No Bon Bons Girls

Here We GO .... again .. How to Lose Weight!

2011-07-12T04:14:00.004-04:00

We are at it again. Losing weight that is. Not sure if it is old weight, or new weight that we gained after we lost the ~~last time~~ past several times. BUT ...we may be finally getting it right.

.... Maybe...

Darleen is using a modified method after noticing that her main issue (well maybe not main) ... regarding loosing weight at least has been that she has trouble eating breakfast. Or she eats breakfast at about lunch time, and very little except coffee until then. So how to get some vitamins, protein and calories in first thing to get the .. motor running kinda thing. By chance the Charming Prince in residence, happened to find a chocolate mocha drink high in protein and vitamins -
Bolthouse --> Perfectly Protein® Mocha Cappuccino .
It is delicious, and I have 8 oz each morning within 1 hour of waking (or getting out of bed -- which ever comes first). I then have 8 oz of water, and then .... my coffee with slop of 1% milk.
Snack has become cereal - gluten-free or some healthy low sugar that I douse with milk and berries - strawberries, blueberries, blackberries - whatever berries I can find. And more water. Lunch is light - salad, salmon sandwich on organic seedy bread (lots of grain thingies) .. and raw fruit and veggies. More water. Afternoon snack is an apple of cheese if I feel loss of energy.... and yep more water. Supper/dinner has become lacking in potatoes or pasta and most evenings have salad with grilled chicken and veggies and light on dressing. More water. PLUS exercise!!
YES!!! -- Exercise .. and that is more than walking to the fridge or stretching for the ice cream scoop!
Real exercise - and yes the first 2 weeks was brutal and I could barely move in between sessions. If you have never heard of a terrific herbal remedy Traumeel > well it works!!
Zumba!! Yes taking ZUMBA twice a week for 8 weeks got me out of the rut ... and onto the street. I and the Charming Prince walk each night (rarely missing any) at least 4.2km per night. Or 2.61 miles. This has resulted in almost 20 lbs of weight loss and most days feeling better.

SUCCESS REASONS:
1) Breakfast
2) WATER - at least 2 liters of water per day
3) JUST SAY NO TO :
- potatoes, sugar, white bread, rice, pasta, ice cream, pop, desserts, half portion of meals,
candy, cookies, alcohol (except on weekends - 1beverage followed by a lot of water) ...
4) Exercise - must be the 10,000 steps PLUS something else to let the body know you mean it.

Jan.. is doing the 17 day Dr Mike Diet ... more to come on that.

... personally I think they would sell more books
if they put Dr Mike's photo on the front of the book ...
and maybe scattered throughout :)

I am taking a rest from Zumba and actually missing it. ...

Get yourself some water and Zumba ... Ahhh along ..

...darleen & jan

Where did the children go?

2011-01-18T13:25:00.003-05:00

The day has come that you have been waiting for
- the children are grown and moved out!

Hoo Ha!! Right?
Or maybe not.

Jan is feeling the first twinges with the empty nest, or in her case the slowly
emptying nest syndrome.

"It's natural for a parent to feel some sadness when children leave home.
Indeed, it’s normal to have a little weep now and again – or even go into the absent child's bedroom and sit there for a while in an attempt to feel closer to him or her."

Yikes! There is even a help line, in case you by chance go into a serious depression. See what children can do to us? First they wreck our luscious young bodies, and then after it is all over there is chance of drifting into a depression. Maybe it is just a delayed reaction - you know to the positive pregnancy ~~test~~ tests. Let's hope that doesn't happen - onward we charge.

Daughter #1 is in Australia - seems so far away, even with Skype - hard to go for the usual pedicures other than in person. Yes we could try, but is - just not the same.

Her eldest son has married and left to setup house with his bride now for over a year, and there are 3 other children still at home. The advent of the first 2 has made Jan feel the tug at the apron strings and heart. Yes, she wants them to grow up and be productive and self reliant individuals. And yes, she has been looking forward to having house and home to self and husband again. BUT ... why is there such a heaviness in her heart. It is like missing your best friend, only worse.

Yep, I did experience this as well, and watch as other friends now are starting the empty nest syndrome - and see the forlorn looks, and holding back tears, and constant checking of text messages and Facebook for just in case 'she posts something'. It is similar to going through withdrawal after a love affair breakup. The loneliness feeling and longing - for just one more hug, or one more chance for her to be the little girl again. As yes we hoped for this day, some more than others
- especially through the teenage years
- "Please if there is a god in heaven, let these children grow-up and move out now!"
But ... We didn't really mean it. Just a wee bit longer to have them as children.

We used to add the Baileys to the coffee to bolster our nerves due to the children bouncing off the walls - now we add it to dull our emotions. And we slump.

PING -- Jan scrambles to find her Blackberry (it slipped into couch during the slump) ... and ...

Darleen: Hey how are you today? Very exciting that E is in Australia!!

Pfft ... yeah sure it is a riot. But better put on the happy face.

Jan: yes very exciting. I am sad about but good for her.

Darleen: Sad? Remember it is not about you - it is her life now. But yes, I recall that feeling.

Ahh she is remembering .. and yes I know I moved far away from my mother at age 21 - who am I to talk. But that was different. Isn't it?

Jan: Yes. Just seems like she might never return.

Darleen: Well... she may not, but I think she will. But it is a good excuse for you to plan a trip to Australia. I know - still hard. Give yourself time - but you gotta release her. xxoo

ahh yes - release. BUT I DON'T WANT TO!! NOT YET!!

uhuh ... Been there ... and the worst is that they do return. Not the fact that they return is the worst. The worst is that they leave after thrilling us with a short visit, temporary stay while new place is getting in order - and then leave - AGAIN! Just when we were getting used to them being there again ... GONE!

In my case the delight of grandchildren is softening the children having the indecency to growup. It helps - in fact it helps a lot. Not all of us are lucky to have grandchildren, or are often far away - due to the dang children moving away.

So now we have grand-parenting by Skype!
Hoo Ha!!

