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Watchout for Bell's Palsy

2010-04-29T09:42:00.003+07:00

Bell's Palsy comes from a 19th-century physician named Sir Charles Bell who first to describe this condition with facial nerve disorders. This disease attacks the nervous faces No.7 (Carnial Nerve VII) which can cause facial paralysis on one side, left or right side of the face. Where the nerve was swollen so it can not function properly.

General symptoms of Bell's Palsy:

Face to the right / left stiffen suddenly, usually when waking up
Mouth in which side of face was attacked is not movable
Affected eye can not be closed / can not be winked and become dry
Unable to blow and it's hard to drink / gargle
It will become more difficult to eat something, because the face can not movable
When trying to smile / laugh, mouth crooked on one side and not symmetrical
Eyebrows in which side the face is attacked can not be raised

Pregnant women are 3x potentially affected to the Bell's Palsy. Usually in the third trimester of pregnancy or early delivery. One theory of the causes of pregnant women affected by Bell's Palsy is an increase in fluid in pregnant women which cause swelling of the facial nerve which leads to the seventh nerve.

In general, Bell's Palsy can be caused by herpes simplex virus infection and there is also a hit due to the cold wind as air conditioning, fan, sleeping on the floor, motorcyclists without helmets, where the wind is strike the face continuously.

For some patients, the disease will heal by itself. But it will be better to visit Neurologist at maximum 2 day after affected. Prenidson and antiviral drug for 7 days after the attack will be effective for patients with Bell's palsy. After that physiotherapy can be done on the face behind the ear with warm attacked and given a facial massage electric shock on a rigid. Alternative therapy is acupuncture.

Treatment for pregnant women suffering from Bell's Palsy is usually not recommended to give antiviral drugs and steroids. Because in fact Bell's Palsy can be cured by itself. Yet, still it is better continue to be monitored.

Bell's Palsy can be scary because the symptoms are similar to stroke. To distinguish them, usually a stroke causing paralysis on the other limbs such as hands and feet, accompanied by symptoms of headache, fainting, difficulty speaking, and usually tongue will twist when out warded.

Keep Beautiful during Pregnancy

2010-04-28T16:36:00.004+07:00

For some people, being pregnant means performance problem. It is undeniable that changes in body shape due to an increasingly enlarged tummy, emotional changes during pregnancy and other complaints during pregnancy makes most pregnant women started not to care about their appearance. Meanwhile, pregnancy will bring out "the real sexy" of a woman since she will deliver baby to her family.

The following tips is to keep you look beautiful and sexy during pregnancy:

Choosing of clothing & accessories:
Choose clothing that easily absorbs sweat, like cotton, because during pregnancy will increase sweat production.

Select maternity clothes which are up to date. Now it is very easy to find maternity boutiques with an affordable price. Do not hesitate to buy them.

Choose clothes with simple models in order to stay comfortable.

Use maternity pants.

Avoid wearing high-heel or wedges shoes, to avoid varicose veins or sprained while walking.

Body treatments:
Take care of cleanliness of your skin and body with a fixed shower at least two times a day.

When you use skin care creams, consult your dermatologist or beautician to make sure the products you use safe for your pregnancy.

Hair Care at the salon like cream bath can still be done, but avoid painting the hair.

Consumption of nutritious foods, fresh fruits, milk and supplements for pregnant women. Ensure that you consume sufficient nutrition during pregnancy

Stretching the skin caused by an enlarged abdomen can also cause itching or brownish streaks. Special cream or baby oil can indeed help reduce them, but many strokes also depends on whether or not 'innate' each others bodies.

Do light exercise specifically for pregnant women, you can also attend prenatal yoga classes and pregnancy exercise.

So, are you ready to stay beautiful during your pregnancy?

Nutrition during Pregnancy

2010-04-28T09:59:00.004+07:00

A pregnant woman need special exercise & nutrition. Now it is easy to find special exercises for pregnancy, such as Prenatal Yoga. Some of the nutritional needs of pregnant women can be covered by a balanced healthy diet. In addition to healthy food choices, it is essential that during pregnancy takes vitamins and supplements as needed.

Here are some healthy food requirement of pregnant women:
Calories (energy)
A woman during pregnancy have an increased energy demand. This energy is used for fetal growth, the formation of the placenta, blood vessels, and the new ligament. Moreover, the additional calories needed as energy for metabolic processes of new tissue. Your body needs about 80 000 extra calories during pregnancy. Enlist the help of a doctor or nutritionist for help to fulfil caloric needs during pregnancy.

Protein
Protein needed for tissue growth in the fetus. Pregnant women need about 75 grams of protein each day, 25 grams more than usual. Animal products like meat, fish, eggs, milk, cheese, and seafood is a source of protein. In addition proteins can also be obtained from plants such as nuts, seeds, tempe, tahu, Oncom, and others.

Folic Acid
Folate is a B vitamin that plays an important role in embryonic development. Folate also helps prevent neural tube defects, it is defects in the brain and spine. Folate deficiency may also increase the pregnancy is less age (preterm) infants with low birth weight (low birth weight infant / LBW), and less fetal growth. Apart from folic acid supplements, folate can also be obtained from natural food sources such as green vegetables (like spinach, asparagus), orange juice, beans, nuts and bread wheat.

Ferrum
Iron needed to produce hemoglobin, which is protein in red blood cells carry oxygen to the role of body tissues. During pregnancy, blood volume increases to accommodate changes in the body of the mother and baby's blood supply. This causes the need for iron increases doubly. If the requirement is not fulfilled in iron, pregnant women will be easily tired and vulnerable to infection. Risk of delivering not old enough infant and infants with low birth weight were also higher. Requirement of iron for pregnant women is about 27 mg daily. Aside from supplements, iron can be obtained naturally from red meat, fish, poultry, iron fortified breakfast cereals, and beans.

