Today, I helped lost souls who no longer had physical bodies cross into the light. There are different reasons why a deceased loved one may get stuck between dimensions.

Here are a few examples:

• the soul isn’t ready to leave loved ones behind or has unfinished business.
• they don’t realize they died and are hanging around their home
• they don’t believe they’ll be forgiven and will go to hell
• they’re stuck and afraid and can’t see the light
• their death was traumatic
• someone who is living won’t let them go.

Some lost souls become hitchhikers. They attach to the living and drain their energy. If they have an addiction that needs feeding, they’ll attach to someone who indulges in the same addiction.

When someone develops the same illness as a departed close friend or family member, I’m suspicious that there’s a hitchhiker. There are other reasons for the illness, but this is one possibility.

(I check my clients and my family for hitchhikers, and then if I find them, I gently escort them to the light or call in angelic assistance if they’re not willing to budge.)

There is a gift in a slower death process as one has the time to say goodbye, forgive, and make peace with their choices in their life.

Live in a way that prepares you for your death.

What changes would you make that will allow you to leave peacefully when you’re called to return home?

Prayers work when people die. They’re powerful. Put your heart into your prayers. Pray for a gentle transition and that your loved one will be escorted to the light. Pray that they may leave their burdens behind.

Some people go easily into the light.

Being in a body is like being shoved in a suitcase. Your spirit is immense, and once you’re out of your body, you’ll feel greatly expanded.

When you dream, you leave your body. You go through a death process every night when you sleep. You travel in the realms beyond this world.

There’s no need to fear death. When it’s your time, let go and trust.

Dreams are the news the soul gives us when it returns to the body.

— Kwakiutl elder to anthropologist Franz Boas

When you say NO, are you heard? Are you able to respect others’ needs when they say NO?

If you believe you can’t say no, you’ll find other strategies that convey a no without stating it, like withdrawing, avoiding, lying, harboring resentment, or complaining to others.

When you communicate clearly and directly, it invites others to do the same. 

My parents trained me to obey and not say no. I’d twist my plans to accommodate others’ last-minute requests.

Instead of asking myself what I want, my first reaction would be how can I give them what they want.

Putting everyone’s needs first left me exhausted and, at times, resentful.

Giving more than I was receiving was depleting.

Being able to say NO goes hand in hand with being told NO.

When you hear no, are you able to respect and receive it? 

This was a game-changer with my children and my partner. 

When I hear a no or am told to stop, I pause. I notice what’s happening within me.

• Do I have an agenda?
• Am I trying to control?
• Is fear making me pushy?

I sense what is happening between us because the health of our relationship is the most important thing to me.

• Do they feel pressured or pushed?
• Do they need privacy?
• Do they need time?
• Do they need more context for my request?

It creates mutually respectful relationships when we know our needs are honored.

When you allow another to have their NO fully, this gives them space to have a YES.

It gives them both freedom and connection in the relationship. 

The trust it creates brings you closer.

If you’re seeking better relationships, I offer a complimentary clarity session.

Messages may warn you of health issues or show you a glimpse of the future. You may visit a dear departed one or experience a profound healing.

Years ago, my child was suffering physically, and her pediatrician didn’t know why. I took the question of her health into my dreams. The first dream was of a friend on a beach, lying on her side on her towel, waving her hand near her bottom. I didn’t get the message because I forgot that this friend had suffered extensively from parasites. I took the question into my dreams again. This time I saw my child sitting on my lap while visiting my obstetrician.

I took action. I made an appointment with my doctor. At my visit, I asked about my child’s symptoms, and she correctly diagnosed that it was a parasite.

This is the power of the information that comes through dreams.

I’ve created a 7-minute video to get you started with dream exploration.

Comment and share your dream messages or any questions you have about dreamwork.