And they wonder why we mumble a lot as we age .
Pass the Baileys ...please ..

...darleen & jan

Does Your Body Image Suck?

2011-01-12T01:02:00.003-05:00

Credit: Ruling Cats and Dogs

Do you hate how you look?

Do you wish you were:

Thinner
Prettier
Sexier
Looked more like you used to look

Hmmm... I just finished watching What Not To Wear - you know the TV show that people are nominated by friends and family, that require a makeover as their clothing choices are not promoting them in a good way.

"What Not to Wear draws on the personality and talent of fashion experts Stacy London and Clinton Kelly to convert participants from dowdy to dashing. Hair stylist Ted Gibson and makeup artist Carmindy add the finishing touches that complete the change."

First there was Mindy Cohn
She is child star from the Facts of Life sitcom in the 80s, today she is 44 years old and although her personality is vibrant and upbeat, her clothes were dowdy and attempting to cover her largeness, and to obtain comfort. She didn't realized that her outside appearance was not displaying her happiness with herself and creating the image of who she really is within. The clothes chosen really made her look better - in fact fabulous, along with basic makeup and spiffed up hair styling.

Ok - so she can look better, and even quite attractive - but she is still not thin. She has never been thin however, so this just a better looking Mindy!

Second I watched Maggie - a very vibrant young mother of 2 young children, and had become frustrated with changes to her body after childbirth. She had never felt attractive, and was now overwhelmed with finding clothes to fit, and her self esteem and confidence was at all time low. The transformation was astounding with simple changes to types of clothes chosen, hair style and just a bit of makeup. The clothes selected to showoff her assets made her look HOT!

This one really hit home to me, as her issue was mostly due to changes that had happened to her body after childbirth. I myself am dealing with changes after later in life, after always being thin for 48 years, and suddenly having a completely different body - so similar, as what the heck is this and how do we deal with our body not being the body we are used to dressing and seeing in the mirror. So we cover it up with baggy clothes, and loose sweaters, and playing into the loss of self esteem and self.

Maggie said she never felt pretty or attractive, and I could relate to that as well - as I was always either too skinny, too flat chested, or too lumpy. Although when I was younger and thinner I did put more time into primping and wearing nice clothes, as was easier to find clothes that fit as they were supposed to fit. Now it is a challenge, and due to wanting to cover up the bulges I have become similar to Maggie - overwhelmed so throw up my arms in disgust and keep my coat on a lot.

BUT WOW - did she look magnificent in all the clothes and with the smallest amount of makeup and hair given a boost! She became absolutely beautiful. Unfortunately I cannot link to a photo yet, as it just aired last night. Believe me in the black party dress - and as she stated old time movie start dress - it was an amazing transformation!

Is that all it takes? Yes I would and should lose some weight for my health - but at the same time I cannot expect or more I need to accept that I am no longer 20 and never shall be so again. Bodies change, age causes other changes to our appearance. BUT - as this show very well does, it is our image of our self and love of our self - our Body Image and Self Esteem that should see us through.

How the heck do we dress this new body and face? Well getting on a makeover show would be one way - or learning tips that are posted online and even will send to you on your cell phone (wonder how that works? - like can they see me and tell me to stop wearing the baggy fleece hoodie?).

OR - a do it yourself makeover with girlfriends. Or you can pay for Image Consultants to do a makeover and assist with what to wear, and choosing clothes that suit the 'mature' you or changed you.

This photo was taken about 2 years ago
- and I can still fit into this dress.

I did have a new one for this Christmas,
but did not have a photo taken.

I will do that
- dress up and take a photo, and show I can cleanup good.

Next is to get some style added to every day dressing
with casual clothing as well as if dressing down going to feel down.

What do you think?
Is there a way to accept who we are on the outside?
Or should we even care, but like ourselves regardless?

And as with the examples shown - even without losing weight these women look fabulous and feel completely alive, feminine and pretty as who they are.

Do you look good when you dress up, but are you like me and not presenting yourself in the IMAGE you should be in casual clothes ? Or even to yourself?
Or every day attire to the office - does it matter how you dress? Should it?

Let's make sure our Self Image Is Brilliant!

...darleen & jan

MOTIVATION Collection #1

2010-11-13T16:55:00.000-05:00

Urgent Request!! - SEND MOTIVATION!

2010-11-12T00:11:00.003-05:00

So .... it has been awhile since we have posted an update regarding Jan's weight loss, and Darleen - well doing anything. Excuse this time, is that Darleen has been sick and lazing about like Mr Leopard above.

Current Update

Jan's Weight Loss Adventure

Jan has stuck with her Jenny Craig diet, and exercise program with Curves and Yoga!
Total weight loss = 13.5 lbs! Wow! Excellent, and she has done this with several family parties, and get-a-way weekend, and other changes in routine. Exercise is starting to become a habit for her. She enjoys it and feels bad when she has to skip it. This is amazing. Jan and Mr Jan, are off on their celebration weekend, in honor of their 25th anniversary - feeling fine and able to maintain!
I am betting she will soon be at 20 lbs total weight loss.
With new good habits, even Christmas will not sabotage her.
WOO HOO!! Way to go Jan!

Darleen's Adventure in Finding Purpose and Happiness

This is a sad update, as Darleen has been able to guide Jan, with support, motivation and inspiration. BUT - yes there that word is again - she has not been able to motivate herself very well.
Tomorrow is always the answer.
It has now got to point that Jan is regurgitating the motivational, inspiring messags back to Darleen in daily texting conversations.

Darleen: I wish one day I could wake up feeling refreshed, and energy would surge into me

.Jan: Then that is what you have to envision for yourself. Look forward to what an be, rather than back at what was and even what is..

Darleen: Sounds familiar :)

Jan: Don't you just hate it when your own words come back to bite you :) Was good advice for me so should work for you too!

Darleen: Do as I say, not as I Do syndrome or Are You an Example or Warning?

