My Life as a Work at Home Mother

My Starbucks Idea

2013-05-30T10:39:00.001-07:00

My Starbucks Idea - What a great idea for giving input to an already awesome company!

Get Paid to ry Products

2012-04-21T13:58:00.000-07:00

Do you love trying new products out and want to get paid for it? This site will pay you try out products and services and to give your opinion.If you are interested in all the details email me at malisa.karn@gmail.com and put DND I wanted paid in the subject line.

41 Days of My Life Day 1

2011-02-18T08:14:00.000-08:00

I am 35 years old. I live in a small river town in northwest IL.I have lived here 10 almost 11 years.I am a home health aide.I help the elderly stay at home by doing things they can no longer do.I love it becuase I am very much anti nursing home since I have worked in quite a few since I started working...I am currently going to school to get my degree in Medical Billing and Coding.I love studying anything health care related....I have one son he is 13 years old. His name is Zachary Christian.So that is me! LOL

Update

2010-07-16T19:09:00.000-07:00

Things are going pretty well in our household. I am working as a home health for almost 2 months.I love every minute of it.I go in and help elderly clients out.I help clean,cook, do laundry and run errands.I find it a very satisfying job. I was nervous at first having to go into other people's homes but they are very welcoming and I find myself actually forming a relationship with each client. I am also ending this week my first semester back to school.I am finishing my degree for Medical Billing and Coding.My first two classes was intro to Computers and Keyboarding. I have held a 90 percent average through the whole six weeks.I am hoping this continues throughout my time in school. I just was offered another job working in the evenings at a new gas station coming into town.They are opening Labor Day Weekend.I am very exicited about the new job. So that is my update.I am hoping to spend more time blogging like I used to.

Free Car Care Guide

2010-07-05T10:49:00.000-07:00

Do you have no freaking clue is under your hood in your car? Well here is a car care guide freebie.

Free Car Care Guide

Wednesday May 26 2010

2010-05-26T19:24:00.000-07:00

Today was a great day! I accomplishes so much.The house is looking great and the laundry is almost done.Tommorow its grocery day.I am not a fan of grocery shopping.I hate seeing that money go so quickly.

I did great water wise today.I am working on second bottle of water.That really is an accomplishment for me.I hate water and usually cant even get through one bottle. I can already tell the difference with drinking water instead of soda.

I got a pedometer today so I can keep track of how many miles I walk each day.I am hoping to be able to step it up every few days.

Patience is a Virtue

2010-05-22T19:46:00.000-07:00

I am not a patient person.I want everything to go my way NOW! I know that sounds selfish and awful but its true.I want everything to flow easily and go according to plan.When one little kink gets in my plans I just want to run into my bedroom and cover my head with blankets.I was taught as a young child that life is not fair and will not go according to plan.You would think after 35 years of my life not going according to plan I would have that stuck in my head...Nope I still do that with that day after day after day etc.

My goal for the upcoming week as I work on getting more organized is learning there will be kinks in plans.Its ok to pick up and keep going or just make an alternative plan that does include hiding out like a scared child.This will not be easy and I will need to kind to myself but its a goal worth pursing.

Lose 10 pounds

2010-04-22T17:30:00.000-07:00

I was doing good with my plan to lose wieght but lately I have gotten stressed and feel into old habits. One thing I did was went back to Mountian Dew.I had given up for almost 2 months and now I am backing to drinking 2 cans a day.I am going to switch back to coffee in the morning and drinking water and green tea the rest of the day. I think baby steps will be the best way to develop better eating and exercising habits. I have too many bad habits to try to change all at once.I just get frustrated and give up.

Tommorow

2010-04-22T17:26:00.000-07:00

I have decided I am going to use this blog as a way to blog and help myself work towards my life goals. One of my life goals it to stop procrastinating.I seem to excel well at that.I have proved that once agian,Saturday we are having a garage sale and I still need to price things and get things set up. So of course tonight and tomorrow I will be busting my butt to get that finished.

