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2008-04-11T00:11:00.000-07:00

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love is a beautiful dream.

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.

Talking of love is making it.

Those who love deeply never grown old; they may die of old age, but they die young.

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, While loving someone deeply gives you courage.

Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible - it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.

Where there is love there is life.

The most eloquent silence; that of two mouths meeting in a kiss.

There is no remedy for love but to love more.

There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.

The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.

You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.

Love consists in desiring to give what is our own to another and feeling his delight as our own.

The best feelings are those that have no words to describe them.

Love sought is good, but given unsought is better.

I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.

Tell me whom you love and I will tell you who you are.

A very small degree of hope is sufficient to cause the birth of love.

Young love is a flame; very pretty, often very hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deep-burning, unquenchable.

Romance is the glamour which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze.

There is no remedy for love but to love more.

We were two and had but one heart.

There is nothing holier in this life of ours than the first consciousness of love, the first fluttering of its silken wings.

Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.

Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.

It is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all.

There is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved.

Love is a little haven of refuge from the world.

You love simply because you cannot help it.

Are u living Life ?

2008-04-10T23:38:00.000-07:00

"Nothing, it is said, teaches us more about living
than dying. But if so, isn't it odd how little we face up to death? And
isn't it odd that modern societies, which appear so keen to find
meaning in the business of living, push death to the periphery,
minimising our contact with it and sanitising its impact?

Source : No change, no pause; no hope! Yes I endure

Happy or sad ? Emotional cues vary by culture

2007-12-17T00:46:00.000-08:00

Culture is a huge factor in determining whether we look someone in the eye or the kisser to interpret facial expressions, according to a new study.

For instance, in Japan, people tend to look to the eyes for emotional cues, whereas Americans end to look to the mouth, says researcher Masaki Yuki, a behavioral scientist Japanese Guy at Hokkaido University in Japan.

"Their smiles looked strange to me," Yuki told LiveScience about American celebrities. "They opened their mouths too widely, and raised the corners of their mouths in an exaggerated way."

"Japanese people tend to shy away from overt displays of emotion, and rarely smile or frown with their mouths" - Yuki said

As Yuki predicted, the Japanese gave more weight to the emoticons’ eyes when gauging emotions, whereas Americans gave more weight to the mouth. For example, the American subjects rated smiling emoticons with sad-looking eyes as happier than the Japanese subjects did.

Interestingly, however, both the Americans and Japanese tended to rate faces with so-called "happy" eyes as neutral or sad.

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Enjoy Your Life: Change Your Point Of View

2007-12-10T02:06:00.000-08:00

"Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars."- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts

If you've placed second in a writing contest, will you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?

In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a pessimist's view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimist's route and take a challenging and fulfilling life.

So why nurture an optimist's point of view ? And why now?

Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.

On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife's disorder but also a teenager's disorder' as well.

Here's how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:

Optimists expect the best.

The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault.

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune---it's the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.

They won't say "things will never get better," "If I failed once, it will happen again" and "If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life."

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.

People respond positively to optimists

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with.

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.

In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and sought for advice.

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

They persevere. They just don't give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

Optimists are healthier and live longer

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease.

Optimists' health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts.

So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.

Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors ? Why not be resilient ? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don't just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the bright side ?

Author :

Daryl Yew is an aspiring motivator who just discovered the internet. He wishes to harness the power of it to help more people in the world recognize their own true potential. Motivator or not, he believes people need to believe themselves first to make the difference. http://www.PlugInProfitSite.com/main-19983

Do You Believe These 3 Misconceptions About Happiness?

2007-11-28T03:05:00.000-08:00

The sad truth is that there are a lot of unhappy people in the world. The tragic truth is that many of those unhappy people could lead happier lives if only they gave up the misconceptions they have about happiness. Even those of us who consider themselves relatively happy still cling to some of these untruths. Why ? Probably because it is easier to blame someone else for our unhappiness when the simple fact is that no one else has power over our happiness. We give that power to others but that is our choice. Once we take control of our own happiness then we will be happier, but in order to take back that control over our happiness we need to rid ourselves of three popular misconceptions about happiness.

One of the greatest misconceptions related to happiness is that you need money to be happy. If you take some time out to study people around you then you will see just how little substance there is to this belief. Rich people are not automatically happy and poor people are not automatically unhappy. In fact, once you begin looking at individuals and families then you will no doubt spot a great many unhappy rich people and even more happy poor people.

The truth is that once your basic needs are taken care then money will not have a major impact on your happiness. In fact, making it dependent on the attainment of a certain amount of money is often a recipe for a very unhappy life. Pursuing money is a bad goal because so often people get caught up in a rat race they can never win. For people who consider money the ultimate measure of success there is never enough money so they will never be happy.

In fact, one reason many poor people are happy is that they realize that once their family is fed, clothed and housed then money isn't that important when you compare it to love, friendship, and laughter. Those things are important and can't be bought at any price.

