I have learned from experience, however, how something as seemingly harmless as going along with a false perception impacts you.  The impact is unconscious and can have lasting impact.  The reason is because when you go along with a false perception a part of you is hiding – typically hiding from your own shame and judgment.

Allow me to share a recent experience to explain this concept in more detail.  Recently, I was being congratulated by someone I knew fairly well on some recent successes.  They also alluded to the idea that I must be enjoying the financial rewards to my success.  At that moment, I felt a slight twinge.  A part of me so easily could have went with what she was saying by not agreeing or disagreeing and just move along in our conversation.  No harm done right?  Wrong!

What that twinge was about was the fight between my ego and my authentic self.  I knew a part of me wanted her to buy into the false perception that I am currently swimming in the dough!  That was exactly the problem.  Because of my work with emotional consciousness, I knew this was an opportunity for me to recognize that deep within me judgment about my finances existed.  I simply told her that her assumption was not the case.  After our conversation finished was when my inner work began.

Utilizing the tools I teach, I began to play detective regarding what I was judging. Fortunately, I am very fine tuned to my feelings and rather than blow them off, I saw this as a gift that I wanted to claim!  That is the beauty regarding your feelings because they are always available to allow you to expand and grow even more.  Obviously there was more growth for me to do around this topic!

In regard to finances, I have personally grown to understand that my needs and desires are always taken care of, so that wasn’t the issue.  The fear and judgment that came up was in regard to my profession.  I felt shame and embarrassment around the idea that should you (meaning this community) find out about the amount of money I make, you would deem me as no longer credible.  Of course, this is a projection of my own judgments.  The shame is because of my own judgment that exists, even though logically I know it isn’t true.  That is the thing about fears, they aren’t logical.

Even though fears are not completely logical, you will always have others that will fuel your fears.  After discussing this upcoming blog with a few of my peers – coaches, business experts etc.., they told me it was career suicide for me to share my process with you.  I was told that I want others to see me professionally as the image of success.

Image, however, is exactly what I believe hides us from being able to live authentically, freely and more empowered lives.  I know from experience that a part of my potential would be lost should I give into the fear.  So, I choose not to buy into the fear.  I knew that you judge me based on the value of my content, whether it supports you to grow and evolve in your life as well, and not on any image that pretends I don’t have my own process.  In fact, because I do have my own process, I feel that my experiences support me to further understand the traps and ways in which we unconsciously hinder ourselves.

The point of me sharing this with you is not about whether or not I make enough money.  The point is how false perceptions can be an opportunity for you to recognize your fears.    Sometimes your fears jump out.  To consciously grow, however, you want to be a detective to search for what else is waiting within you to evolve away from the ego and into more of your potential.

False perceptions happen all the time because we have the tendency to want people to see us at our best.  You rejoice in sharing the good and blessings that you are able to experience. You need to make sure that you aren’t hiding behind the good in order to remain distant from the judgments and fears within you.

Should you find yourself tempting to hide behind a false perception, use the experience to see how your ego wants you to buy into not being enough for where you are currently at in your life.  This is how shifts begin by not needing what is false to be a part of your identity or self worth.   When you no longer need the illusions of the ego, your ego can let go and make room for creating more of what you desire.    I know this because I have used this process to change many aspects of my life.  The work isn’t always easy but it is definitely worth doing!

I also want to say that I honor you for the path you are on to enhance your life as well as your continued commitment to your personal evolution.  No one really sees the time, effort and energy you have committed to this part of yourself and it often goes unacknowledged.  I acknowledge you for choosing to expand rather than contract.

What I really feel the connection is between me and you is about expansive energy.  I don’t know your face, we aren’t physically together, yet I feel a connection.  Usually, I try to support people to recognize the expansive energy that is within negative emotions.  After all, it is a part of our human experience that often gets ignored or contorted.

What I sensed today is a need to remember the energy of love that is hard to define, yet exists.  Of course, you know it.  You feel it all the time with your family, friends and nature but what about the love that has no or little physical connection.  The connection we have is different.  There is a small physical component as you see my emails, yet the email is not what our connection is about.  We bond through experiences, feelings, thoughts and the words that celebrate or bring greater understanding to our day to day experiences.  Do we dare call that energy love?  I do!

I just want you to know that I feel your energy as well.  I thank you for the energy, thoughts and love you send my way.

I also want to celebrate the expansive energy within you in all its forms.  Today, may it be a day that you honor yourself for the energy you give to others and all of life without even knowing it.  You are life affirming and it is felt!

