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Answers for Women who have a dry Vagina

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 09:44:00 -0800

Why Isn't My Sex Life What is used to Be?

There are a variety of factors that affect a women's libido. As she ages, the events of a typical woman's life will affect her body. Having a baby is a major biological marker in a woman's life. Stress can also take its toll on a woman's body, from work, financial issues or relationships. These can all cause vaginal dryness in a woman. This is the reason that lubrication is so important for pleasurable sex, sex can even become painful when a woman's vaginal is dry.

Changing hormones can affect a woman's enjoyment of sex and ability to orgasm. As a woman ages, she often decreases her production of the hormone dehydroepiandrosterone, or DHEA. This hormone has been clinically proven to have a significant impact on a woman's desire for sex. A woman can get a saliva test from her doctor to test her progesterone, estrogen and testosterone levels. If the hormones are off the doctor can recommend hormone replacement or a cream to help with lack of desire and vaginal dryness.

When a woman can use a good lubrication she can begin to better enjoy an active sex life again without the pain of vaginal dryness.

A lubrication that is pH balanced and made from natural products without flavor or other additives will be more of natural vaginal lubrication. A company called Sliquid makes wonderful products, they have a variety of lubrication available such as, "Sea" it is water based and infused with natural seaweed extracts which give it a little thicker feel replicating natural vaginal secretions. It is glycerine and Paraben free as well as hypoallergenic. Another product they carry is botanically infused natural lubricating gel which again give it the thickness and is water based.

A dry vagina is not a happy organ......

The hormone oxytocin and its link to female orgasm

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Fri, 7 Jan 2011 13:37:00 -0800

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Our body has a wonderful hormone called oxytocin and it has the ability to bring a calming affect over the body when released and bring on a sense of bonding and attachment. High levels of oxytocin are found in the cervix and uterus after labor and are released through nipple stimulation in women, and one main reason for the bonding between mother and child.

Much research has also been done on the connection between the releases of oxytocin after a man or women have had an orgasm. In Wikipedia it stated, “Plasma oxytocin levels are notably increased around the time of self stimulated orgasm and are still higher than baseline when measured 5 minutes after self arousal. In a study that measured oxytocin serum levels in women before and after sexual stimulation the author suggests that oxytocin serves an important role in sexual arousal. This study found that genital tract stimulation resulted in increased oxytocin immediately after orgasm. Another study that reports increases of oxytocin during sexual arousal states that it could be in response to nipple/areola, genital, and/or genital tract stimulation as confirmed in other mammals.[11] Murphy et al. (1987), studying men, found that oxytocin levels were raised throughout sexual arousal and there was no acute increase at orgasm.[12] A more recent study of men found an increase in plasma oxytocin immediately after orgasm, but only in a portion of their sample.
The evidence suggest that women appear to release this natural hormone when sexually aroused and after orgasm. In addition, women who were currently involved in a committed relationship experienced greater oxytocin increases in response to positive emotions than single women. The researchers speculate that a close, regular relationship may influence the responsiveness of the hormone.

There is no doubt about it that when a women in a close sexual relationship has increased orgrams, her level of sexual desire increases and she will want to have more sexually pleasing experiences with her partner bringing her to have multiple orgasms. A woman can also achieve the same level of hormones by bringing herself to orgasm through masturbation. Increased masturbation daily or weekly including sex with a partner or spouse will increase her desire to want to have continued orgasms. There is a strong connection between nipple stimulation, clitoral stimulation and then orgasms that high levels of oxytocin will be releases, not only having a decrease in pain for women but also bringing her closer in her relationship with her partner.

One area that I always advise my female clients is when they have lost their sexual desire; they need to get it back by masturbating on a regular basis, and brining themselves to orgasm. Once they get their body back into feeling sexy and the sexual hormones are released they when then get their sexual desire back and be able to share that desire with their partner. One way for a woman to get started is to use a clitoral female stimulating gel and a great vibrator.

Female Stimulant Gels

Are the little bumps on your penis ruining your sex life?

