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href="http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/new-years-resolution/">Why Your New Year’s Resolutions will fail</a>. I highly recommend you read it because it will probably light a much needed fire under your as$# and my post here is the gasoline needed to make sure your as#$# catches completely on fire if you sit on it for too much longer. Now that I’m done with my crass analogy, let’s get to the point.</p><h2><strong>15 Weeks Left</strong></h2><p>Counting this week, we have approximately <strong><span
style="color: #ff6600;"><em>15 weeks to accomplish goals for 2010</em></span></strong> and  I’m planning to make the best of it. I’d like to invite you to do the same. You might be wondering why I’m writing this now as opposed to sometime in December. By December you will be too busy eating fruitcakes, drinking booze at holiday parties, and regretting all the shi3$# you didn’t do this year, while making New Year’s Resolutions only to repeat this vicious cycle all over again.</p><h2>7 STEPS TO GETTING YOUR AS#$# IN GEAR OVER THE NEXT 15 WEEKS</h2><ul><li><strong>Revisit Your Goals: </strong>The first thing I want you to do is visit your goals that you set this year. How many of them have you accomplished? If the answer is none, then you have some work to do. What might surprise you is that you can actually accomplish all of them in the next 15 weeks. It comes down to one simple thing. Take a little bit of action every single day. There is a tremendous power in momentum. Feel free to take a look back at my <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/a-7-step-guide-to-setting-and-accomplishing-goals-for-2010/">7 step guide to setting and accomplishing goals for 2010. </a></li><li><strong>Identify the Most Important Ones: </strong>Hopefully you set quite a few goals in 2010. I know that life happens and certain things fall by the wayside. Don’t beat yourself up about that. One of the things that might happen here is that the most important ones will become the ones that you can actually accomplish in the next 15 weeks. That’s fine. It’s better than accomplishing none of the goals you set. In fact I recommend choosing the ones that you can actually get done.</li><li><strong>See Where You are At With Them:</strong> If you have chosen the right ones (i.e. the goals you have taken some action towards), then <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/how-to-measure-progress-towards-your-2010-goals/">tracking your progress towards your goals</a> should be fairly manageable. A tracking system of some sort is really important. But one thing I want you to keep in mind is the perspective that you are looking at your goals from. When you review your goals, <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/what-angle-are-you-looking-at-things-from/">don’t think about how far you have to go, but focus on how far you have come. </a></li><li><strong>Focus on Today:</strong> I know that telling you to<a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/focus-on-what-you-can-do-today/"> focus on today </a>probably seems counter-intuitive and almost contradictory to the nature of this entire post, but there’s a reason for that. I set a goal last year of 1000 subscribers to this blog by the end of q1. I didn’t hit my goal until just a few weeks ago. Don’t concern yourself too much with the things you don’t control. You can only do what you can do today, so give it your all.</li><li><strong>Let go and Give it all up:</strong> One final contradiction to all of this.  I want you to give up the attachment you have to any of these goals. I know it sounds insane, but let’s go out on a limb together and jump off it.  Below is a trailer to a short documentary I saw recently. It’s not an affiliate link  and yes I would have put one there if they had an affiliate program.  Many of you may have heard of the Sedona Method and dismissed it because the simplicity of it seemed ridiculous. I did the same. A friend on Facebook actually recommended this documentary to me and it only costs $4.97. I found it to be quite profound. The idea for this blog came from a visit to Sedona so I thought I&#8217;d check out the film and I was very pleased with it. I think you will be too.</li></ul><p><object
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href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/a-culture-of-expectations-a-glimpse-into-the-indian-community/">importance not living according to other people’s expectations</a>. Part of the reason I wrote that post is that I needed an outlet to express what I was feeling. As I thought more and more about the conversation I had with my parents, I started to find myself sinking into a deep, frustrating, anxiety-ridden depression. I had a series of self deprecating thoughts that kept building on each other that went something like this:<br
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/> <span
style="color: #888888;">“ Wow, this is kind of lame”</span></em></span></p><p><span
