Lady Jz Talk Zone

Wishing Everyone A Wonderful New Year

2012-01-01T09:32:00.000-05:00

As this new year begins I am hopeful that my life will find it's way again. I've read some things lately that really have helped me put things into a better light. The first thirty some years of my life I seemed to have been surviving and driven forward, while these last thirty have really been about striving to move forward and help others. Now it's just time to rest and plan the next thirty years.

That said I wish you all a Wonderful New Year and may life bring you what you need each day. Jacki

When We Only Hear the Good Stuff

2011-12-27T12:18:00.000-05:00

Here is the Thought that keeps coming back to me as I pass on the message to others. I have learned so much over many years. I have read many books, listened to many speakers, followed many blogs these last ten years. Used what I needed to get through that part of my life and left the rest behinds as many the wise words have said. And through it all I am still amazed how even the "enlightened ones" repeat the same pattern they so often rebuked the ones who came before saying "this is the only way".

Over many years I have seen so many people rewrite and re-teach the same messages. I could go through the list but that's for another day. Yet the truth that I want to talk about is that many times we are not Happy, Good, Honest, and Fair People. We are humans growing and evolving all the time. I will never pretend to be perfect and have it all right. Though I have many answers and lessons I have learned there is still much more I seek.

I grow weary of the same actions, same results, same story and then I see some great potential teachers turn their backs because they feel that if their student must not have done it their way. It's so sad to see and read it in their writings. Affirmations and encouragements as long as it goes and makes their teachings look good.

I think today when I saw an "ad" blog (same thing these days for some) "again" because it's not the first one lately, talk about the "Law of Attraction" and the reason it is not working is because people don't know all the "sub" laws that make it work. See because after so many people bought into (literally) to every law of attraction guideline out there there are still only a few who seemed to have "received" that abundance they were looking for. The ones who didn't got told (literally) "you didn't ask correctly."

What say you?.....

Learning to Live with Joy

2011-10-12T14:24:00.001-04:00

Working with a wonderful life Angel "Sharon Taphorn" in an Orin Book by Sanaya Roman called "Living with Joy" keys to personal power & spiritual transformation. Another review of things we have learned over the years and need a brush up on how to implement them into my life at this time.

Who would have ever thought that finding seven things you love to do would be so hard to find and do them. There in which lies the problem of why I don't seem to be going any where at the present time. Then as you think of these things you are suppose to reflect on what stops you from doing each.

1. Walk in Park (woods) do not have any one else who has time or wants to walk with me. Not safe to do by yourself even if I had transportation to the park. That's a sad part of reality in my life.

2. Walk on Beach that I will be able to do more once I get the transit ride in place where it will only cost me $3.00 each way to get where I want to go. That way I don't have to borrow a car during the day.

3. Visit with friends the few friends I have met since I am back to the beach stay pretty busy with their jobs, work, activities or the others are farther away. I need to reach out more and connect to others.

4. Listening/playing music I gave up all my music equipment when leaving Texas. Couldn't afford to move it again and since I hadn't played music with anyone in years I just gave it to others. I rarely turn on the music just sitting around here because I'm never sitting still accept when reading emails, commenting, or listening to recorded shows. I truly lack the desire to just put a radio station on and search for a station because most times I couldn't find one that just plays what I need. I use to listen to the easy listening station years ago when I had a radio. Perhaps I need to buy one of those cheap boxes again.

5. Teach/Share life lessons I still have all the plans in place once I get my own space in the world to start the lessons using the avatars/animated people. Need to start a small group of people willing to share some of their life lessons also.

6. Dance of course with the back the way it is I chuckle though figure I can always dance to real slow music. I remember how much I use to love to dance. I was doing a little exercise class on Monday nights which had some dance in it yet alas the back is not real happy with me right now so I've stopped that until I can make sure I haven't pushed to hard on it again.

7. Travel I so miss being able to get in a car and drive to where I want to go. And having others around me who can travel also and share. I am hoping so much after the first of the year things will open up for me in that area also.

Well, that was the first week,

Working with Every Day Enlightenment

2011-08-16T16:45:00.000-04:00

One of the hardest things I have found to do is taking my learning back to a simpler time. A time before the searching, the books, the schools, the teachers. Back to Inside Myself. And harder still is learning the lessons to use with Myself. The only reason for posting it was to keep track of some of the simple things that others could read also. Though this is for myself, sharing it has always been the Way.

From the book Every Day Enlightenment by Dan Millman I wanted to pick out the few simple things that was following through each gateway. The things that I found I needed to focus on or work with before passing on to the next gate. I didn't just read on with each gate, I'm reading and re reading, high lighting the few things I wanted to be able to come back to easily as I went through what he has called The Twelve Gateways to Personal Growth.

