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Guidance On What To Do To Kick Perfectionism In The Balls Hey You, It’s Lewis a.k.a. Nerd #2 a.k.a. L.L. Cool Nerd. The very last question that Dan Kennedy answered at his Renegade Millionaire retreat was . . . What is The Secret To Life That You Can Fit On a 4&#215;6 Card? [...] No related posts.]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Personal Improvement Guidance On What To Do To Kick Perfectionism In The Balls </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hey You, </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:516eed93-7fd6-42f3-b977-7da0402574a1" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: right; padding: 0px;"><a title="Quit Jerkin' your gerkin' waiting for things to be perfect" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/Napoleon-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/Napoleon.png?fb63ac" alt="productivity tips personal improvement 3 dan kennedy " width="314" height="382" border="0" title="13 Productivity Tips That Allow You To Be A Perfect Non Perfectionist Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s Lewis <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a. </strong>L.L. Cool Nerd.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The very last question that Dan Kennedy answered at his Renegade Millionaire retreat was . . . </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-family: Georgia; font-size: large;"><strong>What is The Secret To Life That You Can Fit On a 4&#215;6 Card?</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’d mentioned in the salesletter selling the event that he could fit the secret to life on a 4&#215;6 card but he never revealed what the answer was in that letter. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Do you want to know what it is? I thought you would. He said the answer is . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Decide. </strong></span><span style="font-size: small;">Make a decision to do something and go do it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The way Dan got into horse racing was the exact <strong>opposite</strong> way most people do it. Most people in that arena are lifers meaning they’ve been in the sport since they were kids. Dan made a decision and started at the ripe old age of 46 years old. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The usual path to harness racing success doesn’t include doing it weighing 248 pounds, not being in shape to do it, not living anywhere where harness racing takes place, etc. He knew all of this and still said “Fuck it. I’m doing it.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He started and figured how to work out all the details on the path. <span style="font-size: small;">Dan believes that he might make a mess but that he always cleans it <span id="more-7027"></span>up later. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Just about everything he’s done has been this way. He thinks this is the way things actually get done. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Decide With Blow Torch In Hand</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lee Iacocca when at Chrysler is at the ass end of a turn-around and he’s walking through the factory looking at the LeBaron and someone makes the comment, “Wouldn’t that look great as a convertible.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lee tells them, “Get a torch, cut the roof off, we’ll drive it around town, stop at traffic lights and see if girls look at it. If they do, we’re making it.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is the exact opposite of the way things get done in the car industry – you’re supposed to slog through market research, focus groups, get designers, get the lawyers harping on the safety issues – and it takes them years to get shit done. YEARS of meeting after meeting after meeting after meeting. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Iacocca’s got a blow torch. Girls check it out. Guys will like it. Let’s make it. Six months later they’re selling it.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">That’s the right way to do it. Get a blow torch. Mail a letter. Go give a speech and see if you can sell it from the platform. Get your ass handed to you, learn something, and go try it again seeking improvement. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Forward Motion By Itself Will Bring You Confidence </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Iacocca, on the back of driving the car around for a couple days and getting the positive feedback from people went back to Chrysler and announced to the press, the trade press, and the bankers that they were coming out with four convertibles in six months. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This led to everyone at Chrysler asking Lee how the hell they’re gonna do it and his response was, “I don’t know but I told everyone we we’re gonna do it so let’s figure it out.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So the secret to life is to “Decide” but what gets in the way of you making a decision? That little bastard named perfectionism. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">People have nutty ideas. Instead of thinking, “I’d like to perform adequately and well and successfully,” they constantly hold the thought in their mind that they <em>must</em> do well &#8211; you <em>must</em> treat them well and the world <em>must</em> be easy on them.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">With this being the case it’s not hard to see why people live in the paralysis of analysis. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">People even when they realize this is nutty hang onto this horse shit very, very strongly, intensely, and forcefully. Why? Because they’re crazy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They’ve been behaving this way sometimes for decades since they were very young. Some not. Some people were happy children but anyone who has been drank the perfectionist ideals Kool Aid has led a rather brutal internal existence. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">How would it be to be able to be happy in a world where everyone doesn’t kiss your ass and do your wonderful, wonderful bidding? What would it be like to live in a reality where you embrace un</span><span style="font-size: small;">certainty, which is the opposite of perfectionism and means you <em>don’t</em> know everything that’s going to happen or will happen which would be boring as shit. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s 13 options I got from the presentation Dr. Albert Ellis did titled, “How To Be The Perfect Non-Perfectionist”. Choose any one of them to help you make perfectionism something you <em>used to</em> indulge in . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">1. Write Down Coping Statements To Consider Them</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You write down, “I don’t need perfect emotional health. That would be lovely to have but I don’t <em>need</em> it. I don’t <em>have </em>to be perfect. I’d like to be but I don’t have to be. And if I am sometimes imperfect or disturbed or neurotic too damn bad. I can live and still be a happy human with these imperfections.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You also do that about your secondary disturbances – the disturbance about being disturbed when you demand that you’re perfect.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You dispute your nutty ideas and you write down coping statements and go over them. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">2. Reframing</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You could also do another cognitive technique which is called re-framing where you see your imperfections in a livable light. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You show yourself that making errors and screwing up makes life more interesting and is a challenge to make fewer mistakes, rather than none. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Not being as perfectly loveable as you could be and having difficulties and problems actually makes you normal. Makes you human. If you were perfect with all your deeds and perfectly loveable you’d be the only human of that kind and you’d be very lonely in this imperfect world. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">3. Teach what you’re learning here to others </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You take your unsuspecting friends, fans, and relatives, all of whom think they have to be perfect one way or another, and show them one way or another that they don’t have to be. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">By talking them out of their bullshit you help you help talk yourself out of your own bullshit. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">4. You Write Down a Whole List of The Disadvantages of Striving For Perfectionism</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There’s a few advantages of perfectionism because you do try harder, it pushes and motivates you, but it has too many disadvantages such as the fact that you’ll always be tense and anxious because even if you just did something perfectly, how do you know you’ll do it perfectly the next time and next time and next time? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">With perfectionism you do try hard but you try <em>too</em> hard and you hardly enjoy what you’re doing. </span><span style="font-size: small;">You can’t win because you can’t consistently be perfect. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This leads to many physical disabilities. More and more you see these days that when you upset yourself, when you’re in rage against yourself or other people, your whole internal physiological system gets cranking too hard and you create a tendency to have ulcers, high blood pressure, all kinds of things and your whole immune system might possibly get affected especially if you already have a disease. It’s harder for your body to fight this disease if you’re a perfectionist and upset about not being perfect. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And when you’re a perfectionist instead of being loved by others you get hated on by others because if you do perfectly well they really loathe you and they don’t like the fact that they think they have to do well because you are or else they’ll feel shame.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You also probably don’t enjoy your projects you’re working on either when you’re in a perfectionist mindset. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Preferences and desires are okay to have. Shoulds and musts need to be questioned. Commands that state that you HAVE to be perfect and wishing other people would treat you perfectly and calling them bastards if they don’t need to shift. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You dispute the musts and the shoulds, not the desires, goals, and preferences over and over and over again. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">5. Get A Vital Absorbing Interest</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Make this something grand and ongoing that you really like and would enjoy doing – building a business, building a family, working for a cause, etc. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But beware thinking that in this interest you have to be perfect – that you must have the perfect family, a perfect business, a perfect body, or be perfect at some sport. It would be nice to be perfect but it’s not necessary. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This interest can get you absorbed in activities that have nothing to do with your worries. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">6. Modeling </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Kids model right and wrong after their teachers, parents, after their peers, etc. You can find people who are imperfect but happy and successful and model yourself after them. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There’s a famous fable about the king who wanted to be happy and he tells his wise men to scour the goddamn kingdom and find me a happy man. They had told him that if he found a happy man and wore his shirt he would then be happy. So they worked and worked and sought and searched and they finally found one happy man in the whole goddamn kingdom. They were happy to find him because the king was going to cut their balls off if they didn’t get his shirt. They told him to hand over his shirt and that they would pay any price for it. He told them, “I haven’t the shirt to my back.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So look for someone who’s imperfect who doesn’t do remarkably well and model yourself after her or him.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">7. Strongly Accepting Yourself Un-Conditionally</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When you accept yourself conditionally as practically everyone in the world does you’re really saying I’m okay <em>because</em> I perform well in – writing, sports, public speaking, sports, etc. – and therefore I’m okay. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;">But this is called self-esteem and this is a great sickness – the worse sickness humans ever invented because obviously if you’re only good when you do well then what are you when you do poorly? The answer is a shit. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What’s more is that when you’re doing well you worry about doing poorly tomorrow. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is why un-conditional self acceptance is the ultimate outcome – I am the one who does poorly <em>and </em>well but I’m okay just because I say I am. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I’m neither good nor bad as a person. My personhood – the I that I am – my being, my essence just exists in itself. I focus on how to improve not to make me a better person but in order to help me perform better and enjoy the results that come as a result of great performance. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I only rate what I do and don’t do but I can not be rated. Only my behavior. I unconditionally accept me with whatever imperfections I bring to the table. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">8. Rational Emotive Imagery </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Instead of imagining that you’re doing well which is called positive visualization and will help you do better sometimes, if you imagine yourself for example nailing a good job interview or playing tennis well, then you actually practice it in your head and this will help you. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But the philosophy behind positive visualization is still “I <em>have </em>to do well,” so it may make you sicker. The visualization you read about in the books is misguided because it implies that you <em>have </em>to do well. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In rational emotive imagery invented by Maxwell Maltz, you try to imagine the worse thing that could happen to you. You’re actually extremely imperfect and people are laughing at you and telling you what a turd you are. You let yourself feel very, very upset as you make mistake after mistake after mistake in your imagination imaging the worse and you let yourself feel very down, very depressed, very anxious, very panicked, and then work on changing that feeling to the appropriate ones like sorrow, regret, frustration and annoyance because these help you improve instead of the inappropriate feelings like horror, terror, panic, and severe depression that crucify you. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">How do you do that? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">By changing your thinking. You feel terribly upset and you say to yourself “I’m gonna feel only sorry and disappointed.” Then you change this to “Too bad. Tough shit. That’s the way it is. Yes, I failed again but I am not my mistakes. I’m not a rotten failure. I’m a fallible screwed up human period.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You do this once a day for 20-30 days practicing feeling appropriately sad, sorry, regretful. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">9. <a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/how-to-stubbornly-refuse-to-be-ashamed-of-anything/">Shame Attacking Exercise</a> </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is where you go out in public and do something foolish, shameful and ridiculous and work through not feeling ashamed. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You do something that other people would consider nutty and feel that you’re a screwball for doing. You have to know in advance that they’re going to disapprove of what you’re about to do and you make yourself do it anyway.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Of course you don’t something that’s going to get you arrested like walking around the subway naked or get you fired for telling your boss that they’re a shit, but there needs to be high stakes. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So you’d get in front of big group in public speech and deliberately ask a stupid question and work through feeling ashamed until you’re immune to it in that context. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Or you walk into a crowded drug store and in a very loud voice so that everyone can hear you and ask for a gross – a case of 144 condoms and state that since you use so many of them that you deserve a special discount.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The way to crank this up a notch is to ask for a gross of SMALL condoms. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>10. Recorded Disputing </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You record one of your crazy ideas onto a voice recorder you own or on your computer or get an app for your phone. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">For example: When I see a woman I would like to get to know I have to know exactly what to say and say it perfectly so that she’s guaranteed to be delighted I walked up to her.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Then you dispute this nutty idea right on the recording very vigorously and you listen and have your friends and relatives listen to how rigorously you did. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You want to very vigorously look at your bullshit and very powerfully go against it. And you can even say your coping statements covered above in a very strong manner – PERFECTIONISM IS REALLY STUPID! IT WON’T GET ME ANYWHERE BECAUSE IF I KEEP THIS UP I’LL BE ACTING IDIOTICALLY! I WILL LEARN MUCH MORE BY FAILING THAN BY SUCCEEDING! MAKING POOR DECISIONS IS A HUMAN CONDITION AND I’M STILL A HUMAN, I STILL HAVE NOT REACHED GOD STATUS YET SO I ACCEPT MYSELF AS HUMAN! I’LL ALWAYS BE IMPERFECT IN THE EYES OF OTHERS AND WILL OFTEN SCREW UP!</span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>11. Paradox and Humor </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is where you do things poorly on purpose following Oscar Wilde’s line of thinking…  “Anything work doing is worth doing badly”  and you accept yourself despite behaving poorly compared to others. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can say negative things about yourself that you normally wouldn’t do. Think of good comedians here who are brave enough to poke fun at their imperfections and quirks. One of my favorite female comedy writers Tina Fey makes the remark in her book, “Bossypants” that she has “Dead Shark Eyes” in the part of the book where she’s making fun of the magazine photo shoots she’s done. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When you lose your sense of humor and take yourself too seriously you’re in a really bad place. </span><span style="font-size: small;">When you get to a really shitty place you’re thinking, feeling, and behaving in a disempowering way. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">To help with this you act against your perfectionism powerfully and consistently and make mistakes deliberately. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You act fast knowing it will lead to mistakes. You take risks on screwing up with friends or new acquaintances and tell yourself that whatever these people think of you is probably exaggerated if they put you down because you performed poorly they might not be the best people to surround yourself with. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You, are never your performance. You are a human who performed badly. If they really hate you or lose all respect for you then their thinking is warped and that’s THEIR problem – not yours.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">12. Linger In Rotten Situations </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">For example you’re having a tough time getting through a course or learning a new skill set. Don’t cop out. Don’t run away because then you take your fear or your horror or your anger with you and you stay in those states of mind rather than working through them. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You stay in shitty situations where you’re not doing well until you get over being disturbed about it. Then maybe you improve or you decide that this activity isn’t for you. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you truly suck at something you don’t have to stay with it as long as you don’t feel any shame about sucking at it. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">13. Reinforcement</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is where you act imperfectly, take a risk instead of waiting for everything to be perfect before you make a decision or ask someone out for a date or reach out to a new business partner, you can give yourself a reward for acting imperfectly. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You reward yourself for overcoming your resistance. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And when you don’t take risks, copping out, or compulsively red0ing an article or blog post or preparing a speech for days and days and days or working at trying to make the chapter of a book perfect, you can give yourself a penalty, something you abhor, you make yourself do that abhorrent thing when you’ve behaved as a pussy. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;">You give yourself a limited amount of time to take action and if you exceed your deadline you actually penalize yourself. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Which Of These 13 Options Will You Use To Knock Perfectionism On It’s Ass?</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Many things are bad but none of them are terrible or awful they’re only a royal pain in the ass. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">No one is perfect as far as I know including me. If I were perfect I would probably piss people off all the time and would leave me with no variety in my life. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Perfectionism is ineffective and inefficient. Most people think that if they do things perfect they’re going to be better but they won’t. Perfectionism is the equivalent of the “someday” that never arrives.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Perfectionism sabotages happiness and very frequently leads to real panic and depression. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you demand perfectionism of others it will ruin relationships as it’s one of the easiest ways to drive people to hatred, feuds, wars, etc. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The more you damn yourself for your imperfect behavior the more imperfectly or badly you’ll act. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Even if damning yourself prodded you on to succeed more you’ll be even more anxious and stressed while doing more and you’ll actually end up doing it <em>worse</em> instead of better because you’re so worried about performing without errors. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You’ll be focused on your imperfections and this could lead to you compulsively doing them over and over beating yourself over and over again into damning yourself for damning yourself and making yourself anxious and horrified and terrified and depressed which leads to you being paralyzed – an emotional cripple. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">What To Do Now</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So your next step is to decide and put into practice any one or a combination of these 13 strategies in your life so that you can free yourself and become the perfect non-perfectionist who is immune to criticism and praise who always loves yourself no matter how the cookie crumbles.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Let me know if you’ve got any other suggestions for overcoming perfectionism that you feel other people would be served by in the comments section below and as always feel free to leave me feedback here or in an email of how using these strategies have made a difference in your life. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Talk soon, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lewis LaLanne <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Note Taking Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a. </strong>L.L. 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Nerd #2. Fuck the Midas touch. When it comes to learning email marketing strategies I want to see proof [...] Related posts:<ol><li><a href='http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/marketing-notes-email-autoresponder-money/' rel='bookmark' title='Marketing Notes On How To Use An Email Auto-Responder To Make Money'>Marketing Notes On How To Use An Email Auto-Responder To Make Money</a><li><li><a href='http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/marketing-notes-from-jay-whites-auto-responders-made-easy-course/' rel='bookmark' title='Marketing Notes from Jay Whites Auto Responders Made Easy Course'>Marketing Notes from Jay Whites Auto Responders Made Easy Course</a><li></ol>]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>These Marketing Notes On Frank Kern’s Promotional Strategies Course Reveal What It Takes To Ravish Open Into Ecstasy The Seasoned Cougar Buyers of Your Market As Well As The Skittish Virgins </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hey You, </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:d7d85741-930e-4ce0-b232-b0239f47f78d" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: right; padding: 0px;"><a title="Stop getting a " href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/Barely-there-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/Barely-there.png?fb63ac" alt="marketing notes internet marketing experts frank kern " width="303" height="417" border="0" title="Frank Kern Shows You The G Spot Touch He Uses In His Email Marketing Strategies That Cause Wallets To Have Multiple Orgasms And Squirt Their Money Into Your Bank Account Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s Lewis <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Nerd #2.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Fuck the Midas touch.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When it comes to learning <i>email marketing</i> strategies I want to see proof that I don’t have to be lucky, talented, or connected to make them work. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I want someone to show me exactly where to put my fingers and what to do with them in order to get the money gushing and flowing out of my perfect prospect’s bank account into the constantly hungry mouth that is my bank account. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">That’s exactly what you’ll see Kern does in this course in the notes below . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The core fundamental of making any marketing work is rooted in Dan Kennedy’s triangle model he’s been using forever that Kern refers to now. For your marketing to produce results you need . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">The Right Message Matched To The Right Market At The Right Time </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You have to be tuned in to who you’re talking to. You want know specifically what they’re moving towards and what they’re moving away from. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One of the biggest lies people wanting to be internet marketers buy into is that if you <span id="more-7017"></span>have a big list that you’ve built off of launches, JV’s and what not, that you’re set. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What most people <em>don’t</em> talk about is the fact that you’re golden for all of about 40 days. After this the responsiveness of that list starts declining.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>One</strong> of the reasons this happens in this niche is that these customers are on a shit-ton of lists. So they’re seeing a ton of similar offers so <em>nothing</em> really stands out in their minds. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Second,</strong> people mostly opt into your list from other people’s list just to get some free shit. This leads to good results but not great and this is why this isn’t the most fertile ground for your business to grow. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can tell which list segments or markets are best for you based on the results of your message. And the focus of this course is mainly focused on improving the quality of your email messages within campaigns and these are comprised of . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">· <strong>Subject Line</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">· <strong>Click Through Rate</strong> <strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">· <strong>Landing Page/Offer</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">All of these need to be on point in order for your email campaign to produce results. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>How To Determine The Quality of Your Traffic</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">To prove the potency of your list source you measure the responsiveness to your email campaigns. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And the most important measurement is with your <em>subject line a.k.a. your open rate</em>.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And Kern’s data has proven through measuring his results that these joint venture launch lists <em>ARE NOT</em> the best lists to pursue. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>The Most Desirable Place To Grow Your List Is Through PAID Advertising</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What Frank has  found is that the internet marketing buyers freak out about having to spend money on campaigns yet they’re totally willing to go out and buy the next $2,000 product that gets launched with much less resistance than if someone asked them to go spend $100 bucks on Facebook ads.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">1<sup>st</sup> Reason You Want To Use Paid Ads: </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There&#8217;s a slim chance of these people being on everyone else’s list. Think about it. They wouldn’t click on an ad if they were already getting emails about your new product from other internet marketers. This means you potentially get to be one of the first in line and the first person to enlighten someone usually gets a special place in a buyer’s heart. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">2<sup>nd</sup> Reason You Want To Use Paid Ads: </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">People have to take a series of actions to get to you. So say with a Facebook ad, this person had to get out of Facebook mode, click, see your landing page, read/watch, enter their info, re-confirm on double opt in lists (he says he uses double even though Eben Pagan and Ryan Deiss don’t), and all of this equals quite a bit of shit people had to do to even have the privilege of getting on your list. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: #ffff00;"><strong>The best open rates he’s ever had have come off lists he built off of PAID ADVERTISING.</strong><strong> </strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He gets more clicks from smaller paid traffic lists than the ginormous lists he builds for free with joint ventures. </span></p><p><strong><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;">If you can’t sell what you’re selling with paid traffic, you’re doing something wrong. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The key is to be able to buy traffic and convert that traffic at a profit, its game over. Your money worries are over. And this program is all about. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Your Subject Line Is God – Everything Hinges On This Little Bastard</strong><strong> </strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If your subject line doesn’t cause a person to click, they’ll never see the body copy of your email. If they never see the body copy, they’ll never see your landing page. If they never see your offer, they’ll never give you money. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If your subject line doesn’t work, nothing else will and you may as well not even built the list. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">For his auto-responders he uses Aweber, icontact, and infusionsoft. He primarily uses Aweber and icontact. At the time he shot these videos he was in love with Aweber over icontact because he felt they were getting better delivery AND it’s cheaper. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Now he’s showing you his Aweber stats to confirm for you that his paid traffic is getting the highest open rates of all of his little segmented lists he has in here. And he doesn’t just toss everyone in the same bin. He has separate lists for paid traffic vs. JV traffic. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">The subject line . . . <span style="background-color: #ffff00;">“DAMMIT! (lol)”</span> . . .  to his paid list had 43.7% open rate. He thinks this might be the best he’s ever gotten. </span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">The subject line . . . <span style="background-color: #ffff00;">“worst sales letter EVER”</span> . . . had a 36.9% open rate. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He believes the reason this is so is because people who went the “Paid” route are highly motivated evidenced by all the hoops they’re willing to jump through in order to even be able to see the email. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They feel like the email is their reward for the work they did so it’d be dumb not to open it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He made of point of showing how he messed up and sent a campaign to the <em>wrong </em>list of 15,382 people under his cousin Trey’s name and got a higher open rate when he noticed his mistake and sent the email to the right list of only 10,357 people under his name. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And what’s crazy is those 10,357 are part of the 15,382 and he still got a higher open rate numerically. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s doing to this hammer home the point that Paid Traffic sourced lists kick ass. Get ready for the market to be a thousand times more competitive now. Hahaha! And oh yeah, he loves him some Facebook because he says Google has turned into assholes when it comes to buying paid traffic from them.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Subject Line: <span style="background-color: #ffff00;">“DAMMIT! (lol)”</span> – Why Kern Believes It Works</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">For people who don’t live in their inbox they’re checking email a lot less and they’re doing so with people they’re friends with so they’re trading dirty jokes, pictures or just talking shit to each other. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This subject line meets them in this mode. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“SAVE $10. SITE WIDE NOW” doesn’t. You want to be conscious of the mindset people are in within the media you’re meeting them in. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Another reason this works is that people are drawn to drama and disaster and follies in other people’s lives. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think about how people rubber neck a car accident, how bad news sells in the press, and how popular the show America’s Funniest Home Videos is where the winning clips usually involve someone getting their testicles, face, or ass bashed. We’re addicted to witnessing other people’s mishaps. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Use this. Just don’t make it old and stale because you used it too much. Think sprinkling vs. hosing.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">The Email Body Copy Itself </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I’m looking at three emails here and one commonality I’m finding is that they all range from 5-7 short paragraphs, most of them one sentence to a paragraph, one of them being the link to take you to the landing page.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The other thing you’ll notice about Kern’s emails is that they’re all in the tone of how someone would talk to their friends. Your friends don’t know shit about HTML and the ones you know that do, aren’t sending your personal emails via HTML. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">More often than not, they aren’t prolific writers, or they’re good at writing but they’re too lazy to do a lot of it just to send you to a website. And so their message is just bare bones conversational gives a glimpse of why to click and the link. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They don’t try to drive you to a message with scarcity. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Another thing friends have in common is that they usually do their best to make each other laugh. Not all people do this because some people are just too damn scared of not being seen as funny, but I’d venture to say 9 out of 10 people love giving the gift of laughter. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: large;">So if you can be funny, do it. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Kern in this email says, “I just sent you a video about an hour ago but the email thingy said it was from my cousin, Trey. It was actually from me. Sorry. I’ve only been doing this “Internet thing” for 12 years so I’m still a little rusty lol”. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">No badoom-siss jokey jokes &#8211; Just conversational in context joking<em>, </em>poking fun at himself. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The one thing he does different than your friends will though is he makes one of the sentences, the link. So instead of http//www. allthecameltoesyoucanhandlealldayeveryday.com/dkalkj432900390223b he just hyperlinks the sentence as such . . . </span><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">Go check this out you filthy pervert lol . . .</span></a></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In the “worst sales letter ever” email, Kern actually made the first sentence of the email a hyperlink to the site he wanted to go to. Here’s what the email looked like . . . </span></p><p><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">Come see the shittiest sales copy ever . . .</span></a></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s especially horrible because there’s nothing even there for you to buy lol. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But hey, there’s something waiting there that you may or may not benefit from seeing and this terrible, no-good, absolutely rotten sales letter shines fluorescent light on it revealing all the purdy as well as the ugly. