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Jae Hee

2012-01-03T19:57:00.000+07:00

Jae Hee (born Lee Hyun-kyoon, 25 May 1980) is a South Korean actor who made his on-screen debut in the Korean drama School. He got his first break as a lead actor in Kim Ki-duk’s movie 3-Iron which won awards both locally and internationally and in effect opened more opportunities for Jae Hee in the entertainment industry.

In 2005, he became the lead actor for the internationally admired Korean Drama Delightful Girl Choon-Hyang where he played Mong Ryong and won the Best Actor award. Because of his critically acclaimed performance in Delightful Girl Choon-Hyang, its makers cast him again for a lead role in another romantic comedy series which was shown on the second quarter of 2007 entitled Witch Yoo Hee where he played a chef.

Jae Hee has been known for his sense of fashion and has his own fashion line for casual wear. On the 5th of August 2008 he joined the military for two years. (Wikipedia)

Name: 재희 / Jae Hee (Jae Hui)
Real name: 이현균 / Lee Hyun Kyoon (Lee Hyeon Gyun)
Profession: Actor
Birthdate: 1980-May-25
Height: 178cm
Weight: 63kg
Star sign: Gemini
Blood type: O
Education: Dankuk University
Hobbies: Watching cartoons, Playing Star Craft
Debut: Kam Woosung’s younger self in MBC’s ‘Mountain’ (1996)

10 Amazing Life Lessons From Albert Einstein

2011-12-17T11:01:00.001+07:00

Albert Einstein has long been considered a genius by the masses. He was a imaginary physicist, philosopher, author, and is perhaps the largely influential scientists to forever live.

Einstein has made remarkable help to the exact globe, counting the theory of relativity, the founding of relativistic cosmology, the prediction of the deflection of light by gravity, the quantum theory of atomic signal in solids, the zero-point energy hypothesis, and the quantum theory of a monatomic gab which predicted Bose–Einstein condensation, to repute a a small amount of of his exact help.
Einstein usual the 1921 Nobel Prize in Physics “for his services to Theoretical Physics, and especially on behalf of his discovery of the law of the photoelectric effect.”

He’s available more than 300 exact plant and ended 150 non-scientific plant. Einstein is considered the father of present physics and is probably the largely triumphant scientist at hand forever was.

10 Amazing Lessons from Albert Einstein:

1. Follow Your Curiosity

“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”

What piques your curiosity? I am curious as to what causes one person to succeed while another person fails; this is why I’ve spent years studying success. What are you most curious about? The pursuit of your curiosity is the secret to your success.

2. Perseverance is Priceless

“It's not that I'm so smart; it's just that I stay with problems longer.”

Through perseverance the turtle reached the ark. Are you willing to persevere until you get to your intended destination? They say the entire value of the postage stamp consist in its ability to stick to something until it gets there. Be like the postage stamp; finish the race that you’ve started!

3. Focus on the Present

“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.”

My father always says you cannot ride two horses at the same time. I like to say, you can do anything, but not everything. Learn to be present where you are; give your all to whatever you’re currently doing.

Focused energy is power, and it’s the difference between success and failure.

4. The Imagination is Powerful

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”

Are you using your imagination daily? Einstein said the imagination is more important than knowledge! Your imagination pre-plays your future. Einstein went on to say, “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.” Are you exercising your “imagination muscles” daily, don’t let something as powerful as your imagination lie dormant.

5. Make Mistakes

“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”

Never be afraid of making a mistake. A mistake is not a failure. Mistakes can make you better, smarter and faster, if you utilize them properly. Discover the power of making mistakes. I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again, if you want to succeed, triple the amount of mistakes that you make.

6. Live in the Moment

“I never think of the future - it comes soon enough.”

The only way to properly address your future is to be as present as possible “in the present.”

You cannot “presently” change yesterday or tomorrow, so it’s of supreme importance that you dedicate all of your efforts to “right now.” It’s the only time that matters, it’s the only time there is.

7. Create Value

“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value."

Don’t waste your time trying to be successful, spend your time creating value. If you’re valuable, then you will attract success.

Discover the talents and gifts that you possess, learn how to offer those talents and gifts in a way that most benefits others.

Labor to be valuable and success will chase you down.

8. Don’t Expect Different Results

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

You can’t keep doing the same thing everyday and expect different results. In other words, you can’t keep doing the same workout routine and expect to look differently. In order for your life to change, you must change, to the degree that you change your actions and your thinking is to the degree that your life will change.

9. Knowledge Comes From Experience

“Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience.”

Knowledge comes from experience. You can discuss a task, but discussion will only give you a philosophical understanding of it; you must experience the task first hand to “know it.” What’s the lesson? Get experience! Don’t spend your time hiding behind speculative information, go out there and do it, and you will have gained priceless knowledge.

10. Learn the Rules and Then Play Better

“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”

To put it all in simple terms, there are two things that you must do. The first thing you must do is to learn the rules of the game that you’re playing. It doesn’t sound exciting, but it’s vital. Secondly, you must commit to play the game better than anyone else. If you can do these two things, success will be yours!

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21 Ways to Do Everything Better

2011-12-14T00:19:00.000+07:00

Doing everything with quality increases your chances for success, enhances your reputation, and saves you time in the long run. People typically equate quality with skill, but quality is a by product of time, thoughts and systems.

Here are twenty-one ways to assure quality in everything you do. See where you can apply a couple of these rules to your life. In a few weeks, review the impact.

Review

1. Review Everything
Review everything you touch before you hand it off. Proofread your documents one last time, double check that package to make sure everything is included, triple check your bullet points on your presentation. Always enlist a second set of eyes. Even after you look things over, you may miss some glaring mistakes because you are used to your work. Having someone else look it over will give you a new perspective on your work and may even lead to new, better solutions.

2. Review Contributions of Others
Don't take it for granted that others can do the job well or even that they know what they're doing. Trust but verify. Remember the saying, "Don't expect what you don't inspect."

3. Review Your Mistakes
Sometimes you make mistakes. Learn from them and move on.

4. Review Accomplishments

A lot can be learned from your past accomplishments. Take the time to go over your past work and look objectively at what you did well and didn't do so well. There are many lessons to learn.

Control

5. Control Your Task List—Don't Drop Anything
Keep track of your commitments. If you don't know what you need to do, you can't do it well.

6. Control Your Commitments: Just Say No
With a heavy workload, it may be hard to get everything done right. This may mean saying no to new projects.

