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"IN LOVE"

2011-03-09T08:27:00.000-08:00

What is love?

How does love feel?

How can I tell I'm in love?

This are some of my question about what i feel now.

I don't know how did it come to my mind asking my self this kind of questions? Hmmp

First WHAT IS LOVE?

well for me love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of the human existence" Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile"

How does love feel?

When I fall in love...

My entire world starts to shake... I feel I am sweating more...I am very excited...I can feel my faster and stronger heartbeat...blood flushes around my face.

I don't feel any possible pain, whatsoever ...just pure pleasure and joy.

Unknown, mysterious expectation. Strong desire for belonging and unification. I can sing and dance while walking on the street...I don't really care for the world around me. Everything is sooo, sooo easy to do. I

'm just waiting and longing for an opportunity to see Your face, to be close to You, to feel Your presence. Your aromatic smell is amazing and it just belongs to You and to nobody else. Sexuality looses its 'sporty/entertaining' meaning...it becomes gentle or more passionate 'making love'.

It makes you so vulnerable and opens you up to the greatest joy and the greatest pain. Your life is no longer your own because it allows someone to get inside you and touch your soul and control your emotions and take your heart hostage.

It makes you want to be your best and to give the best of you to that person. It allows you to love someone more than yourself and to put them first and foremost.

It makes you do the craziest things - things you would not normally do. It makes you lose all sense of reasoning or sensibility. It is a madness that you cannot escape even if you wanted to

How can I tell I'm in love?

Usually if you ask yourself “am I in love?’ it means you’re not, because when you’re fallen in love you already have no questions, this feeling is to obvious to leave any doubts. So it’s more reasonable to count the consequences of it than to look for the signs.

You can’t stop thinking of your object, he/she stays on your mind when you’re working, spending time with friends, jogging in the morning or relaxing in evening. The vision of your object is haunting your mind like a ghost and it never works when you tell yourself not to think of him or her. You remember all the time spent together, every single word, gesture and look.

Lovesickness can be compered with feather: you’re either flying high, all filled with enthusiasm and energy, that when people around start to wonder if you’re in love or you’re deeply depressed, indifferent, nervous, don’t see in life any bright sides. No third variant is possible. You sleep as a baby or suffer from insomnia. You shine and think you’re the best or feel miserable and unattractive. You are afraid to leave phone for a moment because you sure that’ll be the moment he or she will be calling.

Nothing makes a person happier when he/she realises that the feeling is mutual. People in love look better, feel better and attract more attention from the people of the other sex than they are in their normal state. When you are in love single look of your object, anything that gives you the slightest hope – and you’re already somewhere above sky.

Falling in love without reciprocity seems to be a tragedy and the end of the world. Of cause it’s not and it will pass but try to tell the one who is so unfortunately in love! Gloomy face, giving up all the everyday duties or on the opposite trying to get rid of the feeling in energetic activity – these are the signs of person in love either. Some people just can’t deal with the intense of emotions. People with unbalanced psychics can even have some suicidal ideas. But this cases are rare.

Falling in love makes you a dreamer. You see you both on the first date, long before it takes place, imagine the time you will spend together, some women start dreaming of a house and kids.

You are ready to work on yourself because your object is worth only the best. You may start a diet or go to a fitness club. Women buy tonnes of cosmetics, fill the wardrobe with new clothes. But when you’re sure that your object won’t be there you may start being rather negligent to your appearance because you’re simply not interested in anyone’s else attention.

You may start to annoy your friends with endless talks about what he ore she’s done or said. And you may notice that people around are looking at you with some mix of envy and compassion. A person in love always looks a little bit crazy and different to the others and we usually think that he/she’s totally mindless but “look at him/he” – he/she’s so very happy. When you’re in love your own problems don’t matter a thing, you don’t even notice them, but the one sad sigh of the object and the word starts ruining for you.

Falling in love is based on some chemical processes (not only on them of course), but they are the reason for the euphoria, trembling knees, heartbeating, temperature rises, loosing breath and mind at one time. These processes even change the smell of your body. In general they work like come psycho stimulators and you’re willing to see and to hear your object in search of a new portion of that sharp feeling. By the way each time we keep busy doing something we like (hobby or favourite occupation) the similar processes start in motion.

So if you find yourself in love enjoy that felling because pleasure not only makes us happy but gives us that happy look that attracts people and luck.

But this is the only thing I believe in love!!!!

Love is a tricky emotion. There are some things that feel like love but they are much too superficial to be the real thing. Real love takes time and doesn't happen over night.

Here are three things that people often confuse for love.

-->LUST

-->OBSESSION

-->REBOUNDING

LUST --> is the feeling that is often mistaken for love at first sight. Lust is an intense and sudden attraction to somebody you hardly know. It is mistaken for love because the attraction is so strong.

Lust can feel like love because the feelings of attraction are strong and all-consuming. The emotions stirred up by lust can feel very real but they are based on a fantasy. To love somebody you must know them well but many people fall in lust while they are still strangers. What people in lust fall for is a fantasy of what might be and reality can get lost in the excitement.

