He contacted me on Plenty of Fish & his handle is funnycurby4u

While he seemed  nice & sincere, the fact that he didn’t read my simple profile & then gave me my keywords (this is how I screen people online on dating sites), told me it would never work.

Believe it or not, 90% of all men (& even some women) online can’t read English & are unable to follow simple instructions, OR they are too busy gawking at pictures because they don’t care about the person, they ONLY care about what they look like.

Sure look at the pic, but then the next step (logical to me) is to read the profile to see if there’s compatibility.

They skip that step & just write to the person & then expect that the person (Me) is going to take them seriously.

Anyway, this is what I wrote to Curt hoping it would end the conversation & I would answer his questions at the same time, but of course it did not. Curt had to make excuses. This is typical of people who are immature & are unable to take responsibility for their actions.

“  Hi Curt,

Thank you for responding to my ad.

Unfortunately you must not have read my profile in full b/c you didn’t give me what I asked for & that’s how I screen all respondents, by whether they can read, follow simple instructions & are sharp & on the ball overall. No offense.

So given that, I will graciously just answer your questions.

biamorous - means a person who loves either gender, nothing to do with sex although most times intimate relationships involve making love.

Polyamory you can read my personal site & learn about that.

www.sensualforyou.com/poly

I wish you all the best Curt : ) ”

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He wrote back proclaiming he had had a bad day. Don’t we all he asked me.

Clearly he wanted me to feel sorry for him, but again he didn’t give me what I asked for which meant to me that he didn’t even care about what I was talking about. I have issues with people who are lazy & don’t even bother to find out what a person is referring to. That not only shows me laziness, but also no curiosity (the spark of life), it shows me that the person doesn’t care about making things right, or they aren’t very intelligent. That what is being said slides right by them & they are clueless.

I wrote back an e-mail saying:

“Curt you still didn’t give me what I asked for so it sounds like you have no clue what I’m even talking about. Sure you can have a bad day, but 2 bad days in a row? That just doesn’t happen & if you aren’t feeling well, IMO, you shouldn’t be responding to women online b/c first impressions mean a lot.

I’m sorry, but I just can’t even start a friendship with someone who can’t read a simple profile & give the person what they asked for. I am an avid reader & I’ve been in relationships with men who don’t read books & it’s been terrible. Not only that, but I’m also an entrepreneur, so I experience a lot of triggers when people can’t follow simple instructions. I need above average people in my life. No offense, I just need like minded compatible people around me.

Also just so you know, a 3some is a swinger’s term. Swingers are NOT polyamorists. Just so you understand.

I wish you all the best in creating your reality : ) ”

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Was I straight to the point & on the negative side? Yes I was & I make no apologies for that. My profile states I’m very intelligent & if the profile sounds like Greek to them, than that is a sign they shouldn’t respond.

I’m not here to teach people how to read English & understand the English language. Maybe Curt can read, but just doesn’t understand what he’s reading. Maybe he can only read at a 4th or 6th grade level. I don’t know & I don’t care. What I want is highly intelligent people who care about the other person they are responding to - even if they don’t know them yet.

Once I got this e-mail below from Curt, I felt the need to post his responses so women (or men) can see how Curt handles not only conflict, but is unable to admit when he’s wrong. People who are serious about finding the right mate need to know how their other half handles conflict because that’s what makes or breaks a relationship.

“Hi Senualforus! Well I guess you misread me my dear!!! Maybe your not as smart as you think!!! Sorry you have such a overly high opinion of yourself. Just to let you know I probably read more than you do. I just don’t waist my time reading fictional romance novels either!!!Non- fiction and reality for me thank you very much.I not only enjoy reading but I also enjoy songwriting and poetry.No offense my dear but maybe you should learn to read between the lines every now and again and you might not loose the best thing that landed in your lap!!!I mean sheesh, can’t you tell when someone was just trying to connect with you on a similar experience? Later….. Curt!”

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So Curt expects me to read his mind when I don’t even know him yet. Again, another excuse for poor communication & for his mistakes.

Then he calls my profile a fictional novel. I guess what women say in their profile is fiction to Curt.

Then he says I think too high of myself. I guess the expectation of reading when all you can do online is read (unless it’s a video) means I think too highly of myself

That tells me that Curt’s standards are average or below average & he needs that type of woman & please understand that I don’t have a problem with people who are average or below average. They make up 75% of the earth’s population. What I have a problem with is those people contacting me & expecting me to welcome then with open arms. I’m sure Curt could have found some other women to contact, but I think he was fixated on the Polyamory part thinking he was going to get 3somes or something from me.