I need a job

2010-04-22T17:24:00.001-07:00

I want so much to have a job.For the past year I have no problem getting interviews but that is as far as it goes. I do not understand why I am not getting hired. I wish I knew so I could change that. My husband thinks I am doing it on purpose but seriously I am not. I am going tomorrow and applying at Verifacts.Hopefully something good will come from that.

School

2010-04-22T17:19:00.000-07:00

Well sadly I missed the deadline to get signed up for school and get started on the 28th. Its all good becuase the next start date as July 7th. I figure I can enjoy some summer before I get started on worrying about homework.Tomorrow I am going to get my enrollment form sent in and the enrollment fee paid.So all will be done and I can just sit back and wait for the 7th of July.

Clever Ideas

2010-04-15T11:42:00.000-07:00

CLEVER IDEAS WORTH KNOWING Take your bananas apart when you get home from the store. If you leave them connected at the stem, they ripen faster... I didn't know that!

Store your opened chunks of cheese in aluminum foil. It will stay fresh much longer and not mold!

Peppers with 3 bumps on the bottom are sweeter and better for eating. Peppers with 4 bumps on the bottom are firmer and better for cooking.

Add a teaspoon of water when frying ground beef. It will help pull the grease away from the meat while cooking.

To really make scrambled eggs or omelets rich add a couple of Spoonfuls of sour cream, cream cheese, or heavy cream in and then beat them up.

For a cool brownie treat, make brownies as directed. Melt Andes mints in double broiler and pour over warm brownies. Let set for a wonderful minty frosting.

Add garlic immediately to a recipe if you want a light taste Of garlic and at the end of the recipe if your want a stronger taste of garlic.

Leftover snickers bars from Halloween make a delicious dessert. Simply chop them up with the food chopper. Peel, core and slice a few apples. Place them in a baking dish and sprinkle the chopped candy bars over the apples. Bake at 350 for 15 minutes! Serve alone or with vanilla ice cream. Yummm!

Reheat Pizza Heat up leftover pizza in a nonstick skillet on top of the stove, set heat to med-low and heat till warm. This keeps the crust crispy. No soggy micro pizza. I saw this on the cooking channel and it really works.

Easy Deviled Eggs Put cooked egg yolks in a zip lock bag. Seal, mash till they are all broken up. Add remainder of ingredients, reseal, keep mashing it up mixing thoroughly, cut the tip of the baggy, squeeze mixture into egg. Just throw bag away when done easy clean up.

Expanding Frosting When you buy a container of cake frosting from the store, whip it with your mixer for a few minutes. You can double it in size. You get to frost more cake/cupcakes with the same amount. You also eat less sugar and calories per serving.

Reheating refrigerated bread To warm biscuits, pancakes, or muffins that were refrigerated, place them in A microwave with a cup of water. The increased moisture will keep the food Moist and help it reheat faster.

Newspaper weeds away Start putting in your plants, work the nutrients in your soil. Wet newspapers, Put layers around the plants overlapping as you go cover with mulch and for- Get about weeds. Weeds will get through some gardening plastic they will not Get through wet newspapers.

Broken Glass Use a wet cotton ball or Q-tip to pick up the small shards of glass you can't see easily.

No More Mosquitoes Place a dryer sheet in your pocket. It will keep the mosquitoes away. Squirrel Away!

To keep squirrels from eating your plants, sprinkle your plants with cayenne pepper. The cayenne pepper doesn't hurt the plant and the squirrels won't come near it. (Wonder if this works with rabbits? Sure gonna give it a try)

Flexible vacuum To get something out of a heat register or under the fridge add an empty paper towel roll or empty gift wrap roll to your vacuum. It can be bent or flattened to get in narrow openings.

Reducing Static Cling Pin a small safety pin to the seam of your slip and you will not have a clingy skirt or dress. Same thing works with slacks that cling when wearing panty hose. Place pin in seam of slacks and... At DA! ... Static is gon.

Measuring Cups Before you pour sticky substances into a measuring cup, fill with hot water. Dump out the hot water, but don't dry cup. Next, add your ingredient, such As peanut butter, and watch how easily it comes right out.

