MODERN IFIGENIA

SEX and FURRY

2011-12-07T19:13:00.000-08:00

One of the things that has really bothered my friends has been my inability to be angry at my husband. I have lost so much to his decision to choose to continue to drink that I should hate him. I couldn't though, I have accomplished so much in the last nine years, I don't think I could have made those accomplishments on my own. I also felt a little guilty for giving a sick man the ability to walk

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX

2011-11-27T20:03:00.000-08:00

Since my husband moved out I have been struggling to find a suitable sexual partner. I have not been looking for romance or a relationship, just a sexual partner. I have now come to learn that being with an alcoholic really ruins your self esteem a lot. I was once someone who was relatively uninhibited and not ashamed of my body. My ex-husband loved that he didn't have to have sex only in the

WHY AM I ATTRACTING THESE PEOPLE?

2011-11-07T09:53:00.000-08:00

So I had a discussion with an old friend about his experiences post divorce. I talked about how difficult it was to find people who are single, period. He explained that his experience was different. The moment he began his divorce process lots of single younger women just kept making themselves available. To this day, he has no idea what he did, but somehow that was the group of people that were

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF ALL THE TIME

2011-10-26T10:03:00.000-07:00

I look back at some of my postings that came immediately after my husband left and realize how naive I have been about this process. Since then, I have learned that this is in fact a "process" and there is no rushing it. I really thought I would be over this by now, but every once in a while I just start to cry. Because my life just wasn't getting "fixed" fast enough, I thought I was doing

Au Revoir Naches

2011-06-14T17:14:00.000-07:00

As I deal with the divorce, I am increasingly becoming aware of how severe my husband's alcoholism was. He wasn't disfunctional, but that is in the end how our marriage came to an end. I told him that I couldn't bring kids into a household if he didn't address his drinking problem and he said fine. He would rather be single anyways. This guy wanted to have kids ever since we met. Every kiddy

Caballo Viejo

2011-06-03T20:58:00.000-07:00

There is an old Venezuelan folk song called "Caballo Viejo." It is about how no matter how old a horse is, he can still fall passionately in love. I don't know what that has to do with anything. I just know I feel like an old horse...wasted away...ugly...unsexy...unlovable. How can it be so painful to have someone so parasitic leave your life?I don't mean parasitic in an intentional way. There is

"It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right. I hope you had the time of your life."

2011-05-30T15:17:00.000-07:00

So I am slowly coming to terms with my divorce. It is a really difficult thing to do. Over the years, I have worked incredibly hard to accomplish both of our goals...everything he has wanted, I have managed to provide for him...and just as we were approaching solvency (which was my goal), he bailed. I acquired second and third jobs so that he can have the things he wanted to have. It never

A NEW DAY IN IFIGENIA'S LIFE

2011-05-23T04:40:00.000-07:00

So finally, after 8 years of marriage, my husband and I are calling it quits. It has been a tough road. He comes from a family of alcoholics and refuses to do anything about his own drinking problem. He's an otherwise good guy, I haven't imagined my life without him and it is weird doing that. I also think he is the closest I could ever come to finding that perfect partner, but alas, it was not

WHAT PRESENCE OF "BIRTHERS" TELLS US ABOUT WHAT IT MEANS TO TRULY BELONG IN AMERICA

2011-04-27T14:55:00.001-07:00

It appears Trump has been satisfied with the long form of President Barak Obama's birth certificate. I guess the various affirmations and certifications from Hawaii's officers that he was in fact born in Hawaii were not enough. Trump may be satisfied, but the rest of the birthers are not. Frankly, they never will be. Fundamentally, they are not so much concerned with whether he was born or not

THANK GOD FOR CHERRY BLOSSOMS

2011-03-18T12:37:00.000-07:00

I am sitting here today bored to death. I am still at the same job I complained about in 2010. Things have gotten much worse. Since October I have accomplished quite a few significant tasks and since then the wrath of my substantive supervisor has been unleashed. It is almost as though he is angry that I accomplished things he couldn't and like most males with confidence issues I have encountered

LITTLE TESTS

2011-02-01T15:45:00.000-08:00

So one of my new year's resolutions was to not purchase makeup...(I did set aside a small "emergency" fund). So far I have been good, but as the Spring approaches, the free gift with purchases keep popping up. There is so much temptation. I wonder how much more I can keep this up. please keep your fingers crossed for me.

