Ms. Edna - Dating Coach to Single Women Seeking A Loving Husband!

Too Much Emphasis on Designer Clothing & Not Enough On Makeup!

2012-02-15T10:12:00.000-05:00

"Makeup Does More For Your Overall Look Than Designer Shoes or Duds Will Ever Do"

As cute as Angela Simmons looks in her designer baby doll dress, handbag and Giuseppe Zanotti shoes, she doesn't look polished in spite of this outfit being valued at thousands of dollars.

Her look would have been much more impressive had her makeup been impeccable. As you can see her face is shiny, and her makeup application is obviously not the work of a skilled makeup artist. If it is she needs to be fired! No doubt about it - nothing boosts a woman's attractiveness more than makeup - when properly applied.

Consequently, this is why you should take the time out of your busy schedule to learn how to apply your own makeup like a professional. By so doing, you put yourself in a position to pull yourself together in a moments notice with a woman's greatest accessory - 'makeup', with no need to have a professional makeup artist on speed-dial!

In my opinion, many women today put far too much emphasis on designer clothing, accessories and shoes while neglecting their inner and outer assets. When the truth is - there is no need to spend thousands of dollars on outfits to look cute. This is why business at H&M is booming. As a society, we must stop letting things define us and concentrate on being the best YOU possible in all areas of your life. If you can afford these things, as Angela obviously can - go for it. However, whether you can or not - designer clothes shouldn't define you.

Therefore, put YOU and your personal appearance at the very top of your priority list and things secondary! You define you - not things. It's great posture, confidence, fit and healthy body, positive attitude, godly spirit and yes - that beautifully made up face that enhances our beauty!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log into msedna.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.com 2007-2012 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos what so ever unless duly noted.

Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage Pledge #13

2012-02-13T05:00:00.001-05:00

Only Say Yes To What You Want!

New Year Pledge #13 Defined

"I will only say YES to what I want and never, ever to what I don’t want"

Plain and simple ladies, if it's not exactly what you want - don't do it! How many of you go through life saying 'Yes' to things you really don't want to do or want in your life.

We constantly say 'YES', when we really want to say 'NO', be it out of some sort of fear or our own insecurity about standing up for ourselves and/or our deepest desires or beliefs! So YES ladies, stop saying yes to what you don't want!

Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage Pledge #12

2012-02-06T05:01:00.011-05:00

New Year Pledge @12 Defined

"I will not engage in sex or heavy petting outside of a committed relationship without exception"

Sex is the primary area where single women have literally lost their damn minds, and I say that without hesitation. I have heard stories from men that have literally knocked my socks off, and I am not a prude by any stretch of the imagination.

However, what I do have is dignity, pride and self-respect. Traits that are obviously missing in so many single women today, especially when it comes to men and sex.

Without going into graphic detail, I am appealing to you ladies to check your sexual behavior with men you don't have a committed relationship with. Even once you are in a committed relationship, you need to keep in mind that your bed is not a marriage bed and you should conduct yourself accordingly.

Single women need to recognize one fact. You can't rock a man's world into a committed relationship or marriage. Your sexual prowess is not the criteria by which a man chooses a girlfriend or a wife. Your 'freak of the week' behavior will not impress a man outside of the bedroom.

The most you can expect out of this behavior is a bad reputation and dumped as soon as he meets the next freak. Did you think you were the only 'freak of the week'? I mean seriously, give me a freakin break - in this day and age, they are a dime a dozen!

Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage Pledge #11

2012-02-03T08:22:00.001-05:00

To Truly Love A Man - You Must Admire, Respect and Look Up Him!

New Year Pledge #11 Defined

"I will only date men I am attracted to, admire, respect, and look up to. Men that treat me very well and who actively pursue me. In addition, I will date multiple men who fit this criteria until the one of my choice asks for exclusivity."

In order to sustain a loving relationship, you must admire, respect and look up to your man. Love is not enough and neither is attraction - although you will need to be both in love and physically attracted. However, mutual admiration and respect will be the glue that sustains the relationship. It will be the glue that retains the adoration you have for each other, keep sex alive, and keep you both suited up in an affair proof cloak of armor.

Therefore develop admirable and respectful qualities in yourself, and get very familiar with the qualities in men that arouse your utmost respect and admiration. Then put those qualities at the very top of your criteria list for selecting a mate. Be mindful that nothing kills love quicker than the lack of admiration and respect for ones mate.

This is an area where you can't settle - he must be a man you look up to, admire and respect first and foremost. If a man doesn't possess these qualities you must do you both a favor and move on. Like most women, I never knew that admiration, appreciation, and respect are a man's greatest needs in an intimate relationship - I thought it was LOVE because that's what women need most. Ignorance is blissful, however not understanding men can hurt us. So think about that when a man becomes enamored with you and starts chasing you non-stop, as you will never be able to make him or you happy if you don't admire, respect and look up to him. That's a fact ladies!

As women we really most build-up our self-esteem to soaring heights, so that we cease settling for men with habits and character traits we neither admire or respect - just because he shows an interest, you're lonely, he's hot or you are attracted, etc. None of which are responsible reasons to allow a man into your life - much less your heart and/or your bed. This year - you are seeking a mate so arm yourself with the correct tools to find one. Dating smart and finding the one is so easy and pleasant when you've got your 'shit' together, know what you need and understand men!!!

Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage Pledge #10

2012-02-02T11:18:00.002-05:00

New Year Pledge No. 10 Defined

"I will build an active social life for myself by actively volunteering for my favorite charity or organization in a capacity where I regularly interact with other volunteers. Commit to a hobby, sport or activity I enjoy that includes regular interaction or socializing with others. Regularly entertain and socialize with friends and family."

Basically this pledge is about getting a life. I can't tell you guys how many single women I encounter on a daily basis who do nothing more than go to work, come home and sit in front of the TV, or talk on the telephone discussing how terrible life is, the economy, good-for-nothing men,and/or the negative aspect of their jobs and basically life in general. Everything negative and nothing positive.

These women profess they want to be married., they do nothing towards achieving that goal except for their reliance upon on-line dating sites to meet men. Nightly they go on these sites after posting their profiles - wishing, hoping and praying to be chosen - or selecting a man to date who may or may not reject their advances. Most of the men turn out to be duds in the finale - but few women take heed to the handwriting on the wall.

This is not a life ladies, it's an existence and a terrible one at that. You are going to have to become an active participant in your own life in order to enjoy life as a happily unmarried single, as outlined in this very important pledge. A 'single' status for women is not a fate worse than death. Quite the contrary. Being single is fun and exciting, that is if you make it so. Women can and do, thoroughly enjoy their lives - with or without a significant other. When you develop a rich and full life for yourself as a single woman, you take 'desperation to find a man' out of the equation, which is so not a good look. Plus, desperation serves no purpose except to get you used and your heart broken.

Therefore, get yourself a life - quick and in a hurry!!! Thereby enjoying life and becoming a man magnet because you are confident and happy-go-lucky.

Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage Pledge #9

2012-01-27T09:10:00.001-05:00

New Year Pledge No. 9 Defined

"I will constantly work on becoming a more cheerful, friendly, approachable and likeable person by simply greeting everyone I come into contact, with a cheery “hello how are you”, a big smile, eye-contact, and a sincere compliment whenever possible"

The most impressive thing you can wear when out and about is a 'big ole smile'. The quickest way to establish an active social life is to become more friendly and outgoing. People gravitate towards outgoing people and are more apt to include them in their social activities. Therefore, it is extremely important that you make a concerted effort to become more friendly and outgoing. This entails getting out of the house and start meeting people.

Be stylish, classy, friendly and complimentary. Take your mind off of what other people think, do you, be you, love you, and surround yourself with people who possess the same attitude and qualities. Pull your shoulders back, stand tall and always let your presence be known. Create respect from others by always behaving and dressing appropriately, it gains their attention and respect. More importantly you will gain self-respect and be proud of who you are.

ASHTON & DEMI'S DEMISE

2012-01-26T07:58:00.001-05:00

Was It His Cheating or Demi's Substance Abuse That Created The Disconnect?

Which comes first, the chicken or the egg? No one knows but the two people involved. Sources close to both Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher have told PEOPLE MAGAZINE that Demi's prescription drug use was a contributing factor to the demise of their marriage.

Demi was "a mess" according to an insider, and Ashton as well as those close to her have been concerned for quite a while. PEOPLE, is reporting that a separate source said, "Ashton and Demi both like to party, but she tends to wear it all over her. She can talk too much, get verbally abusive and weigh on your nerves."

Who knows, but I am quickly learning not to give my two cents on what goes on behind closed doors in other people's marriages, as there is always three (3) sides to every story, her side, his side and the truth! In my last marriage - I was viewed as the villain - while my ex was perceived as the victim of my acid tongue and mean spirited ways - because he portrayed himself as such a good guy. These same people would be totally shocked if they knew the inside story of this man's unconscionable and unforgivable behavior that hurt me to the core and totally destroyed my trust in him as well as my own judgement of character.

Therefore, I totally retract what I said about Ashton as I portrayed him as the 'bad guy'. From hence forth I will remain totally neutral when discussing the marriage/relationships of others. My bad ladies!!!

NATE BERKUS SEXS UP THE BEDROOM!

2012-01-25T11:18:00.000-05:00

WHY ARE SINGLE WOMEN BEING ENCOURAGED TO HAVE LOW MORALS?

It never ceases to amaze me how the mass media perpetuate sexually low morals in single women as normal. I was watching the Nate Berkus Show, and the discussion was about decorating your bedroom for sex.

When the subject turned to single women entertaining their suitors and/or relationship partner in the bedroom, and what men like – that’s when Ms. Edna went off!

Excuse me, now single women are encouraged to decorate their bedrooms to please men and entertain their suitors in the bedroom – really? I mean seriously, as if having sex outside of a relationship is the norm. On second thought, I guess in this day and age – it is! But not for Ms. Edna's ladies (mind you I said ladies). Beware my friends of having your mind poisoned on even the most innocent of daytime shows.

DEMI MOORE HOSPITALIZED

2012-01-25T09:34:00.002-05:00

Heart Broken Demi Will Be Just Fine!!!

Demi Moore was rushed to the hospital last night. It is rumored that she is being treated for depression, exhaustion and substance abuse. The beautiful actress has appeared increasingly frail in recent weeks, and was taken to the hospital by ambulance following a 911 call @ 10:45 PM last night - while Ashton partied his ass off in Rio.

Most women suffer from anxiety and depression while coping with a narcissistic and cheating spouse like Ashton. Unfortunately, after leaving the relationship, many women start to grieve the loss of the relationship and a breakdown ensues.

Many women even feign breakdowns hoping to get sympathy from the perpetrator. Whatever the case maybe, it is critical that women move on and make a concerted effort not to focus on the cheater, his lying, the other woman, or the good or bad aspects of the relationship. This will only delay your recovery and deepen your anxiety and depression.

