Plaid Archer

Full Disclosure - Why I Moved to Hawaii

2016-05-24T22:45:00.000-07:00

Recently, a friend of mine asked me how I ended up in Hawaii. I'll try to keep it brief, but it's a long story...

In July of 2012 I made the decision to unload my personal possessions, quit my job, move to Hawaii and volunteer full time in exchange for a roof over my head and food to eat. It was an extreme change from the life I was living in Ohio, but that was the whole point.

Before Hawaii – I had a financially stable job that allowed me the freedom to work from home, but I was miserable. I had my own place, my own car, my bills were paid, I could put food on the table, but I was miserable. I'd just completed the third round of radiation and quarantine, and my doctor wrote me a “clean bill of health” by telling me that I was going to spend the remainder of my life on medications. That was the straw that broke this camel's back.

I knew that was a lie, and I was done living a lie.

I had a great job (on paper), but I didn't feel fulfilled, instead I felt like a fraud because I was discouraged from being totally truthful with clients. I had my own place, but my neighbors frequently turned into verbally abusive stalkers when I didn't return their affections or accept their advances – my sanctuary was no longer serene.

Chemotherapy was hard on my body. I could barely walk the 15 steps from my bed to my desk without debilitating pain. I could barely work for 3 hours without becoming so fatigued that I needed to sleep for several hours, which is pitiful considering I had a very sedentary job.

I could barely dress myself without pain and fatigue, I felt like a total failure because I couldn't even stand up long enough to wash dishes or prepare a proper meal. I was not living by any stretch of the imagination.

In short, something had to give.

To keep myself occupied (read: distracted from the misery that was my “life”) I took up work as a freelance writer. One of my first commissions was ghost writing a book about raw food dieting. That planted the seed...

Next, I started transcribing audio for the author Simon Sinek (Start with Why)
The deeper I delved into the material for my freelancing assignments, the more I realized I needed a full lifestyle reboot. So I started to dig deep and ask myself hard questions:

What do you want?
What do you enjoy doing?
What makes you feel fulfilled?
When are you your happiest?
What are you doing when you lose sense of time?

The fact is, I'm not motivated by money. I'm motivated by being physically active, engaged in something creative, and helping others feel genuinely happy. After some research, I realized that I could achieve all of these things by dedicating myself to volunteering, and there are tons of people in need of volunteers to help lift their burdens.

What better place to volunteer full time than Hawaii?

I arrived in Hawaii in September 2012, and started working at my first work/trade location – a 15-acre coffee farm at the start of coffee picking season. It was grueling work, physically taxing labor, and I loved every minute of it. Yes, I was still in pain. Yes, I was still fatigued. But I refused to give in. I'd quit my job, donated all of my material possessions, I had nothing to go back to, and only one way to go, and that was head-long towards reclaiming my life. Every day I listened to my body, and slowly weened myself off of all my medications. Within 18 months I'd stopped taking all meds, I'd lost a significant amount of weight, I was walking several miles a day, and I was starting to recognize my reflection in the mirror once more.

That first year on the Big Island I volunteered at four different locations, each one with its own valuable insights, lessons, challenges, and growth opportunities.

In July of 2013 I arrived at Hale Maluhia (The House of Peace) and accepted the volunteer position of housekeeper. This place truly lives up to its name, and I feel like I'm home. Every day I feel healthier and happier, more valued and significant than ever before.

The Spaces in Between – Learning to Enjoy Silence and Solitude

2016-04-29T12:30:00.000-07:00

I'm a pretty laid back and relaxed kind of gal. For the most part I'm content with my solitude, but that wasn't always the case. I'm a homebody and a hermit, yes, but there was once a time when the thought of dining in public alone was a cause for panic.
With some time, practice, and deliberate stretching of my comfort zone, I've come to find so much peace with my own company that not only has my alone time become fulfilling, my relationships are more rewarding as well. I no longer need the company of another to make me feel complete. Better yet, when enjoying the company of another, I no longer feel the need to fill the air with useless noise. I'm able to simply enjoy the comfort of their company, even if we're sitting side by side in blissful silence.
Though it may seem like a challenge, obtaining this sort of serenity really isn't so difficult. Here's a few methods that helped me grow comfortable in my own skin.

