Pieces of April

Animal Training

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 03:45:00 +0000

I am listening to a wonderful book called What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love and Marriage by Amy Sutherland. In it, she explores animal training techniques and how applying them to our relationships can be beneficial. One key concept that she wrote about that caught my attention was Incompatible Behavior.

This technique is to teach animals to do a behavior that is incompatible with a behavior they want to stop. For instance, the author had a problem with one of her dogs harassing her other dog when they got in the car. She opted to teach the harassing dog an incompatible behavior, rather than punish and fight with the situation. The aggressive dog now jumps in the car and immediately starts to lick her on the cheek. Licking her on the cheek is incompatible with harassing the other dog. The dog simply can't do both at one time.

Hmmm....can I possibly use this animal training technique on myself? Instead of punishing myself every time I eat a donut, maybe I could teach myself an incompatible behavior. When I am walking towards Top Pot for a donut purchase, maybe I could go for a walk around the building instead. The reason I am usually headed for the shop has nothing to do with hunger or the nutritional value of the donut, but is more likely stress, self pity or boredom. So a good, healthy stroll around the building would keep my hands away from the sweet, but also give me a physical and mental boost.

I like the idea that I don't have to actually change my behavior. I don't have to stop eating donuts. I just have to train myself to do a new behavior; one that just happens to be incompatible with what I'd like to stop. If it works for dolphins, cheetahs, tigers, parrots, baboons, camels....(you get the idea)...it might just work on me.

Do De Dewing

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 04:26:00 +0000

Often times in nature, I find things that amaze me. More often, it's the smallest things that I hadn't stopped to consider before. One of those things that I "discovered" a few months ago was "dew point." I was so enthralled by the point of dew that I decided to name my new promotion business after it, DewPoint Studios - and here's why:

Dew Point is actually the temperature that the air needs to cool to in order for dew to appear. That temperature varies, depending on humidity and a few other factors. The drier the air, the lower the dew point temperature.

What occurred to me is this is the point of change. Almost like magic, this temperature is when water moves from an unseen vapor to real, tangible water. It's the action point - it's seeing something come to pass, not wishing for it.

Also, "dew" is in the Bible thirty-seven times. It's considered a great blessing of God, even preceding the manna from heaven that God blessed the Israelites with in the desert (Numbers 11:9).

This just translates so well to our goals, dreams and grandest desires. When we identify what we want to happen in the future, it's essentially born into existence - into a vapor. We can't actually see it yet, but it's there. As we work and struggle and fall and triumph, we're creating the right conditions - cooling the air. At the point when we see the dream come true (celebrate that goal weight, sell that painting, hold that baby, finish that race), it's the dew point. We've walked into the reality that was only a vapor before.

What are you DEWing?

The Good List

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 08 May 2010 17:36:00 +0000

I don't know about you, but I am very good at keep a mental score card of all the 'bad' things I do, say, think, feel or eat. I feel guilty if I may have unintentionally offended someone...who may not really be offended...but I could see how my words might have come off badly...maybe they didn't notice...should I apologize the next day anyway? *sigh* Yeah, I'm an expert at keeping my 'bad' list.

So where's my 'good' list? The 'good' I seem to forget. Making this list feels weird, though. Part of me thinks it's selfish to think about the 'good' things I've said, thought, felt or ate. The bad list keeps me humble...right?

Thanks to a Weight Watchers meeting, my new list is only 14 days old, but it includes one thing a day that I'm proud of or makes me feel good. I wrote down a compliment that someone gave me - in quotes. I wrote down a good decision I made, a salad I ate and an idea that I came up with.

I'm truly surprised at how this list of 14 things makes me feel about myself and the difference it's made. My life is not a list of bad decisions and I get to acknowledge that. Not only has this list been helpful, but it's also freeing to give myself permission to feel good.

Knitty Gritty Guest Post

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 02:12:00 +0000

My sister is a wonderful writer. My favorite cards that I've kept have been from her when she pours out her heart. She recently wrote this blog for a class and she read it to me over the phone. I found it so inspiring, I asked if I could repost it on my blog. Thankfully, she loves me, so she agreed.....and, she mentions me in the post, so I felt I should share. Enjoy!