Hopefully, Demi and any other woman who find themselves in this situation, will take my advice and not allow themselves the luxury of grief long-term, and focus instead on having had the strength to remove yourself from the situation and concentrate on making yourself happy without his cheating and lying ass. They must concentrate on the fact, that in spite of the emotional pain of losing the man they loved, they did what was best for them personally.

Demi’s recovery as well as other women in this situation will find that their recovery will be a long-time coming as long as they remain focused on the loss rather than the strength of their convictions to be happy by removing themselves from the situation. Wallowing in the loss leads to heighten depression. Begging and pleading for him to love you as he once did, or attempts to make him feel guilty are all counter-productive and only serve to undermine your strength and places you in a very vulnerable and pathetic place.

Instead, women who find themselves in this situation, especially older women, must dust themselves off, pray incessantly and concentrate heavily on being happy – knowing that this too shall pass, as other catastrophes in your life have. However, you can’t do it alone – now more than ever, you will need God’s help (I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me Philippians 4:13). How long it takes – lies solely on you. Rather than envying the new woman or women in his life – feel sorry for them, as no one knows better than you that her happiness with this man is short-lived.

Let’s pray that Demi realizes her worth as a very beautiful, loving and successful woman, mother and actress. Just because Ashton didn’t have the maturity and or the sense to recognize what he had in her must not undermine how she feels about herself one iota. I know from experience that it is extremely difficult to go through divorce at this age, especially if it is not your first rodeo. You don’t bounce back as rapidly as you did when divorcing prior to age 40. Not only that, Demi 49, is a Scorpio, as am I. We tend to get into our own heads to a fault, as we hate not being able to control everything in our lives and making mistakes. Consequently, we tend to kick our own asses unnecessarily.

Along with a cheating spouse, divorce and aging, many things are going on in your head that has little to do with the man in question, although we tend to make it all about him. The insecurities of getting older, not being able to maintain relationships or control them, our own faults, and maybe not being as marketable as we once were – all play a major part in our depression and anxiety. This is why I don’t view Demi’s hospitalization as a bad thing – she needs professional help in getting back on track. More importantly, she needs JESUS. I sincerely hope she seeks him, as he has powers that man doesn’t and he will give her the needed strength to rise above this situation as a PHOENIX once again!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log into msedna.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.com 2007-2011 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos what so ever unless duly noted.

SINGLE BRIDEZILLAS

2012-01-24T09:47:00.000-05:00

This Decision Was Just As Stupid As Her Decision To Make A Sex Tape!

"Women Who Plan The Wedding Before The Proposal or Even Meeting The Man"

Just when I think women can't behave more stupid when it comes to men and getting married, something else surfaces. ABC's Good Morning America just did a segment on single women who are happy to finalize their wedding plans well before the marriage proposal or even meeting a man who will propose to them. According to the segment, "They are the girls not afraid to put the dress before the diamond, or the reception before the ring".

Does Kim Kardashian come to mind? She was so caught up in the fairy tale wedding, she forgot to carefully evaluate the man she agreed to marry, and ended the union after only 72 days, as if she didn't peep his immaturity and obnoxious behavior beforehand - Khloe did and she wasn't involved with him! Now how stupid is that? She filed for divorce citing irreconcilable differences - when she should have cited, "MY STUPIDITY"!

Marriage is serious business girlfriends, so pull your head out of your ass and start focusing on the man and marriage - rather than a damn wedding!!! You can dignify these women and their behavior by calling them BRIDEZILLAS if you want too, but I call them STUPID in neon lights!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log into msedna.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.com 2007-2011 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos what so ever unless duly noted.

Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage Pledge #8

2012-01-24T09:00:00.002-05:00

You Never Know When He Will Show Up!

New Year Pledge No. 8 Defined

"I Will Look My Absolute, Drop-Dead Gorgeous Best Every Time I Leave Home"

Women wanting to meet a good guy and get married - must get out of the mind-set that you will only meet 'Mr. Right' when you plan to meet men, i.e. when you go to parties, clubs, etc.

The reality is that you can meet 'Mr. Right' anytime, anywhere and anyplace! Therefore, you must always be prepared and be at your most confident best at all times. By so doing, you will not be inhibited or feel self-conscious because you are not at your best if he shows up when you least expect it.

Most of us have been in situations where we encounter an enemy, an old-boyfriend, boss or whatever, when we were not at our best and were totally embarrassed by our appearance. Thus, causing us not to be as out-going and/or confident. Do you really want to find yourself in that position when 'Mr. Right' shows up unexpectedly? Of course not! So how do you guard against this very embarrassing situation? Never leave home without looking your absolute, drop-dead gorgeous best!

Let's face it and be perfectly honest with ourselves, the reason why we leave home not being our absolute, drop-dead gorgeous best is pure LAZINESS! We are just too damn lazy to take the time, put forth the effort to bathe, put on makeup, and dress appropriately for the occasion. We make excuses such as, "I'm just running to the store or around the corner", as if no one will be there but you.

Not only are you lazy, you don't value yourself or love yourself enough to want to look your best when leaving home. When you start valuing and loving yourself, laziness will take a back-seat to pride in your appearance. When you really don't feel like putting forth the effort to present yourself to the public at your absolute best, you will opt to just stay at home.