7. Control Your Understanding
Find out deadlines and requirements. Ask questions. Make sure you know what's expected. If you don't know what you're shooting for you can't succeed.

8. Control Expectations
Provide feedback at the beginning of a project of what you will be delivering. Set the scope of the project early so there aren't any misunderstandings.

9. Control Yourself
Don't try to do everything yourself at one time. Break projects apart and succeed through layering one success on top of another. This will enable you provide progress and ensure you are on the right track.

Learn

10. Learn from Others
The people around you may be doing some tasks better than you. How are they doing it? Look at colleagues, bosses and definitely don't neglect learning from subordinates.

11. Learn Through Research
Look at industry groups, books and blogs- all may have some good tips on helping you do better.

12. Learn Through Education
Are there ways to enhance your skills? Take an extra course? How can you learn more?

13. Relearn
If you frequently do a task but it isn't consistently perfect, take some time to analyze the steps you should be doing. Start the process from scratch. Consciously do one step at a time making sure you're doing it right.

Think

14. Commit to Quality
Decide that with anything you do, you'll do it the right way. Just committing to quality will cause you to reconsider sending out a half-baked project and increase your quality.

15. Brainstorm
Think of ways you can do it better. Think of ways to put systems around your tasks.

16. Envision Success
Ask yourself, "What would perfect execution look like for this task?" Now go do it.

17. Be Proud of Your Quality
If you take pride in your quality, you won't release non-quality items.

18. Solve the Problem, Not the Request
Sometimes a "simple" request is not so simple. Find out what the requester really wants, then give it to him.

19. Think Big Picture
Don't just solve the problem by applying a quick fix. See how it fits in the big picture and determine if you can solve a big problem with just a little more effort.

20. Don't Wait for Deadlines
It's inevitable that people rush to finish a task at the deadline. This only leads to more problems. The solution is simple- start early and plan your schedule so that you finish early. Which leads to:

21. Exceed Expectations
You've understood the expectations and you've set expectations—now do your best to exceed them. Everyone loves good surprises!

You're not going to be able to implement this in one day but refer to this list often to ensure you're always thinking of quality. With good quality, work doesn't need to be reworked and problems are minimized. You can remember these using the mnemonic: Review—TLC (TLC= Think, Learn, Control).

4 Health Hazards in the Water

2011-12-14T00:18:00.001+07:00

Sharks in the water! Chlorine that seals your contact lenses to your eyes! Antibiotic-resistant bacteria on the beaches! When it comes to recreational swimming, it can be tough to differentiate between overblown fears and more common (and manageable) health hazards.

Swimming is one of summer's best-loved activities, providing ample fitness benefits in the company of friends — yet it often provokes anxiety. And the truth is, swimming does carry some risks: Open water can carry viral infections from sewage; chlorinated pool water can provoke asthma; and cloudy lakes may contain cyanobacteria, known to carry neurotoxins and cause disease. But with a little awareness, these hazards can be negotiated. By staying alert to red flags and following some simple safety guidelines, recreational swimmers can splash around safely.

Concern: Bacterial and Viral Infections
Source: Oceans, rivers, lakes, pools and hot tubs. In natural bodies of water and outdoor pools, bacterial and viral infections, otherwise known as recreational water illnesses (RWIs), often come from pollution delivered by sewage or rainwater runoff. In indoor pools or crowded beaches, infections may come from other swimmers.

Symptoms: A wide variety of skin, ear, eye and respiratory issues. Gastrointestinal problems, including diarrheal illnesses, are caused by organisms ranging from Crypto (short for Cryptosporidium) and giardia to shigella and E. coli. "Viruses are assumed to be the cause of most waterborne illness, but the specific virus that causes an illness is usually unknown," says John Wathen, a beach water expert with the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) in Washington, D.C.

Avoiding risk: According to David Beckman, director of the Water Program at the Natural Resources Defense Council (NRDC), beachgoers can reduce their chances of getting sick by swimming only at sites where authorities test the water frequently and close the beach or issue an advisory when it is polluted. Healthy strategies include staying out of the water when there are closings or advisories, avoiding swimming near discharge pipes, and keeping dry if you have an open wound. Wathen recommends avoiding beaches for a couple of days after a heavy rain and staying attuned to murky water or foul smells. Indoors or out, make sure that your pool water is properly and adequately treated with an anticontaminant.

Following exposure: Rinse off well. Clean skin abrasions. Dry out your ears. Take a shower and wash swimsuits and towels as soon as possible.

Concern: Chlorine
Source: Swimming pools and hot tubs.

Symptoms: Skin irritation, wheezing, coughing, throat burning, stinging eyes or shortness of breath. Chlorine reacts with organic compounds in various ways that release both waterborne and airborne toxins. In recent studies of children and teens, Alfred Bernard, a toxicologist at the Catholic University of Louvain in Brussels, found that chloramines and haloacetic acids released by chlorine are five times more likely than secondhand smoke to exacerbate symptoms of asthma and respiratory allergies in those already at risk for these conditions.

Avoiding risk: Steer clear of overchlorinated swimming pools (chlorine between 2 and 5 parts per million is considered safe for most). When in doubt, ask pool managers to check the levels of active and combined chlorine in pool water or air. You might also seek out pools treated with alternative disinfectants like copper-silver or ozone, although these may not be ideal for avoiding all RWIs.

Following exposure: If your time in the pool has produced asthma or allergies, treat yourself as you would following any other precipitating cause. Above all, do not go back into the water until you are symptom-free — and limit your time in the pool to minutes, not hours, a day.

Concern: Neurotoxins
Source: In oceans, rivers, lakes and ponds, blue-green cyanobacteria can accumulate when exposed to runoff from phosphorus fertilizer or paper mills, sometimes becoming so dense they coat the water with a green slime.

Symptoms: Some species of cyanobacteria release a neurotoxin so potent that chronic exposure is starting to be traced to neurodegenerative diseases like Parkinson's and ALS, according to Dartmouth-Hitchcock Medical Center neurologist Elijah Stommel, MD, PhD. Far more common, he says, is brief, acute exposure, which can result in anything from itching and skin rash to illnesses of the GI tract and liver.

Avoiding risk: Stay out of dark or murky waters. "If you see green fluorescent scum on the surface of a pond, don't go in," advises Stommel. The smell of rotting eggs may be another sign of cyanobacteria in the water.

Following exposure: As with exposure to RWIs, take a shower and wash swimsuits and towels as soon as you can.