The original post is here: A. Riley....Declassified (Thanks Ang!)
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Knitty Gritty

"Central to the appeal of knitting is that it wakes like a meditation. Everything become quiet, still and peacful and all the turmoil of life seems to succumb to the silent rhythm of the needles and the orderly progression of the stitches." - June Hemmons Hiatt

I've always enjoyed creating something out of nothing. From the time I made a diorama of a flying bee out of an old clock motor as a kid, just for fun mind you, to more recent ventures like knitting. I didn't have the benefit of a wise elder who has made everything from a simple strand of yarn she spun herself, her nimble fingers showing me how to weave the thread between the needles methodically. Nope, I never do it the easy way. I learned basically from a coloring book.

Learning to knit is not an easy thing to do. My venture started out at first as an obligation. I had taught myself to crochet fairly easily at 23. My sister, generally the best gift giver in history, mistakenly bought me a knit kit for Christmas. Great. Thanks, sis. Now I have to learn. I opened the box and luckily found instructions. Even more fortunately, there were pictures. Soon, I realized the complexity of this overwhelming task. The pictures I was so enthralled about only seemed to confuse more than they helped. Time and time again, I attempted to mimic the visual. Time and time again, I failed. Miserably. Very, very miserably.

I boxed up my present only a few months later in complete frustration. Then I thought, 'What was so hard, really? You're a smart gal, creative and whatnot. Perhaps a little less than graceful with sharp objects, but have another go at it! We can do this thing! WOOOOO!' And I got all pumped up. Again. And I failed. Again, only slightly less miserably.

Over the next year or so, this happened several times. Like having a child, I would forget the pain of birth and want to try again. Finally, something clicked. Something beautiful. What happened next was almost miraculous, transporting me from my year in craft purgutory to the big yarn ball in the sky through gates of golden knitting needles. I knitted. AND purled! The child in me danced to the rhythm of the clicking needles while the adult in me sat in quiet satisfaction of creativity.

The first REAL thing I started to make besides practice swatches was a blanket for my mom. The two hues of purple contrasted the white perfectly. It's progress was punctuated by intermittent delays to make hats, scarves, mittens, baby clothes, etc. It was awfully hot to work on in summer, so winter became prime time to make progress as the blanket grew, stitch by stich, row by row. Three years later at Christmas, I made my mother cry by its sheer beauty. Either that or it was like when you bring a drawing home from kindergarten and your parents shamelessly hang it on the refrigerator to make you feel good. I'd like to think it was more impressive than the finger paint creativity of a five-year-old, but either way, my mom cried. Honestly, the thing was nothing like I originally planned. It was a mere remnant of my idea, with flaws only my overscrutinizing eyes could see. But purple sure is pretty. And I proudly gave my mom her prize.

Still today, I knit. When my needles move in harmony to create beauty out of nothingness, the world stops yelling obscenities at me, if only for a brief moment. Time stops, only to have tocatch up real quick once I stop. And I remember to keep fighting, keep trying, because although you don't know the definite outcome, you know each stitch brings you closer to the dream. Even though it's never as easy as a coloring book picture makes it look.

Bend But Not Break

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 05:20:00 +0000

A few of the best trees to have in your yard during a hurricane are Dogwood, Sand Live Oak, Sabal Palm, Crape myrtle and Southern Magnolia, according to the University of Florida and LSU AgCenter.

This really piqued my interest. What properties do these trees have that set them apart? From what I read on these sites, they share similar qualities:

1. They are slow-growing trees.

2. They have a deep penetrating root system and low centers of gravity.

3. They defoliate, or shed their leaves easily, which equals less branch loss.

4. They have a high elasticity and 'modulus of rupture', which is how much the wood can bend before breaking.

There are also recommendations on how to landscape your hurricane-susceptible yard, according to Florida Gardener.

1. The best chance for survival is when trees are planted in groups.

2. Prune trees regularly to keep their center of gravity low.

3. Keep the root system healthy and plant shrubs around the tree to deflect the wind upward.

I know I'm not the only one making the life-application connection here, but I'll lay it out anyway. (this photo is from Florida, of the Fairchild Oak, one of the largest live oak trees in the south)

When we're striving to quit smoking, lose weight or another big, grand goal, we're going to face storms and high winds. What is going to set us apart from someone else that gets uprooted in the process?