Celebrate Your Independence

Count Your Blessings – Sometimes, when we get all caught up in the noise that's banging around in our heads, it can be tempting to listen to the nagging voice of insecurity. It's at these times that we become most vulnerable to self-sabotage in the form of counting all of our past disappointments. This ugly cycle only leads to stress, mental-anguish, and depression.
Switch things up by using this time to count your blessings. Write down a few things that happened during the day to make you feel grateful or optimistic. To really boost the signal on your blessings, share this good news with your friends over Facebook or Twitter. Sharing the things that make you genuinely smile causes others to genuinely smile too. It's like a yawn, totally contagious.
Let it Be – We can't be all things to everyone, even though it might sound nice to be regarded as the savior of the day. Truth is, the need to control every last detail, or have a handle on matters which are beyond your reach gets to be really exhausting. Chances are there may be someone else who is equally qualified to handle one of your many tasks, let them do it and don't complain when their approach is different. Instead, be thankful that you've been given a chance to focus on more pressing matters like relaxing and enjoying life. Let someone else take the wheel once in a while, and enjoy the view for a change.
Enjoy Your Company – Now that you've got all sorts of free-time on your hands, what the heck are you supposed to do to fill the hours? The simple answer is: have fun! Ask yourself what you want to do, and then get out there and do it. Want to wear funky socks, curl up under the covers, and read a trashy romance novel? Okay! Doesn't a bowl of ice cream and a few hours of nail art tutorials on YouTube sound positively awesome? Treat yourself!
Build a Sanctuary – If you're having trouble relaxing in your personal space because it feels more like a prison than a paradise, it may be time for a little make-over. A fresh coat of paint, a few scented candles, even a simple rearranging of the furniture can really breathe new life into a room and make it feel more special.

Moving On Gracefully – Crossing Paths With “The Ex” Without Running for the Exit

2016-04-09T12:00:00.000-07:00

Recently, a friend of mine and I decided to go in separate directions. Is this a permanent thing? Meh, time will tell. Right now, it was time to call it quits and let go of a lot of unnecessary drama.

It was a break-up, just like any other, and break-ups aren't always easy. My friend and I simply reached a point in our relationship where it was challenging to communicate without being hurtful, and I have a strict personal policy that if I can't speak to someone in kind, loving tones then I simply cannot speak to them. I have no desire to shout, I'd much rather disengage and return to the comfort of peace until enough time has passed that we can behave like mature adults.

In my mind, this is how break-ups should go – take a break so each person can move on to bigger and better things. No contact, no communication, things are severed for a while so both parties can evaluate the situation from a different perspective, and grow as individuals.

Naturally, some need for contact is going to happen eventually, but once the relationship is over it's time to move on and do so with grace and dignity. If your ex is still trying to maintain contact with you, here are a few ways of dealing with the situation like a boss.

Email – Depending on the content of the email, you can probably just ignore it and send it to the trash bin. If there's no remaining business between you and your ex (think divorce details and childcare arrangements) then there's no reason to respond to an email communication if you have no desire. When it comes to all the ways you could bump into your ex and walk away without awkwardness, deleting an email is the least intrusive method.
What to do: If you must respond, however, focus solely on business and keep it as emotion-free as possible. Just the facts and nothing but the facts. No need to rehash anything, just keep it short, sweet, and simple.
Random Text – I tend to stay on friendly terms with my exes. Choosing instead to cut and run long before things get past the point of no return. Even so, I do get a little suspicious when an ex I haven't heard from in a long time suddenly wants to know how life is treating me, because it usually turns into a chance for them to brag about how awesome their life is now. I mean, it's great that they're doing so awesome, but it's not a competition or a chance to keep score.
What to do: Again, if a response is necessary, focus solely on business and don't get caught up in an exchange of emotions. Even if it comes across as chilly, there's nothing wrong with saying, “Hi, I'm fine. Too busy to talk now. Glad to hear you're awesome, bye!”
Crossing Paths in Public – When you and your ex live in the same neighborhood you're bound to cross paths eventually. Short of hiding behind a stack of newspapers until the threat passes, it's probably a good idea to just suck it up and be polite. When bumping into your ex in public there's little chance of pretending you don't see one another, especially if you're trying to maintain mature and friendly terms in your relationship. There's also no luxury of carefully editing your words as you might in a text. And don't get me started on facial expressions and body language!
What to do: Smile. Be polite. Ask how they are, tell them you're fine. Tie it all up with a neat little bow by saying how nice it is to see them doing well, pay for your groceries, and get out of there as quickly as you can without busting into a full-blown sprint. No need to incite a panic at the Safeway.

Taboo Topics

As I mentioned earlier, I'm one of those oddball types that stays on friendly terms with my ex's. I manage to do this successfully because there are a few topics of conversation that are simply off limits – particularly sex and money.

