Pearlz of Tots

thank you…

2011-03-31T04:10:00.000+08:00

… everything that has a beginning, will come to an end…

~Time to say goodbye. Places that I've never seen or experienced with you. Now I shall, I'll sail with you upon ships across the seas, seas that exist no more, it's time to say goodbye.~

Hi,
I started this blog initially to share on Learning Disorder, along the way, I’ve gotten side-tracked and turn it into a space where I just pen what was in my mind and heart… Along the way, I woke up and knew I needed to step out into the world. The days of quietly sitting in my cocoon has passed.

Like a budding flower, it will one day bloom… that’s nature and why fight nature?

I hope, some of the stuff I shared in this blog, has served to be useful. I know there’s a few that became a hit. To see it being browsed through by people from all over the world, made me happy and it actually boosted my pride and confidence. I thank all. Please also forgive if any of my unschooled thoughts have hurt any…

I have moved on, I now have another blog with my signature on it… a point of no return? Never look backwards… let go and move on. An advice I’d remind, over and over… Forgive, let go, move on.

“Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark. Professionals built the Titanic.”

ooppss… the train’s leavin..

Salam.. bye… so long…

You're gonna catch a cold from the ice inside your soul…

2011-03-01T05:52:00.000+08:00

Christina Perri - Jar Of Hearts download at emp3

I know I can't take one more step towards you
‘Cause all that's waiting is regret
Don't you know I'm not your ghost anymore
You lost the ‘love I loved’ the most
I learned to live, half alive
And now you want me one more time

Who do you think you are?
Runnin' 'round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
And tearing love apart
You're gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul
So don't come back for me
Who do you think you are?
I hear you're asking all around
If I am anywhere to be found
But I have grown too strong
To ever fall back in your arms
I've learned to live, half alive
And now you want me one more time

It took so long just to feel alright
Remember how to put back the light in my eyes
I wish I had missed the first time that we kissed
‘Cause you broke all your promises
And now you're back
You don't get to get me back

Who do you think you are?
Who do you think you are?
Who do you think you are?

you knew…

2011-02-26T00:38:00.000+08:00

Late in life You came to me And you put a sign On me
Late in life What remained of you When you fell into a trap of lies
You You You Only you You You

All your love That I love All your love
Like a man Who plays the game As a healing For his pain
You played your game Again and again Crazy - insane
Deep in love You You You
Only you You You

All your love That I love All your love... Yeah...
You You Only you Only you You Only you Only you Only you Only you
All your love That I love All your love...

The best of your life…

2011-02-01T18:06:00.000+08:00

Spanish

Lo mejor de tu vida

English

The Best of Your Life

Fuiste mía,
sólo mía,
mía, mía,
cuando tu piel era fresca
como la hierba mojada.

Fuiste mía,
sólo mía,
mía, mía,
cuando tu boca y tus ojos
de juventud rebosaban.

Fuiste mía,
sólo mía,
mía, mía,
cuando tus labios de niña
mis labios los estrenaban.

Fuiste mía,
sólo mía,
mía, mía,
cuando tu vientre era aún
una colina cerrada.

Lo mejor de tu vida
me lo he llevado yo,
lo mejor de tu vida
lo he disfrutado yo.

Tu experiencia primera,
el despertar de tu carne,
tu inocencia salvaje,
me la he bebido yo,
me la he bebido yo.

Fuiste mía,
sólo mía,
mía, mía,
cuando tu cuerpo era espiga
de palma recien-plantada.

Fuiste mía,
sólo mía,
mía, mía,
cuando cerrabas los ojos
apenas yo me acercaba.

Fuiste mía,
sólo mía,
mía, mía,
cuando temblaban tus manos
tan sólo si las rozaba.

Fuiste mía,
sólo mía,
mía, mía,
cuando tu ayer no existía
pensabas sólo en mañana.

Lo mejor de tu vida...

You were mine,
only mine,
mine, mine,
when your skin was fresh
like wet grass.

You were mine,
only mine,
mine, mine,
when your mouth and your eyes
used to overflow with youthfulness.

You were mine,
only mine,
mine, mine,
when your girlish lips
were broken in by my lips.

You were mine,
only mine,
mine, mine,
when your belly was even
a closed hill.

The best of your life
I have taken for myself,
the best of your life,
I have enjoyed.

Your first experience,
the awakening of your flesh,
your wild innocence,
I have drunk them up,
I have drunk them up.

You were mine,
only mine,
mine, mine,
when you body was a
palm-shoot recently planted.

You were mine,
only mine,
mine, mine,
when you would close your eyes
when I came near.

You were mine,
only mine,
mine, mine,
when your hands would tremble
so, if i only brushed against them.

You were mine,
only mine,
mine, mine,
when your yesterday didn't exist,
you used to only think about tomorrow.

The best of your life...

Nobody loves no one.

