Personality Development Blog

Tips for happy and stress free life

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 11:23:00 +0000

Quote: Try hard to get what you like or you will be forced to like what you like get.

The secret of happiness lies in the simplification of life. Simple living encourages high thinking and leads to contentment which in turn gives us “inner wealth”, i.e. the wealth of the mind and of the soul.

A contented man devotes himself to virtues like: Truth, beauty, love, goodness, kindness and charity. By pursuing and inculcating the above virtues, a man can feel true happiness.

I do not mean that for simplification of life, a man should become an ascetic which may be considered as negative kind of happiness. But to have that positive kind of happiness, in this present day of speedy and stressful life, we have to faithfully carry out our responsibilities to our career, home and the country.

All this should be done in the light and spirit of selfless service. If you wish sincerely to lead a happy life, you should also make others happy, thereby; you taste real and lasting happiness. There is a kind of joy in serving others with virtuous motives and in sacrificing what one has for the good of others. An act of goodness is in itself an act of happiness.

There is a sense of happiness in doing ones work honestly and efficiently. One more good quality for perfect happiness lies in renunciation (of some comforts). Wealth may give us joy for a while and fame may provide us with fleeting excitement.

They can’t give us permanent happiness. For example, you have read the stories of kings of those yesteryears and biographies of present-days’ dictators who had everything to make them happy and yet they felt and lead unhappy lives and some of them committed suicides even. Why?

The main cause is they have not practiced renunciation. Some of them were of the opinion that they knew every thing and considered themselves superior to God. That was one of the causes of their downfall sad endings of their valuable lives.

In doing our duty sincerely, we often feel peace of mind, which is an essential part of happiness. The stings of misfortune spare none. But they will not cow us, if we sincerely cultivate the spirit of renunciation, self –sacrifice, contentment and show dedication in our work (job or duty).
Quote: “He who controls himself can control others and he is considered the richest man on this earth who practices contentment with what he earns honestly (may be in small measures) in daily life.”

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How to manage Anger?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 18:53:00 +0000

When emotions run high and thoughts run amok, even a calm person may become a victim of anger. It is a proved fact that the emotional life of an individual frequently influences one’s health and also the personality.

Studies indicate that for 1/3 to 1/2 of patients who are consulting physicians because of physical symptoms have no bodily diseases or ailments, but they are due to emotional factors. It is important to observe that physicians have to study the patient as a whole.

The effect of emotions on bodily changes is apparent in many gastrointestinal disorders, in the form of nausea, vomiting, loss of appetite, indigestion abdominal discomfort and diarrhea and ultimately leading to peptic ulcer.

Emotions also affect central nervous system causing anger and stress, which can disrupt lives as much as an earthquake (which can alter biography). The present century is labeled by many as “the age of anger and anxiety”.

Anger can harm an individual’s physical and social health, since it is a manifestation of selfish, unfulfilled desires. Anger is described as a violent outburst of emotion, stemming from the frustration of the individual. Anger is “one letter short of danger”. Hence it should be avoided, under any circumstances.

At the time of angry, the hormones “epinephrine and nor-epinephrine” are secreted in excessive quantities, leading to increase in the heart rate and rise in blood pressure and also the blood vessels are contracted and increase in the incidence of premature heart diseases. An angry person frequently loses his memory, knowledge necessary or logical thinking and proper human behavior. Angry starts wit minor irritation and it can grow into an obsession, that disease the mind.

When the power of discrimination is lost, the individual falls to a level of almost zero stage. Anger is also known as temporary madness. Of course, all of us are victims of anger at one time or other. Anger gives rise to injustice, persecution, jealousy, cruelty, physical and verbal abuse or rash behavior.

Anger management tips: Self discipline and self-management plays a key role in controlling the anger.

1. Take a deep breath before confronting. It helps you to be in control of the situation.

2. One should be aware of oneself when one is getting angry and this awareness alone can remove all traces of anger. Art of relaxation is to be developed.

3. One should learn to adapt to any situations so that taming anger out of stress is possible.

4. Take a walk till you feel at peace with yourself and then return.

5. Scream into your pillow.

6. Grab a joke book and laugh your heart out, because laughter is the best medicine, especially for anger.

7. Write down whatever makes you angry and don’t stop till you are drained out of anger.

8. Count 50 numbers (10 is not sufficient) and the anger will be out of your mind.

Quote: “He, who angers you, conquers you”. If you conquer anger, then you will be sure to win the battle.

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Stop worrying and start living

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 18:13:00 +0000

Nobody loves problems and everyone wants happy and stress free life. But failures and problems are inevitable in every person’s life. Successful people use these problems and failures as stepping stones to achieve wonderful things in life (Abraham Lincoln) while ordinary people keep on worrying about their and ruin their health and some may even commit suicide.

First one has to recognize that problems and failures are part and parcel of one’s life. Real joy in life lies in solving those problems. Positive thinking and self confidence helps in facing these difficulties. Those who lack self esteem and belief in their abilities succumb to those difficulties by keep on worrying about them. Just imagine the life without problems and

Cause for worry:

Man’s usual nature is “fretting, furring and fearing” about the future, as well as, about the fast, also worrying about his career and financial problems in day-to-day life, etc.

Effects of worry on mind and body:

1. Mental tension, high blood pressure and heart attacks,

2. Rheumatism (fever and pains in the joints)

3. stomach aches (peptic ulcers)

4. Common cold

5. Thyroid problems (goiter)

6. Diabetes (due to less secretion of insulin hormone)

7. Worry shortens our life-span, etc.

How to overcome worry?

1. Find out the causes for the worries and then stop worrying.

2. Face the facts and don’t run away from them.

3. Do something to restore peace to your mind.

4. To solve your problems, apply the magic formula of “Rudyard Kipling”. The formula is very simple and easy to apply, i.e. putting the following questions to obtain answers for your problems –what, why, when, who, where and how?

5. Get the facts analyze them and have a clear comprehension of the problem.

6. Arrive at a decision: After you have peeped into all the causes, take a decision, what to do and what not to do. Other wise, you will be perpetually in a state of confusion. Whatever decision you take, follow it up fully and faithfully.

7. Be too busy to worry. It is rightly said, “The idle man’s brain is devil’s workshop”.

8. Have faith in God.

God is the ultimate source of peace, strength and power. But that faith is perfect and you have to depend sincerely, to solve your problems. Certainly, God comes to your rescue.

Golden quotes about worry:

1. “Worrying is disbelieving in God”.

2. “Past is a bucket for ashes and the future is yet in the womb of time”

3. “Face the present (the fact) with courage of conviction”.

4. “See the funny side of life. Health and happiness be yours”.

Please share your experiences in solving problems in daily life.

