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SoulMate Tip #1: Pay Attention To Signs

noreply@blogger.com (Robin Lee Sardini) — Wed, 28 May 2008 23:52:00 +0000

SoulMate Tip #1: Pay Attention to Signs

One morning five years ago, Englishman David Brown woke up with a cell phone number running through his mind. Brown had no idea where the number came from, and sent a text message to it, hoping to solve the mystery. He reached Michelle Kitson, who lived 60 miles away. She had no explanation, but after several messages back and forth, they struck up a friendship that blossomed into love. The two ended up getting married and have just returned from their honeymoon in India. "She really is the girl of my dreams," said Brown.

This true story was reported this week in the magazine THE WEEK. For me it's a clear reminder that we must remember to follow and trust our dreams and intuition AND that the Universe will often send us signs that will lead us to love.

Are you ready to manifest your soul mate? Is receiving this email a "sign" that it's now time for you to begin to "prepare and learn how to manifest?" What can you do today to bring your soul mate to you?

Wishing you love, joy & peace,

Arielle Ford

P.S. Next, I'll send you Soulmate Tip #2, "A Soft Place to Land"

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Good Intentions Gone Awry

noreply@blogger.com (Robin Lee Sardini) — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 13:55:00 +0000

Good Intentions Gone Awry

Do you have friends, neighbors, or family members that are interested in your relationship? Are they a little too interested? Then you'll want to read on...

You could excuse them by thinking,"Oh they mean well." They could excuse themselves by saying, "I really am concerned about you."

There is a fine line between concern and meddling. It depends upon your tolerance level and your previous interaction with these individuals. There are numerous reasons why someone would interfere in another's relationship. There are some individuals who do not have good intentions despite what they say to you. The purpose of this article is not so much to investigate that, as to determine how to handle interference of any sort.

It's about setting personal boundaries and taking back control of your own decisions.
We don't have to understand someone's motivation entirely in order to know that it feels uncomfortable. Whenever it feels uncomfortable it's a clear indication that your boundaries have been violated.

Do you trust the person who has offered his insight into your relationship?
If you don't trust the person in the first place then you need to speak up immediately, and calmly but firmly, tell him that while you realize he is entitled to his opinion, the subject of your relationship is off~limits and you have no intention of discussing it further.
If you do trust the person, you may want to be a bit more diplomatic. However, there is no reason to apologize for re~establishing your boundaries. The Assertive Bill of Rights gives every one of us the right to be free of the good~will of others.

You may want to add that you "will take it under advisement". This means that you will consider what they have to say but are in no way obligated to act on it.

Regular interference, particularly by the same person, is not tolerable and will eventually come between you and your partner. It is important to recognize this before it causes you major trouble.

If the friend or relative has a legitimate point, you will know in time. Usually sooner rather than later. When You suspect this is the case you will need to let them know that you will handle it on your terms and in your own time.

If, however, the friend or relative is just meddling, a line has to be drawn right away. If the person doing the meddling happens to the friend or relative of your partner then your partner should be the one to handle the situation. If he refuses, you might want to reconsider your relationship with your partner. Your feelings must be part of the equation in your relationship. If he is not willing to stand up for you and the relationship then perhaps he is not the person you want to be involved with. Avoiding conflict does not make it disappear. This kind of thing tends to get worse over time, not better.

Don't ever be afraid to speak up. This is your relationship. You have the right to decide for what's right for you.

Love Strategies

noreply@blogger.com (Robin Lee Sardini) — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 21:15:00 +0000

Love Strategies

The term "Love Strategies" sounds complicated, but it's not.
It's one of the easiest ways to understand your lover and be understood (and fulfilled) in return. Getting to know this can be a relationship saver.

It's about knowing how we feel loved,
exactly what it is that makes us feel loved.
These are called Love Strategies.
Each of us is unique.
Do you know your lover's Love Strategies?
Could you identify your own?

Some people prefer to be told, in various ways, that they are loved. The spoken word to them is their particular Love Strategy.
It's what makes them feel loved.

Now you might say, "Telling me isn't enough. I need to be shown."
This is the second Love Strategy. These individuals prefer to have love demonstrated to them. In this case, actions do speak louder than words. This would involve doing things for your lover. This could mean doing household chores together. It could be as simple as bringing her flowers when she least expects it, or leaving him a love note in his coat pocket. That is how they feel loved.

Another Love Strategy is the preference for being touched. This does not have to be sexual touching. In fact, it really involves touching your lover in non~sexual ways first. A stroke to the side of the face. A touch of the hair. A tender hug. A grasp of the hand. It's been discovered that women need 8 to 10 meaningful touches a day just to maintain their emotional well~being.

You may be one of the people that requires a combination of these Love Strategies in order to feel loved. That's perfectly normal and quite common.

