The Unspoken Truth About People

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Manners & Etiquette For Success

2018-08-18T08:18:00.000-07:00

Want to get ahead in life? Of course, you do we all do right? Well, learn the art of getting noticed. Learn to speak well for starters. In our busy lives, we hardly get time to think about evaluating ourselves on any serious level. We tend to just go! We have our basic "yes thank you" or "no thanks" and of course "excuse me", but everybody does that. You won't stand out with that alone.

Do you think you could improve your basic manners? Do you think its important?

Do you even care at this point? What difference does it make right? We're all labeled and tagged before the first words come out of our mouths anyway, right? Especially with racism on the rise, right? Well, it does make a difference and could even be the deciding factor in such matters as getting hired or being invited to places where you could meet people ready to help you move your life forward.

Manners and etiquette are very important. Mastering the English language is important if you want to develop your manners and etiquette. I'd begin there since English has become the primary language of the world, it's a good place to work from, don't you think?

The truth is, most people are not concerned about manners & etiquette at this time in the world. And, that actually makes this a good time for you to get good at them.

Because as you know, what's in today is out tomorrow and what's out always comes back in. Even racism as you've seen with the Trump presidency. But I believe in the best of us and think most people actually do the exact opposite.

What goes around comes around. For a man to improve the status of his existence he must kill off the bad stuff he sends around town so to speak.

So, all the crude behavior's you're witnessing today will be gone tomorrow and tomorrow will usher in a whole new discourse. Discourse is powerful and should be carefully planned so as not to put hurtful things out there.

People tend to take what their leaders say as God's ice cream! And though that is completely unsafe because (gods don't have to go to the bathroom) they often choose unsavory as their favorite flavor. Leaders are just people. People you trust to lead and make the higher decisions. People you put in place to do the right things by you socially and economically. But, unfortunately, there are those who still choose the unsavory as their favorite flavor. These guys have to drop a turd just like the rest of us and with that image in mind, most of us arent' buying into that status quo anymore because it's rigged from top to bottom, from day one to present day. And every human will shit on himself at least once in his lifetime. More than that for some. Including the great influencers, lol.

The influencer will vote oligarchs and rich people forgetting these people don't care about them on a human level!

But manners and etiquette are proof you are not aspiring to be unsociable or harbor some anti-respect towards intelligence, even if you did vote uninformed and actually set things back for yourself, the country and the world. I'm not going to lie to you, the world is in a very bad place right now and only worse things will come of it.

But keep using your manners. In fact, great manners not only open up opportunities for us to excel by invitation, meaning more people are apt to invite you to something that benefits you, but they also teach us to strive for higher learning and more knowledge about life and people. And of course, that's bullshit! They're so many people fucked up right now, they don't know their ass from a hole in the ground.

That, being since we already show our respect for others, then others can't see how fucked up our thinking is right now.

Overall respect for your fellow man only increases respect for yourself. And respect for yourself maintains steadfastness or sobriety and sobriety helps us stay alert for increases in our lives or our status in life.

When you add good manners and etiquettes to that mix, you come out a winner any way you look at it!

Self-respect can take you a very long way while at the same time it asks others to respect you. And when you have respect you have success, at least in theory.

Good manners and etiquette are a part of the humility family. Humility allows others to approach you.

Otherwise, they'll hesitate due to the inability to determine your intelligence, disposition or that mean look, you keep on your face.

No one wants to approach someone who appears threatening, selfish, and mean.

Some people carry a demeanor like a warning to others that says they've judged you, they don't have time for you, they're better than you, or you are not acceptable to them. Been a lot that lately.

In response to that people will automatically deem that individual as not acceptable to them.
You'll only get back from life what you put out there!

And there you go, another door closed to you. But, you asked for it, by your poor manners.

You can't live in a world where all the doors are closed and locked to you. And like I said above, what goes around comes around and when you close doors, they are closed to you. How are you going to survive? You closed the door first!

So manners and etiquette are a big part of the essentials for a life of opportunity and success!

It is disarming when we are in the presence of a person who wants to see the best for us. A person who is thinking of us. Some who is not like the others.

They won't say no to anything, they trust you, will do the right thing by you. They believe in you. No is not a good word and nobody wants to hear it.

Most people choose a course in their life. Not choosing a course is the same as choosing the course your life takes.

Why should I say no to someone unless what they propose is harmful to me?

Unless its a child requesting something harmful to themselves, I just say "sure".

Sure, yes, please, thank you, can I help, are so nice to hear among us. One begets the other.

A request that is responded to with a yes almost always comes back with a gift that screams "I'm here because of the goodness and kindness that's in your heart.

Have you noticed how really rich people have great manners (most do)? Most won't say no. People who say no a lot are generally controlling and like the feeling of having power over you or just being in charge. So usually, their just assholes.

I don't like to think I'm running anything, and that's even when I am officially in charge. I'd rather think I have the skills to motivate people to do a good job of running things for me. I have enough sense to know its the presence and input of others that make things run well in my life, for me, around me or by me. So I respect and trust in others to be achievers. Their color has nothing to do with it.

But to each his own, to each his own life and to each his own road and to each his own results! Which is exactly what we get in life.

In a leadership position, great manners and good etiquette are the crowns you wear on your head, and the balance in your life is the pendants you were around your neck.

They precede you when you walk into a room. And, they set the stage for how you will be received in that room.

If you are a person of love for his fellow man others can feel it. We all struggling with something or the other, that's just life resisting our personal projects. People know when someone is out of sync.

So get in the habit of saying yes, of judging others by their character, and yourself by how many people you help up to a better life.

It doesn't mean you're being a fool or excepting of everything. It means you understand life.

I personally am accepting of only a few things. But I also know that without others I don't have the power to change anything!

We all know that most of what happens in the world and among us is unacceptable. The world is a lemon tree orchard more often than not. So let people make their lemon aid. Don't stand in the way of that.

It means you are about the bigger picture that they have for their life. Unless you're kissing someone's ass who is leading you astray, you should know better.

That you know that in order to have a sweet life one must learn to make lemonade with all the lemons in life.

So I'm all for just treating everybody nice, practicing respect, manners, and good etiquette with them and all the while supporting the effort they're giving their life. Everyone is desperate about something they're not willing to discuss with you.

Support the dreams of others "actively". Actually do things for them. You have to if you want their attention and for them to think good things about you. After all, it's just good etiquette.

Thanks

Vulnerability

2018-07-24T20:08:00.000-07:00

Do you feel vulnerable? Ever notice how some people put on the hard shell or carry an image that says I'm tough I'm mean, I don't like you, or I don't care. Others exuberate indifference, or emanate from a vibe that says you are not good enough for me. I'm better than you or what are you looking at? Many people have been hurt because they chose to be nice, kind, thoughtful, or allowed someone to come close or to get in. At one point in the past, maybe it was a relationship, a friendship or a relative, and the result was abuse, neglect, being misunderstood, cheated on, or attacked, so they retracted their feelings and any display of emotion. The person or people who treated you this way was wrong and have a problem which will confront them one day, one that will eventually cause them great shame and much pain. I assure you it will be a lesson they wish they could have avoided. But what about you? You, have become a victim who has pulled their head and heart back into a shell like a turtle, or put them in a hole in the ground like an ostrich to protect them, and as a result, hidden yourself from life's most rewarding gift, the gift of love, companionship, rewarding relationships, a healthy social life and true emotional exchange.

Please listen, you cannot live your life as a result of what others have done to you, not and enjoy it. I know. I've tried it and it only caused me more suffering. What was so bad about it is that I didn't know the cause of my suffering, which was in a word the loss of joy in my life, a secret loneliness? I took the little things for granted that came into my life. Things that were sweet and nice, or a gift to me in some small way that I couldn't fully appreciate. I only knew to keep moving straight ahead, to play it safe, keep myself hidden, to avoid embracing anything or anyone. I refused to trust life but for myself and often not even myself. I was always checking the parameters, going over decisions I made or my thinking towards a decision. As a result of this kind of over protective behavior acquaintances with others was shallow and unfulfilling. I became a closet loner, popular when among friends, but solitary otherwise. I believed this was the best way to be, that it kept my life protected. Well, it was not healthy, and living this way cultivated loneliness, a judgmental attitude and an emptiness in my life which went unfulfilled.