Love is in the negative and the positive and it is just up to us to recognize it.  Thank you for choosing me to be one of your humble guides, as I use my own stumbling blocks along the way to share with you the love that is within all that we feel.  We are all meant to be the givers and recipients of love.  The more we are open to that in our lives through all of our connections, the more love expands.  Thank you for allowing my heart to expand by receiving my thoughts, feelings and energy through each email I send your way.

Wishing many continued blessings to awe inspiring you, as you continue to live emotionally conscious and exceptionally well!

Of course, your ego isn’t going to allow you to claim more of your authentic self and potential without putting up a fight.  As you get closer to taking the next step on your path to claiming potential, you are going to run into self-doubt.  These doubts are going to make you procrastinate and ultimately feel weighted down.

You would think that your goal is to try to get rid of your weighted down feelings and doubts so you can move forward, right?  Wrong!   Making your goal to be getting rid of your negative thoughts and feelings can set you up for an internal battle that you won’t win!  You automatically lose because your energy is being wasted on your ego.

Unfortunately, the vast majority of the self-help tools currently available unknowingly guide you to focus more of your energy and beliefs on your ego rather than your inner truth and power.  Your negative feelings have a more significant meaning that goes beyond the ego, if and when you learn how to let go of the ego drama.

So how do you let go of the ego drama?

SURRENDER! When you consciously choose to surrender to your ego, you aren’t engaging in the battle.  Doing so consciously allows you to listen to what messages your ego is sharing with you.  Now you have those messages out in the open and you see how either ridiculous or repetitive and non-serving they are.  Once the ego feels it has been heard, your authentic voice will have room to share the necessary insight that will support you to move forward.  Then it is up to you to choice which message is going to serve you to obtain your dream.

Rather than surrender, what most people do is try to dismiss, positive think over or rise above their ego message.  Although it sounds nice, it doesn’t work.  You must consciously choose if you want to do what sounds nice or what will actually support you to move forward.  Doing what sounds nice in this instance is reacting based on the old-world understanding regarding your feelings.  Even though you may convince yourself that your ego has diminished, it is impacting you in more unconscious ways that will keep you internally struggling and stagnant.   Rather than freeing the energy of your ego, you are unconsciously empowering it while all along distancing yourself from the true insight your essence is offering you.

Ask yourself what you are afraid of when it comes to surrendering to your ego and that will tell you the power your ego still holds over you.  The answer is to find internal peace and it begins by surrendering to all aspects of you!  This is how you will be able to truly F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love and more profoundly open yourself to the gifts within you.  When those feelings of doubt creep in, rather than weigh you down, F.E.E.L. will give you the insight you need to move forward.  As you trust and follow your insight, feelings that once weighed you down shift to bring you more energy and vitality toward life.  In doing so, your dreams become a reality!

It is an honor to have you join the evolution to live emotionally conscious by realizing how F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love is life changing! If you would like to know how to apply F.E.E.L. more aptly into your own life, consider my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program at http://www.michellebersell.com/feel/ (While your ego is telling you I am selling to you, your essence knows it is my passion to teach you to hear the truth to your emotions & empower your essence.  Let your essence guide you to determine if this is the support you need to move forward by trying the program risk free with a 100% money-back guarantee.)

Here’s to you living emotionally conscious and exceptionally well,

You (and I) vent to others the despair and sickening feeling that you feel, but in the end you cannot stop the oil leak.  You are left not knowing what to do with the anger and sadness you feel toward this tragedy.  What bothers me is that along with this anger and sadness is a sense of hopelessness that there is nothing you can do.  This simply is not true!

Although you and I feel right blaming BP and the government for the mess our ecology is in, I know there is a deeper answer that is waiting for you and me to claim.  You see I teach a process which is called F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love.  I know it sounds like a philosophy for sensitive people or for those emotionally challenged, but it couldn’t be further from the truth.  F.E.E.L.  is a process that gives you empowering insight to what you are feeling.  Because you are constantly feeling about everything throughout your day (whether you are conscious or not), understanding your feelings from this emotionally conscious level changes you and how you go about living your life.

The F.E.E.L. perspective teaches what anger is really about from an emotionally conscious level.  Anger from this perspective is about owning your power.  You see when you turn to BP and the U.S. government about your anger, psychotherapists like myself call that projecting.  It is not that there isn’t merit to that anger you feel, it is just that it keeps you in the victim mode.  When you are the victim, you don’t have power and cannot create changes because you have given away your power to the voice of your ego.

