AMAZONIAN NAIJA QUEEN

30 day challenge, day 3: A book you love

2011-06-30T11:19:00.000-04:00

Ok, my favorite book changes, all the time! If you would have asked me this question last month, it probably would have been something else. But at the moment, the best book that I have read recently is "A love Rekindled" by Myne Whitman. You should check it out, it is actually really good!

30 day challenge, Day 2: Something you feel strongly about

2011-06-29T10:44:00.000-04:00

I feel strongly about "setting goals". I really believe the quote that says "if you fail to prepare, prepare to fail!"
I believe that every person should have goals for themselves, whether personal or professional. If asked where do you hope to be in 5 years, you SHOULD have an answer!!!!

I am so anal about setting goals that I always have a set of goals at the beginning of every year that I strive to meet!

Well, I answered the question. So..................c'est fini!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

30 day challenge, day 1: 5 ways to win your heart

2011-06-28T10:25:00.001-04:00

My answers to this topic might seem very generic but oh well! These are just some of the ways to win my heart, they are NOT my top 5; just the 5 that came to mind at this time!

1.) I love a guy that is intelligent; I reaaaaaaally cannot stand guys that are empty barrels! I also love guys that are ambitious; guys that are complacent really grind my gears. I am always seeking professional and personal development and I would expect the same of my man, seriously!

2.) I love a man that is affectionate! There is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings; expressing your feelings does NOT make you any less of a man! In fact, in my book, that makes you more of a man than anything.

3. There is nothing sexier, more endearing that a man that knows how to use his words! Articulate men, are to die for! Shoot, I am currently in love (although the dude doesn't know it!) with a man around me, and what sparked my interest is how articulate he is. Oh mehn, he is such an eloquent speaker!
4.) Trust! I need to trust my man, not just trust o, like TRUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUST my man! In the words of Sekou tha Misfit, he needs to "have my back as if every vertebrae in my spine is tattooed with his name on it! I need to be able to trust him "like I trust the air to be there when I wake up!" Really, he needs to be incredibly trustworthy!

5.) I'd be lying if I said physical attributes were not involved. Really, I love me a nice good looking man. Thanks to my stature, I am usually only attracted to tall men (above 6ft). This is because I am 6ft myself and I still rock my 3.5 to 4inch heels regularly. There are not that many men that like a chick that is almost as tall as them! AND I REFUSE to take my heels off just to stroke any man's ego.........that's a huge NO-NO for me.

See you tomorrow for day 2!!! :)

30 day Challenge

2011-06-28T09:59:00.001-04:00

Hi guys! I found out about this challenge through Sting's blog post about it . I am not sure that I have ever actually participated in a blog challenge of this sort so I'm going to start today :)

Don't Bullsh*t me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2011-06-22T13:36:00.001-04:00

You wanna know what really grinds my gears? Actually, I don't care whether you care to know or not. I'm telling you anyway! :p

I can't stand when people call my phone and beat around the bush for a while before getting to the real reason why they called. This usually is someone who never calls you just to say hi or see how you're doing. So immediately you see the incoming call from the person, your guard's up because you know he/she needs something from you.

I especially hate when they go on into silly banter asking you a bunch of irrelevant questions and ish. After a while, my mind can't take it anymore so I just break out with "so, what's up? what's going on?", although in my really thinking "YO HOMES, WHAT DO YOU WANT?????????". Not until, you cut them off and ask what's up do they actually spill their guts!

Please, don't call my phone trying to bullshi*t me with a bunch of pleasantries only when you need something! ARRGGHHH! *insert head sparks here* :o

Can I..................

2011-06-20T12:00:00.000-04:00

..................Tell a chick to go hug a transformer? And NO, I don't mean the one from the movies, I mean the real electric ones like the one in this pic.....

Friends...........

2011-06-16T19:01:00.000-04:00

There are acquaintances, associates, classmates, colleagues, co-workers, etc.....and then there are FRIENDS! Sometimes the lines blur, but always TRUST YOUR HUNCHES people!

Would I be wrong? :o

2011-06-13T21:11:00.000-04:00

The next time a chick walks up to me and says " I think you should chemically straighten your hair", would I be wrong if I said "I think you should get rhinoplasty, proactiv, some bangs for that five-head, and some silicone for that washboard booty" ?

Been there, done that with the relaxers! Now, #Mindyourbusiness!