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 16:10:00 -0800

Many men do not know what it is called or why they have these ugly little bumps on the head of the penis. This is caused by Pearly Penile Papules and it is treatable

“Are The Ugly Bumps on Your “Man Friend” Ruining Your Sex Life?”

“Professors Predicted I Would Never Remove My Pearly Penile Papules. But Contrarily to their Prediction, I Removed my Papules Easily, Permanently & In Just 3 Days! I'll Show You How...”

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How A Woman Can Get The Passion Back Into Her Body And Mind

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 19:34:00 -0800

Bringing Your Passion Back

For women who have lost their passion, this article is for you. When a woman no longer feels sexy about herself she may have a hard time being passionate with her spouse or partner. Sex may become a chore rather than a pleasure or an exciting release.
Many times after a woman has had children and is in a committed relationship for a time or is approaching her late forties or fifty’s she may notice that the once fun, passionate spited girl she was is somehow gone. The great news is that a woman can get her passion back and if she is in her forties, this can become one of the most passionate times of her life.
The reason that the forties are such a passionate time for women is that they know their bodies, how to control their emotions and who they are. This is a very powerful combination, also with a woman who had been taking good care of herself, feels good and looks good she can be especially sexy.

If the later part does not apply to you, hopefully after this article it will encourage you to feel better about yourself and prompt you to take notice of your health, appearance, and state of mind.
Whether you are short, fat, big, tall, small breasts, big breasts, athletic, the point is, it does not matter what you are on the outside, what matters is how you feel on the inside. Sexy comes from inside and then radiates thoroughout your whole body sending off energy and pheromones that you may not even realize you are capable of producing.
One of the best workout trends out there that will get a woman in tip top shape, along with her mind feeling sexy is pole dancing class. This may seem funny to some, but who ever invented it was on the right tract. When a woman feels sexy and looks sexy and moves sexy she is opens herself up to passion. A prime example of this is a night out on the town when a woman puts on a sexy dress and some high heels her mood and her movement, everything about her changes and she radiates sexy passion. The problem is that some women don’t do enough of this or have forgotten how to get dressed up and go out at all.

Get Your Butt Moving Again

If pole dancing is not for you here are a few ways to get the body moving and feeling sexier while increasing cardiovascular effects and getting the blood pumping back into your body:
1. Put the music on at home and start dancing, lock the bedroom door and dance your heart out. Make sure the music is sexy, raunchy and makes you want to shake your bum.
2. Grab a girl friend and go out to a club and go dancing, put on the shoes the dress, the hair, the makeup and let loose.
3. Take up salsa dancing with your spouse or on your own, the Latin dance is sure to get the blood flowing in all the right places.
4. Go to a zumba dance class at your local gym, shake it up.
5. Yoga is another way to get in touch with your body; it stretches women in all of the right places making her more flexible and firm.

Think Sexy Thoughts

Get your mind to start thinking sexy thoughts that bring passion to your womanly area.
1. Fantasize about something that turns you on.
2. Read a trashy romance novel that makes you hot.
3. Go see a sexy movie.
4. Look at some hot handsome men
5. Put on some trashy lingerie and heels and walk around your room, lay in your bed with satin sheets and start to play with yourself

Play With Yourself

Play with yourself or have more sex…….that is the third on the list
In a study done by Athena Science a woman who has regular sex with her partner or even is sexual with herself will release more sexual pheromones to the opposite sex, “Cutler's other studies show women who have sex with men at least once a week have regular menstrual cycles and fewer fertility and menopause problems, apparently because of exposure to pheromones.” http://www.athenainstitute.com/discovery.html
1. Touch your body on a regular basis
2. Get your juices so to speak going, there is nothing that will put you in the mood more than to wake up body parts that have been asleep for years?
3. If you don’t use it you will lose it, this is very true for a woman, and we must use it!!!!!
4. Use it often on your own or with your spouse, partner, or lover. Women I can guarantee you one thing and that is if you play with yourself often you will begin to want it more, it will create a chain reaction in your body and release hormones that need to be woken up.
5. Flirt, yes you can flirt innocently, but allow yourself to be a little flirty, womanly. One of the best ways to do this is to give a man a compliment. Try out your flirty ways on your husband, and see how it pays to give your man a compliment.
The best advice is always to be kind to you, love yourself and take care of yourself. Life is too short not to have had a great sex life, or never experience what it’s like to have passion in your life. Take charge of your inner woman and bring passion back to your body.

