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Romance and Marriage: Keep Love Alive In Your Marriage !!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 19:21:00 +0000

In The Beginning of a Relationship, love seems to have a life of its own. Without much effort, you feel like you are on top of the world. You catch yourself smiling and laughing often, and feeling warm inside whenever you are with your loved one. Everything and everyone suddenly appears better through the rose-colored glasses of love. This euphoric feeling does not last forever, however. After the first year of marriage, the day to day activities of being married, working in a job, raising a family, buying and maintaining a home, etc., all take their toll, and romance takes a back seat.

Love has to be worked on, just like a gardener with his garden. Although he has planted the seeds, and expects the sun and rain to do most of the work, he still has to pull the weeds out of the garden, and fertilize it, and water it if there isn't enough rain. That is the same with a healthy, loving relationship. When Love becomes a priority in a marriage, it becomes part of one's daily life, and is taken care of, and will reward you by growing into a more mature, mellow, committed feeling, and when tested, rises up to meet the challenge. How does one keep love alive in a marriage?

Make Time

You need to designate quality time with your loved one. Don't take it for granted that he/she will always be there when you want them. Remember all those dates you took when you were courting? Now, it's not so easy. There's usually someone else making demands on him/her – whether it's the children with their homework, or the boss expecting you to work late hours, or even an Elderly Parent that requires assistance. Also, it now might require finding a baby-sitter, or juggling the time with another activity that might take precedence. Whatever happens, make time for each other. Also, make time to hug and/or kiss each other often. You'll be glad you did. The time you spend together will re-energize you and make you feel good for the rest of the day.
If you can't get away, you can still set a date at home, after the children are asleep. The important thing is to have fun together. Here are a few things you can plan to do at home together:

1. Physical Intimacy, might put some soft music in the background, maybe even dance together.
2. Pour a favorite drink, make an ice cream sundae, or grab some munchies, and have fun talking with your loved one.
3. Play a favorite board game or card game, anything that makes you enjoy yourselves.
4. Make popcorn and watch a favorite video.

This is not the time to solve lifes problems or issues. If there are any lurking issues in the background (and these may be keeping you from enjoying yourself), then sometimes you just might have to talk about it first, get it out in the open in a loving environment, then continue with your plans. Often, positive energy is tied up within us when a problem or issue has not been resolved.

Use these times to tell him/her how special they are to you (how intelligent, how thoughtful, how loving, how caring, etc.).

What is Romance?

Romance is the opportunity to show your loved one how special he/she is to you. It means taking the time for them, and making time, even if you don't have it. It doesn't mean thinking only about yourself, or having only your needs met. It means putting the other person first. If your spouse doesn't do things for you, then show him/her by gently pointing out what you like. If you like Flowers for your birthday, and you haven't gotten flowers, then let them know, particularly when he/she asks you what you would like. Don't think they can read your mind, let them know.

Also, Here Are Some Other Ideas to Spice Up Your Romance:

1. Do small acts of kindness, give him/her flowers, or a little gift, or write a poem, etc.
2. Say Thank you and "I Love You" often.
3. Be considerate of their feelings, etc.
4. Take long walks together anywhere.
5. Share jokes at mealtime. Laughter is a great way to share ones love.
6. Visit a museum, visit community festivals, tour a new site, or attend a lecture together.

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

Over time, we learn how to read our spouse. Their behavior, their actions, are important clues that alert us to how they are feeling. Often, we think we know what they are thinking, and we become sloppy, and don't talk about it, or they don't bring it up.

For Example, if he had a bad day at the office, and comes home snapping at the children and being tense, the last thing to do is to take it personally. Invite him to relax, as dinner is prepared, then after hes eaten, ask him how his day was. Sooner or later, the truth will come out, and you will learn what happened. You need to be a responsive listener, and not criticize your spouse, for he will surely clam up. The last thing he wants to hear is criticism.

Other Signs That Can Bring on a Spouses Anger/Tenseness:

Hunger: If your spouse hasn't eaten for awhile, not only their stomach growls, but they growl also. Keep your husband well fed (but not overfed).

Criticism: Try and avoid criticizing your partner. If there is something bothering you, then voice it in a way that you don't point fingers or blame him/her. Try not to keep distance between you. Communicate your feelings, how his/her action affected you, and how you were hurt by that action. Never, ever criticize your spouse in public. An apology is forthcoming, no matter how right you thought you were.

Tiredness: If your husband has been working all day, and you ask him to do a bunch of chores when he gets home, don't expect him to thank you. See if you can spread the chores out, so they include the weekend. Planning ahead helps here.

Take Care of Your Body

Although you may not look like you did when you were dating years ago, you can take measures to look just as good if not better.

1. Physical Wellbeing - make sure you stay in shape, eat the right foods, and dress nicely. All these actions not only get more compliments your way, they make you feel good about yourself, so that you can be more confident in yourself.

2. Spiritual Wellbeing - don't neglect this powerful aspect of life. Pray, go to church, believe. Studies have shown that families that pray together, stay together.

3. Mental Wellbeing - if you are a stay-at-home mother, find some good books to read, or read the newspaper or magazines. This will allow you to keep abreast with interesting topics, and will provide your spouse an interesting partner to discuss life issues with.

Don't Substitute

Don't substitute anyone or anything else for your loved one. Don't go to a coworker or a friend, and share Intimate Secrets, because you may be betraying your loved ones trust. Don't watch television or be on the computer all the time, when you could be spending quality time with your loved one. Don't spend all your time with the children, ignoring your spouse, because your husband or wife should be number one on the list. If people, organizations, or children clamor for your attention, put your spouse first, and then them. When you put your spouse first, you'll notice you won't need to be going to all these other people for emotional support. You'll also notice you'll be having more fun with the person you'll spend the rest of your life with. Don't underestimate the importance of Love in a Marriage. Cherish and nurture it, and you will have made the best investment in your life.

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Single Parent Dating: Who Comes First, Your Kids Or Your Partner?

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 21:06:00 +0000

I'm working my way through the book "The Rules of Love" by Richard Templar. In it, Templar outlines what he feels are the rules everyone must follow in order to find and keep a happy Romantic Relationship. Some of his rules are contentions, but none more so (in my opinion) than #46 - Your Partner Is More Important Than Your Kids.

More important, you say? Tell that to the hundreds of thousands of single parents around the world today, and see what their reaction is. I'll hazard most of them would blanch at this suggestion, much less agree with it. And frankly, the first thing that came to mind for me when I read #46 was a horrible story where a single parent did rank their partner over their kids: a woman - whose boyfriend was in jail for stalking her and uttering threats - was told by one of her children that they didn't like said boyfriend. The Mom in turn defended the boyfriend's actions, saying he was a good, solid man. Not the best of thought processes for sure, but I'll hazard many single parents think of a similar type of situation when discussing who has priority in their lives.

As I read Templar's rule however, I softened a bit. He wasn't saying that Single Parents Dating shouldn't spend less time with their kids. Rather, he says that a single parent's children will take up the brunt of one's time. I quote:

"... it's Crucial that your partner is the primary focus of your life, even while your responsibility and time commitment to the children is greater. I'm not saying you should love them best because there's enough love for everyone and it's a very different kind of love. But never lose sight of the fact that having children at home is temporary (albeit long term temporary) whereas your partner is for life."

Templar is obviously speaking of folks who have made a lifelong Commitment to one another. But I'm not sure if what he's suggesting should apply to everyone... or maybe he has a point. Should our partners - once we've hit that magical dating period where the kids are involved and everyone's lives are deeply intertwined - be our #1 focus to keep a dating relationship burning bright? Or are the rules of love not the same as the Rules of Dating?

Templar is obviously speaking of folks who have made a lifelong Commitment to one another. But I'm not sure if what he's suggesting should apply to everyone... or maybe he has a point. Should our partners - once we've hit that magical dating period where the kids are involved and everyone's lives are deeply intertwined - be our #1 focus to keep a dating relationship burning bright? Or are the rules of love not the same as the Rules of Dating?

