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From the Desk of Dr. Ted - Focus and have it all…

morterblog — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 14:38:58 +0000

Something my mother always told me as I was growing up. “Teddy, you can have anything you want, but not everything at once!” She never missed a beat when it came to nice things and success. And, she meant that anything I had a love for, anything that tickled my fancy was right there for me to enjoy. “But, don’t try for everything at once,” she finished. And, as I reflect, it must have been related to focus, intent, and concentration of being in the moment. You know, being present.

Chuck is my 20-year-old son, experiencing many changes in life as he moves through his early college years. He recently had no phone and no car (wrecked and totaled) Ouch! But, he never lost his attitude. He is positive, upbeat, and didn’t seem to mind too much that he had to bum rides from his friends.

Well last week, he got his phone, has a new apartment, and now…a car! As things began to fall into place for him, he gave me a big hug exclaiming, “Wow, I just about have it all” .

We spoke about what that meant and reflected on the times when he had…none of it. He said that he began to imagine what it would be like to have what he wanted. He began to plug into the idea of having what he wanted. He began to focus a bit more on the outcome as he imagined it to be.

Focus, and you can have it too.

Dr. Ted

From the DESK OF DR. TED - Nobody Raised A Hand…

morterblog — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:26:43 +0000

At the recent Animal B.E.S.T. in Taft, Tennessee, I spoke on the topic of “intent.” I picked the subject because of the importance of intent when we work with animals. And, what better way to improve your technique than to focus your intent?
So, I asked the class how many were specifically and consciously setting their intent every time they touched an animal. I was shocked to see the small percentage of hands, which were lifted to affirm my question. Technique excellence – whether with Animal B.E.S.T. or B.E.S.T. for humans – is about completely focusing on the desired outcome, and then setting the intent for that to manifest.
Every time you make a decision to use B.E.S.T. on someone, set the intent for the desired outcome; focus on the idea of perfection and the inherent wisdom of the body; and then allow the healing force to prevail.

Be in the moment. Be present. Live and work with intent.

Dr. Ted

From the Desk of Dr. Ted - Innate Communication – Going with your gut!

morterblog — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 13:46:35 +0000

Listening to the inner voice isn’t an exclusive right of the chosen few. Nope, it’s not even reserved for those with financial freedom. It’s more like a gift we always have had, yet most often failed to recognize. You don’t have to take lessons to use it, don’t need to attend a church to find it, and don’t need to get permission from anyone to tune in to it.

Listening to the inner voice is as natural as childbirth, and as easy as riding a bike. It’s about the actual calming of the conscious mind, and thereby allowing the subconscious feelings and pictures to evolve to their fullest potential. It’s right there inside of your being, not so much your head!

It’s about the inner truth we all "feel" at times, yet often override with our thinking. Yes, we think ourselves right out of the truth and right into the mental process. We all do it to some extent every day.

"Gosh, I should have listened to my gut on that one!" and "Wow! I knew it wasn’t going to work out that way because I could just feel the other way was better!" These are the signals we aren’t paying attention to the inner voice, which ultimately will guide us to the solutions and experiences we so desire – and yes, deserve.

I work every day to let go of the headiness I so often rely on and to instead listen to the deeper and more truthful "feel" of the experience. Try it; you’ll be glad you did!

Dr. Ted

From the Desk of Dr. Ted – She was just 17!

morterblog — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 19:30:16 +0000

She showed up at the office as a referral from my son, Phillip. Actually she is 18, but the song didn’t match for 18!

Anyway, "Kelly" had a grimacing look on her face as she entered the room. She started the story with "This is the worst pain I have ever had in my back and it won’t go away!" Now for a young girl to have this much pain seemed a bit unusual to me.

I began by asking a few questions to get my mind around the situation fully. How long, how severe, how often, what makes it better, and worse? Does the pain radiate to your legs? Do you have any trouble with bowels, bladder, periods?

And, the answers didn’t lead me to anything conclusive at all. It was as if her head and body were completely disconnected. By that I mean that her physical condition was disassociated completely from her thinking. She had no idea as to why it happened or what was wrong. She seemed almost a victim of the pain. Like she expected it all along?

Then she let it slip! She gave me the key to the castle, so to speak.

In passing as she was climbing on to the table, she said, "I hope this isn’t like my mom’s back!"

Stop the presses!

We have a situation here, which needs a deeper investigation than I had thought.

"My mom has had two surgeries for discs in her back and continues to have pain and limited movement!" Now, let me tell you, this got my attention. Not so much the idea of family tendencies, genetics, and all that bunk, but the idea that Kelly was programming her mind to achieve the same pattern her mother was experiencing. Her pattern was solidifying every time she felt her pain in her back. And she felt the pain constantly. Kelly was living in a state of total fear…fear of having a "bad back" just like her mother!

Her pain was simply a pattern of pain she had become to accept, just like dear old mom.

I balanced her body, checked her legs and cleared several feelings. Her pattern would be different forever, and she was amazed at how much better she felt right there on the table.

I asked her to go for a short walk, which she did with ease. She returned with a satisfied look on her face and yet some degree of concern. "I just want to be able to bend over without pain in my back"

To which I said, "Go ahead!"

She slowly touched her toes and rose back up with a huge smile of relief. It doesn’t hurt at all she exclaimed!

We changed her pattern at 18 years old…forever!

Dr. Ted

Better Communication – Stronger Relationships – Happier Future!

morterblog — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 18:57:40 +0000

When any two or more people communicate, the possibility for conflict exists. Conflict itself really isn’t a problem, but how that conflict is handled just might be. Disagreements and misunderstandings can be sources of anger and distance or they can be the springboard to a stronger relationship. Effective communication is the key to creating the positive outcome.

There are some basic tools for effective communication that sound simple, but aren’t always easy to put into practice. But practicing with these tools – giving them your specific focus, could really pay off as you improve your communicative abilities.

1. Listen carefully. You often think you are listening, but you are really thinking about what you are going to say next. While your partner is talking, listen only! Don’t interrupt. Don’t get defensive. Hear them out and reflect on what they are saying before you begin to formulate a response. You’ll understand them better, they’ll know you heard them, and they’ll be more willing to listen to you, too.

2. Try to see their side of things. Most of the time, we are so busy trying to make sure the other person understands where we are coming from that we don’t spend any time trying to understand their point of view. Try to really see their side. If you don’t «get it», ask more questions until you do.

3. Understand your responsibility and own it. Effective communication involves being honest with yourself and admitting when you are wrong. If you both share some responsibility in a conflict (which is usually the case), look for and admit to what’s yours. This creates trust and can inspire the other person to respond in kind, leading you both closer to mutual understanding and a solution.

4. Look for a way for everyone to win. Instead of trying the «win» the whole argument, look for solutions that meet everybody’s needs. This is much more effective than one person getting what they want at the expense of the other person. Healthy communication involves finding a resolution to a conflict that both sides can be fine with.