Like I said after reading the Four Agreements, it's real hard to go back to simple when you've learned to complicate life using everything you've heard or learned. I make that distinction because not everything I've heard or read I have learned.

Part of what I understood most in the beginning before you start the gateways was when Dan says "Imagine hiking up a mountain toward the summit of your potential. You begin with a knapsack filled with twelve heavy stones. As you pass through and resolve the challenges of each gateway, you release one of the stones, becoming lighter as you ascend.

That is what I feel like now as I pick up the 12 heaviest stones I can think of and begin a new journey. See you on the other side of the first gateway. About the time you think you know so much you find you need to let it all go. I've always been a person to have knowings and retained only what I needed in life. Sure use to envy some people who could remember facts, names, dates that stuff and rattle them back off. Then one day long ago some wise person said that some of us didn't need to carry all that extra stuff around because we were gifted with a internal memory of everything we'd need to know.

Keeping it Simple

2011-07-27T15:47:00.001-04:00

After many years of reading and learning, then beginning again, it always amazes me how the beginning always has to start with something simple. We as humans do tend to complicate the living process. I've heard it many times over the years yet in the mist of surviving the moment I feel the winds blowing all around as I search for the answers. Yes, many times we hear the answers are inside of us, though most of you know that it takes near exhaustion to set in from our search before we can sit still long enough to hear it. And many times it's something we read or hear that triggers the process of going within.

For me after this last life review it was coming across a simple concept written by Don Miguel Ruiz that began the slowing down and reflection. For me the knowing I was in the right place comes when the dots connect in a way that causes the knowing to begin to form. When I was cleaning thing up here at my daughters I came across a book named "The Four Agreements". One of the testimonies on the back of the book was from Dan Millman, author of Way of the Peaceful Warrior, who Sharon Taphorn from Playing with the Universe reads from on Shifting Times Radio show at Blog Talk Radio. This was the first two dots to connect this book to my life. The next dot came after I joined a meet up group online for spiritual people and a post came through that they wanted to use "the Four Agreements" as a guide line for their group. Now you don't get a plainer sign in life that things are where they are suppose to be. Three different things connecting the dots around your life.

The Four Agreements in the book come down to four simple lines to draw in the sand of your life. We've heard them before in many ways. Over the last years we have heard many different people come out with these words in their words. No matter how you see it the point is to keep it simple and just take the next steps forward.

Where to begin "after" the Life Review?

2011-07-18T12:49:00.000-04:00

Hard to believe that I started the Life Review on March 23, 2011 basically at 8pm CST with Sharon Taphorn who is my Angel Life Coach. Ten years ago I did a Life Review and that is when I started Lady Jz Talk Zone . My first websites became communities/groups on msn and the rest has been history. And plenty of it too! Nine years ago I left Myrtle Beach to begin a new chapter of my life after writing so much about the past. Funny to me now how this life review was about shredding most of that story and not writing about the last ten years. Learning to just "Let It Go" has taken on some new meaning for me.

For those who have known me all these years on the web, most know where and how LadyJtalks became my name and life online. Finding a voice and speaking out helped many others finally not be afraid to speak their own story. I can look back now and see how far the whole concept of groups/blogs/friendships has evolved since I first came online in 1998 and shared in one of the very first website where people could share with others. Many Voices Press was that site, and Lynn is still there with not only her website, she also has a newsletter and has become a full none profit org. How great is that to still be out here.

Back then there was a handful of communities/groups that began sharing with each other. Seen many come and go over those first years. So much sharing and growth came out of them. Now you can put near anything you want or need to know into the search engine and find sometimes way to much information. For better or for worse that is where the internet has taken us. I'm grateful for all the groups, people, forums that were out here when I started and I still promote a few good blogs and people I have met along the way. There are so many more I know you can find to talk about any thing special you need at any time. These are just the few that I have personally talked to and shared with.

There is always that part of me (us) who wants you to have the whole story before I get to the part about what I'm doing now. To tell you the truth, it's just to long with so many twist and turns, that I decided this whole section of my life's novel just didn't need to be told word for word. Now that's a new concept because that's how we started out here on the web. That part of my life where I couldn't move forward until I not only accepted the past, in many cases as a dissociate, I had to discover it. A very interesting part of the Life Review was shredding that draft copy everyone got to read when they came into my life called "A Time to Remember". If I wrote a draft about the last ten years I would have to name that one "A Time to Forget".