Foggy Windshield? Hate foggy windshields? Buy a chalkboard eraser and keep it in the glove box of your car When the windows fog, rub with the eraser! Works better than a cloth!

Re opening envelopes If you seal an envelope and then realize you forgot to include some thing inside, just place your sealed envelope in the freezer for an hour or two. Viola! It unseals easily.

Conditioner Use your hair conditioner to shave your legs. It's cheaper than shaving cream and leaves your legs really smooth. It's also a great way to use up the conditioner you bought but didn't like when you tried it in your hair.

Goodbye Fruit Flies To get rid of pesky fruit flies, take a small glass, fill it 1/2' with Apple Cider Vinegar and 2 drops of dish washing liquid; mix well. You will find those flies drawn to the cup an d gone forever

! Get Rid of Ants Put small piles of cornmeal where you see ants. They eat it, take it 'home,' can't digest it so it kills them. It may take a week or so, especially if it rains, but it works and you don't have the worry about pets or small children being harmed! (This will definitely try!)

INFO ABOUT CLOTHES DRYERS The heating unit went out on my dryer! The gentleman that fixes things around the house for us told us that he wanted to show us something and he went over to the dryer and pulled out the lint filter. It was clean. (I always clean the lint from the filter after every load clothes.) He told us that he wanted to show us something; he took the filter over to the sink and ran hot water over it. The lint filter is made of a mesh material .. I'm sure you know what your dryer's lint filter looks like. Well .... the hot water just sat on top of the mesh! It didn't go through it at all! He told us that dryer sheets cause a film over that mesh that's what burns out the heating unit.You can't SEE the film, but it's there. It's what is in the dryer sheets to make your clothes soft and static free... that nice fragrance too. You know how they can feel waxy when you take them out of the box... well this stuff builds up on your clothes and on your lint screen. This is also what causes dryer units to potentially burn your house down with it! He said the best way to keep your dryer working for a very longtime (and to keep your electric bill lower) is to take that filter out and wash it with hot soapy water and an old toothbrush (or other brush) at least every six months. He said that makes the life of the dryer at least twice as long! How about that? Learn something new everyday! I certainly didn't know dryer sheets would do that. So, I thought I'd share! Note: I went to my dryer and tested my screen by running water on it. The water ran through a little bit but mostly collected all the water in the mesh screen. I washed it with warm soapy water and a nylon brush and I had it done in 30 seconds. Then when I rinsed it... the water ran right thru the screen! There wasn't any puddling at all! That repairman knew what he was talking about!

