O Christian Mother!

Back from My HECTIC Spring

2011-06-16T13:48:00.000-04:00

I apologize for being MIA (missing in action) for so long, but it's been one hectic spring here. The highlight was my older son's graduation from high school. What a great event in a young person's life! He is planning to study Criminal Justice at a local state university and we are just so proud of him.

I have been more seriously decluttering these past few months, and I was able to host my mother-in-law here for a few days and even open our home for a graduation cook-out! Naturally, my beloved husband was absolutely a prince among men during all these goings-on. He is so patient and good and is just such a hard worker. I love you, my darling man!

I hope to be adding some great posts on a regular basis. For now I will leave you with a website that has just fascinated me since I found it: www.instructables.com
It has just oooooodles of cool stuff that DIY types have shared for us clueless ones. Hope you enjoy!
Happy Summer!!

Remember to Pray for the Parfitts

2011-03-21T14:20:00.001-04:00

It has been just over three months since Ken Parfitt of Geneseo, New York, passed from this life into eternal life with his Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ. On December 14, 2010, Ken stopped to assist a stranded motorist on a snowy New York interstate. Another car lost control and Ken was fatally injured in the crash, passing into glory the next morning. Brother Parfitt left behind his loving wife, Jamie, and their eight precious children. I keep their picture on my refrigerator to help me remember to pray for this dear Christian family. You may want to do the same. Even so, come, Lord Jesus!

In Loving Memory of Elijah "Weeble" Eckhardt

2011-03-05T13:26:00.004-05:00

On Sunday, February 27, at 10:46 AM, little Elijah Eckhardt, known to his loving family as "Weeble," passed into eternity, into the loving arms of the Lord Jesus. The day before there had been a tragic swimming pool accident. There are no words to describe the grief and pain of this dear family and those who love them. Yesterday we gathered to remember Weeble and were blessed with a joyous, tearful service that helped us to get to know this dear boy who lived here with us only 1,015 days. Weeble would have turned three in May.

His Aunt Tricia said, "Everyone loved Weeble, and Weeble loved everyone." Oh, how he loved, and how he was loved and will always be loved! He was such a happy boy who loved Mommy and Daddy and his grandparents and his aunts, uncles, and cousins. He loved playing with his brothers Kaj, Japheth, and Silas and with his sisters Heike and baby Katie, and with his cousins. They were his best friends. He loved to climb "monkey trees" (this is what he called the ones he could climb; the others he called "monster trees"); he loved cookies and caterpillars and he loved life.

His mommy Jennifer and daddy Troy bravely shared some of their precious memories of Weeble with all of us yesterday. His Aunt Tricia and his "Poppy" also shared from the heart their love for this beautiful child. We laughed and we cried and we marveled at the depth of their loss, and the depth of our loss.

We were so very blessed to hear each say with absolute certainty that they will see Weeble again in heaven, where Jesus is now rocking him in his arms. They will have a grand reunion one day because each one who spoke had placed their faith and trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. They had received the forgiveness of their sins and the gift of everlasting life that Jesus won for them on the cross of Calvary. Weeble's daddy Troy told us how Weeble's short earth-life is already bearing fruit, as one of Troy's dearest friends has come to Christ and been born again as a result of this tragedy. Praise the Lord! May he be the first of many, many souls to come to the Saviour as this faithful family lifts up the name of Jesus.

I wish I had known little Elijah better in this life. He is a part of a family I have been blessed to know and love and fellowship with for thirteen years. Troy was my boys' Boy Scout Leader for several years. Poppy Sam is vitally involved in all things Scouting as well and has prepared our taxes for many years. He and "Nanny" Betty have become our friends as well. We have also been blessed to know and fellowship with Aunt Tricia and her family and Aunt Susan and her family, as well as dear "Granny" Betty Gunter. The past few years I allowed myself to become overly busy when I took a job outside the home. I gave up my Sunday School Nursery Teacher position and even stopped working in the church nursery. I struggle to remember if I held Elijah in my arms even once. This is my personal loss, one that I truly regret. But God is good all the time. As a believer, I, too, look forward to that great day the Lord will call me home, or that even grander day when the trump shall sound and the Lord's body, the church, will be caught up together with Him in the clouds, "and so shall we ever be with the Lord" (1 Thessalonians 4:17). "Even so, come, Lord Jesus" (Revelation 22:20).

Until we meet again in heaven, I will remember little Weeble with love and affection and with a greater appreciation for this life and my loved ones.

Jennifer and Troy, I love you so much. You are in my thoughts and prayers constantly and I pray the Lord will continue to comfort you and your children and the whole family as only He can.

Relationship Is King

2011-02-09T20:40:00.001-05:00

As I look back over the years and contemplate the ups and downs of motherhood, I am more and more convinced that what really matters in the long run is the quality of the relationship I enjoy with my sons. Even if I don't always say the right thing in exactly the right way, it helps tremendously for them to know I love them, I like them, and I truly have their best interests in view when we discusss this or when I say "no" to that. I must regularly check in with them and see how we're doing. When I mess up, the faster I apologize the better it goes. It's amazing how sensitive a teenage boy can be. I have come to realize they are young men - my boys! - and they are growing daily into their roles as future husbands and fathers, Lord willing.

