Difficult Situation, Need Advise

Fri, 10 Jul 2009 01:29:38 -0500

I have been married for 7 years to my wife. Before we got married I signed a prenup because my wife had considerably more $$ then me. In the prenup I waived my right to her separate property and any increase in value of that property as well as alimony (stupid, I know, but I was young and never thought of a possibility of divorce and I had a good job). 4 years ago, my wife's job moved her to their HQ office in NY and during this time we found out that she was pregnat (it was a surprise, because neither of us wanted kids at that time). Since she already had a job, I stayed home with our daughter who is now 3.

Now my wife served me with divorce papers and she is looking to for full custudy of our daughter and says that the only thing I am intitled to is the $50K that I agreed to in the prenup. I have no money of my own and access to only one account that I used for food and minor expences, so I cant afford a lawyer. What can I do?

Divorce & the Newspaper

Fri, 17 Jul 2009 07:41:30 -0500

I know lots of things are announced in the newspaper and even knew someone, who, upon being granted her divorce, had it announced in a MA paper.

Can I do this in a NYC paper and what sorts of details can I have published? What is the diff between libel and slander?

I just want to publish along the lines of:

Divorce announcement: ____ granted divorce from ___ on grounds of committing adultery with Bronx resident blank.

Divorce process

Tue, 23 Jun 2009 20:49:15 -0500

I live in NY. I had a legal seperation for a year. After which I got a lawyer and filed for divorce. That was two years ago. The first several months the main lawyer had someone who worked under him handeling the case. She was never avaliable for calls and I eventually found out that she left or was fired. I have now been dealing with another person who has been taking my calls but it is taking forever. I call almost monthly and he said it is moving forward: the papers are in, he had to resend this or check that ect. Now just yesterda he said it is all set except for some new rule/law in NY that they have to verify the original marriage or something to this effect...which is holding a lot of things up.

Does all of this sound fair/accurate? They were very quick to get me in the office and get a large check from me but since then its like pulling teeth to hear anything. I just want the process over with

TRO and suspend visitation??????? I called the cops...baby is sick...STBX wont cooperate with Dr Orders

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:52:02 -0500

MY STBX and I do NOT have a parenting agreement in place, nor do we have anything in writing. I have been giving him visits on the honor system and have been flexible with him. But, Im done. This is the last straw. We have attorneys but I have been trying to keep the matter out of court while they discuss settlement which isnt working so far. He sees the baby (22 months old) no less than 5 days per week for 3 hours each which is what he wants. He loves his freedom and does not want the responsibility of caring for a child. He just wants to play with him and send him home. This week and last weekend, the baby has been sick. He has had high fever (over 103), cough, runny nose, and a cold. Coxsackie virus and hand foot mouth disease has been going around. He started to feel better and then got sick again after my STBX took him to the zoo last saturday, and had him out in the heat for several hours. The baby spiked a fever of 104 that night which I treated with TYlenol suppository and Motrin - piggy back - per Dr orders over the phone. I was very upset - but I cannot talk to my STBX - he takes everything as I am trying to be controlling and he does what he wants - his plans, not what is best for the baby. Anyway, He spiked a fever of 104 and has been sick with fever that comes and goes ever since. I have had him home with me but take him to my STBX's parents house for visits and to my parents for visits for a change of pace - he is kept cool and indoors and away from the public. I took him to the pediatrician Tuesday and found out he has a raging ear infection and his ear drum blew as a result of vomiting hard. He is on painkillers and Antibiotics. Here's the issue: my STBX refuses to keep the baby indoors and out of the public while sick. He keeps taking him out to the mall, store, running errands, out in the heat. I asked the Dr. The pediatrician said that he should remain indoors in the cool and stay relatively isolated from the public until he has been fever free

Need

Tue, 30 Jun 2009 14:30:26 -0500

My STBX is paying CS monthly voluntarily. What a guy. Hw, he pays 10% not the mandated 17%. He refuses to give me a check. He has something against physically handing or mailing me one. I think he feels it is a power trip or something. He deposits the money in a joint account which we have from the marriage which my lawyer has instructed me to close immediately. It is only used for CS and the CS is the only $$ in it.I pay copays for Dr visits which are accumulating bc the baby has been sick frequently since Dec from there. I also pay for the Rx's since I am the one who handles this stuff. But, the $$ is depleting rapidly. What exactly is CS supposed to cover?? WHat can I ask for as add on expenses for him to split??? I use the CS for groceries, baby diapers, toys etc. As to the 10%, he unilaterally deducts 7% from CS to cover the burden of carrying me and my 16 year old son on his health policy family plan. The divorce is filed. But, I dont want to rock the boat.

How to protect our son against his out of control wife

Mon, 13 Jul 2009 23:39:12 -0500

We loaned our son and daughter in law a LOT of $ when they bought their house approx 3+ years ago. They were supposed to sign a note, but we didn't force the issue because her co went under and she didn't work for 9 months (that's another whole story) got another job, hated it and quit after 2 months, didn't work for several months again. Now their marriage has deteriorated to the point where they have agreed to a separation, but he will remain, for now, in the same house, different rooms. She is well on her way to destroying his excellent credit and running up huge cc bills, which he just found out about last week. My issue...the mortgage is in his name, and I'm not sure about the deed (I forgot to ask before this post). Is there any way my husband and I can put a lien on the house, or do anything to protect our loan so when she wipes him out, he will at least have that to fall back on? When they are left with no choice but to sell the house (and she WILL cause that), we don't want her to walk off with half of the money we loaned them. There is much, much more to this than this short writing, but for our part, we need to help protect him...he is aware she will ruin him and is taking small first steps to protect himself, but since the $ we loaned them is substantial, we don't want it to go to her.