1) Theory

• The dictionary definition of theory is: “a supposition or a system of ideas intended to explain something, especially one based on general principles independent of the thing to be explained.”
• Ultimately a theory is only useful in it’s ability to understand, predict or manipulate reality
• Reality for all intents and purposes is physical, the people, places and things in the physical universe is what most people agree is reality
• The only reason people take scientist and engineers seriously is their ability to predict reality, like weather patterns for example, or to manipulate reality, like the creation of the smartphone
• Once a theory can accurately predict reality it becomes a belief
• Once a theory can accurately manipulate reality it becomes a thing
• A theory is the lowest level of certainty

2) Beliefs

• The dictionary definition of belief is: “an acceptance that something exists or is true, especially one without proof.”
• I believe World War 2 happened, but I don’t know for sure, I wasn’t there
• But I also believe that a lot of our history is deliberate misinformation, because history is written by the winners, who have a massive motivation to control the narrative
• A belief is the middle level of certainty

3) Knowledge

• Knowledge is: “awareness or familiarity gained by experience of a fact or situation.”
• The key measurement for knowledge is experience: “for example, I know I’m communicating to you right now either through my website or my youtube channel” (excluding the theory we live in a simulation)
• Knowledge is the highest level of certainty, when you’re certain you know\
• So the questions become:
• Are my theories serving me by allowing to create a better life?
• Are my beliefs accurate or am I limiting my potential by limiting my beliefs and mistaking those beliefs for knowledge and certainty?

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The formula for Lethargy = Hatred + Failure

Hatred of what you’re doing and failure to progress at it.

This is why so many people lack energy, they hate their job and there is no room to progress, it’s just a straight, sh*t-tier salary for life for doing the same thing every day.

The formula for Energy is the exact opposite.

The formula for Energy = Passion + Progress.

Passion for what you’re doing and progress towards your goal.

This is especially true as an entrepreneur.

If you’re not waking up with energy you’re either not passionate about what you’re doing or not making progress towards your goals, and by that I mean real goals that excite you.

We’re programmed to achieve goals without exception.

This is why the absolute best frame to navigate the world with is to play life like a game with many different mini games containing endless levels and goals.

Without new goals and progress hedonic adaptation sets in, no matter how well you’re doing. You get a short term boost and then that expensive car becomes the new normal. Hedonic adaptation is why all the things that made you happy as a kid don’t make you happy anymore, like ice cream, or toys or amusement parks, you already experience them enough that you’ve adapted to their pleasures.  This is one of life’s ironies because as an adult you can finally afford to buy all the stuff you wanted as a kid.

As an adult steady energy doesn’t come from ice cream or toys, it comes from regular progress towards a goal. Just like with the video games you played as a kid, you need to be moving forward in the game of life to get that dopamine release. The more progress you make, and the faster you move, the more dopamine is released. That’s why you want to celebrate a plateau, but never set up camp there. Because with out new plateaus to reach and progress towards them, the euphoria you felt will be followed by depression and lethargy.

This why guys like Grant Cardone and Gary Vee have so much energy, because they’re passionate and aggressively progressing towards big, fun aggressive goals. Succesful people work hard because hard work gets you more progress faster which gets you more dopamine release.

Don’t fight it, just accept it and be about it. Be in the right business and take aggressive action. If you can’t get passionate about selling real estate, get passionate about the money and the territories to conquer. Or get into a vehicle that you really want to be in. You only have one life so don’t settle for a job you hate that has you struggling to get out of bed.

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Summary

• In Toronto, VCs wanted to see you were in an incubator like we were, had hockey stick traction and 25,000 in monthly revenue. If we had those things we wouldn’t have needed VC money because we could pay for exponential marketing scale ourselves.
• If you’re not in an incubator or have connections in that industry it’s tough to even get in the room with these guys because they have so many people pitching them deals
• They can afford to be picky because they have money, they’re the buyer, and they have what everyone wants
• They also want to hear big revenue projections, they’re not interested in companies aiming to do a few million a year as we found out. This is because VC’s have hundreds of millions of dollars in capital they need to deploy, and they know 90% of the companies they invest in will fail, so they need to hit big winners on the companies that do succeed
• A client I have who’s secured millions in financing said VCs operate more like entrepreneurs than banks and are interested in the dream, the big vision and a company with a charismatic founder, they’re home run hitters

• Getting debt is a completely different ballgame because banks operate completely differently than VCs
• My clients also secured millions in debt and broke down for me that pitching a loan is not about dreamselling its about consistent revenue over time
• Banks will punish you for dreamselling, what they want to hear is that you’re cash flow positive and will do more of what’s already making you money
• Bankers are bean counters not ex entrepeneurs (like VCs), they are risk averse
• Bank officers don’t like risk they just want their 6% or whatever the interest rate is over the next decade
• They also want to build a relationship with you as someone they can loan more money to over time and count on you to pay it back
• Banks are similar to VCs only in the sense of having revenue targets (because they have shareholders to please) which means they need dependable people to loan money too because they have literally billions of dollars they need to loan out at interest
• Dan Pena describes getting a bank loan like this: “Borrowing money from a bank is like having sex. You both want it, need reassurance of your intentions – and foreplay.”
• Dan Pena also has good tips on getting business loans in his book “How To Make Your First 100 million”
• A lot of guys talk down usury and fiat currency but debt is a magnifier, if your business is already cash flow positive and you can get millions in debt to pump into marketing that scales, debt can make a lot of sense for your business – leverage is the fastest way to 10x
• More than new clients, new territories, cutting costs, nothing scales your business faster than leverage
• The other great thing about corporate debt is you’re not liable for it, unlike personal debt which avoid like the plague
• That said you don’t want to get a bunch of leverage in advance of a profitable business model for a low margin business – eg. getting a loan with your house as collateral to open a Subway franchise that you don’t even know will be profitable – as opposed to getting a loan for to spend on online ads for your already profitable, high margin, high ticket, residential real estate business
• Of the two I’d much prefer debt as opposed to giving away a piece of my business, with that said my founder-based lifestyle business (especially some of the content) is not that attractive for either, empires sell much better than lifestyle business for both VC money and debt

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HOW TO MAKE MORE MONEY AS A PRO POKER PLAYER NOTES

1. Plug up your life leaks
2. Eat, train, and sleep like an athlete
3. Understand your cycles and manage expectations
4. Only play against garbage players if possible
5. Take ego out of the equation
6. Don’t play above your bankroll, you can’t afford the variance.
7. Triple down on winning games
8. Get rid of losing games
9. Let this be your mantra and write it everywhere: I won’t let my feelings cost me money
10. Be process oriented instead of results oriented
11. Long term thinking over short term thinking
12. Save your money, don’t spend, but also don’t worry about investing it
13. Do 1 hour of study a day
14. Do a 1 hour gameplay audit everyday – all your money is in the mistakes
15. Increase your output. If your hourly rate is 100 plus, the most profitable thing you can do is work more hours.
16. Get your money now. From every poker player I’ve talked with the money is less and the competition is stronger. Now is the time to grind.
17. Allow for no distractions and disruptions of your routine
18. Get your time zone right — focus your 8 hours a day on the most profitable time to play (even if that means playing at night)
19. Get your taxes right
20. Put effort into finding international skill arbitrage opportunities.
21. Focus only on poker, your best ROI is playing more poker or studying poker, not trying to build a side business. Worry about building a business when you can’t get any more poker money.
22. Get a coach, the best athletes in the world have coaches and you should too. 

