Personal Change

Qondio is a fantastic site for backlinks

2011-02-28T09:26:00.000-08:00

Qondio is a unusual site where you can write articles or intels about anything and everything you like. None of your intels need to have anything to do with your website or a certain niche, even though Qondio suggests a topic each week.

Each intel can be linked to one of your websites (even deep linking to pages) and you can get a very powerful and useful backlink from that page.

Qondio
itself has a Page Rank of 7 and some of my intels are PR 3, while my profile is PR 4. All this, even though I have only been on there for a year.

I don't think that there is a place on the web where you can get such fantastic results for a signup fee of $5, a bit of networking and a few articles.

Highly recommended!

Svengali resurrected

2010-08-30T05:46:00.000-07:00

More than a hundred years ago, French author George du Maurier
brought to life the character of Svengali, and to this day
the name evokes images of a master hypnotic manipulator...
one who exerts unnatural control over others.

While Svengali himself began in a work of fiction, the ability
to get everything you want in life is determined, to a large
extent, on your ability to inspire and influence others to
give you what you want -- in return for the good stuff you
give them.

So how would you like to get more from life? More pleasure,
more profit, more time to play?

If so, I'd like to introduce you to The Svengali System from
master hypnotist Jonathan Chase. It's not at all what you'd
expect -- and it's exactly what you need...

Click here to learn more:

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Ranking the NLP Trainers: Overdurf and Silverthorn

2010-05-12T11:45:00.000-07:00

I always liked "Training Trances", "Beyond Words", and "Dreaming Realities" and was always intrigued about how Julie Silverthorn and John Overdurf would be on stage, because I had heard that they come across unbearably sweet and cuddly.

Well, they did come across as the Ken and Barbie of the NLP world, but they were aware of it and made it fun to watch their interaction. This was probably the best team presentation I have ever witnessed, because they were amazing at switching between each other, thereby utilising quite an interesting level of nested loops.

The seminar was on coaching and it was fun. They are very good teachers, covered not only basics, but also quite advanced stuff and went from everyday applications to spiritual implications, which I really enjoyed.

Not sure if their work is so different that it warrants a new name: "Humanistic Neuro Linguistic Programming" but I guess differentiation is important.

Biggest negative about the course: it was a four day event and I really think it could and should have been a two day event.

Biggest personal shock: I met a lady on the course who charged (then) fifteen times my rate for a personal sessions, which really rattled my mindset about my self-worth, especially since I thought that she was utterly useless as a therapist or coach...

How to stop snoring

2010-05-02T17:36:00.000-07:00

Let me start by saying that this is not supposed to be medical advice and neither should it be used if you are suffering from sleep apnea.

This is just a little technique that has worked well for me and for some friends of mine.

Unfotunately, I can't remember where I heard about this technique, so I can't give proper credit.

And the technique is - drum roll please - sucking your thumb!

That's it!

Sucking your thumb for about 30 seconds before going to sleep will relax your throat muscles considerably, which often will lead to a measurable decrease in snoring.

Tune in next time when we learn about how to stop sucking your thumb.

Good luck and sleep well!

How to get into rapport with your unconscious mind, part 2

2010-04-11T12:05:00.000-07:00

Get into a good state and imagine your unconscious like a small child somewhere in the middle of your sternum.

It would be best to have it look like you did when you were about 8 or 9 years old.Imagine that you are having a conversation and telling your unconscious about the thing that are important to you.

This could be money, love, happiness, whatever you wish.When telling your "inner child" about these things, imagine that it is smiling and looking really happy.

At the end of your session, imagine giving your self a big hug and then going on with your daily tasks.

This whole process shouldn't take more than 5 minutes and if you did it properly, you will only have to do it once.Good luck and be happy!

How to get into rapport with your unconscious mind, part 1

2010-04-11T11:59:00.000-07:00

If you have been involved in any kind of self-development field, have dabbled in positive thinking or tried to apply the law of attraction in your life, you might have noticed that these techniques/tools/systems seem to work wonderfully well for some people and not so well for others.

In my experience as a hypnotist, coach, NLP guy, etc. for more than 20 years, the main difference lies in how people react to these techniques/tools/systems on an inner level.

Some psychologists estimate that 90% of our actions and thoughts are directed by our unconscious mind, the part of you that is responsible for breathing, heartbeat, etc.

If we sit in front of a statue of Buddha and shout for days “I am happy, I am happy”, or “Money flows to me easily and effortlessly”, but our unconscious mind does not believe in such statements, then nothing will change in our life.

It is easy to see that our unconscious is much more powerful than our conscious mind – just try holding your breath for 2 minutes or so. After a while, you will start gasping for air, whether the 2 minutes are up or not. The unconscious mind will get what it wants – in this case, oxygen.

