My landlady’s son-in law had come over to my house a few times to fix things & each time he would ask me if I’ve gotten used to the people in Kingsville yet.

Each time I didn’t know what he meant.

Now I THINK I know what he means.

People over here seem to be way too sensitive. They freak out if you complain about something or voice your opinion.

I don’t consider any of those things to be rude, but over here it seems they think it is.

One time I told the person serving me at Blockbuster that I was upset that Blockbuster Canada wasn’t offering their mail rental service like in the States & that if I could get a good DVD mail rental service, that would be the route I’d go because with the gas prices the way they are, it’s just too expensive to drive to get videos/DVDs now.

The next thing I know, the manager is calling me up to say that several of her staff said I was rude to them & she wanted to know what the problem was.

Not knowing what in the world she was talking about & being totally taken aback by a manager calling me to accuse me (even if it was in a nice way) of being rude, I then called head office. Having been a customer of Blockbuster’s for 23 years now, I’m usually the one to call head office to complain about their rude staff.

I had lived in Toronto for many years & never ONCE did any manager ever call me to say I was rude to someone & trust me, Toronto has some VERY nasty rude people over there who serve you & so if someone is really rude, I sometimes tend to give them a piece of my mind. Over here I’ve only encountered rude people the odd time, so the stress of me dealing with rude disrespectful people has decreased immensely.

Do I get upset if I’m given very poor service, or the staffers are rude, or the staffer helping is such a moron that I can do their job better than they can & I’m wasting my time throughout the day waiting for them to wake up from the fog they are in? YES, but am I ever just rude to people for no reason? NO, it’s not within my nature to be that way out of the blue for no reason. In fact, I’m a very nice person. I love laughing & bonding with smart people who enjoy their job, do it well & make you feel like you really want to come back or call them again. It’s a true joy for me.

Why shouldn’t I be allowed to speak my mind without these people thinking I’m rude or something is majorly wrong.

Same similar situation happened with M & M meat shops in Leamington, Ontario. The owner didn’t like the fact that I was returning the odd item here or there that either didn’t taste good or there was a problem with them. Considering that I had become a very regular customer of his it shouldn’t have been a problem, but it was & he called me up & said his staff said I was rude.

AGAIN, I’m racking my brain trying to think of what I could possibly have said to make someone there think I was rude & the only thing I vaguely remember was that one of his staff didn’t want to take the item back so I stood my ground. Again, I’m not sure if that was what he is referring to because as you will see, these people who accused me of these things never EVER tell me what I’ve done. They just make blanket statements so even if I wanted to apologize, I can’t because I don’t know what they are talking about. That’s very poor communication & relationship skills. That’s not how you address a problem with someone you are having a relationship with & it’s certainly not how you address a problem with a customer.

I guess in every situation I am detailing in this post, these people in Kingsville & Leamington think I’m being rude, but of course I disagree. It’s clear to me now they have no idea how to run a business properly, so when a customer, patient or patron gets upset or they disagree with someone, they blame the customer instead of trying to fix the problem.

I called the M & M head office told them the story, told them I was shocked I was being given the message not to shop at M & Ms again. While they said that wasn’t true & that I must have misunderstood (no, I didn’t, this owner was angry at me), they didn’t fight hard enough to keep me & from that day on not only did I NEVER shop at this guy’s M & M Meat shop store again, I stopped shopping at all their stores altogether. So they just lost a good customer & now I’m blogging about it which isn’t good for business or their shareholders.

I had had problems with some of the M & M Meat shop staff in one of the stores in Brampton, Ontario, but that was them being rude to me, not the other way around. I thought the staff in the Leamington M & M Meat Shop were nice, but now I can see they just put on a good show & then they say nasty things about the customers behind their backs.

Trust me, you don’t want to be walking into stores where you know the staff & owners are acting like immature children.

The reason I’m now posting about over a year later, is because of what just happened to me today.

While I’ve been wanting to move out of Kingsville for a while now, now I know I really have to get out of here asap. I can’t sit here walking on eggshells every time I talk to someone in a store or office wondering if they took what I said as being rude when that wasn’t my intent.

I booked this appointment to see this new doctor in town called Dr. AA Chowdhry at the Kingsville Family Health Care located at 273 Main Street East. When I booked the appointment, the woman on the phone was one of the most nicest professional women I’ve ever had the pleasure of dealing with at a doctor’s office, or anywhere for that matter. For me this was a sign of great things to come. I even told her how nice she was because that’s the type of person I am. When I’m nice, you’ll know it, when I’m upset, you will know it, I don’t play mind games, I’m not passive aggressive, I don’t lie or make up stories. I’m a very REAL woman.