Overwhelmed by physical attraction people in lust can't keep their hands off of each other. They think about each other constantly and talk about one another all the time. Lust is a happy feeling brought on by passionate attraction. If you are inexperienced in matters of the heart it is very easy to mistake all that passion for love.

Lust differs from love like night differs from day. Lust happens in the early phase of a relationship when people don’t yet know each other. Lust is based on a fantasy, and the fantasy and reality don’t always mesh up. This is where lust runs out of steam.

Although physical attraction is definitely a key ingredient in any romantic relationship, love is more than just a physical longing. If a relationship is all about physical attraction it is based on lust. Really loving another person takes time and it can't be based on physical attraction alone.

OBSESSION--> are often mistaken for love because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be love if the other person is always on their mind. Obsession is similar to lust but it is much more misleading and destructive. While lust is often fleeting, fading as two people come to know each other better, obsession sticks around.

The more time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession the more intense the obsession can become. People in an obsessed state have a one track mind where the other person is concerned and they often lose touch with who they are as an individual. This loss of individuality creates a vicious circle of behavior where the obsessed person grows more and more Dependant on the other person to bolster their sense of self.

Even unrequited love, love that is not returned, can become an overwhelming obsession. When one person believes they are in a relationship that doesn't really exist, or when one person is more invested in an existing relationship than the other, the foundation for an obsession has been laid.

Real love is nurturing and helps people grow but obsession is debilitating. If you feel like you have lost yourself, if you are always striving to please your partner without them doing the same for you, and if you find yourself making all decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person you could be dealing with obsession.

REBOUNDING-->A rebound is a relationship that starts up very quickly after another relationship has ended. Rebounds are rarely based on love but are really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends.

Rebounding can feel like love for the simple reason that the people involved want to be in love. They are used to the security of being in love and more than anything else they want to feel that security again. They convince themselves that they are in love when they are actually missing the safety and comfort of the relationship they left behind.

If an old relationship keeps interfering with the progress of a new relationship it could mean that the relationship is a rebound. When somebody is on the rebound they are not entirely over their previous relationship. They may still be trying to work out unresolved issues from that relationship. Rebound relationships may feel like love but they are still impacted by unsettled feelings from the past.

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"FORBIDDEN LOVE"

2011-03-04T09:25:00.000-08:00

WHY?

When I look at you, I can’t help but remember

the first time I saw you. When you looked at me,
I felt a tingle overtake my body. I felt a warming to your boyish grin,
walking away from you, wishing that I had said more.

As time past by, I got to know you better.
I knew that there would be magic between us. When I close my eyes I see your face,
and calmness takes over my body. What I feel inside scares me to death.
My heart has never stirred like this before.

So many times I wanted to ask you if you have ever been adored,
given a woman’s heart and soul, and unconditional love.
But I didn't. My feelings for you are sacred.
It’s your mind and compassion that has captivated my heart, not your physical being.

I want to be the one that gives you true happiness. I want to spin your world,
showing you that life is so precious, worth living every moment of it in the present.
I truly believe that we have to live for today, because tomorrow may never come.

" I want to dedicate this to the man who made me think and realize what is FORBIDDEN LOVE" He is also the reason why I wrote and publish this to this blog site of mine"

Why Forbidden love?

It's because I don't believe in love at first sight. That what most everyone believes with their entire mind. I don't expect that this would happen on me, enlighten my mind to believe and see. Sometimes I wonder What and how would it be, how would I feel if I believe and see? Could it be the the feeling that makes everyone happy, or could it be the feeling that makes everyone lonely?

The time came that I meet this person, A guy that is admirable and sweet to be mentioned. I never thought that this guy makes me feel, the feeling that won't makes your love be peel.
Each and every second I always think of, what quality he had that attracted me most. Could it be his loveliness that heals my sadness, or could it be h is sweetness that heals my sickness? I fear to tell my feelings to the guy I love, maybe he will ignore me that might make my heart feel sad. Is this normal for a person who is really in love? That convince me to say my feelings at loud? Morning and night, sun sets and moon rise, I couldn't sleep staring at one sight. Sometimes there's one thing that enters my mind, that it could be love is a distraction in life? How I wish I could keep it a long time secret, that makes me comfortable and free from worries. I'll do my best to make him happy, without suspecting that I have feelings in secret. Keep dreaming that we are together, a lovely and sweet couple that could last forever. A dream hoping would come true. If granted, I hope it will last forever true. Jealousness reigns inside my heart, whenever she admires someone to be his part. My heart cries and want to get mad, But how could I? I'm just the person doesn't have the right. Time changed and passed in our lives, Put me apart to the guy on my mind hives.
Heart full of sadness don't know what to do, keep longing for the boy who is in love with who? I know that I'm not the type of girl he likes, an attractive quality of a girl he admires. I don't have any guts to make myself on him be appeal, but have a heart that loves seriously to make him feel. There's a time when he talked to me personally, asking " who would be the girl should kiss me and love me seriously?" My heart jumps and want to shout " I'm the one", But refused my will to stay silent and calm.