Jan: I like to think you're an example for me so get your thoughts organized and practice what you preach :)

SO ..... Send motivation and inspiration

TO GET THINGS STARTED

- JUST DO IT!!

...darleen & jan

Update re Quit Smoking Project #FAIL

2010-11-09T23:39:00.000-05:00


Quit Smoking #Fail

I have not been successful with the Quit Smoking Project - lasted about 3 weeks. Ahh... hmmm..
It is difficult. I am a loser. Why? If I had the answers - I would be a non-smoker.
However - each time I do actually get much closer.

I will try again. As it is all that I can do, as must do!

That is all.

...darleen

Eat Dog Biscuits to Quit Smoking

2010-10-04T18:48:00.002-04:00

Kill the craving

"My cousin smoked for 20 years. She quit in an interesting way—she started eating Milkbone dog biscuits! She chewed on them to kill the craving and she quit." — Chris T., New York, N.Y.

I was asked what nicotine withdrawal, and why it is so difficult to ignore. We all know that it is difficult to quit, and that there are multiple reasons for this. BUT, those that have never smoked, find it difficult to understand why it is SO difficult.

What does it feel like?

Nicotine Withdrawal Symptoms

Cravings to smoke - 100 times more than craving for chocolate or that food you are not to have.
Irritable, cranky - but seems like everyone else is being unreasonable
Insomnia - or tired and when sleeping don't think about smoking
Fatigue - lack of stimulant
Inability to Concentrate -- brain does not work > I gave out wrong cell # for myself
Headache -- oooh yeah
Cough - all that stuff starts to be hacked up
Sore throat - yep more release of garbage
Constipation, gas, stomach pain -- lack of nicotine
Dry mouth - have no idea why
Sore tongue and/or gums -- yes mouth hurts, and start to imagine already quit too late
Postnasal drip - again body is releasing junk
Tightness in the chest - tension I assume ..
Crave bitter drinks and food - pepsi, coffee, ginger
Urge to inhale - deep breathing helps a bit

Ways to Manage

The Five D's: DELAY DISTRACT DRINK water DEEP Breaths DISCUSS feelings

There are a few other techniques:
Visualization has been used successfully for some and others not so good.
Support Groups

THE MOST SUCCESSFUL
EFT

I am still learning about this, and the Tapping required to overcome cravings - for quitting smoking and also can be used for plethora of other issues - very successfully.

I have been trying to find an exciting video to demonstrate, however cannot find the perfect video.
Maybe I shall have to make a video that is EXCITING EFT.

Please review this until I can find or create something more exciting:

Also see: http://www.tapping.com/

...darleen

How to Quit Smoking Without Being Arrested

2010-10-04T00:01:00.011-04:00

Darleen has managed to get through the weekend, without smoking
- just barely. It is not easy.

Steps to Becoming a Non Smoker
I prepared with all the reasons, reading books, listening to CDs , gathered gum and nicorette.
I did not sign-up to any Quit Sites, as expect that all would come to a sudden halt, and reject me - there must be a limit to how many times you can actually 'try' to quit.
The very first time I tried to quit, was probably the day after I started in 1971 - and the total number of times I have tried must exceed 200. Some tries did not even last 1 hour! The longest to date has been 8 months.

What is different about this time?
One thing.
I know how to quit - just quit.
I know how to prepare - have an official manual.
I know how my body will react - have foods and extra low calorie snacks ready.
I know my mind will try and negotiate - and have exercises and answers ready.
I have done this before.

The One Thing that is Different
I am asking to be RELEASED from the addiction. As that is what is holding me.
I am ADDICTED.
I cannot think of freedom or how will get my life back - as my ADDICTION will convince me that it is fine to have just one puff, just one smoke, just one ...
I chant (in my head), while I breathe deeply - "release, release, release" and calm myself.

Your Support is appreciated.

... darleen

How to Shrink Your Gut - menopot or other

2010-09-27T14:49:00.004-04:00

This post is longer than usual. It is worth the read!

OH, but yes, since we are female and over 50 years of age - menopot it is called.
And we should not have expectations to be able to lose the menopot entirely.

Menopot Definition: Flab around the middle. Other words used to describe - 'muffin top'.
The equivalent for men over 40 and 50 = 'Gut' and 'Beer Belly'. Or 'middle-age spread' and 'spare tire'!

YES!! This is one of the reasons we want to diet. We want to lose our guts!! Our clothes do not fit as we would like, we feel 'frumpy'. We don't care as much about getting older, if we could just feel comfortable without having to wear maternity style baggy shirts. Yes, the younger women show off their pregnant tummies, but we are from the age that anything baggy = maternity wear. We do not like to be reminded of those days, our bodies were temporarily stolen from us by the parasitic-like incubating progeny. Once we have birthed our babies and moved on towards our Golden Years - we want our bodies to represent our glee! We deserve this, after all we have given. Others that have escaped pregnancy, still have challenges with the 'menopot' due to declining estrogen directing extra fat to our abdomens.

Men also wish to lose this additional fat around the middle - apparently due to sagging egos. I imagine that they also face the mirror not quite as happily as we do, and loosening belts cause similar frustrations.

Millions of dollars are spent for miracle cures to eliminate the menopot and the equivalent male gut.
There is some good advice sprinkled through the MAGIC.
The answer is there is NO MAGIC.

As Noted at Flourish Over 50 >

Here is an excerpt from Dr. Peeke’s article on WebMD regarding Menopot, and how to battle its effects.
I’m going to assume you really want to change and you’re willing to get down to work right now. OK, before you get started, whip a tape measure around your waist across your belly button. Your goal is to be well below 35 inches. If you’re 35 or greater, you have too much belly fat and that’s associated with increased heart disease and diabetes. Keep this in mind as you begin your journey.
Here are the three belly-blasting steps to get you started and on your way to whittling your waist.

And includes such wonderful advice as visualization, monitoring what goes in your mouth and when you eat, and here is the good stuff:

Work your body. The magic formula to blast your belly is a combination of cardio + weight lifting + core work.

