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Help with #RobinsDoOver after Double Lung Transplant

2021-03-10T18:33:00.000-05:00

The Likeness is Incredible!

2021-03-09T01:35:00.002-05:00

After researching and surfing the web today, I was left wondering: "is there any original content anymore?" In fact, someone has probably already addressed this exact question elsewhere! With so many like-minded people in the world, how is it possible to possess an original thought or create a unique piece? Perhaps the wording is slightly different, paraphrased and tweaked just enough to appear distinct on the surface, but you will come across the same meaning time and time again.

This is written from my perspective, but I guarantee that if you research this argument, you will find someone else sharing a common view. I am intentionally not going to search for a similar work because it will likely sway this post. Instead, I will continue to state my theory and encourage you to find out for yourself just how alike our thought processes are.

Besides great advancements in technology and other scientific studies, I would guess there is little originality. And even in those areas, someone may have envisioned the same concept and had no means to execute it. Missing the opportunity or failing to patent a discovery does not prove that an invention or method of doing something, protected by intellectual property rights, was the first of its kind in the creator's mind. Credit may be given to the most active in exposing the technology to the masses, but the idea could have developed in a like-minded person years before. Are we simply a world of copycats? Literally, a world full of carbon copies? Does it even matter?

Plagiarism is a literary crime in the land of literature. Giving credit where credit is due is fundamental. Writers want to ensure that their voice is theirs alone, to be shared not stolen and passed along as another's. Personally, I have skimmed a text or two during my undergrad and graduate school years to fulfill an assignment. After creating what I thought to be an original paper, I've gone back to check a fact only to realize I had nearly copied content verbatim.

Content I hadn't read prior to writing the paper, thoughts I had developed in my mind I felt were suitable to put on paper, were almost identical to another's. In order to fulfill the assignment requirements, I had to rephrase my own "original". How can that be explained? Now, I'm no literary savant. I have a passion for writing and want to hone my craft, but how can I be capable of writing a textbook?! Especially one from which I was learning and previously unfamiliar. Like-minded people are the simplest explanation.

Thinking alike leads to decisions and actions that are very much alike. Still not convinced? That's why you say or hear "I was thinking the exact same thing" or "I was just about to say that" or "jinx, knock on wood" or "I said the same thing!" Why are you not surprised when you find out you share the same zodiac sign with a person of a like-mind? That's why we use clichés and colloquialisms. Someone has already thought and arranged the words "telling it like [we] see it". For those who don't know, a colloquialism is "a word, phrase, or expression characteristic of ordinary or familiar conversation rather than formal speech or writing" (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/colloquialism). For example: "He's out" instead of "He's not at home."--- Now pay attention!

You'll find yourself starting a question with "is it just me…" when you already know it's not. That's why you're asking the question for some sort of validity or credibility from a like-mind. We experience deja vu. We say, "That brings back memories" when someone does or says something we've experienced previously. I don't believe in coincidence. Maybe we're linked telepathically, spiritually, mentally. No matter how you say it--, we are connected. So now, my epiphany is your epiphany.

One of my favorite phrases is "the belly of the beast". Don't worry about why? Half of you will think that's Satanic, and the other half will think of Jonah and the Whale. Remember, I said "belly of the beast" not "mark of the beast". Don't be freaked out-- haven't you been reading-- we are like-minded people. I'm inside your head right? Well you're all inside mine too. Get used to it. It's just how it is.

"Make no mistake" (I love that phrase too); we all want the same things, people. You want happiness. You want to be loved. You want to be debt-free. You want a little mad money tucked away. You want to be healthy. You want to be attractive. You want some good lovin'. You want to be appreciated. If you have a family, you want to balance work and family life. These desires are in no particular order, just commonly shared with so many.

Let's test my theory with a little experiment.

Fill in the blanks:

In Good Company By Robin Jessie-Green

"The more I think I'm different

The more similarities I _____

Of like-minded people

Who are just like _____

It's no secret that it's an act of fate

Which drives us closer to those to whom we can ______

I don't mind not being unique

This is how it should be--

I actually find comfort in knowing

I'm in good _______!"

Remember, it's not about the differences but the similarities. Simply finding that common tie and perceiving it as someone telling you they've been through it too, is what truly matters most. Find comfort in knowing you're not alone; there are so many just like you, just like me.

CENSORED by vocal.media A Drug Addict Saved My Life Part 6: Covering All Bases

2021-02-05T19:25:00.003-05:00

I’m the baby of five. I haven’t seen one of my sisters and my only brother in years. Mona is my oldest sister from another mother, and Nina is my older sister from another father. Nina and I grew up together in the same household. While we always knew Mona as our sister, we didn’t live with her. Both of these chicks became mother hens when I was in the hospital.

My oldest sister and I don’t communicate often, but I love her dearly. She is genuine and kind but tough. Mona had her own resurrection experience five years prior to mine. After complications due to knee surgery, she developed a blood clot, which ultimately led to her heart stopping. They brought her back.

She had to relearn to walk and spent a month in a rehab hospital. Forever changed by her medical trauma, she knew all too well what I was going through. So, Mona visited me every day for nearly a year. She fasted and prayed for my recovery. Prayers were going up from all over the world from believers and non-believers alike. Family, friends and strangers were wishing me continued life.

Nina cared for me like her doll baby when we were younger. She fed me my bottles when our mother was ill, and mastered sliding down the staircase with me in her arms. She was 5 and I was only months old. As time went on, her role became more of my equal than of my big sis. Our personalities differ, but we think the same when it comes to what matters most. After our mother died, we were all that remained. We are family.

