Okay, before we begin, take a few deep breaths. Here come the statistics, which demonstrate the deep need to apply emotional well-being techniques with children.

Stress is impacting our children as young as 8 years old. They are reporting that they experience physical and emotional health consequences often associated with stress. While nearly 70 percent of parents of teens and tweens say their stress has little or no impact on their children, only 14 percent of children report their parent’s stress doesn’t bother them.

Psychologist Katherine C. Nordal, the APA’s executive director for professional practice, said in a statement “It’s critical that parents communicate with their children about how to identify stress triggers and manage stress in healthy ways while they’re young and still developing behavioral patterns.” Nordal added, “If children don’t learn these lessons early on, it could significantly impact their physical health and emotional well-being down the road, especially as they become adults.”

Given these statistics, APA Chief Executive Officer Norman B. Anderson PhD states “America is at a critical crossroads when it comes to stress and our health.”

Okay, it’s over, you can breath again. Now what I don’t want you to do is start berating yourself that you haven’t handled your kids stress or emotions well. The truth is we are in a huge learning curve regarding emotional well-being. Emotions have just found their way to becoming “public” in the last few decades. This has been progress compared to the years where feelings were not talked about at all. We are now just learning the ways to address and understand our feelings. This is our part of the learning curve and is something that, if we get, we can pass down to the next generation.

You being a part of this community, is you doing your part to pass down to your kids, your nieces/nephews, grandkids etc… an empowered approach to emotional well-being. Are we cool? Good!

This leaves us to answer how we can address our own feelings, as well as other’s feelings from an empowered approach.

If you know my work, you know the core process I teach for you to gain emotional empowerment in the moment a negative feeling arises. If you are new to my work, sign up for my free training kit here:
http://michellebersell.com/feel-training-kit/
My F.E.E.L. Training Kit will give you the core concepts to apply an empowered approach to your feelings.

One of my most successful techniques with children and adults (myself included) is to use the You are Right No Matter What Technique.

Here is the You are Right No Matter What Technique in a nutshell:

This technique is about validation whatever feeling your child ( or yourself, or your spouse) is experiencing. This technique also allows for expansion of perspective. The bottom line to this technique is whatever you/she/he is feeling you/she/he has a right to feel.

What I would like you to begin to teach yourself and others is that within each feeling you experience you have a choice between an easy response versus an empowered response. BOTH ARE RIGHT. Neither are wrong. It is just that one will lead you to feel better more quickly.

The easy response is the path we choose when our fear leads us. It is the response that feels hurt or blame. This easy response is called “easy” because it is typically an automatic response that occurs with negative feelings.

The empowered response is usually a more challenging response but is one that will lead us to a greater sense of happiness, fulfillment, and inner peace. The empowered response challenges us to find our power in any given circumstance. The empowered response guides us to step into more of our truth.

Now let’s take this to a real life example that you could use with your child. Let’s say your child comes home feeling sad because someone picked on them. They are right to feel sad because it doesn’t feel good to be picked on and feel bullied.

The normal response to being bullied is to feel bad about yourself. This is common because what the bully said hit a nerve. The important point to share is that your child is sad because they are agreeing with the bully. This means the real reason why your child is sad is not because of the bully but because they are believing something about themselves that IS NOT TRUE. The truth is they should feel sad when they are believing something about themselves that isn’t true.

Isn’t that great how their feelings are there to protect them from believing in stuff that isn’t true?!?

The empowered choice is to see how they were giving their power away by believing what the bully said. The empowered choice of their sadness is to choose to believe in their truth rather than a lie.

Neither response is wrong. It is simply showing how the empowered choice will make your child feel better sooner.

You can also tell your child how you too sometimes choose the typical reaction at first. Then you remember it is not fun if you stay their long. That is when you choose to respond from a place of making yourself feel better from the inside, by letting go of the lie and coming back to your truth. When you do, the sadness releases automatically because you are no longer believing in something about yourself that is false.

Our emotions are always trying to teach us more about ourselves. If we learn to receive our emotions in an empowered manner, they aren’t so scary or overwhelming. Instead, they simply become a guide, telling us when we are buying into fear rather than love. Teaching this to those you love, reinforces emotional empowerment within you. This is how you gain emotional mastery, which is mastery with rather than mastery over negative feelings.

