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      <pubDate>Fri, 12 Aug 2011 04:30:00 -0700</pubDate>
      <title>On recruiting:  Skills v Attributes</title>
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Which is easier:&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;learning a skill or learning a behavior?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Anyone with kids can tell you how difficult is it to teach someone to be diligent, honest, friendly, attentive to detail, ambitious, or any of a host of traits we hope to instill.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Ever notice how some people seem to always be positive and willing to help out, while others tend to the morose?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There are habits we build over a lifetime, ways of doing things, ways of looking a the world and dealing with other people, that take a herculean effort to change.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Many of these habits are what make us excel or fail at our chosen task, and make our collaborations either effective and inspiring or soul-draining time-sinks.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;And these habits and attributes come with us everywhere we go.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Yet it seems that the default in recruiting is to place an extraordinary amount of emphasis on similar experience, as opposed to complimentary attributes.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;This in a rapidly changing enterprise environment where markets and practices are in constant flux.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;This isn't just ineffective, it's lazy.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Obviously there are a great number of positions to fill where particular skills are everything and prohibitively difficult to learn on the job.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;While I'd like my heart surgeon to have a pleasant manner, his skill is far and away the overriding concern.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But much of management, for example, is involved not in performing specific tasks but in maximizing the potential of those around you.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Inspired employees perform better, adapt better to change, and add value to their team and business.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;While you can teach a manager how to use the software in place and impart a profound understanding of the policies and procedures of a particular enterprise, teaching him to be an inspiring leader is much more difficult, if not impossible.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Yes a manager needs to know his stuff, but he or she can learn it far more easily than he or she can learn how to get the most out of others.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Client services is another example -- dedication, empathy, the willingness to go the extra mile, responsibility, the ability to inspire confidence -- how do you teach this?&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Hire it instead.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;And look for it in unexpected places.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;A case comes to mind from my own experience:&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I once hired a chef to manage a hotel.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;The gentleman in question said straight out "I don't know anything about running a hotel".&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Well, no, he didn't.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;But he did know a great deal about running a team.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;He was honest, hardworking, reliable and willing to learn.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;He picked up the hotel management side remarkably quickly and years later has proven to be invaluable to the success of the business, so much so that when the property changed hands, the new owners made sure he stayed on.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle"&gt;Yes, your new hire needs to know his stuff and past experience is a good indicator of whether or not he does. &lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;But ask yourself these two questions:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 0.5in;"&gt;Can we teach him the position-specific skills he needs to know?&lt;br /&gt; Does he have the attributes we need but can't teach him?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle"&gt;&amp;nbsp;Do that, and you'll find it gets easier to find, hire and retain excellence.&lt;/p&gt;
	
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      <pubDate>Wed, 18 May 2011 11:47:00 -0700</pubDate>
      <title>Conflict Management -- An Organizational Challenge</title>
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I was asked to write an article on Conflict Resolution within organizations for the American Chamber of Commerce's magazine here in the Dominican Republic. &amp;nbsp;Here's the &lt;a href="http://www.amcham.org.do/pdf/revista/Edicion15.pdf" title="AMCHAM article" target="_blank"&gt;link&lt;/a&gt;, I'm on page 15.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;A few caveats and observations:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;The article is in Spanish. &amp;nbsp;If that makes it somewhat difficult to read, bear with me: &amp;nbsp;it was difficult to write. &amp;nbsp;Writing this article drove home for me how much language limits expression and how communication across language barriers is so much more than a function of translation. &amp;nbsp;I'll likely blog about this in a future post.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;While I was asked to write on Conflict Resolution, you may note I wrote about Conflict Management. &amp;nbsp;This because conflict is inevitable and often healthy when properly managed. &amp;nbsp;We tend to approach conflict as isolated phenomena, something to be prevented, then avoided, and, if all else fails, resolved. &amp;nbsp;I disagree with this assessment, and in the article I attempt to explain why.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Finally, judging by the photo included in the article, it would appear I am not as photogenic as I would like to think I am...&lt;/p&gt;
	