2011-01-18T00:33:00.000+08:00

The world was on fire and no one could save me but you.
It's strange what desire will make foolish people do.
I never dreamed that I'd meet somebody like you.
And I never dreamed that I'd lose somebody like you.
No, I don't want to fall in love (This world is only gonna break your heart)
No, I don't want to fall in love (This world is only gonna break your heart)
With you (This world is only gonna break your heart)
What a wicked game to play, to make me feel this way.
What a wicked thing to do, to let me dream of you.
What a wicked thing to say, you never felt this way.
What a wicked thing to do, to make me dream of you and,
I want to fall in love (This world is only gonna break your heart)
No, I want to fall in love (This world is only gonna break your heart)
With you.
The world was on fire and no one could save me but you.
It's strange what desire will make foolish people do.
I never dreamed that I'd love somebody like you.
And I never dreamed that I'd lose somebody like you,
No, I want to fall in love (This world is only gonna break your heart)
No, I want to fall in love (This world is only gonna break your heart)
With you (This world is only gonna break your heart)
No, I... (This world is only gonna break your heart)
(This world is only gonna break your heart)
Nobody loves no one.

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Waiting for the end…

2011-01-11T11:11:00.000+08:00

This is not the end
This is not the beginning
Just a voice like a riot
Rocking every revision
But you listen to the tone
And the violent rhythm
Though the words sound steady

Something’s empty with 'em
We say yeah, with fists flying up in the air
Like we're holding onto something that's invisible there
'Cause we're living at the mercy of the pain and the fear
Until we’re dead, forget it
Let it all disappear

Waiting for the end to come
Wishing I had strength to stand
This is not what I have planned
It's out of my control
Flying at the speed of light
Thoughts were spinning in my head
So many things were left unsaid
It's hard to let you go
I know what it takes to move on
I know how it feels to lie
All I wanna do is trade this life for something new
Holding on to what I haven't got
Sitting in an empty room
Trying to forget the past
This was never meant to last
I wish it wasn't so
I know what it takes to move on
I know how it feels to lie
All I wanna do is trade this life for something new
Holding on to what I haven't got

What was left when that fire was gone
I thought it felt right but that right was wrong
All caught up in the eye of the storm
And trying to figure out what it's like moving on
And I don't even know what kind of things I said
My mouth kept moving and my mind went dead
Picking up those pieces now where to begin
The hardest part of ending is starting again

All I wanna do is trade this life for something new
Holding on to what I haven't got

I'm holding on to what I haven't got
I'm holding on to what I haven't got

do you imagine i will not love you???

2011-01-02T13:09:00.000+08:00

No.

When it does happen, I will be sad but I will also smile through it and say ‘bon voyage’ and thank you for stopping by.

Love? It’s not ours to own or keep but to experience and cherish. When love comes residing, you’re the luckiest person to be bestowed with it. Enjoy every moment. When love decides it’s time, nothing can stop it from leaving. The only thing you can do is to let go, allowing it to move on. Love truly is a mysterious thing…

“If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in love with you, but then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don’t choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.”

“Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying.

But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.”

LOVE ANYWAY…

A groovy kind of love….

2010-12-15T10:37:00.000+08:00

Songwriters: Bayer, Carole;Wine, Toni

 When I'm feeling blue
all I have to do
is take a look at you,
then I'm not so blue.

When you're close to me
I can feel your heartbeat,
I can hear your breathing in my ear.

Wouldn't you agree,
baby you and me got a groovy kind of love.

Anytime you want to
you can turn me on to
anything you want to,
anytime at all.

When I kiss your lips
oh I start to shiver

can't control the quivering inside.

Wouldn't you agree,
baby you and me got a groovy kind of love.

When I'm feeling blue
all I have to do
is take a look at you,
then I'm not so blue.

When I'm in your arms
nothing seems to matter
my whole world could shatter: I don't care.

Wouldn't you agree,
baby you and me got a groovy kind of love.

She…

2010-12-01T03:01:00.000+08:00

She
May be the face I can't forget
A trace of pleasure or regret
May be my treasure or the price I have to pay
She may be the song that summer sings
May be the chill that autumn brings
May be a hundred tearful things
Within the measure of the day.

She
May be the beauty or the beast
May be the famine or the feast
May turn each day into heaven or a hell
She may be the mirror of my dreams
A smile reflected in a stream
She may not be what she may seem
Inside her shell

She who always seems so happy in a crowd
Whose eyes can be so private and so proud
No one's allowed to see them when they cry
She may be the love that can and hope to last
May come to me from shadows of the past
That I remember till the day I die

She
May be the reason I survive
The why and where for I'm alive
The one I'll care for through the rough and rainy years
Me I'll take her laughter and her tears
And make them all my souvenirs
For where she goes I’ve got to be
The meaning of my life is…

She

Cappuccino Coast

2010-11-01T01:11:00.000+08:00

It’s sea water!!!!!!!! Sea water turned foam in huge amount… mysterious? Incredible?

Foam, a substance that is formed by trapping gas bubbles in a liquid or solid.