In my Big Breakthrough Forum, we gather as an intimate group to explore how to gain mastery with rather than over our negative feelings and the results have been astounding. In just the few times we have met, huge insights have come forward, which have led to making big changes in how participants view themselves and live their lives. I will be opening up a few slots for the Big Breakthrough Forum shortly, so you too can begin to have mastery with each and every one of your beautiful, life-affirming feelings. Stay Tuned!

Please give the above technique a try – either on yourself or your child. Let me know how it goes here below.

It is time the world learns that love exists within every aspect of ourselves that our fears want to fill with shame and judgment. Now is our time to bring this gift to our children. In doing so, soon there will be generations of people who honor every aspect of their emotional well-being, as they see their feelings as one of their greatest gifts and strengths!

I, for one, can not wait!

Be Fearless – Choose Love,

Give it a try and see for yourself!

I would love to hear your comments, feedback and questions.

Be Fearless – Choose Love,

Michelle

Who’s dreaming about you? Who is meditating to connect with your highest self? Who is there holding your unique vision and guiding you to step fully into your ideal?

Maybe, some of the time, it is you doing this for yourself but what about those moments when you are down, when your faith waivers, or when the tools that once supported you have left you at a plateau? Who can be for you then?

The answer to all of the above is found in my Unrecognizable You Partnership Program, a one-of-a-kind program that guarantees in 6 months you will not to be the same person who started the program.

Are you ready for:

• Your defenses and inner blocks to dissolve?
• People to see and experience you as different?
• Transformation in areas of your life that aren’t working?
• To have ease and joy with who you are?
• More of your gifts, love, and power to come through you?
• A deeper light to shine through your eyes?

How does this happen?

It happens through creating a soul-filled partnership. This partnership is so unique because you’ll have another person, beside yourself, committed to you stepping fully into your truth. This means I am meditating to connect with your highest self in order for information to come forward that you are unaware of and therefore struggle to change. I receive dreams, visions, and intuitive hits about your next steps.

I am also the one who is:

• Present to support you to see your shadows that remain hidden below the surface.
• Calls you out and allow you to see when you are trying to run from your fears.
• Shows you how to address your fears from the empowered stance of love.
• Standing up to your ego on behalf of your highest self, until you remember how.

I am able to do all of this because in the Unrecognizable You Partnership Program, you get unprecedented access to me. This is a partnership where you aren’t limited to how often we meet, because beside your regularly scheduled weekly sessions, you’ll have access to “open office hours” throughout the week. What this means is the moment you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or lost, you schedule extra time with me to ensure your old patterns are transformed!

If you are ready for someone to hold you by the hand to make sure you get out of your unconscious patterns that are holding you back, then I invite you to apply to the Unrecognizable You Partnership Program.

The doors to this program are officially open and you can apply now by filling out this form here:

http://michellebersell.com/evaluation-form/

Because this program involves such deep devotion to your transformation, please note there is a limited amount of partners I can serve at this level and it is intended for those who are willing to invest at a high level of commitment to living your best life.

Have questions? Check out more details about the Unrecognizable You Partnership Program here:

http://michellebersell.com/coaching/

The doors are now open and the only question that remains is -
Will you allow yourself to step into this deep commitment to you and change your life forever?

Don’t waste any more time.

I’m here holding this dream for you!

With love,

Boy was I wrong!

She wasn’t talking about my external self, she was talking about my internal self. In particular, she was describing a part of myself that I have unknowingly and unconsciously stuffed down deep within me.

Here’s the tricky thing – you wouldn’t have noticed my anger on the outside OR the inside. What I mean is, internally, I wasn’t bubbling with anger. There wasn’t any hidden feeling that I was about to explode at any moment. If anything, I would get sad or frustrated that I felt powerless to change a part of my life but angry, not really. Not that I couldn’t express my anger. I could. It just wasn’t an emotion that rarely came up for me.

When the session was over and I had a little bit of time to process what she had said, it hit me like a ton of bricks – I was angry! I had just learned to skip over my anger. Instead, I went right to the sadness or frustration regarding feeling stuck in one particular area that for the life of me, I could not change.