Through this letter i wrote I'd express my feelings, without mentioning names to remain as a secret. If he'll read this I hope he would know , how I love him and how special he is to make my love flow.

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2011-03-04T05:41:00.001-08:00

''Friendship''

2011-03-02T09:15:00.000-08:00

What is friendship?

Friendship Means...

You know you have a friend for life when they answer the phone at one in the morning because you can't sleep and have a lot on your mind, and they don't mind talking about nothing to get your mind off everything.
They spare some time to spend with you.
When you know that if something bad happened to you they'd be there for you, no questions asked.
When you can look at them when some thing is wrong and they know it just by the look in their eyes and all they have to do is offer a hug and you feel a thousand times better.
When you know that they'd never lie to you, and would never hurt you and if they did it would only be for your betterment.
They can make you laugh when skies are the darkest, and they're there with a good movie and some popcorn when you're totally depressed.
And even if you're a thousand miles apart, it doesn't matter because what you share with this friend is so much deeper then what lies on top that distance plays no role in your friendship.

Friendship is when they push when you need it, but never too hard; and stand back when the time is right but never to far.
And the true test of friendship is if you're willing to do it all back in a heartbeat.
When you're life is so much better because you know them, and they bring out the best that lies within.

But is there a time that comes to your mind that you will fall in love to your Friend? And willing to sacrifice the friendship you have for love? hmmmp

Going From Friends to Lovers?

Moving from friends to lovers with a man is not always easy. It can actually be very frustrating for some. It is not always easy to make this transition happen in most instances. In fact, it can make or break a relationship if a woman is not careful and does not do all the right things to make sure that it is moving in the right direction.

There are a few things that a woman should and should not do when she is trying to turn her friendship into much more with a man. She needs to think about this carefully and move at a comfortable speed for both people involved. I would say that this is not only scary for the man but also scary for the woman because she is not sure how he will react to her feelings of love.

The one thing that a woman does not want to do is use this as a time for a one-night stand. The last thing that a woman should do is breaking her friends heart. You have to be very careful so that you are not using this person to fulfill some sort of pleasure. You have to take their feelings into consideration so that you are keeping the friendship level there and just helping it to move along in the right direction a little better.

A woman should talk to the man first and see if she can get a feel for what they are thinking. Try to get inside their head and see if there is any way that the feelings are mutual. See if you can get a sense that he maybe having the same type of feelings for you and that this may be the right step to take. However, you may not want to be too pushy or seem too interested in this subject. You might just end up scaring him away from this entire subject.

I would recommend that you get closer to the man if you can. You want to make sure that you are getting to know him even more. You may think that you know just about everything now, but there is always so much more behind a man that you should know before you even think about dating him. Make sure that this is something that you really want to try because usually if things do no work out between a man and a woman it is hard for them to go back to being friends like they were before. You do not want to risk losing a great friendship over this.

Make sure that you are ready and when you are there has to be a time to sit down together and communicate feelings. You should never keep your feelings inside. You need to express them and get them out in the open no matter if he feels the same way or not. You should think about what you have to do in order to keep this thing under control. You may be excited but you have to know when you should and when you should not say anything. Make sure that the time is perfect and move on from there. This is he best way to get things moving along in the right direction just as you were hoping for.

Do not expect too much. You should not think that everything is going to go smoothly and that you are both going to be in this great relationship together. You need to be realistic. Think about positive things and hopefully they will go that way but always prepare you for the worst possible scene. You should be aware that it might not go as you have planned, but at least your feelings are out in the open.

Let the man know that if he feels the same way great, but if not, you still want to have them in your life. It is so important that you are not pushing them out of your life if things do go as you expect. Be patient and considerate of their feelings and you may be surprised at the happy ending that you get. It may be worth the time and all the anxiety that led up to this one perfect moment between you both.

How to Turn a Friend Into a Lover!!

Friendships are a wonderful thing. Friends stand by you in times of need, go with you to events, and generally put meaning into your life. Often, you may have friends of the opposite sex. After getting to know an opposite sex friend, you may find yourself feeling attracted to the friend and considering turning the friendship into a lover, and having a relationship.There are many things to think about before making this move, and then ways to make it happen once you've decided you wish to make a friendship into more. This article will explore these ideas of how to turn a friend into a lover.

Things You'll Need:
> good head on your shoulders

> good heart

> good intentions

> cautionary stance

> willingness to take risks

Decide what it is you are looking for in a relationship. Perhaps you want someone who is honest, reliable, and enjoys the same activities you do. Come up with the personality traits and characteristics that would make for a meaningful relationship for you.

Look at your friend and determine if your friend has these traits. It's important if you are going to take the risk to turn a friend into a lover that you first discover that your friend has what you are looking for. If the two of you aren't on the same page, and you move into being lovers, things will most likely end quickly. Then, you'll have a lost a potential friendship that could have lasted for a lifetime.