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And if you’re incredibly lazy like me, rejoice in the fact that’s it’s only half a page long and will take you 90 seconds to read, even if you were in the slow reading group at school and you move your lips as you read like I do sometimes. </span></p><p><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">Go poop on the salesletter here</span></a><span style="font-size: small;"> and holla at me if you’re interested. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Frank </span></p><hr /><p><strong><span style="font-size: large;">Here’s a loose template of how to combine the powerful elements from both of these winning emails . . . </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">SUBJECT: Ugliest (your whatever) of all time</span></p><p><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">This has got to be the ugliest (your whatever) ever created.</span></a></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s butt-ugly, I mess up a few times on it, and it’s completely unprofessional. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And you still want to go see it because it’s incredibly important if you want to (whatever you provide solutions for). </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So instead of never getting it out to you because I got paralyzed by my obsessive compulsive desire to be perfect, I damn near drove myself crazy making this available in its raw, far-from-perfect awesomeness so <a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><strong>you can have it now</strong></a> instead of never. </span></p><p><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">Go make fun of me here</span></a><span style="font-size: small;">. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hit me with the good, the bad, and the ugly feedback when you’re done. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Coco Beware</span></p><hr /><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;">This is just generic copy but you can see the rhythm that he rolls with – the pattern if you will. <em>Three links, self deprecating humor, conversational, subtle commanding language, short and to the point</em>.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s a follow up to the email above you could use . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">SUBJECT: DAMN IT TO HELL! (lol)</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Remember how I sent you the </span><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">ugliest video</span></a><span style="font-size: small;"> yesterday? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, my Obsessive Compulsive Disorder desire to be perfect all the time was totally shamed when it saw how people like you don’t give a shit if the video is perfect or not. All they care about is that it brought them one step closer to (whatever it promised). </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Now my O.C.D. wants to be more like you. <img class="wlEmoticon wlEmoticon-smile" style="border-style: none;" src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/wlEmoticon-smile.png?fb63ac" alt="marketing notes internet marketing experts frank kern "  title="Frank Kern Shows You The G Spot Touch He Uses In His Email Marketing Strategies That Cause Wallets To Have Multiple Orgasms And Squirt Their Money Into Your Bank Account Photo" /></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And because this isn’t a beauty pageant, </span><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">this video got a WAY higher response than I ever guessed it would</span></a><span style="font-size: small;"> and people are shaming my O.C.D. even harder by spreading the video around to all their friends. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This ugly ass video is serving as an exorcism for my O.C.D. demon. </span></p><p><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">See what everyone is fussing about here </span></a></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Talk soon, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Coco Beware</span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Another subject line that he used was “FYI”. This got him a 54.2% open rate and a 24.9% click through rate. </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s an example of how the rest of this email was laid out <em>(Pay attention to the first sentence here and every one you write because they show up next to the subject line in email clients like Gmail) . . . </em></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">SUBJECT: FYI</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hey – decided to do a sex seminar involving a weird and slightly controversial topic. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And because porn + learning = awesome I made a video that explains it here. </span></p><p><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">The Link To Your Porn Learning Video</span></a></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There’s no charge so go on ahead and peep your little eyes out. J</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Coco Beware</span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: small;">See nothing scarcity oriented or douchey. Not long. Conversational. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s another template to test that I adapted the same exact structure and theme from an email he sent for his cousin Trey . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">SUBJECT: the most pleasurable and profitable business in the galaxy?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I’ll give you a hint: It ain’t porn. </span></p><p><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">In this video</span></a><span style="font-size: small;">you’ll discover that 47% of the people on the Forbes 400 list are in some form of this business. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And you’ll probably be stunned to find that my cousin Twondale, made his first million in the same bidniz. (Which he started with $600). </span></p><p><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">Go see the video here. It ain’t porn, but you’ll still like it.</span></a></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Ray Ray</span></p><hr /><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Meet Your Perfect Prospect Where They’re At </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One thing to stay laser focused on is the relevancy of this message to your list. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You always want to keep in mind who you’re talking to. If you’re talking to coffee snobs, the subject line in the email above could be changed to <strong>“the most pleasurable and expensive cup of coffee in the world?”</strong> The question mark at the end of the subject line leaves things open. Adds intrigue. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Beyond the subject line, the intrigue continues with the first line saying it’s not what you think it is, making you want to open it even more. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Also if you can find studies to prove what you say, you want to include your findings in any compelling way you can. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-family: Georgia; font-size: large;"><strong>How <em>Not</em> To Be A Douche </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So now we know the importance of the list you’re mailing to and the weight that your subject lines carry and that paid traffic is the most receptive source of traffic you can get.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The definition of being a douche in this context is to hammer your list to death with the same exact offer. You see this happen during launches quite often – people broadcasting to their list en masse. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s How to Promote Hard and Not Burn Your List Out . . . </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When you’re doing an email campaign, the simplest way to do this is to remove the names of people who’ve already opened your email and re-email everyone left on the list. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Aweber makes this easy. You click one button titled “people who did not click” and lets you set up a new segmented list to send to. (<strong>SIDE TIP</strong>: He’s also sold on the idea of mailing at 8:00 A.M. Eastern time.) </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Kern showed his Aweber stats where he did this the day after the first email and got 2,000 + additonal clicks, 5 hours later (shot this video same day he sent the email) that he wouldn’t have had had he not re-mailed to this segment of his list.   </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Here’s my adapted version of what Kern sent the next day . . . </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">SUBJECT: HELL TO THE YEAH</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Just </span><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">uploaded this for your viewing pleasure.</span></a></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Gives you a front row seat to how I shoved a cool $93,000 into my bank account last week. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Go ahead and take what you see and </span><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">copy and test it with my blessing.</span></a></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s to your shoveling a fortune into your bank account too! </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hacksaw Jim Dugan </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">PS. Don’t worry about being squeezed for an opt in. I made </span><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1043426&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2"><span style="font-size: small;">this</span></a><span style="font-size: small;"> just for people on my list and by the fact that you’re seeing this, you’re already there, so no worries.</span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: small;">You see there’s no complex copy formula here. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This isn’t an elaborate process that’ll take you forever to master. And when he did this with his icontact list, to un-opens, he got 18 more sales on this day, the day he’s shooting the video. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;">That’s $18,000 dollars more in the door from just changing your subject line and re-mailing and he’s not pissing people off who already took action by opening or opening and buying.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can also customize emails to people who’ve opened and not clicked through or to people who’ve clicked through and not taken action also. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">For this campaign he’s talking about he made a special video for the people who watched the initial video he sent but didn’t buy. <em>He got an awesome 23% click through rate on this list of the lesser quality JV traffic list.</em> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">For the people who take action on this mailing, he’s going to just send them a follow up message with a link to the order form telling them to get on it because the class is closing. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">You anticipate everyone not responding and you think ahead on how you can reach out to them and not piss them off. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These are some examples of how to mail and follow up without pissing people off.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">What To Do Now</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Can you see yourself writing fun, light-hearted 5-7 sentence paragraph emails now? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Remember, these messages were working on COLD traffic from paid ads. So shut up if you’re saying “Oh, he can write these short fun emails because he’s talking to people who he has a relationship with already or have a trusting relationship with the person endorsing him. Stop looking for ways to not use this strategy today with your email list. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You especially want to test this out if you feel like you have to write 8 mile long emails like Jay Abraham in order to get great results and you’re taking forever to finish a message and send it out. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Test this “quick to market” strategy. Let everything you’ve learned from these notes today prove itself wrong before discounting it. I think you see the common sense wisdom in what’s laid out here and I wish you the best in deploying it in your business. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">As always, please feel free to share your feelings or your results with me in the comments below or in a personal email. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Talk soon, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lewis LaLanne <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Note Taking Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a. </strong>L.L. Cool Nerd</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">PS. 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I was motivated to write this post by a Motivational Speaker by the name of Eric &#8220;The Hip Hop Preacher&#8221; Thomas. You can check his website out here (I get nothing for this recommendation nor know him). Before diving into my &#8220;Rant&#8221; today I want you [...] No related posts.]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I want to start by giving credit where do.</p><p>I was motivated to write this post by a <strong>Motivational Speaker</strong> by the name of <a href="www.etthehiphoppreacher.com">Eric &#8220;The Hip Hop Preacher&#8221; Thomas</a>.</p><p>You can check his website out <a href="www.etthehiphoppreacher.com">here</a> (I get nothing for this recommendation nor know him).</p><p>Before diving into my &#8220;Rant&#8221; today I want you to check out this video by Eric.</p><p>Simply Amazing&#8230;</p><p><a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/turning-pain-success/"><em>Click here to view the embedded video.</em></a></p><p>After watching this video I realized that <strong>I&#8217;d became complacent.</strong></p><p>I&#8217;d lost alot of the necessary drive to move me to the next level.</p><p>I&#8217;d been asking the wrong questions.</p><p>In looking forward I began to look backwards.</p><p>Over the past two years here at Nerd Nation and my other enevours have brought me much success.</p><p>However, I got comfortable.</p><p>Settled back into a routine of comfort.</p><p>Repeating a routine I&#8217;m not so proud of.</p><p>Justifying letting some of my <strong><em>&#8220;Bigger Dreams&#8221; slip by</em></strong> because after all&#8230;</p><p>&#8230;I was doing great. Right? Ahh&#8230;Bullsh*&amp;^%</p><p>My health is suffering.</p><p>My relationship with my daughter could be stronger.</p><p>My single life sucks.</p><p>I&#8217;m just lacking balance and have too much comfort in my business life.</p><p>To some they&#8217;d be happy.</p><p>For me &#8230;not so much.</p><p>Because I&#8217;ve gotten comfortable, I&#8217;ve fallen into a pattern of not planning my days consistently, not reading nor listening as much as I should, and generally just &#8220;settling&#8221; for the daily norm.</p><p>We, as humans, are funny creatures.</p><p><strong>When we are experiencing the &#8220;PAIN&#8221; we take action.</strong></p><p>You tell yourself that your going to do X or never do X again.</p><p>You are motivated for that quick second.</p><p>Then&#8230;</p><p><strong>&#8230;Life takes over and routine settles in and that very real pain we just suffered is a distant thought and gone.</strong></p><p>Pain is a part of life.</p><p>How we embrace and utilize it<em><strong> will become the determining factor between a mediocre or Outstanding Life!</strong></em></p><p>I&#8217;m not saying you need to suffer or constantly remind yourself of the pain.</p><p>I&#8217;m simply saying that if you and I can find a way to harness that pain and keep it as a reminder daily of our real goals and &#8220;MUSTS&#8221; in life then we stand a much better chance of reaching our dreams and desires.</p><h2><strong>So the FIRST thing you and I need to do is Accept The Challenge and turn your pains into success.</strong></h2><p>Step out of our comfort zones.</p><p>Put ourselves in uncomfortable situations so that we are expanding and growing.</p><p><strong>You must not be afraid to struggle.</strong></p><p>You must grow from one mistake or pain to another.<span id="more-7004"></span></p><p>We will make mistakes and we will experience pain.</p><p>How will you react.</p><p>Accept the Challenge and step up right now.</p><p>So the next time you experience Pain, or as I prefer to call it, &#8220;Growth, ask yourself this question?</p><p><em>What must I do right now and daily so that this never happens again?</em></p><p><em>How can I put a system or structure in place to move past this and grow from this?</em></p><p><em>How can I step up?</em></p><p><em>How can I create that &#8220;Must Have Oxygen&#8221; experience in this part of my life as Mr. Thomas talks about in the video.</em></p><p>(Video is Above)</p><h2>The Second thing you MUST DO is decide to become &#8220;Excellent&#8221;.</h2><p>I&#8217;m talking about working harder then anyone else.</p><p>For me one of my personal challenges is going to be to learn &#8220;French&#8221;.</p><p>Why?</p><p>Because I just took on a client whom I believe has a Tremendous opportunity.</p><p>Both in terms of Empire Building in business and changing the world with his content.</p><p>I want to be part of that in a big way.</p><p>Therefore I want to challenge myself to speak his language.</p><p>This will require taking control of my time so that I can master this in the next 6 months.</p><p>This will mean doing my homework up front and finding the right strategies, tactics, and material.</p><p>Then scheduling it and doing the work.</p><p>Using my &#8220;Off&#8221; time.</p><p>Getting up early.</p><p>Listening and Learning when I don&#8217;t want to.</p><p>This is a part of my story that seems to pop up over and over again.</p><p>But guess what?</p><p>I&#8217;m not a quitter and I keep getting more clear and move that much closer to my dreams.</p><p>I&#8217;ll keep persisting.</p><p>Will you?</p><p>I hope so.</p><p>I&#8217;m prepared to take all my past pains and turn them into opportunity.</p><p>Not repeat them and grow.</p><p>Good luck my friend.</p><p>And..</p><p>&#8230;If I can be of help then please let me know.</p><p>I&#8217;m here for you.</p><p>This is my mission.</p><p>How can I help?</p><p>Please email or comment and let me know.</p><p>To your success,</p><p>Dexter</p><p>P.S. Because I truly want to help I&#8217;ve extended an offer to you that I rarely extend. (usually once every 6-8 weeks maximum)</p><p>You can read how you and I can meet one on one here. It&#8217;s truly my gift to you&#8230;.</p><p>I&#8217;m taking this off this post in 3 days. So grab your time slot while you can.</p><p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;</p><div>As you know we&#8217;ve been busy doing a ton of stuff here in Nerd Nation.</div><div></div><div><div>I sincerely hope we have contributed to some of you</div><div>success this past year.</div><div></div><div>Right now I&#8217;d like to give you a shot at making 2012 the ONE Year you&#8217;ve been waiting for you entire life.</div><div></div><div>Before telling you what I&#8217;m about to offer you i&#8217;d like to ask you a question.</div><div></div><div><strong>How much would you pay to have access to every single guru </strong><strong>Program ever launched or sold?</strong></div><div></div><div>I&#8217;d guess alot.</div><div></div><div>Well, you may know that I&#8217;ve attended or own over $450,000 worth of programs in the Internet Marketing, Offline Marketing, Inner Game, and Business Development areas.</div><div></div><div>As a matter of fact I recently spent over $50,000 to re-up my membership in Anthony Robbins Elite Platinum Membership Program.</div><div></div><div><strong>I don&#8217;t say this to impress you but to impress upon you the vast knowledge </strong><strong>i have stored up in this rather large Nerd Cranium.</strong></div><div></div><div>I&#8217;d like to offer just a bit of it to just a few of you.</div><div></div><div><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Here&#8217;s the deal.</span></strong></div><div></div><div>I usually consult at a $500 an hour minimum rate.</div><div></div><div>As my gift (this is a loss lead&#8230;really) to you I&#8217;d like to offer just 5 of you a few hours of my time. (2 -3 Hours to be specific)</div><div></div><div>Yep during the month of January I&#8217;ll give up <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>5 Two Hour Blocks  </strong></span>of my time and on these call will be my trusty sidekick Nerd2.</div><div></div><div><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Together we, at least, think we know it all. </span></div><div><ul><li><strong>Want to know about building your list?</strong></li><li><strong>Seo?<br /> </strong></li><li><strong>Blogs?</strong></li><li><strong>Email?</strong></li><li><strong>A certain Guru Program?</strong></li><li><strong>How to make those changes you&#8217;ve been procrastinating?</strong></li><li><strong>Copy Writing? </strong></li></ul><p>Want us to Team View your desktop and brainstorm a new Landing Page.</p></div><div>The same for an email campaign.</div><div></div><div><strong>The Sky is the limit. </strong></div><div></div><div>Anything you want we&#8217;ll do our damnest to get the answer for you.</div><div></div><div>We&#8217;d normally charge a minimum of $999 for these Two Hour Hot seats but as our gift to you we will give the next Five Nerd Fans the chance to pick our brains for just $129 total.</div><div></div><div>I&#8217;m not one of those Guru&#8217;s that&#8217;s gonna cut ya off mid sentence and leave at two hours.</div><div></div><div>We will have an outcome and achieve it. This will not be longer then 3 hours but it could go that long.</div><div></div><p><a title="" href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1040240&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2" target="_blank">I&#8217;M IN NERD.. I WANT TO BE ONE OF THREE TO GET A HOT SEAT AND MAKE 2011 A YEAR TO REMEMBER</a></p><div></div><div>Yep&#8230; we are being cheap prostitutes for you.</div><div></div><div><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Here&#8217;s how it will work:</strong></span></div><div></div><div>1.  You claim your spot.</div><div></div><div>2.  We will immediately email you and set a date for the phone</div><div>call within 2 weeks.</div><div></div><div>3.  You will email us a preliminary list of question and we will</div><div>come fully prepared to get through these at a lightning fast</div><div>speed with plenty of time left over for many more questions</div><div>that may come up.</div><div></div><div>4. We will join together on a conference line for 2 hours (up to 3 if needed). I will not</div><div>set a clock. I will help you accomplish your outcomes regardless of time.</div><div>You will then receive the MP3&#8242;s of the consultation within 24 hours</div><div>of our time together.</div><div></div><div>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<wbr>&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;  </wbr></div><div></div><div><strong>GUARANTEE:</strong> If your not jumping out of your chair with excitement and anticipation of what you are going to do with the information we&#8217;ve shared then email us and get a refund.</div><div></div><div>If you can&#8217;t realistically see an immediate return of 500% or more on investment then email and get a refund.</div><div></div><div>If you don&#8217;t think we&#8217;ve over delivered in a way you can&#8217;t entirely grasp until after out time together then email and get a refund.</div><div></div><div>If you just want a free call and have that in you, then more power to you. Take the call and then email and get a refund.</div><div></div><div>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<wbr>&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;</wbr></div><div></div><div>I can&#8217;t lie. This is truly a gift from us.</div><div></div><div>We will doing a launch, conducting meetings with Three of the very biggest Internet Marketing Gurus, Attending an Anthony Robbins Seminar, and all of our day to day business stuff in the near future.</div><div></div><div>So when I say only FIVE SPOTS will get in&#8230; i mean it.</div><div></div><div>I&#8217;m not even saying we are so great. <strong>We probably aren&#8217;t for many of  </strong><strong>you. </strong>But if you like the blog, our work, and what we stand for then I think we can help you a ton.</div><div></div><div>So right now click below and get one of the New Year Hot Seats Now.</div><div></div><div><a title="" href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1040240&amp;cl=176175&amp;ejc=2" target="_blank">Let&#8217;s Do This&#8230;..I&#8217;m In Dexter</a></div><div></div><div>To Your Success,</div><div>Dexter Abraham</div><div></div><div>P.S. 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</div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/MyNoteTakingNerd/~4/zlFMerObjQM" height="1" width="1"/>]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/turning-pain-success/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> <feedburner:origLink>http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/turning-pain-success/</feedburner:origLink></item> <item><title>Tony Robbins Reveals The Single Toughest Objection You’ll Ever Have To Overcome When Selling Your Ideas Or Products</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/MyNoteTakingNerd/~3/NAWvw59ntZk/</link> <comments>http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/tony-robbins-reveals-the-single-toughest-objection-youll-ever-have-to-overcome-when-selling-your-ideas-or-products/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Fri, 27 Jan 2012 14:02:00 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>NoteTakingNerd2</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Small Business Marketing Strategies]]></category> <category><![CDATA[tony robbins personal power]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/?p=6893</guid> <description><![CDATA[See How You Can Apply This Small Business Marketing Strategy Tony Robbins Used To Overcome The Skepticism of Total Strangers and Blast Past Being a Nobody, To Becoming a Great Somebody Known and Worshiped World Wide Hey You, It’s Lewis a.k.a Nerd #2 a.k.a. 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Cool Nerd. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Have you made it you’re life’s study to figure out why people do what they do? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you answered “No,” and yet you want to increase the number of people who say “Yes,” to you, then I highly suggest you keep your mind open to the discoveries made by a man who has for decades now, made millions upon millions upon millions of dollars based on what he’s discovered about the key factors that get people to take steps to improve their lives and what they do with their thinking that keeps them a prisoner to mediocrity or worse, poverty. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you make a living selling products or services (or aspire to someday), you’re in for a real treat because you’re about to see the slight tweak Tony Robbins made that allowed his <em>Personal Power</em> Infomercial – to become <span style="background-color: #ffff00;"><strong>one of the </strong></span><strong><span style="background-color: #ffff00;">greatest sales presentations ever delivered on a mass scale.</span></strong> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You’re going to absolutely love seeing how his extensive and expensive research found the answer to the nastiest objection your prospects will ever have.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I found this story for you while listening to one of Tony’s Power Talk tapes and I’ve brought this wisdom here. So let the show begin . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">The Secret Reason People Don’t Buy, That They’ll Never Ever Admit To You </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The human brain is always working hard to avoid pain. And it’s on a constant quest for pleasure. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">After trying and trying and trying, and failing and failing and failing some people link up in their mind something like, “Getting excited, getting worked up to go for it, equals pain so I better not even try. I better stay right where I am now because at least I know I can deal with this.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This leads extraordinary people to settle for mediocre lives. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You don’t want to fall in this trap but it’s so easy, isn’t it? Haven’t you ever been at some point in your life where you felt jaded and you tried so hard and you gave your all and it still didn’t work? And you ended up feeling like, “Why should I even try?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, I have and that’s where Tony was years ago because he felt like he’d given his all and <em>failure</em> was the reward. Why even try? Why even do this? He started adopting the power of negative thinking, the power to destroy his life and it didn’t take long. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">The Poisonous Effect Some Innocent Negativity Can Have On Your Life</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It took about 120 days for him to destroy everything he’d created in 4 years. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It doesn’t take long at all when you indulge in negative thinking. It only takes a little bit of poison to kill someone. You don’t need to drink six gallons of strychnine. Just a sip and it’s lights out. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is why you’ve gotta make sure and stand guard at the doors of your mind every day. You want to direct your mind rather than just falling for what’s dumped into it by the environment around us. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is critical because what we think about daily determines how we feel, what actions we take, therefore what we think about every day is shaping our destiny. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You know what’s scary?<span id="more-6893"></span> Sometimes the poison is offered by a friend. One of Tony’s original mentors, Jim Rohn, said, “Tony, everyday you’ve gotta watch your mind, you’ve got to watch what’s getting in there. Watch who you surround yourself with because friends can poison you.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony thought this was kinda harsh. Jim said, “Tony you’ve got a cup of coffee here and your best friend comes by and puts some sugar in your coffee when you’re not looking. What’s gonna happen?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony said, “Well, I don’t drink coffee but if I did, I guess it’d be pretty sweet coffee.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Jim said, “That’s right. What if your best friend, even if by accident, dropped a little bit of poison in your coffee?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony said, “I’d be dead.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Jim said, “That’s right. <strong>Lesson #1:</strong> Watch your coffee! <strong>Lesson #2:</strong> While you’re watching that coffee, make sure that you put into it what you want and you don’t let other people do it for you.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You’ve gotta watch your mind. You’ve gotta put something positive in your mind, something that’s gonna help you construct a greater quality of life. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you don’t do this consciously, what will the news provide for you? What will the internet provide for you? Negativity is constant just like gravity and you must resist it in order to have the muscle and the will to shape the quality of our lives. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">13 Random Strangers Off The Street Put Millions Of Dollars Into Tony Robbins Bank Account</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s an example of where our society has gone . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony surrounds himself with so many positive people that sometimes he forgets. But all he has to do is turn on the TV. Or, think about this experience he recently had. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">His television show “Personal Power” was the most successful infomercial that had ever been done. It’d broken all the records and he was really proud of it but they wanted to come out with a new show and he wanted to make sure they reached even more people. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So he thought, “Why don’t we bring in a focus group – a group of people who don’t know who we are and lets have a professional moderator really find out what they think of our show and find out if we’re reaching them or not and figure out to impact even more people.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They proceed and now he’s in Marina Del Rey in a room behind a two way mirror and nobody knows he’s there. Tony watches the moderator interviewing 13 people and he learned some AMAZING lessons. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Behold The Tony Robbins Smack Down</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony figured that based on the response they had to their show that these people were all gonna love his show too. Not the case. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When the moderator interview them in advance, one guy happened to mention, when they asked about personal development information, if they were ever involved in seminars and stuff like that, the guy mentioned he’d been to seminar of someone else’s before and listened to some tapes. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You should’ve seen how the mob jumped all over this guy. They started prodding at him implying that he was dependent on somebody else and how they didn’t need it because they were already confident and balanced.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It was incredible the amount of emotional negativity they dished out towards this man. Then the moderator asked the group if they’d heard about Tony Robbins. One person in the group had heard about him, read his book and was enthusiastic. Other people were bothered by that. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Then they showed the film and after doing so the response was pretty amazing. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They had everyone fill out a piece of paper and on it was a drawing of people talking with each other and the moderator told the group, “These people are talking about the show that you just watched. Please write down what they’re talking about.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Next they gave them a chance to score Tony and other people on the show on terms of their sincerity, their vitality, their passion, etc. </span><span style="font-size: small;">Well, Tony got really high scores and so he assumed that when the conversation started, everyone’d be really enthusiastic. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They. Were. Not. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One man stood up and said, “I love him. I want those tapes. This seems fantastic. It seems different than everything else.” </span><span style="font-size: small;">As soon as he did, you can imagine what happened. Other people in the group jumped him saying, “What are you crazy? Don’t you know these people are trying to <em>rip you off?</em> They’re just trying to make money off of you! This is TOTAL SCAM!!!”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They went on and on and on about how if this guy bought these tapes, he was gonna get ripped off. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The moderator asked, “What do you mean? Why do you think it’s a scam?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They said, “All those people on there talking about their results are all PAID for their testimonials! Those people are saying that stuff because they got paid to do so! That isn’t what <em>really </em>happened for them!”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony couldn’t believe that out of the 13 people, that 7 of them thought they were paid endorsements when not one of their testimonials was paid for. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Then the moderator said, “How can this guy get ripped off if the tapes come with a money-back guarantee and if he doesn’t like them, he can send them back and get a full refund?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The group shot back, “You’ll <em>never</em> get your money back. That’s a total <em>lie</em>. That’s a total scam <em>too</em>! There’s no way!” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They carried on and on and on saying “Well if this guy is so successful, why is he teaching other people? Why isn’t he just keeping this for himself?” </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">The Light Bulb Turns On In Tony’s Delusional Mind</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony thought, “This is AMAZING! I had no idea people thought this way.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If he’d used his intelligence, he would’ve remembered that seven years ago that was how <em>he</em> used to think which was ironic because one of the ladies there was real emotional talking about how this must be a rip off saying, “Yeah, I believe that Tony Robbins is sincere but he’s a LIAR!” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This caused Tony to think, “<em>WHAT?!</em> How can I be sincere, <em>AND</em> be a liar?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">She said, “He’s sincere and I believe he really cares and all that but he never lived in 400 square foot bachelor apartment in Venice.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">By the way, they did this focus group about 10 minutes away from where he used to live. 2516 Pacific Avenue, Venice, California. Pretty amazing. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The bottom line is she went on and on and on and she was so intense and she was so angry, so upset even though she’d never met him, and he was taken aback. But after being taken aback he got <em>real </em>curious. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He thought, “What is this dynamic? Why are these people so emotional?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The moderator worked with the group for almost two hours. After conversation after conversation after conversation asking each person if they’d see any value in these tapes at all, one older gentleman said, “No. I’m retired and I’m happy about it,” with a terrible frown on his face as he’s saying this. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So after a while, the moderator asked, “What would convince you that these tapes were at least worth listening to and then sending them back for your refund if you didn’t want them?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They said, “We need some <em>real </em>evidence that this stuff works – not just paid testimonials!” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The moderator agreed with them and told them he’d be right back. He left the room and walked into where Tony was sitting and asked him if he wanted to talk to these people. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony said, “I guess so. These guys are pretty mean but okay.” </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Tony Walks Right Into The Shit Storm</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And so Tony walks into the room and you should’ve seen the state change when they saw him. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There was the gasp of disbelief and they all got excited saying, “It’s him, it’s him,” nudging each other. Tony sat down and said hi to them and they said hi back and smiled back at him being very nice after they’d just beat the shit of him and his show.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony said, “I want to thank you all for being here because you just gave me an unbelievable education. See this mirror here? It’s not a regular mirror. On the other other side I was watching and listening to your feedback on my show. Fortunately I don’t take it personally but I had no idea people could be this pessimistic. All those people you see on the show are sincere. No one was paid for their testimony. The bottom line is that they’re all sharing because they got results. They’re all sincere.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Then he turned to the woman who said he’d never lived in Venice before and said, “2516 Pacific Ave. Apt. 3A” Check it out on your way home, it’s only 10 minutes away.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He said, “I needed to hear this. I needed to hear your responses to this because my goal is to reach more people. Some of you said I’m doing this to make money and you’re <em>absolutely</em> right. I’m a business man. I make money but I get to do something that I love to do that makes a difference in the process. If I wasn’t making any money, I wouldn’t be reaching any people, so yeah, certainly I want to do well but I <em>really</em> want to impact people and I’m not impacting you guys. You aren’t hearing my message. I want to reach you. Help me. How can I reach you? ”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s was fascinating. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They said, “Well, tell us more about what you do.” And Tony told them what he did and why he did it and sure enough in about 5-1o minutes they’re telling him, “<em>This</em> is what you should do. <em>You</em> should be on that show. Don’t have as many of those testimonials because <em>you’re</em> really great. We really like <em>you</em>.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And Tony said, “But I’m the same guy who was on the infomercial.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They said, “It’s different having you here in person. Now we know you’re real. You’re not like all those other scams.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They kept talking about all those other scams and he listened to that. To the one man who was retired, Tony asked, “Would you never get some tapes like this?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He said, “I would’ve got them years ago. Years ago I used to get tapes all the time. I used to go to the seminars. I’d give my all and it wouldn’t work and I finally got tired of trying to give my all. I don’t need that. I’m happy the way I am,” with this terrible scrunched up look on his face. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony thought how interesting this was that this man kept giving, kept trying and it didn’t work and it didn’t work and it didn’t work and it dawned on him! </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">The Great Wall Of Skepticism That Keeps Your Conversion Rates Low</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He thought about why these people were <em>so emotional, so angry </em>about trying to prove this stuff wouldn’t work. Tony finally realized what it was. <span style="background-color: #ffff00;">These people had been disappointed <em>so many times</em> that now they’re deathly afraid of getting excited</span>. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Their brain tells them that if they get excited, they’re gonna take a fall – “If I get all jazzed and pumped up about this thing, what’s going to happen to me is what <em>always</em> happens to me – it’s not gonna work out and I’m gonna look like a fool! I’m gonna tell my friend about this great business opportunity and then the company goes under and my friend is gonna hate me forever! Or this guy’s gonna get me thinking I can really succeed and I’m gonna go out there and make some investment or put myself on the line and really stretch myself and then I won’t pull it off and then I’ll <em>really </em>be a failure and I’ll feel <em>really </em>shitty so I’ll just stay right here where I am and not do ANYTHING and watch my life drift away.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He turned to these people after he’d listened to them talk for awhile and he said, “You’re paid to be here and you don’t have to take anything from me, you can get up and leave at any time but I think the real reason you guys wouldn’t order these tapes in not because you didn’t believe in the guarantee, not because you think these people are lying. I think it’s because you guys are afraid to get excited. I think you’ve been disappointed so many times that you’ve given up and . . . </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>I think the <em>real</em> reason you wouldn’t buy these tapes is because you don’t believe in you.” </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony looked over the room and of the thirteen people, 11 are shaking their head, ‘yes’, and the other two kinda saying they don’t agree with him. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony tells the 2 people, “You don’t have to agree with me, but what do you think?”</span><span style="font-size: small;">And after contemplating deeper they came around and said, “Yeah, you’re right.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">After the focus group did Tony’s show, they did one for a diet product. And the one woman who’d been so against Tony’s show in the beginning, when asked later if she’d use the diet product, she said, “No, because the truth of the matter is, I wouldn’t succeed at this until I used something like Tony’s product and learned to love myself more.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It was unbelievable the totally different view this woman began to look at things from. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">As they were closing out on time, Tony said, “I’ve kept you here longer than we were supposed to but I’d like another 20 minutes with you and I’ll pay you for your time or you can leave, or I can give you a set of my tapes instead.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And guess what? Out of the thirteen people there, guess how many people wanted the tapes? Every. Single. One.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Only one person had said they wanted the tapes before talking with him and even that had shifted when the mob turned on him for saying so. But there was a problem. Tony only had twelve sets of tapes with him. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So he said, “One of you <em>can’t </em>have the tapes right now, who of you would be willing to wait to get the tapes?” The older guy said, “I’ll wait to use them because I probably can’t benefit from them that much anyway.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What was really fun was that by the time Tony was done speaking twenty minutes later, after he’d got a chance to really chat with these people and as they’re leaving, the older gentleman who said he was gonna wait for his tapes, fought with another woman to get the last set of tapes so this woman that really wanted them had to wait because this old guy took the tapes and bolted with them. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony got several things out of this eye-opening experience . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;">One</span><span style="color: #000000;">,</span> he got to see how negatively conditioned, pessimistic, and skeptical a random group of Americans could be.</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">Second</span>, he saw why people would be negative. </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He never understood <em>why </em>before. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He just thought people were being negative and he’d make people wrong because of how hard he worked at being positive. He realized this negativity was oozing out of their fears. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He realized that when someone is negative, they’re fearful. It’s the same thing that happens when someone is throwing their big ego around – it reveals how insecure they are. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These people have tried things and they didn’t work and they have a lot of references-experiences where they tried something and it was painful now their brain has linked up and says, “You get excited, you really go for it, you’re just gonna get disappointed. You’re not only gonna get financial pain but you’re gonna get pain in the form of shame.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And this is why those people were so emotional about making Tony’s product wrong. They didn’t want to believe because they were afraid to believe. And all of this was unconscious. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;">Third</span>, he learned from the old guy, that everyone still wants to dream. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Everyone still wants to make it happen. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Everyone still wants to slay the dragon and be the hero by doing ordinary things extraordinarily well. EVERYBODY WANTS THAT! </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And everybody somewhere in their gut believes this is possible for them and they’re waiting for someone to come along and kick them in the ass and show them how it’s still possible for them to dream and be heroic. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And now he&#8217;s got more reinforcement for his mission and what he does. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He tells this story to remind you of the kind of environment you live in. You’re pretty positive if you’ve read this far. But if someone around you is being negative, they’re not wrong, they’re not bad, they’re not a negative person. They’re fearful. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What are the consequences of being a fearful person? What are the consequences of looking for what’s wrong instead of what’s right? The consequences are the destruction of your dreams. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">What Does This Mean To You and Your Customers/Clients/Prospects? </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This means it’s up to you, barring you bring the truth, the fuckin’ ruckus, the light to your universe of potential buyers, to show them how your service, your product is gonna allow them to sign the death certificate of that fear of “I’m too lazy to see this through to the end.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">As ugly as it is, you’ve got to believe that the people who can keep your business afloat are simply scared children in grown up bodies looking for the approval some certain somebodies in their life. Could be a spouse, could be a brother, could be friends, could be the 5th grade teacher who told them they were just a shit spark off the old shit flame and that they’d never amount to anything. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But that somebody is out there and if your perfect prospect can’t see how spending time and money with you will allow them to “Show Them”, then I guarantee you’re making less sales than you possibly could. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Anatomy Of An Info-Product People Love To Buy</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If there was a Hall of Fame for information products based on longevity and profitability, I guarantee you “Personal Power” would have a spot in it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And what’s cool is that this product’s blueprint for success isn’t hidden in a vault from you like the design specs for next Apple product. It’s out in the open for all to see. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">For those of you unfamiliar with the Personal Power product, it’s 30 or so hours worth of content broken down into Day 1-30. You’re only supposed to listen to one a day, unless of course you’re an overachiever and you want to take a weekend or something and blast through a huge section of it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s three components of personal power that have contributed to it’s legendary success . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">1. Matches Learning Format They’re Familiar With </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The first thing I believe contributed to the su</span><span style="font-size: small;">ccess of Tony Robbins’ Personal Power course was that the end of each days session, you had action steps to take that once you did them and felt the momentum shift for the better in your life, you felt you were getting your money’s worth and that it was only going to get better. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Another thing that was different about this, that I believe allows a person to suspend the doubt they have of themselves was that Personal Power is stretched out over <em>thirty days</em> <em>under his supervision</em> on each of the days. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">People don’t like to be handed a box of 20 DVD’s, 3 big ass manuals, and left to their own devices. Think of how this completely goes against the way they absorbed information from the time they were 4 years old all the way till they were 18 years old and 4-6-8 more years for the people who went to college. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Nearly everyone on the planet is trained that the path to success with a topic that’s unfamiliar to you has to do with having a teacher who serves you bites of information one day at a time and then at the end of the lesson asks you to take some action that is manageable. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Of course some kids can’t hang, even with a system that demands very little of them, but the majority can. The same is going to be true of your pool of perfect prospects. They all can’t be winners but if you show up in their world and you don’t make success with your system achievable for them because of the structure, you’ll have the people who should be winning, losing, which of course leads to you losing money in referrals, refunds and future sales. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Another aspect of this that helped people along was Tony taking on the position of “Stern but loving parent”. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you didn’t do the action he’d asked you to do the day before, he’d break your balls but he’d do it in a way that allowed you see he was doing it to help you, not just to control you. Tons of parents and teachers are guilty of doing the latter under the guise of helping you, but even kids can see and feel through this. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you’ve ever had a teacher you loved, you know how important this aspect was in you wanting to do whatever you could to avoid disappointing them. If you want your buyers to get results, they’ve gotta feel the desire to get your approval for a job well done. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>2. Make The Transformation Believable </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony never had to sell the Personal Power as “Go To Sleep and Wake Up Fixed”. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This product actually breaks all the rules of marketing that say the majority of people gravitate towards fast, easy, and cheap products. And yet, since the early 90’s he’s kept rolling it out year after year after year. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s an evergreen content just as useful in the 80’s as it is now (hidden lesson here) and everything you learn in the course has the ability to completely transform how you show up in the world but he did a marvelous job of meeting you were.   </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">At the beginning, the action steps were simple, but not insignificant. He knew you were just getting your ass of the couch so he didn’t make it impossible for you to take the first step on the journey to walking proud through life on your own two feet. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And if I remember right, Tony made this one of the selling points during his infomercial. He let you see in your mind how this was different than a book or a Nightingale Conant program. He let you know how this course was built to be action-oriented towards progress – not perfection. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>3. Build For Maximum Impact And Maximum Profit</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s been so long since I’ve read Tony’s 9,000 page book, “Awaken The Giant Within” but I’m guessing that most of what’s in Personal Power, is in there. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But which product can you clearly charge more for? </span><span style="font-size: small;">That’s right – 30 CD’s. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think about this too. When he first started selling these in CD format, a CD bought in the store went for $15.99 or more and this allowed someone to see the logic of why they’d be paying hundreds, not singles, to get access to this information you couldn’t just run to the store and buy it(another hidden lesson – give people limited access to your product to boost it’s value). </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So now not only are you having a greater impact on your buyers by stretching out your lessons making them easier to consume but you’re also having a greater impact on your bottom line. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">What Other Marketing Master Has Followed The Guidelines Above And Taken It To the Next Level? </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One information marketer who’s used similar steps with his high-end information products is Eben Pagan. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Eben recently re-released Wake Up Productive and if memory serves me correctly, the product is broken down day by day and he called it the  “New Years Wake Up Productive <em>Class</em>”. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Look at <a href="http://mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/single-important-marketing-strategy-eben-pagan-hammers-death-guru-blueprint-program">The Guru-Blueprint Course</a> – which was broken down into two days (even less than Personal Power) a week over the period of a month, or longer, I can’t remember. And did you notice how he labeled it a course, with classes scheduled on specific days -  something people who’ve attended or know what a college is, are familiar with.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you’re going to sell information products, you need to remember that’s is completely unnecessary to ever start with the blank slate. There have been successful models rolled out in the past that have done the job of conquering the mightiest objection a person could ever have to buying your product or a service. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Follow in the foot steps of Personal Power or Eben Pagan’s products and you’ll be light years ahead of the majority of people you’ll ever compete with in your niche. That’s a guarantee. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Talk soon, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lewis LaLanne <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Note Taking Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a. </strong>L.L. Cool Nerd</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">PS. 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In these marketing notes I’m going to show you the Dan Kennedy DNA Game Changer small business marketing strategies Hugh Hefner used to go from a nobody to a somebody (HEADS UP: If seeing breathtakingly beautiful naked [...] Related posts:<ol><li><a href='http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/notes-on-rich-schefrens-business-growth-system-course/' rel='bookmark' title='Free Notes On Rich Schefren&rsquo;s Business Growth System Course'>Free Notes On Rich Schefren&rsquo;s Business Growth System Course</a><li><li><a href='http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/dan-kennedy-shows-joint-venture-pro/' rel='bookmark' title='Dan Kennedy Shows You How To Joint Venture Like A Pro'>Dan Kennedy Shows You How To Joint Venture Like A Pro</a><li></ol>]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>If you believe naked women were the key to Hugh Hefner’s rise to fame, you’d be dead wrong. In these marketing notes I’m going to show you the Dan Kennedy DNA Game Changer small business marketing strategies Hugh Hefner used to go from a nobody to a somebody </strong></span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: x-small;">(HEADS UP:<em> If seeing breathtakingly beautiful naked women bothers you, stop reading now and cheat yourself out of witnessing brilliance because within all this marketing awesomeness there’s a few ladies waiting to be admired below)</em></span></strong></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Show me any guy, of any age, anywhere in the world, at any time in history, today or tomorrow, that wouldn’t give his left nut to be Hugh Hefner at age 20, at 50, at 80. Living the lifestyle he lives, with beautiful women who adore him, happy beyond what any human being has the right to be happy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Gene Simmons – Mega Entrepreneur/Lead Man of the KISS Rock Band </em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hey You,</span></p><div id="attachment_6976" class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 266px"> <a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/hugh-hefner-of-playboy-magazine-fame-shows-you-how-he-used-dan-kennedys-dna-game-changer-system-to-raise-himself-to-fame-and-fortune/hef/" rel="attachment wp-att-6976"><img class="size-medium wp-image-6976" title="Hef" src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-266x300.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="266" height="300" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">See how Hef went from a zero to hero</p></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s Lewis <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a. </strong>L.L. Cool Nerd.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What if you were the Hugh Hefner of your market – the unmistakable, unforgettable, and untouchable man with the plan? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What if people were willing to give their left nut, left tit, to be you? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What if for you, like it did for Hef at one time, this seems like a pipe dream? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well Dan Kennedy’s wisdom, Hugh Hefner’s seldom heard true Hollywood story and I are here to help you turn the impossible into the possible. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">As you may or may not know, I recently descended into the belly of the beast that is Dan Kennedy’s DNA Game Changer System on a mission to drill down and sift through all the muck and filler in order to bring you the rawest, purest, and most potent business truths locked within the hours and hours and hours and hours and hours and more hours of the system and I emerged with an easy to consume at-a-glance, 118-page reference guide that flawlessly reveals every single diamond buried in this course. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Never again will you beat yourself up over missing that launch or be ashamed of yourself for being too lazy to take notes yourself. These gems are now at your finger tips, waiting to serve you, their master. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">On this mining expedition, one name kept coming up again, and again, and again. That name was Hugh Hefner. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So, being the action-taker that I am, I tracked down all the Hef resources Dan referred to as well as some other stuff and that’s where I stumbled upon the documentary titled . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Hugh Hefner: <span style="color: #000000;">Playboy, Activist, and Rebel</span></span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is a documentary in which Hugh Hefner walks you through each step of his rise from being an invisible writer for a children’s magazine to pioneering a men’s magazine and a movement becoming world famous in the process. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">While watching this story I continued to see DNA Game Changing Principle after DNA Game Changing Principle and so I hunkered down and painstakingly took notes on each of the lessons I found and now I’m unveiling to you how unconsciously, Hugh Hefner used Dan Kennedy’s DNA Game Changer system to build his empire and how you can take these lessons and apply them to directly to your business as well. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Let the disrobing begin . . . </span></p><p><span id="more-6974"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #1:</span> Principle of Purpose </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The story of why you’re doing what you’re doing is of incredible importance. Your audience has no desire to hear that your purpose for being in business is <em>just </em>for the money. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;">People are looking for you to be sharing what you possess because you feel that it would be a sin to not share it with the rest of the world and take it to the grave with you. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And yet the purpose you express has to be true to who you are. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If it’s complete bullshit that you “care for them deeply,” then don’t say that. You’ve gotta find your own answer that’s got truth in it and that is acceptable to them.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Look at Hugh Hefner expressed this to the readers of Playboy. . . </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">The deeds that men are being moved to by Playboy and the general thrust of our move towards a less repressed society, is a healthier attitude towards sex. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Hugh Hefner</em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hugh is intrigued with why people try to hurt one and other as they do or why we are not able to love one another as we should. And he thinks this is the reason he majored in psychology in college, to try to understand why we are the way we are. </span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span><span style="font-size: small;">And maybe to make a difference. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You see nothing in what he’s saying that’s about maximizing profit even though he was aware of the need to do so. And I don’t believe for a second that he would’ve connected with his target audience had they not felt that his actions, which you’ll see below, were an extension of this purpose. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00;"><span style="font-size: small;">You can’t just <em>talk</em> about it. You’ve gotta <em>be </em>about it.</span> </span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #2:</span> Principle of Origin </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You want to compress time and bring people up to speed on your back story and origin<strong> s</strong>tories are absolutely essential for bonding people to you.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think about Batman. If you don’t have the story about his parents being killed in the alley by thugs, the falling in the well, the bats, the whole thing doesn’t make sense. Who the hell is this guy and why’s he running around fighting crime in this weird suit? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Look at Hefner’s origin story concisely told here . . . </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef grew up with strong puritan roots and understood at a young age the repression people were chained down by and sinking from. He grew up in a home where there was no affection on display. So, he escaped into fantasies encouraged by the movies and music of the day. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In a dark theater you escape to anywhere. </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">I create fantasies. Hef creates fantasies. Half of the fantasies we create already exist in people’s minds and all we help do is draw them out.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>George Lucas – Genius creator of Star Wars  </em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">The happiest time prior to Playboy for him was during the last two years of high school because it was a very creative time writing for the school paper and expressing his thought in cartoons. He used cartoons to express himself rather than having a diary. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Even at this young age he was very much aware of and concerned about the sexual taboos and repression that existed in America.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In a post graduate course at Northwestern, he wrote a paper called, “Sex Behavior And The U.S. Law”. In this paper he compared the sex statutes with the then 48 states, the conclusion of which was, that if these laws were effectively applied, the majority of men would be serving some prison time. He made a clear cut case for the irrational nature of those laws. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>In The 50’s People Weren’t Ready For Nudity</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Nudity was conservative in terms of the white house. It was conservative in terms of the post office. It was conservative in terms of movies. It was conservative in terms of lifestyles. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">After college he ended up taking a job at a children’s magazine and thought to himself, “Is my life simply going to be the playing out of a version of my parents? Is there nothing more.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Performing/singing at a high school reunion brought back all the memories of dreams put aside – dreams lost. He was in a failed marriage and felt lost. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There was a moment a few days after this where he stood on the Michigan Avenue bridge in Chicago and looked out at the lake and wondered if that was all there is. Is this what my life is going to be? In the days immediately following, he started making plans in the living room of his south side apartment for a men’s magazine . . . </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:66eb7059-a422-4fc0-a748-2eaf661c8b51" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-1-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-1.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="232" height="335" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">He went to the bank and the local loan company and managed to borrow from the two of them, $600. He then went to friends and relatives, anyone he could think of got them to invest a total of $8,000 from which he was able to put together for the first issue.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In 1953 he was working for a children’s magazine during the day then every night, sending off countless letters signed sometimes by “Hugh Hefner: Editor-In-Chief” and sometimes by “Hugh Hefner: Advertising Director” “Hugh Hefner: Circulation Director” because it was literally a one man band.</span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Little Details Matter More Than Flash</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Notice how Hef’s origin story doesn’t include any earth-shattering events. He didn’t talk to god. He wasn’t struck by lightning. He didn’t have his dad dying out in his arms telling him to carry out his dream of owning a magazine. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">His story is similar to how lots of people get their start but what adds elements of interest are the details like “Cartoons instead of diary”,  “Children’s Magazine”, “Northwestern”, Michigan Avenue Bridge, etc. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When you see the movie all these details have an even bigger impact because there’s a picture for every single one of these, his cartoons, the paper he wrote, the bridge, etc. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These details make your story vivid and help people make connections with you and you want to include them. In this movie, his is told just about right, not too much minutia and not too little. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Your origin story needs to be told a ton of times in different ways. It can be told as above, or just compressed into a couple of paragraphs to change up how people get this information about you. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>You should never underestimate your customers ability to ignore you. </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Even though you may have put your origin story in front of them six million times, some people won’t know it. And the people who do know it won’t mind hearing it again if it’s told well. </span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #3:</span> Principle of Proof</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When it comes to proving that your product or service does what you say it will and that you’re the king or queen, testimonials are one of the ways everyone knows to use to do so. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s some other things that can serve to demonstrate how influential you are that you should keep in mind . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">Name-Dropping/Who You Associate With: </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When you’re surrounded by rock stars, you’re perceived as one also. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Peter Lowe did with his Success rallies. He didn’t do this by being charismatic. He did it by writing checks. This allowed him to surround himself with a wise mix of prominent people. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">For Dan, having spoken at those Success rallies and now being able to drop the names of former Presidents of the United States, astronauts, movie stars, etc. and say he’s shared the platform with these guys has allowed him to make a strong impression on his audience. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He says the name-dropping has been <em>far more valuable</em> than the money he got paid from making sales of his products at those events. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Here’s the story of how Hefner wrote a check to make an earth-shaking entrance to the market . . . </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef was looking for some kind of gimmick.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’d learned that the already famous nude of Marilyn Monroe, which everybody had heard about but no one had seen, was owned by a local calendar company. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So he drove out there in his beat up Chevy and talked the owner into letting him publish that photograph. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Nobody had seen this because the post office took the position that it was obscene and therefore you couldn’t send it through the mail. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This picture appeared in the magazine at the same time Marilyn was doing some of her most popular films. In this first issue of Playboy, Hef – the nobody &#8211; came out guns a blazing, balls-to-the-wall, and the rest is history. </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:f4d1525a-b92f-42ab-b41e-f0ad590f71a8" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-3-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-3.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="240" height="335" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can do this too by pulling out the check book and it’s gonna make an impact whether it’s one, two, or ten people you secure. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You could do this with seminars, tele-seminars, coaching programs, forwards in your books, articles in your newsletters, or content on your websites. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You’re aiming to surround yourself with both people of great prominence/credibility, <em>or</em> great celebrity power, <em>or</em> preferably both. </span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #3:</span> Principle of Mental Imprint </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He originally wanted to call the magazine “Stag Party”. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And at the very last minute before going to press, he’d received a cease and desist letter from a lawyer from “Stag Magazine” saying that “Stag Party” was a satire example from the same root. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Then someone threw out the name Playboy, referencing there was a car that been put out by the same name. So at the very last second he changed it from the stag in a robe, to a rabbit in a robe. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This worked out very well because it’s hard to imagine girls across country wearing antlers on their heads. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong> </strong></span><span style="font-size: small;">The first issue pictured below was so well received that they’d printed 70,000 of them and sold 52,000 of them. </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:aa167b1e-f48c-4dc7-83b6-29a5354e291d" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-2-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-2.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="249" height="335" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Bill Glazer and Dan Kennedy do a marvelous job of this at their conferences. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">All the signs at the front and back in the sales area that they put up that people are going to be staring at for three days are there on purpose. The way product is displayed and packaged is done intentionally. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">You also need to be conscious of this when describing something. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think of how Dan uses the word picture of a “Time Vampire” rather than just saying, “person who wastes your time”. People instantly <em>get</em> this, even without seeing a picture. This was the core driver when they did promotion for the NO B.S. Time Management book.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The cartoon of the time vampire will always be linked to Dan Kennedy just as the Playboy bunny will always be linked to Hefner. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You want to find symbols that do this same kind of heavy lifting for you. </span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #3:</span> Principle of High Concept</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You want an umbrella concept that has a sturdy base supporting it that is easy for people to get and gives you a lot of room to operate under. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is more than brand. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Renegade Millionaire</strong>. That’s a high concept. Everyone has a thought/feeling about this when they hear it. It’s aspirational in the sense that even the most conforming person likes to think of themselves as an non-conformist.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Let’s peer into Hugh Hefner’s “High Concept” . . .  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So after the “Marilyn issue” Hefner continued to buy other pictures from other calendars and used those in the magazine. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But once they started shooting pictures of women on their own, he decided he didn’t want to go with something simply shot in the studio, in an impersonal way. And, he didn’t want models either. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He wanted to <strong>make the statement that beauty was everywhere</strong>. So the very nature of the Playmate of The Month was that she was the girl next door. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In the early photos he tried to imply the suggestion of a man in the room. Something that implied you were looking at a sexual situation of some kind without putting a dong or a hairy ass crack right in your face. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>The reason for this was to say without saying that sex was a natural part of life and that nice girls like sex too</strong>.</span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Now in the 1950’s THIS was a revolutionary idea </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Especially with feminists. And not just because of the supposed “indecency.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Some women felt that the popularity of this magazine really escalated the fear in insecure women that if they didn’t have this perfect body, this Playmate body, they were considered less-than in the eyes of men. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Porn did the same thing to men. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But men are only focused on one body part and that was the schlong. With men seeing 12 inch pythons as the norm in every single porn they watched every single day and they, like the majority of the population of guys had an average to small wang, this invites all kinds of self-imposed sexual anxiety. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Yet despite resistance from the moral majority, the response to Hefner’s high concept from the vocal or in-the-closet free-spirits of the nation to this magazine was overwhelming. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Some of the greatest businesses, like Disney, operate from a marvelous high concept &#8211; Happiest Place On Earth. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Six Flags and Universal Studies don’t get this and as long as they stay in the “amusement park business” instead of the “happiest place on earth” business, they’ll keep getting the shit kicked out of them by Disney.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is something you definitely want to cultivate for your business – big or small. </span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #4:</span> Principle of Consistency</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What you teach or preach as a professional must remain consistent with the fundamental philosophy you are known for. What you do in your stories and where people see you in real life must also be consistent. Inconsistency is the kiss of death when it comes to influence.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hugh Hefner, probably single-handedly, more than perhaps any other man in history, made it okay for women to also like sex, encouraging the notion that even “good girls” enjoyed sex. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He obviously courted controversy. He wouldn’t have started Playboy if he was afraid of controversy. <span style="font-size: small;">He believes controversy is the way you change things. </span></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:622d8973-f9c2-4c28-9802-9c1b8b2181cc" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-4-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-4.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="293" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">When he started publishing Playboy, he applied for a second class mailing permit and was turned down. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When they were turned down for a second time, they went to Washington and filed a complaint against the post office and were successful in overturning not only their ban, but overturning the ENTIRE PREMISE.</span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>“Writer’s Digest wrote . . . </em></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Playboy has just won in a wrestle with the Post Office. The P.O. had refused to grant Playboy a second class permit because it didn’t take kindly to this magazine’s editorial matter and art work. But the U.S. Federal Court handed down a ruling granting Playboy complete second class mailing privileges. Publisher Hugh Hefner said: “Henceforth we will continue to be edited in Chicago, not Washington.”</span></p></blockquote><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>THE MIKE WALLACE INTERVIEW</strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:0c67058e-76be-460c-967e-e682340835cd" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-6-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-6.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="243" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">This was the first network interview he had done after starting the magazine. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">No one had ever heard of Hugh Hefner. He wasn’t formidable looking. And Mike Wallace felt he was doing him a favor by talking to him at that time. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Mike inferred that Playboy was nothing more than a “high-class dirty book.” Hef said, “I don’t think of it like that at all. There’s an important distinction here. Sex will always be a very important part of the book because sex is probably THE single thing that men are most interested in.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: small;">Mike then states that what’s put forth in the magazine it isn’t a healthy kind of sex. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hugh says, “I would not only suggest that it is, I would say rather <em>strongly </em>that we consider it a pretty healthy attitude.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">After the interview, Mike Wallace told Hef, <em>“In 5 years you’ll be doing something else.” </em></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef believes Mike was just reflecting the conservative times. Think about it – How dare this man publish a magazine that attempted to produce some decent literature with name writers (t<span style="font-size: small;">he quality of writers that wrote for Playboy magazine will go down in history as some of the very best)</span> and also put naked or semi naked ladies in the book. How dare he! </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Mike, being interviewed for this documentary now, admits that back then he was a prude and that he didn’t like Hugh. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">CHARLES KEATING Attacks Hefner Next . . .  </span></strong></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I think Playboy is among the most dangerous publications available today, the same as I would consider for example, socialism dangerous. We have a culture founded and based in Judeo-Christian standards. Playboy opposes this diametrically. It openly advocates the overthrow.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Charles Keating</em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">In the 1950’s Charles Keating formed what ended up being called, “The Citizens For Decent Literature”. It was a Catholic inspired censorship group. </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">“When someone tells you the church is criticizing you, what does that mean? The most vicious wars in the history of the planet were caused by the church. I don’t ever remember where the mafia got busted for raping little boys, but the church did. So that’s almost like a badge of honor when the church criticizes you.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Dick Gregory – Comedian/Civil Rights Activist</em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">In the 80’s the police caught up with Charles Keating and put him in prison for fraud. </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:4d472b04-0fdf-48c3-b070-5948870231b0" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-8-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-8.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="242" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Everybody has a sexual self. Everybody enjoys the pleasures of life. And you can pretend otherwise but as we have known from the past, most of those people who do that are the most problematic.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>George Lucas – Genius creator of Star Wars</em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="color: #000000; font-size: small;">After the storm comes sunshine . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef thought the magazines circulation would top out somewhere around 700,000 because that’s what Esquire magazine was selling. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">By their 5th anniversary, the magazine had reached a million. <em>They had passed Esquire.</em> He felt successful beyond his wildest dreams.</span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Your Fans Want To See You As Consistent As Monday Coming After Sunday </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Can you see how after attack after attack after attack Hefner held fast to the position that he was doing nothing wrong? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can bet that his enemies and his fans both respected this about him. And your enemies and fans will feel the same way about you if you take a strong polarizing position you believe in and crusade for. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Because Dan is so conscious of this he has to be very careful when talking about brand building because he’s beat up on it so much, spending the majority of his effort telling everyone to spend their money on direct response advertising instead of image advertising. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He knows more than he lets on about the internet but has to watch what he says about it. </span><span style="font-size: small;">And unless he’s dead, he’s never gonna call in sick on a speaking gig. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>The box you put yourself in is the one you’re gonna stay in. </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is why Dan has never been a big fan of the personal development business. It imposes standards on you that teaching other stuff doesn’t. It asks you to be perfect and this is very hard position to maintain.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you can find the polarizing profitable position or and passionately carve out a unique space for yourself, in the name of a high concept that empowers an audience and remain consistent under fire, you’ll find yourself living a worthy purpose. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Nothing great was ever accomplished without having withstood MASSIVE resistance from people who held the opposite values or beliefs. This is a little something to keep close to your heart on your way to making a name for yourself.</span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #5:</span> Principle of Fascination</strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:ca50f9b8-16f4-494d-935e-212343b11465" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-10-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-10.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="250" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">In the 50’s in Chicago, most of the night club performers were friends of Hugh Hefner’s. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Don Adams, Buddy Rich, Sammy Davis Jr. and Bill Cosby would come over day and night to the Playboy offices. One night </span><span style="font-size: small;">Tony Bennett gave Hugh the idea to start a jazz festival. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">At the end of the 1950’s, they were successful in putting together what turned out to be the most historic jazz festival in the history of the music. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It was called the “Greatest Weekend In the History of Jazz.” Everybody was there. It was two days of the most phenomenal music in the world. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The jazz festival had really broken through in terms of turning Playboy into a mainstream brand. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Dan Kennedy points out that if you think Playboy is about naked women, you’re dumb</strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:ea3ac4d8-71bf-4a87-a13d-73b919226bcb" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-36-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-36.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="249" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">One of the things that means the most to Hefner is his star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame because Hollywood and his love of movies is so rooted in his  childhood.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This was a pinnacle of recognition for him from an industry he adored.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What drove Playboy was Hugh Hefner’ s personal narrative that his fans bought into. Who was this guy who popped up out of nowhere and now has all the most famous movie and music stars and most beautiful women in the country coming to his home? How did he do it? Why did he do it? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One observation worth noting from the book about Hefner is, <em>“Hef has starred in the movie of his own life.” </em></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s turned himself into this bigger than life personality and included everything into his persona that a great fiction character has. He has quirks, odd habits, heroic acts and all of these have helped him stay an object of fascination to generation after generation after generation of men. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think of how people plot and scheme trying to get invited to one of his parties. If you follow these DNA Game Changer Principles your fans will have feelings like this about you too. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In the movie that is your life, you want to be showing scenes to people for different purposes, purposes that turn you into a character that will resonate with your audience. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">What If I Haven’t Built The Playboy Magazine and I’m Boring?</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think sitcom T.V. here. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Seinfeld is the show about nothing. Certainly nothing exotic. On this show, the stories aren’t about hair-raising action or doctors dramatically saving people’s lives and yet it’s one of the most profitable shows ever written in the history of television. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The most enduring sitcoms tell stories that everyone can relate to. You don’t have to have any decimating ailment you’re battling, you don’t have to been raised in a cave with bears in China to have people fascinated by your stories. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">All that you’re doing with fascination is giving people ways to connect with you. This comes through disclosure. And you keep revealing to keep them interested.</span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #6:</span> Principle Of Point Of View</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When Hugh Hefner expanded his media into television, he came out from behind the desk and started to literally reinvent himself and become the character he was espousing in the pages of the magazine becoming Mr. Playboy himself. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The notion of doing a television show as way to promote the magazine was natural to him. He started taping the show in October of 1959. It was a variety show to be aired at late night. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The thing that set this apart was the concept. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The show place in a penthouse apartment and a subjective camera came up and gave you the view as if you were a guest arriving a private party of beautiful/hip people who came to watch the comedy and hear the conversation and hear the music.  </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:2c0dd7a9-f365-42ba-9973-7d43f60af7d3" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-12-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-12.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="243" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">This picture shows Hef welcoming Tony Bennett to the show taking his coat for him and calling for someone to get Tony a drink. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef picked the most incredible young artists that all ended up being huge. Great artists, great comedians, great actors and the guests were of every race. There were no racial taboos he was concerned with on the show because there were no racial taboos in his life. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This was extremely controversial in 1959-1960. </span><span style="font-size: small;">And because of this, the show got no distribution in the south. It’s very difficult for people to remember what it was like back then or to even comprehend what it was like if they were born decades later, t</span><span style="font-size: small;">he racial bigotry, the separation that existed. </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:a4e05706-80ea-436f-9228-e7c2eaef3747" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-14-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-14.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="249" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Sammy Davis Jr. was anxious to be on the show and they did an entire episode around him. And this is a picture of Hef </span><span style="font-size: small;">giving Sammy the gift of a St. Bernard puppy named “Playboy”honoring Sammy for having been on the show. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef not only had black people on the show, but he also invited mixed race groups singing jazz or whatever the hell on there which was an outrage because the races weren’t supposed to mixing with each other like this.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And with his actions, he didn’t have to be the white guy on TV saying he <em>wasn’t </em>racist. He just took the actions that said it all for him. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">How You Want People to See You Should Color Everything You Say And Do</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Your point of view is your philosophy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And your philosophy you want your market to connect with needs to be woven into all of your stories. Your philosophy lets people know who you are and where you come from. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">People are constantly seeking out <strong>value connections,</strong> not mechanical connections. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">People won’t always admit to this because it’s not the “intelligent/logical” factor to go on to make your decision to do business with someone or not, but in the end, it’s the x factor that can work in your favor or not. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">A great example of this that Kennedy pointed out was during the Republican Debate during the year when Obama got elected. That year they were letting people on YouTube ask the candidates questions. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, instead of people asking, “How do you propose to keep proposition 10-2-89 from ruining the industrial sector of steel mill production in Pittsburgh?” they’re on there asking <em>religious litmus test</em> questions which were great for a guy like Huckabee who was a minister. But the pro debaters running the debates who are focused on transformation of policy hate those “irrelevant” questions.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But this is a glimpse into what people <em>really </em>want. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">People don’t give a shit about how you’re gonna eliminate the IRS. <em>That’s not how they make their decisions</em> but they have to say they want the resume or else they look dense and emotional. Maybe it should be that way, but that ain’t the way it is. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: medium;">People are always sifting for what part of your philosophy they connect with and they don’t even have to be perfectly matched with you. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think about the small business owner sitting in the crowd of that debate. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Most people in his shoes value independence and work ethic and believe that if you work hard, and play by the rules in America, you can be successful. He’s looking for the candidate that trots these similar beliefs out for him to connect to, not the plans you have that will never be realized.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What you’re about NOW is different than what you’ve been about or what you’ll be about in the future and people need to see this in order to let themselves be influenced by you.</span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #7:</span> Principle Of Unique Importance </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The House On American Activities Committee began investigating people who they believed to be un-American and the very notion of defining who your neighbor was by their politics was abhorrent to Hefner. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Neighbors were spying on neighbors. People lost their jobs and he felt that they had fought a second world war to put an end to all of that. And to some extent he felt that we were becoming the very people that we had defeated. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In his magazine, he allowed black listed writers and celebrities to voice their opinion. Any opportunity he could get to push the envelope, he did.</span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:289fb719-d345-468f-90c2-21ecc4a26e21" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef15-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef15.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="252" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">He exchanged letters in 1960 with Ronald Regan long before he became president because Ronald objected to the fact that he was running pieces by Dalton Trumbo, an unfriendly witness in the House Of American Activities Committee, and ran a profile on Charlie Chaplin at a time when he was considered the most hated man in America just because of what some people thought his politics were, when in actuality, his politics were very American.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What Hef didn’t know at the time was that Reagan himself had been working behind the scenes as the President of Screen Actors Guild, giving names to the FBI. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef, in his letters back and forth with Reagan pointed out that those with a view, perhaps more liberal that what Reagan’s was, were certainly just as American as he was and that ALL PERFORMERS were welcome on Playboy’s Penthouse.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There was no network that told Hef what he could and couldn’t do and that’s why he created the show that he felt the audience would enjoy. <span style="font-size: small;">So even Lenny Bruce, who was being arrested across the United States in clubs, for obscenity, appeared on the show. </span></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:737304d7-b959-422f-8265-1069c3ae3126" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-16-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-16.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="243" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">When Lenny was pulled off stage and arrested in the very Catholic city of Chicago, the cop said he did so . . .  “<em>because he was very offended as a Catholic.” </em></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hugh got his lawyer on the case and got Lenny out of jail and this is when Hef started writing about the injustice of it in “The Playboy Philosophy” and in the process commented on the inappropriate relationship between the catholic church and the city government in Chicago.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This was cultural suicide. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In June, the cops came and arrested Hefner. The supposed reason for his arrest was because he was running a pictorial on Jayne Mansfield from her movie, “Promises, Promises”.   </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:24a41af8-78d8-4763-b0ae-645d7fcec975" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-17-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-17.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="226" height="335" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well there was nothing in that pictorial that was any different than the spreads they had published in the past and there was no doubt in his mind that the real reason for the arrest was because of what he wrote in his editorials about Lenny Bruce. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They took him to court with a jury of 11 house wives (a number of them from a religious organization) and one lone urban male. But it ended up being a hung jury and the city dropped it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>That June issue with Jayne Mansfield in it ended up being their best-seller up to that point.</strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:daaf1233-1f5a-4230-afcf-17a189ae4b28" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-30-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-30.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="242" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef feels that the Playboy Forum and the Playboy Foundation changed the landscape in terms of a lot of social and sexual values and hurtful laws and actually got some wrongly accused people out of prison. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong></strong><span style="font-size: small;">The letters they published in the forum were not as important as their answers to them because it allowed for a continuing dialogue between their fans and themselves. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One letter they received was from a disc jockey that was serving 10-12 years in prison for fellatio, a young fan gave him a blow job against all logic and against all odds, they arrested him for sodomy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Sodomy laws in all 5o states were the most serious sex laws. In Georgia you could get up to 50 years if found guilty of it. This guy had already been in prison for a couple of years when he wrote to Hef. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hefner was outraged by this and he sent word that he wanted the Playboy foundation to get behind this, to get this man out of jail because he didn’t belong there. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They got the man a lawyer and managed to get him off. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This foundation also played a major part in the changing of the laws around abortion and birth control and a lot of the things that are thought of today as women’s issues. </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Much as the way that there are a lot of black athletes. who don’t know who Jackie Robinson is and have no idea why they’re the beneficiaries of what his pioneering was all about, there are probably a lot of people today out there enjoying freedoms who have no idea that Hugh Hefner was the pioneer who got all the arrows in his back.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Bill Maher: Comedian – Talk Show Host</em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hefner used the “Playboy Philosophy” column and his foundation to give unique importance to his magazine. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;">Hefner was the prophet of the Playboy Philosophy and he believed and stated that this philosophy was destined to liberate us all from what he variously calls superstition, tyranny, moral absolutism, etc. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If that’s not a claim of unique importance, I don’t know what is. In essence he’s saying, this isn’t <em>just </em>some nudie book. THIS is a MOVEMENT! A CAUSE! A FORCE FOR GOOD NOT TO BE FUCKED WITH. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You see this theme of “Hero to the Oppressed” reinforced over and over and over again not only his writing but most importantly, in his <em>actions</em>. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What actions are you taking that are sharing your unique gift and making an important and significant splash in your market? </span><span style="font-size: small;">If you answered, “None”, it shouldn’t surprise you that you don’t dominate your pond because you aren’t the big fish there.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Take Dan’s advice and follow Hefner’s lead in DOING SOMETHING that gets attention and simultaneously allows you to experience fulfillment in your life. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And be ready for some peers in your market not liking you becoming a big shot based on your polarizing views. Not all of them like you now. They’ll just be more vocal about it when you’re famous. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So if everyone isn’t going to like you whether you’re broke or rich, you may as well ignore the haters and bask in the love of your perfect prospects and make some money in the process of being true to yourself and making a difference in your own little corner of the world. </span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #8:</span> Principle of Place </strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:cdab1c01-a110-47db-978f-1aee29aad9eb" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-18-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-18.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="243" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s How Hugh Hefner teased this . . . </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“The Existential Importance of Hef’s House Explained”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Playboy carton, 1970: A man has clambered to a mountain peak to beg wisdom from a cross-legged guru. Guru tells the man: “In a place called Chicago . . . there’s a wise man who lives in a mansion full of beautiful women and wears pajamas all the time. Sit at his feet and learn from him, for he has found the secret to happiness.” </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:36b60ba7-01de-4f48-9782-7d57d12cf57c" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-20-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-20.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="246" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">The actor James Caan talks about showing up the house and seeing 20 half naked women by fireplace and feeling like this was a mini-Disney Land for adults. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hugh Hefner served the best wines you could imagine, yet he didn’t drink wine. He had the best food you could imagine. He didn’t care about food. He used to eat pork chops and fried chicken. He had a closet full of beautiful clothes and he never wore anything but his pajamas. He had a swimming pool, he didn’t swim and it goes on and on and on like this. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tony Curtis talked about how when you got into you town you went over to his place, he’d give you a room and there you were, these beautiful girls roaming around and if you were clever, if you had a flair, if you weren’t a ding dong, and you didn’t make anyone feel unhappy, you could have fun with any of the girls who wanted to have fun with you for the weekend or for the week.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef was known to say that the front door was a screen and people were projecting their own fantasies on the screen. Hefner was a director behind the scenes, directing the scenes. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>What Is The Existential Importance Of Your House?</strong> </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">How does your place verify to your perfect prospects that you have found the secret to real success, real happiness, real fulfillment. When you come up with a great answer for this, you’ll have a shit-ton of the right people wanting to get in.</span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #9:</span> Principle of Fable </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In the 60’s is when they started doing the interviews section of the book and Alex Haley did the very first Playboy interview with Miles Davis and in the interview Miles talked more about race than about music. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Their interview format became the definitive interview that set the standard. The layout of the interview has never changed. There are things in the magazine like the interview and the centerfold that are so iconic that Hef would not want to change them. </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:643ef564-f454-4a10-9032-b0f437069f72" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-23-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-23.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="263" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Alex Haley did a great number of great interviews . . .  Dr. Martin Luther King, Malcolm X, and then he finally wrote “Roots”. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The most extraordinary interview Alex did was with the Ne0-Nazi Norman Rockwell. Norman didn’t expect Alex to be black. When they met, Alex said, “His face was mottled with anger.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He said, ‘I’m gonna tell you right now, and be truthful with you. We call your kind niggers and we think you should all be shipped to Africa.’ And I’ll never forget how somehow a calm descended on me at that moment and I just said to him very calmly, ‘I’ve been called ‘nigger’ before and this time I’m being paid very well for it. So now you can go on ahead and tell us what you’ve got against us.’”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Jim Brown, the retired hall of fame football player (also interviewed in Playboy) says, “There’s a truth of the Ku Klux Klan. There’s a truth of a racist. They have a truth that they live by. If we allow them in the right forum to express themselves, it’s better for the country.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The most controversial interview they ever did, was with Jimmy Carter before he was elected president and the Republicans used it as THE major source of controversy during the election period. And despite all the shit talking, Jimmy got elected. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Piggy Back On Other People’s Stories </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Do you see how Hefner was able to add a whole different intriguing element to the magazine just by relaying a story to you about another person’s experience in the form of an interview? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And the interviews always supported the high concept of the magazine – freedom from the suppression of opinion – the expression of the self. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Why couldn’t you do the same thing with your newsletter, ezine, or blog?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>There’s four basic types of stories you can tell . . . </strong></span></p><ul><li><span style="font-size: small;">Yours, from personal experience</span></li><li><span style="font-size: small;">Your telling a story about another person’s experience</span></li><li><span style="font-size: small;">A parable; story told as if fiction (Richest Man In Babylon, Acres of Diamonds)</span></li><li><span style="font-size: small;">Fable; story of the tortoise and the hare is a fable</span></li></ul><p><span style="font-size: small;">The interview model would fit best with the second option on the list above.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">A prime example of how information marketers used other people’s stories is the Chicken Soup For The Soul book series. While Canfield and Hansen didn’t interview people, the authors posed the question and let other people tell them their short success stories that rallied around a theme the author wanted to build up your confidence about. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The Defining Moments interviews that <a href="http://definingmomentsforinternetmarketers.com/tag/seth-larrabee/">Seth Larrabee</a> did rode on the this same strategy of relaying to you another persons story. They tapped into the feelings that up and coming and super star internet marketers felt when they recognized that they were actually making a living at this internet marketing thing. The theme these interviews revolved around was, “This isn’t easy but don’t give up because it’s not as hard as you think it is to have the internet marketing lifestyle.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Look at this post. It’s me turning Hugh Hefner’s story into content. You can do the same thing and I highly recommend you do so because stories stick and make your points memorable. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s a story Dan tells at this seminar to demonstrate this point . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Who’s Peeing In Your Pool Right Now? </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Traveling sales guy gets a pool in the backyard and sets up a condition that because he’s on the road all week, that his little son Johnny is gonna pick up the slack and take the net out every day and clean the pool and clean the filter.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">First week, he arrives home on Friday and says to the wife, “How’s little Johnny doing?” She says, “He hasn’t touched the pool all damn week.” He grabs little Johnny by the scruff of the neck, takes him out to the pool, picks up the pool cleaner, throws Johnny in the pool, throws the pool cleaner in with him. Johnny cleans the pool. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When the dad isn’t looking, Johnny pisses in the pool. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">That’s one way this scenario could go down. Or, you do things differently and the dad throws Johnny in the pool, throws the pool cleaner in the pool, and jumps in himself and helps him clean the pool. The moral of the story is that people will piss in your pool if you don’t handle the delegation process exactly right.