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10 Ways to Develop and Maintain a Positive Attitude in Job Search

2009-09-03T16:24:00.005+07:00

1. Believe that you are great

2. Understand that everything happens for a reason

3. Get some 3R (Rest, Relaxation, and Reflection)

4. Tell Youself (I can do 1t!)

5. Thing of Interviewing as a numbers game

6. Surround yourself with positive people

7. Don't take rejection personally

8. Treat Interviewing as a job

9. Focus on what you can control

10. Visualize success

Stop POSTPONING and DELAY! How??

2009-02-21T15:36:00.003+07:00

Why should it be done tomorrow if you can do it now? Why do you wait if there is nothing to be waited for? Ow….don‘t let yourself sinking in unimportant problems…

But let us ask each other whether there is someone who never postpone, hold over, or delay something, it is just rhetoric question which I’m sure the answer will be no one.

Sometimes our prior tasks become the victims of our postponing. This symptom can not be considered as normal if it affects many kinds of disadvantages and loss. This problem is called procrastination in psychology literatures.

Procrastination is a term to describe our habit on postponing something. From Oxford English Reference Dictionary second edition (rev.2003), procrastination is postponing without reason. While Charles E. Schaefer in How to Help Children with Common Problems it means avoidance or prevention towards someone or something.

It isn’t a problem about time management or laziness, but it shows the inefficient usage of time. There are a lot of causal factor:

Can not overcome frustration and uncomfortable feelings, while frustration is one of the consequences to go through this life. The procrastinator can not accept this.
Perfectionism. Someone who has driven himself into too excessive amount of perfect demand of his task to get other’s gratification.
Wrong conviction, about he or she can do better task if he or she work under pressure or close to the deadline.
Hampering job orientation. Divided into two first is oriented to action, who can easily move one to another task, and static oriented, who have negative perception of the task, bored with no reason, being frustrated, and feeling guilty.
Afraid to fail. This shows that a procrastinator more has less efforts than has less ability.
Self control. Procrastinator against impulsive behavior, but both of them are based on self control.
Care Pattern. Authoritative parents often make their children become procrastinators.

How to avoid and control this???

Stop thinking negatively. Control your mind. If you find it difficult, stop the monologue conversation in your mind, find another easier thing that you can do first.
Make a realistic aim. Postponing can happen if you goal is too ‘tremendous’ and the way to get that is difficult to be through. It is better to make specific plan to determine where and when, and make it step by step.
Be selective. If you are a perfectionist, do the most important thing, be selective.
Arrange time to get rest.
Get additional time. It is better to give additional time for yourself to do something rather than do it fast under pressure.
Let yourself away from the wrong conviction. Work under pressure and close to the deadline is not good indeed. You can do better if you have arranged anything well.
Make yourself happy. Make yourself like what you do is better solution so that you don’t have to postpone any task, this is natural.
Make a daily journal. Make notes of what you postpone everyday and think whether you feel guilty or not. Write what is the cause in making you postpone it. Then ask yourself related to your notes.
Last effort: Ask any help from a professional.

Hope this can help you….

How to Forget What You Want to Avoid

2009-01-06T13:59:00.002+07:00

In my last article, I’ve shown you or tried to help you how to choose or select appropriate choices in your life, haven’t you read it?
I think it will be useful for you ^o^

But however, many of us must have spent their life for wrong choices,,
Some enjoy it; some regret it, and some wonder why they are trapped in such uneasy choices…

When we try to avoid or go away from such wrong choices, it won’t be easy for us right?!
Coz it is frequently for me in experiencing such situation…
Here I try to help you….
How to avoid or forget something you want to avoid because you have already realize that you are in wrong path and it is not easy for you to avoid that...

Let’s check this…
I’ve learnt this from a smoker…, who quits to smoke although he still known himself as a smoker…,
??!

Yeah.. this is true,,
His secret is that… He always postpone his activity of smoking til’ tomorrow…
Do you REALIZE that if tomorrow will ALWAYS COME it means that he won’t smoke anymore?

He just pretends that he can smoke or he will smoke on the next day, NOT TODAY…
Because there are always such situations that you will postpone your smoking right? Like when you were in Air-Conditioned room or etc…
Yes! It means you can do that!
Just postpone it everyday by thinking you can do it tomorrow…

How about other things?
This can be useful also…
For those who have broken heart, who wants to forget someone but it is so difficult…
Just thinking everyday that you can meet him or her tomorrow, and everything will be fine…
When those bad feelings are gone (feeling that you should forget them but you still want to meet them), you probably can really meet him or her, but without such uneasy feeling…
In case that we don’t have to cut good relation totally with anyone in this life…

Just considering that you have known your appropriate choices, so avoiding the wrong choices is not going to be a very big deal for you…

Although there is nothing that we can forget completely in this world as long as we live, at least you can take this as a worthy lesson of life that make you be more aware in facing similar problems…
You can do it as long you want to try, just postpone it! 

How to Select the Most Appropriate Choices in Your Life

2008-12-13T08:30:00.003+07:00

Do you realize that every moment you breathe-you live, you always meet choices?? Do you aware that even the simplest choices that you have taken affects the next seconds to your life?

Have you even regretted something that you have been decided? Well, these questions of course have reminded you that we can not avoid choices or take easy of every choice in life.