I don’t make it a habit to deal with conventional doctors because I don’t believe in conventional medicine. I don’t feel that conventional doctors know what they are doing (I’ve got a horror story or 2 to tell) & while some are nice, for the most part most of them are rude & disrespectful because they think they are god’s right hand man/woman when they aren’t.

This time I was having a problem with my ankle & I knew I probably needed a physical since it had been a while plus I needed some labs run, so I booked the appointment.

The day before the appointment the office called & canceled the appointment saying the doctor needed to do rounds at the emergency ward in the hospital in Leamington. I wasn’t thrilled, but hey, if he was needed, obviously there was nothing I could do about it.

We re-booked the appointment for the following week & in the meantime my ankle was getting worse.

Again the day before the appointment I was called & they canceled it saying that Dr. Chowdhry didn’t think there’d be enough time because my appointment was so late in the day. Now I was upset because why was that appointment booked in the first place if he didn’t have enough time. Canceling patients’ appointments because you want to do something else is, in my opinion, very unprofessional. This was the second time this had happened I stated that I wasn’t happy. They re-booked me for the following week AGAIN & I simply stated something to the fact that there better not be another cancellation. At this point I had already calmed down & while it was clear by my tone I wasn’t happy, at no time was I rude, did I swear, or did I start screaming. In fact, now that I think about it, one of the women who called me to cancel the appointment wasn’t a very nice person. I ignored her attitude at the time & just wished I could speak to that one woman who had been so nice when I first called. All I figured, is that this rude woman was having a bad day. Until someone is rude continuously, I don’t assume anything.

I’m thinking all is fine, but my ankle got so bad one day I couldn’t work, so I called again to book another appointment hoping to get an appointment sooner. She said well he needs more time & I said no, this is just for my ankle now, we can do the physical on the Wedn. There was NO problem during the conversation, but clearly my sense of reality is different than these women who run the office.

So while I still had to wait for this new appointment that was one day sooner, I grinned & bore down on the pain & tried to self medicate the ankle & have faith that it wasn’t anything major.

I get to the office today & it was really nice in there because it’s a brand new office. I checked in, everything was done in a speedy manner & I was happy. It was a lovely day outside too.

I get into the office & his nurse or whomever starts taking down information, taking my vitals, etc. She’s very nice. Her & I are joking around.

THEN Dr. Chowdhry comes in. We exchange pleasantries & I’m waiting for him to ask me what the problem is when I get the shock of my life.

He says he wants to be upfront with me about something & I look at him like what is he talking about.

He then goes on to tell me that his entire staff says I’m rude & he can’t have me being rude to his staff. I sit there going WHAT? What is he talking about. Of course I defend myself & twice I ask for examples, but he doesn’t give me even one example of what he is referring to.

Then I realize that I’ve just wasted 2-3 weeks of my time waiting for this unprofessional doctor to see me & I won’t even have my health issues dealt with.

NOW I’m upset. I did absolutely nothing to his staff. I even asked him if that nurse who just saw me, is she going to say I’m rude & the person I originally spoke to weeks ago who I complimented, is she going to say I’m rude. He shrugged his shoulders like “ahhhh, I don’t know” I told him all that happened is that I got upset because you canceled 2 appointments on me. I was upset for all of 1 minute & I rescheduled. I told him I’ve been in pain for over 3 wks. now & had I known I was going to be treated in this manner, I would have found someone else.

Even though I told him several times I was NEVER rude, he was the judge & I had been handed down a sentence without my side of the story (what story, there was no story) being heard or respected.

Instead of him chalking it up to a one time incident, he has the nerve to tell me he can’t be my doctor. Buddy, I never wanted you to be my doctor, but of course he didn’t know how I felt about conventional doctors, he just proved my point.

So now that I was fuming after being accused of something that wasn’t true, I asked WHY did you NOT call me & discuss this with me on the phone instead of stringing me along making me think I had this appointment & my ankle was going to be addressed? I said I could have gone to someone else, but NOOOO, you wait until I’m already here in the office to embarrass me. I told him that HE’S being unprofessional & rude & this is how you treat your patients?

He of course has to play head games & say “You aren’t my patient.” I told him, it doesn’t matter if you’ve been paid yet. While I didn’t say this, I had booked 4 appointments with him & in MY MIND, I was HIS PATIENT. Talk about immature behavior.

He says he will look at my ankle (what a favor), but he won’t ever be my doctor.

