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2015-01-11T15:17:00.001+05:30

Contents: Aloe vera, green leaf, bergamot, roman chamomile

Benefits of ALOE VERA: IMMENSE.. Do I really need to cover 'Aloe' am truly wondering.. Everyone is aware what aloevera is and how much its beneficial to skin. Not just skin but the over all well being and health. Its a wonder plant.Its also called the 'plant of immortality'. Let me just few of the things here.. But yes! the list is endless...
The meaning of 'vera' is true and genuine.

You can see your skin glow after using aloe vera, and a glowing skin reflects good health.
Treats Inflammation, Wounds and Burns :It treats and cures cuts, wounds, burns, abrasions, inflammations and skin breakage. Aloe vera also contains salicylic acid and its salts salicylates; it helps to curb inflammation by inhibiting the production of hormones like prostaglandins. Salicylic acid is like aspirin and has the potential of reducing inflammation by destroying the bacteria that cause inflammation. It also fights bacteria that occur due to wounds. The cooling effect of the plant helps to regenerate new cells and helps in rebuilding the damaged tissue.

It is an antidote to aging skin. Aloe vera has several properties that are effective in treating a variety of skin conditions like flaky or dry skin, cosmetic ailments. It restores the degenerating cells of the skin.

The anti-allergic property of aloe vera is useful in the treatment of various skin diseases like eczema, psoriasis, itchy skin and so on. They are helpful in curing blisters, insect bites and other allergic reactions as well.

Aloe vera gives a glow to the skin.

Aloe Vera’s anti-inflammatory property helps to reduce acne greatly. It does not completely cure the acne; however, it reduces inflammation and redness of the skin to a great extent. It also prevents the outburst of acne and pimples.
Treats Sunburns & Reduces Stretch Marks: It acts as a protective shield for the skin and heals the skin quickly. It can also be used as an after shave treatment for its healing properties can treat small cuts caused by shaving. Aloe vera also helps to reduce stretch marks by healing the wounds. This is one of the best benefits of aloe vera for skin.

Improves Skin Firmness :Aloe vera helps to keep the skin hydrated and it also improves the skin’s elasticity, therefore minimizing the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. It refreshes the skin and makes it vibrant and young looking.

Lightens Skin: Beneficial for Dry Skin:Aloe vera keeps the skin hydrated and increases its elasticity. It also provides oxygen to the skin which strengthens the skin tissue and keeps the skin healthy. Moreover, it moisturizes the skin without making the skin greasy so it is perfect for oily skin. Once applied, it releases natural vitamins and enzymes on the skin to produce a deep moisturizing effect that helps to treat and restore its pH balance.

Smooth and glowing skin can be achieved easily. Aloe vera lightens the skin and helps to alleviate sun tanning and hyper pigmentation.

For women who use mineral-based make-up, aloe vera acts as a moisturizer and is great for the face prior to the application to prevents skin drying. It helps in achieving an even application giving cosmetics a better spread.

It detoxifies skin of impurities thus providing a clear skin and even complexion.

GREEN LEAF : many leaves like rosemary, guava, neem, Moringa, bay leaf, mint, basil, henna,chamomile,orchid leaves, beetroot leaves, marigold leaves, camphor, lavender, tomato leaf,saffron and many more are extracted and used to make essential oil and is used in IVORY products.

BERGAMOT : Its a small orange like fruit in yellow, lemon-like colour.

Fight Cold Sores: Cold sores appear on your skin from a viral infection
Reduces Oil and Acne
Treat Boils: boils are result of bacterial infection.
Treats dark spots, hyperpigmentation, eczema or a dull, dry complexion as it has many potent antiseptic properties

The oil from the peel of the bergamot fruit can help remedy all of these difficult skin conditions. On top of that, it’s enlivening citrus scent is known in aromatherapy to help relieve stress, depression, anxiety, and nervousness. The oil is known among cancer survivors as a helpful calming agent for chemotherapy and radiation treatments. It’s also used during massage therapy and in baths to provide these calming benefits.Other potential medical uses for bergamot may include relieving pain, preventing cancer, and protecting nerves.

ROMAN CHAMOMILE: Ancient Romans used the oil for mental clarity and courage during war. And it's said to be nicknamed the "plant's physician", because it supposedly benefitted any nearby plants as well.

For anyone undergoing stress, is going through a period of depression, loneliness intense fear or is challenged by post traumatic shock disorder roman chamomile is said to bring a sense of calm.
Cures insomnia
Its anti infectious
Anti inflammatory
Anti parasitic
Calming
Relaxing

It's thought to soften one's Ego in order to tune into their own intuitive center for inner guidance,
It helps with Allergies, Bee/Hornet Stings, Bruises, Cuts, scrapes, Depression, Parasites
Rashes, Skin (dry, acne, boils, dermatitis, eczema). Is soothing and detoxifying.

2015-01-05T14:39:00.004+05:30

RAW HONEY

Everybody know how beneficial honey is and how it is derived. Honey is not just useful in cleansing your internal system but it has many other benefits and uses too. Honey, has been used as a natural remedy for centuries to treat several ailments. Honey is a rich source of natural sugars like fructose and glucose along with essential vitamins, minerals and antioxidants

Made by the alchemy of bees collecting nectar, pollen, and resins from flowers, honey can help moisturize, fight aging, and fight bacteria. Plus, it’s loaded with nutrients, antioxidants, and healing compounds. So, what is raw honey? it is honey that hasn't been heat-treated or pasteurized; it contains more active phytonutrient antioxidants and enzymes for enhanced benefits.

Moisturizing Mask

Just like Glycerin Honey is also a natural humectant, meaning it draws moisture from the air into the skin and ensures it's retained it in the layers where it’s needed most for penetrating, long-lasting hydration.

Pore Cleanser

The enzymes in raw honey clarifies skin and keeps pores clear and clean. Plus, the antibacterial properties of honey prevents bacterial buildup that can lead to skin imbalances and breakouts.