The photographs (2007 onwards), was when the Australian shoreline at Yamba in New South Wales was swallowed by a layer of foam. It was then dubbed “the Cappuccino Coast”.

Sea foam is likely created by a combination of factors. Decaying organic matter such as fish, plant life and microscopic organisms, seaweed excretions, and other proteins, and in some cases pollutants, are all carried on tiny air bubbles whipped up by tidal movements. As currents reach the shore and a wave forms, the air bubbles well up to the surface sticking together. The wave crashes and the sea foam is delivered to shore. (wiseGEEK) I also read an article “The mystery of foam on the seashore”. Interesting… I learn something new!

Personally, I was a little grossed out by the sea foam. I never liked the fact that you couldn't see what was in it. I don't understand what would drive people to play in the sea foam, especially after learning it is made of rotten fish, seaweed, and chemical runoff. Maybe they didn’t know huh?

Would you jump into one now that you know??

eekkkss!!

Give it to a woman…

2010-10-31T16:41:00.000+08:00

Another interesting mail today… Frankly, I just love this quote.

“Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.

If you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby.

If you give her a house, she’ll give you a home.

If you give her groceries, she’ll give you a meal.

If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart.

She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So, if you give her any crap,

be ready………..

to receive a ton of shit!”

What’s that?? Bulls eye??? aye! aye!

Why did you?

2010-10-22T08:38:00.000+08:00

As I read my mails this morning, my eyes locked onto a caption. (this is from one site that seems to shadow my emotions… very interesting as to how it can be) It says, “After tragedy”. What I have gone through just hours before this posting, I consider it very much a tragedy. A lost. It upsets me, because another few hours prior to that I was laughing gaily upon some casual jesting. This took a round-a-bout turn and became nasty. Written words which was misinterpreted.

I find “interpretation” of what we write without the body language, without the verbal sound can be very damaging. It is very important to read carefully, probably over and over again plus staying very calm and clarify what we got out of it. After all, it was an unbalanced mode of communication.

I am moving on though. I am simply posting what I found under that caption on how to deal with a tragedy.

“In the first aftermath of a tragedy, victims experience numbness and shock. Shock gives way to tears, one of the very first stages of grief. All anyone can do is try to feel safe again on the most basic level.

Hold each other.
Don’t be afraid to ask for contact.
Reach out and tell your loved ones that you do love them; don’t let it be taken for granted.
Feel your fear. Be with it and allow it to be released naturally.
Pray.
Grieve with others if you can, alone if you must.

Numbness and tears lead to the second stage, in which powerful emotions rise to the surface, often after being buried for years or decades. Feelings of age and sorrow will erupt. You will feel deeply afraid in a way you have never experience before.

The third stage of suffering comes when you feel that you must take action, either to heal or to strike out against the attacker or to lend a hand to other victims.

Nothing alleviates suffering like reaching out to another person who is suffering. Go and help, be of service if only in the smallest way. Any gesture–whatever you feel safe to do–is a step toward healing.”

Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).

Another advice is… be careful not to misinterpret what was written and jumping to conclusions. Instead of lashing out, clarify. After all, it is known that: 'No more sword to be feared than the learned pen' (read more from the link I attached) To quote it: “As beautiful and comforting as words can be, they can be (and often are) the tools of choice for people who wish to cause damage, instil hatred and inflict pain with the author’s vitriol. For example, I’m sure you’ve encountered at some point in your life some people who spewed venom against you and did so wilfully and unabashedly. They attempted to denigrate or hurt you with their words. And unfortunately, they often succeeded. You’re left shocked and dismayed, wondering, “How could they?”

With that said… I believe, I need to heal my wound and come out mended, hopefully reborn into a new me.

Railway tracks…

2010-10-07T20:29:00.000+08:00

… is VERY DANGEROUS!

I’ve gotten news from a dear friend living in India, that his father-in-law of less than four months had died of an accident. I was shocked! The reason of his sudden demise, to be derailed while crossing a railway track. Oh! He was careful, but his slipper gotten stuck and he went back for it, realizing moments later a train coming close and he suddenly froze ~ according to a witness. The train just derailed him and that was it. *Rest in peace, God bless his soul… and condolence to his family…*

This is not a matter to be taken lightly… NEVER! NEVER!! cross anywhere on a rail track. They have special crossings which is safe. Please…

I only wish that we adults remind each other and educate the young ones of the danger.