Another big misconception about happiness is that you need someone else to be happy. Happiness comes from within yourself. You are the only one who controls your happiness. You do not need friends or significant others for it. You do not need children or grandchildren for it. You can be happy without the acclaim of others and without being famous. While having other people to care about is an important element of human contentment and therefore happiness, it can be a great mistake to place to great of an emphasis on the need for one specific relationship. If you have a loving family and friends then that is what is important not the fact that you lack a spouse. Having love in your life is what counts not the source of that love.

The third big misconception about happiness is that you need to be lucky to be happy. Happiness is not about luck but rather about opening yourself up to it, looking for it in unlikely places, and allowing yourself to be happy. Many of the people who subscribe to the luck theory of happiness are the same people who believe that they do not deserve to be happy. Everyone deserves to be happy and everyone has the capacity to be a happy person. Don't wait for happiness to come to you but rather open your life to it and you will find it.

You can be happy and you can lead a happier life if you just let go of these three misconceptions. You don't need money, other people, or luck to be happy. You have the power over your own happiness if you only open your heart and your life. So be happy!

Source : http://www.happylifefaq.com/do_you_believe_these_3_misconceptions_about_happiness_.php

10 Ways to Live a Happy Life

2007-11-02T04:23:00.000-07:00

According to Barbara, Life is a Gift and Happiness is Our true nature, something we are. Happiness is the state of being itself. Life! Existence, something we did nothing for and which we simply are. But the only thing we can experience is our own thoughts – the thoughts in our minds – that is what our life is. So if we are not Happy now, if we are not experiencing the happiness which is our true nature, there is only one thing that can be preventing us from experiencing this happiness – and that is our thinking, i.e. the thoughts in our mind.

This is a pretty radical way of looking at life, since most of us believe that Our Happiness depends on a wide range of outer circumstances . According to Barbara, the list of outer circumstances and things that Our Happiness depends on is endless. “No wonder we are Unhappy. No wonder we feel that Happiness is so illusive!” she says. “We’ve got it all wrong – backwards – because we don’t understand the nature of mind. Nothing in the outer world can make us Happy or Unhappy because the only thing we can experience is our own THINKING. And this radical understanding is the key to living a Happy Life.”

Here is Barbara’s reminder list – 10 Ways to Live a Happy Life

No. 1:
Accept what is
The number 1 cause of suffering and unhappiness is wanting life to be something it’s not.

No. 2:
Want what you have
The number 2 cause of suffering and unhappiness is wanting what you don’t have.

No. 3:
Be Honest with Yourself
The number 3 cause of suffering and unhappiness is not communicating honestly with yourself.

No. 4:
Investigate YOUR Stories
The number 4 cause of suffering and unhappiness are the scary stories you tell yourself about life and the world.

No. 5:
Mind Your own business
The number 5 cause of suffering and unhappiness is minding other people’s business.

No. 6:
Follow Your passion and accept the consequences
The number 6 cause of suffering and Unhappiness is not doing what you want because you think people will disapprove.

No. 7:
Do the right thing and accept the consequences
The number 7 cause of suffering and unhappiness is not doing the right thing because you’re afraid of the consequences.

No. 8:
Deal with what is in front of you and forget the rest
The number 8 cause of suffering and Unhappiness is shadowboxing with illusions instead of dealing with the reality in front of you.

No. 9:
Know what is what
The number 9 cause of suffering and Unhappiness is wanting absolute satisfaction from relative experiences.

No. 10:
Learn to see beyond impermanence
The number 10 cause of suffering and Unhappiness is believing we become nothing.

Source : http://beamteam.com/en/tim/happy_article.html

Way to Live Romantic life

2007-10-06T03:14:00.000-07:00

1. Make ample use of words like beautiful, divine, charming, fantastic, gorgeous and exquisite while having a romantic conversation with your beloved.

2. When you are out together, grab hold of your lovers hand and gently kiss their finger tips. Walking hand-in-hand is often something we get out of after a while but it really makes you feel closer.

3.Send your love a letter a work, tell them about a romantic evening you have planned and how you cannot wait to see them.

4.Give your partner your full attention when they are talking, look deep into their eyes and when they have finished, gently place a kiss on their mouth.

5. Just pick up the phone and call to say "I love you", "I miss you" or "I can't stop thinking how lucky I am to have you in my life".

6. Whilst your love is the shower, sneak in and write "I love you" on the steamed door or mirror.

7.Put togther a romantic disc of all the songs that remind you of each other, perfect for one of the "Special evenings".

8.Buy a small gift attach it to a balloon and leave it in a their car for when they head off to work.

9.Go for a long romantic walk together and when you get home, share a bath and strawberries dipped in chocolate, guaranteed to get the pulse racing!

10.Place a post it note in the book your lover is reading saying "I love you" or "I want you"

11.Plan a surprise weekend away for your love.

12.For a special sexy night, dim the lights, put on soft music, then undress leaving a trail of clothes and petals from the front door to the bedroom;do this just before your lover arrives home.

13.Plant a tree together and make a pact to carve your initals into it in twenty years time.

14.Create a "Special place" that only the two of you know about, go once a year on a anniversary or Birthday for a romantic moment.

15.Make time for each and never forget to tell him/her how much you love them.

16. Write love notes and leave them in different corners of the house, where they can find them easily.

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