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Lesbian Dating: How To Meet A Lesbian Women !!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 18:14:00 +0000

As a Lesbian Women, it Can be Hard to Meet Others Through The Natural Course of Our Lives. Happily, There Are Now Many Opportunities to Contact Other Lesbian Women Online.

Dating, friendship and relationships often depend on being in the right place ay the right time. But so many of us live in small communities which are predominately heterosexual. Often, we like to keep our personal lives to ourselves, not wanting to be seen out in bars and clubs. Even though things for gay women have got significantly better over the last decade, some of us are still not out to our family.

So how on earth do we go about meeting other Lesbian Women when we have so many restrictions placed on us? The internet is a good place to start, and it is easier than you think to get to know other gay women online.

On the internet, there are no restrictions. You can talk to whoever you like, and get to know them. Most of us are now very familiar with using the net to make our lives easier. Why not make your love life easier too?

Why be lonely and isolated when there are so many women out there in the same position as you? If you are thinking about getting involved with online dating, then now is the time to do it. Don't keep putting it off because you feel shy or self-conscious. The site I have mentioned below is full of information to help you get started. Read the articles and visit some of the sites to see how user friendly they are.

We are fortunate to have so much choice. You do not have to have a fixed agenda about what you are looking for. Online Dating is fun, and you never know who you will meet as a lover, friend or lifelong partner.

You can start Chatting with other Lesbian Women Online right away, with the click of your mouse. What could be simpler? I know many couples who have met online. Some relationships have flourished, and some have not.

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Social Networking: How To Meet Girls On Myspace!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 17:58:00 +0000

Myspace, the incredibly popular network website, is going strong these days, despite tough competition from sites like Facebook and Twitter.

There are over 200 million people on Myspace. That's good news for you, as it is perfect for meeting women to date! Even better than most sites!

Why is this?

Because not only is MySpace free to use (a feature which ensures many, many women will use it), but MySpace actually augments, and to a certain extent, replaces the social lives of the women who use it!

What I mean by this is, women who use MySpace regularly depend on it to keep in touch with friends and fulfill their social needs. A busy girl with no time for dating or going out with friends can still feel connected to people by logging onto MySpace, chatting, sending emails, and seeing updates from their friends.

Not only that, women on MySpace tend to skew younger, which means the average age for girls who use MySpace is between 18 and 30. This actually makes meeting the women on MySpace a much easier task, because many of the women you'll be contacting aren't as jaded as women who've been playing the dating game for years.

On top of everything else, there's a huge advantage to using MySpace to meet women because people don't think of it as a "dating site," therefore you'll find lots of girls aren't expecting guys to contact them and try and pick them up.

This means the barrier to meeting women is far less than a site that's more of a "meat market," like Match.com. The reason for this is because girls on dating sites get deluged with emails from guys trying to "get with them." On MySpace, girls typically only get emails from people they know.

So here are a few easy steps you can follow to start meeting beautiful women on MySpace...

STEP 1: Create A Profile

Creating a profile on MySpace is free and very easy to do. In fact, the whole process will take you less than five minutes to complete.

STEP 2: Fill Out Your Profile

Once your profile is created, you'll want to put information about yourself on it. Think of it like creating a profile for a dating site. You'll want to have a flattering picture of yourself, an interesting headline that will grab people's attention, and some information about yourself and the type of woman you are looking to meet.

Be sure to include your interests in your profile. This is a great way to give people conversation topics to chat with you about after checking out your profile. You can also personalize your profile by changing the theme of your layout, adding music you like, adding videos you enjoy, and a whole host of other things to make your profile more personal.

STEP 3: Add People You Know As Friends

After your profile is created, invite some people you know to become friends with you. Having a small number of friends helps you look more "normal." It's inadvisable to begin contacting women right away without having any friends yet, since this makes it look like you're just trying to use the site to meet chicks (something that's actually a turn off for most girls on MySpace!)

MySpace makes this easy by accessing your address book and sending out friend requests via email. But be sure to only send an invite to people you feel comfortable letting see your profile! You may want to uncheck coworkers and the like.

STEP 4: Search For Women

MySpace has a great search feature that allows you to look for exactly the type of people you'd like to be "friends" with. Just click the Search button, but be sure to use the "Advanced Search" option. This will allow you to search based on gender, age, race, height, and most importantly, location!

I typically like to search for women, age 18-30, who are interested in dating, within 10 miles of my zip code. You'll get a LOT of results, especially if you live in a large city. Browse the pictures and see who you find attractive. Then check out the profile pages.

STEP 5: Contact Women

Once you find a profile you like, click the button to send them an email. This is done through MySpace's system. Your email should be short, sweet, and most of all - fun and interesting!

Sending an email that just says "Hey what's up?" won't get you anywhere. Instead, make your email one to two paragraphs, commenting on something about her and how well you think you'd get along.

So Sending an Email like:

"Hey, I was just checking through MySpace and stumbled across your profile. You seem totally awesome! Seriously, if you were living in the 80's, you'd probably be ranked up there with Def Leopard and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, that's how awesome your profile is, lol. Anyway, we should chat. Email me back and tell me what your favorite 80's movie is, and we'll compare notes."

As you can see, the response above is short, interesting, somewhat humorous, and bound to get a girl's attention. Contact as many women as you like using this method!

STEP 6: Follow Up

You'll find most women you contact will begin to respond to you. Continue to email back and forth, and even add them as a friend if you like them. Allow them to get to know you. Once enough rapport has been built up, you say you're bored with email and ask them for their number so you can text them.

Telling them you're going to text them as opposed to call them is important, because then they'll be sure to give you their cell phone number, and they're not committing to have to talk to you on the phone. Most girls will be willing to share their cell phone number if you approach them like this.

Once you have the number, start texting, ask when a good time to chat is, and then call them up at the appropriate time to set up a date, or a get-together. It's really that simple to meet women on MySpace. And you'll find the quality of women, in terms of looks, is much better than most paid dating sites!

Here are some other quick tips to help you use MySpace to get dates...

I. Download MySpace Messenger so you can chat with your friends and other women when you're online. IM sessions go a long way towards establishing rapport!

II. Look through your friend's friends to find girls you like. Meeting through someone you both mutually know can make the transition to romance much easier than approaching a girl you don't know.

III. Dating is a numbers game, so try and meet as many women through MySpace as possible to maximize your chances of finding a winner.

IV. Ask women you meet throughout your life if they're on MySpace, and get their email so you can add them as friends. This is a great way to keep in touch and follow up with women you're interested in.

V. Don't fret if you blow it with one girl. Think about the numbers on Myspace. There will be other chances to meet girls and get it right.

Meeting Women on MySpace can be fun, easy, and most of all - Effective! Instead of wasting your time on paid dating sites, give MySpace a shot and see what kind of results you can get.

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Looking for True Love!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 18:52:00 +0000

TRUE LOVE! Most of us search high and low for true love in that one ideal relationship. We struggle over it and with it, yearn for it, craft books, music, and poems about it—all without a clear understanding of what we seek or why we want it so desperately.

We’re not even sure what love is. How do we define it? The definition of love is as unique and as varied as every individual who experiences it. That’s a big part of the problem. Love feels different for each person. So how do we tell if the one we love actually returns the favor? After all, our loved one may offer us love that does not quite feel like what we know as love.

To clear up at least some of the confusion, let us establish a basic definition for true love. The truest, purest love is unconditional. Such love is also the simplest form of love because it has no hooks, no standards, no expectations, no conditions attached to it whatsoever. No complications, no hidden clauses or agendas, no restraints or exceptions.

Unconditional love is true love, and unconditional love is healing and uplifting—the ultimate source of all life. True/unconditional love sustains and nurtures life, joy, peace, and freedom. That is why we look so hard for true love. Deep in our souls, we long to be free, loved, and secure.

The very simplicity of unconditional/true love is also the source of its power. Lacking all limitations, unconditional love is limitless and endless. Unconditional love is simply another way of saying God, the infinite, the divine, the source, known by many names. Every major religion, in fact, asserts that God is love.