In order to get more of what we (the conscious mind) want, we need to make sure that we are in total rapport with our unconscious mind and be really good friends with it.

One method is to think about something that feels right and notice the details. Where is that feeling located in your body, what kind of feeling is it, etc.
Then think about something that feels wrong and notice the details. Where is that feeling located in your body, what kind of feeling is it, etc.

Now think about the thing/experience/manifestation that you wish for and notice the details. Do they correspond with the right or with the wrong feeling?

Guess what: If they correspond with the wrong feeling, you will not get what you want, because on an unconscious level the decision has been made that this would be wrong for you to have.

Here is what we can do: when thinking about the thing you want and noticing the wrong feeling, imagine that you can grab the thing you want like it is a physical object and throw it away into the distance. Deep breath. Then imagine that it is coming back like a boomerang, but this time it is coming back into the good feeling. Do this flamboyantly, make noise, make big movements, that is how the unconscious gets interested in what you are doing. If it does not work the first time, do it again, until you can think about the thing you want and it feels like you deserve to have it.

Ranking the NLP Trainers: Jamie Smart

2010-04-07T08:43:00.000-07:00

Jamie Smart is excellent at marketing. His company, Salad Ltd, has put out lots of products and he has marketed them very well.

Do I like his products? Not really. Maybe it is because I am actually quite experienced in NLP, but I think that everything he has put out (alright, I have not seen all his stuff, just bought some of the "advanced" things) is basically for beginners. Since there are more beginners than experts, it's probably another proof that Jamie is great at marketing.

I guess I would say that he is okay. He knows his stuff and seems to be a good teacher and a caring guy. You could do much worse.

On a personal level, he is a very nice guy, as we had a few beers together at different conferences.

Ranking the NLP Trainers: Tad James

2010-04-06T04:36:00.001-07:00

I had read books on personal development for years and had also already encountered NLP through the books of Anthony Robbins, but I had never attended a live seminar until I traveled to London to see Tad James deliver "The Secret of Creating Your Future".

This was sometime in the early 90s and since I had not heard of Tad James before and just went because I liked the title of the seminar, I had no idea what to expect.

Here is my review in a nutshell:

Seminar: excellent
Trainer: patronising

The seminar was really good and I learned a lot of tools, some of which I still use.

It went like this:

find out about your time line
clear past blocks/limiting decisions
clear past negative feelings
align your values
put good stuff into your future time line

Looking back at the seminar with my current knowledge, the biggest complaint would be that it was a 3-day seminar. I normally teach all those things in maybe half a day, including different applications and methods of using your time line.

My biggest complaint back then was that I and other delegates felt quite unsupported when we had questions or challenges.

And I really hated that the whole course seemed to be a setup for selling us other seminars, books, and tape sets (remember audio tapes? Yes, I am that old!).

As I was so inexperienced, I fell for it and bought some tapes, books and also attended an intro day on Huna, which was just not very good. I trained with several other people in Huna and they would eat Tad James for breakfast.

Oh yes, Tad James, let's see: Back then I did not know better, so thought he must be quite good, but listening to his tapes now and having seen him since, I must say that he is the most patronising NLP/Personal Development trainer I have ever encountered!

He talks down to you. He does not answer questions properly. He is obviously so happy when he uses "clever" language patterns. He is constantly trying to upsell stuff (not as badly as his disciple David Shephard, but it still gets pretty annoying).

I met his son Matthew once at an NLP conference and while he had good rapport skills, he came across as a lightweight.

One last thing about Tad: in 2000 he (well, Matthew actually did it) bought the web domains www.richardbandler.com and www.johngrinder.com and had them forwarded to his own web page. However, he did not know that Grinder and Bandler had their names trademarked and so they had him hand over the sites pretty quickly.

Still, quite a despicable and unethical act, methinks.

Make good decisions!

Ranking the NLP Trainers: Paul McKenna

2010-04-06T04:36:00.000-07:00

I went on the first large-scale NLP Practitioner course that Richard Bandler conducted in the UK and he was promoted by Paul McKenna and Michael Breen.

Paul was the odd one out. He was obviously the most famous one to the audience (Paul used to be a radio DJ and TV personality), but as a trainer he was just not very good.
He was given the easiest techniques to demonstrate, but even there he often fell into the trap of picking someone from the audience who was his "type" (blond, long legs) and who had deer-in-headlight-syndrome.

I remember one time where he tried to get this girl relaxed on stage and every time she was about to close her eyes, she looked at the audience, started giggling and exclaimed how excited she was to be on stage...