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      <pubDate>Tue, 27 Jul 2010 11:09:33 -0700</pubDate>
      <title>Getting Past Yes, Revisited -- 7 tips</title>
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	       &lt;p&gt;In a previous post I spoke about negotiating past the agreement at hand.&amp;nbsp; As promised, here are some things to consider:&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Does my counterpart&amp;#8217;s opinion of myself or the deal matter to me?&lt;/b&gt;&amp;nbsp; Unless you are buying a knickknack souvenir on vacation (in which case, feel free to skip this post altogether and enjoy your vacation!), odds are the person you are negotiating with will be able to affect you in some way down the road, be it through reputation, referrals, how they comply (if at all) with the agreement or in any number of ways.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;But if there is a relationship in place, be it a requirement for future performance, a partnership, or even the possibility for referrals (or public complaints), you might want to look past the &amp;#8220;Yes&amp;#8221; and consider some additional points:&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;1)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Does my current negotiation strategy improve or compromise my relationship with my counterpart?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;2)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Are my counterpart&amp;#8217;s interests being met?&amp;nbsp; If not, what does that say about the medium to long term viability of this relationship?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;3)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Is the deal we are putting together self-policing?&amp;nbsp; To wit:&amp;nbsp; are there built-in incentives to both parties that encourage them to carry through on or even add value to the agreement?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;4)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Is there a dispute resolution clause?&amp;nbsp; Hint:&amp;nbsp; there always is an implicit dispute resolution clause:&amp;nbsp; the courts.&amp;nbsp; Is that the one you want to use or would you prefer to build in more viable options (mediation, arbitration, confidentiality clause, choice of venues, etc, or any combination of the above)?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;5)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Is the case of partnerships, is there a dissolution clause in place?&amp;nbsp; Example:&amp;nbsp; shotgun offers, a formula for valuating the business in case of a buy-out, a non-compete clause, etc).&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;6)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Are there contingencies in place to address events outside the control of the parties?&amp;nbsp; If sales exceed x then a discount of y applies.&amp;nbsp; If the price of concrete drops below x then the agreed price proportionately matches the drop, etc.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;7)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Is there a referral fee for additional business?&amp;nbsp; Turning clients into champions is good business &amp;#8211; do it as often and effectively as possible.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Finally, a bonus tip:&amp;nbsp; Once you have a deal in place, consider reopening discussions and trying to find an even better arrangement.&amp;nbsp; This can be tricky, but can pay major dividends.&amp;nbsp; If you&amp;#8217;ve done your homework on the relationship and built trust and an environment of cooperation (instead of purely competition) there is often an opportunity to review the arrangement looking for opportunities to increase value, either between the parties or by an outside agent.&amp;nbsp; All parties have the option to stick with the deal in place, so there is a good chance they will be more forthcoming about their interests and creative with their solutions.&amp;nbsp; And again, if they don&amp;#8217;t like the new deal they have the option of sticking to the deal in place.&amp;nbsp; Handled properly, there is an enormous opportunity for value creation.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&amp;#8220;Yes&amp;#8221; is a great thing to hear, but it&amp;#8217;s a jumping off point, not a destination.&lt;/p&gt;   
	
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      <pubDate>Mon, 19 Jul 2010 21:11:04 -0700</pubDate>
      <title>Interesting article on cross-cultural communication</title>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 29 Jun 2010 13:55:39 -0700</pubDate>
      <title>Getting past Yes</title>
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	       &lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;Getting to Yes&lt;/i&gt; and &lt;i&gt;Getting Past No&lt;/i&gt; are two books on negotiation I find myself recommending to clients, friends, family (and just about everyone else).&amp;nbsp; They&amp;#8217;re easy to follow, yet provide game-changing insights to the would-be negotiator.&amp;nbsp; If you haven&amp;#8217;t yet read them, amazon.com is your friend.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;I mention this because what I&amp;#8217;m seeing more and more of is people negotiating to get to a close, be it a contract, a handshake or a general agreement, without considering the &amp;#8216;what next?&amp;#8217;&amp;nbsp; So, in deference to Mr. Ury and his excellent books, this post is about Getting Past Yes.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Bargaining hard and getting the concessions you want is great, we all love the feeling that comes of a successful negotiation session.