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Quote this #4

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Mon, 21 Mar 2016 01:16:00 +0000

Some time ago, I wanted to write a quote every Wednesday, and then write how it relates to me or how it makes me feel. I haven't kept up with that, but today there is a certain quote and a certain topic that is on my mind, so here we go.

"Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters." Dau Voire

The conversation I want to start is about depression.
I have been dealing (I don't like the word suffering) with depression since I was 15-years old.
Off and on throughout the years I've been off and on medication.
I think for me medication was a life saver...and I mean that literally.

Couple months ago I was dealing with a severe migraine.
I took all sorts of over the counter remedies, with nothing working.
I even had a brain scan done to rule out a mass on my brain.
For five days I was unable to move or see clearly.
On my third visit to my doctor, she told me to stop taking OTC medication, as there was such as thing a "medication rebound headache." This just meant that it was possible my original migraine was gone, however due to the amount of Tylenol, Ibuprofen, and Excedrin I was taking, my body was responding with more headaches.
I did as told, and I also stopped taking my anti-depressant.
I can honestly say I stopped taking my anti-depressants because I was literally terrified about the pain in my head and neck, and I figured that if I was possibly prolonging things by taking too many medications, I could at least take a break from my anti-depressants.
Let me just make this clear now: I am not a doctor, I know that stopping any prescribed medications without consulting your doctor can be a bad idea. I knew that I was capable of watching my mood, and I was also capable and willing to go back to my doctor and ask her to put me back on my meds.

Yet after a week went by without my anti-depressants, nothing "bad" happened.
Then another week, and another.
It has been six months now, and I have been able to manage my depression.
Here is the thing: things have been hard lately.
My work is the biggest stressor.
Plus I have two little kids.
Plus I'm getting a master's degree.
Plus other things.
I have been feeling anxiety, I've been disorganized and unmotivated.
I don't think I need medication, but I am monitoring my moods and my behavior, just so I know when it might be time to go see my doctor and talk about options.
I am also going to seek out a new counselor, because well, I haven't seen one for a long time.
And counseling might be just the solution I need.

Here is a small, yet frustrating thing: so many people have said "it's so great you're off the meds, they don't work anyways," or "meds only make things worse," or "the pharmaceutical companies are making billions of dollars off of meds."

Here is my stance: will you care that I took meds if I was dead?
Would I be "brave" for just trying to "deal with it" if I were dead?
Who cares who benefits from me taking meds if it means I'm alive?
Does it matter?

If you or someone you know needs medication like they would need insulin if they were diabetic, support them.
Don't judge them.
Don't put your opinions on them.
Listen to them.
Encourage them with a listening ear, not books, e-mails, videos, articles about how what they are doing to deal with their depression is wrong.

There are a million ways to treat depression: from food, to exercise, to counseling, to whatever hobby keeps you happy, and to medication.
Do not be ashamed if you need a little bit of help, or even A LOT of help.
As long as we each get to wake up each morning, and go to sleep at night, we have won.

Coldness

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Wed, 03 Feb 2016 21:01:00 +0000

I have been cold lately. Like in the bones kind of cold. This morning, after sleeping for 10 hours, I crawled back into my bed, and let the blankets warm me up. It was such a great feeling.

Most of my coldness is physical, as I walk around in a tank top, in the middle of winter. Any breeze from the outside makes it that much worse. I have also refused to buy a coat for the last two years, because I don't like my large frame, and I don't want to have to buy a 2X coat. Not cool with me.

Then there is part of my coldness that in internal. I think the part that chills me the most. In the last two weeks, my core beliefs have been challenged at work, and I no longer feel like I can fight. I think a lot about giving up and what that will look like to other people. I think a lot about signs and callings. I think a lot about my heart, my soul, my body. I think a lot about what it would be like to take a stand, to show myself that I will not stand for less than I deserve, but taking that stand looks like stepping down, and might look like giving up to some. I don't really care about "the some," I just know questions will be asked, and right now my answers are filled with anger and venom. I don't want to impose that on other people. I don't want them to feel my anger or to even know it in all it's depth.

My body and heart are asking to be warm, and I long for a blanket that can cover them and make them feel it. Yet I know putting a blanket on my heart is only a temporary fix.