Comments

J D Murrah 5 months ago

dawnM,
I enjoyed the hub. It contained a great deal of useful things to do. Your inclusion of other links adds a great deal to your hubs.
I did have a question about how you are using the word passion. The term itself means to bring about pain. The examples you gave are more about increasing sensuality than pain.
I welcome your thoughts on the 'passion' issue?

MMMoney 5 months ago

very nice hub I love all points

dawnM 5 months ago

Hi J D I think that passion is a wonderful thing not about pain at all?
passion for living, passion for giving being passionate?
I think that you and I have a very different view on passion.

J D Murrah 5 months ago

dawnM,
Thanks for responding on passion. I suspected it was about a passion for living, as in exuberance, enjoyment, with feeling. I just wanted to be sure. Keep up the good work.

Mentalist acer 5 months ago

This hub was certainly affactatious to me as a male and feel helpful to the female senibilities;)

MartieCoetser 5 months ago

);-))

dallas93444 5 months ago

Passion: any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate. Or could be the state of being acted upon or affected by something external, esp. something alien to one's nature or one's customary behavior ( contrasted with action). Enjoyed hub! I will share it with you know who!! :-)

dawnM 5 months ago

You go dallas, do your thing.
love the upside down smile Martie!!!

akirchner 5 months ago

Definitely read romance novels! I love them and I always recommend them to friends who say they are 'tired of sex' - after I look at them and my mouth falls open!
Being sexy or thinking about sex isn't as natural as it was when you are first young and a hottie! It gets mixed up there somehow and you have to honestly EXERCISE it just like you exercise your muscles. Some of my friends think thinking about sex or trying to recreate a positive sex life is 'dirty' after a certain age - I totally disagree....but of course I'm the one who is smiling all the time so I guess we know how THAT works out!
I always get carried away....GREAT HUB! All your points are right on! If anyone needs any romance novels, have them send me an email. I keep many on hand just in case!

dawnM 5 months ago

I alway look forward to your comments akirchner they are great. My theory is your never to old to bring pleasure to your body as long as your mind still craves it. I'll take your romance novels.........lol
Pre-rec reading before I became a therapist or sex counselor....lol

2besure 5 months ago

Sex starts in the brain and works its way down. Great tips for getting your sexy back!

dawnM 4 months ago

yes that is very true 2besure!!!

tsloan 4 months ago

A wonderful blog! Thank you. I have never tried pole dancing but do enjoy strip tease. There are some very good DVDs on the market and many gyms have classes that are really a ton of fun. Love and light to you!

dawnM 4 months ago

thanks tsloan, I forgot to put the stirp tease in so great for mentioning that!! Tha is also a very good exercise and sensual!

Danielle Nicole 3 months ago

Another great hub Dawn! Keep up the good work.
For more fun in your life suscribe to this blog or visit Dawn at dawn@thehappyspouse.com or http://www.thehappyspouse.com/

Women are capable of three types of orgasms

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 15:31:00 -0800

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Most women don’t realize it but they are capable of experiencing three different types of orgasms. The first is a g-spot orgasm which is located inside of the vagina. The g-spot has a little nubby texture to it and when pressed on it has the sensation of feeling like urinating. The next type of orgasm is the clitoral orgasm. The clitoris is for the sole purpose of sexual pleasure on a woman. It is the one area on a woman’s body where there is a dense amount of nerve endings. The clitoris is coved in the clitoral hood. The third type of orgasm is when the g-spot and clitoris are stimulated at the same time giving a woman a clitoral and g-spot orgasm.

