Eileen's journey in life

Simply hillarious... Simply entertaining... Simply for laughs =)

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 02:59:00 +0000

> ROMANCE MATHEMATICS
>
> Smart man + smart woman = romance
> Smart man + dumb woman = affair
> Dumb man + smart woman = marriage
> Dumb man + dumb woman = pregnancy
> ______________________________
>
> OFFICE ARITHMETIC
>
> Smart boss + smart employee = profit
> Smart boss + dumb employee = production
> Dumb boss + smart employee = promotion
> Dumb boss + dumb employee = overtime
> _____________________________
>
> SHOPPING MATH
>
> A man will pay $20 for a $10 item he needs.
> A woman will pay $10 for a $20 item that she doesn't need.
> _____________________________
>
> GENERAL EQUATIONS & STATISTICS
>
> A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
> A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
> A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
> A successful woman is one who can find such a man.
> _____________________________
>
> LONGEVITY
>
> Married men live longer than single men do, but married men are a lot
> more willing to die.
> ______________________________
>
> PROPENSITY TO CHANGE
>
> A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
> A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.
> _____________________________
>
> HOW TO STOP PEOPLE FROM BUGGING YOU ABOUT
> GETTING MARRIED
>
> Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and
> cackling, telling me, 'You're next.' They stopped after I started doing
> the same thing to them at funerals.
>

>
> SEND THIS TO A SMART WOMAN WHO NEEDS A LAUGH AND TO THE SMART GUYS YOU
> KNOW CAN HANDLE IT

A series of events

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 03:16:00 +0000

Since the last I blog about my daylight robbery event, the following week two major events happened to me. Even my mum said, "What's with you lately? Such "eventful weeks"".

Let's start with the GOOD event....

I was promoted to AUNTIE status. Well, my SIL gave birth via caesaren on 8th of June at 8:16am to a baby girl. We checked in the hospital early morning at 5:30am. My bro left with my SIL in the first car, whereas my mum followed me in my car later. By the time all the registration and stuffs were completed, my SIL have changed into the surgical clothes and lay on the operation bed at 7am+ waiting for her turn. She was wheeled in around 7:30am for anaesthetic and surgery preparation. The 3 excited human beings were left outside waiting anxiously.

So what we do to kill time? READ NEWSPAPER LAR OF COZ....

The Baby was wheeled out at 8:30am, still covered with placenta. I took a video =) SIL was still in the operation room and we had to wait for another hour for her to complete the operation. My bro and my mum stayed back in the hospital whereas I went to work. YEAH, I HAVE TO GO TO WORK!

The second "MAJOR" event....

On the second day, I had an appointment to have my 2 abnormal growths at both of my thighs checked out. The dermatologist recommended me to get it surgically remove and to test whether it it cancerous or not. I was schedule to do a late evening surgery after work.

I always wanted to be ONLY on the operation table my WHOLE LIFE for LABOUR purposes (that is if I have kids). However, my first time I gave it to the "wide excision" (as indicated on the diagnosis) of these 2 abnormal growth on my thighs. Believe it or not, the surgery took an hour, which is even longer than my SIL's caeasarn birth >_<

I got my local anaesthetic and I have to lie on my stomach for the whole surgery. The injection is the most painful part as the doctor put in the needle and 1#@$@^$%@# TWIST IT ! All together she did that 7 times!!!! After the injection, she starts cutting out my abnormal growth. One of them is as huge as a peanut. Basically, you can feel yourself being cut out, skin being pulled and even stitches performed on you.

You will only feel the pain the next day when you walk with your legs....

The doctor asked me to take 3 days MC as I am adviced to have minimum movement to avoid stretching the wound and speed up the recovery.

After 3 days, I went back to remove my bandage and got my results. It is not cancerous.
*****

After 2 weeks, I went to take my replacement IC this morning. I look like a GHOST in the picture... My face is totally white and only my eyes and the lips were visible. The eyebrows and the nose is merely detectable... and the hair looks totally yellowish brown... Hahaha... it looks like a fading picture >_<

I am hoping more peaceful life....

My insomnia is haunting me again for the past 1-2 weeks....

Broad daylight car window break-in while driving - what a traumatic experience!

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 06:06:00 +0000

I was driving along Jalan Ampang, around 6pm++. Due to the normal jam, the car are moving slowly with a stop, move a bit, stop, move a bit repetitive action.

This happen just outside the Lembaga getah Malaysia, opposite roadhouse grill. I feel that something or someone is near the passenger side of my car. I looked left and saw a motorbike with 2 people. The next thing I see is a smash on the car window and I can see the window crack and in a split second another smash and I can see glass shattering *Everything happens so fast, but yet when the glass shatters I feel I can see the pieces of glasses flying everywhere in slow motion* Then, I see a dark-coloured hand snatch my handbag.

I shouted and horned my car but nothing happens.

Lesson #1 - Don't put your handbag too near the window, even if it is nearer to your side, still dangerous. From what I heard in the car workshop, a girl put her handbag on her lap, the motorcyclist break her car window and cut her face with a knife because worry she recognized his face. A better option is probably getting a smaller handbag and stuffed it under your seat?

Lesson #2 - It doesn't matter whether it is bright daylight or dark midnight. It doesn't matter whether there are a lot of people or no people. When criminals are desperate, they will commit crime.

So after the traumatising incident, where lots of cars are on the road and motorist driving pass, I still have to drive 30 mins way jam back home with a shattered window sticking to my tinted film lying on my passenger seat and pieces of glasses over the drivers side and the back of the left passenger's side.

Lesson #3 - Do tint your car window. Tinted windows not only have the cooling effect, but it aids in reducing the glass shattering effect. It could have help me in getting hurt or even to the extend of saving my life.

I admit I was a bit shaken out while I was driving back. I did not even realised my little left finger was bleeding until I feel a bit pain and then a drop of blood fell onto my left thigh. I also suffered a minor cut on my right middle finger.

When I arrived home, I quickly informed my mum (Thank God my mum is with me at this time) and we proceeded to cancel my only credit card (still a virgin card!!!) and my 2 ATM cards. My SIL helped out too. Next step, is to get my handphone number cut off. However, at this time..... We received a phone call on my mum's phone.

A samaritian found my handbag. Luckily, I had not canceled my maxis line. He talked to my mum and gave her his home address in Taman Maluri for us to get my handbag, he told us that my purse was not in there.

My mum and I rushed our way there. On our way, my brother called and said he is on his way back but Calv is heading straight to the Samaritian's place. My brother asked us to wait for Calv as we are now all paranoid of who is friend and who is foe. Till then, I still haven't got the chance to call Calv. Then, my dad called all the way from Vietnam and asked whether I am doing fine. He is worried and said Calv had called to ask for mum's and bro's mobile number.

