This really starts however on July 3.  I’m out doing an Anxiety Removal Course and one of my friends “The 305″ introduces me to these two girls he met outside the club.  We bring them into our group and just party and work the rest of the night.  After the Anxiety Removal Course I figure it’s time to run my own game and I open my target for real now.  Here’s a picture.

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Since we’ve already been introduced (the best opener by far) it’s fairly easy to start off with.  I simply sit down and join them then begin joking around a bit.  I basically just find any ways to add value and continually leave and re-enter the set to build comfort and familiarity (a tactic taught to me by AFC Adam).  Once this is done I begin finding out the logistics and realize they’re here visiting from texas and will be in my hometown of Ft Lauderdale tomorrow.  However I want to really justify the number close to make it solid and also want to make sure I’m not just a ”club guy” and bounce them out of the club that night.  Here’s how it went down…

Psych: You do realize that once you come to south beach you never leave right?  There’s to many great things here!

HB: Hahaha I know!! We don’t want to go but we have to leave monday! (makes a sad face)

Psych:   So much you haven’t seen though!  I bet you guys haven’t even checked out our famous Jerry’s diner…

HB: What’s that?

Psych:  OMG see this is what I mean…I’m going to have to be your south beach guide now there’s no way around it.  Jerry’s diner is one of south beach’s most famous places.  It has incredible food and is open all night…also there’s a surprise there that makes it famous.

HB: What’s the surprise?!?!

Psych: You’ll have to wait and find out…I’m gonna head over there with some friends soon, come and join us.

HB: Yea we’re down!

Psych: Cool I have to say hi to some more people here but in case we get seperated what’s the best way to contact you?

HB: (gives me her number)

Later on we bounce to Jerry’s diner along with 3 of my wings.  The whole time we all just joke around constantly, keep things fun, and make tons of inside jokes.  There was nothing “gamey” about anything we did there.  It literally just showed the girls that my friends and I are cool, fun, and most important…normal.

The next day I give my girl a text…

Psych: Hey cutie great meeting you! You always so friendly to strangers? (credit AFC Adam)

HB: Hey! It was great meeting you as well! I am friendly to people who are friendly back give us a call if you are out in fort lauderdale!!

Psych: Good answer! Gonna be out tonight so we’ll meet up for sure

HB: You better! Haha

Psych: Lets pregame first though, I’ll pick you guys up.

HB: What time?

From here I just handled the logistics.  Thing is though another girl I’ve been debating to hook up with also invited me out for the fourth.  Apparantly she had a hook up to a good club, we’ll call her HB2.  I decided to change the pregame plans into after party plans (helps logistics even more lol) since we had to get to the club early.  I pick up HB along with her two friends and then meet up with HB2 and her friend.  Here’s the pic of all of us, HB2 is the one with the blue dress.

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While waiting for HB2 and her friend though I spot two model looking guys.  One is off talking to another girl and one is left alone.  HB’s friend goes up to talk to him “because he’s lonely” and my spidey sense begins tingling sensing danger.  I leave it alone for now though but then the other friend leaves his girl and comes over to join us.  They introduce themselves to the girls and totally ignore me…big no no.  Time to destroy some more naturals :).  This was fairly easy enough I just whispered to my target “looks like he struck out with his girl and is ready for round 2, try and be nice though.”  She giggled and when HB2 came around I told HB’s friend (the one with the bf) that we had to go to get in…which consists leaving the guys.  I knew she’d be the most down to leave the guys since she has a bf and like a champ cock blocked her friends.  Sometimes the mother hens turn into your best friend!!!  The guys tried to argue but just ended up looking needy and we ditched them at the door. 

Once inside we begin taking advantage of the open bar.  HB keeps feeding me drinks (IOI) and I bounce back and forth between HB’s group and HB2’s.  This starts to subtly create competition between the two girls which was amazing, no longer did I have to adopt a “be the prize mindset” I literally was the prize now.  Using women’s catty and competitive nature is an extremely powerful tool.  I began taking silly pictures with HB and also got her kissing my cheek to introduce a sexual frame.