This just happened to me on Sunday. I decided I wanted to bake some cookies, half way into the recipe, I realized I was out of sugar. Before my new found love for self and consequent pride in my appearance, I would have just dashed out and ran to the store without dressing up. However this time, I opted to just forget about the cookies until another day, because I didn't feel like getting all dolled up, as I no longer leave home unless I am! Not for any other reason than for me. Looking my best in case I run into someone I know or 'Mr. Right', is just a by-product of taking pride in how I look when I leave home. Try it - you'll like it!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log into msedna.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.com 2007-2011 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos what so ever unless duly noted.

DO YOU WEAR THE PANTS ON DATES?

2012-01-23T04:50:00.003-05:00

Put On A Dress & Stop Being The Man!

"Put On A Dress & Stay In Your Lane"

Nowadays people get very testy when gender roles are discussed. Most women have the attitude they can kill their own snakes and don't need a man. When it is not a question of whether or not you can kill em yourself, it just feels good that a man wants to do it for you.

Everybody knows that most women are fully capable of bringing home the bacon, cooking it, feeding it to others and, eating it too. We don't need a man persae, we want one! Therefore, it is not a question of whether or not women can fend for themselves, the question is - does she want to do everything for herself? I don't know about you guys, but I damn sure don't! I love it when a man takes charge and/or is chivalrous. It makes me feel feminine and very special, and I love feeling special and feminine.

I am quite accustomed to stepping on toes in my discussions, I don’t like contention, so let’s get clear on whom my advice is geared towards. There are some straight women who prefer to assume the masculine role in their relationships with men, and there is nothing wrong with that as long as the straight male prefers to assume the feminine role (men who prefer to be led rather than lead, and who prefer to assume a more passive role in relationships over being the aggressor). It only becomes a power struggle when a masculine woman hooks up with a masculine male.

This site and my advice is geared towards the girly feminine type, women who love being a woman, and want a masculine male to settle down with in holy matrimony. Therefore, if femininity is your thing and you want some tips on how to better interact with masculine straight males, we are on the same page and I have a few tips for you on being more feminine on dates and allowing a man to pamper and cater to you. Real men love doing what you expect of them.

Chivalry is not dead, it is just no longer required by the majority of women. Women are so accustomed to doing for themselves, they have lost their femininity and forgotten how to let men court them.

Allow your date to open car doors and entry doors for you.
Let him greet the hostess and take care of the two of you being seated.
Tell your date what you want to eat and/or drink, so he can place your order with the wait staffer. The same goes for refills or additional food items, you tell him and he tells the waiter.
If there is a problem with the meal etc., let him handle it. You just sit back and be a lady.
Let him pick up the check for all expenses of the date. This is another reason why you allow him to plan the date so he can do so according to his budget constraints.
Don't try to impress him with your credentials and accomplishments. Sit back, listen intently, ask pertinent questions and evaluate him while he attempts to impress you with his credentials. More importantly, his character!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log into msedna.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.com 2007-2011 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos what so ever unless duly noted.

How To Tell A Guy You Aren't Interested

2012-01-20T04:00:00.004-05:00

Listen Intently As He Tells You Who He Is!

"Can Men Handle

The Truth?"

As more and more women learn to love, honor and value themselves, many are wondering how to let guys down easy when they aren't interested. Their elevated self-esteem and self-worth is causing them to be more selective - rather than settling for less than what they need or want in a man by trying to make a dollar out of 15 cents.

A young lady I have been coaching was faced with this very unpleasant task this week and chose to be honest with him - as she values her integrity. While all dolled up looking glamorous, she was grocery shopping in Whole Foods last week when she met a nice-looking, well-dressed guy driving a late model Range Rover. He told her he was a Doctor from Miami, just relocated to Atlanta and working in a local hospital, so they exchanged telephone numbers.

After a couple of telephone conversations, they met for lunch the following week. This time he told her he was an Investment Banker, she asked for his business card and he couldn't produce one. One lie led to another and although she didn't call him out on his many contradictions, she didn't try to hid the fact that she was unimpressed, and ended their 1:00 pm lunch less than an hour later.

Not expecting and certainly not hoping to hear from him ever again, low and behold he calls several times a couple of days later - but she didn't pick up. After deciding it was just plain rude to just blow him off by avoiding his telephone calls, she called him up and stated the following. "I just wanted to thank you for the nice lunch, and because I believe in integrity, I didn't want to just ignore your calls, which would have been the easiest thing to do, I decided honesty was the best way to handle this situation. Being as I know exactly what I am looking for in a relationship, I don't see this relationship going any further. You are a nice guy so I don't want to waste your time or mine." To that he said OK and goodbye - obviously embarrassed.

Personally, I probably would have called him out on the many serious lies that he told and not remembering the lies, i.e., first he is a Doctor, then an Investment Banker. However, under normal circumstances when you are not dealing with a con-man such as this, I recommend lying to spare a guys ego by saying, "I am getting over a devastating breakup, I thought I was over it, but unfortunately I am not. Consequently, I am not ready to date again".

How do you view this scenario:

A. Do you agree completly with her honesty & integrity?

B. Do you disagree with her brutal honesty?

C. How would you have handled the situation?

Leave your answers in comments, I can't wait to read what all of you have to say!

Ladies! You Must Stop Substituting Sex For Love

2012-01-18T01:06:00.000-05:00

Sex Is No Substitute for Love!