style="color: #888888;"><em>“ Even my own parents think I can’t figure this dating thing out” </em></span></p><p><span
style="color: #888888;"><em>“I feel like a fu#$#ing loser because of this whole situation”</em></span></p><p><em><span
style="color: #888888;">“ What the hell is wrong with me?” </span><br
/> </em></p><p>Before I knew it I felt like complete shi#$3. The power of questions can work in a negative way too. By saturday it was so bad, that I could barely get myself out of bed (even though I did and the surf sucked balls). It’s amazing how challenging it can be sometimes to take your own advice.  But in that moment I realized, I had created a hell of alot of suffering for myself and that all my suffering, pain, and happiness were only caused by three things.</p><p><strong>Attachment to an Outcome:</strong> Over the course of the week I started to dwell on the fact that it had been a while since I have been in a relationship. Anytime I went to a networking event and was talking to any girl, all I could think about was the conversation I had with my parents over the course of the weekend (healthy huh?). I’m sure that did wonders for how attractive I came across. I felt this incredible amount of pressure for every interaction I was having to lead somewhere and of course that was a perfect way to ensure that I would disguise all of the true <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/self-acceptance/">magnetic qualities that lie within</a>.</p><p><strong>External Validation: </strong>Don’t get me wrong. I like connecting with people as much as the next person. Hell, I don’t ever live alone because I hate being by myself. I have a strong need for affiliation. But, it’s a very fine line. When a need for affiliation starts to border on a need for external validation, then you really risk putting yourself in a very unhappy place. Self actualization is truly about getting to a place where your energy and emotions are not impacted by external validation. I’m not saying I’m there, but I’m starting to become aware of what gets you there.</p><p>In the<a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/the-4-phases-of-relationships-that-will-eventually-self-destruct/"> 4 phases of relationships that will self destruct</a>, I should have mentioned that you should not be looking to a relationship to complete you, but rather it should complement you. To be honest, I’ve been feeling this funk of “this is the missing piece of the perfect puzzle.” If you’ve been reading here for a while, you know that I live a life that is pretty damn amazing and I look forward to it everyday.  So, to feel that I’m missing something would probably seem ridiculous looking from the outside in.</p><p><strong>Lack of Presence:</strong> We’ve talked endlessly here at the Skool of Life about presence, so I’m not going to go too deep into this. But lack of presence is essentially a byproduct of the other two causes of suffering. It’s impossible to be searching for external validation and attached to an outcome, while being present. Both those things exist in a future moment and thus kill in any shot of you being present.</p><p>At this point I’m convinced that putting and end to suffering comes down to these three simple things. While the concepts are simple, implementing them not so much. Like I said, I have a hard time following my own advice and found myself in a funk that I had not felt for quite some time.  So, I don’t have all the answers. How do you incorporate all of the above into your life? Let me know so I can start moving in that direction.</p> <a
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href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/a-culture-of-expectations-a-glimpse-into-the-indian-community/"><img
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style="text-align: center;"><img
class="aligncenter" src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2733/4146833909_872245c6c7.jpg" alt="4146833909 872245c6c7 A Culture of Expectations: A Glimpse into the Indian Community" width="500" height="332" title="A Culture of Expectations: A Glimpse into the Indian Community" /></p><p>Once every few weeks, I go home to my parents’ house and we have dinner together. In the last year my relationship with my parents has been better then it’s ever been. At least I’d like to think it is. We don’t argue about much anymore, and I actually look forward to seeing them every few weeks. Earlier this week, I  was at my parents house and that thread that every single Indian person over the age of thirty(who is not in a relationship) dreads started: marriage and dating.</p><p>First my mom showed me wedding pictures of a cousin who got married a few weeks back. Then she showed me pictures of another cousin’s new born baby. Then she started to tell me about how the people in the Indian community were asking if  I was going to be getting married anytime soon. In fact they’d asked so many times that she and my dad have had to develop a series of smart A#$#$ responses so that people would stop asking. Some of these responses were funny so, I’ll share them below:<br