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Eventually though the music begins playing and HB2 begins grinding on me to steal me away.  Game on ladies!!! The next 20 minutes consisted of dividing my attention between the two and seeing what clever ways they’d try and get it back.  Usually it consisted of grinding on me when the other looked away, taking me to the bar for drinks, taking pictures with them, or random little games they came up with.  I truly feel the highest level of game is where you make it to be that the women game you.  However HB2 lives here and HB only has one more night…I choose HB!  I finally give her my full attention and we begin going to town on the dance floor (my dance floor game has become SICK now and I didn’t pull any punches).  Eventually enough sexual tension is built for the kiss and I go in.  Later I learn this was the moment she knew she’d be sleeping with me!

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After this her friend with the BF began getting pissy but I quickly disarmed her and got it to where she’d leave and go back to her bf while I stay with the girls.  Don’t know how to break that part of game down just yet but I suppose it’s “Quick Logistical Management Game?” lol.  Then I bounced the two remaining girls to another room (at this point I ditched HB2 and her friend).  However a serious problem occured…I needed a wing!  Luckily one of the skilled guys from the miami lair was in the place “Hwood” so I texted him and he came through.  After bringing him into the set we literally went to town on both our girls.  When it comes to bouncing a girl from the club to my place for sex I don’t like there to be any confusion at all.  At one point I had my girls leg wrapped around me while grabbing her ass and Hwood was feeling over his girls skirt.

Finally I just say “lets head out to that after party” and we all begin going to our cars.  Hwood takes his girl and I take mine.  However there’s some MORE logistical problems with my girl not wanting to go to her place because of the friend with the bf so I just say we’ll go to mine.  I call Hwood to let him know then head to my place.  Once there I literally throw the girl on my bed and begin escalating however I begin getting some weird form of LMR!!!

Now I’ve NEVER had LMR once it was this on so I was really shocked.  She even said something like “it’s not gonna be that easy…”  I’m almost lost for words here but I continue to escalate and keep getting the LMR.  Then I get “you have to earn it…”  Now most community guys here would royally mess up, hell a year ago I probably would have as well.  Now I know better though then to enter a dumb frame battle especially this late in the game so I just say “and how do I do that?”  She giggles and admits she doesn’t know.  This is when I figure out that it’s not so much LMR but that she wants it done a CERTAIN WAY.  Basically not just rushing into it but doing more foreplay.  So we begin to just fool around a bit and then she gets a phone call.  While on the phone I begin fingering her and making her squirm while not letting up.  Finally she tells her friend “I have to go!” and then I close the deal.

The next day we have the following text convo:

HB: Hey thanks for the ride home.  Sucks we had to say goodbye

Psych: No prob hun, just make sure we get to say hello again

HB: Of course! I had a great time with you come to Austin soon

Psych: Will do!

HB: Can you do me a huge favor and I’ll make it up to you? Find me a number to a cab

Psych: lol and how will you make it up to me?…

HB: I will do whatever you want haha (within reason)

Psych: hmmm naughty teacher outfit?

HB: Done! Let me know when you head to Texas and I’ll have it ready!

Psych: Deal (give her number)

HB: Thanks so much babe! What kind of teacher outfit would you like?

Psych: hmmm hair in bun, button down shirt with push up bra, glasses, and skirt…

HB: Ok done.  It will be waiting on you!

Hope this helps,

Psych

(To read more about me visit my web page at www.puatraining.com/psych and to contact me for any one on one work or bootcamps email me at psych@puatraining.com)

Here’s another answer to one of the questions I was sent in.

Remember to ask your own questions in the comments below!

AFC Adam,

Summer is upon us… suddenly the hidden beauties emerge from there hiding places and flock to watering holes to consume cider and wear bikini tops…

So what should we be wearing??

Summer day wear is a tough one there’s not too much you can do to create a strong impression in a hot climate..( save of course gettin your ass in the gym…DO IT)

First I’m going to outline some negatives then I will suggest a simple and easy summer look!!

No football shorts or any kind of umbro above the knee kinda JD sports type things!!

No sports shirts.. yes we all know you love Arsenal (insert favoured team and sport where neccesary) and we don’t care.. And No England football shirts!!! We lose all the time and our fans are heathens!!!

No socks with trainers!!! Wear ankle socks or just roll the sock down below the rim of your shoe!!

No surfwear… sorry Billabong, Rip curl fans etc…Surfers are some broke ass dudes!!!

No surfer brand sunglasses again sorry Oakley etc. Get yourself a pair of classic Rayban’s. Avaitors or 1950’s style classic.