It's important to know why you want to maintain contact with an ex before you reach out and try to talk with them. For me, I like to break up before the relationship erodes past the point of repair. I don't like the idea of talking ugly to someone I love, so I often sever the relationship to maintain the friendship. Then we gimp along from there until the trust is restored. But that's a topic for another article!

Do you still bump into your ex's from time to time? How do you manage to do it gracefully?

Someone Had to Say It – Clear Signs You're Chilling With a Loser

2016-03-25T12:30:00.000-07:00

Losers, deadbeats, parasites, sponges, and life-suckers come in all shapes and sizes. The distinction of being a loser isn't something that's designated to just one gender. Trust me, I have known just as many deadbeat ladies as spirit-crushing dudes.

The information I'm about to share isn't directed to men or women in particular. Seriously, I have no desire to bash one gender or the other. I love everyone, which is why I think you deserve better than the loser you could be hanging with right this very minute. If you think you might be involved with a loser, look for these clear indicators.

How to Spot a Loser at Ten Paces

Anger Issues – Losers hate pretty much everything and fly off the handle at the smallest provocation. Tiny little details become reasons for major meltdowns in the mind of a loser, and this eventually starts to taint the relationship if you're rushing to soothe your friend's fragile nerves before the inevitable explosion. If the idea of being in the same room with your buddy leaves you feeling paranoid, tense, or otherwise stressed out, chances are their hot temper has reached loser proportions.

Super Clingy – Losers form attachments ridiculously fast. They go from “Nice to meet you” to “we have to do everything together, all the time!” with a quickness that seems rushed and uncomfortably rapid. When they start demand exclusive rights to your time and attention from that point on it's a good sign you'll want to create some distance. Otherwise, your loser buddy will see to it that everything becomes an opportunity to monopolize your time and separate you away from other responsibilities and interests.

Hates Your Whole Circle – Losers will find something wrong with every member of your family, every single one of your friends, and all of your co-workers. Even the ones they've never even met before! So much so that you will either be forced to disengage with your circle of support, or drop the loser. Unless you want to constantly defend yourself every time you go to work, call your mom, or have lunch with someone other than your loser, my suggestion is to drop the loser.

No Ambition – Losers will find a way to invite you out for a lunch date, then conveniently realize that they've forgotten their money at home right around the same time the bill arrives. Once or twice is a mild inconvenience. But if your bank account is steady draining because some loser in your life is sponging your funds, it's time to evaluate the dynamics of your relationship. Likewise, if your pal has no career goals, or purpose for living aside from constantly seeking your attention, it could be time to raise your standards.

Change is Possible

Just because someone might be a loser now doesn't mean they are destined to stay that way forever. Change is possible, but it has to occur from within. You're never going to change the loser in your life, they have to do that on their own. Cut your ties early, before the situation becomes abusive, and be happy for the peace of mind.

Room to Breathe – How to Give Each Other Space

2016-02-04T19:49:00.000-08:00

I'm a homebody, no doubt about it. I'm perfectly content with my own company, so it doesn't bother me in the least to have hours, days, and weeks pass between visits with my friends. Those who know me best have come to accept my hermit-like ways as endearing. It's even a joke among my friends and I that I'm pretty much notorious for never initiating contact.

Not everyone is quite so comfortable with so much time and space to themselves, however. If you've reached that awkward stage in your relationship where you need to give each other some breathing room, I have some words of advice for enjoying personal space without going crazy.

Take a Night Off – Time away is important. If you're just starting a new relationship it's easy to maintain at least one night a week to yourself to do anything you want to do. This could be anything, or nothing at all. You decide, it's your time to spend as you please. Be sure to treat your sweetie to the same sort of luxury.

If you're in an established relationship and you've found yourself firmly joined to your partner's hip it may be a little tricky to get a night off. Maybe consider chilling out in different parts of the house, or simply doing something out of the ordinary, like taking the kids out for ice cream.
Do Your Own Thing – Remember that art class you've been meaning to take, but you've been too busy pouring all of your time and energy into your relationship? Well, now is the time to go take that class! Seriously, you're worth it. Never give up on your own growth, being involved in chasing your varied interests will only give you and your honeypie something new to talk about. That's a good thing, right?
Visit Friends – Are your buddies complaining about how much time has passed since they last saw you? This is a sure sign that you need to catch up with friends. Plan a spa day, a golf outing, a LAN party, something that will allow you to gather together and have fun.

Putting the FUN in Fundamentals

Everyone needs a bit of solitude once in a while, a chance to get back to who they are as an individual. The important thing to remember when seeking space for yourself, or allowing your sweetheart some space when they ask for it, is keep your attitude light and positive. This free time is an opportunity for fun, relaxation, and adventure. Allow yourself the opportunity to indulge often.