&amp;nbsp; But in most cases the agreement has to survive past the contract.&amp;nbsp; The person you&amp;#8217;ve been negotiating with actually has to follow through with the agreement.&amp;nbsp; They can do it joyfully, willingly, grudgingly or not at all, depending on how well they perceive their interests are being met.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;This is a point that we often overlook &amp;#8211; our agreements need to survive past the yes.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Some years ago, I was negotiating the incoming salary of a key employee. &amp;nbsp;This was someone I would count on to help move my business to where I wanted it to be.&amp;nbsp; We were on the same page, he wanted to work with me, I wanted him onboard, all that was left was the money.&amp;nbsp; He, not knowing his market value, proposed a number I found to be far less than I was prepared to pay.&amp;nbsp; Normally, I would smile inside, shake hands on the deal and move forward.&amp;nbsp; But would that be in my best interests long-term?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Was it in my best interests to pay him as little as I could get away with?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt; I took the opportunity to garner some goodwill and start our relationship off on the right foot.&amp;nbsp; I countered with what I was originally prepared to pay him &amp;#8211; 70% more than he had proposed &amp;#8211; and added on a performance bonus.&amp;nbsp; And I never made him have to ask for a raise.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; What I got in return was loyalty, and I set the tone for the rest of our (excellent) working relationship.&amp;nbsp; Not coincidentally I gained a bit of insurance that someone else wouldn&amp;#8217;t steal him out from under me when I needed him most.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;I tell this story not to show how smart I am (I&amp;#8217;ve made plenty of mistakes since then, and expect to make many more), but rather as an example of seeing past the negotiation at hand and into the implementation phase.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;All this comes to mind because of a similar case that has come to my attention.&amp;nbsp; A business owner I know is in the process of trying to lease his business and premises, and is asking for a yearly rent that is simply unsustainable.&amp;nbsp; Assuming the potential lessee agrees, then what?&amp;nbsp; How many months will the lessee pay the rent until he can&amp;#8217;t pay anymore?&amp;nbsp; Then what?&amp;nbsp; Lawsuit, expenses, eviction, etc.&amp;nbsp; No doubt the owner will feel taken advantage of, but it seems to me that he himself is building this situation by trying to negotiate a contract that he himself should know is unsustainable.&amp;nbsp; Would he not be better served charging a more reasonable rent, or at least structuring a deal that allows them both reasonable revenue based on income (or some other factor)?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Yet more and more I see people committing exactly that mistake &amp;#8211; being short-term greedy instead of long-term greedy.&amp;nbsp; Negotiating to yes, instead of past yes. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;The thinking is that following through is the other guy&amp;#8217;s problem.&amp;nbsp; The thing is, his failure to follow through invariably becomes MY problem.&amp;nbsp; Remember that the goal is not to get the other party to agree to perform, it is to &lt;i&gt;actually get them to perform&lt;/i&gt;.&amp;nbsp; To do that, their interests have to be satisfied as well.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;I&amp;#8217;ll come back to this point in an upcoming blog, because I think it bears further discussion.&amp;nbsp; In the meantime, comments are more than welcome!&lt;/p&gt;   
	
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	       &lt;p&gt;Is being poorly quoted worse than being misquoted?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;We gave an interview with a very well-respected journalist who was kind enough to visit us.&amp;nbsp; The title of the interview itself is misleading, as no one ever talked about mediation being vital to arbitration, and I feel the part about tourism was oversimplified to the point of missing the point.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;What I had said was that:&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;1)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;The all-inclusive tourism model prevalent in the DR is so vertically integrated as to preclude much of secondary and tertiary industry participation vital to growing the economy&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;2)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;We need to move away from the commoditization of the tourism product and compete based on value added, rather that price&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;3)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;The DR has reaped huge gains from the present model, but that there is a lot of room for the addition of other models of tourism&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;4)&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt Times New Roman;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;We need to pay attention to the quality of the entire tourism experience, as opposed to simply quality resorts, which means taking a serious look at the surroundings&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Nevertheless, I admit to being flattered at being interviewed as an expert.&amp;nbsp; Next time I will know to bring press points to better harmonize what I want to convey with what is actually conveyed.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://www2.listindiario.com/economia-and-negocios/2010/5/31/144260/La-mediacion-en-el-arbitraje-es-vital"&gt;http://www2.listindiario.com/economia-and-negocios/2010/5/31/144260/La-mediac...&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; 
	