1. We will be slow-growing. We'll take the time to do it right. We'll research, learn and grow steadily.

2. We will have deep roots. We all know diets and quick fixes don't work long term. We'll root deeply for the long haul.

3. We will defoliate. We will shed the baggage that would otherwise take us down. Shed past failures, negative self-talk and other fears.

4. We will be elastic. If we too forcefully try to resist the wind, we will be uprooted. Instead, we will bend under the high pressure, but we will not break.

And, how best to care for ourselves?

1. We will root in groups. We'll find other trees like us and become a stronger part of the landscape together.

2. We will prune regularly. We'll be brutally honest with ourselves to prune bad habits or self-made barriers. This will give us a lower center of gravity.

3. We'll take care of our roots. What good is a great root system without a foundation, encouragement and a sense of purpose?

So, friends, let's choose our favorite of the beautiful, resilient trees above and model our lives after them. After all, they lived through the worst hurricanes on record and survived to give us an example. When our storm passes, we, too, will stand upright again, the way we were created.

Avoidance

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 15:22:00 +0000

Have you ever done a bunch of dumb things to avoid something you knew had to be done? Instead of jumping with both feet towards our dreams, we avoid it by....eating donuts, playing video games, watching a movie, eating donuts, checking on all our Facebook friends, writing a blog..... None of things are wrong, but if done simply to avoid something else, they can't truly be enjoyed.

If we have a dream we're going after, but aren't sure how to get there -- wouldn't it be better to sit down and map out a plan than to run to Home Depot to remodel the bathroom? While the bathroom project may be necessary, after it's completed, the details of the big dream still haven't been solved. In this case, Breath-taking Bathroom = Disorganized Dream.

Let's say we made our New Year's resolution to lose weight, but we never join a gym, buy vegetables, seek out a plan that works, find support or get rid of the Cheetos -- instead we go to the local animal shelter and get a cat. Hurray for saving the cat's life, but what about our life? We get an immediate feel-good, but still haven't dealt with the long term needs.

It's hard to be human. We feel feelings. Feelings don't always feel good. Love is amazing, but a broken heart can kill us. Maybe it's easier to eat than to feel lonely? But, maybe, if we took the time to feel our feelings, we could deal with them. Maybe really feeling loneliness could lead to action which brings internal comfort. Maybe actually confronting the disappointment in the mirror can lead to the true desire to change.

New Blog Design

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:56:00 +0000

Nothing profound, but check out my new blog design! I had fun creating it. I wanted something easier on the eyes and pretty.

Six Feet to Food

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 06:56:00 +0000

I have to be honest. I don't think I could ever make it as a giraffe. I think I would have died in birth.

First, the mama giraffe has to remain standing during the birth. If she sits, she'll crush the baby. What this means is that poor baby giraffe has a SIX FOOT drop to the ground when it's born....head first, I might add.

Second, baby giraffes are generally standing on their new legs within 30 minutes. Uh, yeah, because that's where the food is. It's not like when human babies get handed to their moms, cozy, wrapped-up and laying in our arms. Nope. Mama's up high. It has to work for it.

Let's review. Hit the ground with my head from a six-foot drop, then I have to work like crazy to get my new legs to work...in order to eat. No time to rest, get used to the light of the world, the feel of the grass...simply survival of the most determined.

Well, on second thought, we may be more like that baby giraffe than I thought. We have goals, dreams and desires that feel like they are outside of our reach. We may feel like we've been dropped on our heads with only four wobbly legs as tools. Let's take heart and follow the way of the baby giraffe. Our life may be at stake.

* Squeamish Warning: Actual giraffe birth with head-drop and wobbly legs - not exactly 'pretty'*

What's in a Name?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 06:38:00 +0000

I briefly met a woman recently whom I see every day. I performed my usual smile and nod, but after I met her, I added a little half wave too. About a week after our introduction, we walked past each other and she said my name in her greeting. I was truly shocked...and then touched. She remembered me.

