On a Postcard

How much is “too much” in self-tanning?

Arnold — Sat, 14 May 2011 08:27:00 +0000

As we approach the summer season and thoughts of laying on the beach come to mind, I’m sure many women are thinking that they’re going to look a dreadful shade of white for the first few days on the beach.

Hence, of course, the rising number of tanning salons around these days. However, the problem with them is that they can be quite expensive and there’s the cancer risk as well from the high intensity tanning lamps. Thus, there’s a corresponding rise in the use of self-tanning products.

Whilst tanning salons basically speed up your natural tanning (albeit with more intense ultra-violet lamps), self-tanning is basically a dye. And, as with hair dyes, you can have a range from barely glowing through to “oompa loompa”. Sadly, it would appear that way too many women just don’t know how to use these products (and it’s nearly always women) and therefore end up with quite the quite ridiculous oompa loompa look.

Make sure you’re not one of the oompa loompas by testing the self-tanning product on a small proportion of your skin that’s not normally visible before you paste it on all over yourself.

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Tattooed or plain?

Arnold — Sat, 07 May 2011 08:21:38 +0000

On the whole tattoos have received quite a bad press over the years. Think of a woman with a tattoo and the image that pops into the heads of many people is not a good one. The larger the chunk of skin that’s tattooed, the worse that image gets, doesn’t it?

That’s all in the abstract though. Despite having quite a large area of skin covered in tattoos she’s pretty hot looking, isn’t she?

The main thing to remember with tattoos is that they are essentially permanent. Thus it’s best to steer clear of names, regardless of how attached you may be to the person at the moment.

Also, there’s the bad girl image to consider. On the whole that’s generally applied to girls with large chunks of flesh sporting tattoos though so don’t worry about small tattoos or those that are in areas only seen by intimate acquaintances.

In terms of design, it’s probably best to forget about the latest fashion in that you’re going to have it decades later by which time ideas will almost certainly have changed. Again, this isn’t going to be a major issue for small or normally hidden tattoos but is something to think about if you’re moving into large scale images as the young lady has here.

As always you can change the accent by choosing different clothes. For instance, the image portrayed by the girl here would be quite different were she wearing a one-piece in that there could be the implication that much more skin was decorated than there actually is. With the bikini pretty much everything is on display so that’s a non-issue.

It’s worth considering work situations too. Some places simply won’t employ you with large scale visible tattoos. That’s the case with guys too although small or not openly visible ones are generally fine in both situations.

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Adding a bit of spice to your daily routine

Arnold — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 18:48:10 +0000

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while the initial dating aspect can disappear if you don’t make a point of keeping it alive.

Ensuring that you do keep dating is obviously an important aspect of that but don’t neglect the smaller things as well.

Make sure you invite your man into the shower now and again. Yeah, it’s a hassle sometimes, but wouldn’t you rather that he had that image of you in the shower during the day?

Don’t slip off into the bathroom to get ready for bed. Give him a little striptease instead.

And I’m sure you can think of a whole bunch of other little things to keep his mind on you

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The attraction of women to chocolate

Arnold — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 09:59:27 +0000

These days a lot of it is to do with the marketing by the chocolate companies, hence the mass of those little heart shaped chocolates that you will have seen around Valentine’s Day.

However, there are also chemical reasons behind the attraction of chocolate. It’s a sweet and we are all attracted to sugary things for a start. However, it also contains triggers for your endorphins (the “feel good” chemicals) which other sweets don’t. Finally, specifically for the women it contains phenylethylamine which is related to chemicals peaking during orgasm.

Despite all that, in reality it’s the massive promotional effort on the part of the chocolate companies which is the main driving force in shifting the mountain of chocolates that are in the shops these days.

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Brazilian, bikini or no waxing?

Arnold — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 09:29:26 +0000

The first decision is to wax or not to wax?

Plus points are that guys prefer it if they’re going down on you, it’s cooler in the summer and there’s the hygiene angle too. On the downside is the pain involved, embarrassment and prickly feeling afterwards.

If you decide on it, the choices range from bikini (basically removing hair that would poke out from your bikini so there are normal and string bikini versions), Candibox (a custom design), variations on Brazilian (removing all but a thin strip of hair) and Hollywood (all hair is removed). Aside from the normal bikini, hair is removed from both front and back.

When deciding on where to go to have this done, ask around rather than just plumping for the first place you see. Once you’ve decided on a place, make sure that your hair is between 1/4 and 1/2 inch (too short and the wax won’t catch, too long and you’re looking at serious pain: trim beforehand if needbe). It’s a good idea to apply a numbing cream and take a painkiller before your appointment. If it’s your first time, there’s no avoiding the feeling of embarrassment as obviously the technician will need the vital areas uncovered. Finally, don’t forget to apply the lotion that you’ll be given after your treatment.

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What should you do on a first date?