It’s great to get in some kind of cardio every day, but just make sure to hit it hard no less than four to five times week. Weight training is vital if you want to see a real shape shifting in your body composition.

Uhuh - sure, so when does the visualization start?
We can visualize we are exercising 5 times a week. There done. Oh you have to actually do the exercising and eating properly. Why, I didn't have to do that when I was 25?
Ahh the runaway estrogen trick.

And for an extra ZINGER
It is actually true that men can lose their extra weight faster and easier than women. BUT, I have found that they as well have more issues over age 50 in getting rid of the middle-age spread spare tire. It may be due to a physiological reason the male-menopause. YES!!

Ok, so we know it happens to the majority of us
- what can be done to at least be more comfortable in our bodies and feel better?

No Bon Bons Girls
- trials, tribulations and testimonial weight loss journey:

CLICK ON READ MORE

Darleen has suggested the 7 Day Cleanse, but not yet got to doing it. There has been too much good stuff to eat lately. Getting to the store to buy the ingredients has not worked yet either.

I do solemnly promise to make a valid effort after I get past my quitting smoking as of September 30th. That will allow me to focus on the quitting smoking this week, and then eating and exercising after the 48 hour nicotine withdrawal. Or is it 48 year withdrawal?
Anyway next week for sure!!
This will lead up to Thanksgiving and ready me for Oktoberfest beer drinking.
Hmm sabotage already.
But one thing at a time.
Concentrating on Quitting Smoking this week is my goal.

Jan is making progress! Yeah Jan ( mumble, mumble from Darleen) and has lost close to 10 lbs!!
How? Well it is multi-fold.
1. Jenny Craig
- she is loving the food and being religious with check-ins and following the program
2. Exercise
- Curves and Yoga - she is becoming bent out of shape.

Text Transcript Snippets
This has been very entertaining to follow across the miles between Ontario and Alberta:

Jan: Hey are you sitting down? I WENT TO THE GYM!! Don't faint please. It actually felt good :)

Me and Curves are a go again.

Darleen: Excellent - too funny!!!
Jan: It was rather funny yes :) ! Glad it was quiet so no one could hurt themselves watching me try to re-master the machines and the circuit!!

later that same day:
Jan: Stupid headache :) see it's that exercise stuff. I'm allergic!! :) Quick rest took it away.
Darleen: Haha. Well headache was probably due to extra oxygen - your brain not used to :)

And..

Jan: OMG! just finished my 1st yoga class!! hmm... slight headache but feel pretty relaxed:)

Darleen: Good - if any pain use ice - not on your head but back and neck maybe. Oxygen again:)
Jan: Not feeling too bad right now. Not sure about getting out of bed tomorrow however ;)

I have decided I have zero flexibility!

More...
Jan: Just waiting after my curves workout. I'm gonna get fit or die trying it would seem!

Jan: Feeling hungry for junk food tonight :) - this was after eating late dinner
Enjoying a cup of tea and Jenny cookies. Thinking the sweetness may curb the crave.

Yuck!
Watching Dr Oz and learning about stress relief.

Nothing I didn't already know. Just need to do it!!

And the bestest ...

Jan: Are you sitting down?? Lost 2.1 today for a total of 5.5 lbs in 3 wks!! I'm quite happy so far.

Darleen: Wow - excellent - it works :)

And here is the latest - well after she called me a Lizard that is ( I like hot weather!)
Jan: K, just finished at Jenny and lost another lb so down 6.2 lbs after 4 wks on program!! I'm quite pleased with my progress so far :) - note she didn't ask if I was sitting down!
Darleen: Wonderful!
Jan: just gave me the boost I needed to keep on moving forward :)
Darleen: For sure - I have done nothing.
Jan: I think my mind is in the right space right now. Couldn't do it before now.
Darleen: I have lost my mind :)

So that is the UPDATE - Jan is making great progress, even though several dinner parties and excitement with daughter flying off to Australia and school starting etc etc. She is doing it!!

DOWN 6.2 lbs in last 4 wks. Now on wk 5 of Jenny and wk 3 of Curves and Yoga.

Jan: Yes I'm pleased. Trying to take it one day at a time but not always easy.

Sometimes go back to old thoughts of no time for me and such.

TIPS: Mind, Food and Exercise need to all be part of the plan and DO IT!!

One day at a time!

How to Quit Smoking coming up next!

...darleen & jan

How I Survived being Captured by My Grandchildren

2010-09-15T23:00:00.012-04:00

'What are you doing? '

Don't Hurt Yourself!!!

Ahh, that phrase again! I heard myself first whispering and then frantically yelling.

How many times has my heartbeat raced, and my body taken quick action to rescue one of my own children, another child or now my grandchildren? Or myself?

Since I have some free time available currently, I decided it was perfect time to spend with my grandchildren. My daughter has Princess K who is 3 years old and H Man at just 20 months old now. With only one in diapers, and no bottles required - although there are constant companion of sippy cups - how hard can managing these short people be? Easy, heck I could do it with my eyes closed after raising my 3 daughters and assisting with various others.

Visions of having real conversations with my extremely intelligent grandchildren filled my head, like sugar plums on Christmas Eve. Thoughts of how we would bond, and develop memories to will be passed down the generations to yet come,
floated merrily in my aging brain.

sophisticated tea party hostess

And then Reality -- I was captured by my grandchildren!

Oh, the first few visits were delightful. We coloured lovely pictures, and watched kiddie shows - Blues Clues, and made muffins. All was very calm and organized, with no wildness at all. My daughter obviously had been exaggerating about how hyper these delightful children could be. She of course doesn't have my experience.
Oh how smug I was the first few times. How naive actually, I was soon to learn.