I thought about it for a minute & because I never planned on seeing him more than once or twice, I said fine. Normally I wouldn’t let anyone so rude touch me, but I was already there & had waited so long.

In the end he (of course) couldn’t figure out what was wrong with my ankle, but I asked for a lab test for something & he gave it to me. He left without wishing me well & I didn’t even get a chance to thank him because unlike him & his staff, I am a respectful person. Unless I’m really upset, I don’t leave without saying thank you.

So my point to this blog is, it looks like a lot of people in Kingsville & Leamington have deep emotional issues. They all stick together & the boss’ believe their staff even when they lie or it’s clear that there are just 2 different personality types at work here. Customers or patients are not given the benefit of the doubt & in all 3 cases, not once was I told what I supposedly said that burned these people. They just like to accuse without any proof or evidence.

So the reason I’m telling you this is because if you are planning to move to either Kingsville or Leamington, Ontario, you should know what I’ve had to deal with. If you are the type that expects top notch service from any kind of business & when you don’t get it you either complain or bring problems to the attention of management, you will most probably have issues dealing with these types of people.

If on the other hand you wear a mask, never show when you are upset & you bend over backwards to please the staff because you feel they are the customer & not you, well then LOL, you will get along fine.

I’m pretty sure alot of the people in this small town gossip about everyone else, spread false rumours & just plain lie. Never in all my years of living in Toronto have I ever had people from 3 different companies make up stories about me. Staff may lie to protect themselves if I were to complain about something, but it’s never ever been the other way around.

Now I wonder if they even think I’m friendly when I am. Even though I know everyone has their own perception of reality, I’m still just amazed at these 3 stories. I wouldn’t have even blogged about them had it not been for the doctor today.

Michelle

Another nasty male from Plenty of Fish

Never spoke to this guy before & out of the blue he writes:

“   Good luck with that profile…not sure that would even attract anyone as a friend…to remotely think anyone would have anything in common from a picture or an on line profile is absurd…phsysical attraction is of course a must…but most of all its that inner beauty that goes the deepest…not a shallow profile..

good luck in your search..no one can be a bag of chips and all that..wow..being demanding and vane is not a quality of beauty..”

I guess he considers confidence to be vain. Actually I’ll rephrase, I am not taunting my intelligence, I’m stating a fact since so many people are average or below average in intelligence & I don’t really mesh with those types. No judgment, just a fact.

But anyway I regress. This blog post is about this nasty individual who has no respect for other people & their opinions or wants. Clearly he doesn’t measure up to what I’m seeking in a person & therefor he has to bash me for it. That’s a sign of immaturity. And the fact that he can’t see how deep I am because of what I wrote tells me he isn’t very intelligent, but I think that’s what triggered his behavior.

Michelle

Starts harassing me after seeing my ad looking for someone to go to a movie with me just as a friend.

He asked if I wanted to see a pic of him & I told him no. I don’t care much what a person looks like as a friend because I don’t judge people by their looks if they are just friends.

Unfortunately too many people are just soooo shallow & they don’t know what a friend means. Men think a friend means eventually convincing the woman to sleep with him.

After I told him no thank you, he e-mailed me 3 times harassing me & was of course very rude.

“Um…..what?

Is the reason you dont have an onlne pic is because you know that if you put one up, you know youll never get a date to that movie?  Thats the main reason why most women wont do that.”

“Do you have a pic or simply dont want to show one?”

It’s shocking how emotionally disturbed so many of these little boys online are. They are little boys in adult bodies & they go around online harassing females because they won’t put out.

Michelle

He contacted me on Plenty of Fish & his handle is funnycurby4u

While he seemed  nice & sincere, the fact that he didn’t read my simple profile & then gave me my keywords (this is how I screen people online on dating sites), told me it would never work.

Believe it or not, 90% of all men (& even some women) online can’t read English & are unable to follow simple instructions, OR they are too busy gawking at pictures because they don’t care about the person, they ONLY care about what they look like.

Sure look at the pic, but then the next step (logical to me) is to read the profile to see if there’s compatibility.

They skip that step & just write to the person & then expect that the person (Me) is going to take them seriously.

Anyway, this is what I wrote to Curt hoping it would end the conversation & I would answer his questions at the same time, but of course it did not. Curt had to make excuses. This is typical of people who are immature & are unable to take responsibility for their actions.

“  Hi Curt,

Thank you for responding to my ad.

Unfortunately you must not have read my profile in full b/c you didn’t give me what I asked for & that’s how I screen all respondents, by whether they can read, follow simple instructions & are sharp & on the ball overall. No offense.