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      <title>Program on Negotiation at Harvard Law School»PostArchive » Using Bias to Your Advantage</title>
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          &lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Adapted from “Knowledge of Biases as an Influence Tool,” first published in the Negotiation newsletter.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Articles in &lt;em&gt;Negotiation&lt;/em&gt; have highlighted many of the cognitive biases likely to confront negotiators. Work by researchers Russell B. Korobkin of UCLA and Chris P. Guthrie of Vanderbilt University suggests how to turn knowledge of four specific biases into tools of persuasion.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;First, they argue that by effectively &lt;em&gt;anchoring&lt;/em&gt; the negotiation with an extreme offer, you will not only influence the negotiation, but also actually change the other side’s beliefs about the nature of an appropriate agreement.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Second, you can try to influence the other side’s judgments through her susceptibility to the &lt;em&gt;availability bias&lt;/em&gt;—the tendency to rely on readily available information. By carefully choosing comparisons to the current situation, you can persuade the other party about the appropriate settlement. In a legal context, when defendants can cite similar cases where a judicial award was very small, they sometimes can influence the judge’s or jury’s assessment of the value of the case.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Third, Korobkin and Guthrie suggest that when trying to reach agreement, you should &lt;em&gt;frame&lt;/em&gt; the negotiation in terms of potential gains for the other party. Doing so persuades the other party to become risk averse, or reluctant to forfeit gains; the other side will be tempted to reduce this risk by reaching agreement.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Fourth, the researchers highlight the use of &lt;em&gt;contrast effects&lt;/em&gt; as a persuasion tool. For example, rather than making a flat offer of $30,000 to settle a case, a defendant could offer a choice among $30,000 immediately, $10,000 annually for the next three years, or a $30,000 payment to charity. When compared with the other two options, the $30,000 cash offer is likely to appear more attractive than when it is the only offer on the table. A plaintiff may very well compare the options offered rather than comparing the $30,000 to the option of holding out for more money.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Overall, Korobkin and Guthrie’s ideas can help you use your knowledge of biases to influence your counterpart’s judgments.&lt;/p&gt;
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    &lt;p&gt;Four excellent reasons to brush up on your negotiation theory&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
	
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      <pubDate>Mon, 24 May 2010 06:46:34 -0700</pubDate>
      <title>Program on Negotiation at Harvard Law School»PostArchive » Making the first move</title>
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&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;Whether negotiators are bidding on a firm,&lt;strong&gt; &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;seeking agreement on a compensation package, or bargaining over a used car, someone has to make the first offer. Should it be you, or should you wait to hear what others have to say? How will the first offer influence the negotiation process and any final agreement?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Research into human judgment has found that how we perceive a particular offer’s value is highly influenced by any relevant number that enters the negotiation environment. Because they pull judgments toward themselves, these numerical values are known as &lt;em&gt;anchors&lt;/em&gt;. In situations of great ambiguity and uncertainty, first offers have a strong &lt;em&gt;anchoring effect—&lt;/em&gt;they exert a strong pull throughout the rest of the negotiation.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Anchoring research helps clarify the question of whether to make the first offer in a negotiation: by making the first offer, you will anchor the negotiation in your favor. In fact, researchers Adam Galinsky and Thomas Mussweiler have shown that making the first offer affords a bargaining advantage. In their studies, they found that the final outcome of a negotiation is affected by whether the buyer or the seller makes the first offer. Specifically, when a seller makes the first offer, the final settlement price tends to be higher than when the buyer makes the first offer.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Galinsky’s research also shows that the probability of making a first offer is related to one’s confidence and sense of control at the bargaining table. Those who lack power, either due to a negotiation’s structure or a lack of available alternatives, are less inclined to make a first offer. Power and confidence result in better outcomes &lt;em&gt;because &lt;/em&gt;they lead&lt;em&gt; &lt;/em&gt;negotiators to make the first offer. In addition, the &lt;em&gt;amount &lt;/em&gt;of the first offer affects the outcome, with more aggressive or extreme first offers leading to a better outcome for the&lt;em&gt; &lt;/em&gt;person who made the offer. Initial offers better predict&lt;em&gt; &lt;/em&gt;final settlement prices than subsequent concessionary behaviors do.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There is one situation in which making the first offer is not to your advantage: when the other side has much more information than you do about the item to be negotiated or about the relevant market or industry. For example, recruiters and employers typically have more information than job candidates do; likewise, buyers and sellers represented by a real estate agent often are privy to more information than unrepresented buyers and sellers are. This doesn’t mean you should sit back and let the other side make the first offer. Rather, this is your opportunity to level the playing field by gathering more information about the item, the industry, or your opponent’s alternatives to the negotiation. The well-prepared negotiator will feel confident about making the first offer and anchoring the negotiation in his favor.&lt;strong&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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    &lt;p&gt;Contrary to popular belief, making the first offer can be a powerful tool.  See how:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
	