Choices are made and exist to be chosen.

And the choices for your life of every actions, faith to be believed, and deciding the next step are always in your hand, though the final decision as the result of your choices is always on God’s authority.

But how do we make the most right choices?

It is not decided by me of course..

I just want to help you to consider several aspects to make it…

Here we go..

First, Do not ever think simply of the possible results that might happen because of your choices and decisions.

But it doesn’t mean that you should be a paranoid about the worst probability. I know that you probably consider both of negative and positive sides of your decisions. Negative side which seems make disadvantages sometimes can bring advantages later, and positive side of your decision sometimes can bring disadvantages later also.

So how do we choose if we search these ‘possible results’ as we know that everything changes in some ways?

Just ask yourself what you would feel that any of those results will happen to you and the others who are involved. I believe that all human have a good sense deeply in their heart and mind, so I called this intuition. Intuition is better used with the logical thinking based on any facts that you have discovered. Logical thinking is better used with faith as guidance. So use all of them to choose something through ‘possible results’ consideration.

Next, consider what you really need. This aspect can not be abandoned since your choices may influence your whole life. You must ask yourself deeply about it, what exactly you need at that moment, next moment, and other times. Remember, first person who is affected by your decision is yourself, although the other’s roles may be related later and must be considered also.

Third, be stick to your plan for the future, aims, and goals as you have known what you really need and want. Stick to it as you deciding something. Whatever the obstacles that you might face, be sincere to your aims.

Last but not least, we should realize that however we try to make the most appropriate choices for our life, we have to do something in case that every of our efforts and calculations might be inappropriate. Remember that Who has the most authority about everything is Who create us. That’s why every human do prayer. So this last aspect of helping determine choices is your prayer to God who decides everything.

Good luck J Do not be afraid in making any wrong choices, but do not spend the rest of your life for those wrong choices. Do not let yourself sinking in them for too long.

Take a rest...

2008-11-26T09:40:00.006+07:00

Well, I've been gone lately...
This is what I called take a rest..
But somehow...
Take a more longer or too much rest means...you die..
I don't wanna die..
So I'll continue this path..
Keep in touch!! ^^

Well…as I told you that I’ve just taken too long rest…I definitely don’t want you to follow the way I do..

Every one needs rest of course…you, they, and me…just take a minute in your hectic days…just for releasing everything….all your worries, thought, problems….just put them somewhere where you can’t hear, see, and feel…just let yourself with yourself…on your own,,,, then ask yourself..

Well…as I told you that I’ve just taken too long rest…I definitely don’t want you to follow the way I do..

Every one needs rest of course…you, they, and me…just take a minute in your hectic days…just for releasing everything….all your worries, thought, problems….just put them somewhere where you can’t hear, see, and feel…just let yourself with yourself…on your own,,,, then ask yourself..
>

What probably will make you enjoy your life….
But it must be kept in mind that fake enjoyment which will bring negative effects for next days must be thrown away…hey…you know what I mean…

Just think about your hobbies, favorite entertainment that you will spend with…
It is ok to leave something heavy on your mind or something hard to do…IF only you have planned duration for you to take your rest…

Better suggestion lead to the total rest I mean you can have enough sleep at night or take a nap, just in case if you are too tired and any job can’t be handled and tolerated unless you take a rest….
The second better suggestion is that you have to spend some fixed time to have exercise,,,, just do any sport you like…ask you friends or some friends to accompany you for this fun body refresher… you do not to be afraid that sport will make you tired… I guarantee that you will start the next day with the new spirit when you have to be back to your hectic days… 

Still sad for The Lost….?Be Happy for What you have Had…!! ^o^

2008-04-07T10:57:00.004+07:00

I’m sure that each of you has been in lost for what you love and what you had…
It can be about your belongings, someone you love, self-esteem which you had, and other things of your own…
It seems that your happiness is taken away and everything which you have lost must be back to you otherwise you’ll ‘die’…
Wew,,, I know that’s kindda hard to let something or someone go away and it could no longer be with you…

But here,
I just want to show you that this thing you have lost does not require anymore tears and sadness…

Let’s take a piece of paper (or maybe more) and get yourself a pen…
You should write down in numbers of what you have recently..
Remember it must be COMPLETE, write down whatever things you have, ability, achievements, and everything..
You may confuse but you can start with everything you have on your own body; hair, eye, nose, mouth, etc and they are still works and looks perfectly….
Then, you have to look of ALL you ABILITIES starting from the basic things that as you remember the development process of an infant; walking, talking,……, operating computer, and I’m sure you have reach the number of 100 or more ‘til this step….
You may continue to write down about all relationship you have and the people who you can still interact with…starting from the names of your family members, friends, activity partners, business relations, etc…..
You probably have got the idea bout what I meant here…but then you can continue to write about ALL achievements you have had until now…like the previous step you should start with the very basic things,,,,,,

Let’s think for a while…with this list of what GOD has given to you…,do you still feel bad about one or some of them which must be crossed out from your list or taken away from your life?