Gentle Exfoliator

Honey is loaded with antioxidants, enzymes, and other nutrients that nourish, cleanse, and hydrate skin. its a natural exfoliator that removes dead skin cells, allowing new cells to emerge for a radiant complexion.

Scar Fader & Skin lightener

Honey is said to lighten skin, and its anti-inflammatory and antibacterial compounds help to decrease the appearances of scars and increase healing and tissue regeneration. The hydrating properties of honey and coconut oil or olive oil will also help revive skin cells, while regular, gentle massaging will increase circulation to aid skin recovery and cell turnover. Also, helps clear blemishes.

Acne Treatment

Honey contains antibacterial and antifungal properties that thwart bacteria that can lead to breakouts. Its anti-inflammatory properties will calm redness and irritation.

Bath Soak

Honey's not just hydrating; its antioxidants will repair skin and protect it against oxidative and environmental damage.

Cuticle Moisturiser

It helps aid and strengthen the nails as it balances pH for healthy growth.

Sunburn Protection

Honey restores hydration to the deepest layers of sun-exposed skin and honey contains powerful anti-inflammatories to calm burned skin and aid recovery.

A Natural Healer:

Honey is a wonderful antibacterial agent and is effective in healing burns, cuts and wounds When Applied topically to scrapes, lacerations and even sore nipples, honey promotes rapid tissue repair and eases pain. Using pure honey on open wounds keeps them sterile and prevents further infections, gangrene and other complications. This is due to the presence of a bacteria-killing agent called inhibine, found only in raw honey. Unfortunately, inhibine is easily destroyed during pasteurization.(hence raw honey is used in IVORY products)

Anecdote: It is written in ancient books that cleopatra soaked herself in milk and raw honey while bathing. (Not possible in busy times like today - right?)Hence there is a short cut solution. Go for IVORY products.

DELAYS AGING PROCESS

Honey contains anti-inflammatory properties that delay the ageing process. So apply some honey before you go off to bed every night.

2015-01-04T17:20:00.002+05:30

GLYCERIN

Today, am back to the ingredient list.. Lets talk about the benefits of GLYCERIN on your skin.

Glycerin attracts moisture onto your skin which is why it is considered a humectant.

Moisturizing

Glycerin absorbs water from air and retains it on your skin making it soft. .

Smoothing

As skin ages, it cannot retain moisture as well and this causes rough, dull skin that is prone to irritation and redness, but using glycerin regularly can prevent these problems associated with dryness. It also helps your face seem smoother by filling in the microscopic cracks in the dry skin.

Healing

A study in 2002 showed that a cream with 20% glycerin was able to successfully treat skin that was dry and eczematous without the irritation associated with traditional treatments.

Protecting

Because of its dual ability to hydrate the skin and fill in gaps in dryer skin, glycerin is able to protect your face by keeping the outer layer of the skin intact. This layer is essential as it is the natural barrier protecting you from pollutants and disease-causing organisms.

Along with the above mentioned benefits there are more to it :

It is a wonderful cleanser.

It is also a toner.

It is a wonderful skin moisturizer.

It makes hands smooth.

It helps retain the water in your skin.

It plays an important role in cell maturation so that your skin looks supple and young.

It cures oily skin problems like pimples, acne and blackhead.

It’s non-toxic nature allows it to be used on baby and sensitive skin.

It helps heal cracked feet

It acts as a mild sunscreen

It removes clogged impurities and helps in lightening skin shade.

Glycerin also gives the skin a soft and supple feel.

Glycerine helps healing scars that are especially caused due burns, acne or wounds to get rid of them.

It can be used for skin lightening.

It fill up the gaps due to the wrinkles thus makes the skin look younger.

2015-01-01T01:05:00.003+05:30

I know, I thought of writing all about ingredients used in doing my soaps and soap products, but then I came across this somewhere and it truly touched my heart.. I had no words... Wish all men are this ...umm sensitive.. caring and loving!!! "SOULMATE"

“Why do you love me?” he heard her whisper in the night. He closed his eyes, a tear forming sure to stain his pillow.

I love you because I do. I love you because the Universe showed me the way to you. I love you because my heart beats your name, my mind drowns in your eyes, my soul feels yours even when we are miles apart.

I love you because I have no choice; I didn’t ask to love you. I didn’t need to love you, but I love you just the same. My arms aren’t filled unless you’re in them and my thirst is not quenched unless you are the drink.

I love you because I feel comfort in being out of my comfort zone with you by my side. I love you because every cell of my body responds to your touch, to your look, to the way you move and the way you sound. I love you because something, somewhere, directed me to you.

It was my soul and you are its mate.

Through the paths we have taken to one another, I have loved you. I’ve played in comfortable places among comfortable people until I had no choice but to leave there to come to you here. I battled the gods themselves and faced the raging storms of hell until, one day, the clouds parted and your eyes met mine.

I waited, impatiently, for you until that shock from my heart announced your arrival.

I know you are scared, my sweet Angel. I know you feel the pangs of fear and the dread of a journey of which no arrival is guaranteed. But I promise you this: when the demons come I will stand strong with you at my back and you will be protected. When the brimstone comes raining from the sky I will shield you until each storm passes. When the swine and malcontent arrive, I will fight them and when the battles are over and the storm clouds are gone I will hold your face, look into your eyes,and you will know why I love you.

2014-12-29T21:14:00.000+05:30

OLIVE OIL

People's mindsets are so difficult to understand... (Though not all...)

They intake any neon coloured drinks, or eat street food and mind you, at the clumsiest of places and never bother. But, they have innumerable questions and are sceptical to use something that's so mild and natural, on their skin with so many benefits... So, today am planning to start writing about all the benefits of the raw materials used in MY soaps, bath bombs and bath salts...