Unconditional love—God in other words—is so simple that most of us find it very suspicious if not downright impossible to understand or accept. We’re certain there has to be a catch somewhere, just as we’re convinced that some people, somehow and in some way, have done something so horrible or unforgiveable that they no longer merit God’s or anyone else’s love.

Do we damn child abusers? What about terrorists who cause death on a mass scale? Do we condemn corporate polluters? Illegal drug users? Homosexuals? Christian fundamentalists? Those of differing faiths or races?

Our personal litany of the unlovable/unforgiveable says far more about the limitations of our love than about anyone else. It also shows us that the love we give and receive is constricted and diminished by judgments, standards, or expectations. Once we impose even one tiny judgment, standard, or expectation on love, it devolves away from being true/unconditional.

Trapped in the painful web of conditional love, we devote our time and energy to looking for love in all the wrong places. We keep hoping to find true love somewhere “out there,” outside of ourselves, in someone else’s eyes. But that is not the place to find true love.

Future columns will explore where and how to find true love and how we can use that unconditional love to heal ourselves and our world.

To Your Successful Online Dating,
Dan A. {Priest}

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Women Issue: Five Men You Should Avoid Dating!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 18:06:00 +0000

The Mamma's Boy

This guy probably lives with his mother, if not close enough for her to pop in for tea (every night). She will have helped him pick out his decor and there will be photos of her all over his apartment. He goes for Sunday dinner and has several cartons of homemade meals in the refrigerator that mom made for him.

Why you should stay away: You will never live up to his mother and although he will love and cherish you forever he will take his mother's side every time.

How to get rid of him: Tell him you don't like his mother.

The Body Builder

This guy will have photos of himself on every available space, along with his own home gym (even though he has a life time membership at the swanky one in town). He has all the latest gadgets and home entertainment systems.

Why you should stay away: You will never see him as he is always down at the gym. He will spend more time in the bathroom then you. He collects trophies and likes one hanging off his arm.

How to get rid of him: Tell him to give up the gym for you.

The Womanizer

This guy will treat you like a princess and is the perfect lover. He dresses well and is out to impress and impress he will (every woman he comes in contact with). He will, of course, have trouble remembering your name, with all the women he has on the go.

Why You should stay away: His excuses for not showing up are getting more pathetic. You will have to compete with his phone as he has so many calls to return and text messages to answer.

How to get rid of him: Tell him, "I use to be a man."

The Workaholic

This man is going places, but will he be taking you with him? He is smartly dressed, has great taste in decor and eats at the finest restaurants. However, his work will always come first.

Why you should stay away: You have to make an appointment to see him. He will take you to elegant dinner parties then leave you with strangers while he talks shop.

How to get rid of him: Tell him, "I’m taking a year off to travel. Do you want to come?"

Your College Lecturer

He is probably older than you, more worldly and gets you a good grade.

Why you should stay away: If anyone found out about you, they would say you slept your way to better grades. Plus, he would lose his job and possibly his teaching position.

How to get rid of him: Tell him somebody is blackmailing you and if you don’t stop seeing him, they are going to report you.

Of course, there are exceptions. For example, if "The Body Builder" knows how to give you the same type of attention he gives his body then this could potentially be a good thing (as long as you can handle other women trying to pick up on him). And if you are a workaholic that has no plans of changing then being in a relationship with another "Workaholic" will allow the two of you to focus more on your careers while hopefully having some focus left for each other. If "Mamma's Boy" mom loves you and you can get the same focus from the man as his mom gives then just maybe... it's a stretch. Remember, it's doubtful any of these men will change so it's best not to try and change them.

A good approach to take in wanting out of one of these relationships is to be honest. This may gain more respect. Tell "Mamma's Boy" that he's too focused on his mom. Tell the womanizer that you only have room in your life for a man that only has room for you. It's doubtful that they'll change, but at least they'll know the real reason you don't want to pursue a relationship.

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Create an Online Dating Profile Header that Attracts Attention!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 17:22:00 +0000

AT MOST online dating services require that you provide a short header message (opening line) that shows up under your username when people do searches. Some people don't know what to put here and end up with generic headers like, "I may be the one for you" or "hello".

It's vital that you use this space to create a profile header message that commands attention - something clever, funny, or
philosophical that will make a person want to click on your profile and read it.

There are several elements that go into creating a profile that people will want to click to read. One is your photo, another is your username, and then there's your header. Here are four specific tips for creating a good profile header:

1) Avoid Boring and Overused Headers
When a person can't think of what to say for their header message, they usually resort to common and overused headers like "I may be the one" or "looking to meet new people."

You don't want to appear common. There are tens of thousands of people competing with you in a quest to find that "perfect" partner. Therefore make sure that the header you use will attract the attention of others. Which one of these four profile headers would attract your attention?

"Hello"
"You May be the One I'm Looking for"
"Looking to Meet New People"
"Willing to Lie About How We Met!"

Three of those are overused. One takes a humorous approach to the concept of telling others how you met. It's unique and clever. Make sure your header is uncommon in a sea of commonalities.

2) Analyze Other Profile Headers
One of the best ways to create a winning profile header is to analyze headers others use that interest you. What is it about the header that makes you want to click on their profile and learn more? Here are a few of our favorites (some funny, some philosophical, and some simply clever):

"We make a perfect couple: I've got the brains and you've got the body!"
"Ok, I'm here. Now what's your other two wishes?"
"Bright spark looking to ignite shared paths"
"Just like a new job, I offer excellent benefits."
"Strangers are friends waiting to be made."

Use the insight you gain from reading interesting profile headers to create your own.

3) Use Your Header as a Filter
One of the biggest complaints we hear from online daters is the number of people who contact them that are not what they are looking for. It may be a man 15 years older or someone who's body type doesn't match what you want. If you want to improve the interest shown to you from qualified respondents, then start by using your header to filter out unwanteds. For example:

"Looking for fit 24-30 year old male within 20 miles of Los Angeles"

By creating a filter, when a person who doesn't match your criteria reads your header they are likely to continue on. Yet when a "fit 24-30 year old local male" reads the header, it attracts him because he meets your criteria. Here are some real filter type subject headers we've seen people use:

"Must be at least 5'10" to get on this ride"
"Please be local, fit, over 40, and have a posted picture."
"Romantic men seem to be extinct. If you're extinct, contact me now."
"I love a man in uniform. Military men, apply within."

Improve your matches by using your subject header to filter your results!

4) Change Your Header Message
It's always a good idea to keep your profile fresh by rotating your pictures and changing your header message once in awhile. Every week create a new and clever, creative, or filtered subject header. Different subject headers attract different people, therefore you may reach "new" people by keeping your header fresh and updated.

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Tips for The End Of a Date !!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:51:00 +0000

1. If You Really Didn't Have a Great Time, you can always end the date early by being truthful and call an end to proceedings by saying you have an urgent meeting, phone call, appointment etc. Whilst your date will not be a fool, they will understand what you are trying to say. Better still, simply be kind but truthful and point out that you don't think you will be an ideal match and that you have had a lovely evening but that is all there is to it.

2. Never allow someone to believe there is more on offer than there really is. Do not keep your options open with someone if you don't intend to call them. It is always better to end the date as a full-stop than to keep someone hanging on for weeks afterwards. So don't falsely keep someone's hopes up, ever.

3. If you are a guy you are paying the bill or getting the check, whatever you believe. This is not the moment to start quibbling over who had what from the menu and splitting things. The age of chivalry is not dead and you had the company of the lady this evening, therefore it is your task to leave an excellent and chivalrous image by getting out your credit card.

4. If the lady insists on paying half, this is often the sign of a no-strings-attached evening out and that she prefers to leave things in a very even way. If she wants to do this, it is up to you whether you wish to accept.

5. Do not be planning deep throat kissing and sex immediately after unless it really is on the cards for both of you. And even then, remember that you should be planning to retain your enigma at least for a few dates yet so resolve not to get into bed just yet. As a guy you should be planning to see her to her cab and then give her a small kiss on the cheek.