Some of you may have reach the number of 500 or it could be more..
Then you can crossed out some numbers which you have lost recently…1?, 2?, or maybe 5 of them?
Then how many numbers are left?
And if you are still alive til tomorrow you probably need to add your list with something more…
Just be happy for what God has given to you and the lost won’t be any matter to you….
^^,

STARSCOPES 2008 continue........... ^^

2008-04-07T10:53:00.003+07:00

The following STARSCOPES of the year 2008 for CANCER, LEO, and VIRGO…

CANCER (Jun 21st-Jul20th)

The positive thing is you will be more discipline and be more organized this year, dear Cancer. You will be able to communicate something with more focus so any aspiration will be easier to be carried out. Cancer’s personality trait will be helpful to avoid clumsiness. The year of 2008 is the ideal time to realize your dreams. There will be prosperity of your carrier. You ability to control your emotion at work will be tested. It is better to get away of any confrontation with your relatives. Your business life will be more ‘bright’. There will be a chance to have any good relationship with experienced-talented people such as law expert, communication expert, government officers, foreign businessman, and any others. These relationships will affect your company’s development. Your finance will be good during this year, you have the possibility of getting promotion. You will have the chance of solving the family’s financial problem. For those who have your own family, just be patient and create more deep communication with the family members. For single cancer, there are some candidates of love-mate, whom you can meet in you travels, neighborhood, business circumstances, and others. Some of you are in secret-love relationship, be careful it may be no longer can be kept.

LEO (Jul 21st-Aug 21st)

This year of 2008 is the wonderful year for Leo. Success, luck, and expansion will be in your hand. You will increase your popularity and confidence. Your business last year has taught you about how important healthy living is. Some of you who want to move to a new place to live, and you will get the chance!. You do not have to worry much for your carrier this year. Interesting chances will be approached. They are not only promotion or getting higher salary, but also independency at work. You will have the opportunity to be an entrepreneur. Stability financial will be little interrupted with some unpredictable things. Just be prepared for the most unexpected situation by saving some money and cutting the less important budget. For you who expect the true love relationship, you don have to wait any longer. Your love-mate will soon bring you to her or his life and family. For the single, someone whom you were interested will approach you because you have more confidence. Leo in family will be tried for a little, but it can be solved with more understanding between your husband or wife.

VIRGO (Aug 22nd-Sep 22nd)

The year of 2008 is not a boring time for Virgo. There are many good things will be escorted. Dreams are much easier to be gained. Problems which you will face will be not really matter for you, because you have reached the real adolescence. One thing that will distract you most is the friendliness. You are a perfectionist person, just be patient and forgive your friends’ mistakes. You will have more authority in carrier. Any promotions are listed for you. You have the chance to be more creative and combine it with accuracy, success will come as you fight for it. Just be concern with your stamina. You will get higher income this year and then it can be stable, as the result of your hard work. Be careful in doing speculation for any investment. Compared with the previous year, the 2008 will be more romantic time for Virgo. You will experience monumental changing in your life. For those who are still single, you will be bewildered with so many choices, just be sure and do not give up.

Let's be more sociable!! ^^

2008-03-11T10:47:00.008+07:00

Have you ever felt that it is so difficult for you to interact with others??

Well, these day people are getting closer to the others because of high technology of communication…but why are you still here to think about how should your manage your social behavior in case of wanting to be more close with other people? I do not want to blame you or something sometimes I got the same problem ha2; here I’ve got little tips which will show you how you can be more sociable..

Have you been thinking about what the most interesting topic for people to be talk about is? It is about THEMSELVES! ^O^
When you are talking about the person whom you talk to, he or she will think nice about you. Just change the words; “I, mine, myself” become “you, yours, yourself”. If you can sacrifice a little for them, this means that you are in one step forward in your social life.
Keep the person whom you talk to or close to be more important. This can be realized by being a good listener, praise him or her, use his or her names as often as possible, think for a while about what he or she has jus said then answer it, greet nicely for the person who has waited for you, concern with each person in a group, etc.
Learn to consider the others’ opinion and thought and agree with theirs honestly if you think they are right.
One way to make the others are influenced by you and do what you want them to do is knowing what things that make them do it (yeah..of course). I mean at first you should know that every single man is different, and do not think that what you like and look for are the same with the others! J Find whatever they like, find whatever they look for. You can make they do something that you want by showing them that they can get what they want by doing it! Think for it in your own situation and the people’s situation because this is tricky strategy that sometimes can be useful…
Ask for help from the third person to make the others can be sure to you.
If you want the other people agree with you give strong reason why they should agree, but give stressing on the reason that it will be profitable for them! Before that, you can start by asking them by ‘surely answered with yes’ question. For example ‘’do you want to be more happy? by doing this you can be more bla…bla..” think and say it seriously that at the end they possibly will get what they want, and you will not considered as a liar…
Praise the other for their good work, thought, idea, and effort.
Give your smile for the good impression.
Do not give critic to someone in the public, start it with some good things that the person has done before, give critics objectively not subjectively, prepare advices if the person ask for what he or she should do afterward, ask for cooperation do not only give claim, its better to give critics for ONE mistake and for ONCE, end it with friendly statement.
Appreciate someone by giving thanks for hem and say it from your heart that he or she was really helpful. Say it clearly and make eye contact with the person whom you thank to or say his or her name for sure.
Honor yourself then people will give honors to you.
Do not tell the others’ weaknesses to showing your strength.
“Knowledge will be not so useful until a person try to apply it. Then the knowledge can be precious thing to be shared”

TipS for RELEASING STRESS for ya!

