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10 Principles for Peace of Mind :)

2010-08-22T12:31:00.003-07:00

10 Principles for Peace of Mind

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked:

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

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2. Forgive And Forget:

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

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3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours if in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.

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4. Do Not Be Jealous:

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

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5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

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6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

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7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

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8. Meditate Regularly:

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

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9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:

An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.

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10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:

Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over split milk?

Some Life Lessons from "3 Idiots" Movie

2010-01-15T00:11:00.002-07:00

1. Never Try To Be Successful
Success is the bye-product. Excellence always creates success. So, never run after the success, let it happen automatically in the life.

2. Freedom To Life
Don't die before actual death. Live every moment to the fullest as you are going to
die today night. Life is gifted to humankind to live, live & live @ happiness.

3. Passion Leads To Excellence
When your hobby becomes your profession and passion becomes your profession. You will be able to lead up to excellence in the life. Satisfaction, pleasure, joy and love will be the outcome of following passion. Following your passion for years, you will surely become something one day.

4. Learning Is Very Simple
Teachers do fail. Learners never fail. Learning is never complicated or difficult. Learning is always possible whatever rule you apply.

5. Pressure At Head
Current education system is developing pressures on students' head. University intelligence is useful and making some impact in the life but it cannot be at the cost of the life.

6. Life Is Emotion Management Not Intelligence Optimization
Memory and regular study have definite value and it always helps you in leading a life. You are able to survive even if you can make some mark in the path of the life. With artificial intelligence, you can survive and win but you cannot prove yourself genius. Therefore, in this process genius dies in you.

7. Necessity Is The Mother Of Invention
Necessity creates pressure and forces you to invent something or to make it happen or to use your potentiality. Aamir Khan in this film, 3 idiots, is able to prove in the film by using aqua guard pump at the last moment.

8. Simplicity is Life
Life is need base never want base. Desires have no ends. Simplicity is way of life and Indian culture highly stresses on simple living and high thinking, and this is the way of life: 'Legs down to earth and eyes looking beyond the sky'

9. Industrial Leadership
Dean of the institute in 3 idiots is showing very typical leadership. He has his own principles, values and ideology, and he leads the whole institute accordingly. This is an example of current institutional leadership. In the present scenario, most of the institutes are fixed in a block or Squarish thinking.

10. Importance Of One Word In Communication
If communication dies, everything dies. Each word has impact and value in communication. One word if used wrongly or emphasized wrongly or paused at a wrong place in communication what effect it creates and how is it affected is demonstrated very well in this movie.

11. Mediocrity Is Penalized
Middle class family or average talent or average institute is going to suffer and has to pay maximum price in the life if they do not upgrade their living standards. To be born poor or as an average person is not a crime but to die as an average person with middle class talent is miserable and if you are unable to optimize your potentiality and die with unused potentiality then that is your shameful truth. One should not die as a mediocre. He/she has to bring out genius inside him/her and has to use his/her potentiality to the optimum level.

I went places! :)

2009-11-12T23:46:00.004-07:00

With the year 2009 end nearing, I turned back and looked at various weirdness (which is normal to me and my friends know that) I have been a part of this year!

All in all a good year. I achieved well professionally but lost a lot personally.
What I achieved or lost is a whole different post, but here I wanted to list the places I visited and will visit in the remainder of this year.

Listing all big cities in the order I visited them in 2009 (and late 2008). Not that this is interesting to you, but it fascinates me when I turn back and look. Also to note that I relocated in the middle of 2009 which was a very sad parting for me because I was very attached to Phoenix, AZ. It was a second home to me! I miss you and I will be back!!! :)

Here is the list (to the best of my knowledge in the order I visited these places):

- San Francisco, CA (Road trip: via Los Angeles, to my best friend's place on his B'Day was a surprise for him)
- Los Angeles and San Diego (Road trip: Universal Studios, Sea World etc.)
- Raleigh, NC (Flight: in Feb to Sai's place who is a friend from college)
- Princeton, NJ (Road trip: through Washington D.C., Virginia etc. a day trip with Sai and was fun!)
- Kansas City, MO (Flight: for an interview at Cerner, verbal offer but not worked out later)
- Salt Lake City, UT (Flight: for an interview at Motorola)
- Bozeman, MT (Flight: for an interview at Rightnow, written offer but did not join as got a better offer at Motorola)
- Relocated to Salt Lake City, UT (Road trip: was fun but long)
- Chicago, IL (Flight: business trip to Motorola mothership ie HQ just after a week of joining)
- Yellowstone, MT, WY, ID (Road trip: for camping)
- Salem, OR (Flight: business trip customer visit)