Control your desires

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 02:35:00 +0000

Men have three types of desires, i.e. desires of the eyes, of body and the desire for more amount of money. Controlled desire will help to achieve our goals but excessive desires are the root cause for stress in modern life due to lack satisfaction. Goals and desires are the tools to achieve great things in life but setting up right goals and controlling desires are the difficult tasks in life. Great leaders have burning desires to achieve their goal but not on materialistic things like money and women. Lack of desire makes you feel boredom in life.

Bad desires:

1. Desires of the eyes:

Never desire for everything which is seen by the eyes. For example your neighbor might have purchased a big-sized car or TV, maybe he is very rich and your economic position does not permit you to offer that much big sized articles. So go as per the size of your pocket. Hence do not compete with others unnecessarily.

2. Bodily desires:

Body also desires which appears beautiful and attractive. Who knows, whether it does well or bad to our body. For example, fire appears bright and reddish and if we touch it, it burns our fingers and brings deep pain instead of happiness.

3. Greediness (desire for excess amount of money):

Everybody needs money, no doubt. But some people, even though, they have sufficient amount of money to meet their every need and personal requirements, still they crave for money. They won’t satisfy with the amount they earn legally. But they want to earn money by hook or by crook. For example, money-lending business at too much high interest rate, purchasing lottery tickets and doing other dirty things for the sake of easy ways of earning money, etc. They always are under tension and lose their health and finally the entire money will be spent on treatment for curing their diseases.

In Hebrews 13:5, God said, “Keep your eyes free from the love of money and be content with what you have, never will I leave you”.

Another desire is “Craving for food”. They are always worrying about eating and drinking only. Eat to live, but not live to eat. One should have desires, but, they must be within limits, and others should not suffer, due to our greediness.

As Jesus said: “Greediness is the root cause for man’s down fall”.

In history also, we can see, number of kings and emperors met their “Waterloo”, due to excessive desires.

How to overcome worry?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Wed, 28 May 2008 19:43:00 +0000

Worry is an enemy of your life and also a big hindrance to your personality development. It is worry, which in the long run, spoils our life, affects our personality development and also drives us to ruins.

This is the quote in "Twelth Night" - “I am sure care is an enemy to your life”. Here care means “worry”.

Mahatma Gandhi rightly said, “There is nothing that wastes the body like worry”.

The usual causes of worry are: Problems that cause worry are as different as how people react to problems. Generally people with positive thinking can face problems effectively than people with negative mindset. That’s why problem solvers rose quickly to top positions in companies. We should not think about problems but should focus our energy on how to solve them.

Effects of worry on the body:

1. Hyperacidity in the stomach: The golden saying is “If you weep, your stomach weeps”. Weeping stimulates the nerves of the stomach, there by more secretion of hydrochloric is produced, which in turn damages (eats) the stomach (gastric) walls, leading to “peptic ulcer”.

2. Worry causes stress and strain: Due to constant stress, the brain and nerves have to bear the brunt the person suffer from –high blood pressure ,which leads to heart strokes and brain strokes ( paralysis).

“What is this life with full of care, we have no time to stand and stare”.

How overcome worry and be happy?

Two types of remedies are available:

1. Scientifically: If you have strong will power and self-confidence, you can easily overcome the worry. As per the great Napoleon (emperor of France), “Nothing is impossible to human beings”.
As H. w. Longfellow wrote,

“The cares they infest the day,
Shall fold their tents like Arabs,
And as silently steal away”.

Music is one remedy of cares, anxieties and worries. That is why our shrines (holy places of worship) are with full of divine musical songs which smoothen our jarring nerves.

2. Spiritually: The famous quotation is: “Worrying is disbelieving in God”. If you have faith in God, you will not worry. Most of the people (devotees) say that we believe in God, but still worry is troubling us. Believing means –not simple belief or so called part time belief, but total surrender to God, the Almighty.

Problem is a sign of life means you did something which went wrong that is common in life. Learn from it and march towards success. This is the way of life.

Don't forget that problems are signs of life while worry is an enemy of life. Great people find happiness in solving the problems.

Advice for Parents: How to raise Children?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Fri, 09 May 2008 12:17:00 +0000

Parents play in developing the personality of their children. Parents are role models for children in their early years. Afterwards, the role of teachers, other members in the family, relatives and friends has definite impact on the children’s behavior.

During childhood, the child naturally depends, physically and mentally on others. During this growing period, he expects (besides other necessities), to have caring, loving, relationship and also friendship, from near and dear. If he obtains the above things in early life, it means we are providing him a healthy mental atmosphere and the child grows with full self- confidence.

While growing, the children might have many experiences, which bring sufficient changes in their thinking, feelings and behavior pattern. Children respond accordingly to our behavior (which may be positive or negative). So be cautious while dealing with children. Parents’ behavior reflects in children. They act as mirrors to our actions.

How does Parents personality affect child?

1. Parents’patience and excusing mentality teaches children the quality of forbearance.

2. If parents give sufficient safety to their children, automatically they develop full confidence, not only in the parents but also in the surrounding society.

3. Give full support to the good deeds done by the children, that act of yours inculcate and create confidence in them and also it boost up their morality.

4. Teach them the techniques in making friendship with colleagues, it helps them to love others.

5. Never exhibit displeasure or angry with children, as it leads to despair and they prefer to move away from the society and do not much interest to mingle with relatives and others.

6. Too much criticism of children makes them cowards and also they suffer from inferiority complex.

At present, the changing values in the modern families, causing lot of pressure and mental tension in children and more over they have to spend most of the time in loneliness, there by they are not getting the natural care, love, affection from their parents. It is creating confusion and the abnormal feeling living among the foreigners not with the parents. This type of living conditions must go and he loving atmosphere should prevail.

Quote: “Child is the father of the man”.

How to solve problems in family life?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Thu, 08 May 2008 21:51:00 +0000

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. There are many variations in their personalities and attitudes. Not only the couple of the arranged marriages but the couples of love marriages are also quarreling with each other often, after some time of the married life as they fail to understand these differences.

Quote: “marriages are made in heaven and divorces occur on the earth”.

Marriage is a holy affair, because two persons who are absolutely unknown to each other are united together in the marriage, solely reposing faith and confidence in each partner. The main underlying factor in marriage is love (which is godlike). Both are equal and they should try to understand and give respect to each other’s feelings and opinions. If they lose faith and love in each other, naturally petty quarrels begin to crop up and begin to complain against each other.