As you know from what I teach about anger, the loving guidance coming from our anger is about owning more of our power. My “skipping over” my anger took away my ability to empower myself to get outside my norm and take the actions I needed to make my desire my reality.

Fast forward years later and now I am doing this work where I can see and feel where in my clients’ bodies emotions are stuck. Guess what I am finding in everyone? You guessed it – ANGER!

The vast majority of my clients were, at first, completely unaware that their anger existed. What I am finding is that anger is like it is a hidden epidemic for most, especially those who have been on a personal growth path for a long time. Yes, you heard me right, ESPECIALLY those of you who are on the path to spiritually grow and evolve.

What you need to be careful of when you are growing & evolving:

Being on this path of personal growth, you have learned how toxic anger is and you work hard not to have anything toxic in your life.   The last thing you want to be carrying around is toxic emotions. Having a more positive mindset, you are also pretty darn good getting along just fine with what you have.

The fact for many of my beloved personal growth friends is that you have become too good at focusing on what is working. Even though you have tools and techniques to release the “toxic” feelings, most aren’t listening to why these negative feelings are coming up in the first place. You can’t see how your negative feelings are supporting you to get you outside your comfort zone (aka your safety zone). You just want these feelings gone. Yet, in doing so, you are keeping yourself fenced in to a limited experience of life.  Yes, the fenced in area looks beautiful but there is so much more beauty waiting for you to experience outside the protective internal gates,  Getting to your full expression of self means reaching a point of internal discomfort with aspects of your life that are no longer serving you or are holding you back from your truth.  It is in your negative feelings from love that will bust through any protective walls or fences you have built so  you can feel greater freedom, joy, and fulfillment in life.

What I am seeing is that for those of you who, deep down, truly desire to create a change in your life, your essence, unbeknownst to you, is feeling angry, even rage, for two main reasons:

1. Its signals have been ignored too long, and
2. You have so much more of your gifts to share and serve the world, and unconsciously you are holding yourself back.

When you heed the amazing guidance that your anger has to offer, the life you want falls into place easier and faster. The reason is simple: you are no longer acting from fear regarding these feelings and instead acting on your inner wisdom’s guidance!

When you begin to see your anger from love is when you experience tears of gratitude for your anger teaching you that there is even more of your truth, your gifts, your light that are ready to be seen. When you experience gratitude in something that the majority judge as negative, you are able to recognize how loved you are at a profoundly deep level that changes you forever at your core.

• If you are ready to discover that “something” that has been missing in your life….

• If you have tools and techniques that have supported you to grow, but the same tools and techniques are not working for your next level of evolution…..

• If you are ready to get the kink out of your internal hose, so you can truly unleash your best life…..

Then you are ready to partner together in my
UNRECOGNIZABLE YOU PARTNERSHIP PROGRAM

Let me be your sherpa! I know the hurdles, the pitfalls, and the self-doubts you will face and I will be right there with you. I have taken myself and now numerous others from all walks of life on this journey.

Please note: Because of the deep level of partnership I engage in throughout this journey (that is frankly unheard of at this level), I can only take a limited few.

Will you be one of them?

Find out more about the Unrecognizable You Partnership Program by clicking here.

Know you are ready??  Take the next step and fill out my form here.

Be Fearless, Recognize Unconscious Anger, & Experience the Loving Energy to Claim More of YOU!

With love and admiration for your courage,

Trust me when I say, I know how that feels.  As much as we say we are okay without this, if we were to be honest, a part of us isn’t.

At one point in my life, I felt really stuck about a desire I deeply wanted in my life.  Unbeknownst to me, there was something I was doing that was actually repelling me from my desire rather than making it happen.

Remember your emotions are the fuel to your intentions. If you are judging or trying to get rid of the negative half of your feelings,you are operating from fear rather than love.

If you are at the point where change has got to happen, because you are tired of feeling like you are repelling what you want in one or more areas of your life, I invite you to check out my one-of-a-kind Unrecognizable You Partnership Program here:

http://michellebersell.com/coaching/

Over the last few weeks, I’ve noticed a lot of running. Running from areas in life that cause pain.

Why I bring this up around the Valentine’s Day is because when you run from your pain, you actually are running from GREATER LOVE within yourself, within your relationships, and within your career.

So get ready and take a BIG GULP – because this is about getting real so you can stop running away from areas of your current reality that aren’t working and actually have the ability to do something about them.