"In The End You Won't Be Fulfilled"

I don't know whether to pity women who constantly sleep with men hoping they will give them the love they long for in return, or view them with disdain. Either way it is a really pathetic situation and very disturbing to observe, as these women are hopelessly romantic and needy. Not only that, it seems as though unscrupulous men can spot their neediness and desperation to be loved a mile away and are more than happy to take full advantage of them.

I really don't get mad at these type of men because in spite of their charm and good looks, their game is lame and weak. So lame and weak, it is hard to fathom how or why any woman would fall for them. In spite of the obvious, needy women with low self-esteem fall for guys of this caliber by the droves, with them doing little more than showing them a midgen of attention. These guys don't even have to take these women out on a date or court them before they willingly fall into bed with one of them hoping to win his love by rocking his world. It is truly disgusting and pitiful to witness this situation.

Ladies you know who you are and I beg of you to get it together and STOP substituting sex for love. Can't you see each time you behave in this manner how fruitless it is? You never ever get the man or the love that you are seeking. Without fail, you wind up with your feeling hurt, heart broken, and your self-esteem further in the toilet. Some women even resort to physical violence towards these men that lands them in the penitentiary. So stop playing the victim and realize that these men aren't doing anything to you, you are doing it to yourself.

You are the one who sleeps with men without love, deep affection, courtships and relationships. You are the one attempting to win the love of men with sex. You are the one who is so needy and desperate for love, you fall for the weakest of game, and unsavory characters. So stop blaming men and take a good look in the mirror, take responsibility for your own actions and do something about it! Cure yourself by boosting your self-esteem, self-worth and self-respect quick and in a hurry before you become so frustrated and ashamed of your behavior, you can't even look yourself in the mirror. Trust me it happens, I've seen it far too many times.

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log into msedna.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.com 2007-2011 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos what so ever unless duly noted.

Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage New Year Pledge #7

2012-01-17T04:00:00.003-05:00

New Year Pledge No. 7 Defined

"I will incorporate good grooming habits into my routine, i.e. daily bathing, skin care, weekly manicures, weekly hair care, monthly pedicures, monthly facials and monthly eye brow grooming. If I don't want the expense of having a professional do some of these things, I will learn to do them myself. No excuses allowed for poor grooming habits ever."

As I was watching the Miss America Pageant on Saturday night, and the Golden Globes on Sunday, I couldn't help but to marvel at how glamorous all of the contestants, presenters and nominees were. Women can look so polished and pulled together when we put forth a great deal of effort into our personal appearance. Nails and feet are perfectly manicured, hair done, impeccable makeup, groomed eyebrows, fake eyelashes and bodies in tip-top shape.

Let's take this pledge in particular very serious this year!!!

Ms. Edna gives sound dating advice to single women. Advice, if followed, guarantees your success in creating a loving relationship with a GOOD man that results in marriage. Log into msedna.com daily and learn how to love yourself all the way to the altar! THIS BLOG IS COPYRIGHTED - ALL RIGHTS RESERVED © msedna.com 2007-2011 Disclaimer: All images posted on this site are copyrighted by their respective owners. MsEdna.com makes no claims of ownership or credit for these photos what so ever unless duly noted.

Ms. Edna'a Love & Marriage New Year Pledge #6

2012-01-16T05:00:00.001-05:00

Get Rid Of Everything You Don't Look Fabulous In!

New Year Pledge #6 Defined

"I will donate everything in my closet that is not figure flattering and that I don't look and feel fabulous in"

It's a fact that women tend to buy articles of clothing for all the wrong reasons, i.e., it's on sale, it's the trend, they like it, etc. This is the primary reason why most women have a closet full of unflattering clothing.

It doesn't matter if something is a good price, or it's the trend, and/or just because you like it, if it's not figure flattering and you don't look and feel good in it - why waste your money? It's figure flattering, you look good and you feel good in it, are the only criteria you must use to purchase your clothing from hence forth. The goal is to only have clothing on hand that make you look and feel your absolute best, not to have a closet full of ill fitting and unattractive clothing.

It's best to get rid those things that don't meet the described criteria, in order that you won't be tempted to wear things that are unflattering or unattractive. In order that it's not a total waste of money to get rid of these things, I suggest donating them so someone not as fortunate can utilize them. Some of you will find this task painful. However, I found it liberating and exciting as I anticipated paying close attention to my appearance. Whatever the case maybe - if it's painful - feel the pain and do it anyway!!!

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How To Handle A Commitment Phobic Man”

2012-01-12T08:45:00.001-05:00

To Ms. Edna:

“I never thought this would happen to me. My husband died 4 years ago and I met several men but this one in particular really attracted me. I've been dating him for 2 years and I played "the game" that has been described in this article!

He came on strong and was charming, telling me that he had never connected to anyone the way he has to me. He told me I had all the qualities that he always wanted in a woman.....it was great and romantic until 4 months later......he started pulling away, became withdrawn, cold. I couldn't figure it out. It seemed like he was falling in love with me and then this. So I figured he was afraid to break up with me so I did it instead.

After we broke up he started pursuing me again so I went back to him because by now I had fallen in love with him. We've been together for 2 years but we played this cat and mouse game one too many times. I want to leave him and move on but he has this control over me.......I can't bare being without him but he goes from hot to cold every few months.

I gave him the power to control me......I continue to think that he'll eventually get comfortable with wanting me in his life forever. I don't want marriage....just love, tenderness and companionship.....and yet even that scares him! We have many conversations but he never really opens up and never gives satisfying answers. I know I'm a fool but we have fun together and get along well......is he that sick????"