2008-02-29T10:28:00.007+07:00

I know life seems so hard for some of you…

But I’m sure what kind of life you’ve been through you have experience this: STRESS

These are some ideas to release, reduce, or they may kick your STRESS away!! ^^,

Things to DO!!!

Think about how you react to certain situations. Are there some things that wind you up more than others? Talk about these with someone else and think of ways you can manage.
Just accepting "I can’t do anything about it, it’s not my problem" is a relief.
Exercise! Try to go for a walk three times a week or dig the garden. Not to mention you will not only feel better, you will also look the part.
Set aside some time for yourself. Sit and read a book for 10 minutes, or watch TV. Use leisure time for yourself. Turn off the phone and take a bath, write down your feelings, mow the lawn, lie in the sun, ring a friend. Take a break! Take time to relax, sleep, and maybe even take a vacation if you can. Your body does not only need it; you deserve it.
Find someone with whom you can talk about your problems. This usually makes a world of difference.
Yoga! Many ramble that practicing yoga is the best way to manage or release stress. It focuses on breathing techniques, exercises, connecting with the universe on a spiritual and mental level. If this option seems interesting to you I suggest you do some research in order to learn the principles and decide if it is for you.
Stretch! People often stretch before and after a workout. However, learning stretching and flexing exercises to use as a way to relieve tension on many different areas of the body can help a great deal.
Massage! We all know how massages can help us relax and release tension. Prices start around $40 for 30 minutes; it all depends on what extra relaxation techniques you would like to add to the massage such as aromatherapy, oils, etc. There are also different types of massages so this will also affect the price. I actually found a therapist that charges $33 for a 30 minute session. It sounds pretty good to me. We waste money in so many different ways so investing on a massage once in a while will not kill our pockets.
Laugh it off! Rent a funny movie and laugh out loud. Find something or someone who will make you laugh. Stress can often come from taking yourself or your task too seriously. Ask yourself what is the worst possible thing that could happen if you made a mistake or missed the deadline.
Make a list. Include everything that needs to be done on the list, including homework, class assignments, grocery shopping, laundry, and even partying. Then make a weekly schedule. Fit all of your tasks within the weekly schedule. This will help you to be more organized; less overwhelmed and remember everything you need to do. You will find that there is indeed time to fit everything in. When you have completed one of the tasks on your list, cross it off. Crossing everything off the list is a good feeling of accomplishment.
This is also a great way to see how much you actually do during the day and pat yourself on the back for any job well done.
Change your focus. Think about your out of class life and focus on what you'll do this weekend or this evening.
Gain temporary control of your anxiety by practicing relaxation techniques during especially anxious times. Deep breathing combined with muscular tensing and relaxing can be helpful. Massage and meditation can help too.
Work on feeling better about yourself. Try replacing negative thinking with positive thoughts. Praise yourself once in a while and forgive yourself for mistakes

Things DONT DO!!!
- Aggressive towards others, take a deep breath and walk away.
- Yelling.
- Be critical of yourself, no one does everything perfectly all the time.
- Fall into the trap of not eating enough or eating too much, drinking lots of coffee or alcohol. Don't hurt yourself!!
- Make more friends! Today there are so many ways to look for friends through the internet or hobby communities in your surroundings.

STARSCOPES 2008 continued...

2008-02-09T15:26:00.000+07:00

Here are the ARIES, TAURUS, and GEMINI STARSCOPES!! ^O^

ARIES (Mar21-Apr19)

Congratulation! This year of 2008 is full of your independence to gain any of your wishes. Just prepare to face the challenge. By all your high spirit and optimism there will be nothing too hard to be through. This year your business is dynamic enough, but be concern with your health. If you want to be dynamic, just do not get yourself overweight. Fight the laziness inside yourselves, do sports!. For Aries’ career and business, it seems it will turn to be positive. For those who are involved in the old businesses as well as in the new businesses, your thought to add some knowledge must be realized for the advanced of you career. Your cooperation with co-workers will be fine. The most important thing, do not feel as you have the most authority to rule them unwisely. For some matters, control your patience and selfishness. Some of Aries will feel that their financial is fine, if they want to gain advantage through stock market. Whatever kinds of your investment is, be smart in choosing it. Learn the prospect first. For those who are single, you will ‘steal’ a love-mate by using you appearance. Chemistry of love will be flow with a person who often interacts to you. He or she could be a neighbor, co-worker, or one of your bosses in your office. Your relationship has the possibility to be invisible or vice versa, because some Aries choose the less right person to be their love-mate. Aries’ love relationship will be full of challenge, but do not be afraid because with some introspection you will gain happiness. If a break up will be the choice, keep your communication and fine friendship with you ex.

TAURUS (Apr20-May20)

Just be happy Taurus, in this year of 2008 some of your wishes come true, but with the exchange you have to be prepared with some changes in your life (as we know that Taurus hates changes). The changes will not always mean negative. By the canges, you will have the chance to gain prosperity and happiness. Career of Taurus faces quite many challenges for this year. For those who are employed, you will have the pressure from your boss. Care, patience, and hard work become ‘gold’ words to occupy success. The ‘door’ of success will be opened for those who want to ‘get out’ from their comfort zone. If you feel uncomfortable with the job you have, just consider another job smartly. Be globalized by trying to apply a job in foreign companies. You can find the information on the internet, then it can be possible that a foreign company will interest with your high abilities and talent. For Taurus who has you own business, use the advanced of Information Technology to expand you market to the other countries. Your income will be ‘bright’ but unfortunately it will be balanced with your outcome. Be creative to add you income. The single life of Taurus won’t bring any problems, but you must be active to be close with some one. You will find a love-mate in some places like schools, college, religion community, or on the want to go abroad. For Taurus who already has the love relationship, you will keep sticking to it, and then marriage will be possible for you.