Apparently, Mr. Samaritian had called Calv before calling mum and Calv asked Mr. Samaritian to try calling my mum. (I don't put my family contact names as Dad, Mum, Bro or SIL). Luckily Calv got saved my dad's number which I had called him previously. Calv called my dad all the way in Vietnam for my mum's and bro's number. There's this part which Calv told me much later in the night between his conversation with my dad that got me laughing hard after my trauma.

Conversation section inserted first
********
Calv : "Hello Uncle, I got a call that Eileen got robbed and they found her handbag. I don't know what is happening now. But I need Auntie's or Eileen's brother's phone number."
Dad : "What? What happened? Okay okay. Eileen's mum phone 012."
Calv : "Okay."
Dad : "012 *Pause* 987 *Pause*. Okay?"
Calv : "012 *Pause* 987 Okay"
Dad : "987 *Pause* Okay?"
Calv : "987 *Pause* Okay."
Dad : "6**3 *Pause* Okay."
Calv : "Huh?"
Dad : "987 *Pause* Okay?"
Calv : "Okay."
Dad : "987 *Pause* *Pause* 65*3 Okay?"
Calv : "Huh?"
Dad : "987 *Pause* *Pause* *Pause* Okay?"
Calv : ................
Dad : "987 *Pause* *Pause* 6543 Okay?"
Calv : (Thank God) Okay.
Dad : "987......"
Calv : (Kill me please)

******

At last, I get to call Calv. All he said that he is on his way to the Samaritian's place and ask me whether I am okay. I feel so relieved and a bit guilty that I couldn't have informed him earlier. In this sense, I have to admit Calv is rather understanding and he will ask whether I am okay before asking whether the car is damaged or what has happened.

Calv reached earlier than us and went inside to talk to the Samaritian family. We came in around 20 mins later than them. They told us the story that the maid and the kids were playing at the park beside the housing estate and the 2 motorists stopped at the park and started digging my bag and took my purse and just throw my handbag in front of so many people. They identified them as 2 malay men. My samaritian is a Malay family. Outrageous huh?

I placed my handphone at the side of my bag along with a folded RM10 >_< and the thieves did not saw it. That's how they get to call us. The thiefs took my purse with my IC, driving license, my only virgin credit card, 2 ATM cards, 1 touch-n-go, my company insurance card, isetan card, jusco card, name cards, receipts, pics and around RM200. They also took my FAKE LV card holder. Wukakakakakaka... Calv and my mum could not stop laughing about that though. Calv went through my things first before I reach there and managed to make me smile when he whispered and said, "Funny, why they did not take your sanitary pads?"

We talked for a while, said our thanks and leave to do police report. Calv went home (sorry I meant went to shopping mall to buy ps3, hahahaha). So my mum and I went home to take my poor shaken car to the police station. I got my police report done within 40 minutes and the police there are pretty friendly. We are both surprised and impressed. However, it is true as predicted by Calv, the policeman typed with 2 fingers >_<. The report is however under the Tun Razak police station jurisdiction. Thus, he gave me an inspector number and said the inspector will call me if there is any follow-up. I asked for a phone number and the moment we stepped up from the police station, the inspector/seargant called and asked me details about the thieves and whether I can remember the plate number or the motorcycle model. Not bad huh.

By the time we reached home, it is around 9pm+++. We had our dinner and went online on webcam to talked to my dad. I also called my boss to take EL as I need to make the necessary documents the next day.

*******

I woke up around 7am++, my mum, SIL and I went to police station to get 2 copies of certified police reports for the purpose of making IC and driving license. It costs me RM4 for 2 reports. We went off to get the IC done first, the service is good and fast. My hair and look appears disasterous as I couldn't sleep until 2:30am the night before. I am gonna hate my new IC look!!! Next, we proceed to have brunch at 9am++ and went to JPJ to get my driving license done, service is good and fast too. Both were done free as my documents were reported stolen.

Next, we sent my car to fix, as we decided it is not worth to claim insurance. Replace car window, got it tinted plus service fees - cost RM228.

Next, we went to the bank to get my ATM card done, CIMB service sucks big time. Then, we went down to KL to have lunch with bro and Calv. We then dropped by bro's office, where my mum went to talk to my bro's boss - the Datin, who was super friendly and can't seems to stop talking to us.

Next on, we went to Maybank KLCC branch to get my ATM card done, good service and I got my ATm card upgraded to visa debit card. The cost of making 2 new atm cards is RM24. By then, it is already late 4pm, we went home.

Upon reaching home, I got a called from my colleague at around 6pm that a police called my office looking for me and said he had found my purse. She gave me the number and a name that she ain't that sure. I called the police.

******
Eileen :"Hello, saya Eileen. Tadi you call office saya cari saya, tapi saya tiada. Colleague saya bagi nombor kamu." (Ok, I admit my malay sucks big time, but I am willing to try ok?!?!?!)
Police :"Oh. Ya, jumpa dompet kamu di Balai Polis Kampung Pandan."
Eileen :"Oh. Mana itu Balai Polis Kampung Pandan?"
Police :"Kampung Pandan."
Eileen :(wtf)"Errr...dekat mana? Boleh bagi dekat Balai Polis Taman Melawati."
Police :"Itu jauh lar. Saya tak tau tempat itu. Tak apa. Sekarang saya pun sibuk. Apa kata jumpa pukul 9-10 di suatu tempat di KL, saya bagi kamu."
Eileen :"Huh?"
Police :"Saya panggil you saja pukul 9-10 dan tentukan tempat lar."
Eileen :"Errrrr..... okay."

I ran to mum and told her. Mum and I was skeptical, we quickly drove to our nearby police station and asked regarding the procedure to meet outside of police station. The polices said it is not right and I suggested them to check the validity of the phone number. They asked me to refer back to Tun Razak police station. FINE! We went home and I called the Tun Razak police station.

Conversation 1
**************
Eileen :"Saya baru dapat panggilan cakap jumpa dompet saya. Tapi polis tu cakap mahu jumpa luar pada malam 9-10."
Police :"Where? We can send a police to accompany you."
Eileen :(Wah, can speak good english one)"I am not sure, he says will call me later on and confirm time and place. But I got his mobile number and his partial name. Can you please help me check whether this is genuine or not?"
Police :"Sure."
Eileen :(Thank God) "01*-********"
Police :"Okay. What's your name? Do you want me to call you back or you call me back?"
Eileen :"My name is E-i-l-e-e-n. My phone number is 01*-*******. Can you please call me back?"
Police :"Sure."

Around 15 minutes later...