Swimming With Wildlife
When we venture into wild waters, we are entering environments alien to our own: Oceans are home to sharks, rays and jellyfish; rivers and lakes host many species of fish. All kinds of mammals and reptiles inhabit our shores, and insects hover above them, but are we really in danger from wildlife in the places we normally swim — and if so, how can we stay safe?

While most ocean beachgoers view shark attack as the greatest threat to their lives, University of California, Berkeley, coastal oceanographer and researcher Francis James Smith, PhD, coauthor of the Dangerous Beaches Mapping Project, notes that such attacks are extremely rare — only about 75 occur each year worldwide, with 10 resulting in death.

A far more common ocean hazard is the box jellyfish — the free-swimming, colorless animal that can range in size from a couple of inches to 3 feet in diameter. "Box jellyfish use nematocysts in their tentacles to catch their prey," Smith explains. "Humans can get stung when they come into contact with the tentacles."

When it comes to aquatic wildlife, rivers and lakes are safer than oceans, according to wildlife and fishery expert Richard Whitman, PhD, of the Lake Michigan Ecological Research Station in Porter, Ind. In fact, most wildlife in U.S. lakes is benign. "I cannot think of any truly dangerous large animal living in those waters," says Whitman. The most hazardous animal in the nation's lakes could be the bird flukes, a tiny flatworm that can burrow inside the body, causing swimmer's itch, he says, adding that lake swimmers face far more danger from land animals living alongside rivers or lakes — for instance, bears, elk, moose or snakes — than from anything in the water.

As with pollution, the best way to avoid dangerous animals when swimming in the wild is vigilance: Visit well-monitored beaches that have lifeguards, and learn about any potential hazards before you venture in. Avoid brackish water with poor visibility. And, when lakeside, avoid areas with high grass or shrubbery that might hide animals.

Where The Real Internet Money Is Made

2011-12-14T00:16:00.000+07:00

Advertising on the Web could top $9 billion this year -- and there are lots of ways investors can profit from the trend

Sooner or later, advertisers had to figure out the Internet. Here was a medium that was reaching into nearly every office in America. And at home, it was wresting millions of eyes away from the TV. It could even count mouse clicks. Today, Net advertisers are finally hitting their stride.

It started with advertising on search engines, such as Google Inc. (GOOG), which collectively grew in five years from near zero to a $3.9 billion chunk of the online ad industry. Now companies are rushing to promote their brands with ever more banner ads, skyscrapers that crawl up the pages, and full-motion videos. Internet advertising should reach $9.4 billion in 2004, according to Kagan Research LLC. And with continued double-digit growth, it's on pace to surpass magazine advertising in about two years, adds Kagan.

Right now, excitement about online advertising is behind a wave of industry consolidation. AOL (TWX ) dished out $435 million for Advertising.com in June. In mid-November, Dow Jones & Co. (DJ ) agreed to buy CBS Marketwatch (MKTW ) for $515 million, a rich 30 times next year's estimated cash flow. Analysts believe that Dow Jones, whose wsj.com is available to subscribers only, is looking to tap the bounty of advertising that a free site can attract because it draws more visitors than paid-for competitors. The current fever has a hint of the dot-com craze, but there's one vital difference: While the advertising stars are still spinning bold visions of the online future, they're measuring their progress with profits every step of the way.

SPECIAL AGENCIES
How can investors make money on this trend? Lots of ways. Beneath the twin peaks of Yahoo! Inc. (YHOO ) and Google -- both pricey after sharp runups during the past year -- a prosperous industry is taking shape.

In the thick of the surge are ad agencies that specialize in online business. They are pulling advertisers to the Web by providing technology that enables them to measure precisely the impact of any given ad. Or they can follow up with customers who respond to ads. Consider fast-growing aQuantive Inc. (AQNT ). The Seattle agency not only helps design campaigns for big-name clients such as Microsoft Corp. (MSFT ) and Verizon Communications Co. (VZ ) but is also the leader in managing advertising campaigns on search engines. Using automated technology, it bids on behalf of its customers for millions of search keywords, which are critical to getting ads seen on search sites. That's because each keyword positions a customer's ad next to the results from a specific search, whether the hunt is for can openers or Costa Rica vacations. This is a booming business for aQuantive, fueling projected triple-digit revenue growth, to $152 million, with earnings expected to grow from $11.8 million to $39 million. Says aQuantive Chief Executive Brian P. McAndrews: "We expect advertisers to keep following the eyeballs [to the Internet]."

Despite aQuantive's success, the stock has been a wallflower. Its $160 million acquisition of ad agency Razorfish in June took longer to digest than expected. The company fell short of Wall Street's estimates of third-quarter earnings. As a result the stock, at $8.38, is trading at 30 times projected 2005 earnings -- less than half of Yahoo's price-earnings ratio. Thomas Weisel Partners analyst Christa Sober Quarles says the hiccup offers investors a chance to snap up discounted shares. "As online marketing becomes more complicated, it becomes more important to bring in someone like aQuantive."

ValueClick Inc. (VCLK ) is riding the same growth wave. The agency, based in Los Angeles, boasts a broad offering of services, from delivering online ads to monitoring their effectiveness and scoping out the best deals. Unlike aQuantive, ValueClick has not stumbled after doing deals. In fact, it has completed three in the past year without missing a beat. "They have an awesome record of strategic and financial acquisitions," says analyst Stewart Barry of ThinkEquity Partners LLC, a San Francisco investment bank.

The explosion of Internet ad prices -- the daily price of a banner ad on marquee sites such as the Yahoo or MSN homepage has doubled in the past year, to $300,000 -- is driving yet more advertisers to ValueClick. Its Commission Junction unit places ads on a vast network of Web pages for advertisers. Here, they are charged one-third the price per customer that they would pay on a premier site, according to Barry. Other ValueClick businesses range from search to e-mail marketing. Bolstered by acquisitions, revenue is on track to grow this year by 146%, to $162 million. Profits are expected to reach $41 million, with sales growing 31% next year, to $212 million. The bad news? The stock has doubled since August, and it's now trading at 35 times next year's estimated earnings -- pricier than aQuantive.

The Net's ad growth is benefiting online publishers every bit as much as the agencies. The trick, say analysts, is to find sites that reach a well-defined demographic. Here investors might take a look at iVillage Inc. (IVIL ), the top-rated women's site. While men are easy to find at the financial, sports, and tech sites that they troll, women are far harder to locate online. With its attention to everything from child care and dieting to personal finance and astrology, iVillage receives more than 15 million unique visitors a month, nearly all of them women, according to comScore Media Metrix. IVillage leads the industry, with some 14% of U.S. women over 18 years old visiting the site. Says CEO Douglas W. McCormick: "We're a mini Yahoo for women."