GEMINI (May21-Jun20)

There will be bright time, as well as dark time. There will be serious time, but there will be fun time. That is how Gemini life is going to be this year of 2008. Whatever conditions you must face, just control your moody, wishy-washy, and outspoken traits. Do not be easy to be suspicious and un-calm in any situation. Be cheerful!. Gemini has not found the right career yet, this is the promising time to get a new place or change your job. Opportunities will be opened. You also will have a chance to have part time job or side job. Try to consider your hobbies as business at home. This year will be different time for you to take more complicated responsibility or make a big commitment in your career. For those who like to share knowledge, have the chance to be teacher and lecturer. Wonderful coincidence will be accepted for you who want to add knowledge, because there will be chances to join seminar, training, or even go to college and you will have to pay less for that. Financial conditi0on of Gemini is still good. Those who manage market and production of product or service, big advantage can be gained if you do smart way in promoting. Expand your market to other countries. Though you finance is good this year, do not spend too much. you love life will be cheerful and hot. You will enjoy someone spreading his or her impression to you. Just make a right choice and make a commitment.

STARSCOPES in the year 2008!!

2008-01-26T16:22:00.000+07:00

Here it goes AQUARIUS and PISCES for the following Starscopes in 2008 like I promised before!! ^o^ enjoy this....

AQUARIUS (Jan20-Feb18)
This year is full of promising happiness. Career and business are placed at the top moment of you bright life, as well as in your love life. Not like in the previous year that you have to do a lot of exceed works, this year you can breathe peacefully. Everything runs smoothly. But do not let these things decrease your awareness. Be careful with your high idealism as well. There will be new opportunities in your life; promotion, new career, starting your own new business (especially in telecommunication field such as web designer), and advancing the networks. July, August, and September are the busiest months. Whatever you will do, do not forget to evaluate yourself. Control your hard trait. Despite it is difficult, you must be more openly in compromising, for one who involved In business, financial transpiration becomes vital thing. Avoid also stiff behavior. For Aquarius finance, it is not as bright as previous year. So, get prepare with reserved budget. Aquarius is in romantic condition, especially for those who are difficult to find love mate. As the result of the improvement of self-confidence, you will find the sprinkling of love from whom you never predicted. You may also consider recreate good relationship with your ex-love mate. For those who get involved with love affair, late or soon it will be uncovered, just be focus with the one you have.

PISCES (Feb19-Mar20)
Difficult times passed behind. This year, your life runs more smoothly, though there is still possibility of any obstacles that can be handed as time goes by. Some things that must be considered are persistence of commitment and do not look for problems. Be more flexible because any unexpected things may happen. Focus with your goal, keep ‘pumping’ your spirit, and keep contact and communication with relatives. These are the key of you success that can not be bargained for Pisces whatever your professions are. Keep your stamina in good condition, because this year you will travel a lot in the name of businesses. You should be brave to go outside your ‘safe zone’. If you see any opportunities just be active because they may not come twice. Your financial will experience improvement, but you should show some job achievements if you want to get higher salary or promotion. Are tired of the invisible destination of your relationship?. Do not worry, there will be commitment soon, in condition you’re not have tendency to make an affair. It is the time to be assertive if your love-mate letting your relationship without any commitment. For the single, you should do more effort to gain the one you love. For Pisces who have had the commitment you will get new born baby soon.

HOw to Build Your Self-Patience

2008-01-23T14:36:00.000+07:00

Patience is some kind of personality trait or ability which not all people can have it. Self-patience is ability to accept delay, annoyance, or suffering without complaining. It is also personality trait which avoids anger and any kind of violence. In today’s world, people are getting busy and busy then their lost their patience. That is why there are many emotional people nowadays and it seems so bad. People think that it is not easy to gain patience. But here, you will find out that there are four wise steps to build your self-patience or to develop it in you daily life!.