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Money is meant to be spent, that’s the only reason money exists, and that’s exactly how you should look at money. That’s why I think of savings targets and revenue targets as spending targets. When I put money into a bank account, I look at that as spending money on financial security. And the highest form of spending is investing, to me everything is an investment.

When I reinvest money into my business, I look at that as spending money on financial security, significance, and fulfillment. When I buy new clothes I look at that as spending money on self esteem. Ultimately you need to look at money as energy, energy can’t be created or destroyed and it always has to go somewhere.

Money is the same, you’re always spending it somewhere. And you’re either spending it on things that help you or things that hurt you. When you spend money on drugs, alcohol, junk food, or media that makes you unhappy, you’re spending money on things they hurt you. You’re working hard all week to take that money and spend it on things that make your condition in life worse.

Looking at money as spending or investing also makes the game a lot more fun, savings targets aren’t fun because they’re defensive. You want spending targets like: “how do I spend 40k a month by the time I’m 40?”. And breaking that down to rent, reinvestment, financial security, food, entertainment, women, toys, condos – whatever it is that you want, have a plan for all of it. I know exactly how much I want to make by 40, I have the spending targets, and I have every dollar accounted for – you should too.

I promise, when you start looking at money offensively, and everything as an investment, money immediately becomes more valuable, the money game becomes so much more fun, and you will be much more motivated to go out and make more money.

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Life is one part competition and one part cooperation. Competition between you, your tribe and other people and their tribes for food, clothing, shelter, resources, status, money and women.

Cooperation for the all the above as being kind to strangers and helping people in need.

Some people don’t want to accept the necessary competition in the game of life.

And some people think that it’s every man for himself and cooperation is for the weak

But the reality is, it’s not Hobbes vs Locke, it’s Hobbes and Locke, humans have the capacity for competition and cooperation.

We evolved in tribes, and being able to compete with other tribes and animals was essential to survive.

It was also essential to be able to cooperate with each other, the survival of your tribe depended on it.

As a result, our imprint for self esteem arose from these conditions.

Self esteem for being a successful competitor who and self esteem for being a good person who helps his people.

And those two pillars are still the foundation of our self esteem, success and goodness.

Success: when you’re being honest, is a competition, and it’s ugly one. When I teach you how to be successful it’s always in comparison to those who aren’t. Or to get client money, you’re competing for that. That attractive girlfriend, you took her off the market away from a lot of guys who would have wanted her. Success is creating win/lose scenarios for your competitors. That first pillar of self esteem, success, is by definition a competition – its defined in contrast to people who aren’t successful. A harsh truth, but a truth nonetheless. And success is something that can’t be faked, it’s defined by external metrics in the world, and all the NLP patterns you run won’t change that reality.

Goodness: Goodness comes from how well you can cooperate with others, or how ethical you are. Goodness is often in opposition to success, but it doesn’t have to be. There are plenty of successful people who play the game fairly and ethically. Even though it’s win/lose, you can still play to win on the field and shake hands after. Goodness like success is also defined by it’s opposite.

You could even extend the pillars from competition/cooperation to success/goodness to material/spiritual…

How successful you are in your worldly mission vs. how kind and consciously evolved you are.

The ideal place to play is in balance.

A purely material person ends up like Jordan Belfort in Wolf Of Wall Street, robbing widows for millions and drowning themselves with drugs, just to get through the day without thinking how much they hate themselves. A purely material life without goodness leads to self hatred. Money cannot buy self worth and self love.

A purely spiritual life on the other hand can make you a lot happier, the happiest man in the world, as measured by his brain waves, is Matthieu Ricard, a buddhist monk who lives in a monastery. Unfortunately most guys, myself included don’t have that kind of discipline. And trying to live a purely spiritual life in the midst of a big city ends in poverty, no dating prospects, and loneliness.

I recommend take the middle path to self esteem by balancing both aspects. That means pursuing success, money and women in an ethical way, but also making time to help others and pursue your spiritual path, to be truly fulfilled you need both.

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1. Right Information

Service business is your highest probability of success. The business failure rate is 90%, the right information will help you beat the odds. The wrong information cost me half a decade of failure. All the effort, courage and work ethic won’t save you when you’re in the wrong business.

2. Courage

It takes courage to start a business. Courage to keep going in spite of obstacles. Courage to call 100 people a day and get the phone slammed down in your ear. Courage to close. Courage to handle angry clients. Courage to have uncomfortable conversations every day of the week.

3. Aggression

Every single successful person I know is aggressive, they aggressively pursue revenue. They wake up and fall asleep thinking about their monthly revenue target. Every guy I know who failed wasn’t aggressive enough, without exception. You’re taught not to push, not to be aggressive, not to openly pursue money because it’s ugly and it’s crass and it’s commercial, yet it’s exactly what you need to do to get ahead.

4. Work Ethic

10 hours a day for 5 years.And not bullsh*t business research, actual painful work that makes you money. Getting your designation. Building your site and your sales page. Making 100 outbound calls a day until you can afford to pay for the inbound marketing or build your inbound marketing machine (RLD is an organic inbound marketing machine).

5. Pain Tolerance

The ability to do the above for as long as it takes to win 10 hours a day 7 days a week. Entrepreneurship in the beginning is very painful when you’re going 100%.

6. Sales Skills

If you can’t close you can’t make money. Sales is your ticket to making 250k a year. Being able to be an excellent salesman makes up for a lot of other weaknesses. I worked with guys in sales making 250k a year who couldn’t send an email without a typo and had never read a book in their lives.You need to live and breathe sales. I recommend my book How To Sell.

7. Marketing Skills

The biggest mistake I made in the last five years was not mastering marketing. Marketing is what allows you to get attention and to scale. It’s also your ticket to getting out of having to do aggressive outbound. Once you’ve got enough cash from outbound you can pay 10k a month for ads and be able to convert your business into an inbound selling machine.

8. Organization

Having a daily disciplined structure that you follow every day so that you can handle the complexity of running your business and life without distraction. I recommend my book How To Get Organized.

9. IQ

IQ is important, it’s very difficult to succeed with a below average IQ unless you have an exceptional talent like singing or being able to play sports at a high level. But it’s also the least important skill on the list. There are barely literate sales guys making 250K a year and guys with PHDs in medieval history working at Starbucks. The most common thing in the world is high IQ unsuccessful guys because they don’t have the right information and they don’t aggressively go after getting money.