IT TAKES IVILLAGE
The upward tilt on iVillage's stock chart looks every bit as steep as Yahoo's -- even though the numbers are far smaller. The stock, a former highflier from the dot-com days, was trading below $2 in 2003, before McCormick's advertising strategy got going. For 2004 the company figures that revenue will grow by 15%, to $66.6 million, and that it will eke out a profit of $3 million, marking its first year in the black in its nine-year history.

The stock now trades around $5.90, and analyst Youssef H. Squali of Jefferies & Co. (JEF ) sees plenty of room for it to rise. The key, he says, is that iVillage is revamping the site to roll out more video -- both for ads and editorial features. "Advertisers are willing to pay 100% more for video than traditional banner ads," he says. And iVillage will create more video programming to accompany the ads, which he says may well attract more visitors to the site. "That could give them two engines of growth," he says.

As Internet ad sales mount, lots of companies are quickly steering their businesses toward the bonanza. InfoSpace Inc., the Bellevue (Wash.) company, has made its name selling ringtones for cell phones, but it also has a fast-growing directory business, including Yellow Pages. Ads now account for 60% of revenues. Analysts say the company is well positioned for the widely anticipated growth in local Internet ads.

For investors seeking a restructuring play, DoubleClick Inc. (DCLK ) merits a look. The onetime titan of Internet advertising, it stumbled through the tech bust. Revenue dived from $506 million in 2000 to an estimated $290 million in 2004. While the company is still in the black, it's losing share to the likes of aQuantive and ValueClick. In November, DoubleClick hired investment bank Lazard LLC to explore its options, including a possible sale of all or part of the company. Since then, DoubleClick CEO Kevin A. Ryan says he has been fielding calls from prospective buyers.

No surprise there. The company still boasts solid technology to deliver ads and monitor and fine-tune their performance. These are tools the industry is hungry for. What's more, even after spending $100 million buying back shares over the past year, DoubleClick is still sitting on $389 million in cash -- 40% of its market cap and equal to $3.10 a share.

Investors can gamble on a possible takeover target or place their bets on a predator. Either way, Internet advertising promises a breathless ride in 2005.

Ovarian Cysts Treatment - Prescription Drugs Or Natural Remedies?

2011-12-14T00:14:00.000+07:00

An ovarian cyst is a growth or swelling on or inside the ovary. It may possibly be solid or overflowing with fluid. If it is solid, it is called a cancer. This can be frightening as it right away brings cancer to mind, but tumor is merely the health phrase in support of any swelling. There are many types of ovarian cysts, namely, functional cysts, dermoid cysts, serous & mucinous cystadenomas, endometriomas, functional tumors, fibromas and brenner tumors. Conversely, the alternative of ovarian ulcer therapy used to heal the cysts be different among the types. Fortunately, the vast majority of these ovarian cysts are not cancerous.

Many women experience no symptoms while they experience an ovarian cyst, especially if it is small. Certain cysts may well grow sizeable and cause the belly to swell up. Depending on where the cyst is and its size, it can exert pressure on the bladder or bowel, cause abdominal irritation, uncomfortable or hurting sex and random periods. Sometimes complication such as intense hurting, vomiting and heart tremor can take place if the stem attached to the cyst is twisted causing a condition called torsion or if the cyst is ruptured.

Ovarian cyst treatment often involved the utilization of prescription drugs that can affect the hormonal levels of the body. Contraceptive pills, anti-androgen drugs, fertility drugs, luteinising hormone-suppressing drugs, antibiotics or a combination of these drugs are normally used to cure these ovarian cysts. Surgery is the after that accessible option but this form of remedy be supposed to be considered merely as a last few resort. If hysterectomy is recommended, please seek a back up or third judgment rather than taking that option

Herbal remedies have proven to be valuable in the treatment of ovarian cysts. It mostly takes between two to six months in favor of the cure to be completely successful depending upon the size and amount of ovarian cysts display. Herbs such as echinacea and milk thistle are acknowledged to effectively deal with and control these ovarian cysts. Diet is in addition very critical, as selected foods can irritate the condition, and a number of foods are very beneficial in scheming the reappearance of the ovarian cysts. Foods that help relieve the ache and reappearance include enough of uncooked fruits and vegetables (especially the dark green leafy vegetables), garlic, legumes, whole grains and other total foods. Avoid caffeine, alcohol, red meats, eggs, white sugar, carbonated beverages and processed or refined foods.

Supplements have furthermore been found to be helpful in the healing and control of ovarian cysts. A fair quality multivitamins and mineral deposits will enhance the dietary changes your are making, working to balance the hormones, get better resistance, enhance liver function and defend against abnormal cell growth. A high day after day dose of Vitamin C, zinc, B vitamins and a high-quality antioxidant are identified to be advantageous in the management and control of the cysts.

If you have already been diagnosed with having a complex cyst subsequently it is up to you to decide what therapy is preeminent in support of you. A natural therapy can save you from going through surgery that is not required and it will prevent the cyst from recurring.

Why You Should Forget Your First Love

2011-12-14T00:10:00.002+07:00

They say that you never forget your first love.

But perhaps you should, because memories of it can wreck your relationships for life, research suggests.

Sociologists found that the euphoria of young love can become an unrealistic benchmark against which all future romances are judged.

Four-year passion: Kate Moss and Johnny Depp

According to the report, the best way to ensure long-term happiness in a relationship is not to fixate on how you fell head over heels the first time.

Those who take a more pragmatic view of what they need from a relationship rather than striving to recreate the intense passion they once shared with an old flame are more likely to have successful long-term partneship, it argues.

The claim comes in Changing Relationships, a collection of research papers edited by Dr Malcolm Brynin, of the Institute for Social and Economic Research at the University of Essex.

He said: 'Remarkably, it seems that the secret to long-term happiness in a relationship is to skip a first relationship.'

'In an ideal world you would wake up already in your second relationship. If you had a passionate first relationship and allow that feeling to become your benchmark, it becomes inevitable that future, more adult partnerships will seem boring and a disappointment.

'The problems start if you try not only to get everything you need for an adult relationship, but also strive for the heights of excitement and intensity you had in your first experience of love.

Unrealistic benchmark: Research claims the intense passion of a first relationship can damage future romances (posed by models)

'The solution is clear: if you can protect yourself from intense passion in your first relationship, you will be happier in your later relationships.'