Find out what traits your friend is looking for in a romantic relationship. Your friend might want a girl who is very feminine but also can be a tomboy, and you see that you are like this. Maybe your friend is looking for someone who is very mannerly, yet you are rough around the edges. Think about these things first before deciding to bring up the talk of a romantic relationship.

Find out if there is a mutual attraction. More than just having traits and characteristics that you each desire, there has to be a spark. Although there may be people in sparkless marriages that last many years, it is always good to have chemistry. Otherwise, you're basically just friends who are married.

Look for signs that your friend wants more than a friendship from you. You might see that your friend sits very close to you when you sit down to watch a movie together, or that quick gazes at each other seem to last longer. The body language has gone from just whatever to the friend turning towards you and looking at you more often while you are talking.

Ask your friend how they would feel about becoming involved with a close friend. If your friend immediately says that there is no way they would entertain this, without a second thought, your friend probably isn't on the same page as you are. However, this doesn't mean you couldn't still take Step 7 and find out directly. It may be that your friend just hasn't thought about it and would be open to it. If your friend seems open to the idea, it might even be that the reason the friend is open to the idea is because the friend might be thinking of you in this way.

Come out and directly inquire as to whether your friend has ever thought of making things more than friends between the two of you. You could be nonchalant about it, and casually find out what your friend thinks about you, and whether there are any romantic feelings there. Or, you could straight out ask your friend if there are feelings of romance brewing.

Decide together that you might want to take things to the next level. Talk about the repercussions and advantages of becoming more than friends. Discuss how you would handle things if the relationship didn't work out, or you discovered that you really didn't have the feelings necessary to become lovers.

Ask the friend out on a date, or initiate the first step such as kissing. You already have places you go together, so find a way to let the friend know that this would be a date so you can try out taking things to the next level. Or, just gaze into the person's eyes, and then move in for the kiss! You can read body language to see if your friend is open to it. If you're sitting beside each other, and looking at each other, it could even just happen naturally without much effort on either of your parts if you're both at the point where you want things to move forward!

Tips & Warnings

The best way to start into a relationship with a friend is to be open and honest about everything as you proceed to the next level. Make sure both of you are comfortable in moving past friendship before you take that step.
Being friends with someone first can make a great relationship later. You already know the person and what to expect. However, sometimes, once you've been friends for a long time, it's hard to change things to romance. Be prepared that it just might be weird, or that it would take some time getting used to the change in the relationship status.
If you don't take the risk to find out if there are mutual feelings of attraction, you may never know. Your friend might be too shy to say something, or afraid of risking the friendship. But think how better things could be in the future if you are able to develop a relationship from a great friendship!
Make sure you really think hard and make a wise decision before turning a friend into a romantic relationship. Good friends are hard to find, and there's a good chance you'll lose the friendship if the relationship ends.
Be prepared for rejection if it turns out that your friend doesn't feel the same way about you. Don't let it jeopardize the friendship if the feelings aren't mutual.
Even though most friends have good intentions when moving to the next level, and promise to remain friends if things don't work out, it is often hard to go back to being just friends after there has been a romantic relationship. This is especially true if one person still wants the relationship and the other wants to go back to being just friends.

Do we have to debate why Friends turn into lover?

Either, they feel that being friends then lovers is bad, because what if the relationship doesn’t work. Or they feel that friend then lover makes the best relationships. I have not heard anyone that feels indifferent. So, I would like to discuss both sides of that equation.

I think friends make the best lovers if, you are truly friends. Two phrases used too loosely these days are “That’s my friend,” and “I love you.” Usually we call people friends that were truly only acquaintances. Acquaintances are people that we know about and get along with, but don’t truly know personally. We may even hang out with them. We may have met some family.

But we do not know the heart of this person.

What makes a friend anyway? There can be many definitions for this. But I will only stick with the basics, because this article is not to teach you how to choose friends. You will know what hurts a friend, and what makes them smile. You will know how they drink their coffee and that they are allergic to maple. You will know the small stuff about that person. And they will know that small stuff about you.

You will be inside their life with their family and friends. You will bond through constantly hanging out. Whether you did it at one time in your life or you are doing it now. A friend knows the essence of you and you know the same. It is what makes the relationship work as a lover.

Lots of times our so called “friends” are not friends at all. They are nice people. We don’t share our heart with them and they by all means don’t share their heart with us. We exchange stories, gossip, and talk politics. We hang out from time to time and nothing ever becomes “real.” We just have fun. That is an acquaintance to the heart.

Most time it is these “friends” that don’t make good lovers. We get into a relationship with them and we find out who they really are and our acquaintanceship is now lost. And we are sad, because at least we had something versus nothing before this train wreck of a relationship.