First I had to Allow Myself to Cry. And I did for months, I cried. I was hurt, afraid, betrayed, denied... and that list goes on. Like I guess if I was allowed real feelings I would have felt back as a child. There was no time for that, wasn't allowed, and to survive as an adult there was only a small amount of that would have been safe to expose myself to. By the time I learned those names for things there wasn't a place for them in life. There were some people who thought I was to emotional before I started the none stop crying. They never noticed how much everything that happened was hurting me. I had to accept that it wasn't their life that was being hurt, it was mine.

Then I had to discover what to do and where to go. So here I am back where I started this all ten years ago. I'm in Myrtle Beach, SC starting the chapter of living again. Let's see if I can keep it between the lines for a while. More to come...

Calling All Angels with Sharon Taphorn 3/10/2011 - Shifting Times Radio | Internet Radio | Blog Talk Radio

2011-03-10T20:12:00.001-05:00

Calling All Angels with Sharon Taphorn 3/10/2011 - Shifting Times Radio | Internet Radio | Blog Talk Radio

just spending a Thursday night with Sharon...it's relaxing, interesting and she does little readings for those who join in the chat room...

Touching Base today

2011-03-08T17:02:00.000-05:00

Stopped by all the ones on my blogger list to day to touch base and say hi. Many have not been written in for some time, others are no longer available. So much has happened in my life these last two years that I wonder "why" I still have not been able to express much of it. To many unanswered questions and to many emotions I needed to learn about.

Things are ok, and I mean Ok, just ok...

I did get one of those phone calls that always makes my heart happy. A woman who I have been the contact for when she was lost, called to talk about so much that is in her life now. And when she says that so much of it is because I was there, it reassures me why Lady Jz Talk Zone remains an online world still. Reminds me that the goal was always so that if a person reached out and needed a voice in the dark, they would find one.

It was an email from Lynn at ManyVoicesPress.com asking me if someone could call me. For this woman just knowing and hearing that someone else feels the same and has all the same crazy things to talk about saved her from that hospital. Her life is good right now and I'm glad that I could give her hope during that time, and glad that she could call today and share how far she has come from that moment.

This is why we are out here, and it has been all the others out here that help me get through this time in my life.

LadyJtalks52-09web

2011-03-06T14:26:00.000-05:00

Two years ago I lost my voice, literally in many ways, figuratively in others. This August I will turn 59 and before my 60th birthday the goal will be reached that was started ten years ago when LadyJtalks first set out to speak. In this video we have discovered two pictures that are blurred when taken and saved are the one at sixteen and the next at fifty. Both where defining years of my life. That is the story!

Bowery TV | The Bowery

2011-03-04T23:52:00.000-05:00

Bowery TV | The Bowery this was the old stomping grounds with a live show Fridays and Saturdays now

P.A.V.E

2011-02-28T11:35:00.001-05:00

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PAVE Newsletter

Shatter the Silence of Sexual Violence

February 2011

In this Issue

:: National PAVE Walk

:: Angela Rose on CNN HLN's Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell

:: Male Survivor: Shattering the Silence of Sexual Violence

:: Leandra Krueger - Raising the Volume

:: Arts for Awareness

:: Safe Campus, Strong Voices

:: International Race to Stop the Silence

:: Men and Boys Healing

:: PAVE Love Fest: Building the National Movement

:: Join Us!

Dear Jacki m,

PAVE shatters the silence of sexual violence through social awareness, educational outreach, and legislative efforts. By being both prevention and awareness focused, PAVE works on all fronts to end sexual violence affecting men, women and children throughout the globe.

We use art, education and action to challenge cultural norms that encourage violence and ignore the spectrum of sexual abuse. We create an awareness and response to any injustices victims, survivors and their communities suffer.

You're invited to join this important work - learn more today!

National PAVE Walk to Shatter the Silence of Sexual Violence!

Saturday, April 30, 2011

Join PAVE for its inaugural national walk as a day of solidarity for an empowering conclusion to Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) on Saturday, April 30, 2011. PAVE will provide the tool kit complete with flyers, posters, press release, and a step-by-step guide to make it simple to create a walk in your community. You also will have an opportunity to raise donations for your favorite local charity such as a local YWCA or rape crisis center! The community that raises the most money will win an event in the fall or next SAAM with MTV's Sarah Rice and acclaimed poet Steve Connell (seen on BET, MSNBC, HBO and more!) For more info, click here.

To get involved, email: Programs@ShatteringTheSilence.org

PAVE Founder on CNN HLN's Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell

Founder of PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment Angela Rose speaks to CNN HLN's Jane Velez Mitchell on the recent Maryland attacks on elderly females this month. One suspected perpetrator raped an elderly woman twice in her own home. Click here to watch the video and comment.