Conversation 2
**************
Police :"Okay, we have checked and the phone is valid to an officer at Balai Polis Pudu a subdivision of Balai Polis Kampung Pandan."
Eileen :"Icic. But can police ask you to meet so late and not in police station?"
Police :"That is not a proper procedure. Eh, I just checked, when you called just now, I thought you are old. Now only I know you 20++ only." (Suddenly sounds so friendly, previously sound formal only)
Eileen :"Errr... ya. Can I request to meet in Balai Police?"
Police :"Of course. You just let him know that your case is under Balai Police Tun Razak and ask him to send to this station."
Eileen :"Err... Sure. But what if he do not agree? Can you help me make the call?"
Police :"Sure."

Around 15 minutes later...

Conversation 3
**************
Police :"Okay, we have called him. He said you requested to meet at 9pm."
Eileen :(WTF)"Huh???"
Police :"Don't worry. When he called again, you just said you wanna meet at Balai Police Tun Razak because your case is under here."
Eileen :"Okay."

Around 15 minutes later...

Conversation 4
**************
Eileen :"Errr.... this is Eileen."
Police :".... Oh... yes?"
Eileen :"I just wondering o, how did you talk to the other polis?"
Police :"Haha... don't worry lar, after all, he still is a police, what harm can he do? He is not the perompak, don't worry lar."
Eileen :"Errr...." (time to use tactic) "You know lar, sekarang saya memang paranoid sikit lar, pandu kereta pun takut lar."
Police :"True true. We in different situation. But don't worry lar, I am at your side. But don't worry lar."
Eileen :(Very worry)"Oh...okay. Anything can call you?"
Police :"Sure."

Late night, Calv called me and he asked me to arrange with the Police to meet at the police station around lunch time where he can fetch me from my office and dropped by the police station together. The next morning, I called the police and he agreed. Calv as a loving bf dropped by during his busy working hours to fetch me.

We dropped by Tun Razak police station and I asked for my lost purse. The police who had been talking to me on the phone said, "Oh, you Eileen ar? Can't recognize your voice." He is an Indian police. Anyway, the other police never put my purse there. So, he asked me to call the police again. The police said he is on the way and be there soon. Soon enough, he gave me a call and asked me to go outside the police station, he is in a black car.

So, I went out (half hiding behind Calv), the malay police was puffing his ciggie like nobody business, almost suffocating me and remained sitting in his black car. He took my purse from his dashboard and gave it to me. Calv asked him where he found it, then the police asked me about the incident, then he left. Calv says he got all the typical "rasuah me" talk and action. After that, I went in the police station and told the other policeman that I got my purse already, he only said, "So the guy don't wanna come in ar? Weird guy (give suspicious look)". Then we left.

In the car, Calv asked me....

Calv :"What if the police ask you what you can do for him to return the favour?"
Eileen : (Ponders a while)"TERIMA KASIH BANYAK BANYAK!!!"
Calv : "................."

The thief took my money and my touch-n-go. My company's name card not there, which I assume the police took it. Total lost money around RM200 and touch-n-go inside only got RM13. My mum says no worries that the thief will not come to rob our house because apparently this girl is very poor. Wait until they identify the LV namecard holder also fake.....

Lesson #4 - Thief or police - friend or foe? Scare of theif, then scare of police. Sigh.

Lesson #5 - The importance of family, partner and friends support are very important. It is actually a good way to identify or recognize how differently people react to the incident. Personally, through this experience I also learn something about myself and people around me.

It's true experience makes you learn and grow, but sometimes I believe some experiences if never gone through, it wouldn't hurt to say "Luckily, I do not have to go through that kind of experience."

NINE WORDS WOMEN USE (So funny... but kinda true)

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 08:30:00 +0000

(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever').

(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F-- YOU!

(9) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

No.1 Phobia person to meet

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 08:08:00 +0000

The dentist.

How can you put trust on a person who wears a mask over his/her face all the time and do not dare to reveal his/her looks because he/she is scare you hunt him/her down with all the pain endure and all the money you pay to suffer?

Ironically, the dentist will ask you to relax and then put you under the spotlight with these tiny tools make of metal and start poking your teeth and make that irritating clanking sounds in your mouth.

Best part is hor........ after checking he/she said, "NO WORRIES, everything seems fine, all you need is four fillings."

Sekian, terima kasih.

Have a good weekend ahead, peeps~

Loyalty?

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 02:48:00 +0000

I have always been cynical with loyalty by a partner. This comes from personal experience and many, many from other people's experiences. I believe true loyalty only happens to approximatley 10% of the population.

The definition of loyalty differs for each person and for each couple though.

Some refers to sleeping around with other people other than your partner as not loyal, but going out with other girls/guys holding hands, hugging, kissing and what-so-ever, is not consider being disloyal, as long as sex is not involved. Some regard disloyal merely by going out one-to-one date with the opposite sex WITHOUT the partner's knowledge, even though nothing happens and as a pure friendly outing.

Loyalty is most challenging when a guy is rich/lure/distracted and when a girl is bore/unsatisfy physically, mentally or emotionally.

For all the girls out there, if you believe your partner is TRULY loyal to you - think twice.

You never know when your partner actually:

- Ask one of your gf out behind your back (Yeah, it happens!)

- Slept with one of your gf/any random girls because of lust or simply you do not attract him anymore or for the thrill

- Went out with other girls without your knowledge (Better you never know what actually happens)

I hear many partners say is about TRUST. But honestly speaking.... how many of you actually checked your partner without his/her knowledge and constantly worrying/panicking/suspecting? Do you consider this as TRUST if you have to checked on your partner but do not acknowlege by his/her words or do not even dare to confront or ask him/her directly?

Now and there the perfect, happy, TRUSTING couple appears in front of everybody/in gathering, but the truth is only known by these 2 people (or perhaps the other gf/bf/secret lover who is in the group? Haha).

How to build loyalty then?

- Communication to build TRUST.

No doubt.... easier said than done. Regardless, 90% of my married girlfriends checked their husband with all kinds of tactics (One would be truly amazed and expect all detectives/spy/inspectors to be women for goodness sake!). Hey, guys don't lie, you check on your partners too!

- Build your own CONFIDENT/MARKET.

Let your partner be worried about you, instead of you worrying about your partner (if possible). If your body image is your issue, work on it. If your knowledge is your issue, work on it. If your looks is your issue, work on it. One have to love/respect oneself, before one could love/respect other and in return gain back love/respect from the other.

- Know his/her deal and draw limits/understanding.

There's no such thing as double standard in loyalty issue. If your partner wants you to practise their "law/T&C", they are suppose to practise what they preach. Do not just nod your head and give in to all their "commandments". It is about compromising and reaching an understanding. You can also voice out your limitations and what you think is best for each other.

How important is loyalty in a relationship? (Ponder and answer that yourself)

I guess a bit of none harmful flirting and market confirmation is ok geh.... OR PERHAPS GOOD.