1. Usual complaints made by the wives against husbands:

• Men never try to understand them.
• They never respond to their wives’ feelings, interests and necessities.
• Men give preference to physical appearance of females, rather than beauties of the heart.
• If men get sexual desire, they won’t take into consideration the mental condition of their life partners at the time of gratifying that desire.
• Husbands won’t speak lovely and anger is always on their nose tips.
• Won’t take household responsibility and also leave the children’s responsibility on their wife’s shoulder.
• They won’t praise heart fully their better half, when she keeps the house neatly and in “spick and span”.
• They take decisions often unilaterally without consulting their wives, as some times they show bad effects on their children.

2. The complaints made by the husbands on wives:

• Females spend most of their time on “make up” and show much interest on unnecessary discussions with friends. Nothing more is required for them.
• Wives often wish to dominate their husbands.
• Wives express their happiness only, whenever the husbands bring presentations and gifts to them.
• Often females feel sex as a physical punishment, rather than enjoyment.
• They behave just like leaves of the plant, by name, “touch me not”.
• They often suspect their husbands’ integrity, whenever they speak to other women.
• Unless they spend most of their time in shopping, they won’t get happiness and also peace of mind.

Suggestions to both the partners:

• Always keep in mind; both are equal in the eyes of God, the Almighty.
• Some of the above said complaints may appear silly to the opposite sex (male or female), but strictly speaking they are not, as every complaint has got its own importance.
• It is not below their dignity, but moral responsibility to respect and fulfilling the desires of the opposite partner’s views and ambitions.
• No room for anger in married life and only “love, peace and understanding each other, must prevail in happy family life.

Quotes:

1. “Problems are always there, but you should not be a part of the problem”.
2. “Don’t mar the married life with petty matters (quarrels)”.
3. “Both of you made for each other”. “It is God’s plan to make both of you live together”.

Complex Personalities and their behavior

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Wed, 07 May 2008 11:01:00 +0000

The man’s nature, behavior, values, opinions, goals and achievements in life depend on the self-confidence only. No other thing influences the life such effectively, as self- confidence. Man should have confidence in his intellectual powers and energies. The individual who doesn’t believe and respect himself, can’t believe the surrounding society also. He can’t live happily and also not able to face the troubles confidently.

Persons having full self-confidence exhibit following signs:

1. They behave with responsibility and we can safely depend on them.
2. They keep their promises under any circumstances.
3. They are Honest and also have strong perseverance in doing any work.
4. Give importance to moral values.
5. Never hesitate to learn a new thing.
6. Strive sincerely to improve personally and also try their level best to preserve their individuality.
7. They express their opinions freely and won’t mind even if others oppose their views.
8. Have plenty of creativity in them.
9. Treat both the success and defeat as a part of life and won’t afraid of them and moreover lessons from them and proceed further in life.
10. Never reject the praises of others if they do them honestly.
11. They are not extraordinary and exhibit the natural human feelings like, anger, sorrow, pain, etc. along with happiness.
12. They try to render help to the society within their limits and capacities.
13. Others treat them as their role models.
14. The seed of self-confidence in them is seen since their childhood itself and the incidents that occur during their childhood and the society also help to grow the confidence in them.

Persons suffering from inferiority complex show following characteristics:

1. They can’t mingle with the people of the society.
2. As they have no confidence in them and expects only defeat in their every act.
3. Usually, in the beginning, most of us commit some mistakes in our attempts in performing any new works and later on we rectify them. But persons with lack of self-confidence take these mistakes as their inefficiency and get disappointed.
4. They always go on nurturing negative thoughts and often show averse to start any new programmes.
5. They always in second position when compared to others and can’t express their opinions and views freely.
6. They go on criticizing others as a defense act and behave without responsibility and prefer to be away from the society and be alone.
7. They can’t bear the “change” and whenever others support or love them, they think others are doing it with selfish motto.
8. They always experience bad incidents only, due to their negative thoughts.
9. The emotional feelings of anger, fear, agony, jealousy, feeling of insult, etc. are highly prevalent in them and can’t control them, due to their weak mentality.

How to overcome inferiority complex?

1. Develop positive thoughts like, “all are equal in the eyes of God”.
2. Try to know about yourself and take into consideration, the plus points in you and try sincerely to improve them.

“Nothing is impossible to human being” – Napoleon, the famous emperor of France.

Tips to improve public relations

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sat, 03 May 2008 18:04:00 +0000

Man is a social animal and he can’t live alone in the society, hence he should observe some norms while dealing with his neighbors and/or at the working place. Good public relationships improve your life and enhance life productivity. Maintaining good relations is an important part of personality development.

16 tips to improve public relations:

1. Never exhibit dominating mentality and egoism is hindrance to our progress in our career.

2. Never utter anything irresponsibly and always keep in mind the consequences after uttering any wrong word.

3. In any affair or quarrel, have patience and tactics in dealing with that situation.

4. Don’t be under the impression that whatever you say is correct or whatever you do is perfect. You can never win through arguments. Arguments only ruin crucial relationships.

5. Eschew the narrow mindedness and always be broad minded. Always be open to criticism and new ideas.

6. First of all, verify the facts in whatever you listen, (remember there may be certain lies), before passing any adverse comments against anyone.

7. Never encourage rumors, as they spread like wild fire, causing irreversible damage to the prestige of others in the society. Rumors travel faster than the truth.

8. Abhor the greediness, but develop the noble quality of charity.

9. Don’t believe everything that comes to your ear, from other and outward sources. Just listen to that and apply your own intelligence and judgment.

10. Never try to see everything (especially small) in magnified lenses. Try to see through the eyes of others.

11. Don’t be stubborn but have some flexibility while dealing with settlements with others.

12. Smile before speaking with others, as smile costs nothing but fetches more.

13. Never show that there is deficiency of love in you, instead talk to others lovingly.

14. Show obedience and give ample respect o others.

15. Whenever any dispute arises with your colleagues or business partners, take initiative yourself to solve that problem, instead waiting for their early initiative.

16. Get rid of the habit of telling all your personal matters to others, including to your dear and near. Everyone should maintain some personal secrecy. Secretes never be shared, but always be safely covered.

If you can follow these simple tips in your daily life, you will experience fruitful life through enhanced relationships.

Role of Smile in Personality Development

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 15:11:00 +0000

Smile on your face is enough to change your surroundings. Smiling face is like sunshine. It is a wonderful feeling to be greeted by a complete stranger with a friendly smile. It is a nice feeling to smile and be smiled at. Smile does wonders in our real lives. A smile can set you free from bonds like sorrows and worries. Smiling face plays a vital role in the enhancement of one's personality.

The smiles of Leonardo Da Vinci’s Monalisa painting brings cheer to every heart and also for that matter, the smile of a baby brings same sensation in our hearts. A pure smile can generate positive vibes not only in a home but also at your working place (office).