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">Now t</span><span style="font-size: small;">elling this story is gonna get you more traction than all the diagrams and lists and analytical teaching you can do. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The other bonus is that it’s memorable and easy to re-tell. Dan will have people referencing it back to him like, “Yeah, I caught Bertha pissing in the pool the other day and it’s probably my fault just as much as it is hers. . . ” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So you come up with your theme – in the story above it’s the need to delegate correctly – and you tell someone else’s horror story and another person’s success story. Or, you ask them tell it in an interview fashion. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I imagine it’d be easier to get a response to asking a guru to recount for you one of their scariest or funniest or most tender stories of doing something wrong and then how they learned how to do it right than it would be to get them to agree to a 60-90 minute interview or to submit a content article for your ezine.  </span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Just keep in mind that you want your story or stories all driving home one point on the theme you’re advocating. </span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #10:</span> Principle of Prevention </strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:b128f2aa-40b0-4ebe-9a8b-aa7ac6ef3deb" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-24-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-24.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="241" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">He wrote the first installment of the Playboy Philosophy in 1962 with the notion of simply doing it for one issue. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;">It was really just an editorial in response to his critics because if he was going to be damned, he wanted to be damned for what he really believed – not what people pretended he believed. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He believed that we we’re apt to have a truly more monogamous society if we do more realistically come to grips with problems pertaining to sex. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He believes an individual should be allowed to do whatever they want as long as it doesn’t impede on your choices for happiness. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He wants to live in a society where people can voice un-popular opinions because he knows that as a result of that, a society grows and matures. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">A lot of America didn’t want this to be the case. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In his typically obsessive way, he continued to write the Playboy Philosophy every issue for the next 2 1/2 – 3 years. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>All of the editors on staff HATED it. They felt they were trying to produce and entertainment magazine and this was not entertainment. This was him talking about his thoughts in one installment. Well, THE READERS LOVED IT! </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">FUCK YOUR STAFF if they don’t get this. Most of them won’t.Look at how it would be assumed that if you were working for Playboy, you’d be a renegade and yet, his staff were scared shitless of supporting what their fearless leader believed in. If he’d a let there be a democracy in that office, I would say Playboy probably would’ve been killed years ago amidst the heavy duty competition (Penthouse, Hustler, etc.) who came out with more raw and in your face ‘entertainment’ (penetration sex scenes, full on shots of wet vaginas, etc. </span></p><p>I love how Kennedy addressed this at his Renegade Retreat when someone brought up the idea of &#8220;My staff won&#8217;t let me do it.&#8221; Kennedy&#8217;s question back is, &#8220;Who&#8217;s working for who here? I didn&#8217;t realize they got a vote! What&#8217;re you running over there, a democracy? You do that shit you&#8217;re gonna be outvoted every time. You may as well just hand over the check book and take your ass home.&#8221;</p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Today, Hugh believes we’re relatively free in terms of our sexual behavior and I believe the evidence is here to say he’s had a hand in making this possible.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">What is Your Philosophy? </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef’s philosophy enunciated not only made an impact on his fans but on his critics and on the future of our society. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s important to decide what you want to be known for. It’s equally as important to decide what you DON’T want to be known for. This step is about everything you do to prevent assumptions. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You always want to remember that fixing something negative that is found out about you is far more difficult to do than just preventing it in the first place. In other words, it’s easier to diffuse the bomb before it blows up in your face. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Robert Greene in his book <a href="http://mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/the-definitive-guide-to-the-games-people-play-on-you">“The 48 Laws of Power”</a> explains in the 5<sup>th</sup> law… </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">SO MUCH DEPENDS ON REPUTATION – GUARD IT WITH YOUR LIFE</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You don’t want to leave room for something to spread about you that doesn’t serve you well. This means you have to think about what those things are and preemptively address them and if they do get talked about, you go about correcting them. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Don’t Be An Idiot Like Dr. Laura and Al Gore </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dr. Laura didn’t think this principle out. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think about how she lied about being a doctor. She didn’t need to do this. The people giving her money, her fans, didn’t give a shit about her being a doctor or not. She lied about this seeking approval from her peers. This is a death trap. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The only way the public cared about her being a doctor, or not, is after she got busted for lying about it. And she’s got a doctorate but Kennedy says it’s from some shit bird place, Columbia Pacific University, a P.O. Box where you send your filled out four pages of paperwork and you’ve got yourself a doctorate. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There’s a lot of those floating around on the walls of people who want a doctorate but don’t want to do the work. Please don’t attempt to be another person thinking this is what you need. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The public doesn’t give a shit if she had a PHD or not. She didn’t embellish her story, she made it up. And this leads to her looking like that idiot Al Gore who got his hand caught in the cookie jar, not once, but twice when he lied about inspiring some love story that was written by someone else and got called out on it and then going and telling the press of all sources to tell, that he invented the internet. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Kennedy says word for word, <strong>“That’s stupid shit because you can’t support it, it wasn’t necessary, it wasn’t essential or even helpful towards their storyline so why put yourself in that position in the first place?” </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dan, at one time has aspirations of running for a political office and while creating his list of disclosures for his announcement speech, he said “Screw this.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He figured his speech’d a been three hours long because he’s got all kinds of relatives, living and dead that have been in jail, chased each other down the street with guns, dealt drugs, gotten DUI’s and you’ve gotta dump all this shit on the table because it’s gonna come out anyway, especially if you win. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’d a been three hours into the speech and not even gotten to all of <em>his</em> shit. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He said, “By the time you get done, the campaign is over you’re still giving the disclosures so that was a discouraging factor. <em>But that’s the way to play the game.”</em></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef understood this. Dan understands this. Now you do too!</span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #11:</span> Principle of Transparency  </strong></span></strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:c5ba5c47-c788-4d5b-a364-8fff11dda820" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-25-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-25.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="244" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">His first concern in reference to the Playboy Clubs was how they could create the fantasy that they reflected in the pages of the magazine. </span><span style="font-size: small;">They put it all together and people brought the fantasy with them. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The idea was to create a private club, a key club and instead of simply having an act or two, they tried to have a platform for new talent. The popularity of the concept was overwhelming. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They started to franchise the club concept and the first two franchises that opened soon after Chicago were in Miami and New Orleans. Well, Hef acknowledged no color line when it came to the Playboy Clubs. So when the black key members went to New Orleans or Miami, they were turned away. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hefner told the franchisees that if they were going to run a Playboy club, they were going to have to accept all of their members – black and white. In New Orleans the manager said they couldn’t do that because it was against the law in Louisiana, you can’t have black and white patrons sitting in the same club together. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There was segregation in the south bound by law. On that basis, he believed the laws were unconstitutional so he re-purchased the franchises and ran them their selves and opened them up to ALL of their members. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They ended up taking a huge hit, having to buy back those franchises but t</span><span style="font-size: small;">he exclusion of blacks from anything, any kind of segregation, was outrageous to them. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hefner was one of many during this era that fought against this injustice and fought to bring about a truth in this country.</span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:37e2ccec-fa1e-4e82-a39b-a560d7d11fb3" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-26-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-26.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="271" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">One night Erwin Cory was supposed to appear but couldn’t. Dick Gregory was a comedian who worked out of the south side of Chicago part-time and they put him on stage. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The room had been sold out to a private convention. A group of southern white men that were in the frozen food business. Well, the manager, when he found out about the situation, was waiting on the stairs to tell Dick that he didn’t have to work, but that he would still be paid. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, Dick was in such a hurry to make sure he wasn’t late for his great opportunity of working the Playboy room that he pushed the manager out of the way,  hit the second floor, walked out onto the stage at 8:00 and at 11:00 he was still on the stage talking. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In the early 1960’s, there was a racial bias related to stand up comics for reasons that Hef did not comprehend. It was appropriate for a black to be a musician and play jazz or sing but to be a stand up comic was not acceptable in those days. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And here comes Hefner into this climate of, “You can sing to me nigger, but don’t talk.” And now white people found a new voice in the stand up comedy world and the world has never been the same.</span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;">It goes to show you that one person with courage like Hefner, is the majority. I don’t even know if it took courage for Hefner. Maybe he just never gave it a thought.</span> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Dick Gregory</em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Once Dick was working, the door opened for everyone else. </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:d5c3d957-0e04-47ec-904c-a9a3fb194b60" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-28-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-28.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="266" height="335" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Jesse Jackson was attracted to Hugh Hefner because Hef was so committed to Dr. Martin Luther King and Jackson is the one who brought King to the mansion to discuss doing a fundraiser when he came there to address segregation issues. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hefner ended up having a close relationship with both men, more so with Jesse. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And Hefner ended up publishing, shortly after his death, the last piece ever written by Dr. Martin Luther King (shown above). </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dorothy  Storck, writer for the Chicago Today, said . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“THERE IS THE OUTRAGEOUS incongruity of it all, of course. That we should be sitting there in the Hef-pad listening to Martin Luther King’s dream.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef says, half talking to himself looking at the page after reading the copy above from the cut out article taped in his scrapbook, “Well, people don’t recognize or realize the extent to which it was part of my dream too.” </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:417c4706-645f-40f9-aa9a-1b86c34e40dc" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-29-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-29.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="278" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Jesse Jackson recalls Hefner having once every two weeks at the mansion these sit downs at night where he would just sit and listen for hours and invite the top people in to engage in evocative social commentary. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He would play a kind of Socratic role, asking certain basic questions. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So there’s the Hef with the pipe and the robes and Playboy, that’s his brand name but then there’s Hef, this serious thinker and activist and <em>the magazine was used as a tool. </em></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:1f967121-87cd-4a0e-9afb-8d294ccfe486" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-38-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-38.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="246" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">In 1976 Jim Brown nominated Hugh Hefner to get the “NAACP SPECIAL AWARD” and the committee agreed. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Brown was also able to present it to him. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Jim felt this was special to be gift this kind man with an award from an organization that fought for the rights of African-Americans and that nobody would be able to take this away from Hef because no one back then got one of these easily.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And Hef believes America having Obama as President is a confirmation for him of what America is all about – equal opportunity for everybody. It’s a renewal for America, a whole new beginning. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">The Self Is Always Coming Through  </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I don’t imagine that back in the 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, and 80’s it was perceived by the upper class of wealthy white Americans as acceptable to be vocal and active in the civil rights movement. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hefner could’ve kept his beliefs that racism was deplorable to himself and maybe anonymously made some donations to some causes to not draw attention to himself but he didn’t. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He was transparent. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Even though he knew that the racist privileged and the middle-class white males of America were very good prospects and had the money to spend on his magazine. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He didn’t try to hide what he believed. He put his damaging admission on display for the world to see and helped people chip away at their racist mentalities. </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:b9eaba83-b3ef-495b-b22c-2d4998e73164" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-27-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-27.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="273" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">He helped America say, ‘Hey, come on, the time has come.’ It’s a little like Obama today. Obama, running for President of the United States? Gimmie a break. And when he came along and began to talk sensitively and he was attractive and interesting and had the message of hope and change, there was an audience. I think that Hef helped build that audience despite not being a protestor or a loud mouth. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Mike Wallace, correspondent of the famed CBS TV show 60 Minutes</em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>What Damaging Admissions Are You Scared Of Making In Your Business? </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Look at this ad here that Dan Kennedy included in the workbook for this seminar . . .  </span></p><p align="center"><strong><span style="font-size: large;">DON’T VOTE FOR A NEGRO</span></strong></p><p align="center"><strong><span style="font-size: large;">Vote for a man. For ability. Character.</span></strong></p><p align="center"><strong><span style="font-size: large;">Vote for a leader who can attack problems and solve them.</span></strong></p><p align="center"><strong><span style="font-size: large;">Vote for the man who can rally all the people of Cleveland.</span></strong></p><p align="center"><strong><span style="font-size: large;">Vote for the man who believes.</span></strong></p><p align="center"><strong><span style="font-size: large;">Carl Stokes</span>.</strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Carl Stokes was elected as the first black Mayor of Cleveland on the back of this campaign.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dan Kennedy makes the point that guys like Herman Cain and Obama and other people who have the odds stacked against them right out of the gate don’t have the balls to run ads like this. And yep, he said ‘balls’.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When you aren’t doing a one on one presentation with people, you can’t feel into what their response is to you and draw objections out and handle them on the spot. That’s why this ad is so great, especially today. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hardly anyone is willing to admit in public that they wouldn’t vote for Obama because he’s black or Hillary because she’s a woman. Better to trot this out, put it on display and make it go away instead of hoping it goes away on its own. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One of my favorite speakers is a black man by the name of Les Brown. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When Les would speak on the Peter Lowe Success events, he would only do well selling from the stage in metropolitan areas like Atlanta, Detroit, Los Angeles, etc. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They couldn’t put him on in Birmingham. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">No one would buy from him and the elephant on the stage was the color of his skin. Dan tried to get him to use this strategy at the start of his speech, something to the tune of, “There’s a number of you in this room who are going to tune me out right now because of the color of my skin. If you do, you’re going to miss out on badoom, badoom, badoom,” but he wouldn’t. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">The Stokes ad took cajones to run and if in fact you are racist, this message makes you actually have to question your prejudice. This is what’s possible for you to do with any perceived negatives you have working against you, if you’ll only have the courage to address them head on</span>.</strong></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><span style="font-size: large;"><strong><span style="color: #a60920;">DNA Game Changing Lesson #12:</span> Principle of Self-Identification  </strong></span></strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is where you allow people to quickly assess whether they’re in the right place or not, without you directly telling them they are.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s not blatant like segregation, holding up signs that say “NO COLOREDS”, but instead is based on what you’re saying that gets someone’s heart racing and eyes focused because they’ve stumbled upon someone who’s saying what they already believe – maybe for the very first time in their life or the first time in a long time – describing their experiences exactly the way they unfold. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One of the ways Kennedy knows he’s getting this right is when people tell him that it seems like he’s been hidden under their kitchen table recording their conversations and then feeding them back to them. That’s the point. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In the 60’s thru to the 70’s the readership of Playboy grew from over 1 million to over 7 million readers. He was saying something people liked and identified with. But a minority rose against him that he never thought would – feminists. </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:d7a14268-2558-48ab-a7dc-1abea566d75c" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-32-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-32.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="242" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">He never perceived that women would perceive him as an enemy. The first feminist diatribe against Playboy came in a confrontation on the Dick Cavett show. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But they couldn’t cut his legs off liked they hoped to.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One militant feminist on the show claimed that the role that Hef selected for women in his magazine was degrading to them as sex objects, not as full human beings. She believed the Playboy costumes women had to? (chose to is the proper word here) wear in his clubs denied their humanity and their femininity. She stated he made them look like animals. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef thought, well, if women are animals, what’s left? Vegetable and mineral. Of course we’re animals. When someone suggests that Playboy turns women into sexual objects, women <em>are </em>sexual objects. They’re a great deal <em>more</em> than that but if women weren’t sexual objects, there wouldn’t be another generation. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">That’s what makes the world go round, that attraction between the sexes. And this fact doesn’t objectify women in that other negative sense. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">A lot of women don’t understand that in a lot of states, contraceptives were illegal and he was one of the first people out there putting cases before the court to change that so that women would have a right to choose not only the choice of abortion or not, but issues of contraceptives.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But a real testament to his appreciation of women is that all of girlfriends, past, present, future still show him love – no bad blood, no messy separations, no drama. Most men alive can’t pull this off with one women let alone however many he’s dated over the years. It was completely the opposite of what he was being criticized for. </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">I thought “Who better to help women who were dis-enfranchised as prostitutes.” On the other hand, it couldn’t have been a bigger risk for anybody other than him. He taught me to hold my head up high and look the world right in the eye.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Dr. Lois Lee – Founder/President ‘Children of the Night’ </em></span></p></blockquote><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">World Famous Female Sex Therapist Gives Hef The Nod Of Approval</span></strong></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:a078690e-8df5-4feb-ba67-fc272aa8a467" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-21-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-21.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="242" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dr. Ruth, the famed sex therapist adores Hugh and has visited the mansion many times and has been impressed at how he won’t retire but insists on staying active. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The Mansion serves as a Mecca where you can leave all your fun loving and sexual inhibitions behind because it’s a safe place to express yourself. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Some people believe that without some suppression of the sexual genie, happiness isn’t possible. One guy says that full liberation is possible for Hugh Hefner because he has an unlimited supply of young females to whom he owes nothing. </span><span style="font-size: small;">He doesn’t believe this is available or desirable for the rest of society. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And yet this fits perfect with being an authority – people want to be you – and more often than not, they’re getting their own way if they aren’t where they want to be. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Hefner Crusades To De-Criminalize The Use Of Marijuana</strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:64141825-5e42-4a1a-b9e4-d1a379eadb97" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-33-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-33.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="311" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef felt that putting people in prison for the use of a relatively harmless drug seemed irrational and bizarre to him. <strong>Life sentences were being handed out for possession of small amounts of Marijuana</strong>. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He was really concerned about these Draconian penalties being handed down. They built NORML into a national lobbying force that both helped people who were charged with these violations of these drug laws and also helped to change national policy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Because of this, the government came to the false conclusion that he was some kind of drug user. And in the 70’s they tried to build a phony case against him. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One of his secretaries started dating a guy who dealt drugs and the two of them, her and her boyfriend, got busted with cocaine and next thing you know this headline hit the scene . . . </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:3d28c692-4810-4d44-b3ac-ac415f2cf030" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-34-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-34.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="158" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, she lived at the Playboy mansion so this gave the feds what they thought was a gift. </span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They were no longer interested in the wholesaler in Florida. They weren’t interested in the boyfriend. They were suddenly interested in the secretary who was a user but not a dealer and they built the case around her. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When the secretary wouldn’t give them what they wanted, something incriminating in reference to Hef, of which there was nothing, which she kept telling them, they gave her a 15 year sentence and they let the drug dealer in Miami walk. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This led her to kill herself. Her family actually asked Hugh to be one of the Paul bearers. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;"><strong>The DEA reviewed all the evidence and then made a public and personal apology and dropped the case. </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hugh believes this is an example of what happens when a government becomes corrupt. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Next The F.B.I. Comes After Hef . . . </strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:cd1d7555-7f50-46c0-a537-d15f089752da" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-40-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-40.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="261" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Starting with Reagan, America has allowed the Christian right t</span><span style="font-size: small;">o become a part of politics. And Hef doesn’t believe that’s good for politics, nor for religion. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">As a result of this Hef discovered that the FBI had him under surveillance. Edgar Hoover had assigned one agent to read every single page of the magazine. Hef didn’t know if they were concerned about the sex in the magazine or what they said about the government, the FBI or him personally. </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Mike Wallace: “Politicians have been hypocrites down the centuries. And I dare say that Ronald Reagan, Richard Nixon, and J. Edgar Hoover, from what we have been told about him, were fairly hypocritical in the business of sex, sexual freedom, etc. etc.” </span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Jerry Fallwell put on a porn protest and this rally was payback from the religious groups who had supported Reagan. They started a witch hunt going after what they deemed obscenity but what they were really harassing were publications like Playboy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He saw this a a parallel to what was happening with McCarthyism in the 1950’s. The Justice Department sent threatening letters to stores like 7-11 and other convenience and drug stores and other places where Playboy was sold.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He felt the best response to this was satire. </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:b1325099-f2fa-482f-8382-f315a26ef510" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-41-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-41.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="283" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">They did a nude pictorial of eleven women who worked at 7 Eleven. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This was a form of Playboy protest and protest by the employees themselves – one them quoted in an article as saying, <em>“When someone comes in and asks if we sell Playboy I tell them, ‘No. We don’t sell magazines featuring beautiful women. But do have magazines that feature guns, violence, and war we’d love to sell to you.”</em></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Nothing defuses censorship like humor because it is after all so silly in it’s premise. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef says, “We live in a world and in a country where obscenity is defined by things sexual instead of things related to war, killing, hatred and bigotry. What kind of world is that?”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: #ffff00;">Playboy actually sued the Attorney General Edwin Meese and won that suit and he publicly apologized saying that he didn’t <em>mean</em> Playboy and that Playboy <em>isn’t </em>harmful but the damage had been done</span> – Playboy had been dropped from several thousand distributors, they’re still referred to as porn and they still don’t have anywhere near the distributors they had in the 50’s and 60’s.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hefner was pissed not only at Playboy’s reputation getting marred but also <em>sex </em>getting it’s reputation marred. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Some people call Hugh Hefner a pornographer but if you go to a museum and see a painting of a naked woman, that’s art. But if that same art is displayed in Playboy, it’s pornography. </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">In America we have a sexual fault line just like we have a racial fault line. But this country was found on two traditions, one was the Puritans and there is a Puritan strain in this country, there is no doubt about it. We still giggle over tits and pee-pees. People are uptight. But there’s also the Libertarians strain, the ‘don’t tread on me’ strain of America. So those two factions have always been at war in America. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Bill Maher</em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">The first amendment guarantees freedom of speech and freedom of press and you cannot have a free society if you do not have both. </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Who I am is an open book with illustrations but how one interprets those illustrations is very much a war shop test of someone else’s values. The magazine and my life are a reflection of some very controversial subjects. When you deal with sex and success it’s very controversial in America. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Hugh Hefner</em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Can you see how Hef’s message allows rational renegades to self-identify with him and his pursuit of freedom? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hell, I’ve completely identified with him after hearing his beliefs throughout this whole documentary whereas before I’d heard him express himself, I was neither for nor against him. I had no clue as to who he was and thought he was just a smooth dude who used his wit and money to build an empire based on marketing images of nude women.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I only had the surface level impression. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is the same thing that happens with you and your audience if you don’t weave any of your personality into your marketing and content in your own unique expressive language. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Help Your Fans See That They’re Home Sweet Home </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you look at any of the opening pages of books that have endured for decades and still sell hundreds of thousands of copies a year with no marketing or advertising at all like “How to Win Friends and Influence People” or “Think and Grow Rich” you’ll find they use language like this at the beginnings of their chapters to keep re-engaging their reader and keep them denying negative thoughts and self identifying with what’s being taught in that chapter. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is obviously something that can and should be used in anything you write, including your salesletters. You want to use these language patterns to keep reestablishing your connection and keep people saying, “This guy gets me and we have mutual enemies and he’s got answers to my problems”.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">This principle is universal and belongs in books, products, newsletters, faxes, daily emails, salesletters, marketing materials, tweets, Facebook comments, blog comments, etc. </span></strong></p><hr /><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Do You Have A Deep Seated Passion Keeping You and Your Business Alive? </strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:48180575-e752-4bb0-b885-334e8695b330" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-44-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-44.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="246" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hefner cherishes relationships with young women because he feels they’re key to his relationship with his own childhood. So his life is continuously filled with young women and young women’s laughter. He feels that this is what keeps him alive. </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">When you see him today on television with his covey of companions he’s a very happy, prosperous, decent man. And you know something, I trust Hef. Haven’t seen him in a long time. I like him.</span></p></blockquote><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Mike Wallace – One of the original correspondents/journalist for CBS’ 60 Minutes</em></span></p></blockquote><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:d0dd1f8d-41f2-4321-bdd0-9a60031adc40" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-39-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Hef-39.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies marketing notes dan kennedy " width="335" height="246" border="0" title="Hugh Hefner of Playboy Magazine Fame Shows You How He Used Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s DNA Game Changer System To Raise Himself To Fame and Fortune Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hef told all the Playmates at the 25th anniversary party, that without them, he’d a simply be the publisher of a literary magazine and not the editor of a magazine that has had such an immense impact on society the way that it did over the last three decades. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He pointed out how much society has changed over that time, and that they’re sharing in an experience, the likes of which, will probably not come again. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Sorry Dr. Ruth, You&#8217;re a Sweetheart But You’re Out of Of Your Fucking Mind With This Belief . . . </span></strong></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s actually in my way of thinking, sad that he mixed up his personal life with his mission because people don’t take him seriously. People that I talk to at the universities and my colleagues, I can’t mention Hefner because they don’t think about the free speech. They only think about his 3 girlfriends. That’s sad. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Dr. Ruth – World Famous Sex Therapist </em></span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">First of all, people who she perceives she can’t talk to about him probably have a stick so far wedged up their ass that it interferes with their ability to think for themselves. They’re the same people vehemently downing nudity in public yet have a computer full of nasty-nasty porn. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These people aren’t Hefner’s perfect prospect and because he’s marketed his magazine correctly, they’re driven away. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Maybe Dr. Ruth didn’t watch this movie and see everything this man accomplished <em>besides</em> the herculean accomplishment of maintaining a multi-million dollar business for decades . . . despite the highest powers in the nation – FBI, DEA, Attorney General, Catholic Church, Police Departments, The Justice Department, Future President Ronald Reagan, Jerry Falwell – who swung a huge dick with the religious community in his day, Mike Wallace and the rest of the mainstream media taking their best shot at him doing everything they could to put him out of business. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And look at him now, bitches. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Enemy after enemy have cowered to Hefner’s loving mission once feeling that his resolve was definitely something to take be taken seriously.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Could You Handle All The Scandal And Keep On Stepping Like Boots And Sandals? </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I personally can’t think of any business owner who sustained success as long as he has who had to face the intensity of consistent harassment he did.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I believe the only reason Playboy succeeded and has endured for all these decades, even into these current times where they’ve transformed from being passionate renegades with a cause to just being a corporation with no differentiation from any of the other skin mags, was <em>precisely </em>b</span><span style="font-size: small;">ecause Hef used the DNA Game Changer principles so passionately and wove his personal philosophy into his early content. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">A magazine that just stood on the single pillar of naked pictures alone wouldn’t have got him anywhere near the exposure he got. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">DNA Game Changer Principles turned Playboy Magazine into a Parthenon of strength that provided Hefner with the muscle (connections/financing) that served him so well in crusading for all the causes he did. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">DNA Game Changer Principles are what differentiates Hefner, from the guy you never heard of who first published Penthouse Magazine. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And to whom is “ALL People taking him seriously” in service of? Certainly not Hefner. Certainly not his perfect prospect. Certainly not for all of us who enjoy freedoms today as a result of him refusing to be bullied.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It was by people<strong> <em>not </em></strong>taking him seriously – Attorney Generals, FBI, religious zealots, the press, that he won many a battle in the past. His willingness to stand up for what he believed in forced some of his most powerful enemies take him seriously. And I feel I am a beneficiary of him not caring to be “accepted” by the “serious?” moral majority.  </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Times Have Changed For Playboy</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When I was talking to <a href="http://diyblogger.net">Dino Dogan at his site</a>, he pointed out to me how Playboy is a shell of what it was at 25. </span><span style="font-size: small;">I agree with him after watching this documentary. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Before I’d seen this, I only had a very slim impression of the 21st century Playboy which is the constant pitch fest that is their email marketing which is nothing but image ads with gorgeous, naked women promoting their “Cyber Club”. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">No Hef. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">No activism. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">No meaningful engagement with the audience. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Just nekked women (sometimes holding machine guns – WTF?!?) with, more often than not, bad tit jobs and a line of copy that tells me to “BUY NOW – 69% DISCOUNT”. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These marketing messages are the polar opposite of the Playboy Philosophy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Playboy has officially been taken over by marketing idiots. After Hef parks his body somewhere on earth and checks into the Playboy Club in heaven, it’ll be interesting to see how long it takes the new parasitic regime to kill the goose that’s laid so many golden eggs. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Oh, I know it’s not gonna be a quick death as by strychnine. The “Corporate Board” is more like junk food. Their practices kill you nice and slow.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Beware This Trap</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you’re new to the game it’s tempting to see the “Big Boys” email marketing like this and think this is how you should be marketing too.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You see the fancy graphics, slick logos, and no long salesletter you have to write or pay someone else to and get seduced into thinking that if they’re doing it, you can too.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Wrong. Wrong. And More Wrong.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is why I feel that a blog in this day and age can be a huge asset. You can use it as a platform to put forth all of your own personal DNA Game Changer principles that rope in perfect prospects who haven’t bought from you yet and give you all the benefits of having a website AND you can just send your posts to the people who give you their email address and let these Game Changer Principles do the selling for you and if you want, put a PS. at the end of every one of your emails directing people to something you sell in a direct but very low key way. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Remember To Stay True To Your Mission</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There are more years behind Hugh Hefner than ahead of him. I believe the same is true for Playboy unless some kind of DNA intervention is made. Especially if when Hefner dies the people who take over insist on competing on the cheap commodity of nudity. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I don’t read Playboy and never have but Dino as well as others tell me it’s shit now compared to what it was when Hef was Starship Commander in his prime. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In this era of Photoshop and reconstructive surgery it’s hard for me to even believe I’m witnessing genuine feminine beauty in the pictures that I do see in their ads. I can’t be the only person thinking this.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I love what Tina Fey, the huh-larious woman behind the multi-Emmy award winning TV series ‘30 Rock’ jokingly says about this trend in her book, “Bossypants” . . . </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="color: #111111; font-size: small;">Back in my days you were either blessed with a beautiful body or not. And if you were not, you could just chill out and learn a trade. Now if you’re not “hot,” you’re expected to work on it until you are. It’s like when you renovate a house and you’re legally required to leave just one of the original walls standing. If you don’t have a good body, you’d better starve the body you have down to a neutral shape, then bolt on some breast implants, replace your teeth, dye your skin orange, inject your lips, sew on some hair, and call yourself Playmate of the Year.</span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">She then goes on to say she wouldn’t change any of the traits her mom and dad handed down to her even though they’re imperfect and even though she makes something like $30,000 dollars per episode she writes for her show and could easily afford to zap, chop, or suck out any of the imperfections of her body. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I like that. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Tina’s look reminds me of the “girl next door”. She’s not hideous and she’s not a runway model. For me, she’s just right. Her sense of humor and the way she doesn’t take herself too serious is what makes her ultra sexy to me. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What a Playmate represents now is far from the original high concept of “beauty was everywhere and that the very nature of the Playmate of The Month was that she was the girl next door”.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Always keep in mind that the evolution of what you represent is necessary but that it should always be in the name of forward progress. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>What To Do Now</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">It seems to me that Hef has stopped actively engaging in the DNA Game Changing moves that built this brand into the icon that it is. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Maybe he just wants peace, quiet and love from here on out. I believe he’s earned that and more for what he’s done that will never be forgotten by those who matter. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But know this. If you’re gonna be an MVP player in the game of business, making bold DNA Game Changing moves and disclosures are necessary and they invite controversy and challenge from the universe. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">As soon as Hef stopped making moves and letting his fans into his world with an ever evolving, expanding “Playboy Philosophy”, his empire started to lose the core driving source of it’s luster and now t</span><span style="font-size: small;">he magazine has the feeling of being a business in it for the dollar instead of the platform for a man on a crusade to operate from.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Controversy and challenge is to be welcomed if you’re on a mission to transform your market, your industry, your turf. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can rest assured that if you’re on a mission to do something great, someone or something will oppose you. Look at any historical example of this from Jesus to George Washington and the founding fathers to Gandhi to Martin Luther King to Hugh Hefner. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And you’ll know how effective you are by how loud your opposition is and how scary your challenges are. Embracing this reality will allow you to leave a mark on the world by sharing your specific gift in all of it’s naked glory. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Use these DNA Game Changing Principles to chronicle your tale and bring people aboard to help you in battle and leave this world having pressed your unique gifts into it.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Talk soon, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lewis LaLanne <strong>a.k.a.</strong> Note Taking Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a.</strong> L.L. Cool Nerd</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>PS.</strong> One more thing and it’s important. There’s 31 of these principles and we’ve only touched on 12 of them here. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I understand that because you’re all the way down here reading this now you’re  dying to get access to <a href="http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=GQAwx&amp;m=3atDz8J82oxBHGp&amp;b=Z21UFpopPVl2nTwWQY5RfQ">ALL 31 of these principles</a>. I felt the same way during the launch but in a way, I envy you because with these notes you’re instantly cutting right to the core of the results-getting, money-making strategies offered up in this seminar &#8211; while I endured hours and hours and hours and hours and more hours of ass leathering and hand cramping to listen for and type these out for you.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lucky you! 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Nerd #2 a.k.a L.L. Cool Nerd. I don’t believe I’ve ever studied and taken notes on one of [...] Related posts:<ol><li><a href='http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/13-productivity-tips-that-allow-you-to-be-a-perfect-non-perfectionist/' rel='bookmark' title='13 Productivity Tips That Allow You To Be A Perfect Non-Perfectionist'>13 Productivity Tips That Allow You To Be A Perfect Non-Perfectionist</a><li></ol>]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>See The Productivity Tip That Is The Back Bone Of This Renegade Millionaire Dan Kennedy’s Success and How It’s Easily Available and Waiting For You To Put To Use In Your Life</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hey You,</span></p><div id="attachment_6896" class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 300px"> <a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/the-most-valuable-productivity-tip-from-dan-kennedys-renegade-time-management-course/making-it-hard-on-yourself/" rel="attachment wp-att-6896"><img class="size-medium wp-image-6896" title="Making it hard on yourself" src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Making-it-hard-on-yourself-300x202.png?fb63ac" alt="productivity tips dan kennedy " width="300" height="202" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Stop coming at your work with the wrong approach</p></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s Lewis <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a </strong>L.L. Cool Nerd. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I don’t believe I’ve ever studied and taken notes on one of Dan Kennedy’s courses and come away disappointed.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">His Renegade Time Management course is positively incredible. It was a program I’d always wanted notes on in order to keep prisoner each of the principles that allow Dan to reign supreme in a crowded niche, year after year after year. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And now, I have taken all the notes and I’m sharing with you today what I feel was the most important insight he’s ever revealed on the topic of getting more shit done. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Prepare Yourself For A Glimpse Into The Lifestyle Of a Business Building Legend</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In respect to the contrarian approach to time management that he takes, it mirrors what he tells people who have an entrepreneurial business – which is, they shouldn’t blindly mimic what big dumb corporations are doing in regards to their marketing and advertising. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">On a similar note, if you want to be productive as an entrepreneur, using time management methodologies and tools composed with executives and middle managers in mind who work on a 9-5 schedule in an office and call it good day if they barely got anything done, is equally as dumb. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dan owns somewhere in the ball park of 200 books and programs on the topic of time management and has seen pretty much everything presented on this topic and his opinion is that most of this stuff is built for people who aren’t doing very much. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dan operates from the premise that if you want extraordinary results, then you’re not gonna come by those with “normal” methods – which applies to time just the same as it applies to playing the piano or building a home. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One of the questions people ask Dan Kennedy most often is . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">“How The Hell Do You Get So Much Done?” </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When people observe how much work Dan does, with only one person supporting him, they’re in awe. They’re also intrigued by how he limits access to himself.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He does three newsletters a month . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">As a copywriter he’s doing 5-10 major client projects a month . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s writing advertising and sales copy, as well as product for the business he’s involved in . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s averaging 4-6 full day consultations a month . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s got 72 people in coaching groups who require his personal attention . . .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s had at least one book a year published for the last decade . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He still speaks at least once a month (he used to manage almost this same workload when he was on the road speaking 100+ days a year) . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s doing day to day business stuff . . .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s managing his money . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s fooling around with his race horses . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And people look at this and consider it to be three people’s work load. That he gets this much done every month is compelling along with him working with only who he chooses to work with, when he chooses to work with them. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If this is inspiring to you, then the Renegade Time Management philosophy is definitely your source for finding some contrary methods that allow this kind of productivity to flourish.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But maybe you don’t think this is possible for you. Maybe you have the same concerns other people do. See if this is something you’re saying to yourself . . .  </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>“You’re super human Dan and your methods won’t work because my business is different.” </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“My business is different,” is the knee jerk excuse that blurts out of everyone’s guilty mouth for not doing all kinds of effective things they should be doing. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The same things people say about his contrarian advertising and marketing is the same thing said about his time management philosophy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Why is your business different? It probably isn’t. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">All businesses have same fundamental functions in common</span>: </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They have either a customer, a client, or a patient. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They provide either a good or a service or both. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They either go to the customer’s location or bring the customer to their location. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They have to have some method of bringing new people in. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They have to have some method of repeatedly selling to and keeping the customers they do have. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So the differences between a plastic surgeon, a gas tank manufacturer, and the shoe store owner, are very small and the commonalities are <em>far greater</em>.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Most of Dan’s approach to time and communication and customer and client management has more to do with your mindset and decisions you make about universal principles than it does with anything “business specific”. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Everyone thinks they can’t train their customers to do business on their terms. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Everyone thinks they have to be immediately accessible to their customers and clients. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And if you look into industry after industry after industry, you’ll find at least one person in there who is violating these industry religious beliefs and are proving everyone wrong and ignorant. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Most commercial realtors would sit and argue with you that you’ve got to take the call when it comes in, certainly if someone is investing hundreds of thousands, or millions of dollars with you, and that these clients insist on having your cell phone number so they can get a hold of you day or night, yet Dan has a client who’s doing the exact opposite. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dan’s client is actually making people fill out a form and pay money to even be able to have a telephone conversation with him about becoming a client. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: medium;">OH NO HE DI’INT!!!</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Another one of his clients in the mortgage business who works with residential realtors who think that as soon as they’ve got a person who wants to make them an offer, they need to get a hold of their mortgage person. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dan’s client makes a very high six-figure income in the mortgage business. He accomplishes this even though he turns his cell phone off every day at 5:00 and keeps it off during the weekend, doesn’t check messages, and has trained his realtors to work around these preferences of his. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You could find example after example after example in different industries of people doing the opposite of what the majority of the industry insists on doing. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You always determine how you want to do business with people, how you want them to do business with you and how valuable your time is to you. The question is, “Are these decisions you’ve made making your life more pleasant or more stressful?”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Time Is The Only Asset You’ve Got That Can’t Be Replaced and Replenished</strong><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In pretty much most instances, there’s more than enough prospects to be had and any client, patient, customer who leaves can be replaced by another. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="background-color: #ffff00;">If clients, patients, and customers <em>weren’t</em> replenishable, everyone would be out of business almost as soon as they got into business because it’s a guarantee you’re gonna lose customers, clients or patients.</span> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They move, they die, they have a best friend who gets in the business and they decide to go do business with them, on and on. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So no matter how awesome a job you do with your marketing, your service/products and support, you’re gonna lose some people every year. And business owners who stay in business obviously are finding ways to replace those people. So replacing one or two more that leave as a result of the way you choose to do business shouldn’t be a big deal. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Money can be replaced. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Physical assets destroyed due to hurricanes, bed bugs, fire, snow storms, floods, etc. are replaced all the time. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The only thing that can’t be given back to you is the minute you just spent. And this is why this is an asset worth being pit-bull vicious about protecting.</span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-family: Georgia; font-size: large;"><strong>Why Lack of Time Accountability and Measurement Leads To Horrible Results – THE MOST IMPORTANT SECTION OF THIS ENTIRE COURSE</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">There is no neutral in life. You’re either in drive or you’re in reverse. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you take away accountability, your results start moving in reverse. If you impose it, it improves. Every professional sports coach knows this. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Pat Riley, former NBA coach of the Los Angeles Lakers and Miami Heat, made famous the “Better Your Best” concept of taking stats and having players trying to beat their previous best performance. We, as entrepreneurs need to do the same thing. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">The ultimate good news/bad news joke is “The good news is: You’re your own boss. The bad news is: You’ve got a REAAALLLY shitty, dysfunctional, and incompetent boss.” </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">An entrepreneur has a little accountability pressure in the fact that work needs to be done for clients, but there is none for the moment by moment, function by function basis. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>So the only accountability available to the entrepreneur is hitting or missing time and money targets</strong>.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Most people try to get the job done with money targets alone. But it’s the time targets that make up the day to day that <em>REALLY</em> make it possible to hit the money targets. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you’re waiting till the end of the month to see if you hit your sales quota or not, and then judging yourself successful or not based on your hitting it or not, you’re too late. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You want predictive indicators, not historic indicators. Predictive indicators of money are your use of your time. This is how you hold yourself accountable.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dan talks about how the fact that he met all but one of his time targets for that day, is very predictive of what his bank balance is gonna look like at the end of the month. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If he’d missed 4 or 5 of them he’d be annoyed with himself and want to look at why this occurred. Was it faulty assessment of how long it’d take to do something? And why is that?” so that he doesn’t make the same mistake again.  Or it’s because he let something interfere with his script, and what did he let interfere and how can you make sure that doesn’t happen anymore?</span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Time Can Be Wasted and Abused Only To The Extent That It’s Available To Be So</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So look at this scenario. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Say you’ve got a phone appointment with the person who is the #1 VIP in your life in 30 seconds – President of United States, Playboy centerfold, Nelson Mandela, client who wants to give you $280,000 dollars, your favorite Hollywood celebrity, whoever, and you’re waiting for the call and some guy in your office pokes his head in asking if you’ve got a minute. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Would you brush him off? Of course you would. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">SO WHY ISN’T THE APPOINTMENT THAT YOU HAD WITH YOURSELF EVERY BIT AS IMPORTANT TO BE SAFEGUARDED THAN IS THE APPOINTMENT WITH THE POPE OR THE PRESIDENT?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When you look at it like this, it’s easier to be tough about this. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Beyond Scheduling Your Day</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dan’s days aren’t scheduled in the sense that you’ve got a page in the appointment book where there’s a meeting noted down, a lunch, and a couple of phone calls written in. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">Dan’s days are scripted. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">A schedule is your appointments for the day. A script is every minute of the movie that is your day. That’s the easiest way to explain what scripting your day is. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think about it in terms of a movie script. Most people are trying to shoot a movie with just an outline. And this doesn’t work very well in Hollywood and it doesn’t work very well on the street. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You need to have everything blocked out minute-by-minute-by-minute (in hunks of minutes of course). </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">With a good Hollywood script, if someone is walking from the front door to their car, it’s determined how long that’s gonna take. You have to take all of this into account because you have a target for how long the film is and just the same with your day, you’ve got a fixed numbers that you’re awake and in a place you can work. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you want maximum productivity, you want to know how long it takes from pushing the on button to your computer to having all of the programs you need to use takes so that you’re factoring that into the script that only gives you X amount of film a.k.a. your work hours to use. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The entire day. Everything that needs to be accomplished for the day is listed according to the time it’s going to take to complete, each of them totaling up to the minutes available in the time block. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>Every minute of Dan’s work day is accounted for. So if he lets an interruption in, something in this script, something isn’t going to happen. Something, or someone is going to get cheated today if somebody barges in and bumps to the front of the line</em>. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dan is always assessing where he is on his work list, to where he is on the clock. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">On most days for Dan, there is no time to be wasted or abused because he has pre-assigned it all, the day before or earlier. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Stop Getting Punked Out Of The Results You Want</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When I started scripting my day according to what I valued accomplishing in my life, I found those months of my life to be incredible. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Using this practice aided me in working out four days – one day off for 52 weeks straight. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And the workouts were ball-busters. The work out for the day consisted of better-your-best timed <em>sprinting </em>not just <em>walking, explosive plyometric push ups </em>not just <em>push ups, full out jumping knees touching my chest </em>not just <em>body weight squats. </em>And two of the four days included me doing a boxing workout on top of these circuit training workouts. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">On top of this, I would script out times when I was going to study marketing or copywriting for one hour every day. On top of this I demanded of myself an hour of personal development studying. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">All of this on top of working in two professions. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This would’ve never been possible had I not scripted out what my day was going to look like the night before and then, lived by the script the next day. In essence, this strategy allowed me to get into the best shape of my life and feel the proudest of my body that I’ve ever felt. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And I didn’t need any fancy pants planner or software to do this. I just used a piece of paper inside a journal. Here’s a picture of what my process looked like . . . </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:9619a720-3cec-4d0e-a8f4-b3a0b407adba" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/2012-01-04_13-02-02_828-8x6.jpg?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/2012-01-04_13-02-02_828.png?fb63ac" alt="productivity tips dan kennedy " width="361" height="580" border="0" title="The Most Valuable Productivity Tip From Dan Kennedy&rsquo;s Renegade Time Management Course Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">See. No rocket science required. Just consistency. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And of course stuff came up that altered the times I would do some of these activities, but this wasn’t often at all. It was actually rare for me to be derailed. It was like the universe made way for me to get my shit done because it respected that I knew where I was going. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You’ll notice that my activities throughout the day are in “Code Names” to give them a sexier appeal. “Article Magic” sounds more appealing to me and conveys what I want the result to be far more than “article” does. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I learned to re-frame your activities like this from Tony Robbins and I could’ve done it a lot better. For example: “Fuck my relationship with my cuddle umpkins wide open to god” sounds and feels vastly different than, “Angie” does.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Everything Adds Up</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What you see on the bottom below the schedule are the broad daily goals I wanted to pursue and then the evidence of them being realized that day in even the smallest way on the end of the page that showed up as a result of the activities I took action on that day. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This page was to be written out every night before I went to sleep (15-20 min.) and this way when I woke up, I hit the road running. No confusion. No wondering what was going to happen. I knew what was gonna happen and when it was going to happen and that each activity was moving me towards my becoming who I wanted to become, or feeling good about my progress because I cleaned up after myself or did some other chore.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One key factor I believe that will help you to achieve more in your day is by sleeping in a more structured fashion to give yourself more time – shorter if you sleep a lot, or longer if you barely ever sleep &#8211; than you do now. <a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/hell-90-day-challenge">Click here to go see this post here to see how to do this.</a></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Take Dan’s advice along with mine and try this easy one page scripting technique out for yourself and tell me what you think of the results that it brings to you. You can do this here in the comments below or hit me at my private email address that can be found in the “Contact” form at the top of the site. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Talk soon, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lewis LaLanne <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Note Taking Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a. </strong>L.L. Cool Nerd</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">PS. 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What [...] No related posts.]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">There I was &#8220;Old Chief Nerd&#8221;, sitting in my office crying like a two year old kid as I watched two warriors facing certain death in the arena. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">No it wasn&#8217;t a sentimental scene. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">I may of been the only person in the world with tears in my eyes as this Brutal scene unfolded. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">What was it?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">It was the moment Lucius Vorenus threw away all his dreams and future to stand behind his Best Friend Titus Pullo in the Great HBO series Rome. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">You see Titus had been sentence to death.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">He was put in the town center &#8220;ring of death&#8221;.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">A place where Warriors and Monsters used guys like Titus as entertainment pieces for the Kings and others whom watched as they sliced them up.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">I&#8217;d just finished a Marathon Session of Rome. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Two seasons in like a week. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Yep&#8230;being lazy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">But that&#8217;s how I roll when given the chance. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">One of the common themes throughout this series was the loyalty and comaradie of Titus to his friend, mentor, and leader Lucius. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Through thick and thin, good and bad there was Titus at his side. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Never judging.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Never doubting. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">How many of you have someone like this in your life?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">I&#8217;m happy to say that I have a &#8220;Titus&#8221; in my life. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">My friend and side kick. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">My #2 here at Nerd Headquarters. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Lewis Lallane (Nerd #2)</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Just like Lucius I suck at being a friend a good majority o of the time. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Rome was as much about enduring Friendhsip as it was about anything else. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">This year I vow to be a better Friend. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">What about you?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Anybody in your life whom you may take for granted?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Thanks #2 for being my Friend. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">I love ya little buddy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">You Rock!!!</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">And a special shout out to our Good Buddy Tim Birch.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">If there was such a thing as a Titus Pullo to Nerd Nation it would be Tim.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">He&#8217;s the best. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">Now take a look at this compilation of Titus and Lucius. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;">May 2012 be YOUR YEAR!</span></p><p><a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/grateful/"><em>Click here to view the embedded video.</em></a></p><script src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~s/MyNoteTakingNerd?i=http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/grateful/" type="text/javascript" charset="utf-8"></script><div class="shr-publisher-6434"></div><div style="clear: both; min-height: 1px; height: 3px; width: 100%;"></div><div class='shareaholic-like-buttonset' style='float:none;height:30px;'><a class='shareaholic-fblike' data-shr_layout='button_count' data-shr_showfaces='false' data-shr_href='http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mynotetakingnerd.com%2Fblog%2Fgrateful%2F' data-shr_title='The+One+Thing+I%27m+Most+Grateful+For'></a><a class='shareaholic-googleplusone' data-shr_size='medium' data-shr_count='true' data-shr_href='http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mynotetakingnerd.com%2Fblog%2Fgrateful%2F' data-shr_title='The+One+Thing+I%27m+Most+Grateful+For'></a></div><div style="clear: both; min-height: 1px; height: 3px; width: 100%;"></div><p>No related posts.</p><div class="feedflare">