***It reminds me that "someone" have been happily announcing that "someone" receive call(s) to being asked out from out of the blue and panicking how to handle situations that may cause possible disloyalty or suspicious. "Someone" was asked out ALONE for NON-WORKING issues at NON-WORKING hours by ONE other who is not ugly-looking/body issue-challenged/intelligence restricted or etc (so said-lar). Even guys feel proud to have market. What do you expect from girls?***

One thing I learned, girls, laugh it off and be cool with it. It is definitely better to know than been hide from the truth. Chances are if he is willing to tell you, chances of cheating is lesser. But there are a lot of sly & cunning guys out there too. Beware!

One can see this from a different angle:

- Your man got market! Still desireable...

- He just dunno how much market you have only...... Wukakaka.....

The stock market of emotional run

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 09:04:00 +0000

Today my emotional is like stock market - unpredictable, ups & downs, certain stocks is in high stakes, some is such a drag....

Certain distraction, certain misunderstanding, certain care - mostly brought a smile or a laugh, some cause serious thinking....

Is it due to cumulative stress or thoughts? Is it due to acute accusation?

In the end, is up to oneself....

Why they (guy & gal) opt for richer, prettier, stupier or etc?

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 06:15:00 +0000

Have you ever wonder why women choose men who are richer? Why men opt for women who are prettier or stupier?

As I see it, generally most relationship fail coz men cheat or career & money instability, whereas women compare, gossip, backstab or cheat.

Imagine this, if you are dating an ugly (or/and) fat (or/and) poor woman, but she end up cheating on you or she likes to make a hell out of your life, wouldn't a guy be happier that he is at least with a gal with the body (or/and) the looks?

For the ladies, if you are dating a poor (or/and) ugly (or/and) fat man, but he end up cheating on you, AND he also uses your hard earn money or physcially (or/and) mentally abuse you, wouldn't a gal be happier that she at least is with a guy that has the money (or/and) looks?

Maybe I am being cynical towards relationship, but trust me as one grow older, these scenarios become a norm. Those who potrays to be in a good relationship or keep talking about how wonderful their relationship/marriage are, they are in fact normally those who have to come out with stories to cover up.

How many attached or married guys or gals of yours came to you and told you how awful is their partner and how they regret getting married (of coz behind their partner's back)? How many told you the truth(s) on what they talk (or/and) do behind their partners? The simpliest and the most innocent people you THOUGHT you know can turn out to be the most manipulate and cunning people you know.

Why are modern women now more prone to be single or married late compared to the previous generation? Since modern women are so independent with financial, career and decisions making, somehow their needs toward men has changed.

Gone were the days where women married to "better their life" whereas men married to "have a family to be responsible & mature".

Generally, women tend to mature faster than men of the same age. Therefore, women prefer to date men who are older. Through experiences and time, a guy is more mature in handling his IQ and EQ and most importantly his partner.

Imagine the girl have to guide the guy in big matters or a guy who is still clueless about his or their future undertakings, whereas the girl have it all planned out with her career, financial and assets. This is where the "not in par" will be a big problem. Men who do not foresee that career stability or financial sound is important for a future to build a family is rather still a dreamer. Sad to say, the truth is - money plays a very important role in a sustainable relationship.

Gone were the days when we are young where we love for the sake of love. When you grow up, you will also know love is not just the matter of "me & you", but it is a union of two families, it comes with lots of huge responsibilities, kids come into the picture and etc. Yeah, tell me about it, it is scary, yet so full of challenges!

Question to ponder: What do you NEED your partner for?

Karaoke & yamcha session @ Gardens Red Box & Ochacha

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 15:15:00 +0000

It's been a while the 4 of us get together. And it is the 1st time the 4 of us went for Karaoke together. (After 13 years of friendship, kinda sad huh). We sing K from 1pm to 6pm.... geng or not? Oh, and we eat the hi-tea buffet from 3pm to 6pm. Trust me, for 4 gals, we really eat a lot, a lot!!!

After karaoke, we went up to California fitness where Meor went to enquire about membership as Mei Li was already a member there. It always give me a creepy feeling to see the guys coming out from fitness centre, somehow I already deem them as 90% gay. Only those guys who come out with specs, tummy and lousy wears, I will deem them as 90% real man. I am sorry for being stereotype here, but how many good looking guys with good body in Malaysia are errr.... available (to girls)?

Whereas I am a member at the club house near my house which is filled with uncles and aunties who are mostly very friendly to me.

Speaking of which, let me divert my story a bit now. Last night when I was in gym, this one old Indian uncle was on the the threadmill beside me, he dunno how to operate the threadmill so I jumped down from mine and taught him how to use it. Once he was done, he asked me, "Hey gal, how old are you?". So, I answered him and he said, "Very good (refering to my threadmill effort). Then he said, "I am 58 years." I was like "............" The 58 years old uncle is running on the threadmill, for goodness sake. Amen to you, uncle. ***Makes me more motivated***

Let me come back to the gfs outings. We camwhore like nobody in Ochacha after the California fitness and Isetan walk walk. Let the pictures do the talking....

Major headache... Our so-called professional photographer for events who works for a BIG MNC company. Can't handle a point-and-shoot.

Photographer Mei Li says she can make me look thinner from this angle.

Fuyoh~~~ Pretty gal out for grabs. If you want her number, please leave me a msg. Wukakaka.

One of those CLEAR pic of us that the professional photographer took...

Smile gals smile~

Ain't my gfs cute or what?!?!?!

Hehe... guess whose shoes and feet is for who... please ignore the auntie stocking.... disgrace!!! Wukakaka...

The one and only group picture by the forever four~

Hamsaping my gf... hehehe

I have a very happy day out with my gfs~ Love you gals~

APPRAISAL vs RESIGNATION

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 07:50:00 +0000

A newly-joined trainee engineer asks his boss ' What is the meaning of appraisal? '

Boss : ' Do you know the meaning of resignation ? '

Trainee : ' Yes, I do. '

Boss : ' So let me make you understand what an appraisal is by comparing it with resignation. '

Appraisal VS Resignation

In an appraisal meeting they will speak only about your weakness, errors and failures.

In a resignation meeting they will speak only about your strengths, past achievements and success.

During an appraisal you may need to cry and beg for even a 10% pay hike.

In a resignation meeting you can easily demand ( or get more without asking ) more than 50-60% pay-hike !

During an appraisal, they will deny promotion saying that you did not meet the expectation, you don't have leadership qualities, and that you had several drawbacks in reaching objective/goal.
During resignation, they'll say you are the core member of the team; that you are the vision of the company, and so ' How can you go ? '; you have to take the project on your shoulders and lead your juniors to success.

There is a 90% chance of not getting any significant incentives after appraisal.

There is a 90% chance of getting an immediate pay-hike after you put in your resignation.

Trainee : ' Yes, boss, good enough. Now I know what to do.