F.E.E.L. supports you to listen to the inner wisdom within you, which recognizes that your feelings are present out of love to guide you back to your inner truth.  You are right to be saddened and angry at the impact on the land and sea, the animals and the chemicals that are being used which will eventually show up in our food chain, causing us health problems.    Your sadness is present to get really clear that you, and I – let’s face it pretty much everyone takes forgranted some aspect of our Earth and her natural resources.  Can you use your sadness to get clear as to how you can honor the Earth even more?

Your anger is present to support you to claim back your power and make changes for and within you.  From this level of understanding, your anger is not about revenge or blame.  Those forms of anger are from the ego.  Your anger from an emotional consciousness perspective supports you to ignite your power and passion to really look at you and where you fall in the picture.

Maybe you can begin with the plastic you waste.  Have you used the power of your voice to demand that we get charged a sizable sum when you forget your grocery bags or does that sound too inconvenient? Do you recognize or blow off your part of the oil dependency cycle that we are in?

Seeing yourself in this light allows you to see how much more similar you and I are to BP and the U.S. government in not taking full responsibility. The government and BP are a mirror to how we don’t yet hold ourselves fully accountable either.  To make the shift happen, begin with you!

There used to be a chosen few who innately knew how to use their negative feelings such as anger, sadness and frustration and use them to empower them.  These are the leaders such as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela and Gandhi to name a few.

We can no longer afford to only have a chosen few act from an emotionally conscious level.  You too are being called to Feel Every Emotion as Love so you can live from an empowered state toward all aspects of life.  This Gulf event is an awakening for all of us, myself included, in many ways.

No matter how much you are doing in regard to being environmentally conscious, I guarantee that if you feel sadness or anger that there is more responsibility that you can claim.  This isn’t about being the perfect environmentalist rather this is about your essence yearning for you to take another step toward protecting our Earth.   Be clear if and when you are the victim because then your ego is getting the best of you.  Now is the time to tap into the potential that waits within, which only you can claim!

I would LOVE to hear your ideas about one or two steps you have already taken.  It is very likely that a step that you have already done is a prime example of what someone else can do next!  Also, please share one more step that you are willing to commit to now and set a date of when it will be completed.

Remember it is your ego that would have you believe that your actions are insignificant.  Trust me when I say that your feelings of anger and sadness will begin to shift the moment you beginning following where your essence wants to take you in regard to this situation and every other situation in your life.

Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,

www.MichelleBersell.com

PS:  If you would like more support in seeing how your feelings can support you to further tap into your potential, check out my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program.  In honor of celebrating freedom in all its forms, I would like to extend a $10 off discount for the first month of my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program.  If you want to learn how your feelings can support you to tap into more of your potential go to www.MichelleBersell.com/feel, which is good until July 4^th.

Roberta

Hi Roberta,

First of all, I want to validate your reaction when you hear that your son has attempted stealing.  I am sure it blew you away knowing that he is engaging in behaviors that are not for his highest good. Of course this would be upsetting to you! My bet is, however, that your reaction isn’t feeling good to either yourself or your son.  So even though I understand why you lost your cool, I want to support you to move out of the reactionary ego perspective and instead gain clarity and empowerment through emotional consciousness. So whatever you do, don’t detach from your feelings!  We need your emotions to understand the next steps you need to take and to improve this situation. 

The good news is that your situation applies to everyone when they lose their cool. Regardless of the circumstance, when you lose your cool, the feeling you are experience is first ANGER and second likely frustration.  When you learn to recognize these feelings through the lens of love (as in Feel Every Emotion as Love) you can begin to differentiate between the messages of your ego and the messages of your essence.

Your ego reacts in anger when subconsciously you believe that your power has been taken away from you. Roberta, in your case you are feeling powerless as to how to move your son away from engaging in risky behaviors. 

Frustration is where “not good enough” lives and seeps in when you feel like you are spinning your wheels.  Roberta, because you have likely tried different measures without success, your ego can take a hold and judge your abilities.  A part of why your reaction gets so strong is because you take his behaviors and make them personal about you. Although this is common for parents, especially teenage parents, to do, it isn’t your truth.

As your anger and frustration get triggered from your ego, you are going to blow. My work doesn’t say that you have to not ever blow.  Sometimes, circumstances just push enough of your buttons.  Yet, you are doing yourself a disservice if you don’t understand the inner wisdom coming through to support you to CREATE CHANGE!