“Trains produce enormous amounts of wind turbulence. This slipstream is so powerful that it can drag you under the wheels of the train if you are standing next to the track or too close to the platform edge. Modern trains are deceptively silent – and extremely fast. A train travelling at 125 mph takes only 7 seconds to travel a quarter of a mile. It is never safe to take a short cut across the tracks. Where electricity is provided on the rail, there is a third rail running along the railway line. This third rail looks like a normal rail but it is actually a power line. The electricity is so strong that if you touch the rail or step on it, you will stick to it like glue and won’t be able to get off.” - Trackoff

just to say…

2010-09-20T04:42:00.000+08:00

No New Year's Day to celebrate
No chocolate covered candy hearts to give away
No first of spring.. No song to sing
In fact here's just another ordinary day
No April rain, no flowers bloom

	Stevie Wonder - I Just Called To Say I Love You .mp3

	Found at bee mp3 search engine

No wedding Saturday within the month of June
But what it is, is something true
Made up of these three words that I must say to you
I just called to say I love you
I just called to say how much I care
I just called to say I love you
And I mean it from the bottom of my heart
No summer's high, no warm July
No harvest moon to light one tender August night
No autumn breeze, no falling leaves
Not even time for birds to fly to southern skies
No Libra sun.. No Halloween
No giving thanks to all the Christmas joy you bring
But what it is, though old so new
To fill your heart like no three words could ever do
I just called to say I love you
I just called to say how much I care, I do
I just called to say I love you
And I mean it from the bottom of my heart
I just called to say I love you
I just called to say how much I care, I do
I just called to say I love you
And I mean it from the bottom of my heart, of my heart,
of my heart
I just called to say I love you
I just called to say how much I care, I do
I just called to say I love you
And I mean it from the bottom of my heart, of my heart,
baby of my heart

what you see, what you hear, what you understand…

2010-09-08T13:22:00.000+08:00

Body Language = Nonverbal communication

“Now, I don’t speak Spanish, Japanese or French
But the way that body’s talkin’ definitely makes sense”

Body Language ~ Feat T-Pain – Jesse Mccartney Music Code

Nonverbal communication is a broad term used to describe any method of transferring information without words. Nonverbal communication may be intentional, it may be based on societal cues, or it may be completely unconscious.

Body language is a form of nonverbal communication, which consists of body posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye movements. Humans send and interpret such signals subconsciously. <wikipedia] Fashion, personal grooming, graphical signs and design are also common forms of nonverbal communication. In many modern cultures is a hugely important way in which people telegraph things about themselves.

Words Are Not Enough: There are instances in which body language is found to be more effective as compared to verbal communication, such as in the cases of directions, shapes, inclination towards someone and personalities.

Increased Authenticity: As body language cannot be easily controlled when compared to spoken words, they can be considered to be more genuine. Most people are blissfully unaware of their own gestures, unaware of their own body language in communication, let alone anyone else’s. These gestures are deep communications that emerge directly from our unconscious mind. So if you decide to start acknowledging gestures, you are communicating with someone’s unconscious mind and processes. Body language is in fact extremely powerful in expressing a person’s inner feelings.

Why is non-verbal communication important?

Basically, it is one of the key aspects of communication (and especially important in a high-context culture). It has multiple functions:

Used to repeat the verbal message (e.g. point in a direction while stating directions.
Often used to accent a verbal message. (e.g. verbal tone indicates the actual meaning of the specific words).
Often complement the verbal message but also may contradict. Example: a nod reinforces a positive message; a ‘wink’ may contradict a stated positive message.
Regulate interactions (non-verbal cues covey when the other person should speak or not speak).
May substitute for the verbal message (especially if it is blocked by noise, interruption, etc) — i.e. gestures (finger to lips to indicate need for quiet), facial expressions (i.e. a nod instead of a yes).

Note the implications of the proverb: “Actions speak louder than words”. Equally/more important as what you say is the way that you say it. In essence, this underscores the importance of non-verbal communication. Non-verbal communication is especially significant in intercultural situations. Probably non-verbal differences account for typical difficulties in communicating.

Statistics imply that without body language, up to 50 to 65 percent of human communication is lost, or at least unreadable. In the early 1970s, Albert H. Mehrabian, a researcher, conducted an experiment on the effects of nonverbal aspects of communication. The findings of that particular study revealed that the words we speak only convey about seven percent of the overall message being sent, with 38 percent attributed to voice tone and 55 percent to body language. The subconscious things we do with our hands, facial expressions and body language can often communicate more clearly what we are really saying.
However, Mehrabian's main findings are more about the importance of visuals and the degree to which we rely on them when communicating with another.

The process of understanding non-verbal and verbal elements can be described as follows: Neural pathways bring information to the brain through the senses. Information entering through eyes or ears goes first to the thalamus, to the large part of the limbic system. The thalamus could be compared to a mail sorter. It decides to which parts of the brain to send the information. If the incoming information is emotional, the thalamus sends out two signals – the first to the amygdale and the second to the neocortex. As a result, the emotional brain, the limbic system, receives the information first. The ability of interpreting the meaning of the discourse, does not only concern the notion of Intelligence Quotient, but also the Emotional Quotient.

Reference:

eHow all about body language and communication, Educational Club Malaysia, aiic.net, Changing Minds.org

Hijab and woman of today

2010-08-27T22:37:00.001+08:00

Yesterday, a chat with a friend from another continent got us discussing on hijab and why do Muslim women adorn it. As a matter of fact, he was just curious and wanted an answer from a person who embrace it. Well, I am not a scholar of religion… but just someone in the process of learning and understanding what is required of me by my creator. However, I promised to write and explain to my best ability… so, here goes. This will be vey long as I have picked them up from many sites. Plus I do not believe a short explanation is enough because it took me many years to come to accept it myself.