Zinc
Substance zinc can be found naturally in red meat, whole wheat, beans, legumes, and some breakfast cereals that have been fortified. But you can consume (about 25 mg of zinc daily substance) if you are in an unhealthy condition. Zinc is beneficial for preventing the risk of premature birth and low weight.

Calcium
Fetal collect calcium from the mother about 25 to 30 mg daily. At most when the third trimester of pregnancy. Pregnant women and babies need calcium for strong bones and teeth. In addition, calcium is also used to help blood vessels contracted and dilated. Calcium is also needed to deliver neural signals, muscle contraction and hormone secretion. If no adequate calcium from food, baby needs calcium to be taken from the bones of the mother. Pregnant calcium requirement is about 1000 mg per day. Calcium from food sources include dairy products like milk, cheese, yogurt. Anchovy (ikan teri) is also a good source of calcium.

Vitamin C
Fetus's Vitamin C need depends on the mother's food intake. Vitamin C is an antioxidant that protects tissues from damage and needed to form collagen and deliver chemical signals in the brain. Pregnant women are advised to consume daily 85 mg of vitamin C per day. You can easily get vitamin C from foods such as tomatoes, oranges, strawberries, guava, and broccoli. Foods rich in vitamin C also helps absorption of iron in the body.

Vitamin A
Vitamin A plays an important role in body functions, including functional vision, immunity, and growth and embryonic development. Vitamin A deficiency can lead to premature birth and low birth weight infants. Vitamin A can be found in fruits and green or yellow vegetables, butter, milk, egg yolks, and others.

Yoga for Pregnant Women (Prenatal Yoga)

2010-04-27T14:24:00.003+07:00

Yoga exercise is divided into several types. Not all styles are appropriate for each person. Is Yoga right for you? You should find the most precise one.

Yoga designed specifically for pregnant women (prenatal yoga) will increase your body strength and stamina. In addition, yoga exercise can also relaxes the body so that the joint pain which is often felt by pregnant women can be reduced. Breathing techniques taught in yoga, can also make you feel relaxed and focused during pregnancy.

Here are some techniques of Yoga for pregnant women:

Sitting cross-legged

Place both hands on the sides of the body while the elbow straight. Raise both hands from the side toward the head with a sigh until the two fingers meet. Lower arms forward while exhaling. Benefit: Exercising the power of arm muscles, flexing the shoulder joints, and soothing feeling. Induce a feeling of "grounded and centered."

Crawling on hands elbows straight

Point your view to the front keep your back flat. Inhale, arch your back. Exhale while returning back to its original position. Benefits: Releasing tension, strengthen the uterus, stomach and relieve the burden of eliminating body aches.

Lie down

Both feet on the wall and both hands besides body with open palms. Inhale, lift your pelvis off the floor. Exhale as you lower your legs back. Benefits: Prevent varicosity in the legs, eliminating foot fatigue caused by weight gain during pregnancy, and relaxation of body and soul.

Tulisan tanpa Judul

2010-03-30T17:57:00.005+07:00

Sudah lama terbengkalai, bukan aku tak sayang, bukan aku tak rindu.
Lepas Januari, aku begitu kelelahan. Banyak cerita, seolah menjawab tanyaku Januari yang lalu. Tapi tetap saja, bukan 'jawaban' yang aku dapat, hanya sebatas penggalan cerita preambule atau bisa juga sekedar penyemarak hidup.

Hingga hari ini, masih terukir.
Begitu banyak sajak, puisi atau apapun itu namanya sempat terekam dalam benakku, dan chip-nya tersimpan rapi di sebuah sudut prosesor dalam tubuhku. Susah ternyata mengeluarkannya...

Hey...
Bicara apa kamu?
Aku tak hendak bertutur dengan sinis, pun tidak menyentil. Aku hanya bicara atas perintah hatiku. Bahwasanya ada sebentuk awan yang mengiringiku pergi sejauh ini. Tak perlu aku amati lebih jauh, aku sudah hafal betul warnanya, bentuknya, baunya, rasanya....

Terkadang ia berwujud awan hitam yang bisa dalam sekejap menurunkan hujan deras, tapi seringkali juga bersikap manis menjadi awan biru yang menghiasi hariku....

Tetap saja...

Belum mengerti arah bicaraku kan?

Duduk manis disitu yaa... aku akan lanjutkan ceritaku, nanti....

Berapa Harga Bahagia?

2010-03-10T19:10:00.003+07:00

Setelah sempat terombang ambing dan terkatung-katung, aku berhenti di satu titik, tentang kebahagiaan. Mengapa di titik ini? Semua orang tanpa kecuali tentu saja mendambakan kebahagiaan dalam hidupnya. Banyak cara ditempuh untuk meraih hidup bahagia, dan banyak versi yang berkembang mengenai hidup bahagia.

Definisi tentu saja hampir serupa tapi ternyata gak sama lho! Mengutip dari wikipedia, kebahagiaan adalah keadaan pikiran atau perasaan yang ditandai dengan kepuasan, cinta, kepuasan dan kesenangan. Ada juga diantaranya yang merasa bahagia ketika orang lain bahagia karenanya.

Ternyata bahagia itu ada harganya lho! Contoh paling dekat ada disekeliling kita... atau mungkin terjadi pada diri kita. Mungkin sebagian dari kita merasa bahagia ketika orang lain menganggap kita bahagia dengan segala perolehan kita. Bahkan kita tidak segan mengeluarkan uang untuk 'menampakkan' keberadaan kita. Handphone tercanggih dan teranyar kita punya, pakaian, tas dan sepatu yang dipakai keluaran merk ternama. Kendaraan pun sebisa mungkin yang terbaru. Padahal dibalik 'kebahagiaan' itu ada penderitaan yang tidak kita tampakkan pada orang lain. Sengaja kita sembunyikan.