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The Climb''

2011-02-10T00:33:00.000-08:00

I can almost see it
That dream I am dreaming
But there's a voice inside my head saying
"You'll never reach it"

Every step I'm taking
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking

But I gotta keep trying
Gotta keep my head held high

There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb

The struggles I'm facing
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down
But no, I'm not breaking

I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I'm gonna remember most, yeah
Just gotta keep going
[- From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/m/miley-cyrus-lyrics/the-climb-lyrics.html -]

And I, I got to be strong
Just keep pushing on

'Cause there's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb, yeah!

There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Somebody's gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb, yeah!

Keep on moving, keep climbing
Keep the faith, baby
It's all about, it's all about the climb
Keep the faith, keep your faith, whoa

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''Heal My Broken Heart''

2011-02-08T08:32:00.000-08:00

How long will it be before I can get through my daily routine without feeling the wave of pain sweep over me, without sensing that knot in the pit of my stomach, and without dwelling on what went wrong?

Here are some of my secrets about being broken hearted:

A broken heart can cause such an intense reaction that you may feel your life has been completely stripped of meaning. Jobs, hobbies, and friends may no longer hold any joy. In fact, some even experience physical pain with a tight chest, nervous stomach, or terrible insomnia. “Time heals all wounds” is what we have all heard over the years, but do you really have to wait for time to heal these wounds? Absolutely not. There are steps you can take to alleviate the pain you feel. These steps were developed by people who have endured the pain of a difficult break-up pain and sought a better way to heal.

FIRST:

When Your Heart & Mind Disagree About The Break-Up

You are sitting with your cell phone staring at a text message you wrote to your ex hours ago. You debate whether to send it or not. You stare at your phone while your mind tells you to have more respect for yourself. You logically understand that sending the message is not going to make the situation any better – nor will it heal your pain. Then your heart enters the scene and overpowers your mind. Your heart says, “Go ahead, send it, you will feel better…temporarily at least.”The scenario represents one example of a misalignment between your heart and your mind that is a common occurrence after a break up. Every decision you make is determined by a combination of your logic and emotion. If these different elements that make you who you are happen to conflict, you will understandably feel conflicted and make decisions that reflect this turmoil.

The concept of alignment will help you understand why you may have been in a relationship that was not good enough for you. It will also help you understand how to use your logic to help heal your broken heart. Let’s look at some more examples of what happens when your heart and mind disagree with one another.

1 – During the Relationship

Your mind says, “I deserve more – this relationship is not right.”
Your heart says, “Stay, it will work out.”

If you were in a relationship where it was obvious that you were not receiving the love, respect, and engagement that you deserve, then your mind was probably nudging you during the relationship and asking you, “Why are we still here?” You remained in that relationship for longer than you should have because your heart believed that your mate and relationship could change.

Your heart believed that it was better to be in a relationship that was mediocre than to be alone. Your heart was saying to you, “Hey, give it a chance, it’s not that bad.” Your mind and heart were not aligned and this probably led to fighting, to an internal struggle, and eventually the break up. Often when we want more from a relationship than we are getting, we continually try to get ‘more’ by attempting to change the person we are with or by forcing other changes in the relationship. This is generally a destructive path.

2 – During the Relationship

Your heart says, “This relationship is everything I need.”
Your mind says, “There are red flags here that I shouldn’t ignore.”

When one partner in a relationship is not happy, they usually provide indications either verbally, in the form of passive-aggressive behavior, or via non-verbal actions of their discontent. If you are the other partner that is madly in love, you do actually receive the red flags as signals in your mind. Unfortunately, your heart overpowers your logic in this case. Your heart speaks so loudly about how in love you are and how perfect everything is, that you drown out the messages your mind has received.

Eventually, after the break up, it is easier to see the red flags were present in your relationship. You also may realize that some of the reason you were deeply attached to your ex was because you loved the idea of being in love. If you relate to this scenario, remember, you deserve a love with equal give and take. Reciprocity is essential to the success of a relationship and you should never have to convince someone to love you as much as you love them.

3 – After the Break Up

Your mind says, “I am going to be okay. In fact, before long, I’m going to feel like myself.”
Your heart says, “The pain is excruciating, I don’t think I will ever feel at peace again.”

After your break up, if you sit quietly and listen to your inner voice, you will hear hope inside. This hope is telling you that you will feel better, that you will live life once again with passion, and that you will experience love once again. The information you are being sent from your mind is based on your history and the fact that you have overcome obstacles in the past. Your mind remembers the times where you have faced adversity and have come out on the other side stronger and brighter. Your heart is speaking out of fear; listen to your mind – it has a strong basis for giving you hope.

Listen to words from friends, family, and counselors even if they do not feel like they are helping to heal your broken heart. Every single word helps. Listen to every word someone with experience has to tell you. Up until now, we haven’t discussed the subconscious mind. Positive messages to your subconscious mind can overpower negative ones from your heart. Everything you are reading and listening to about healing is entering your subconscious and will help you heal faster.

SECOND IS:

In Love and Heartbreak, Age Matters

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For someone who writes about relationships, it is pretty risky to make the statement that age matters; however, I believe in speaking the truth. I also believe in voicing the concerns of the those that visit this site. From this vantage point and with respect to love and heartbreak, age definitely matters.