I received this comment by a reader for approval from Blogger this morning, as they suspected it as SPAM. I don’t know whether it's spam or not. Therefore, I decided to release it in the form of a post because it addresses so many issues that women who have not taken the time to do the necessary work on themselves before they start to date experience. Issues that can be avoided by adhering to the guidelines outlined in my NEW YEAR NEW YOU PLEDGES.

Plain and simple ladies, the only way to deal with a "commitment phobic man" - DON'T! Unfortunately, 'commitment phobics' are not the only type of men we shouldn't date and should avoid like the plague, there are countless others. However, if you take the time to build your self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence prior to dating, these jerks won't have a chance in hell of weezling their way into your life. Therefore, DO YOU BEFORE YOU EVEN THINK ABOUT DOING A MAN™, the title of my upcoming new book!

To the writer of this comment, in answer to your question is "he that sick????". Yes ma'am, he most certainly is. However, I don't want to waste your time or mine analyzing him, let's talk about you and why you allowed him into your life in the first place, and more importantly, why you are allowing him to remain in your life doing everything but enhancing your happiness? So the question is not "is he that sick?, it's "are you that sick?"

Your behavior in this relationship from the very beginning and up until now, is screaming LOW SELF-ESTEEM & LOW SELF-WORTH in neon lights. You must stop worrying about his behavior, and start worrying about your own. He is never going to change, at least not with you, as you have taught him to treat you poorly, and you have assured him that you will take him anyway you can get him. You have no control over him, but you have full control over yourself.

Do the necessary work on yourself that will boost your self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence and, self-respect so you can get out of this 'train wreck' relationship, and never again remain or enter into another relationship that doesn't meet your needs. You know this man is stringing you along - stop settling for less than what you want and making his needs, desires and wants more important than your own. True happiness comes from pleasing you - never others.

You say that you gave him the power to control you - well take it back and start loving YOU more than you love him! You are not as weak as you are portraying yourself to be - you are just settling because you don't want to deal with the pain of letting go. If you got over the death of a loving husband, you surely have the strength to get over this loser. You just don't want too. Therefore, stop making excuses and dump this chump once and for all!

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Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage New Year Pledge #5

2012-01-10T09:01:00.000-05:00

New Year Pledge No. 5 Defined

"I Will Learn How To Apply My Own Makeup Like A Pro"

There is absolutely nothing on this planet that enhances the beauty of a woman better than makeup - BAR NONE!!! Every woman, no matter her age, looks prettier and more polished wearing makeup.

Therefore, it is imperative that you learn to apply makeup professionally on yourself. Then, you can make yourself absolutely beautiful whenever you so desire and at a moments notice.

Seek the assistance of a professional makeup artist who will teach you how to choose products, utensils, and colors, etc. Step-by-step, he or she will give you hands on makeup application instruction as well as the tricks of the trade to make your learning experience both delightful and informative. Once you are taught the proper way to apply your own makeup, you must practice, practice, practice until you really are a pro.

As you know there are varied degrees of makeup application. Jennifer Lopez to the left is sporting the glamour look, my absolute favorite. There is also a toned down daytime look, as well as a nighttime look. You select the look you want to rock, but by all means don't be afraid to draw attention to yourself by standing out in a crowd. Developing high self-esteem, self-confidence, looking good and feeling good about yourself will take care of this shyness for sure!!!

Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage New Year Pledge #4

2012-01-09T09:11:00.006-05:00

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New Year Pledge No. 4 Defined

"I will perfect my social graces, poise and posture"

The best description I could find to define Social graces on the Internet was Wikipedia. They define Social graces as skills used to interact politely in social situations, to include manners, etiquette, deportment and fashion.

Unfortunately these skills are believed to be old-fashioned and passe by the masses in our society today. If you take a look around your environment, you can see people with atrocious table manners, people slovishly dressed and rampant rudeness.

Many men no longer see the necessity to pull out a woman's chair, open a door for her, or stand back and allow a woman to enter a threshold before them. I have asked several men who exhibit this behavior and was told that no one does that any more.

I also get excuses from women when discussions of self-improvement arise and they don't want to put forth the effort to wear makeup, appropriately dress up when leaving home, and take the necessary steps to be the best they can be in all aspect of their lives. I will be the first to admit that societal standards and the overall bar for social graces, morals and being fashionable has been lowered significantly over time in the last century.

However, is it really OK to dummy yourself down and hold yourself to lower standards just because the vast majority is doing it? I am in Oklahoma City temporarily for personal reasons, and recently signed up to work temporary utilizing my experience as an Executive Administrative Assistant. Much to my surprise, I have been accepted by both agencies I interviewed with, and now I have a decision to make as to which one to go with.

At the onset of this venture, I anticipated that my age might be a factor in competing for a job. Wrong, wrong and wrong. I got all dolled up, full face of makeup, black pants suit, heels, poise, confidence and good posture. My appearance along with excellent skills over 45 years of business ownership and office experience won them over. What really bowled me over was how people were dressed who came into the offices to apply for jobs, even the people who worked there (with the exception of the interviewers) were dressed poorly.

The women working in the offices and those seeking employment did not wear heels, nor were they appropriately dressed in 'Interview Attire' and most didn't even bother to put on makeup. We are talking jeans and tennis shoes. I don't have a problem with people wearing jeans in these situations as I realize that times have changed and people don't dress up as they use to. However, I have a big problem with sagging, faded out and ill-fitting jeans with tee shirts and/or sloppy tops.