It is a message Kate Moss might take on board. The model met Johnny Depp when she was 21 and they had a four-year romance.

Years later, when asked about the men in her life, she replied: 'I just haven't found anyone I want to spend long periods with. I don't think I've completely got over my relationship with Johnny Depp.'

The book has provoked fierce debate among academics.

Professor Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University in New Jersey, suggests striving for that initial intensity of emotion can help relationships survive.

Using MRI scans, she observed similar brain activity among those who had been happily married for more than two decades with those who had been in relationships for less than six months.

She said: 'I found incontrovertible, physiological evidence that romantic love can last.'

The book also examines why people pick partners with a similar social background.

How to say I Love You in 100 Languages

2011-12-14T00:06:00.002+07:00

English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M'bi fe
Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T'estimo
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki'
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime(to male), Je t'adore(tofemale)
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S'agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia oi
Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Hok kian - wa ai lu
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i' ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te ubesk
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe

Nursing Intervention For Heart Failure

2011-09-11T20:54:00.002+07:00

Nursing Intervention For Heart Failure

Assess cardiovascular status, vital sign and hemodynamic variable to detect signs of reduced cardiac output.
Assess respiratory status to detect increasing fluid in the lungs and respiratory failure.
Keep the client in semi-fowler's position to increase chest expansion and improve ventilation.
Administer medication as prescribed, to enhance cardiac performance and reduce excess fluids.
Administer oxygen to enhance arterial oxygenation.
Measure and record intake and output, Intake greater than output may indicated fluid retention.
Monitor laboratory test result to detect electrolyte imbalances, renal failure, and impaired cardiac circulation.
Provide suctioning, if necessary assist with turning and encourage coughing and deep breathing to prevent pulmonary complication.
Restrict oral fluid to avoid worsening the client's condition.
Weigh the client daily to detect fluid retention. A weight gain of 2lb (0,9 kg) in 1 day or 5 lb (2,3 kg) in 1 week indicates fluid gain.
Measure and record the client's abdominal girth. An increased in abdominal girht suggests worsening fluid retention and right-sided heart failure.
Make sure the client maintains a low-sodium diet to reduce fluid accumulation.
Encourage the client to express feelings, such as a fear of dying to reduce anxiety.

Source : http://articlesofnursing.blogspot.com

Nursing Diagnosis for COPD

2011-09-11T20:47:00.000+07:00

Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), also known as chronic obstructive lung disease (COLD), chronic obstructive airway disease (COAD), chronic airflow limitation (CAL) and chronic obstructive respiratory disease (CORD), is the co-occurrence of chronic bronchitis and emphysema, a pair of commonly co-existing diseases of the lungs in which the airways become narrowed. This leads to a limitation of the flow of air to and from the lungs, causing shortness of breath. In clinical practice, COPD is defined by its characteristically low airflow on lung function tests. In contrast to asthma, this limitation is poorly reversible and usually gets progressively worse over time. In England, an estimated 842,100 of 50 million people have a diagnosis of COPD.(wikipedia)

Nursing Diagnosis for COPD

Ineffective Airway Clearance related to bronchoconstriction, increased mucus formation, ineffective cough, bronchopulmonary infection.

Impaired gas exchange related to ventilation-perfusion inequality

Imbalanced Nutrition: Less Than Body Requirements related to anorexia, sputum production, drug side effects, weakness, dyspnea

Risk for infection related to inadequate immunity, malnutrition

Knowledge deficient: on condition / action related to lack of information.

Nanda Nursing Diagnosis List 2011

2011-09-11T20:39:00.002+07:00

List of NANDA Nursing diagnosis Accepted for Use and Research Divided into 13 domains and 47 classes, below the full list of 13 Domains and 47 classes NANDA Nursing diagnosis. And complete list of NANDA Nursing diagnosis based on alphabetical order.

Domains Health Promotions
1. Health awareness
2. Health management
Domains nutrition’s
1. ingestion
2. digestion
3. Absorption
4. Metabolism
5. Hydration
Domains Elimination/exchange
1. Urinary System
2. Gastrointestinal System
3. Integumentary system
4. Pulmonary System
Domains Activity/Rest
1. Sleep/Rest
2. Activity/Exercise
3. Energy Balance
4. Cardiovascular-pulmonary Responses
5. Self-Care
Domains Perception/Cognition
1. Attention
2. Orientation
3. Sensation/Perception Cognition
4. Communication
Domains Self Perception
1. Self-Concept
2. Self-Esteem
3. Body Image
Domains Role Relationship
1. Caregiving Roles
2. Family Relationship
3. Role Performance
Domains Sexuality
1. Sexual Identity
2. Sexual Function
3. Reproduction
Domains Coping/Stress Tolerance
1. Post-Trauma Responses
2. Coping Responses
3. Neuro-behavioral Stress
Domains Life Principles
1. Values
2. Beliefs
3. Values/Belief/action Congruence
Domains Safety/protection
1. infection
2. Physical Injury
3. Violence
4. Environmental Hazards
5. Defensive Processes
6. Thermo regulation
Domains Comfort
1. Physical Comfort
2. Environmental Comfort
3. social Comfort
Domains Growth/Development
1. Growth
2. Development

Nursing Diagnosis for Impaired Verbal Communication

2011-08-15T07:40:00.001+07:00

Related Factors

Decrease in circulation to brain, brain tumor
Anatomic deficit (e.g., cleft palate, alteration of the neurovascular visual system, auditory system, or phonatory apparatus)
Difference related to developmental age
Physical barrier (tracheostomy, intubation)
Physiological conditions [e.g., dyspnea]; alteration of central nervous system (CNS); weakening of the musculoskeletal system
Psychological barriers (e.g., psychosis, lack of stimuli); emotional conditions [depression, panic, anger]; stress
Environmental barriers
Cultural difference
Lack of information
Side effects of medication
Alteration of self-esteem or self-concept
Altered perceptions
Absence of SO(s)

Defining Characteristics

SUBJECTIVE

[Reports of difficulty expressing self]

OBJECTIVE

Unable to speak dominant language
Speaks or verbalizes with difficulty
Does not or cannot speak
Disorientation in the three spheres of time, space, person
Stuttering; slurring

Nursing Interventions Pneumonia

2011-08-15T07:34:00.001+07:00

Nursing Interventions Pneumonia

Ineffective airway clearance related to inflammation, accumulation of secretionsGoal :
Effective way of breath, lung ventilation is adequate and there is no buildup of secretions.
Interventions :
- Monitor respiratory status every 2 hours, review the increase in respiratory status and abnormal breath sounds.
- Perform percussion, vibration and postural drainage every 4-6 hours.
- Give appropriate oxygen therapy program.
- Help cough up secretions / suction mucus.
- Give the comfortable position that allows the patient to breathe.
- Create a comfortable environment so that patients can sleep calmly.
- Monitor blood gas analysis to assess respiratory status.
- Give drink enough.
- Provide sputum for culture / sensitivity test.
- Manage provision of appropriate antibiotics and other drugs program.

