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How to Make Yourself Feel Incredible 99% of the Time!

noreply@blogger.com (Christopher Hughes) — Thu, 17 May 2012 22:37:00 +0000

You might want to really take a moment, sit down and think about your life, the circumstances you’re in and what you really want from life for real no playing around. Find what the negative influences are and eliminate them from your life, this is self-respect.

Now if you get yourself in a truly happy state you’ll notice how creative and spontaneous you become – This is where the magic happens. If you’ve ever been in this state you’ll know what I mean, it’s as if your brain has access to everything it needs to and you’ll say and do things with excellence and you think to yourself “how did I come up with that?”

There are many things you can do to influence your emotional state and of course the best time to start is in the morning when you wake up. Also of course before you go to bed, if you’re going to enjoy your day at work then you need plenty of sleep and to be prepared before you wake up.

Music is one very powerful way to tune in to that state. I like to think of it as a frequency you tap in to. Like with a radio you have to keep adjusting and turning until you clearly hear the station you want, if you’re not tuned in on the right frequency you get a fuzzy sound that’s unclear and scrambled. One music video that really shows this is Flo Rida’s – Good Feeling, you can see he is living in his own reality, doing what he wants to do being the best person he can be.

Feeling good is the most attractive state you can be in. It’s like a magnet people are automatically drawn to. When you are feeling good and truly being yourself, understanding, being good at whatever it is you’re currently doing it’s like positive momentum it just builds and people recognise it a mile off.

The more you access a certain state of being, the more pathways in your brain are created to let you access that state more often. Imagine if you were in an amazing state during most of your life. This means by you being you, you’re automatically offering value to those around you, you’re present to the moment, not judging or caring too much what others think of you.

Always use positive things to influence you emotionally rather than negative things or things at the expense of your own health. Everything everyone does really ultimately is to feel good – but we have different ways of going about this.

I finish this article by telling you to be conscious and aware of your own life and how you think and really to hopefully help you think about really improving the quality and making your own self feel good more often and others.
Love your life and squeeze the juice out of every moment, there is value to be gained in every situation, with everyone you encounter and you’re alive right now. Enjoy who you are.

6 Quick Ways to Boost Your Confidence

noreply@blogger.com (Christopher Hughes) — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 20:19:00 +0000

There are many ways you can find to boost your own confidence. Many people have certain thoughts about themselves when it comes to confidence, I see far too many people acting like they're not part of something or separate from everyone else.

If you consider yourself shy or introverted you might say "that's not me" or "I don't wanna be someone I'm not." Well, everything is learned... Why limit yourself to being shy and being afraid when you're the only you that exists and you're here to shine?

How can you not be yourself?

I don't get this. We humans are dynamic, we're always changing and growing. We aren't static. To me, that phrase is just an excuse you make up to stay in your comfort zone, so you can't try anything new.

Take a risk.

You weren't born being able to talk, you learned it. You can learn confidence and when you experience it you will realise why it's stupid to go around in the world being shy.

Here's some ways to increase your self-confidence:

1. MusicMusic is one universal thing we can all connect with, we sing and we dance. Find your favourite songs and playlists, play what you love as you wake up. There's evidence that listening to music in the morning while you wake up makes you more productive. Blast out your favourite music on your iPod and sing along to it you'll see it gets you in a confident state.

2. Mind & Body
Mind and body are connected, they work together and influence each other. Why not use this to your advantage? Start by being aware of your breath. Breathe deep from the stomache (health benefits also). Take up space around you, take your hands out of your pockets, stop anxious fidgeting, use much slower movements. Smile and slow down. Smiling is like physical evidence for your brain to find reasons for you're happiness. T

3. Inner/Outer Dialogue

When you look at yourself in the mirror, you have to accept and love yourself - NO MATTER WHAT. You're looking in the mirror... Tell yourself "I AM THE BOMB!", "KNOCK 'EM DEAD BABY!", whatever works for you. You don't need a logical reason to be confident. You just are. When you're talking among others, project your voice and use emotion. Be enthusiastic. You've got to be aware if you are being uncertain or talking to yourself negatively. Stop and breathe. Imagine a sheet of blank white paper. Switch up your usual routine. This interrupts your state and you can start focusing on the present moment.

4. Physical activity
These are essential to good health and good health makes you feel confident. Gym, football, dancing, swimming, whatever. Just moving around physically being active and dynamic makes you feel more confident, it also makes other people see you as open, friendly and confident. I know I feel great after coming home from the gym, I'm a lot more creative like when writing articles and even talking to others. It's like a confident flow-state and everything goes well and it's all natural.