Let’s begin with the basic OLIVE OIL:

Olive oil is one of the most beneficial natural products; It is extracted from the crop of the olive tree which is native to the Mediterranean basin.

Olive oil is closer in chemical structure to the skin’s natural oil than any other naturally occurring oil.

1. Thus it acts as the perfect moisturiser especially for dry skin.
2. It can also be used to moisturise extremely dry skin prone areas like elbows and knees.
3. Olive oil has regenerative power over skin tissue and thus regular usage ensures that your skin remains soft and smooth while keeping it toned and firm
4. Helps maintain natural skin tone.
5. Rejuvenates Skin
6. Leaves skin soft and supple
7. Treats sunburn
8. Olive oil is beneficial for skin as it is rich in healthy fats antioxidants and vitamin E along with squalene and oleic acids. These help in getting rid of free radicals as well as repair the damage done due to exposure to sun. These elements are also known to reduce the chances of skin cancer as they inhibit growth of tumour cells.
9. Lightens already existent stretch marks and prevents from regenerating new ones.
10. Helps heal degenerated skin making you look younger & prevents premature aging.
11. It’s a natural sunscreen
12. Gives natural glow by enhancing blood circulation.
13. Cuticles stay moist and it helps the growth of nails and keeps nails shiny and pink.
14. Reduces inflammation if any on the body.
15. Takes care of any redness or rash after waxing or eyebrows.

2014-11-25T22:47:00.000+05:30

SOAP MAKING

Life moves so fast.. Come to think of it, it just feels like this happened just yesterday...oh no no, it was a few years ago...and like this life moves on.. So many things happened since the last time I penned. Sister got married, Made new friends, few friends moved places, few have kids, many new things learnt, so many old things forgotten..few deliberate few just passed...Meanwhile I took up a new interest- "SOAP"

I started making soap and thoroughly enjoying making so many kinds. Life seems interesting with this new hobby. I have always been interested in "chemistry" aa aan it isn't just the chemistry of relationships but the science.

I like the very fact that chemicals bond and rebond giving birth to new bonds.

I was just browsing through looking for information on chemistry, also, on painting and paints. i was on lookout for hobby classes. I'm actually getting quite bored sitting at home after sister's marriage. While flipping through the pages I found an interesting link to soap making. I hadn't the least idea of making soaps at home. I always thought it was factory made. booom! here I'm making wonderful soaps and people who use it are all praises. Feels nice...

That's how I got the idea. I flipped through few chemistry books contacted few people and had the inherent urge to do it.

Its been a while practicing and trying it out on every other person I meet. Initially it was quite overwhelming to find a lot of information and options to begin with. Gradually with all kinds of trial and error I can now say I'm happy with the outcome. The feedback received from people I try it on encourages me to do it a lot...

I also tried my hands on bath salts and bath bombs. Tried it on myself, family and friends and their friends and the circle just grew. Superb reviews on it. Each time I made it, it turned better. Its amazing...

Now, I have begun customizing it according to need and requirement.

I love the goat milk soap for my skin and my family's. It feels very smooth, nourished and radiant. Its another thing I have been blessed with good skin, touch wood ;-) but to take care of the blessing- this helps!

Soaps

Bath Salts

Bath Bombs

Many people ask me what exactly is bath bomb? How to use it:

Most importantly its sheer fun and very relaxing. You'll start enjoying your daily routine bath and it would no more be a routine but an experience in itself whether you are 2 or 92 years.. Bath bombs fizz and foam, dissolving in a flurry of color and bubbles within 2-4 minutes, depending on the size of the bomb. Some bath bombs also change your water to different colors, and children will LOVE the fragrance and the whole experience.

Guaranteed Soft skin : The ingredients in bath bombs gives your skin a massaging effect, soothing it by scrubbing off the dead skin and making it smoother and softer. It softens the water in which you are taking bath and hence the water becomes more gentler on your skin. My customers after using the bath bombs compare it to silk. A customer said "my skin feels like silk after using your mini bombs"(she used her term-mini bomb for bath bombs )

It is a good moisturiser Bathing in hot water can rip your skin off of essential oils and make it feel dry and scaly. Our bath bombs have special natural ingredients to keep your skin moist and radiant by nourishing it.

Fragrance: who doesn't love to smell good and people love being around others who smell nice. Bath bombs keep you fresh and you smell wonderful all through the day. Bath bombs make your whole bathing experience a fragrant one.. Your bath room too shall smell good after you leave it... It enhances your mood and keeps your fresh. The bombs soothe your senses, the fragrance soothes your mind.

Tightens skin and influences the mood.

I highly recommend you use IVORY bath bombs to know more benefits. I recommend you use IVORY bath products as they are very natural and chemical free. They are made of all natural products and are free of parabens, no phthalates, and no yucky stuff that your skin will hate you for..

Bath bombs also have therapeutic effects on mind and body. They please all your senses and relieves you of your daily fatigue and prepares you for your busy day.

Also, it gives you a feel of luxury. The luxury of indulging and its something you do for yourself and that would make you happy.

Using IVORY product your skin will fall in love with you over and over daily... Please try one out, and let me know about your bath bomb experience! I look forward to hearing from you.

How to use them?

Just drop one bath bomb in your bucket of water or if you use a bathtub you can add up another bomb. It shall fizz in 2-3 minutes. Sometimes changing the colour of the water. They have a great color and smell...hmm...and they tend to look slightly granular up close. get into the bath tub or use the hot water from the same tub you added the bath bomb. Enjoy the wonderfully relaxing fizz of the bomb!