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	&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;...and Seven Contrary Virtues to see you through &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;p /&gt;  &lt;strong&gt;1) Wrath&lt;/strong&gt;   "I'm going to beat this guy -- I'm going to win for once!" &lt;br /&gt;Winning implies beating someone - but what does beating someone actually win &lt;br /&gt;you? What do I care if I 'win' a negotiation where I make 100K if by &lt;br /&gt;'losing' I could have made a cool million?  &lt;strong&gt;Patience:&lt;/strong&gt; Keep your eye on the &lt;br /&gt;prize. Your goal isn't to win a negotiation -- negotiation is only a tool &lt;br /&gt;to achieve your goal. How do I get the most value from this negotiation? &lt;br /&gt;When things get heated, take a step back. My father used to say that you &lt;br /&gt;don't eat your soup as hot as you cook it. Make it a point to not burn your &lt;br /&gt;lips. &lt;p /&gt; &lt;strong&gt;2) Greed  &lt;/strong&gt; Much like gluttony, greed keeps us coming back for more. &lt;br /&gt;It's not enough we did well, we have to go back for another bite at the &lt;br /&gt;apple. The problem is that greed elicits a similar response in our &lt;br /&gt;counterparts and sets off a zero-sum game. &lt;strong&gt;Liberality&lt;/strong&gt;:  Be what a good &lt;br /&gt;friend of mine calls 'long-term greedy'. Step back and look at the big &lt;br /&gt;picture. If leaving a bit on the table will allow you to come back to that &lt;br /&gt;table over and over, be a little generous in the short term.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;3) Sloth&lt;/strong&gt;   It's easy to hand off the negotiations to lawyers, or to cut &lt;br /&gt;corners on preparation, but 'easy' is not the goal. The goal is to generate &lt;br /&gt;and claim value. &lt;strong&gt;Diligence:&lt;/strong&gt;  You're the world's leading authority on your &lt;br /&gt;own business and on where your interests lie. While lawyers by definition &lt;br /&gt;understand the law and can often have excellent insights because of similar &lt;br /&gt;deals they've seen or worked on, not all of them are the business experts &lt;br /&gt;people think they are (or they themselves may profess to be). Remember &lt;br /&gt;that once the negotiation is done, it's up to you to follow through on the &lt;br /&gt;deal you made -- for better or for worse. So stay personally involved in &lt;br /&gt;every phase of the process, from preparation to execution. As an aside, &lt;br /&gt;I've found that consulting with a good attorney (and a good CPA) during the &lt;br /&gt;brainstorming phase of a negotiation can yield excellent results, whereas &lt;br /&gt;leaving them out of the loop until you're ready to draw up a contract is a &lt;br /&gt;recipe for renegotiation, delayed or lost deals and frustration all around. &lt;p /&gt; &lt;strong&gt;4) Pride&lt;/strong&gt;   This one should be a no-brainer, yet how many times do &lt;br /&gt;executives come to the table relying only on what they consider to be their &lt;br /&gt;considerable expertise and experience to get them through a negotiation? &lt;br /&gt;Ever see a professional fighter step up to the ring without a solid training &lt;br /&gt;camp behind him? How did that work out for him? &lt;strong&gt;Humility:&lt;/strong&gt;  Have enough &lt;br /&gt;humility to do your homework, despite your towering genius. Hard work and &lt;br /&gt;talent will win out over talent every time. Come to the negotiation with &lt;br /&gt;your interests clearly defined, with a solid BATNA, with your team aligned &lt;br /&gt;and sure of their roles and with a clear strategy. Having a hard time &lt;br /&gt;preparing? Be humble enough to get help. But do not sit down to negotiate &lt;br /&gt;until you are prepared. Pride will cost you time, energy and yes, money. &lt;br /&gt;And I hear it cometh before the fall. &lt;p /&gt; &lt;strong&gt;5) Lust&lt;/strong&gt;   We all fall victim to this from time to time. We fall in &lt;br /&gt;love with a new car. We get attached to a deal, or a house, or a potential &lt;br /&gt;job. We respond emotionally to what is, in essence, a financial &lt;br /&gt;negotiation. &lt;strong&gt;Chastity:&lt;/strong&gt;  Don't fall in love. Simple, right? How do we do &lt;br /&gt;that? Prepare, prepare, prepare. The more information you have, the more &lt;br /&gt;fully developed your BATNA is, the more clearly defined your interests, the &lt;br /&gt;easier it will be to resist making those emotional decisions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;6) Envy &lt;/strong&gt;  You've worked hard, invested time and resources and have &lt;br /&gt;finally come to an agreement you can (maybe) live with. But wait a minute - &lt;br /&gt;how do you know this is the best deal possible? Maybe you could have done &lt;br /&gt;better? Oh no, it's buyer's remorse! &lt;strong&gt;Kindness&lt;/strong&gt;: Fortify yourself by &lt;br /&gt;developing alternatives before even beginning negotiations. Negotiators &lt;br /&gt;refer to this as BATNA (Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement), and it &lt;br /&gt;means what it says. What are your alternatives to this deal? Once you &lt;br /&gt;equal or exceed your BATNA, show a little kindness and accept that your &lt;br /&gt;counterpart might have bettered his BATNA as