We were brought up in the church, and were taught not to mess around with things we did not understand. No ouija boards, no witchcraft, no hoodoo, voodoo or blasphemous speech. Pentecostal Christians didn’t wear large earrings or skirts above the knee to church, and we didn’t take the Lord’s name in vain.

There are things we do not understand in life that are commonly labeled supernatural. Intuition, vibes, bad mojo, chills, surges, roots-- the unexplainable. Thoughts of this nature began to sprout in the minds of my sisters. They believed someone put roots on me.

Mona and Nina had a conversation about the origin of my illness. For a time, the doctors could not figure out what was wrong with me. All they knew was that I had an aggressive respiratory infection. I was deteriorating rapidly. I required a ventilator and later an ECMO. It was strange because I was previously healthy. If this had occurred in 2020, it would scream COVID-19 Coronavirus. Whatever it was, my sisters believed someone was behind it.

Whether it's superstition or to be explained scientifically at a later time, some things require special attention by someone experienced in the area of the unknown. Mona was willing to place her hard earned savings in the hands of anyone who could potentially protect me from harm. Faith without works is dead. So Mona and Nina prayed and they hired back up, just in case.

Both of my sisters felt someone meant me harm. Plagued with this increasingly nagging feeling, Mona sought the counsel of someone she trusted who was familiar with this sort of thing. She was told someone was angry with me about money matters and resentful that we were no longer a romantic item. The truth is, more than one person could have fit that description.

I was blessed. My bed was blessed. My pillow was blessed. My home was blessed. Actions were taken to cover all bases. I believe in a higher power. I believe there is evil in the world. I know I’ve made an enemy or three, but I never considered that someone would wish death upon me.

I believe in God. I know He is the source of my medical miracle. When the medical professionals thought I was going to die, and I felt my life slipping away, God had plans to keep me above ground. But temporarily, my heart stopped beating.

There was a point when I was in an unknown realm. I didn’t see a white light, but I had an experience. I couldn’t see my body, but I could sense my presence. I was engulfed in darkness, but it wasn’t scary or menacing in any way. I was cloaked and comforted. Sitting in front of me, slightly to the right was a random shaggy, sandy brown mid-sized dog.

About a year later, I remembered that our family dog Springer died when I was seven. He was a medium-built Springer Spaniel Poodle mix with a shaggy, sandy coat. Springer strangled from his leash that was latched to the fence in the backyard. I hadn’t thought about him in decades.

The good book says to beware of fortune-tellers and soothsayers, but if you believe in the power of prayer isn’t there an opposing force?

If in fact, someone was up to no good, I now know that my Protector is stronger and my light shines brighter because "with his stripes, I am healed...". (Isaiah 53:5)

“My grandma and your grandma were sittin’ by the fire. My grandma told your grandma, gonna set your soul on fire!” ~Sugar Boy and his Cane Cutters

A Drug Addict Saved My Life Part 1: The Common Cold

A Drug Addict Saved My Life Part 2: Wake Up!

A Drug Addict Saved My Life Part 3: While You Were Sleeping

A Drug Addict Saved My Life Part 4: What About the Kids?

A Drug Addict Saved My Life Part 5: A Little Ugly

A Drug Addict Saved My Life Part 7: Making a Comeback?

An honor an a pleasure written by Robin L. Jessie-Green

2021-02-05T14:10:00.000-05:00

an elegy for someone who is loved.

Witnessing your first and last breaths.

Helping you take your first and last steps.

Praying for guidance while facing an uncertain path.

Living unpredictable days not knowing how long you’d last.

Wanting to come home to pass in your own space.

Having control over how you lived out your last days.

Taking mental pictures to memorize your sweet boy’s face.

Being called home by God at His pace.

And although your humor was still very much alive

worry and anguish shrouded you.

Because your body was failing and no longer able to thrive

you needed us around you.

Like when you were a baby,

there was no place we’d rather be than beside our sweet little girl

who grew up to be a remarkable lady--

A truly good human being in this unmerciful world.

Towards the end, frail in body but still a Warrior in mind.

With a sense of humor,

a sense of dignity,

a sense of motherhood like no other--

truly one-of-a-kind.

Battling the pain you felt--

It was clear it would only be a matter of time….

Realizing you were never getting better, felt--

like the truest of crimes.

Fighting back tears and a burning choke

from this tightness in our chests

and a swelling lump in our throats

Swallowing down our cries inside, so we can cope.

You'll always be a heartbeat away

because we’re keeping you close.

There are major things we'll never see you do.

Like taking the arm of a man deserving

and hearing you say, “I do.”

There are simple things

we'll never get to say again.

Like, “Hey Vivian, remember that time when….”

Blessed to be your parents from the beginning until now--

Girl, you made us so proud!

Living life to the fullest, vibrant, active and Laughing Out Loud!

How deeply you’ve touched our hearts cannot be measured,

Sweet Child of ours and of The Divine.

We just wanted you to know,

it’s been both an honor and a pleasure.

We'll see you again...when it's our time.

The Skinny on Penn Plastic Surgery Chief Resident's Clinic

2015-08-24T20:22:00.002-04:00

Are you close to your ideal weight and size?

Are you ready to get your body back?

Are you in need of a little assistance in that area?

Penn Plastic Surgery Chief Resident's Clinic offers quality service at reduced rates.

It all happens at Perelman Center for Advanced Medicine, a part of University of Pennsylvania Hospital (HUP).

Three Resident Plastic Surgeons chosen from a large group of 250 applicants, are there to help you with your cosmetic needs.