4th set of candles: these are copyrighted do think again before stealing

2013-12-24T23:45:00.002+05:30

The Strawberry Gel Candle

The 5 Petal Flower Candle

Multi Layered Star Candle

Marble Candle

The Silver Grey Candle

The coconut Candle

5 in 1 Diyas for Diwali- Pair

Diwali Diya

Votive Candles

Diwali Diya

The Aroma Candle

Luminarcs & its candles

The Cute little Diyas

Third set of Candles :These are copyrighted think before you steal

2013-12-24T22:51:00.000+05:30

Square Gradient Candle

The Blue Star

The Sunset Gel Candle

The Feng shui devi

The Aqua Blue candle

The Sea Life Gel Candle

Second set of candles : These are having copyrights. Think again before you steal.

2013-12-24T21:47:00.000+05:30

The Feng Shui Tortoise

The Elegant double shade grey Candle

welcome Candle

The classic white triangle candle

The diwali candle

The 10dulkar candle

Multi coloured cup candle

The Christmas candle

The beautiful Cone

The Chunk Candle

The multi colour layered heart

The Aqua green pleasant chunk candle

Bow Candle

ICE CANDLE

The CUTE One

The Red Conch

candles made by me ...

2013-11-25T19:36:00.001+05:30

Tea Lights

The bridal dress

The orange candy

The Aromatic ones:

Little Red Riding Hood

Will add more as and when I do it.. The above candles have copyrights. Think again before you steal.

World's best "DYADA"- My daddy the best !~

2013-01-27T16:49:00.000+05:30

I've been contemplating for several months now on whether I would share something so deeply personal, but my good internet buddy inspired me with her blog on her dad & here I’m…(I shall with her permission try to post her link)(Ok..got her permission and here goes the link~http://reallifetalks.com/?p=1050)

This seems ironic, but I actually have a hard time speaking about my feelings. Especially when it comes to my “dyada”…

A father's love is as important to a child’s emotional development as a mother’s. Crucially, a father’s love is often just as important as a mother’s. Few cases, it is even more so. To become a strong, confident woman, a daughter needs her father’s attention, protection, courage, and wisdom...

My father is one of the most influential & important person in my life, from infant to toddler to tween to teen & to adulthood. His influence in my life has shaped my self-esteem, self-image; confidence helped me stand strong in times of strife. My views about the world stands positive still, after all the things I've gone through and made me a more positive person & to look at life with all its beauty.
My mom said the moment dad held me after I was delivered I grabbed onto his thumb, I had him wrapped around my finger ever since. Hehe.. I’m not even sure why, but I've always been a daddy’s girl. My dad is the smartest person I know. He is a master of all trades and has always done it all.. Make, build, paint, or fix just about anything…

I still ponder on the things he does for me and my sibling, his struggles, his strength, and most of all love for my mother & we both (sisters).Dad’s best gift has been love; more importantly respect for my mother. He showed us what a family is and how a family comes to exist, the bond between the family; the value of a family.

During the pesky hormonal years that can often have dads shying away from their moody and sometimes standoffish daughter, my dad has always been supportive and a guiding light, he gave us our space to understand the ways of the world. When I and my sibling were tween gals, dad focused on cultivating a trusting relationship so that his daughters felt secure talking to him and my mom about what's going on in our lives.

He also knew my younger sibling was a contrast, she always enjoyed the girly stuff, playing with hair, being around mom, serving food even as a young girl and helping mom. She would stand for long in front of the mirror draping mom’s saree or my duppatta(indian shawl or a long scarf worn by Asian women).
He has always done things which helped us connect at a better level with him.
As we continued growing into our teens ,fraught with complicated issues, dad continued to work on building a trusting relationship, gave sufficient affection and supported us as we learnt more about who “she” is and what kind of person “she” wants to become, Dad made it imperative that, no matter what, he would avoid the temptation to pull away or withdraw during this sometimes challenging stage of growing up.

When I was ill and serious during childhood, I remember dad carrying me on his shoulders and running hospital to doctor’s residence to another hospital to another. My dad made me accept facts of life saying if you want sympathy look up the dictionary, don’t look for it in people around you. He made me realize I’m no less than anyone and I could achieve the things I aim at..

Once when we were out dining, along with our family one of my cousins had joined. I ordered all that I felt like and when questioned by my cousin all I said was I would order to my heart’s content when my dad can afford it.. Though dad was happy of the fact that I completely trusted on him, & that he was connecting and making me closer to him, he corrected me saying it was not the way and we aren't allowed to waste anything. He told us of the harsh realities prevailing around us, what hunger is, what people do to satiate the hunger and as to why we shouldn't waste food. He also said, I could have all that I wanted as long as I finish and not waste anything. It’s a lesson I still remember and follow! Till date I don’t prefer to take food onto my plate and waste it. I prefer not take extra serving when not needed..

I love listening to dad’s naughty days as a young lad. I also love it when he reminisces of his younger days or when he and my mom were dating and their courtship days. He goes on for hours and anyone can fall in love with his mystical voice. he sings lovely. This again takes me back to my childhood days when I would just not be satisfied with any number of stories by my mom and dad would put me to sleep with his soothing voice with just 1 story which had no head or tail..but it was just the magic of his voice. till date I can sleep with ease if its my dad's lap..

My dad is one that always makes my day better. When I came home from school after being made fun of for being the chunky kid, my dad would always state about how pretty, smart, or talented his daughter was. He taught me to take things in a positive stride and to ignore the negativity the world showcased. I’m not sure how I would have made it through my teen years without such a loving dad.

He always makes people laugh with his corny jokes and would give the biggest bear hugs. My sissy calls him a teddy bear! Couple of days ago when I went to a regular shopping complex the vendor at the shop, told me your dad is superb! he cracks jokes and is really witty,he makes everyone here smile and get on with the day.. I wish I had the funny bone that he has…

The difficult times I've given my parents and the love they have shown me makes me ever grateful to them…(I've been the naughtiest child one could ever think off)..It’s because of my dad I've never felt lonely all through my life. I know I can lean onto this pillar of strength when I have a moment or 2…

My Dad has always been a seeker of a life of integrity and honesty, avoiding hypocrisy and admitting his own shortcomings, so that we (me and my sibling) have a realistic and positive example of how to deal with the world. He modelled a reflective approach to life's big questions so that we could seek to do the same.