So given that, I will graciously just answer your questions.

biamorous – means a person who loves either gender, nothing to do with sex although most times intimate relationships involve making love.

Polyamory you can read my personal site & learn about that.

www.sensualforyou.com/poly

I wish you all the best Curt : ) ”

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He wrote back proclaiming he had had a bad day. Don’t we all he asked me.

Clearly he wanted me to feel sorry for him, but again he didn’t give me what I asked for which meant to me that he didn’t even care about what I was talking about. I have issues with people who are lazy & don’t even bother to find out what a person is referring to. That not only shows me laziness, but also no curiosity (the spark of life), it shows me that the person doesn’t care about making things right, or they aren’t very intelligent. That what is being said slides right by them & they are clueless.

I wrote back an e-mail saying:

“Curt you still didn’t give me what I asked for so it sounds like you have no clue what I’m even talking about. Sure you can have a bad day, but 2 bad days in a row? That just doesn’t happen & if you aren’t feeling well, IMO, you shouldn’t be responding to women online b/c first impressions mean a lot.

I’m sorry, but I just can’t even start a friendship with someone who can’t read a simple profile & give the person what they asked for. I am an avid reader & I’ve been in relationships with men who don’t read books & it’s been terrible. Not only that, but I’m also an entrepreneur, so I experience a lot of triggers when people can’t follow simple instructions. I need above average people in my life. No offense, I just need like minded compatible people around me.

Also just so you know, a 3some is a swinger’s term. Swingers are NOT polyamorists. Just so you understand.

I wish you all the best in creating your reality : ) ”

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Was I straight to the point & on the negative side? Yes I was & I make no apologies for that. My profile states I’m very intelligent & if the profile sounds like Greek to them, than that is a sign they shouldn’t respond.

I’m not here to teach people how to read English & understand the English language. Maybe Curt can read, but just doesn’t understand what he’s reading. Maybe he can only read at a 4th or 6th grade level. I don’t know & I don’t care. What I want is highly intelligent people who care about the other person they are responding to – even if they don’t know them yet.

Once I got this e-mail below from Curt, I felt the need to post his responses so women (or men) can see how Curt handles not only conflict, but is unable to admit when he’s wrong. People who are serious about finding the right mate need to know how their other half handles conflict because that’s what makes or breaks a relationship.

“Hi Senualforus! Well I guess you misread me my dear!!! Maybe your not as smart as you think!!! Sorry you have such a overly high opinion of yourself. Just to let you know I probably read more than you do. I just don’t waist my time reading fictional romance novels either!!!Non- fiction and reality for me thank you very much.I not only enjoy reading but I also enjoy songwriting and poetry.No offense my dear but maybe you should learn to read between the lines every now and again and you might not loose the best thing that landed in your lap!!!I mean sheesh, can’t you tell when someone was just trying to connect with you on a similar experience? Later….. Curt!”

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So Curt expects me to read his mind when I don’t even know him yet. Again, another excuse for poor communication & for his mistakes.

Then he calls my profile a fictional novel. I guess what women say in their profile is fiction to Curt.

Then he says I think too high of myself. I guess the expectation of reading when all you can do online is read (unless it’s a video) means I think too highly of myself

That tells me that Curt’s standards are average or below average & he needs that type of woman & please understand that I don’t have a problem with people who are average or below average. They make up 75% of the earth’s population. What I have a problem with is those people contacting me & expecting me to welcome then with open arms. I’m sure Curt could have found some other women to contact, but I think he was fixated on the Polyamory part thinking he was going to get 3somes or something from me.

Then he tries to tell me he reads more than I & writes poetry. Gawd, if this is what a bookworm is like… no thanks. Probably lies.

Then he tells me he’s the best thing that could have ever happened to me. No Curt we don’t think highly of ourselves do we.

Actually he doesn’t. Anyone who would make that type of comment is actually very insecure. While I tell people I’m above average in intelligence & being intuitive because I only want those types contacting me, I don’t do it to show off. In fact I can never show off. It feels too uncomfortable for me to show off.

I would also NEVER tell someone I could have been the best thing that ever happened to them, especially if they don’t even know me & vice versa. That’s just immature talk & Curt is puffing out his chest trying to prove he’s something he’s not.

So in the end this is why I have my screening process, to weed out people like Curt because it’s also interesting to see how people who are called on their shit react back. This speaks volumes about who they are as a person.

Michelle

Waited for me outside a Blockbuster one sunny day trying to pick me up.