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The Four Major Human Motivators In Order

1. Force: Gun to your head you’ll do anything, governments and mafias understand this
2. Shame: Next to fear of force, fear of shame is #2, you’d be hard pressed to find someone who would perform a bodily function naked in public
3. Money: Making money keeps people together and working jobs they hate for decades, no money no girlfriend or wife
4. Love: Love is the only positive motivation but love of money, love of Christ, love of success, love of food

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Advanced Selling: 3 Crucial Keys To Closing High Ticket Clients

1) Stop Holding High Status Buyers Sacred

• Your potential client’s status and net worth don’t matter
• Money and status are merely mass agreements that exist between our ears
• Your merely having a conversation with another human animal wearing cloth who breathes the same air as you
• It doesn’t matter what his net worth is, it only matters if he’s paying you
• A guy making $25,000 a year who buys from you is worth more than a billionaire who doesn’t
• Never allow anyone’s status or net worth to throw you off your sales system
• because who cares, 2 because who cares unless he pays you,f*ck networking, 5 figure guys pay me for coaching, worth more than hedge fund guys on my Linkedin)

2) Buying Questions Vs. Objections Vs. Complaints Vs. Aggressive Interruptions

• A buying question is a request for more information about your product or service, this is what you want to hear. Some buyer’s just need some clarification on a few issues and are ready to go. Don’t make the mistake of trying to objection manage a buying question, if all you hear is buying questions, just listen to all the questions, answer them, and go for the close.
• An objection is a reason not to buy, this is also what you want to hear, you should be excited to get to the objections because you know it’s one step closer to closing and your objection management is so tight. Every deal comes with objections so recognize that just by getting to objections there is still an interest in the buyer’s part and you’re one step closer to closing the deal.
• A complaint is a problem with the product, service or price (often times the price). That said just because I client is complaining doesn’t mean they don’t want to buy. It also doesn’t mean you have to go into your objection management script. He might just be venting out loud and you’re the person there to hear it. Eg. when it comes to the ask he says: “$10,000 is a lot of money” and you say “I hear you…(pause), so you good to move forward on this?”
• An aggressive interruption is a potential buyer trying to take control of the conversations. This is almost always a disagreeable person and many times is successful and used to having people do what they want. If you run your own business it’s your choice to rule them out right there, disagreeable people tend to keep being disagreeable and difficult. If you want to move forward you need to check them, eg. “Hey John, happy to answer that but I want us to be able to stay in cooperation and be respectful of each other.” Of all four scenarios aggressive interruptions have the highest probability of the client not buying. You need to get them back into agreeable and on the same page as you to make the deal, you can’t close from the defensive where you’re stuttering and apologizing.

3) The Only Objection is Money (With Value And Trust As Funnels)

Value, Trust, Money is a funnel. Value: That your service or product is valuable. Trust: That you can deliver the value and won’t hurt their reputation or Money: That your product is worth the money. For a potential customer or client the pain of not having the product/service has to be greater than the pain of spending the money.

When the pain of spending the money is greater than the solution, the client or customer won’t buy, despite whatever words come out of there mouth, money is the only objection. They’d buy your insurance policy if it was free, or the house you’re selling, or your fitness training, or your new smartphone.

Your job as a salesman or as an entrepreneur who sells is to isolate the objection, get them down to the pain of paying and get them to agree that it’s more painful not having your solution/product then it is to pay you the money. That’s what selling is at it’s core. That said, its still a funnel to get to money, they need to see value in the product and at least have some interest (most people won’t take a 1997 Palm Pilot even if it’s free). And for some services, they need to trust you (an example being a service where you could possibly misuse or steal their personal data or harm the business in some way, like if you handle their online marketing).

4) Don’t Sound Like A Salesman

You want to get to a human to human conversation as soon as possible. As contradictory as it might seem, the last thing you want to sound like is a salesman. Of course you’re selling, you know that and so does he. But everyone person on the planet has resistance to salesmen, especially guys who sound like they’re reading a script, they’re knee jerk reaction is distrust and discomfort. You want to assume rapport and speak like you would to a friend, cheerful and charming. Focus on solving client problems as a human to human or man to man conversation.

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A verbal contract isn’t worth the paper it’s printed on because words are worthless.

Words cost nothing and therefore prove nothing.

Cost is what’s key, the price to pay is action.

Actions you DON’T want to do.

That’s when you know you’re committed.

Anyone can work when they’re motivate on things they want to do but motivation is a luxury.

It’s dedication that gets you to your destination.

Same goes for who you let into your inner circle.

She can tell you that you’re her world but her words don’t mean anything without action.

It’s easy for her to be happy when you’re wining and dining her because she’s doing what she wants to do.

But that’s not loyalty.

Loyalty is about doing what you don’t want to do because you care about that person.

And doing it consistently.

That’s why the equation for loyalty = actions + time.

The minimum price to pay for entry into your inner circle should be helping you move at the last minute if asked.

Everyone else is an acquaintance.

Same applies to you when you want to demonstrate loyalty to others.

Same applies to your business success.

If success was easy everyone would be successful.

The reality is success means doing a lot of things you don’t want to over a long period of time.

Things like cold calls, and paying taxes, and registering companies.

Until you can afford to delegate what you hate, that’s the price of success.

Talking about it means nothing.

Time is the test of commitment, not words.

So be committed and expect commitment from everyone in your inner circle.

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Summary

• Pre internet, the problem was not enough information
• Post internet the problem is information overload
• And the vast majority of financial information is garbage, the signal to noise ration is 1/99.
• You’ve got 22 year old kids on YouTube giving financial advice to hundreds of thousands of subscribers
• Kids that haven’t even earned a hundred thousand dollars let alone a million dollars
• I’ve earned six figures in trading, sales and in personal development (and I’m not even a finance guy)
• As a young trader I had 3 mil in buying power and made 100k take home in a month…
• And I can tell you with certainty that no one knows where the market is going
• The best in the world are wrong all the time, they’re just right slightly more than they’re wrong
• And they bet big on their winners, and cut their losers quick
• But even those guys blow up, just look at Long Term Capital Management
• The best in the business, Warren Buffett, George Soros, Ray Dalio average no better than 20% a year
• But that 20% didn’t make them billionaires, not even close, because 20% doesn’t get you rich
• It was beating the S&P by 12% every year and selling that service to billionaires that got them rich
• An extra 12% compounded every year is worth next to nothing to a poor person who’s $10,000 investment nets them $1200 a year
• But that extra 12% compounded is worth a literal fortune to a billionaire, 12% on a billion dollar investment is an extra $120 million dollars a year
• Selling that extra 12% to wealth investors and taking a piece of the profits is what made Soros, Buffett, and Dalio billionaires themselves
• What got them rich was the same thing that gets everyone rich, OPM or Other People’s Money
• The same way you get rich in any other service business, from coaching, to real estate to insurance, you get OPM by selling them that you’re the best service provider
• Fund managers are really nothing more than service providers, with the service they attempt to provide being the beating of the S&P every year
• Hedge funds managers run service businesses and make their money off salesmanship, they sell their billion dollar clients that they will not only beat the S&P, but get higher, and more consistent returns then their customers
• It’s true that the best fund managers provide a superior service, but that service is worth next to nothing unless you can sell it to wealthy clients
• This is why Warren Buffett openly admits the most useful course he took was the Dale Carnegie course on How To Win Friends And Influence People
• So the best guys in the world only do 20%, which won’t get you rich as a small investor, and they only got rich themselves, by getting access to billions of dollars in investments, which you don’t have, the best you can get is a tiny bit of leverage from a broker, which you do not want, because you have no business going into debt to gamble on the stock market with your rent money
• Most financial guys are no better than economists or talking heads on CNBC who are useless at best, counterproductive at worst
• They talk with certainty about what happened and what will happen, as if they actually live off the market bets they make as opposed to the views they get as an entertainer
• The problem with many fiance guys on Youtuber throwing ideas around is we don’t know how much they invest, we don’t know their ROI, and the knowledge is rarely
• Rarely do we know his AUM, ROI, his prediction percentage (some exceptions like my friend Jason Fieber from dividendmantra who is completely transparent)
• Or you have guys talking with certainty about where bitcoin will be 20 years from now, they’re no better than Jim Cramer
• A few guys I like are MJ Demarco who tells you to get rich off building your business and then build an income tree from bonds and live off the interest
• Or Grant Cardone who tells you how to get rich from learning sales, building a service business and then moving that into a real estate fund
• Neither are my path 100% but by far better than most, and we know where they’re coming from
• You also have the frugal guys talking about saving $4 a day which just peretuates a poverty mindset and a sh*t tier life