I digress - to inform you that I have previous experience with being captured by small children. The first incident was when I was a teenage babysitter of 2 young devil possessed boys, ages 3 and 5. We were playing cowboys, and I allowed them to tie me to the coffee table, with old ties from their dad ( well I assumed they were old, as they were in the toy box) - how tight can a 3 and 5 year old tie, I thought. Ack! So tight that it took me 15 minutes to get myself unbound and untangled and in chase of my monster charges. They did not go far. Just to the kitchen to riffle through the snacks left for me - chips, pop, and candy bars. They were stuffing their faces, and laughing like wild hyenas. Enough to say that they went to bed promptly, and I never fell for that trick again.
hmmmm, I wonder where those boys are now?

Back to Current Capture

It happened so suddenly, I was again unprepared. The Princess and I had a lovely day, colouring, movies, lunch, visit to the park and walk in the sun - when H Man awoke from his nap. Again, all was well - we went to basement play area. This is when things got out of hand. I was unable to get the dvd player to function, with the 10 remotes and several devices. "So let's just play without tv or movies" - I thought that was a good suggestion.

Wrong! And the amount of energy they suddenly had was remarkable, as they threw toys everywhere and attacked each other (well not attacked, but well yes attacked).

I regained momentary control and managed to get them herded back upstairs in order to prepare supper. But.. they continued to be too rambunctious, and all control was lost. 'OK! Enough" I proclaimed "Outside!!" They cheered and got their shoes and jackets, and dragged me outside, down the street, and to the park.

Again, I had been captured, and the children were in control!!

Recovery

I did manage to ensure their safety at the park and wrestle them back to the house. They attempted to once again take over, during the supper making process - but my survival skills kicked in and I was able to corral them to sit nicely and colour me a picture - while I made the dinner. Within 8 minutes they were eating the most divine macaroni and cheese. Ok, it was Kraft Dinner - they loved it!
Lots of ketchup and world peace was once again restored.

Reason for this Story

This is my excuse for not getting much done this week
and NO I DID NOT DO THE 7 DAY CLEANSE OR QUIT SMOKING!!
... I want my mommy!

And ...

The grandchildren are really very delightful, and I am having fun spending time with them, however the drive there and back is in total 4 hours
- I wish they lived much closer.

RE-GROUP, RE-FOCUS!
7 day cleanse new Start Date Sunday, September 19
Quit Smoking Date to be set - after successfully complete cleanse.
Social Tweetle site to be updated and other website tasks to be completed this week!!
Enough dilly dallying.

TIP:
Be very very careful of small children - they may appear to be harmless,
when they are actually plotting to take over the world.

More news from Jan and her activities to follow tomorrow.

,,.darleen & jan

And Away We GO ... soon.

2010-09-09T00:30:00.000-04:00

Exercise causes headaches due to increased oxygen to the brain!

Oh yeah baby, this exercise thing is great !!

So.. how far have we got with Ultra Simple Diet prep and getting to our list of TO DOs?

First for the GOOD news from Jan - she sent this to me via text messages today!

Jan:

Hey are you sitting down? I WENT TO THE GYM!! Don't faint please. It actually felt good :). Me and Curves are a go again.

Darleen:
Excellent - too funny!!

Jan:

It was rather funny es :)! Glad it was quiet so no one could hurt themselves watching me try and re-master the machines and the circuit!!

Darleen:

Yes good thing :)

Slight time lag ..

Jan:

Stupid headache :) see it's that exercise stuff. I'm allergic!! :) Quick rest took it away.

Darleen:
Headache is due to oxygen to brain with exercise - not used to it :)

Jan:

Hahahaha!

You will note how very supportive of each other we are!! Hoo Ha, Woo Hoo to Jan!!
Sheesh what a show off .. hmmphf

Darleen's update:
Well, as I have noted indirectly, I have Fibromyalgia and is one reason I have chosen the Ultra Simple Diet. As well it has been, what you call 'flaring' recently.
This morning, I awoke with pains radiating from tip of head to toes. Certain areas of my body were in worse pain than others, and becoming vertical was challenging. I did manage to sneak an extra 1 hr of sleep with neck pillow arranged so that could concentrate on deep breathing and relaxation. The breathing worked to help relax and also allowed me some additional slumber time, as I drifted back to sleep unintentionally. I then realized I was to be up early, as scheduled to go to daughter's for day to spend time with grandkids - a 2 hour drive.
Oh and I promised to make banana muffins. Oops!

I packed everything up, after quickly getting myself ready. Slugging back some yogurt and meal replacement smoothie, I was in car and on way. Oh ... I did stop at Tim Horton's for coffee, as really you expect me to go without caffeine on a day like today? It is medicinal!

The day went well, with the grandkids, although there was an issue with banana muffins - first time did not turn out. Not sure why, but 3 year old granddaughter seems to think "It happens." So we made some more and they turned out, just not my usual wonderful recipe.

Upon driving home after 7:30 PM, in the rain and dark - which causes my eyes to see mirages, I did arrive home safely, but tired. I did not walk my 15 minutes. Ugh.

I did however wear my running shoes - that counts right?
Moral of my story: Don't plan more than can reasonably do, and some days playing with the grandkids is all the exercise needed. After spending time with a 3 year old and 20 month old, I am tired but strangely stress-free.

TOMORROW: I SHALL WALK 15 MINUTES

Continuing on with TO DO LIST to prepare for Sunday, September 12, 2010 7 Day Cleanse and life altering experiment with food.

Oh, and GREAT WORK JAN!! YOU ARE MY HERO!!

...darleen & jan

Darleen & Quitting Smoking - Date Set

2010-09-07T22:59:00.002-04:00

QUIT DATE SET: SEPTEMBER 30, 2010

Quitting Smoking is easy.
It is becoming a Non Smoker that is the hard part.

I have coached many people on how to quit smoking, and even was the valedictorian for my last X-Smokers cessation group. I have spent $1,000s on quitting sessions and many more $1,000s on the cigarettes themselves.

I have now smoked for 40 years! Ugh. That is horrible. I have spent close to $100,000 on cigarettes. Imagine what I could have done with that $100,000.

My health is surprisingly good, with few complaints that I think are not smoking related. But ... possibly are due to smoking.