Here is the reason why: we each have a grand plan for our life based on age. It goes something like this:

•    In my teens, I’ll get into a good college or get a good job.
•    In my early twenties, my career will start to take off.
•    By my mid-twenties, I will meet the person of my dreams.
•    In my thirties, I will be married and have 2.2 beautiful children.
•    In my forties, I’ll be running the company for which I’ve been working.
•    In my fifties, I’ll reflect back on my life and my grown children and smile.
•    In my sixties, I’ll retire and travel the world.

Sound familiar? Give or take a few years and interchange a couple of details and these types of age confined dreams are quite universal. So what happens when things don’t go as expected?What happens when instead of two kids in our thirties, we end up with our heart in two pieces? We feel broken; not only is our heart shattered, so too is our self-perception.

It is critical to understand that the pain one feels after a break up is only partially due to the separation from our mate. What causes equal, if not greater agony, is dealing with our crushed dreams. Our dream to be a certain age and have accomplished certain things has been stolen. To overcome the challenge of heartbreak based on age related fears, we must face them head on.

Hope: I have never, ever seen a case where someone who has embraced the changes in their life did not end up happier. You will too. Keep in mind that your past relationship(s) were not a waste of time. For many, they provided growth, sometimes beautiful children, and although it may not seem so, some good memories. Everything that has happened has made you who you are today and ahead awaits an even greater experience.

Remember: Please, please, please do not restrict your dreams. Your visions do not wish to be bound- especially to the confines of age. Age only matters if we allow it to matter. Dream bigger. Dream brighter. Set your dreams free today.

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''How to Make Friends''