From attending our school festivities to buying me something I wanted the most, no matter how expensive it was. He did see it was important to me. - The video games; all that I asked for & sometimes did not too. He acknowledged me being a gadget freak, way since my childhood. My most unforgettable toy during my growing up years was a mechano set, as a toddler it was a musical panda, a scrabble block set. He realized I was not much into girly things like the kitchen set or the pink stuffs or the dolls. I loved holding dad’s biceps, have even hurt him on instances and got a scolding.. The only girly thing that I enjoyed was tying pony onto my dad’s hair and adding colourful animal and bird clips that were ideally for me. No matter how late he would return from work he knew I would be awake for a long ride with him around the city and without fail would take me around.

He has always just been a voice away. One single call from me and I've dad by my side. I still remember a time when dad was away on work almost outskirts of the city ; I was out on an errand or to meet couple of friends. By the time I wanted to return to my horror I found my vehicle tyre punctured. Without any forethought I called my dad & told him the scene. Lo! He was there to help me.. He has been my moral support in all my trying times. I can blindly trust him like none other...

I wish & I’m hoping my dad is proud of his daughters just like we are proud to have a “dyada” like him…Dyada like none other. I love you Dyada…

Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.

2012-12-21T16:17:00.000+05:30

Hi fiends off late this is how my day goes how about yours? "P

This is how it manifests:

I decide to water my garden.

As I turn on the hose in the driveway,

I look over at my car and decide it needs washing.

As I start toward the garage,

I notice mail on the porch table that

I brought up from the mail box earlier.

I decide to go through the mail before I wash the car.

I lay my car keys on the table,

put the junk mail in the garbage can under the table,

and notice that the can is full.

So, I decide to put the bills back

on the table and take out the garbage first...

But then I think,

since I'm going to be near the mailbox

when I take out the garbage anyway,

I may as well pay the bills first.

I take my cheque book off the table,

and see that there is only one cheque left.

My extra cheques are in my desk in the study,

so I go inside the house to my desk where

I find the can of juice I'd been drinking.

I'm going to look for my cheques ,

but first I need to push the juice aside

so that I don't accidentally knock it over.

The juice is getting warm,

and I decide to put it in the refrigerator to keep it cold.

As I head toward the kitchen with the juice,

a vase of flowers on the counter

catches my eye--they need water.

I put the juice on the counter and

discover my reading glasses that

I've been searching for all morning.

I decide I better put them back on my desk,

but first I'm going to water the flowers.

I set the glasses back down on the counter,

fill a container with water and suddenly spot the TV remote.

Someone left it on the kitchen table.

I realize that tonight when we go to watch TV,

I'll be looking for the remote,

but I won't remember that it's on the kitchen table,

so I decide to put it back in the den where it belongs,

but first I'll water the flowers.

I pour some water in the flowers,

but quite a bit of it spills on the floor.

So, I set the remote back on the table,

get some towels and wipe up the spill.

Then, I head down the hall trying to

remember what I was planning to do.

At the end of the day:

the car isn't washed

the bills aren't paid

there is a warm can of

juice sitting on the counter

the flowers don't have enough water,

there is still only 1 cheque in my cheque book,

I can't find the remote,

I can't find my glasses,

and I don't remember what I did with the car keys

Then, when I try to figure out why nothing got done today,

I'm really baffled because I know I was busy all day,

and I'm really tired.

I realize this is a serious problem,

and I'll try to get some help for it, but first I'll check my e-mail....

Do me a favour.

Forward this message to everyone you know,

because I don't remember who I've sent it to.

Don't laugh -- if this isn't you yet, your day is coming!

P. S. I don't remember who sent it to me, so if it was you, I'm sorry...

What it feels like…

2012-12-07T14:44:00.000+05:30

It sucks to bottle things up inside you…

But it sucks more knowing that when you tell someone something,

They will just sit there and judge you…

It is so hard to open up to someone who’s just curious about what you’re going through in life.

And once the curiosity is satisfied, they just leave you.

Or much worst, they will spread sh*t about you.

Yes, trust is always an issue.

You may find it funny, but for me,

It’s easier to tell things to a complete stranger, because they don’t judge you.

They do listen, and it doesn’t matter if they tell it to the people they know, ’cause they don’t have any idea about who you are, where you came from and what you are going through.

What I really wanna emphasize is that, once you found the person who can be whoever, who are themselves when you’re with them, where you can act stupid, silly and crazy at times yet they still accept you for who you are. Don’t let them go. Cherish them. Value every single moment with them.

It’s not everyday that you meet someone whom you can share every littlest thing in your life.

It’s not every day that you meet someone who cares, who really cares.

It’s not every day that you meet someone whom you can call your FRIEND.

Honestly, I may have few of them, but I know and I am sure that they love me and that they do care for me.

And it is because of them that I consider myself ONE LUCKY PERSON on EARTH.

Previous night when I was SMSing my friend I told him I'm in the process of searching myself and in response he replied back saying if you would want to search yourself look into the hearts of people where you lived and shall always..who love you for all that you are without any pre requisites and conditions..

The truth

2012-12-07T14:38:00.000+05:30

Being single is not bad at all. In essence, it doesn't really mean you’re incomplete. But there are just those times that you’ll feel lacking. Those times when the nagging feeling of needing to have a certain someone creeps up at you. There are those hard to avoid moments where you realize you don’t have someone to inform about how your day went, you have no one to stay up late with, you have no one who sends you sweet messages, no one to share your crazy thoughts to, no one to spend simple and special moments with, no one who understands and accepts all your quirks, and you have no one who tells you “I Love You” at any given time of the day. It’s not that much about the loneliness or the fear of being alone. It’s more about trying to reconcile yourself with the fact that out of billions of people in the world, not even one person fought for the right to be with you.