Male Survivor: Shattering the Silence of Sexual Violence

Male Survivor is a PAVE Affiliate who is committed to preventing, healing, and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men through support, treatment, research, education, advocacy, and activism. See their new PSA and campaign "Dare to Dream" by clicking here: http://www.malesurvivor.org/

"Raising the Volume" - PAVE Ambassador: Leandra Krueger

On Valentine's Day of 2006, Leandra was drugged and sexually assaulted by her OB/GYN - a trusted doctor that delivered two of her children. After speaking out and pressing charges, detectives were able to back track assaults perpetrated by the Doctor almost 23 years. Many were silenced! With a successful conviction, Leandra is determined to give a voice and face to this far too often "silent crime."

Taking the Power Back and Raising the Volume...

Because she was sexually assaulted on Valentine's Day, she had been triggered by hearts and Vday cards. Bravely, she took ownership over her triggers and spoke out at a rally working with orgs including Texas Association Against Sexual Assault (TAASA) on Vday 2011. Passionate to the cause of giving a voice to those who have been silenced by abuse, this typical girl next door turned activist hopes to inspire and empower women/men nationwide to speak out against abuse.

CLICK HERE TO WATCH A RECENT NEWS CLIP

Artistic Means to Shatter the Silence of Sexual Violence

PAVE is hosting a series of Arts for Awareness events across the country including New York with Rusted Blue, Virginia, and Texas. Combining artists, musicians, advocates and poets, these events can bring a sense of community and empowerment when shattering the silence of sexual violence. PAVE features creative events to engage people in dialogue on the issue of violence and provides an artistic voice to survivors as a means of healing.

Learn more about PAVE's use of art to shatter the silence, watch a clip of the interactive art empowerment campaign The Binding Project. If you are interested in hosting an event in your community, email Info@ShatteringTheSilence.org

And if you are in Chicago, visit: Off the Beaten Path: Violence, Women and Art

Safe Campus, Strong Voices

National Campus Safety Awareness Month

Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment (PAVE) and Security On Campus, Inc. (SOC) are having a contest to create the logo for the Safe Campus, Strong Voices campaign! This campaign is a national initiative for National Campus Safety Awareness Month in September to raise awareness and increase advocacy on the issue of college sexual violence and the vast amount of under-reported cases as well as the injustices that many survivors face. The Safe Campus, Strong Voices Campaign will focus on victim empowerment, prevention, bystander intervention, and provide tangible tools for both men and women to work together to create a safer campus.

International Race to STOP THE SILENCE April 23, 2011 -

Washington, DC

Join PAVE at The Race to Stop the Silence, an 8K Race, 5K fun run/walk, and kids fun run, is conducted yearly in Washington, D.C. (2011 is the seventh annual) during April (Child Abuse Prevention Month) to raise mass awareness about child sexual abuse. The Race is an upbeat, educational, and motivational event that brings in support from government, corporate, foundation and private individuals and attracts over 1,200 people, reaches millions through media outreach in relation to it, and draws notable speakers each year. Click here for more info.

PAVE's friends at Big Voice Pictures continues to shatter the silence of sexual violence with their captivating film "Boys and Men Healing." Click here for more info.

On Valentine's Day, PAVE hosted a conference call "PAVE Love Fest: Building the National Movement to Shatter the Silence of Sexual Violence" discussing some exciting new national initiatives that you can cultivate in your own community for positive change! We need you!! Spread the word about this call to your friends, colleagues, campus Women's Center, local rape crisis affiliates, etc.

Click here to listen

ALSO...JOIN US!!

INTERNS AND VOLUNTEERS NEEDED Interested?

OR START A PAVE CHAPTER OR BECOME A PAVE AFFILIATE!

Email: info@shatteringthesilence.org

SAVE THE DATES:

2011 International Conference on Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence and Stalking

Chicago, IL - April 11-13, 2011

www.evawintl.org

Annual Hawai'i Conference on Preventing, Assessing & Treating Child, Adolescent and Adult Trauma

March 8-10, 2011

Ala Moana Hotel, Honolulu, HI

www.ivatcenters.org/8thHawaiiConference.html

INTERNATIONAL CONFERENCE ON VIOLENCE, ABUSE AND TRAUMA

September 11 - 14, 2011

Town and Country Resort & Convention Center, San Diego, CA

www.ivatcenters.org

Donate today to continue our efforts to shatter the silence of sexual violence in your community!

Visit our website: www.ShatteringTheSilence.org - Sign up for our email alerts, join our FB cause, or start a PAVE affiliate in your community!! Get involved and let's work together to shatter the silence of sexual violence!

