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		<description><![CDATA[You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit. Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;">You’ve seen MVPs on camera after nearly every winning series say, “It’s the team. It’s the fans. The coach was great. And, the real credit goes to the naysayers who really motivated me! But, me? Aw shucks. No. But, thank you, Mom!”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Is this any way to build your career? Can you be your own talent manager if you won’t acknowledge the talent? Is there really no “I” in team? Can you constantly be looking out for your co-workers, administrative assistant, staff, vendors, and your boss? Can you share all your resources with abandon, including the credit you’ve earned, and still have enough juice to make your way?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">There is a “me” in team, if you work the letters a bit. As a career coach, I recommend you <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>learn to take credit as much as you learn to share it</strong></span>. And, be careful what you give away, because your false sincerity – much less your resentment about the lack of regard or that bonus you thought you deserved – will drive opportunities and people away from you.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">A more balanced approach is the only way to keep your career on track, according to <a href="http://www.giveandtake.com" target="_blank" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.giveandtake.com?referer=');">Adam Grant, author of <em>Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success</em></a>. It’s great to be a “giver,” just make sure the recipients of your generosity are giving back in equal measure. They might not give back to you directly – but make sure they are passing on your acts of kindness, generosity and encouragement.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Grant isn’t promoting a me-first, only me, and more about me philosophy. He notes that some of the great givers including philanthropists like Jon Huntsman, Senior and Richard Branson manage their generosity.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">So, make a plan to dole out your credit, appreciation and other bounty appropriately. And, make sure your career strategy is like a good financial one: pay yourself first.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Your LinkedIn profile and  resume may soon disappear or diminish in importance when it comes to  recruiters finding you and approaching you with a great job offer.  There’s something called Big Data that may supplant any other approach  to matching the perfect job with you.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;">You’ve seen MVPs on camera after nearly every winning series say, “It’s the team. It’s the fans. The coach was great. And, the real credit goes to the naysayers who really motivated me! But, me? Aw shucks. No. But, thank you, Mom!”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Is this any way to build your career? Can you be your own talent manager if you won’t acknowledge the talent? Is there really no “I” in team? Can you constantly be looking out for your co-workers, administrative assistant, staff, vendors, and your boss? Can you share all your resources with abandon, including the credit you’ve earned, and still have enough juice to make your way?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
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<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Grant isn’t promoting a me-first, only me, and more about me philosophy. He notes that some of the great givers including philanthropists like Jon Huntsman, Senior and Richard Branson manage their generosity.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Near the end of two days teaching the Personal Branding Boot Camp at UCLA last weekend, I had to break bad news to my students.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;">You’ve seen MVPs on camera after nearly every winning series say, “It’s the team. It’s the fans. The coach was great. And, the real credit goes to the naysayers who really motivated me! But, me? Aw shucks. No. But, thank you, Mom!”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Is this any way to build your career? Can you be your own talent manager if you won’t acknowledge the talent? Is there really no “I” in team? Can you constantly be looking out for your co-workers, administrative assistant, staff, vendors, and your boss? Can you share all your resources with abandon, including the credit you’ve earned, and still have enough juice to make your way?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">There is a “me” in team, if you work the letters a bit. As a career coach, I recommend you <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>learn to take credit as much as you learn to share it</strong></span>. And, be careful what you give away, because your false sincerity – much less your resentment about the lack of regard or that bonus you thought you deserved – will drive opportunities and people away from you.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">A more balanced approach is the only way to keep your career on track, according to <a href="http://www.giveandtake.com" target="_blank" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.giveandtake.com?referer=');">Adam Grant, author of <em>Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success</em></a>. It’s great to be a “giver,” just make sure the recipients of your generosity are giving back in equal measure. They might not give back to you directly – but make sure they are passing on your acts of kindness, generosity and encouragement.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Grant isn’t promoting a me-first, only me, and more about me philosophy. He notes that some of the great givers including philanthropists like Jon Huntsman, Senior and Richard Branson manage their generosity.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">So, make a plan to dole out your credit, appreciation and other bounty appropriately. And, make sure your career strategy is like a good financial one: pay yourself first.</p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 17 Apr 2013 15:42:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[A sponsor is a mentor on steroids. A mentor gives you advice, encouragement and direction. A sponsor advocates for you. Or, to use Sheryl Sandberg’s term – your sponsor “leans in” for you.  Your sponsor doesn’t just help you the way a mentor would by making a  few calls, helping you prepare for [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;">You’ve seen MVPs on camera after nearly every winning series say, “It’s the team. It’s the fans. The coach was great. And, the real credit goes to the naysayers who really motivated me! But, me? Aw shucks. No. But, thank you, Mom!”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Is this any way to build your career? Can you be your own talent manager if you won’t acknowledge the talent? Is there really no “I” in team? Can you constantly be looking out for your co-workers, administrative assistant, staff, vendors, and your boss? Can you share all your resources with abandon, including the credit you’ve earned, and still have enough juice to make your way?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">There is a “me” in team, if you work the letters a bit. As a career coach, I recommend you <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>learn to take credit as much as you learn to share it</strong></span>. And, be careful what you give away, because your false sincerity – much less your resentment about the lack of regard or that bonus you thought you deserved – will drive opportunities and people away from you.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">A more balanced approach is the only way to keep your career on track, according to <a href="http://www.giveandtake.com" target="_blank" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.giveandtake.com?referer=');">Adam Grant, author of <em>Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success</em></a>. It’s great to be a “giver,” just make sure the recipients of your generosity are giving back in equal measure. They might not give back to you directly – but make sure they are passing on your acts of kindness, generosity and encouragement.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Grant isn’t promoting a me-first, only me, and more about me philosophy. He notes that some of the great givers including philanthropists like Jon Huntsman, Senior and Richard Branson manage their generosity.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">So, make a plan to dole out your credit, appreciation and other bounty appropriately. And, make sure your career strategy is like a good financial one: pay yourself first.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[It’s simple to get the right  offer. Literally. You must make it simple for us to find you, get to  know you, invite you to interview and finally, make the offer. That means, you are:
Simple to understand.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;">You’ve seen MVPs on camera after nearly every winning series say, “It’s the team. It’s the fans. The coach was great. And, the real credit goes to the naysayers who really motivated me! But, me? Aw shucks. No. But, thank you, Mom!”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Is this any way to build your career? Can you be your own talent manager if you won’t acknowledge the talent? Is there really no “I” in team? Can you constantly be looking out for your co-workers, administrative assistant, staff, vendors, and your boss? Can you share all your resources with abandon, including the credit you’ve earned, and still have enough juice to make your way?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
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<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Grant isn’t promoting a me-first, only me, and more about me philosophy. He notes that some of the great givers including philanthropists like Jon Huntsman, Senior and Richard Branson manage their generosity.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Doing a small amount of work every day to make progress on a large project is a simple and easy way to succeed.  You might be working on something straightforward like an executive  briefing you are preparing to present in a week’s time. You might have a  larger outcome in mind, like [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;">You’ve seen MVPs on camera after nearly every winning series say, “It’s the team. It’s the fans. The coach was great. And, the real credit goes to the naysayers who really motivated me! But, me? Aw shucks. No. But, thank you, Mom!”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Is this any way to build your career? Can you be your own talent manager if you won’t acknowledge the talent? Is there really no “I” in team? Can you constantly be looking out for your co-workers, administrative assistant, staff, vendors, and your boss? Can you share all your resources with abandon, including the credit you’ve earned, and still have enough juice to make your way?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">There is a “me” in team, if you work the letters a bit. As a career coach, I recommend you <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>learn to take credit as much as you learn to share it</strong></span>. And, be careful what you give away, because your false sincerity – much less your resentment about the lack of regard or that bonus you thought you deserved – will drive opportunities and people away from you.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">A more balanced approach is the only way to keep your career on track, according to <a href="http://www.giveandtake.com" target="_blank" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.giveandtake.com?referer=');">Adam Grant, author of <em>Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success</em></a>. It’s great to be a “giver,” just make sure the recipients of your generosity are giving back in equal measure. They might not give back to you directly – but make sure they are passing on your acts of kindness, generosity and encouragement.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Grant isn’t promoting a me-first, only me, and more about me philosophy. He notes that some of the great givers including philanthropists like Jon Huntsman, Senior and Richard Branson manage their generosity.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">So, make a plan to dole out your credit, appreciation and other bounty appropriately. And, make sure your career strategy is like a good financial one: pay yourself first.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Stacy Kramer’s TED Talk on the gift of surviving cancer is an extraordinary story about living and not dying. In a HuffPo  editorial, she describes her brain tumor as an unexpected gift. She  compares it to the uncertain, rocky road of disadvantaged students.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;">You’ve seen MVPs on camera after nearly every winning series say, “It’s the team. It’s the fans. The coach was great. And, the real credit goes to the naysayers who really motivated me! But, me? Aw shucks. No. But, thank you, Mom!”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Is this any way to build your career? Can you be your own talent manager if you won’t acknowledge the talent? Is there really no “I” in team? Can you constantly be looking out for your co-workers, administrative assistant, staff, vendors, and your boss? Can you share all your resources with abandon, including the credit you’ve earned, and still have enough juice to make your way?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">There is a “me” in team, if you work the letters a bit. As a career coach, I recommend you <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>learn to take credit as much as you learn to share it</strong></span>. And, be careful what you give away, because your false sincerity – much less your resentment about the lack of regard or that bonus you thought you deserved – will drive opportunities and people away from you.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">A more balanced approach is the only way to keep your career on track, according to <a href="http://www.giveandtake.com" target="_blank" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.giveandtake.com?referer=');">Adam Grant, author of <em>Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success</em></a>. It’s great to be a “giver,” just make sure the recipients of your generosity are giving back in equal measure. They might not give back to you directly – but make sure they are passing on your acts of kindness, generosity and encouragement.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Grant isn’t promoting a me-first, only me, and more about me philosophy. He notes that some of the great givers including philanthropists like Jon Huntsman, Senior and Richard Branson manage their generosity.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Do you know this person? He has one  idea. It might have been a good idea awhile back. It might be a  reasonable place to begin thinking about solving a problem. But, when  you boil it down, one idea makes for lousy problem-solving. It makes for  a lousy workplace. That one [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
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<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[How dare Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer, a new mother for goodness sake, force employees to come to work! How dare she want employees to see each other! What could be good about people who work in the same company making eye contact? Shaking hands? Exchanging a fist bump?