Every July, a new trifecta joins the program as the former three move on to other reputable positions.

The Resident's Clinic has hours every third Tuesday of the month. However, your surgeon may be willing to work with your personal schedule once you establish a relationship.

Your surgeon's assistant will stay in touch with you via email and phone.

You may be able to contact your surgeon in the same manner.

Step One:

Call to schedule your consultation appointment with one of the three Resident Surgeons.

Step Two:

Attend your appointment with a prepared list of all your questions and concerns. Know what you want, and listen to what your potential surgeon suggests.

Step Three:

Assuming you are comfortable with making this new person your plastic surgeon, schedule another appointment with him or her.

You will sign a procedural consent and have before pictures taken of the soon to be former you.

You will also discuss when you want your procedure to take place. The time frame is tentative but will be set once a Board Certified Attending agrees to participate.

Step Four:

You will receive a written Surgical Quote, which itemizes the Procedural/Physician's Fee, Hospital/OR Fee and the Anesthesia Fee. Both the OR and Anesthesia Fees are based on the number of hours your procedure will take.

I.e., 3 Hours for OR = $2750 and 3 Hours of Anesthesia = $850

Step Five:

Pay a deposit towards your Physician's Fee to secure the date of your procedure.

Pay the remaining balance of the Physician's Fee and all other fees as indicated on your Surgical Quote. The payments are slightly staggered. However, since they are separately by a few weeks, it is best that you have the total saved up in advance.
(According to the postings on Realself.com, abdominoplasty with muscle repair and flank liposuction performed through the clinic have ranged from $4400-$5450.)

Penn Plastic Surgery Chief Resident's Clinic Location and Appointments:

Perelman Center
for Advanced Medicine
1st Floor South Pavilion
3400 Civic Center Blvd
Philadelphia, PA 19104
Telephone: 215-662-7300

Lost During the Journey: A poem about restoration by Robin L. Jessie-Green

2015-08-16T12:25:00.002-04:00

Lost During the Journey.

This is my body, yet I cannot seem to find myself amongst all the wrinkled folds of flesh and deeply grooved battle scars etched in my skin from pregnancy after pregnancy after pregnancy.

This is not how I began, so it will not be how I end.

I am woman.

It doesn’t affect my love for you. This is about me and my truth.

It does pose challenges for self-love and acceptance, though.

Questions how anyone else can love this and accept that, as is, when I can’t?

I don’t resent you.

I resent me for not having those good genes of mutant women who bounce right back. Those select few who end up coming out without a scratch.

Life is a beautiful gift, but sometimes at the risk of disfigurement at the center where it all begins.

Why do I have to live with the sacrifice of my outer self?

Only mothers can empathize with how it changes one inside and out.

This is my body, yet I no longer recognize myself because I’ve created yours.

What’s more—as I continue to nourish you, I continue to change outwardly.

So much so that I can’t remember how I used to be.

I barely recollect the body, which was lusted over ultimately resulting in how you came to be.

So when I chose you, it was over me. Unknowingly.

But I would not change your existence. Simply the evidence of it left on me.

Causing me to live with what I wanted no one else to ever see.

I lost freedom of self. Estimably, confidently, romantically, intimately…

Couldn’t comfortably share myself with anyone else without hiding what lay underneath.

Preventing me from being my truest self. Not living up to my highest potential. Being all who I could be.

Hiding behind sizing up. Some things you can’t work off in the gym.

The Curse of Eve was not simply labor and delivery, but marked flesh, loose skin, sagging breasts and loss of ones dignity.

It is a fact of Life.

All I ever wanted was to make it right.

Adopting a realistic desire of restoration.

Wanting to no longer be distracted by my own malformations.

Welts on my lower back, dips in my hips, and flames rising to the tops of my rib cage will remain.

But erasing some of this part of me that has no rightful place is not vain.

It is what allows my happiness to be regained.

I am realistic. I knew there were to be sacrifices.

But I do not agree that the life of you had to mean the death of me.

I do not agree with my body having to be altered permanently and my beauty lost unnecessarily.

This is my body, and I am forever changed. I shook the hand of the man who had a hand in having unearthed its hidden beauty awaiting its moment to be reclaimed.

Finally, revealing who I’ve always been. Freeing me, once again.

“I’d like to proudly introduce myself, I am woman.”

This does not detract from being mommy. It rectifies what was lost during the journey.

Using Heat for Healing After Tummy Tuck Can Hurt You!

2015-08-12T22:34:00.001-04:00

Heat is soothing to me. For nearly every ache, I opt for heat over ice. I have a "Bed Buddy" that I pop in the microwave and drape around any sore muscle on my body. I own a hot water bottle and a heating pad.

Heat is said to improve blood flow and can help in the wound healing process. However, you should be cautious when using heat to heal after a tummy tuck.

You are numb for a while after an abdominoplasty. This is potentially harmful when mixed with a heating pad and sleep! Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way that I could actually burn myself with a heating pad and not realize it because I couldn't feel my skin burning.

Luckily, I got a hold of some silvadene for my burn.

If you feel you need some heat, try the lowest setting and stay alert!

Don't create an unnecessary set back with your healing.

Reconstructive and Restorative: Tummy Tuck with Muscle Repair

2015-08-12T22:10:00.000-04:00

Abdominoplasty, more commonly referred to as a tummy tuck, can involve more than revealing a pretty belly.

The core underneath can be repaired when the muscles of the abdominal wall have separated due to the trauma of multiple pregnancies or previous abdominal surgery.

"Front Butt" Before Pic

This such muscle separation is known as diastasis recti and can be repaired through plication or folding of the abdominal muscles and sewing them together.