My reasons for wanting to quit I am going to log & add to and set a date to quit.
I will not be giving anything up, but gaining my life back - released from addiction.

Reasons to Quit:
1) Money
2) Want to live as long as possible
3) To achieve healthiest state possible
4) Because I stink!

Added Wednesday Sept 8th

5) To live to at least 100 years old
6) To not be a social outcast

Thanks to those that commented on FB and by email directly supporting my quitting.

Especially to suggestions on how to make easier - CHAMPIX

and my sister's comment: When you share your projected quit date ... you will seriously be on your way. >> correct and I am not ready yet to share, but getting closer each day.

I will continue to add to this page as I go through the process to quit day.

...darleen

Ultra Simple Diet Prep & More!

2010-09-07T22:23:00.002-04:00

We are on Day 2 of UltraSimple Diet prep
using book by Mark Hyman, M.D.
http://ultrasimplediet.com/is/program

Darleen's DONE List:

Joined My Ultra Wellness - having some issues with online site
Health Quiz
Toxicity and Inflammation Quiz rating = 95 : Moderate Imbalance
Have started elimination of caffeine and sugar

Darleen's TO DO List:

Vitamin C - need to purchase
Weight measurements
BMI
Before Photo
Video
List of ingredients and supplements required - see page 108 of book
Large box of Baking Soda
Large bag of Epsom Salts
Lavender Essential Oil
Running shoes - go to The Running Room and be fitted for proper shoes
* recommendation for fibromyalgia is to walk only 15 minutes at time

Jan's Update:
Will be reading book and making some decisions regarding doing the 7 day cleanse.
She is taking supplements, using Jenny Craig food diet, signed up for yoga class and also going for update at Curves

What's Next?

CLICK ON READ MORE

This week we are prepping and getting at least 15 minutes of walking or other exercise completed daily. Oh yeah!!

Inspirational Music Video #1:

...darleen & jan

Summer is over!

2010-09-07T01:24:00.018-04:00

Get out the bath salts --- kids are back in school!!
Family vacation over!!

Yes, it is that time of year - that all mothers are celebrating!
(and maybe some fathers)

Summer Vacation, is now officially over!! Kids, family members, and supporting services are back to work, and out of the house - at least for a few hours of the day.
Of course we miss them - when we can actually hear the bubbles popping. Ahhh...

Jan and Darleen certainly can use at least a few hours of R&R, before getting back to a 'regular routine'. It has been a rather hectic few months, with travel and illness affecting our family and friends. Being the empathic creatures we are and true care-givers - we have taken on some extra burdens. Support is our business, it seems, and now time to spend time on regenerating ourselves and getting our bodies in 'top-notch' shape. Jan is miles ahead Darleen on this, with Curves exercise, Yoga classes arranged and Jenny Craig food plan. Darleen is in the thinking about it stage.

We still have many tasks to face this next few months, and will need to be both strong and prepared. Jan will be celebrating 25 years married to the Amazing Morris. Well, they did accomplish this feat together, so that makes them both Amazing! (but with 5 kids they really had no other choice).

Seems like just yesterday, that Darleen was dancing through the brides hotel room the night before the wedding - ugh we have a photo.
And it is now on the Internet!

CLICK READ MORE TO SEE PHOTO!

Darleen the Wedding Cake Fairy!!

There may have been wine involved with this occasion as well, and maybe jet lag.
Or maybe it was just too much wine!!

But, we all did manage to look amazingly beautiful for the wedding day.
Were we really that thin?

Happy Anniversary this month to Jan & Morris celebrating 25 years!!
Pass the wine ... and where is my shower cap?

Now to get my runners on and get on with that routine thing. Our 7 day cleanse starts September 12th - 6 more days to prepare and get with it!!

oh ... and we shall discuss Darleen's quitting smoking as well.

Celebrate Back to School!!

...darleen & jan

On our way to detox.

2010-08-19T23:50:00.002-04:00

Eating our way to detoxification

Chocolate Obsession

Please NOTE - there are 2 forks and we did clean the plate!
We have been preparing, sort of for our detox week, and evaluating what we are eating. Very carefully evaluating everything we eat.

When Jan and I went to lunch this week - a rare treat since we usually are 2 timezones apart. We did have salads for our first course. Of course we also had an alcoholic beverage. After all, it was a celebration of sorts. And we did deserve the dessert. Unfortunately we did not get a photo of this magnificent delectable delicious dessert, before we dug into it, and devoured. It was as if it was our last meal.
We did enjoy each and every bite.

Darleen has been monitoring food eaten, drinking more water and switching some of my coffee drinks to green tea. As far as alcohol, I have also cut down and started to have water with lemon more often than wine or beer. This has resulted in having a mild headache each morning - not sure if less caffeine or blood alcohol level less than sufficient. But we shall persevere.

Exercise? Well, Darleen has worked up to maybe 20 steps a day. From bed to the pool and lounge chair, if done efficiently and manages to carry all things required at one time - it can be accomplished. Good planning can eliminate unnecessary steps!
Yes, I plan each night to get up and go to the gym, or go for a walk, or do yoga. But, after reading paper, email and catching up with Facebook and Twitter, the day is half done, and the sun is only available until 4. Will try harder tomorrow or next week.

Jan has been able to get more exercise, due to her errands and tasks at her mom's. She has been walking the dog Sally, at least twice a day, and getting several sets of 1,000 steps in, with errand running and pacing. It has been a challenging week, and she is scheduled and due some downtime - at Darleen's pool, with her own lounger and pool floatie. Once again, we deserve some fun and relaxation.

We will however, prepare and follow through with the detoxification and learning more about better nutrition. It is time. We have had our fun, and really do wish to more than be thin - feel better and have more energy. We may live a long time yet, and would like to be awake for the best times to come.

If we want to be happy for the rest of our lives - we need to take charge of our health.
We are not going down in a mountain of chocolate desserts, bon bons and alcohol stupor. Or sunburned bodies.

Yoga tomorrow!!

More water please.