When you are about to do my appraisal, I will resign. '

Some latest photos of me (The camwhoring me)

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 15:45:00 +0000

I realised that it's been a while since I put photos in my blog. Thus, I think it would be nice that my friends who rarely see me can see how I look like lately.

I tried camwhoring AGAIN (refuse to act as my age). Hahaha.... So, here we go....
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Eh.....

Pose....

Don't stop posing....

The over-exposed me

That's me with my sweet tooth craving. It's been a long day out which explains my looks being a bit cham...

Yeah, perhaps I should act my age soon... No wonder still get checked IC. Hahaha...

Updates

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 08:52:00 +0000

It's been a while since I last updated my blog.

Life have been rather routine. Still working on losing some weight, which is still a very, very hard task. People like to feed me....

At last, last week, I handled the Japanese client after the long anticipation of difficulties & s*it she offered me and in exchange of the 2-days face to face ordeal, I gained two sentences of praise and gratitude via email. *Pat myself on my back*

Went to Genting two weeks ago and visit the casino 3 times and all 3 times got IC checked. Dunno whether should be upset or happy. One of the time, the security guard looked at my IC, looked at me and gave me back my IC with a smirk. Yeah, man, I know, I am going to hit the 3-0 sooner than I know. Dun jealous!

I also finished my first novel for year 2009 (The last oracle - James Rollin). I still prefer his previous title - The Judas Strain. Looking forward to pick up a 2nd good novel to read very soon. Maybe later tonight.

Okay, finish writing my random updates. May sound a bit gibberish as I still feel a bit tired as I have not sufficient rest over the weekend.

Cheers~

Appraisal expectations

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 02:04:00 +0000

Yesterday I had my appraisal with my director, my boss and my senior (3 VS 1 - kesian the princess). I wasn't expecting it to be long, but it ended up to be a 1.5 hours talk.

I was naive enough to think that I will get flying colours (scores) for the appraisal and get praises for doing a well done job. Luckily enough, I had my family and my bee to support and enlighten me what is the real definition of "an appraisal" after that.

Basically, I was praised for excelling in my tasks & timelines and creating a good relationship with inter-department. BUT.... there's always a BUT ain't there.... They have to find something irrelevant to get my scores down or not that high. Well, in the end all my scores are at least an average (achieved) or higher (exceeded).

The best they could take out of me -- is my lack of passion for my job. And their arguement is that besides handling my tasks very wel, I should go beyond that and show interest in the whole market research thingy. I am suppose to read books, come out with ideas, questions everything if possible and approach to talk to bosses as much as possible. Some other "suggestions" are that being passionate is that I should influence people who worked with me to be efficient and effective like me (using lotus calendar, manual calendar, drafting timelines etc), making commentaries to clients about data without being asked and go out to retails/shopping malls and make friends with retailers, users and etc so I know the market before my clients do. >_<

My director said, "The world is not fair, when you meet expectations and furthermore exceed expectations, people would expect more from you. That's how it is."

My boss said, "We see so much potential in you just based on the way you make things work. That's why I do not checked your work. But we want to see more of you in other things than doing tasks delegated."

So, in conclusion, if one fulfill their job description (JD) and objectives (set by the bosses anyway), and somemore do a good job... is NOT ENOUGH.....

However, I learned from my family and my bee some truths which I would like to share with you all:

1. An appraisal is where it affects your promotion and salary increment, of course they would have to bring negativity and scores down to save money. (Please keep this in mind). **Consider my company is losing profit, this is even more understandable. **

2. Indians are very stingy in compliments and mostly like to stab you (Sorry, no offense to the Indians. Did I mentioned my boss likes to start conversation like, "Why you Malaysians....?"). So if one can get compliments out from them, one should be happy and proud of oneself.

3. If your scores are not lower than average and exceed average, you are doing okay.

Things one can learn from an appraisal:

1. What your bosses think and expect from you.

2. Things you can improve, things you can maintain and things you can eliminate.

Things I learn from my appraisal:

1. Always expect the worst even if you know you have did well.

2. What is right (methods, talking and actions) for you, may not be right for another person.

3. My bosses are jealous that I have a better relationship with inter-department and not with the research department (OMG, I have to treat my bosses as if they are my bfs huh >_<)

Tran Anh @ 3 hours away from Hanoi City, Vietnam

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 13:22:00 +0000

I was in Hanoi, Vietnam end of December 2008 with my family. We took a one day trip to Tran Anh which started at 8am and finished at 7pm. This Tran Anh place is around 3 hours drive where tourists go there to enjoy the breathtaking scenery of water, greens, mountains and most importantly --- the caves.

The weather was great when we were there, it was around 16 degrees. We arrived there around 11am and proceeded to take the boat trip to visit the caves. These wooden boats were rowed by local Vietnamese woman. The caves are rather dark and were lit up by lamps installed in the caves.

After the 2 hours boat ride enjoying the fresh air and beautiful scenery, we returned to land and enjoy a typical local lunch. After the delicious lunch, we started our journey back to Hanoi City.

Boat trip begins....

Breathtaking scenery

Monkey

Going into a cave

Coming out from a cave

Reflection of the water makes it looks like a frame

Smallest boat ever.... Man paddling

Ducks

Local dishes from Vietnam

Year 2009 so far..... New Year Resolution

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 14:17:00 +0000

***Thanks for all that leave msgs to greet me Merry Christmas or/and Happy New Year. My apologies if I did not wish you back. Anyway, Happy New Year 2009!***

I was in Vietnam and Laos from 20th of Dec 2008 and back on the 3rd of Jan 2009. I was in Laos for Christmas and New Year in Vietnam. Both festivals are not celebrated in these country and was quiet..... Well, in a way, I wouldn't know as I slept before 12am for both days. Haha.... For those who know me long enough, will know that for special occasions, such as christmas, Chinese New Year, Valentine's day etc and even my own birthday, I am mostly on vacation or overseas.

It was really a drag to go to work on the 5th of Jan after 2 long weeks' break and of course work is piling up for me. Considering end of the year, workload should have gone down and with my "out of office" assistant on, I still have 143 emails in my inbox on Monday.

Yesterday I was once again the lucky one to be chosen by the external audit (twice internal audit I was also chosen!) to get audit for ISO9001. Furthermore, I am THE lucky number 1 for our company. My big, big, big boss aka the business development director aka BDD asked me 15mins earlier before the auditors came in whether I am handling this particular project and with a "yes.", he gave me a wicked smile and said "I purposely chose you! Hahahahaha...." and left happily....

Well, suddenly I became "famous" in my company. While auditing, colleagues give me those stares, the twinkling eyes, the wicked smile, the nervous nudge... After auditing, I got so many, "So how?" or "How?" even from other departments.... Today one colleague even jokingly said, "If we got our ISO, we should give you a special award."..... Ok, I finish my ISO story.