2011-02-08T05:22:00.000-08:00

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Be yourself/ be true to yourself. A true friend will like you for who you are, not who you pretend to be.
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Spend more time around people. If you want to make friends, you first need to put yourself out there somehow in order to meet people. Friends seldom come knocking on your door while you sit at home playing computer games.
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Join an organization with people who have common interests. You don't necessarily have to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them. In fact, some of the most rewarding friendships are between two people who don't have much in common at all, but if you like a specific topic, try searching for just a location. It's a great way to meet new local people! Social networking sites such as Facebook, twitter and My Space are great way to meet new people and learn more about the people you meet.
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Join a sports team. A common misconception about this is that you have to be really good at playing a particular sport in order to make friends with others on the team, but not all teams are so competitive. As long as you enjoy the sport and support your teammates, joining a local team with a laid-back attitude could be a great way to make new friends.
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Volunteer. Volunteering is a great way for people of all ages to meet others. By working together you build bonds with people, and you might meet others who have a passion for changing things the way you do—a common cause.
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Talk to people. You can join a club, go to school, or go to church but you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to be social, and any time you talk to someone, you have a chance at making a lasting friend. You can talk to anybody: the clerk at the video store, the person sitting next to youon the bus, or the person in front of you on the lunch line. Don't be too picky. Most conversations will be a dead-end of sorts--when you may never talk to that person again, or you just remain acquaintances--but once in a while you'll actually make a friend.
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Make eye contact and smile. If you have an unfriendly countenance, people are less likely to be receptive to your friendship. Be approachable by not squinting (get some glasses), looking bored, frowning or appearing blankly deadpan, folding your arms or hanging out in a corner; such habits may make you look troubled or disinterested.
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Start a conversation. There are many ways to do this; a comment about your immediate environment (The weather is a classic: "At least it's not raining like last week!"), a request for help ("Can you help me carry a few boxes, if you have a minute?" or "Can you help me decide which one of these is a better gift for my mom?") or a compliment ("That's a nice car." or "I love your shoes."). Follow up immediately with a related question: Do you like this warm weather? What kinds of gifts do you normally buy for your mom? Where did you get shoes like that?
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Make small talk. Keep the conversation light and cheery. Even if you're complaining about something, make sure it's something you're both dissatisfied with, and emphasize the positive—how such a situation can be avoided in the future, or alternatives. Bounce a few words back and forth for a little bit. Many conversationalists say that it is good to follow a 30/70 (30% talking, 70% listening) pattern during small talk when possible.
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Introduce yourself at the end of the conversation. It can be as simple as saying "Oh, by the way, my name is...". Once you introduce yourself, the other person will typically do the same. Remember his or her name! If you show that you remembered things from your past conversation(s) with the person, not only will you look intelligent but he or she will see that you were paying attention and are willing to be a true friend.
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Initiate a get-together. You can chat your heart out but it won't get you a friend if you don't open up the opportunity for another conversation or meeting. This is especially important if you meet someone who you aren't otherwise likely to meet again. Seize the day!
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If you've discovered that the person you're talking to has a common interest, ask him or her more about it and, if appropriate, whether they get together with others (in a club, for example) to pursue this interest. If so, this is a perfect opportunity to ask about joining them. If you clearly express interest (when? where? can anyone come?) they'll probably invite you. If you have a club, band, church, etc. that you think they might enjoy, take the opportunity to give them your number or email address and invite them to join you.
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Ask them out for lunch or coffee. That will give you a better opportunity to talk and get to know each other a little bit better. A good way to extend yourself is to say: "Hey, well, I've got to go, but if you ever want to talk over lunch or coffee or anything like that, let me give you my number/e-mail address." This gives the person the opportunity to contact you; they may or may not give you their information in return, but that's fine. Maybe they don't have time for new friends—don't take it personally! Just offer your contact info to whoever seems to be potentially a good friend, and eventually somebody will get in touch.
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Don't do anything to pressure someone into being friends with you. Never chide acquaintances for failing to invite you to a party, for example; don't call someone repeatedly or stop by uninvited (unless you have established that stopping by unannounced is o.k.); and refrain from overstaying your welcome anywhere. In general, take friendship slowly, and don't try to force intimacy to grow quickly; the move from acquaintance to friend can take a long time. It's understandable to want more of a good thing, but try to err on the side of less. If you are not sure about the pace of your new friendship, check in with your friend and ask directly. Too much, too fast can be scary or intimidating, and not everybody is able to say "Slow down..." - instead, they may run the other way!
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Be a good friend. Once you've started spending time with potential friends, remember to do your part (e.g. initiating some of the activities, remembering birthdays, asking how the other person is feeling) or else the friendship will become unbalanced and an uneasiness or distance is likely to arise.
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Be reliable. If you and your friend agree to meet somewhere, don't be late, and do not stand them up. If you're not going to make it on time or make it at all, call them as soon as you realize it.Apologize and ask to reschedule. Don't make them wait for you unexpectedly; it's rude, and it is certainly not a good way to launch a potential friendship. When you say you'll do something, do it. Be someone that people know that they can count on.
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Be a good listener. Many people think that in order to be seen as "friend material" they have to appear very interesting. Far more important than this, however, is the ability to show that you'reinterested in others. Listen carefully to what people say, remember important details about them (their names, their likes and dislikes), ask questions about their interests, and just take the time to learn more about them. You don't want to be the guy or girl that always has a better story than anyone else or that changes the subject abruptly instead of continuing the flow of conversation. These people appear too wrapped up in themselves to be good friends--"one-ups-man-ship" is a put down.
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Be trustworthy. One of the best things about having a friend is that you have someone to whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide from the rest of the world. The key to being a good confidante is the ability to keep secrets, so it's no secret that you shouldn't tell other people things that were told to you in confidence. Before people even feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust. Be honest about yourself and your beliefs, and don't gossip about others or spread rumors or they will think you like stories better than friends.
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Be there for the person. You've probably heard of fair-weather friends. They're the ones who are happy to be around you when things are going well, but are nowhere to be found when you really need them. Part of being a friend is being prepared to make sacrifices of your time and energy in order to help out your friends. If a friend needs help with an unpleasant chore, or if he or she just needs a shoulder to cry on, be there.
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Choose your friends wisely. As you befriend more people, you may find that some are easier to get along with than others. While you always give people the benefit of the doubt, sometimes you realize that certain friendships are unhealthy, such as if a person is obsessively needy or controlling towards you, constantly critical, or introducing dangers or threats into your life. If this is the case, ease your way out of the friendship as gracefully as possible. Preoccupy yourself with other things, such as a new volunteer opportunity, so that you can honestly say that you don't have enough time in your schedule to spend time with them (but don't substitute their time for time with other friends; they may notice and become jealous, and more drama will ensue). Cherish those friends you make who are a positive influence in your life, and do your best to be a positive influence in theirs.
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"Friends of a Friend"If you have a friend who knows some good people that you aren't acquainted with, ask them to invite those people to hang out with the two of you. It is a great way to make some friends who have common interests.
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Reach out to others.Try to be open to new experiences and relationships.
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Participate in classes, clubs, or volunteer organizations. These activities will bring you into contact with other people who could be great friends.
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Do not be too touchy at first. It could scare people away.
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There is the perfect friend out there, waiting to be discovered. Just believe and the world will respond.
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Have a clean face and try to look the best you can
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Let the friendship unfold naturally. Don't force the friendship because they won't be your true friend if you cannot be yourself around them.

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Learn to entertain. Create a reason why people would want to come over to your place. Offer something to people that they don't already have just to create a meeting atmosphere. While you don't want a pool or video game console to be the only reason people come over, it will give you an opportunity to socialize with people and for them to get to know you better. Go online and find people that like to go swimming and have cookouts. Invite new people over you feel you can trust and just be friendly. Make this a group event so that you're not the only person there. Be sure to have some friends there that you already know to help you break the ice.

Don't be friends with mean people.

Along with learning to entertain, try to be unique to attract attention. When you have something interesting that people can learn from you, they tend to stick around and ask you questions. This is usually the case when you know a lot about something popularly known yet complex, something controversial, or something that could just spark a big debate. Some of the most interesting people you meet may have a large knowledge base when it comes to things like politics, certain religions, or strange topics like astrology and divination.