If you must wear jeans in this environment, dress them up with the appropriate fit, crisp, clean shirts or stylish tops and high heeled shoes for women and dress shoes for men. What I learned from this experience is that most people are like me, and are still impressed by those who are well-groomed, well-dressed, well-mannered, and well-spoken in the work place - in spite of the vast majority behaving otherwise. Casual Fridays have evolved into dress down Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday as predicted years ago and it has translated from casual well-dressed to tacky & sloppy dress down.

Why adapt mediocre standards for yourself just because everyone is or isn't doing something? Stand out from the crowd by stepping up you game with an impeccable appearance, impeccable social graces, poise and posture. You are competing in this dating game, as I was for a job - so get in to win it!!!! Try to look at this pledge as well as all of the others as an opportunity to reinvent yourself for the better.

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Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage New Year Pledge #3

2012-01-05T06:45:00.033-05:00

"Obesity Is A Killer"

"New Year Pledge No. 3 Defined"

"I will maintain a normal Body Mass Index (BMI) by all means necessary"

Obesity is a killer on so many levels. It kills our self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence, and it causes diseases that can literally kill us. Not only that, fat is so not cute, although some of you who are overweight would beg to differ. So tell me, what's cute about rolls of fat around the middle, on your stomach, arms, back and thighs? Absolutely nothing and we are striving for cute.

I'm not here to argue with you about your weight, only to help you feel special, confident and really good about yourself. Therefore, let the Body Mass Index be your guide in determining whether or not you are obese, overweight or normal because it doesn't lie and its only motive for being truthful is for your good health.

I was watching the VIEW not to long ago when Sherri Shepherd indignantly declared that her BMI indicated that she was obese as if it wasn't true. I mean seriously - everyone but Sherri obviously, can clearly see that she is obese. I don't really understand how some people can have such a distorted view of their body image - but they do, which is why I want you to let the BMI be your guide.

If your BMI indicates that you fall outside of the normal range, devise a plan to lose the excess weight to include diet and exercise. You are so worthy of being the best you possible, keep telling yourself that and visualize daily on how fabulous you are going to look and feel when you lose the excess weight.

This visual should keep you motivated, it has certainly helped me as did the Atkins Induction Diet Plan to lose that first 20 lbs. Find what works for you and keep telling yourself that failure in this weight loss quest is not an option nor is being forever single. Restrictions in some capacity are usually a normal part of achieving any goal. Few goals have been recognized as a result of unbridled behavior. Self-discipline and fortitude are requirements for goal achieving. You can do it!!!

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Who Got Engaged Over The Holidays?

2012-01-04T14:47:00.002-05:00

"Why Not Make This The Year You Get A Ring On It"

"Love Was Definitely In The Air This Holiday Season"

The following celebrity couples got engaged:

John Legend & Chrissy Teige

Michael Jordan & Yvette Preito

Aretha Franklin & Willie Wilkerson

Matthew McConaghey & Camila Alves

Justin Timberlake & Jessica Biel

Brittany Spears & Jason Trawick

Who says men don't want to get married? That may very well be true - but men who are in love certainly do! As you can see there are a couple of confirmed bachelors in this line-up, i.e. Matthew & Justin. Just goes to show, "the bigger they are, the harder they fall" LOL!!!

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Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage New Year Pledge #2

2012-01-04T05:30:00.003-05:00

"New Year Pledge No. 2 Defined"

"I will strive to be the best ME I can possibly be in mind, body and spirit"

As you embark upon this challenge, keep in mind that striving to be the best you can be is not about becoming a perfect person, it’s about becoming a better person. Perfection in human beings is not possible. No, this challenge for improvement of your love life is not about perfection, it’s about improving your personality and the condition of your mind, your body and your spirit.

With your body, it's about being healthy and fit so you will feel good about how you look, which is known for boosting one’s self-confidence and low self-esteem. I so want you to be confident and feel good about yourself prior to going in search of Mr. Right, it will prevent you from settling and making the silly mistakes with men that you have made in the past.

Therefore, resolve all of those problem areas of your life, i.e., bad habits, personality flaws, financial, family, childhood, and past relationship issues that you maybe harboring. No one needs to drag a bunch of negative baggage into a new relationship. Even if you need to see a therapist to resolve a specific issue – do so if you feel you can’t heal yourself on your own.

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Ms. Edna's Love & Marriage New Year Pledge #1

2012-01-03T06:00:00.002-05:00

'Which Is Most Important'

"New Year Pledge No. 1 Defined"

I will love myself unconditionally flaws and all, and work diligently on becoming more confident, self-assured and out-going.

This resolution for finding true love and marriage, is the most important resolution of them all, precisely why I put it at the top of the heap. Why? Because until we fall madly in love with ourselves, become confident, self-assured and out-going, it will be very difficult to find love and sustain a loving relationship with another.

Self-love is redefining your relationship with yourself by becoming passionate about being good to YOU, taking good care of yourself and realizing you are unique and special in your own rite, in spite of being imperfect. In addition, self-love breeds self-confidence and high self-esteem, both of which are critical to dating smart and winning hearts.

I don't even advise women to date if they have low self-esteem, as it leads to disastrous relationships. Therefore, make it your business to work diligently on this pledge before you start dating.

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New Year New You Challenge

2012-01-02T02:00:00.136-05:00

Guidelines To Find The One & Get Married in 2012!

A new year brings new hope, new beginnings, new blessings and new opportunities. We made it into the New Year, and if we are so blessed, we have yet another year and opportunity to meet the one and get married.