5. Treat yourself

Get some really good looking comfortable clothes, a haircut, a massage or even a shower (just kidding!). This gets rid of the old subconscious anchors you might have to yourself. An anchor is a feeling inside yourself that's triggered by something that happened in the past. Like an old favourite song you haven't heard in years brings certain feelings back.

6. Imagination
Imagine yourself being confident. How do you walk, talk and act? Remember a time when you were feeling euphoric. What did you see, feel, hear, smell, touch... Identify with it as much as you can. Remember a time when you were successful or achieved something. Passed your driving? Aced a test? Learned how to ride a bike? Gave a public speech? Whatever!

Thanks for reading, leave me a comment

Christopher Hughes

http://www.mindtreasure.blogspot.com

7 Reasons You Should Talk To Strangers

noreply@blogger.com (Christopher Hughes) — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 21:19:00 +0000

I wrote a very popular article which got a massive number of views from Dec to Jan. Here's a tiny bit of the article, yes go through the link below.

Yesterday me and my friend went for a bite at Subway. I told my friend "I'll get them to put more on my sandwich".

How?...

Read the full article here:
7 Reasons Why You Should Talk to Strangers

Inspired by my article, Vasta wrote a great addition:
Three things you can give to strangers

If you like it, don't forget to Stumble/DiggThis!

Thanks

The Magic Pill

noreply@blogger.com (Christopher Hughes) — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 21:17:00 +0000

The Magic Pill, sounds great doesn’t it?

What if I told you I could hook you up to a perfectly working, safe machine where you could choose what areas of life you wanted to be successful in and how exactly you would be successful. You could download the correct software to your brain and you would be successful, would you take it?

Ever feel like you’re going to really change your life around when the New Year is near? I know I do. Whether it’s learning a new skill, taking up a new hobby or changing something in some way for the better. It’s natural and I feel this “New Year motivation” is great because tons of other people are doing it as well.

I don’t know anyone who doesn’t want to be successful but I do know many who have excuses and limiting beliefs to why they can’t be.

As I’m writing this, it’s one month until 2008, New Year is just around the corner. In January the gyms will be packed full of people who are looking to ‘get in shape’ and for those who actually stick with something like getting in shape, great. The thing is, most of those newbies who just joined haven’t been exercising beforehand. By February most of them will have dropped out. These people do not want it bad enough, even if they say they do.

After people set goals, they either forget about them because they aren’t measuring them systematically or as soon as they encounter a problem or don’t see instant results they fall back into their comfortable old self they were before they inspired themselves to change.

The gym example is like people at school who don’t work in class, get distracted or whatever and when the exams come it’s like “oh sh*t” and you’ve gotta cram all that knowledge into your brain right before the test. Most people are exercising when they NEED to not BEFORE they need to. I’m guilty of stuff like this just as much as the next person, the difference is that I know true value and the goodies come from a lot of dedicated hard work.

What sounds best?

Easy
Instant changes
Fast
Notice the difference straight away!
Quick

Hard work
Long-term
Incremental
Tough
Challenge

I’m sure all of you chose the first set. Now I said “what sounds best?” now ask “what sells best?”, you guessed it – The quick, easy and instant set.

Many companies are being misleading but this is marketing and their way of making money. Besides, who is going to invest in something which requires lots of hard work, time and effort?

The great thing about letting go of the Magic Pill mentality is that after all that hard work you put in, others notice the changes. You might notice them yourself but if it’s something like going to the gym it will be harder for you to realise how far you’ve come because we don’t really notice difference that happens gradually.

Tony Robbins has helped thousands achieve what they want, including celebrities. If there’s one person to learn from then it is this guy because he does know what he’s talking about, you can hear it in his voice.

The Magic Pill is knowing that it doesn’t exist.

Anyway, I wish you all an early (or late, depending on when you read this) Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Good luck.

Kris

55 Ways You Make People Like You Less

noreply@blogger.com (Christopher Hughes) — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 20:12:00 +0000

Vibing and The Social Slipper

Firstly you need to be aware of vibing even though you already vibe with people all the time.

What do you mean by VIBE?

Remember the time when you had the most fun or interesting conversation with someone? Likely, they enjoyed it as well. If so – that’s vibing!

Vibe: A distinctive emotional aura that is experienced instinctively.

It’s the energy in an interaction. Vibing is the way we interact with each other. We vibe to get bond and form stronger relationships with each other. Vibing is a natural process.