Does That Ever Work? - Pick Up Lines that Fall Flat

2016-01-28T12:00:00.000-08:00

Every time I go out with my gal pals we can count on at least one person trying to flirt with us. Not that I'm complaining, the positive attention and compliments are nice. Flirting is fun, I love that stuff!

There are occasions, however, when flirtation takes a sharp turn into Creeperville. Nothing can ruin an oceanside lunch date with the ladies quite like a lecher who doesn't know when to cut his line and cast his bait into more promising waters. Guys, I say this because I care. I want to see you be successful in the dating scene. Even if you're looking for a quick fling, there are some more graceful ways of getting your point across.

Flirtation Strategies With a Very Low Chance of Success

Any Sort of Grunty Animal Noise – Look dude, we know what you're after - it's written all over your face. Literally. Me and all my girlfriends saw you look us up and down before you started licking your lips and grunting husky, “hot damns” in our direction. What you're considering a compliment is actually pretty skeevey. We don't like it. In fact, we'd like it if you would please stop. Better yet, go away.
Begging – Most times I would say that a persistent attitude will pay off in the long run. However, if your idea of persistence is to hound me for attention and sexual favors, I'd really rather be alone. Begging has probably paid off in the past as some women have given in to stop the increasing levels whining. Even worse is begging me, then begging each of my friends, then begging all of us at the same time (ewww!). That doesn't really make you a suave pick-up artist.
Cheesy Cliche Lines - “Hey baby, what's your sign?”, “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?”, and other over-played pick-up lines are just worn-out and tired. Sure, they might be good for a laugh-inducing ice-breaker, but that's only if you've got the confidence and wit to carry the rest of the conversation without resorting to canned humor.

Keep It Simple, Stupid

Start with hello. Follow up with a friendly introduction and a confident hand shake. Seriously, it's as easy as that. Do all of this with a sincere smile and there's a good chance you've made yourself a new friend. Whether this will lead to sex or marriage remains to be seen, but it's such a rarity among pick-up methods that it's bound to be get someone's attention.

What are some of the worst pick-up lines you've ever heard? What's the worst line you've ever tried? Leave it in the comments!

The Single Girl's Guide to Surviving the Holidays in Style

2016-01-21T12:00:00.000-08:00

Tada! I did it! I survived yet another Christmas and New Years as a single woman, and I didn't punch anyone in the face. Trust me, there were some people that were really asking to be punched, but I kept my hands to myself. I didn't want to risk a great manicure by breaking a nail. People should thank me for being so considerate. Of course, with Valentine's Day right around the corner I'm not out of the woods just yet, but I do have a plan of action.

Make it a Movie Night, Every Night – Netflix never lets me down. After all these years, Netflix knows what I like and often makes appropriate suggestions according to my moods. Why yes, Netflix, I am most certainly interested in a period piece featuring a strong female lead. No, I don't care if it's historically accurate. I'm all about the costumes, cat-fights, and clever wit.

When it comes to surviving the holiday season, you can go one of two routes: Seasonal cult favorites (National Lampoons Christmas Vacation, Christmas Story, It's a Wonderful Life), or take a hard left and race towards horror movies and psychological thrillers. Or, if you're like me, you'll watch some fluffy eye candy and indulge in a marathon of Pretty Little Liars (skipping over the Christmas episodes is optional.)

Skip Parties – Holiday parties are filled with couples and meddling busy-bodies who only want to know one thing: why are you here alone? No matter how much I enjoy being single, finding a smooching buddy at midnight makes for some awkward morning after stories. When it comes to being single on New Years, it's best to skip parties and build a pillow fort. It's okay to indulge your inner cave woman.

Chill With Friends – Luckily, my besties are single as well. Since we've nothing better to do, we've decided to what we always do – plan an adventure. No doubt my Valentine's will be memorable and filled with laughter. Spending time with friends is a necessary factor in a long, healthy, and happy life. I make it a point to chill with my friends as often as possible, Valentine's Day is just another night on my busy schedule of laughing with the people I love.

No matter how you spend your Valentine's Day, take a moment to genuinely appreciate your friends and loved ones. I hope your upcoming year is filled with an abundance of prosperity, laughter, and love.

Kona Coffee Tour – What to Wear

2013-02-12T17:57:00.000-08:00

The past two Sundays we've had a chance to come down off the mountain and check out the happenings in town. Invariably we ended up at the farmer's market each time, we simply can't resist the call of all that fresh fruit and produce.

