NLP Weekly Magazine

Face Yourself

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 14:02:17 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht “My face is my livelihood!”, Cosmo Kramer (Seinfeld) The amount of non-verbal clues you can absorb in a person is almost unlimited. In my personal files, there are over 1,500 recorded clues for learning, reading and “conceiving” another human being. Today we’ll do a quick exercise, that will surely give you some insights about [...]

Google’s Free SMS Service

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:43:52 +0000

Not related to NLP, but I thought it’s important enough to let you know: Google’s free email service – Gmail – has a new feature, as of today: Free SMS to quite a lot of cellphone companies worldwide. So enjoy and save

The Positive Personal Significance Experience

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 14:01:31 +0000

By: Rasa Galatiltyte, NLP Trainer Author of “Beyond Rapid Therapy: Modern NLP Concepts & Methods” Nearly everyone wants to be a hero, but people who are marginalized want it more. Why else would comic books have a hero that can’t reveal his or her identity but is intensely tempted to do so in order to impress someone? You can use [...]

Your Eyes Are Stuck!

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:49:55 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht I never liked those weekend hypnosis seminars. They promise to teach you all about hypnosis in two or three days, and all of those who promise such a grandiose delusion are big fat liars. My professional training took almost 2 years to complete. I went to school at least 3 times a week, [...]

Jazz Trance

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 08:16:58 +0000

Here’s an interesting online British comedy, and the first episode on Jazz Trance: httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bKwQ_zeRwEs

Exposing The NLP Presuppositions Or Fundamental Lies

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 13:00:58 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht Every beginning trainee in NLP starts with the basic of the basics – The NLP Presuppositions. Michael Hall and Bob Bodenhamer, in their fabulous for beginners book “The User’s Manual For The Brain“, divide the NLP presuppositions into 4 groups: 1. Mental Processing Presuppositions 2. Presuppositions about Human Behavior/Responses 3. Communicative Presuppositions 4. Learning—Choice—Change Presuppositions Here are NLP [...]

How do I know if My Perceptual Positions are Not Aligned?

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 13:31:10 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht Let’s actually imagine something and see if you get the same thing; the same sense of properly placed senses as you did in real life. Let’s see if, in a visualization, you are the center of properly placed senses. First, pick a situation that is challenging for you, and involves another person, like [...]

Virtues and Pleasures

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:02:03 +0000

I’ve been reading a lot of Seneca’s writings lately. Seneca was a Roman philosopher (among his other duties), who believed in Stoicism as a way of approaching life. I have found some similarities between NLP and Stoicism, but that’s not so important. Today I wanted to share with you a few “Stoic Nuggets”. These are quotes [...]

Utilization

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:01:31 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht Utilization is a technique that has opened up entirely new vistas in mental health treatment and personal life. Utilization happens when you turn an existing resource into a tool for a meaningful purpose. Where this can be surprising is when things that seem very negative or inappropriate are used, or repurposed. Often, [...]

The Power of Metaphors

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 17:06:03 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht The subconscious is always looking for solutions, but our defenses and traumas can keep us from connecting the dots. We have evolved to digest our daily experience through REM sleep, but traumatic and other anxi-ety-provoking material can prevent REM sleep from doing its job. However it is that we become stuck, one [...]

Why isn’t NLP a Mainstream Approach?

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 19:20:15 +0000

Here’s a great quote from a new book titled “Beyond Rapid Therapy: Modern NLP Concepts & Methods” by European NLP trainer, Rasa Galatiltyte. Why isn’t NLP a Mainstream Approach? By: Rasa Galatiltyte There you have it. This is one of the most difficult, if not THE most disturbing, questions to answer. As active practitioners in the field, we get this [...]

Milton Erickson’s Hypnotic Story – The Girl And The Penis

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 13:02:05 +0000

No, it is not an erotic story, and before you even think about it – it’s not a ’seduction’ way to induce a girl to sleep with you and adore your penis. It’s much less attractive but THAT much important, at least for the therapists among us. I used that specific story only once in my private [...]