/> <em><br
/> </em></p><ul><li><em>Dad: If you’ve heard our kids have gotten married, please let us know</em></li><li><em>Mom: I don’t have any grandkids that I know of</em></li><li><em>My own smart AS#$# response if I’m ever asked: Sure I’d love to meet a nice Indian girl if you know any that also like girls. (I just want to see the look on some old Indian lady’s face when I tell her that). Even if she goes into cardiac arrest, it&#8217;s nothing to worry about because there&#8217;s bound to be a doctor nearby. </em></li></ul><p>All of this I think was a not so subtle way to ask “why the hell don’t you have a girlfriend yet?”  So instead of arguing which I used to do, I thought to myself “shit that’s going to make a great blog post”. Thanks mom <img
src='http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' title="A Culture of Expectations: A Glimpse into the Indian Community" /></p><p><strong><br
/> </strong></p><h2><strong>A Culture of Expectations</strong></h2><p>In the community I grew up in, we are raised with lots of expectations. There are certain life paths that you follow and certain ones you don’t.</p><ul><li><strong>Get Good Grades:</strong> If you’re one of those kids who had your report card put on the refrigerator when you got good grades,  I can’t relate to the way you were raised at all. When you’re Indian, nobody puts your report cards on refrigerators because it’s expected that you get straight A’s. If we got an A-, people would ask you us why we didn’t get an A+. I have a cousin who’s grandfather was a math professor, so for every birthday he got a new math book. I guess the upside is that he’s good at math. So, basically the expectation is high academic standards from time time we actually get a report card. This isn’t so bad, since it’s sets us up to do well in life.</li><li><strong>Go to a Good College: </strong>If an Indian kid told his parents that he didn’t want to go to college, he’d probably be disowned. I’m not joking. An Indian kid knows he’d have to be out of his damn mind to even put this theory to the test. Ramit Sethi even said it in his book <a
href="http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/">I will Teach you To Be Rich</a>,  not going to college would never be an option. Again, this isn’t such a bad thing. But, people will judge you for where you went to college. If you go somewhere second rate, you won’t be talked about at the Indian parties that your parents go to every week.<span
style="color: #888888;"> <strong><span
style="color: #ff6600;">If you go to a good school, then you’ve got many more expectations coming. </span></strong></span></li><li><strong>Study Something Practical: </strong>This is one of my personal favorites since I’ve never used my degree in any of the jobs I’ve had. I have a degree in environmental economics and policy, and the only thing I remember is taking a class where the professor was talking about how to maximize the amount of milk you could get out of a cow. Mention the idea of studying something that has no practical use and you’ll get some blank stares from people in the community. Part of me wants to find the UC-Berkeley course catalog, find the most obscure major in it, and tell everybody that was what I studied. The way I see it, I might was well have some fun if I’m going to put up with this.</li><li><strong>Go to Med School, Law School, Become an Engineer or a Doctor:</strong> I know Indians are not alone in this. I’ve heard Persians, Asians, and immigrants in general fit this mold.  The question people will ask if you don’t go down one of these tried and true paths is “well, then what the hell are you going to do?” Becoming a blogger and planning to spend a year traveling the world to surf is definitely not on this list. Fortunately, I have a sister who has satisfied our quota by going to medical school.</li><li><strong>Get Married before your 30(if you’re a girl, soon after for guys): </strong>This of course is what inspired me to write this post. My mom started telling me that people have certain expectations of you when you’re in your early 30’s. One of them is that you get married.  My stock on paper is apparently plummeting by the moment. What started out as “we don’t put any pressure on you about this” turned into a phone call from my grandmother who wanted to know when she was going to be able to wear a sari that she had bought for my wedding.</li></ul><p>Then while my dad was washing the car, the first thing he  asked me was  “so, have you found a girlfriend, or have you seen any girl that you like? Are you even trying?”  I didn’t argue.  I told him about <a