When you smile, it will be returned, definitely. Life prolongs our life- expectancy period.
Smile costs us little energy and brings us happier. If you want to be serious (remaining angry), all the 64 muscles in your face have to come into action. But, if you wish to be happy or smile only 13 muscles action is needed.

If you go into history, the smile did such a glorious thing that it saved one person from death.

During the Spanish civil war, Antoine de Saint Exupery was captured and kept in prison cell. It was clear without any shadow of doubt that he would be put to death the next day, by the authorities. Saint Exupery wanted to smoke, as he had no matches, he requested the jailer if he had matches.

While lightening the cigarette , the jailer accidentally made eye contact with Saint Exupery who was smiling (without any reason). Even though, the jailor tried to be stiff, but the smile of the Saint Exupery drew the jailor into conversation and he also laughed. What happened soon after was that the jailor helped the saint to escape from the prison and saved him from death.

More over, man is the only the living being who can smile, in the whole creation of God, the Almighty. It is the gift given to humans by God. If you see any one without smile, give one of yours.

Smile costs us nothing, but fetches many dividends. So smile wholeheartedly and earn profits in real life.

But never forget the golden rule: “Laugh with a friend, but not laugh at a friend”. Never hurt your friends with rude jokes and comments. Human life is a wonderful thing and makes it happier with a little smile.

Please share your personal pleasant life experiences.

Art of public speaking: 8 things to avoid

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 20:08:00 +0000

When stage fright is the catalyst, most of the people choose flight. It plays a major part in one’s personality development process. Stage fear is a normal and to a degree desirable response, but it must be constructively controlled.

8 techniques to avoid to become a great speaker:

1. Preparation: Research the subject, organize the speech and then rehearse it with a tape recorder or with a friend. The more familiar with the situation, the less fear of it is.

2. To avoid confusion: Choose or modify the topic carefully, if necessary. Because, all is well that ends well.

3. Move about to avoid tension: By stepping away from the podium occasionally, walking among the audience or gesturing in a way that adds meaning to your words. (Otherwise tension produces more adrenaline, which wastes physical energy).

4. Use visual aids: Which helps you in minimizing your speech? Pictures impress listeners much, rather than words. One visual aid is equal to one thousand words.

5. Look your best: The speaker’s appearance should add to the impact of the message (rather than distract from it).

6. Dress maintenance: Wear your favorite suit, the one that makes you feel, as if you conquer the world. Certainly, dress and its color influence your thinking and behavior in any meeting or function.

7. Allow for spontaneity: Speak from a familiar outline, which allows the freedom to concentrate on the message. Speak conversationally and monitor the audience’s responses. Inter action with the audience helps the speaker to know the attitude and knowledge of the audience on the subject.

8. Speak often: Experience shows that the more we do something, the more comfortable and competent we become. Volunteer to give reports, introductions, invocations and announcements.
“Audience knows about the stage fright, but they admire the speaker who is in control of it, and at the same time, they dislike the speaker who apologizes for his nervousness (due to stage fright to speak)".

Silence role in personality development

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 19:03:00 +0000

Silence is the element in which great things fashion themselves. The bad effects of sound pollution on our health are deafness, loss of concentration, anxiety and tension.

Here we are mainly concerned about loss of concentration, which is highly essential to achieve any thing in our life. Now a day we are living in a society or world which is full of speed and busy with hectic activities. People are always o their heels.

We are totally forgetting that golden quotation: “Haste is waste”.

To overcome this confused and puzzled situations, we need plenty of relaxation and mental piece, which can be attained by practicing "Absolute silence".

Steps to be followed to attain the silence:

1. Make it a habit of spending at least ½ an hour lonely. During that half an hour period-

. Never talk to anybody,
ii. Don’t read or write anything,
iii. Don’t sit in front of TV and also not listen to radio programmers,
iv. Try to control your thoughts.

2. Sit calmly or lie-down on the bed.

That means your brain or mind should be in “neutral gear" position. In the beginning, you feel that you are almost in hell, as human mind behaves just like monkey. But remember one thing that you are preparing to fight a war, which is against yourself only.

This war is on –laziness, ignorance, stupidity and carelessness, etc, which are present in you. Silence is the beginning stage in this war.

Observe the sea, which is calm and quiet and at the same time with full of enthusiasm. Positive mentality helps us, to be like sea. With the help of that knowledge, which is obtained during the silence, helps us to know ourselves. We can overcome these difficulties very easily and also our abilities will be increased many fold.

Quote: Silence is a great doctor, a great guide and also is the way to lead us to self-bliss.

8 Causes for unhappiness in life

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 12:13:00 +0000

Why some people are always unhappy while others face same problems with smile on their face. Cicero, a famous philosopher and statesman of yesteryears (2000B.c) belonging to Italy (Rome), enumerated the following causes for unhappiness, which holds well for ever.
8 weaknesses in the personality of unhappy people:

1. Dominating mentality:

Human in-born trait (may be weakness) is by suppressing others, we may achieve our goals and personally be benefitted. It is a wrong notion and of selfishness in nature. This type of thinking is merely an illusion and also we are building castles in air.

2. Un-necessarily worrying about the things or situations which we can’t change. It is a waste of time and energy also.

3. In-accurate estimation of our strengths and weaknesses and at certain times facing heavy losses during our career.

4.Many a time giving importance and evincing keen interest in petty things, which are of no use to us in any way.

5. Never trying sincerely to improve our mental power and not gaining maturity.

6. Always be under the impression that our views are only genuine and factual and also wishing that others also should give their consent to our beliefs.

7. Egoism: “I know everything and I need not other’s advice”. Ultimately such type of personalities will land in darkness and troubles.

8. Arguements: These types of people think that “arguing always pays and meekness is weakness”.

But what is the remedy? The surest and simplest way is: Applying commonsense depending upon the situations. But the pitiable thing is, as quoted by a noble personality- “commonsense is uncommon with the common people”.

Unhappiness leads to depression and is major cause for heart diseases. Unhappiness increases stress in daily life and it leads to lifestyle diseases. Try to identify the defects in you, by thoroughly examining yourself and sincerely rectify them.

Always keeping in mind others’ welfare and also wishing others to live like you. Ultimately you find happiness within your reach, without any shadow of doubt.

So no more tensions and no more worries not only in our lives but also in this world.

Meditation: Techniques and Health benefits

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 23:56:00 +0000

The human -body is a God’s given gift to us and also a wonderful creation in the entire universe. This body is and will be with us from birth to till we leave this mundane world. Our body is highly active both during our child-hood and in our youth-times, but becomes somewhat lazy in the adult-stage of life and becomes very dull in the old-age.

Moreover, there is a very close-relationship between our body and our mind. Our present life is highly hectic and always with busy schedules from 6 am to mid-night 12pm, with full of mental tension and without rest and recreation. We are not having right-food in right timings but filling our stomach with ready-made junk food materials which are not at all desirable and also not so conducive to our health.

