained 3-5 lbs in 4 months! Then this!!! That's it- back to grilled chicken breasts, veggies & salad for this little one! With the dairy & fruits thrown in, of course. ;) (I blame Sus, it's her fault- with all that southern cooking and steak & potatoes, and... ;)

I guess that's about it. I will blog again tomorrow with the Dr.'s findings. :)

be blessed...
Melanie & the *shy* little J-bug (lol)s

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