Nursing Diagnosis for Pulmonary Tuberculosis

2011-08-15T07:27:00.001+07:00

Nursing Diagnosis for Pulmonary Tuberculosis

Nursing Diagnosis : Ineffective airway clearance related to :
- thick secretions
- weakness, bad cough efforts
- edema, tracheal / pharyngeal
Nursing Diagnosis : Impaired gas exchange related to :
- reduced effectiveness of lung surface
- atelectasis
- alveolar capillary membrane damage
- thick secretions
- bronchial edema
Nursing Diagnosis : Risk for infection related to :
- decreased immune system
- cilia function declines
- secretions that settle
- tissue damage due to the spread of infection
- malnutrition
- contaminated by the environment
- lack of knowledge about infectious germs
Nursing Diagnosis : Imbalanced Nutrition Less then Body Requirements related to :
- fatigue
- coughing frequently
- the production of sputum
- dyspnea
- anorexia
- impairment of financial capability
Nursing Diagnosis : Knowledge deficit about the condition, treatment, prevention relating to :
- nothing is explained
- wrong interpretation
- the information obtained is incomplete / inaccurate
- lack of knowledge / cognitive.

Nursing Care Plan for Deficient Fluid volume

2011-08-15T07:22:00.000+07:00

Definition : Decreased intravascular, interstitial, and or intracellular fluid.

Related Factors:
Active fluid volume loss; failure of regulatory mechanisms

Deficient Fluid volume Characteristics : Decreased urine output, increased urine concentration, weakness, sudden weight loss, decreased venous filling, increased body temperature, decreased pulse volume or pressure, change in mental state, elevated hematocrit, decreased skin or tongue turgor; dry skin/mucous membranes, thirst, increased pulse rate, decreased blood pressure.

Deficient Fluid volume Outcomes

Maintains urine output more than 1300 ml/day (or at least 30 ml/hr)
Maintains normal blood pressure, pulse, and body temperature
Maintains elastic skin turgor; moist tongue and mucous membranes; and orientation to person, place, time
Explains measures that can be taken to treat or prevent fluid volume loss
Describes symptoms that indicate the need to consult with health care provider

Nursing Care Plan for Acute Pain

2011-08-15T07:20:00.001+07:00

Acute Pain

Definition:

An unpleasant sensory and emotional experience arising in an actual or potential tissue damage or describe the damage (International Association of Pain Study): a sudden attack or low in intensity from mild to severe which can be anticipated by the end of a predictable and with a duration less than 6 months .

Defining Characteristics:

Report of verbal or non verbal
The fact of the observation
Antalgic position to avoid pain
Movement to protect
Cautious behavior
Face masks
Sleep disturbances (eyes glazed, looking tired, difficult or chaotic motion, grinning)
Focused on self-
Focus narrowed (decreased perception of time, the damage is thought process, decreased interaction with people and the environment)
Behavior distraction, for example: roads, meet other people and / or activities, repetitive activities)
Autonomic Response (such as diaphoresis, changes in blood pressure, changes in breathing, pulse and dilated pupils)
Changes in muscle tone, autonomic (probably in the range from weak to stiff)
Expressive behavior (eg, restlessness, moaning, crying, alert, irritable, breath / bitching)
Changes in appetite and drinking

Nursing Care Plan for Activity Intolerance

2011-08-15T07:16:00.000+07:00

Nursing Care Plan for Activity Intolerance

A nursing care plan for Activity Intolerance is used when a patient has insufficient physiological or psychological energy to endure or complete required or desired daily activities

Most activity intolerance is related to generalized weakness and debilitation secondary to acute or chronic illness and disease. Activity intolerance may also be related to factors such as obesity, malnourishment, side effects of medications, or emotional states such as depression or lack of confidence to exert one’s self. Nursing goals are to reduce the effects of inactivity, promote optimal physical activity, and assist the patient to maintain a satisfactory lifestyle.

Related to:

Generalized weakness / Fatigue
Malnourishment
Chronic disease
Stressors
Insufficient sleep or rest periods
Prolonged immobility/bed rest
Depression
Lack of motivation
Imbalance of oxygen supply and demand
Pain

NANDA List Approved Nursing Diagnosis 2009 - 2011

2011-07-08T09:59:00.002+07:00

Nanda – Approved Nursing Diagnosis 2010 -2011

NANDA Approved Nursing Diagnosis 2007-2008 contains 188 nursing diagnosis, latest NANDA-I Approved Nursing Diagnosis 2009-2011 contains an additional 21 new nursing diagnosis, 9 revisions diagnosis and some of diagnosis are not used again. Total nursing diagnosis at this time is 205 nursing diagnosis.

Nanda I usually revised every 2 years, but this time NANDA I publish a list of NANDA Nursing Diagnosis for period of three years.

Nursing Diagnosis for Myocardial Infarction

2011-06-21T00:59:00.001+07:00

Nursing Diagnosis for Myocardial Infarction

Myocardial infarction, commonly known as a heart attack, is the irreversible necrosis of heart muscle secondary to prolonged ischemia. This usually results from an imbalance in oxygen supply and demand, which is most often caused by plaque rupture with thrombus formation in a coronary vessel, resulting in an acute reduction of blood supply to a portion of the myocardium.

Nursing Diagnosis for Myocardial Infarction

Acute Pain related to ischemic tissue, secondary to clogged arteries.
Decreased Cardiac Output related to changes in power factors, reduction miocard characteristics.
Activity Intolerance related to the imbalance between oxygen supply and demand miocard, the ischemic / necrotic tissue miocard.
Imbalanced Nutrition: Less than Body Requirements related to decreased renal perfusion, increased sodium / water retention, increased hydrostatic pressure, decreased plasma proteins.
Ineffective Tissue Perfusion related to ischemic heart muscle damage, narrowing / blockage of coronary arteries.
Anxiety related to actual threats to biological integrity.
Ineffective Coping
Ineffective Sexuality Patterns

Source : http://nandanursingdiagnosis.com

Nursing Diagnosis for Hypertension

2011-06-21T00:54:00.001+07:00

Nursing Diagnosis for Hypertension

High blood pressure; HBP; Blood pressure - high

Hypertension is the term used to describe high blood pressure.