That is why our younger generation is affected with number of ailments and diseases like-obesity, heart-attacks, hypertension and diabetes, etc.

Famous quotations:

‘’What is this life if full of care, but we have no to time to stand and stare”.

‘’Most of the times, we are busy without business” (at least 50% to60%) of us.

The solution is –‘’meditation”, a good remedy suggested by the ancient noble teachers of India, for example, Patanjali, who wrote the famous book, viz; “yoga sutra” (science of meditation).

Courtesy: Gelisy.

Benefits of Meditation:

Meditation helps to improve one’s physical and mental health. Regular meditation and Yoga are immensely beneficial especially for people who are always under constant stress.

1. It provides us with ample mental peace and immeasurable physical health.

2. Heart beats are perfect and regular during meditation.

3. Stress and strain will be removed with the help of endorphins, the natural mood-elevating hormones secreted within the brain, during meditation.

4. High blood pressure will be brought to normal levels.

5. More air is passed into the lungs which is highly beneficial in case of persons suffering from respiratory diseases like-emphysema, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) and other breathing- problems, etc.

6. Your mind is well under your control and you will discharge your duties more efficiently with renewed strength and capacity.

7. Skin folds are easily getting vanished and weakness in the body will be felt no more.

8. Remembrance power in children is highly improved and there is vast improvement in personality development in the youth.

How to do Meditation:

1. Choose a place or room with pin-drop silence and also without too much sunlight or darkness.

2. Sit comfortably on a mattress or folded mat.

3. Keep the face in calm state and don’t tighten the cheeks. Close your eyes and never open them during meditation.

4. Keep your back (spine) in straight posture (without bending), and you feel no pain in the waist region, even if you sit for longer time in meditation.

5. Forget about your surroundings for a while and you will go to into trance within no time.

6. In the beginning, you may get different kinds of thoughts frequently, at that time keep go on uttering any word or name of your favorite God and continue this process for just five days only, after that you get no more thoughts.

7. In the initial stages, you fix a time for about 10 minutes to 30 minutes, to do meditation and later on you continue to do meditation as much time as possible.

8. After wards, you come over the feelings of angry, uneasiness, intolerance, sadness, discontent, etc.

9. Finally, you will be fully under the state of tranquility and you can do meditation without any discomfort, but with full of benefits.

Meditation and Yoga are the God’s gifts to mankind to lead happy life in stressful world.

Health Research: Stress in American work life

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 16:39:00 +0000

According to a research study by American Psychological Association, 30% of Americans are living under extreme stress. 75% of Americans are suffering from physical symptoms of stress like headache, stomach-ache and exhaustion.

Work and money are the top sources of stress. Many people are managing stress by eating junk foods, smoking and alcoholism. They are getting new diseases with these bad habits. But 80% of respondents are feeling satisfactory in their dealing with stress. Some people perform outstandingly when they are pushed to the wall while others fall to chronic diseases like hypertension, diabetes and obesity when they faced severe stress.

Major causes of increased stress in working environment:

1. Low salaries and heavy workload.
2. Lack of growth opportunities and long working hours.
3. Lack of participation in decision-making.
4. Inflexible hours.

How people relieve from stress?

1. 50% of people reduced their stress levels by listening to music and reading books.
2. 40% of people decrease stress levels by spending with family and friends.
3. 30% of people overcome stress by praying to God.
4. According to some studies, sex also play vital role in reducing stress levels in humans.
5. 17% of alcoholics overcome stress by drinking excess alcohol while 70% of smokers took extra quota.

It is better if people learn to manage this unavoidable stress in our daily life in healthy ways. Some people are learning bad habits to overcome the stress and fall into this vicious cycle of chronic diseases.

Please share your experiences in dealing with stress.

How to behave with superiors in office?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sat, 29 Sep 2007 18:15:00 +0000

The way of your working in the office is also part of your behavior. If everyone works in coordinate manner, office environment is conducive to do better work. Bad behavior by one member can spoil the office environment. That’s why group discussion, communication skills and working in a team are playing vital roles in getting good jobs. Your good behavior with superiors in an office will enhance your personality and you can command respect from juniors. officers may have different personalities but we should apply smart tactics in dealing with superiors with difficult personality.

How to behave with superiors?
1. It is not good to discuss your personal matters with your higher official and also at the same time not good to seek the advice or opinion of your officer, the solutions for your personal problems. Because their advice or suggestions may not be likened by you and also some times you have to obey and act as per their advice, under duress which may be not conducive to the situation and may bring further trouble to you.

2. Never discuss with your superior officer about your money or property matters and also about your debts. It is well and good not to be known by them.

3. Keep away from the rumors that are spreading in your office by some body and also never tell about them to your officer.

4. Try to solve the problems or the doubts regarding the work in office matters, which you might have with your colleagues by discussing with them. If not possible, bring them to the notice of the officer and the officer in turn will settle the matters in group meetings.

5. Do your duty sincerely and dedicatedly, so that you need not say sorry to your officer often.

6. Keep yourself away from the quarrels or misunderstandings that may arise among the staff members.

7. Never give promise to any body to perform those tasks which are beyond your capacity to do. Otherwise you are unnecessarily inviting troubles and it tarnishes the good name gained by you in your office.

8. If you have any physical or psychological problems, inform to your superior officer and discuss about it with him without hesitation. Otherwise, it hampers your work indirectly and the officer may develop wrong impression about your working capacity. That is why it is better to make it known to them by you honestly, as sincerity always pays.

9. As your officer is an experienced person, observe him carefully and also his way of discharging the duties, it not only benefits you but also helps you in handling the office matters.

“Obedience is the secret of success” and it does wonders in your life.

By knowing how to talk and also how to behave, depending upon the place and time, we can safely avoid and be away from so many problems, in our daily life.

Please share your experiences with superiors in office.

How to make friends?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 16:43:00 +0000

Making friends is not always an easy affair, especially if you are shy in nature. Not all of us born with charisma. But, we can make friends, if we follow certain norms and tips, as shown below.

16 tips to make friendship and keep it forever:

1. Be optimistic. If some body insults you, just ignore him and, don’t be afraid to express your opinions, as he has no idea what he is talking about. A positive out look will make people want to be more around you.

2. Smile as much as you can. It is a sign that you are interested in what they are saying.

3. Listen more than you talk and try to take what the person says and run with it. Add your own thoughts also occasionally, but don’t hijack the conversation.

4. Say "hello” to those who are reserved and talk less. Share something about yourself, such as why are you there? Avoid talking about weather at that time.

5. Don’t expect perfection out of anyone (especially yourself). For example, if you forget your own name while introducing yourself, don’t get panicky, but just make fun of the situation.