The Past Is Not There To Cripple You…

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 13:22:33 +0000

Please Note: The following article describes a very advanced technique to deal with strong emotions. It is based on Time Line Therapy®, originated and taught exclusively by Dr. Tad James. Feel free to experiment with the technique here, but I must advise you to first go for professional training in Time Line Therapy®. Contact us for a [...]

Hypnosis Technique: Eye Fixation

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 14:07:10 +0000

In contrast to the previous method, this one is a lot longer and should be performed mainly for therapeutic reasons, normally during the first session, after the initial conversation with a new client. A few points to remember with this method, and in general hypnotherapy practice: Everything the client does is FINE. He or she does not [...]

Watch Out! 2010 Is Almost Here…

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 13:10:14 +0000

For those of you who follow us since 2004, you know that this is already a yearly tradition. Right after Christmas (hope you enjoyed it, btw, hard work awaits!) we post here the annual “NLP In Reality” Questionnaire. And for those who do remember that one, and maybe even completed it once or twice – there [...]

Boredom and Uncertainty

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 13:08:10 +0000

By: Stephan Thieme Author of Persuasion Mastery: 500 Lessons in the Psychology of Sales Too much consistency can really drain away our energy and motivation. There is a Twilight Zone episode from the classic Rod Serling television series, in which a big criminal thinks he is in heaven. But everything always goes exactly as he wishes. He [...]

What Happens When Perceptual Positions are Not Aligned?

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 19:48:19 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht Here’s a great example. Let’s say someone is a bit self-centered or narcissistic. They have trouble tolerating it when someone else has more expensive clothes than they do, or is more important than they are in some way. When they work with perceptual positions, they may find that when they try position number [...]

Exploring Causes & Effects

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 19:41:47 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht “When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another”. - Helen Keller The “L” in NLP stands for Language, and we do use a lot of linguistic models and tools in our work. When a client comes in [...]

Something For Hanukkah

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 13:01:51 +0000

So to all of you celebrating tonight, here’s a song by Adam Sandler:

What about Modeling?

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 13:01:16 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht Modeling is an essential part of NLP. It is one of the seeds that gave birth to everything that now makes NLP what it is. As I shared with you in the beginning of this book, the originators of NLP wanted to under-stand and teach excellence. Fields such as linguistics, psychology, and [...]

Dilts’ Logical Levels

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 13:08:41 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht Dilts developed his logical levels to guide the process of intervention. Rather than focus on physiology and behavior, or emotional states, Dilts tells us to focus directly on strategies, sub-modalities, beliefs and identi-ties. His levels help to put them in perspective. Lets apply this to the phobia we were just talking about. The first [...]

Fine Tune It: Asymmetry!

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 13:08:39 +0000

By: Stephan Thieme Another excerpt from the excellent book, “Persuasion Mastery“. Another problem with unconscious pacing happens when the pacing is not working. This is not a failure to use the skills, it is a failure of the skills being used. But what was failing? Were you too artificial? Was there something about you or the situation [...]

#1 On Amazon

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 13:03:41 +0000

Just got an email from the guys at Amazon, to let me know The Big Book of NLP is now #1 on two categories: NLP and Hypnosis. Here’s my show-and-tell. Hypnosis: NLP: Thanks to all of you who made it happen.

Changes… Changes…

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 13:01:11 +0000

I know. In NLP, we welcome changes, even if for the worse – since then, at least, we know which way we’re heading, and we’re, again – at least, moving. But how do you make the process less painful? less disturbing? how do you take the discomfort out of it? You need to adapt, on purpose, and [...]

Persuasion By Chunking Up/Down

Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 13:00:13 +0000

By: Shlomo Vaknin, C.Ht "It's not the mountain that lies ahead of you that stops you... it's the pebble in your shoe" - Muhammad Ali Chunk Up – or Chunking Up – means that you move from specifics to generalities. Chunk Down – or Chunking Down – means that you move from generalities to specifics. Chunk Up is answering questions [...]