well. &lt;p /&gt; &lt;strong&gt;7) Gluttony&lt;/strong&gt;   After a long and mutually frustrating series of &lt;br /&gt;negotiations, you've finally made a breakthrough and managed to drag your &lt;br /&gt;counterpart kicking and screaming to the deal you wanted. Not only have you &lt;br /&gt;make your slice of the pie bigger, you've left him nothing but crumbs. &lt;br /&gt;Congratulations! Now what? Your deal has to survive the contract and &lt;br /&gt;you're now counting on your counterpart (you remember: the same person &lt;br /&gt;you've been squeezing, threatening and cajoling) to follow through on his &lt;br /&gt;end. Good luck with that. &lt;strong&gt;Abstinence:&lt;/strong&gt;  Don't try to eat the whole pie! &lt;br /&gt;Look for ways to trade concessions that mean little to you but much to your &lt;br /&gt;counterpart. If your cash flow is where you need it but your counterpart's &lt;br /&gt;is an issue, look at ways to structure the payments to suit his needs in &lt;br /&gt;exchange for that price concession you want. This sort of creative thinking &lt;br /&gt;shows that you're willing to work to address your counterpart's needs, not &lt;br /&gt;merely your own, which will come in handy when the shoe is on the other &lt;br /&gt;foot.&lt;/p&gt;
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	       &lt;p&gt;I&amp;#8217;ve found that most people who make the comparison between poker and negotiation generally know little about either.  As I know a little about both, and because there is still some value in the comparison, I&amp;#8217;ll brave the cliché.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Beginning poker players think it&amp;#8217;s all about the big bluff or hitting that fifth spade for all the money, just like in the movies.  Neophyte (and often seasoned) negotiators tend to think in those terms as well.  The high-pressure boardroom, a twitch, a glance and then the almost palatable moment when the other side caves.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;The truth is, unfortunately, much less interesting.  &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;A good poker player has a deep understanding of the mechanics of the game, the odds if you will.  He studies his players.  He pays attention to what cards his opponents play and how they play them.  In essence, he collects and interprets information over the course of hours (or days, months even years) of playing with a person and uses that information to decide how to play against that particular player.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt; Not only that, but a good poker player reviews his game.  He takes notes and critiques (or brutally dissects, as the case may be) his own play.  He is constantly looking for flaws in his game, because he knows that flaws are money leaks that need to be plugged.  He reads up on theory and respects the game enough to put in the time and effort to constantly improve.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;He also pays attention to how he himself is perceived at the table and how that can affect the decision-making processes of his opponents.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;In short, a good player constantly studies and controls the only factors under his control &amp;#8211; his decision making process and his effect on the decision making processes of his opponents.  In a very real sense, a good poker player has won before he even sits down because he is better prepared than his opponents to maximize his wins and minimize his losses.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;The average player sits down and sees what happens.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Thing is, the average player is a losing player.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Over the short term, an average player might actually hit that fifth spade on the river to bust your set for all the money, but over the long term a solid player will grind out that average, albeit lucky, player for as much money as they&amp;#8217;re willing to spend.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;In negotiations, we might get lucky enough to walk up to the table and hit that big score.  We might even get more than we want.  But a &lt;i&gt;skilled&lt;/i&gt; negotiator will have stacked the deck.  He&amp;#8217;ll have put the time into learning his craft.  He&amp;#8217;ll have invested the effort and resources into being prepared and will arrive at the table with his goals, strategy and alternatives well defined.  He&amp;#8217;ll have the information at hand to anticipate his counterpart&amp;#8217;s moves.  Over the course of a career, he&amp;#8217;ll maximize the value on all his negotiations and minimize the losses.  &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;The average negotiator, well, he&amp;#8217;ll wing it and hope for the best.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;So my question:  which negotiator are you? &lt;/p&gt;  
	
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	       &lt;p&gt;In my most recent blog, I talked about the error of trying to squeeze a new paradigm into an established mould.&amp;nbsp; It&amp;#8217;s been brought to my attention that I may have been a little harsh.&amp;nbsp; A little negative.&amp;nbsp; It was even suggested that I was not *&lt;b&gt;gasp!&lt;/b&gt;* my usual cheery self!&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Perhaps I&amp;#8217;m being a bit hard on them.&amp;nbsp; After all, it&amp;#8217;s not easy to change the way you look at an established business.&amp;nbsp; Especially when the business in question has been successful for so long.&lt;p /&gt;  But this is the very challenge facing business after business in industry after industry &amp;#8211; how do we adapt an established business to new challenges?&amp;nbsp; The answer invariably comes back to the same thing &amp;#8211; with new thinking.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;By this I don&amp;#8217;t mean new ways to do what we already do.