100 Ways To Be Happy and Feel Good

2010-04-08T20:47:00.001-07:00

100 Ways to Be Happy and Feel Good...1. Never put yourself last.2. When you extend a helping hand to one person, be careful not toKick someone else in the teeth.3. Always own a pair of old, faded jeans.4. Count your blessings every day.5. Acknowledge your successes along with your downfalls.6. Burn the candle that has been in storage for the last two years.7. Strive for progress, not perfection.8. Remember, the voice telling you that you cannot do something isAlways lying.9. At least once a day sit and do nothing.10. Don't close your heart so tightly against life's pain that youShut out life's blessings.11. Celebrate all your birthdays no matter how old you get.12. Examine your life for limitations and ask yourself why you putThem there.13. Plant a tree, pull weeds, or get your hands dirty.14. Diminish your wants instead of increasing your needs.15. Cry when you feel like it.16. Rejoice in other people's triumphs.17. Don't wait for someone else to laugh or express joy.18. Forgive yourself for any mistake you make, no matter how big or small.19. Keep good company.20. Never take a pill for a pain you need to feel.21. Use your enthusiasm to put yourself in forward gear and giveYourself a spark to move ahead.22. Look in the eyes of the ones you love when you are talking to them.23. Remember that one is a whole number.24. Walk in a rain shower without an umbrella.25. Do a kind deed for someone else.26. Keep your eyes and ears open to get the messages you need fromPeople and events in your daily life.27. Be patient.28. Eat something green.29. Change what you can and leave the rest alone.30. Walk hand and hand with truth.31. Make laughter and joy a greater part of your life than anger and grief.32. Embrace solitude instead of running from it.33. Be zealous, not jealous.34. Forgive anyone you've been holding a grudge against.35. Slow down and enjoy the present.36. Walk in others' shoes before judging them.37. Send yourself a kind message.38. Remind yourself that the company you keep is a reflection ofWhat you think of yourself.39. Go on a picnic.40. Accept your fears, no matter how crazy they seem.41. Don't let other people's opinions shape who you are.42. Say a prayer.43. Never attribute your accomplishments to luck or chance.44. Know when to say no.45. Look at the positive side of negative situations.46. Remember that you are a spiritual being in a physical body.47. Avoid seeking out other people for constant approval, because itMakes them the master and you the slave.48. Go fly a kite.49. Watch South Park or The Simpsons or Seinfeld.50. Accept the things you cannot change.51. Look inside instead of outside yourself for answers to life's problems.52. Remember that all feelings are okay.53. Shield yourself from bad influences.54. Stand up for what you believe in.55. Respect the wishes of others when they say no.56. Seize every moment and live it fully.57. Give away or sell anything you haven't used in the past five years.58. Never downgrade yourself.59. Take responsibility for what you think, feel, and do.60. Pamper yourself.61. Never say or do anything abusive to a child.62. Eat spicy food before going to bed.63. Volunteer to help someone in need.64. Refrain from overindulging in drink, work, and relationships.65. Finish unfinished business.66. Be spontaneous.67. Find a constructive outlet for your anger.68. Think about abundance instead of lack, because whatever youThink about expands.69. Think of yourself as a survivor, not a victim.70. Cuddle an animal.71. Be open to life.72. See success as something you already have, not something youMust attain.73. Experience the splendor and awe of a sunset.74. When you score a base hit, don't wish it were a home run.75. Learn to be in the present moment.76. Instead of believing in miracles, depend on them.77. Take a child to the circus.78. Change your attitude and your whole life will change.79. Never turn your power over to another person.80. When your heart is at odds with your head, follow your heart.81. Always remember that the past is gone forever and the futurenever comes.82. Live your life according to what is right for you.83. Acknowledge your imperfections.84. Plant a tree and watch it grow.85. See "friend" instead of "enemy" on the face of strangers.86. Watch an army of ants build their houses and cities and carryfood ten times their weight.87. Believe in something bigger than yourself.88. Let the playful child within you come out.89. Make haste slowly.90. Work through your problems step by step and one day at a time.91. Success is a journey, not a destination.92. Sit on the lawn without worrying about grass stains.93. Don't condemn yourself for your imperfections.94. Do a humility check periodically by loving the truth about yourself.95. Tell someone you appreciate them.96. Never live your life according to what is right for someone else.97. Admit your wrongdoing and forgive yourself for it.98. Thrive on inner peace instead of on crises.99. Affirm all the good things about yourself.100. Talk less and listen more.

Getting Out Of Debt Plan #1

2010-03-26T13:25:00.000-07:00

One of my goals is to get out of debt.If we could pay off all those extras loans we will have lots of extra money each month to play around with.My husband makes a good income all on his own but things happened as they seem to do in life- thus we took out loans.Now they are really bogging us down financially.The only true way to get ahead is to pay those loans off so we can move forward.

By working at home I can save commuting costs while bringing in an extra income to pay off the extra loans we have.

My goal is to focus on getting my car paid off and the extra loan we took out in January.After that I will work on another debt with the extra money I will be saving by having my car paid off.