Because of my previous laparotomies and five full term pregnancies, muscles were shot and required repair.

They were brought closer together and then secured with sutures.


Day 21

Undergoing muscle repair, allows you to strengthen your core. This has benefits, such alleviating back pain and providing help with balance and stability. Of course, it ultimately allows you to reveal muscle tone as you resume abdominal exercises.

Who says beauty is only skin deep? Sometimes, you have to go in a bit deeper to restore much more than the mere surface. A tummy tuck with muscle repair does more than make your belly pretty, it strengthens you to your very core.

Sources:

July 2015, Dr. Jonas Allan Nelson, Penn Plastic Surgery Chief Resident's Clinic.

2012, January 24. Harvard Health Publications. Harvard Medical School. The real-world benefits of strengthening your core.

Wanna See My Before and After Pics?

2015-08-01T13:34:00.002-04:00

You can view my before and after pics at the link below. I'm not ashamed of the front butt because it no longer exists.

My doc still has to send me pics of the actual tissue he excised. Those will not be for folks with weak stomachs! Stay tuned for those pics...

Click Here to See My Before and After Pics!

Drain Removal is a Big Step toward Healing After Tummy Tuck

2015-08-01T12:42:00.002-04:00

DRAIN REMOVAL

I skirted over the drain removal a bit. Let's get real. The first one Doc removed had been irritating me for a couple of days because I snagged it coming out of my compression garment. I assumed it would smart when he removed it and I was instructed to breathe deeply.

So, I'm lying on the table, fists clenched, holding my breath. I feel a strange sensation as the tube is traveling through my body and out my side but No pain! This gave me a false sense of security. I assumed that my entire experience would be pain-free.

Okay, so he gets to the other side, which had been the problematic side for me from the very beginning. Constant irritation with or without snags up until the left side decided to take its place just days prior to removal. I thought I was in the clear because it hadn't been the thorn in my side for a couple of days. That was an incorrect assessment on my part.

Doctor Jonas Nelson proceeded to snip my sutures and begin to extract my right drain and it Sizzled like rubbing alcohol being poured into an open wound without someone to blow on it. It burned like acid the entire time he pulled and it seemed like it took 3 times as long to come out. Along with the tube came drainage that oozed out of my side. He had to do some extra cleaning and padding.

I wanted to tell him to "Blow! Blow on it!" But instead, I made that air sucking between your teeth sound when something burns like that. I'm surprised I didn't cuss. It was over in a couple of minutes.

After the removal, I could immediately stand up straighter. I had more pep in my step. Although, I experienced cramping and tenderness in areas I had previously had none, it was a big step towards healing.

What I Experienced with my Tummy Tuck with Muscle Repair and Liposuction of Flanks Days 11-15

2015-08-01T12:40:00.001-04:00

CHANNEL YOUR INNER MACGYVER.

Days 11-15 have been all about getting comfortable.

The drains came out on Day 12. My drainage was 30 ml followed by 22 ml.
Swelling has subsided some, but there are still a few months to go in that area.

What I've done to make the healing process easier has much to do with some of my pre surgical purchases.

I picked up a pharmacy store brand 30 Piece Wound Care Kit for $19.99 and have found many uses for its contents. I also found cotton rounds especially useful. Not all cotton rounds are created equal, so use those that are stitched around the edge because they are less likely to fray and stick to your wound.

Initially, I used the medical tape and long gauze pads to cover my incision while suited up in my armor aka compression garment.

I also padded my inner thighs where the compression garment seams seemed to be irritating me. And I cushioned my cooch because after the pre surgical shave, my growing pubes even seemed to hurt.

The drain tubes were pressing into my skin under my compression garment. So, I cut cotton rounds in half and with medical tape affixed one half under both sides of my drain tubes. This created cushion under the tube and gauze pads where then placed over the tubes.

After my drains were removed and bandaged, I used transparent dressing covers to waterproof the ones the doc applied.

What I Experienced with my Tummy Tuck with Muscle Repair and Liposuction of Flanks Days 6-10

2015-08-01T11:51:00.001-04:00

DRAINS, SWELL HELL & COMPRESSION GARMENTS

By day six, I had already had my first follow up with my plastic surgeon two days prior. He said I was extremely swollen but coming along nicely. It was time for me to come out of the two hospital issued abdominal binders I was wearing and for me to get into the compression garment I'd purchased prior to surgery.

After the trauma of an abdominoplasty with or without liposuction, your body begins to develop fluid or seroma that needs to be eliminated. Drains and compression garments aid in the process.

I was given a drainage goal of 30 ml or less for a minimum of two consecutive days in order for my drains to be removed. My drains were sutured at both ends of my incision, as not to create additional holes.

They were secure; however, they still hurt if snagged or slightly shifted. It is difficult to avoid while dressing and undressing. It is especially challenging when applying or removing a tight ass compression garment.

You must "strip" your drains to prevent clogging. With one hand, you grip the drains close to where they are sutured. With the other hand, you squeeze and slide your fingers down the length of the tube to where the fluid collects into a bulb at the end.

After stripping your drains, you empty them into fluid collection cups and record on a log the ml indicated on the cups.

Once emptied, remember to squeeze the air out of the bulbs so the suction process will be most effective as your fluid continues to drain.

DID I MENTION COMPRESSION GARMENTS?

I ordered something online from Leonisa in a Large, which seemed to fit comfortably until I slept in it. About 1:00 a.m. it felt like it was cutting the circulation off to my labia and inner thighs.