You don't have to be a superstar to be fun. You don't even have to do cartwheels. You do need to be positive and friendly, however, so that people feel good when they're around you.

From the very first conversation you have with someone, you should use body language to convey that you are affable, non-threatening, and approachable. Smile frequently, laugh often, and make eye contact. In your words, be confident, but don't be cocky, condescending, or mean-spirited.

In general, the Internet is a great place to make friends, but... it's also easy to invest a lot of time online with someone you think of as a friend, but then you never meet because of time and distance. Expect to have to sift through a lot of people online before you find the right one for you. Make yourself beautiful, get a makeover.

Breathe. Breathe in, breathe out.

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2011-02-08T02:49:00.000-08:00

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''My Mother Dear''

2011-02-07T09:41:00.000-08:00

Appreciating and cherishing the most important woman in our lives. The woman who hides in the name, Mother.

The woman behind our lives

Are you close with your father?

Lucky for you, dear. You might wonder why on earth I’m saying you’re lucky that you’re close with your father – I’m not close with my father ever since I was a kid. As a result, I’m extremely close with my mother. How can I describe my mother? She’s very funny, to the extent that even if you had a bad day, with just one snap of her jokes, you’ll crack a laugh. She even tries to make her own jokes, which is good. She’s kind of poetic when it comes to words. She’s good at cooking, as in very well when it comes to cooking. Even if I’m not hungry, I’ll dig in to her prepared viand because they taste better than those in restaurant and I get to eat them for free! My mother has the smile of woman who wants to protect her children all the way. She’s my personal hero when it comes to this world. You know, like the light that shines upon the darkness in the night kind of hero.

My mother loves talking. There are times where the both of us talk about life, love, family – you name it, she’ll talk about it. I don’t know why I’m so close with her, it’s like she’s both my mother and my sister, although I have younger sisters. When she smiles, it’s like I’m seeing myself in the coming years. She always tells my sister and me that we should strive hard when it comes to school and that being indolent will not make you happy. I agree with her when she says that but sometimes life’s so unfair. So, we end up being a couch-potato all day. I love it when she’s angry at us and I make fun of her and she’ll be like, “You idiot! Go, get up and wash the dishes!” she looks very cute when she’s angry, like a child that wants to have her playmates attention. But after all the sermons and lectures, she’ll ask us what we want and she’ll buy it as soon as the money lands on her palms. She’s too kind for us, that’s why sometimes; I give the love she gives us.

I REALLY LOVE MY MOTHER!

COS

Our mother is truly a Gift of God

'' HOW TO HAVE A VALENTINE DATE''

2011-02-04T05:22:00.000-08:00

Flowers

Chocolates

Romantic Dinner Date

Jewelries

Lingeries

Destinations

Gifts

All of this are meaningful when we talked about Valentines day!

'' But how can this be meaningful if you don't have what we call VALENTINO OR VALENTINA''

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How to Get a Date on Valentine’s Day

Be sweet. This is a no-brainer. You just have to be sweet to that special someone, and chances are he/she will say yes when you ask him/her out. Show that your prospect is important to you, and give him/her stuff that you wouldn’t usually give, like candies, flowers, cards, your left ear, a dog’s severed head, your spleen, etc. I’m sure your prospect will notice.
Leave notes. Ok, this is a part of being sweet, but this has got to be in its own entry. Leave notes everywhere. Put one in his/her bag, post one on the windshield, put one on the desk. Heck, plaster the room with Post-Its. It would even be better if you post it outside for everyone to see. And make sure the notes contain something subtle like “I want to marry you and have kids with you. Now. If you don’t want to, I would grab you from behind and disembowel you in front of everyone.” Then sign it in your own blood. I’m sure he/she’d keep an eye out for you from now on.
Be there. How can you be your prospect’s prospect if you’re not visible? So stop stalking him/her inside hiding that garbage can near his/her front door, show yourself! Be there for him/her, especially when he/she most needs it. And I’m not just talking about helping him/her out when he/she is sad, there’s more to that! Helpully hand his/her soap in the shower (surprise him/her, it works).When he/she is shopping for underwear, suggest the one that you most want to see him/her in. Roll your eyes and drool for good measure.
Talk. Of course being a good conversationalist is always a plus. Nobody wants a boring date. So talk! Tell him/her anything under the sun! Be interesting, of course. Your stamp collection would only elict a yawn. Tell him/her about the time you won that nose picking contest. Or that collection of his/her nail clippings that you keep under your bed.
Listen. Don’t just blabber, listen too! Keep your ears open, you might just pick up a clue or two about what your prospect wants! Maybe he/she wants you to loosen the ropes that you tied him/her to the chair with, or he/she wants to call the police already. Just don’t gag your prospect.You won’t be able to hear what he/she has to say.

That’s it! just follow these tips, and I assure you that you won’t fail to get date for the big V-Day! Enjoy!