Quick answer: The best thing to say to someone in labor is short, specific, and doesn’t need a reply. By text, try “I love you and I’m thinking of you. No need to answer.” In the room, try “You’re doing it. That one’s done.” Skip the horror stories, the opinions, and “Any news yet?”

You want to say the perfect thing to someone you love on one of the biggest days of her life. Thankfully, nobody in the middle of a contraction is grading your prose. She needs to know that you love her, that you’re on her side, and that she doesn’t have to do anything for you right now.

I asked Pregnant Chicken readers who had been through hard births what they would tell someone else in labor, and their answers shaped the messages below. Copy the ones that sound like you and change the rest.

When I was in labor, it was nice to feel supported, but I loved the ones that made me feel like I didn’t need to reply. I did reply to a few but I wasn’t especially in the mood for a play by play.

Comforting Words for Your Daughter Before and During Labor

Few people have a more complicated view of this day than a mother watching her kid go through it. You often remember what it was like, and you can’t do it for her. So let her know you’re there, then let her decide how close she wants you.

Before labor starts:

• “You’ve been brave your whole life. I have the receipts.”
• “I can’t wait to meet this baby, but today I’m mostly thinking about you.”
• “My phone is on, day or night. You don’t have to update me until you feel like it.”
• “However this birth goes, I’ll be proud of you.”

Once labor starts:

• “I love you. No need to reply.”
• “You don’t have to be tough for anybody today. Yell, cry, and ask for whatever you need.”
• “One contraction at a time. That’s the whole job.”
• “I remember the first time I held you. You’re about to find out what that’s like.”

If you’re in the room with her:

• “You’re doing it, and I’m right here.”
• “You’ll always be my baby, and I have never been more impressed with you.”
• “Tell me what you need, even if what you need is for me to leave.”

A longer note you can send or tuck into her hospital bag:

“Sweetheart, I’ve been thinking about you all day. I know this is big and I know it’s hard. You don’t have to be calm or brave or anything else for anyone. I am so proud of you, and I love you more than you can imagine, although you’re about to get a pretty good idea. Call me when you want me, and not a minute before.”

Save your own birth story for later unless she asks for it. Today is hers.

What to Say to Your Partner During Labor

In the room, say less than you think you should. Keep it short, keep your voice calm, and don’t be afraid to repeat yourself. Saying “That one’s done” 40 times is fine.

Early labor: “We’ve got time. What do you need right now?”

Contractions are getting intense: “That was a big one, and you got through it.”

The break between contractions: “Do you want water, or just quiet?”

She says, “I can’t do this”: “This is so hard, and you’re doing it. I’m staying right here. What do you need?”

She changes her mind about pain relief: “Whatever you decide, I’m with you. Want me to get the nurse?”

The plan changes: “I know this isn’t what we pictured. Do you have questions for them? I can ask, or get them to slow down.”

She’s pushing: “I can see how hard you’re working. You’re so strong.”

You have no idea what to say: “I love you.”

Three things matter as much as the words:

• Take “stop talking” at face value. If she doesn’t want to hear your voice, a hand on her back, a sip of water, or a cool cloth still says plenty.
• Don’t argue with her about her own body. If she’s asking for an epidural, it isn’t your job to talk her out of it unless she asked you ahead of time to help her hold off. Even then, ask what she wants now.
• Check your breath. If you’ve been living on coffee and worry for hours, your breath probably smells like a hot dumpster. Grab some mints or chew some gum so she’s not dealing with pain AND bad breath in her face.

If you can’t be there, send something she can read when she has a minute. Two of the readers I heard from gave birth while their husbands were deployed or overseas. Try:

• “I would give anything to be holding your hand. I’m with you in every way I can be.”
• “I hate that I’m not there. I love you, and I’m a phone call away, day or night.”
• “I love you, and I can’t wait for you to tell me all of it.”

What to Text a Friend in Labor

One rule covers most of this: your text should give her something and ask her for nothing. Add “no need to reply” and mean it. And if she hasn’t told people she’s in labor, keep it to yourself and wait.

Sweet:

• “Sending you so much love today. No need to reply.”
• “You’ve got this. And if you feel like you don’t, you still do.”
• “There’s a whole group of people rooting for you. We’ll be here when you surface.”

Funny:

• “This text requires nothing from you, which makes it the only thing today that doesn’t.”
• “Thinking of you. Also, take every ice pack and pair of mesh underwear they’ll give you.”
• “You’re doing the hardest thing I can think of, and I once sat through your cousin’s three-hour wedding slideshow.” (Swap in your own shared misery. Inside jokes work best.)

Useful:

• “Dinner is coming to your porch the week you get home. You don’t have to answer this.”
• “I’ve got the dog. Don’t think about it again.”
• “Tell me if you want me to update anyone so you don’t have to.”

If you don’t know her that well:

• “Thinking of you today and wishing you and the baby all the best. No need to reply!”

If it’s been a long labor and she’s told you so:

• “Still thinking about you. This is ridiculous and you’re doing it anyway.”

What to Say When Labor Isn’t Going to Plan

I asked people who gave birth in less-than-ideal situations what they’d tell someone facing the same thing. They’d been through emergency c-sections, premature babies, births during a pandemic or right before a flood, and births without the partner they’d planned on.

All of these quotes are from readers, shared anonymously.

Let her be sad

One reader was told after a traumatic birth to “let yourself mourn the loss of the expected.” Another, who had her baby two months after leaving an abusive husband, put it this way: “Just be gentle. Let yourself be sad.”

Say: “It’s okay to be sad that this isn’t what you pictured. You can feel that and still love this baby like crazy.”

Let her feel all of it

A reader who gave birth alone told us, “Be totally ok with having a lot of emotions. Just let it all out!” She chose not to have a support person so she could do exactly that, which is a good reminder that what helps one person won’t help another.

Say: “Nobody here needs you to hold it together.”

Shrink the job

A reader who had an emergency c-section for placenta previa, with her baby four weeks early, said to “take it moment by moment.” Another, who had one baby right before a major flood and another during a pandemic, advised, “Expect to make a lot of contingency plans and then expect them to change.”

Say: “You only have to get through the next little bit. We’ll figure out the rest after that.”