Thursday musings

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Thu, 28 Jan 2016 22:13:00 +0000

Sickness...YUCK!
You know how there are people who can be graciously sick? Their IG feed or FB status is filled with nice blankets, candles, cups of tea and soup, and they write some poetic caption about how everyone is sick and how it's time for reflection and time to go within?
Yeah...that's not me or my family.
We're sprawled over everywhere, puking buckets and towels by our side, cranky as can be, groaning and moaning from pain, or just not feeling well.
That's real life sh*t, not IG sickness.

I do feel like I might be on the mend though, a whole week should be enough. I'm venturing out to work today for the first time in a week, and let me tell you, the anxiety is real.

Let me fill you in on my work life: I strongly dislike it.
I have felt like this for a very long time now, and the end is somewhat in sight: completing a Master's Degree.
Yup, that's my ticket out of my current job. A long and expensive ticket, but it's what my intuition wanted.

My entire being: mind, body, and soul has felt stuck for the last couple years. There are moments when I have bad reactions, almost paralyzing, almost making me crazy.

Mind: constant thoughts about work, the issues at work, fast thoughts, irrational thoughts, sad thoughts, mad thoughts.

Body: I have had aches and pains for years, dealing with a bad back, bad feet, too much weight gain, stomach problems, headaches, you name it, I have felt it. My body has been getting beat up from the concrete floors I walk and sit on, from the same floors where fights happen and help happens. There are no soft landing spots in a county jail. It's all concrete and steel baby.

Soul: oh boy...the things I have seen, smelled, touched, felt. All is not well with my soul after 11-years of watching the human condition at it's worst. There are moments when things seem unbearable, yet in the name of duty, we must all proceed to help, assist, stop, interrupt. There is no turning back when you're committed into going to a fight. There is no turning back when you're committed to getting a suicidal subject off the ledge, there is no turning back when your co-workers need you, and you MUST go in.

The human mind, body, and spirit will go ALL IN every time, especially if that is how you've been trained, and that is what you see in your life.

There is no shame in the work of corrections, and I don't want there to be any shame in saying "I can no longer do that, it is not for me."

Exhaustion

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Sun, 17 Jan 2016 05:50:00 +0000

I wanted to write a little bit about exhaustion.
That shit is real.
I mean it.

Slurred speech, blurry vision, not knowing what day of the week it is.
Many people make fun of other people about sleeping regularly, or about not working more than 40 hours a week, but as someone who just worked 94 hours in a week span, I tell you, I am shocked and relieved that I didn't hit someone while driving home, and that I even made it home.

There are nights when I only get 4 hours of sleep, and then I am wide awake, and I get very tired by noon. Sometimes I can squeeze in a nap before work, which then leads to cult about not getting things done around the house, and apologizing to my husband for my short comings. It's a guilt trip I lay on myself, but it doesn't make it any less painful.

Sometimes I hear people say that you'll never work as hard as when you work for yourself and people talk about working 12 to 14 hour shifts. I already do that, and it'll be a pleasure to work that many hours for myself, where I can actually devote that time to things I love and to things that make me happy and things that are pretty. I would love to work all day and get to take a break when I need to pick up my kids from school, or not have to worry about working the holidays. I would LOVE to do it.

I am learning about stress in one of my classes this semester, and we just started so I don't have too much wisdom to share, however I will share this, "depression, illness, or even death can occur after severe, prolonged stress." (Broderick, 2015, p. 65) Trust me, I am well on my way, as I've been dealing with depression and on and off illness, hopefully death doesn't come knocking on my door any time soon. I know it sounds morbid and dramatic, but it's my reality, and there have been many times when I voiced my concern that when I retire, I won't be able to enjoy life because I won't stick around. It's not a feeling I like to dwell on, and I move past it quick, however it's also a sad realization about what my current job and my stress management are doing to me.

Hence the school and the big dreams.
Here is to not expiring any time soon.

Ever evolving

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 05:26:00 +0000

"We are different each day, in each moment, ever evolving." Linda

I got the above quote from a wonderful joy sister, and it made me think.
It makes me think about change, and I have trouble with change.
I think I have trouble accepting even slight changes in my mood, or ideas, or day-to-day dealings.