Here’s just a taste of what I’ve seen people running from in just the past few weeks:

* Pain about not having the love/career/money/self-confidence you want,
* Hurt of a relationship gone wrong,
* Dissatisfaction of a relationship that appears fine on the surface but isn’t truly meeting your needs,
* Deadening within you because you have lost your true identity trying to meet the needs of everyone else but you,
* Struggles you are having with one of your children or not being able to conceive a child,
* Fear over a health issue and of missing out on expressing all the love that you have in your heart,
* Knowingness that time is passing by and you feel lost and empty within you, and
* Realization that you have so much potential waiting to be seen, yet you can’t seem to fully express your highest self in your current reality.

I’m getting very clear with my intention that I am here to foster change for my community. Rather than just inspire you with what is possible within you, I also need to get real with where you are at to empower you to create change. I am fired up to support you to choose YOU, your full truth, so you can live the life that you carry in your heart.

Let’s Begin:

Step 1: Recognize what pain you are running from in your life.

Here’s a few examples of the way we run:

• Keep busy, especially by trying to cross off things on a list that keep you distracted from attending to areas that truly need your attention;
• Ignore your feelings;
• Convince yourself everything is good when inside you know something is missing but because it is good enough or “not that bad,” you settle;
• Believe there is nothing you can do about your situation, you’ve tried;
• Live scattered in thoughts and actions;
• Work on “making things happen,” when the truth is you are spinning your wheels because you are doing the same ol’ same ol’, yet expecting different results;
• Give up on yourself as well as your true desires and instead engage in behaviors that feel good in the short-term but ultimately hurt you; and
• Refrain from getting support because you believe you know enough.

Step 2: Stop running.

It’s time to stop running from yourself. We all do it, especially when we are being called to own and live from more of our truth. Our power is to listen to our negative feelings about our reality so that we actually recognize how we are unconsciously running. Your negative feelings are supporting you to recognize you are trying to avoid your fear. When you try to avoid fear, you cannot access your empowered self. You aren’t centered, you are running. Your empowered self doesn’t run from fear, it receives the wisdom of what you are running from and what you are running from is ultimately you being your highest version of you. (Twisted, I know, but oh so true!)

Step 3: Allow the wisdom of your feelings to guide you to act differently from your norm.

Your negative feelings alert you when you’re in your comfort zone and it is no longer serving you. You need your negative feelings to awaken you when you are staying in your comfort zone because your norm feels safer than the unknown. The loving energy of your negative feelings is present to give you specific guidance and energetic fuel to move you outside the confines of comfort to expose the real you, even (and especially) when doing so scares the $h*T out of you.

This is exactly when you feel your life force again, you start really living, and you stop running from you.

Stop running Valentine & Choose YOU instead!

Holding You in Your Highest,

PS: If step #3 is a challenge for you, I’ve got something that is going to BLOW YOUR MIND – it is so incredible, I can hardly keep a lid on it.  More to come soon!

 NOTHING & EVERYTHING

Say what???

What stands between you and your highest expression of you are stories, beliefs, thoughts, and perspectives that no longer serve you.

When you give your energy to these stories, beliefs, thoughts, and perspectives, they become every reason why you can’t have your heart’s desires met.

Making this even trickier is that the energy you give to these stories, beliefs, thoughts, and perspectives is happening at a largely unconscious level.

Luckily, you have a built in system that allows you to bring your stories, beliefs, thoughts, and perspectives to the surface.

This system is your emotions.

What holds these stories, beliefs, thoughts, and perspectives are your emotions.

These stories, beliefs, thoughts, and perspectives are energetically held in your body by your feelings, especially your negative one.

And something very cool and miraculous has happened where I now “see” in your body where this stuck emotional energy is located AND what this energy wants you to know.

Time after time, with client after client, what I have found is that this energy doesn’t just want to be released, it wants to be understood FROM LOVE.

In fact, if you simply release this energy without understanding the wisdom within it, you won’t create permanent change.  You will feel relief from the release and short-term change.  The problem is that the next time your stories, beliefs, thoughts, and perspectives get triggered, your energy goes to what it knows and goes back to the familiar because a new emotional energetic pathway of greater love wasn’t forged.

