Musings of the LiL'Devil Mama

Save the Drama for your Mama.

2010-03-16T13:35:00.000-07:00

After my post yesterday about Mr. Disclaimer and the great comments from my homegirls @SingleMomSays, @tbdetermined_09, @TsQuest and my newest Twitter pal @runpippirun I felt great about my choice to nix the Douche in the Bud. Well then the BFF got involved...okay not by choice but Mr. Disclaimer dragged her into the drama of which I was not wishing to participate in. Bottom line. Part of the

Mr. Disclaimer & the Comfort Zone.

2010-03-15T11:17:00.000-07:00

Let me start off by admitting that I'm confused about this situation. There is something about having your global group of friends not agree on an issue that leaves this Single Mama unsettled and unsure. But at the same time, I feel good about my choice. Ugh and so forth. The factions are divided on whether or not I was too hard on Mr. Disclaimer and his lame attempt at trying to date me.Rewind

the Change.

2010-03-11T14:07:00.000-08:00

Last night whilst lying on the floor of the Monkey's Room and wondering how I got Here. No, not on the floor of his room, I know how I got there and it involved listening to him breath (he's been sick) without invading his space. I mean the Here and Now. So that got me to thinking about the Life Changes that occur that we have no control over. The big ones that make Life transform into something

Date #12564: Meeting Mr. Disclaimer

2010-03-10T13:11:00.000-08:00

Disclaimer: This may very well be the worst post ever. I am exhausted and can't think clearly. Eck. First dates kill me. I don't get ubber nervous once I'm on the verge but I do tend to over plan and need the person I'm meeting up with to be on the ball. Honestly I go into this sort of stealth mode and have to make sure that my head is in the game. Be honest. Be yourself and don't let'em see the

Pessimist Walking

2010-03-05T08:54:00.000-08:00

Back in the saddle... I will not even summarize my last date and the drama that ensued over it...pointless. Don't even read about it unless you want a good laugh at how some guy's just don't know how to respond to honesty. Oh and a girl with a life. Bah. I've decided to throw caution to the wind. Even when the nagging voice in my brain starts to yank me away from a profile because of distance

the dITch Factor

2010-03-01T13:08:00.000-08:00

Update are not my specialty. Oops, I forget. But this one is special. So this weekend was full to the brim with stuff to do. However with the rain pending I changed my Ikea plans to having lunch with my BFF from High School and decided to get some shiz taken care of before my night out with my Lil'Sis and Bro-in-Law.Rewind to Friday...I didn't hear from Mr. New Guy until late in the evening and

the IT Factor...meeting Mr. New Guy

2010-02-26T12:04:00.000-08:00

Alright so we all know I'm shallow or 'picky' as my Mom calls it and I've skipped out on meeting guys because of height difference...shoot me! I'm a woman with a ticking clock in her mind. It's the Devil's work I tell you. (Note: always blame it on the Devil.)But my meeting of Mr. New Guy as supposed to be casual and effortless because we connected really well via telephone convo and texting. He

Mr. New Guy on Deck

2010-02-24T09:54:00.000-08:00

Alright so the glutton for punishment I truly am has signed up for OKC and POF...(insert giggles and laughter here). I'm done with pay sites for now like the one's I've been on in the recent past. None of the science behind the alleged matching has produced anything remotely close to a friggin' Match! No I mean seriously it's bunky (Monkey created word) if you ask me. So I took the advice of my

Eulogy for Kick Ass Tio

2010-02-22T10:02:00.000-08:00

While my heart is filled with a deep sadness, it is a great honor to be here with all of you today to celebrate the life of one of God’s most cherished children, Claudio Rodarte. On behalf of his brothers and sisters, his nieces and nephews and his wife, Christina, the family thanks all of you from the bottom of our hearts and from the depths of our souls for spending this day with us to remember

the Order of Operations...for Daters.

2010-02-15T11:15:00.001-08:00

Back to the show...dating. It's all a show, right? While I've been suffering from a bit of the downers I feel like I need to do something to pull myself out of it. Argh.A few weeks ago? Days ago? There was an ubber neato convo on Twitter about dating and how Men seem to skip, very often, from the "Hi, Nice to meet you" chatter to the "What color are your unders?" interrogation. After @

the Loss

2010-02-15T11:15:00.000-08:00

Just a few weeks ago, my family was struggling with the reality that my Mom was indeed suffering from the ill effects of a Brain Tumor. I know, right? A friggin' tumor? All I could think was 'people don't actually get tumors'...it's the stuff of movies and crappy dramatic TV. But my very own Mom had been struggling to get out of bed and even keep food down over the last weekend of January. So, me

the Social Worker of Dating

2010-01-29T14:42:00.001-08:00

After my last post and the previous one about being a shallow Mama I've done some recon work on my dating habits...and tons of chatting with Mr. Office Friend (best I can do and I refuse to call him Broken Butt Guy) and Ms. Office mate, I've decided I just can't do it. I will not meet Mr. N (nor will I translate what that name really means).Yes, everyone deserves a chance at love but not

Jump the Line

2010-01-28T10:39:00.000-08:00

There have been men folk in my life who I have thought were the Great Love of my life and then sadly some kind of smash-bang-boom occured and the end came. Thus destroying the possibility of that Great Love fantasy. Boo!! Alas enter the dreaded word...Dealbreaker. Every so often there is the re-entry of the One who I push away repeatedly. He's sweet and sarcastic. He adores me for every little

Deep End & the Height Matters Update...