Hayooo jujur... handphone tercanggih kita itu kita beli karena kita sudah memiliki uang yang cukup untuk membelinya atau kita paksakan membelinya demi sebuah prestise dengan menyicil misalnya? hehehe... Atau tas, pakaian, sepatu kita... Tidak jarang lho barang-barang itu kita beli dengan membengkakkan tagihan kartu kredit kita yang bayarnya pun hanya sanggup minimum payment saja.

Jujurnya, saya akan tunjuk tangan dengan ikhlas. Iya, sejujurnya saya pernah melakukan dan berada di posisi seperti itu. Rasanya saya sangat tidak pede kalau orang lain melihat saya apa adanya. Saya coba tutupi dengan segala "keberadaan yang dipaksakan" supaya saya bahagia. Memang, orang lain kemudian melihat dan menganggap saya hebat, padahal mereka tidak tahu bagaimana perderitaan saya dibalik ini semua.

Lalu, mungkin ini titik balik atau pencerahan yang dikirim Tuhan untuk saya. Suatu ketika saya bertemu seseorang yang begitu santai dan terlihat bahagia dengan dirinya apa adanya. Tidak ditutupi, tidak dipaksakan, semuanya begitu natural. Kalimat menakjubkan meluncur dari mulutnya "Bahagia itu adalah ketika orang lain bahagia karena kita. Mungkin orang lain mengeluarkan banyak uang untuk menampakkan kebahagiaannya. Tapi saya, tak perlu banyak uang, tak perlu identitas, tak perlu label ataupun 'pembungkus' lainnya. Cukup uang ini segini saja *sambil mengeluarkan selembar uang Rp. 5000* dan saya berikan kepada seorang pengemis untuk dibelikan makanan untuknya. Dia bahagia, dan saya jaauuhh lebih bahagia daripada pengemis itu karena melihatnya bahagia bisa membeli makanan untuknya saat itu"

Saya malu... sementara saya mati-matian mengeluarkan uang untuk kebahagiaan saya sendiri, tidak peduli cara apa yang saya ambil untuk mendapatkannya, sementara masih banyak orang yang untuk menikmati bahagianya bisa membeli makanan saja begitu penuh perjuangan.

Ternyata kebahagiaan itu bukanlah dari "tampak luar", tapi bagaimana kita bersyukur dengan apa yang ada kita punyai, tanpa perlu 'pembungkus'. Anda sendiri, berapa harga kebahagiaan anda?

Bukan Puisi

2010-03-08T14:28:00.000+07:00

And here I am again...
Terpojok diruang tanpa sudut.. Tanpa sekat..
Berpeluh debu dan bermandikan cahaya redup sebatang lilin yang hampir mati...

Ah sepi sekali disini, ditengah keramaian hiruk pikuk manusia yang entah mengapa selalu menampakkan seringai...
Dan sunyi! Padahal puluhan orang sedang menarikan tangan-tangan mereka dengan lincah diatas perkusi yang kuyakin seharusnya bising...

Hei, apa aku buta? Atau mungkin tuli? Tidak.. Tidak.. Tentu saja tidak...

Aku lihat cahaya! Terik sekali. Aku hampiri... Dingin menusuk...

Hhh ada apa ini?

Aku terasing...

Java Jazz Festival 2010

2010-03-05T00:15:00.003+07:00

Event Axis Jakarta International Java Jazz Festival 2010 will be held from March 5 to March 7 next. Various preparations made by the organizers, sponsors, artists, and others. As events in the previous year, the event this time jazz theme is "Jazzin 'Up Remarkable Indonesia".

Jazzin 'Up is a phrase more or less understood as making something dynamic, enthusiasm, dedication, spirit, giving energy, strength, and adds meaning. Then, when combined with Remarkable Indonesia, Axis Jakarta International Java Jazz Festival 2010 to add strength, excellence, dynamism, and expand the meaning of the amazing Indonesia. Thus, this event is expected to draw world attention to Indonesia.

By holding this festival, java jazz, as well as proving themselves that Indonesia could hold an international-class festival with the very best. The event which lasted for three days served as many as 209 shows in 20 stage, plus 15 music clinic. Axis Jakarta International Java Jazz Festival 2010 this time will took place at Jakarta International Expo Kemayoran, Jakarta.

In addition, spectators who came from various cities in Indonesia and from other countries will get 110 treats the show from Indonesia and 39 groups of international groups. And there will also special performance from International artist like Toni Braxton, John Legend, Kenny "Baby Face" Edmonds and The Manhattan Transfer. Sure, you'll regret if you miss it.

Selly Yustiawati

2010-02-23T08:56:00.005+07:00

Selly Yustiawati a.k.a Rasellya Rahman Taher's name recently been a hot topic of discussion on forums and social networking on the Internet. It is not because of her beautiful face, but it because of her cunning to deceive many people over the years and in many cities.

Various criticisms and insults against Selly can be seen on Facebook. This popular social networking sites is used to accommodate various of complaints about Selly Yustiawati. Visitors may join a group by typing "Penipuuuuuu Selly Yustiawati". The followers had reached over 19.000 people since it's first open on early February. This social networking is also used to exchange information to track down Selly whereabouts. She is really untraceable. Selly is now on the list of searched people (DPO) in the internet.

Selly's been known for her slick and often changed her name. She recorded cheated dozens of students of private university in Jakarta in 2006. She acted as a SPG agent to launch her action. This year, she had twice launched her actions acted as an employee. She worked as a HRD staff of hotel in Jakarta and began to borrow money from the employees, but it just disappeared. Selly also been an employee at the largest newspaper and managed to fool many employees worth Rp 30 million. Finally, she was reported launched her action in Bandung.

But recently there's news came that Selly's already have a lawyer as her legal representative. A man named Hamonangan Sinurat displayed Selly's photos on his facebook wall and He, himself, gave a comment to the picture, "Selly is not a fugitive, Selly is under our protection". But on Monday 22/02/2010 this comment changed to, "Do not worry Selly, we are ready to protect and assist you. Tq". Did he write it seriously? Is he really Selly's lawyer? There was no clear answers. He has not reply any contact from detikcom and the other victims. The answer is very much expected because the victims want to know the existence of this young lady who was suspected psychopath.