No pedal pushers (long shorts).

No obvious high street brand T- Shirts. ie. Topman, River island Tee’s. They are cheap look cheap and every loser out there has the same ones!!t is fine to wear plain tee’s from such fine establshments but anything with a strong design or picture, print etc is a big no no!! Do you want to look like a student?? This is especially pertinent to all you students!!

Ok so there is some of the common mistakes guys make with summer wear.. Now here’s some suggestions…

Wear knee length plain coloured combat shorts (but not camoflague prints, there are a few camoflague prints which look cool but most of them are like sooooo two years ago!!). A plain blue or beige short with a plain white fitted V - Neck T’ shirt and sunglasses clipped on the V is a simple and cool look!! American Apparel does the best fitted T- Shirts but Topman is a pretty good and a cheaper alternative.

Plain plimsoles, i have metinoned vans before, trendy and cheap!!

Get your hippy on, Wear flip flops..HAVIANAS are the only acceptable brand.. There are nice leather style thong sandals too but to be sure go for the havianas (available at Office)!! You can wear flip flops with jeans, if it’s really hot roll your jeans up to your knees!! I am usually a fan of skinny or straight leg jeans but a pair of baggy baby blue jeans trailing to the ground at your ankle (and thus getting filthy), white flip flops and a white T- Shirt is cool aswell.

There are some nice above the knee length smart shorts available at Topman and FCUK , if you have ok legs (if your chubby or have boney legs don’t go there.. step away from the shorts!!) To be safe go for a plain blue or beige and wear with a fitted T’ shirt or a fitted short sleeve collar shirt!!

Deck shoes!! Blue and white deck shoes (socks not visible are smart and casual at the same time and show a certain English class and restrain!! And plus there only 35 quid from river island!!

Get a tan!! We have about 3 weeks of sun on this desolate rock enjoy it!! And if you have to work you can always cheat!! Fake tan by St Tropez is about 15 pounds for a tube (available at Boots, select the relevant skin tone). It is the ONLY good brand. The rest will have you looking like a Swedish pornstar!! Come on guys were living in a metra-sexual society now, wear the fake tan it will make you look healthy and more attractive!! That being said NEVER admit it!! NEVER… your Grandad is Italian or you went to Brighton at the weekend!!

Finally i already mentionned the gym!! It’s a bit late now for all you couch potatoes but next year is always around the corner!! If your in shape wear a vest!! But be honest are you really in shape??

Now go to the park… Happy hunting…

This night started with me doing a one on one with my student.  While doing a bootcamp I always demo of course but never long enough or seriously enough to get a girl all the way into bed because it’d take to much time away from helping my student’s game.  However once the bootcamp work is officially done it becomes another matter and then Psych can go to town.  I decided to stay out with my student this night and just wing him to see what would happen.  We go out to a popular lounge in the area where I meet up with a good friend of mine who’s actually an instructor for another company and specializes in SNL game.  I figure “when in rome” and the hunt begins for which girl I’ll be taking home with me tonight. 

Now the first thing to realize when it comes to SNL game is that it kind of takes a “PUA radar”.  The thing is that not every girl, regardless of how good your game is, will be the kind to sleep with you that night.  Even if she is often times logistics wont allow it.  What this means is that you need a radar to quickly determine which girl seems like a SNL girl and then quickly figuring out logistics to see if they can be handled in set otherwise you waste your time.  At first it didn’t seem like there were any real possibilities, it was a small bar lounge with only about 50 people and only half being women.  However when the other guys began giving up it only motivated me more to make something happen.  As I’m making my rounds I’m keeping an eye out for two things, somewhat buzzed and sexual.  I see a large set with giggling girls who are slightly high energy, probably buzzed so one out of two is there.  I go open the set and immediately one of the girls touches my chest and gets close to my face when talking to me…bingo on the sexuality.

Once you spot your SNL girl there’s a few things that always need to happen.  The sexual tension must be built really high, strong frame control needs to take place, you MUST know exactly how to lead the set and handle all obstacles and logistics to get her to your place, and also have the ability to handle any shit/congruence tests she throws at you. 