“Excellence: Skill or Attitude”

2012-12-07T14:35:00.001+05:30

A real life story that inspired me to quite an extent and I came to believe in the message it conveyed~ We mostly do things for people around us and their to build on their views on us stop! We live once and its for OURSELVES. (i don't mean to say be selfish, but living life satisfactorily.We need to be satisfied with out own lives, No one can give it to you except you; You know what you are, others would only see and hear what they want to, you cannot change it, so be contempt with your life, be happy not for others but yourself!)

A gentleman once visited a place under construction where he saw a sculptor making a statute. Suddenly he noticed a similar statute lying nearby.

Surprised, he asked the sculptor, "Do you need two statues of the same kind?"

" No," said the sculptor without looking up, "We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage."

The gentleman examined the statute and found no apparent damage… "Where is the damage?" he asked.

"There is a scratch on the nose of the statute," said the sculptor, still busy with his work.

"Where are you going to install the statute?"

The sculptor replied that it would be installed on a pillar twenty feet high.

"If the statute is that high, who is going to know that there is a scratch on the nose?" the gentleman asked.

The sculptor stopped his work, looked up at the gentleman, smiled and said, "I know it and God knows it!"

My derivation of the message conveyed~

The desire to excel should be exclusive of the fact whether someone appreciates it or not.

Excellence is a drive from inside, not outside.

Excel at a task today – not necessarily for someone else to notice but for your own satisfaction.

Remember, "Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude." – Ralph Marston

Choose Happiness: The Road To Mastery

2012-10-01T21:54:00.001+05:30

One of the books I include in my litany of sources for this blog on happiness is “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pausch. If you are unfamiliar with this book or story, Randy was a professor at Carnegie Mellon University. He gave his last lecture, a tradition amongst professors, a few years back. For him it truly was his last lecture as he was dying from cancer. He passed away a few months later.

He shares a story about his football coach who was a very tough but fair man. One day, after an exhausting practice, one of the assistant coaches said to Randy, “Coach Graham rode you pretty hard today, huh?” Randy agreed. The assistant coach continued, “That’s good. When you’re screwing up and no one is saying anything anymore that means they gave up.” And so it is.

Dr. Stephen Marmer who defined the 4 stages of life – Dependence, Mastery, Big Fish In A Little Pond and Small Fish In A Big Pond. Pausch’s story speaks on Mastery. We may not always appreciate the long practices, the push ups, the running, the coach or mentor or colleague barking at us to spur us on or the long court proceedings. We would prefer to do it at our own pace, on our own terms. But the silence of our own will is sometimes deafening. We need to be challenged. We need to hear some things which make us uncomfortable. Ultimately, we need others who care enough about us to focus more on doing good for us, versus doing nice things in order to gain our affection (boy this sounds familiar!).

In an interview, near his death, Randy said that sometimes you leave the field and the score is not in your favor. You know that you really gave it your all. The other team was just too strong. He ended by stating that even if he was not all that important, “I had my hour.”

Our road towards mastery is pock marked with failure. This is necessary. Here lies growth, maturity and progression towards the ‘big fish’ stage where your ‘hour’ may come. Stay patient. Stay focused. Stay strong.

Stay Happy My Friends

Choose Happiness: Love Is Not A Pie

2012-09-30T12:43:00.000+05:30

When you give love to a person, it does not diminish the love you have left to give to others. In fact, the more you love another, the greater the love you may have for a greater number of people. For love ensues love. In essence, the more you love the greater your ‘love pie’ grows!!

As an example, for those parents with children, they do not love their first child less when the second child was born. Or if you only have one child, your love for your husband, family or friends did not diminish with the birth of your child. Love is boundless.

There are things in our lives which are like a pie – money and time, for example. Time is limited to the number of hours in a day being set for all. No one gets any more or less. A brilliant observation made by a woman is that women tend to associate attention with love. Since attention can only be given with the time we have, therein lays the problem with men as we try to understand a woman’s need for time. Being aware of the other gender’s perceptions is better than half the battle to a good relationship.

The Beatles got it partly right. Love is not all we need, but it is certainly a significant factor in increasing our happiness and helping us to make others happy.

Stay happy my friends!

10 Secrets to Fulfilling Relationships

2012-08-24T16:38:00.000+05:30

1. The first secret? the power of THOUGHT.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires.

2. The second secret? the power of GIVING.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship, ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

3. The third secret? the power of RESPECT.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"

4. The fourth secret? the power of FRIENDSHIP.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other’s eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love’s seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

5. The fifth secret? the power of LETTING GO.
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours; if it doesn’t, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me – today is the beginning of a new life."

6. The sixth secret? the power of COMMUNICATION.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word – it could be the last time you see them! If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and … why are you waiting?

7. The seventh secret? the power of COMMITMENT.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

8. The eighth secret? the power of PASSION.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

9. The ninth secret? the power of TOUCH.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

10. The tenth secret? the power of TRUST.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it, one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.

A girl's message-

2012-08-10T13:57:00.000+05:30

If you see me walking the road with someone else
It’s not because I like his company
Its because you’re not brave enough to walk
beside me.

If you hear me talking about him all the time
Its not because he pleases me
Its because you’re too deaf to hear my
heartbeat

If you feel me falling with someone new
Its not because I love him
Because you’re not there to catch me fall

If you feel lost, I too am nowhere
I too don’t know where the road is going
Are we gonna cross each other’s path
Or just completely turn around?
Will we just let go of what we had
Or go to the place where love is bound

Don’t let me walk with him
It’s you I want to walk with
Don’t let me talk of him
It’s you I want to talk with
Don’t let me fall for him
It’s you I want to fall in love with.