My best friend took me to Latin Fashion where I got a Stage 2 post surgical compression garment that seemed to provide instant relief. It became uncomfortable at 3:00 a.m. too.

It's as if my thighs swell at night.

I tried a corset I bought from Latin Fashion last August to sleep the rest of the night in. I decided to wear the full piece compression garment during the day.

Because I was still producing too much fluid, I couldn't have my drains removed. I began using gauze from my wound care kit to pad myself for comfort.

I had spent over $300 in garments and was still struggling.

Luckily, as I continued wearing the compression garment the less swelling I had and the more comfortable it became.

What I Experienced with my Tummy Tuck with Muscle Repair and Liposuction of Flanks Days 1-5

2015-08-01T10:57:00.002-04:00

PAIN.

Day one through three were the most painful days post op. That should be no surprise. However, everyone tolerates pain differently. My pain was very difficult to manage. In fact, when I was being transported to recovery, I supposedly came to and made it very clear of my extreme discomfort.

I was given Dilaudid aka Hydromorphone, which is an effective prescription narcotic. Except, it wasn't so effective for me. So, I was given another and prescribed Valium as well. By the time I made it home, I was fully alert and full of pain.

I took two 2mg Dilaudid pills every 3 hours and one Valium every 8 hours. At no point did I experience complete relief. I awoke every few hours and just dealt with the pain.

I have a few theories as to why this was such a challenge for me.

I have had 3 non birth related, non cosmetic, abdominal surgeries under general anesthesia.
I have given birth vaginally to 5 children with epidurals.
I've had a couple of gastrointestinal tests that also required general anesthesia.

For these aforementioned reasons, I believe I have had so much pain medicine that I require a higher dosage for comfort.

PRESSURE.

By day five, I was experiencing an altogether different type of discomfort. I hadn't had a bowel movement since the day before surgery.

The problem I was facing was that in order to prevent my pain from spiraling out of control, I had to eat something when I took my pain meds. By eating, I was becoming increasingly bloated and uncomfortable.

Plus, narcotics tend to curb my appetite so, I wasn't hungry, was constipated and in pain.

During the first few days, I vomited a total of 3 times because I hadn't had enough on my stomach with all the narcotics, antibiotics, and nausea meds. I had to force myself to eat to avoid vomiting.

I took Renu Herbs Colon Cleanse, Milk of Magnesia, stool softeners, drank Dieter's and Smooth Move teas, ate prunes and drank plenty of water. Nothing happened but more of the same discomfort.

Then, I started breaking down. I stopped eating, I stopped medicating and I began sobbing.

I finally sent my oldest son out for an emergency Walgreens run for some enemas.

I administered one on my own and found relief in a matter of minutes. Twice.

By the next morning, I had no need for any products for constipation and haven't since.

Preparation for Tummy Tuck at Penn Plastic Surgery Chief Resident's Clinic

2015-07-10T20:22:00.000-04:00

So, after perusing the reviews on Realself.com, I narrowed down what supplies I may need. I've purchased a post surgical compression garment from Leonisa.com. I had a 10% OFF coupon for being a first time customer and received free shipping.

The compression garment is to be used after the binder I'll get from the surgeon.

I bought a Wound Care Kit from CVS, some earplugs to keep my belly button open, Scar Away silicone strips for softening the scar later on, and Vitamin E skin oil for once I'm healed.

In the past, I've tried Renu Herbs by Robin Anthony for detoxing and cleansing. So, I decided to get some of her tea to use once I'm off pain meds.

I viewed a video posted by a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon on Realself.com suggesting that you should cease taking all supplements, except for Vitamin C, two weeks prior to surgery. So, I'll resume my multi's, Biotin, and B12 after.

Penn Plastic Surgery Clinic Chief Resident, Dr. Jonas Nelson suggested that I lose 5 pounds prior to surgery. I have 2 to go. Time to get serious.

Affordable Tummy Tuck in Philadelphia

2015-07-10T20:02:00.003-04:00

My children are 7, 9, 11, 14 and 20. Four out of 5 of my babies weighed over 8 pounds. I am 5'3.5" and 160 lbs. I've had two non pregnancy related surgeries that left me with a vertical scar from belly button to pubis. I have a lot of loose front belly and scar tissue that leave me with what is best described as a front butt. I'd like to look down and see my lady-bits without a hand mirror. I'm tired of hiding behind over-sized clothes. I'm sick of wearing waist-cinchers and sucking it in. I will never accept this belly, so it's got to go.

Luckily, the Penn Plastic Surgery Chief Resident's Clinic provides cosmetic procedures at reduced rates.

I had my consultation with Chief Resident Surgeon Dr. Jonas Nelson and also met with Dr. Murphy. The program has 250 applicants of which, 3 are chosen to participate. Dr. Nelson was 1 of those 3 selected. That's 3 out of 250 or a 1.2% chance of him being selected. That's top notch.

I will see him a second time before surgery. A Board Certified Attending will oversee the abdominoplasty.

The procedure is reasonably priced. (A private office I service as a Medical Courier, charges $5000 for the physician's fee alone.) My hospital fees will cost the most: $3600. Due to my scar tissue, my procedure may take a bit longer. The fees depend on the amount of time needed in the OR. Without this program, I wouldn't be able to afford the surgery. And if it weren't for RealSelf.com, I wouldn't have known it even existed.

Mama Wants Her Body Back!

2015-07-08T21:01:00.000-04:00

Let me start by saying, "It's been a long time! I shouldn't have left you without some dope (blog posts) to (sate) you!" Pardon me while I channel my inner Rakim.