href="http://www.okcupid.com/profile/indiansurfr">my attempt to use Okcupid </a>and the overall inefficiencies of sending out one email after another (maybe I should outsource it to India). I explained to him that I wasn’t sitting in my apartment like a hermit and that I&#8217;ve been making a significant effort to meet people, but this stress about is not really going to to help the situation.</p><p>I’ve said before that that it’s really important to<a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/getting-what-you-want/"> make the distinction between settling and settling down</a>. Although I grew up with Indian values, the more I’ve drilled into my own personality with this journey, the more I’ve realized that I don’t identify with Indian values. I don’t even want to raise my own kids with many of these values. My dad asked if I’d ruled out Indian girls completely, and I said “no, but for the most part I don’t see myself with an Indian girl. I’m not closed off to the possibility. But the probability doesn&#8217;t seem that high.” When he mentioned that there are girls they could introduce me to, part of me was tempted to have him setup a bunch of dates and then write a series here on the blog about it. Then, at least something useful would come out of it.</p><p>What this comes down to is something simple. <strong><span
style="color: #ff6600;">You should not live your life based on other people’s expectations. The Indian community might have expectations, but they are not the ones who have to live with my decisions.</span></strong> After the 500 person wedding that they want to attend on my tab, they won’t give a shi#$#. They’ll find some other kid who hasn’t gotten married to gossip and worry about.</p><p>The truth is I’m just starting to learn quite a bit about who I really am. A house in the suburbs, white picket fences, and an escape from my life once a year doesn’t seem like a very rich way to live life. In fact with a world so vast, I feel like this would only be living a small percentage of my life.  If I was bordering 40 and hadn’t been on a date in 10 years, then maybe my parents would have a reason to worry. So to my mom and dad, what  I can say is this. If you have taught me anything, it’s that <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/why-worrying-is-a-complete-waste-of-time-and-energy/">worrying is a waste of time and energy</a>. If I’m not going to waste my time an energy worrying about this, then maybe you should do the same. The community will never stop talking because that’s what they do.</p> <a
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class="aligncenter" src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3101/2292471735_1f0c1d53fa.jpg" alt="2292471735 1f0c1d53fa The 4 Phases of Relationships That Will Eventually Self Destruct" width="500" height="332" title="The 4 Phases of Relationships That Will Eventually Self Destruct" /></p><p>This post may piss some people off and if any of my ex-girlfriends were reading this they might tell me to fu#$# off and go to hell!!. They’d also tell me I’m a stubborn AS#$#hole as well.  I’d probably agree and take off. <strong> <span
style="color: #ff6600;">I think the phrase “relationships are about a compromise” is a broad over-generalization that can be taken too far.   So, let’s break down exactly how this happens. </span><br
/> </strong></p><h3><strong>The 4 Phase of a Relationships that will Self Destruct </strong></h3><p><strong><br
/> The Honeymoon Phase: </strong>Boy meets girl. He’s attracted to her, she’s attracted to him. Sparks fly, wild passionate sex goes on for weeks on end and everybody is on cloud 9. It’s off to a seemingly perfect start.  The initial spark or chemistry now turns into what is commonly known as the honeymoon phase of any relationship. In this phase the other person can do no wrong and your judgement is not clouded, but non-existent because of your feelings.  You generally are walking down the street with an ear to ear goofy grin that makes it obvious to the world around you that you are clearly infatuated or having some seriously good sex. If your life was a Bollywood movie, this would be the time for some song and dance. (I forgot.  There’s no sex in Bollywood movies).<br
/> <strong><br
/> Compromise/Making Changes: </strong>This is where the problems start. After the honeymoon phase is over, you start to come back to reality and the things that annoy you in anybody will start to annoy you in the person you are dating or in a relationship with. That’s when the idea of compromise and making changes comes into the picture. I’m not as stubborn as this post might make me appear, but I think that compromise is something that needs to be considered carefully. If you find yourself continually making changes in order to please another person, that is in my mind the biggest warning sign that your relationship will eventually self destruct. It become especially dangerous when you start compromising your core values.<br