“HOW THE GUY REPLY”

When you thought I wasn’t brave enough to walk
beside you
I was behind you every step of the way
Still filled with awe because of the beauty
that stands before me

When you thought I was too deaf to hear your
heartbeat I didn’t want to assume anything
And I was afraid to lose our friendship

When you thought I wasn’t there to catch you
It was because you never gave me the chance
You never reached the bottom, you’ve already
grabbed a branch

If you feel like you are nowhere, I too am
lost I too don’t know where the road is going
Are we just going to turn around,
Or are we gonna cross each other’s path?
Will we just let go of what we had
Or go to the place where love is bound?

Don’t let me walk alone
I want to walk by your side
Don’t let me talk of something else
It’s you I want to talk with
Don’t fall for someone else
It’s you I want to fall in love with.

Read a write up...an experience

2012-08-10T13:42:00.000+05:30

I read a write up 2 days ago few thoughts on it..

The writer claims it to be his own true experience and I guess most of us go through this phase and experience it at least sometime in life..need not be the exact feelings or may be... read on~ It's a gist

The story revolves around NAMIT who is a day dreamer, egoistic, and an attention seeker, romance and him are 2 poles apart, afflicted with a bizarre madness and arrogance engulfing him. It is the story of his life which encompasses love, dedication, eccentricity, friendship and overall his discovery of his TRUE LOVE, his soulmate and also the anguish of losing it due to his obstinacy and self-centeredness. It is a repertoire of moments coated with velvetiness of love and bruised by the thorns of betrayal. It highlights the situations which ultimately turn him into a devil, who wants to annihilate the whole world with his impiety, consequences being the least he cares about; and eventually loses his happiness, identity and even himself in this process.

He could neither speak in words, nor could ever pen it down...
The loneliness, the emptiness her absence left behind...
Those moments spent in the warmth of her cuddle Still lingered in a cruel heart...... in a guilty mind!!!
Whenever he dreamt, he saw her so tranquil.. Can he trace the reason for the distance?distance between them both-poles apart :-) ?

I could relate quite a bit having gone through few similar situations..Made me think...so many random thoughts...Spent the day with the same thoughts lingering in my mind..tears wheeling down my cheeks...

Lovers to Friends…

2012-07-08T13:38:00.001+05:30

One of the most dangerous things about falling in love is the risk you take knowing that in a moment that someone could no longer be yours. So why do we do it? Why do we open our hearts to feel vulnerable and broken? Because falling in love is a human’s most divine sense of feeling. For some people the love they have never fades. It exists as long as they exist. And when the world tries to invade what they have waited so long to feel, they wrap their fingers around it and never let go. White knuckles, red palm, they never let go. But with that love comes an ache that can never be rid of. It’s that uncontrollable and unstoppable realization that you have no power over the way you feel. You are victim to the sting of love. It hurts as much as it heals. For some, that ache wears on their soul, and they find themselves forgetting why they loved in the first place. They let go, release the tension in their hand, and watch as the very thing they once held dear fades away. So why do we do it? Why do we fall in love? Because even if the person you love gives up on you, even if you give up on the person you love, what has been will never change. The way your heart felt while it did last makes the risk worth it. Never forget what you did have. Maybe one day, you will find each other again. Maybe one day, you’ll both remember why you loved so deeply. Maybe one day, you won’t. But no one can take away what your heart so fondly remembers.

I'm letting it all go.. Some-things can never be forgotten..Few people are in distant memory yet they are there...

People might give up the dreams woven together, the goals of being together. But then, they know, they gave up for the happiness of each other. 'THEY'gave up. Yes, but they won’t let their weakness destroy whatever they had made. The relationship they had created. The ‘we’ is just too beautiful to make it fade.

Its again a new beginning...
Goodbye lover..

Hello friend..

Coffee?- lesson

2012-06-10T00:54:00.000+05:30

All friends visited a teacher from our schooling days. During our visit, conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in their personal and professional lives.

Offering his students coffee, the teacher went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups -porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling us to help ourselves to the coffee.

When all of us had a cup of coffee in hand, the teacher said,

“Notice that all the nice looking, expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups… and then you began eyeing each other’s cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; your job, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life. The type of cup one has, does not define, nor change the quality of Life a person lives. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us.

The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.”

God brews the coffee, not the cups… Enjoy your coffee!

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Spend time with God over your coffee.

He conveyed it in such a simple manner ! A true teacher - salutations!

LIVE, LOVE and LEARN….

2012-06-05T23:23:00.000+05:30

I'm a simple person that craves for serene and quiet moments. I despise pretence and the crowded bars in the Metros. I’d rather stay home and watch TV than stay in those places. I love going out of town to unwind and retreat from the busy city life. I love to read books, especially novels that deal with love and romance,

I am looking forward to meet someone that can take me away and live for a day without any worries, drop what he is doing when I need him, romantic, passionate, caring, understanding and would love me as I am. But I know that this can’t happen because such idealism will just break my heart and would hurt me in the end. That is why I erased these preferences already in mind for I know that they only appear at the night screen and in fantasy to fulfil my fancy. I’m open for any conversation that may tickle my fancy and bond with you. I despise pretence, what you see is what you get from me. And mind you, I don’t put my best foot forward in meeting other people, and I don’t believe in the saying, " First impression last forever. " Anybody can wear their best smile and fool the world of being nice but it would take time to know a person well.

When you’re out there looking for that perfect person, keep these things in mind. People change, no matter how hard they try not to. As you grow older you mature, and with each new level of maturity comes different ideas, different needs and wants. The person who was perfect for you at twenty could be the person you hate when you’re thirty-five. You have to find some one who will grow with you, change with you, laugh with you and cry with you. A person who fills in where you lack , a person whom you can fill in for when they are lacking. But what about the perfect person, you ask? They do not exist. Even the person you’re with was not perfect because the perfect person in your dreams was supposed to stay with you forever. There are no perfect people, only people who are perfect for each other. You deserve to be happy not in the arms of someone who keeps you waiting but in the arms of someone who will take you now, love you forever and leave you never.