Alright! It's obvious I haven't been on here in quite a while, and so very much has transpired. New career path, new truck, divorce, new love interests etc. However, my most recent life challenge has compelled me to Tell All About it!

I'm talking about 20 years of being dissatisfied with how I look naked.

I am realistic with mine (most of the time). I understand that I will not look the way I did before all the children. Heck, I wasn't even fully-grown when I had my first child. What I do know, is that I can improve my physique.

So, this time last year, I was still keeping off the 25 pounds I'd lost the year before. I was going in hard and "gettin that money" at FitCamp and following the advice of a nutritionist by way of my bestie. These actions yielded noticeable results, but also revealed something problematic that would not be denied.

My face slimmed down, my arms were diesel, my ass had dwindled, and my legs were more muscular. But the major body part I wanted to change the most was looking like a slightly smaller hot damn messness. My belly was flabbier than ever and looked like a shriveled front butt.

How did that happen? I gave birth to 5 children. Four out of my five babies were over 8 pounds. Both prior to and after having my kids, I had 2 laparotomies. A laparotomy is an abdominal surgery that leaves a large scar. I had benign tumors that needed to be removed. That's another story-- the point is, I was improving everywhere but my tummy. You can't work off saggy loose skin. My elasticity was shot, and I ended up with scar tissue from being cut open.

This discouraged me. I stopped exercising as hard and regained some of the weight. However, I've remained conscious of my eating habits because you can't un-know things once you're enlightened. (Thanks a lot Jeanna's nutritionist.)

A tummy tuck is what I want.

As a divorced mom with 5 kids to support, an abdominoplasty seemed unattainable. But if you actually know me, you'd know I will find a way to get what I want done.

Mama wants her body back! And she's about to get it. You heard right.

After researching for more than a year, I found the answer on RealSelf.com. A community member posted information about the Penn Plastic Surgery Clinic. They offer affordable cosmetic procedures performed by a Chief Resident Surgeon. These procedures are overseen by a Board Certified Attending.

Initially, I was freaked out by the fact the Chief Resident Surgeon isn't yet Certified. They did an excellent job at gaining my confidence. Here's why...

Penn now offers a 6 year program. Not long ago, the program was 5 years long. There are 250 applicants and only 3 are chosen to be Chief Resident Surgeons. That's less than a 2 percent chance of selection so, the docs are top notch. They've performed numerous procedures to perfect their techniques. Lastly, the mix of the more experienced Attending and the fresh take of the Chief Resident creates a cutting edge combination.

You have to schedule your consultation well in advance. Appointments for the doc I wanted to see were set for the third Tuesday of the month. My appointment was to be with Dr. Bianca Chin. A black female Chief Resident who specializes in scar-less wound healing and Mommy Makeovers. I thought she was perfect for me! The Chief Residents are on a fiscal year rotation of July to July. To my surprise, she was on her way out and heading to Connecticut. That also meant some new blood had just stepped on the scene.

Luckily, I meant another qualified Chief Resident Surgeon. The young stunna Dr. Jonas Nelson has worked in reconstructive microsurgery. He has created breasts from scratch by taking belly tissue and transplanting it up top.

Stay tuned for more on how mama plans to get her body back!

More Mama Please?!: I've Only Just Begun

2011-03-16T12:43:00.002-04:00

Metropolis: Wired to Be a Single Mother

I've Only Just Begun

2010-07-14T18:56:00.001-04:00

Some might say I shouldn’t be so optimistic and that the future of a single mom of five is dismal. The thing is-- I am excited by all the possibilities life has to offer. I simply can’t help but wonder what else is out there just waiting for me to explore it? Or better yet, who?

I’m hopeful. I have greater focus on my personal life goals and accomplish small milestones nearly every day. Who says that’s not the path to happiness? Who says that’s not the direction pointing toward my true mate? ‘Cause from where I’m standing, I’m pretty sure I’m on the right track.

My point? Life keeps going on with or without you; so you might as well secure your place among the living. So for all who don’t understand why I’m not downtrodden, and for those who think I should have regrets for my failed marriage—I say, relax. I’ve only just begun. ;)

Trust.

2010-05-10T22:18:00.002-04:00

It seems as if you begin a relationship with trust. Even those who appear to have “trust issues” often give new beaus the benefit of the doubt until they are either proven right or wrong about their love interest. How refreshing to experience an honest lover. How terribly disappointing to add another to the list of deceivers.

Give a person several reasons to believe your word and actions, then do or say one thing that deviates from the realm of reasonable and all bets are off. Trust is forgotten. Everything that came before, whether true or not, becomes invalid.
If you’re caught in a lie once, who is to say you didn’t lie before you got caught? Who is to say everything since isn’t false? The thing about trust is that it can be lost much more easily than it can be regained once gone.

In order to regain trust you have to consider that the person you are appealing to must be exposed and vulnerable in order to let you back in. This is because he or she is giving you another opportunity to cause emotional damage if you falter and betray his or her trust again. Allowing oneself to be so open is a difficult feat because self preservation is innate. No one wants to experience heartbreak.

When there’s no trust, both parties suffer. On the one hand, a point of exhaustion can be reached when you’re spending most of your time trying to convince your love that you are loyal and honest. On the other hand, your partner doesn’t want to distrust you or imagine you’re capable of doing anything that could be potentially hurtful.

So, how do you resolve this issue? Do you simply give up on love? Do you convince yourself that all women are conniving or all men are dogs? That’s no way to experience life abundantly.

Take each occurrence on a case by case basis. One time could really mean one time. One time could also mean one time today so far. Just because Ron was a player doesn’t mean Ben is too. Just because Erika slept with the football team doesn’t mean Toya will run through the men in the neighborhood.