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;">You’ve seen MVPs on camera after nearly every winning series say, “It’s the team. It’s the fans. The coach was great. And, the real credit goes to the naysayers who really motivated me! But, me? Aw shucks. No. But, thank you, Mom!”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Is this any way to build your career? Can you be your own talent manager if you won’t acknowledge the talent? Is there really no “I” in team? Can you constantly be looking out for your co-workers, administrative assistant, staff, vendors, and your boss? Can you share all your resources with abandon, including the credit you’ve earned, and still have enough juice to make your way?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">There is a “me” in team, if you work the letters a bit. As a career coach, I recommend you <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>learn to take credit as much as you learn to share it</strong></span>. And, be careful what you give away, because your false sincerity – much less your resentment about the lack of regard or that bonus you thought you deserved – will drive opportunities and people away from you.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">A more balanced approach is the only way to keep your career on track, according to <a href="http://www.giveandtake.com" target="_blank" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.giveandtake.com?referer=');">Adam Grant, author of <em>Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success</em></a>. It’s great to be a “giver,” just make sure the recipients of your generosity are giving back in equal measure. They might not give back to you directly – but make sure they are passing on your acts of kindness, generosity and encouragement.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Grant isn’t promoting a me-first, only me, and more about me philosophy. He notes that some of the great givers including philanthropists like Jon Huntsman, Senior and Richard Branson manage their generosity.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">So, make a plan to dole out your credit, appreciation and other bounty appropriately. And, make sure your career strategy is like a good financial one: pay yourself first.</p>
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		<title>Personal Brands: What Does Complaining Cost You?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 27 Feb 2013 16:16:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Jack is a contract worker in  one of my companies. Not a day has gone by in the last three months  where I haven’t heard him complain.
Jack is tall, muscular with a deep voice  and almost shocking good looks a la George Clooney. Jack’s a personal  trainer. We’re out in sunny [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;"><em><strong><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1479" style="margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px;" title="officeWorkersHighFive" src="http://www.nancerosenblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/officeWorkersHighFive.jpg" alt="officeWorkersHighFive" width="153" height="101" />You’ve heard there’s no “I” in team, right? Career coaches, bosses and the people you work with have told you never to take credit.</strong></em> Never say: “I did this project! Came up with the strategy, implemented the tactics and for sweeping up the tickertape (or shredded financial statements) from the parade, I’m happy to take credit for the success.”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: #;">You’ve seen MVPs on camera after nearly every winning series say, “It’s the team. It’s the fans. The coach was great. And, the real credit goes to the naysayers who really motivated me! But, me? Aw shucks. No. But, thank you, Mom!”</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Is this any way to build your career? Can you be your own talent manager if you won’t acknowledge the talent? Is there really no “I” in team? Can you constantly be looking out for your co-workers, administrative assistant, staff, vendors, and your boss? Can you share all your resources with abandon, including the credit you’ve earned, and still have enough juice to make your way?</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;"><em><strong>Being too trusting or too generous was considered a gender issue at one point in time. For example, Sheryl Sandberg wants women to lean in. My experience is that the gender issue is a bit dated when you look at the behavior of young managers today. After all, the Millennials made sure everyone in class got a valentine, there were enough cupcakes even for the losing team and no one needed a date for prom.</strong></em></p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">This fear of competition or perhaps appearing to be your own best spokesperson, have led the myth that the “I” word is a bad one. It’s not.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">There is a “me” in team, if you work the letters a bit. As a career coach, I recommend you <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>learn to take credit as much as you learn to share it</strong></span>. And, be careful what you give away, because your false sincerity – much less your resentment about the lack of regard or that bonus you thought you deserved – will drive opportunities and people away from you.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">A more balanced approach is the only way to keep your career on track, according to <a href="http://www.giveandtake.com" target="_blank" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.giveandtake.com?referer=');">Adam Grant, author of <em>Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success</em></a>. It’s great to be a “giver,” just make sure the recipients of your generosity are giving back in equal measure. They might not give back to you directly – but make sure they are passing on your acts of kindness, generosity and encouragement.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">Grant isn’t promoting a me-first, only me, and more about me philosophy. He notes that some of the great givers including philanthropists like Jon Huntsman, Senior and Richard Branson manage their generosity.</p>
<p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0.42em 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; text-align: justify; font-family: 'trebuchet ms', helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 18px; background-color: ;">So, make a plan to dole out your credit, appreciation and other bounty appropriately. And, make sure your career strategy is like a good financial one: pay yourself first.</p>
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