/> What’s really stupid about this, if you are the one trying to change another person,  is that you are trying to change a person into what you want them to be, yet it wasn’t what you were necessarily attracted to in the first place. So if you do succeed in getting them to change and then you wonder why the interest or attraction fades, that might have something to do with it. Food for thought.</p><p><strong>Resentment: </strong>A person will often start to make changes in order to please another person.  It’s often done out of fear of being alone (yes I’m speaking through experience). But eventually you make so many changes that you’re longer yourself and you start to resent the other person. All of a sudden this person you were initially infatuated with has turned you into a version of yourself that you’re no longer comfortable with.  In a post about <a
href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-a-past-relationship-10-steps-to-peacefully-move-on/">letting go of past relationships</a>, Lori at Tiny Buddha talked about this idea of re-connecting with you were outside of the relationship. In my mind, you should never have disconnected with that in the first place. But,I think it&#8217;s something you only learn after making this mistake.<br
/> <strong><br
/> The Self-Destruct Mechanism:</strong> At this point it’s only a matter of time before the relationship will self destruct. How long this phase will last varies from person to person. In my case it lasted about 8 months. I know what you are thinking. “Srini is out of his damn mind.”  If you just realized that, you must be a new reader <img
src='http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' title="The 4 Phases of Relationships That Will Eventually Self Destruct" /> .  Why we hang on when we really should let go comes down to something pretty basic. We have a love-hate relationship with attention. I think all people do to some degree. Sure, the relationship is a giant pain in the AS#$#, but we don’t want to be alone and we will do everything we can to make it work even though what we’re doing is trying to force square pegs into round holes. Fortunately as we get older we start to gain a much stronger understanding of <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/self-actualization-in-the-maslow-hierarchy/">self actualization and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs</a>. To cover the topic of external validation will require another post entirely (it’s coming, don’t worry), so I won’t go too into detail here. But the root of almost all problems in my mind is that we are dependent on something outside ourselves to complete us.</p><p>I’ve been through these 4 phases and I know I’m not alone because I’ve seen friends of mine go through this exact same pattern. So, there you have it. If you find yourself headed down this path, it might be time to reevaluate your relationship.</p> <a
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class="aligncenter" src="http://farm1.static.flickr.com/128/336084384_f01b09b982.jpg" alt="336084384 f01b09b982 How to Find the Fuel for Your Creative Fire" width="500" height="332" title="How to Find the Fuel for Your Creative Fire" /></p><p>For some reason, in the year that I have been a blogger, I have never had any shortage of new ideas for blog posts. It’s not uncommon for me to sit down at the computer and write 3-5 blog posts in a writing session. You might be wondering how I do that, so I’m going to break it down for you. It&#8217;s not that complicated and something that anybody can tap into.</p><p>One thing I’ve come to learn over this last year is that we all have moments in which our creativity is  at its peak.  If you pay attention for about a month, you’ll probably notice some patterns in your ability to come up with blog post ideas. There are certain experiences or events in your life that always result in great blog post ideas. <span
style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>The key is becoming aware of what these experiences or events are. This is what I call the fuel for your creative fire.</strong></span></p><p>For me the fuel for my creative fire is riding waves.  During the weeks when the surf is good and the waves are big, I come up with some of my best ideas. In fact, it’s not uncommon for me to come out of a surf session with half a dozen new ideas for blog posts. The strange thing about this is that I’m not thinking about blogging at all when I’m in the water. Since I’m forced to go into an extreme state of presence, my mind goes blank, completely clear, and puts me in an optimal state for creative thinking(something that  seems to happen on an unconscious level). <strong><span
style="color: #ff6600;">Once you can identify the fuel for your fire, not only will your ability to come up with ideas improve dramatically, but so will your writing.</span></strong></p><p><strong>Possible Sources of Your Personal Fuel</strong></p><ul><li><strong>Early Morning:</strong> I don’t know about you, but I when I wake up in the morning I always seem to have new ideas for blog posts. I encourage you to just put pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard first thing in the morning. Don’t check email, don’t read other posts, don’t respond to comments. When you first wake up your mind is really clear and it’s likely in an optimal state for doing your best work. In fact, I’ recommend you check out <a