Feel like it's been forever + an extra day...........

2011-05-14T14:13:00.000-04:00

..............since I have posted anything!

I have been working my ass off trying to finish up my first year of Pharmacy school and so far it has been a challenging experience. I am staying afloat though! I have accomplished a lot of goals that I set for myself at the beginning of the year already. I'll be back to gist you all about them when I finally finish the semester!

I finish in a week but I must make it through the 5 finals I have next week first! I am super-duper excited!!!!!!!! YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWW!
:D

Basketmouth wahala!

2011-02-12T10:59:00.001-05:00

Hey guys! Long time!!!!!

Ever heard the expression "if he/she talks shit with you, he/she will talk shit about you?"

I always feel really uncomfortable when someone comes to me and literally unloads a bunch of shit-talking to me, in the name of "venting". Only because I am always thinking "if you can talk this much shit about someone that's supposed to be your acquaintance, friend, lover, whatever, I wonder how much shit you'll talk about me when the time comes".

Needless to say, somebody around me has been doing this so much that I feel like I have to hide my life from her. It just makes me so uncomfortable.....................................

YUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2011-01-01T00:19:00.000-05:00

Hey guys, just wanted wish you all a very PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR! I hope to manage my time and handle my stress a lot better this semester. That way, there will be no lapse in communication and I'll get to post as often as I should. Be safe out there and remain blessed!

2010-12-19T19:44:00.004-05:00

(1/2) I graduated with my MPH this past Friday. I also wrapped up my first semester of pharmacy school. That is why I have been away for so long. Thank you

2010-12-19T19:44:00.003-05:00

(2/2) very much for all those people who checked up on me especially Myne Whitman! Stay blessed guys! <~Tolu>

Love this song!!!!!!!

2010-11-15T20:36:00.000-05:00

I just can't get it out of my head. It's called "Number 1" and it's by "Black Parents". It's old, but still.................

Bunch of ish!

2010-08-13T12:17:00.000-04:00

- I just realized these past couple of weeks that I am very much a hoarder! Chei! Hoarding makes for really miserable packing! I mean, I am not as bad as the people that you see on the intervention TV show but Lawd knows that I am pretty up there. I managed to sell some, give some away, and throw some things away yet I still have a huge load of sh*t to move!

- I am finally moving to a different city! Spent the past 6 years of my life in my current city (Gainesville), but I am now moving to Bradenton for Pharmacy school. So, here's to another successful four years.

- Mehn, there's a drought and it's so depressing! A man drought that is........
Florida is dryyyyyyyyyy when it comes to men. Within the Naija community, by the time you remove the agbayas, the players, the idiots, the lackers of ambitions/goals, the mentally/socially/emotionally challenged, you are left with barely anything to work with. Out of the ones that are left, if you try to remove those that have dated at least 3 girls from the same Naija clique/circle.........you are left with NOTHING!!!!!!!! Chei, I need to travel out of FL more if I plan on getting married o.

-I need to keep reminding myself that I am good to people because it's what I am supposed to do, not because I hope the good deed will be reciprocated sometime later. If you have high expectations of some people, you WILL get burned! New lesson everyday, live and learn!

- Did I tell y'all I had my first Skrip Club experience ever a while ago? LMAO! Never again, it was at the club called Decadence in Gainesville. It's a like a hole in the wall type deal, I inhaled enough second-hand smoke for a year. I also literally saw someone making it HAIL on the cooch! *dead*

- It's that time again for me sha, you know, that time of the year when you are stressed out like there is no tomorrow? Yea, I am officially going through it right now. I have to move to a different city, finish up my projects, get ready for orientation, visit friends and fam, say my "bye for nows" (no goodbyes over here! :o) , etc! Je suis fatiguee.

- I recently found out that one of my friends (24 year old) has FSGS. It's a scarring of the glomeruli in the kidney, and he's already been put on dialysis :( I am praying really hard for him, word is that he might be needing a transplant soon. Hopefully he gets a transplant really soon and hopefully his body receives it well. The only problem here is that FSGS might attack the new kidney he gets if he gets a new one. May God help us *insert tears here*

- I was randomly roaming the net the other day when I ran into the site called NiggerMania.net. May God help us. This is so crazy because they sound so hateful on the site, the crazy thing is that we probably mix and mingle with some of these people everyday. Thanks to the internet, they can hide behind anonymity and spew their hateful words.