You are not living life to the fullest if you are not opening up your heart and letting it make some choices and decisions. I know it is risky, but when you stop and think about it, everything in your life is a risk, especially those things which can bring you the most joy. You cannot shut one part of your heart down without the whole heart shutting down. If you close one door in your heart and think you've done yourself a favor and protected the area where pain got in, it will actually shut out joy from the rest of your heart. You cannot segment one part of your heart without adversely affecting your whole heart. Joy is living and loving life, God, and the people around you with ALL your heart. Go back to being you, regardless of any bad experiences you've had from thoughtless people. This is how life's most valuable rewards are found and kept. Try it and watch how beautiful people become attracted to you and you to them. Start changing your life and those around you with this powerful truth now.

Ten Things That Anger People Most

2015-10-16T14:02:00.000-07:00

A person's mood determines what will anger them and to what extent that anger will go. It's just human nature. By that, anything can raise our blood pressure or makes us temporarily insane? I have a love-hate relationship with everyone, especially when driving. Sound familiar? I go insane having to wait at signal lights when there's no traffic🚗. Most people probably don't go around looking for a button they can push to anger you accept for maybe the teeny minded racist among us. Although there are people who will look for ways to get one-up on you for the fun of it. But, that can actually be healthy competition among friends. Friends do that all the time for the fun of it.

Generally, friends won't push your buttons other than to get a rise out of you. But siblings will. Sometimes just because they know where those buttons are. At least until they grow up anyway. Parents sometimes push their child's buttons just for the fun of it, although they shouldn't. Because it's bullying. But some parents will push your buttons if they feel as though they've run out of ways to motivate you. People know instinctively what's right and what's wrong. Some will try and deny it if you listen to them. And most will try to blame something or someone else for their mistakes if possible, that too is human nature. Some will even blame you for their bad treatment of you. It's like they've judged you and sentenced you. It's wrong, but people do it. Unless you're holding a gun to someone's head you can't make them do anything. We have to take responsibility for our own actions, wrongdoings, and mistakes so we keep moving in the right direction.

We have choices and free will and it's easy to abuse them. We make mistakes, yes but free will can become self-abuse. Even when you live by a higher standard of living you're still going to make mistakes. If you've learned some rules that work for you, make them personal rules that you don't break. That's what I do anyway.

People will intentionally try and rattle you on the down-low, and of course, you mustn't let them rattle you. People fall into the hater's category quite easily these days. Venting on others is popular among homo sapiens. Venting to others is much more effective. Haters and trouble makers are immature individuals, aren't they? They are little mini-minded terrorists ignorant of the rule that what goes around comes back around. Haters are very unhappy people and they want you to be unhappy too. This behavior by the way; is the reason they are locked in a perpetual cycle of unhappiness. So, here again, what goes around, does come back around.

Anger will wreck you

So what is my point?

It's to get you to think about yourself as a person and how you live. And, if applicable to you, to get you to check yourself before you wreck yourself. Because anger, even in it's simplest form is destructive to us mentally and internally. The world's not going to change unless you change it. We live in tall grass, and there are snakes in the grass. That's just the simple truth. These snakes will do the unthinkable to cause you pain and suffering and yes that is a truth about homo sapien. But sometimes we do the unthinkable to ourselves. What is the unthinkable? The unthinkable is getting mad. When you let anger drive you, your thoughts and your emotions become unstable. We become possessed and begin to give up our power.

Here are a few irritable things that can open the door to anger:

Being accused of something you didn't do.
Working hard to achieve a goal and learn you're being under minded.
Being ignored by someone you care about because they've been brainwashed against you by someone else.
Driving in traffic when you're up against a deadline. (a primal animal panic instinct)
When there is a double standard; one for you and one for someone being given more than you.
When someone snatches your blanket off of you to wake you up🩲! This can be the start of a pretty bad day.
When your WiFi stops working or slows way down as you're working with a deadline
Being betrayed by a friend. Your mate cheats on you.
Someone does to you what you did to them.
Finding out you're being used.

So what does this list tell you? Does it tell you that humiliation is generally what pushes a person's buttons? But it's not only people that cause humiliation. An event can occur that will humiliate you, like tripping and falling. Do you get mad about that? Depends on your mood, right?

Protect your joy-reject anger

What's your takeaway from this blog post, your "people truth? I'd like it to be that anger is a weakness, your Achilles heel. The "I submit button". Your tap out! But, hey I'm just discussing what angers people most. Devious people will use what angers people most against you. "So stay cool, if you can be strong then be strong. Because getting even is more fun". I made that up, lol. Because not being effected, not trying to get even is very effective🎈 Sometimes anger comes over us no matter how good we are at staying cool. Remember I told you we're not perfect. But people who have a habit of getting angry are suffering from something. If you look close, they're suffering from a disorder and we all have it. So just ignore it. Get good at cooling yourself off quickly if you're the type that angers. Some homo sapiens don't have the anger gene. I wish I was like them. What if someone deliberately kills your dog? Could you stay cool as you work through it?

Even if you're a champion at keeping your cool, I think that would set you off. My point is there are times when anger is justified. But like everything, there is a solution. And that is: Get hold of yourself as quickly as possible. That's how you overcome an attack on your integrity and come out victorious.

So again, people will push your buttons just because they can and some will do it because they are wicked. And some of them will succeed at pissing you off, but don't let it take hold. Come to grips with your anger and relinquish it immediately. Anger doesn't do you any good. It's a tempting adrenaline release, but for all the wrong reasons. Anger does little good in 99.9% of the matters you find yourself angry about. It's better to keep your cool, wait for the opportunity and diplomatically bring your aggressor face to face with their own behavior. They hate that. And, it works every time. Name ten things that anger you most and post them in the comments🎈 It will vent them!

Women Can Play Stupid And No One Will Be The Wiser

2015-09-04T22:12:00.000-07:00

Well I don't know but I've been told, a big-legged woman ain't got no soul! Not only is this a famous line in a Led Zeppelin song called Black Dog, but I've heard it before. Is it true? A woman knows how to keep quiet when she's in the right? Is that true? Whereas a man, when he's in the right will blow his horn, toot his whistle and keep blowing it. Is that true?

Every girlfriend I've had was different than the last, but the same at the end of the day

So it must be true right? Not! One of my best friends, Brianna is or was my all time hangout buddy. She had to move to Washington recently.

We were together so much so often people thought we were married. So I know her and I gotta tell ya, when Brianna is right she won't do it for long, but she'll rub it in real good when she's of a mood to get at you. But only briefly. In all honesty, I think she'd do that because it was me. This post is devoted to women mostly. In this post just for fun, I'm going to give you a few old sayings about women, some of them true and some of them probably not so much. Like that first one. Not true.

I'll try to hold to my promise not to write a long post. I'm trying to teach myself to write shorter post's, but write more of them. I operate eight blogs not including when I'm writing for other people. I've been having trouble writing to all my blogs within a one week period. You're supposed to write two to three times a week to each blog site. But I'm big on writing from experience too. That can make things a little easier to keep up with because it cuts back on the amount of reading and research I have to do. With tech blogs, I research and rarely write a blog from memory alone. I like to confirm what my mind thinks it remembers about technology blog subject. Whereas with marketing blogs, I write from both.

And boy, I have to tell you, you can get caught up in the research, learning all that stuff. Anyway, here's another one about women: If women didn't exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning. Is that true or false? Aristotle wrote that one. And it's quite true. Now that's a definite people truth.

Us men, we don't need much.

Give us a job some beer and some food and you pretty much have us where you want us. And that's men anywhere in the world. What do you think, am I right about that?

What's another one, how about this one? A woman can play stupid and no one will be the wiser! I know that one is a little on the mean side, but it is a people truth. Yes, yes it is. Here's one: Some women try to become the man of the house trying to become the man they wanted to marry! That's a Gloria Steinem thought, do you remember her, the famous feminist? Do you think she's right? Ring the bell, yes you're right again.