My writing coach gave me an assignment to write about my career in corrections, and why I have stayed in it for so long. I honestly don't have a deep answer. It pays the bills, I don't see any other work out there that calls to me, I am good at what I do, etc. Yet there is a big part of why I have found it so hard to accept that I no longer wish to work in corrections.

See, for years, ever since I can remember as a child, I said I would be in law enforcement. I only had one relative who was a police officer, and I don't even recall seeing him in uniform. It's just something I have always wanted to do. There was fire in me to pursue this career. It didn't end up exactly as imagined, as I work at the jail, not out on patrol, but that never really mattered. As soon as I started working in the jail, I knew I belonged there, not out on the road.

I don't remember when I started feeling frustrated with work, and when I started talking about leaving. I have been there for 11 years now, and the desire to leave has been growing stronger every day.

The pivotal moment or realization for me that I was done was when I got promoted. Weird? Yes. Surprising? Yes. Does it make me question my sanity? Yes. I got promoted and all of a sudden I started disliking being there with every fiber of my body. I got promoted and all sorts of things started calling out to me: quite, go back to school, become an artist, write a book, become a photographer, paint, make stuff. All of a sudden my artistic side exploded within me.

Sometimes I wonder if I want to leave because it's too hard to deal with staff? Sometimes I wonder if I just don't fit in as a supervisor? Many times I wonder if they just made a mistake when they chose me, and now they can't take it back. There have been many times when I thought about stepping down from my current rank, yet that idea doesn't sit well with me, and I know it is not the answer. I do know the answer, and the answer is to leave. I also know that I have bills to pay, and that I provide for my family, and that health insurance is important. Those last things might sound like excuses, but they are not, they are my current reasons for staying.

I have gone back to school to pursue a Master's degree in counseling. I've only done one semester, but I like. I like to think about what my future brings, and I understand that one day I will need to put in my two weeks notice, and my family might go without insurance for a short time, and we might have to change our lifestyle. I am OK with that. As much as I can, I want to have all my ducks in a row so that my family doesn't have to worry about money, and time spent together. I know I am not in control, and I also know that planning for the future is a good idea.

I accept that I am different today than I was 11 years ago when I started my job. I accept that I now want to do something different, and I accept that I am ever evolving, and that these voices, and dreams, and ideas are with me for a reason.

Learning small success

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Tue, 05 Jan 2016 11:18:00 +0000

It's interesting to me my desire to affect change.
My play of wanting to be seen and heard, and yet hiding at the slightest sign of approval.
I can only imagine that this is something I will need to work on, and I'm not quite sure where to start.

There are so many videos out there and blog posts, and websites, and Instagram accounts, that are so inspiring, and motivating, yet for the most part I feel like I am just wasting my time, and I am just making excuses for not having time, because I am too busy watching someone else work.

I find myself at the crossroads of taking it easy, and listening to my body, and letting art and creativity just come to me, and working my ass off, and putting in the work, the hustle, the sweat. It dawned on me the other day, that there are two types of people: people who get she*t done, and people who don't. I am in the latter category. Not something to be proud of, but definitely a starting point, a discovery of sorts, a way of knowing where I am starting, and where I need to start.

My biggest challenge lately has been learning about my Mac computer, and synching everything together. I rarely have a quiet moment, and I get frustrated easily. I feel less than smart when I can't figure something out, because mine is the generation who "should" know computers.

I am learning, and I am learning a lot. I am learning that it will take a lot of work to get where I want to get, I am learning that currently I don't have what it takes to get there, but I am learning that people don't become successful without putting in the work, and starting somewhere. Even my rambling here, it feels like a small success, because I took the time to write, I took the time to admit some things, I took the time to learn something.

Here's hoping I see more progress for myself, as well as figure out my computer before my frustration tells me to quit.

Word of the year and other stuff

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Tue, 29 Dec 2015 23:42:00 +0000

My assignment for this week from my writing coach is to make a blog post.
Yes, I have a writing coach because I want to write, photograph, and publish a photo book.
Judging by my commitment to this blog, and inability to stay consistent, I am not doing all that well.
I even stopped writing in my journal.