Names are identities. We might not love our parents' choice or maybe hate when people misspell it, but it identifies who we are on a certain level - one that separates us from the majority.

Want to inspire and encourage someone today? Say their name. They may also need a good inspirational quote or a thoughtful compliment, but when you match that with what identifies them as unique, it makes it personal.

Classic example: watch You've Got Mail again (as if we need an excuse, right?!) and watch the scene with Tom Hanks in the grocery store where he convinces the store employee, Rose, to do something she didn't initially want to do. It's a beautiful example of identifying with a stranger by using their name.

Pick Your Hard

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 04:42:00 +0000

This isn't an original. I don't claim it. I heard it at a Weight Watchers meeting about a year ago. Today, it came back to me.

Losing weight is hard.
But
Being overweight is hard.

Pick your hard.

Funny that today, I realized that this is everything in life. Going after your passion is hard, but sitting on your passion is hard. Keeping faith through tough times is hard, but losing your faith is hard.

So what "hards" are you trying to choose between? It's all hard, my friends. Pick the one that gives you the ultimate joy in pursuing. Yeah, it's hard, but pick the hard that worth it.

Trail Blazing

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 03:34:00 +0000

A friend of mine put a seed of a thought in my head a couple days ago. It's bounced around until it's become this:

When we meet resistance in going after our goals, it's not a sign we should quit. We're just blazing our own trail and that takes effort. The path will get clearer and easier to travel, but we have to get through it a few times.

At least we don't have to buy our log homes from the Sears catalog and build them ourselves, like the original trail blazers who headed out west.

"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." - Thomas Edison

How Average Are You?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 06:16:00 +0000

The average American will eat 35,000 cookies in a lifetime and spends 120 hours a month watching television, the equivalent of five complete days in front of the TV. (http://www.corsinet.com/trivia/average.html)

The average American woman spends 55 minutes per day getting showered, dressed, and groomed. (http://www.corsinet.com/trivia/average.html

The average Facebook user has 130 friends on the site, spends more than 55 minutes per day on Facebook and clicks the Like button on 9 pieces of content each month. (http://www.facebook.com/press/info.php?statistics

In 1941 the average woman was 5' 2", 129 pounds. Today she is 5' 4" and weighs 144 lbs (wearing between a 12 and 14). (http://fashion.about.com/cs/tipsadvice/a/allaboutfit.htm)

The average person keeps old magazines for 29 weeks before they throw them out. (http://www.joe-ks.com/archives_feb2004/Useless_Stats.htm)

The average college GPA is 3.11 (from 2007 - http://gradeinflation.com/)

The average family has more televisions than people. (http://www.time.com/time/specials/2007/article/0,28804,1674995_1683300,00.html)

As of third quarter 2008, the average person in the U.S. watched approximately 142 hours of TV in one month. In addition, people who used the Internet were online 27 hours a month, and people who used a mobile phone spent 3 hours a month watching mobile video. (http://en-us.nielsen.com/main/news/news_releases/2008/november/americans_cannot_get)

The latest study on the average number of texts for American teenagers is from Q4 2008, reported by the New York Times. Ready? 2,272 text messages per month. (http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/26/health/26teen.html)

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I’ve been thinking about averages lately. What are they and why do we care? Averages can make us feel good, like we belong….and sometimes not. We seek out these number and hope that we fall in a range of numbers that are acceptable. In the end, they are just numbers. Numbers, like those random things on the scale.

Personally, I’ve probably blown through the 35,000 cookies in my lifetime so far. My family has the same number of TVs and computers as people and I have 173 Facebook friends to date. In 1941, I would have been taller and heavier than the average woman, but now, I’m shorter and lighter.

So what?

I’ve decided my job is to be the best I can be. I am to do the greatest thing I can do in a given moment, no matter what the "average" calls me to do. I have a family to love, a serious set of goals to work on and dreams to accomplish. If I set my eyes on what is average, average is what I’ll get in return. I’m aiming for the moon - - how about you?