Don't Forget the Coffee

Kona coffee is incredible, and no two brands are alike. Most of the brews in the Kona region come from private farmers who grow coffee simply because they love it so much, rather than a greedy desire to make a profit from the delicious beans. The result is a wide array of amazing coffee, the likes of which you simply have to sample when the opportunity arises.

What better way to experience the best of Kona coffee than by touring a farm or ten. Several farms are arranged conveniently on the highway, the majority of which offer free tastings and tours for any visitors that drop in. Of course, if you're going to make a day of touring farms you'll want to dress appropriately.

When Sampling the Coffees of Hawaii, Comfort is Key

Light layers -It's been said there are 19 different types of climate in the world, 14 of which can be experienced right here on the Big Island of Hawaii. Truer words were never spoken, so I always try to come prepared with versatile garments that let me maintain maximum comfort at all times. A fleece hoodie is great for chilly mornings, and a cotton t-shirt is perfect for sunny afternoons. Long sleeves are a must when touring a coffee farm, mosquitoes love visitors.
Sturdy Shoes – Kona coffee is amazing, there's nothing like it in the world. But if you really want to get the full experience of what goes into each delicious cup of genuine Kona coffee, you've got to tour the farm where it was grown, processed, and roasted. Be warned, the terrain consists primarily of lava rock, and it's no joke – wear hiking boots with rugged soles.
Bug Balm – Apply an all-natural bug repellant before leaving in the morning, and refresh as needed throughout the day. Mosquitoes are as pesky as they are stealth, you never know you've been hit until after the itch sets in. This gets to be pretty distracting when trying to enjoy a tour of a beautiful Kona coffee farm. I like to make my own blend of bug repellant from coconut oil, beeswax, and some essential oils that smell great to me, but horrible to insects – eucalyptus, citronella and lavender to name a few.
Shopping Bag(s) -No doubt about it, after touring a Kona coffee farm, and sampling a freshly brewed cup of award-winning roast, you're going to want to take home a pound or five. Come equipped with a reusable shopping bag, Hawaii has recently banned on the plastic variety. Some coffee farms in the Kona coffee belt grow more than just coffee, you might want to bring an extra shopping bag for delicious tropical fruit and massive avocados.

For the Folks Stuck at Home

I know, all this talk about delicious, award-winning coffee grown on the island paradise of Hawaii is cruel to those of you who don't have the luxury of hopping on the next flight to Honolulu. I've taken this into consideration, and that's why I'm sharing these discount coupons for Hawaiian coffee, and in the spirit of valentine's day, I'll toss in these extra savings from popular merchants as well.

Dear Frances - I'm a Nomad

2012-08-24T04:52:00.002-07:00

Dear Frances,

It's been so long since I've written, and though I remember your address well I wonder if you still live there thirty years later. I still think of you often, my pen-pal. I always wish you well over the miles and genuinely hope to reconnect with you once more.

In just a few days I'm moving away from Columbus once more. I lived in Arkansas for a few years during my college years, and I've come to miss the thrill of being surrounded by natural beauty. Here in the city I'm surrounded by skyscrapers and sad, angry people.

After a whirlwind weekend of packing necessities and giving the rest to charity we will depart for a week of fun and frolic with friends and family, then it's off to Hawai'i! I'll certainly write more once we arrive. Until then, and always, I wish you all the best.

Rachel

Life's a Beach

2012-08-14T05:57:00.001-07:00

Life's a Beach by rachel-cook featuring one piece bathing suits

We Are Handsome one piece bathing suit
$360 - coggles.com

One piece bathing suit
topshop.com

Got Gear?