6. If You Like Your Date, Tell Them! You don't need to be explicit but you don't need to be coy either. If you enjoyed their company be forthright and confident and tell them that you would look forward to spending more time in their company very soon. If you can arrange a second date at this stage, then do so but only if you are serious. People do not like being made a fool of or being let down.

7. Do not try to avoid hurting someone's feelings by pretending you like them more than you really do. If you had a good time but won't be seeing them again then better to leave things like that.

8. Keep things relaxed, fun and casual and if you feel they are less interested than you, then keep things open-ended and optional. That way your date will have time to reconsider.

9. If you are a guy see your date safely to a cab or her car and do not make her feel any pressure whatsoever. If you are a girl then ensure you feel comfortable with this happening. If you prefer to see yourself to a cab then do so.

10. Always remember that dating is a stage by stage process and nothing rarely happens instantly. Therefore the first date was exactly that with hopefully many more to follow.

11. And finally but perhaps controversially, don't offer friendship as substitute. This is a date and has it's basis in romance. Ultimately you will find friends in many different places, but you should view dating as the possibility of establishing romance as your foremost priority.

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ThirtySomething and Single: Thoughts for ThirtySomethings!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 20:21:00 +0000

Being ThirtySomething is rapidly becoming the crux age for many of us. It's the time when we have matured and have woken up one morning to understand finally who we are and what we are about. We generally have some idea of direction at this age and it is a time for choices and crossroads. Life may have begun at 40 in times gone by but these days your 30th Birthday is the age to sit up and take note. It is a time for reflection and self analysis, for checking how we are doing with our ambitions, and coming to terms with the fact that we are passing into a more mature age group - like it or not. I am not suggesting that becoming 30 means getting older or changing our lives but there are few of us who doubt it is not a time when we start to think - think a lot.

Now, dating is heavily related to this ThirtySomethings age group because now that careers have been sorted out and a salary is coming in regularly it has dawned on us that we better get a partner to share some of these things with. For women, it may be a time when children become dauntingly high on their list of priorities and the hunt is on for a suitable parent and father. It may not yet be a time for frantic panic but its not far away. We will not get steadily older and whilst some of us will get better with age, most of us start to look a little ragged round the edges so we need to secure the best Dating Options whilst we still can.

Being ThirtySomething means having more time and money to date properly, to make decisive choices about who, where and what you want to date and to learn from past dating mistakes. By now most of us will have at least on important Relationships in the bag though some of us will not yet have fallen in love. We have strong friendships and plenty of shared practical experience in the ways of the heart. But all is not well, dating as you get older becomes increasingly frustrating and tiring. Your base levels for a perfect match have increased and you are becoming increasingly selective. You are tired of meeting jerks and timewasters and people who simply don't match with you, people out for sex and anything they can get.

The other major thing to add is that dating for ThirtySomethings is higher risk. Time is moving on, you don't want to waste more years in another failed relationship so you become determined to get it right so you become more cautious and careful. You are aware of divorce law, so you are also aware that you can meet the wrong person and they could take half of what you worked so hard to achieve. You have become cautious in your old age. Dating fatigue has set in if you have been single for some time and you feel increasingly frustrated that you will not meet the right person.

There is a tiny dread in the back of your mind that it may not be possible to meet Mr. or Miss Right because just maybe they don't exist. Increasingly you may come across unparalleled shallowness, in both sexes. Men can lose their hair in their thirties and Women can age in different ways. Suddenly you won't do because you are thin on top or maybe your bosom isn't as pert as it was 10 years ago. You discover that that search for a soul mate may well be bull and that if you are George Clooney or Jennifer Aniston you will always do nicely.

The next issue to hit ThirtySomethings when dating is where to date. In your twenties you were are trance and rave clubs until 3am, or in bars with friends dancing until all hours and still able to be fresh in the office for 8.30am. Now you are 35, it isn't so easy to burn the candle at both ends. You need your sleep, you may not feel comfortable in places surrounded by people a decade younger so you may seek out solace in newer places. It is true that the cafe bar society has grown out of a wealthy ThirtySomething dating society and we can be thankful, but places to date are still not as easy to come by. It seems that clubs for ThirtySomethings are a little forced, and too directed to in your face dating. In other words, subtlety of the dating ritual has been lost, you are being checked out from the moment you enter the room.

Another issue that crops up with dating and ThirtySomethings is the age group we should date. Should we go for younger people, let us say aged 25 upwards, or maybe we like the more mature man or woman, let us say over 40. This really is an issue. It is an issue if we are still wanting children. In our thirties the people we may meet could already have a child or be separated or divorced and don't want another child. Or they may be actively seeking to have a child. If you are a woman you may be looking for a man who will make a good father.

If you are a man you may be looking for a woman of child bearing age and therefore may not consider a woman over 40. This is the dilemma. Age starts to become a factor. It is possible you will feel you don't have much in common with someone aged 21 but do find them Attractive, on the other hand you may find yourself drawn to the more mature aspects of an older man or woman. You can go in both directions at this age as you straddle the age gap.

The people we meet of our own age gap now have stories to tell, they may have baggage or they may have lost of baggage. We all have some kind of emotional dross we carry with us but in this age group it becomes very relevant. Do we want to meet people who already have a child by someone else, could we cope with children who aren't ours? There are a great many people on the rebound who have just spent years in relationships that didn't end. They could have had a 12 year marriage and be 31 and divorced and vowing never to get married again. Therefore, the people we meet as ThirtySomethings are far more complex than before.

The Purpose of this Article is not to provide answers but to acknowledge that being ThirtySomething is a very difficult age for dating and to recognize some of the factors that we are all sharing. I for one am 37 and never married so I know this subject well. We will carry on dating with renewed optimism but let us not forget that there are millions of people just like us, all looking for our perfect partner whilst coping with the issues stated.

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Should We Take This Relationship to the Next Level or End It?

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 21:09:00 +0000

ONCE YOU'VE dated someone for a couple of months, you probably have a pretty good indication as to whether or not you’d like to take the relationship to the next level.

Deciding whether or not to move forward can be tricky, but it doesn’t need to be. What follows are several questions whose answers you must not only know about your partner but also find acceptable for the long-haul so you can decide whether or not to move things forward or end the relationship now.

Additionally, your partner isn’t the only one who needs to ‘pass’ these Relationship and compatibility markers. If you yourself have any issues with the following items, it may be wise to investigate your own readiness and ability to be in a serious relationship and discuss your feelings with your partner.

Is This Person Morally Aligned With You? Morals can include things like a person’s character, their level of integrity, and whether or not they are an honest person. While there are many other aspects to a person’s morality that are beyond the scope of a short article such as this one, but hopefully these initial ideas will give you enough meaning to move towards an answer.

For instance, someone who lies, cheats, exaggerates, steals or ignores the welfare of others is a person who most people would find themselves incompatible with. Yet how many times have you dated someone with those personality characteristics? Many of us have, but that doesn’t excuse doing it now.

Examine your partner’s moral code and how it both affects you, and works with you. If there are inconsistencies here, of if you have more questions along these lines, it’s time to have a serious discussion with each other.

Are Your Long-Term Wants and Needs Congruent or At Least Compatible? Frequently we’ll date people thinking that once they make a commitment, certain aspects of their needs and wants will change. “He’ll want to have kids after a couple of years of marriage,” or, “She’ll focus less on work and more on me once we move in together,” are both examples of this kind of skewed thinking.

It’s True That People Change! But why get serious with a person who is adamant they don’t want something you are dead set on having, or cannot accept a part of who you are that isn’t going to evolve anytime soon? If your long term needs aren’t compatible, it’s time to end this relationship and save everyone some long term heartache.

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Dating Approach: Safe Dating Tips for Single Women and Men!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 17:18:00 +0000

YOU KNOW, online dating on the web is generally extremely safe, especially friendly and great fun and You Must committed to ensuring that it stays that way. It is safe dating because it is distance dating - simple! You do not come into contact with others initially and this may well provide you with a comfort factor that also allows you to pace yourself and be rightly choosey.