More visits before end of year 2009
- India (Obviously flight)
- Mumbai (transiting but still will count)
- Nagpur (parents living there now)
- New Delhi (for visa stamping)
- Indore (my HOMETOWN where I grew up)
- Wardha (my parents are taking me there)
- Nasik, Shirdi, Shani Singnapur, Pune (pilgrim tour)
- may be more places which I am not sure about at this point

- Los Angeles, CA (Flight: to meet Sai)
- Las Vegas, NV (Road trip: to celebrate a very eventful year 2009)

Wow! was that not a long list. I think it was long but still not enough and I would like to travel more and more. I hope I travel more in 2010 and all for good reasons!

Think about it and may be you can also recollect something which would make you jot a list on a blog that you do not post to anymore.

Happy recollecting 2009 and Best Luck for 2010!

-Niranjan

Lajawaab Indore

2009-06-14T20:30:00.005-07:00

Here's something on Indore! My home town!

(click on the two images below to see bigger version)

Cadbury Eyebrows (official version)

2009-05-29T19:55:00.003-07:00

What an AD!

2008-10-14T21:44:00.000-07:00

Software Engineer Growth

2008-09-25T08:05:00.000-07:00

Soft toy romance!

2008-07-19T23:49:00.002-07:00

iPhone home screens

2008-07-15T08:43:00.004-07:00

iPhone Home Screen #1 (on July 21 '08)

iPhone Home Screen #2 (on July 21 '08)

iPhone Home Screen #3 (on July 21 '08)

:)

I finally found my soulmate (iSoulmate)!

2008-07-13T18:23:00.001-07:00

The proposal (with nervous heart)

She said yes!

Me and my iPhone forever together! :)

Check out my babe! Envious!!!??? he he he

My resume in Hindi

2008-05-06T19:21:00.002-07:00

Follow this link to see my resume in Hindi...

:)

Niranjan Bendre's resume in Hindi

Words before & after marriage

2008-04-14T09:50:00.002-07:00

Before Marriage

He : Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.

She: Do you want me to leave?

He : NO! Don't even think about it.

She: Do you love me?

He: Of course! Over and over!

She: Have you ever cheated on me?

He: NO! Why are you even asking?

She: Will you kiss me?

He: Every chance I get!

She: Will you hit me?

He: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!

She: Can I trust you?

He: Yes.

She: Darling!

After marriage... Simply read from bottom to top.

Delhi citizen does sting operation on more than 100 Delhi cops

2008-04-06T10:35:00.002-07:00

Nataraj Pencils Retro Ad

2008-03-15T20:56:00.002-07:00

GMail Art - Google

2008-02-22T20:11:00.001-07:00

Awesome video...

Generation Next! :)

2008-02-18T22:09:00.003-07:00

A young second generation Indian in the US was asked by his mother to explain the significance of "Diwali" to his younger brother, this is how he went about it...
" So, like this dude had, like, a big cool kingdom and people liked him. But, like, his step-mom, or something, was kind of a b****, and she forced her husband to, send this cool-dude, he was Ram, to some national forest or something...
Since he was going, for like, something like more than 10 years or so.. he decided to get his wife and his bro along... you know...so that they could all chill out together.
But Dude, the forest was reeeeal scary sh*t... really man... they had monkeys and devils and sh*t like that.
But this dude, Ram, kicked ass with darts and bows and arrows... so it was fine. But then some bad gangsta boys, some jerk called Ravan,
picks up his babe (Sita) and lures her away to his hood. And boy, was our man, and also his bro, Laxman, pissed...
And you don't piss this son-of-a-gun cuz, he just kicks ass and like... all the gods were with him... So anyways,you don't mess with gods.
So, Ram, and his bro get an army of monkeys.. Dude, don't ask me how they trained the monkeys...just go along with me, ok... so, Ram, Lax and their monkeys whip this gangsta's ass in his own hood.
Anyways, by this time, their time's up in the forest..and anyways...it gets kinda boring,you know...no TV or malls or sh*t like that.
So,they decided to hitch a ride back home... and when the people realize that our dude, his bro and the wife are back home...
They thought, well, you know, at least they deserve something nice... and they didn't have any bars or clubs in those days...
so they couldn't take them out for a drink, so they, like, decided to smoke and sh*t...and since they also had some lamps, they lit the lamps also...
So it was pretty cooool... you know with all those fireworks... Really, they even had some local band play along with the fireworks... and you know what, that was the very first, no kidding.., that was the very first music-synchronized fireworks...you know, like the 4th of July stuff, but just, more cooler and stuff, you know.And, so dude, that was how, like, this festival started."