Sincerely,

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Healthy Place: Verbal Abuse

2011-01-31T12:50:00.001-05:00

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Verbal Abuse: It Can Be Insidious
On the HealthyPlace Support Forums, one of our adult members, taebofreak, shares his experiences being a victim of verbal abuse.
"My father has his own ideas about me and voices them pretty often. He assumes the worst about me and thinks I am an idiot. All he does is criticize me and drag me down when I make any progress." (Full text of taebofreak "Verbally Abusive Father" post.)

It's easy to recognize that for what it is: verbal abuse. HealthyPlace verbal abuse blogger, Kellie Holly, provides a different twist. Her soon-to-be ex-husband wasn't into name-calling. His tactics revolved around trying to make her feel inadequate and dimwitted. He would tell her to do one thing, she'd do it, and the next week he'd say "I never said that." Then, he'd chastise her for it.

The point is - both are forms of verbal abuse. The second example though may be more difficult to recognize. But the one thing all verbal, emotional, psychological abusers have in common is that everything is your fault and in the end, you begin to believe it too.

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Between 1985 and 1995, says Mark, "I lost just about all that was dear to me—friends, family, business, home, and possessions—and for the next six years I plumbed the depths of experience and my own psyche, living on the mean streets of San Francisco as a homeless junkie. It damn near killed me." That's the high price he paid for being misdiagnosed with depression when he had bipolar disorder - on this week's HealthyPlace Mental Health TV Show. (TV Show blog)

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did you ever wonder where those hits come from

2011-01-20T15:58:00.000-05:00

Just a few words as we are updating this site. Since Microsoft has decided to close their spaces and though I still have a few other blogs out there in use, I'm scaling things a bit here also.

As many of you know this has been one heck of a year and half ride for me. I'm finally back in a good place and the work is beginning to meld together. Which direction to take all this to has been the task at hand. The emotional level that was reach during this time was scary for someone who thought they had pretty much mastered the skill of survival. Life had other ideas.

So along with facebook, and some really great video stuff, we are putting together the ideas of those who share the goal and working on setting things in motion. I'm not setting a date because each time we do the game changes. So I do believe that the Universe has a better plan then any of us. There are so many great blogs, websites, information abounds out here and trying to get the best of the best as I see it together and make it productive for much time to come, has taken so many turns, we are not sure any more if the original direction suits our needs. Than said, it's a one day at a time project until the right thing falls in place. We know it always does. Have faith.

Prayer without Ceasing

2011-01-02T21:00:00.001-05:00

someone reminded me of this I posted February, 2008 and I wanted to share it with you all. It’s been a long time since I have been able to write like this. I am hoping that soon I can start again.

How many pass on emails and never take that moment to verify something or give something personal to it?

The following is a little email I forwarded to friends who I thought would like the inspiration. We all get these in our box and enjoy them, yet it's true sometimes you're not sure who to forward them to because even the most ardent believers get tired of reading and forwarding them some days. Admit it! I do because of the challenge to make sure I send them to the correct people on my list. So I added a personal bit of fyi: to the first part.

Today I was given an opportunity to express my feelings about this in a way I don't often do any more. Basically because this is the first person to ask such a question of me in a very long time. That said I hope you read through the whole blog and respond with what it means to each of you. The first part below was sent to me to forward, I added the fyi: portion before I sent it out again.

When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better. Concentrate on this sentence..... 'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'

Something good will happen to you today . Something that you have been waiting to hear. This is not a joke; someone will call you by phone or will speak to you about something that you were waiting to hear. Try to send this to a minimum of 7 people......... JUST DO IT!

'Pray Without Ceasing'
fyi- "Pray without Ceasing" was a phrase that really got stuck in my mind after/while reading. "The Way of a Pilgrim and The Pilgrim Continues His Way" translated by R. M. French and introduction for his series by Huston Smith. His series was called the Mystical Classics of the World and if you ever want a quick review of the six main mystical consciousness of the far east where "religion" actually has it's roots. Of course not used with the term religion as we term it today.

The Way of the Pilgrim is the story of "Praying without Ceasing" and the prayer in it's shortest form is summarized on page nine. "Be so kind, reverend Father, as to show me what prayer without ceasing means and how it is learnt. I see you know all about these things"
He took my request kindly and asked me into his cell. "Come in," said he. "I will give you a volume of the holy Fathers from which with God's help you can learn about prayer clearly and in detail." We went into his cell and he began to speak as follows. "The continuous interior prayer of Jesus is a constant uninterrupted calling upon the divine name of Jesus with the lips, in the spirit, in the heart, while forming a mental picture of His constant presence, and imploring His grace, during every occupation, at all times, in all places, even during sleep. The appeal is couched in these terms, "Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me.' One who accustoms himself to this appeal experiences as a result so deep a consolation and so great a need to offer the prayer always that he can no longer live without it, and it will continue to voice itself within him of its own accord. Now do you understand what prayer without ceasing is?"
The book that teaches this is not the bible. A book more not looked upon as holier, it was a better explanation of what the Bible holds. It holds these instructions by St Simeon the new theologian and read: " 'Sit down alone and in silence. Lower your head, shut you eyes, breathe out gently, and imagine yourself looking into your own heart. Carry your mind, this, your thoughts, from your head to your heart. As you breathe out, say "Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me." Say it moving your lips gently, or simply say it in your mind. Try to put all other thoughts aside. Be calm, be patient, and repeat the process very frequently.' "
Further on in the book there is actually a little different version in a slightly longer form. The basic mediation form that is set in motion by concentration on one thing only. And the repetitive nature until it becomes one with your inner self.