If possible though, you should try and follow a few basic online safe dating principles before deciding to pass over personal contact information to a relative stranger or arrange to meet them. It's all too easy to get a little carried away when viewing personal ads so take things slowly and take a rain check every now and again. The tips here are from Passion.com. They may appear obvious to you but we think that if you do try and follow them, it can only assist you in ensuring you have happy online dating experiences. And you never know, Mr. or Miss Right may be just round the corner. We really hope so.

A. Always trust your instinct, after all it has got you this far in life already.
B. Take your time and view plenty of personal ads first.
C. Do not publish your phone number or email address in personal ads.
D. Don't take everything at face value.
E. Do ask lots of questions when chatting.
F. Ensure you feel comfortable at all times whoever you are chatting with.
G. If someone is abusive to you, block them straight away.
H. Don't provide your home or work address to anyone you have not met.
I. Before agreeing to a date, check that you know as much as possible
K. Don't allow yourself to be talked into anything, whatsoever! You are the one in charge.

Also Consider The Following:

I. Take your time to get to know someone. Don't be rushed.
II. A patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready to meet
III. Make sure you see plenty of photos if possible of the person you make friends with.
IV. Ask your date to leave a message in your voicemail box before hand if possible
V. Chat on the phone for a while before arranging a date, get to know each other
VI. Always meet in a public place that is well known and convenient to you.
VII. Always tell a good friend where you are going, and who you are meeting
VIII. If possible phone your friend during the date to confirm all is fine.

And Perhaps Consider These Points Too:

1. Always carry a cellular phone on a date if you have one.
2. Lunchtimes are good for dating, convenient, and they have a time limit.
3. Always make your own travel arrangements on a date initially!
4. Do not accept a lift home on the first date or reveal your address.
5. If travelling far, organize your own accommodation and confirm it.
6. Ensure you have as much information about your date as possible!
7. Keep your first date to a time limit so that you have an "Exit" point.
8. Don't feel you owe it to someone to meet them, you do not!

When We Think of Safe Dating by sets of rules like this it can all get pretty silly and scary but the fact is that we are introducing ourselves to strangers without the company of friends. It will always be a wise choice to have a friend close by even if they are sitting at a nearby table. But whatever you decide is best for you, keep your wits about you and enjoy your date!

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Tips on Choosing the Right Person from the Dating Scene!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Thu, 08 May 2008 22:23:00 +0000

OKAY, So You date people hoping that one of these days you will come across the right person, the one you will make the greatest romantic connection with. But does it feel like you are going nowhere and believe that you just have no luck with meeting the right people? Feel like you are lost and doomed in this whole Dating business? Stop feeling sorry for yourself!

The reality of this situation is that luck has nothing to do with it. If you are like many people, you are probably dating blindfolded, without even realizing that you are doing so. If you feel unsuccessful and dissatisfied with your dating patterns, then it is time for you to take a few steps back to see where things went wrong for you. Think you have been doing everything right? Think again! If you look back, you will be surprised to learn that you got so caught up in just the whole dating experience, that you forgot what to look out for and neglected your true needs and desires. What are you really looking for in a lover? What are your needs and desires? What qualities are important for a person to have and what other qualities are you willing to compromise with and accept?

Getting back in touch with what you are really looking for will help prevent you from staying in the Dating Scene forever. It is essential that you observe your actions and decisions, making sure that you do not continue to date certain people in the name of dating. If you find that you are not sharing the connection you crave with a person, then you must discontinue with Dating that person. Sure, you will feel bad for hurting that persons feelings, but what you must remember is that there is nothing too personal or emotional between the two of you anyway, so just throw that excuse out and just break it off, in a polite manner of course!

This is where so many get stuck, mistaking casual trial dates, with a personal and emotional relationship. This may sound too businesslike for your taste, but this is the way it goes in the real world of dating. If you spend your time trying to spare people hurt or disappointment, then you have been doing it all wrong. This does not mean that you have to be harsh and rude, but it does mean that you have to make finding the right person a first and high priority for, not worrying about what other people with think of you.

Which moves us to the next essential point in dating. While it is normal that you fix yourself up to make a great impression on your date, it is not the most important thing that you should focus on. In fact, so many dating singles out there worry so much about what their date will think, that they totally forgot the purpose of the date- to find out whether or not they will find the connection they are seeking. No matter how you fix yourself and what manners or personality you put on, you will never be in control of what your date will think or feel about the date, so set that unnecessary stress aside.

Instead, shift your focus about what you will think about him or her. Observe everything about them. Do YOU like their appearance? Does their personality appeal to YOU? Do YOU feel that you are making a good connection? As you can see, it is what you think that is important here, because you are the one looking for the right person, as well as certain qualities. Leave what they think, up to them!

The Fear of Being Single Forever can cloud your good judgment, causing you to continue seeing a person who you know you are not entirely satisfied with. You will do this because you will try to convince yourself that maybe you have been too picky and being with anybody, even if you are not crazy about him or her, is better than nobody. Stop lying to yourself! You do not have to get stuck with someone you are not entirely happy with, nor do you have to be single forever.

Being honest and up front from the beginning is what will get you where you want to be and whom you want to be with. Do not worry that you may scare off someone by telling him or her exactly what expectations you have and how serious of a relationship you are looking for. Look at this way, if they get scared that quickly, then it is a sign that they were not looking for the same thing as you are, so it saves you time and you can then move on to dating someone else.

As Long as You Get Real with Yourself, stop making excuses, know what your really want, stick to it and make it clear to the people that you Date, then you will be safe from too many mixed messages, misunderstandings and frustrations. When you treat your goal of meeting the right person seriously and important, then you will stay motivated to find him or her, and when you do- you will finally be able to begin the kind of Relationship that you have always longed for, needed and deserve.

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Confidence in Dating: Why You Should Become More Confident?

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Thu, 08 May 2008 21:43:00 +0000

I ONCE read the results of a survey in a leading woman's magazine that said the number 1 most attractive quality in a man was confidence. Not arrogance, confidence. It took some time to sink in as to what this really meant. Did it mean grabbing the girl in matinee idol pose and whisking her backwards whilst I kissed those luscious lips of hers? Did it mean turning into a caveman never taking no for an answer? Did it mean turning up at the door of the girl next door and whisking her off to Paris for the weekend, though we had hardly spoken? What did they mean by confidence? The quest was on it find out.

Every woman I have asked will answer in a different vein so the answer isn't all things to all men. Confidence, it appears, is in the eye of the beholder. Even worse, confidence can easily be misconstrued so one has to tread carefully. The point is not confidence itself, but its easier to define by its opposite, fear. Fear in men is not attractive. Fear defines a man as not knowing his own value, lacking a feeling of self worth, not being sure of his abilities, lacking in presence and determination. This I may add is very different from justifiable fear that we all face.

Okay, Back to Confidence. Men are attractive when they are confident said one friend. Another told me, "ooh a confident man makes me go weak at the knees". So I pressed them further. A confident man it seems is one who carries with him a self-assuredness that is most definitely not arrogance. It is a state where a man feels sure of himself and his abilities, knows what he is about, knows himself for what he can do,, what he may be able to do, what he may fail at but does not fear to try. A confident man is in control of his destiny, his future, his career, his day. And to many women that is very attractive.

After all, a woman is looking for a partner, one who will not only match with her mentally and physically, but someone who can drive her onwards, someone who has ambition and vitality, someone who can pass hi self assuredness on to her. A man who is confident is sexy because he is comfortable with himself, he is in control and he is able to make decisions, good decisions. He is confident in the choices he makes and in choosing you (maybe really you selected him), he passes this feeling of being special on to you. Being selected by the right man can be very sexy indeed.

If you are going to date the beauty in the corner and father her children then running away is not a good start, neither is feeling bad about yourself and failing to be able to hold a decent conversation. Far too many men decide in advance of an approach if they are worth of a woman's attentions or not. All too often they believe they are not. Except where alcohol is involved. Men in bars exude Confidence, but they also exude beer breath as well! No the fact is that guys who lack confidence prejudge most situations and inevitably take themselves out of the dating fray before it ever happens, hoping, strangely, that the woman will make the first move.