In many cases women are not able to have an orgasm alone just from intercourse alone; they will also need to have the clitoris stimulated as well. This can be done manually during intercourse, where the clitoris is stimulated. One great product that came out is a vibrator shaped in a u that goes inside of the vagina and also on the clitoris, the other wonderful aspect is it can be used during intercourse. For a woman they may need a little extra stimulation and this product will make a world of difference adding increased pleasure to sex. This is especially wonderful when women get a little older and her sex drive is not what it used to be. A woman is not only capable of their three types of orgasms but also having multiple orgasms

The We-Vibe you know and love is now even better! The basic idea of the We-Vibe II is to stimulate the clitoris and the G-spot simultaneously and can be worn during penetrative sexual intercourse. The clitoral pad features slight ridges for greater stimulation with vibrations, and the G-Spot stimulator vibrates internally while hugging the G-spot. Its super-lightweight and flexible, so it fits to your contours and is totally comfortable. This toy is totally wireless and hands-free,

Why a woman should wear sexy lingerie for her man

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Fri, 24 Dec 2010 08:56:00 -0800

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When a woman puts on sexy lingerie, it's not just for her man, but the smart women know that it also accentuates her finer body parts as well. Lingerie lifts the breasts, adds curves to the waste and can cover the top part of her behind leaving a little bit open for visual appeal. The proper fitting lingerie along with the right heels can turn an ordinary body into a work of art.
Lingerie is also one way to really turn a man on, most men are very visual so for a woman to take the time to give her man this extra pleasure is sure to give her more pleasure in the bedroom as well. For all the men that enjoy seeing their woman in sexy lingerie why not buy her some!

Read this great article!
Why men love sexy lingerie and the women who wear it.

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Do women like masculine dominant men still?

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 16:31:00 -0800

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What is it about a man that makes him sexy to a woman? There are so many conflicting views and theories on this very subject from men thinking that it is their bank account, large penis, winning smile, bad boy image. The truth of the matter is when a woman really likes a man, he makes her feel good about herself, she feels safe with him, attracted to him and much of this plays out in his level of confident that he has for himself. These would be traits of a masculine dominate male, not a controlling man or a bully but a man who likes himself. A man that is confident in who he is and wants to share that with a woman. Are you a masculine dominant male? Fiind out more in the article below.

Masculine doninant male

Why a women Should Never Fake An Orgasm with real comments!

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 09:07:00 -0800

Reasons Why

There are reasons why a woman will fake an orgasm and I can understand that being a woman! With that said, it's not worth lying about it for the sake of the woman herself or the man she is involved with.

A woman’s orgasm is different than a mans in the sense that most of the sensation is also tied in with an emotional release. When a woman achieves orgasm she not only does so physically but has to mentally be a part of the process as well. The mental orgasm is as import as the physical orgasm, especially in terms of a full release of mind and body. A woman's body is able to achieve several orgasms in a row which can be especially pleasing for her and her partner.

Some Men Know

Faking an orgasm with a man that really knows a woman's body is a lot harder to do than women may think. There are men who do understand a woman’s body and will know when she is not telling the truth and this can damage the trust in a relationship.

When a woman fakes an orgasm she also is not teaching her partner about her body and is cheating him out of that experience as well. When a woman has sex with a man she does not always have to have an orgasm and should be upfront and honest with her partner about that.

Women unable To Have An Orgasm

If a woman is tried or does not want to have sex then she should say so! If a woman is not able to achieve an orgasm at all then she needs to talk to her partner honestly about it! Having an intimate relationship and never being able to achieve an orgasm will take away from the overall enjoyment of both partners. If the woman is faking an orgasm in order not to hurt a man’s feelings this is counterproductive.

A woman that is not able to achieve an orgasm with her partner should tell him so that he can help her and better understand what to do for her.

A woman who has never had an orgasm in her life needs to first take this problem into her own hands (no pun intended) before engaging in a relationship. She needs to get to know her own body and how it works so that she can share that knowledge with her partner. How else can a woman help her partner if she is unable or unwilling to know how to have an orgasm by herself?

The greatest sexual experience that two people can have, is the ability to please each other and have orgasms together.

Here is what other people had to say

Mentalist acer

Oral release and manipulation by the male can have an enormous effect on a woman having troble with orgasm along with a genuine concern for the female's satisfaction...