Remind her of her strength

One reader drove herself to the hospital in active labor while her husband was deployed, then had a traumatic birth and a blood transfusion. Her take: “It sucked, but then it’s over and you discover some real strength you didn’t know you had.”

Say: “You’ve already handled so much, and you’re handling this.”

Give her permission to be angry

A reader whose husband was receiving end-of-life care as she went into labor offered this: “it’s okay to feel cheated out of what you wanted pregnancy and birth to be like.”

Say: “This isn’t fair, and you don’t have to pretend it is.”

Help her find the moment

A reader with twins, delivered by c-section at 29 weeks after developing HELLP syndrome, kept telling herself, “this isn’t the plan and isn’t the ideal, BUT this is the birth of your babies. Remember this moment.”

Say: “I know this isn’t the plan. It’s still the day you meet your baby.”

Show up from wherever you are

When one reader’s daughter had to stay in hospital for a month during SARS, visits weren’t possible, so “my mom arranged for people to drop off food at the front or give it to the security guards. Friends dropped off letters and little pictures or magazines for us.”

If you can’t be in the room, that’s your playbook. Check with the hospital first, then send food, a card, or something silly to read.

And if someone you love loses her baby, the lines above won’t fit. The best thing you can do is be there, listen, and follow her lead. Our post on stillbirth has more on how to help, along with resources for families.

What Not to Say to Someone in Labor

Most of these come from a good place. Skip them anyway.

• “Any news?” or “Has the baby come yet?” She’ll tell you. Every check-in is one more thing to answer.
• “You’re almost there.” You don’t know that, and neither does she. Leave progress reports to the nurse or midwife.
• “My cousin was in labor for three days.” No birth stories with a body count, ever.
• “Just relax.” Nobody has ever relaxed on command, least of all here.
• “You should get the epidural” or “You don’t need the epidural.” Unless she asks what you think, this one is none of your business.
• “At least the baby’s healthy.” Some readers told me a healthy baby was what mattered most to them in the end. That’s a conclusion she gets to reach herself, on her own schedule.

What to Say After the Baby Arrives

Ask about her first. The baby will be getting plenty of attention.

• “You did it. How are you doing?”
• “I’d love to hear the whole story whenever you feel like telling it, or never. Your call.”
• “I’m bringing dinner Thursday. No need to clean, get dressed, or talk to me.”

If the birth was hard, give her room to feel however she feels, even if that changes by the hour. One reader wrote, “I wish I knew at the time that the sadness and disappointment would be nothing compared to the joy of watching my kids grow up.” That may be true for her too, but it’s better shared when she’s ready to hear it.

If she’s still struggling after a couple of weeks, encourage her to talk to her doctor or midwife.

Frequently Asked Questions

What do you text someone in labor? Send something short that doesn’t need an answer, like “Thinking of you and sending so much love. No need to reply.” Avoid asking for updates.

What do you say to your daughter before she gives birth? Tell her you love her, that you’re proud of her, and that she can call you anytime or not at all. Something like “However this birth goes, I’ll be proud of you” takes the pressure off.

Should you text someone who’s in labor? Yes, if she has told you she’s in labor and you truly don’t expect a reply. She may not read it for hours, and she might be glad to find it when she does.

What do you say when she says, “I can’t do this”? Acknowledge how hard it is, then stay with her: “This is so hard, and you’re doing it. I’m right here. What do you need?” Sometimes that’s encouragement, and sometimes it’s a request for the nurse, so listen for which one it is.

What do you write in a card for someone about to have a baby? A personal memory plus a simple wish goes a long way. We have plenty more ideas in our guide to what to write in a baby shower card.

What Would You Add?

What’s the best thing someone said to you in labor? What’s the worst? Tell me in the comments, because your words may be exactly what somebody needs to send today.

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Quick answer: For most people, the Momcozy Classic Ultra Soft Nursing Bra is the best nursing bra. It’s wireless but gives real lift and shape, it’s easy to nurse in, it holds up wash after wash, and it costs about $30 at stores you already shop. Need something specific, like a bra for sleeping, pumping, a small or large bust, or a tight budget? Jump to the comparison table below.

I was in my late twenties when I learned that I had been buying the wrong size of bra for most of my grown-up life. Imagine my surprise when I finally figured things out and then got pregnant, turning everything I thought I knew about the world of bras and boobs upside down.

I got thrown for yet another loop when my baby was born. My breast size increased, my cup size changed, and suddenly I needed to find bras with easy access to free my nipples on the whim of my screaming newborn. The breastfeeding journey can be a heck of a ride, but buying a great nursing bra doesn’t have to be. If you’re wondering where to find the best nursing bras out there, this is the place to start! Here are my top picks at a glance.

How I Chose These Bras

• Easy to nurse in. Clips or pull-aside cups should open with one hand and close back up just as easily.
• Soft, breathable fabric. You’ll wear your nursing bra 10 or more hours a day, and often to bed.
• Support that adapts. A good nursing bra lifts when your milk comes in and still fits when your size settles.
• Easy care. Nursing bras can get soaked (and barfed on), so they need to survive frequent washing.
• Easy to find and return. Your size will change, so I favored bras sold at stores with simple return policies.

My first nursing bra was purchased by my husband while I stayed home crying with my two-day-old baby. He weirdly did a great job, but I don’t recommend this approach if you can avoid it.

Nursing Bra Types: Which One Do You Need?

Most nursing bras fall into one of four types, and many parents end up with a mix.

• Seamless: Soft, stretchy and usually sized S to XL instead of by band and cup. These handle size swings well, which makes them a great first nursing bra.
• Wireless: Shaped with fabric, seams or a soft cradle instead of an underwire. You often get more lift and a smoother look under clothes.
• Underwire: Sized by band and cup like a regular bra, with flexible wires for nursing. These give the most structure, especially if you have an ‘ample bosom’ as my grandmother used to call it.
• Pull-aside (sleep): Hardware-free crossover styles you simply pull aside to nurse. They’re the comfiest for sleeping and great for lounging, but they offer lighter support.

What to Buy Before Baby Arrives

Your milk usually comes in around day three or four after birth, and your breasts can grow by as much as two cup sizes. They’ll shrink back down over the next few weeks as your supply settles.