Then he tries to tell me he reads more than I & writes poetry. Gawd, if this is what a bookworm is like… no thanks. Probably lies.

Then he tells me he’s the best thing that could have ever happened to me. No Curt we don’t think highly of ourselves do we.

Actually he doesn’t. Anyone who would make that type of comment is actually very insecure. While I tell people I’m above average in intelligence & being intuitive because I only want those types contacting me, I don’t do it to show off. In fact I can never show off. It feels too uncomfortable for me to show off.

I would also NEVER tell someone I could have been the best thing that ever happened to them, especially if they don’t even know me & vice versa. That’s just immature talk & Curt is puffing out his chest trying to prove he’s something he’s not.

So in the end this is why I have my screening process, to weed out people like Curt because it’s also interesting to see how people who are called on their shit react back. This speaks volumes about who they are as a person.

Michelle

Waited for me outside a Blockbuster one sunny day trying to pick me up.

I agreed to take his number & call him, so I did. I wanted to see how we got along. In the middle of the conversation, he cut me off saying he had to go to the store & I should call him back. After trying him a few times & even leaving my number, it became apparent to me he had been lying & was, in my opinion, such an insecure person that he couldn’t just say he wasn’t interested.

Thanks Henderson for showing me you play games & treat women this way.

Michelle

Frank responded to my ad looking around for something to do on New Year’s Eve.

First he wanted to IM with me & I told him no, I don’t use the Internet to replace real conversation. I speak on the phone & then meet people if all goes well.

He gave me his number, but something told me he wasn’t someone I wanted in my life, because he had briefly mentioned wanting a picture in one of his e-mails, & while seeing what a person looks like is important, I don’t deal with shallow superficial humans.

I sent him my file I sometimes send to people telling them some of my simple expectations…

Honesty, someone who will tell you if they are no longer interested instead of running away, people who are secure with themselves, etc.

He wrote me back saying that’s fine, but he wants a picture first.

This told me all I needed to know about Frank, so I told him that while I have no problem sending out a pic, since this is all he seems to care about, we aren’t compatible & I wished him all the best.

This is the lovely response I got back from him…

“Thats fine! just as I figured you’re the type that looks for fault rather than trying to get to know someone with that huge requirement list of yours!!!   LMAO!!!
You better be prepared to live a single life with that attitude.
Get off the computer you have been rejected way too many times as it seems! this time you did the job for me and thanks.”

I’m very happy that I trusted my intuition & took the extra time to screen this guy. He clearly can’t handle being rejected, even when he shows his true colours, & instead of just accepting it, he has to bash me & put them down. I am ONLY seeking people who have learned how to grow up, don’t act like little children, & have above average relationships skills. That’s both as a friend or a partner.

It’s an interesting story to say the least, & I feel it will help me grow past any emotional pain.

I know people have been wanting me to write it for years, so I’m going to take it one chapter at a time.

Hopefully I’ll remember everything since there is a lot to remember.

Happy Holidays everyone!

Michelle

So unfortunately another nasty person from OkCupid has to write to me just to put me down. Another little immature bully who hasn’t grown up yet even though this guy is 54 years old.

This is what he tells everyone he is doing with his life…

“I am using my life as a special gift to expand
my awareness and help human-kind.”

Yet he writes me with:

“Scary
I read “WAR & PEACE” in less time than it took to read your profile, how could you possibly have more to say than Tolstoy?”

I guess his sense of helping human kind is to contact total strangers & put them down since it makes him feel better.

mhmfrogs, it’s time to grow up & get a life. I can tell you are bored out of your mind, so I recommend you go see a therapist of some kind & spend your time there figuring out why you are bored & you need to put women down.

If my profile is too long for your eyes/brain, then just move on to someone else who speaks very little, or better yet, continue to read your Penthouse, I’m sure the stories in there are “easy reading”

Michelle

“You really think you’re all that don’t you!!! I think you are a CUNT!!!!!”

His handle is Fun4U1963
He lives in Saginaw, Michigan
He is 46 years old, but clearly is still a very young boy living in a man’s body.

Here is his pic…

OkCupid seems to have a lot of these nasty individuals on their site, & they also don’t seem to care about the quality of the men (maybe women too) who are on there.