....darleen & jan

Detox so we can Retox.

2010-08-16T23:08:00.000-04:00

Let's Detox to get back to weight- loss

Jan is currently visiting again in Ontario!! Yeah.
This has given us some time to discuss a few things - such as this weight-loss thing. Particularly since Jan's Wellness clinic has suggested eliminating gluten and dairy, in order to detoxify and eliminate inflammation. BUT - the suggested diet and supplements were, for lack of better words, pukey. She refused !!

And I bought her some chocolate sponge toffee to cheer her up. Ahh, that is Retox!!

So ... what is next, as we have dealt with happiness, and attempted to get ourselves on a routine of exercise and eating - well most of the time - healthier and controlled. Pass the beer. Oops..

After some investigation and reading several recommended Detoxification books, and online You Tube videos, and blogs, we came across Dr Mark Hyman and his book

- The UltraSimple Diet
.. it makes sense. PLUS - this is a 7 day cleanse.
We can stick to a week!!

Check out Dr Mark Hyman and his UltraWellness
http://drhyman.com/

PLAN - we are in pre-detox now. No, that does not mean we are eating everything in site, and drinking bottles of wine by the caseload. hmmm.. good idea however.
We are preparing the plan and will eliminate caffeine slowly, and other changes we can do to prepare for our detox week.

Official Detoxification Week - September 12th!!

We will be honest and journal our experience.

...darleen & jan

Paul McCartney takes over ...

2010-08-09T22:54:00.000-04:00

Be Back Soon ... feeling a bit under the weather ...

Be Happy - Enjoy Paul McCartney
Paul McCartney has been performing in Toronto the past 2 days, and brought happiness to many.
For those that did not go to a performance and for those that did - lets enjoy him some more.

...darleen & jan

The Duck Story - smile :)

2010-08-04T22:15:00.000-04:00

Just because you deserve a smile today

Have a Great Day!!

...darleen & jan

Let it Be - Still the answer?

2010-08-02T23:04:00.003-04:00

What was the question?

So we are still struggling to find the answers, and find complete happiness. Although, we have made advances. We definitely are more content. We understand that our happiness is our responsibility, and often how we react to 'stuff '.

However, we do want to still lose weight and feel better
- more to come on that later this week.

Having chronic pain and other chronic issues - like life (well it is chronic correct!), and aging issues, and well some days just being female - we are still challenged.

Darleen has been experimenting with Cooking, Social Media, and What's it all about Alfie?, uhm, not really anything to do with Alfie Or the song. But just maybe it does have have something with our Happiness Project as the words that stand out from that song to me are -

"What's it all about, Alfie? Is it just for the moment we live?"

The purpose of our lives? Or is happiness only in the moments?

Darleen being unemployed this summer, is rather floundering around with - What is my purpose? What is next step? How can I make money without working? Is it ok to sleep until 11 am everyday?, while taking advantage of the wonderful summer and working on her tan (yes I use sunscreen).

Constant statement she texts Jan - Not sure about this? Whether it is about blogging, writing, losing weight, what to eat, when to get up, when to go to sleep, what job to look for, and volunteering she has signed up for on a whim (think there may have been wine involved).

Jan's answer has always been It will be, if you let it. This prompted me to recall the Beatles - Let It Be - song. Upon listening carefully to the lyrics, it does provide us with the answer. Don't you think?

Let It Be ... It will be alright, continue on. Can we do this?
And enjoy the moments Alfie?

What do you think? Will the answer come, if we just Let It Be?

...darleen & jan

SWAGGER WAGON - HAPPINESS VAN

2010-07-28T11:35:00.001-04:00

FOR ALL THAT NEED A NEW IMAGE FOR VAN OR SUV

HAVE FUN!!

...darleen & jan

Give Yourself The Prize First!

2010-07-27T23:19:00.009-04:00

The Princess Bike

The PRIZE is the Princess Bike. Katelynn had some problems getting the whole potty-training thing. Oh she knew how and would sometimes use, but for the most part just did not show much interest. Her parents - my daughter is the mother, cajoled, and bribed... but she really did not seem too interested.

Most recently she informed me - Grandma Darleen - that if she went potty and could wear her big girl panties without any accidents, she would get the pink princess bike she wanted. I asked her if she was going to do that. "Oh yes", she said, but when asked if she wanted to try that day, "Ah no.", she said as she guzzled a very large glass of milk.

However, Katelynn turned 3 this week, and her parents surprised her with the Princess bike. She was delighted, of course. This being what she really, really wanted. After all she is a real princess. As you can clearly see in this photo, at one of her Royal Celebrations.

BUT. Surprise of all to her mommy, has been that she is using the potty and wearing her big girl panties. No problem at all. She got the Prize!! So .. either it is coincidence that all just 'clicked', or she is a very shrewd little girl,. She got the prize and now will deliver. hmm... there is some sense to this.

How many times have you wanted to reach a goal, and set a Prize if you obtained?
If I lose 20 lbs , I will get to buy that beautiful dress in size 8.
If I quit smoking, I can get a new car.
If I work hard and get the promotion, I will buy a motorcycle.

PLEASE CONTINUE READING ...

You get the idea. We set Prizes for ourselves, if we achieve 'something' - in order to motivate ourselves. A carrot.

Does this work? Sometimes. Other times, we convince ourselves that we don't really want the Prize. And anyway, we are losers and don't deserve. Excuses.

But what if... we gave ourselves the Prize first? Or at least part of the Prize? Or small prizes leading up to the large Prize? Rewards to reinforce that we are worthy. Smoking Cessation programs often use the reward yourself at set points - such as after one week, one month, three months, 6 months, 1 year. They also encourage to setup ongoing rewards to continually be reminded of what you have achieved and gained. A little different than toilet training, but does involve putting on your big girl panties, and sticking to it.

Think about it. And this is something that comes with age - yes the thinking, but also the fact that I am getting the Prize first. Not because we don't care, or think we might exit this world soon, so should grab all we can -BUT, because we realize it provides incentive and a boost to our self esteem.