Arnold — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 09:06:35 +0000

Typically the suggestions will basically boil down to dinner and a movie or something along those lines.

Other alternatives can come to mind if you’ve met via some activity. So, for example if you’ve come in contact through exercise classes perhaps a short cycling tour around the area might be suggested.

In fact, if the guy likes you a lot and is really clever what he should suggest is something that scares you a little. No so much that you won’t go at all obviously, but rather something that makes you distinctly nervous (about the activity, not about the guy obviously). This is because it will make you feel that he is more attractive. Sounds crazy, I know, but it’s been tested out by psychologists and it does work.

So, if your potential date suggests some activity that frightens you a little, now you know why he’s thought of it.

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Self-maintenance for a date

Arnold — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 09:06:12 +0000

You’ve thought about your make-up, chosen the underwear, picked out the shoes and have a nice dress lined up so next up is your personal maintenance.

There are a number of aspects to this obviously:

Guys expect guys to be smooth so that means shaving your legs and arm pits. Waxing is even better and lasts longer.
Wash your hair for those times when he’s running his hands through it.
Have a bath or shower so you smell fresh.
Think about perfume. Light rather than heavy duty is the way to go. Don’t forget that really laying on the perfume can be very off-putting: better to aim for that fresh smelling scent than perfume by the gallon.
Clean your teeth and think about a mint to freshen up your breath.

And that’s about it. All minor points but neglecting any one of them can be off-putting on a date.

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Underwear for a first date

Arnold — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 09:47:11 +0000

Unless you’re planning on taking him to bed, you probably figure that the lingerie you wear doesn’t really matter.

Not so. There will be aspects of your underwear that he will notice. If you’re wearing a skirt or dress, he’ll see whether or not you’re wearing stockings or tights/pantyhose. If the skirt is short enough, he’ll know if you’re wearing stockings and if it’s that short, wear stockings rather than tights.

If your skirt, dress, trousers or leggings are tight enough then he’ll probably see an outline of the panties you’re wearing and if that’s the case forget about comfy ones and go for a thong or nothing at all. He definitely won’t want to think of you as a girl who wears granny knickers.

Depending on what you’re wearing on top he might see an outline of your bra so make it an outline that he’ll like. If you don’t have a whole lot up top, consider one of the push up bras, if you’ve heaps up there, go for something that tones it down a bit.

Aside from anything else, if you’re wearing something sexy underneath, it’ll make you feel a little more sexy yourself and that’s always a good thing on a date.

And if you are thinking that he might see it later, ramp up the sexiness of the underwear and don’t forget that it’s sexier to have sex whilst you’re still wearing your lingerie. So, stockings rather than tights and put the panties on last so that you can keep the stockings on (unless you go for an open-crotch style). For a really sexy look, go for suspender belt stockings rather than the hold-up style.

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What to wear on your feet for a first date

Arnold — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 09:43:45 +0000

You’ve basically got a choice between shoes and boots.

In both cases the only choice is as high a heel as you feel comfortable with for the simple reason that heels are going to make your legs look more shapely. If you’ve not worn heels before, don’t go overboard with the height: you’re just asking for trouble if you do that as they require a whole different way of walking which takes time to get used to. Want to learn how? Start with a small heel and work your way up from there, gradually moving from a wide heel to a narrow one as you go and allow for lots of practice. Don’t go directly from no heel to 4″ heels for your first date or you’re going to have to hold on to your date quite tightly for balance (he’ll not mind).

If you’ve gone for a relatively low key outfit generally, a pair of sexy thigh boots are one way to increase the sexiness of your overall look (the higher the heel, the sexier the look generally). Take your look the other way by going for something like ankle boots or lowering the heels. For shoes, tone down your outfit by lowering the heels or brightening the colour. For both shoes and boots higher shine materials make for a sexier look, lower shine fabrics lets you tone things down.

Forget about ugg boots and anything similar. Boots going above your ankle need to hug your leg.

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What to wear on a first date from the waist down

Arnold — Mon, 07 Mar 2011 09:10:09 +0000

If you’ve your make-up sorted and made sure that you’re not showing too much in the way of cleavage then all being well your date will be able to keep his eyes on your face during your date.

However, what about below the waist? Whatever you wear there won’t distract him visually whilst you talk over your meal but if you go too over the top you’ll find that his mind isn’t quite as concentrated on your conversation as you might like. So, whilst he might well have wet dreams of your PVC skirt and rubber stockings after the date, chances are that he’ll not ask you out again if you go too sexy below the waist.

As with your top half, you don’t want to be showing too much skin on your bottom half. That’s not to say that you can’t wear tight leggings (if you have the legs for them) and he’ll appreciate the view of your ass that they give. Pass up on the overly shiny stuff on the first date though: no PVC, rubber or metallic leggings. Aim for attractive rather than sexy.