Love is a beautifully frightening experience when done right. Trust your instincts, your heart, and your lover. And if you find opening yourself up is to your detriment, let him or her go because trust is essential to the development of your relationship. You can’t embrace someone with your arms folded.

I’d like to hear from you readers. What do you know about trust?

Make a change. Make a difference.

2010-04-02T11:50:00.001-04:00

Change is uncomfortable but necessary to make a difference.

Make a change. Make a difference.

~Robin L. Jessie-Green

How to Prepare Kids for Parents' Separation

2010-03-20T10:51:00.004-04:00

How to Prepare Children for Separation was originally published on eHow.com.

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Here's a snapshot:
Step Four:

Assure them.Your children will likely feel anxiety over this tremendous change in the family dynamic. Thoughts of fear and abandonment may well up and trust issues may develop. Do your best to assure your children that they are loved and they are not the reason for the adult problems affecting the family. Counseling is also a good option.

Take extra care and time when it comes to the kids. Separations are hard on adults, so don't expect the children to understand why the two people who created them no longer want to be a family unit.

Read more about preparing children for a separation.

How to Tell When it’s Really Over?

2010-03-10T19:42:00.003-05:00

You’ve argued, you’ve yelled, you’ve given the silent treatment time and time again. Things just aren’t the way they should be or perhaps they never were quite right. It becomes increasingly uncomfortable to be in the other’s presence. Most of the thoughts you have about your present and future with your partner are negative and filled with dread. Based on these facts, you assume it’s time for the relationship to finally end. That’s not accurate. The fighting isn’t how you can tell when it’s really over, it’s what happens once it finally stops that lets you know.

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How to Keep Your Woman from Cheating on You

2010-02-19T17:29:00.005-05:00

This article was written in response to the article at the following link:

Keep Your Man from Cheating on You

This is the extended version denied publishing access anywhere else on the web.

Notice More:
Understand that while women appreciate you noticing and appreciating our curves, we have far more to offer you. Take interest in more than your woman's big breast-ta-siss, slender waistline and bodacious behind. Listen to what she likes and try encouraging her when she reveals where her passion lies. Supporting her endeavors through subtle but probing conversation can be all it takes for her to share with you instead of that other dude willing to lend a listening ear.

Hey Good Lookin':
Keep up your appearances or reconsider the standard you may have placed on your woman to meet. We like a tight body too, so make sure your physique is at least comparable to ours. No eight-pound babies have stretched out your tummy and been expelled from your precious treasure box, so what's your excuse?

Yummy:
Cook for your lady, occasionally will do. Simple meals that you put an effort into will be truly appreciated and not taken for granted. Even Hamburger Helper with a ready-made salad and brown -n- serve rolls, presented nicely with her favorite beverage (alcoholic or non), will leave her thrilled. Just don't burn it. Be attentive.

Know Her:
On date night, arrange to get together at a place she can enjoy. Whether it's Red Lobster or the Chart House, if she's allergic to shellfish, the date is doomed to end the same way-- with a trip to the emergency room and a shot of Epinephrine. Know your lady, gentleman. Pay attention.

Not Yet:
Don't climax before your lady does and then soup her head up by telling her it's how she's built, her walls are too tight or it's just so good. While all that may be true (Kegels), if it happens often, you need to use other methods to bring her to where she's already taken you. If your inability to pace yourself becomes enough of a problem, seek a medical professional. 'Nuff said.

Oral Pleasures:
You want some sensational oral pleasures, well so do we. Some women love ample clitoral manipulation while others appreciate indirect stimulation. Lips as well as tongue should be incorporated into your oral performance skill set. Lift up her nightgown and approach it from behind. Try yanking your woman by the thighs, sliding her to the corner of the bed and go at it. Listen, you like enthusiastic head, so do some of us. Sop it up, make it sound like you love it and we'll return the favor.

Final Note:
The moral of this response article is: If you do all you can to keep her into you, she won't cheat. If she still needs something from someone elsewhere, it's not you. Let her go because it's simply out of your control.

How to Avoid Baby Mama or Baby Daddy Drama with your Ex

2009-11-11T17:42:00.007-05:00

Greetings listeners of “The Miss Mo Show” Welcome to my blog.

Please check out the informative articles on various topics as well as my creative works at the links to the right of the page. Today you listened in on my first blog radio talk show interview on the serious topic of Baby Mama and Baby Daddy drama and its social acceptability.

Breaking up with someone and staying civil is hard enough when it's just between the two of you, but when a child is involved, it can be a bit dicey. Having spent the last 14 years as a parent working with an ex to raise a child, these steps have made it easier to focus on what matters most-- our child.

Things You'll Need: * An ex * A child * Patience

Step 1: Get rid of that label.

Stop referring to your child's parent as your "baby mama" or "baby daddy". View them as the other party involved in the creation of your little one. If the child is over the age of two, that term is definitely inappropriate.

Step 2: Communicate with your ex.

Do not use your child as a walkie-talkie. Using your child as a go between can lead to disaster. Children often play sides when it comes to wanting things from their parents. Miscommunication can develop if a message is misconstrued whether intentionally or unintentionally. It's best if you two do the talking directly.

I WOULD TAKE THIS A STEP FURTHER BY SAYING DON'T PRY INFORMATION OUT OF YOUR CHILD. IF YOUR EX INTENDED FOR YOU TO KNOW HIS OR HER BUSINESS, YOU WOULD HAVE HEARD IT FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH. NO CHILD NEEDS THE THIRD DEGREE ABOUT WHAT MOMMY OR DADDY IS UP TO IN THEIR PRIVATE LIVES.