That’s why I recommend your first purchase be a stretchy, seamless bra or sleep bra in size S to XL. These styles stretch with the swings. Plus, I didn’t find I was leaving the house much those first few weeks, so I needed comfort and convenience over super support.

Start with two or three bras in your last month of pregnancy. Don’t buy a much bigger size when your milk first comes in, since you’ll likely size back down. Once things settle, most do well with three daytime bras (one on, one in the wash, one spare) plus one or two sleep bras.

Tip: Buy from stores with easy returns, like Target, Walmart or Nordstrom, so you’re not stuck if your size changes.

Best Overall: Momcozy Classic Ultra Soft Nursing Bra

This is the bra I’d recommend to most new moms. It’s soft enough to lounge in but structured enough that you feel put together at work or out of the house.

Instead of an underwire, a strong mesh cradle is sewn invisibly under the bust, so you get lift without anything digging in (they also stop uniboob). The edges are laser cut, so they lie flat under fitted shirts, and the clips sit flat too. The molded pads squish down when you pull the cup aside, so they don’t get in your baby’s way, and they’re removable when you want a lighter feel. It also holds up nicely through frequent washing.

Keep in mind: It’s best for up to about an E cup, and Momcozy doesn’t recommend it for F cups and up (try the Elomi Molly below). Some parents find it a little plain, with a higher neckline. For easier returns, buy through Amazon, Target, Walmart or Nordstrom rather than direct.

Specs: Wireless | Sizes S to 3L | Nylon and spandex | Removable pads | About $30

Find it at Amazon, Walmart, Nordstrom or Target.

Best for Sleeping: Hatch The Dream Feed Nursing and Sleep Bra

When your baby likes to party all night, your bra shouldn’t be one more thing keeping you awake. The Dream Feed has no clips or hooks at all. The crossover neckline pulls aside with one finger, so you can nurse half asleep and get right back to bed.

It’s made almost entirely of soft pima cotton, which breathes well during postpartum night sweats and feels gentle on sore nipples. The elastic is hidden inside every edge, so nothing rubs your skin, and it holds nursing pads in place better than most sleep bras. It’s cute enough to wear during the day too.

Keep in mind: There are no adjustable straps or back hooks, so the fit depends on choosing the right size. It pulls on over your head and offers moderate support, so it’s not the bra for a workout.

Specs: Wireless | Sizes S to XL (30A to 42DD/E) | 94% pima cotton | About $48

Find it at Hatch or Nordstrom.

Best Nursing and Pumping Bra: Ingrid & Isabel Seamless Nursing + Pumping Bra

If you plan to pump, this bra saves you from changing between sessions. Drop-down cups make nursing easy, and built-in openings hold your pump flanges so your hands are free.

The seamless, wireless design is comfortable enough to wear all day, and adjustable back hooks give you room as your body changes. It works with wearable pumps too, and it was named Nursing Bras and Tanks Product of the Year in the 2026 Baby Innovation Awards.

Keep in mind: Stock varies by retailer and size, so check a couple of stores if your size is sold out.

Specs: Wireless | Sizes S to XL | Nylon and spandex | Fits standard and wearable pumps

Find it at Ingrid & Isabel, Target, or Nordstrom.

Best Nursing Tank: Ingrid & Isabel Basics Crossover Nursing Cami

Some days you want one layer, not a bra plus a shirt. This cami has a crossover neckline that pulls aside for quick nursing, and the seamless, stretchy fabric smooths and supports without feeling tight. It’s great for the hospital bag, layering under a cardigan, or wearing around the house during those early feeding marathons.

Save with the bundle: If you’re also buying the Ingrid & Isabel Nursing + Pumping Bra, the bundle pairs this cami with the pumping bra and a drop-cup nursing bra, which makes an easy postpartum starter kit.

Keep in mind: A cami offers lighter support than a structured bra, so it’s best for home and casual days.

Specs: Wireless | Nylon and spandex | Sold alone or in a bundle

Find it at Ingrid & Isabel and Nordstrom.

Best Underwire T-Shirt Nursing Bra: ThirdLove 24/7 Classic Nursing Bra

If you miss the shape of your pre-baby bras, this is the one to try. The ThirdLove 24/7 Classic looks and feels like a regular t-shirt bra, with a flexible underwire, smooth memory foam cups and a double-layer back that keeps everything polished under fitted tops. The drop-down cups open with one hand, and the soft pima cotton lining is gentle on sensitive skin. It’s a great choice for heading back to work, dinners out, or any day you want to feel put together.

Keep in mind: Some larger cup sizes find it less supportive than they’d like, so if you’re a D cup or up, the Elomi Molly may be a better fit. It’s also one of the pricier picks, but ThirdLove’s 60-day free returns and exchanges take the risk out of finding your size.

Specs: Flexible underwire | Cups B to I | Pima cotton | About $70

Find it on the ThirdLove website.

Best Lace Nursing Bra: hotmilk Temptation

Having a baby attached to your boob 26 hours a day doesn’t mean you can’t look good doing it. The hotmilk Temptation is a lace bra pretty enough to dress up and sturdy enough for every day. Fans love the straps that convert to a racerback, the supportive flexi underwire, the side sling that makes skin-to-skin easy, and the full coverage cups.

Keep in mind: It’s also one of the pricier picks at around $90.

Specs: Flexi underwire | Bands up to 42, cups up to M | Unlined lace

Get it on the Hotmilk website

Best Nursing Sports Bra: Sweat & Milk Venice High Impact Full Coverage Nursing Sports Bra

Ready to get moving again? The Venice was designed for high-impact workouts like running and CrossFit, with full coverage cups, wide adjustable straps and a supportive underband that keep everything in place. One-hand nursing access means you can go from a workout to a feed without changing, and it works with wearable pumps like Elvie and Willow too. It won Best Nursing Sports Bra in the Women’s Health Fitness Awards and Best Postpartum Bra from Shape.

Keep in mind: It runs about one size bigger than regular sports bras, so check the size chart before ordering. Some reviewers in larger cup sizes found it better for walking, hiking and lifting than for running. It works with wearable pumps but not traditional flange-style pumps.

Specs: Full coverage | Cups A to G | Adjustable straps | Wearable pump compatible | About $63

Find it at Nordstrom or on the Sweat & Milk website.