&amp;nbsp; I&amp;#8217;m talking about a &lt;i&gt;revolution&lt;/i&gt; in thinking, not an evolution &amp;#8211; and revolutions by definition require revolutionaries.&amp;nbsp; Rick Barrera&amp;#8217;s bestselling &amp;#8220;Overpromise and Overdeliver&amp;#8221; is full of examples of established, successful businesses who reinvented or refocused themselves and were able to effect substantial changes in their business models &amp;#8211; to dramatic effect on the bottom line.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt; What did all these businesses had in common?&amp;nbsp; They stopped thinking about how to make the customer do what their business model required and started thinking about how to design their business model to provide what their customers required.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;That same approach is being applied in all facets of business negotiation.&amp;nbsp; Instead of learning tricks and stunts designed to lead the opposite party to an &amp;#8216;ideal&amp;#8217; decision, forward thinking negotiators are partnering with their supposed adversaries and finding ways to come together to create value for all parties.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt; Imagine that &amp;#8211; instead of my counterpart trying to gobble up as much from the negotiations as possible, he&amp;#8217;s trying to find out what it is I need and trying to find ways to give it to me.&amp;nbsp; And I&amp;#8217;m doing the same.&amp;nbsp; We&amp;#8217;re working together to build a deal and a relationship that will not only add value to both of us, but which stands a much better chance of surviving well past the signing. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Sound like utopia?&amp;nbsp; A pipe dream?&amp;nbsp; It&amp;#8217;s not.&amp;nbsp; It&amp;#8217;s happening in the boardrooms and conference rooms and back rooms of businesses large and small across the world. &amp;nbsp;Potential executives are using this approach when interviewing for positions, farmers and co-ops are using this approach in their dealings with distributors.&amp;nbsp; Small business owners and captains of industry, politicians and community organizations, employers and unions &amp;#8211; they&amp;#8217;re all coming to see the value in a collaborative process instead of a strictly competitive one.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Are you?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;In your negotiations, including (and especially) your dealings with your customers, are you trying to find out what they want and finding creative solutions to giving it to them, or are you trying to find a way to make them do what you want them to do.&amp;nbsp; And do you know the difference?&lt;p /&gt;  Your competition does.&lt;/p&gt; 
	
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    &lt;p&gt;I stumbled across this interesting article on mandated mediation, with an interesting follow-up in the comments section.  A must-read before entering into your next contract.
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      <title>Beyond Compromise... Searching for Synergy</title>
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	       &lt;p&gt;Synergy &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;People often don&amp;#8217;t understand what I do.&amp;nbsp; That&amp;#8217;s fairly understandable, as I myself often redefine what it is that I do as I learn more about, well... how I do what I do.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Talk about mediation with someone, they generally think about finding the common ground.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Talk about negotiation theory and strategy, they generally think about obtaining the most value.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;If you ask me, they&amp;#8217;re both right, and they&amp;#8217;re both wrong.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Much of what I do involves identifying and building on synergies.&amp;nbsp; See, people are different.&amp;nbsp; As much as we like to think that deep down we&amp;#8217;re all the same, we&amp;#8217;re not.&amp;nbsp; We come from different cultures, different backgrounds, we have different skills, we value things differently.&amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp;In short, we see the world differently.&amp;nbsp; Add to this mix the fact that the world is changing exponentially, and it&amp;#8217;s a wonder to me that anyone can get together on anything at all!&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;But, if you&amp;#8217;re careful... if you&amp;#8217;re patient... above all if you&amp;#8217;re willing to look past the conflict and let go your own preconceptions, there&amp;#8217;s opportunity to be found in these differences.&amp;nbsp; I was reminded of this the other day.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;I&amp;#8217;m somewhat of a pragmatist. While I love creating and am fascinated with underlying theory my focus has always been in the application &amp;#8211; I want to play with my new toy.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;A good friend of mine is a purist. &amp;nbsp;He loves the theoretical side as well, but he&amp;#8217;s an artist &amp;#8211; he loves it for itself.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;We&amp;#8217;d had a series of talks about how to convey to laymen exactly what he does &amp;#8211; how to make his world accessible to people (read:&amp;nbsp; clients) who aren&amp;#8217;t... well... him.&amp;nbsp; I asked a few leading questions, planted a few seeds if you will, and a couple of weeks later came back to see what had grown.&amp;nbsp; Nothing.&amp;nbsp; Undeterred, I gave him my own answer to see how it would resonate.&amp;nbsp; It was, I humbly submit, brilliant.&amp;nbsp; It was succinct, well crafted and to the point.&amp;nbsp; It was marketable.&amp;nbsp; It was, I thought, exactly what he needed all wrapped up in a shiny ribbon. &amp;nbsp;His response when gifted with the fruit of my genius?&amp;nbsp; &amp;#8220;Meh&amp;#8221;.