As I teach in much greater detail through my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program (www.MichelleBersell.com/feel), your anger and frustration have much wisdom to share.  Anger from a spiritual perspective is always about claiming your power. While frustration is present to tell you that the way you are going about doing things isn’t working and you need to create a shift back to your inner wisdom.

Roberta, your anger is present to tell you to claim the power you still have toward your relationship with your son.  Although your ego is telling you that you are powerless in this situation, nothing could be further from the truth.  Your son is reaching out to you when he admits that he attempted to steal.  Your true power is tapped into when you look to what is triggering this for him.  He is looking to you for guidance (no matter how much he may act that he is blowing off what you say) because he told you the truth!

Tap into your own experiences of feeling peer pressure to remember that you did (as well as myself and everyone else) dumb things to get others approval. Have compassion for yourself for your mistakes and use that to have compassion and understanding for him.  Then from a loving place, ask him questions such as who he was with, what he was feeling like around them and allow him to begin to see the light of what is really going on within him.  Your power is bringing out the truth to what is really going on rather than staying stuck on the surface issue of stealing.

Your frustration is your essence guiding you that things have to change.  Put the onus back on him to what he thinks needs to be done to make a change. Don’t let him let his ego off easily. Guide him to stand up for his essence and the man that he wants to become. How can things change to support him to realize that within himself? You can support him but only he can claim it for himself.

The lesson is for all of us that when we lose our cool, we are buying into a version of ourselves and a version of reality that isn’t true.  As a person on a path to live more consciously, you can take this experience (and every experience your emotions come up) to become in greater alignment with your truth and power!

Thanks Roberta for sharing your story! Glad to hear that you are already meditating and doing yoga, as those activities will support you to gain access to the inner wisdom that is within each of your feelings.

Live Emotionally Conscious & Live Exceptionally Well,

What is really going on during an off day is that you likely lowered your standards.  Of course you are not going to go about your day thinking “Today would be a great day to lower my standards.” So how does this happen?

Believe it or not, you are most likely going to lower your standards when you are going after something you want.  You see, in your mind sometimes to get what you want, you “make exceptions.”  Making exceptions is fine except when you go against what feels good and right to you. The problem is that it is way too easy to make excuses even if your exception does not feel right to you. 

Take me for example.  Yesterday, I had an appointment with a really well-known figure regarding his participation in the next New Consciousness Audio Series.  Unfortunately, the appointment time was incorrectly scheduled and if I wanted to fit in to his very busy schedule, I needed to rearrange some appointments on my end.  I knew at the time, I didn’t feel comfortable making changes to my schedule.  It just didn’t feel right.  Still, I did as I thought of how wonderful it would be to have him as a part of the series. 

Against my better judgment of my inner guidance, rearrangements were made.  And you know what?  The rearrangements threw off my day.   

Now for the kicker, HE NEVER CALLED!

You see it is these little instances where boundaries weaken and you can easily have no clue.   After all you want to be a good person, so you think you should give people the benefit of the doubt, be compassionate etc….  What happens is then that you are likely going to blow off your contribution to the problem.  You will say to yourself something like “It is no big deal.”

You are correct in that it is no big deal to the other person involved.  Yet, the truth is that instances in which you lower your boundaries should matter to you. 

In my case, I could have easily forgotten about it and just have my assistant reschedule with his assistant. No big deal right?  WRONG!

The big deal is that how I feel going about my day matters to me.  Being in flow with my work makes a big difference in my day and I don’t like feeling “off.” 

What is key to remember is that this has everything to do with my actions and not his.  If I would have listened to my inner guidance, this wouldn’t have impacted my day as it did. It would have been “on.”

You are going to mess up at times and not listen to your inner guidance, just as I did.  If you want to remain living emotionally unconscious (like many do) you will easily blow off lowering your standards.  You won’t recognize how you disregarded your inner wisdom and then you will wonder why life at times feels like such a struggle.

Living emotionally conscious, however, you can choose to recognize your part in the equation.  When you do, you are living more empowered because you see how you can handle circumstances in a way that is in greater alignment with your essence. 

And this, my friends, is exactly how healthy boundaries are created! It is through the times when you dismiss your boundaries that can affirm the importance of boundaries in your life. 

It is just like how successful people have experienced a lot of failures prior to their success.  The same holds true with your boundaries.  People with healthy boundaries that supports them to live their best life have become conscious of the times when their boundaries were lax.  The reason is that in both cases, you learn and grow – IF YOU ARE WILLING & AWARE!