BRIAN SLATER

Hi Dawn, in my younger days when i used to play around as much as i might, i am sure that most of the women i was with would not have an organism as much as i might try. I put this down to not knowing each other very well, rushing and not knowing each other’s bodies. Even though i have always known where the clitoris was. Now i am happily married and we know each other inside out us orgasm regularly. I put this down to being able to relax, being with the right woman and knowing each other’s bodies.

Dawn

Thank-you for the comments they are quite helpful to all the women out there!!!

Sassypoetic

Hi dawnM

I really liked the way you put that...Yes that is real talk indeed..

OLAR383

Many couples don’t realize the affect of massage prior to sex, massage in correct room temperature & dim lighting with soft whispers in the ear can work wonders followed by gradual combination of sex & massage.

Combination of sex & massage will have outstanding affect on both partners this can take form from foreplay to penetration without movement from either partner.

Then if your room has full view mirrors or video cam

Full sex will deliver its spark. (Sex is like food) & how you prepare it delivers the taste unless you’re into having a quick snack etc.

Dawn

Wow what an answer solar that got my mind racing along with my heart pressure!! I could not agree with you more!!!!! lol

katiem2

A women should not lie about having an orgasm is a great and well written guide. One lie leads to a life of lies which leads to a miserable existence.

Daliah Lego

Nicely written. I can't agree more, a woman should not fake her orgasm. Not that it is not possible. It is possible easily and a man won't tell the difference if a woman knows how to do it. Not only the ahhhh's and ohhhhh's can be faked, but also muscle contractions are possible to be faked, so a man will not know the difference.

But it is not worth faking an orgasm. If a woman fakes it just to end the session, she does not need sessions like this on the first place. If she fakes it to please her partner, she gives him the wrong impression that he is a king and the like. If a man wants to bring his woman to an orgasm, he should work on it in many ways, it does not come just from "shoveling", sorry for an expression.

Just my opinion.

Bates

I faked it and got away with it. But afterwards I begin to be truthful and for some reason the sex got better.

tom hellert

Dawn what about-they dont fake because they don't have to...I know that sounds chauvinistic but if she is into you should be able to get things done.... or at least it’s more likely when there is a real connection there

Dawn

I wish that I could say that is true, but there could be women out there that are totally into a guy and the sex can even be great, but she does not know how to have an orgasm. Not all woman know how to have one, this is a fact that is why in the article I mentioned that a woman needs to know her own body before she share it with a man or she can find a man that can help her to achieve an orgasm if he is experienced, but if she fakes it she will never get the help that she needs and who doesn't want to have a mind blowing orgasm........lol think that I need to write an article on women and orgasms, because it is complex

dotty1

Great article.... gawd we should never fake how on earth will he improve?

Dawn

Hi dotty1, that is the whole point of the article in one sentence "how on earth will he improve"......lol that is so funny!

dashingscorpio

Your statement, "The greatest sexual experience that two people can have, is the ability to please each other and have orgasms together."

No truer words have ever been spoken. Why would anyone want to fake it is beyond me.

Mary Swan

You have completely written true about fake orgasm of women.

dallas93444

dashingscorpio has stated it best. I prefer honesty. I am not a gas station that needs to be "serviced." I desire/need intimacy and experience the vulnerabilities we each have...

dallas93444 8 weeks ago

dashingscorpio has stated it best. I prefer honesty. I am not a gas station that needs to be "serviced." I desire/need intimacy and experience the vulnerabilities we each have...

Dawn

Hi dahingscorpio yes I could not agree more with that!

Yes dallas he did stated it best...lol

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Sexy lingerie does housewives dress up too

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Fri, 3 Dec 2010 06:02:00 -0800

for women who wear lingerie so they do it for themselves or to please their partner? Reas more in this article on Sexy lingerie and married women

The most asked question by men, is if their penis is large enough

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 19:36:00 -0800

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Most women do not realize that a man is very much tied to his penis literally and figuratively. When his penis is not working properly it can affect his personality and self esteem. The truth of the matter is that most women do not care how large or fat a penis is but how confident a man is about using his penis. In technical terms the average depth of a woman vagina before having a child is 3 inches in depth and 4 inches after birth. The average size of a man penis is between 6-7 inches in length and the average girth is around 5.50, which is big enough for a woman’s vagina and any bigger is actually a problem in any other areas of a woman’s body.

read article The most asked question by men, is if their penis is large enough

How a wife can give her husband oral sex and enjoy it herself

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 08:25:00 -0800

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How a wife can give her husband oral sex and enjoy it herself
This is one question that women want to know but are too embarrassed to ask about. Many women can benefit by understanding more about the male penis and how to give oral sex. Learn where to stimulate the sensitive areas on a man’s penis and at the same time to give her man a more powerful orgasm in a shorter amount of time.