A new friend wrote back to me this morning and asked "what made you think I believed in God and Jesus?" and this was my reply to her. LJ

God stands for Good Orderly Direction. Now the Jesus thing is a long story that's been around for about two thousand years. There was talk about it long before then but one guy was brave enough to claim he was this long awaited for person and his mom and foster dad had a little to do with the story.

Seems that his mom, had a vision one night. Now a days they would classify it as a psychotic break down with delusional thoughts but at the time most people didn't have reference books enough to validate the facts.

The good news that came out of it all though down the road is this guy was really in tune with nature and the natural order of life and he told some really good stories as examples on living a peaceful productive live.
Of course over the last two thousand years people have tried to rewrite and restate his words to their own beliefs and advantages though there are many of us who are able to "know" what the truth is and when someone doesn't even have a clue.

From the other side of this life we can see and feel things like this guy could I can relate to most of what he said. Not always how these lay people who don't have this insight understand it because without insight to the other side of things it becomes all about themselves and not about others.
That is basically what the Good Orderly Direction is about. It's about doing onto others as you would like them to do unto you no matter what they do. Being your own person and rising above them.

Some think that means being better then the other person, some think of it as turning the other cheek so that they can do it again, yet I think it just means letting them be themselves and removing their ability to hurt me from my presence and life.
For most people it is a given that we call this belief system a belief in GOD yet it is called many different things in this world that all truly mean the same thing. One great force that has no beginning and has no end in sight.

To take all religious design out of it scientifically it is referred to as Intelligent Design. It is beyond human conception that this is all an accident in our life. For those of us who see, feel, can hear the other side or after life we do have a knowing in something on the other side of this life other wise we would have no other explanations for our visions and knowledge. Except perhaps......
I guess a simple "doesn't everyone believe in something" would have been a simple answer, yet then again this is how you'll get to know me...LJ
ps...the fyi I added to the email was because people forward things or read things yet never really know the full meaning of it...thus where it so just happens that I have the full meaning of it so I included it. Prayer without ceasing has a whole new meaning when you read the whole story.

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someone reminded me of this I posted February, 2008 and I wanted to share it with you all. It’s been a long time since I have been able to write like this. I am hoping that soon I can start again.

How many pass on emails and never take that moment to verify something or give something personal to it?

A new friend wrote back to me this morning and asked "what made you think I believed in God and Jesus?" and this was my reply to her. LJ

This of course is just a small part of the whole picture I just wanted to share a bit...

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2010-12-09T10:33:00.001-05:00

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Life is shifting moment by moment, breath by breath. Things we take for granted are no longer guaranteed.
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Waiting, while not comfortable, is what's called for now.
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Surviving Spirit : Mike will be on Oprah! yeah!

2010-10-11T12:03:00.001-04:00

Great news, Mikes going to be on Oprah, Oct 20th….

Hello Folks,

I realize that you folks are too far away to attend, but given our friendship, I thought to share this news with you.

Take care, Mike

The Surviving Spirit – Healing the Heart Through the Creative Arts

Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. - Kahlil Gibran

Hello Folks,

I hope all is well for everyone, no complaints here. Things have been quite exciting here in my little corner of the world. It’s been busy, but with all of the exciting news and events that have been going on, I am certainly not complaining – quite the contrary.

First some really good news, my oldest daughter Alisa gave birth the other day to her second daughter…she and little Ava are both doing well…this is really exciting for “Grandpa Mike”.

And continuing with the ‘good news department’ - please mark your calendars for Wednesday October 20^th. Yours truly will be on the Oprah Winfrey Show. This still has me in the “pinch me I’m dreaming mode”…she is doing a show on male survivors of childhood sexual abuse and the whole audience will be made up of male survivors. To be a part of this is truly an honor – still unsure whether my role will be active or passive. But to be asked to be a part of this significant event is quite humbling and so special to me and for the greater good it will have upon society as a whole.