Best Budget Nursing Bra: Leading Lady The Dorothy

If you love a good deal, this one is for you (although, I’m not going to pretend that a $13 bra is the same as a $100 bra so we all need to manage expectations here). The Dorothy is a wireless t-shirt nursing bra with smooth cups that adapt to your changing size, one-hand nursing clips and a full inner sling for support. At around $13, it’s easy to buy a few so you always have a clean one ready.

Keep in mind: Some women say the cups are too far apart for them.

Specs: Wireless | Band and cup sizing | Microfiber | About $13

Find it at Target and Walmart.

Best for Larger Busts: Elomi Molly

The Elomi Molly Full Figure Underwire Nursing Bra is a favorite for bigger busts. This underwire bra has three-piece cups with side support, a full internal sling and stretch lace at the top to handle size swings, in sizes up to a KK cup. The clip is easy to open and close with one hand, and the moisture-wicking fabric keeps you feeling fresh.

Keep in mind: Elomi uses UK sizing, so check the size chart before you order. It’s an underwire style, so many parents save it for after the first few weeks.

Specs: Underwire | Up to KK cup | UK sizing

Find it on Nordstrom or Bare Necessities.

For more options, read our guide to the Best Places to Find Nursing Bras in Larger Sizes.

Best for Small Busts: Auden Luxe Stretch Unlined Nursing Bralette

Many nursing bras start at a B cup or a size small, which leaves smaller-chested moms swimming in fabric. This Target bralette comes in sizes XS to XXL, so it fits snugly instead of gaping. It’s double layered, soft and stretchy, with adjustable straps, one-hand cup release and light support for everyday wear.

Keep in mind: It’s unlined, so pair it with nursing pads for leaks and coverage. Also, many reviews say it can run small, so when in doubt, size up.

Specs: Wireless | Sizes XS to XXL | Nylon and spandex | About $15

Find it at Target.

Nursing Bra FAQ

How many nursing bras do I need?
Start with two or three before baby arrives. Once your size settles, three daytime bras plus one or two sleep bras covers most parents.

When can I wear an underwire nursing bra?
Many parents wait until their milk supply settles, usually a few weeks after birth. A well-fitted, flexible underwire is fine for many people. The bigger concern is any bra that’s too tight, since pressure on milk ducts can lead to clogs.

What size nursing bra should I buy during pregnancy?
Choose one that fits on the loosest hook, so you can tighten it as your ribcage shrinks after birth. Stretchy cups or S to XL sizing help with the jump in size when your milk comes in.

Can I pump in a regular nursing bra?
Some parents pump by dropping the cups and holding the flanges in place, but a nursing and pumping bra like the Ingrid & Isabel holds the flanges for you, so your hands are free.

Which nursing bras work best with wearable pumps?
Bras with fuller coverage and sturdier fabric hold wearable pumps (like Elvie or Willow) most securely. Thin bralettes often need a hand to keep the pump in place.

How should I wash nursing bras?
Follow the care label when you can. If you machine wash, use a mesh lingerie bag and cold water, then air dry. Heat wears out elastic faster.

Did Your Favorite Nursing Bra Make the List?

Do you have a bra you swear by? What are the best nursing bras in your opinion? Tell me what you love about it in the comments!

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There is nothing my kids loved more than snuggling in and reading a good board book. Trouble is there are a billion out there and many of them aren’t great whether it’s too damn long (wrap it up, Peter Rabbit) sends an odd message (don’t you dim your light, Rainbow Fish!!!) or just poorly written and illustrated by someone who has never met a kid.

Then there are books that I just don’t like because I didn’t think I did a good job reading them. Like, how the heck do I even read Goodnight Gorilla or the book “Hug”? I’m tired and want to wrap the day up, and I don’t want to add creative storytelling to bedtime with a book with no words.

But I digress.

Whether you’re shopping for a gift or building your own bookshelf, these are the books I genuinely love, a mix of classics and some fresher picks for little kids and the grownups reading to them. And if you don’t want to saddle a new parent with yet another copy of Goodnight Moon or The Very Hungry Caterpillar, you’ll find some great alternatives here.

Want them all in one spot? Shop all the books here.

You’re My Little Sunshine

There’s no real plot here, just a string of sweet rhymes telling your baby how loved they are, paired with sunbeam yellows and the happiest little faces you’ve ever seen. Kids like it because the pictures are bold and easy to follow even before they understand the words, and parents like it because there’s something nice about having a book this unapologetically sincere in the rotation.

I’ll Love You Till the Cows Come Home

One farm animal parent after another promises their baby love that never runs out, from sunup to sundown and every ordinary day between. There’s no real conflict or story arc, just a steady build of reassurance, which is exactly what makes it such a good one to read to a kid who needs convincing that you’re not going anywhere. My kids ask for it by title alone.

Pout-Pout Fish

Mr. Fish is convinced he’s doomed to spread “dreary wearies” wherever he swims, grumbling his way through the whole ocean, until a surprise kiss from a passing fish flips his frown upside down. The rhyme is so catchy your kid will be reciting it back to you before they can read a word of it, and the underwater illustrations give you plenty to point at and name along the way.

You’re My Little Cuddle Bug

Your baby gets compared to one cuddly little creature after another, from a bunny to a bear cub, each one as snuggly as the last. There’s not much of a story, which is kind of the point. It’s short and soft enough to keep in the diaper bag for those moments when you need two quiet minutes before nap time.

Little Blue Truck Board Book

Little Blue Truck gets stuck in the mud, and the farm animals who were kind to him on the way come back to help dig him out, while the speeding dump truck who blew past everyone gets stuck right alongside him. Kids love the repetition (“Beep! Beep! Beep!”) and all the animal sounds, and parents get a sneaky little lesson about kindness mixed in without it ever feeling preachy. The moral of the story is “don’t be a jerk,” and I feel like we can all support that.

The Monster at the End of This Book

Grover finds out there’s a monster at the end of the book and spends every page begging you not to turn any further, building increasingly desperate barricades out of rope and bricks to stop you. He’s the monster, of course. (Spoiler alert, sorry.) I had this book as a kid and loved it, and it turns out it stood the test of time, because my kids crack up at the same jokes I did. My only complaint is that it bothered me that I don’t do a very good Gover impression. My kids never cared.