It's been a while since I write out my New Year Resolution. I had one for 2006 and one for 2007, but I never wrote it in my blog. Both came true though. 2006 is to work overseas and 2007 is to lose the 7kg I gained in Shanghai. 2008 I did not set any solid New Year Resolutions though.

This year I wanna set New Year Resolutions!!! Haha, well, I do not really want to think or set it, coz I am pretty strict to myself, I don't like to be NATO. However, I would take it as a motivation and reminder and will work hard to make it work with determination.

1. Have a better bodyshape. I am thinking of losing 3-5kg. I have been consistent on my gym-going for the past 1.5 years, however the weight seems remain and a bit unstable. I am rather heavy for my height and I do still have a lot of baby fats ready to lose. So slimmer, fitter and leanier body is what I am hoping for year 2009!

2. A 5-figure salary, manager position and own office room. Haha... this is not year 2009 resolution, but something I hope to achieve by 30. Am I too ambitious? Well, no harm having a dream or a target in life right? **Hint hint, be siu nai nai also I dun mind geh**

3. Better daughter, girlfriend and auntie.

-Daughter role I think so far so good lar. I wanna spend as much time with them as possible as we are apart most of the time due to my dad's nature of work.

-Girlfriend role..... Always got room for improvement geh. But still I think I am a precious gem! Haha... Well, still is a hard role to take on as I am an individualism, perfectionist, nomad, ambitious, stubborn etc. It takes 2 to tango and I am thankful to find someone who is still willing to take the chances on this gal which is so adorable (cough cough) but yet such a headache at times! *Thanks bee*

-As for AUNTIE ROLE!!!!!! Despite the threaten position of my princess status in the family, alas, our family will welcome a baby! It will be exciting as there's been 5 adults in this house for TOO LONG!!! Sad to say though, we all do not know how to handle babies. Hahaha. I think I will spoil my little niece/nephew :) Still got 6 months to go though, can't wait, can't wait!!!

I did not mention a better friend, coz friends, I am a very decent friend right? Someone you can tell a secret and keep a secret, someone who you can say everything right? Hahaha.... I give friends a right to complain if I am not a good friend :P

4. Read more english books to be more knowledgeable and improve my english.

5. Traveling. Permanent every year new year resolution though :P

6. Update my blog more often. I will post my Vietnam and Laos trip later.

I can't think of anymore now. Year 2008 was a great year for me, a Europe trip, a new job and a great relationship. I am looking forward to have a better year in 2009! I wish the best to all who read this blog. May all your dreams and new year resolution come true!

Merry Christmas from your Investment Banker

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 02:23:00 +0000

Investment Banking 2008 Christmas Card

and Latest Christmas carol for 2008, !!!

You'd better watch out
You'd better not cry
You'd better keep cash
I'm telling you why:
Recession is coming to town.

It's hitting you once,
It's hitting you twice
It doesn't care if you've been careful and wise
Recession is coming to town

It's worthless if you've got shares
It's worthless if you've got bonds
It's safe when you've got cash in hand
So keep cash for goodness sake, HEY

You'd better watch out
You'd better not cry
You'd better keep cash
I'm telling you why:
Recession is coming to town!

Finance products are confusing
Finance products are so vague
The banks make you bear the cost of risk
So keep out for goodness sake, OH

You'd better watch out
You'd better not cry
You'd better keep cash
I'm telling you why:
Recession is coming to town.

Eyes wide open VS Eyes shut close; Contentment VS Divorce

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 14:11:00 +0000

What does two 40+ years old sisters (one married, one single), one mother (50+ years old) with daughter (26 years old) and me have to talk about for 1+ hours?

Venue: Woman's locker room in the gym club.

Three aunties lecturing the 2 of us (young gals) regarding guys -> bf -> eventually husband. Oh, and one of the auntie ask me, "You 22 years old ar?" =_="

In summary:

During singlehood/courtship --> Keep eyes open BIG BIG or WIDE WIDE, to make sure you spot a right guy.

After marriage --> Keep one eye open, one eye close of your hubby's doings, complaints, money spendings, outings etc.

After few years down the marriage road --> Can start having both eyes close....

End of story.

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Calv wrote an interesting post regarding contentment. I agree mostly with what he have to say and kudos for him to write such a great post.

However, my view towards the reasons for less divorce rate in our previous generations compared to current generations differs slightly. No doubt divorce rate in our era is much higher and definitely not being content is one of the reason. However, in our previous generations, many marriage maybe just an empty shell or a piece of signed paper without love.

Verdict: They just do not divorce or sign the divorce paper like what current generations would do if it is end of the road of marriage.

For example:
Do you know how many women suffered violence from the husband but stayed in the relationship due to the dependency towards the husband because of the sake of MONEY and CHILDREN. Divorce is not an option for these kind of women.

In this era, most women our generation is independent, career-minded, financial independent, smart, sophisticated and etc. Very few choose to stay at home and become a housewife (siu nai nai or women born in a rich family is a different case, coz money is not an issue).

If both husband and wife is working, what makes the right for the man to ask a woman to quit a job and stay at home and become a housewife? Even worse would it be if both husband and wife is working, but after work, the husband ask the wife to do the house chores, because it is a WOMAN THING.

This is a transition period from a MAN'S WORLD to a EQUAL WORLD (which is still very much in the infancy stage). I wonder in the future will one day it becomes a WOMAN'S WORLD?

Being said that, contentment is really an important element in life, not only in a relationship. Sometimes we just got to LEARN how to appreciate what we have. Keep in mind though, do not make yourself suffer if things are just not right for you. Communication is another keep point in relationship. Err... good one of coz. I don't think one partner keep shouting to another partner is considered communication. Wukakaka....

Mensus story

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 06:40:00 +0000

My good friend diagnosed me for being stressed out. My monthly auntie refused to come last month and this month she kindly visited me twice. Wukakakaka....

Talking about mensus, my bro shared an interesting article he read. He says some expert says when a few girls stayed in a house long enough, their hormones will synchronized and resulting them to have period around the same time each month.

Okay, I hope this is a de-stressing post for me. Last but not least,

TGIF!!!!

@#%^$%@#$%@!#$@#$@#%@#$

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 09:25:00 +0000

@#$^%$&%#$%@^@$%@#%@#%$@%@#

Arrrggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

@!#^$&%$#@@%@#&^$%!#@%@%#@^%@#%$@#$#@$#$@!#%@#%$#@!!!!!!!!!!!!

When only can I get away from this!?!?!??!?!?!!?!?!

Arrrgggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

@#$#^$#&^%^#$%$#%@$#@%@#^%$#^#$%#@$#@$@

I wonder if this de-stress therapy is working or not......