Or, we can let another year come and go where we fail to take action and make some positive changes in our behavior that increases our chances of meeting & marrying the one!

Why not make 2012, the year that you finally make getting married top priority in your life. The year you take getting yourself a loving and devoted husband seriously. The year you leave all the dumbness behind and develop a new attitude. The year you do you and become a better you.

When you do - you will be successful in this quest - I guarantee it! Hundreds of my readers throughout the world are now happily married as a direct result of adhering to the (15) guidelines listed further down.

Finding a good man to marry is not as difficult as you have been led to believe, and hopefully you have learned that it is certainly not about pleasing men at all costs. You just need to get out of your own way. It's easy to make it happen when you are committed to the goal and open to some behavioral changes. You must approach this goal just as you have all other goals you have successfully achieved - with unyielding fortitude.

If you want to have an amazing dating life with some top notch and amazing men that could very well lead to your ‘getting a ring on it’ this year, pledge to adhere to the following (15) guidelines in 2012.

NEW YEAR PLEDGES

1. I will love myself unconditionally flaws and all, and work diligently on becoming more confident, self-assured and out-going.

2. I will strive to be the best ME I can possibly be in mind, body and spirit.

3. I will maintain a normal Body Mass Index (BMI) by all means necessary to include healthy living, healthy eating and exercise.

4. I will perfect my social graces, poise and posture.

5. I will learn how to apply my own makeup like a pro.

6. I will donate everything in my closet that is not figure flattering and that I don't look and feel fabulous in.

7. I will incorporate good grooming habits into my routine, i.e. daily bathing, skin care, weekly manicures, weekly hair care, monthly pedicures, monthly facials and monthly eye brow grooming. If I don't want the expense of having a professional do some of these things, I will learn to do them myself. No excuses allowed for poor grooming habits ever.

8. I will look my absolute, drop-dead gorgeous best every time I leave my home.

9. I will constantly work on becoming a more cheerful, friendly, approachable and likeable person by simply greeting everyone I come into contact, with a cheery “hello how are you”, a big smile, eye-contact, and a sincere compliment whenever possible.

10. I will build an active social life for myself by actively volunteering for my favorite charity or organization in a capacity where I regularly interact with other volunteers. Commit to a hobby, sport or activity I enjoy that includes regular interaction or socializing with others. Regularly entertain and socialize with friends and family.

11. I will only date men I am attracted to, admire, respect, and look up to. Men that treat me very well and who actively pursue me. In addition, I will date multiple men who fit this criteria until the one of my choice asks for exclusivity.

12. I will not engage in sex or heavy petting outside of a committed relationship without exception.

13. I will only say YES to what I want and never, ever to what I don’t want.

14. I will not chase men or waste time and energy trying to analyze the behavior of men, what he's thinking, feeling, etc. I will take a man's actions at face value and always act accordingly without foolish analyzation. His actions will clearly state what I need to know.

15. I will love, honor and respect myself above all others.

I bet you thought this list was going to be all about men and pleasing them. Don't you guys know me better than that by now? Acquiring an amazing dating life that leads to marriage is never about a man, it’s all about you! All of the above listed guidelines are for your benefit only and will boost your self-esteem, self-love, self-worth, and self-confidence to immeasurable proportions. All of which are the tools you need to have an amazing dating life, find the one and get married! I refer to this method as loving yourself all the way to the altar.

Please don't apply these pledges A La Carte expecting positive results. If you can't commit to doing each and everyone of them - don't bother, it's the whole hog or nothing! You can't become a self-assured confident women with half-ass effort, and you can't have an amazing dating life until you are. None of these pledges are difficult, as usual only dedication and determination is required. You can do it!!!

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Ashamed To Say You Want To Get Married?

2011-12-30T01:38:00.000-05:00

He Has To Be Special To Win Your Heart!

"There Is No Shame In Wanting To Get Married"!

In my opinion shame comes into play when women who want to get married go from one sexual relationship to another without love or commitment, and with sub-standard men.

Where is the shame in wanting to share your life and body with a man you love admire, and look up to, and who loves and adores you so much he makes you his wife?

I can certainly understand why some women are ashamed to admit to wanting to get married, because society has set low standards for women to appease men. Standards that have stripped many women of their dignity, pride and self-respect. And, reduced them to shameless man-pleasers and puppets on a string.

Today, women who indulge in free sex & shacking up are celebrated. Women wanting love, affection and a committed relationship prior to sex, and who want those relationships to evolve into marriage are condemned.

Ladies I beg of you, stop allowing societal standards, movies and television shows make mockeries and cheap sluts out of you. Take back your power and demand your respect by not sharing your bodies just for the thrill of it or to please men, without any caring or commitment whatsoever.

Contrary to popular belief, loose morals and indiscriminate sex is not cute. You are in charge and you dictate the type of men and relationships allowed into your life. Don't allow anyone or anything to make those decisions for you. Therefore, don’t be ashamed to let a man know that you have standards and one of them is wanting to get married someday.

However, just so he doesn’t get it twisted, relay your desire to get married like this, “I want to get married someday, but it will take an amazing man that wins my heart and that I want to marry, so I'm not holding my breath".

This declaration will let him know in no uncertain terms that he will have to do a heck of a lot more than just take you out for you to view him as a possible candidate for your 'husband-to-be'! By this declaration, you immediately become a challenge, as now he realizes that he will have to do some serious work just to impress you - much less to win your affection.

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