“Refuse to be average. Let your heart soar as high as it will.” - A. W. Tozer

"Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it you will land among the stars." - Les Brown

Sometimes We Fall

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 04:36:00 +0000

Last month, we experienced a bit of an icy blast in the Northwest. My car fishtailed as I took my son to school through the neighborhood. When we finally parked by the sidewalk, I turned to him and explained that it was very icy outside and that we would have to be careful. I told him we could hang on to each other, but that we would have to BE CAREFUL. As I was explaining this, a group of older kids walked by our car. As if on queue, two of them dropped to the ground right outside his window. "See?" I said and I used the older kids as an example of not being careful.

I walked to his door and slipped a bit. "See?" I said. I moved my boot over the ice to show him how slick it was. I told him to take it slow and pay attention to his steps. I know, I know. I'm beginning to annoy myself with all of my motherly warnings.

The boy hops out of the car, both feet fly out from under him and he is INSTANTLY on the ground. His rear landed with a thud and the wind was knocked out of him. He was stunned at first and then started crying.

I think my exact word to him was, "DUDE!" I couldn't have prepped him more if I tried - even having living bad examples - and he flopped to the ground anyway. But, over the next couple icy days, he didn't come close to slipping again. Even today, when it was raining outside, he paused before stepping on the sidewalk and asked me if it was slippery.

Sometimes, no amount of warning or talking or examples will make a difference. Sometimes, our rears have to hit the ground - H-A-R-D - before we can really understand. But after we hit, it's what we do after that makes all the difference. We can learn. We can adjust. We can become more stable. Or, we can sit on the sidewalk and cry for the rest of our lives.

Ford Failures

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:16:00 +0000

“One who fears failure limits his activities. Failure is only the opportunity to more intelligently begin again.” - Henry Ford

I love this quote. For all my failures and my perceived failures, quotes like this inspire me. I can leave my failure behind and it’s okay.

What I love more is that Henry Ford said this. We all know about the Ford Motor Company and the giant it is today. We all know some of his successes, but here are some other things I found out.

- In 1915, he funded a pacifist political expedition to Norway with 170 men to seek peace during WWI, without government assistance or backing. The war lasted 3 more years after he came back.

- In 1918, he ran for Senator and lost in an unfair battle. Because of the slimy practices of his opponent, the Congress now has Federal Corrupt Practices Act, of 1925. He still didn’t ever get to serve in office.

- He started and lost two previous auto companies before Ford Motor Company was started. The first one was lost to bankruptcy and the second over a banking dispute.

Although the quote is two sentences long, it’s nice to know that he had a lifetime of failures – BIG ones – to back it up. Inspirational quotes are great, but the greatest come from those with a story.

Another one I like?

“I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” - Michael Jordan

Visualization in Sports

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:46:00 +0000

My brother is an athlete and has been since the day he was born. Pretty much, if there was a season, he was playing the sport. He not only played sports, he practiced sports, he watched sports and he dreamed about sports. Today, he teaches Physical Education to junior high students and coaches high school girl’s volleyball, but his resume includes coaching all ages and skill levels in baseball, basketball and volleyball.

I say this because my brother taught me two huge lessons about life through his love of sports.

First, you never get where you are going without practice – even if you have a gift. I remember the summer he wanted to increase his vertical jump. I remember him DAILY, endlessly, even in the dark….he would stand outside and simply jump…..over and over and over.

Second, our minds are directly connected to our abilities. The summer that he jumped, when he wasn’t jumping, he thought about jumping - quite literally. I remember him laying on his waterbed, with his walkman loudly pumping the Hoosiers soundtrack. He was visualizing himself (you guessed it) jumping higher.

I don’t remember the number of inches he added to his vertical in the matter of three months, but I do remember his excitement (that annoyed me at the time!). I also remember him being able to jump over the heads of his peers in basketball. **Update: after verifying with my bro, he actually increased his vertical 6 inches in 6 weeks!! How's THAT for encouragement**

As a coach, he now encourages his teams to visualize the outcome. Visualize that perfect volleyball serve at each point: the feel of your knees slightly bent; the weight of the ball in your left hand; the sound of the ball connecting with your right; the sight of the ball making its perfect arc through the air; that ball landing in the sweet spot on the other side of the net….the crowd going wild.

