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Happy New Year! I come to you all the day after a super intense panic attack that occurred in CHURCH of all places. I will be OK! But I wanted you all to know that anxiety is real and it can come for you at any point. I have mine most often when I am feeling overwhelmed or out of control of a situation and with all that is going on in my world and the world around me, it was almost http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2020/01/i-havent-written-much-of-anything-but-i.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-5256711575766691531Fri, 28 Jun 2019 15:27:00 +00002019-06-28T10:27:41.484-05:00 I am going to keep this brief because I am tired of having to say this. We know it's #notallmen.  But your refusal to recognize and address the fact that there are so many men doing these things that MOST women have had similar experiences isn't really helping your "cause". Addressing the women who experience the issue and not the issue itself only proves that woman likely feel unsafehttp://bricooley.blogspot.com/2019/06/a-message-to-notallmen-brigade.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-6266829966014031119Fri, 26 Apr 2019 14:22:00 +00002019-04-26T09:31:51.687-05:00This is deeply personal and may be difficult for those dealing with reproductive issues to read, but here goes. My Eulogy for my Uterus. I have had a menstrual cycle since I was 11 years old. I have been suffering from debilitating cramps and bleeding through my clothes since I was 15. In my 20s I woke up after passing out on the floor of my bathroom on day 1 of my period. I've been on every http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2019/04/mourning-my-body.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-7793455602066921290Fri, 29 Mar 2019 14:19:00 +00002019-03-29T11:10:37.888-05:00 The outrage about Cardi is based in misogyny.   I'm not burying the lede here. I really want to end there. But I'll go on. Men have done Olympic gold medal level mental gymnastics attempting to equate her revelation to male celebrities accused of rape and I just cannot comprehend how and why they hate women THIS much. I was told that rap lyrics are fictional. Y'all, they http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2019/03/somethings-different.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-347647605406402756Fri, 01 Feb 2019 14:37:00 +00002019-02-01T09:37:58.725-05:00 I love myself more today than I have in years. Not that I didn't love myself before, but I didn't show myself enough grace for my mistakes while also committing myself to not making them in the same way again. So here, today, on this 1st day of February, I am in LOVE with me. This has been my affirmation for months now! It came to me from divine intervention (no longer calling anything a http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2019/02/guess-who-loves-you-more.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-8209248165438546441Fri, 04 Jan 2019 16:09:00 +00002019-01-04T11:10:18.634-05:00I was a mean girl. I expressed relational aggression in undue directions. I had an us vs. them mentality until I realized I didn't want to be an us... or a them... When I say I was a mean girl I mean like as recently as last year I was displaying tendencies of a mean girl: being nasty, manipulative, and exclusionary. Then one day, I realized I was being wack. I didn't even have any explanation http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2019/01/dondothis-confessions-of-mean-girl.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-7031553083622807147Fri, 28 Dec 2018 18:05:00 +00002018-12-28T13:06:37.088-05:002018 has taught me so very much! Mainly, it taught me to let stuff go! Things, people, places, ideas, concepts, people, norms, inhibitions, people... I have learned the art of letting things float away that don't mean me well. That includes people that call themselves my friends. I have started to advocate for myself in various spaces including speaking my mind to people and not really caring http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/12/2018-tho.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-3567193042106119711Thu, 29 Nov 2018 14:39:00 +00002018-11-29T09:39:13.626-05:00 Did you know that you don't have to be okay everyday? Did you know that pretending you are okay is not helpful or healthy? Did you know that when you are not okay you are not alone and that that that feeling of being alone is a whole entire lie? These are Bri facts based on my lived experience, observation and what God has downloaded into my spirit. But, look, if you are NOT okay, tell http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/11/i-am-not-okay-and-that-is-okay.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-6629809793579300178Fri, 05 Oct 2018 15:12:00 +00002018-10-05T10:16:32.659-05:00This is going to be brief. let me start by saying I have drastically reduced the foolishness in my life by swiping left MORE and unmatching QUICKLY! Since that time, things have been gravy. I won't be blogging about the good stuff until I am certain it's dope and not baking soda, so... in the meantime, here's my blurb about the cuffery some folks are attempting. If you thinkin about gettin that http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/10/cuffing-season-redux.