It's human nature to plug leaks.

Have you ever thought about this? People have to, to some extent believe in one another. That's what puts the hope in hope. Pretty true, you think? I think it's true. I once heard it said that all hope comes from another person. That even God if real can only help us through orchestrating the efforts of another to fill our hopes. Is that true? When we sit down and really think about it, everything we get comes from the creative efforts of man or somebody else's work. I find that difficult to hold on to though it may very well be true. I think there is stuff we get that is not material in nature, and I think those sort of things can be more valuable to us than something material.

That one is hard for me because of the universal belief that God gave man free will. And if that's true, he cannot or will not orchestrate him. See, I told you. I think too much. Anyway, that's why I think man's guiding laws should be universal. I would think God can only change and orchestrate the individual who believes in him. Oops, there I go...using free will.

Did I just dispel a myth?

Here's another people truth but it's not just about women. Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable. Do you think that's true? I know that to be true because every time I've fallen in love that's how it happens. Oh, would you look at the time lol, I think I may have hit my 500-word limit! Did you like this? Let me know with your comments. I've gotta go or I'll keep writing and break my promise. LOL

People Don't Listen To Understand They Listen To Respond

2015-08-08T16:36:00.000-07:00

The other day I was meeting with a large group of friends for coffee when I overheard a comment made by a colleague. "People don't really seem to be interested in what you're saying these days, they just respond. It got me thinking. Have you ever really thought about that? Did you know that you were doing that? I didn't know I was doing that. Now that it's been brought up, yeah, I'm seeing it, and I bet you're going to be surprised too! I was. Yeah, I think we all do that sometimes. What's the difference right? Well, when I listen to understand it's because I'm open to adding new information about skill, job or an increase in income. I feel oppressed. That's something we all discuss in my coffee shop environment. Otherwise its because I'm actually listening because I care about what my friends care about. Like school, there I listen to understand. Everywhere else I have a conversation or discussion, I'm listening to respond. Why is that? Is it to shorten the conversation or is it ego?

Well, I think it's because I'm not expecting to hear about something I can use or benefit by. And I think that's because I'm not expecting someone in an average conversation to tell me something I can walk away with and keep for real beneficial use towards my life. We learn at a pretty early age that when people engage in conversation it's to project what they know, their ego, to pass time, or just to be talking. The image to the right depicts a conversation for me. we're not really communicating, but and that's a big but, we are at least talking!

Nine times out of ten no one's going to do something for me, or tell me something I can really and truly use to improve upon myself, raise my life up a notch or two, or increase my income. I've excepted that, that doesn't occur among the middle class anymore during casual conversation. And its because they've removed the opportunity for those in the middle class. Everyone is doing things for themselves ultimately with few if any gain. It is all going up top! One reason for that I think is because we live in a rat race! I don't think anybody's out to help me get ahead of them in life. Wait, that can't be right! Because when you get ahead, I get ahead right? Here's another way of looking at that. When I was teaching boxing and martial arts to marines and L.A gang banger's, I never taught anybody EVERYTHING I know! If I did that and one day had to defend myself from a student gone rogue I'd have no defense to protect myself or anyone else anymore. Right? Right. All martial art trainers do that.

I'd always keep a few surprises in reserve that they didn't know about and wouldn't expect. They wouldn't know how to defend themselves against it. Make sense? I mean it wasn't like I was training them for pro bouts where I'd take a piece of the purse, no! I was teaching marines things they don't get in the corp. So when on the battlefield they'd have their own little something extra, some surprise techniques when necessary. I was teaching gang bangers to settle their difference with their fist, not guns! Guns bring death, why do that when all they're after is respect? In both these scenario's I was listening to respond, but they were listening to understand. But in everyday conversations, people only listen to respond because of the egos. Everyone thinks they're better than the next person, that they are more important. This is people-truth, admit it or not. Man is considered above animals. But this is an animal kingdom none the less. But we can change that.

So hears the take-a-way! When someone genuinely cares about you, when you speak they listen to understand and to respond with love and solution if they can. But when they're not really into you, don't really know you, they'll listen to respond.

What do you think? I don't think we're genuine all the time with everyone. Do you? But I think we should be! I strive to anyway. But, maybe today, it's your turn or my turn to be overlooked by someone who's ready to overlook someone. What do you think? Thank about it. Life is more successful, and you're going to be better off when you listen to understand.

Have a good one,

P.S. Wait, before you go, I just had an epiphany! It's a selling point:

A SALES TIP
Do you think that that may have something to do with why salespeople have a rough go of it? Because people listen to respond? I mean if someone sees you have a product they want, they'll listen to understand more about how they can acquire it. But if it's a product they're not interested in, they'll listen to respond, if they listen at all. Wait now. But, if they like you, they'll listen to understand and have some questions too. And if you do alright with those questions, they buy it from you instead of someone else. They like you. But if they don't know you, or don't like you, you need one helluva product so they'll listen to understand. Right? You can sell a hammer to a carpenter if he forgot his hammer at home 50 miles away and there are no hardware stores within 50 miles! You can even double the price and still make the sale. Right? What do you think? Is there any potential strategy in that for your sellers out there? Make sense? A little something for my marketing followers. All I ask is that you learn to view capitalism as a means to an end, not an opportunity to feed your greed.

Acceptance vs. Love vs. Kindness

2015-08-04T15:44:00.000-07:00

Respect, humility, and patience warm a person up. They are more likely to accept you. This is a common denominator throughout the world. It works with animals too. I love wolves and as a child befriended one. I looked out my window and it was love at first sight. He lived with me for nearly a year before leaving. Have you ever befriended a wild animal like that? Some people just have a knack for it. When I really want to be close to them I wait and once I see that they've noticed me, I show no fear but stand off from them. I try not to let the distance between us increase. If it moves away I move closer, if it moves closer I won't move for a while, then I move closer. Animals know when you 'want' to be close to them. They sense it. This behavior works with people too. It makes them curious when you just go about your business and meander near them without acknowledging them. They pick up on it. They see you are curious, but shy. Animals just love that. There is no comparison to having a wild animal as your best friend. But one day he left. It messed me up pretty bad. All I did for the longest time was wonder what I did wrong. That wolf is one of the most treasured memories of my childhood. I have other wild animal experiences I could tell you about, but that'll have to wait for another time. I grew up around wild animals in the woods of Texas. I learned about wild animals from my mother and father who both grew up around there. I don't recommend anybody reading this should go out and start flirting with a wild animal, you could be seriously injured.

It will run off to a safe distance, maybe growl or glare at you?

Yes, people are the same. Love can be expressed in a number of ways, but in this post we are going to approach it from a different perspective. We're going to look at it from the perspective of acceptance being humble, patient and respectful. We fall in love smiling at each other. We stay in love if we never stop laughing together.

Acceptance is what we are all after from each other whether our intentions are good or curious. Others can generally since another's motive right away based on experience. We look at intentions by motive. And, during the entire duration of an acquaintance with another person or an animal, we are mindful of motive and disposition. Once we understand their motives we better understand them. But, in order for another to see our motive, we must first gain acceptance. Once we've gained acceptance they will continue to watch for a while until they are sure. Most of us are unbiased and are usually curious about each other's mind and character. Harmless is good, harmful is bad and is determined by how someone makes you feel. People with a sunny character are contagious.

Know first how another would benefit most from being friends with you.

Even if it is just simply that you like them. This applies to all things in life. Let’s take sales for example. When we do not force our way into another person's space like a pushy salesperson might do, that's respect. When we are humble, we pose no threat, that's humility. When we seek their acceptance first, that's patience. We are now close enough to ascertain what that person's needs are. We may then 'share' with them (not sell) what we have to offer them that would fill that particular 'void' in the person’s life. May you want to love them get them to love you. That then becomes love for them. You, I, we, we're meandering for sport, we're there because we want to share space with them, to be near them because we are drawn to them. I was attracted to that wolf. My mind was made up the moment I saw him. It being wild didn't matter. The risk of being attacked didn't matter, I had to find out.