I am trying to find my voice.
I am trying to find defenses against people (readers) who might not get my writing voice.
I have a self-deprecating sense of humor, I don't follow any trends, I've never been cool, and I have an opinion that's not always the best one.
I have a problem presenting myself as an expert when I am not one.
Many bloggers either present themselves as experts or get assigned that label, and it's not true, and it puts a lot of pressure on people.
I am a person who likes to change her mind, but I don't think people would be OK with that.
I am a person who admires positive thinking, and positive intentions, but I also like to say that they don't always work, and that thinking positive is one thing, but getting sh*t done is another.

For some reason I am worried about what people will think and being misunderstood, and I know I will not have the time to answer comments that might be negative.
I know there is a way to monitor comments, yet I have a full time job that I am trying to leave, so I don't have time for all that comment moderation.

As with every new year, and every new beginning, my intentions are to be organized and prepared.
I can't promise myself or anyone else that those intentions will be fulfilled. What I can promise (sort of) is that I will write down my ideas, and then I will write blog posts about them. I will write as me, and if someone finds it offensive, I will explain or clarify, but if they still have a problem with it, both of us ill need to move on and move forward.

My word for 2016 is freedom.
There are some invisible chains that I wear and worries that are not mine, and I need to free my mind, spirit and soul from them.
There are obligations that I never asked for and fulfilling them will break me, and some of them I'll allow to break me, the rest I need freedom from.

I will do the best I can, but I will also keep looking at this quote my friend sent me, because she knows me well

"You either try or you don't. If you try, you can talk about it. If you don't try, stay silent."

Here is to me and this blog not staying quite for too long, and for me finding and creating my freedom in 2016.

Writing prompts

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Mon, 23 Nov 2015 13:27:00 +0000

A question I'm pondering is this: is it easier to be disappointed in people, or in ourselves? What hurts more: being let down by others, or letting ourselves down? Accountability: I hired a writing coach to hold me accountable towards my goal. It's working...a little bit...because I am starting to dislike being disappointed in myself, and I am tired of making excuses for myself, yet there is this comfort, this knowing that I am stuck with myself forever, and sometimes that allows me to be more graceful with myself than if I had to extend that grace to others.

I recently got a journal which comes with 300 writing prompts. I have been slacking in my journaling, even the one for me, so I figured that in order to get my butt going in the right direction, I would journal on these prompts daily. The first prompt is hard already, but the only way to do something is to actually do it. I will be going back and forth between here and my real journal.

"A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new." Albert Einstein

Describe the best mistake you've ever made and all the positive things you learned from that mistake.

Ready. Set. Journal.

Brain stuff

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Sat, 26 Sep 2015 09:48:00 +0000

My mind has been occupied with so many things, BIG things, little things, important things, first world problem things.

Sometimes I feel like there is too much going on in my head, which causes anxiety, which causes long pauses, and breathing, and gentle reminders to be patient.

I have started working with a writing coach for a book idea. She says it sounds great, she says there is a market and need for what I want to do, and that is just sweet music to my ears. I actually wrote her an e-mail today telling her how wonderful it feels to be working on an idea.

I have started a Master's program in counseling. I think three classes is too much to take on, but it's too late to drop now, so until next semester, I'll just keep reading and writing over and over again, until every assignment is turned in.

I have been binge watching the I Am Cait show on E! and I am just blown away by EVERYTHING. I don't think I can explain what I am feeling, thinking, understanding. One of the most powerful things I took from an episode was what an ally really was. Just saying "I accept you," doesn't mean you're an ally. Asking "what do you need from me?" and then doing it. An example given was "what do you need from me?" the answer "I need you to help me get through this crowd unharmed, be my bodyguard," and then doing it, that's an ally. I never knew this.

My friends best friend is fighting for her son's life. I think and pray for them every night. Little AJ is a fighter. His mama and dad and sister are incredible people. Thinking positive thoughts for this family.

Sleep...something I need.

Ugliness

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Sun, 02 Aug 2015 01:12:00 +0000

The more I live,
the more I see,
the more I go through,
the more insight I get into my inner workings.

Couple nights ago I got an insight into a negative part.
For all intents and purposes, I am selfish.

I provide for my family,
I help out my friends,
I lend a helping hand, dollar, support.

Yet deep inside, there is a selfish part, it's ugly, and it needs to be changed.