The Fact is, the confident men more often than not get the girl, because the confident man has something about him. I know plenty of good looking handsome men who are afraid to approach women so its not necessarily about looks. No, its about something within. Confidence is about self respect and self understanding. It comes from understanding what you yourself are about and when this happens a sexy man reaches out. Often lack of confidence in men is because of physique and yet it is an issue so easy to fix. 12 weeks in a gym will change a man's life. A fit man is a confident man. Dress is also something that instills confidence. No man has an excuse for not dressing reasonably smart these days as fashion for men is everywhere.

Ultimately we all lose confidence from time to time. People can take our confidence away at work or at home, in partnerships and on our own. Ultimately though these are passing phases. If a man can do one thing for himself in the Dating Game, that is to learn about his own confidence levels in an honest way and then go about doing something to increase them. Feel good about yourself guys and someone will feel good about you.

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Where Is My Soul Mate?

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 14:55:00 +0000

"What might be stopping you from finding your soul mate?"
Do you worry that you will never date someone wonderful? Do you think love has passed you by? Do you long for a great relationship with your soul mate? When it comes to finding love, do you feel that you are too old or too young; too fat or too thin; too sharp or too dull? Are you just "too" something and that "something" is keeping you from having what you want?

If you say yes to any of the above questions...you are not alone. Many people feel there is some obstacle blocking their chances to finding their Soul Mate.

Whenever I am confronted with what seems like a hopeless situation, I remember how my mother decided to become a rodeo rider at the age of 50. She was terrified of horses, was a terrible rider, and had advancing arthritis. However, since my father, sister, and brother were all rodeo champions, she said she was tired of being left out.

Her arthritis worsened, she never was a very good rider, but she just quietly hung in there. She got up every morning at five a.m. to ride her horse and rode again at night when she finished working. She went to rodeos and jackpot races every weekend. By the age of 65, she was starting to win. At the age of 83, she was the oldest professional rodeo rider on the circuit. The minute she rode into the arena, she brought crowds to their feet in a roar of admiration. They loved her. Why? Because she would never give up.

Being Single is a Lot Like that Story! You have to make up your mind that you are going to do something (set a goal) and then put everything you have into accomplishing it. There will always be obstacles to what you want.

There are, however, warnings about who will prevail over those obstacles and who will not. There are seven warning signs that you will never meet someone, fall in love, and live happily ever after with your Soul Mate. When you know what the warning signs are, you can DO something about them so you can have who and what you want.

This is how you spell W.A.R.N.I.N.G.

W is for waiting. Waiting for Mr. Right or Miss Wonderful to knock on your door and sweep you away to a life of bliss isn't going to happen. Waiting for the right job, or to lose weight, or to get a new house or car, or even for the holidays to begin isn't going to get you any closer to love either. It is only through taking action to get out and meet people that you are going to move closer to your goal.

A is for assumptions. As a single, it is easy to make false assumptions. You may think that all of your friends know that you want to date and that they would introduce you to someone. But that usually doesn't happen because first, people get busy with their own lives, and second, they often would not be presumptious enough to bring you someone to date. You have to ask. Turn your friends and family members into scouts. Tell everyone that you would like to meet someone wonderful.

R is for running away. Many people want to meet someone because they want to run away from the life they have. This consciousness about life will never bring you the one you want. Do everything in your power to make your life fabulous so you can attract fabulous.

N stands for "No," as in saying no to what doesn't work for you. The word "no" keeps people, activities, and places that are toxic to your system out of your world. It's hard to attract someone wonderful if you are full of poison.

I stands for Isolated. Becoming isolated is a danger for all singles. You need a network of support systems for your health, happiness, and ability to meet others. Guard against isolation.

N is for negative. No one wants to be around negativity. Ask your friends or coworkers how you come across. If you appear negative to others, go to counseling or find a coach and improve your attitude.

G is for growth. Personal growth and insight keep you from getting stuck in a rut. Learning and growing also makes you very attractive. Seek to know yourself. You want to become the person you are looking for. This is how you attract whom you want.

Heed these warning signs. If you recognize any of the above in yourself, change your course. It is never too late or too hopeless or too anything to find the love of your life. Don't give up. Someone waits for you.

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Dan A.

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How To Use Body Language To Your Advantage When Dating!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 01:19:00 +0000

"This is the language where you don't need any words. Women have been doing it for hundreds of years - to attract the man they want. Becoming fluent in body language will ensure that you will be skilled in attracting the right man, and sending the get-lost signal to the wrong man."

Eyeing Up the Prize

The more eye contact you establish with the target, the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then, begin with direct eye contact. Once he turns to meet your gaze, immediately lower your eyes and smile to yourself, this will tell him that you were watching him and are embarrassed that he caught you - a sure sign of interest. Next, be bold and try holding his stare, flashing a small, open-lipped smile.

If there is a man that is giving you the eye and you are not interested, look away from him and don`t look back at him again. When in conversation, looking at the ceiling and all around the room, also shows a definite lack of interest.

First Impressions Count

You leave your home ready to go to a party when you spot your gorgeous neighbor, and he doesn't give you a second glance. Why? Because you aren't dressed your best. When you enter a room, most people look to see who has come in. This is when you have to make an impression. Looking your best will make you feel your best. So make sure that before you leave your front door, look your best, and you never know you might just attract the attention of that gorgeous neighbor.

The Hand Job (no, not what you are thinking!)

Even without direct contact, your hands can send very powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands unclenched shows you're open to him. Using your hands to caress objects, such as the rim of your glass, locks of your hair, or the sleeve of your blouse, in a rhythmic (as opposed to fidgety) manner, can be a sensual act. And for the braver hands, try picking fluff off his jacket, touching him to punctuate a point, or using the "accidental touch" when reaching for the salt.

Hands that are jammed in pockets, busy cleaning glasses, or balled in tight fists are all bad signs. Fingers tapping, drumming, pointing, or wagging are also signals to move on.

Stand Out

Your posture is one of the most telling signals you transmit. An open posture is evidence of an open person. Turning your body toward the man you're conversing with, keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward are actions that show interest. As well, slightly tilting your head, crossing and uncrossing your legs, and thrusting your chest forward give the message that you are interested.

As for ways to send a man packing, crossing your arms, holding a drink high in front of you, turning your body away or resting your feet on their toes will tell a person you are not interested.

...A Few Extra Tips

Hopefully by now, you have an attack plan and a clear idea of when it's time to get down and dirty, or when you're best just to wave the white flag. Here are just a few more tips when trying to perfect your body language skills:

A. You'll know things are going really well when you begin "mirroring" one another's body language and gestures.

B. Don`t tease him by offering more than you plan to follow through. This can lead to very ugly circumstances.

C. Chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having eyes only for your plate of food will not put you in the best standing for the body language game.

D. If you try your hand at it, and he's not responding, abort the mission immediately.…

E. Following him around all night will only serve in making you look needy and desperate.

...And finally, if all else fails, buy yourself a T-shirt that reads, "Looking for Love."

To Your Online Dating Success,
and Good Luck
Dan A.

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First Impressions: Look Good When Dating!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 02:27:00 +0000

In You Stroll, looking hot in that new dress or suit with the Manolo's or Jimmy Choo shoes. You know you look good after all, it cost you a fortune. You are feeling confident due to the way you are looking and you know he wants you. Go get him girl. Does that ring true? Well maybe, maybe not. On the other hand, in you stroll, black Armani or Hugo Boss suit, Italian leather shoes, handmade shirt. You are feeling good, you are feeling successful, you are feeling confident. Yes, my friends, in this fatuous day and age we are what we wear.

Now, I am not saying that we need to spend a King's ransom on the latest designer gear, fashions, style and hand crafted luxury wear from Italy or wherever. But I am suggesting that when we dress well we feel good, we believe we look good and we feel we can do anything we choose. So when dating, its important to look good because if you do, you will feel good too. Good style means a good level of confidence.