2012-08-06T14:00:00.001-07:00

Got Gear? by rachel-cook featuring leather boots

Superdry
superdry.com

Sorel leather boots
endless.com

Element Skate Camp Logo Skate Backpack
zumiez.com

Gelert Sleeping Pod JNR Sleeping Bag, Purple
$43 - johnlewis.com

Hawaiian Dreams

2012-08-04T15:16:00.001-07:00

Hawaiian Dreams by rachel-cook on Polyvore

Hawaii STATE-ment
scrapyourtrip.com

Cocoa Loco

2012-08-02T13:14:00.001-07:00

Cocoa Loco by rachel-cook featuring a pattern dress

Dorothy Perkins pattern dress
dorothyperkins.com

Armani Jeans aviator jacket
$560 - johnlewis.com

Mantaray coin bag
$22 - debenhams.com

Handcrafted jewelry
etsy.com

River Island cream eye shadow
$9.37 - riverisland.com

Alyssa Chocolate Brown EU 26 (US 9-9.5)
pediped.com

Harrods Curious Chocolate Selection (6 Pieces)
$11 - harrods.com

Gilt Trip

2012-08-02T12:57:00.001-07:00

Gilt Trip by rachel-cook featuring sequin leggings

STEFFEN SCHRAUT cap sleeve shirt
stylebop.com

Sass Bide sequin legging
net-a-porter.com

Biba leather shoes
$110 - kurtgeiger.com

Esquivel low heels
net-a-porter.com

Alexander McQueen gold cocktail ring
alexandermcqueen.com

Gold plated jewelry
$240 - harveynichols.com

Arteriors Gold Porcelain Organic Vase Set
zincdoor.com

Beauty Tip - Nude And Improved

2012-06-24T06:18:00.002-07:00

A heavily made up face in the summer time just looks out of place and uncomfortable. I understand we all want a little help with our color, I do too, but sometimes less really is more. Especially when you can play up the natural warm tones of summer to enhance your own natural beauty. Not to mention, nude lips, luminous eyes and radiant skin, looks fresh and feminine year round.

Naked Is A State Of Mind

Or shade of lipstick – look for something pale, satin with a hint of sparkle. This soft iridescence will provide a pretty reflection without looking slick and gooey like some lip glosses. Plus it won't gather at the corners of the mouth and look like drool like other lip glosses. Keep the rest of your face simple with a light sweep of pale pink or baby blue shadow on the eyelid, and finish with a coat of mascara. Skip blush completely and dot on a bit of pearly highlighter along the cheekbones for a soft, natural glow that goes from grocery store to glamorous date night.

Beauty Tip – Steal His Stuff

2012-06-10T17:40:00.000-07:00

Remember that episode of Weeds where Esteban threw a hissy fit when he smelled Nancy wearing his deodorant? It's okay if you don't, I don't really want to talk about Weeds, I want to talk about the reaction men have to smelling their deodorant on their lady. In the case of Esteban and Nancy, he didn't like it one bit (oh snap, I said I wasn't going to talk about Weeds) but that's pretty much because one woman had already emasculated him, his machismo couldn't handle more of the same from his wife.

My own personal experience in this department has been wildly successful, so much so that I've been known to stop by the cologne counter at Nordstroms for a quick spritz of Eternity for Men before a night on the town. Smelling a traditionally “manly” scent on a woman makes the male brain go all funky and territorial, it's like they have to replace those pheromones with their own in order to feel all is well in the world. My boyfriend prefers the smell of Old Spice deodorant on me, compared to the sweet, floral varieties offered to ladies, and I have to say I agree. Shaking things up a bit by sampling his Speed Stick is great, but it's just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the treasure trove of products hiding in your man's medicine cabinet.

Such as:

Scrubs – Men have harder skin that can stand up to rougher treatment which is why their exfoliators have larger particles making the products made for a man's face the perfect thing to scrub your back, elbows, legs, and anywhere else extra scrubbing may be needed. A good one to try is Neutrogena Men Razor Defense Face Scrub (Amazon.com, under $6.00).

Shave Soothers – Want to prevent razor burn on your dry skin? Reach for his shaving cream because it's super moisturizing. While you're at it, snag his shaving oil as well – a little dab along the bikini line before will result in a smoother shave after. I happen to like the sandalwood pre-shave oil offered by The Art of Shaving (amazon.com, $24.00) because it smells great and works even better.

Stop fretting about the smell already, the days of tell-tale manly smell are practically over! Many of today's products for men have toned-down aromas that are suitable for either gender. Consider also that many products marketed to men also come with a more reasonable price tag, and you're sure to see the logic in raiding his shaving kit.

Food Tip – Eat Your Water

2012-06-08T16:50:00.000-07:00

If you're like me, you find it difficult to drink eight glasses of water a day, as recommended by health professionals. No need to fear, those same health professionals know water can be found in some of our favorite foods. The even better news is eating water-filled foods may aid your weight control efforts by helping you to feel full.

I really can't stress enough the importance of water for overall health and wellness. Our bodies lose about 10 8-ounce glasses worth of water per day, just from the random activities life, such as breathing, sweating, and passing wastes – consuming water-filled foods can easily replenish five of those lost glasses.

Best food sources for water:

Apples

Celery

Cucumbers

Fruit Juices (100% please!)

Grapefruit

Grapes

Milk

Shellfish

Watermelon

It won't hurt you to drink more than the recommended 8 per day, just know that when you're sweating profusely from an especially rigorous workout you may need extra replacement water, so bring some apple slices along for the ride.