If you don't know your lover's Love Strategies, just ask. We tend to love in terms of the way we need to be loved. But if your loved one has a different Love Strategy than yours, they may not feel the love that you're trying to convey.

If you'd like to know more about Love Strategies feel free to check out Gary Smalley's book Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships.

The Gift of Love

noreply@blogger.com (Robin Lee Sardini) — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 00:23:00 +0000

The Gift of...LOVE!

by Leah Guy

Falling in love, being in love and truly loving yourself can be the most beautiful, devastating activity of your life! It will turn your world upside down and inside out. It's what we all want, yet resist with all our might. Why? Because it will heal you.

True love is revealing. It peeks through the nooks and crannies of your heart, your spirit and your body to see who you really are, and in that, previous agendas are null and void. Once love penetrates, it will soften you, and make you vulnerable. Your true self will surface - but you must LET it! If you deny this, in any way, pure love cannot fully work.

To receive love, you must open yourself. In that opening you will rediscover long lost pains, awarenesses, secrets and memories of love gone by. It can be painful, but not to be avoided, as this is the place of healing. Hiding, manipulating, or being dishonest blocks pure love from flowing in OR out. To give love, you must offer it freely, with no preconceived ideas or expectations, accepting and nurturing what you see...and your heart will be healed.

The healing Gift of Love allows ourselves to be loved in whatever condition we arrive. True love can do this, selfish love cannot. Unconditional love can do this, judgmental love cannot. With pure love, the pains of the past start to disappear. The coldness of your heart begins to melt. Resentments give way to forgiveness. And comfort soothes the loneliness.

To be on the receiving or giving end of this blissful love doesn't matter. Many say, "You must first love yourself before you can love another." I say it usually happens at the same time.

Share the Gift of Love with another, and you will never be the same!

Leah Guy is the Host and Producer of A Girl Named Guy.com. She delivers information about positive living and wellness in a fun, hip and palpable way! A veteran of the holistic health industry AND entertainment, you'll walk away with a lift to your day on A Girl Named Guy TV!
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Happy Valentine's Day, My Love

noreply@blogger.com (Robin Lee Sardini) — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 15:26:00 +0000

It could be a good day. It could be so much fun..
It could be an even better night...

You know what to do.

Make it memorable!

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5 Tips To Make Love Last

noreply@blogger.com (Robin Lee Sardini) — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 20:28:00 +0000

Thinking of Tying The Knot?

5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together

by Michael Webb

Did you know that love does NOT conquer all?

You see, often people get married with the idea
that their “chemistry” or undying love for each
other will keep them together forever.

However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in
divorce these days, it’s obvious that this isn’t
the case. Therefore, it pays to know a few little
secrets before getting married.

Here are 5 tips that help keep couples together
long after tying the knot:

TIP#1 -- CONTINUE DATING

Over the years, people often drift apart or
relationships and marriages become stale because
couples fail to do new and special things together.

That's why going on new and refreshing dates is so
important. In fact, there is something about
“dating” that creates a sense of magic in a
relationship and can even bring relationships out
of a rut.

While on a date, you also put more effort into your
appearance, have more uninterrupted time to
communicate on a deeper level and are naturally
drawn closer together.

Stuck for ideas? Spend the day at the aquarium,
zoo, museum, carnival, bookstore, beach or park.

TIP#2 -- DELAY IS OFTEN BETTER

It’s a well-documented statistic that couples who
have dated for a year or longer before marriage
have a significantly lower rate of divorce than
those who married after a short dating period.

A year of dating gives time for many emotions to
surface and many character traits to be discovered.
You may adore someone in the spring, but despise
him or her in the winter.

Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on
the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.

TIP#3 -- ALWAYS EXPRESS YOUR LOVE

Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners
tend to stop praising each other because they
'assume' their partner already knows what they're
thinking.

When in reality, a day should never go by without
you praising your partner. Compliment them on their
cooking, reaffirm that they're the greatest person
in the world or tell them they’re a wonderful role
model. If you want to be loved and romanced by your
sweetheart, love and romance them first. When
they're feeling loved, it is much easier to love in
return.

Are you a super supporter of what your mate does
and says? So do you cheer them on and praise them
constantly? Or do they constantly hear boos or
silence?

TIP#4 -- TAKE TIME TO UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER

Couples with the most problems are often the ones
that say, "I just don't understand him/her."

So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you about
your mate's profession or the degree they are
pursuing? Do you know anything about his or her
family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful
conversation about her cross-stitch hobby or his
interest in rugby? If you are a man, do you fully
understand what women experience during PMS or
menopause?

You don't need to be identical, but make an effort
to learn about the things that interest your
partner in life and you'll grow closer as a result.