Step 3: Keep it simple and straightforward.

Express what your needs or concerns for your child are while being specific and concise. Over doing things and indulging in longer than necessary conversations leave you open to disagreements and ill-feelings. These are not beneficial to the child and hamper the possibility of an amicable relationship with your ex.

I OFTEN ALLOWED MYSELF TO BE REELED IN, FALLING PREY TO HIS POUNCE. HE’D JUMP AT THE CHANCE TO “GET MY GOAT” AS THE SAYING GOES. I FELT SET UP, SO I LEARNED TO ELIMINATE THOSE OPPORTUNITIES. IF I DIDN’T ALLOW HIM THE IN TO LOSE HIS TEMPER, I WOULDN’T LOSE MINE.

Step 4: Don't lead your ex on.

Speak only of the child. If your own personal matters must be discussed, it should be done solely due to scheduling concerns related to the child. As long as you are not doing anything that could cause harm to your child, your personal life is your own and your ex should no longer be a part of it. That is why he or she is called your ex.

FOLKS GET JEALOUS AND WANT TOO MUCH INFORMATION THAT SHOULDN’T CONCERN THEM.

Step 5: Don't be the meanie.

Do not bash the other parent in the presence of your child. You don't have to be the best of buds, but you should at least be civil. A child can pick up on any animosity you hold for their mommy or daddy and will likely resent you for being the meanie.

IF YOUR EX IS A SCHMUCK, YOUR CHILD WILL LEARN THAT ON HIS OR HER OWN. YOU DON’T HAVE TO RUB IN THE FACT THAT YOU MAY NOT HAVE PICKED THE BEST MATE TO CO-PARENT WITH.

Step 6: Make it work for both parents.

Establish a schedule for visitations, attending sporting events, other extra curricular activities, doctor and dental visits. Whether it is court appointed or set by the two of you, it can be made flexible to suit all involved.

TRY NOT TO OVER REACT IF SCHEDULES NEED TWEAKING. IF SOMEONE IS ABUSING YOUR FLEXIBILITY, THAT’S A WHOLE OTHER ISSUE. YOU’LL HAVE TO ADDRESS THAT MATTER. NIP IT IN THE BUD.

Step 7: Keep them out of it.

Avoid getting your new partner involved in matters between you and your ex. If you are strictly about business with your ex, your new mate should feel no insecurity and therefore no need to interfere with the parental system you've set up with your ex. The catch with this step is that your ex has to be respectful and do the same with his or her new partner.

Step 8: Everyone has their place.

If you are taking the next step in the relationship with your new partner, assure your ex that no one will be taking his or her place. Make it certain that you have chosen someone who understands the importance of your child's relationship with the other parent, and make it known you're not looking for a replacement. If this seems tough, just remember that you wouldn't want to be replaced by a new mommy or daddy yourself.

Step 9: Stick to your guns.

Being too lax can lead to your ex taking advantage of you. Don't be bullied, you're an adult, you're a parent and what you say matters too.

Step 10: Be cool.

People are unpredictable. They might not want to be reasonable; they might not have a desire to get along. Just keep your composure and retrace your steps because your child is worth it.

JUST RETRACE THE AFOREMENTIONED STEPS…

Little black girls want "good hair"

2009-10-15T14:17:00.004-04:00

Originally published on October 13, 2009 on Examiner.com.
Removed from site on October 15, 2009. CENSORSHIP
UNFORTUNATELY, THE QUOTES USED ARE FROM MY OWN DAUGHTERS.

Little black girls want “good hair”

“I want to be a white woman when I grow up ‘cause they’ve got long straight hair…,” from the lips of a 5-year-old African American female.

It begins early, young black girls and boys learn the societal images of beauty. The looser your curl, the more attractive you are. Girls want long, straight flowing hair. If not naturally, then manufactured. Boys wear “do rags” to get those waves coming in nicely.

To get the desired look of the western standards of beauty, black hair is trained by repeated pressing with a hot comb, by use of relaxers, texturizers or some other altering device or chemical. And so the internal battle ensues. Children are struggling with accepting themselves as they are and conforming to what someone else led them to believe is “good”.

As children grow they are still striving for what they have been taught is beautiful and acceptable by other’s standards. “I don’t know what to do with it,” a frustrated 14-year-old girl expresses concerning her defeatist attitude towards her natural.

She doesn’t like double-strand twists, she doesn’t like cornrows, she doesn’t like braided extensions, she doesn’t want locs, she doesn’t like ‘fros, or knots or anything close to those styles. What she wants is long, straight hair flowing down her back. What would make her happiest and more confident is a relaxer and a hair weave combination. Then she will be beautiful.

It’s not true girls and boys. You were beautiful from the moment you were born.

Chris Rock’s documentary “Good Hair” opened in select theaters on October 9, 2009.
Releasing in theaters nationwide next weekend.

Currently playing in the following theaters near Philadelphia:

Regal Cinemas Commerce Center 18 (40.9 mi from Philly)
2399 Us Highway 1
North Brunswick, NJ 08902
800.326.3264

AMC Loews New Brunswick Theatre (46.7 mi from Philly)
17 US Highway #1
New Brunswick, NJ 08902
888.262.4386

Regal Cinemas Hadley Center 11 (48.8 mi from Philly)
1000 Corporate Ct
South Plainfield, NJ 07080
908.668.4449

Read more information on this topic by Daily News Columnist Jenice M. Armstrong and Inquirer Fashion Writer Elizabeth Wellington.