2010-01-27T12:03:00.000-08:00

In my most recent posts here and here I've been struggling a lot with personal issues...past and present. Work is tough. Dating sucks. Or not dating for that matter. Being a Mama is the only upside. Co-Parenting is my daily reminder that my life will never be the same. I could go on and on and on... But this weekend I moved into my new townhouse. My Dad-Man helped me out with the deposit and was

Workin' For a Livin'

2010-01-21T12:04:00.000-08:00

While I adore my jobby job it is driving the passion right out of my artsy fartsy brain. I have no energy leftover at the end of the day to pretend I can paint let alone write my stupid book that has been 'in progress' for 2 years. I'm drained. I manage so many aspects of this job and the team...My education lies heavily in writing and art history; and this job is nowhere near that field. I miss

the Dead Wait

2010-01-15T10:01:00.000-08:00

Last night I got to catch up with my dear friend @JaneErik musician extraordinaire and all around lovely woman. We've known each other since college roomie days. I mean this woman witnessed some of my most ridonkulous college behavior...like bleaching my died black hair, dating one too many wanna-be rockers & porn addicts, driving to Vegas on no sleep, driving to San Diego on no sleep & then

Pro 1st Dater

2010-01-14T09:34:00.001-08:00

In my spare time I've found the eHarmony dating advice, quizzes and info section of their Self Help site for be hilarious. There are some old adages on there that I thought were dead and buried with my Moms Wedding White Go-Go Boots...but I was SO wrong.As I've been wading through the site and find some of it helpful and some of it fodder for good chatter with my Gay BFF who thinks it's an awful

the Height Matters?

2010-01-11T10:42:00.000-08:00

As I move forward with my head first dive into the concrete pool is on-line dating I find myself not looking closely enough before I leap...anywhere.There are three matches sitting on deck and warming up but the one who appeared to be most promising not only lives far from me (about an hour away) he is also only 2 inches taller than me. Holy Jeebus. Really? I began Open Communication with said

He's just not that into...?

2010-01-08T16:37:00.000-08:00

Once upon a time I thought I had this dating junk under my belt...like some kind of dating Ninja. But, then I got left standing 3 months preggers thinking about the Ostrich Life I had fallen into.imageAnd then I realized that I know absolutely nothing about anything close to the 'normal dating' that most people work to achieve. I had fallen in love with my Middle School sweetie and never let him

my Solo Heartbeat

2010-01-03T21:14:00.000-08:00

For the first few visits to my OBGYN she said the baby's heartbeat echoed and it sounded like there was two. By the time I was 20 weeks she told me and the Bio that there was a 'solo heartbeat'. After re-reading my handwritten journal and reliving that day in my head I thought about those words.Solo Heartbeat...it means so many different things to me now.My bed is empty of any Monkey's who have

Snail's Pace

2010-01-03T18:10:00.000-08:00

There's something I know I have trouble with...taking it slow.So I'm making January 'Take it Slow' Month. Although my move-in date is January 15th, I've made a game plan to ensure that we move slowly. I've got a whole month to make it easier on the Monkey. He's never lived anywhere other than under this roof with my Folks and this is going to make things tough for his little mind. I've worked so

New Notes.

2009-12-31T12:12:00.000-08:00

As the Saga of my On-line dating continues and is just taking shape, I've decided I need to jump right back on the horse (so to speak). But with more caution and less gusto. I'm a gusto kind of girl...jump with both feet into whatever is right in front of me. Like I really want short hair right now, so I cut my own bangs. Sometimes I look before I leap but most times I just LEAP! My cautionary

the Morning After

2009-12-29T13:11:00.000-08:00

I've been drinking coffee all friggin' day...thanks to my late night. There is something painful and therapeutic about coming back to work after a terrible vacation break and knowing it will put things in perspective. I needed to be here this week. Despite my deep desire to extend my time away from the office. I love my job.My office mate embraces my crazy rambling and caffeinated lifestyle and

'tis time to say goodnight

2009-12-28T20:08:00.000-08:00

I don't have the energy to write a whole big blow out post...but HSD and I are on hiatus for the time being...whatever the f*%k that means.

the BUT might have it.

2009-12-26T22:22:00.000-08:00

In May of this year, I started on-line dating. After much thought (and kicking and screaming) I threw in the towel and decided I wasn't going to meet my Unconditional sitting on the fence between my old life and the one I've been trying to live for the past 4 years. I signed up for like every friggin' site...free, not free and some I don't remember. I moved away from thinking that being a Single