Fit Tip: 7 Best Ways to Workout

2012-06-06T22:25:00.000-07:00

Finding time to exercise is tough! I know I've complained about it before, there simply aren't enough hours in the day to dedicate a whole lot of time to exercise as much as I would like. Which means I have to fit in my workout when I can, so getting the most out of my calorie burning is important to me. Apparently it's important to fitness professionals as well, a poll of over 17,000 of them yielded the following list of must-do exercises:

In order of popularity:

Squats – If you're looking to build balance and strength in one powerful move, this is the one. Squats are great if you want to target all of the major lower-body muscles at once.
Running – Aside from a good pair of shoes and perseverance, you really don't need much more equipment when it comes to this great way to build leg strength and cardio fitness.
Abs – No equipment necessary, anyone can work their abs regardless of fitness level. Okay, some of you are probably shouting that you just can't do ab exercises because of your bad back. My suggestion, try using a stability ball, sitting on one of these will work your abs while being easy on your back.
Lunges – Similar to squats, lunges are great for strengthening the butt, calves and thighs with just one move. As an added bonus, lunges also promote good balance and posture.
Walking – A kinder, gentler form of running, don't take the slower pace for granted, walking is great for toning legs, building cardio and can be done anywhere.
Push-ups – Finally something for the arms! Whether your do them “girly” style, or like a traditional plank, push-ups target the core and upper body with no additional equipment needed.
Yoga – Just dipping your toes into the fitness pool? Try yoga, and revel in the improved coordination, flexibility, concentration and relaxation.

Turn up the intensity of your workout by adding some weight resistance, and always make sure you're using proper form. Likewise, intensity can be added to your running and walking by adding steps and hills to your route. Not everyone can afford expensive gym equipment, fewer still want to risk the vulnerable feeling that crops up when in an unfamiliar situation, that's why I'm here to tell you that you absolutely can achieve your fitness goals with just a little creativity and willpower. Have fun!

3 Low-Cal Flavor Fixes

2012-06-01T11:07:00.000-07:00

A healthy diet used to mean sacrificing flavor in exchange for bland, “better” alternatives, but active people world-wide know that spices and other flavor enhancers are within easy reach. Delicious and healthy really can exist on the same plate, it just requires reaching for something a little out of the ordinary. You don't have to be a celebrity to eat like one, try some of these flavor fixes.

Truffle Oil – Okay, it's expensive, but it's incredible! Truffle oil is pungent and powerfully flavored so a little really does go a long way, saving you calories in the long run. Try it drizzled over an endive salad with hearts of romaine and roasted walnuts – yum!
Seasoned Rice Vinegar – Instead of asking for your salad dressing on the side, swap out your dressing with a little seasoned rice vinegar. The flavor is delicate, even slightly sweet, so it doesn't need all the extra oil to temper the flavor of sharper vinegars like balsamic or red wine. You may even feel so good about saving calories that you can indulge with a little avocado on your salad.
Bacon – Yes, bacon! Try it sprinkled on veggies, or just about anything. Since fat is used for flavor, why not enjoy it bacon flavored?

A no-fat diet isn't any good, or good for you, there's no need to sacrifice flavor or necessities in pursuit of a healthy lifestyle.

Pick The Perfect Outfit – In A Snap

2012-05-30T10:53:00.000-07:00

Normally I avoid having my picture taken at all costs, I just don't think I'm photogenic. But when it comes to getting ready for a big, important event, I take my cues from celebrities, after all they're always having their picture taken.

When I'm getting ready for a big day, the night before I like to try on my entire outfit, accessories and all, then snap a picture of myself. Mirrors are cruel, but pictures provide an even more objective representation of your outfit. With just a quick click and a glimpse at the preview window on my digital camera and I can know in an instant if my outfit isn't working.

In The Pink

2012-05-28T10:27:00.000-07:00

When it comes to the perfect summer glow, faking a little color is always the safest bet. But why paint yourself up like a gingerbread lady when a rosy glow looks so much healthier. Really, you'll look like you've just returned from an invigorating jog or an afternoon of playing beach volleyball. A rosy flush will give an appearance of an active, healthy lifestyle, compared to a dark, leathery tan that suggests you've been languishing in the sun for hours.

The best thing about this pretty summer trend is you can achieve the gorgeous look with little-to-no effort. Seriously, just pat a little lip-and-cheek gel onto your mouth, cheeks and areas of your face where the sun would land were it high above you – you know, across the tops of your cheeks, bridge of your nose, upper forehead.