Forget arguing about body shape and expense in your defense against my argument here, it doesn't wash. You can look stylish and classic whatever your shape within reason and whatever your budget. Black will always be classic and well tailored clothes will always look a cut above the rest. I cannot walk down any high street or through any mall these days without being inundated with a sense of style. Everywhere we look there are shops desperate to dress you well. The fact that you don't choose to go in them is not the point. Therefore turning up for your first date in a comfy sweatshirt or sports top may make you feel relaxed but it shows absolute contempt for your date who has spent the best part of the last two hours getting ready for your squalid self. Get a grip man.

Okay, so whilst my female readership doesn't need a lecture in self presentation generally, my male readership often does. The first thing I want you to remember men is that a woman will judge you by looking straight down at your shoes. You may not see what the fuss is about but she may as well be looking straight past your shoes, all the way down to hell. The fact is, the truth is in the detail. You have washed and scrubbed up well, but casting a more detailed glance over you and the small discrepancies are soon revealed. Missing cufflinks, tie all over the place, missing shirt button etc. All mean that deep down either you are a deeply wild and windswept sex god or you are a disaster in the making who has no idea of style and presentation. If you can't dress yourself buddy, what makes you think you can undress her.

But shoes are the biggest giveaway because men think of them as practical necessities that are comfortable rather than looking at the style involved. It is obvious what is classic and in fashion right now, simply turn your eyes and look through the window of the nearest ubiquitous show store. Once you have bought them, ensure they match the rest of the outfit. No don't mix brown with black and if shoeshine cream is as rare as diamonds in your apartment then get back to the shop and sort it out. Good shoes mean that you have attention to detail, she has seen and she has noted!

Men often make the mistake of thinking that the woman is relaxed and kind of a casual gal so he doesn't need to go mad when meeting up. He can be smart but casual. I have news for you, most men are casual, not smart but casual. It doesn't happen in my experience. Men have no idea at all what is like to get ready as a woman. The fact that you look subtle and classically understated is lost on a man. He thinks it took you 5 minutes to get ready. He has no idea. Which is why he threw on the white shirt that needed an iron and a pair of casual trousers in such a carefree fashion.

Do not believe GQ-style magazines, however marvelous they are. Whilst there is a small core of very well dressed men out there, they are not the norm. Take your average guy shopping to the mall on a Saturday afternoon and see how long he lasts. Whilst men have a better idea about appearance and do know some label makes and names, they are still eons behind women. But all is not lost. A man with a career can sort himself out in a few easy steps, he simply needs to get his wallet out.

Every man over the age of 25 should have a black, classic, single-breasted, good-quality suit together with the same in navy blue. He should have a casual jacket and a collection of plain colored well made cotton shirts. He should have three pairs of good quality leather shoes, in black and brown and they should be modern and in good condition. A man should have a good quality masculine watch. This is very important as it is possibly the only piece of jewelry a man may ever display. Okay a watch is a timepiece and a necessity but it speaks volumes about you. Some women have expressed a liking for men with large masculine sports watches, but whatever you do wear, it should be a classic as it will speak volumes about your taste.

You should always carry on you a good quality leather wallet that is not stuffed with receipts, preferably in black which you always wear within a jacket pocket, not stuffed into a pocket of your trousers. Whilst you may begin to think I am trying to describe James Bond, you are not far wrong. You can do far worse than to watch a Bond movie to get a sense of class and style. Neither am I suggesting that you alter your image from that which is really you. But as we are discussing first impressions, then you will need to think carefully about the way you do present yourself.

I can only think of a handful of men in my lifetime who do smart but casual well. For many men, it means jeans and a crumpled shirt with the sleeves rolled up. Take a good look about you and think long and hard about your current image and get some feedback from female friends as to how they really perceive your look. You may get a nasty shock. If you are pleasantly surprised then you are on your way.

Finally, though I have spelt this out before, I will do it one more time. Looking good is important, as is feeling comfortable. However along with this you should smell good. For men, Aftershave and cologne of a high quality are essential, and the less mainstream the better. For a start, if it is not one of the perennial brands then your date may not have smelled the scent before and will find it unusual and possibly attractive. She will most certainly notice. This is all part of making a good impression. It shows you have made an effort for her and you care. More than one Aftershave is good, a lemon based on for day wear and a heavier woody cologne for the evening with a hint of musk. But always consult and test because many Aftershaves do not suit some types of skin. So spray and then walk round the store before deciding.

Looking and smelling good is not a one-off situation. For second and subsequent dates you need to keep up the good work so I am not recommending your first impression-making attempts are not really you. I really am suggesting you take a long hard look at your current image and begin to change things for the better if necessary. And certainly for the long term. Finally, remember that your efforts will be appreciated even if nothing is ever said. In one short phrase, first impressions count.

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The Date Went Great - Now How Do You Make That First Move?

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 01:49:00 +0000

"If You Like Someone But Don't Know How to Take it Further...
Read This Guide to Making The First Move!"

Step 1: Read the signals Before initiating any kind of move, look for body language clues such as prolonged eye contact to help you work out whether you'll get a positive response. A woman may be more willing than usual to expose certain areas of her body like her neck or wrists. She may touch you, or display self-grooming gestures. A man may exhibit more animalistic signals or ownership gestures, to impress a potential mate. These may include resting an arm on the back of her chair, puffing out his chest or widening his shoulders. Both sexes may engage in 'mirroring', which is subconsciously copying the actions of the other person's body positions.

Step 2: Conversation If they find someone attractive, men and women won't necessarily say what they're really thinking. Instead of listening to what is being said, concentrate on how it is being said. If he says; 'I'm interested in art'. He may mean I am interested in you" If she says; 'What's your favourite surrealist painting?' She may mean; 'Are you genuinely interested?' If he says; 'I love Dali's The Persistence of Memory'. He may mean; 'I'm trying really hard here because you're hot'. If she says; 'I've got that on my bedroom wall'. She may mean; 'I want you to see it'.

Step 3: If the woman is making the first move The male form is majestic, enticing and readily available. Approach with free abandon and curious hands. Be a predator. Remove any unnecessary items of clothing. The only potential problem that could arise will occur when choosing topics of conversation. Don't mention ex-boyfriends, health problems, or your imminent desire for babies.

Step 4: If the man is making the first move The female form is mysterious, enticing and notoriously difficult to get hold of. Approach with caution. Certain parts of the body should not be touched initially, like the breasts or bum. Instead, try lightly touching less intimate areas of the body - such as the upper arm, or the outer leg nearest to you.

Step 5: The kiss If they haven't rejected your advances so far, then you can start to feel more confident about stealing a kiss. For specific tips on kissing, watch 'How to kiss someone passionately'. It takes guts to go for a kiss, and if you are feeling out of your comfort zone, try to relax, as lack of confidence is rarely attractive to the opposite sex. Maintain eye contact, lean in and pause when your faces are close but not touching, to allow the other person space to escape or, hopefully, lean in too.

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Does Your Partner Have Same Values As You?

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 20:57:00 +0000

IN EVERY relationship, problems occur when there is a clash of values. Both the partners may not share the same values and that may cause friction leading to a break-up. Values are our beliefs about what is right and what is wrong. For some of us, the value of frugal living is very important. While for others family ties are important as a value. Does your partner share your values or are both of you leading towards a collision and break-up? An analysis can save you lot of pain and discomfort.

Values such as honesty, loving, compassion, mercy, and others that have been taught to us since our childhood and that we respect drive many of our actions. Unfortunately with the degradation in social values, personal values are also falling. That apart, the discussion is about the values that you respect and the values that your partner respects-are they common?

The answer to this question may decide the future of your relationship. Let me give you an example. Suppose you believe that small lying or cheating to further your cause is not bad and is acceptable to you. Your partner strongly believes that nothing wrong should be ever done. Will this conflict in values not produce a conflict in relationship, because we live by our values? Those who believe in talking liberty with values may not get that hurt, but those who believe in living by their values at every step can not dream of braking their values for anyone. This produces a value conflict.

Before entering into any relationship compare your values with those of your prospective partner. If you find a conflict in major values, do not proceed with the relationship. If the major values are matching and conflict is about small parts, you can discuss that with your partner. Values give direction to our life and mold it.