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-7346922075854830276Fri, 14 Sep 2018 02:40:00 +00002018-09-14T06:42:12.536-05:00 So, before I begin, the answer to all of your "Girl, why?"s is "Because why not." The answer to all your "Girl, what?"s is "Chiiiiile, Iowno." So I was doing my dating app rotation after a particularly harrowing experience with a faceless man who solicited me on a dating app that apparently is teeming with ne'er-do-wells, degenerates and toothless male nurses. But thanks to that app I nowhttp://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/09/dontdothis-setup-stand-up-shut-up.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-6451571988594969086Fri, 07 Sep 2018 20:18:00 +00002018-09-07T15:23:27.868-05:00 Summer is over, y'all! Over the last few weeks my timeline has been full of pics of my people's kids with their adorable first day of school looks... Well, here is mine! I feel JUST like my man Rodney! I am nearing the end of my first quarter in my PhD program and I am asking myself "why is you doing this?" Then I picture the life I want to live int he next few years and get back to http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/09/back-to-skewl.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-565413443389557114Mon, 13 Aug 2018 17:38:00 +00002018-08-13T12:41:16.453-05:00ending relationshipsmental healthrantrelationshipstherapyzombiesHey, listen. First, let's agree The Walking Dead has been trash for several years. The plot is a mess & the zombies' actions are inexplicable and inconsistent. (remember that, it's important!) Now, let's talk about zombies. Relationship zombies. These are the people who come back from the dead after relationship ghosting (never calling or texting again after being serious for an extended http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/08/this-aint-walking-dead-sir.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-4156355441967429204Tue, 07 Aug 2018 15:47:00 +00002018-08-07T11:03:15.756-05:00 Y'all I'm a day late, but here we go... (All caps in this story are because I am, in fact, YELLING!)  You would think that with the last date I posted about and the story I am about to relay that I: A- am LYING... I can't blame you cuz if this stuff had not happened to me, I would think I was lying too! 2- would STOP going to this spot altogether... cuz PEOPLE! So here's the scene: http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/08/dontdothis-foot-and-furniture.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-1145098782091685152Fri, 20 Jul 2018 14:53:00 +00002018-07-20T09:53:39.627-05:00black lovecouthdatingdecorumrantY'all! I went on a date Sunday with a dude that flew in from the midwest. When he first reached out to me online it said he was in Baltimore which was already a "maybe" for me because me & men from Baltimore just shouldn't, EVER! I show his pic to a friend and she says she knows of him. She gives me his full name and I look him up on the 'Book and see that he is not in Baltimore at all. I http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/07/dont-do-this-detrimental-dating-decorum.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-2127808912208971989Fri, 06 Jul 2018 11:08:00 +00002018-07-06T06:18:21.944-05:00advocacyAlexandria Ocasio-Cortezblack womenharassmentmaxine waterstherese patricia okoumouwomen of colorTHANK YOU, Therese Patricia Okoumou! In an era of thumb thugging and social media activism, Therese put her body on the line. She kicked the Abolish ICE protest up a notch on July 4th and thousands (probably millions) missed the point. People admonishing her for disrupting people's good time pretending that the Statue of Liberty was still the beacon of hope in the harbor it used to be. As it http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/07/superhero-super-strength-super-over-it.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-7780465451592137401Fri, 15 Jun 2018 18:41:00 +00002018-06-15T13:41:47.089-05:00I have always felt that I have both the gift of discernment and can be quite intuitive as it relates to other people. I was always able to tell my friends upon meeting a new person: "I don't like them, not sure why." And later it would come out that the person was actually a pile of garbage wearing nice clothes. But for the life of me, I could not figure out why I couldn't use it on myself. As ithttp://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/06/discernment-intuition-self-sabotage-gi.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-219646300453954805Mon, 21 May 2018 12:16:00 +00002018-05-21T07:26:43.001-05:00anxietydepressionmental health awarenessrelationships I started a blog weeks ago called Blogging from a Good Place.... and never completed it for, well reasons. May is Mental Health Awareness month and I am just acknowledging that I spent the first half of this month unaware of my mental health. *sigh* I have fallen into the social media trap of making things look good. Even my sadness had hope. But that is not always the case. I was http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/05/19-days-how-my-cable-box-outed-my.