10 Keys To Successful Parenting

2010-03-26T11:58:00.000-07:00

It is important that we discipline in a way that teaches responsibility by motivating our children internally, to build their self-esteem and make them feel loved. If our children are disciplined in this respect, they will not have a need to turn to gangs, drugs, or sex to feel powerful or belong.
The following ten keys will help parents use methods that have been proven to provide children with a sense of well-being and security.
1 - Use Genuine Encounter Moments (GEMS)
Your child's self-esteem is greatly influenced by the quality of time you spend with him-not the amount of time that you spend. With our busy lives, we are often thinking about the next thing that we have to do, instead of putting 100% focused attention on what our child is saying to us. We often pretend to listen or ignore our child's attempts to communicate with us. If we don't give our child GEMS throughout the day, he will often start to misbehave. Negative attention in a child's mind is better than being ignored.
It is also important to recognize that feelings are neither right nor wrong. They just are. So when your child says to you, "Mommy, you never spend time with me" (even though you just played with her) she is expressing what she feels. It is best at these times just to validate her feelings by saying, "Yeah, I bet it does feel like a long time since we spent time together."
2 - Use Action, Not Words
Statistics say that we give our children over 2000 compliance requests a day! No wonder our children become "parent deaf!" Instead of nagging or yelling, ask yourself, "What action could I take?" For example, if you have nagged your child about unrolling his socks when he takes them off, then only wash socks that are unrolled. Action speaks louder than words.
3 - Give Children Appropriate Ways to Feel Powerful
If you don't, they will find inappropriate ways to feel their power. Ways to help them feel powerful and valuable are to ask their advice, give them choices, let them help you balance your check book, cook all our part of a meal, or help you shop. A two-year-old can wash plastic dishes, wash vegetables, or put silverware away. Often we do the job for them because we can do it with less hassle, but the result is they feel unimportant.
4 - Use Natural Consequences
Ask yourself what would happen if I didn't interfere in this situation? If we interfere when we don't need to, we rob children of the chance to learn from the consequences of their actions. By allowing consequences to do the talking, we avoid disturbing our relationships by nagging or reminding too much. For example, if your child forgets her lunch, you don't bring it to her. Allow her to find a solution and learn the importance of remembering.
5 - Use Logical Consequences
Often the consequences are too far in the future to practically use a natural consequence. When that is the case, logical consequences are effective. A consequence for the child must be logically related to the behavior in order for it to work. For example, if your child forgets to return his video and you ground him for a week, that punishment will only create resentment within your child. However, if you return the video for him and either deduct the amount from his allowance or allow him to work off the money owed, then your child can see the logic to your discipline.
6 - Withdraw from Conflict
If your child is testing you through a temper tantrum, or being angry or speaking disrespectfully to you, it is best if you leave the room or tell the child you will be in the next room if he wants to "Try again." Do not leave in anger or defeat.
7 - Separate the Deed from the Doer
Never tell a child that he is bad. That tears at his self-esteem. Help your child recognize that it isn't that you don't like him, but it is his behavior that you are unwilling to tolerate. In order for a child to have healthy self-esteem, he must know that he is loved unconditionally no matter what he does. Do not motivate your child by withdrawing your love from him. When in doubt, ask yourself, did my discipline build my child's self-esteem?
8 - Be Kind and Firm at the Same Time
Suppose you have told your five-year-old child that if she isn't dressed by the time the timer goes off, you will pick her up and take her to the car. She has been told she can either get dressed either in the car or at school. Make sure that you are loving when you pick her up, yet firm by picking her up as soon as the timer goes off without any more nagging. If in doubt, ask yourself, did I motivate through love or fear?
9 - Parent with the End in Mind
Most of us parent with the mindset to get the situation under control as soon as possible. We are looking for the expedient solution. This often results in children who feel overpowered. But if we parent in a way that keeps in mind how we want our child to be as an adult, we will be more thoughtful in the way we parent. For example, if we spank our child, he will learn to use acts of aggression to get what he wants when he grows up.
10 - Be Consistent, Follow Through
If you have made an agreement that your child cannot buy candy when she gets to the store, do not give in to her pleas, tears, demands or pouting. Your child will learn to respect you more if you mean what you say.