I Am a Bunny

A bunny named Nicholas lives in a hollow tree and wanders through all four seasons, noticing frogs and flowers in spring, butterflies in summer, falling leaves in fall, and snowflakes in winter. There’s barely any plot, just a quiet little nature walk, but the illustrations are gorgeous enough that I have an unhealthy obsession with this book.

Go to Sleep, Little Farm

One by one, every creature on the farm settles in for the night, from the bugs in the grass to the bears tucked in a den, until the whole place goes quiet. The rhyming text has a slow, rocking rhythm that’s practically built for the last book before lights out, and the soft illustrations give you something calm to look at together while everyone winds down.

No, David!

David gets into every kind of trouble a toddler can dream up: standing on chairs, tracking mud through the house, running down the street with no clothes on. His mom’s only line through the whole book is some version of the title, over and over, until the ending turns surprisingly sweet. David Shannon based it on doodles from his own childhood, and it shows. It’s a Caldecott Honor book, and it’s painfully accurate about toddler chaos. My older son absolutely LOVED this book. There’s something about other kids getting in trouble that just delights children.

Knuffle Bunny: A Cautionary Tale

Trixie and her dad head to the laundromat, and on the way home, she realizes her beloved stuffed bunny got left behind in a washing machine. The trouble is she’s too little to say “bunny” yet, so her meltdown comes out as pure, wordless toddler frustration that any parent will recognize instantly. Mo Willems drops his cartoon characters into real black and white photos of his own Brooklyn neighborhood, and the mix is both funny and genuinely touching.

The Color Monster

A sweet little monster wakes up with all his feelings jumbled together in one messy tangle, and a friend helps him untangle them by sorting each one into its own color: yellow for happy, blue for sad, red for angry, and so on. It gives kids a real tool for naming big feelings instead of just acting them out, and the saturated, jar-of-paint illustrations make the idea click fast.

Grumpy Monkey

Jim Panzee wakes up in a bad mood for no reason he can name, and one friend after another tries to fix it, suggesting he sing, or eat a snack, or go for a swim, which only makes him grumpier. Eventually, a wise old friend tells him it’s fine to just be grumpy for a while, and he does, loudly. Kids (and people) who are deep in their own moods tend to feel very seen by this one.

All the World

There’s no single character or plot to follow here, just one ordinary day moving from the beach to the farmers’ market to a big family dinner at the end of it. The language is closer to poetry than to a typical story, and the illustrations are detailed enough that you and your kid can spend a long time on a single page finding new things to point at. It earned a Caldecott Honor, and it holds up to a hundred rereads.

Sweetest Kulu

Arctic animals, from polar bears to caribou, each welcome a new baby, called “Kulu,” with their own gentle wish for them, like strength from the bear or quickness from the fox. It’s quiet and repetitive in the best way, built to soothe a little one to sleep rather than to tell a conventional story, and it might be the sweetest book ever made for welcoming a new baby into the world.

My Heart Fills With Happiness

Rather than following a single character through a story, this one moves through a list of small moments that bring joy, like the smell of warm bannock or bare feet on summer grass, each one simple enough for a baby to recognize. Written and illustrated by First Nations creators, the uncluttered pictures make the quiet message easy to land, and it’s also available in several languages, including Plains Cree, Spanish, and French.

The Going to Bed Book

A boatload of animals gets ready for bed together, brushing teeth, climbing stairs, doing a quick bedtime exercise routine, and finally settling down to watch the sun set over the sea. It’s basically a step-by-step bedtime routine disguised as a story, which makes it genuinely useful for kids who need some convincing that bedtime is really happening. Sandra Boynton is a household name at this point, and for good reason. This is the best of the best, though I’m also partial to Pajama Time, Barnyard Dance!, Horns to Toes and in Between, Moo Baa La La La, and my all time favorite, Your Personal Penguin (find the Davy Jones song so you know the tune, or I can come over and sing it myself). Honestly, her books are like pizza. I’ve rarely met a bad one.

That’s Not My Bunny…

A little mouse goes page by page rejecting one bunny after another, this one’s ears too fuzzy, that one’s tail too scratchy, until the last page finally gets it right. Every page has a different texture to touch, which keeps little hands busy in a way almost no other book manages, and the repeating pattern means baby can “read along” with you long before they know any of the words.

Dear Zoo

A kid writes to the zoo asking for a pet, and the zoo keeps shipping over animals that turn out to be all wrong: too big, too scary, too jumpy, hidden behind a flap on each page until you lift it to find out which one it is. The payoff at the end, when the zoo finally gets it right, lands every single time. It’s been around for decades because the format is just that satisfying for little hands. Just be mindful that it is a lift-the-flap book, so if you’re dealing with a book mangler, you might want to skip it for a bit.

Love Makes a Family

Instead of one storyline, this one moves through a whole string of ordinary family moments: packing lunches, giving piggyback rides, reading one more story before lights out. The families on the page come in every shape and size, which makes the point without ever turning into a lesson.

Llama Llama Red Pajama

Baby Llama gets tucked in, Mama Llama heads downstairs, and the second she’s out of sight, full-blown panic sets in, complete with crying, shouting, and a pretty dramatic tumble out of bed. It’s a spot-on, almost uncomfortably accurate read on separation anxiety at bedtime, with rhymes that move fast enough to keep a toddler hooked and an ending that gives both of you the reassurance you need.

Bodies Are Cool

Page after page introduces a different kind of body: tall ones, round ones, ones with scars, ones using wheelchairs, ones covered in freckles from head to toe, each one shown with the same bright, joyful energy. There’s no single character or plot, just a parade of real-looking people being celebrated exactly as they are, and it’s a message I want my kids hearing early and often.

What’s your baby’s favorite board book?

Do you have an Eric Carle kid? Are you a Sandra Boynton family through and through? I’d love to know, so drop the title in the comments.

Ready to stock the shelf? Here’s every book from this post in one spot.