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-2080743206125435411Fri, 04 May 2018 14:52:00 +00002018-05-04T09:52:21.874-05:00Y'all I wanna cry! via GIPHY It's coming today, I can feel it. Life just trudges along and sometimes it draaaaags you with it. All your worry and second-guessing and uncertainty and exhaustion. You have to just believe that it'll be all good in the end. But your plan isn't always God's plan and God's plan can seem convoluted just when you think you have it figured out. Jeremiah 29:11 says "Forhttp://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/05/still-tired.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-7620708378684803564Fri, 06 Apr 2018 14:59:00 +00002018-04-06T09:59:50.238-05:00apologiesrelationshipsself-awarenesssorryThe great Peter Cetera and David Foster penned a song for the band Chicago called "Hard to Say I'm Sorry" in which he expresses regret and promises to love, but admits it was hard for him to say those words. He even says that he really wants to say "I'm sorry". But he doesn't ever truly apologize. When you say, "I'm sorry" to my friend's mom, she says, "Don't be sorry, be better." It may seem http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/04/apologizin-is-hard-to-do.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-8043011954779663133Fri, 16 Mar 2018 15:10:00 +00002018-03-16T10:10:14.617-05:00angry black womanblack womenburnoutrantvacationI'm tired, y'all... I need a vacation. from: http://clutchmagonline.com/2016/01/open-thread-do-you-ever-feel-tired-of-being-black/ I've been so busy doing so much for so long... I haven't even posted a new blog. But I have got to get back to it. So here's my beef today. I am tired of feeling like I have to defend everything anti-Black & everything misogynistic & everything dumb, http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/03/black-woman-burn-out.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-8342457989153861203Tue, 27 Feb 2018 15:16:00 +00002018-02-27T10:16:41.382-05:00anti-blackhumorjoypro-blackrantwoke Hey, y'all! Let me start this off by saying I don't cuss people out no more. (Thank God for Jesus!) These days I just hold up a mirror until they get mad at their own reflection. Therefore, if you feel called out by this post... *hands you a mirror* Now, with that being said let me say this: Some of y'all are too woke! You are so woke and pro-black that you're anti-black. You want http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/02/dont-do-this-pro-black-insomnia-or-too.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-1141944632539346346Tue, 20 Feb 2018 13:51:00 +00002018-02-20T08:51:56.507-05:00Africablack pantherblack womenwakandaFirst of all let me say now, this is NOT a think piece.... There are ENOUGH of those going around & frankly I'm over it. EVERYTHING is problematic if you use a comb with fine enough teeth. I'm not here for none of that though. I saw Black Panther 3 times- Thursday, Saturday and Monday! Each time I saw something different. This is my SHORT list of things I got from Black Panther. I am a http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/02/wakanda-forever-black-panther-list.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-3971506279922016615Fri, 09 Feb 2018 17:06:00 +00002018-02-09T12:18:22.158-05:00 This is only partially political... but it will be brief. I have said before I am pro-mind-your-business. In this current climate, people just want to be left alone. In particular, the people that are not harming anyone. But EVERY DAY, this administration seems to pick on another group minding their business and it's weighing on me. I am a live and let live type of person. If what someone ishttp://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/02/the-unbearable-heaviness-of-being.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-2263659729332170172Fri, 02 Feb 2018 15:27:00 +00002018-02-02T10:27:33.182-05:001 Corinthiansafrican proverbhealinglovemusiq soulchildself-careself-lovewisdom People often confuse conceit and arrogance with love for self. I know I'm not perfect but I know that my love for myself and others is real, true and pure. When I love you there is nothing anyone can do about it, not even me. I love from a place I don't even understand all the time. But I allow love to lead me.  Some people who have never understood love think it's a bad word that leads tohttp://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/02/who-do-you-love-are-you-for-sure.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37021420.post-7123424379398141360Fri, 26 Jan 2018 17:14:00 +00002018-01-26T12:15:00.610-05:00datinghumorhypocrisyranttinderveganwoke HEY, y'all! via GIPHY I am a year older since the last time I blogged. I have celebrated my mama, my grandmama and myself since my last blog.  I've been up and down the mid-atlantic, but now I'm back. This one's a humorous one because I want y'all to know, I'm still funny, ok?  Enjoy this terrible tale of terrifying treachery.... So, I'm in between "thangs" right now. And in that http://bricooley.blogspot.com/2018/01/dont-do-this-vegan-venom-white-wokeness.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Bri C)0