The way to get rich is simple, get OPM, or other peoples money:

1. You do that by first learning and mastering a valuable skill
2. Second learning and mastering sales
3. Selling that service to people who need a problem solved
4. Maxing out your margins by selling your service at the highest possible price
5. Minimizing taxes
6. Dumping your profits back into your high margin business
7. High level options are OPM from investors or debt
8. Once flow is stable can potentially expand into other high income flows
9. Can also get rich/OPM off selling products but it’s harder/more capital intensive/lower marging and better suited for already wealthy and succesful entrepreneurs or exceptional IQ young guys who have a legit shot at VC money/Debt

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Why The Blue Ocean Strategy Is Bullsh*t Summary

• Blue ocean strategy comes from a book about starting a business in a new market with no competition
• As compared to a red ocean swimming with sharks and hypercompetitive
• Examples would be Uber, Facebook, AirBnB and others
• Entrepreneurs who literally invented a market for their product/service and made a lot of money in the process
• I congratulate these entrepreneurs but I think in terms of probabilities
• The failure rate for business is already 90% (or 60% depending on what stats you look at)
• Launching a successful business is hard enough as it is let alone reinventing the wheel
• And the businesses that do succeed, only 5% to 30% (depending on whose numbers you use) make more than 6 figures
• Meaning the bulk of businesses are small sole proprietorships that don’t make much money
• Reality is entrepreneurship is no joke and just succeeding means you’re beating the odds
• And that’s usually in tested, proven markets
• Blue ocean business is you trying to succeed in an untested and unproven market (hence no competition)
• For every Facebook there are a a million failures
• Sure it would be great to invent the next Uber, but it would also be great to be a movie star
• The odds are about the same
• I’m speaking from experience here, I spent a lot of time and money trying to reinvent the wheel
• Your best bet at a successful business that has a potential 6 to 7 figure income is a service business in a proven market
• Check my article on 31 six figure business to get some ideas on profitable businesses
• You can get six figures out of the vast majority of online businesses and 7 figures out of some if you can scale and teambuild
• Your highest probability of 7 figures is the big three of real estate, insurance and financial services
• With the big 3 you’d probably be better starting out selling for someone else before you go out on your end
• Even in those sales jobs you can be making more than most entrepreneurs (6 figures +)
• Yes the markets are competitive but that’s because there is so much money out there, real estate is a trillion dollar industry
• If you go hard and service the hell out of your clients, master branding, marketing and advertising you can make it
• And on top of that you can actually model other successful people
• Tons of sales programs on a broad level as well as a niche level (ie. can find real estate sales training on Youtube)
• In a blue ocean business you can’t model success because your market doesn’t exist
• You can only model approximately based on other blue ocean entrepreneurs – crossover isn’t full model though
• Don’t spend your savings and time on product dev to find no demand for your products and your blue ocean was actually a mirage

3 Exceptions

1. You’re a VC with a lot of money, connections and previous success. VCs can choose the best startup ideas, throw money at 10 of them and have 2 big successes (obv doesn’t apply to most people reading this)
2. You’re already a wealthy and successful entrepreneur. This means you have the business acumen, leadership ability and cash to take a shot. You can sink 500k into a blue ocean business, pay for the marketing, build a team, and not have to rely on investors. And you have a big financial safety net as well as multiple sources of income so you can afford to take the loss, in return for a shot at massive success (still probably not the best use of your cash, seeing as how you have high profit businesses to reinvest in)
3. You have an exceptional IQ and rockstar programming skills 

Narrowing The Competition In Your Market

• While it’s not a blue ocean strategy, I do have a client in a service business in a relatively new and growing market as an industry leader (although with competition and without creating the market). These are hard to find at the right stage, but possible. Would be difficult to give you a roadmap to duplicate though.

1. Within a broad competitive market you can niche down your market to reduce competition, for example you have a marketing company but you only do marketing for dental clinics, and your site/channel is dentalclinicmarketing.com. This way you’re an expert, your pitch is easier, closes for dentists is easier and your competition is smaller (but so is your pond to fish in).

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Defensive work is the worst, there is nothing that an any entrepreneur hates more than moving backwards. In the beginning of a business and from time to time there will be fires to put out. But if you’re consistently doing a ton of defensive work it means you need to build a better business system. Because business systems are key. The success of McDonald’s, Walmart and Amazon is 100% of a result of building incredibly efficient business systems, systems built on maintenance.

Maintenance work is the work that needs to be done every day to keep your enterprise profitable. Outside of making you money, the primary purpose of maintenance work is to keep you out of defense. Once you’ve built a good enough system and are making the necessary cash, you want to be able to outsource that maintenance work to qualified people, something I’m in the process of doing. The problem is finding the right people, the solution is to pay well and screening hard.

Offensive work is the only work you will actually enjoy in your business, f*ck enjoying the journey, thats not how it works. Entrepreneurship is about having a high pain tolerance so you can push your way back onto offense. Offense means EXPANSION and PROGRESS and progress equals happiness to the entrepreneur.

Also, from a financial perspective, it only makes sense to spend the bulk of your day doing whats most profitable. When you hire an assistant and a manager it leaves you time to close deals, plot revenue strategy, eliminate waste, build more efficient systems, expand your territory and express yourself creatively so that you can:

1) Get more customers
2) Get more money from your current customers

Expansion work is where you want to be if you want to “enjoy the journey” because no one enjoys the journey, we only enjoy doing what we love. Doing what you hate and powering through is the price to pay for eventually being able do what you love.