First; there is a need to understand the wearing of the hijab, which is an ancient tradition, however now addresses a modern concern and women's liberation. Do some digging into your own cultural background. Are there any ancient rituals, customs, traditions or beliefs that could be used to solve modern dilemmas? What are they? What problems do they solve? Could anyone apply these solutions, no matter what race, creed or colour?

Well my friend, for your benefit and whoever else that matters… I hope this write-up serves well. I adorned hijab (head cover) about three years ago, Ramadhan 2008. Before that, due to culture and norms, it is there, as and when I felt like it. I did not have full understanding on the impact or could not reason it well and because I also observe characters and acts of some who does adorn it, whom I felt only put shame onto the name of a religion so pure, I shy away from being labeled the same. Jaheel! ~ ME.

During the initial stage of my plight, I search on write-ups about adorning hijab. I did not care so much on what ‘people’ wanted to say but what The Quran has to say. I couldn’t find anything that satisfy me. I know that Islam do not suppress women, but instead our kind was created for man ~ “Woman was taken out of man; not out of his head to top him, nor out of his feet to be trampled underfoot; but out of his side to be equal to him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.” (Anonymous) and, “Of all the creations of the Almighty, there is none more beautiful, none more inspiring than a lovely daughter of God who walks in virtue with an understanding of why she should do so, who honors and respects her body as a thing sacred and divine, who cultivates her mind and constantly enlarges the horizon of her understanding, who nurtures her spirit with everlasting truth. … “God will hold us accountable if we neglect His daughters.” (Gordon B. Hinckley, Sept. 1988, 11) ~ to be protected, to be loved, to honor and respect.

Here are two passages from the Qur'an that order the hijab.

"O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the believing women to draw their outer garments around them (when they go out or are among men). That is better in order that they may be known (to be Muslims) and not annoyed (molested)..." (Qur'an 33:59)

"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that will make for greater purity for them; and Allah (swt) is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; and they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty..." (Qur'an 24:30-31)

(extracted from Q&A about Hijab)

In addition there are other requirements:

(1) Women must not dress so as to appear as men. "Ibn Abbas narrated: 'The Prophet (S) cursed the men who appear like women and the women who appear like men.'" (Bukhari)

(2) Women should not dress in a way similar to the unbelievers.

(3) The clothing should be modest, not excessively fancy and also not excessively ragged to gain others admiration or sympathy.

Upon observation, I find that although Muslim women are the ones that mostly adorn the hijab, it is not correct that Islam is the only religion that orders its followers to wear hijab.

Often forgotten is the fact that modern Western dress is a new invention. Looking at the clothing of women as recently as seventy years ago, we see clothing similar to hijab. These active and hard-working women of the West were not inhibited by their clothing which consisted of long, full dresses and various types of head covering.

The earliest evidence for veiling is an Assyrian legal text dating from the thirteenth century BCE, requiring women of clearly defined social status to wear veils, and prohibiting prostitutes and slaves from doing so. The veil thus distinguished respectable women from women who were publicly available, protecting the former from the gaze of men and from their advances. The veiling of women by scarf or hood, and their seclusion, became a mark of honour and social status in cities of the Middle East and Mediterranean world in the centuries before the Common Era. In this context, the apostle Paul called upon Christian women to cover their heads, and in the third century, Tertulian recommended that the Christian women of Carthage veil themselves outdoors. The earliest clear evidence for the bridal veil in Jewish custom dates from the early Middle Ages as well, although Jewish women had covered their hair in public, as an act of modesty, since biblical times. The veiling of women became a feature of Islamic society some time after the Islamic conquests of the eastern Byzantine lands and the domains of the Sassanian empire in the early seventh century. (extracted from Answer.com)

It is particularly interesting to look at the case of Christianity, since Christianity is the predominant religion in the West, and it is Westerners, including observant Christians, who are often the first to criticize Islam because of the hijab (modest dress, including head covering).

Simply open the Bible to the First Epistle to the Corinthians, chapter 11. Read verses 3-10.

But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is the man, and the head of Christ is God. Every man praying or prophesying with his head covered, disgraces his head. But every woman praying or prophesying with her head uncovered disgraces her head, for it is the same as if she were shaven. For if a woman is not covered, let her be shaven. But if it is a disgrace for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, let her cover her head. A man indeed ought not to cover his head, because he is the image and glory of God. But woman is the glory of man. For man was not created for woman, but woman for man. This is why the woman ought to have a sign of authority over her head, because of the angels.

[1 Timothy 2:9]

Woman should adorn themselves modestly and sensibly in seemly apparel, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly attire but by good deeds.