-Did anyone else notice it's Friday the 13th? LMAO!

- I was chilling with my friend yesterday and she broke her mirror. Then she started freaking out saying "OMG, what do we have to do to avoid bad luck for 7 years?" LMAO! I was so confused because I had never heard of that superstition, anyway sha, she insisted that we both pray in order to avoid bad luck for 7 years. She was serious too so I obliged, LOL!

- Have an awesome weekend sweets!!!!!!!!!

From hobby to business!!!!

2010-07-25T20:18:00.000-04:00

Hola people, hope you had a great week o. I had an okay week myself.

Anyway, I figured I would introduce you guys to my new little side hustle o. I decided to turn one of my many hobbies/talents into a side hustle which I most def need since I will be starting a professional program.

I have always been a crocheting/sewing maniac, making anything from bags to hats to scarves, etc. I decided to start selling some of the things that I make on my own etsy store called Amazonian Chica. You can find it at http://www.etsy.com/shop/amazonianchica

Patronize me and I promise to include a little special something in your package! :D

Here are some pictures:

Swimming: How many can?

2010-07-16T23:00:00.000-04:00

I can't swim. I think I just have a weird fear because I won't even take a "bath", I only do showers! It's that bad! My excuse has always been that I want one-on-one classes, until my school started offering free swimming classes. That's how I realized my problem is deeper than one-on-one classes :(

I was reading an article earlier (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/24411271/) and it talked about how almost 60% of black children in the United States cannot swim. If that is the prevalence in children, I wonder what the prevalence in adults is.

So, here is my question: How many of you out there can swim?

I am so bad, I can't float in water, doggie-paddle, whatever. I can't do any of that stuff :o

I stalk my own blog :o

2010-07-02T00:01:00.000-04:00

Is this normal? LMAO! I log on several times a day when I get the chance to see if people have commented on my blog, and also because I look at my blog roll to check whenever other people have updated their blogs! LOL!

Is this normal?

2010-06-27T12:16:00.000-04:00

I don't know what got into me today. I woke up this morning and the first thing that came to my mind was to write a list of things that I want in a man. I am pretty sure that I am leaving some things out, but this is what I have for now. I have no clue if it is normal to wake up in the morning and have a huge urge to write a list such as this one. I will continue to add to the list, but I am not sure that I will share the updates unless they are truly important.

I guess I learned nothing from watching the Chilli show on Vh1. Anyway, here is my list in no particular order (simply because I am too lazy to put them in order of importance right now):

College graduate OR has a trade and is good at it
Preferably no kids
No past relationship drama. ( Crazy Exes, etc)
Affectionate
Sense of humor
Likes kids/would like to have kids later on
Not bossy
Respectful
Patient
Accepting towards Nigerian/Yoruba culture
Doesn't have an aversion to visiting Nigeria
Spontaneous when necessary
Romantic
Humble
Great communicator
Good listener
Can engage me in conversations, silly and intelligent, when necessary
Generous
Loving
Financially responsible
Wants to get married at some point ( I am not baby-momma material! :o)
Not possessive
Motivated
Tactful
Not a cheater (no wandering eyes either)
Don't brag about worldly accomplishments/don't try to "buy" me.
Be truthful, always
Love me unconditionally
No crazy sexual history
No crazy/evil potential in-laws
Free of STDs and HIV (YES, I will make you get tested!!!!)
No napoleon's complex ( I will not squat in pictures, or take my heels off just so I don't hurt your ego.)
Fears God [Hey, the bible says: "The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom!" (Prov 1:7)]
Easy on the eyes ;)

Do you think this is too much? I don't think I am asking for too much, right?

No title today abeg

2010-06-21T00:41:00.000-04:00

I have been trying to figure out what to talk about, but I haven't been successful! :(

So.................................how about them Yankees?
and
How about them Gators?
Super Eagles nko? :D

Anybody been watching the World cup lately? Haven't the African teams been disappointing? I almost lost my voice yelling at the screen today. Where did the refs come from? Their own ojoro against Ivory Coast today was on a whole 'nother level o.

Somebody please tell me why a grown ass man in his 50's is beefing me, LMAO! I no send, yain't finna talk crazy and expect me to just sit there and take it. You be yooba man but you sho' nuff ain't ma daddy!

Yo, wtf is a c-string? Just found out about it today. I just feel like it could fall out if you have on a dress or skirt. Abeg ladies no dey take risk like this, wear seamless panties or go commando sef.