The best way to explain it is this:
you and a co-worker are vying for a promotion, and you don't get it, and as you stand there clapping in the audience, smiling, saying all the right things, deep inside you are not hurt because you got passed over, you are jealous.

Another example:
a loved one shares some serious health news, and as sad as you are, your thoughts go to that clock in their living room that you're always wanted, and for a split second you forget they are possibly dying, and you start scheming how you could get that clock left to you in their will.

This could be all of us, this could be just me, and as ugly as this truth is, once uncovered, I knew immediately I needed to change my ways.

Do it

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Thu, 30 Jul 2015 03:06:00 +0000

I'm talking real sh*t here:
- buying that shampoo and conditioner
- throwing away empty cans of shaving cream
- restocking on my favorite drinks
- restocking on snacks
- brushing teeth every single day
- picking up that piece of paper that's been there for hours
- going through the mail
- paying the late bills

Self-care is all this and more.

Reflections

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Sun, 26 Jul 2015 03:45:00 +0000

I decided to give the middle finger to the world, and to life, and to myself last night, and I got Taco Bell for dinner, and washed it down with some white wine.

I did the same thing today...minus the wine...all out.

I gave myself two hours, which turned into three, after I got home from work, to just eat, watch trashy TV, and I ended up falling asleep.

I'm finally doing laundry, took all the trash and recycle out, and it's feeling less and less suffocating inside.

I have been having a lot of dialogue with people in my life, as well as myself, and it's all about happiness, and about figuring out my feelings, their feelings, our place in the world.

A work friends said to me the other day "you've already made a decision, you know what you want."

I do.

When your heart is bigger than your bank account

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Mon, 15 Jun 2015 18:30:00 +0000

...and my heart is huge.
My ideas come from my heart.
My mind does the logistics, but the heart pumps it up (literally).

I can see it clear as day:
- candles in the right places
- music
- craft and/or journaling supplies
- a sign leading to the cottage
- talking/doodling/writing
- fliers hanging in coffee shops, inviting people to come over

This is my idea of a small heaven.

Then the dreams get bigger and bolder.
Maybe a bigger house, and maybe more space, maybe more cottages...
...running a business that could fuel my soul.

Wake up your butterflies

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Wed, 10 Jun 2015 19:41:00 +0000

It seems so simple.
I applied for a new job, and all the weight of the world got lifted off my shoulders.
I only applied. I didn't get a new job. After thinking about it I turned down an interview. That job and money is not for me.
I applied because I could.
I applied to show myself that I am not stuck in my current position.
I applied because I am the one making choices, not someone else.
I applied to let it be known that I am moving on, even if it's in a small way.
My friend called me after work yesterday, and she said "it's so good seeing you smile again." I told her I didn't know what it was, why I felt so happy, and she said "you feel free."
That's exactly how I feel.
Ever since I filled out an application, I am paying more attention at my current job, I am more involved, I am more present.
This might be normal behavior, but I know this freedom I'm feeling is because I am not stuck any more.
I see my goals.
I can feel them inside.
I can feel my body reacting with butterflies in my stomach.
I think because I have worked hard for the last 10 years, I'm not delusional about things being easy, coming easy, going according to plan. I am aware that I'll have to work harder, longer, smarter, yet all of that is what makes this so exciting.
I am excited about my future.

What is one small step you could take today to wake up your butterflies?

Self-care ideas

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Sun, 31 May 2015 20:00:00 +0000

I have a whole post ready about self-care, but because it's Sunday and I do have to work in the evening, here are just a couple quick things that make me think of self-care:

-showers
-brushing teeth
-getting dressed in the morning
-playing with pretty paper
-photos
-following your dreams with knees shaking
-reading a favorite magazine
-watching a favorite TV show in peace
-asking for time alone
-making time for friends, sometimes inside the chaos
-yard work
-trying something new
-not worrying about anyone else's opinion - we are all just people

These are just a couple things. I will have more soon.
Happy Sunday

Small steps

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Wed, 27 May 2015 21:04:00 +0000

Hello.
Where do you go when you have nothing to say?
Where do you go when you have a lot to say but it doesn't want to come out right?
I keep reading that in order to write, one has to write, even if nothing comes out.
I've been wanting to do a challenge of writing every day for 30 days, but that's not my style.
I have been thinking A LOT lately about excuses, and taking small steps toward goals.
Each day I do just one thing off of my to do list for small steps, I feel like a rock star.
Each day I get a little further into my daydreams, I feel lighter and more motivated at the same time.
We all start somewhere.