Sometimes we ask ourselves why love leaves us when we have given so much of ourselves that there is little left for us to start all over again. A lot of us have built dreams with people we hoped would be with us forever only to realize that there is nothing permanent in this world. Love comes and goes. People share their lives with us and leave us. Life is a constant cycle of finding and losing, of making and breaking, of dying and living again. When our heart dies, it stops beating. But love is different. Don’t believe that love ends permanently even when we feel that love has died. It would only go into deep slumber and could one day be awakened by someone who could unlock our hearts. Always remember that in life, there are no mistakes, only lessons learned. In loving, there should be no regrets, only the appreciation of the joy we had. There is a time when life stops and when loves ends. But, we don’t have to stay in one place forever. Our life should move on even when everything else around us makes us feel that it shouldn’t. For there can only be happiness when we stop living in the past. Love will only find its way back when we give others the chance to share little of themselves with us. We might be miserable now, but there always would be someone out there who could ease the pain and bitterness in our hearts that had kept us from daring to love again

Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love, we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many beautiful things and simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own concerns. Go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words, for you will find rewarding happiness not with the man you love but the man who loves you more.

The best lovers are those who are capable of loving from a distance, far enough to allow the other person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being. To let go of someone doesn’t mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own happiness without expecting him to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free but it is also setting yourself free from all bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart.

Do not let the bitterness rare away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather lets you grow with wisdom. You may find peace in just loving someone from a distance not expecting anything in return. But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful moments or sad memories of the past but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is- today.

There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just a friendship… don’t be so bitter about it! For it is a kind of FRIENDSHIP that will last for a LIFETIME!!! We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves.

You don’t have to forget someone you love. What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Don’t let your heart run your life, be sensible, and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well.

Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow: If you lose love that doesn’t mean that you failed in love. Cry, if you have to, but make sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you.

And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime. "When I lost you, I was the one who loved you most, but between us you lost more. For someday I can love someone the way that I loved you but you will never be loved again the way that I did."

"If you love me, let me know; if you don’t, let me go…"

Choose Happiness: Coping With Broken Tiles

2012-06-03T11:44:00.000+05:30

Yesterday night couple of friends gathered at out home. We focused on the broken tile syndrome. This concept is based on the fact that our eyes may be more focused on a broken or missing tile in some great mosaic versus appreciating the larger work. Oftentimes we do the same in our lives – focus on what’s missing versus what we do have.

Once you determine your broken or missing tiles, then what? Dennis Prager, in his book, Happiness Is A Serious Problem, tells us that we have three options: Get It, Forget It or Replace It.

Get It I shared with the group that one of my missing tiles is that I have a need to write a book(a cookery book or say owning a restau). It is something I have postponed for many years and it continues to weigh on me. This is something I feel very strongly that I need to do. Whether or not it gets published is not important, but the mere fact that I can complete it and make the effort to get it published is enough. I already have the idea in place, however it calls for action

Forget It I lost my grandparents parents(maternal as well as paternal)couple of years ago. There is nothing I can do to bring them back, so although those are two huge(maternal 1 and paternal 1) missing tiles in my life, I have to forget it. Not to forget them. I never will. I have come to accept that the best I can do is to carry their legacy forward, to honor their memories and if I can be half the woman my grandmom(maternal) was nothing like it...

Replace It John Walsh, the host of America’s Most Wanted, came into his role in finding criminals after his son, Adam, was kidnapped and murdered in Florida. He turned that tragedy into something to help others by creating legislation to protect children and to help law enforcement find criminals.

What we all friends realized is that in talking for 90 minutes or so we learned so much about each other. I hope a number of us identified some broken tiles and will find the time to determine how best to address them to help increase our happiness. May you think about your own broken tiles and do the same.

Stay Happy My Friends!

Choose Happiness: Love And The Power Of No

2012-05-29T23:41:00.002+05:30

A Friend sent me an e-mail earlier this week or the later part of previous week. Thanks! It listed 45 items which a 90 year old had shared as life lessons with a local newspaper. I like many, differ with a few and would clarify a few others. Number 38 stated: All that truly matters in the end is that you loved. I disagree. I am no ogre, I do believe in the power of love without a doubt. However, I profess that in the end all that matters is that you did good. Not just that you intended to do good, as the result is truly important.

At home this translates into all younger generation getting a healthy dose of ‘no’. All of us(cousin's, their kids,my siblings,) will attest to the fact they are truly loved by both parents and the whole family in general. They will also attest that they don’t always get their wish or demand. In many instances, they have to earn much of what they get. The goal is to create good men & women. This requires that they be prepared to handle life’s onslaught when it is their time to face the difficult path of life. They must experience some setbacks and frustrations now in order to learn how to cope in the future. We also instil in them to do good, not just feel good. They know that when they don’t carry themselves as they are expected to, there are consequences – lost privileges, monetary loss, having to listen to respective mom's and elders expound on the error of their ways, etc.

This same rule applies to me. I can’t be an ideal or an example to the younger kids, the power of ‘no’ if I get everything I want. The argument can be made that it truly is ‘my money’ when I need something. That argument will win the day, however, if it’s just a matter of who owns the finances, then the message is clear: when you’re older you can do as you well please. That’s not it. We as individuals must say no to what we want on a regular basis. It’s called self control. It applies to any facet of life.Ah, that doesn't mean you stop your medications and most important things to your life like my hubby used to frequently tell me : you stop taking those medicines you would be better(Any & all kinda meds).It doesn't work that way. Wants need to hear a 'No'than needs.

‘No’ appears counterintuitive to our belief in pursuing happiness. However, life will tell us ‘no’ many times and we must be able to accommodate that within our overall pursuit of happiness. Go out and do good! Oh heck, throw lots of love around too!!

Stay Happy My Friends!