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;I was dumbfounded. &amp;nbsp;I couldn&amp;#8217;t understand how he wasn&amp;#8217;t excited.&amp;nbsp; &amp;#8220;Fair enough, he&amp;#8217;ll come around...&amp;#8221;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Two days ago we returned to the theme.&amp;nbsp; He&amp;#8217;d been thinking about what I said.&amp;nbsp; &amp;#8220;Here it comes&amp;#8221;, I thought,&amp;nbsp; &amp;#8220;sweet, sweet validation!&amp;#8221;.&amp;nbsp; Instead, his answer stunned me.&amp;nbsp; He had taken my answer, my pragmatic framework, and with the addition of a simple concept, two or three simple words, made it art. &amp;nbsp;I was literally speechless.&amp;nbsp; See, I was looking at the metaphorical piano as an architectural masterpiece &amp;#8211; he saw music.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;We didn&amp;#8217;t look for a middle ground.&amp;nbsp; We didn&amp;#8217;t compromise.&amp;nbsp; We didn&amp;#8217;t debate the concept to see who&amp;#8217;s point of view would win out.&amp;nbsp; My friend didn&amp;#8217;t come around to my way of thinking nor I to his.&amp;nbsp; Instead, we both brought something to the equation the other was lacking and, in collaboration, came up with something together neither of would have been able to create alone.&amp;nbsp; He was having trouble building the piano; me, I couldn&amp;#8217;t play.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Synergy.&amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp;More than common ground, it&amp;#8217;s about new frontiers.&lt;/p&gt;     
	
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      <title>Taking my own advice...</title>
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	      &lt;p&gt;I came to a realization over the weekend that saying is easier than doing. &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;I have, for several years now, told friends, acquaintances and clients that taking advantage of the innovations in social networking is simply good business.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Of course, like most people my age, I was doing fine without, and didn’t do much in the way of taking my own advice.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Facebook was great for keeping in touch with friends, but do I want potential clients seeing me tagged in pictures from the late 80’s?&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Does anyone really care about anything it might strike me to blog? &lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;And can I really expect to be taken seriously if I Tweet my latest thoughts on my profession?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;So recently, a friend was asking me how to leverage this brave new world of social media, especially on a tight budget.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;The tight budget condition threw a monkey wrench in my standard advice: “Find someone who knows how to do it, and pay them to do it for you”.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;See, I’ve always been a big fan of concentrating on what you do best and subcontracting the rest to people who do it better.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Would you rather go to med school or pay a doctor for a check up?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;But I was intrigued.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I’m planning my own ‘official’ relaunch anyway and decided now is as good a time as any to drag myself back into the information age.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;How hard can this stuff be in today’s user-friendly world...?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Well...&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;I learned a few things about social networking this weekend in my quest for knowledge and self-aggrandizement:&lt;p /&gt;  &lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;·&lt;span style="font-family: Times New Roman; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;It’s an amazingly effective, beautifully organic, complex and evolving phenomenon.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;·&lt;span style="font-family: Times New Roman; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;It’s so user-reflective, so personal, that subcontracting it defeats the purpose.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;·&lt;span style="font-family: Times New Roman; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;It’s completely beyond me.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;I am, however, undaunted.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;This for two reasons:&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;·&lt;span style="font-family: Times New Roman; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;I love to learn.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p class="MsoListParagraph" style=""&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Symbol;"&gt;&lt;span style=""&gt;·&lt;span style="font-family: Times New Roman; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;I have a good friend who plays this social networking instrument like she’s Yo Yo Ma and I am utterly shameless when it comes to asking for help.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Like most things on the net, this blog will likely evolve quicker than I can keep up.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I set it up to provoke some small debate about negotiation and its role in an increasingly complex and competitive world.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;In writing the inaugural post, it’s already slipped its leash and evolved into something else.&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Me?&lt;span style=""&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I’m running as fast as I can to catch up!&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt; Wish me luck, and stay tuned!&lt;/p&gt;
	
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