(extracted from the veil in Christianity)

Laila Lia Bruner, professor of Jewish history at the Jewish University and the visiting professor at Shiva University Institute for Adult Studies indicates that, "the early divine classic literature, Talmud and Midrash, had completely different viewpoints regarding covering woman's hair. At that time, covering hair was not just a costume or a habit as in the Bible. Rather, it was the rule and regulation for pious women. The later divine literature of the middle ages asserted that issue as a complementary part of Jewish religious rituals." Whether covering hair was a Jewish habit or a religious obligation, it is an established fact that was known and widespread in old Jewish societies. Rabbi Dr. Menachem M. Brayer, Professor of Biblical Literature at Yeshiva University, quotes the words of some old famous Rabbis as saying, "it is not the habit of the girls of Israel to go with bare head", "damned be the man who let his wife's hair to be seen … The woman who keeps her hair bare brings poverty." (extracted from rasoulallah.net)

IS THERE HIJAB IN HINDUISM? It is mentioned in the Rig Veda Book no. 8 Hymn no. 33 V. no. 19, “When Brahma has made you a woman, you should lower your gaze and should not look up. You should put your feet together and you should not reveal what the garment and the veil conceals.”

So the Rig Veda says that the woman should wear the veil.
It is further mentioned in the Mahavir Charitra Act 2 Page 71 that
When Purshuram comes, Rama tells his wife Sita that “He is our elder, please lower your gaze, and put on the veil”. Rama tells his wife Sita to put on the veil and to lower her gaze.
If you read historical books, the books talking about the Coin Age, the Age of the Gupta and the post Gupta age, there are coins, on which there are pictures of the Indian woman wearing the veils. There are many Indian woman in the villages who wear the veils, some of the woman even cover their faces.
So, if you analyze, even the Hindu Scriptures say that a woman should wear the veil and lower their gaze.

PhD student Jasjit Singh offered a Sikh perspective, responding that hair remains uncut by many as it is seen as a sacred part of Creation. Hair is said to be sacred to the effect that it is associated with feminine sexuality and that veiling it preserves modesty (although it is pointed out that in our modern society we have become somewhat desensitized to hair as a symbol of sexuality). The act of hair being exclusive to one’s husband introduces the requirement to “keep oneself attractive” and women often spend time on their hair and appearance to serve their relationship. Sikhism says that women are equal in the sense that women can carry out ANY action a man can marry. In fact to maintain this equality, men and women keep the same uniform. The majority of Sikhs follow the Islamic idea that the genders are equal yet there are different rules for each gender, women are expected to wear ‘shalwar kameez’ at Gurdwara and cover their heads with a ‘dupatta’. A dupatta is a long rectangular, scarf-like cloth, worn over the shoulders by the women in India. Generally teemed with the traditional salwaar-kamez, dupatta stands as a symbol of modesty in the Indian society.

(extracted from SikhPhilosophy and read up from The Sacredness of Hair)

Hijab ~ does not only mean head cover, but is actually a veil (the term hijab or veil is not used in the Qur'an to refer to an article of clothing for women or men, rather it refers to a spatial curtain that divides or provides privacy), a right given to a woman, so that men who has already stereotyped women as “men has nine brain and one emotion but woman has one brain and nine emotions” are not able to judge a woman by her appearance but are forced to evaluate her by her personality, character, and morals (behavior, manners, speech and appearance in public). Dress is only one facet of the total being.

(extracted from the question of Hijab: suppression or liberation and etymology and meaning of hijab)

According to the Quran, the reason why Muslim women should wear an outer garment when going out of their homes is that they may be recognised as "Believing" women and differentiated from streetwalkers for whom sexual harassment is an occupational hazard. The purpose of this verse was not to confine women to their homes, but to make it safe for them to go about their daily business without attracting unsavoury attention. Older Muslim women who are past the prospect of marriage are not required to wear "the outer garment". "Such elderly women as are past the prospect of marriage, there is no blame on them if they lay aside their (outer) garments, provided they make not wanton display of their beauty; but it is best for them to be modest; and Allah is One Who sees and knows all things". (24:60). (Islam for today)

To wear the Hijab is obligatory on women?? It is an innovation (the often unspoken goal of innovation is to solve a problem) (Bid'ah) of men suffering from a piety complex who are so weak spiritually that they just cannot trust themselves! Muslim women only cover themselves in front of men who are not direct relatives (brothers, fathers, and uncles are mahram) to prevent indecent acts or thoughts. (extracted from Islam for Today)

“Hijab is not a responsibility, it's a right given to me by my Creator who knows us best. It's a benefit to me, so why not? It's something every woman should strive to get and should want”. ~ Sumayya Syed Hussein.