Read next: 100 Great Gift Ideas for Babies Under One

Our next reco: 100 Great Gifts Ideas for Babies Under One

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The short answer: For most new parents in Canada, Snuggle Bugz is the best all-round online baby store thanks to its expert advice and car seat fit help. Pick Costco.ca or Walmart.ca for diapers and budget basics, Well.ca for everyday essentials with low free shipping, West Coast Kids for the widest selection, Jump! The Baby Store for Canadian-made brands, and Macklem’s for honest, expert advice on big gear.

I’ve had two babies in Canada (that I know of) and the baby store landscape keeps changing. The Bay and Babies R Us are gone, and very few of us have baby gear on our radar before we’re expecting. So where do you go to find all this stuff babies need?

I always recommend shopping local first, especially if this is your first rodeo. But sometimes local shops don’t have the item you want or the selection is limited. Thankfully, there are great Canadian online stores that deliver right to your door with no customs or duties. Huzzah!

For this update, I dug through each store’s return and shipping policies and read what customers are praising and complaining about so you know the good, the bad and the fine print before you hit “checkout.” Policies change, so always double-check the store’s site before a big purchase.

Medically reviewed by: Angela McPhillips, DNP, RN · Updated September 2026

Quick answer: Most babies who go a few days without pooping aren’t constipated. They’re just fine, and so are you for worrying about it. Real constipation shows up as hard, pellet-like stool, fewer than two bowel movements a week, or visible pain, not just a quiet stretch between diapers. Below I’ll walk through what’s normal, what isn’t, and what genuinely helps.

The Poop Panic

You know the scene. Your baby hasn’t pooped in two, maybe three days. They’re grunting, red-faced, pulling their knees up. You’ve already Googled “baby hasn’t pooped in 3 days” at least twice, and now you’re deep in a forum thread from 2014 where people are suggesting everything from castor oil to crystals.

I’ve been there, bud. Both of my kids had stretches when I was convinced something was wrong, and I freaked out at the lack of movement, but (thankfully) it never was anything serious. Constipation worry is one of the most common reasons parents call their pediatrician in the first year, so if you’re worried, you’re in very normal company.

What “Normal” Baby Poop Looks Like

Normal is a wide range, and every baby settles into their own rhythm. Some go several times a day, some go once, and some go every couple of days. Where they land depends a lot on whether they’re breastfed, formula-fed, combo-fed, or eating solids yet.

After the first 3 – 6 weeks, breastfed babies can poop after every feed, or go five to seven days without one. Some breastfed babies can go up to a week without pooping and it can still be completely normal, as long as the stool is soft and baby is feeding and growing well. Breast milk is highly digestible and contains natural enzymes that help break down nutrients. Babies can absorb much of what breast milk provides, so some breastfed babies may produce less stool and go longer between bowel movements. 

Formula-fed babies tend to poop a bit less often and produce firmer stool than breastfed babies, since formula takes more work to break down. That doesn’t mean something’s wrong. It just means their normal looks different.

No poop for a few days isn’t automatically constipation if your baby is comfortable, eating well, and their belly feels soft. The real question isn’t frequency alone. It’s how the stool looks and how your baby seems.

As your baby gets older, this shifts. Newborns tend to go more often. Once solids start, around six months, stool gets firmer and less frequent almost overnight, and this is usually when parents first notice something that looks like straining or discomfort.

So What Is Constipation in Babies?

Here’s what tripped me up: straining alone isn’t constipation.

Babies are still learning to coordinate the muscles around their anus after keeping them closed for nine months, and lying on their back doesn’t give them any help from gravity. Grunting, going red in the face, and pulling their legs up are just what pushing looks like at that age.

It’s called infant dyschezia. It describes an otherwise healthy baby who strains, cries, and turns red or even purple for ten minutes or more while trying to poop, without being constipated at all. If that’s what you’re watching happen, it can look alarming, but it’s a known, harmless phase that most babies grow out of as they get better at coordinating those muscles. 

Real signs of actual constipation:

• Fewer than two bowel movements a week
• Hard, dry, pellet-like stool (think small round balls, not a soft log)
• Stool that’s clearly difficult or painful to pass
• Streaks of blood in or on the stool, often from a small tear caused by straining against hard stool
• Unusual fussiness, discomfort, or more spit-up than normal

True constipation comes down to the stool itself and how your baby handles it, not how loud or red-faced the effort looks. (If you’ve ever seen a toddler crouching behind the curtains taking a dump, you know what I mean.)

Common Triggers by Stage

Newborns. True constipation in the first few weeks is rare, but stool patterns still matter. One thing pediatricians check early on is when your baby passed their first stool, called meconium. Most full-term newborns pass meconium within the first 24 to 48 hours; a delay can sometimes signal an underlying intestinal or medical issue. And while older breastfed babies may go several days between bowel movements, infrequent stooling in the first few weeks deserves a call to your pediatrician, especially if your baby isn’t feeding well, gaining weight, or having enough wet diapers. 

Switching formulas, or from breast to formula. A new formula, or even a new can of the same formula, can shift stool consistency for a few days while your baby’s gut adjusts.

Starting solids. Starting solids are a classic culprit. Low-fiber first foods like rice cereal and bananas can firm things up fast. 

Low fluid intake once solids begin. Babies eating solids need a bit more fluid to keep things moving. This is one of the easiest fixes on this whole list.

Illness, antibiotics, or fever. Reduced appetite and fluid intake during a cold or fever can temporarily slow digestion. Antibiotics can do something similar by disrupting the balance of bacteria in your baby’s gut.

Gut imbalance. Your baby’s gut is home to trillions of bacteria that help with digestion, and things like a C-section delivery or very little exposure to probiotic-rich foods can shift that balance in a way that may contribute to constipation. 

It’s not the iron. Iron-fortified formula does not cause constipation, and you should never switch to a low-iron formula on your own since iron matters for your baby’s growth and development. If someone tells you to swap formulas because of the iron, it’s worth a quick check with your pediatrician before you do.

Rare, but worth knowing. In cases where constipation is ongoing rather than occasional, pediatricians sometimes screen for underlying conditions like Hirschsprung’s disease or cystic fibrosis. This is uncommon and not something to self-diagnose from a blog post, but if your pediatrician brings it up as part of a workup, it’s a standard, reasonable step, not a sign they’re worried about something exotic.