href="http://the99percent.com/tips/6658/the-key-to-creating-remarkable-things">this brilliant article on how to create something remarkable</a>. I&#8217;ve done this every morning for about a week and it&#8217;s lead to a steady stream of new content. If you don&#8217;t have an idea, then use the time to brainstorm.</li><li><strong>Music</strong>:  Music is a very powerful thing and can have a tremendous impact on your writing. Sometimes the lyrics of a song can be turned into blog posts that are truly stellar. I’m not sure why music has the impact that it does. Perhaps it’s because it gives you a great opportunity to go into a fantasy/daydream world where alot of great things happen.</li><li><strong>Exercise:</strong> Certain forms of exercise can also serve as the fuel for your creative fire. Runners often seem to find many analogies to running and life. I also think the consistent endorphin releases and adrenaline get you into a fairly creative state.</li><li><strong>Nature: </strong>I encourage you spend as much time in nature as possible on a daily basis. This has done wonders for my life and for my blog. I learn so much by observing the world around me closely and you’ll start to see all of these miracles in the world, many of which will inspire great content.</li></ul><p>The truth is that we are all incredibly creative. But understanding how to be creative on a consistent basis is something that many bloggers are challenged with. Search for the fuel for your fire and you’ll overcome that challenge with ease.</p> <a
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class="aligncenter" src="http://farm1.static.flickr.com/151/415528366_07b65fb2a7.jpg" alt="415528366 07b65fb2a7 What Angle Are You Looking at Things From" width="500" height="335" title="What Angle Are You Looking at Things From" /></p><p>Last year when I graduated from business school and I started this blog, I remember telling my roommate that I felt like my life was turning into a downward spiral and everything felt like backwards progress. I had finished grad school, acquired more debt, and my career felt like it was on the brink of disaster. Fortunately, he was quick to remind me that a <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/shifting-perspectives-will-shift-what-you-see/">shift in perspective will shift what you see. </a></p><h3><strong>Focus on How Far You’ve Come, Not How Far You Have to Go</strong></h3><p>Let’s take a look at this in the context of a goal. Imagine that your goal is 100 yard football field. As you progress towards the end zone you could be at any point on the field, 5, 10, 15, 20, 80 yards.<strong> <span
style="color: #ff6600;">No matter where you are, you have a choice. You can look ahead of you and only focus on how far you have to go (which might make you give up), or you can look behind you and see how far you have come. If you focus on the progress you have made then you’ll always be motivated to keep going. </span></strong></p><h3><strong>Focus on What You have Instead of What You Lack</strong></h3><p>Over and over you hear echoed throughout the personal development world that gratitude is the key to getting everything you want. However so many people are completely caught up in getting more and wanting more. Somehow what we have isn’t enough. Start thinking about what you have rather than what you lack. In fact if you want to <a
href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-wake-up-every-morning-on-top-of-the-world/">wake up each day on the top of the world</a>, all you have to do the moment you wake up is ask yourself one simple question: “What am I grateful for?”. Try it for 30 days and let me know what happens.</p><p>I’ve said before that <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/persistence/">the first 50% of any goal</a> can be incredibly painful because it can often feel like there is no visible progress being made. If you are a blogger, you’re not seeing the traffic spikes. If you are an athlete you’re not seeing an increase in your performance. The list goes on and on.  But think about where you started and then focus on where you are today. You’ll realize quickly that you are in fact making progress.</p> <a
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class="aligncenter" src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2174/2390882485_3670d3b323.jpg" alt="2390882485 3670d3b323 Self Improvement is a Never Ending Journey" width="500" height="333" title="Self Improvement is a Never Ending Journey" /></p><p>If you’ve been following my personal development efforts this last month, you know that I’ve been going through <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/personal-power-friday-wrap-up/">Tony Robbins Personal Power II Program</a> for what is probably the 4th time in my life. It might seem odd to many of you that I’d want to go a through a program that I’ve already completed multiple times.  <strong><span