I agreed to take his number & call him, so I did. I wanted to see how we got along. In the middle of the conversation, he cut me off saying he had to go to the store & I should call him back. After trying him a few times & even leaving my number, it became apparent to me he had been lying & was, in my opinion, such an insecure person that he couldn’t just say he wasn’t interested.

Thanks Henderson for showing me you play games & treat women this way.

Michelle

Frank responded to my ad looking around for something to do on New Year’s Eve.

First he wanted to IM with me & I told him no, I don’t use the Internet to replace real conversation. I speak on the phone & then meet people if all goes well.

He gave me his number, but something told me he wasn’t someone I wanted in my life, because he had briefly mentioned wanting a picture in one of his e-mails, & while seeing what a person looks like is important, I don’t deal with shallow superficial humans.

I sent him my file I sometimes send to people telling them some of my simple expectations…

Honesty, someone who will tell you if they are no longer interested instead of running away, people who are secure with themselves, etc.

He wrote me back saying that’s fine, but he wants a picture first.

This told me all I needed to know about Frank, so I told him that while I have no problem sending out a pic, since this is all he seems to care about, we aren’t compatible & I wished him all the best.

This is the lovely response I got back from him…

“Thats fine! just as I figured you’re the type that looks for fault rather than trying to get to know someone with that huge requirement list of yours!!!   LMAO!!!
You better be prepared to live a single life with that attitude.
Get off the computer you have been rejected way too many times as it seems! this time you did the job for me and thanks.”

I’m very happy that I trusted my intuition & took the extra time to screen this guy. He clearly can’t handle being rejected, even when he shows his true colours, & instead of just accepting it, he has to bash me & put them down. I am ONLY seeking people who have learned how to grow up, don’t act like little children, & have above average relationships skills. That’s both as a friend or a partner.

It’s an interesting story to say the least, & I feel it will help me grow past any emotional pain.

I know people have been wanting me to write it for years, so I’m going to take it one chapter at a time.

Hopefully I’ll remember everything since there is a lot to remember.

Happy Holidays everyone!

Michelle

So unfortunately another nasty person from OkCupid has to write to me just to put me down. Another little immature bully who hasn’t grown up yet even though this guy is 54 years old.

This is what he tells everyone he is doing with his life…

“I am using my life as a special gift to expand
my awareness and help human-kind.”

Yet he writes me with:

“Scary
I read “WAR & PEACE” in less time than it took to read your profile, how could you possibly have more to say than Tolstoy?”

I guess his sense of helping human kind is to contact total strangers & put them down since it makes him feel better.

mhmfrogs, it’s time to grow up & get a life. I can tell you are bored out of your mind, so I recommend you go see a therapist of some kind & spend your time there figuring out why you are bored & you need to put women down.

If my profile is too long for your eyes/brain, then just move on to someone else who speaks very little, or better yet, continue to read your Penthouse, I’m sure the stories in there are “easy reading”

Michelle

“You really think you’re all that don’t you!!! I think you are a CUNT!!!!!”

His handle is Fun4U1963
He lives in Saginaw, Michigan
He is 46 years old, but clearly is still a very young boy living in a man’s body.

Here is his pic…

OkCupid seems to have a lot of these nasty individuals on their site, & they also don’t seem to care about the quality of the men (maybe women too) who are on there.

I can’t help myself, this guy clearly has no life & likes to go around harassing women online, so I’m outing him.

We LOVE your chest buddy, this makes you look VERY mature.

I don’t know him from Adam, all I got was this…

“Your profile seems to be oriented in weeding out people. Do you think that possibly all the negativity and arrogance will also scare away interesting people as well?”

I’m neither arrogant nor negative (I’m always trying to train myself to be more positive), but I guess to this guy who is 41 years old, anyone who knows what they want is arrogant & negative.

Buddy is STILL looking for his “dream job” & in the meantime is working clerical work… “Currently looking for a job in my profession. Clerical work is filling in until the dream job comes along. ”

Not only that, this is another prime example that the psychology profession is once again drawing in all the emotionally unstable ones into their profession. Then these people peddle their services telling others they can help them when they themselves haven’t dealt with the majority of issues. I mean anyone who is mostly secure with themselves would have just skipped over my profile if they didn’t like it & moved on, but Mister over here didn’t & I know he didn’t read it all, because he’s NOT clean shaven.

Part of his profile…

“Polyamorous vegetarian with gaming and other geek interests. Working class intellectual with a degree in psychology. I am a mad scientist whose main experiment is my own life. ”

So that’s it for me.

Michelle