The first step is, you should know the importance of self-patience. Patience is needed to maintain any kind of relationships. For family relationship, obviously it can be seen between a mother and her little children. Mother’s patience could make her little child grows up well. When she feeds them, she helps them to learn something, she controls their emotions, and all of those attentions need patience. No matter you are a mother, a father, a son, a daughter, a husband, or a wife, it is important for you to keep patience to your other family members. Family is the first place for you before making struggle in outside world; good family condition will bring good preparations for life. For friendship, you have to own patience to make your friendship become stronger. You have to listen to your friends’ stories and solve problems between you and your friends patiently. By forming strong friendship will help you to make through any difficulties in your life easily. Patience is needed for maintaining love relationship also. When you and your love mate apart, you should be patient to wait until there is a time for you to meet each other. You should be patient also to face any negative sides of your love mate, and then try to discuss them to him or her. Applying patience will make your love relationship long lasting. Patience has become the core part to maintain these relationships.
When you want to gain success, one of personality trait that you needed is patience. To be success in school, you have to be patient to study and listen of what your teacher says. Patience plays a major part in the learning process. If you are in college, you have to be patient to explore yourself deeply then you can make great achievements. Also gaining success in any kind of job-field, you have to be patient to make great contributions to your job. Patience is the foundation where you can build your strategies to be productive on the job. By knowing these importances of patience, you will get motivation to continue your steps to be a patient person.
Secondly, make sure that you will always response any situation positively. To begin with this second step, you should avoid anger or other bad emotions by breathing steadily. This will help you to control your explosive emotion which will suddenly appear. Take your breath slowly and exhale them slowly too. Then, try to find good messages or hidden messages behind any situations. It means you have to think anything in a positive way. At first, you will think that there is no positive thing in the situation that happens to you, but believe me!, there are always something good that we can learn from it. After that, do and say something after thinking deeply. It is not true if you say that commit to patience means commit to take more time. Thinking deeply does not mean you response any situation slowly. You just have to be more critical than you used to be. You will have some progress on your ‘patience-meters’ if you could do and say something precisely as a response to your situations.
Then you will go to the third step, which is actually the most important step to build self-patience. It is “go with God”. In this step, you have to be more close to your God than you are right now. The ways to get closer with your God depend on your own religion. You must do all of your duties and avoid His prohibition despite it is not as simple as you thought before. Concern them as your need to your God not as just your duties. Then you can be more close to your God. Try to remember Him in any kind of activities also, so that you can control yourself in every situation. If there are difficult problems that you can not solve or face, despite you have done some efforts, ask to Him for solutions. Problems come from our God, so that solutions. Pray to Him whenever, wherever, whatever you need Him for. These are the most important things to gain patience.
The last step is, be sincere!. Although you have enormous willing and goals, do not be over ambitious to get them all. In this step you have to be able to control your greediness. Keep trying to make struggle for you will and goals and also pray, but do not force everything is done quickly, slowly but sure. The next is, accept everything after doing your efforts and prayers. This means that you have given whatever the result or decision to your God who has full authorities to determine everything. By this sincerity, you will have no hard feeling about all matters.
It is obvious then that there are four wise and simple steps to gain and improve patience which can be applied in your life, in everyone’s life!. By trying to do these four steps to build or develop self-patience, you can change your life to be better as a patient person.

Anime?!;It's hisory 'n the process of making

2008-01-22T13:49:00.000+07:00

Anime is a term of Japanese animation. The forming of the word ‘anime’ passed through several process. Anime was derived from the word ‘animation’ in English. The Japanese pronounced it ‘animeshon’, then it became ‘anime’ to make it shorter. After that, anime is considered as a kind of painting art. If we look in through its history and its making process, we will see that anime is not just a simple piece of art.

Anime has very magnificent history because it was improved steadily. The first experiment to make anime was done by Shimokawa Bekoten, Koichi Junichi, and Kitayama Seitaro in 1913. Then, short anime “Imokawa Mukuzo Genkanban no Maki” was invented by Oten Shimokawa and its duration was only 5 minutes. This anime had no voice or sound. After that, anime creator started to use music in his anime. He was Nuburo Ofuji who created “Kujira”-the first musical anime in 1927. Anime which was ‘talking’ for the first time is “Kuro Nyago”. It was created in 1930 and its duration is 90 minutes. Anime was still developed that the first coloured anime was made in 1948. The title of the first coloured anime was “Boku no Yakyu”, it was created by Megumi Asano. The industry of anime was succeded by Osamu Tezuka with his Production Animation Department (Mushi Production). “Mitsu no Hanashi” was the first anime which broadcasted on television in Japan in 1960. Then, Anime titled “Tetsuwan Atom” (Astro Boy), which was created by Mushi Production, broadcasted on TV regularly. This old anime was very wellknown even in other countries and it was the pioneer of the spread other animes throughout the world.

The process of making anime is pretty difficult because it consists of some steps. First, we can start to make anime by drawing realistically proportioned head, with an egg shaped oval divided vertically with a line so everything ends up symmetrical. A line to mark the eyes should be half way up and should not be higher. The line for the nose half way between the eyes and the chin. Then one of the mouth about half way between the nose and the chin. After that, we can exaggerate the shape of the head and add details by sharpening the chin, drawing eyes bigger than real human eyes, drawing small-pointed nose, keeping the mouth small, adding simple lines for the eyebrows, and blocking in the hair. Do not forget to clean up stray lines. Next, we can add neck, ears, hair, and other stuff as we like. We can improve our own style until we found what we like. The hardest-

part about drawing bodies is getting the proportion right. We should make differences in making women and mens’ head or body. Actually, the anime style of body is just an exaggeration of a regular person, for example it has shorter torso and longer legs, small body, slim waist, big head, or long thin neck. After we are able to draw right propotioned body, we should try to make movements or pose of body, so the character seems really move his or her body. Next, we should elaborate the characters’ clothes as creative as we can. Finnishing drawing characters does not mean the anime has finnished. We have to draw the surroundings, environment, background, or settings. After all, we can make it full-colored. Concerning the story line of the anime is essential, so when we finnish all those steps of making anime we can get qualified and good anime.