Also there are those that have demonstrated and teach how to make changes, and insist that you talk to yourself as if you have already achieved. This can be found in the book

- What To Say When You Talk To Yourself , by Shad Helmsetter.

I am suggesting that we take it one step further, as clearly shown to us by Katelynn - and give ourselves a PRIZE to start. Maybe it is not the entire Prize, but something that will encourage us, and make us feel powerful about our success. Feel deserving of this accomplishment.

What do you think? Should we treat ourselves to begin?
Obviously we do at least need to be accountable to ourselves - and not just take the Prize and run. Of course if it is a new dress in size 8, and we cannot fit into it - that is our loss, until we try again.

This is only part of the puzzle to motivate and get ourselves off our butts to achieve what we want, and what is best for our bodies.

In the quest to find happiness .. Be Happy with yourself first, and the rest will follow.
Treat yourself to prizes along the way to your large goals, as you deserve it.

For me - oh that quit smoking thing? Yes, I am working on that.

What do you think? Should we Give Yourself The Prize First?

...darleen & jan

Be Happy Anyway ... Sunshine!

2010-07-26T00:48:00.004-04:00

Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain

My feet are driving me crazy!! The pain wakes me up, is a constant thought tugging at me - PAIN, PAIN, THROB, THROB...

Darleen has Fibromyalgia and was diagnosed in 1999, after 13 years of increasing crisis attacks, after possible stimulation of twin pregnancy. There have been good and bad successes with different therapies, medications and exercise routines. Most recently I have been feeling somewhat better, and can only attest this to fact that I am unemployed. I have no stress at the moment, or less due to being able to sleep more at times that I can sleep, rather than having to be on a schedule. Also the wonderful warm summer is a friend to my body, and I have been enjoying.

Like many chronic syndromes and disease states, Fibromyalgia can be very difficult to have a 'happy' life. When the chronic situation causes pain, there are some days that it is easier to just hide away.

Finding happiness certainly can still be found with chronic pain, as with other diseases and situations we find ourselves in. However it would be so much easier to be happy, without the pain

Ice helps for very brief time. There is not enough ice this week.

I have found that any pain relief medication is best not to take, due to fact that side effects disable me or cause other issues. I could list all the medications that I have tried over the years, but are all consistent with Fibromyalgia treatments. If anything is new out there, I will find it.

INTERNET & SOCIAL MEDIA - #fibro #fibromyalgia #fbs #fms

I have found several new websites, and blogs available. Today, while invetigating Twitter and other social media tools - DIGG, Facebook, LinkedIN, Meetup

Interesting outcome was that I found new blogs and sites, as well as a new book through Twitter search only. I am now following a few that I selected and have been in conversation with other Fibro -- I hesitate to say sufferers, as all are determined to be positive. A common theme has been to work with others to spread awareness and find ways to lessen the symptoms. Obviously, it also helps to be able to talk to others in same predicament. It is very common for many to not believe Fibromyalgia is real, as we look fine, as there are no outwardly signs. Family may even accuse us of being grumpy, lazy and not the same person. Pain can do that to you, sometimes without even realizing. We think we are being cheerful, as it is an effort at times - BUT, the pain has a way of coming forward.

I am encouraged that I have found some usefulness for Twitter!! More discussion regarding Twitter and my Social Media findings can be found at Social Tweep .

Be Happy Anyway!

Many people have found this statement to help them smile each day in spite of health issues or other situations less than ideal.

It is worth trying.

FIND THE SILVER LINING

- is there something valuable, useful or good that can come out of being subjected to this?

Certainly!!

1) It allows me to develop COMPASSION.

2) Finding solution allows me to really get to know and understand myself.

3) I am meeting people that I would never have met without.

4) Common amongst other Fibro-pals
- my sense of humour is intensified as is mandatory!!

AND FOR FUN & for Katelynn

...darleen & jan

Till There Was YOU!! - To All Happy Weekend.

2010-07-24T10:29:00.003-04:00

Dedicated to my friend Lesley V ... who is lucky to be going to Paul McCartney concert August 8th at Air Canada Centre ( second show added Sunday, August 9th)
- tickets can be still purchased it appears - at inflated prices.

Happiness is ... listening to Paul McCartney music!!
AND ... YOU.

Have a Great Weekend!!

...darleen & jan

Just because this makes me happy

2010-07-21T02:32:00.000-04:00

I Dare You - to sing and dance along!!

Have a great day!!

...darleen& jan

EVERYONE DO THE LIMBO!!

2010-07-20T01:20:00.001-04:00

The No Bon Bons Girls are in LIMBO MODE

Darleen is busy updating blogs, and due to K being on vacation, also RENOVATION MODE.

This has caused us to be in a LIMBO STATE ...
We are progressing with our Happiness Project and seeing some progress in our desire to change our bodies. It is not a fast progression outwardly - but we are feeling happier most days. We understand how we can control what we want out of life an also reprogram our minds.

IMPORTANT NOTE:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO RACHEL - DARLEEN'S DAUGHTER - 26!! HOO HA!!

LOVE THE SHOES -- WHEN CAN I BORROW THEM?

WE DON'T EVEN KNOW OURSELVES...
There are still some challenges - which we would like to say at our age, our different than those of you in your 20s, 30s and even 40s. We are looking at the remainder of our lives after our children years and looking forward to a different lifestyle. We are not sure what we want to do yet - when we grow up.
We are different people, and some days do not even recognize ourselves - so no surprise our husbands are not sure what is going on. It is similar to puberty with loss of hormones and loss of memory at times. And NO Bon Bons ! Of course we still treat ourselves, and then drink 5 gallons of water, and walk and do yoga and meditate, and, and ....

STOP!!

Let us enjoy the summer at a slower pace, and slowly we shall migrate into a routine that is better for us, and allows us to achieve our Happiness state. We shall then organize, and evaluate and get BUSY.

Right now we are doing the LIMBO ... everyone join in!

...darleen & jan