O Christian mother, your babies may be young now, but they won't be for long. Cherish the moments you have with them. Step back and realize you are their primary model for behavior, both righteous and unrighteous. The teachable moments come fast and furiously, and you may be overwhelmed and exhausted A LOT. But take care to protect and nurture your relationship with each child.

One of my biggest regrets is that I have often allowed myself an irritated and impatient manner of speaking to my boys. If I am tired, running late, not feeling well, I just let them have it. Afterward have come the shame and the apologies. I have felt like such a failure and have bought book after book, searching for the magic bullet to fix myself. I realize now I should have spent more time in the Book of Books and with its gracious Author. Romans 12:2 really is true: "Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind" - only God's word can accomplish this.

May I encourage you today to watch your tone with your babies? Your voice should be a source of blessing and assurance. "She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness," we read in Proverbs 31:26. I used to hate the Proverbs 31 woman, but I realize now that was just foolishness. She is my Biblical example and I have learned to embrace her and love her. I have a LONG way to go to be anything like her, but I am working on it. Join me, won't you, and don't forget to practice kindness when you speak to yourself as well. We can replace those old bad habits with new ones that will strengthen our relationships with our children, day by day. It just takes mindful attention and perseverance. We can do this, with our Lord's help, and we must do it.

Fight Back When Sickness Beats Up the Schedule

2011-01-28T14:38:00.002-05:00

If your family is like mine, you have experienced your fair share of sickness already this winter. Sickness tends to put the daily schedule into the tank, even if some of the family is still well. The past few weeks have been quite rough around here, and everyone is still in some form of dis-ease. What to do? My instinct is to crawl under my snuggly blankets and hide, but I dare not as the piles are mounting around me: piles of paper, piles of laundry, piles of dishes, piles of piles!

One of the tendencies I have when sick or well is to focus on only one task for an excessive amount of time, while everything else falls into ruin. Enter my version of FlyLady's Crisis Cleaning technique (http://flylady.net/pages/FLYingLessons_CrisisCleaning.asp). Gather three simple tools: a piece of paper, a pencil, and a timer.  Fold the paper in half; fold that half in half; and fold that half in half again. Unfold the paper and you will have eight equal boxes in which to write tasks. If eight seems like too many, stop at four. (You can always turn the paper over when you finish and you will have four new blanks.)

Now think about what is screaming for your attention.  Write one chore (or even the name of a room) in each box. Now set your timer for fifteen minutes and tackle what is in the first box. When the timer goes off, go on to the next box, even if you aren't finished with the first box. (Who ever finishes laundry anyway?) After three boxes have been given attention for fifteen minutes each, use the next block of time to take a break.

Now one hour has gone by, you've just had a break, and hopefully you should be refreshed to begin the next box. When you finish the first page of boxes, you can start again at the first box or you can flip your paper over and add new chores in the blanks on the back.

Here are my boxes' labels for today: Read Bible; Laundry; Dishes; Shower; Sweep Floors; Help with Algebra; Work on Financial Aid Forms; Plan Menu.  Changing tasks when the timer goes off is key for me. I also have to use the timer whenever I get on the computer or pick up the phone. Sometimes I set it for only ten minutes or extend it to twenty minutes, but fifteen minutes is FlyLady's magic number (http://flylady.net/pages/FlyShop_UTimer.asp), as in "You can do ANYTHING for fifteen minutes!"

When the day is done, feel free to throw your paper away, or save it for tomorrow. Do what you can, and get the kids involved, especially if you feel under the weather. When you all do a little, it makes a huge difference. Your children will thank you one day for giving them the tools they need to lead a simple, organized, contented life. Thank you, dear Lord, for health and strength to do what we can for even fifteen minutes.

Read Through the Bible This Year

2011-01-07T10:09:00.003-05:00

There is only one God, and He wrote only one book. Have you read it yet? Let's purpose in our hearts to be in God's word every day, all year long. There are many Bible reading plans out there. Here are a couple of links to help you find a plan: http://www.biblegateway.com/resources/readingplans/index.php/today?plan=1&version=9

This link even has a "Listen" button! You can listen to God's word while you work! http://www.ewordtoday.com/year/kjv/ojan01.htm

King James Bible
Happy 400th Birthday!

Happy 2011!