@#%#$$&%^#$%@$!#@$@#$@#$@#$#@$#$@#$@#$@#%!#@^%!#^!

NOOOOOOOOOO.... arrgggghhhhhh

He said, She said, They said

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 11:31:00 +0000

One comes damaging and one comes for the rescue.

THE female is poisonous and THE male is gentle.

The same one brings frustration and then brings you enjoyment. And another day it comes again.

They have a lot to say, but they all are just talks and no action (a.k.a. NATO).

They may act if things happen, but then consequences and conditions will come with their actions.

They are those who have no clue, they are those who need help and they are those who unintentionally brings you a smile.

He, She and They - people you can't live without or people who can't live without you; people you can't avoid or people you wanna connect.

When it comes, it hits you with a big bang, but when it does not come, you wonder why it never happens to you; when it happens, will you be able to handle it?

WORK IS SOMETIMES SO FRUSTRATING... but can't complain about it MUCH. For apparent reason for different people around me. Sigh.... I wish that my dream would come true someday to be siu nai nai. Wukakaka.... and then another day, I would like to have my career coz of some apparent reasons for different people around me.

Life is a box of chocolates, you never know what you are getting next....

Maybe that's why so unpredictable, too much chocolates in my life. Wukakakaka.

Verdict: Working late is not a good thing for me. It makes me go cockoo~

HAPPPPPPPY from last night till today!!!

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 03:09:00 +0000

Last night I went home eating alone AGAIN coz the rest of the family had dinner earlier as I am always the last one to reach home. Mum came down to accompany me and in the midst of having my dinner, she came from behind and whisper something in my ear.

IT IS VERY CREEPY MUM!!!

Speaking of which, my parents will be here for the month of October before they fly off for my pa's next overseas assignment. Therefore, I am rushing home everyday after work to accompany them as much as I can and reserved my weekends for them. Thank God I got an understanding bee :)

Anyways, my mum told me a good news which makes me happy the whole night through and even when I was in gym I was very happy. Haha, I admit sometimes I get overjoyed for little things. I was surprised of the overjoy overwhelming me as it not that related to me, but also will affect me. I am just crossing my fingers tightly to wish it is true. This secret will remain now within the family and only one more important person knows (keep it to yourself till the time is right).

***** Back from heavy lunch*****

Last night I experience a heart-warming performance before sleeping. Even though a few keys off and some interruptions in between, my heart melts with the gesture. Hehe, I love pleasant surprises, given it big or small. I am a girl mar. Anyway, I am looking forward for the full throttle and perfect performance!

Just came back from lunch, happy and bloated (sob). Calv drops by as he is attending an interview at 2:30pm nearby. I invited him to the Ozeki restaurant. The soft shell crab is nicely done and the rest of the meal are okay. It's been my 7th month working here and it is the first time he drop by for lunch, so is my honour to see & treat him. Well, it is understandable as he and I work and stay at far ends of ~~earth~~ KL & Selangor.

Now I feel so sleepy, I dislike having heavy lunch. Gonna enter for my 3pm brainstorming meeting with an Ang Moh and a Singh. Wuuuuuuuuuu..... *please do not bully me.* I should prepare my innocent face for later. Hahaha... okay, I will sign off now, can't really think well...... *blurp*

Misunderstanding towards me

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 04:40:00 +0000

I guess most of the time people would take me as a friendly and nice person. That explains why I am sometimes taken advantage of =_=". Wukakaka.... stop showing that disbelief face.

I am a person who is lazy to explains herself when it comes to chaos. Normally I will just take it as it is and let people say what they want to say. Unless that person matters a lot to me. But still, I normally speak up once or twice and that's it. I believe that time will proves itself.

However, I learn that this style maybe "cool", but is not advisable. This is where misunderstandings and assumptions will occur. With my limited knowledge of boombastic or colourful words to use, sometimes things turned up worse when I tried to explain or clarify. Maybe that's another reason I choose to remain silent or be a person of few words when arguement, accusations or negativity occurs. Sometimes I think that just by keeping quiet, and let your opponent(s) cool down or after a period of time, the problem(s) will just disappear or forgotten.

I think this serves both as a strength and weakness. It is how and when to use it at the right time(s) and to the right person(s) that matters the most.

But really I am mostly just LAZY to explain myself, unless it really goes up my nerves and cross my line.

I am the everything-yes-and-very-capable employee in work, a filial daughter at home, an excellent partner in relationship, a great friend in friendship.... WUKAKAKAKAKA.... okay-lar, just kidding, but let me just syiok sendiri okay?

I just want to tell people who I cared for and I will care for in the future (errr... people who will be entering in my life), that my style maybe incorrect or inappropriate, but mostly my intentions are good. I ask for forgiveness if I offended anyone along the way. I will improve myself as a person who will be more spoken out (I guess), providing more assurance (hopefully) and stay as sweet or sweeter in the future (feel like slapping myself, wukakaka).

Last but not least, I want to tell my family, my bee and my friends - I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!! Except my company and boss. Wukakakakaka....

Perhaps today once again my workload is getting into my head, and it makes me think of life itself... so I am writing this post of random thinking :)

Sekian, terima kasih.

The things man should understand – Security

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 15:40:00 +0000

I was reading this Chinese article from a magazine which I think is very interesting. Therefore, I decided to translate it.

According to the article, security is the standard of measurement of love. Apparently, the view of security differs between man and woman. A woman’s definition of security does not arise from a man’s well-built body, solid wealth or etc, but the confidence a guy provided for a woman to make them rely the rest of their life towards this man.

A woman’s security derives from a man’s love, and a woman’s love provides security to a man. Therefore, in related to the topic of security, the main source is from man, but woman holds the power to control it.

If you want to build a solid foundation in her heart, whether you can provide security to her is the winning point.

1. RESPECT HER DECISION

Do not interfere with her decision all the time, instead encourage her to develop her strengths, because everyone is the same, if you are doing something you dislike, you will lack motivation and passion. What you believe is good, doesn’t mean she will think is suitable for her. An ideal new century guy should respect all women, even if it is a person you just met.

2. USE BODY TO PROVIDE HER WARMTH

Why does a woman like their hand to be hold by a man? This is because the warmth from the palm of a man, makes a woman feels real. The desire for a person to be touched is the same for both man and woman. The palm, the warmth of a hug, normally provides the deepest impression which can be remembered for a lifetime, far compared to a diamond. Normally when she thinks of you, she will remembers your hug, not the materials you provided for her, therefore, man please do not be stingy in providing your hugs and holding her hand tightly.

3. PROVIDE CARE AT SUITABLE TIMES

When a man shows care and his gentleness, I believe every woman will be very happy, but over-excessive care will make her feel repulse. When she is frustrated, just act as a role of rubbish bin that would do great. Sometimes what a woman needs, is just a person to talk to, not a final result. Also, try to remember the names of her friends she mentioned to you, when she face difficulties, you can provide the best suggestions.