If you’re struggling to find your payoff and get back into expansion it means you need help on defense and you need a better system on maintenance – that’s it, but know it can be done. And if you can’t look forward to today, just look forward to being able to delegate what you hate and keep powering through until you can get back on offense.

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An expat entrepreneur, as opposed to a digital nomad, is an entrepreneur who moves abroad because of better business opportunities. A digital nomad is a homeless vagrant in need of a shower. I’ve lived in Chiang Mai for 4 years and you do not want to aspire to be one of these guys.

You don’t want to aspire to be an expat entrepreneur either, it’s just a short hand term I use to describe specific actions but I’m not a mark for it and neither should you be. What you should aspire to be is happy, and building a location independent business and moving offshore can definitely make you happier:

Benefits

1. Lowering Or Eliminating Your Tax Bill
2. Geoarbitraging Your Income
3. Geoarbitraging Your Sexual Market Value
4. Better Weather 
5. Better Lifestyle: being around more fun and cheerful people
6. Better Investment Opportunities: eg. land appreciates faster in Cambodia than Canada
7. Better Business Opportunities: major opportunities in the service sector
8. Safer Bank Accounts: Singapore and Hong Kong bank accounts are some of the safest in the world, and Singapore has never had a bank failure. America has had hundreds, and American banks don’t even crack the top 30 worldwide.
9. Better interest rates: 4% and up is possible even on USD, check out deposits.org to find the best deals
10. Multiple Passports: Multiple passports are some of the best financial and safety insurance you can buy
11. Travel: I personally hate travelling, but I like living in new places, having a location independent business allows you to live and travel wherever you want
12. Better treatment: Some countries treat you a lot better then back home and the smart move is to go where you’re treated best.
13. Safety: Avoiding political/economic or potential political unrest: Don’t think it can’t or won’t happen in your country. It’s happening in Venezuela right now. It happened in Russia in the 1920s. Germany in the 1940s. Korea in the 1950s. Vietnam in the 70’s. If you have money (which should be a major priority in your life) you should never be caught slipping when trouble comes to your country.
14. Adventure: Picking up and moving your life without a safety or a job waiting takes balls and is a definite adventure/boredom antidote
15. More Freedom: In Thailand you can rent a motorcycle right off the plane and roll around with no helmet, no license and park your bike on the sidewalk

Flag Theory

The name of the game is whats called flag theory originally developed by Harry Schultz, popularized by Tim Ferriss and perfected by my man Andrew Henderson. 

The five flags of freedom are:

1. Passport or citizenship in a country that does not tax non-resident income or control your actions.
2. Legal residence in a tax haven.
3. Business base and salary-earning in a tax haven.
4. Offshore bank account in a country with stable banking.
5. Playgrounds where you spend your money, preferably with no sales tax or VAT.

Requirements

As good as it all sounds, and is in practice, it’s not for everyone. I’ve seen too many guys come out here and fail, and young man took his own life this year. The reality is you need five things before you’re ready to take your show on the road. You need to be:

1. You’re Over 25: With a few exceptions I can think of, being under 25, means you won’t have the income and discipline needed to win
2. Upper Middle Income: This means for at least the last six months you’ve had consistent income to put you in the upper middle class of your new country. For Asia, that’s 2k a month.
3. Solid Financial Safety Net: I’d like to see you have 20K saved before you come out. Combined with consistent revenue will leave you comfortable.
4. Solid Psychological Foundation: No recent history of major depression or anxiety
5. Have A Burning Desire For Business Success: You need to be in it to win it

My Experience

I have a better quality of life in Chiang Mai than I did in Canada, without a doubt, and I don’t even like Chiang Mai that much. I’ve been here for 4 years but the last 2 have really been about not moving so I could focus on work. That’s why I’ll be off to live in the Philippines next month.

Regardless, just not having to work a job is a gift from God every day of the week. When you factor in taxes and sunshine and cheap living – it’s been a blessing. 

But you don’t have to move to Asia or South America. If you’re an American spending $5,000 a month to eek out a sh*t tier living in New York, Moving to a mid size town in Florida, where there is no state tax could save you a fortune.

It only makes sense to go where you’re treated best.

That being said, taxes, residencies, visa, citizenships, corporations, offshore bank accounts is a labyrinth, It’s not that one aspect is too complex to cover, it’s the plan, with all the variables that is the nightmare.

• You have to deal with:
• Taxes in your home country
• Taxes in your new country
• Time zones for your client calls
• Constantly changing visas, residences and citizenships
• Getting visas to permanent residency to second citizenships
• Getting a tax id
• Getting bank accounts
• Getting a business incorporated with a business bank account and whether to use that as your tax ID
• Tunneling into new banking havens while you can still get a bank account there easily
• And a thousand other things, how they intersect, and variables on top of variables

Most “digital nomads” don’t even talk about taxes because they:

1. Don’t make any money (except for the courses they sell to wannabe nomads)
2. Don’t pay taxes

My advice is:

GO PRO FROM THE GET GO

Get your tax, residency and banking structure looked at by a professional, I promise you, the structure is more complicated then you think.

When you go pro you learn:

1. To get accounts with CITI, HSBC and any other relevant multinationals before you leave (OCBC is good). You learn that onshore is the new offshore.
2. That you probably want to get a little tax to get a tax ID number so that you can open bank accounts in safe jursidictions
3. That you should tunnel into up and coming banking havens now before you can’t get in 5 years from now
4. Which residency programs are being phased out
5. That Cambodia doesn’t have a DTA (double taxation treaty with Canada)
6. And a million other things you need to know that I guarantee you don’t know and you will f*ck up

If you make 250k per year, I recommend getting a consult with Andrew Henderson, Andrew from nomadcapitalist.com is the best in the business, his content has massively improved my life and working with him has been hugely beneficial to me, with that said he doesn’t come cheap, so make sure you’ve got your money up before you go and talk to him.

In addition to getting a consult with Andrew, if you’re Canadian like me, book an email consult with Michael Atlas, he’s fantastic. If you’re not Canadian, consult with the best expat lawyer in your country.

If you’re not making six figures yet, and can’t afford a consultation, just buy Andrew’s book, read every article he’s written, read every article I’ve written about money, get a consult with your local expat lawyer, then buy a consultation with Andrew once you’ve got your income up.

One more thing, don’t go with someone offering some cheap incorporation in some tax haven, this is not a plan, a plan has to involve every level of your financial life, residency, nationality and account for every contingency. Taxes like medicine is not the place to cheap out.

Resources

• How To Prepare For A Potential U.S. Economic Collapse
• Go Where You’re Treated Best
• How To Plan Your Financial Future
• How To Prepare For A Potential US Economic Collapse
• Flag Theory
• Tax Free Second Residencies
• Andrew Henderson Consultation
• Nomad Capitalist book
• World’s Safest Banks
• Deposits.org

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Action is everything.

Not reading quotes from successful entrepreneurs.

Or reading biographies of successful people.

Or even doing “research” on your business because lets get real, “research” is not real work.

