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Do men like it when women ask them out?

2010-11-23T11:02:00.003-05:00

Mr. Answer Man says:
Men definitely like it when women ask them out. What's not to like? But before you get busy with your phone and address book, there are a few things you should know.
For starters, a part of the guy will wonder if you've called him up because you want to have sex with him. Guys are generally hoping to have sex whenever they go on a date, so this probably won't mean he'll behave any different, but you might want to set some limits early on. (Unless that is why you called him.)
Also, be prepared for lots of dating gray areas: Who'll drive? Who'll pay? Who'll decide where to go? The impetus is generally on the guy to control the flow of events on a date, but since you initiated things, how far will the initiative extend? Ideally, this will be part of the fun, but it can lead to baffled expectations on both sides.
Another thing to consider is something guys have been dealing with since time began: The answer might be no.

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ICE BREAKERS FOR ONLINE DATING

2010-09-16T15:09:00.001-04:00

Online Dating for some people can very intimidating, over whelming and just don’t know where to start when it comes striking up a conversation with their online date. We have all been there being nervous and it is perfectly natural and normal to be nervous and not knowing what to say or where to start. Most online daters have their profile filled out, describing their personality, hobbies and interests, as well probably have a added a photo as well. By now you have been browsing all the personalities on the site searching for the profiles that appeal to your personality as well. Now you are ready to start having conversations with the profiles that attracted your attention.

· Greet the your potential date by saying Hello and ask them how they are doing , introduce yourself “ Hi how are you doing it is very nice to meet you, I’m Joe and I really liked your profile would you like to chat sometime? “ Now you have Broken the ICE getting to know your potential date and give them a chance to respond, take a deep breath and be patient sometimes they won’t respond right away . By now the conversation is starting to flow just let it happen naturally and be yourself. Use these ICE BREAKERS to get the ball rolling.

· TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF Ask your date in simplest terms to describe themselves to you , even though you have read their profile by asking them this question gets the conversation flowing and compliment them on their profile. “So tell me what do you do for a living and do you like your job?” Share with them what you do as well. By asking these questions tells your potential date that you are very interested in getting to know them.

· WHAT KIND OF MUSIC DO YOU LISTEN TO Try asking them what kind of music they enjoy listening to, we all listen to music so find out what they listen to and what is their favourite band or song might be “Oh I love that song too” you are finding out that they may listen to the same type of music that you enjoy and quickly learning more about your date and what you might have in common. So far the conversation and looking good and you are becoming more comfortable talking to each other.

· DO YOU TRAVEL Everyone has dreams or fantasies of places we would like to see in our life time and or have already seen. Since the date is going smoothly at this point, ask them if there is a place, a city or country they would like to travel to see and why they would want to travel there. “ I would love to see Rome the heritage and history behind it and I hear it’s beautiful there”

· WHAT KINDS OF FOODS AND DRINKS DO YOU FANCY Find out what types of foods your date likes to eat or enjoy cooking, or favourite restaurants they enjoy going to and what is it like to eat at restaurant. What do enjoy cooking in your spare time? This a good opportunity in finding out what they enjoy and gives you options maybe take them there for a dinner date in the future . People have a beverage they enjoy having to drink it could be white wine, red wine or whatever it might be because they taste good.

These are just a few ICE BREAKERS you can use to get a conversation going during your online date. Hey it wasn’t so bad asking these questions and quickly you have noticed the person you are having a conversation with really isn’t a stranger after all. During the date you were able to get to know your date a little bit and their background, what they like or don’t like and what their interests and goals they might have in life. Quickly you have gained confidence to dating online and feel good about your situation.

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How to Write a Good Profile

2010-08-27T20:51:00.002-04:00

Are you having problems writing a catchy profile while staying true to yourself? Would you like more replies to your ad? Here are some tips about how to create a good profile that’ll get those emails rolling in…

I simply cannot stress this enough: upload a photo! By far the most important thing about a profile is its photo. Although it is important to make it a good one, if the only one you can find is old and grainy then it is better than nothing. Profiles without photos receive about 10% as many responses as those that do have them.

•Make it a good one! If you can, get a friend to take it. Take loads with a digital camera and pick the best two or three. Think about what your best features are and concentrate on those. Perhaps you could get your hair done or dress as if you’re going out on a date – this will help to set the mood.

•Take some time out to have a look at other people’s profiles, and decide which ones you like. What is it you like about them? Note down their plus points or their catchy titles; try to avoid things they have done badly.

•Turn off your computer, grab a notepad and start writing. People often find it easier to write than type, so why not write your answers out and type them up later? You may find you write a better description without the pressure of a computer screen in front of you.

•Be honest! This is very important – you will only attract the people you truly want to be attractive to if you are honest with them and yourself. If your profile describes somebody you are not, your prospective dates will be interested in that person, not you.

•Think about how your friends would describe you in three words. Better still, ask them! Think about your best qualities and sell them.

•Don’t just tell people about your qualities, show them. Don’t just say “I love music” – what kind of music do you like? Instead say “I love British hiphop – I went to see Roots Manuva last week”, or “There is nothing better than listening to Rachmaninov on a rainy day”.

•One of the biggest turn-offs, according to some of our users, is bad grammar and incorrect spelling. Double and triple-check what you write, or the next person reading it will be a single person who liked the look of you.

So get out your notepad, be honest and be positive. Be specific about the things you like. But most of all – upload a picture!

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