When A Woman Loses Her Natural Sex Drive In Marriage

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Wed, 17 Nov 2010 09:07:00 -0800

When a woman has lost her natural sex drive and she no longer wants to enjoy sex with her husband what is she suppose to do?

The first step is to see the gynecologist and have a full blood panel done and hormone levels checked. In many women it can be that their hormones may be slightly off and causing a decrease in sex drive. Another way to get a woman’s sex drive back is to increase testosterone, this would be a question to ask the gynecologists, they may be able to administer a shot, but there are side effects.

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Women who masturbate make better lovers

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 09:29:00 -0700

Statically speaking when a woman can masturbate herself into achieving an orgasm she will be a better lover because she knows her own body. This is a fact, a woman who understands what turns her on and how to show her partner will be able to engage in love making with her spouse or lover on a much deeper level, because she is confident in her own sexuality. This is a very strong statement, and that is a woman who feels comfortable touching herself, is going to feel more comfortable in the act of love making with a man.

Unfortunately there are many women who have been taught not to masturbate or made to feel bad about their bodies and never learn how to get sexually satisfied. This can be a real problem if this woman marries and leaves it up to her husband to find out how to please her. This is a myth for men out there; a man cannot truly show a woman what it takes to please her. A woman who is capable of having great orgasms and many of them consecutively will have taught this to herself. She can even achieve a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm at the same time, but how would she know unless she understood the difference in her own body. How is she going to feel comfortable letting a man bring her to orgasm if she won’t even touch herself?

Masturbation can be a girl’s very best friend in achieving a wonderful sexual life with her spouse, so whatever it takes women, use your imagination and gets to work on knowing what turns you on, love your body who you are and how to use it!

Knowing the difference if your man has premature ejaculation or a sexual dysfunction

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 08:03:00 -0700

There is a fine line between premature ejaculation and sexual dysfunction. How can women determine between the two and help her man? In many cases she cannot that is why it is so important for the man to get a medical examiner to rule out any health issues. Once the health issues have been ruled out than a loving partner can really help to turn things around. A woman can work with her man on helping him to hold back his climax with a few techniques. These techniques do require patience, but if practiced over a period of time they have proven to be quite successful.

What a woman can do to help her man with premature education.

1. She can try the holding techniques with him: This may be a little work on both partners part but the payoff is well worth it! This involves her helping her man to hold back his climax; this can be done with pressure at the base of the penis or with a penis ring. This does take time and patience on both parts. When the man is close to climax, they will both stop the session and have the man hold off. He can also use a penis ring at the base of his penis or the pressure from his partner or just no touch at all. This is about the man understanding the feeling right before climax and being able to back off before it happens. This is difficult and will take some practice but understanding the point before the climax happen is important to suppressing it. Once the sensation has decreased then he can begin again.

2. Kegal exercises to the pubic area: This is a technique that a man can do by himself or with his partner. The penis has to be erect and the man needs to stand and contract the muscles in the area strengthening the penis muscle and surrounding pelvic muscle. This can help him to learn how to hold back an orgasm. Understanding how to put the pressure into place and clamping down the muscles while strengthening can help when in the beginning stages of holding back the climax.

3. Use a condom to hold off the orgasm: Many people forget that a condom is not only beneficial for safe sex but it can help to hold off an orgasm as well. The condom can give the man a little extra time by dulling the sensitivity when having intercourse.

Be accepting of your man; about fifty percent of men between the ages of 18-35 will have an orgasm upon penetration just after two minutes. This is a psychological issue and with patience, time and work he can learn to hold it for longer.