Several studies have shown that muscles physically respond to visualizations as if the movements had actually been done. Olympic athletes are often seen “running” the race with their eyes closed before their feet ever hit the track. There is also evidence that shows using similar types of visualizations, athletes are healing faster after an injury. Michael Phelps has been very public about his visualization techniques:

“There are times in my sleep when I literally dream my race from start to finish. Other nights … I visualize to the point that I know exactly what I want to do: dive, glide, stroke, flip, reach the wall, hit the split time to the hundredth, then swim back again for as many times as I need to finish.”

This technique can be helpful in achieving any type of goal, really. In weight loss, picture yourself at your ideal weight. See yourself working out effortlessly on the treadmill. Watch yourself jogging the 5k instead of walking it. Visualize eating and enjoying the taste of celery.

It works. Just ask my brother. But I don’t think he’ll lend anyone his Hoosiers soundtrack….I think he’s still listening to it.

LaLa Land

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 02:46:00 +0000

I've had quite the blog hiatus! I've been in LaLa Land, quite literally. I've been dreaming dreams - trying to figure out which ones are ones worth pursing and which ones are just nice to think about.

I went to a writing conference this weekend, close to home. There were 250 other writers in one place for 3 days and I was in Heaven! I learned so much, but there is one huge take-away I'd like to share.

No matter what your dream or goal, you can't attain it if you don't start. And to start, start with the basics. A story can only be edited after it's written. Weight loss can only happen after a lifestyle change - even a small one at first.

So, to finish --- we must start!

The Number One Reason Is....

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 03:53:00 +0000

While working on my list (see earlier blog post) of the reasons 'why' I want to maintain my weight loss, I found one of my biggest reasons. It’s not deep, emotional or awe-inspiring.

It’s simply because I can.

And when I succeed at maintenance and earn my Weight Watchers star for the month, I feel successful. When I feel successful, other areas of my life get more positive April energy.

So my number one reason for maintaining my weight loss is to help breed success in other areas of my life.

As a side note, I also found a new (classic) rockin’ song for my playlist from the Biggest Loser Workout - Classic Rock. Yeah, it’s Kansas, but with a little ‘m-ch m-ch’ - Carry On My Wayward Son. So, I might have danced while I was getting ready this morning while listening to it and I may be really excited to get on the elliptical with it.

Maintenance - - here I co…uh…stay!

What? Why?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 14:11:00 +0000

The 'why' for anything we do is so important. The 'why' is what keeps us on our path. When I first started on my weight loss journey, I made a list of 10 'whats' and 'whys'. These are the things I wanted out of my journey and the reasons I decided it was worth it.

One of those reasons was my son. I wanted to be a healthy example for him and to do what I could to live longer for him. Another reason was smaller clothing sizes. It just seemed that the cutest clothes only came in small and I wanted to wear those. A few others are personal and extremely close to my heart.

What I realize now, though, as valuable as that list was at the time, I need a new list. I need to discover the 'whats' and 'whys' of maintaining a healthy weight.

Losing is one thing...it is rewarding to watch numbers fall on the scale, to buy new clothes, to listen to compliments. But maintaining...that's just...well...staying the same. It's still work. It's still watching what I eat and spending time working out. But, I'm no longer watching anything drop and I'm working to just stay in the clothes that I have.

So, I need a new list. This week, I will create that list and bring something exciting back to maintainance. Anyone have ideas on spicing it up? New cool recipe? Favorite exercise? New tunes for my workout playlist?

Time to Make the Donuts

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 15:13:00 +0000

The past few weeks have been rough donut weeks for me. I have been eating my vegetables, drinking my water, taking my vitamins, but in all honesty, I have had no ability to avoid Top Pot.

So, I decided to really get to the root of this issue. I know I was stressing about my son starting Kindergarten, with all the changes that would take place in my family. But why would I equate stress with donuts? It took reaching way back in my memory, but I found it.

I grew up in a military home. Although we didn’t move as often as other families, it still meant we didn’t live close to grandparents. So, we were a road-trip family. We road-tripped to see Grandma and Grandpa. We road-tripped every move we made. And, this is how the road trip would play out:

My parents would gather the three of us still-sleeping children at about 3 or 4 in the morning. They would buckle us in to the van or truck and head out in the darkness. When we woke up several hours later, my mom would hand us a powdered donut wrapped in a napkin.