Write it first

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Fri, 24 Apr 2015 15:17:00 +0000

What if I wrote my success story first?
I know exactly how I want to feel, how I want to look.
I know exactly the advice I want to give people, which part of my story I want to share.
If I write my success story first, I will capture the emotions that are driving my current dreams.
It's hard to look back sometimes, and remember the goal, or remember the driving force behind our actions.

As I was brushing my teeth last night, thinking about my success letter, I also started to write a goodbye letter to my current co-workers.
I know in my mind and heart I am so ready to leave what is no longer serving me, as well as something I am no longer passionate about.

So here I am, writing my future, or more like writing to my future.
I want to remember these thoughts that I have now, because I know I will waver, and I know there will be obstacles, and I feel that capturing all these emotions and all my drive will continue to push me forward.

Could you write your success story today?

Reset

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Sun, 19 Apr 2015 18:27:00 +0000

For every decision I've made today.
For every ill word I spoke today.
For every scream.
For every yell.
For every temper tantrum.
For every bad thought.
For every curse word.
For every doubt.
For every minute I ignored my kids.

These days seem to be so tough lately. The more present I try to be, the more absent I actually am. I could blame it all on my work, but I know it's my choices, and my decisions, and my reactions. I am fully responsible for all of it, because all of it come from me.

There are parts of me that I like so much. There are parts of me that I want to share with others. There are parts of me that FEEL so deeply that I can succeed in a new adventure. I just feel that if I have to stop and reset every single thing, every single human error, it will take me ages.

Yet I don't think there is another way. I don't think without resetting things will get any better, and it also allows for me to STOP, and breathe, and THINK. I feel so much, it's thinking I need to do more of.

Have you reset today?

Wishing

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Fri, 17 Apr 2015 18:33:00 +0000

I wish that bad decisions came with a lightning.
I wish I had a compass that would literally put up a wall when I was going in the wrong direction.
I wish guilt didn't exist.
I wish doubt didn't exist.
Very rarely I wish my happiness wasn't on my shoulders.
I wish control wasn't a thing.
I wish depression wasn't a thing.
I wish money wasn't a thing.
I wish time wasn't of the essence.
I wish life wasn't a contradiction.
I wish I wasn't attracted to things I'm attracted to. It makes me feel less than...because I also wish that patience wasn't a virtue.

As I go about my days, sometimes in a daze, I wish that my days were clearer, and my mind was sharper, and I was more sure and convincing, and dedicated, and free.

I am learning slowly, so slowly, that the more I work on something, the closer I get to it, however sometimes that slow movement is not enough, and it leaves too much time for doubt, and questions, and re-thinking.

I often times wish that I didn't wish for this life that I want. And I know that is not right, and that it's all just negative thoughts. I know I don't actually wish this and mean this. I just wish I could be clearer, in my mind, heart, and soul.

Life is but an adventure...I need to learn some better skills.

Seven days

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Fri, 10 Apr 2015 19:02:00 +0000

Seven days.
That has proven time and again is my attention span to new things: diets, cleanses, art.
But this is day 10, and although I have sipped coffee and devoured a bagel, my brain, heart, body are telling me: you know better than that.
I know that for me, little indiscretions add up.
I know a candy here and a bite here become a bag of candy and a whole cake.
I feel like standing on the street corner and giving people advice.
I feel like shouting "I KNOW IT ALL, THIS IS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO."
I feel like helping others is better than taking my own advice.
I believe with my whole heart that we teach what we ourselves need/lack.

I feel like letting my soul explode and say FUCK IT ALL.
I feel like living a carefree life, yet still be able to pay my bills.
I feel like taking a day off and not having to tell a soul if I spend it all in bed.

I feel that I am rebelling against all that I was taught.
I feel that maybe my mouth will get my in a lot of trouble.
I feel like picking a fight, even if my heart is in my throat, chocking the words out.

This might be my rebel year.
This might be my coming out, my middle finger, my liberation.
I love days like these.