When giving oral sex to your man why not use a great sleeve and some lube at the same time

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 21:27:00 -0700

Women forget who their real best friend is and that is the colt sleeve and the colt silicone lube while giving oral sex. Did you know that a typical man during oral sex will climax if stimulated properly in four minutes?

Yes you can please your guy in four minutes and then he will give you the world. As a sexologist therapist, I hear from women all of the myths of giving oral sex to their husbands, from gagging, to lock jaw, to being submissive, he does not taste good. His consistency is too thick and it makes me choke. He takes too long and it is giving me a back ache. Well here are your answers ladies. Number one and most important ladies, you want to bring this type of pleasure to your man! It's all in the attitude, with these few tricks you can please him and feel good about doing it for him because you love him.
Start by gently rubbing his penis and then apply some warm silicon lube, place sleeve over the tip of the penis to the shaft. Place hand on sleeve and twist slightly or move up and down while you have the tip of his penis in your mouth.
If you have a tendency to gag buy some mint or cinnamon gagging spray and spray it just before it will help to numb your throat.
The night before for some help with taste to sweeten the day and make his cum less thick, give him a full glass of pineapple juice.

For more explicit detail get the book "Tickle His Pickle"

So here it is in a nut shell

1. 24 hours before oral sex…pineapple juice, it will make him taste sweet and his cum will be less thick.

2. Sleeve and colt silicon lubrication will minimize time and help from getting lock jaw and it well feel great for him.

3. Spray your throat before hand with gag reflex so that it numbs the area.

4. It takes about four minutes if all is going well a woman can hang on and enjoy.

5. If he wants to cum in your mouth and you do not want to swallow hold it under your tongue and let it slowly drip down your face.

6. If he does want to cum in your mouth and you don’t mind when he cums towards the back of your throat you wont feel it.

7. The alternative is to also buy a condom and place ove his penis and he can cum in the condom and in your mouth.

Have fun ladies with your guy, four minutes of pleasure for him is 24 hours of pleasure of you!

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Men don't forget to give your women a G-spot orgasm

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Thu, 7 Oct 2010 10:35:00 -0700

There are two types of orgasms for a woman. She can have a clitoral orgasm or a g-spot orgasm or both at the same time. The truth is that many women don’t even realize that they can have a g-spot orgasm and they feel really good. I am going to recommend a product that a woman can use on her own to experience the G-spot orgasm or have her partner, lover, or spouse try out on her. For all of you G-spot novices, the G-spot is located inside of the vagina wall; it feels different than the rest of the vagina, because it is a little bumpy. A woman can help her man by allowing him to rube the inside of her vagina with his finger gently pressing on the G-spot she will know when he is touching the right area, because it will feel very pleasurable to her.

One of the best ways to have a very powerful G-spot orgasm along with a clitoral orgasm is to have the man give the clitoral oral stimulation and then insert a finger into the vagina and put pressure on the g-spot or use the G-spot vibrator. The great thing about the G-spot vibrator is it applies just the right amount of stimulation and she can inset itself as well. One of the best G-spot vibrators is the Nubby G Spot Vibe, it has little nubs at the end for added pleasure.

So for a more orgasmic experience don’t forget the g-spot!

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Why a woman may not want her man to give her oral sex

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Fri, 1 Oct 2010 17:49:00 -0700

Some women really enjoy it when their man can give them oral sex, and others may shy away from it leaving the man very confused. Being a man he would expect that oral sex would be the ultimate pleasure to a woman but that is not always the case. There are a few reasons why a woman may not want oral sex or avoids her man giving her oral sex.

1. She feels out of control: when a woman allows a man to give her oral sex she is completely submissive to him, just as a man is submissive to a woman when she has him in her mouth. A woman can feel out of control for many reasons. Sexually abused, or has been physically hurt by a man. Poor body image, told that her vagina is dirty and worried about odor.

2. The man may not be doing the Job: Not all women are the same, in fact what one woman may like another woman may dislike. When the clitoris is stimulated, some women have sensitive clitorises and other may have less sensitive clitoris.

3. She may prefer to have an orgasm through intercourse, some woman like to have an orgasm through intercourse instead of oral sex.