What those times meant for me was that, even though we were moving and my whole life was about to change, my family was constant. Our houses might change, the weather would change, my friends and school would be different, but my family was always together. And for me, donuts are the reminder of the constant.

So please tell me how you do it. How do you go into a big life change gracefully? What constants do you hang on to that bring you comfort?

Bounce

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 14:30:00 +0000

There is a commercial from the early 90s – maybe late 80s – that has been brought to mind lately. As usual, I don’t quite remember the product, but it was some dog treat. There was a Bulldog walking down the sidewalk, with a Chihuahua sidekick. The Bulldog was walking straight and determined, while the little Chihuahua was jumping back and forth over the Bulldog. The Bulldog was either silent or barely speaking while the Chihuahua was chattering away as he bounced. He made the same progress forward as the Bulldog…but just bouncier.

I often feel like the Chihuahua in that commercial. In my life, I have strong, steady and confident people, while I am sometimes just overly excited. I try to be Bulldog-ish and composed, but I often have too much excitement pinging around to stand still. I mean, I have my Bulldog moments (sometimes my rabid wolf moments), but I am a bouncer at heart.

But, when I had extra weight, I couldn’t bounce – physically, emotionally or spiritually. The weight clouded my vision of future possibilities. Every time I ate, I sank lower emotionally because I felt like I didn’t even deserve the right to eat. If I ate a salad, I would imagine what people thought as they watched the fat lady failing to be healthy.

I was so focused on how badly I felt about myself that I couldn’t see anything around me. Weight Watchers helped bring color to my black-and-white world. Everything was exciting again – I experienced joys that had been years removed from my life.

It was gradual and sporadic, though. With each small step I took, I realized I could take more. Over almost 2 years, as the snowball effect began to take place, my steps became more bouncy and I found myself again.

I understand life happens. I’ve experienced pain, loss and anger. I’ve cried great tears and my soul has groaned at times. I understand. I get it, but if we let those times out-weigh who we are, then pain, fear and depression become the theme of our lives. We have to dig our way out of those low times and live out who we truly are.

Who are you? If you're a calm and steady Bulldog, keep going! If you're an excitable and bouncy Chihuahua, then bounce, my friend, bounce!

A 4-Bandaid Owie

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 03:35:00 +0000

My son fell a couple weeks ago while skipping and trying to go up a curb. He scraped up his knee and has lots of bruises that are still healing. It was probably the worst owie he's had in his 5 years of living. He cried a lot and onlookers felt sorry for us. I sat down on the curb with him and positioned his face away from the blood running down his leg.

The daddy hero carried him to the restaurant's bathroom to clean up, then walked to a near-by gas station to buy bandaids. It took 4 of them to cover up the worst of it and contain the bleeding. My heart broke for him. It hurts to watch such pain overcome someone and even more so when he's mine.

While I wiped away tears from his face and blood from his leg, I tried to remember the last time I'd actually fallen. I've tripped tons, of course, but manage to catch myself. Then, I started thinking that I've gotten pretty good at this walking thing. I gotta say, I was feeling good about myself. I've learned something in life.

Today, though, I thought about this a bit more. Is it that I've gotten good at walking - or - because maybe I don't take chances anymore? Sure, I haven't needed those bandaids, but when was the last time I skipped to where I was going?

Michelangelo and David

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 01:11:00 +0000

Michelangelo was 26 years old when he was commissioned to take on creating the statue David, on August 16, 1501. He was the third person who worked on the block of marble that would become David.

Two others had been commissioned to do the work, but they never completed it. They both got as far as roughing out the feet and legs, but then the marble piece sat outside for 35 years before Michelangelo came into the picture. It was exposed to winds, rain, heat, snow, bugs, mold…. for so long, in fact that the marble actually began to shrink.

Wait – is that right? Let’s review the timeline.

1464 – Original contract to begin the work of David
1466 – Second contract with new artist to continue David – then quickly abandoned
1475 – Michelangelo was born
1501 – Michelangelo commissioned to continue David
1504 – David was completed

Michelangelo wasn’t even born when the block of marble was created, shipped and abandoned. It’s almost as if David was Michelangelo’s destiny, as if David were waiting for him to arrive. Other artists were consulted in 1500, including Leonardo da Vinci, but Michelangelo won the opportunity.