6. Share interesting ideas. Your thoughts can open up many doors that can lead to friendship.

7. Crack a joke. Having a sense of humor is important, but don’t get yourself too carried away, as there are some things you have to be serious about.

8. Start by doing little things, if you are very reserved. For example, every time you go to work, say hello to one person and have a one-on-one conversation with them.

9. Everybody likes some attention (even the shy ones). Pay attention to people and they will repay you warmly.

10. Don’t be selfish. Many think if they are generous, their friends would take advantage of them. This is an absurd paradox.

11. Just be yourself: Not everybody likes a bubbly, funny personality. Don’t try to say something just for the purpose of looking smart. Lot of people prefers to have friendship with sincere persons.

12. Love yourself. It is difficult to like others, when you do not appreciate yourself for you are.

13. If you make an appointment with anybody, be on time. People like to make friendship with such type of persons very much.

14. Be nice to others. Always give compliments. Also crack a joke once in a while. People will laugh and find you fun and funny to be with.

15. be honest. Lying makes people not want to be your friends any more.

16. Surround yourself with people you want to be like and also people who share your interests. Be passionate about what you believe in. Never change your opinions and ideas often. People like to show keen interest with such type of honest and sincere people.

The golden word is: “Friendship is fragile and handles it with care”.

Source: T .N. I. Express.

Causes of Fear – How to overcome it?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 17:38:00 +0000

The following 4 things are common for all living beings:

1. Food: for living and survival.

2. Sleep: to recoup the bodily energy (as sleep provides rest to the body).

3. Sex: It is a biological need and it serves many purposes, like:

-calm up the exiting sensory organs,
-Removes the feeling of loneliness,
-Helps to control the blood pressure,
-Brings pleasure to the mind and body, etc.

4. Fear: What for?

The above four things are even though present in all creatures, man’s response and worrying about them is to some extent is more. But, after fulfilling the three acts, they will not give trouble to you.

But in case of fear, the situation is different and it is always accompanying us. So let us discuss about it and clear the doubts.

Even infants (children below I year of age) suddenly wake up from the sleep and show feelings of disturbance and excitement. That means, since our birth, the fear giving some sort of discomfort to us, with or without any cause.

The usual causes for the fear-complex are:

-Getting diseases by indulging in irregular food habits and other immoral activities.

-The rich are always spending the days in sleepless-nights, as how to save their huge amounts of money, either from thieves or harmful known persons.

-The people with name and fame in the society may think that one day their name may be tarnished, unless they behave carefully.

-Rulers afraid of their enemies.

-Beautiful women and handsome men worry of their old age.

-The good and the noble people afraid of bad and rowdy elements.

-Every living being worry about the inevitable death-feeling.

But is there any place on this earth to live in safely and without fear on this earth?

How to overcome fear?

First of all one must know that what we are seeing and enjoying in this word are ephemeral (temporary) and they disappear from our sight on one day. So we should develop detachment and also less inclination towards them.

We should also realize that which is eternal and truthful is nothing but God and once we realize this fact, automatically the feeling of ‘’ this is mine and this is I’’ goes out of our mind and we will be free from “fear”. Other wise the fear of cycle goes on and no mental peace to us.

Our role, as long as we live in this world is just like trustee or steward. Moreover, we are ambassadors of God, in this world. Every thing here belongs to God.

The golden rule is: “where there is detachment, there is no fear’’. Everything moves around depending on “attachment and detachment’’.

Anger: causes, problems and management

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sat, 01 Sep 2007 18:18:00 +0000

Anger is the most common personality disorder that spoils relationships in everyday life.

Why do we get angry?

1. Thinking that the other persons’ status and their thinking power are below your level and dignity.

2. Full of egoism: If the other person disagree with your thoughts, immediately, you feel that they showed disrespect to your image and personality (’I’ mentality) and you get anger.

3. Stubbornness: you expect that, whatever you wish that it must be carried down by the others, under any circumstances. Otherwise you will not tolerate and develop angry mood.

4. Authoritative mentality: Having bossism type attitude while dealing with others.

5. Habituated to controlling everybody and everything.

6. Having the inferiority complex attitude.

7. Being under the misconception that by exhibiting anger, it is easy to keep others well under your control or command.

Bad effects or problems due to anger:

1. Anger causes physical and mental troubles-like,

-Headache, Hyper- acidity, pains in neck region,
-Lack of concentration in doing any work/studies, etc.

2. Your friend show disinterest in speaking to you.

3. You feel too-much stress

4. You rarely laugh with your relatives/friends and your relationship with them get spoiled

5. People talk something before you and exactly opposite thing behind you

6. Your moods are not under your control, that is, you don’t when you get angry or when you are in normal condition

7. Nobody dares to give any valuable suggestion to you, as you think that what you know is the only correct thing.

8. After some days, you begin to get angry upon yourself and also develop inferiority complex.
9. You develop insecurity and begin to lose confidence in others.

10. First of all you get angry upon others and after wards you begin to repent like that and same situation continuously will be repeated by you.

How to control or avoid the anger:

1. Read the biographies of famous persons (at least 1or2 persons) in the world and among many of them are the persons who conquered the anger.

2. Examine yourself and find out the causes of anger and write them on the paper.

3. When you get anger, think about one humorous scene in a cinema, your anger will be vanished in no time.

4. Count at least 50 (not 10) numbers, the anger will leave you.

5. Ask yourself, “What I am going to achieve by exhibiting this anger?”

6. Change your way of thinking and be positive in your attitude and be patient and everything will be alright in the days to come.

The golden rule is: “No anger—no worry’’, but only happiness always surrounding you. Also keep it in mind that, “Somebody brings happiness wherever they go and somebody brings happiness whenever they go”.

The famous quotations on anger are:

1. “Your anger is your enemy”.
2. “Anger is temporary madness”.
3. “Anger is just one letter short of danger”.

Please share your bad experiences due to anger.

How to overcome inferiority complex - 2?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sat, 01 Sep 2007 09:10:00 +0000

25 to 30% of people are suffering from inferiority complex and the main thing is they feel hesitant to start any work out of fear, thinking that others might think in another way. Often they feel shyness and dejected, degrade themselves and do not enjoy their rights even at the minimum level.

Behavior of people with Inferiority complex:

1. They hesitate to speak out of fear that other might misunderstand them, even though they got conversational skills.

2. They get their hair-cutting neatly, but still feel shyness and often wear hat to cover their heads, thinking that others might laugh at them.

3. They take it very easily even when the newly acquainted persons also dare to crack jokes against them (they don’t protest).

4. They eat calmly the dish supplied in a hotel even if it is stale, because they think that server might feel offended if they make any adverse comments against the preparation.