style="color: #ff6600;">In my most recent effort I have come to realize that self improvement is in fact a never ending journey. </span></strong></p><p><strong><br
/> </strong></p><h3><strong> When You Accomplish Everything You Want to: </strong></h3><ul><li>Are you going to sit on your as#$# and do nothing since you have everything you want?</li><li>Are you going to stop all your personal development efforts and finally be done with it all?</li><li>Are you going to stop reading books, listening to tape programs, etc?</li><li>Are you going stop taking any action towards what you want?</li></ul><p><strong><br
/> </strong></p><h3><strong>Pushing Limits/Higher Standards</strong></h3><p>It’s likely that answer to all of these questions is no (at least I hope so). I have to admit to some degree I kind of thought there would be a point when I would finally be done with the journey. I’d finally have everything I want and I could stop all of this.</p><p>But, the reality is that your standard for success will change.  You will continually keep setting the bar higher and higher. This is not necessarily a bad thing. You just need to be careful not set the bar so high that you never find any real fulfillment. One of my <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/life-lessons-from-a-big-as-surf-day/">life lessons from a big AS#$# surf day</a> was that challenge is a part of our evolution. We have a need to keep challenging ourselves and pushing our own limits. I started out thinking I’d never want to surf waves bigger than 2-3 feet and after surfing a day with waves up to 6 feet, I keep pushing that limit higher and higher.</p><h3><strong>Continuous Conditioning</strong></h3><p>The interesting thing about many self help concepts is that they enable you to make dramatic changes, often very quickly. But, if we don’t maintain those changes, then we can easily find ourselves back where we started. I recently wrote about <a
href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-wake-up-every-morning-on-top-of-the-world/">how to wake up every morning on top of the world</a>. The simple concept of asking yourself the right questions on a daily basis is something I had completely forgotten and as a result some of my old thought patterns had returned. The only way that your brain is going to really know that something is important is if it something that is a part of your daily ritual. After all, <a
href="http://theskooloflife.com/wordpress/how-often-do-you-decide-not-to-brush-your-teeth/">how often do you decide not to brush your teeth</a>?</p><p>What about You? Has self improvement been a never ending journey? What have you learned along the way and how is the journey different today from when you first started?</p> <a
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href="http://www.thesavvygrad.com/">The Savvy Grad</a> and it’s been fairly eye opening to actually track my progress with this program through this blog.</p><p>One thing to note is that there are only 22 total CD’s so you could actually complete the program in less than 30 days.<br
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/> Self Sabotage: </strong>This is one of those things that I think we all do in certain areas of our lives. But most things, it’s just a conditioned behavioral pattern. It’s one of those things we convince ourselves of and it then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. One thing I’ve noticed since starting this blog is how much the general trajectory of my life has changed for the better.</p><p><strong>Financial Checkup:</strong> One of them major parts of this section of the program was to give yourself a financial check and get to the point where not having more than enough money was more painful than having money.  A few things have happened in the last 2 weeks that have really driven me. First, I’ve started work on a mini-site using <a
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href="http://blogcastfm.com/announcements/corbett-barr-on-his-new-course-affiliate-marketing-for-beginners/">feel free to check out my interview with him as well</a>.  In this last week I made my first $100.00 in affiliate revenue thanks to selling two copies of his course and starting to dabble in a few affiliate promotions.</p><p><strong>Program Review:</strong> Finally, I spent this week taking a look back at what has worked, what hasn’t worked, and also doing all the exercises I didn’t do. I set 3 major goals for the next year and at some point I will add a “bucket/goal” list in a separate page to the blog.</p><p>Overall, going through this program and supplementing it with a blog has been a very useful experience. One thing I realized is that it might be more effective to do the entire program and write a blog post for every single day. If I was going to start a personal development blog that would be my very first project (for those of you who have just started).</p> <a
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