I can see where in your body your inner gremlins of self-doubt and fear  reside but they don’t appear as gremlins to me.  What I see is a part of you that has been unconsciously rejected and that area in your body is where the energy has learned to hide.  What I hear are the messages you have been unwilling to receive.  That place in your body is where this energy remains safe until you are willing to hear it’s wisdom.

Once the wisdom is heard and understood, you forge a new pathway for this energy to be used in service to you the next time your stories, beliefs, thoughts, and perspectives get triggered.  You receive the understanding to know how to redirect this energy from it’s “safe spot” or “comfort zone.” This energy simply needs to know where to go the next time it’s triggered.

If this all sounds a bit “out there” for you, I hear ya!  Believe me this all threw me for a loop when I began having these experiences. All I can say is the long-term results that occur in my clients‘ lives have made them & me a believer!

What this means for you is that there truly is NOTHING standing in your way.  In fact, what you believe is standing in your way is actually there to support you.

What more do you need to do?  What are your next steps?  NOTHING.  Simply allow this information to sink into you.  Notice if it is your story that you have to always “do” more.  Is it not enough to simply receive?  Whatever answers come forward in this act of receiving is what becomes your next step.

Holding You in Your Highest,

PS: If you are interested in hearing more about how you can work one-on-one with me, go here for more details.

When it was your time to make a move, to take a leap, or to go for what you wanted, have you ever froze?

One of my earliest memories of that happening to me was being chosen to go on stage for the live children’s television show called the “Bozo Show.”  Bozo was a clown, who made us all laugh with fun and games played on his show.  One of the games played was called Bozo Buckets.  That was the game I was called on stage to play.

Bozo buckets is played by having each contestant line up in front of a row of buckets.  The buckets start just a few inches from under your feet and then get further and further away from you.  Each participant tries to get a ball into each bucket, trying to progress further and further down the line.   The game is set up so everyone wins at least one prize because the first bucket is nearly impossible to miss.  The goal is to become the “Grand-Prize Winner” being the one who gets a ball in the furthest bucket.

I was just a wee-little thing, maybe five or six years old.  I remember being lined up with other kids and a huge audience staring at us all.  Suddenly it was my turn.  There in front of me, nearly under my feet, was the first bucket.  Before I knew what was going on I was handed a ball and immediately threw it.  No focus, no aim, just a throw. And….I completely missed the bucket.

Now let me reiterate the fact that NO ONE misses the first bucket – not even two or three year olds.  It was that easy.

What happened?  I froze.

In a matter of nano-seconds, a part of my inner world was shattered. Bozo buckets is my first memory of shame.  No one shamed me, per say, that I remember.  What I remember is my own sense of disappointment and feeling not good enough.  I blew it!

This little girl who blew the bozo buckets has stayed with me unconsciously for a very long time.  She’s the part of me that easily got hurt about not being enough.  She’s also the part of me who tried extra hard not to disappoint, to prove my worth, and to be a source of pride.

The fact is, she is still with me.  The difference is she is no longer my shadow.  I am conscious of her now.  She still shows up as my fears, my uncertainties, and my doubts.  My job is to recognize her calling and to address her needs from love rather than fear.

We all have moments of being scared of our own shadows that cast self-doubts.  Sometimes these self-doubts show up as not feeling good enough to claim what we really desire, and hold onto the belief that your dream is possible.  Other times, the shadow appears as a sense of uncertainty about what the future holds for you.  Your unconscious fears get triggered, which holds you back from the full freedom of being you.

We have always had the choice as to whether to believe in our Empowered Selves over our small selves.

Making your Empowered SELF front and center in your life is crucial now more than ever!

As I stated at the end of 2011, 2012 is a year of letting go.  Let go of old ways of viewing yourself, of habits that no longer serve you, of tolerating less than what your heart desires for you to have in all areas of your life.

Now, prior to our shift into 2013, is an opportunity: an energetic portal that is about supporting you to shift out of unconscious fear and awaken to the greater good, power, and love that exists within you and within the world.

This is your time: a time of creating a new inner grid from which you navigate your life and the great news is that doing so is easier than you think.

Don’t allow your small self to ignore how important an inner shift is needed.