We then become a valuable asset in the life of that person.

This applies to relationships, work environments, relatives and so on, you get the idea I'm sure. Another example: Is Love. When we love someone we want to see them happy. To love someone is a conscious choice though most people don't realize it at first.

When we love someone romantically we want them to love us back, and to see us both happy together forever. But since love is a choice, once we’ve made that choice, we are taking for granted a lot of things we don't know about that person. But, at that time feel certain we've made the right choice. In the beginning, it's all so perfect. But, nothing's perfect. I cried like a baby when I couldn't find my buddy wolf. My mother said, he'd gone back to the wild and I had to accept that. Still, we work nonstop to please and gain acceptance from another person. We then identify what they are missing or desire in a relationship and give it to them (with the hope of always being there to give it to them forever) because we know that's what we and they want. We want always to be the person they look to for that. The same principle applies to nations and diplomacy, trade and even world peace. Of course, it's a little more complicated in those arenas but the principle is the same. But people change, even though they may tell you they won't! Minds change, feelings change, circumstances change and since we never really get to know a person to the core, we should always be in protective mode, always one step ahead of any potential problem or circumstance, like if they leave you.

So at the end of the day, when you get right down to it we're just showing them that we've chosen them. We do that in acceptance of other people we see and meet each day of our lives, we show them we don't hate them by showing them friendliness, we show them we've chosen them when we cling or come looking for them when they're not around. We're showing them that we have no ill will towards them. But when we love someone romantically no matter what we do, we will always be vulnerable to the pain that will one day come from them, whether real or imagined. To love is to be vulnerable. If we're kind to them in spite of what they do right, wrong, good, or bad, a good person will love you for it. A not so good person will become the problem you wish you never had. When a person leaves, or your best friend leaves, wolf or person, you will overcome your loss, but they will have to overcome their loss too. And you will love yourself for being a person who overcame the thing that lives in everyone... never being satisfied, but tolerating. That is where all relationships end up. Some people end up doing it together whereas others end up doing it separated from each other. It's all the same. Just people truth. All romantic affairs begin and end that way. Things change, or nothing lasts forever. Something will die as time passes, something will change, but if we can keep laughing together that doesn't matter. And, we plant with fresh seeds the next chapter in our relationship. Work together, never stop giving them a warm smile, don't encroach upon their breathing room, play together, laugh together, hug each other, and keep your wild animal in your life.

A One World Ruler

2014-06-22T12:16:00.001-07:00

What would happen if all the world's’ people turned on their governments at the same time? It would manifest a one world ruler right? Many people believe America is headed towards extreme Fascism, the taking away of current freedoms, unexplained incarceration, and missing people. Let’s remember first that our thoughts become our realities.

Let’s not manifest such a reality by promoting that kind of thinking.

But, let’s not fear the thought, because fears also manifest themselves into our lives when we adopt them. Now, moving on, governments who were once adverse to each other seem to be getting along these days, but some people are speculating that this is not good for the world’s people. The fear is that a world ruler will be manifested bringing about Biblical prophecy of a figure who by all accounts is good based on leadership ratings.

First I can say this: World governments are getting along better becauses they have to. World terrorism will unite the world. Secondly: The one world ruler will be a religious man, possibly Jewish, but from the Mid East. There is another speculation it will be someone like a Pope or something. And he will come from Europe, not the United States.

But as his success at bringing about world peace wins the hearts and minds of the world's people, in all honesty, he will be the antiChrist running the world under the direct supervision of Satan himself. This will be preceded by the slaughter of Christians and a world systematic attack on all the true believers in God.

Others believe it was Hitler and that this prophecy has been fulfilled.

But there are a few who believe that man is president Barrack Obama of the United States. There have been other prophecies e.g., the Israelite's, the wandering lost tribes becoming a state in 1948. Water turning to blood in China recently, birds dropping from the skies like rain to the ground dead, sea animals in record numbers of species washing up dead on beaches around the world. There's been an incredible increase in reports of strange objects in the skies “worldwide”.

And then there's the children killing other children in mass murders as sacrifices to Baal.

Sons rebelling against fathers, daughters against mothers on a global scale. And there are some new developments happening that you know about but haven't looked at this way: Funnels! Funnels are giant sinkholes, but these are massive in diameter and depth, some appearing to be bottomless. There’s a movie with Demi Moore called the Seventh Sign that might interest you if you would like another interesting take on all of this.

But, this piece is being written not to increase fears; it’s being written to decrease fears.

If you are a Christian these kinds of things won’t frighten you because you believe these signs are good because they signal the return of Christ. Only this time he will be carrying a sword because he's coming to destroy the wicked. Right?

Well I don’t profess to know what any of this means just yet, but there is one thing I do know and that is whenever we maintain our cool, we tend to make wiser decisions about things, we make better behavioral decisions, and we give the truth it due respect. I know climate change has spooked a lot of people for the same reasons. But climate change has occurred throughout history. However, that doesn't mean that if we (industry, etc) is causing it that we should ignore any role we're playing in it. That would be stupid and self-destructive.

There's been little and no respect for the people's needs by this recent rash of politicians over the past 35, 40 years. Not until Obama came into office. The Pharisees are alive and well. They really did hurt the humble and patient of our society! A lot of elderly people and babies died under their rule. And I do hope they end up paying for it. Actually, I'm sure they will.

Perhaps I can write more on these subjects at a later time, but for now we are trying to keep our People Truth blogs down to 500-600 words or less. I doubt we'll make it accept on occasion. We're going to try though. You can, however, extend this discussion with comments if you'd more discussion about it. But, the people truth about this piece is that people, man is all about self and will trust in liars if they tell him they have the solution to his problem. Because his selfishness has him see what he wants to see. The problem is there are those even more selfish than he is. Those lying are all about themselves and are lying for power over you, the people. This is the destructive nature of man and foolishness of the greedy. They are gullible. Liers hope in that. Lying to you about Santa Clause is one thing, but lying to others about you, to get power and money over you is another. You will never see their promises, they never meant them. So, expose them.

A one-world government is already here with its lies and rigged systems that hold most citizens in poverty to keep them powerless. These governments are not built to last. Oh, the builders think they are but they are sadly mistaken.

Keys To Life: Never look at what a politician says (you don't have to stay poor)

2014-06-13T11:47:00.001-07:00

Keys To Life: Never look at what a politician says (you don't have to stay poor)

What Are We, Who Are We?

2014-06-12T14:52:00.002-07:00

We as humans have a tri-fold existence: The Id or the conscious survival of the 'me'. The spirit or the 'we' of us [the life force in us], that part that distinguishes us from animals, and the mind or creative [me] function of us, or the individual.

Complicated? Yes and no.

These are tough subjects to tackle. But, opinions are like waste baskets, everybody's got one. So here's mine. As a writer and personal development strategist, I've experienced a lot of frustration. I've had to develop skills for articulating the unexplainable. including such things as character development techniques. I am capable of pulling this off. I hope! I've got a propensity for psychology and I study human behavior. For instance, why do some people resort to taking their frustrations out on friends, family, spouses or helpless animals? Does that make them feel better about themselves? They are usually reacting to something they brought on themselves. But, yes they're venting, but it really doesn't make them feel better about themselves.
It only makes matters worse.

Our brain manages the day to day functions, our Pineal gland, third eye or the "God gene" is a little pine cone shaped thing located at the base of our brain.

The word brain describes flesh. But isn't it also a link to a higher mind. It houses the components which manage our day to day bodily functions. It manages animation and thought using a series of electrical pulses. The word mind though not used as much, refers to a virtual component of the brain. It would appear the pineal gland is related to our mind and soul more so than the brain.

There is no shortage of research by scientist on the pineal gland

Some believe the pineal gland is a direct link between our mind and God. The universe hosts us and our world. Our brain manages motor functions and acts as the primary control center for our conscious day to day decision-making processes. We have two hearts, a mindful heart, and a physical heart muscle that keeps the blood moving throughout our bodies. The pineal gland is said to be something man can shut down using chemicals (fluoride). Could this be affecting people's behavior and their ability to reason and make sense of things? This is proof we are controllable, that we may even be manipulated on a mass scale using chemical brain inhibitors.