What if Michelangelo had followed in the footsteps of the other artists? What if he decided the project was too big or intimidating for his age? What if he was too worried about failure that he never even tried? What if, on day 489, he just got too tired of looking at that same block of marble day-in and day-out?

Did you know there are also critics of David? Yeah, I Googled it and the criticism began almost immediately. They range from he’s not proportionate to the sling is in the wrong hand.

It’s certainly easier to be the critic than to be the artist who submerged himself in the history and mind of a man facing Goliath, for over two years. Or, maybe that’s why he was able to do such an amazing job – Michelangelo was also a young man facing his giants.

“I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” - Michelangelo

So, I’m asking myself two questions today.

What destiny has been waiting for me since before I was born? Do I have the courage to face it day-in and day-out until I set it free?
If even the great Michelangelo has critics, can I also go boldly forward without fear of their opinions?

Let me know if you happen to see a 13' tall piece of marble laying around. I think I have some freeing to do.

My Birthday Reflections

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 19:14:00 +0000

My paternal grandparents saved a copy of their local newspaper from the day I was born (August 5, 1976). It’s pretty cool to look at and I love the ads. Can you imagine buying jeans for $8.98? I really like the Black and White TV. It’s described as, “Portable 19-inch Diagonal TV. Front-mounted speaker, U/V antennas. Plastic. $118” I’m sold!

Today, though, as I looked through it again, I actually looked at the news articles too. The number one story on the front page? Swine Flu.

Glow in the Dark

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 04:00:00 +0000

When glow-in-the-dark toys stay in the dark, they don’t glow. They can only glow when they first absorb light.

I’ve had this thought brewing for about 15 years and I’ve pulled it out on several different life occasions. Today, it resurfaced and I just can’t shake it. It’s a simple thought, so forgive me if it doesn’t create an ah-ha moment for you.

We are like those toys. We absorb the things, thoughts and attitudes that we are near. If we keep ourselves in darkness with negative thoughts, or by camping out around condemnation, we can’t ever glow, even if glowing is our true purpose.

Only after we’ve surrounded ourselves with light can we be seen in the darkness.

Today, let’s purge the negative, bask in the positive and then dance in the dark.

Dedication

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 02:05:00 +0000

In February, a 14-year-old broke the Guinness World Record for Guitar Hero and was also named the new world champion of the game. His name is Danny Johnson and you can find several videos of him playing his guitar on YouTube. Danny said that he played three hours a day (after homework and music practice) for nine months.

I’ve been thinking about Danny a lot the past few months. Not necessarily as related to Guitar Hero, but as it relates to his dedication. Three hours a day put him in the Guinness World Record category. What could I accomplish if I devoted three hours a day to one thing? I don’t have an extra three hours a day - let’s go smaller.

What could I accomplish if I devoted one hour a day to one thing? Still seems like a lot of time – let’s go even smaller.

What could I accomplish is I devoted just 30 minutes a day to one thing? I could probably find that.

30 minutes a day adds up to 182 hours a year! What could you accomplish with a 182 hour dedication to one thing?! I could get a good start on a ton of different things!

extend my education.
learn to belly dance
learn to play the guitar.
re-learn how to ride a bike.
learn to speak Italian.
write a novel.
become a certified electrician.
write a novel.
have a weedless yard.
memorize the dictionary.
write a novel!!

What about 30 minutes for my health? According to the Mayo Clinic, 30 minutes of aerobic exercise a day helps in weight loss, gives you more stamina, prevents illnesses, reduces health risks, strengthens your heart, helps clear your arteries, boosts your mood, keeps your mind sharp and extends your life.

There is so much we can accomplish if we focus our energy. I’ve decided that we don’t need to wait until the new year to make goals and resolutions. Goals that are born out of desire, rather than the time of the year, mean more to me.

So, what do you want from your 182 hours this year? What certificate will you earn? How much weight will you lose? How many countries will you visit? What goals do you have that could use a little extra daily attention? Write it down, plan it out and savor every minute of the journey!

Me? I’m writing that novel.