HOW NOT TO LET CHRISTMAS PRESENTS BE HARMFUL TO YOUR HEALTH

2011-01-05T10:02:00.000-08:00

Happy new year everyone! I hope 2011 finds you in good health as it finds me in terrible shape. All I have to blame for that are; minimal dance training over 15 years ago, a very suggestive Christmas present and some inane desire to re-capture my youth. So when I was young I used to dance a lot. In fact many of the dancers I trained with went on to study at Juiliard in NYC. In fact, I have

FINAL THOUGHTS FOR 2010

2010-12-30T10:29:00.000-08:00

So I am at work right now thinking about what meaningful thing I could write about. It turns out that I am not such a deep person. Nevertheless, I still learned a few things this year:I learned that even during bad times, some people are still lucky and should feel fortunate to be in a position to help others...as opposed to feeling burdened.I learned that relatives you haven't heard from in

COST OF DRESSING

2010-12-30T10:22:00.000-08:00

This is my last "Cost of Dressing" post for the year. I could've waited until tomorrow where I would surprise you with my free new year's eve celebration attire...but I'd rather be sleeping or partying instead of typing. Nothing personal.SHOES: $15.00PANTS: $7.00T-SHIRT: $24.00BRA: FREEUNDERWEAR: FREETOTAL: $46.00

OMG! NO WAY

2010-11-23T06:07:00.000-08:00

Okay, I absolutely have to write about this. If you know what I look like, you would know why this is an occasion for celebration. I am a frompy looking woman. There is no sex appeal to me whatsoever and on a good day, my clothes might not clash with themselves. Well, last night I was driving in my car. Lost. I pulled up to a red light and get the sense that someone is trying to talk to me. It

FALL'S MELANCHOLY

2010-11-18T12:48:00.001-08:00

Fall speaks the most to me. It is a season when the weather is mild, nature's transformations are particularly visual and beautiful, and it marks the beginnings of the school year and the fisccal year. A routine for the next year will be set. These are all things I love, but in the last few years I've begun to feel a little sad when the fall sets in. I wasn't sure why or how. I hate the summer,

MY KIND OF DAY! ELECTION DAY!

2010-11-02T09:21:00.000-07:00

I love election day! There are so many wonderful things about it. I get to ratify decisions made by elected officials, and where I disagree enough, I get to fire them. My favorite part though, has to be that great sense of community you feel when you show up to the polling place and see your neighbors come out to volunteer and participate in the political process. Even if I may disagree with them

WHY DOES A GLASS HALF-FULL LOWER MY SALARY?

2010-10-28T13:04:00.000-07:00

On several occasions I have had the opportunity to work with folks who are just as or less intelligent than I am (I have also met smarter folks, but that's not relevant to this post), but who earn significantly more than I do. I always thought that was the result of my commitment to doing non-profit work. However, in recent years I have come accross these same type of folks IN THE NON-PROFIT

I AM HATING BLURB RIGHT NOW

2010-10-26T15:36:00.000-07:00

Anyone who knows me and my prolific bad-photograph-taking skills knows that I love Blurb. It makes printing photos much more affordable than traditional printing and because of their layouts and bookmaking features, my photographs tend to look better than they actually are. Blurb works by dowloading a boomaking software. After that you upload images to the potential book and keep working at it

COST OF DRESSING

2010-10-22T13:37:00.000-07:00

DRESS: FREEUNDERWEAR: FREESHOES: $13.00I just don't understand why it is I am broke!

LONGING FOR DUBLIN

2010-10-19T18:36:00.000-07:00

Wishing I could go back to Dublin. There's nothing like having a rich cup of alcohol-filled coffee, in the middle of a cold and foggy city, in the dead of winter. The cathedrals are cool too. Do you think they'd mind if I sat here in St. Patrick's Cathedral to have my drink?

MINER #21: WHAT HIS STORY TELLS US ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIPS

2010-10-19T11:26:00.000-07:00

So the 33 miners who had been trapped underground have been rescued...and shortly thereafter the drama of Miner #21's life is unleashed. Media reports have been fascinated by the fact that Miner #21 has a wife AND a mistress and that he asked both women to be there the day of the rescue effort. In the meantime, society has chimed in (by that I mean readers' comments on the various articles).

THIS IS A MAN'S WORLD..AND IT'S NUTS!!!!

2010-10-15T08:48:00.000-07:00

Sorry for being so melodramatic. However, I am somewhat professionally depressed today and at these times, only James Brown can comfort me. His soulful, gritty, and mournful way of saying; "This is a man's world" truly resonates with me and echoes how I feel on days like these. I work in a male dominated field. I am female. I am very good at what I do. When I first started my professional career

COST OF DRESSING

2010-10-13T06:33:00.000-07:00

So I had to post this one!Today, I am dressed from head to toe for FREE! Yes, my dress, shoes and even underwear (nothing weird, just my mom still thinks I am a five year old) were gifts!

LIFE OF THE INDEBTED

2010-10-12T11:03:00.000-07:00

If you have looked around my page, you probably know that I am a heavily indebted person. I even have a diversified debt portfolio-secured debt, unsecured debt, debt that requires I work in particular fields and debt that will follow me beyond the grave...okay, joking about that last one...I hope. I have complained and stressed about paying off my debts. I always thought the impact of these debts