My being away the last two weeks for presentations and performances in NY and CA are the main reason why the late notice in sending out this event news for next Saturday October 16th taking place here in my home in at 38 River Ledge Drive, Goffstown, NH. Once again the Surviving Spirit will be hosting a “house concert” with the doors opening up at 6pm and music to start at 7 pm. Rumor has it that my good friend Chris Schindler may join me once again on bass guitar – very cool!!! If any of my fellow musician friends would like to sing or bring along their own instrument, please do. I also have a conga drum that is crying out to be used!!! There will be two sets of music and in between, a short break for mingling, socializing and learning what the Surviving Spirit is all about. We are trying to build a community of caring folks…so in that ‘spirit’, please do bring along a snack or drink to be shared. Alcohol is permitted at this event – thanks!! If you can attend or need directions, please let me know via e-mail or phone – 603-625-2136.

On a serious note, I am scheduled for surgery on November 8^th for the removal of my left thumb joint due to severe arthritis. I am told I will be unable to use the hand for 3 - 4 months. So this will be my last performance for a while, so if you can join me for this night, it would be great to see you.

Take care, Mike

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Hand in the Cookie Jar

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this was really cool and very true for many of us…LadyJ

Hand stuck in the jar?

soulstreaker | October 10, 2010 at 8:49 pm | Tags: hand stuck in the jar, my soul salon, rena reese, the soul salon | Categories: advice | URL: http://wp.me/pPQ7z-ip

I once heard a story of a child who had gotten his hand stuck in a jar. His father worked upwards of an hour to remove the boys hand from the small opening with no luck. The dad began to think he would have to break the ceramic jar to free his son's hand.

Nearly at his wit's end, he told the boy, "Son, let's just try really hard to open up your hand very wide and stretch your fingers out making them as long as you possibly can."

To this, the little boy answered, "No way Daddy, then I would drop the penny and that's the whole reason I put my hand in here and got into this mess."

How often do we find ourselves in a situation-- that simply releasing something small could eliminate? How often do we hold onto something that keeps us stuck--when letting go of it will free us? Sometimes it is something small--and sometimes these things are quite big--but the ease with which we will free ourselves is often proportionate to the "that something."

What's your penny? Can you let it go?

All the best!

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Did you know that 56% of adults in the United States living in poverty are women? Women can become leaders in their own lives in order to transform their lives and change these statistics.

Become A Financial Grownup
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Have you ever based your financial decisions on the idea that you should be able to buy what you want? So did Amanda Steinberg until she realized that what she could afford was quite different then what she should be spending her money on.

Navigating Your Relationship and A Business
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Making Effective Business Decisions
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Most people think that emotions hinder rather than help business decisions. Now evidence supports just the opposite - that women’s tendency to make business decisions from a different place than men makes them successful.

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Record Numbers of Children Taking Psychiatric Medications

Growing Numbers of Children Getting Antipsychotics and Diabetes Medications

Psychological issues and youth obesity were the biggest contributors to that, according to the 2010 Medco Drug Trend Report. Medco Health Solutions is a pharmacy benefit manager, with the nation's largest mail-order pharmacy operations.

Medco reports that 2009 also ushered in new indications to existing psychiatric medications and other drugs that traditionally treat adult diseases:

Abilify — for irritability associated with autistic disorder in children aged 6 to 17
Seroquel — for schizophrenia in children aged 13 to 17, and for acute manic episodes in children aged 10 to 17 with bipolar I disorder
Zyprexa — for schizophrenia and for acute mania (bipolar I) in children aged 13 to 17
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Prescription medication use rose nearly 5 percent in children in 2009, four times higher than the growth in medication use in the general population. The drug categories showing the most significant growth among children are diabetes, ADHD, antipsychotics, asthma and heartburn medications. ADHD drug use surged 9.1 percent; children's use was up, but the largest increase was among young adults 20-34.

One thing that’s helped contain rising costs is the number of medications that have gone from branded to generic. Adderall XR, Topamax, Depakote, Neurontin and Lamictal are included here. In the next 3 years, Medco says some of the blockbuster drugs, like Effexor XR and Lexapro, will be going generic providing more cost savings. And getting your medications via mail order is another way the health plans are saving significant money. The number of people doing that has risen substantially.

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Mary is the second daughter of Thomas Blige, a jazz musician, and Cora Blige, a nurse. Her older sister, LaTonya, also is a singer. The family lived in the Bronx until her father abandoned them, then they moved to a public housing project just north of New York City.

“We lived in the ghetto,” Mary says. “I’d hear women screaming and running down the halls from guys beating up on them. People chased us with weapons. I never saw a woman there who wasn’t abused. It was a dangerous place. No one wanted anyone else to get ahead.

When I was 5, sexual stuff was done to me. My mother was a single parent, a working woman. She left us with people she thought could be trusted. They hurt me.