Most weather, climate changes and other life forms on our planet can kill or injure us with relative ease.

Relative to our physical proportion we have a massive brain although only about 12% of it is used. We have unimaginable potential. Just 10-12% of our brains have accomplished all that you see and use in the world today. Now, if you used 100% of your brain, you wouldn't even visit planet earth. It'd be like visiting hell to you. So how do we open up that other 88%? I'm working on that. We are similar to animals in many ways but not our brains. Like animals, we are selfish, aggressive, always in survival mode. Like animals, we are tempted to procreate.

So you're saying: it's no coincidence we must give birth, reside in the flesh, adapt to changing environments and undergo physical evolution?

But I am not an animal! My religion tells me I'm not an animal. Are you telling me I am an animal? Our life span varies by country, continent, or behavior. It ranges from about 40 years to 66 years the worldwide average. Those numbers may vary by individual or gender. Biblically at one-time man did have access to a larger proportion of his brain ("There is nothing new under the sun"). But he was demoted as a punishment by God for his defiance. This curse blocked off 90% of his brain and relegated him to being a menial creature. So a God or nature dumbed us down? Why? What'd we do wrong, really? It's just my opinion, but I think mankind will not make the grade. If aliens came and some would say they are already here, would we have much chance of defeating them? Can you believe a god did this to us? A punishment for being less than good and eviler? Actually, I can! Take a look around you, what do you see? You see a whole lot of low down things going on worldwide. Maybe mankind is low down because he is low down by his own choice. He sure does resist positive change for the good of all. We are just too weak to stand upright. That maybe cow poop! But we've had plenty of time and we still haven't proved it's not!

So what are we?

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2012-01-23T12:51:00.000-08:00

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What Is An App?

2012-01-23T11:13:00.000-08:00

What is an App

Deemed "word of the year" by the American Dialect Society, App is short for application, an application you can download into your smart phone to make it serve you in the areas most important to you. Smart phone makers can't put everything you might be interested in inside a smart phone for you to buy off the shelf, there are billions of people out there and they all have values different from one another. So how does that explain what an App is you might ask? Think of a App as a program you can download into your phone that makes your phone serve as a tool for a specific task of your interest, your life style, or your work. All Apps are not created equal. Some work well and others don't. Some Apps might make sense to one person and not to the next. An example of this might be a recently released App that you download into your phone and it tells you where the all the great white sharks are. You start it up and input the beach where you want to go swimming or surfing and it will tell you if any great white sharks are in the area. Not everyone is interested in where the white sharks are so they don't need their phones to tell them where all the great white sharks are.

How does that work you might ask? It works off the satellite that tracks sharks with tags/flags that have been stapled into the tip of their dorsal fin and when the shark comes up to the surface the tag can be picked up by the satellite, that information is then picked up by the App which has been programmed to read that signal. The problem with this App in my opinion is that it can be very dangerous. How you might ask? What if you’re App says there are no white sharks in the vicinity of the beach you intend to swim or surf, but in fact there are? My point being, not all white sharks have been tagged! How could they be? Even if they were all tagged that doesn't account for new births or sharks that haven’t' surfaced for a long time. The ocean is the largest presence on the face of our entire planet. Don't let the arrogance of mankind hurt you. We don't know as much as we'd like to think, but we will play it up as such. Now, getting back to Apps, Apps are a wonderful idea and a marketing genie for niche products and services. IT is short for Information Technology, in short, your computer, all computers and any device that provides you with information of one kind or another.

All Apps are doing is providing you with technology you can personalize for your own work, interests, or recreations and the list grows as more and more Apps are being created. Some Apps are free, in fact as this concept was in its infant stage most if not all Apps were free, but as time passed and the creators of Apps began to see their usefulness a price tag was added to them, various prices for various Apps. You can even have an App designed to your own specification, for example, let’s say you have a young child and want an App that tracks the locations of all known pedophiles, well this is information available to the public anyway, but with an App it's put at your finger tips 24/7 right in your cell phone. By the way don't go out to have an App like this made, there is already one on the market. There are even App stores going up around the country, that's how prolific the App industry is growing. We just had an Android (works on phones with the Android operating system) app made for the Jimisound.com website. Some users say it works and other say they're not that happy with it, to be continued. The point of having a App for a website is to make the site smart phone friendly, in other words the App scales the site down so it can be viewed and it's components can be functional on a phone screen, this in turn allows your site visitors to access your site from their cell phones while they are on the move.

Apps have invaded the world of computer and smart phone users and there will be many more Apps coming out over the coming years. The potential use of Apps is unlimited, Apps are the next logical step for IT and personal computering and of course their primary target is the cell phone. I support Apps, but please use common sense in choosing and relying on them, don't let life pass you by while you’re living through an App.

What Is Happiness

2011-11-07T14:29:00.000-08:00

What is happiness

Happiness is an individual decision. We tend to cling to our ideals until someone or something shakes us to the very core of our existence and reason for living. I have on two occasions been to that place, so dismal, so much despair, sorrow, suffering and pain. Once you've experienced this kind of suffering, you don't recognize happiness anymore for a long time. It can be very hard to be happy sometimes.

It can be staring you in the face, but you won't recognize it.

Only kind and supportive people, prayer and a kind of rebirth can heal you. I don't believe in happiness anymore. That was a conclusion I came to When someone I totally believed in let me down, all the way down then proceeded to stalk my income with a lawsuit in California courts. Not only them but my God did too. The God of my religion. The religion I believed in at the time. The God that that religion worshipped turn out not to be an honest God.

It was a god that gulped up worship to feed its ego. A powerless god but for the worship bestowed upon it by the unsuspecting followers, the parishioners.

I have long sense abandoned my disbelief in happiness. Happiness is many things to many people. Happiness is all around us when we choose to see it. Happiness is when your grand child motions with their tiny hand for you to bend down, and whispers I love you grandma. Happiness is when you wake up one day and realize: I really don't have any problems, it was all an illusion. Happy is when someone you've loved and admired from a distance walks up to you one day and stands beside you, takes you by the hand, looks into you eyes and smiles.

I believe in finding joy in the things of life, people, friends, loved ones and in helping others. I believe the only true definition of happiness is one that paints it as a temporal moment in a larger measure of time, for example: I love ice cream and when I'm eating it, for that moment, in that particular day, I'm happy, and when I'm done, I don't feel unhappy. If you want to feel joy all the time, or happiness as many might call it, you must learn to live above fear of losing any thing, you must learn to live above the things of a material world. If not, your happiness will always be in jeopardy.

It is the nature of mankind.

We want something until we get it. We love something until we tire of it, or simply change our mind. We need something until it's replaced. Only people who love everyone and everything in life, including changes welcomed and changes not welcomed, can be happy. And quite frankly most people are not capable of doing that. Not in general. The mind of a happy person must be nurtured and developed. It's really hard to do in a world that can throw you a crap ball at any time. How does it do that you ask? By taking things away from you! That is the tool governments and people in general
use to inflict pain and suffering upon you. And they do it with every intention of making you miserable. It makes them feel power to do things like that. To take something away from you, to oppress you with their power. A power that really doesn't even exist, unless you let it exist.

Many people don't even love themselves most of the time. How can that person ever be happy thinking like that? They can't, but some will take it out on you. How could they play a reliable role in what makes you happy? What is happiness? It's love: The ability to love everyone unconditionally and have no complaints about anything. To accept what is as is, changing only what is in your power to change; you. This is "the" key to happiness, but there are other sub-keys, with the primary one being; wisdom. Look for it find it and make it yours! A wise man, a wise woman understands his or her environment well enough to stay ahead of the curves. You can throw them a curve if you want to, they'll know it out of the park every time. They've CHOSEN to be happy!

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Are Americans Vexed?