When to Call the Pediatrician

Call your pediatrician if you notice:

• No wet diapers
• Blood in the stool
• Vomiting
• Your baby seems to be in significant pain, not just normal straining
• No bowel movement along with a firm, swollen, or distended belly
• Your baby is under two to three months old and shows any of the above

If your gut says something’s off, that’s reason enough to call. Pediatricians would rather hear from you and rule something out than have you waiting on it.

What Happens When You Call

If it helps to know what you’re walking into: your pediatrician will likely ask when this started, how long your baby has gone between bowel movements, whether you’ve seen blood, and what your baby’s stool usually looks like. For an in-office visit, that sometimes includes a quick, gentle belly exam.

What Helps: Gentle, Practical Steps

If your baby is eating solids, fiber-rich purees are your best friend. The classic “P fruits,” prunes, pears, plums, and peaches, have natural mild laxative effects, and there’s a longer list worth rotating in: mashed avocado, sweet potato, broccoli, even pureed beans or lentils and a bit of ground flaxseed or chia mixed into a puree your baby already likes.

A little extra water, once your baby is old enough. Babies under 6 months generally shouldn’t have plain water outside of what a pediatrician directs, since it can throw off the balance of their still-developing kidneys. Once your baby is eating solids, offering a bit of extra water in a bottle or open cup is fine and can genuinely help.

Feed a little more often. Young babies generally need to eat somewhere between 8 and 12 times in 24 hours, including overnight. If feeds have been spaced out more than that, offering a bit more frequently can sometimes help get things moving on its own.

Juice, with a caveat. Juice isn’t part of a baby’s regular diet before their first birthday, but for constipation specifically, some pediatricians will direct a small amount earlier, usually under 4 ounces total. Apple or pear juice works because of a natural sugar called sorbitol, and prune juice is an option once your baby is past 3 months for the same reason. Don’t start this on your own. Check with your pediatrician on amount, age, and timing first.

Tummy massage and bicycle legs. Lay your baby on their back and gently move their legs in a pedaling motion, or rub their belly in slow clockwise circles, following the direction of their intestines.

A warm bath. The warmth can relax the muscles enough to get things moving, and it doubles as a nice reset for a fussy afternoon. (Frankly, who doesn’t love a warm bath?)

The rectal thermometer trick. This one sounds a little odd to say out loud, but it’s a commonly given pediatrician tip: taking your baby’s rectal temperature, with a small amount of petroleum jelly on the tip of the thermometer, can sometimes stimulate a bowel movement on its own.

For formula-fed babies, check your mixing ratio. Formula that’s mixed too concentrated (too little water) can lead to dehydration, which makes stool harder and tougher to pass. Double-check you’re following the exact ratio on the can.

Movement and tummy time. More physical activity generally means more gut motility, even for babies just starting to roll and scoot.

If you’re nursing, don’t rush to change your diet. There’s little evidence that specific foods in a nursing parent’s diet cause constipation in an otherwise healthy breastfed baby. In some cases, a pediatrician may recommend a targeted elimination diet if they suspect a food protein allergy, but that’s something to discuss with your baby’s healthcare provider rather than troubleshoot on your own. 

Gut support. Your baby’s gut microbiome plays a real role in comfortable digestion, and specific probiotic strains like Lactobacillus reuteri DSM 17938 have some research behind them for regularity. NurtureBio makes a good one.  

Note: Get your pediatrician’s okay before trying anything on premature or immunocompromised babies.

The Bottom Line

Occasional constipation is common, usually manageable at home, and not a sign you’re doing anything wrong. A surprising amount of what looks like constipation is just a normal baby working hard to poop, and most of the time a little patience, some pureed pear, and a warm bath is all it takes.

But trust your gut (parenting pun very much intended). If something feels off, or your baby hits any of the red flags above, call your pediatrician.

FAQ

How long can a breastfed baby go without pooping and still be normal?
Up to a week, in some cases, as long as the stool is soft when it finally comes and your baby seems comfortable in the meantime. Breast milk is digested so efficiently there’s sometimes very little waste left over.

Does iron in formula cause constipation?
No. This is a common myth. Iron-fortified formula does not cause constipation, and switching to a low-iron formula isn’t recommended unless your pediatrician specifically advises it, since iron is important for your baby’s development.

What is infant dyschezia?
It’s the medical term for a healthy baby who strains hard, cries, and turns red for ten minutes or more while trying to poop, without being constipated. It’s caused by babies still learning to coordinate the muscles involved, and most grow out of it on their own.

Can I give my baby juice for constipation?
Sometimes, and only with your pediatrician’s guidance on amount and age. A small amount of water or apple, pear, or prune juice can help because of a natural sugar called sorbitol, but total juice is usually kept under 4 ounces and prune juice typically waits until after 3 months.

Is straining while pooping a sign of constipation?
Not by itself. Straining, grunting, and turning red are normal for babies since they’re still building the muscle coordination to poop lying down. It becomes worth watching if it goes on for more than 10 minutes repeatedly or looks genuinely painful, not just working hard.

When should I call the pediatrician about constipation?
Call if you see blood in the stool, no wet diapers, vomiting, a firm or swollen belly with no bowel movement, or significant pain, or if your baby is under 2 to 3 months old with any of these signs.

Also check out: Types of Baby Poop – What is Normal

Medical Review: This article was medically reviewed by Angela McPhillips, DNP, RN on September 11, 2026 for accuracy. 

This post may contain affiliate links. If you purchase through my links, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Thanks for supporting Pregnant Chicken – it keeps the lights on and supports our free content. Updated September 2026.

Medical References

• Mayo Clinic. “Infant constipation: How is it treated?” – juice, sorbitol, and fiber guidance
• Cleveland Clinic. “Dyschezia: Types, Causes & Treatment” — infant dyschezia definition and diagnostic criteria
• HealthyChildren.org (American Academy of Pediatrics). “How to Safely Prepare Baby Formula With Water” – water safety before 6 months
• HealthyChildren.org (American Academy of Pediatrics). “Recommended Drinks for Children Age 5 & Younger” – juice and water timing
• Mayo Clinic. “Constipation in children – Symptoms & causes” – general pediatric constipation symptoms and red flags
• Probiotics and Functional Gastrointestinal Disorders in Pediatric Age: A Narrative Review, National Library of Medicine — PMC8888932 — evidence review on probiotic strains and pediatric constipation specifically (use this instead of the AGA reference)

If you’ve got an expired, outgrown, or banged-up car seat taking up prime real estate in your garage, Target will take it off your hands AND give you 20% off new baby gear. That’s a win-win if I’ve ever heard one.