Hamonangan who admitted an attorney in Sinurat-Simaremare currently difficult to reach, because according to his secretary, Dwi, he is out of town and he turns off his cell phone. Dwi added, this has also confirmed to Hamonangan's wife. She says Hamonangan did not make any contact or explore a new client named Selly Yustiawati.

(From various sources)

Mario Teguh Controversy Twit

2010-02-22T17:16:00.005+07:00

Mario Teguh apologized on the social networking site account, twitter, regarding one of his controversy twit. He deemed to offend his followers. He wrote some appalling and reaping twits. One of his twits which invited pros and cons is:

Women who are party goers, clubbing lover, staying up until morning, a snob ChitChat, smoker and sometimes drunk, can not be planned to be a wife.

Mario stated, the statement was merely advice for daughters to be careful. "The advice is an input for daughters to be more careful, because their male colleagues can not see the suitability for them to be a companion and mother of the children of the man they love," explained Mario.

This statement invited tons of pros & cons comments. Mario tried to give clarification and brief explanation upon his twit in order to avoid misunderstanding. Some followers were agreed and understand but, still, there were misinterpretations upon this, though. Feel it didn't work, after the board meeting then on Sunday, 21 Feb 2010, Mario Teguh's twitter account officially deleted.

Hamdi Muluk, a psychologist of University of Indonesia considered the controversy statement in Mario Teguh's Twitter account as the correct moral step.

"I personally as a man might agree with that, I do not like seeing women clubbing till the morning, and drunk," he explained to INILAH.COM, Monday (22 / 2).

He thinks women should not be feel cornered with Mario's twit. Hamdi added, if we read the sentence written in Mario's twitter status, in fact it is difficult to understand a mother will become a right model if her attitude was similar to what Mario has written.

But he appealed that Mario should not only addressed his statement to women, but intended also to all gender. "But a man (Mario) has a right to speak up, which moral basic he believed was right," said Hamdi.

Gain Support

Mario Teguh continue to gain support upon his statement. His statement actually have a positive impact to strengthen good families life.

"One purpose of marriage is to have children. Meanwhile, smoking can really cause cancer, pregnancy and fetal Fatwa disorders, not to mention other economic and social effects" said Secretary of Fatwa MUI Commission Dr. Asrorun Niam Sholeh to detik.com, Monday (22 / 2 / 2010).

According to this researcher of Institute of Religious and Social Studies (eLSAS), in a religious perspective, marriage is a great deal that has a dimension of worship. As the door to build a family and a wider community, it must be built and started from the smallest things, like choosing a wife to be.

"In this context, Mario Teguh's statement is very constructive and visionary. This statement should be placed proportionally to remind us to re-tighten family life where national life arrangement began to breakdown. One of the reasons is family life torn apart," said Niam.

"So I do not think he needs to delete his Twitter account and remove the statements. His Statements were quite good and it could be a missionary endravor," said Niam. (From various sources).

Sexy Beauty

2010-02-09T13:22:00.004+07:00

If you heard the word sexy, what occurred immediately in your mind? Most people could directly address their mind to WOMAN. Yes, there's no need to argue that the word "sexy" is identically related to women, especially for their physical appearance.

A woman would be very proud if she has a perfect body and beautiful face. But something to remember that physical appearance will not last forever. Even a tiny defect will negatively effect to her physical beauty.

We cannot only count on our physical appearance to be seen or considered "sexy". Outer beauty is only a proponent. We also have to be able to perform and show off our "inner beauty".

Consider a few things to make a woman looked sexy:

The shape of the body, love at the first sight naturally come at the first look. But you do not have to burden yourself with excessive targets. Be natural and simple. Ideal body weight which is proportional to our height is enough.
Lips, a smile and speech is a package deal. A Warm smile which comes truly from the heart will show a sincerity, saying a gentle word, but straightforward and "smart" will make you look more attractive.
A healthy looked skin and hair will be an added value for a woman. No matter how short or how long is your hair, and what color is your skin, they cannot be taken as a standard value to determine how sexy a woman is, the most important is how the hair and skin looked good with a healthy radiance and well maintained.
Independent woman also turned out a lot of men preferred. Women are not solely dependent on the opposite sex for the trivia will be included in one of the most wanted list of the men.
Appearing confidence and try to fell comfortable with her excessive or deficiency can also appoint the sexy looked of a woman. But of course it must be within reasonable limits, since an over-confident woman will considerably avoided.
Able to show affection. A strong maternal instinct was also coveted the men.

But the most important is always remember that all efforts made to be looked sexy is not just for the sake of the men. Its main purpose is to show that a woman is not a weak person as labeled for so long, but women have their own strengths, which man might not be able to cover.

So ladies, be proud to be a woman.

Puisi Cinta

2010-01-31T09:54:00.005+07:00

Cinta itu semestinya...
Menyinari seperti mentari
Mewarnai layaknya pelangi
Menyemarakkan laksana bintang bintang

Cinta juga seharusnya...
Menyejukkan seumpama hujan yang turun ditengah kemarau panjang
Mengharumkan sewangi bunga yang mekar di musim semi
Melegakan dahaga bagai oase di tengah gurun pasir

Cinta bukan fatamorgana
Bukan pula kamuflase

Namun..
Bukan cinta namanya bila tak ada air mata
Jangan sebut itu cinta bila tanpa pengorbanan
Cinta juga menimbulkan rasa sakit tiada tara
Dan rela kehilangan

Berbahagialah
Bila cinta memelukmu erat
Jangan lepaskan...
Persembahkan seluruhnya untuk pasanganmu...
Untuk anakmu....
Untuk hidupmu....
Untuk Tuhanmu....