5. They eat beyond their limits and suffer from stomach upset whenever they go out for any dinner under obligation.

6. They lend their important books, articles, etc. to friends for few days under obligation and feel tension, until they are returned.

7. They fall an easy prey to realtors and fake financial institutions, become members and burn their fingers.

8. They drink (alcohol) and eat items of junk foods in parties, much against their wish, out of obligation.

9. They go out to stand even near a lavatory being unable to withstand smell of smoking from a co-passenger in a railway compartment, instead openly objecting to the smoking.

10. They hesitate to wear new dresses with suits and shoes fearing that others might find them gaudy and make unnecessary comments.

11. They often get angry with family members, if they asked to do a particular thing or to meet a certain person, as they are lazy and wish to be left alone.

12. Similarly, there are girls also going to movies, hotels, etc. with boys, just because they can’t displease others. Such things may lead to their ruin in the long run.

We can quote many more such type of examples. It was reported by the psychologists that people of the above cited mentalities must have been pampered by their mothers and put to regimentation by their fathers, while they were young.

For example parents used to suggest them like, "do this or do that, don’t wear this dress or that colored suit’’, etc. Thus they lost their individuality and general thinking power and become habituated to depend upon others, even after marriage.

How to overcome Inferiority Complex?

1. First of all they, they have to develop strong determination, to change their above mentality.

2. Initially, they require a little initiative, be daring and should give up their inhibition.

3. They should repeatedly remind themselves that they need not afraid of any body.

4. They should develop positive thinking and try to express their views, if they do not like any thing.

5. Everyone is unique in this world, so one should have his own individuality.

So let us start to lead a new way of life, from this moment onwards, keeping inhibition aside for go.

Source: Master Mind.

How to behave with neighbors?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Wed, 22 Aug 2007 11:17:00 +0000

Man is a social being and he cannot live alone in this, (especially) busy modern world.
From dawn to dusk, he has to mingle and mix with many number of people whom he come a cross daily and has to work together with them either in the office or in other fields where he has to do his job.

At his residence (house), also he has to maintain good relation ship and rapport with his neighbors.

It is strange but true, many a time we actually don’t know, who is our neighbor? Such is the situation often we face. With the help of these tips, we can maintain good co-ordeal relationship, especially with our neighbors and also others.

1. First of all, take initiative and talk to your neighbor with a smiling face, (even if you’re very busy), if you happened to see him face to face. Never wait thinking that your neighbor should take the initiative.

2. Never forget to invite your neighbors for the functions and for any other happy occasions, which might take place in your home often and on.

3. Often and on, arrange small get-together parties and invite your neighbors.

4. Move with them freely, but never try to take undue advantage of interfering with their personal affairs and also not involve deeply yourself in their matters.

5. But lf they tell anything to you, just listen to what they so and keep quiet. Otherwise, politely tell them, that you have no time.

6. Persons without any work or job, never keep quiet, but go on spreading rumors and passing unnecessary comments against others. Never participate yourself in such type of discussions.
Better to be calm in such type of situations.

The golden word is: ‘’Speech is silver, but silence is golden.’’

7. If there are more than three or four families in your locality, maintain friendship and relationship equally with all of them, otherwise there are every chances of developing groupism.

8. Even if you are having thick and thin relationship with your neighbors, but never visit their homes after 8 pm (in the night time).

9. If any one of your neighbor is suffering from any ailment or in any need, immediately make available yourself and respond to their need immediately.

Golden word is: "A friend in need is a friend indeed’’.

10. Never give free advices, which are unnecessarily inviting troubles. If they seek your help or advice, give your valuable opinion or advice to them.

11. If you prepare any new variety of recipes, offer it to them and obtain their suggestions.

12. If you happened to pay a visit to new places, purchase any new articles there, and give them as presentations to your neighboring friends, which help in developing good rapport among yourselves.

Art of saying “No”

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Thu, 16 Aug 2007 15:10:00 +0000

You have determined and decided to finish an important work today itself, under any circumstances, because it is long-stand pending, and you are ready with full enthusiasm to commence to do that job.

But at that time your friends arrived in group and requested you to go along with them to outside for another purpose (many times unimportant in nature), but out of modesty, you couldn’t say ‘no’ to them and you accompanied them without hesitation.

Most of us face these types of situations in our day to day life. Later on we blame ourselves unnecessarily, for not finishing our job in time.

Why we could not say ‘no ’to them. There are so many causes and reasons, as shown below.

1. Thinking that the other persons might suffer if you refuse their request.
2. They may underestimate you and misunderstand you.
3. You may be ridiculed, for your innocent behavior.
4. Shyness that is naturally present in all of us.
5. Lack of sufficient self- confidence in you.
6. Inner desire to be praised by others, as ’’good person’’.
7. under the impression that it is always well and good to be obedient that too with low-esteem to others.
8. With selfish- motto, today or tomorrow that you will be benefitted by the other person’s power, wealth, intelligence, so it is better to develop good rapport with them from now onwards.
9. To be great in other’s opinion.
10. Treating the other person as god-like and ready to do anything for his sake, and for sustaining their friendship at any cost.
11. Having slave- mentality.
12. To fulfill his personal ambitions, with other person’s help.
13. To pass time indulging in some habits, as he has no strong aim to achieve in life.
14 Thinking that if he refused to oblige their wish, next time he will have to face the same music from them.

What are the consequences, that we have to face, if we failed to say ‘’NO’’?

i) We indulge in bad habits, unnecessarily and it causes mental agony in the family members
ii) We lose both our wealth and health.
iii) We are looked down in the society.
iv). Often, we quarrel with our family members show anger on them without reason and season.
V). Time is wasted without any benefit to us.

How to say ‘no’?

1. Develop self-confidence and be firm to say ‘no’ (instead of ‘yes’), if you think that your friends’ requests are not worthy to do and follow.

2. Try to change your mentality and gradually develop the habit of saying ’no ’to false commands and demands of your colleagues.

3. Note down on a paper the amount you last within the last one week or in the past one month and also the loss of your health.

4. Everything will be alright within a short period of time and your friends also won’t dare to call you for attending such situations which are not good and unhealthy in nature.

5. Now on wards, you have the real enjoyment and plenty of mental peace in your valuable life, which is given by God, the Almighty.

Please share your experiences in saying “No”.

Art of Living- How to live happily?

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Wed, 15 Aug 2007 17:28:00 +0000

Swamiji Sri Sri Ravi Shankar explains us nicely how to live happily and purposefully in this world.

1. He says firmly that we must have an aim in life and further He teaches us as follows.

2. Stream is different from flood. In stream, the water flows in a systematic way. Where as in floods, the water flows as it likes.