Of course, I became aware of this instance by recognizing my annoyance, which was really just light weight anger.  Utilizing my anger from an emotionally conscious state, I realized my feelings were about me claiming more of my power.  Through that understanding, I claimed back my power through re-establishing boundaries that feel good and right to me. 

For me, the person who blew off our appointment has nothing to do with how I felt.  He was simply the vehicle of how I was supposed to remember my truth to support me as my work progresses.  The stakes may become higher, but my truth remains the same.  Evidently, I needed that reminder!  Once I got it, my day went from feeling “off” to feeling back “on!”

You need reminders when you are on your path to grow and evolve.  Your emotions are there to support you to stay on track.  Choose to live emotionally conscious to embrace the power within you that will allow you to turn around an “off” day and get back “on” track to living your best life!

Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,

Believe it or not, your fear is the same energy as excitement.  The only difference is that your ego has taken a hold of the energy and turned it into what you recognize as fear.  You know the ego is involved with fear because you’ll feel weighed down, uncertain, scared, anxious or sad. 

From an emotional consciousness standpoint, you recognize the true purpose to your fears.  They are present to alert you that you are buying into an ego message.  Congratulations – just recognizing this is a huge step forward!

Now, to transmute the fear into the energy of excitement, all you need to do is understand the underlying message of the ego.

When this happens to me, I turn to my feelings to help me uncover the truth. Nothing is better than recognizing sadness as loving guidance for you to get the clarity you need.  What I love about feeling every emotion as love is that the process allows you to get very specific as to what is your vulnerable spot that the ego is trying to protect. 

Your sadness supports you to gain clarity and see the truth to the matter rather than the false story of your ego.   Fear is then transformed back to excitement because the energy that you have given to your ego is now reverted back to your essence.  When your essence is free to do what it came here to do, you will be blown away at your ability to move mountains!  That is the energy that awaits you!!

What this means for you is to begin to see each and every fear as opportunity.  The opportunity is to understand where, why and how your energy is leaking toward your ego.  The time has come to reclaim that energy back to serving you and utilizing your excitement to even more deeply claim what fulfills you.

The good news is that fear is a normal part to growth.  I feel it all the time and I utilize my fear to support me to reach my desires.  You can too!

Begin by reminding and stating to yourself of the following:

“Each time I feel fear, it is an opportunity for me to expand and own more of my personal power and truth.”

You and only you can make the decision if you are going to use fear to transform you or keep you stuck.  Your fate is in your hands!  Now that is something to feel excited about – you have the choice to claim all of your potential!

 Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,

Michelle

Michelle…Ok..today I own my ’state’.  I am paralyzed by my lack of confidence.  I drown it in other lack – not enough knowledge, not likeable, not this not that.  I drop into this pool of cement and struggle with the struggle.  I know what I am doing and have winds of lightness and grace but I can’t seem to undo something that keeps me from allowing my life to shine.

I was shocked to hear a friend say to me years ago – You have a lot of self-hatred.  I am thankful for this comment as I awakened to myself.  I played with the programming, with energy and with knowledge.  I have dramatically changed my lifepath.  

It’s a new world but I am not knowing how to live in it.  I yell out – ok, teach me the lesson and lessen the teaching so I can move on.  Something in my programming or willingness is making me a dysfunctional self-actualizing philosopher of sorts.  Debt and pounds are adding up and I am inert.  Kids are feeling insecure about Mom.  I am missing a link.

What do you suggest?

Jane

Hi Jane,

First of all I want to acknowledge that it takes courage to say, “Look, I have been on this personal development path for quite some time and I am still struggling.” Trust me, you are not alone.  It is not your fault because the emotion piece that understands the ego, your fears and feelings from a spiritual perspective has been missing.

I know exactly where you are – been there, done that!  To be frank, the missing link is you getting so tired and so damn bored of your ego’s story that you become willing to fight for your essence.  I mean aren’t the stories of your ego boring to you?  For how long have you been hearing the message you aren’t enough this or you are not enough that?  For a very, very long time right?  And where has it gotten you?  How have those messages served you? 

Now is the time to get ANGRY that you have bought into those messages for so long.  You have to be willing to say “ENOUGH, NO LONGER WILL I BUY INTO MESSAGES THAT DO NOT SERVE ME” and then take action. 

ACTION IS KEY!  Anger is your power and will support you to finally claim energy on behalf of your essence to take action. Have you been using your anger from a consciousness level to tap into your internal power?  What we have to be careful about being on this path is thinking, reading and taking too many courses on your personal development. Why? Because then you remain a philosopher rather than experiencing what it is you are learning about.