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This [...] No related posts.]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><div id="attachment_6428" class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 168px"> <a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/13-rules-live-life-2012/sellingpix100300042/" rel="attachment wp-att-6428"><img class="size-full wp-image-6428" title="sellingpix100300042" src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/sellingpix100300042.jpg?fb63ac" alt="mynotetakingnerd " width="168" height="119" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Will You Transform Your Life In 2012?</p></div><p style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">I&#8217;ve noticed something in my years of studying success that is always present. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">This was brought to my attention again recently in something I read from one of my online mentors. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">Something that is buried in the core of any person who&#8217;s achieved anything of signifigance.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">Whether it&#8217;s an Amazing Father or Multi Millionaire.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">This <strong>ONE THING</strong> is always there. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">It&#8217;s a Cult Like Belief and therefor the consistent behavior that follows. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva; font-size: large;">A Strong Personal Set Of Beliefs and Philosophy that guides their behavior and a set of goals to go along with it. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">I&#8217;ve noticed that when I&#8217;m &#8220;Rigid&#8221; in my personal routine that aligns with my current goals I&#8217;m always 10 times more successful then when I&#8217;m just floating through life. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">This year I&#8217;ve decided to commit Set Of Rules for 2012 that I&#8217;m NOT going to budge from. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">No&#8230;&#8221;Well just for today I&#8217;ll do something different or take the easy road&#8221;</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">No Flexibility.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">I&#8217;m going to commit to these as if I&#8217;d DIE if I don&#8217;t follow them. </span></p><p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">Here Are My 13 GOLDEN Rules for 2012.<span id="more-6427"></span></span></strong></span><br /> <span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">1. I will write for at least 60 minutes first thing in the morning 5 days per week. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">2. I will go to bed at the same time and awake at the same time 6 days per week. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">3. I will aerobically excersise 5 days per week. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">4. I will Resistance (body weight or weights) train a minimum of two days per week. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">5. I will check my email NO MORE then 2 times per day. (this is going to be hard but I&#8217;m committed)</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">6. I will turn off my phone and only check it during scheduled breaks during the day. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">7. I will schedule the &#8220;Next Day&#8221; the previous night every night before I retire. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">8. I will NEVER &#8220;React&#8221; in the moment to anything. I&#8217;ve had a challenge my entire life with a Hot Head. It&#8217;s caused me nothing but trouble and health problems. It&#8217;s time to stop. If I do this then I will apologize and fix the stress or problem I&#8217;ve caused. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">9. I will be &#8220;In The Moment&#8221; when speaking with my daughter. I will transform myself into her world and PLAY FULL ON. To do this I will get myself into state before I call her. (I am a single father who speaks to my daughter via the phone more then I see her)</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">10. I will work on one &#8220;Marketing or Offer Piece&#8221; every single day for 60 minutes. This can be an email, part of a sales letter etc&#8230;</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">11. I will grow the Nerd Site by 500% this year. I did it last year and expect to so this year as well. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">12. I will never Gossip. I will not speak of others in a negative way unless they are present and I frame the conversation in a negative way. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana, geneva;">13. I will get SOCIAL. I am going to join groups, get involved in the community, and get out of the house. I&#8217;ve been somewhat of a hermit for a few years. 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Nerd #2 a.k.a. L.L. Cool Nerd. Have you ever experienced the coaching Eben Pagan dishes out live at one of his Platinum Membership Group Days? No? Well, now you have. I have some quick productivity tips from my notes from one of these events where he revealed to the group the only [...] Related posts:<ol><li><a href='http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/top-12-learned-eben-pagans-guru-blueprint/' rel='bookmark' title='Top 12 Things I Learned From Eben Pagan&rsquo;s Guru Blueprint Course'>Top 12 Things I Learned From Eben Pagan&rsquo;s Guru Blueprint Course</a><li><li><a href='http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/focus-in-and-go-for-you-want-like-a-one-eyed-dog-in-a-butchers-shop/' rel='bookmark' title='Focus In And Go For You Want Like a One-Eyed Dog In a Butcher&rsquo;s Shop'>Focus In And Go For You Want Like a One-Eyed Dog In a Butcher&rsquo;s Shop</a><li><li><a href='http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/small-business-marketing-strategies-for-breaking-free-from-an-employee-mindset/' rel='bookmark' title='Small Business Marketing Strategies For Breaking Free From An Employee Mindset'>Small Business Marketing Strategies For Breaking Free From An Employee Mindset</a><li></ol>]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><div id="attachment_6410" class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 300px"> <a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/how-to-find-and-focus-on-the-little-things-that-are-the-highest-areas-of-effectiveness-in-your-business/effectiveness/" rel="attachment wp-att-6410"><img class="size-medium wp-image-6410" title="Effectiveness" src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/Effectiveness-300x169.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies productivity tips eben pagan " width="300" height="169" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">This woman is serious about efficiency but there&#39;s a difference between efficiency and effectiveness</p></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s Lewis <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a. </strong>L.L. Cool Nerd. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Have you ever experienced the coaching Eben Pagan dishes out live at one of his Platinum Membership Group Days? No? Well, now you have. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I have some quick <strong>productivity tips </strong>from my notes from one of these events where he revealed to the group <em>the only three things they should be doing in an information marketing business. </em></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These are the three activities that punch the pedal to medal and drive your <strong>small business marketing strategies </strong>to perform balls to the wall which is the fastest path to profitability. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s the first tool for figuring this out . . . </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>1. The Productivity Pyramid</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You take a triangle and break it into 4 levels. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The T<strong>op Level</strong> is labeled as <strong>“High Lifetime Value” </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Level Two</strong> is labeled as <strong>“High Dollar Per Hour Value”</strong> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Level Three</strong> is labeled as <strong>“Low Value Per Hour Value”</strong></span></p><p><span id="more-6408"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Level Four</strong> is labeled as <strong>“Zero Value”</strong> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Because Eben can draw better than me, here’s what it looks like on paper… </span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:aa8f2696-e649-4d3b-a070-59c1eaa96f1a" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/Triangle-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/Triangle.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies productivity tips eben pagan " width="335" height="285" border="0" title="How To Find And Focus On The Things That Are The Highest Areas Of Effectiveness In Your Business Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s how this works . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Zero Value Activities </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In life, there’s tons of things you can do that bring ZERO value to your life. And in fact, these ZERO value activities can have a <em>negative</em> effect on you. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What you’ll notice is that not only is of what the majority of people are doing having zero impact on their life, it’s actually counter productive. Eating large quantities of food that offers your body no nutrition – cookies, candy, chips, etc. not only has zero value but it’s actually slowly killing you. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Laying on the couch, not moving your body is not just zero value but it actually is weakening you.Watching the news and retard television excessively, obsessively, is not only of zero value but it’s actually making you dumber.   This is what happens to you when you over-indulge in zero value activities . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><p><a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/how-to-find-and-focus-on-the-little-things-that-are-the-highest-areas-of-effectiveness-in-your-business/"><em>Click here to view the embedded video.</em></a></p><br /> </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Low Dollar Per Hour Activities </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is the $5. &#8211; $10. – $20. an hour stuff – filing, hand addressing envelopes and stamping them, cleaning the bathroom, inserting info into your spread sheets, etc. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>High Dollar Per Hour Activities </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is the stuff that allows you to make $100 – $1,000 an hour for. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">An example of this could be consulting for an hourly fee – in person or over the phone. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Another example of this could be connecting with affiliate partners and getting them to mail right now. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Another example is writing your copy or writing copy for others for a fee. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These are activities that make money in the short term. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>High Lifetime Value Activities </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is stuff that’s urgent, but not important. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is the stuff that can has high value over the lifetime of your business. Creating a product that’s going to be in your catalog over the next twenty years is a high lifetime value activity. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Training someone on your team, that going to run an important area of your business is a high lifetime value activity. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Making an initial connection/introduction and bringing value to an super affiliate first over weeks to months could fit into this category. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These are activities that make money in the long term. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>I Think I’d Win Money Betting Your Day&#8217;s Pyramid Is Not Upside Down<br /> </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So if you sit down and make a list of the things you’re doing everyday, and put them in these four quadrants, what you’ll typically find is that you’re spending the majority of your day doing zero value activities, little more time on low dollar per hour, little bit on high dollar activity, and the teeniest amount of time on high lifetime value stuff. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is the average person’s existence, people who don’t come to sites like these and make discoveries and then take action on what they’ve found. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Your objective is turn the pyramid upside down like this . . . </strong></span></p><div id="scid:8747F07C-CDE8-481f-B0DF-C6CFD074BF67:7d5a3409-3819-4167-bcab-8e2866b311a5" class="wlWriterEditableSmartContent" style="margin: 0px; display: inline; float: none; padding: 0px;"><a title="" href="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/Triangle-2-8x6.png?fb63ac" rel="thumbnail"><img src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/Triangle-2.png?fb63ac" alt="small business marketing strategies productivity tips eben pagan " width="335" height="303" border="0" title="How To Find And Focus On The Things That Are The Highest Areas Of Effectiveness In Your Business Photo" /></a></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">You’re spending most of your day doing high lifetime value stuff, the next highest doing high dollar, next doing low dollar, and the very amount of your day is spent doing zero dollar and hour stuff. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Eben feels that in an information product business, the thing you should be doing is creating products, marketing, and relationships. That’s it. </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Almost anything you’re doing outside of this is wasting your time.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Products, marketing, and <a href="http://mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/notes-for-eben-pagans-connectedprogram-session-1">relationships</a> have high lifetime value as well as high dollar value.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: large;">ACTION STEP:</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So, what you do is take out a piece of paper and write down the list of things are within these categories and you put them in the order that you should be doing them. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Let’s say you decide after doing the specific analysis of your business, that the most important thing you could be doing is <strong>creating products</strong>.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Maybe number two is <strong>Write Copy. </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Number three might be <strong>make content videos for your blog</strong>. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And number four is <strong>Train Your Team.</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">A great way to start figuring out how much time you’re going to spend on each of these would be to say . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I’m going to spend 50% of my time doing number one . . .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I’m going to spend 25% of my time doing number two . . .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I’m going to spend 12% of my time doing number three . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I’m going to spend 6% of my time doing number four . . .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And leave the rest of the time to do everything else. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Of course, your situation isn’t gonna match perfectly with this but this gives a starter curve to work from and customize on your own. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you use this formula and you’ve got ten things and you just keep cutting in half the percentage of time you spend on each activity according to most to least important, you’ll see that it makes sense. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Making The 80/20 Principle Work For You </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The 80/20 principle rules your workday and everything else in life. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">80% of your results come from 20% of your effort. If you go to a chicken coop 80% of the edible eggs, come from 20% of the chickens. Go into a company, 80% of the sales are coming from 20% of the sales force. This principle applies across the board. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">We screw ourselves up by not saying, “I gotta eliminate 80% of my work because only 20% of it is bringing home the desired results and I gotta keep plowing the 80% into the 20%.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><em>When you put the 80 towards the 20, you can multiply your results by 5 times just with this one simple move. </em></span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Do This Now . . . </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So now, make a list of the 7 most valuable things you do with your time in your business that are <strong>high lifetime value </strong>and <strong>high dollar per hour value. </strong>And try to skew towards high lifetime value. Focus on products, marketing, and relationships (could be relationships with partners, vendors, or employees). </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Now make the list starting with highest priority activity that you do now (of course this will probably be different three years from now). </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Focus here on what rings the cash register or the things you did in the past that were the difference that made the difference and prioritize them 1-7. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And now use this as your guide for planning out your day tomorrow. Just take that small step. Try it out and feel free to share with me in the comments section below or email me like you like to, what it felt like to come at your work day from this angle.  </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I look forward to hearing about your experience. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Talk soon, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lewis LaLanne <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Note Taking Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a. </strong>L.L. Cool Nerd</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">PS. 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</div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/MyNoteTakingNerd/~4/quk0bFd-uOY" height="1" width="1"/>]]></content:encoded> <wfw:commentRss>http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/how-to-find-and-focus-on-the-little-things-that-are-the-highest-areas-of-effectiveness-in-your-business/feed/</wfw:commentRss> <slash:comments>0</slash:comments> <feedburner:origLink>http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/how-to-find-and-focus-on-the-little-things-that-are-the-highest-areas-of-effectiveness-in-your-business/</feedburner:origLink></item> <item><title>How To Stubbornly Refuse To Be Ashamed Of Anything</title><link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/MyNoteTakingNerd/~3/7kMGULUGNeo/</link> <comments>http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/how-to-stubbornly-refuse-to-be-ashamed-of-anything/#comments</comments> <pubDate>Fri, 16 Dec 2011 14:00:00 +0000</pubDate> <dc:creator>NoteTakingNerd2</dc:creator> <category><![CDATA[Personal Improvement]]></category> <category><![CDATA[Dr. Albert Ellis]]></category> <category><![CDATA[personal improvement]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/how-to-stubbornly-refuse-to-be-ashamed-of-anything/</guid> <description><![CDATA[Hey You, It’s Lewis a.k.a. Nerd #2 a.k.a. L.L. Cool Nerd. Today I wanted to share with you what I believe to be an answer to one of the nastiest personal improvement challenge any entrepreneur will ever face. I believe this challenge is at the root of all failure. And I’m giving you a clear [...] No related posts.]]></description> <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Hey You,</span></p><div id="attachment_6361" class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 300px"> <a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/how-to-stubbornly-refuse-to-be-ashamed-of-anything/babash/" rel="attachment wp-att-6361"><img class="size-medium wp-image-6361" title="babash" src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/babash-300x198.png?fb63ac" alt="personal improvement 3 " width="300" height="198" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Lick the shame you&#39;ve carried since being a child using what you discover here</p></div><p><span style="font-size: small;">It’s Lewis <strong>a.k.a. </strong>Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a. </strong>L.L. Cool Nerd. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Today I wanted to share with you what I believe to be an answer to one of the nastiest <strong>personal improvement </strong>challenge any entrepreneur will ever face. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I believe this challenge is at the root of all failure. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And I’m giving you a clear cut 1-2-3 list of solutions to this crippling problem you and I face from</span><span style="font-size: small;"> a speech that was given by Dr. Albert Ellis at the Institute for Rational Living in New York City in 1972.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">I’m no expert on the famed Dr. Albert Ellis. I’ve never heard or read anything of his besides what I’m sharing with you today. But this is a powerful speech I feel touches the heart of what being human is and what I believe stops you from being who you’re fully capable of being. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Another reason I connect with this Dr.’s message is because it’s RAW. I think he stumbled upon what Tony Robbins expresses here in this disclaimer he puts at the beginning of all of his seminar videos . . . </span></p><blockquote><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">THIS FILM CONTAINS ADULT LANGUAGE</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Freud discovered that in every culture there are words which are considered taboo: words that are rarely spoken aloud, but, when they are, produce a dynamic transformation in the emotional responsiveness of the listener. He was one of the first clinical practitioners to use intense</span></p><p><span id="more-6359"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">language and taboo words with a therapeutic aim. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In this tradition, Anthony Robbins will, at times, deliberately use shocking language in order to establish an atmosphere of honesty and emotional authenticity. While not given a place in polite society, these words can be used to trigger deeper emotions. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This language is used strategically, according to the specific situation, to spark the participant to achieve a higher level of accountability</span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">I believe Dr. Ellis came to the same or similar conclusions. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">His experience with thousands of patients taught him that people had huge hang ups around sex and so he wasn’t afraid to address them, knowing the tremendous love and freedom a person could experience once they weren’t gagged by the shame they felt about these topics. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Now, I’m going to give you his long ass resume (feel free to skip it because you trust me, or because you already know of his ninja status) because I want you to see that this ultra accomplished doctor fully embodied this philosophy of stubbornly refusing to be ashamed and wasn’t concerned at all that colleagues of his and some people in the audience might think of him as being unprofessional for standing up on stage and bringing up the topic of masturbating, the size of your dick and “fucking” – the word he used, not me. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And this way back in 1972 when it was not anywhere near as “accepted” as it is now to speak to these topics in public forum. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Prepare yourself to be resumed-into-submission . . . </span></p><blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">Dr. Albert Ellis hold’s a PHD degree in clinical psychology from Columbia University. He has taught at Rutgers and New York University. He’s been Chief Psychologist for the New Jersey State Diagnostics Center and was later Chief Psychologist of the New Jersey Department of Institutions and Agencies. He was a consultant in clinical consultant both to the New York City Board of Education and to the Veterans Administration. And at that time he was currently the executive director of the Institute For Rational Living and Director of Psychological Services for the Institute for Advanced Study of Rational Psychotherapy. He’s been in the practice of psychotherapy and marriage and family counseling in New York City for almost 30 years. He is a fellow of the American Psychological Association and has been President of it’s Consulting Psychology and a member of it’s Counsel of Representatives. Dr. Ellis has also been Vice President of the American Academy of Psychotherapists, Chairman of the Marriage Counselor section of the National Counsel on Family Relations, and is a member of the executive committee of the New York Society of Clinical Psychologists. He’s been honored by several professional societies and was given the “Humanist Of The Year” award by the American Humanists Association. Dr. Ellis has served as the associate editor of several journals including the journal of Marriage and The Family and Existential Psychiatry. He has published over 350 papers in psychological, psychiatric, and sociological journals and anthologies. He has authored or edited approximately 31 books and monographs including “Sex Without Guilt – The art and science of love” “How To Live With A Neurotic – A guide to rational living” “Reason And Emotion In Psychotherapy – A guide to successful marriage” “How To Raise An Emotionally Healthy, Happy Child” “Growth Through Reason” and “Executive Leadership – A Rational Approach”.</span></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>GOD DAMN!</strong> I’ve never typed “Association” “Committee” or “Administration” that many times in one paragraph. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And now that you know this guy is the real deal Holyfield and not just some schmuck off the street preaching self help, let’s get to the bottom of . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">How To Stubbornly Refuse To Be Ashamed Of Anything</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The more thought he gives to this business of shame, the more he’s convinced that it’s really at the core of MOST emotional disturbance. Not all, but most emotional disturbances have some element of shame in them. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s the dictionary definition of shame . . . </span></p><blockquote><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">Shame:</span></strong></p><p><em><span style="font-size: small;">Feeling of guilt, incompetency, indecency, or blame worthiness. Dishonor, disgrace, embarrassment, humiliation, mortification. </span></em></p></blockquote><p><span style="font-size: small;">This practically covers everything, including the kitchen sink. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you feel ashamed, here’s some of the consequences that you do feel – this isn’t definitive but some of the consequences of feeling shame is the feeling of shame of course but then there’s experiencing shyness, embarrassment, humiliation, feeling of being insulted, depression, self downing, guilt, locking down, repression, anxiety, panic, lack of intimacy. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Here’s some physical aspects of feeling ashamed – blushing, stuttering, physical nervousness and psychosomatic things like ulcers, high blood pressure, etc. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can see that shame is a very broad ranging and deep ranging feeling and has lots of very serious consequences. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">What’s The Basic Cause Of Shame? </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In Rational Emotive Therapy they don’t think in terms of prior events that happened to you, though they may have something to do with exacerbating these feelings. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The basic cause is philosophic. The philosophic sources of shame are probably the beginning of “I MUST”, not “I would like to,” but “I MUST achieve or be loved.” That’s the mental premise. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Then, <strong>“I am not doing what I MUST,” </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Then, the conclusion, “<strong>THIS IS SHAMEFUL!”</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Meaning, <strong>“I am a SHIT for creating this shameful condition!” </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And then, <strong>“Because I feel depressed and anxious, as a result of what I’ve just done and along with my feelings of shame, I am a SHIT for feeling like a SHIT!” </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">That’s where people usually end up. Or, another way of putting it is “I am ashamed of being ashamed!” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You could presumably go down to another level saying, “I am ashamed of feeling ashamed of feeling ashamed.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But usually people have both in their mind, “I feel ashamed of doing or not doing X. And then I know that I am ashamed that I feel ashamed of being ashamed.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Now to be more concrete and specific . . . </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">The Sources of Shame Start With The Proposition That “I MUST BE LOVED” </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And this has various ramifications such as I must be popular, I must be accepted, I must be approved of, I must be un-criticized. And then therefore, it is awful if I am un-popular, unacceptable, disapproved, criticized ridiculed, etc. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>The second main source is, “I MUST ACHIEVE” </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And this means I must achieve many things and it’s amazing how many there really are, such as competence, excellence, intelligence, normality, physical perfection, emotional maturity, strength of character, moral goodness, godliness, saint hood, nobility, and the special subheading of this is, in the sexual area where we particularly, in our society and probably in most, ally or connect our feelings of shame that I must achieve sexual adequacy, sexual conquest, sexual excellence, sexual normality, sexual decency, and sexual morality to say the least. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And to sum up all of these things into one phrase, you’re really saying, when you’re ashamed, <strong>“I must achieve greatness, goodness, and godliness.” </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And then the obvious conclusion with these premises is that it is therefore, it awful if I am incompetent, average, stupid, idiosyncratic, physically imperfect, emotionally disturbed, weak in character, immoral or bad, ignoble, un-saintly, un-godly. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">By the same token it is awful if you are sexually inadequate, sexually un-attractive, sexually average, sexually deviant, sexually indecent. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But you can see that with these nice premises, and the conclusions there of, that practically everyone would feel ashamed. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Even I can’t do all of those things so you can imagine what chance the rest of you have! Hahaha</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;">But now we have another phenomena that comes in which makes things <em>even worse . . . </em></span></span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You wouldn’t think they could get worse but they can. And this worsens by creating the “Boxed-In” or “No Exit” feeling. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The individual demands that he must have both sides of the coin – or sometimes neither side. For example, he says . . .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I MUST not be too idiosyncratic, too different, nor too conforming.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I MUST not be the underdog, but then it would be a sin if I were to be the over dog.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I absolutely MUST not be poor, but if I’m rich, you know what I really am.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“And I MUST be a sexual conqueror on the one hand, but if I’m too much of a conqueror, then I’m a promiscuous dog.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I MUST not be unethical or bad, but then I MUST not be too good – too easy going.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I MUST not be non-achieving but then I MUST not achieve too much.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I MUST not be over intellectual or intellectualized but then I MUST not be over-physical or aggressive.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I MUST not be too sensitive but then I MUST not be too hard.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>In regards to shame, you can see how an individual boxes themselves into a standard they can never meet. </strong></span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">What To Do About This . . . </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Supposed you feel very ashamed some of the time, or moderately ashamed most of the time, or very ashamed most of the time like most people feel. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What can you do about it? </span><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>The first thing is what he calls PALlIATION.</strong> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is where you work to change your inadequacies. If you look at all of those examples where you can feel shame above, you’ll see that you’re damning yourself for one inadequacy or another – you’re not good enough to be loved, you’re not good enough to achieve. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So you can work on these inadequacies. You can diet, you can exercise, you can discipline yourself, you can practice things like sports or studying. You can try to improve yourself aesthetically, you can go in for all kinds of self-actualization. Or you can do what he suggests in the Guide For Rational Living, go get yourself a vital absorbing interest. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In other words, you can work your ass off at taking those inadequacies and changing them and then you’ll feel less shame. But this is palliative because you still have the general philosophy, “But suppose tomorrow I fall on my face again and I stop dieting or the exercise that gives me these great muscles? Then back to shamehood and shithood go I.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So that wouldn’t work very well. And you’d end up working your whole life with these palliative methods because you have so many possibilities of things you might be inadequate at. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">So the next thing people turn to are DIVERSIONS</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These too are palliations but instead of being fairly constructive like the diet and the exercise, which could do you a lot of good, even if you had your feelings of shame, diversions try to keep you from thinking how inadequate you are or what a shit you are for being inadequate. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Diversion techniques range from relaxation techniques, meditation, yoga, getting very busy (one of the oldest techniques in human history), positive thinking where by you pick an inadequacy and say “Day by day, in every way I’m getting better and better and better at lasting longer in bed,” and you can convince yourself that you’re very good at it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Or you could use calming, imaginative techniques. So whenever you get anxious about being inadequate about something and you feel ashamed of your inadequacies, you picture some calming scene as they do in psycho-synthesis and some other therapeutic techniques and this would divert you. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And the trouble with all these again is that they’re diverting, palliative, they’ll temporarily get you away from feeling that you’re not doing as well as you could and should do. But sooner or later, you’re not gonna relax forever and you’re not gonna stand on your head in a yoga position forever so you come back to the real world and you have plenty of time on the subway or elsewhere to be un-relaxed and back to the shame. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So they don’t work very well. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Another technique that’s a little better because it’s not quite as palliative is to question one of the assumptions you have about shame. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And the first assumption to question is that “You’re doing this thing badly or wrongly.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">That’s not always a good assumption because sometimes there no evidence to prove it right. You could say for example, “I masturbate all the time, 20 times a week or something like that, and that’s <em>bad</em>!” But that would be an assumption. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Not that you masturbate 20 times a week. You get evidence of that. But that it’s <em>bad</em> is just an assumption. And then you could be ashamed of doing that bad thing. But you can check a lot of the so-called facts that you’re assuming and see that they aren’t facts. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">For example, lots of people feel shame about thoughts they have. These could be non-sexual or sexual thoughts. And the thoughts may be very bizarre, you could really think of crazy fantasies while you’re fucking or while you’re masturbating or something like that and say, “OH MY GOD, what a bizarre fantasy! How awful!”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But in this disputing technique, you’d ask the question of . . .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“Why is it such a bizarre fantasy? </span><span style="font-size: small;">Fantasies very frequently are bizarre. Really, doesn’t the person next door and the person on the side of me have fairly similar fantasies at times? They may not admit it but they do.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So you can question whether your fantasies are really <em>bad</em> which is your assumption – immoral, bad, no-good. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Whether our other non-sexual ones, for example, you may have evil thoughts, you may think of killing your sainted mother (by the way, this got a laugh from the crowd). </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, is that a bad thought? It might or may not be. No if you kill your mother, that’s not the greatest thing in the world and people take a dim view of this but why is it so bad to have the thought of killing your mother and what honest person does not have the thought of killing his mother. Very few (once again, more chuckles from the audience). </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>What’s Wrong With Being Butt Ass Nekked? </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Or you might think that certain acts like nudity are <em>bad</em> because it’s shameful to be nude. If he took his clothes off there for example, he’s supposed to be ashamed. Actually he wouldn’t be but the cops might object so he wouldn’t do it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He guarantees he wouldn’t feel ashamed if he did do it because he questions the thought of “What’s wrong with me being nude right here at this time? It’s a little awkward, a little more odd if all of us were, but the state of New York says that if three people in a group take their clothes off at once it’s lewd and obscene so that aids in making it more odd. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But really, despite the sacred state of New York’s law, what would be so bad if they all took their clothes off? In fact, they might think of some good things that might happen if they did. But what would be bad? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So this is just an <em>assumption </em>that that would be a <em>bad </em>act. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Or suppose you have an idiosyncrasy and you go around eating goat testicles all day. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, not very many Americans go around eating goat testicles all day. The normal thing to believe is, “Oh My God! Because I have this idiosyncrasy, there’s something wrong with that which means there’s something bad about me.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But what’s wrong with it? It’s just a peculiarity. It’s odd, it’s different, but why is it wrong? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well let’s take a sexual deviation. Let’s say you that instead of screwing, you go around obsessed with peeping all the time. You’re not screwing -  you’re peeping. That’s a deviation, a abnormality that you can arrested for but when you say it’s <em>wrong</em> you’re not saying it’s peculiar or it’s self-defeating, which it is if you’re doing it compulsively but you’re implying that it’s immoral or wicked. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, you could ask, “What’s wrong with peeping? If I really pulled up peoples shades, that would be an infringement on their privacy, but what if I only go around peeping into shades that are open? Then what’s wrong with that? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can question whether this act is really bad or not. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can do this with any kind of abnormality. You might have lots of them. He has diabetes for example. This is a physical abnormality that some people are ashamed of. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, he doesn’t run around cheering that he’s got diabetes, but on the other hand he figures, “Shit, so I have diabetes. It’s a pain in the ass,” But he doesn’t view it as some terrible abnormality, something rotten to be ashamed of about himself. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So in this method of disputing, you would take any act that you are labeling or calling <em>bad, wrong, unethical, immoral, wicked, nasty, impure, indecent </em>and <a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/are-you-the-victim-of-opinionated-insults-subjective-criticisms/">you’d question why the act, not you, fits any of these labels.</a> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">When you do this, and it’s amazing how few people do this, you come up with the answer, “It isn’t. It’s defined by certain people in certain cultures as wrong or nutty or evil, but that doesn’t mean that it is because people for centuries or years have thought about it that way.”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And then some of the things that you do/have that are r</span><span style="font-size: small;">eally disadvantageous, because <em>wrong</em> includes being disadvantaged, you blame yourself for. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Say for example you’re your hand was crippled in an ugly manner. Well, you could easily make yourself ashamed of that because it is an abnormality and it is ugly and it is something that’s wrong with your hand. It’s different from most other people’s and it’s a disadvantage because suppose you only have two fingers instead of five, you can’t do certain things so you’re disadvantaged. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Now another technique for getting rid of shame which is still mild and palliative, but it still works to a large degree, is to ASK YOURSELF, “Why am I responsible for certain aspects of my disadvantages? </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Some of them you are. You’re responsible if you go out and get drunk and get into an accident because you’re drunk, you’re responsible because you had a choice of being drunk or not being drunk. The drink didn’t make you drunk. You drank the drink so you’re responsible. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But take things like being crippled. You could ask yourself, “Why am I responsible for this?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So, you were born crippled or you got into an accident one day when you were younger and this crippled you. And you can do this about lots of things, various weaknesses that you have that you’re not responsible for. Some of them you obviously are but suppose you’re physically weak. Maybe you were born this way or fed very poorly when you were young and now you’re physically weak. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Suppose you’re low sexed which practically everybody feels ashamed of in this crazy society. Well how are you responsible for that? Your hormones just may be below par. Or something else may be physically wrong with you and therefore you don’t lust after many people as I do. So, you don’t. That’s not necessarily good that I lust after more, it might be more frustrating. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But let’s suppose it’s an advantage for me to have a higher sex drive than you. Well, why are you responsible for your lower sex drive? And the answer is frequently, “You’re not.”</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">Or suppose you’re a male and you have small sex organs. </span><span style="font-size: small;">Or, a female with large sex organs. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Then are you responsible for that? It might not be desirable to certain people and they might not like you for having those organs. Most people wouldn’t really give a shit as long as you had fingers and a tongue to supplement those organs. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But some people would so it could be chalked up as a disadvantage. But that’s all it is and you’re not responsible. That’s the way you are. Go try to build yourself a bigger penis. (He said this back in 1972 and it got a laugh out of the crowd because it was impossible. It would do the same today because of all the cream dreams that’re sold to guys (pumps, pills, implants, etc.) in an attempt to make this possible. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Or suppose you’re incapable. Say you’re un-artistic for example. You might practice the piano or the violin for 13 ½ years and still sound like his sister still sounds which is very bad. So you’re incapable. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>You were probably born with that incapacity or acquired it an early age. Why are you responsible for it? </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Or suppose you’re forgetful. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">A lot of people come to him and complain that they’re forgetful. So he says to them, “YOU’RE FORGETFUL!?! You should see me. I just saw a show on TV the other day and when it was getting to the final scene I remembered that about a year ago I’d seen the same god damn film. So you think you’re forgetful. Why do you think I have these thousands of notes that I keep ripping out of paperback books and magazines. Because I’m forgetful.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But he’s not ashamed of this. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He acknowledges that that’s too bad because he used to be less forgetful in his youth but now he forgets more. Well, tough. Now what can he do to make up for this? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You could be poor at reading or math or other stuff like this, which are real disadvantages but instead of feeling ashamed you’d say, “Why am I responsible for this low level of capability in this area? Tough. That’s the way it is. Now how can I be happy with it?” </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">The Main Attack On Shame That He Advocates . . . </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These are philosophic attacks. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The essence of shame is not that you’re doing poorly at something, but that you think you MUST be doing well – you MUST win various people’s love and approval and you MUST achieve notably in anywhere from one to hundreds of fields. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>The philosophic way to attack this is to first be ANTI-PERFECTIONISTIC</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is accepting the fact that you are error prone, you are a fallible, fucked up human like the rest of us, and you will always have inadequacies. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You’re never going to be perfect. No human being as we know, was ever perfect aside from Jesus and look what happened to him. (Once again, huge laugh from the crowd)</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So you have very little chance of really achieving perfection and you better ask yourself, “Why The Fuck Do I Have To Be Perfect?” about 3-4 million times until you can consistently get the answer . . . </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I don’t have to be anything! Maybe it would be nice if I were perfect because I can do all kinds of things of which I can’t now, but maybe it wouldn’t even be nice because who the hell would be my friends, lovers and country men if I was perfect? It might be a very lonely experience. But even if I could prove that it would be nice, how the hell am I gonna make it so?”</span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;"><strong>Along with this is what he calls ANTI-SELF RATING </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Shame is a result of ego – self rating – saying “Because my performance is good, I am good,” or “Because my performance stinks, I am no good.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">What you can practice here is first, ANTI-EGO – “Why do I have to prove myself?” And that not only means why must you always do well, and why are a shit if you don’t well, but also something goes along with it, which few people want to practice it, is ANTI-PRIDE. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">The opposite of shame is pride. If you don’t give up pride, you’re not going to give up shame. </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Pride means, “I did xyz, whatever the hell it was, well, beautifully, marvelously, and therefore I am noble, god-like, and pure. I am a great person.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Now while you’re indulging in this pride, you’ll inevitably go to the other side and when you do xyz badly, and the chances are you will from time to time, then back to shit hood go I. That’s what you’re going to feel. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So unless you give up pride, with ego, not just the self downing part, you’re not going to be solving your problem successfully. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Now some people ask, “Well, if I give up pride, then why shouldn’t I just sit on my ass all day long and not do anything?”</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The answer is, you better teach yourself to achieve for the right reasons. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Shame doesn’t stem from the desire to achieve, but rather the <em>need</em>, the feeling that you <em>have to</em> achieve and if you don’t, you’re no good. If you give up that <em>have to,</em> you can go right to a desire for achievement . . .</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">“I’d <em>like to</em> achieve X. I’d <em>like to</em> be an individual who gets through school and makes $20 million dollars, who fucks continuously and is able to keep it up, who does A, B, C, D etc. etc. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But I prefer to do these things for enjoyment, to have a more pleasurable existence. NOT to prove myself, not to show that I’m a worthwhile human being on the one hand or that I’m not a turd on the other hand. I want to do it for the right reasons and that is to HAVE A FUCKING BALL! To enjoy myself. That’s what I’m here for. Not to achieve for achievement, not to achieve for ego, not even to achieve in a sense for me because lots of people say, ‘I want to achieve for myself,’ and that’s okay in a sense but it has connotations and overtones which are dangerous. But I want to achieve so that I can ENJOY, have a better existence. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And not to prove that when I finally get off this earth that I was worthy of living. I don’t <em>have</em> to do anything like that.”</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Then the other side of the coin, along with the anti-ego goes the ANTI-SHIT HOOD</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">No Self-Downing Of Any Kind – no matter how badly you do, no matter how poorly you are, no matter how many people do not care for you or think you are the worst individual they ever met, you never down you. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You do down your acts and you try to get feedback as much as you can because you will act badly and it would be advantageous and desirable to act well. But you never down you because you acted badly. No self-downing, no self-blame OF ANY KIND.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You condemn, if you wish to do so, the acts, you never condemn you, and then you do the exact same for others. You don’t damn other human beings. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you don’t like their performances, you tell them that you don’t like them. If they’re you’re boss, you may say this tactfully. If it’s your wife or spouse, you may say it un-tactfully. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But you do let other people know about their performances and why they are performing poorly because sometimes they don’t understand that it is a poor performance so you better explain, “I don’t like you doing X because X causes so much trouble to you, to me, etc.” so you give them reasons. </span></p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff00; font-size: small;">But you never down them because if you down them as humans, you really think of them as contemptible, as flawed, as vermin, as scum bags, then sooner or later you’ll also tend to down yourself in the same manner. That isn’t cool. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">No Downing Of Any Human Being What So Ever For Any Reason What So Ever</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is a hard line to follow and he can’t say that he always follows it himself. He practically never downs himself anymore, he’s not that crazy, but he does down other human beings. He’s still a damner to a certain degree, much less than he used to be. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">So he’s not telling you to follow his noble example because it’s not that noble. And he’s not telling you that you should never be angry, upset, resentful, furious, enraged, at other human beings. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Because if he told you that, you’d almost certainly become so from time to time and then you’ll say, “Ellis said I shouldn’t do this and I’m doing it, what a shit am I.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s just saying it would be better if you worked like hell against those negative feelings of damning other human beings and when you do damn other human beings, which you will, as he does from time to time, then you better come back to, “that was an error, not my feeling of displeasure, not the fact that he did various things wrong, but my damning of him was an error, now when am I gonna correct that error and get back to assessing this person’s performance, rather than this individual for his performance?” </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Accept Yourself Unconditionally</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You do this despite willful irresponsibility’s and unethical behavior. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">A lot of your acts are not willfully irresponsible or unethical, even when they harm other people, maybe you couldn’t help harming others or maybe you were born with some kind of abnormality so that you do harm others. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Suppose you have a very raspy voice. Some people don’t like Ellis’s voice. He was raised in the Bronx and sounds like it. And suppose your voice is worse than his and people cringe upon hearing the sound of your voice. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Well, you better not blame yourself because you might be able to change it by taking speech lessons or voice coaching, but it may be a function of your physiology and you’re gonna be stuck speaking that way. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You don’t have to assume responsibilities for lots of abnormalities and in-just behaviors that you do or ways that you bother others because that just happens to be the way you behave and you didn’t bear yourself and you didn’t rear yourself. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Maybe you did from the age of 12 on but you didn’t rear yourself early in life and you didn’t give yourself other biological factors so better not condemn yourself. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">But there are lots of things that you do do, and are doing now, and have done, that are irresponsible</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Some of them are in the past. Some of them are in the present. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s saying that you never have to condemn yourself, even for these willful irresponsibility&#8217;s (this looks weird but my spell check is saying this is the way it’s supposed to be :/ rather than irresponsibilities). </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These could be irresponsibility’s toward yourself or toward other human beings. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And you never blame, condemn, or do yourself in for lying – which is often unethical, smoking – which many people foolishly do, over-eating, stealing, goofing off, avoiding, sexual inexperience – which people condemn themselves for all the time despite their refusing to learn, and even murder. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He’s written a book on murder and he showed how murders are very disturbed people but even if you do the most heinous crimes, you never have to condemn yourself. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Philosophically you can always fully accept yourself, no matter what your behavior. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Aren’t There Positive Attributes Of Shame and Pride? </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Isn’t shame penalizing things that makes us do better than we would without it? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And the answer is yes and no because we could have those rewards, without the shame. For example, one belief is, “If I don’t do X, take care of my teeth, then I will get very rotten teeth, a ton of pain, etc. and therefore I’d better do it because it would be an advantageous thing to do. And if I do what would be better, that’s great.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But when shame comes in it transforms to . . .  “If I don’t take care of my teeth, I am a rotten PERSON.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you operate from the hypothesis that for not taking care of your teeth, you’re a rotten person, then how could a rotten person who’s so far avoided taking care of his teeth, because that’s what you usually become ashamed of after you’ve avoided it for awhile, how could this rotten person do a good deed by taking care of his teeth? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Won’t you then become obsessed with, “Oh what a rotten person I am, etc.”? </span><span style="font-size: small;">And where does this actually help you with your teeth? </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you just focused on the first part, then you don’t need the baggage of, <em>“I’m a shit for doing this act,”</em> in order to goad you into doing it. You don’t need it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think of if someone called someone else a nasty racial slur when they thought the other person wasn’t in the room, but they were actually right behind them and heard every word of what they said. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Wouldn’t the shame they’d feel make them think twice about doing that again? </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Yes, it may. It may not incidentally. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You may become so ashamed and think, “Oh my god, look what I did. I’m a real shit! I might as well go kill myself,” and then this person wouldn’t do it again, but it would be for the wrong reason. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He could get the same result by saying very vigorously, “That was a very irresponsible act! I am not a turd for doing that act. Therefore, since it was such an irresponsible act I am determined not to do it again. And this can lead to empowering behavior change. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Shame consists of two things: One – <em>“I am doing the wrong thing,”</em> for example dressing poorly to go on a job interview. Two – <em>“Therefore, I’m a piece of shit for doing it.” </em></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You only need to retain one of these two. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Yes, you are doing the wrong thing and therefore it’d be advisable to wear a different outfit or cut your hair if you know you’re not gonna get hired for having dread locks, not because you’re ashamed, but you do so purely because you want to bring advantage to yourself. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can get the same advantages <em>while</em> living in this crazy world with all of it’s conventions, <em>without </em>the shame as long as you face the fact that the conventions are there and that you can conform to them for <em>practical reasons, not because you would feel like a loser if you didn’t. </em></span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: small;">Can you still apologize without feeling ashamed? </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Yes, there’s nothing to prevent you from feeling sorrow without feeling self-downing. You can sorrowfully say, “I’m sorry I said that.” And you don’t have to feel like a turd in order to apologize. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Well That’s A Great Philosophy, How The Hell Am I Gonna Believe It?</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The answer is by thinking about it and thinking about it, and thinking about it and doing certain other things &#8211; emotive things and activity things.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One of the things you can do are what he calls <strong>Anti-Shame Exercises</strong>. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He used these with his individual clients because he’s found that the more he can convince people to do things that are shameful and ridiculous and see that after they’ve done so, the world doesn’t come to an end . . . the less shameful they feel about them because they get used to doing them. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Most people think, “If I do this shameful and asinine act, everyone’s gonna stare at me and hate me and think about me for the next 40 years.” They find that they’re lucky if they’re thought about for the next 40 minutes. The other people have their problems and they’re worried constantly about what you think about them. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">So he gives people a whole series of Anti-Shame Exercises and here’s a list of them that you run right out and do as soon as you’re done reading this . . . </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Now don’t do these in your office and don’t escalate them to the point where you’re getting arrested. Now, if you want to see that it’s not so shameful to have spent some time in jail, then go on ahead and deliberately get arrested. That could be one of your shame exercises. But he doesn’t necessarily recommend this. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">He recommends you do these exercise publically for the most part, in front of people who see you do it, and the more, the merrier. If you can do it at Yankee Stadium, that’d be great but if you don’t get that opportunity, pick any crowd you can get in front of. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #1:</strong><strong> Wear Conspicuous Buttons</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Something that says something like, “I FUCK”. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #2:</strong><strong> Wear Outlandish Clothes</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Now if you have a private practice, you wouldn’t necessarily do this at the office. But an example of this is wearing one blue stocking and one white stocking or something like that. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #3:</strong><strong> Do Strange Things </strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Whatever you or people around you would consider strange. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This goes without saying that what’s strange in a church isn’t so strange out in the Bronx. An example of this would be to wear a yarmulke to a Catholic church ceremony and going through all the catholic motions while there, instead of behaving as an outside observer.</span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #4:</strong><strong> Do Some Deliberate Troublemaking </strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Send back the soup you order at a restaurant five times, saying there’s something different wrong with it each time. Or, get store keepers to wait on you and deliberately don’t buy. Do trouble making things that people will get pissed off at you for. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Sacha Baron Cohen, the guy behind the fictional character “Borat” is legendary for doing this. He has a masters degree when it comes to being immune to shame as you’ll see in this clip here . . . </span></p><p><a href="http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com/blog/how-to-stubbornly-refuse-to-be-ashamed-of-anything/"><em>Click here to view the embedded video.</em></a></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #5:</strong><strong> Give Strong Dissenting Views</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #6:</strong><strong> Be Critical Of Other People</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Point out blatantly, things people are doing wrong. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The only way this works against you is you’re downing the person themselves vs. downing their behavior. Calling someone a dumb fuck is different than saying to them that their lack of attention in the moment caused a critical mistake and that you consider this behavior unacceptable. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #7:</strong><strong> Wear Odd Make Up</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Men can put on rouge and lipstick. Women can go around with poorly applied make up on. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #8:</strong><strong> Be Frankly Sexual</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You don’t have to screw anyone you don’t want to but say sexy things, especially if you’re a female, that you normally wouldn’t say. Go out and say something very sexy. If you can get away with it, do some nudity. This you gotta watch because the police take a dim view this. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #9:</strong><strong> Give Public Talks</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Especially if you’re terribly afraid to do so. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #10:</strong><strong> Go Out In Public With Bizarre Companions</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Albert walks down the street with his mother, who he considers to be very bizarre because she acts strangely and does weird things. Maybe you’ve got a mother you’ve been avoiding for years. Take her for a walk. </span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #11:</strong><strong> Go Places Alone</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">This is very important, especially for females. Pick something you would normally only do with other people, and it by yourself. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #12:</strong><strong> Come Late or Come Early To A Gathering</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #a60920;"><span style="font-size: large;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #13:</strong><strong> Be Conspicuous </strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">One guy I know does stuff like this ALL. THE. TIME. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">The other night he shot me a text that said something to the tune of . . . </span></p><p><em><span style="font-size: small;">“The bathroom attendant is looking at me weird. WTF!?! Hasn’t he ever seen someone wash their dick in the sink before?”</span></em></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #14:</strong><strong> Do Some Door To Door Campaigning</strong> <strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Especially for an unpopular cause. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #15:</strong><strong> Confess Your Weaknesses</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Publicly, whatever they may be. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #16:</strong><strong> Confess Your Weaknesses</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #17:</strong><strong> Deliberately Act Stupid</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Borat workout video here</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #18:</strong><strong> Set Yourself Up To Publicly Fail</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And make sure that everyone you know, knows it happened. Preferably get it on video for all to see. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Or, invite 20 people to your home and intentionally leave it sloppy. Don’t clean up beforehand. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #19:</strong><strong> Cry In Public</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #a60920;"><strong>Anti-Shame Exercise #20:</strong><strong> Scream In Public</strong></span></span></p><hr /><p>&nbsp;</p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These are just a few ideas of things you can do. The list can go on and on and on. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">What Are Some Other Methods That Aren’t Verbal Or Philosophic? </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Rational Emotive Imagery. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You pick something that you would feel ashamed of, think of the thing you would feel most ashamed of, like walking down the street naked or as a lot females may fear, going to the movies or a five star restaurant alone, or getting up in front of a crowd and stuttering and stammering and falling on your face. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think of anything to you that’s about the most shameful thing you can think of picture yourself, vividly fantasize yourself doing that shameful thing and the audience laughing, howling, ridiculing you, people nervously gawking, pointing and whispering to themselves and then laughing at their inside jokes at your expense. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can even accelerate this process by <em>exaggerating </em>the consequences of the shame. By fantasizing the extreme consequences like your dick actually being inverted into your body vs. just small, the ridiculousness of this can chip away at the shame. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And then, change your feelings. The normal feeling you’ll have when you do this, which you can test easily, is shame, embarrassment, humiliation and you can change that feeling to frustration, sorrow, regret, “I’m sorry I stuttered so badly in that talk but what’s so goddamn awful about it?” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Or, “It’s too damned bad that all those people think I’m crazy for walking down the street naked. It’s really unfortunate for them.” </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And really convince yourself with the feelings and the thoughts in your head and fantasy that this very shameful thing you’re doing has disadvantageous results, because usually it does, BUT it’s not the end of the world. It’s merely unfortunate and too damned bad.</span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Another thing you can do is think of some Risk-Taking things you can do</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">In his groups of patients, he gives them risk taking activities to do. And almost always what is called a risk in our society, is a shameful thing. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">People don’t usually mean by risk, something physically endangering – like picking a fight with a professional boxer and getting your ass knocked out. They think “I’ll pick a fight with a pro boxer and get my ass knocked out and everyone in the bar and everyone on youtube will see me get my ass knocked out and won’t that be shameful!”</span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">People are constantly worried about losing approval. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Think of things that are risky to you, not necessarily physically risky like playing chicken with diesels, and you’ll find that most of them most of them are rooted in shame. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Do some of these risk taking things. One for me is talking to strangers. Especially strangers that have boobs and vaginas attached to their bodies – doesn’t matter what age or what shape. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Another thing you can do is hang out with people who have little to no shame </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>An example of this would be people who chill at nudist camps.</strong> </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">They aren’t ashamed of their bodies and if you ever watch Real Sex on HBO, you’ve surely seen one of the episodes where they film at one of these places and you’ll see that 99% of the people at those camps <em>should</em> by societies standards, be very ashamed of their less-than-perfect physiques. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Or, if you can find a good one, go to an orgy. </strong></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">These people not only aren’t afraid of being naked in front of others &#8211; they aren’t ashamed of doing acts that people are normally ashamed of  like having sex in front of other people, having sex with the lights on, or even having sex with multiple partners. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Visit a commune</strong>. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">See how these people act much different than you do and that they get used to. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>Go to a group that asks you to reveal your feelings and let it all hang out</strong>. Where everybody does it. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">If you stay in these kinds of groups and cultivate companions, soon these activities chip away at your life-long shame wall you’ve built to protect you. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Operant Conditioning</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can take any act that you consider to be shameful, like wearing the button that says, “My name is chuck and I like to fuck” to the bar. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But suppose he gave you one of these assignments and you don’t do it? You know it’d be good for you to do but you just refuse to do so. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;"><strong>ONE, </strong>this is where you reinforce yourself by saying, “If I don’t wear that button to the bar for at least an hour today, I won’t allow myself to do something pleasurable like screw my wife, or listen to music, or talk to my friends. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">And <strong>TWO</strong>, I’ll make myself do something very <em>un-pleasurable</em> like clean the house or read a technical book, or do your taxes – something you’ve been putting off for weeks and weeks. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You can force yourself by these operant conditioning techniques to reinforce yourself for being brave and overcoming your cowardice. You can penalize and rough on yourself for refusing to break through and do what’s good for your soul. </span></p><p><strong><span style="color: #a60920; font-size: large;">Conclusion: </span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">You want to face the fact that you refuse to confront your shame minute by minute and use some of these techniques to theoretically, philosophically, and actively in practice, to fight this nutty shame, shame, shame, and finally you’ll end up as he’s trying to end up, very stubbornly refusing to be ashamed of any goddamn thing you can do or by any stretch of your imagination, think of doing. </span></p><hr /><p><span style="font-size: small;">That’s 7,853 words on the topic. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">That’s enough for the day, even though I’ve got a woman I want to refer to you who speaks to this topic from another angle. Some other time in the new future, I’ll direct you to her. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">But for now, go out and apply whatever you’re brave enough to in the moment from this list and feel free to report back to me here in the comments below, or in a private email to me, the results of your shame busting exercises. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Looking forward to hearing from you. <img class="wlEmoticon wlEmoticon-smile" style="border-style: none;" src="http://nerdone.speedymirror.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/wlEmoticon-smile.png?fb63ac" alt="personal improvement 3 "  title="How To Stubbornly Refuse To Be Ashamed Of Anything Photo" /></span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Talk soon, </span></p><p><span style="font-size: small;">Lewis LaLanne a.k.a. Note Taking Nerd #2 <strong>a.k.a.</strong> L.L. Cool Nerd </span></p><p>PS. 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