When you go out for a drink, you don’t just go out to specifically have a drink and then go home. You have a drink, gossip, joke around, catch up on commonalities and maybe go someplace else after. Going out with a friends basically shows how much you value each others friendship.

Think about it, why do people jump out of planes? It’s not so they can get to the ground. If they wanted to get to the ground then they could just fly back down and get out. They jump out for the feelings they get, the adrenaline rush, THE EXPERIENCE.

Anyways, what is this Social Slipper?

A social slipper is someone who makes slip ups socially and is unaware they are slipping up. He will try to create or keep rapport (mutual trust and understanding) in many different ways. The problem is people sense FAKE RAPPORT as opposed to RAPPORT THAT HAPPENS NATURALLY. We can get away with a hell of a lot of ‘social mistakes’ and be fine but the more screw ups you make, the more UNCOOL/FAKE you will seem.

Mr. Slipper will try maintaining rapport by doing things like over explaining himself or asking completely obvious questions and laughing when somebody expects them to laugh.

Ever listened to someone talking and begin to notice a pattern in how they talk, where you can predict the exact sentence they will say next?

Here are some common phrases:

Basically
You know
At the end of the day
To be honest
Like
Fuckin’

People have trademark words they use by habit, so it gets used to fill-the-silence in what they are saying while they gather information in their head. Also they tend to use it way too often and when people are aware of it, its very distracting. It would be more powerful to keep quiet, think and then respond.

I’m sure you already know this but how many times a day do you hear people filling in their MIND BLANKS with gibberish. The “umms” and “errrs” are pretty common.

Social unintelligence and social screw ups we tend to make (this is the 55 ways):

Being completely logical in a social situation – We aren’t here to impress anyone with our intelligence
Being concerned about being right or wrong about something – this is ego
Take ages explaining something – The other person wants to get away or change topic
Laugh at their own jokes when nobody else does – This is because they are feeling the pressure of everyone else and because nobody is laughing they try to ‘keep the vibe going’ by laughing and it makes them look stupid.
Laugh at unfunny things – laughing for the release of social pressure
Ask obvious questions they know the answer to
Constantly look for things to be funny (listening to every word, looking for every mistake)
Use lots of ‘umms’ and ‘errr’s…’ while talking
Nod too much – giving too much approval
Never nodding or showing any signs of acknowledgement
Say ‘yeah’ or ‘right’ too much when someone is explaining something
Saying please and thank you obsessively (Go to Subway and listen to the customer after the questions, it happens a lot)
Don’t say please or thank you at all
Remember excessive details about a person they just met and brings them up regularly – even days or weeks later
Following what others are always doing
Making excuses and rationalisations, defending yourself - who you are does not need to be defended
Qualifying yourself to others
Conforming to what everybody else is doing
Always trying to be different
Criticising people often
Too much thinking – mental noise
Try and come up with a perfect witty comeback
Taking insults personally
Taking something ambiguous the wrong way
Speaking quietly, mumbling etc
Hardly ever making any eye contact
Making too much eye contact
Letting people disrespect you by not sticking up for your self – know your values and boundaries
Complaining
Whining about things – instead of dealing with them or accepting
Not deciding on something because others wont approve
Never admitting you are wrong
Admitting you are wrong just to keep the peace / apologising when it’s not your fault
Supplicating to other people
Overcompensating by trying to be better
Not apologising when you are wrong
Being happy for other peoples misfortunes / failures
Putting your self worth on the responses of others
Taking criticism and praise personally
Letting people physically mess around with you
Always agreeing
Never agreeing
Acting in a way where you’re a victim
Answering stupid questions logically
Answering all questions that people ask you
Doing people favours when they wouldn’t do the same for you
Making up drama, rumours
Comparing yourself with others, if you’re perceived as better or worse – I.e. “I have a car and you don’t so I am better than you”
Not doing anything because of what other people might think – “come dance”, “no, I’m ok” etc
Making sure everything you say is completely correct
Focusing on the negative
Not speaking up when something is not right
Not asking for help
Using lots of self deprecating humour
Button pushing – Doing things purely to get a reaction

Because much of this happens unconsciously its hard to stop.

How can you not do something if you don’t know you’re doing it?

Just choose a couple of things to focus on when interacting with people. First you realise when you do it and then you can work on changing it and brush up your communication skills.

I do some of this myself, I write this article from observing and experience. Thanks for reading, I hope it was useful for you.

Kris