Taj Mahal on Google Maps

2008-02-11T14:02:00.000-07:00

View Larger Map

B'Day cake in disguise of a laptop or otherwise?

2008-02-11T03:00:00.000-07:00

Tashan Trailer

2008-01-29T00:14:00.001-07:00

Timeless India

2008-01-28T23:52:00.001-07:00

A documentary about India

North India Girl Vs South Indian Girl!!!

2008-01-17T19:19:00.001-07:00

North Indian Girl Vs South Indian Girl

WHAT IT MEANS TO HAVE A North Indian GIRL as WIFE

1. At the time of marriage, a north Indian girl has more boyfriends than her age.

2. Before marriage, she looks almost like a bollywood heroine and after marriage you have to go around her twice to completely hug her.

3. By the time she professes her undevoted love to you, you are bankrupt because of the number of times you had to take her out to movie theatres and restaurants. And you wait longingly for her dowry.

4. The only dishes she can think of to cook is paneer butter masala, aloo sabji, aloo gobi sabji, aloo matar, aloo paneer, that after eating all those paneer and aloos you are either in the bed with chronic cholestrol or chronic gas disorder.

5. The only growth that you see later in your career is the rise in your monthly phone bill.

6. You are blinded by her love that you think that she is a blonde. Only later do you come to know that it is because of the mehandhi that she applies to cover her gray hair.

7. When you come home from office she is very busy watching "Kyonki saas bhi kabi bahu thi" that you either end up eating outside or cooking yourself.

8. You are a very "ESpecial" person to her.

9. She always thought that Madras is a state and covers the whole of south india until she met you.

10. When she says she is going to "work out" she means she is going to "! walk out"

11. She has greater number of relatives than the number of people you have in your home town.

12. The only two sentences in English that she knows are "Thank you" and "How are you"

13. She thinks Govinda can dance better than Michael Jackson.

WHAT IT MEANS TO HAVE A South Indian GIRL as WIFE

1.Her mother looks down at you because you didn't study in IIT or Madras / Anna University .

2. Her father starts or ends every conversation with " ... I say..."

3. She shudders if you use four letter words.

4. She has long hair, neatly oiled and braided (The Dubai based Oil Well Company will negotiate with her on a 25 year contract to extract coconutoil from her hair.)

5. She uses the word 'Super' as her only superlative.

6. Her name is another name for a Goddess or a flower.

7. Her first name is longer than your first name, middle name and surname combined (unless you are from Andhra)

8. When she mixes milk/curd and rice you are never sure whether it is for the Dog or for herself.
9. For weddings, she sports a mini jasmine garden on her head and wears silk saris in the Madras heat without looking too uncomfortable while you are melting in your singlet.

10. She thinks Kamal Hassan is the sexiest man alive.

11. Her favourite cricketer is Krishnamachari Srikkanth.

12. Her favourite food is dosa though she has tried North Indian snacks like Chats (pronounced like the slang for 'conversation')

13. She bursts into songs with her cousins in every movie.

14. She bores you by telling you which raaga each song you hear is based on.

15. You have to give her jewellery, though she has already got plenty of it ..

16. Her thali (Mangal Sutra) weighs more than the championship belts worn by WWF wrestlers.

17. She is more educated than you.

18. Her father thinks she is much smarter than you ..

Tashan Trailer

2008-01-10T22:39:00.001-07:00

Custom made Stocking Stuffed with Chocolates - got at Wells Fargo

2007-12-11T21:28:00.000-07:00

Life's story... Will not let this be mine!

2007-12-06T22:08:00.000-07:00

Really??? but when???

2007-10-27T22:49:00.000-07:00