Link to C-string: http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2007/06_01/underwearDM_228x554.jpg

Je suis very excited! :D

2010-06-08T15:58:00.000-04:00

I finally hollered at Officer McHawtie and he's so nice and awesome. The perfect gentleman he is. We went out once already and plan on doing it more often. The end :D

No more details till further notice :p

Cleaner 'Fro! (Pics)

2010-05-26T22:37:00.000-04:00

I was really happy with my 'fro last week but my sisters told me I needed a new cut. Apparently, I missed a some spots in the back and still had relaxed ends.

Today after my class, I went on Google to find the names of barbershops in Gainesville. I ended up going to the one that was closest to my apartment. Just in case any Gainesvillian is reading, the name is Cutting Edge, and it's on 13th street. The guy there did an awesome job and so I decided to share pics of my 'fro looking even and awesome!

Here are the pics, yeehawwwww!

You call it razz, I call it resourceful :p

2010-05-24T22:48:00.000-04:00

I love earrings; not only do I love earrings, I love the huge ones. My earrings don't have to be expensive but they tend to be on the extreme gaudy side, LOL!

A while ago, I got tired of dumping my earrings in my jewelry drawers because they always ended up broken. I had about half a yard of this gray material that I bought on sale a while ago from Walmart laying around the house.

I decided to put it to good use by hemming all four edges of the fabric. I then used a seam ripper to punch holes in the fabric and attached it to the wall with thumb tacks!
Voila!!!!!!!! My brand new (maybe temporary, until I find something better) gaudy earring holder! I know it looks empty right now but that's because I didn't remember to take pictures until after I already started packing to go out of town for the weekend.

Anyway sha, how una dey? Hope you had an awesome weekend! Lawd knows I did, we had my lil' sister's graduation party and it was off da darn chain! :D

Afrolicious Amazonian Naija Queen! :D

2010-05-20T15:52:00.000-04:00

Hola people, hope your week is going great! Hang in there, the weekend is almost here jare!

Remember a while ago I was contemplating cutting my hair and started a new blog that would be focused on my hair transition to natural from relaxed? Well, yay! I finally did it and I posted new pictures on my hair blog . Check it out when you get a chance! :D

Have a blessed week and if I don't get a chance to holler before the weekend, have a wonderful weekend :)

Friend Indeed rolls eyes

2010-05-14T14:00:00.001-04:00

Why the heck have I remained friends with this person? I think I have finally reached my limit though, haven't spoken to ol' dude in almost a week and we used to talk daily.

I have a love-hate relationship with this person. We have been good friends for a while but some things he says/does bother me. I have told ol' dude a multitude of times that they bother me but he has refused to change. For example, he picks up the phone and the first words out of his mouth is "what up loser?". He refers to women as bitches and doesn't see anything wrong with it, he claims I shouldn't be bothered as long as he is not calling me a bitch. I have told him several times that it would probably only be a matter of time before he starts calling me a bitch too.

I remember getting in an argument and not talking to him for a long while because he called me a "twat"; he apologized for it and then 5 minutes later during the same phone call he repeated it.

He doubts my abilities; I told him I would apply to pharmacy school and he acted supportive the entire time. After I told him about my acceptances, he said "wow, congrats, I didn't think you could do it!" I asked him why he didn't think so and his reply was "I mean, I always knew you were smart, I just didn't think you were that smart." SMH.

He boasts about popping bottles and ish all the time; seriously I get bored because I am soooo not the one to brag about liquor to. I barely drink, never been tipsy or drunk in my life so when you he talks about all these drinks and ish, I am unimpressed. Frankly, I look at non-rich people who "pop bottles" as fools!!! If you are popping bottles on a regular basis yet you gotta scramble at the beginning of the month to pay your rent, I am sorry but YOU ARE A FOOL!!!!!

He is unapologetic about his womanizing past and for some reason, every woman he dated in the past is a "bitch" or a "fool" or any other derogatory word you can think of. My thought is always, if she is that much of a "bitch", how come you were in a relationship with her for 3 years or more?

You know what? Writing this post and thinking about other things he has said or done in the past have helped me decide he doesn't deserve to be called my friend. His refusal to stop things that I have told him bother me several times only goes to show that he has no regard for me. It is not by force to be close friends; learn to respect my wishes or GOODBYE! :)