Baseless objections against Hijab

Hijab seeks to imprison women: Those who feel that Hijab imprisons women should refrain from living in houses because it is nearer to a prison than Hijab.
Hijab subordinates women: In fact, culture, which promotes nakedness, takes people nearer to the culture of animals. Wearing the Hijab, on the contrary, liberates women from the trap of Western fashion and maladies. It gives them greater, rather than less freedom and mobility.
Why only women? Science has confirmed that visual stimulation plays a predominant role in the physiology of men compared to women. The fact that the sex-industry in the West is targeted towards the male-market confirms it. The science of Anatomy says that there are more than five million cells which cover the surface of human body. Their function is to transfer senses & feeling to the brain. When a man shakes hands with a woman their feelings get activated. Even the sense of smelling has a role in activating the feeling of sexual desire. The sense of hearing also is connected with the centers of human desires.
Victims of Ridicule: Some of our sisters come up with the excuse that the non-believers laugh at them if they observe Hijab and they feel degraded. They may laugh for a little while but after some time they will have no choice but to respect the Muslim women observing Hijab for their discipline, which could not be shaken, by their little laughs. Let us not forget the famous phrase: The one who laughs last laughs the longest.

What are the disadvantages of discarding Hijab?

Becoming an easy target of anti-social elements.
Causing great stresses, insecurity and suspicion in the minds of husbands, ultimately disturbing the familial harmony.
Instigating young people to deviate towards the path of lust and immorality.
Giving rise to cases of divorce, adultery, rape and illegitimate children.

What are the advantages of observing Hijab?

Confidence in social participation as human being and not as sexual commodity.
Guarding one self from the lustful looks of men. Those who reject Hijab and wish to attract men are suffering from inferiority complex.
Not diverting people's attention from constructive social work.
Improving the moral character of the society.

In conclusion, women can achieve true dignity and experience true emancipation by observing Hijab and not by discarding it. (extracted from islamicoccasions.com)

A STORY Diamonds and Pearls

The following incident took place when Muhammed Ali’s daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that are not modest. Here is the story as told in detail by one of his daughters:
When we finally arrived, the chauffer escorted my youngest sister, Laila, and me to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to surprise us. We exchanged hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day.

My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down in his lap and said something I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said, “Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down and in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get them.”
He looked at me with serious eyes. “Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”

* Today is the day Malaysia celebrates the first day Quran was brought down to earth. We call it Nuzul Quran.

Two moons??

2010-08-21T14:43:00.000+08:00

is it possible??? Where would the second ‘moon’ come from?

“NO ONE ALIVE TODAY will ever see it again.

The next time it may come this close is in 2287.”

An email is circulating suggesting that - on August 27, 2010 - Mars will appear as large as a full moon in Earth's sky. I received one last week! Can that possibly be true?

No. It can’t. The email is a hoax. It has circulated every summer since 2003. Mars can never appear as large as a full moon as seen from Earth and Mars will not even be at its brightest in August of 2010. [extracted from EarthSky a clear voice for science] Mars is never going to outshine the Moon.

So … you should forget about Mars on August 27th, right?

Not so fast. While there won't be Two Moons on August 27th, there will be Two Eyes. At 3 o'clock in the morning on that date, Mars will rise in the eastern sky alongside the red giant star Aldebaran. The two red lights side-by-side will resemble two eerie, unblinking eyes. This is worth waking up for! [extracted from NASA science]

However… what year is that suppose to be? The Mars Hoax email has been circulating since 2003. On August 27th of that year, Mars really did come historically close to Earth. But the email's claim that Mars would rival the Moon was grossly exaggerated. Every August since 2003, the email has staged a revival; it is as wrong now as it was then. Have fun staying up though… (“,)

Never alone

2010-08-18T08:09:00.000+08:00

May the angels protect you, trouble neglect you
And heaven accept you when its time to go home
May you always have plenty, the glass never empty
Know in your belly… You're never alone

May your tears come from laughing, you find friends worth having
With every year passing they mean more than gold
May you win but stay humble, smile more than grumble
And know when you stumble… You're never alone

Never alone.. Never alone..
I'll be in every beat of your heart, when you face the unknown
Wherever you fly this isn't goodbye, my love will follow you, stay with you
Baby you're never alone

Well I have to be honest, as much as I wanted
I'm not gonna promise that the cold winds won't blow
So when hard times have found you and your fears surround you
Wrap my love around you… You're never alone

May the angels protect you, trouble neglect you
And heaven accept you when its time to go home
And when hard times have found you and your fears surround you
Wrap my love around you… You're never alone

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it’s your day…

2010-08-11T13:42:00.000+08:00

Born today?

Definition of birthday in a dictionary says it’s ‘an anniversary of the day on which a person was born’. Celebrate? Some do, many doesn’t. Why? many reasons…

There’s this acquaintance who received many warm wishes on his birthday, instead, his remarks was; “I am happier celebrating father’s day instead of birthday. I am not stopping anyone from celebrating their birthday but I too believe that no one should stop me from not doing so.” His excuse was, birth is not one of choice instead becoming a parent means more to him. Hence the choice of father’s day celebration. According to him, it is preferable to celebrate his ‘birth’ as a father instead of his birth onto the face of earth itself…

to me… a birthday is the day you were born to this world and this is not of your choice. TRUE. It was God’s! Only through God’s will one is born or leaves this world, to the very second, none other says another. Is it not then deemed fit to remember at least the day/date it happened? Human mind, understandings and beliefs… who has the right to condemn?