You have to be willing to take one step each and every day to the benefit of your essence.  Even if it doesn’t make sense to your rational brain, listen to your essence.  Your spirit is BEGGING YOU to TAKE A RISK.  Take an honest look at what you have to lose.  Your spirit is being cut off from life by how you are living.  It doesn’t get worse than that!

If you continue to take risks on behalf of your essence, you guarantee a breakthrough.  If you continue to listen to the voices of your ego, you guarantee yourself to remain spinning your wheels and more pain.  I will say this to you lovingly because I have been exactly where you are at emotionally; There comes a time when we have to stop whining and take responsibility for our lives.  Your anger from a consciousness level will help you see this. Now is your time.

 Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,

Michelle

To gain further assistance with how to utilize your emotions to propel your personal growth, check out my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program at http://www.michellebersell.com/feel/.  So many have already shared how F.E.E.L. is impacting their life and I hope it will change yours as well!

This got me thinking about how aware we are of the aspects of ourselves that we deem as not measuring up yet often unaware of the stories behind the judgments.  You carry your body around with you all day, yet did you ever stop to think what is my body’s story?  Before you go down the path of yet another diet or exercise plan, it is time to make peace with your body.  Uncovering your body’s story is going to support you to get to the truth of what is truly upsetting you.  As you make peace with your body, you are going to claim overall well-being at a deeper level.

Here is what you can do to begin to uncover your body’s story:

1) Your body as a child:

Think about for a minute how you felt about your body as a child.  What is your story then?  How did you eat? How did you feel overall?

 2) Your body as an adolescent:

Same questions as above, plus notice the role of judgment toward your body from yourself and others as to whether it increased, decreased or stayed the same as from when you were a child

3) Your current story regarding your body:

Are there any aspects to your body that you wish were different? Have you always felt this way or when did you begin judging your body in this way?  Do you disassociate yourself from your body not paying too much attention to it’s appearance or are you overly attentive and critical?

4) Create a new story:

What can you learn about how you viewed your body as a child?  How can you begin to shift your view of your body to be seen as a tool to promote self-love?  What would a more balanced perspective toward your body look like?  (more or less exercise, more healthy food or more joy food?  Etc) How do you believe this view would change those around you?  How would this view change your sense of self.

As you become conscious of your body, it is important to find a middle way. As you truly feel better about yourself internally, you desire health in all areas of your life.  Your body becomes one part of that expression of health – a story of treating your whole self with true love and deep respect. 

Live Consciously – Live Exceptionally Well,

Michelle

I have been following you and I want you to know it is an honor to be connected.   I live in India and inspire to become big. I have everything in me but two things stop me to attain my aspirations. First, I have a fear of public speaking that holds me back like anything. For last 5 years I have been trying to overcome the same but I still find me struggling with words and my thoughts when it comes to public speaking. The second problem is that after trying hard for anything I find myself deviating from that thing. I basically lack dedication. I read your page and thought to mail you. Hope you reply back and your suggestions help me.
Regards,
Sumit

Dear Sumit,

Let’s get a clear understanding about what fear is about from an emotional consciousness standpoint.  Fear is the voice of your ego.  Your essence/spirit/inner voice (whatever you prefer to call it) is the part of you that has aspirations to share your message.  Also, what you call a “lack of dedication” is also the voice of your ego.  There is nothing wrong with you.  You are simply allowing your ego to win because even though you work hard toward a goal, there is a part of you that fears the outcome. 

Right now your ego is winning, which indicates to me a very important aspect that you need to address.  You don’t believe enough in your essence.  There is a part of you that does but it isn’t enough because your ego is still winning.  You need to write down and give your rational mind and ego proof of what you have accomplished. 

Most importantly you need to continue to develop a deeper relationship that honors your inner voice more than you do the messages of your ego.  How do you demonstrate to your spirit that you listen, love and care for this vital aspect of you?  If you don’t or you push this part of you around with putting everything else in front of your spirit, you cannot expect your spirit to be strong enough to overcome your ego when you try to attain a goal.  Your fear will always be there as you evolve and grow.  You demonstrate your spirit is ready to make that leap when you essences is properly fueled by love and respect by you.  Then your spirit is more powerful and sees the truth to your fears.

Lastly, you are overly judgmental of yourself.  Maybe not in all areas but certainly when it comes to your career.  Remind yourself that every time you critique yourself, you diminish your relationship with your essence.  I would suggest seeking support that guides you to recognize the voice of your ego and tune into more the voice that your spirit sings.

Sending you much love on your journey!

Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,

Michelle

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