2011-08-20T11:03:00.000-07:00

Generally, people and in this case I'm referring to Americans, try to keep smiling, stay positive, keep hope and have faith in their leaders. Wouldn't you agree? Even when everything around us is falling apart, we believe that everything will turn out to be alright, and it usually does.

But lately I've been asking myself; is someone, or a group of people in high places taking advantage of us using the fact that we think that way. Could they use our hopefulness against us to depress us into giving up? Could one day come and we wake up to find that all our fears have come true? That we and our country have been sold out? Are we about to be hit with what we didn't see coming or lose any chance to try and stop it? It is 2011 and I'd of thought that by now we as Americans would be all that and a bag of chips. But I'm beginning to think we are vexed.

If America is vexed it was politically inspired.

Given the problems that have beset us over recent years, it has become increasingly harder for Americans to smile, have faith, and profile that sense of pride we Americans all grew up with. What’s changed, why have we been finding ourselves coming up against insurmountable issues and problems in just about every area of our lives these days? Who's running things, and what the fuck is going on, where's all the crap coming from? When did all this begin, how and, why? Have we been moving in the wrong direction over the past 25 years or more? Are the rigged systems being exposed? Are the factions in our government scrambling to keep something hidden? And which political party is the culprit? Or is it both? We have to figure this out.

Are world leaders working together to make all societies in the world come together, as one big business marketing place, with only a few people holding all the cards and all the money and power like they've managed to do here in America? Has big business somehow managed to compromise our values, our identity as a people and manipulate our politicians to do their bidding clandestinely?

Would it be a good idea to have all newly elected politicians on 18-month probation, whereby they can be removed from office by an inexpensive Internet polling/voting on their performance and where they have taken things, over those 18 months? After all, isn’t' it clear that our system appears to be serving only a privileged few now? Who let the dogs out? Was it the Republicans? It sure looks that way. I was Republican until Reagan. I thought he was a really good liar, faker, a good actor. Rest in peace.

Has our governing system been hijacked by a few people with money and power to serve their ideals and greed? Are they trying now to take over the world under the guise of globalization? Are they racists?

Is globalization vexing the American dream?

Is there a successful subliminal activity by some, based on greed and oppression, to downgrade the American citizen to a second class individual in the world overall? A mass dumbing down movement by the government on American's? Have they forgotten that they serve us, and not the other way around? Do they want us to become no more than a battery in a series of batteries (all common citizens) to work for pennies and power the will of the more fortunate ones of the world? Is America being made into a third world country in order to put a handful of privileged people from various countries on top of the world?

There is some talk going around out there among concerned citizens, college students, media, small business owners and the general population.

Maybe it's time for ALL Americans including those who sit on the fence, to get off the fence and take part in the voting, protesting, and smartly, not ignorantly! Maybe it's time for all of us to be mindful of what's being displayed by politicians and not what's being said by them. Did we get stuck with a bunch of bad leaders? Some are saying we have the worst congress in the history of the country, right now. How the hell did these people get into congress in the first place? Was dumbed down voters the reason? I personally believe its divisive governing. An evil presence manifested by some really bad karma. It might time for this government to get right, or be humbled the hard way!

Everybody should vote, otherwise, this is what happens.

Was it revenge against Americans voting a black president into office. Wait, we already know that's part of it! If so, then that is a blatant attack on the rights of the American people who voted him into office, by American against American, or so-called Americans. Could it be because over 80% of America’s high school seniors can't even qualify academically to enter college? There is a problem shortage of people who qualify to fill the job openings out there, as much if not more than a lack of jobs, right? They only want the privileged in these jobs anyway, right?

How will Americans even know what to look for in candidates who run for office if they are not wise enough, and smart enough to know the difference between a man of good intention and a fake? Hey America: It is important to put the right person into office over the wrong person for the job? Just letting you know, in case you forgot! And, you need to be able to tell the difference! It is said that our politicians are a representation of the populous, is that true anymore? Because this bunch is representing itself. Maybe we've just misplaced our values and 'accidentally adopted some bad ones offered by oligarchs, losers, and crooks! It looks to me that while Americans are busy stomping out ants sent to them by oligarchs, a herd of dumb elephants is running over them. Money doesn't make someone smart. Don't ever believe that shit! But it does get to have a voice. A voice it uses to get people to listen long enough to be taken in by their bullshit ideas. What do you think? Is America vexed?

A Sexual Euphemism and Stimulating Word Puzzle

2011-05-17T15:08:00.000-07:00

Infidelity has always existed going back as far as the records of man earliest presence on earth. There is talk of a website, a dating site for married people who want to have sex with other people. I won't give the name of the site because someone may be reading this that’s married and ready to make a mistake. Those mistakes will hurt you and everyone who loves you. So I won't take part in that. Here's why:

Nothing in life is free, not even sex.

At some point in time along the way we pay for sex, married or not, just like everything else in life. Let me explain that. Sex comparatively speaking is like starting a fire. Picture a man or woman (alone) in the wilderness (life) and night fall (getting horny) is coming. This person knows they must prepare for it, so they plan (look for a partner) to make a fire using whatever they can find (someone) to do it with.

They find some soft dry cotton stuff (a person) in the forest, and they grab a dry twig, hollow out a larger piece of dry wood and place the cotton like stuff in the hollow hole (start touching one another). They put one end of the twig into the hole with the soft cotton and begin to roll it between both hands with open palms spinning the twig until smoke shows up (warm desire), and they become excited about the progress and spin the twig faster.

A small flame ignites and makes its appearance (the kiss), and they fan the flames (the kiss) until their fire gets hotter and bigger (heated passion).

They like the results of their effort and place more leaves, twigs and wood into the flames until a full blown fire is achieved (sex). The fire (sex) is warm and soothing. It feels good, and it keeps animals away, and at the same time it puts out light that can bring help to rescue them from (being alone) the woods. They feel comforted and relaxed in the heat (sex), and fall asleep.

When they awake, the whole forest around them (their life) is on fire.

Help is on the way, but they started a forest fire to get it, and the fire is so hot, burning them and the forest (life) around them.

Even in marriage every so often a couple must renew their interest in the relationship or the flame will burn low and can go out if something isn't done. This too will affect your life in the long run.

Being single is different in that multiple partners are experienced (each with their own highs and lows just like marriage), and you can be playing it well, by the "players" book, but it's only a matter of time before trouble (karma) finds you.

If you don't believe me take a look around you at the people you know. Look at the celebs in the news. What is the answer? How do we navigate the spiny road of sexual desire?

After all it's really just our nature.

We can't stop nature!

Well, there is another way. We can keep nature in check by being aware of its flammable ingredients and make choices intelligently and respectful of ourselves and others, particularly during marriage. Even if the marriage is no fun anymore. Sex is fire and we burn when we go without it, there's no getting around that. But if you keep in mind it's not free, there might be something in that way of thinking that helps keep us sexually smarter and the repercussions of our sexual activities at a minimal.

Tip: Create your own metaphors by your own rules using this post. Read the words in parenthesis and create sentences that do not include the forest.

Examples:

Alone, look for a partner, someone to do it with.

Find a person and start touching one another and warm desire shows up.

The kiss ignites a small flame that gets bigger and becomes a heated passion.

Sex! Sex is warm. It feels good, now relax, fall asleep, and awake to a life in flames.

These sentences are all present in the post you just read. How sexually oriented are you? Can you create more sentences using only the text above or only the words in parenthesis?

Don't Forget To Laugh

2011-05-14T21:51:00.000-07:00

Comedy like music is therapeutic, it tends to soothe or remove unhappy moods or an unpopular experience during the course of a day. Were it not for music and comedy life would be pretty darn boring at times, and quite frankly, less worth living. Like all entertainment, comedy has to address something in life you are familiar with, otherwise you won't relate to it. You must be able to relate to something before you can find humor in it.

Laughter on the other hand can be evoked on the spur of a moment.

Surprise is the heart of comedy. Everyone has a little comedian hidden inside of them that peaks it's head out from time to time. Have you noticed how occasionally a person who rarely laughs can sometimes make you laugh. They can say something impetuously and completely out of their character and just timely enough to be funny. It came as a "surprise" to you both, something unexpected, and it made you both laugh. Many good friendships have started that way.