100th time

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Sun, 29 Mar 2015 23:16:00 +0000

If I had a $1 for the many lives and faces this blog has had, I could quit my job.
I want to quit my job anyways, but I'm just saying.
I wrote in my journal about a week ago "I'm done with my blog. I suck at it, it sucks, I can't do it."
This came from a place of frustration, comparison, lack of time, lack of faith, and patience.
I get easily influenced by the words of blogging experts, and I get easily influenced by the beautiful images of people who are either professional photographers, or who have been blogging for years, and are just near perfect at it. I do not have the time most days to structure a blog post. That is part truth and part excuse. What I can do is actually try, like really really try, and do it my way. Do me. If my humor doesn't translate, so be it. If my pictures aren't magazine quality, so what. Since I've first heard of blogging and started blogging, I have always had the feeling that I just want to share with folks. Although I know by now that I am not the only one out there that looks like me, feels like me, thinks like me, etc. I still feel there is a gap or maybe a need for me to share my corner of the world, of my mind, and my experiences.

Here is to starting over again. For the 100th time. For the same reason I started.

Quote this #3

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Sun, 08 Mar 2015 03:01:00 +0000

I know it's not Wednesday, but that's life. Things get done when there is time.

Maybe this is not a quote, more of a statement, but that's how I've been feeling lately.
14-hour days almost every day at work.
Couple hours for the kids, which are not always good and intentional hours.
Falling into bed exhausted.
Waking up even more tired than the night before.
I don't like it at all.

This is what I'd like to go by.
It's never too late.
Never too late.

Gray shirt

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Tue, 03 Mar 2015 04:16:00 +0000

I'm wearing a gray, long sleeve shirt.
It's warm and I'm cold.
It's the same shirt I wore for three weeks in December, fighting the most terrible flu.
I like it's tightness around my neck.
It's like a hug.
I like that it covers all of me: from my neck to my waist.
I have been needing to feel safe and secure.
I've been needing to feel contained, as my mind runs all over the place.
This is what I imagine children sometimes need, a safe cocoon to get into.

"The days we feel whole and beautiful are gifts" Hannah Marcotti

Quote this #2

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Wed, 25 Feb 2015 17:05:00 +0000

There was a time in my life where I wanted to use different mediums in one project: paint, glue, paper, markers.
I was told not to.
I was told mediums don't mix.
I listened.
Now I know it's called mixed-media art, and it's beauty blows me away.

There was a time in my life where I liked taking photos of things, of scenery, of buildings.
I was told not to.
I was told that pictures needed to have people in them.
I listened.
Now I know it's called still-life, and those images can take up hours of my time.

I don't think I'll be listening any more.

Quote This #1

noreply@blogger.com (Izabela) — Wed, 18 Feb 2015 20:11:00 +0000

Here it is.
As promised.
The first (1st) Quote This post.
I had trouble connecting to the internet this morning, and a part of me said "NNNNNNOOOOOOO"
Then I re-grouped, got off my chair, and found that the wifi box was unplugged.
Can you imagine if I just sat here, trying to "fix" the internet, not being successful?
Sometimes getting up and checking things out is the way to go :)

"Don't be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams." Proverb

On and off for years I've been trying to have a positive mindset.
Not only on the good days, especially on the bad days.
I find that the more I try and practice this, the easier it becomes.

I was raised in fear: of authority, making mistakes, what people thought.
I was taught to let fear dictate my moves.
This stuck with me, because when you don't know better, you don't do better.
Even in a religious context, I was raised to fear God.

I know now, as an adult, that a fearful and a negative mindset make for a fearful and a negative life.
I no longer look at a problem and think "this is so hard."
I look at a problem and think "how do I get around this?"
"What is the silver lining?"

I have many dreams: living debt free, being self-employed, getting a book published, quitting my day job.
There are multiple problems along the way: mortgage, health insurance, disappointing people, taking a risk.
I have been looking at the emotional outcome I will gain if I concentrate on my dreams.
Just this morning in my journal I wrote "even if that (photography) remains a hobby, if I can throw myself into it, and have it be my happy place, than maybe work will be a bit more bearable."
I am not focusing on my problems.
I am listening to my dreams and letting them lead me where I need to go.