Bila tak ada lagi ruang dihatimu selain disesaki rasa cinta
Percayalah...
Hidupmu pasti indah

Love Hurt

2010-01-28T12:16:00.010+07:00

Ada sebait doa yang kupanjatkan, teriring jutaan mimpi dan harapan yang diidamkan.... perih. Setiap waktu, setiap detik. Namun tak kunjung beroleh jawaban. Dan aku segera tersadar, itu hanya sebatas ritual. Sulit memantapkan hati, karena keyakinan yang tak terpatri dalam diri.

Perjalanan yang tidak terlalu panjang, tapi berliku. Meski lancar, tapi penuh bebatuan. Bagaimana? Tidakkah kau lelah? Ah yaa, menaklukkan hal seperti ini bukanlah perkara sulit untukmu. Aku tahu kau terbiasa melewatinya. Kadang terpikir untuk menepi, pasti sulit ya? Untukku, tapi mungkin tidak untukmu.

Hmm... kau pernah ajarkan aku tentang kesabaran. Meski melelahkan tapi pasti menyenangkan bila kita mampu melewatinya. Ribuan kali kau yakinkan bahwa aku sanggup. Sebuah trigger, merasuk.. dan aku perlahan mulai menapikkan berjuta keraguan. Itulah daya tarikmu.

sekali lagi kita lalui jalan ini
tertatih aku melangkah penat
sendiri...... menjangkau tanganmu
yang tak lagi mampu kugenggam
begitu jauh ...... walau seharusnya
begitu mudah kurengkuh

Ah, engkau hanya sebuah episode, begitupun aku. Sang sutradara pasti sudah menetapkan skenario indah untuk kita. Kita tak pernah tahu. Ayolah, kita harus mampu bermain dengan cantik. Jangan hiraukan seberapa lama waktu yang akan kita habiskan untuk menyelesaikan episode ini. Lihatlah, banyak penonton yang menunggu aksi kita. Kau siap kan?

Loving U

2010-01-27T18:27:00.002+07:00

I never found people tired of talking about love. What's so special?

Love is giving.. never asking
It makes people smile
It raises energy
It wakes up weakness
It sacrificing
It also blooms the fade away

but..
Love is also missing
It dares to hurt
It makes us cry
It is stifling
and it sucks!

Love is to share, and ask nothing in return

Loving you is not only the hardest part in my life,
but it also the best thing I ever felt

*21 January 2010*

Consistency

2010-01-23T17:09:00.002+07:00

Consistency and patient, 2 main keys to success. I've been searching for long time, and found nothing except those two wonderful words as best trigger for someone to reach his goal.

What is consistency? This is what people really need in life. A good habit, in my perception, that lead someone to be persist and do something over and over again steadily. Sometimes people get really bored of something that runs in the same way continuously. But that is the power, When we succeed to manage our self in doing same thing repeatedly.

It is never an easy thing. How can we pass not to feel bored of that way? That's the key! When we found our self enjoying the time waiting or enjoying something what other's say dreary. The strength to fight that bored feel will raises a different enthusiasm in running life and that is why it will lead us passionately reach our goal.

Ouups!! Almost forgotten. One more key to success is to be patient. It is closely related to consistency. Of course, those who is consistent in doing something will certainly have patient in life. These two habitual expressions have to be stick to our self and sure we will gradually managed to run and pass our goals.

Self consistency is a representation of our mind, saying and action. It is an allegation to time and condition. It is in whatever conditions and how many times needed, just keep self consistency to be the major thing in pumping up our spirit to a never stop action in reaching our goal.

*a gift from Talk Show 21 January 2009*

Wish of A Mom

2010-01-19T18:20:00.007+07:00

If I had my child to raise over again
I'd finger point more, and more point the finger less
I'd do less correctly, and more connecting
I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch more with my eyes
I would care to know less, and know to care more
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play
I would run through more fields, and gaze at more stars
I'd do more hugging, and less tugging
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more
I'd build self esteem first, and the house later
I'd teach less about the love of power,
and more about the power of love

-Diane Loamans-

Dedicated to my "Sun" whom I love the most
M. Dimas Raditya Prakasa

Love is All Around

2010-01-18T21:42:00.004+07:00

Pain is what lies beneath
Love is the cure

Weak is what felt inside
Love is the streght

Happiness is what bloom in one's heart
Love is what sprinkle on it

Smile is what you show on your face
Love is what makes it so sweet

Love is all around
To make life live
To light the dark
To raise the fade away

This is what Love is all about..

Bandung, 8 January 2009

when you said "this is not my hands, this is my heart which touch"

Flying Without Wings

2010-01-16T16:35:00.004+07:00

Sometimes life ain't easy
It always hard to make life as comfort as we wanna be. There's always something to be sacrificed when we're proposing to get something else. And that's life! Life is about choices. Choose "X" then you might lose "Y"

Sacrificing is occasionally hard, since it made us lose something that might be important. I always let my heart picked up what's best for me when I was in deep confusion. And so my thought played a little harder.

Desire... always come a step ahead..
Wishes were following..
and reality was not coming my way..

Birds need wings for them to fly
Cars need engine to be ride on
People need meals to stay alive
..and I need you to keep survive

Look at me now..
I'm flying without wings
because you taught me so..

Foolish Game - Jewel

2010-01-15T21:22:00.004+07:00

"Foolish Games"
You took your coat off and stood in the rain,
You're always crazy like that.
And I watched from my window,
Always felt I was outside looking in on you.
You're always the mysterious one with
Dark eyes and careless hair,
You were fashionably sensitive
But too cool to care.
You stood in my doorway, with nothing to say
Besides some comment on the weather.

[Pre-Chorus 1]
Well in case you failed to notice,
In case you failed to see,
This is my heart bleeding before you,
This is me down on my knees, and...