Telemarketing Jobs

2010-03-01T17:32:00.000-08:00

Here are several good work at home telemarketing job leads. Go ahead and check them out.
Blue Zebra Appointment Setting - Appointment SetterRequirements for this position include 2+ years of outbound, business-to-business cold calling and appointment setting, and 2 - 5 years serving the business-to-business marketplace. Candidates must reside in either U.S. or Canada. See website for more details

. Brighten Communications - TelemarketingLooking for callers with previous telemarketing and cold calling experience. You will need a good working phone line (not cell phone) and have an unlimited flat rate long distance plan. Must have Windows 98 or newer operating system and a quiet working environment.

Extended Presence - Appointment Setting - Lead GenerationRequirements include appointment setting or lead qualifying experience, excellent communication skills, and ability to work unsupervised. Must have a computer with high-speed internet access and a phone line (land line) with unlimited long distance calling plan. Look for "Home Office" as Location in the job listings.

Intelemark - Home Based Appointment SettersSeeking top-line, home-based agents capable of navigating a B2B call, identifying the decision maker, and scheduling an appointment on behalf of the client. Must be professional, hard working and committed to success. Apply at the website.

Intrep - Sales Consultants - Appointment SettersMust have an extensive sales and marketing background, be able to set appointments with prospects of any level, and a complete understanding of all business related software. Also, need to pass personality and proficiency tests. See website for more information.

OPK Telemarketing - Sales - Lead Generation - Appointment SettingOPK Telemarketing Services is always excited to hear from hardworking self-starters with previous sales experience in a variety of fields. Should have a business background, good computer skills and great communication skills.

P.M.I. - Work from Home Appointment SettersRead through the website for information. See the "Jobs" page for details about the work involved. Contact PMI to get started on a trial basis to see if this work is suitable.

RepsForRent - Telemarketing JobsA minimum of 2 years outbound telemarketing experience or equivalent education is required. Must have Business to Business telemarketing experience. Ideal candidate will be available to work 30 hours a week and have experience using ACT, WinFax, Excel, and Word. Online application.

TeleReach - Appointment SettersLooking for people with cold calling, tele-prospecting, outside sales or appointment setting experience. Not hiring in the following states: CA, CT, FL, IL, MD, MI, MS, MT, ND, NH, NV, PA, or WA. See the website for more information.

Customer Service Jobs

2010-03-01T17:29:00.000-08:00

Here are some companies that hire work from home customer service reps.All these companies have been verified.So give them a shot if you are looking to working from home.

MicahTek, Inc.
ClickNwork
Working Solutions Inc
West at Home
LiveOps
Alpine Access
Willow CSN Cyber Secretaries
Vera-A-Fast

Telemarketers/Team Leaders Wanted

2010-03-01T16:53:00.000-08:00

My name is Karen Abrams, and I'm a Sr. Leads Manager with Your Advantage Leads, which is based in Charlotte, NC. We are a company who employ a small force of home workers to provide leads to our clients; mostly life insurance agents from across the US.

We are currently looking to increase our staff with a few new callers.

Telemarketers earn $8-$15 per lead on our predictive dialer, working from their homecomputers. Strong callers make $100+ per day setting call backs and appointments.

Pay is weekly via PayPal

.I'm looking for a few top callers who are available to work 4-5 hours per day,or more. Computer headset required.We will also be in need of Team Leaders within the next few weeks

Please email your resume or introduction including experience to:karenyal@aol.comKaren AbramsSr. Leads ManagerYour Advantage Leadskarenyal@aol.com

At Home Customer Service Reps.

2010-03-01T16:38:00.000-08:00

We are in need of at home agents to take orders, answer chats and respond to emails along with other small tasks as needed.

This is a part time position 3-5 billable hours to start and pay rate is $5.50 per hour to start.

*Note - Pay rate and hours can change and/or be expanded upon mutual consent based on performance, completion of training and additional projects taken on.