The best thing for your business is almost always the last thing you want to do…

Getting the license, getting the business bank accounts, making the 100 cold calls a day.

That’s what real work is, and the most important work is the work you least want to do.

It’s not about becoming…

So many guys get this wrong, you don’t have to become anything to become successful.

You don’t have to BE anything to BE successful because:

1. identity is an illusion (albeit a fun and useful one)
2. the identity of success is merely just a side effect of taking right actions over a long period of time

What you really are is the Holy Spirit temporarily incarnated into a body to play the game of life.

Playing the role of successful entrepreneur is a good return on your investment in the game of life because you can use that illusion to give you state as well as create and reinforce positive actions and habits…

But understand success is the result of consistently taking those positive actions over time, not the other way around.

You don’t get success because you want it, or because you got the degree or because you did everything “The Secret” told you to do.

Instead success is about channeling your WILL into the right thoughts and the right actions over a long period of time.

Only then do you get to play the role of successful entrepreneur on the great stage of life.

And it’s a much better part than playing the broke failure, I’ve played both and can confirm that through direct experience.

But I didn’t become successful because I got a degree, or because I read “The Secret”…

Consistent action got me there.

That’s why I hate when my coaching clients tell me that they’re not as tough or as committed as me, as if that commitment is something I inherited, as opposed to taking the right actions over time, and waking up fighting laziness and mediocrity every day.

I’m not tougher than anyone by default, toughness is just a side effect of me choosing the right actions. And to continue to take pride in my mental toughness, I need to continually choose the right actions, or risk getting soft and weak.

When you say you don’t have the commitment, what you’re really saying is I refuse to take the actions necessary for success because I don’t want to win badly enough….

You want it, but you don’t really want it.

Because it’s not about becoming successful, you become an overnight success from taking the right actions for 3 to 10 years. From living groundhog day every day, making your 100 calls, and ticking off tasks, in the same office, day after day, for what feels like forever.

Processing is worthless, you don’t need to focus on all the things you’ve done wrong or go back to your childhood and “process”, all you’re doing is wasting time and opening up old wounds.

Shaming is worthless, you don’t need to beat up on yourself and wallow in your own misery while you play victim, not only does that waste time but toxic shame crucifies and murders your soul.

All you need to do is recognize you took the wrong actions: from choosing the wrong girl, to not choosing business ownership, to not making the cold calls, to not sacrificing weekends to all of the above…

And from there, make the decision that you will choose the right actions in the future because it’s in your character as a MAN. Tell yourself enough is enough. And that moving forward you will consistently take the right actions. And never give up. Because it’s not about motivation, it’s about dedication.

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Next to your health, wealth should be your 2nd highest priority in terms of time and energy spent because money either solves or greatly improves every problem in your life.

From better healthcare to better dating prospects to financial security to being able to take care of your family, there is not problem in your life that money won’t help with or solve completely.

Unfortunately getting wealthy isn’t easy, otherwise everyone would be wealthy, you have to be extraordinary or extra ordinary to get paid, meaning you need to do things that ordinary people don’t do.

Things like making 200 cold calls a day to strangers and asking for money, and getting comfortable having uncomfortable conversations with clients.

You don’t have to be the smartest guy in the world or even in the room, but you can get to the top 1% wealth bracket by doing what other people won’t.

Sales is scary and uncomfortable for most people and maybe it is for you, but that’s where your advantage lies, being willing to do what other people won’t do, also known as having balls.

When you have balls, work ethic and throw all your energy into a high margin service business, you will succeed.

Because you have to expand your comfort zone to expand your income.

If you stay in your comfort zone, you end up with the same income ordinary people have.

Instead do things that make you uncomfortable like pitching 100 people a day on your personal training business until you get comfortable and you will have a superpower – the power of sales.

Once you can sell you can make 6 figures in any service business and be on your way to 7.

A coaching client of mine was taking over his parents’ cleaning business. They had never made an outbound sale in 20 years in business. It took me 3 months of pushing and sales training until we got him out there pitching people in Starbucks, in the upscale mall, door to door in wealthy neighborhoods. And not just pitching but pushing for the close 5 to 7 times with different creative closes.

First it was 10 people in a week, and then 25, and then 50 and then 100. In 3 months he added 33% to the companies revenue stream pitching part time while still working a job.

He was afraid and uncomfortable but he did it anyway. He was demotivated but he did it anyway, because dedication is the key, not motivation. And eventually he got comfortable pitching people, just like I did working in corporate sales, and it became second nature to pitch.

We got his close rate to 1 for 25 on the low end and 1 for 10 on the high end, in person and 1 for 100 calling the phonebook, with each deal being $150 dollars, and 100% of his closes becoming recurring revenue, in a business where the average LTV of a client is at least 5 years. This is the power of expanding your comfort zone

If you think you’re doing everything right in your business, but you’re still struggling, it’s because you’re not willing to expand your comfort zone and go out and get money. If you have a B2C business, where nearly everyone is a potential client, you have 14 hours a day to pitch people on the street and in the phonebook. If you have a B2B business you have from 10 hours, five days a week to be pitching (decision makers are in the office from at least 8 AM until 6 PM) and the rest of your time to be doing leads.

The question is how bad to you want it, how uncomfortable are you willing to get, and how willing are you to expand your comfort zone so that you can expand your income. Because if you don’t have the money to pay for the online advertising, this is what you need to do. It doesn’t get easy until you get tough, and only then, once you’ve built the business, can you hire people to sell for you and spend your surplus profit on marketing – but you have to go through discomfort to get there.

This is why Dan Pena will tell you that the #1 characteristic of a succesful entrepreneur is the ability to endure pain for long periods of time, and I would agree. But don’t let that get you down, at the end of the day you’re just talking to people. Remember there are guys growing up in war zones right now, or working 12 hours a day at a factory for pennies, or living with terrible diseases, you can handle talking to people and offering value.

So in summary, if you want to win at business, get out there, get uncomfortable, feel the fear but do it anyway, and go get comfortable being uncomfortable. Your reward will be success and the most important skill in business – the ability to sell.

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An anxious person is a person who worries about future pain. An anxious person is usually a person with a hypervigilant mind, meaning they think about everything that needs to be done, and all the potential probabilities of a situation, and all the problematic variables that could come from that situation in the future. A hypervigilant mind is a torture chamber without control, with control it’s a massive asset.

Worrying about the future in itself is not a bad thing, without a healthy sense of fear you’ll make bad decisions and not properly prepare yourself for what lies ahead. But too much anxiety means you suffer more than you have to.

To get your mind right you need to focus on 2 things:

1. Automation

The best thing you can do as an anxious person is to put your life on autopilot through getting insanely organized. All I do is wake up, look at my Wunderlist app, and do what it tells me to do. I know that all I have to do to get to all my goals and prevent future problems is to get my tasks handled for that day. Because all my goals are accounted for, and all future problems are projects I’m working on, all I have to do is wake up to win the day by getting my tasks done. You can see how to set everything up in my book how to get organized.