Anime has become so popular nowadays that appearing several phenomenon. One of them is the appearing of ‘Otaku’, means the people who love to watch and admire anime (fans of anime). ‘Otaku’ are spread all over the world these days and they have built some organizations. Then we can find anime in a form of movie, video, or download it on the internet. Anime also often be an interesting topic in newspapers and magazines, even there are some magazines which only talk about anime, for example Animonster in Indonesia. It is not surprised that anime is profitable for many people. Nowadays, we really can not say that anime is just a simple kind of art because it has passed along complicated ways to reach its success.

YOUR STARSCOPE IN 2008!!

2008-01-21T12:05:00.000+07:00

YOUR STARSCOPE IN 2008!!

This time I would like to offer you with any estimated career finance, and love in this new year of 2008, check out but you don’t have to believe it firmly ^^, may it inspires you…. These are the first earlier starscopes… I’ll give it the rests in the following post, keep reading friends! ^^,

CAPRICORN (Dec22-Jan19)

This year is the year full of challenge which need more discipline and dedication in your life. This may not be a problem for you as Capricorns are always ready for any ‘battle’. You get use to work hard, responsible, and do the right things to get the best result. This year will be more enthusiasm, optimistic, energy, and high ambition. It will be luck and wonder follow you in every step that you take but keep being realistic!. There will be radical breakthrough that you’ll do. Some of you would feel to gain more knowledge for the advanced career. Getting scholarship may be solution for this willing. In your finance managing, you spent too much unconsciously for everything because you never feel satisfy of everything you got. Be careful with this trait of you. Don’t try to speculate and try the saver infestation. Capricorns will do well manage any business at home, an Information Technology company, and then money will come through your artistic talents and hobbies. In love life, there will be long-distance relationships for the lovers and this will tests both of you. For the single, your mate can be the one who has been near you and around your circumstances.

legalized EUTHANASIA??? part.3

2008-01-21T12:02:00.000+07:00

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Another consideration that supports the disagreement of non-legalized euthanasia comes to the part of medical improvement by applying some medical researches. Medical research is essential that will affect any medicine and medical treatment become advanced further and improved better. If it is analyzed further to the future, there should be any improvement in medical treatment and research rather than legalized euthanasia. Some people argued that prolongation of life by medical living support without reasonable prospect is cruel, so that it should be legalized (bbc.co.uk). Then we will justify with the previous point mentioned. If the rest of countries in the world legalize euthanasia, it will weaken and undermine the improvement of medical research. Any physicians or doctors related and have potential to make advanced in scientific and health care knowledge won’t get enough motivation that some people who are terminally ill will simply ended by euthanasia. They will not feel encouraged and urged to make the improvement. Likewise the fund needed to make it legalized, it is certain that it will cost some money because legalization is related with law. Rather than the funds are being diverted to fuel the strategy of ‘search and destroy’ it is better to ‘care and console’. The funds are better used for medical improvement.

All in all, euthanasia is not a simple practice towards terminally ill patient for their death. Some assumptions that it is a mercy-killing, ending life with dignity, a right to die, a right to end suffering without pain are nevertheless not appropriate for its definition because no mercy in killing, God is the most determiner about dignity, indeed it is a right to kill, and no evidence proves it can eliminate pain. Legalizing euthanasia also gives impact for the doctors’ role. They break International Code of Medical Ethics and Hippocratic Oath, give possibility of making mistake about it, would not have any guilt in killing people once they are allowed and get use of it, and lose the trustfulness of other patient on them. The other bad predictable effect of legalizing euthanasia is that it will undermine medical research so that there would not be any improvement, and the fund will be spent more for legalizing it than for the medical improvement. By reviewing, considering, and analyzing deeply several aspects which are strongly related to euthanasia, it can be believed firmly that euthanasia should not be legalized.

(Fardetya Aridilla,2007.)

legalized EUTHANASIA??? part.2

2008-01-21T11:58:00.000+07:00

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Euthanasia is an assisted-suicide. In this case the one who assisted the patient to do euthanasia is the doctor. Doctors are the main doers of euthanasia, but those who practiced legalized euthanasia should not be simply considered as innocent figure. There are so many assumptions that it is humanitarian choice, the decision is up to the patient and their families, so that the doctors’ assistance is purely not based on their choice and order. On the other hand, it is obviously seen that doctors practiced it break the International Code of Medical Ethics, which declares “a doctor must always bear in mind the obligation of observing human life from the time of conception until death (bmj.com). If euthanasia is legalized, doctors who practiced it will also abandonee The Hippocratic Oath that states “I will give no deadly medicine to anyone if asked, nor suggest such counsel…” .These facts show that any traditional medical ethics codes have never purify euthanasia.

If it comes to the argument that it is not the doctor’s choice, we must admit against it that the doctor is the first person who gives diagnosis and explanation that the patient is no longer live and gives basis information and offer euthanasia. Doctors are only human and it can be very difficult for them to be entirely objective about their own situation. Those who regularly manage terminally ill patients must realize that they often suffer from depression or false sense of worthlessness which may affect their judgment to the patient. It can be the doctors’ failure to adequate symptom control. Doctors’ encouragement to euthanasia can be because of they do not up to date with the newest treatments available and anticipated degree of future suffering for the patients who are terminally ill. One could also say legalizing it will also give physiological effect to the doctors, that once the doctors are allowed and start killing, it is possible for them to carry on doing it continuously without feeling any guilt. Then if this phenomenon happens, who will trust the doctors to take care of other patients? Will the other patients comfortable knowing their doctors have killed other patients?. If it legalized, euthanasia will give so much power to doctors as the main doers.