Let me show you what I have learned, so you can utilize this momentous time of awakening to greater love to nourish and fuel you and the special creations you were born to share.

Join me for a live online seminar on 12/12/12 at 12pm Central

by signing up at www.welcomingtheshift.info

And if you know others who are ready to increase self-compassion and enhance their natural vibrancy, please pass this information along so they too can join us as well.

Shifting to Greater Love Together,

PS: For those of you near the Milwaukee area, come for a special in-person event at Feronia Wellness this Saturday, Dec 8th beginning at 1pm.  Amazing teachers are coming together to share how to Embrace the Shift!

Enjoy mediation, teachings, and a sound healing concert.

For more information, click here.

With that being the case, you will really love this quick practice I implement daily.

You will see how this one little practice makes you an even better receiver & creates a juicy joyfulness to you!

In-Joy & Gratitude for YOU,

When you are able to recognize how a situation is making you feel dishonored, you are able to voice your complaint from an empowered standpoint rather than lack.  Most people, unfortunately, do not feel as if their voice matters, which makes their complaints ineffective.  When you don’t feel empowered, whether that is at work or in a relationship, you don’t offer strategies to change the situation.  From a place of unconscious disempowerment is while you’ll turn to making snide comments, gossip, or just plain being rude.  These acts of disempowerment are your ego’s way to try to reclaim power, which of course not only doesn’t work, but also reinforces your sense of powerlessness.

 Approaching Your Complaint from an Empowered Stance

When you approach a complaint from an empowered stance, you recognize the benefit in creating a change for everyone involved and you are able to voice those advantages to others.  When you are truly connected to the advantages this has for the overall good, you are able to present yourself with greater confidence as well as compassion.  You are able to look someone in the eye because you have the clarity for a better vision. At the same time, you are open to understanding where others are coming from as well.  From this stance, you may encounter new information that allows you to recognize what changes you could make as well.  Ultimately, this leads to more effective communication and connection.

In order to ensure you are addressing a complaint from an empowered stance, be cognizant of timing.  First, make sure you are able to respond rather than react to your own feelings.  When you react, you come from a place of lack and powerlessness, which shows up as blame.  On the other hand, when you take a step back, you are able to respond to your feelings.  By choosing to respond from an empowered stance, you are able to recognize how your feelings are guiding you to take action toward changing the circumstances.  Rather than taking out the situation on another (regardless of how involved they are in creating that circumstance), your empowered stance recognizes this as on opportunity to cause a mutually beneficial change.  The situation then automatically shifts from complaining and blaming another, to a discussion in which you claim responsibility for your needs at a deeper level.

Secondly, you are going to have better results by also being aware of timing for those whom you are approaching about a complaint.  If they seem flustered or overwhelmed, save broaching the subject for a time when they can really listen to you.  If this is something that is pressing, you can state to the person “I need to talk to you about something that is very important.  My sense is that now may not be a good time.  Can you give me a time today when you can take a few minutes to sit down and have a ten minute discussion?”  This approach lets the other person involved know that you are thoughtful of both their feelings and their time, which leads to them being more receptive to what you have to share.

The bottom line is your complaints matter!  Even if they do not feel received from another, even when you approach them from an empowered place, they matter.  The reason is because this information about you not feeling heard, seen, or validated is important for YOU to take in about what decisions you need to make.  Rather than look outside yourself for validation, see how this situation is guiding you to validate yourself from within first and foremost.  From this place of inner validation, you gain the certainty about what next step is for your highest good, as well as those involved, and can respond from empowered love rather than fear or lack.

Should you currently be having a challenge with a certain area where your needs aren’t being met, I encourage you to join my upcoming online seminar The Keys to Emotional Mastery.  It is often when you have issue with another, that you are being given an opportunity to access more of your truth and evolve.  It is also where we often get stuck.  Join this FREE gathering so you too can learn how your feelings are guiding you to become more aware of your inner truth and wisdom.  Register here: www.keystoemotionalmastery.com/

Live Fearless – Choose Love,

Michelle

PS:  I would love to hear about your complaints.  Do you allow yourself to complain or bite your tongue?  Have you approached your complaints from love or fear, now that you are able to look back at them?   Would it also be helpful for me to cover how not to take complaints or criticisms directed toward you so personally??  Keep me posted and share your thoughts below!