3. In the same manner, the energy present in us should flow like water in the river, as it has got certain direction, otherwise, nothing but confusion prevails. Now a day, majority of the people’s condition is without any specific direction, just like a ship without rudder.

4. When you are in happy moods, so much life- energy is accumulated inside the body, and never allows it to be stagnated there and get itself rotted. It should flow freely.

5. Life runs with commitment only. Every small or big things in our life, goes with certain commitment. For example: 1. Family runs on commitment, 2 Mother is committed to the child and the child in turn to the parents.3. Wife is committed to her husband and vice versa, 4. A student takes admission in a school or college with commitment.

6. Commitment is highly essential to make this life energy to flow into the right and good directions.

7. We feel delighted when we take troubles for the sake of our family members. We never take it as labor or hardship, but we feel it ‘’as our responsibility’’. It is nothing but our commitment to our family.

8. If you extend this same kind of commitment beyond your family limits, to your neighbors also you will get plenty of joy.

9. Like that creativity is also important and it springs up when you are relaxed. Unless you renounce all the work you have done that whole day, you cannot rest in the night and have sound sleep.

10. Millions Of people in this world are struggling or frustrated, because they are not creative. So take out some time for yourself to spend alone in meditation, which in turn improves the quality of your life and makes you to live peacefully in this busy world.

11. Unless you know the art of living, you cannot live your life, you cannot enjoy the happy moments in your life and also to bear the sadness in the life.

12. You wish always that you should not get troubles or face hardships, and life should go easily .You will never think of future as you are confident that future is bright. But that is not the real life and is almost equal to a stone, which is motionless and is aimless.

13. The adage is ‘’life is not a bed of roses but full of thorns’’. Life is a combination light and darkness, joy and grief and luck and unlucky which follow each other in a sequence. We cannot avoid and deny them but have to invite and bear them happily. But they are with us temporarily and leave us in a happy situation.

14. Spend silent moments for a certain period of time and in silence you will get the benefit of prayer, which brings faith or self- confidence.

Please share your opinion on this article.

12 manners to get respect from others

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Sat, 11 Aug 2007 19:09:00 +0000

Sometimes, even educated people behave unnatural way even in trifle matters and become cheap in the eyes of others. So to avoid such embarrassing situations, it is well and good to observe the following 12 points and be dignified.

1. Never read the letters of even your closest relatives, friends, and family members like brothers/sisters. If you read their letters, they will treat as person without manners.

2. Never show interest in others personal matters and don’t read their personal diaries.

3. Never see their SMSs in their cell phones and also their money-purses.

4. Don’t see their albums, unless they request you to see them and also not pass your comments about the album’s nature and external appearance.

5. Switch off the cell phones or keep them in silent, when you are attending the official meetings, cultural programmes and also during dinner times in the presence of guests.

6. Whenever guests come to your home, open the door and invite them politely and walk behind them (not before them) and make them be seated comfortably on the chairs or sofas.

7. Whenever you go to your friend’s house, take with you, sweets, and fruits and for the children biscuits and chocolates, etc.

8. Whenever you have taken help from others, express your gratitude by saying words like, “thanks or please’’, etc. You will get good impression in their opinion about you. Give tips to waiters in hotels or restaurants.

9. During parties or in functions take the food items along with the guests (not alone) and also it is good to serve each other and drink together. It is a good social behavior.

10. While taking coffee, tea or cool drinks in the office, always keep the files on your left side (not on the right side).

11. A simple laugh in your face brings laurels and creates impression on you in others’ minds, more over it costs nothing but fetches everything.

12. Whenever any body visits your home, usually they bring some thing for you and to your children also and you also reciprocate them in the same manner.

The golden word is: “Mannerisms makes a man, good manners make a good man’’.

‘’Give respect and take respect’’ is a good slogan and keep it in your mind, wherever you go and whatever your profession and position may be.

Suicide- Causes, Symptoms and Management

dr.nvkrishna@gmail.com (Dr.Krishna) — Fri, 10 Aug 2007 15:21:00 +0000

Many of us suffer from depression, at any time in our life, which may be in varying intensity- from mild to serious types. Depression is nothing but loosing interest or enthusiasm in life. There are so many causes or reasons for this type of mental agony.

Suicide- causes:

1. When a person looses his property in business.
2. When one is rejected or cheated by, his or her love or lover.
3. When a person is suffering from a dreadful diseases like-cancer, HIV/AIDS etc.
4. When a person is not able to secure a rank in the competitive test, thereby not able to get a job, or actually fails in the exam.
5. When one is neglected by his or her family members, including the children.
6. When one problem is aggravated with additional problems.
7. When a person with bodily disorder is jeered at by the people around.
8. when one is subjected to meaningless phobias or anxiety, etc.
9. When others in the past, committed suicide, under similar circumstances.
10. Often many women develop depression after giving birth to a child (during postpartum period), due to imbalances in levels of progesterone and estrogen hormones.
11. When he or she is suffering from psychiatric problems and other sexual disorders.
12. When a nearest relative dies or there is a death of any family member occurs.
13. When a higher officer scolds his assistant without assigning any valid reason, he develops depression.
14. Whenever, a person does not get nutritious or balanced diet, he may develop depression.
15. Occasionally, normal menstrual cycle aggravates the depression, if already present in a woman.
16. Depression runs in some families as a hereditary /genetic trait.
17. Staying alone in cities and not showing interest in getting married also causes depression especially in the youth now a day.

Signs and symptoms of Suicide mentality:

Suicide-tendency is more common in women, (may be due to they are soft –corner in nature) when compared to men. Moreover most of the males take many things in life very lightly.

1. Spend sleepless nights, thinking constantly.
2. Show no interest in food.
3. Either talk too much or keep absolute silence.
3. Write lengthy letters and never post them to any body.
4. Keep away from the friends or relatives, whom they like very much.
5. Often speak philosophically.
6. Showing lack of interest in the activities dearer to them earlier.
7. They give away their valuable articles in charity.
8. Collect different types of tablets and store them in secret.
9. Show lack of self-confidence and show displeasure and dismay.
10. They are always of the opinion that their life is waste.

Management of the case (patient):

1. As far as possible, he is not left alone.
2. He has to take balanced diet, even if he is not having sufficient appetite.
3. It is well and good, if the depressed person shared his feelings with his close friends.
4. Exercise is good for them, as it releases endorphins which elate the mood of the patient. Walking is the suitable exercise for this type of persons.
5. He may be under the false impression that depression is incurable, but the family members or friends have to enlighten him about the available latest treatment.
6. He should be taken to a psychiatrist for proper counseling and special treatment with antidepressant drugs. It is good to keep the patient under his care for a certain period of time.

Please share your experience with suicide cases.