As soon as she touches my chest and gets close my hands go around her waist and I bring her in close to show dominance.  I begin using AFC Adam’s formula of comfort and breaking rapport while keeping my nonverbals (such as eye contact) extremely sexual.  What resulted was fluff talk with slight sexual innuendos to break rapport and physical take aways and turns.  However my hands never left her side.  I then began leading the pick up by isolating her to get a drink of water with me.  This is what I call a visual isolation since the group can still see where you both are, from here I told her we should sit somewhere to drink since my feet hurt and brought her into full isolation away from the friends. 

Once seated the qualification and sexual escalation begins.  The kino is massively turned up with my arm wrapped around her while I stroke her leg and thigh qualifying her on topics that are either sexual in nature or lead to sexual frames (for example being fun and wild).  From here I go for the kiss and get it and from experience I’m pretty sure that I can close as long as logistics can be handled.  However it’s always around this point that the shit tests begin to come.  With this particular set I handled the logistics by being completely unnreactive and extremely ballsy/confident with my sexuality.  For example at one point the girl said “I think I’m going to have to go back with my friends tonight” which implies she IS thinking of a SNL so I respond “And I think that you’re going to have to come home with me so I can ravage that body of yours”.  The shit tests comes again with “Hahahaha no I don’t think so…”  which I reply “We’ll see…before this night is done I’m going to be fucking the shit out of you.”  Her face was priceless here and she was literally speechless but eventually just settled for a disbelieving smile. 

As the night progressed I’d amp up sexuality in more ways by grabbing her breasts, kissing her neck, and anything else that went with the moment.  It became to much for her though and she went to the bathroom.  While doing that I opened her group of friends and began winning them over so that when she came back she saw me in set with them.  Not knowing what to do she eventually grabbed one of her girlfriends and went over to the bar.  Eventually her other friends joined her and I was left chilling with my student.  What then took place was a huge test…who would break first me or her?  Often a massive hidden test that needs to be placed is the girl seeing that you have the ability to walk away and when this test is given it’s usually the last one.  I remained with my student until finally the girls friend came over to tell me my girl wanted me to come over there.  Many community guys I know would mess up here as well and refuse in order to stay “alpha” but the act of her sending her friend over already means I won…I just need to accept her invitation. 

I go over and join her and flirt some more.  She brings up the fact that she has to leave with her friends so I tell her that she’s an adult and can do whatever she’d like.  I flat out refused to be needy or try and manipulate her into coming with me.  I knew she wanted me and all I had to do was make sure I didn’t chase in the slightest, just keep her being aroused and let it be her choice what she wants to do.  I saw the raging battle inside her head and figured she might need SOME plausible deniability to not feel like a slut.  Because of this I suggested we instead just go get something to eat and her friends could even come to (if they don’t perfect and if they do I can always bounce her to my place after).  Her friends weren’t hungry so this was a no go.  Sometimes things don’t work out though and that’s when you need a plan B.  I tell her that my friend’s place (the student’s) has an amazing view and she should come see which she agrees to along with her cousin.  I pull up my car and take her, her cousin, and my student to the student’s apartment.  Once we get in there sex is just implied.  Everyone gets some water, I tell the girl “hey come check out my room”, and then throw her on the bed.  I always tell people this but just like some PUAs assume attraction I assume sex.  The clothes come off easily and she begins giving me head.  From there I put on a condom and get on top of her to close the deal.  I was told later that my student was talking to the cousin and heard the banging of the bed against the wall.  When the cousin asked what it was he replied…must be construction work.

Hope this helps,

Psych

(To read more about me visit my web page at www.puatraining.com/psych and to contact me for any one on one work or bootcamps email me at psych@puatraining.com)

*When we try and impress it means we want validation and approval from the other person implying they’re of a higher status then us

*Trying to impress leads to chasing and needy behaviors

*When we try and impress we have to “sell” an idea (in this case attraction) which puts us in a dancing monkey or entertainer role

*Wanting to impress leads to the possibility of failure which in turn leads to unattractive qualities such as nervousness, frusteration, resentment, insecurity, and of course anxiety

*It immediately puts the girl as the prize

The list goes on….

Instead though what if we gamed in a way that focused on making opportunities for the girl to impress us instead?  Then everything I just mentioned earlier is now flipped.  When the girl begins attempting to impress us she begins chasing us which then causes her to become deeply attracted.  We all value that which we work for and which is hard to get.  The problems most guys have is that they want soooooooo bad to convince the girl that they’re high value they do the exact opposite.  High value guys don’t brag or try and impress, they simply assume everyone knows they are high value.  Instead of trying to DHV truly high value guys will instead offer tests and get to know someone to see if THEY match up to HIM.  The act of seeing if a girl is worthy of you without trying to impress her creates tremendous attraction. 