[Chorus]
These foolish games are tearing me apart,
And your thoughtless words are breaking my heart.
You're breaking my heart.
You're always brilliant in the morning,
Smoking your cigarettes and talking over coffee.
Your philosophies on art, Baroque moved you.
You loved Mozart and you'd speak of your loved ones
As I clumsily strummed my guitar.

You'd teach me of honest things
Things that were daring, things that were clean
Things that knew what an honest dollar did mean
So I hid my soiled hands behind my back
Somewhere along the line I must've gone off track with you

[Pre-Chorus 2]
Well, excuse me, guess I've mistaken you for somebody else,
Somebody who gave a damn,
Somebody more like myself.

[Chorus]
You took your coat off,
Stood in the rain,
You're always crazy like that.

Cepat Pulang

2010-01-14T17:19:00.005+07:00

Semalam, aku kangenin kamu.

Sudut taman depan rumahku selalu menjadi tempat favorit kita. Kursi kayu yang sudah mulai usang, diterpa hujan dan panas setiap hari. Tepat dibawah pohon palem pakis disebelah lampu taman yang sudah tak bisa menyala lagi. Kalau tidak hujan pasti kita menghabiskan waktu berjam-jam diskusi di kursi itu. Bicara tentang segala hal. Tentang hidup, tentang politik dan ekonomi kesukaanmu yang sering aku tidak mengerti. Tentang mode dan kecantikan, ranah kekuasaanku yang selalu kamu cermati. Tentang kita.... Ditemani keripik singkong kesukaanmu, secangkir kopi dan sesekali coklat. Abang tukang bakso bahkan sudah hapal racikan bakso kesukaanku karena kita hampir selalu memanggilnya kala sore hari saat dia lewat depan rumah.

Pagi ini aku kangenin kamu.

Masih ingatkah kamu? Malam itu kita kehujanan. Bajumu basah kuyup karena kamu biarkan jaketmu menutupi tubuhku. Tapi malah aku yang sakit. Malah aku yang terkena flu berat. Pagi-pagi kamu datang, sambil membawakan aku bubur ayam, padahal aku tahu pasti kamu juga sedang tidak enak badan. Waktu kusantap bubur, ternyata kamu sudah duduk tertidur.

Tiap saat aku kangenin kamu.

Tulisan di buku usang itu tak pernah selesai. Aku hanya mampu menulis sebaris dua baris saja, selebihnya hanya kosong... bahkan hanya coretan tak bermakna. Padahal kamu tahu kan? Aku tak terbiasa menuliskannya. Aku terbiasa mendiskusikannya.. langsung... sama kamu..

Tapi kamu dimana?

Siang itu, dipojok kantin, menikmati ocehanmu yang tak pernah kehabisan ide, ditemani secangkir kopi, untukmu, dan segelas es jeruk, untukku. Lalu kamu berujar pelan.. atau boleh dibilang berbisik. Lagi-lagi kalimat itu. Meski aku suka tapi sulit aku terima. Kita terima, tepatnya. Hmm tapi kita kan sudah berjanji untuk menikmatinya. Ya sudah...

Gerimis dan hampir gelap.

Laju mobil tak pernah terlalu kencang. Karena kita masih ingin bersama. Waktu tak pernah cukup buat kita ya? Kadang aku berkhayal untuk menghentikan waktu saat bersamamu. Biar waktu tak menyudahi kebersamaan kita. Tapi mau bilang apa lagi? Kita hanya bisa tertawa, melupakan detik perpisahan, meski hanya sementara. And the CD player was playing that Pasto's song: "Aku akan pergi 'tuk sementara.. bukan 'tuk meninggalkanmu selamanya.. aku pasti kan kembali pada dirimu.. tapi kau jangan nakal.. aku pasti kembali.." Aku tak pernah nakal...

Gerimis lagi pagi itu. Lebih deras.

Meski hanya satu jam, tapi sangat berarti karena kita masih bisa bertemu, sebelum kamu pergi. Aku menggigil, bukan karena kedinginan, meski dingin sekali pagi itu. Aku merasa masih belum cukup menuntaskan rindu. Kamu begitu juga kan? Stop!! Gak perlu kamu jawab dengan kata-kata. Matamu sudah membisikkannya di telingaku.

"Aku pergi" satu kalimat yang tak ingin aku dengar, tapi memaksa masuk ke telingaku. Meski sementara , but damn! I want you to stay.

Dan sekarang.. saat kau tak disisiku. Sepi disini.
Tidak ada senyum hangat, tidak ada komentar jahil, tidak ada tertawa nakal. Bajuku tak lagi bau asap rokok kamu, tapi aku kangen itu.. Aku hanya ditemani sms-mu. Telepon dari kamu. tapi itu tak cukup.

Aku ingin kamu disini..

Cepat pulang..

Mari Bicara

2010-01-14T00:18:00.000+07:00

Sebentar..
Jangan pergi dulu..
Aku belum selesai bicara.
Dari tadi kamu terus saja mengoceh.
Tak tahu aku selalu mencari celah untuk bicara.
Apa kamu tidak peduli?

Tunggu..
Jangan selesai dulu..
Aku masih ingin bicara.
Sedari tadi aku diam beribu bahasa.
Tak ada peluang untuk memotong ocehanmu.
Apa kamu tak dengar?

Sini.. disini disebelahku
Kita seharusnya bicara
Melibatkan hati..
Tidak dengan membiarkan kepala kita mengepul.
Tenang... kita harus tenang..

Sabar itu tidak ada batasnya.
Tapi kekuatan kita menanggung beban kesabaran mungkin saja sudah overload.
Jadinya begini..
Amarah seenaknya menerobos tanpa permisi
Hush! pergi sana!

Mari sini..
Kita bicara lagi..

Dimas 5th Birthday

2010-01-11T18:04:00.005+07:00

Anakku...

Bila ibu boleh memilih Apakah ibu berbadan langsing atau berbadan besar karena mengandungmu, maka ibu akan memilih mengandungmu?