It’s the same way Walmart or Amazon works, Jeff Bezos isn’t sitting around worried about one of his warehouses not delivering a cat toy, he pushed through that in the early days by building the world’s best business systems, and now he has a team of top performers to constantly be tweaking and optimizing those systems. But your life is less complicated than Amazon shipping, and you only need one top performer monitoring that system every quarter – YOU.

2. Action dependence

Action dependence is a bridge between outcome dependence and outcome independence. Both outcome dependence and outcome independence are psychological strategies for approaching potentially stressful situations that cause many people to worry, like approaching women or doing sales calls.

Outcome dependence guys will tell you to worry, be hard on yourself and beat up on yourself for not closing. Outcome dependence guys close more girls and make more money in sales then outcome independence guys, but the price to pay for it is constant worry and periods of self hatred.

Outcome independence guys will tell you to detach yourself from the outcome, and because of this will never close as many deals as guys who go hard. Also the idea of outcome independence is a fallacy, in every scenario you want things to go a certain way, and in some scenarios you are dependent on outcome.

It’s easy to believe you’re “zen” and outcome independent when you’re talking to some girl on the street who doesn’t want to give you her number, it’s a different situation entirely where you need to close a big client to hit your revenue targets, and if you don’t hit target that month you’re going to be fired, in that situation you’re very much dependent on that outcome to eat.

Often times guys who are very outcome dependent live in constant stress, and guys who think they’re outcome independent often don’t properly prepare for the future, don’t manage their pipelines properly and don’t go hard enough.

The solution to that type of stress is action dependence. Using sales as an example, you create a sales system for closing deals, from marketing spend, prospecting, to work output, to the pitch, features and benefits, objection management, all the way down to your closes. You know to the letter how much you need to spend on marketing, how many calls you need to make per day, what you need to say on each call, and that you push for the close 5 to 7 times using creative high converting closes…and if that fails, you drop your pants and offer a discount.

When you have a top quality sales system in place, on top of a top quality life management system in place, all you have to do is follow the process. So instead of focusing on all the fear and pressure you feel on a sales call, focus on the actions you take. You focus on the pitch, pacing your prospect’s reality, isolating his objection and managing it, reiterating the benefits, asking for the close, pulling back to features and benefits and then gearing up to close #2 all the way until you hear a yes, a hard no, or you schedule a callback.

When you’re action dependent you know that all you have to do is follow your process to a T, push for your 5 to 7 closes every time, and good things will happen even if you don’t close that particular client, because you have a good system. And you don’t have to worry about what you should have said, or beat yourself up, or worry about your future, because you know that as long as you continue to take the right actions every day, you’ll succeed and get the good things you want out of life.

If you can’t close that day, you recognize that of course you wanted to close the deal, but you didn’t. You don’t allow yourself to argue at reality by being angry. And you don’t project future pain on yourself in the present by worrying. You release both those thought patterns and replace them with the idea that you followed your system, did everything correctly, left everything on the table, and all you have to do is consistently keep following that system and you will succeed. You worry only as much as necessary and no more then that.

It’s simple when you think about it, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. Any time you’re changing a thought pattern you can expect hundreds if not thousands and negative recurring thoughts that need to be reframed. One reframe isn’t difficult, it’s staying aware every minute of every hour of how you’re feeling and being vigilant with worrying no more then necessary. So in summary, automate, systemize, focus on taking the right actions not on feeling fear, and worry no more then is productive.

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The best way to get what you want is to give people what they want – also known as adding value.

When you wake up every day to add value you’ll find soon enough that you’re living the life you want.

The way to add value when you’re communicating with someone is to remember the 5 A’s:

1. Agreement
2. Amplification
3. Attention
4. Approval
5. Affection

The truth is, everyone hates being disagreed with, and the more disagreeable you are the less people will like you.

You can feel free to disagree with that statement, but you’d be smarter to keep it to yourself.

Everything is state…

Clients want to give you money because you make them feel good.

Girls want to f@$k you because you make them feel good.

Guys want to be your friend because make them feel good.

Because everyone does everything to feel good, whether they know it or not.

People want to know that you value their ideas, approve of their life choices and care about them as a person…

That you’re on the same, not competing with them.

It’s true that life is one part combat one part cooperation, but save the combat for your competitors in business, not for your friends, clients and girls. When it comes to your people you want to be lifting everyone up around you. You win the argument by not having one in the first place.

You don’t need to run “dread” game on girls, or “dark triad” game on girls to keep them around, you just need to outshine everyone else in your life.

You do that by being masculine and confident on one hand, but on the other hand you can speak to her in the language of emotions through agreement, amplification of what you agree with, giving her your attention, approving of her as a person, and being affectionate. When you combine those aspects, and show her a great time every time she’s with you, and give her great sex, and never start drama, you’ll outshine every other guy in her life.

Now I’m not telling you to lie about what you agree with, I’m telling you to focus on what you agree with in another person’s communication and amplify that as a way to show love.

For example, if your client tells you that they spent all weekend on a fishing trip, and you go ahead and tell them how boring that sounds, and question them on how they could possibly find a fishing trip fun, you could easily find yourself losing that client, it truly can happen that fast.

One of the reasons I talk so much about rapport is that I used to make 100% of my income as a salesman on getting clients to buy in to me and my products, and I noticed that breaking rapport even once put my deals in jeopardy.

Most people don’t realize how damaging being disagreeable is because theyir income is not directly dependent on it. But you will see every top tier sales trainer make a point of making sure they’re clients master rapport, it’s that crucial to closing a deal. No one wants to buy from a disagreeable douche, and if the guy next door is selling the same product, and they like him and don’t like you, he’s going to get your business, even if he charges a bit more.

People don’t value you for your “constructive criticism” or for playing “devil’s advocate” or for your unsolicited contradictory feedback, they value you for how you make them feel. And once I truly recognized that, it massively improved my relationships, because I realized I didn’t have to prove how smart I was, and that aggressively trying to prove my intelligence was actually dumb

Once I started to make a concerted effort to avoid disagreeing with my mom our relationship got better.

Once I mastered agreement and amplification in business I started making a lot more money in sales.

Once I decided to put effort into showing my friends attention, approval and affection my friendships got better.

Once I started using the 5 A’s with women my relationships with women got better, in fact my relationships with women probably improved the most, because a woman’s first language is emotion not logic, and comfort, rapport and tonality are extremely important to them.

And the best part about the 5 A’s is that they don’t cost you a dollar, in fact the 5 A’s make you money, not only that but they make you and the people around you happier, this applies all the way down to your security guard and the checkout girl at the super market.

With that said, there will be times when you need to disagree with someone, but they’re probably less often then you think, and there is a way to deliver criticism without offending people.

First you make a point to only criticize the action, secondly you soften your tone when criticizing the action, and third you sandwich the criticism between praise. Praise at first, followed by asking them if they could change an action or pattern in the future, followed by more praise and appreciation. The bible on the subject is Dale Carnegie’s masterpiece How To Win Friends And Influence People.