With this new mindset in place my game has drastically changed.  At this point it rarely looks like I’m really gaming or doing much of anything anymore.  The vast majority of my game is really finding ways for the girl to game me.  I want HER DHV stories, I want HER busting out routines to keep me interested, I want to be entertained by HER, and I can take it as far as finding ways for the girl to even sexually escalate on me. 

By showing and adding value (as opposed to trying to DHV or brag),  by interacting with the girl in a way where you truly are not trying to impress her, by leading the interaction and helping her find ways to game you, as well as showing a strong comfortability and confidence (especially when it comes to sexuality)…I promise you’ll have the girl finding all sorts of ways to impress you.

Hope this helps,

Psych

(To read more about me visit my web page at www.puatraining.com/psych and to contact me for any one on one work or bootcamps email me at psych@puatraining.com)

As always if you have any questions, or would like to add anything further please use the comments section below!

How to approach a 2 set

Hey guys,

Have a look at the video and give me some openers :-)  Please note that I want all different kinds of openers, serious, funny, direct, indirect, etc. However, I will not use any that are derogatory to women, so be creative but be considerate guys.

Stay kool and keep gaming.

Your Friendly, Neighbourhood PUA Dharam

This one is all about the best way to sleep at a girls place rather than getting her to sleep at yours. Very useful if you still live at home, or with annoying flatmates, or if you don’t clean or if you have a massive toy figure collection….(not that I’m admiting to any of these you understand)

Ahem…

Here’s the video!

How to Crash at hers

Remember use the comments section to ask your own questions!

Its your Friendly, Neighbourhood PUA Dharam here

Firstly, apologies for not posting much on the blog, been working on loads of different things recently, like my daygame tour which is on the website, working on some advanced techniques and filming live in-field videos (Watch this space

Right, my life revolves around my work, my work revolves around understanding what women want in a man…..Now I asked one question to ten of my hottest, highest value female friends (ranging from model in Zoo magazine to the girl next door who has been my friend for seven years). The question was as follows: WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?

They all replied differently, but one quality was mentioned unanimously by all of them: CONFIDENCE.

Confidence, one quality that all women want - now I want to break this down, what is it?

Well according to the dictionary definition it is ‘full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing’

But what does this actually mean? Is it full trust that you can potentially close any woman you approach? Is it belief that you’re a great pua when you go in to set? Or is it trusting you are the high value prize and she wants you? None of these would be incorrect, although this week’s residential student really summed up confidence down to a tee in one instance when out with me.

Picture the scene if you will: We are in Revolutions Bar and he approaches a three set he really likes, engages them for the best part of ten minutes and walks away with some smiles and a name and a handshake.

I asked him to run me through it from the top, he begins by saying he opened with ‘Hey guys my friend went on a date with a girl and he didn’t hold the door open for her so she got offended. Do you think in this day and age a guy should still hold the door open for a woman?’     I stopped him right there and asked why he said that, when we agreed prior to opening that he would go direct as we were literally on our way out to a club. He said he got nervous, but wished he didn’t as they turned out to be the coolest chicks he’d spoken to all day and would’ve like to have just said hello and got to know them as people, not the answer to his question. So I turn to him and say ‘Tell them’   Nervous, yet excited to see what would happen, he walks back to the three women and says ‘Hey I just want to apologise as I asked you guys a question which isn’t important to me, I don’t have a friend with a girl upset he didn’t hold a door open, truth is I just wanted to say hello as you seemed friendly and wanted to get to know you, but got a little nervous and used some canned line, I apologise, and I think you guys are coolest chicks I’ve spoken to all day’.   The reaction on the women’s faces was one of amazement, they replied with ‘Oh my god, that’s amazing you are so CONFIDENT, thank you’

 A demonstration of true confidence, standing in front of women and being able to openly mention you get nervous, you are human and have emotions.

I hope this helps. If anyone can reply with moments they feel they displayed real confidence I would luv to hear them.

Thanks for reading guys, hope you’ve enjoyed.

Until next time, stay kool and keep gaming.

Your Friendly, Neighbourhood PUA Dharam