Remember when we were kids how we capped on each other, based on each other, sometimes so hard that somebody got mad and wanted to fight.

What did we do? Why, we kept on capping on them till they started laughing again, and the laughing went on for hours.

Basing is an effective way to deal with a heckler (a sour moment, bad time etc) too. Hecklers want to stop the show, or take the attention away from the laugh for one reason or another. Hecklers also find themselves the blunt of the laughs because the comedian (you) was prepared for them and got even more laughs at their (the bad times) expense. It's all good!

Each time we laugh we add years to our lives, at least that's what we now know.

Laughing heals and it is scientifically proven to heal, and I'll even take that a step further and say there is hardly anything that a person might suffer from in life that laughter won't heal. It has been documented that some cancer patients who refused to take their condition any other way but humorously, were healed by having such a positive attitude about their illness that their body's immune system reinforced itself. In conclusion, I'd like to make a suggestion.

Look for humor in everything, even that which would otherwise anger you! It can only make you a happier person.

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Are Women Getting Aids More Than Men In The U.S.?

2011-05-07T22:20:00.000-07:00

Are women more apt to get aids than men? The fact is, Aids is still out there and very real to some of your friends. I will answer the question for you momentarily. First I want to share something with you that I think is relevant when discussing Aids. Not long ago my mother purchased a property and turned it into a half way house for the financially displaced. She had people from various walks of life staying there in any given month paying room and board at a price they could afford while saving money to pull themselves up in life. Some were runaways, veterans and some had fallen because of drug use.

The property was near my mother's own residence and for this reason, my brother or I would visit with her and our younger brother at least every other day in support of her efforts. During these visits, I became privy to certain events among the boarders. I learned of dates resulting in unprotected sex. One day I discovered something appalling, a startling reality. Almost all of these individuals were aware of the dangers of Aids, but behaved as though STD's did not exist. I concluded that at least a part of the reason was because these individuals put ecstasy at a hirer priority than caution or the safety of others. The worst of it is they didn't care about themselves or anyone else! They used sex as an escape from the anger, misery and unhappiness they felt about life.

It was not a lack of education about sexually transmitted diseases, not like you might find in a third world country or a remote area of the world where women are getting Aids faster than men, where women's rights are non existent or abused without recourse. Women have sex forced upon them and have no law to protect them in those places and they get Aids as a result. No, for your information, these men and women just didn't care about their safety or that of their partners. Let me illustrate with a true to life example using one of the men I met there. I will change his name for obvious reasons. We will call him Carlos. Carlos was a tall hansome guy, well spoken and about thirty years of age. A guy with a promising life before I met him. Carlos had been an Air Force veteran and star basketball player who was good with the ladies. However, that all changed for him when he found that he had contracted Aids while playing ball in Europe. He then, left the team and came back to the states to start his life over again. It was then that he became a resident of my mothers. He never mentioned having Aids.

We found out when another resident told my brother that he was visiting Carlos and saw a pill bottle that Carlos had left sitting out. He said the label identified Carlos and clearly stated " treatment for HIV". This is where the plot thickens! Carlos had previously disclosed to me that he was sleeping with a young lady who I had seen visiting with him. I asked if he was using protection, and he told me "I don't use condoms because they cut back on that good feeling, that real pleasure." I became concerned because I knew he had a way with women, I had seen him with several. I mentioned this to my mother who wasted no time in asking him if he was HIV positive, and he said yes he was and apologized for not telling her sooner. He said he was leaving anyway and going back to Chicago, and shortly afterwards moved out. We never saw him again. I heard from my brother about four years later that he saw Carlos getting off a trolley with a young woman in tow not far from that same part of town. My brother said he wanted to go talk to her but couldn't bring himself to say anything.

So what's the point of my sharing this with you? There are people out there who are selfish, cruel or don't care about your well being. You must think about yourself and trust no one! HIV infections are growing faster in women than men in the US. In the beginning, the numbers were about even between men and women who contract Aids, but since then recent polls show that the number of women infected is growing. Because women out number men some would assume that is the reason polls show their numbers exceeding that of men who are infected. Polls going back as far as 2009 are showing that women in the US are getting Aids at a hirer rate than men. The reason may surprise you.

It has been concluded that the increase in numbers of women getting Aids in recent years is because men deliver a higher concentration of the virus into the woman's vagina due to the volume of semen being more than that of a woman's vaginal fluids. This results in her getting the virus sooner than he does. It could also mean that fewer men are infecting more women due to people relaxing their precautions. It does not say uninfected men should use this as a reason to relax their use of condoms. Protection is for both partners until such time as a medical exam has been performed showing the results are negative in both people. Only then should unprotected sex take place. Please see links below for more information about Women living with Aids:

Why women are more likely to contract Aids than men
American women with Aids
One American state stats

Vulnerability

2011-04-25T15:07:00.001-07:00

Do you ever feel vulnerable? Ever notice how some people put on the hard shell or carries a persona that says hey I'm tough and I'm strong, or I don't like you, and all time great, I don't care. Well in that case pride comes before a fall. Others exuberate indifference, or emanate from a vibe that says you are not good enough for me. I'm better than you or the old; what are you looking at?

Many people have been hurt because they chose to be nice, kind, thoughtful and caring.

One day they allowed someone to come close or to get in who turned out to be total crap. And it came with a hefty price tag. At some point in the past, maybe it was a relationship, a friendship or a relative, and the result was abuse, neglect, misunderstood and abu
sed, cheated on, or attacked. So they retracted their feelings a
nd any display of emotion from that day forward. They were forever changed. NOT!

The person or people who treated you this way was wrong and have a problem they must confront one day and your's will probably be the face they see when they do. They don't know it but that behavior will eventually bring them irreversible pain and shame one day. I assure you it will be a lesson they wish they could have avoided.

But what about you?

You, have become a victim who has pulled their head and heart back into a shell like a turtle, or put it in a hole in the ground like an ostrich to hide the fear and protect yourself. And as a result you have hidden yourself from life's most rewarding gift, the gift of love, companionship, rewarding relationships. You're missing out on a healthy social life and developmental emotional experiences.

Well take it from me and listen closely; you cannot live your life as a result of what others have done to you, not and enjoy it. Your vulnerability is your strength. I know. I've tried it and it only caused me more suffering What was so bad about it is that I didn't have a name for what had happened to me, the reason I was suffering. Hindsight being 20/20 in a word it was the loss of joy in my life followed by loneliness, a secret loneliness? I thought I would never be able to pick myself up and fly again. I have been plucked clean, not a dime left. I had taken the little things in my life for granted out flying all the time. Things that were sweet and nice, the unique gifts present in my life I couldn't fully appreciate or didn't know how anymore. Mostly the latter. Because I lost sight of them in flight.

I only knew to keep moving straight ahead, to play it safe, keep myself hidden in plain sight.

I had to avoid embracing anything or anyone sincerely. Too risky. I had been convinced not to trust life but for myself and often not even myself. I was always checking the parameters, going over decisions twice and again even after it was too late to take them back anyway. I was mess! As a result of this kind of over protective behavior acquaintances with others was shallow and unfulfilling. I became a closet loner, popular when among friends, but deeply lonely all other times.

I believed this was the best way to live, that it kept my life protected and safe from monsters in human form.

Well, it was not healthy, and thinking that way was drawing me further and further away from the person I real was. That person whom everybody could feel and appreciate. Instead I had traded that for a judgmental attitude and an emptiness in my life that seemed inescapable.

I don't want anyone to go through that experience. You are not living life to the fullest if you are not opening up your heart and letting it make some choices and decisions. I know it is risky, but when you stop and think about it, everything in your life is a risk, especially those things which can bring you the most joy. Every time you walk out of the house you're putting yourself at risks, you're just not consciously aware of it.

You cannot shut one part of your heart down without the whole heart shutting down.

If you close one door in your heart and think you've done yourself a favor and protected the area where pain got in, it will actually shut out joy from the rest of your heart too. You cannot segment one part of your heart without adversely affecting your whole heart.