Karena dalam mengandungmu ibu merasakan keajaiban dan kebesaran Allah Sembilan bulan nak...Engkau hidup di perut ibu

Engkau ikut kemanapun ibu pergi Engkau ikut merasakan ketika jantung ibu berdetak karena kebahagiaan

Engkau menendang rahim ibu ketika engkau merasa tidak nyaman, karena ibu kecewa dan berurai air mata

Anakku...

Bila ibu boleh memilih apakah ibu harus operasi caesar, atau ibu harus berjuang melahirkanmu. Maka ibu memilih berjuang melahirkanmu

Karena menunggu dari jam ke jam, menit ke menit kelahiranmu, adalah seperti menunggu antrian memasuki salah satu pintu surga

Karena kedahsyatan perjuanganmu untuk mencari jalan ke luar ke dunia sangat ibu rasakan Dan saat itulah kebesaran Allah menyelimuti kita berdua

Malaikat tersenyum diantara peluh dan erangan rasa sakit, yang tak pernah bisa ibu ceritakan kepada siapapun

Dan ketika engkau hadir,tangismu memecah dunia Saat itulah...saat paling membahagiakanSegala sakit & derita sirna melihat dirimu yang merah, Mendengarkan ayahmu mengumandangkan adzan, Kalimat syahadat kebesaran Allah dan penetapan hati tentang junjungan kita Rasulullah ditelinga mungilmu

Anakku...

Bila ibu boleh memilih apakah ibu berdada indah,atau harus bangun tengah malam untuk menyusuimu, maka ibu memilihmenyusuimu

Karena dengan menyusuimu ibu telah membekali hidupmu dengan tetesan-tetesan dan tegukan tegukan yang sangat berharga

Merasakankehangatan bibir dan badanmu didada ibu dalam kantuk ibu adalah sebuahrasa luar biasa yang orang lain tidak bisa rasakan

Anakku...

Bila ibu boleh memilih duduk berlama-lama di ruang rapat atau duduk di lantai menemanimu menempelkan puzzle Maka ibu memilih bermain puzzle denganmu

Tetapi anakku...

Hidup memang pilihan...Jika dengan pilihan ibu, engkau merasa sepi dan merana Maka maafkanlah nak...Maafkan ibu...Maafkan ibu...

Percayalah nak, ibu sedang menyempurnakan puzzle kehidupan kita, agar tidak ada satu kepingpun bagian puzzle kehidupan kita yang hilang

Percayalah nak...Sepi dan ranamu adalah sebagian duka ibu

Percayalah nak...Engkau adalah selalu menjadi belahan nyawa ibu...

Ratih Sanggarwati (Ratih Sang)

Dimasku sayang...
Adakah hal lain yang paling mama suka selain melihat senyummu?
Tidak ada sayang....
Adakah hal lain yang paling mama rindu selain mendengar ocehanmu?
Tidak ada sayang...

Dimasku sayang...
Mama mungkin tidak bisa membelikanmu hadiah-hadiah mewah
Tapi mama janji bekali kamu dengan cinta dan kasih sayang terbesar mama
Mama janji ajari kamu.. bimbing kamu.. tuntun kamu, Nak...
supaya kamu tahu, hidup tak pernah mudah...

Meski hanya itu yang bisa mama beri, tapi kamu harus tahu
Kamulah cinta terbesar mama

Selamat Ulang Tahun Sayang....

For my Suplement of Life: M. Dimas Raditya Prakasa
on his 5th Birthday today.... 12 January 2010

Bersahabat Kesunyian

2010-01-03T22:48:00.002+07:00

Apa yang hendak kau perbuat ketika kesunyian menjadi satu-satunya yang menemanimu saat ini?
Memecah kesunyian?
Mencari teman berbagi?
atau malah menikmati kesunyian itu?

Jika pertanyaan itu ditujukan untukku, aku akan dengan senang hati menjawab bahwa aku akan bersahabat dengannya. Karena seorang sahabat akan dengan setia menemani, mendengarkan keluh kesah, ikut bersorak ketika kita bergembira, ikut tersedu ketika kita menangis.

Bagaimana mungkin bersahabat dengan sepi?
Ia memang tidak memiliki bahasa yang bisa dimengerti, tetapi ia punya telinga yang senantiasa siap mendengarkan. Ia tidak bisa diajak berbagi, tapi ia punya kapasitas ruang teramat besar yang siap menampung segala cerita.

Bukankan itu artinya kau hanya 'memberi' tanpa "menerima"?
Itulah sejatinya, tapi ada sesuatu yang membuatku tetap menjalaninya. Ketika aku berteman sepi, aku dibuatnya selalu berfikir tentang segala hal. Ini tentu saja akan menambah saldo dalam rekening emosiku *maaf, ini pinjam istilah seseorang*. Aku akan dibiarkan berfikir dan terus berfikir.. dan yeah... aku yakin aku akan semakin pintar & kuat saja...

Kekuatan menikmati sesunyian tidak didapat dengan mudah, perlu latihan dan terus berlatih. Meski terkadang kelemahan mendominasi, kemampuan mengatasi dan mengalahkan kelemahan itu justru akan menambah kapasitas kekuatan dalam diri.

Pun ketika dipaksa untuk berfikir dan terus berfikir, akan muncul pemahaman baru, teori baru, ilmu baru. Bukankah itu membuat kita lebih pintar, lebih bijak dan tentu saja lebih siap menghadapi resiko terburuk.

*million thanks to my open source untuk segala pencerahannya :D*

Apa yang Membuatmu Bahagia?

2009-12-28T23:13:00.003+07:00

Bahagia adalah tujuan hidup seluruh manusia.KOndisi dimana seseorang dapat hidup tentram, damai dan sejahtera. Banyak cara dilakukan manusia untuk mencapai kebahagiaan. Ada yang berkerja keras untuk mencapai kebahagiaan dengan mencari dan mengumpulkan materi sebanyak-banyaknya, karena berfikir materilah yang akan membuatnya bahagia. Ada pula yang mengira memiliki kekuasaan adalah titik puncak kebahagiaan sejatinya, maka ia akan mati-matian berusaha mencapai kekuasaan.