Blood pressure is a measurement of the force against the walls of your arteries as the heart pumps blood through the body.

Blood pressure readings are measured in millimeters of mercury (mmHg) and usually given as two numbers -- for example, 120 over 80 (written as 120/80 mmHg). One or both of these numbers can be too high.

The top number is your systolic pressure.

It is considered high if it is over 140 most of the time.
It is considered normal if it is below 120 most of the time.

The bottom number is your diastolic pressure.

It is considered high if it is over 90 most of the time.
It is considered normal if it is below 80 most of the time.

Pre-hypertension may be considered when your:

Top number (systolic blood pressure) is between 120 and 139 most of the time, or
Bottom number (diastolic blood pressure) is between 80 and 89 most of the time

If you have pre-hypertension, you are more likely to develop high blood pressure.

If you have heart or kidney problems, or if you had a stroke, your doctor may want your blood pressure to be even lower than that of people who do not have these conditions.

ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

Nursing Diagnosis for Hypertension

Risk for Decreased Cardiac Output related to increased afterload, vasoconstriction, myocardial ischemia, ventricular hypertrophy

Pain: headache related to increased cerebral vascular pressure

Ineffective Tissue perfusion : cerebral, renal, cardiac related to circulatory disorder

Knowledge Deficit related to lack of information about the disease process and self-care

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Action Movies - The Dark Knight (2008)

2011-06-21T00:47:00.002+07:00

The Dark Knight (2008)
Movie Information

Genre:
Action | Adventure

Main Cast:
Christian Bale
Michael Caine
Heath Ledger
Aaron Eckhart
Gary Oldman
Maggie Gyllenhaal
Morgan Freeman

Director:
Christopher Nolan

About the movie:
The Dark Knight, which is part of Christopher Nolan's Batman film series is follow-up to the action-hit Batman Begins (2005). Christian Bale reprises the role of the caped crusader - Batman.

The film focuses on Batman's fight against a new villain, a psychopathic criminal named Joker (Heath Ledger), who is the mastermind of numerous organized crimes in Gotham City.

With the help of Lt. Jim Gordon (Gary Oldman) and District Attorney Harvey Dent (Aaron Eckhart), Batman sets out to eliminate and dismantle the remaining criminal organizations that plague the city streets. Their partnership proves to be effective, but they soon find themselves prey to a reign of chaos unleashed by a rising criminal mastermind known to the terrified citizens of Gotham as the Joker.

Movie Trivia:

The Dark Knight is the first Batman movie without "Batman" in the title.

Matt Damon was the first choice of Christopher Nolan to play the role of Harvey Dent but he turned it down.

Other actors that were considered to have a part in the film are Jake Gyllenhaal, Hugh Jackman, John Lucas and Ryan Phillippe.

Source : http://best-action-movies.blogspot.com/

Wanted - Action Movies

2011-06-21T00:38:00.002+07:00

Wanted (2008)

Genre:
Action | Adventure

Cast:
James McAvoy
Morgan Freeman
Angelina Jolie
Terence Stamp

Director:
Timur Bekmambetov

Wanted is based on a comic book miniseries created by Mark Millar. This action movie is directed by a Russian director, Timur Bekmambetov. Starring Angelina Jolie, Morgan Freeman, James McAvoy, and Terence Stamp.

Summary:
The storyline follows Wesley Gibson (James McAvoy), a cube-dwelling, frustrated office worker with a dull and depressing life. Until he crossed path with a hot female assassin named Fox (Angelina Jolie) and introduces him to The Fraternity, a secret guild of the best assassins being led by the enigmatic Sloan (Morgan Freeman).

As a new member of The Fraternity, he must undergo a series of physical tests and discover his special skills - which is similar to his father. Thru this, he could take revenge on his father's death who's once a member of the secret guild. It's his destiny to be part of The Fraternity but there some secrets that he must uncover about the guild in order to find out his own destiny.

"Working a niche somewhere between the black comedy of Fight Club and the ultrafashionable mayhem of The Matrix, Wanted is an experience that's hard to defend as a whole but mesmerizing in a highway-accident rubbernecking kind of way."
-from RottenTomatoes

Movie Trivia:

James McAvoy undergo trainings to improve his physique for preparation for his role as Wes.
James McAvoy suffered an injured knee and a twisted ankle during shooting.
According to Angelina Jolie, she based her role in Wanted on Clint Eastwood.

Source: Internet Movie Database

Source : Action-Movies

Avatar (2009) action sci-fi movie

2011-06-21T00:32:00.002+07:00

Avatar (2009)

Genre:
Action | Sci-fi

Cast:
Sam Worthington
Zoe Saldana
Sigourney Weaver
Stephen Lang
Joel David Moore
Michelle Rodriguez

Director:
James Cameron

Avatar is a science fiction film written and directed by the top-caliber director, James Cameron (Aliens and Terminator). Avatar is a live action film with a new generation of special effects and revolutionary technology that made the film a cinematic masterpiece.

Summary:
Avatar is an epic adventure movie that will take us into a spectacular alien world beyond our imagination – that will surely take our breath away. “On the distant moon Pandora, a reluctant hero embarks on a journey of redemption, discovery and unexpected love -- as he leads a heroic battle to save a civilization.” -CinemaBlend

Set in the year 2154, a group of scientists and selected military personnel is on a mission to Pandora to find rare minerals, that is the key to solving Earth’s energy crisis.

To learn about Pandora’s biosphere and its inhabitants called Na’vi, scientists developed an Avatar Program. Avatars are genetically engineered hybrids of human DNA mixed with DNA of Na’vi that are operated via mental link of its avatar operator. Jake Sully, a paraplegic ex-Marine is recruited to be part of the mission and replaces his twin brother who was part of the program.

As Jake begins to appreciate the beauty and secrets of Pandora, he finds himself torn between the ruthless military-industrial forces of Earth, and the Na’vi - forcing him to choose sides and fight back in an epic battle for the fate of Pandora.