Celebration comes in many forms. Some have parties, some spend time with immediate family members, some with a special one, some on their own and some oblivious to it. Well… not a problem really. It’s all up to individuals. However, I, do make it a point to remember and wish as many as possible on this special day of theirs. As I’ve said, it’s your day. Your special day… the day that God gave you life on this world to experience.

I do celebrate. A small get-together with my immediate family members. We’d either have dinner or lunch together, some prayers thanking God for all that has been bestowed, small or big. Yassin and tahleel… for giving me yet another day to be here… to spend with the loved ones.

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To those celebrating birthday today… it’s a two in one! It’s first day of Ramadhan… a good day, a good start to a new… you.

Many happy returns of the day and the whole year through, God bless. Many more years to come, insyaAllah.

“never get tired of doing little things to others, because sometimes those little things may mean so much to them..”

Hold on till the end

2010-08-09T12:19:00.000+08:00

Guess mine is not the first heart broken
My eyes are not the first to cry
I'm not the first to know
There's just no getting over you
You know, I'm just a fool who's willing
To sit around and wait for you
But baby, can't you see
There's nothing else for me to do?
I'm hopelessly devoted to you
But now there's nowhere to hide
Since you pushed my love aside
I'm out of my head
Hopelessly devoted to you
Hopelessly devoted to you
Hopelessly devoted to you
My head is saying, "Fool, forget him"
My heart is saying, "Don't let go..”
“Hold on till the end" and that's what I intend to do

I'm hopelessly devoted to you
But now there's nowhere to hide
Since you pushed my love aside
I'm out of my head
Hopelessly devoted to you
Hopelessly devoted to you
Hopelessly devoted to you

Olivia Newton-John (Greese)

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vintage cars II

2010-07-31T13:50:00.000+08:00

continuation from my post on vintage cars earlier.

… this is a funny looking vehicle. I believe it is a jeep.

a real antique… the horn and helmets, made me giggle! Will have to check it out eh! Google and search for a similar vehicle. I did not check out the model or make.

VINTAGE CARS

2010-07-29T18:03:00.000+08:00

…. it was awesome!!! I was at an event last Sunday morning and was overwhelmed being surrounded by so many of these… well, I’ve decided to post it here instead of my FLICKR account because the last I uploaded pics it says I needed to wait the next month because I have ‘exhausted’ the space allocated, unless I buy… eh! H E L L O…. when I turn professional and get to sell, I’ll reconsider. Meantime, I’ll just put up what I can, when I can, here.

this is the 1959 Chevrolet Impala… look at the rear end!

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The owner of this 1947 MG-YA, opening the door for me to see.. done up so much for the interior, the engine… (I wasn’t even born yet when this car was!) Only 6151 units of this model was made and this one is still on the road!

and what I like most was….next, a Jaguar 3.4 litre, produced between 1957-1959

that above belongs to this…

regal looking!

There were more than 40 units of different model and make. I shall post it up in my next entry…

Ready to go…

2010-07-28T11:26:00.000+08:00

Trains in the sky
Are traveling through fragments of time
They're taking me to parts of my mind
That no one can find
I'm ready to fall
I'm ready to crawl on my knees to know it all
I'm ready to heal, I'm ready to feel

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They're telling me it's beautiful
I believe them but will I ever know
The world behind my wall?
The sun will shine like never before

One day I will be ready to go
See the world behind my wall

The lovers, the dreamers and me…

2010-07-25T17:18:00.000+08:00

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Why are there so many Songs about rainbows
And what's on the other side
Rainbow's are visions, They're only illusions
And rainbows have nothing to hide
So we've been told and some chose to Believe it
But I know they're wrong wait and see
Someday we'll find it
The Rainbow Connection; The lovers, the dreamers and me
Who said that every wish would be heard and answered
When wished on the morning star
Somebody thought of that and someone believed it
And look what it's done so far
What's so amazing that keeps us star gazing
What do we think we might see
Someday we'll find it
That Rainbow Connection; The lovers the dreamers and me
Have you been half asleep and have you heard voices
I've heard them calling my name
Are these the sweet sounds that called the young sailors
I think they're one and the same
I've heard it too many times to ignore it
There's something that I'm supposed to be
Someday we'll find it
The Rainbow Connection; The lovers, the dreamers and me

taking a chance on…

2010-07-23T23:05:00.000+08:00

an advice…..

be brave…

when

taking a chance

“Love is made by two people, in different kinds of solitude.
It can be in a crowd, but in an oblivious crowd”

....Louis Aragon

Love is an instinct and hence beyond mind's control.
Love is an emotion and works always with motion....

When you love you should not say, "God is in my
heart" but rather, "I am in the heart of God."
And think not you can direct the course of love,
for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course...