TIP#5 -- ANSWER THE *BIG* QUESTIONS

Does your partner want kids? Do you both want
careers? Do they have a history of spending their
way into debt? Do they go to church?

In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of
marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to
ask each other the right questions BEFORE they get
married.

I guess people think they'll be able to change
their spouses after marriage and everything will be
better. Wrong. If you fail to sit down and discuss
finances, religion, sex, housing, your future, and
other topics in great detail, you could end up with
nothing but argument after argument for the rest of
your days.

In the end, if you both have completely different
views, desires and goals in life, there’s no
guarantee that chemistry or "I love you’s" will
help you stay together.

Make it your utmost priority to understand each
other 'inside-out' BEFORE you take that walk down
the aisle.

About the author:

Michael Webb is the author of
“1000 Questions For Couples",
the most comprehensive book of questions
that all couples should ask before getting married.
Covering lovemaking, religion, careers, money,
children & raising them, household work,
personalities, the future and much much more.
1000 Questions For Couples is the "How To" Guide
for everyone wanting to stay together and make love last!

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7 Lovemaking Mistakes That Couples Make & How To Avoid Them

noreply@blogger.com (Robin Lee Sardini) — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 15:45:00 +0000

7 Lovemaking Mistakes That Couples Make and How To Avoid Them

Take your passion to new heights...now!

500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

By Michael Webb

Did you know that people who try to spice up their
lovemaking, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling?
It’s true.
Over the years, I've seen couples make the same
mistakes over and over again, when trying to
improve their love lives, and I'd like to teach you
how to overcome and avoid these problems.

Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making
them?

MISTAKE #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new things.

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking
but were afraid of what your partner may think?

Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner
would LOVE to try something new, too, but they're
just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing
it up as you are.

And you don't need to introduce whips, chains or a
third person. That's nonsense! There are hundreds
of ways to bring variety to your passionate play that
aren't crude or dangerous and that your
partner is sure to be comfortable with.

MISTAKE #2: Trying to convince the partner to make love.

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex,
trying to convince or persuade them to have sex
almost NEVER works.

On the other hand, when a person is sexually
aroused, their body releases the chemical
'adrenaline' into the bloodstream. This chemical is
what gives you the energy to make love. So here's
how to arouse them the right way...Yes, even if
they're tired.

Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him
fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 10 in
the morning. This is when his testosterone levels
are highest for the day. For better results, also
wear something sexy or nothing at all. He'll like
that.

Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest
'turn-ons' for women. Looking in her eyes and
touching her face while kissing her can really
increase arousal, too. And give some attention to
her neck. It will drive her wild. But don't rush
this! Spend quality time building up her arousal
with your sensual kisses.

MISTAKE #3: Neglecting foreplay to enjoy intercourse sooner.

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to
neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy
intercourse sooner, but did you know that foreplay
is actually said to intensify orgasms?

That's right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer,
you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.

So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make
it even better, tease your partner in a playful
way. (This works like crazy.)

If you find something that they really enjoy, stop
doing it, move back, and then do it again later.
The more you pull back and push forward, the more
they'll want it. And the more intense their
experience will be. There are many games you can
play to heighten this anticipation, too.

MISTAKE #4: Using toys or pornography to make your lovemaking better.

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men
especially) think that a video, some plastic or
vibrating thingy will instantly take things
through the roof.

Wrong!... While toys can certainly have their place
in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can
be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure
can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.

Why? Because you don't want your partner to end up
looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure
more than they look forward to pleasure with you,
do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to
please all their spouses' body parts before
introducing other elements. Use them as a spice,
not the main course.

MISTAKE #5: Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY from intercourse.

Men often feel "unmanly" if they can't satisfy
their woman from intercourse. But what they need to
understand is that a large number of women can't
achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men
completely. Now there's no need to get upset when
their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should
master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a
woman).

MISTAKE #6: Trying to “finish” at the same time.

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead
of aiming for one orgasm that you share together,
focus completely on the woman’s needs first.

Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable
and instead make love in ways that are most
pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely
satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance
of both climaxing.

MISTAKE #7: Sticking to a “set routine” too often.

You know the drill. You take your clothes off,
insert part A into part B, and, within a few
minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar?

No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s
no denying it can get boring over the years. And
the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act
is always the same. But the danger is letting it
get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your
relationship.

The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious
connection with your partner is to have lots of new
lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal.

That's the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and
techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and
passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm
to make love and even make love more often.

About the Author:

Oprah Love Expert, Michael Webb, is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets, a book full of ways to spice up
your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and
intimacy to your experience.

Take your passion to new heights and revel in your newfound intimacy tonight! Get your copy now!

500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

Enjoy!

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