Please send your resume to vasneeded (at) theperfectpear (dot) com.** Please include your resume in the body of the email** No Attachments

Work With ADT

2010-03-01T16:36:00.001-08:00

We are seeking highly motivated and energetic individuals for door to door marketing! How would you like to help protect homes and neighborhoods in your city by offering them a FREE home security system? Aistrope Marketing is currently looking for people to help us market this wonderful service across America through door hanger distribution.Job Description:*We will give you a list of neighborhoods in your city that have recently had a home break-in reported. *You simply go to those neighborhoods and pass out as many of our door hangers as you can. *For each sale you bring to us you earn $75.00 commission. *Paychecks will be sent out once a month.Become a part of something that is more than just a JOB! Help keep America a safe place to live. Be your own boss. Set your own hours. Make as much money as you want. The possibilities are endless. To apply please visit Aistrope Marketing - #1 Home Security System and click on Work With Us!

Make Money Clinking Licks

2010-03-01T14:38:00.000-08:00

Want an easy to make some easy money? I am using clixsense.I just click a link and get paid.It doesnt take much time and I get paid.Its free to sign up so check it out.
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Working on getting organized

2010-02-28T12:47:00.000-08:00

This evening I am hoping to get started on organizing all my pen pal supplies. I am going to take it one step at time becuase its going to be a difficult process because I am just not organized at all or patient enough to see it through. I am going to start by alphabetizing all the people I currently write too. I think putting them on index cards will be the easieast way to keep track.

The love Dare Journey

2010-02-28T12:43:00.000-08:00

Yesterday love dare one was going good until my husband decided to call me an idiot for supposedly throwing his CD in the console in the car.I did not throw it.I placed it in there nicely. I so wanted to tell him to stop calling people idiots. When he does that he is saying his way is the right way and everyone who doest see it his way is stupid.Calling someone an idiot is just very cruel. But I remebered the Love Dare and just said "I am sorry" It was very hard to do but I did it.

I think Love Dare #2 will be easy today. But with my husband it is always hard to say.

Love Dare #2

2010-02-28T12:33:00.000-08:00

In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected act of kindness.

Kindness is love in action. Kindness is how love ACTS to maximize a postive circumstance.Patience avoids a problem, kindness creates a blessing. These 2 sides of love are cornerstones on which many other attributes are built.

When you are operating kindess, your are careful how you treat your spouse, never being unneccessarily harsh. You are senstive and tender. Even if you have hard things to say, you will bend over backwards to make your rebuke/challenge easier to hear.

Kindness inspires you to be agreeable instead of being obstinate,relunctant or stubborn, you cooperate and stay flexible. Rather than complaining, you look for reasons to compromise and accomodate.

Kindess thinks ahead. The kind husband/wife will be the one who greets first,smiles first, and forgives first. They do not require the other to get his/her act together before showing love. When acting from kindness, you see the need and then make your move.

Wasnt kindness the first thing that drew you to your spouse in the first place? Werent you expecting to enjoy thier kindness for the rest of your life? Didnt your mate feel the same way about you? Even though years can take the edge off desire, your enjoyment is still linked to the daily level of kindness expressed.

Love Dare Day #1

2010-02-27T08:56:00.000-08:00

Although love is communicated in a number of ways,our words have reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day resolve to demonstrate patience and say nothing negative to your spouse at all. IF the temptation arises, choose to say nothing at all. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you will regret!

Love is patient! When you choose to be patient you learn to respond in a postive way to a negative situation. You are slow to anger. Love begins to help you extent mercy to those around you.Patient brings calm to the storm.

No one likes to be around an agry person.Anger never makes things better.It usually generates more problems. But patience stops things in thier tracks. It clears the air.

If your spouse offends you do you quicky retailate, or do you stay under control? Do you find anger is your emotional default? If so,are you spreading poison rather than love?

As sure as lack of patience will turn your home into a war, the practice of patience will foster peace. Patience is where love meets wisdom. Patience helps give your spouse permission to be human. It understands everyone fails. When a mistake is made, it chooses to give them more time than they deserve to correct it. It gives you the ability to hold on during the tough times in your relationship rather than bailing out under pressure.

Can your spouse count on a patient partner? Can they know locking thier keys in the car will be met with understanding than a lecture? Few people are hard to live with as an impatient person.