On a personal level, Paul is very friendly. You can talk to him about lots of different things, the only problem is that he has absolutely no attention span. But that might just come with the territory when you are a celebrity...

Make your own decisions!

The Svengali Hypnosis System

2010-04-05T06:33:00.000-07:00

The Svengali System

I don't usually recommend other people's products, but this is something that I truly do think you should share.

I'm now able to get in to Jonathan Chase's Svengali System installation class and it's well worth it. It installs everything you need to know to do this stuff without loooong winded lectures or a load of study.

It's sold as the easy way to hypnotically influence and it is just that.

The Svengali System

But you should make your own mind up and to allow you to do that Jon gives a complete no hassle satisfaction guarantee with no time limit!

Did you get that No Time Limit, so you can check this out for 6months or even a year which is awesome because sometimes we buy these things and life gets in the way before we really go for it.

Now the link below will take you to a selling page and to be honest when you buy it, you can make some money off it, as well.

So if you want to enhance both our lives click this link and do yourself, and myself, a favour.

The Svengali System

Must dash, be in touch soon.

Let's talk about phone phobia

2010-04-05T02:13:00.000-07:00

It is kind of funny to think that I have worked in the field of NLP for more than 10 years now and still have so many issues to work on .

Well, at least that should mean that I won’t run out of material for this blog and it should also help me improve myself in leaps and bounds by going public about what I intend to do about those issues.

Let’s talk about phone phobia: My whole life I was scared of calling people on the phone. Even answering the phone gives me a horrible feeling, but calling people, especially people I might not know, is worse than just about anything I can think of.

So how does the Universe tell me that this is something I have to work on? It gives me a 2-week deadline to call 100 people in order to set up appointments with them.

Arrgh!

Since I already budgeted 2 days for feeling sorry for myself and moping around, I should now really go for curing the phobia.

Here’s what I have in mind:

1. Take a SUDS reading
2. Check for psychological reversals using muscle testing
3. Accept the fear and release it using the Release Technique
4. Apply the NLP phobia cure
5. Clean up tag ends using EFT

I will keep you updated.

And the allergy goes pooof! NLP Allergy Cure works!

2010-04-05T02:12:00.000-07:00

Well, whaddayaknow?

I don’t know why I should be surprised at all, but my cat allergy seems to be gone. Just like that. Took me maybe 5 minutes. While lying in bed. And to think that I had suffered from it my whole life and that I suffered from it after having known about the NLP allergy cure for 10 years!

People, more things are possible than you would believe!

Good luck!

NLP and me - allergy cure

2010-04-05T02:11:00.000-07:00

For some annoying reason I find it exceptionally difficult to use NLP and related technologies on myself.

Last week I helped a client with dyslexia and another one with a math phobia. I also helped a girl overcome her wheat allergy.

No big deal, that’s what we’re supposed to be able to do after our Prac or Master Prac courses.

But here’s the challenge: whenever I want to use any of those techniques on myself, I tend not to get the result I want more often than not.

Normally, that’s not such a big deal, because I can ask one of my students to assist me. but since we SHOULD be able to help ourselves with these change technologies, I wanted to challenge myself and deal with my cat allergy.

My cat allergy was never a big issue, as I was never really that fond of cats, so I did not deal with it. (I think that if the issue is not really limiting, we should just accept it. I am scared to death of tigers, but since they are unlikely to attack me in my flat in Europe, there is no reason to cure the phobia, is there?)

But I just started going out with a lovely girl who owns two cats. Two very affectionate cats. Two cats who made me sneeze my lungs out after my first visit. I could now either try my Jedi Mind trick on the girl (“These are not your cats. Give them away!”) or cure my allergy. I opted to go for the latter approach.

Here’s what I intend to do:

1. Accept the allergy. (Instead of seeing it as a problem, accept the existence of the allergy and then get rid of any negative emotions related to the allergy using the Release Technique)

2. Reframe the allergy. (Thank my unconscious mind for protecting me from this threat and telling it to stand down and allow the allergen to pass through my body without causing any defensive reaction)

3. Muscle test my allergic response and see if there are any psychologica reversals stopping me from successfully curing the allergy.

4. Use the NLP allergy cure.

5. Muscle test the result.

6. Visit my girlfriend and see whether we can have a great time without me sneezing the romance out of the room.

I will keep you updated!

Do not try this at home!

2010-04-05T02:08:00.000-07:00

This is just a quick disclaimer that what I am writing on this blog is only about my own experiences with NLP and related techniques.
I am not a medical doctor and I am only sharing my own opinions and experiences on this blog.
No action or inaction should be taken based solely on the contents of this information; instead, readers should consult appropriate health professionals on any matter relating to their health and well-being.
And now back to our previously scheduled programme…