Here’s everything you need to know to make the most of it.

What Is the Target Car Seat Trade-In Program?

Twice a year, Target runs a trade-in event where you can drop off an old car seat (any brand, any condition) at a participating store and walk away with a 20% Target Circle bonus toward select baby gear.

Right now, the program runs September 20 to October 3, with the bonus valid through October 17, 2026.

Since the program launched in April 2016, Target has recycled over 3.5 million car seats (or 1.2 million pounds of car seat material) turning all that sticky, Cheerio-dusted plastic into things like pallets, plastic buckets, construction materials, and even select Brightroom products.

What Car Seats Qualify?

All of these are accepted, regardless of brand:

• Infant car seats
• Convertible car seats
• Car seat bases
• Harness or booster car seats
• Seats that have been in an accident or are damaged
• Seats that are expired

Basically: if it’s a car seat you’re done with, it qualifies. Just note that this program is car seats and bases only – strollers, bouncers, and other gear don’t go in the drop-off box, so don’t make a wasted trip with a trunk full of miscellaneous baby equipment.

Wait, Do Car Seats Expire?

They do, and a lot of parents don’t realize it. Most car seats expire 6 to 10 years from the manufacture date (it varies by brand and model). To find yours, look for a sticker on the seat itself – it’ll show the manufacture date, and sometimes the expiration date outright. If it’s not obvious, check the manufacturer’s website using the model name.

If your seat has hit its expiration date, it legally shouldn’t be used anymore anyway, so this trade-in is the perfect send-off.

How the Target Car Seat Trade-In Works (Step by Step)

You’ll want the Target App downloaded before you go so you can grab your bonus on the spot.

1. Bring your old car seat or base to a participating Target store. Drop-off boxes are located near Guest Services.
2. Scan the QR code on the box with your mobile device to add the bonus to your Target Circle account. (A team member at Guest Services can sort you out if you need help.)
3. Find your bonus in your Target Circle Wallet.
4. Use it. The bonus can be applied in-store or online, and it’s redeemable twice.

What Can You Use the 20% Bonus On?

The bonus applies to:

• Car seats, booster seats, and car seat bases
• Travel systems and strollers
• Select baby home gear: playards, high chairs, swings, rockers, bouncers, walkers, entertainers, and jumpers

A couple of things to keep in mind: the bonus excludes Target Plus items and clearance, but it can be combined with other item-level offers, which is worth knowing if something is already on sale. And since you can use it twice, you could potentially stack savings on two separate purchases.

A Few Things Worth Knowing Before You Go

These trade-in events can get busy toward the end of the window, and some stores run out of box space. Going earlier usually means fewer crowds and less hassle.

Also, don’t overthink whether your seat “qualifies.” If it’s a car seat and you’re done with it, Target will take it. Expired, damaged, ancient, curb garbage, all fair game.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I trade in more than one car seat? Yes, but you receive one 20% bonus per Target Circle account, regardless of how many seats you drop off.

Does the bonus stack with other offers? Yes, it can be combined with other item-level offers, which is great if something you want is already discounted. Just note it excludes Target Plus items and clearance.

What if I don’t have the Target App? You’ll need to scan the QR code on the drop-off box to get your bonus, so downloading the Target App beforehand is the easiest route. If you run into trouble, Guest Services at the store can help.

What does Target do with the old car seats? They’re recycled by Target’s partners into new products like pallets, plastic buckets, steel beams, carpet padding, and select Brightroom items. So your old seat genuinely has a second life.

Is this a seasonal thing? Target typically runs the program twice a year, in spring and fall. Setting a reminder now means you won’t miss the next one.

Is It Worth It?

If you already have a seat to get rid of, absolutely. You were going to deal with it eventually, you might as well get 20% off a new stroller or playard out of it. And the seat is being recycled rather than ending up in a landfill.

Related: Finding the Best Infant Car Seat

Quick Verdict: The Pamo Babe Quick Fold 7-in-1 is a budget-friendly bassinet/playard combo that includes a bassinet, playard, changing station, bedside sleeper, toy bar, storage, and travel bag. It’s a smart pick if you’re tight on space or budget, need something for grandma’s house, or want one product to cover newborn through toddler.

When I found out I was pregnant, I quickly became overwhelmed by everything I thought I needed to learn about having a baby.

I hadn’t even wrapped my head around parenthood, let alone car seat features.

Everyone talked about ‘must haves’ and ‘talk to your doctor,’ but never about how babies need very little and even if you did nothing special, you’d probably be fine.

To help you focus, I’ve pulled together these 5-day mini email series that tap into a unique problem, stage or situation.

Feel free to subscribe to more than one, or just pick the one that speaks to you the most – there’s no wrong way to go about it.

Quick answer: If your baby is gassy, fussy, or seems uncomfortable after feeds, look for a formula with partially hydrolyzed protein (broken down so it’s easier to digest) and pay attention to the carbohydrate source – that’s where these formulas differ more than people realize. I’ve put together five gentle formulas worth knowing about below, along with what makes each one different and who tends to be the best fit for it.

I’ll walk you through that, plus how to figure out if your baby actually needs a “gentle” formula in the first place, because not every fussy phase means you need to switch.

Back when my husband and I were expecting our own two boys, most “dad” books on the shelf were jokey — “the legs go through the holes at the bottom of the romper, yuk yuk!” Thankfully, times are shifting, and many of today’s resources treat dads as active participants in the family. How novel, right?!

Becoming a dad comes with approximately zero training and about a thousand opinions from people who aren’t you. Somewhere between “just trust your instincts” and “read everything,” there’s a sane middle ground: a handful of resources that are honest, useful, and won’t make you feel worse about the chaos ahead.

This was a tough list because the tone of pregnancy books can run from “Bro, you’re going to be a dad” to “you need to assert yourself as an alpha male at the hospital”. As with any parenting book, if it isn’t making you feel good or confident, put it down and find something else.

Here are five books worth your time, plus a few podcasts to fill the commute.