Joy is living and loving life, God, and the people around you with ALL your heart.

Go back to being you, regardless of any bad experiences you've had from thoughtless callous people. They come in all kinds of shapes and forms, and their minds do too. Life is indeed like a box of chocolates and indeed you never know what you're going to get, but you mustn't let that stop you from living it. We are talking about chocolate here right? This is how life's most valuable rewards are found and kept. So yes we are all vulnerable and we are all faced with risk.

But knowing that is half the battle won. You're much wiser now. So go ahead and think about letting go of your fears. And start enjoying life again. I think you're going to like all the beautiful people who will become attracted to you and you to them. Start now, today. Breath again and take flight. Take it one step at a time until you feel complete again, and free again. But fly again. Its who you are. (Ref: Brene' Brown, author and researcher)

How To Win In This Economy

2011-04-15T13:59:00.000-07:00

What are people doing to avert the current economical dilemma? There is no doubt anymore that we are in for a long haul and one way to tell is by the slow recovery in jobs. The whole world is experiencing a paradigm shift, one which will among other things move more technology into the way we live. This of course is affecting the way business is conducted and redefining the job market. Averting the problem may be the wrong approach.

It might be a better idea to re-invent you.

How do you go about re-inventing yourself? To begin with you must learn to think beyond the way you are accustomed to getting things done. Unless you are highly qualified, have a college degree of relevance and come with recommendations and notable references it will be hard to land a job that pays well.

Prices have been rising on the down low for the past eight years and there have been underlying efforts by the Republican Party to enhance "the rich" and "increase the poor" using the tax system, thereby eliminating the middle class.

You will either shop at the 'Mall' or the 'Dollar Store'; there would be no middle ground. There are some Democrats who support this ideology and might further the republican agenda if put into office. So what should you do?

You need to decide where you want to shop!

It probably wouldn't be a bad idea to use this time to prepare for the future and you could begin by returning to school. Re-educating yourself will put you on a path that would increase your options and position you to compete in the new environment which is fast and intelligent. Now is the time to return to school, while there is funding. It's a sure way to win in this economy and get ready for the next. And if you wait it may be too late. This is certainly not a good time to fold your arms and sit things out. There is no guarantee that school will make you rich one day but it will certainly open your mind to the new world and help you to maneuver yourself around in it. It will at the least expose you tonew opportunities for getting ahead in life. My advice: Don't fight with this economy, you're better off to prepare for when it's over.

Relationships: Dating vs Hanging Out

2011-04-07T23:44:00.000-07:00

Relationships are so much fun and always promising when you're in it for the right reasons. Being single I sometimes visit dating sites around the Internet. I start to daydream about the fun and exciting possibilities that lay ahead once I find the right girl. All things considered. I know it's best to go slow, to take it one day at a time. However, that is easier said than done.

Sometimes I tell myself if a person is going to be fun or not, I'll sense it when I'm with that person the first time we're out together. Then the daydream comes to a screeching halt, and my reality check says, you have to keep it real. She's not going to be delivered to your doorstep in a big beautiful gift box with a pretty yellow ribbon tide around it.

Yes these things take time and you should use that time to work on you. To tweek areas you need strengthened. It could be having more confidence in yourself, or establishing an exercise routine to get rid of that belly you're getting. Once you're on track you'll need to decide what you want to do.

So what should I do?

I've had to ask myself this question, and the answer is always the same. You have to date until you think you've found the right girl. Date? But that has swings, big drops, curves, frustration, you name it! Why can't I just meet her in a superm
arket, know she's the one and be lucky enough that she chooses me too? That happens but you can't count on it. You have to go out with her about two years before you'll really know enough about her to decide. However, that doesn't sound right either. You mean I have to date her two years to find out if she is the wrong person, and then I have to let her go? That could become a lot of 'two year screenings' not to mention the pain and suffering in the separations. So what should I do?

I think the anxiety and nervousness sets in because of the word 'date'.

In today's world when I hear that word, a little switch in my mind flips to rejection. Rejection is what I don't want to think about. The word date seems to put conditions on the possibilities that I get so excited about.

So I trained myself to think in terms of 'hanging out', and poof, stress is gone.

I can work with hanging out. Under those conditions neither of us is expecting anything from the other but their company and the fun in running around with them. It's a win win.

When you're dating someone you are looking for something and making a lot of judgement calls, some of them actually accurate. When dating, sometimes something happens that shouldn't have, and you aren't clear. And when you proceed with a relation like that trouble is usually looming down the road.

Why do they want to know how much money you make if you're only dating?

If all we're doing is hanging out then it doesn't bother me if things don't work out, and that's easier for both of us because we're not together for things to work out on an emotional level. I would hang-out with most of the girls I see on dating sites until they ask: How much money do you make? I think a guy should be banking paper before seeking a wife, but if all he is doing is dating, wouldn't it be 'gold digging' to ask how much money he makes before a date? Really it's true, that question is actually in the profile of many dating sites.

Must we be making $100,000.00 a year just to hang out with a girl from a dating site? The girls there seem to think so. Maybe these sites are looking at it this way: The girl you are hanging out with might turn into the girl you want, and you'll be ready based on how much money you make! No, then there's the question of, what if I've not decided yet, what's money got to do with anything? You see, there is where it gets to be complicated for me. So I've come to a conclusion.

No dating sites! I'll develop my charm affect, let their own intuition alert them of my interest, play the cat a mouse game, and if one I like catches me, or I catch her, then I'm cool. And so far it's working like a charm. There you go fella's. Good luck!

Radiation exposure from Japan

2011-03-31T19:20:00.000-07:00

Most people will acknowledge that we live in a world of uncertainty. However, when we hear of a nuclear disaster, it triggers a psychological effect, which can magnify feelings of uncertainty. This can bring about worry, feelings of helplessness, and a concern for our families and loved ones. I'm referring to the Fukushima Daiichi nuclear power plant in Japan, where radiation is leaking out into the air. An event brought about by a recent earthquake and tsunami there.

I have read about people scurrying about looking for potassium iodide pills for protection against thyroid cancer, buying up breathing filters to prevent inhalation of radiation and others staying in doors. This sounds like a scene in Japan, but it's here in the US. We live in excess of 5,000 miles away from the disaster. Is there a reasonable cause for this panic? In this blog, I wanted to help out a little, so I did some research on the matter. Here's what I came up with: (1) An easy chart to help you understand radiation exposure (3)

Now, let say this: It will be imperative that our scientist and research stay sharp about testing American waters for contaminated fish. You don't want to eat those. Radiation is bad by any approach we take. We need to stop using it. But easier said than done, so far anyway.

Road Rage

2011-03-24T22:35:00.000-07:00

I was driving on the freeway and about to exit when a late model Toyota Camry sped by me on my right side between me my exit as I was turning into it, and almost caused me to miss my exit. Good thing I looked twice because a green Ford bronco came up on my rear, darted around me and cut me off again chasing the Camry.

The Camry darted back onto the off ramp and so did the Bronco with two guys in it, the driver flailing his arms out the window and throwing things at the Camry from the truck. They both came to a stop behind cars waiting at a red light as I came up on the Bronco from the rear and slowed to a stop.

The driver of the Bronco jumped out and in a fast pace went to the rear of his vehicle open the camper shell door and took out what looked like a golf club, he then strutted back around his vehicle and up to the Camry and bashed the rear window in. There were a lot of cars at this 4 lane light stop but no one sad anything.

We were all in shock!

The driver of the Camry then got out of his car, went over to the Bronco's driver who had gotten back into his truck after breaking that guys rear window out. And to everybody's surprise, grabbed the guy in the truck around the throat and proceeded to put his fist through the side window of the Bronco. The guy in the truck just sat still and his passenger did too.

After a few seconds the Camry driver who stood about 6'5" and looked to weigh about 250 lbs released the other guys throat and walked away. Both drivers left without further incident. Are incidents of road rage increasing in your area? Has it been escalating lately? Watch out! People are reacting badly to otherwise mundane things lately. Keep your cool.