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YOUR SEXUAL PROGRESS!

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 20:51:00 +0000

ONE of the biggest steps of progress in improving your singles sex life is to admit that you are a sexual novice (even though you have 20 years experience, or more correctly, one year's experience 20 times) and that you probably have up until now only tapped a small percentage of your potential sexual enjoyment and fulfillment.

SEXUAL FOOLS THINK THEY KNOW IT ALL

The real fools are those who say, "Ha, Hal You mean you have to go to a class to learn about sex?" Yes, sex is 100% learned (the urge is inherited) and most are rather bumbling, illiterate about sex so to speak, regardless of the number of sex partners they have had. Why is this? Practically all sex partners will not tell you that you are lacking or how you are lacking in bed because to do so would 'hurt' your feelings terribly or turn you off so they would not get even what they have been getting. The problem also is that you have done it a certain way or have certain programming about sex so long (like playing the piano wrong for 20 years) that someone becoming aware of necessary changes does not mean they are able to correct it. So becoming aware of deficiencies does not make any change, only practicing and developing make the changes a true new part of your sexual capabilities.

MOST NEWLY DIVORCED ARE SEXUALLY DEVASTATED

Newly divorced are particularly hyper about any criticism regarding their sexual proficiency, their ex having convinced them already that they are totally inadequate, frigid, or 'not a man' or some such. Many doubt their sexual capabilities and this is as a result a good time to take inventory as to where you are and where you want to be. Many have said that as a result of their divorce they made a lot of changes that really changed and expanded their sexual life and if it had not been for their divorce they would never have made the changes they did and would have continued for the rest of their life to have missed a great deal of their sexual potential and fulfillment. Your sexual needs do not turn off because you are alone. So here you are with unfulfilled needs and not much prospect of handling it as a single person comfortable. Right now is a good time to figure out what your options are and what you can do about these human sexual needs that you have.

WHAT YOU NEED TO DO NOW

Our recommendations for now:
1. Make the decision that you are entitled to fill your sexual needs, married or single.
2. Your goal is that sex should be the joy of your life - not stress and hassle.
3. You have another opportunity to really get into sexual fulfillment and you do not have to carry old hang-ups and sexual problems along into new relationships.
4. Now is the time to experiment, gain knowledge, rid yourself of old problems, gain a greater sensuality and expand your potential ability to enjoy sex.
5. You want to gain a new sexual maturity. Sex is usually our most emotionally immature area.
6. You develop a sexual capability and self-esteem that you know you can never be left in a sexual famine again.

The problem is when we become suddenly single, the sexual part of our life is, normally a feast or famine situation. When you get your sexual act together you will know how to comfortably develop great sexual relationships readily and no one can then pull your strings or panic you or manipulate you by their threatening to leave you high and dry sexually.

SINGLE SEX - FEAST OR FAMINE

Like the single fellow who prayed, "Don't stop sending them, Lord; just please, try to spread them out a little more!" When you are in a sexual drought, it seems you lose most of your self-confidence and appear in such a needy position it seems to turn your prospects off. When you get your sexual needs filled comfortably, you seem to develop a confidence in that area as non needy person: and then it seems everyone who was not interested when you had sexual famine, now seems to be interested all at once.

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Tips for Writing an Online Eye-Pulling Personal Ad or Dating Profile

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 21:27:00 +0000

THE BEST way to write a profile is to imagine yourself meeting someone new for the first time in a casual setting in a bar, a coffee shop, or at a friend's party. Think about the kind of things you would tell about yourself to this person - your dating profile or personal ad is the same idea extended over the Internet.

Follow a factual but casual approach to writing your personal ad. You want to let the people get to know concrete things about you, but at the same time, your ad shouldn't come across as a boring resume. Sprinkle it with some humor, exclamation marks; make it fun and interesting

A Good profile has 200-250 words, with 150-200 words for yourself, and 50-100 words describing the kind of person you are looking for.

Discuss your career history and plans. What kind of jobs you have held, what your future career aspirations are, etc. These are generally looked at as positive. Think of it as the first conversation you are having with someone, don't we usually talk about we do? Excellent stuff to write about in a profile. Be brief, of course - you don't want to go on and on about selling shoes, delivering the mail, or designing and fabricating cars, for that matter.

If you have children, tell a little about them. This is an important part of your life, and interests the people interested in dating you. Mention their ages, and if they live with you. Don't describe them too much-but giving their ages for example, makes you come across as a normal parent.

If you have moved around a bit in your life, mention the places where you have lived. It gets more people interested in you and wanting to write to you. For example, if you are presently living in Los Angeles but have lived in Dallas, someone who has a Texas connection is more likely to write to you. If you have lived internationally, all the better-people are always interested in life in other places and cultures.

If you have just moved to where you are living now, mention that. People love playing tourist guides. They are eager to know new faces from other parts of the country or the world. They can also help you settle down in the town more easily-so even if nothing happens romance-wise, you can always make some good friends.

If you speak a foreign language, mention that. It attracts attention. Along the same lines, mention a little of your family genealogy, as people may find a connection there as well (e.g. I have a Scottish or Chinese mother).

Talk about how you entertain yourself. This is where you can be funny and witty, so exercise your imagination. Mention about your social circle. Are you a social person? Do you have many friends? Do you go out with them a lot? What activities do you do with them? If you have a good Relationship with your siblings, your parents, and your family, mention it. Mention if they live close to you, and how often you see them.

Mention if you like pets, and have any of your own.

When you are talking about the person you are looking for, be clear in your requirements, but make sure you don't limit yourself unnecessarily. So if you don't want to date men who have kids, say so. Or if you don't want to go out with smokers, say it clearly in your ad. But again, be careful-you are restricting potential mates here, so put things only if you are very sure what your potential partner absolutely must or must not have.

Mention if you are looking for a stable Relationship or if you are just looking to make friends and will see how things go from there ("looking for nice and interesting people to hang out with").

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Are You Ready For Dating?

dan_303@hotmail.com (Dan A.) — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 19:59:00 +0000

...Take This Simple Test To See!

1. Do you feel "it just isn't fair" if your ex is dating extensively and you are not?
2.Would it please you - would you go out of your way - to have your ex see you somewhere with an attractive member of the opposite sex?
3. Do you find it difficult or impossible to go to social functions for singles alone, without someone else along?
4. If your ex gets into heavy dating, do you have a strong feeling that the children are being neglected?
5. Do you sort of have the feeling that if a relationship is not forever it is nothing?
6. Do you still see yourself as sort of a failure as a result of your divorce?
7. Are you still angry at your ex for not living up to your expectations in your last relationship?
8. Do you still feel that being single is one heck of a hassle and that being married was much more comfortable?
9. Do you still talk about your divorce several times a week?
10. Do you still have trouble totally trusting someone of the opposite sex?
11. Do you still feel emotionally drained?
12. Do you evaluate people of the opposite sex according to how good a marriage prospect they may be?
13. Are you searching, hoping to get married again?
14. Are you very strongly opposed to the idea of ever getting married again?
15. If you are a man, do you feel that all single women are trying to marry? If you are a woman, do you feel that all men want is to get you in bed?
16. Do you find that you seem to attract mostly losers?
17. Do you wince at either the word "dating" or "single"?
18. When talking about your former spouse, do you still often refer to him/her as my husband/wife?
19. Do you feel you are not really dating material?
20. Are you greatly afraid of getting really involved and hurt again?
21. Do you feel like damaged goods or like you are on a used spouse lot?
22. When you go out or think about going out where other singles are, do you feel like everyone is looking at you as if you were wearing an "I'm available" sign?
23. Do you think it's necessary to figure out what the other sex "wants to hear" to get anywhere the second time around?
24. Do you sort of feel that anyone who would want to be associated with worthless you is probably worthless, too?
25. Do you feel that the majority of singles are losers?
26. Would you have trouble staying at home Friday or Saturday night by yourself doing nothing in particular without feeling bad?

If you answered yes 5 or more times, you still have some things to work through that are impeding successful dating. Go directly to a divorce recovery class or to counseling. Do not pass GO; do not collect $200.

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