4. She may want more than just lips and a tongue down there. Some women really like to have their g-spot orgasm and clitoral orgasm, so in order to do this man needs to be using his hand or vibrator at the same times as giving her clitoral stimulation.

The best advice it to ask the woman, find out what she likes and does not like. Oral sex should be fantastic and if you like to give it let her teach you how to give it to her body.

Holding back your orgasm can create a more powerful experience

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 21:03:00 -0700

When a man and a woman can learn the art of holding back an orgasm they can achieve a more powerful climax with some techniques and patience. The best place to start is on your own body, getting to know how your own body works is the first step. Tease yourself first by touching the parts of your body that are closest to the erogenous zone, once you have managed to get your heat growing move to the parts of your body that are the most pleasing. Build yourself up to almost climaxing then back off, do this several times. Once you do climax, see how it feels and what you may need to show your partner.

Taking the time to build your climax up with your partner can be especially fun. They art of teasing is never really touched upon enough and this can be done with mental teasing and teasing each other’s bodies. Take the time to tease and play with your partner to almost bring them to orgasm and then back away. Let your partner sit still in the moment of heat and feel all of the powerful urges to want you to continue to please them, once they have been begging for more begin to bring them to climax again allowing the wave of the orgasm to release. Once you have tried this technique you may want to add a stimulating gel to the female erogenous zone and the male erogenous zone for a deeper more invigorating climax that will make you panting for more.

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Have you ever wondered why women fake orgasms?

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 12:19:00 -0700

There are many reasons why a woman would fake an orgasm, but the reason not is summed by one comment on an article that I wrote and that was “how will he ever lean” it was at least worth a laugh but there is much truth to it. In the end woman who fakes orgasms for many reason are unfortunately not having the benefit of getting one and teaching their partner exactly what not to do.

So the next time you’re in a rush to get it over with or just don’t want to hurt a guys feeling, or don’t know how to achieve an orgasm, stop and think that whatever the reason may be the outcome of faking it really not worth it. The person that thinks that they are giving an orgasm to you is not leaning how to do it the right way and now he thinks that whatever he done worked. I guess that if you really didn’t like the guy and he seemed cocky in bed you could teach him exactly what not to do…….

To read what other had to say go to

http://hubpages.com/hub/a-woman-should-never-fake-an-orgasm-reasons-why

If however if you are not able to achieve an orgasm, the best way to start is on your own with a great vibrator sure to bring you to orgasm in not time! The LELO Gigi vibrator is proven to give every woman an orgasm!

The benefits of having an orgasm for your health and your marriage

dawn@thehappspouse.com (Dawn Michael) — Sun, 12 Sep 2010 08:54:00 -0700

An orgasm not only feels incredibly good but also has many natural health benefits for your body. When a person has and orgasm it will release natural chemicals into the body that can help relieve tension, help with sleep, menstrual cramps, pain in the body, burns calories and food craving, and will deepen the connection between husband and wife.

When an orgasm happens, the heat beats faster and there is an increase in blood flow followed by a quick drop in blood pressure which helps to relax the body. The body also releases phenetylamine which is a natural form of amphetamine and can regulate craving with added appetite control. The body will release endorphins that mimic the properties of morphine which have been said to reduce pain in the body and also help with menstrual cramping.

When the body does release through orgasm, it helps to elevate tension, anxiety and produces a calming response in the body.

When couples can give each other an orgasm this will deepen the connection of the relationship. In marriage when one person is not able to reach orgasm this can cause tension with the couple’s sex life and eventually lead to sexual dissatisfaction in the marriage from both the husband and wife.

According to JAMA (the Journal of the American Medical Association), 43 percent of American women suffer from some form of "Female Sexual Dysfunction". Both men and women can experience problems with achieving orgasm. In women the problem tends to be more psychological than physical, which is positive in the fact that a woman can be taught how to achieve an orgasm through masturbation and other techniques. A woman’s orgasm is more complicated than a mans in the way in which women tend to have to have more of a mind body connection to climax. There are of course medical reasons why a woman cannot achieve an orgasm as well, but the percentage is lower than psychological reasons.

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