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Have they been treating Me Insane or Sexually Abused?

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I just passed a major milestone in my personal life. I confronted my mother with the knowledge that she allowed and covered up my father's sexual abuse of me when she was pregnant with my brother 40 years ago.

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I would survive with my extremely negative internal self-dialogue, I would beat myself up for who and what I was and was not, what I had and had not done, what I did and did not own.

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In the beginning: abuse is delivered by the those who should have been there to comfort, to protect.

Physical, emotional, sexual abuse are familiar denys of childhood years for all too many children.
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Survivors of abuse live in a cold, dark world. Traumatic memories come in snatches of emotion, in body memories, in moments of inexplicable terror.

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Pelletier & Handy (1986) suggests that there are three representative incestuous family types:

Possessive-passive family - the father rules with complete authority, sometimes by force are often described as "manipulative, impulsive, dominating, and unpredictable: and tends to marry immature or insecure women who can be kept emotionally and financially dependent. Such women are often unavailable for their children emotionally or have a physical disability.

Marriage between Dependent Man and a Domineering Woman - these women tire of being the "mother" to their husbands and withdraw from their spouses emotionally and sexually.

Frequently these women are cold and rejecting of their children. They are often absent from their home and therefore unavailable to protect their children.

Union of Dependent man and Dependent Woman - neither is able to fill the other's overwhelming needs. Inadequate as parents and spouses, they look to their children for parenting.

A significant number of mothers of CSA victims have themselves suffered abuse as children.

Excerpts from Janet D. Felgenbaurm's, Negative views of the mother after childhood sexual abuse. Published in Women's Mental Health.

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the healing

tools of nature

Finding therapy among Earth’s mightiest friends.

As such, we owe it to ourselves and to God to respect and honor the bounty of the earth. The Creator has placed at our disposal a wealth of natural energies that are willing and useful healing tools. We need only ask, and the help is there for us.

Trees

These mighty friends are elemental symbols of wisdom. They are tangible signs of transformation and growth. Trees are receptive and energizing.

They stand as symbols, representing and demonstrating our endless source of supply. Imagine that every tree you pass on the streets or roads is a demonstration of the things you can be or have in your life.

There is no shortage of possibilities in life, and every possibility is within your reach. We can also talk to trees, particularly elms and oaks. Weeping willows are eager receptors for our sorrows—they take our tears and transform them into beauty!

Trees are a solid support system.

An excellent clearing ritual can be performed at the foot of a tree. Dig a small hole in front of the tree or near the roots. Lie flat on the earth and talk directly into the hole.

Talk as though you were speaking to a person. If you are expressing pain, sorrow, fear, and so on, tell the tree exactly what the cause is and how you feel about it. If you are making a request, be specific.

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Understanding

Your Mother's

Limitations

Mothers of this generation of women did not have the information we have today; they did not readily have the opportunity to seek help or talk to someone about what was happening to them as children.

Their trauma occured before they were effective laws to prosecute abuse, shelters for victims, therapy programs in their community, and media exposure on the topic of abuse.

reviewing your

family legacy

healing technique

Our mothers were, in some ways still are, one of the most silent generations about this trauma.

She has learned from her father-to keep the abuse a secret- was taught to her as a means of protecting him, not her or her child.

She learned as a child to maintain the silence of the perpetrator and the family belief system of denial. She was not taught how to keep herself safe or that she deserved to be protected.

She lacked confidence in her own beliefs, perceptions, and convictions about sexual abuse and thus continued what the family believed was appropriate.

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On the front cover is me coming out of the tunnel of darness into the light. One of the goals of the book is to go back and help other victims and survivors to make it out into the the light too.

I hope as more victims and survivors speak out about their own personal stories, there will never be another person who has to feel alone in the process.

My father started training me early on to be his personal play thing/ sexual slave. I had been sexually molested as an infant. My mother sent my two brothers and myself to my grandparents to safety. I did not live with my father he would come to get me. He came after me when I was 15 and told me he waited til I was old enough.

At the hands of my father, I was physically, emotionally, sexually, spitually and financially abused.

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Meditation Tapes

ONLY USE FEMALE VOICES

with affirmation tapes and meditation because you are trying to substitute your inner voice with theirs through repetiton.

A male voice sounds

like an abuser telling

you to calm down

and minimize

the situation.

Runaway Love

Mary J Blige

Enough Cryin'

Mary J Blige

No More Drama

Mary J Blige

Good Woman Down

Mary J Blige

Take Me As I Am

Mary J Blige

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What's Love Got to Do With it

Tina Turner

Rain on Me

Ashanti

I Will Survive

Gloria Gaynor

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