This simple look is best over a lightweight moisturizer and lip balm, paired with a full face of foundation and it comes across as unnatural. This is one of those times when less really is more. To finish off your sun-kissed look, dab a shimmery, neutral eye gloss just onto the corners of your eyes with the tip of your finger, leaving the rest of the lids bare. No one will know you're wearing makeup, but they'll certainly think you've been skimping on the sunscreen.

Health Made Easy – Kick A Cold

2012-05-26T10:20:00.000-07:00

When it comes to my sinuses, I think it's safe to say I'm “built cheap”, if I'm not actively involved with my health it's easy for me to become sidelined by seasonal sniffles. Now that June is right around the corner, I'm preparing ahead of time for the inevitable summer cold. There are some pretty simple strategies for relief and since they work so well for me, I'm going to share with you so you can feel better also.

Turn Down The AC – Who doesn't love a nice, cool, air-conditioned room? My sinuses, that's who, and probably yours too if you're feeling miserable. Turn down the AC just a smidge, all that cold air can dry the protective layer of mucus in your nose which prolongs unnecessary suffering. If you insist on running the AC, then bolster your poor nostrils with an over-the-counter saline spray, or my personal favorite, a neti pot, to maintain precious moisture.
Sip Chicken Soup – It's okay to sip it at room temperature if it's just too hot for soup, the broth will hydrate you while the salt soothes your sore throat.

Been doing all this for over a week and you're still not feeling beachy-keen, get thee to a doctor, stat!

Health Made Easy – Pig-out Prevention

2012-05-24T10:03:00.000-07:00

This time of year, I'm cuckoo for cookies and cream, ice cream that is. If I'm not careful, I can polish off a whole pint, which is way more than the little label says is a reasonable serving size. Since I can't promise that little pint will last two days, tops, I've developed this little trick:

Let the ice cream sit out for a minute or two to soften, then scoop half-cup servings into disposable paper cups. Cover, and return these little personal portions to the freezer. Grab one when the craving strikes and say farewell to those guilt trips of “I can't believe I ate the whole thing.”

Attitude Is Everything – Look Forward To Living Longer And You Will

2012-05-22T09:52:00.000-07:00

After more than two decades of research spent following men and women aged 50 and older it's been found that people who report a positive attitude towards aging live more than seven years longer than those with a negative view.

Some of the positives expressed by these individuals includes enjoying wisdom and creativity, and being able to share that knowledge with younger generations. Sure, it could be said that people with positive attitudes are well-practiced at questioning the negative stereotypes encountered in every-day life, but there's just too much data to support the health benefits of optimism.
It's never too late to start, my friends. If you have good genes, eat well, exercise and enjoy social support, chances are you'll feel more comfortable with getting older, and live longer as a result.

Don't Let A Breakup Hurt Your Health

2012-05-20T09:48:00.001-07:00

Ever notice how we tend to celebrate when one of our friends gets divorced? What about those folks who break up with someone after living together for several years, they go through all the same post-breakup anxiety, suffering all the same physical and mental consequences as the recently divorced, where's their parade? Plenty of researchers have proven beyond a doubt there is no difference in physiological complaints between the recently divorced and the recently split.

All this emotional trauma can take a major toll on your immune system. Depression associated with the end of a relationship can increase the levels of the stress hormone cortisol. We've all seen the effects of a population operating with high cortisol levels – the entire country is obese and our current generation of children won't outlive their parents, for the first time in a very long time, but that's another rant for another day. To stay healthy during a split, try some of the following suggestions:

Eat Carefully – Your appetite is likely to kick into top gear, so rather than reach for the cool, soothing mush of yet another pint of premium ice cream, make sure what you eat is healthy and high in quality.
Slow Down – Your body is in a fragile state, slow down just a little and get plenty of rest. Naps rule.
Reach Out to Friends – There's no reason to forge through this time alone, stay connected with your friends and family for the emotional support you need and deserve.
Find Emotional Balance – It's healthy to vent! Purge those feelings by talking to someone or writing it down in a journal, experience the emotion and move on, rather than dwelling and festering in negativity.
Don't Let Yourself Go – It may be tempting to slip into your comfy jammies and hide from the world for a while as you slowly pack on the pounds. A little bit of jammy indulgence is fine, just remember that your appearance can and will effect your self-esteem.
Add Some Color – Even though your spirit may be black, leave your doom and gloom garments alone for a while, color is a natural spirit lifter, so reach for something bold and bright.

Breakups take time to get over, it's the death of a relationship so do take the time to experience the various stages of mourning, just don't become a crazy cat lady in the process. You're a champion, treat yourself with some care and you'll be back at fighting weight in no time! After all, Ivana Trump said it best when she advised, "looking good is the best revenge."