Assisted Suicide; Should It be Legalized, or Not?!

2008-01-21T11:47:00.000+07:00

LET's ThiNkIN' of EUTHANASIA....

Every creature in this world, including human, experience the cycles of life starting from pregnancy, being born, live in this world with its problematic aspects of life, and ended all with death. From all of the steps or cycles of life, death is the most questionable and provokes a lot of contradictive opinions and arguments if it is seen in the eyes of science and technology. The only answer which is right is in religions and beliefs. Nevertheless, human are very curious about anything and feels very smart that they can observe, think, analyze, consider, take decision for anything in this world include his or her fate or others’. This feeling of dignity as human being have been related to the death for a long time, then it contributed euthanasia term to this world. Euthanasia is the practice of voluntarily having a medically assisted death (wikipedia.org).

Some countries have legalized euthanasia such as; Columbia, Japan, Netherlands, Oregon State of America, Switzerland, and Belgium (free-essays.com and solusihukum.com). These countries tries to vanishing people’s suffering because of several conditions of people; terminally ill and chronically ill, elderly, depressed, and disabled to do anything. Terminally ill is the condition of sick people which is can not be cured and it leads to death, and chronically ill is in similar condition that takes chronological dropped condition leading to death. Depressed, elderly, and disabled people are in the same weak and helpless condition like blind, deaf, dumb, and paralyzed. Moreover, there are three ways or methods of Physician-Assisted suicide; the first is Dr. Jack Kevorkian’s “Suicide Machine”. In this process, the patient must first activate it by pushing a button, and then there are three solutions are injected in order; a harmless saline, a sleep-inducing active, and the lethal drugs. The second, with the face mask in which the patient wears it and then carbon monoxide is pumped through which poisons the patient. The last is plastic bag suffocation (free-essays.com). However the role of euthanasia should be considered more whether it should be legalized by the rest of countries or not. Does it really understood by the people?, does it is really needed and useful?, who are the people straightly involved in the practice of euthanasia?, what is the effect of legalizing euthanasia?, these are the questions that will lead us to several assumptions, arguments, and opinions. Then, it will be clear that euthanasia should not be legalized because of several considerations.

How is euthanasia in ‘the eyes’ of some people? Before the rest of countries legalize euthanasia, it is very essential that the truth understanding about euthanasia should be analyzed further. There are some definitions of euthanasia that it is a mercy-killing, ending life with dignity, a right to die, and a right to end suffering without pain as it is stated in some articles in bbc.co.uk.com and enotes.com. Euthanasia is known as the mercy-killing but it simply taking one’s own life without mercy. Mercy, according to Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary is a kind of event to be grateful for because it stops something unpleasant. While in the other hand killing is causing death or causing somebody to die. There is no connection between the contradicted words as one shows pleasant thing and another shows unpleasant thing. Remember, there is no mercy in killing; indeed it places a lower value on another’s life. Besides, God is the most authorized determiner about the time of death and whether one’s death will be in dignity or not. God decides when one’s life should end. Ending life with dignity is a moral event, with a complex meaning that must be understood through moral ideas. On the contrary of the assumption that euthanasia is a right to die, it is must be highlighted that legalizing euthanasia is not a claim for the patient to have the right to die, it is in fact a claim for the doctor to have the right to kill the patient. The one side who needs the law of legalized euthanasia is the doctor not the patient, and without the legalized euthanasia the doctor who is judged as guilty. Answering the questioned opinion the euthanasia is a right to end suffering without pain is actually does not need difficult and deep explanation, because there is no prove at all that death by euthanasia will be not painful because there is no dead people tells his experiences or says so.

Hello Visitors!^^,

2008-01-21T10:44:00.001+07:00

Hi! It’s very pleasure for me that you’ve found my blog….!!!

Um…Let’s pretend that you are my guest and unpurposely found me on this blog… “KNOCK2!”

“Come in… hi! ^o^ how did you find me?!”

“Dunno, just passing by…”

“Well, it’s fate! Why don’t we become friends?”

“Hum…OK, who r u?”

“My name is Ndet, from Indonesia, I’m a college student in Brawijaya University, I like to write anything since I was a kid, I have my own journal for several years….but I think recently that no one will read my writing if they’re locked up in my bookcase, so why don’t I start to write a blog ‘n hope I can share everything and meet new friends”

“Can I share my own story to you?”

“Of course I’d like to read anything as the feedback or comment from all of you and you can give ideas and suggestion about what I must find in any kind of research, then I’ll write it on this page, It’ll be very pleasure!” ^^,

Well, this blog is NOT ABOUT ME, but it’s ABOUT YOU and US….

It’s all about what we are,

It’s all about what we think,

It’s all about how it’s going to be with us,

It’s all about what we like,

It’s all about what we learn,

It’s all about what we need,

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It's all about what we hear...,

what we see....,

and what we feel...

So, I really want to get in touch with you all with all we can use to talk about…or you want to talk about…

“Best friends is like a COMPUTER,

ENTER them to Ur life…,

SAVE them in Ur heart…,

FORM Ur problems n never…

DELETE them from Ur MEMORY....” (anonym)