2011-01-01T16:19:00.000-05:00

Do you know today's date is 1/1/11? I don't think there is anything significant about that, but it's neat to notice. The beginning of a new year is always a good time to reflect on where you've been, where you are, and where you want to go. What went right last year? What marked a low point? Take a few moments to write down your thoughts and plans. These don't have to be full-fledged resolutions, but if you don't write them down, you are likely to forget them. Also, if you have a specific goal, now is the time to flesh out an action plan. Do you want to lose 30 pounds? By when? If you say, I want to lose 30 pounds by June 30, you now have an achievable smaller goal of losing five pounds a month. Think of the different facets of your life: your spiritual condition, your role as a wife, your role as a mother, daughter, sister in Christ...the list could go on. Are your relationships in order? Do you need to forgive anyone? Did you read through the Bible in 2010? I have a brand new Bible reading notebook in which I am writing down names, events, and anything I else I want to remember from my daily reading. It is my prayer that we all have a blessed 2011, and that we bring more glory and honour to our Saviour than we did last year, and that we share the gospel with more lost people, particularly those in our own families. I know I must work at keeping eternal things in the forefront of my thinking; how about you? Happy New Year, dear Christian friends!

Reading Aloud Is Right

2010-12-30T11:58:00.005-05:00

Some of the very best homeschooling moments with my boys involved reading great books aloud to them. I did most of the reading and I still remember how they would beg for "just one more chapter." Our favorite books came from the Sonlight Curriculum catalog; every one we read together was a winner. I remember in particular Carry On, Mr. Bowditch; Moccasin Trail; and Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry. These novels appealed greatly to my boys, who were about 13 and 10 at the time. The stories totally captivated all of us, so the history lessons and character-building were painless! Sharing a great story and its frames of reference together is one of those relationship-building activities that makes homeschooling a precious blessing. Looking back over the years, our read-aloud times comprise some of our sweetest memories.

If you need any ideas about which books to read at what age, the Sonlight Curriculum catalog is the way to go. Click on the Sonlight banner to go to their website and order a free catalog. You won't be sorry!!

Are You Sidetracked? Learn to Fly!

2010-12-27T15:07:00.004-05:00

Were you born organized, or are you like I am – perennially sidetracked? I really struggle with organization, but I am so much better than I used to be because of my very favorite website on organization: www.flylady.net. Marla Cilley, the FlyLady, is your online coach to help you overcome CHAOS (Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome). FlyLady will help you get your home in order, but she will do much more than that – she will change the conversation going on in your head! I no longer beat myself up constantly when things go awry or get messy. Instead, knowing I can do ANYTHING for fifteen minutes, I set my timer and move forward. I hope you will find that FlyLady is as much a help to you as she has been to me since 2001. She has lots of great features and helpful cleaning products on her totally-free site. I especially enjoy using the "Rubba" tools; they work great and are very affordable. FlyLady TV is new. It is so energizing to be able to see FlyLady and hear her talk to me! FlyLady will change the way you look at housework, I promise!

Write It Down

2010-12-27T10:46:00.001-05:00

One of the most helpful things you can do to become an more efficient wife and mother is to keep a notebook and pen or pencil handy. When something important pops into your head, write it down!! I know this seems ridiculously obvious, but sometimes we multi-tasking moms need a little reminder. In your busy world, you may be interrupted at any moment and that important task or great idea may be lost if you don't record it NOW! Use a simple spiral-bound notebook or a small 3-ring binder with plain loose leaf (that's notebook paper for you young ones). A dry erase board hung in your kitchen is also handy for those ideas you get while cooking or cleaning. Don't laugh, but having something to write on in the bathroom isn't a bad idea, either. I seem to remember important things in there!

If you happen to be on your computer, you can keep a running "To Do/Ideas" list in a Word document (or Wordpad, or whatever you have). Just click and record, and then don't forget to look back at your list! Don't get obsessed with the list itself - it does NOT need to be neat, alphabetized, or color-coordinated!

My DH asks very little of me, so I try to write down any specific request(s) he makes and then make that request a priority of my day. Again, do not forget to check your list often (at mealtimes or when you come out of the restroom, for example). When you have done that task or followed up on that idea, you will feel so good when you check it off!! Write It Down!

My Purpose

2010-12-26T22:17:00.001-05:00

My purpose for this blog is to be a help and a blessing to young Christian wives and moms. Titus 2 says that the aged women should teach the younger ones. Well, I am in my fifties now and have been a born-again Christian for 30 years. I have been happily married for 25 years and first became a mom in 1992. I have two precious sons and have homeschooled for more than ten years. Along the way, I have made many mistakes and have also learned a few things. Let me help and instruct you through my experience so you won't have to make the same mistakes I have. O Christian mother, I have so much I want to tell you! Please visit often. I pray that something I share here may be of practical help and a real blessing to you.

May I begin by saying that it is so important to read the Bible every day! You probably don't go very long without eating actual food; I know I don't! Job 23:12b says, "I have esteemed the words of his mouth more than my necessary food." Let's give God's word its rightful place in our daily lives. One way to quickly organize your Bible reading is to read the chapter of Proverbs that corresponds to the day of the month. Today is the 26th, so I would read Proverbs Chapter 26 today. I usually read a chapter from the Old Testament and one from the New Testament as well.

Here is a helpful link to do your Bible reading online:
http://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/