Namun ada pula yang mendefinisikan bahagia dengan cukup sederhana. Ada yang merasa bahagia ketika melihat orang lain bahagia karenanya. Ada yang bahagia ketika bisa berbagi, bahagia ketika sanggup menolong, bahagia karena mampu membantu dan lain-lain. Apakah seseorang yang memiliki keterbatasan fisik (baca= cacat) tidak berbahagia? Ternyata mereka juga bahagia. Keterbatasan fisik ternyata tidak menghalangi mereka untuk hidup bahagia. Saya pernah dikirimi post card dari kumpulan pelukis kaki. Mereka adalah kumpulan orang-orang yang tidak memiliki tangan sehingga untuk menulis, makan dan lain sebagainya mereka mengandalkan kakinya. Saya melihat semangat disana dan aku sangat yakin, mereka tidak menjadi minder karenanya, tapi mereka berbahagia karena dianugerahi talenta luar biasa sehingga mereka bisa tetap bertahan hidup tanpa menyusahkan orang lain. Mereka memperlihatkan kelebihan atas kekurangan diri mereka yang belum tentu dapat dilakukan oleh orang-orang normal. Bahagia merupakan kondisi klimaks perasaan menyenangkan yang terjadi pada diri seseorang.

Rasa bahagia setiap orang berbeda-beda tergantung dari sudut pandang mana ia melihat. Saya sempat bertanya pada beberapa orang mengenai apa yang membuat mereka bahagia. Sebagian besar dari mereka, terutama yang telah berkeluarga beranggapan bahwa memiliki keluarga yang utuh, anak-anak yang sehat dan pintar serta kecukupan materi merupakan sumber kebahagiaan mereka. Lalu, bila ternyata kebahagiaan tidak terdefinisikan, adakah sebenarnya kebahagiaan hakiki bagi seorang manusia?

Kebahagiaan adalah sesuatu yang ada di luar manusia, dan bersitat kondisional. Kebahagiaan bersifat sangat temporal. Jika ia sedang berjaya, maka di situ ada kebahagiaan. Jika sedang jatuh, maka hilanglah kebahagiaan. Maka. menurut pandangan ini tidak ada kebahagiaan yang abadi dalam jiwa manusia. Kebahagiaan itu sifatnya sesaat, tergantung kondisi eksternal manusia.

Menurut al-Ghazali, puncak kebahagiaan pada manusia adalah jika dia berhasil mencapai ma'rifatullah, telah mengenal Allah SWT.Selanjutnya, al-Ghazali menyatakan:
"Ketahuilah bahagia tiap-tiap sesuatu bila kita rasakan nikmat, kesenangan dan kelezatannya rasa itu ialah menurut perasaan masing-masing. Maka kelezatan (mata) ialah melihat rupa yang indah, kenikmatan telinga adalah mendengar suara yang merdu, demikian pula segala anggota yang lain dalam tubuh manusia."

Ketika hati dan fikiran dijadikan tempat untuk mengingat Allah, maka kebahagiaan hati adalah Ma'rifatullah. Tengok saja, betapa seorang rakyat akan sangat gembira ketika ia dapat mengenal pejabat dan kebahagiaan itu akan berlipat ganda ketika ia dapat mengenal orang yang berpangkat lebih tinggi, misalnya menteri atau bahkan presiden. Maka tentu saja ketika seorang muslim dapat mengenal Allah, maka dapat dipastikan itulah puncak kebahagiaan, sebab tidak ada yang lebih tinggi dari kemuliaan Allah SWT.

Seorang muslim yang telah mencapai ma'rifatullah tentunya hidup bahagia dalam keimanan dan keyakinan. Dalam kondisi apapun ia tetap berbahagia karena ia telah mengenal Allah, ridha dengan segala keputusan-Nya dan berusaha menyelaraskan hidupnya dengan segala macam peraturan Allah. Ia akan berbahagia saat menjalankan shalat, bahagia saat menunaikan zakat, bersedekah bahkan saat ditimpa musibah, karena yakin Allah tidak akan memberi cobaan melampaui batas kemampuannya.

Jadi apalagi yang kita cari untuk mencapai kebahagiaan hakiki? Mudah-mudahan Allah mengkaruniakan kita sebuah keyakinan dan keimanan untuk lebih mendekatkan diri kepadaNya hingga kita dapat mencapai ma'rifatullah dan mendapatkan kebahagiaan abadi dunia dan akhirat. Amien..

Come, only to leave

2009-12-26T18:42:00.002+07:00

I saw hope hanging
I saw trust hugging
I saw it when I'm with you

I kept on believing
I started pretending
I stopped reviling
I did it when I'm with you

You came, but only to say goodbye
You stayed, but only to leave
You give love, but only to make hurt

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You close your eyes and leave me naked by your side
You close the door so I can't see, the love you keep inside
The love you keep for me

It fills me up
It feels like living in a dream
It fills me up so I can't see
The love you keep inside
The love you keep for me

I stay to watch you fade away

I dream of you tonight Tomorrow you'll be gone
It gives me time to stay, to watch you fade away

I dream of you tonight, tomorrow you'll be gone
I wish by God you'd stay

I stay awake
I stay awake and watch you breathe
I stay awake and watch you fly, away into the night
Escaping through a dream

Stay...

I wish by God you'd stay...

“The Second You Sleep”
Lyrics by Saybia
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When love came, be prepare of losing it
It will come
it will stay for a while
stand still
and finally fade away...

Love will stay.. remain in your heart
yet you know, it's not the right place
keep it.. to make you stay alive..

Posted for a best friend
yang curhat semalam suntuk 25 desember 2009