"It might be more impressive on a technical level than as a piece of storytelling, but Avatar reaffirms James Cameron's singular gift for imaginative, absorbing filmmaking." -Rottentomatoes

Movie Trivia:

Avatar is one of the most expensive movies ever made (as of December 2009), with an estimated budget of US $280,000,000.
It is also the first movie to reach more than US$ 2.5 billion mark worldwide, making it the highest grossing film in history.
James Cameron was convinced that CGI effects had improved to make this film as what he had imagined when he saw Gollum in The Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers (2002).

Source: Internet Movie DataBase

Source : http://best-action-movies.blogspot.com/

Forever Love

2011-06-20T22:12:00.001+07:00

Forever Love

You are my description of love
You are my description of friend
You are my description of everything
You are my description of beginning to end.

You have put me on a pedestal
You make me feel ten feet tall
You've always been there for me
You've loved me through it all.

You've stood by me through thick and thin
You've always been patient and kind
Just thought I'd let you know
You're the owner of this heart of mine.

So you ask how long I'll love you
Well this is what I have to say
Past, present, future, always
Forever and a day!

10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Boyfriend

2011-06-20T22:05:00.001+07:00

10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Boyfriend -- You pride yourself on your open, honest relationship. But that doesn't mean you should blurt out any thought that comes to mind.

Sometimes, a comment that seems perfectly harmless to you might be hurtful, awkward or just plain irritating to your boyfriend.

Excelle has identified 10 such comments. Ignore us at your own risk!

1) "My ex did the exact same thing!"

Whether it's a desirable resemblance (they both always hold the door open) or a less desirable one (neither one showers often enough), your boyfriend never wants to hear that he's anything like your ex. Ever.

You don’t want him to feel like you're always comparing the two of them, do you? Think about it: Do you really want him to imagine that he does other things just like your ex? Doubtful. Plus, he might think you're still hung up on your former flame.

Either way, a comment like this won’t do much for his self-esteem. So the next time you experience boyfriend deja-vu, keep it to yourself.

2) "Helen's pregnant ... Shhhh"

Remember on Sex and the City when Carrie tells Aidan that Miranda's pregnant but that he can't tell Steve? Remember how upset Aidan was to hear the incriminating news? Your boyfriend doesn't want to hear information that could get him into trouble. And even if he does want to hear it, he really shouldn't.

Don't burden him with someone else’s secret. And besides, if he does spill the beans, your friend is going to be mad at you, not him.

Along the same lines, he doesn't want to hear about your friend’s yeast infections, her irregular periods or her IBS. It's bad enough he has to hear about yours.

3) "When we're married/have kids..."

It's natural to fantasize about wedded bliss and the three kids you and your beau will one day spawn — you’re only human. And sometimes you might even entertain this fantasy very early on in a relationship. But unless you want to scare him away permanently, keep thoughts like these in your head where they belong.

Even if he himself has thought about your happily-ever-after future, he probably doesn't want to hear it described out loud just yet. Wait until you're sure you're on the same page regarding marriage, kids, and the future of your relationship before you start prophesizing. A gut feeling probably isn’t good enough.

4) "Do You Think She's Pretty?"

When you ask a question like this, your boyfriend knows he can’t win.

If he says “yes,” you’ll probably get jealous and upset. You might even follow up with “Is she prettier than me?” Talk about a loaded question!

Of course, if he says “no” (and she clearly is pretty), you’ll accuse him of being a liar. You’ll wonder what else he’s lying about, even as you assure him you don’t mind if he says “yes.” Pfff…as if you’re that insecure!

Has he managed to convince you that he genuinely doesn’t find her attractive at all? You’ll wonder what his bad taste says about you.

See?

5) "I'm fine" or "Never mind"
Your face says it all. So does the fact that you haven't said a word in the past hour. And the way you snapped over the misplaced remote control isn't hiding anything either. But when he asks if you’re okay, you say you're fine. At this point, your boyfriend wants to tear his hair out.

Passive-aggressive behavior doesn't help anyone. First, you miss an opportunity to actually address what’s bothering you. You also bottle up your frustrations and create new problems. By the time you actually try to tackle what’s really bothering you, you’re both too upset about too many things to have a constructive discussion.

6) "I just let one go" In a man's mind, women only use the bathroom to re-apply their lipstick (or, at the very worst, pee). They know they're kidding themselves, but they really don't want any physical, verbal, or olfactory indication of the contrary.

Announcing your bodily function means he can no longer blame the dog. Suddenly, you're one of the guys, and not in a sexy, "I watch football and drink beer but I'm still a girlie-girl" kind of way.

Sure, he'll get over it. He may even laugh about it from time to time. But he'd still prefer that it never happened. So depending on how squeamish your guy is, you might want to wait till you're married to be disgusting.

7) “I’ll try anything once!”
Because unless you really, really, really mean it, don’t get his hopes up.

8) “Are you sure you're okay?"
(Repeatedly. Even after he’s told you he really is okay.)

Sometimes we’re thrown off guard when our guy is uncharacteristically quiet. We’ll prod and probe, hoping to get to the bottom of their issue (and too often, we're absolutely sure it’s something we’ve done). When in reality, there may not be a concrete reason at all.

Men have bad days too — they can be moody, tired, or just generally not feel like talking. They’re only human! As hard as it can be, don’t read into it too much. Give him his space and keep yourself busy until he snaps out of it.

Ask him what’s bothering him over and over again and the only honest answer will be “You.”

9) “I hate my thighs” If he didn’t find you attractive, he wouldn’t be with you in the first place. Period, end of story.

Putting yourself down in front of him makes you look insecure, and just in case you didn’t know, men really hate that (see #6). Just like women, they’re usually attracted to self-confidence and put off by its opposite.

Think about it. Would you want to be with a man who constantly talked about how much he hated his calves or how he felt like a failure in his career? Uh, no way.

In addition, you’ll draw attention to flaws that he probably never even noticed before. No one else looks as closely at your body as you do. In all likelihood, you are your own worst critic. Don’t recruit him.

10) "I hate your mom"
Likewise for his friends, his siblings, his dad … even his dog.

If he really loves someone or something, don’t hate on ‘em. You may not get along perfectly with everyone in his life, but try your hardest to be diplomatic in your relationships with people he really cares about. Be open-minded about what he sees in them (things that may not be immediately obvious to you).

Maybe Deadbeat Dave is his oldest friend — the person he survived middle school with; the only person who stood by him when he lost his job a couple years back. Maybe despite his lack of attention to hygiene, he’s got a heart of gold.

If you love your man, you’ll trust his judgment.

And whatever you do, don’t ever make him pick a side. If it’s between you and his mom, you’ll lose every time

By Tania Khadder for Excelle

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