I can’t help myself, this guy clearly has no life & likes to go around harassing women online, so I’m outing him.

We LOVE your chest buddy, this makes you look VERY mature.

I don’t know him from Adam, all I got was this…

“Your profile seems to be oriented in weeding out people. Do you think that possibly all the negativity and arrogance will also scare away interesting people as well?”

I’m neither arrogant nor negative (I’m always trying to train myself to be more positive), but I guess to this guy who is 41 years old, anyone who knows what they want is arrogant & negative.

Buddy is STILL looking for his “dream job” & in the meantime is working clerical work… “Currently looking for a job in my profession. Clerical work is filling in until the dream job comes along. ”

Not only that, this is another prime example that the psychology profession is once again drawing in all the emotionally unstable ones into their profession. Then these people peddle their services telling others they can help them when they themselves haven’t dealt with the majority of issues. I mean anyone who is mostly secure with themselves would have just skipped over my profile if they didn’t like it & moved on, but Mister over here didn’t & I know he didn’t read it all, because he’s NOT clean shaven.

Part of his profile…

“Polyamorous vegetarian with gaming and other geek interests. Working class intellectual with a degree in psychology. I am a mad scientist whose main experiment is my own life. ”

So that’s it for me.

Michelle

27 years old from Rochester, Michigan

He contacted me on Ok Cupid, his user name is Cepo & here is what he looks like:

During the brief time we talked, he complained about how women just ignore him or disappear, & aren’t really serious about talking on the phone or meeting in person.

I told him I understood & that it happens to me too.

So what does he do LOL, he behaves JUST like the people he complained about.

He said he wanted to move this to the phone, so I asked him for his e-mail address. Then I also noticed that once he gave me his e-mail address, not once in the 3 times he had e-mailed me, had he given me his first name.

To me this is a sign the person is hiding something, so I called him on it saying that wasn’t very nice, which it isn’t. I mean come on, be mature & respectful.

I never heard from him again either in response to my e-mail or my 2 e-mails through OK Cupid.

So buddy over here complains about people disappearing & hiding & he did the EXACT same thing to me.

Nice

So Clint contacted me on Ok Cupid, & we chatted via e-mail around 4 times & then I called him.

He knew that I hadn’t made it across the border yet, so he offered to show me around if I made it over there.

He read my note asking him to let me know if he ever didn’t want to talk again & his response was: “Thanks for your note, I agree over 100% with the point in your Note.  I am a bit shocked that you have ever received that sort of treatment, I thought it reserved for us needy groveling male types, not interesting women.”

I will admit I was exhausted when I called him (he knew this), & after only an hour of talking, he said he had to get back to work. Fine, not a problem, it was unusual for me to call people during the day.

During our conversation, he wanted to know what food products I couldn’t get over here in Canada, & he would search for them for me & potentially send them to me, so I gave him the name of 2 or 3 products.

Now why would someone go to all that trouble to even offer to do that for someone, & then totally disappear, especially after my request for Clint to be respectful of me & himself.

Anyway, I never heard from him again, & that was 36 days ago.

Just thought you should know that when Clint says something, his word isn’t his bond.

Michelle

Nemo contacted me from Ashley Madison & he seemed genuine.

Before we started talking, I sent him my document explaining that if he ever feels like we aren’t suited to continue, that he should be respectful of me & himself & let me know instead of just disappearing.

Nemo said the following: “I must say a well worded document and can agree with everything you’ve said as I’ve experienced that myself……a lack of respect and common courtesy.”

I called him & I wasn’t really sure if I wanted to continue with him because all he did was go on & on about his wife & how she was mean to him & his kids & how he was only staying with her because of the kids.

I don’t fair well with men who stay with their wives & use the kids as the excuse, all the while damaging the kids because then they grow up learning it’s okay to not be happy, & to suffer & sacrifice for everyone else.

This behaviour shows that the person doesn’t love themselves, & they don’t feel they are worthy to have a happy life.

Obviously Nemo’s life is his life & he can do whatever he wants with it, I just choose to be around people who actually love themselves, respect themselves, they raise their children to do the same, etc.

I wanted to talk to Nemo one more time before I decided what to do, & Nemo said he was coming over near me for a meeting & he would get back to me with the date.

Not only did I not get a date, Nemo just disappeared & lied about his behaviour. I mean really, if he knew he tended to lie, why even bother saying he would let me know if he was no longer interested.

Just thought you should know how he acts if you are going to get involved with him.

Michelle