4. MAKE HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS ADMIRE YOU

Elder people eyesight normally are very good, they can analyze a person’s good and bad. If you can win over her family and friends admiration, you have achieve success halfway. You must understand that woman are normally very easily influence by people around her, if there are people around her who admire you, in many ways you will gain a lot of help.

5. DO NOT BE STUBBORN IN WINNING

Even though most men want everything to be equal, but, woman needs to be “tam”, therefore please do not be so emotional, if it does not involve your principles; let the girls win first, when both of you calm down, only resolve to find a solution.

6. ATHELETIC GUYS ARE NORMALLY MORE WELCOME

For guys who have a hobby in sports, are easier to release stress, you also make a woman feel you are with a man who is passionate, makes her feel confidence towards life. I believe, there’s not a woman who likes to live with a man who drinks alcohol and smoking everyday to distress.

7. MAKE HER FEELS TALKING HER HEART CONTENTS TO YOU IS SAFE

If a woman is willing to honestly and sincerely to communicate with you, that indicates you have a very special and solid position in her heart. But it is best if you know when to talk, and when to keep your mouth shut. Do not be afraid to express, you can share your feelings and thinking appropriately, this will makes her feel that you are at her side, in her heart she will feels more reliable towards you. You must ensure her that you will not be laughing at her because she is willing to express her inner thoughts to you.

8. BE CLEAR WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR GIRL-FRIENDS

Both man and woman, should have their own circles of friends, but guys who likes to play flirting games is definitely the pain in the axx for woman. If you are the type of guy who do not feel good in saying no or refuse other women, as an end result, you will expect sooner or later she will definitely reject you without mercy. You may regard it as insecurity or no trust, all in all, woman just wish their man can appear within their visible zone and listening zone. You can let her know the friends you are mixing with, but both of you can communicate beforehand, both of you can give each other space in the foundation of trust. At appropriate times, work on sweet talking, most of the time, woman falls for this.

Suddenly, I feel my translation skills have improved drastically and my Chinese is still going strong. However, forgive me if there are parts that sound weird. Sometimes it is hard to put Chinese words into English. I certainly believe that Mandarin is very powerful and more expressive.

Okay, I hope this post is EASIER TO DIGEST. I know my previous post is very “special”. Hehehe…..

The ultimate story combo = Almond + Pistachio + Namd + + Everybody loves Raymond + The osbournes + ???

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 06:24:00 +0000

Pistachio and Almond are nuts = related.

Pistachio like Namd due to the same same habits and talking styles (pig fren dog fren). Namd is jealous when Pistachio and Almond being nuts together. Namd create different stories between Pistachio and Almond. Pistachio choose to believe in Namd as they know each other longer. Almond was hurt and felt like being crack into 2-pieces (like a heart).

Everybody loves Raymond is a hilarious family comedy. Heart-warmth and extremely insulting at times. Raymond is the centre of attention of the family. Everyone look up to him and expect lots from him. All in all he is the hope of the family, he tries hard but keep failing to meet expectations which end up resulting in a lot of funny things for us to laugh at. The mother simply adores Raymond, and despise Raymond's wife for "stealing" her beloved son. Therefore creating lots of friction between poor Raymond as the man in between. But is all laughs for us. Not to mention his elder brother who is constantly jealous of Raymond's attention.

The osbournes reality show is about a rockstar family which is out of the norm of the ordinary all-American families. Jack and Kelly's life story is very "colourful" with rehabs, body modifications and strings of partners as their highlights. The contrast of Everybody loves Raymond and The osbournes is significant.

Not to mention Newlyweds Jessica & Nick, Carmen Electra and Dave Navarro, Snoop Dog and Family, Paris & Nicole -The simple life etc... all reality shows of celebrities is a new trend... ok, maybe a bit too much. Jessica's famous quote, "There's chicken in the sea?" to Paris's, "Walmart sells wall?"

??? is not meant to be mysterious, but it is.... as it is an unknown, a secret, those classified into the X files and truly "the truth is out there" can be use for the ???. Perhaps the existence of this unknown foreign objects (UFO) is a blessing, but most of the time the uncertainties are enough to scare humankind and drive them to do things out of their norm and resulting into so-called NUTS existing in the world.

As a result, Almond and Pistachio were created. The ultimate NUTS collection. So NUTS are meant to be together. Period. Well, maybe only when consumed or planted to become a tree. Namd and ??? are examples of medium of destruction.

Speaking of which, I would love to have an almond-shaped face :)

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Once upon a time, someone told me that I should say more sad stories when they are telling me their problems, so that they feel better. Instead of telling them happy stories. I was stunned after I got a few same feedbacks. It is true that I realised people are happier if you make yourself sound more pathetic and worse than them. Perhaps it is lying to oneself, but if it makes your listener happier instead of slumping into more misery.... why not?

That's my explanation for you. A monotonous life is boring.... chili padi is good for the digestion and to spice up your life. Nothing is perfect; perhaps the ride of "uncertainties" *wukakaka* is that which is fun.

Sekian, terima kasih

Open your eyes, listen tentatively and DO NOT follow your heart

noreply@blogger.com (Eileen) — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 07:56:00 +0000

Fighting alone in a war with only a single mission in your mind makes you fought and fought till you are hurt, severely damaged and sometimes death.....

What if, one day, someone told you, "Why are you in a war? Why do you follow this mission? Why don't you try other alternatives? Why do you wanna get hurt when you can be not?"

Will you suddenly get stunned and think for a while why are you in that position?

If you are a fighter, you would by all means try to find a reason(s) or just want to complete the mission.

If you are a rebel or a thinker, you would want to find out more of your on-going mission and ask for more opinions or negotiate with your surrounding people related with the mission.

If you are a quitter, you would runaway and leave the sorrow behind.

Do you feel alone in a war when everyone questions your decision to stay in a war that seems not worth it? Or do you feel the adrenaline rush to prove everyone that you can make it regardless of their opinions? Or do you feel that time can proves that everyone is wrong and you are right? Or etc etc etc......

Is this a test of patient? A test of persistency? A test of drive? A test of responsibility? A test of motivation? Or etc etc etc......

Is it really time to ponder the possibilities that people maybe right and sometimes we ourselves need to let go of our so-called "principles", so that end up ourselves having a better life? If the situation or people cannot change, is it time for us to move on? To find better alternatives?

It is not easy to be in a war alone, fighting for a mission without support. It would be more devastating if the mission of the war did not complete after you choose to fight till the end.

The ending - A severely hurt and damage oneself.

Perhaps it is time to open your eyes, listen tentatively and DO NOT follow your heart. But.... be REALISTIC.