Also, when disagreeing with someone, ideally you do it in private, not in public. Some situations where you might need to disagree with someone is on business decisions, or joint decisions that affect your future, or in terms of managing client expectations or correcting your clients future actions.

As a Peak Performance Coach, it’s sometimes my job to disagree with a client when I think they’re doing something that will hurt their best interests, or when they committed to something but didn’t follow through, in fact it’s a large part of why they’re paying me.

But I always make a point of delivering that criticism gently, only criticizing the action, and making sure I congratulate them on what they did right first, and reassure them of what they’re doing right after. That way my clients always no that I’m on their team, and they can continue to feel safe talking to me, and we can go right back into rapport.

Occasionally you’ll find that you can’t come to a resolution with someone, and it’s as simple as asking them if you can just agree to disagree, which if they accept puts you right back into rapport. If they don’t accept, you have to consider if it’s worth having someone that disagreeable in your life.

Because screening for the right people in your life is crucial. With the right people in your life you’ll rarely have to disagree with them and they’ll rarely have to disagree with you. And you’ll find arguments and drama are mostly a thing of the past.

The only time you may need to get harsh with someone is if they’re directly and intentionally disrespecting you, especially in public. Being agreeable, and gently correcting people has it’s limits, and sometimes you need to put people in their place. But it’s about walking softly, carrying a big stick, but trying hard not to have to use that stick.

And in cases of disrespect, it’s important to debrief the situation and figure out how you got there and how to avoid it in the future, which is usually going to be removing that person from your life. Because you’ll usually find that positive and happy people are easy to be around, and those are the kind of people you should surround yourself with.

In general though, when you you follow the 5 A’s, minimize disagreement and break rapport gently but only when necessary, you’ll be happier, more successful, have better relationships, and have little to no drama in your life – it’s a win for everyone involved.

Lastly you want my help implementing the 5 A’s, and putting your social skills on steroids, feel free to check my peak performance coaching program.

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1. Get up at 6 every day

Circadian rhythm is real and becoming a morning person is crucial to sleep success.

2. Exercise in the morning every day

Some light cardio on the elliptical is good and if possible walk to and from the office every day. I don’t do cardio every day because I don’t need to, but if I had severe sleep problems I’d make sure to be getting a ton of low impact exercise in.

3. Cut the caffeine

The ideal amount of caffeine for sleep is none, but at the least don’t have coffee after noon. Caffeine will keep you awake long past after the caffeine buzz has warn off.

4. Don’t eat past 7 PM

Eating late means you might get your second wind a few hours later once the food has digested, keeping you up later than you should be

5. Work harder

This is by far the most important point on the list. Just waking up early every day and working hard are enough to put you to sleep every night. But I mean true hard work. A peak performer works 10 hours a day every day (at least until money is solved). When you work hard enough you will sleep like a baby. But it’s not just the quantity of the work, it’s the type of work you do.

The best type of work for getting a good nights rest is sales. If you’re doing 100 to 200 calls a day, and on the phone for 3 hours a day pitching, plus handling all the management of your current clients, plus the other necessary tasks for your business, you will fall asleep the second your head hits the pillow.

In fact you’ll be ready for bed by 7 PM and you’ll have to fight to stay up to 10. In a word if you have insomnia the number one cause is that you’re not using up enough energy, Navy SEALS during bootcamp don’t have a hard time falling asleep, they’re fighting back nodding off during a set of pushups, and the second they hit the bed they’re out like a light. The same goes for corporate sales killers and serious entrepreneurs.

I’m speaking from experience here…

At 20 I was lazy, useless, up all night and had chronic “insomnia”.

At 32 I was up at 6 AM, working out every morning, walking to and from work, selling for 8 to 10 hours a day, on the phone for 2 to 3 hours per day, making 100 calls a day, handling all my client’s problems, updating and inputting all client data in the CRM, responding to emails, dealing with managers and meetings, plus using every minute of my off time to build RLD and I slept like a baby every night.

If you want to learn how to get your output up in sales so that you’re out by the time your head hits the pillow, check out my book: How To Sell. And if you want a swift kick in the ass, and a generous push to get you operating at your full potential and sleeping like a baby every night, sign up for my peak performance coaching program.

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Self hatred is not liking who you are.

You stop liking yourself when you do things that you hate in others…

Acting rude, acting weak, acting stressed, acting angry, acting whiny.

As opposed to acting like and BEING the man you want to be NOW.

Because NOW is all that exists.

As opposed to taking actions that you admire in other people

Actions like:

• Being cheerful and charming
• Being humble in the face of praise
• Being cool, calm and collected under pressure
• Being positive under all circumstances
• Setting and achieving audacious goals for yourself
• Selling emotion instead of indulging emotion
• Being a state generator and lifting up the people around you

If you’re not happy with who you are, start BEING the man you want to BE today, in the NOW.

And continue to BE that man, hour after hour, day after day, year after year.

Until choosing the right actions becomes automatic and people recognize you as the man you want to be.

It’s as simple as that….

Simple, but not easy – the key is consistency.

Consistency and vigilance…

Vigilance, vigilance, vigilance all day, always and in all ways.

This is how every man you admire became the man he wanted to be.

Mick Jagger was an effeminate, upper middle class, English art student.

Until he BECAME the greatest rock and roll star of all time and convinced millions to buy in to his image.

But he BECAME first…

And proved second, through consistency and vigilance.

But you don’t have to model rockstars…

You can model whoever you want.

Or you can model your future self, the best version of yourself that you want to be.

And act as if it’s 10 years from now and you’ve BECOME that man and achieved what you wanted to achieve.

If you’re short on motivation, it means you’re short on pride.

Not the negative narcissistic type of pride, but pride in your character and self reliance.

As a man it’s your character that makes you who you are.

It’s your character that can’t be taken away from you.

So choose to have pride in your character and don’t do things that degrade yourself.

Don’t do things that make you feel bad about yourself.

Take actions that make you feel good about who you are.

Choose character over the weakness of the flesh and you won’t be disappointed.

Stop indulging emotions and start selling emotions because sales is state transference.

And all life is sales.

Indulging emotions is for children and the mentally weak.

Whether you like it or not, you’re selling every time you communicate.

With your words, body language and actions.

And if you want respect you NEED to communicate that you’re worthy of it.

By choosing to BE the man that you and others would admire.

And sacrificing the need to indulge and vent petty and unproductive emotions.

In summary:

1. Choose the man you want to be either modeling a man you admire or modeling your future self
2. BE that man starting today, because the first person you need to sell is yourself
3. Continue to be that man day in and day out.
4. Be vigilant always and in always.

Lastly, if you want my help in becoming the man you want to be, sign up for my peak performance coaching program and I’ll help you BE that man starting today.

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You might be shocked to learn that many wealthy, high status, high achievers hate themselves.

It’s deep, toxic, shame and lack of self worth that pushes them to succeed.

Because they mistakenly believe that the new cars and the women and the money will make them feel good about themselves.

And for a brief period, money, status and sex does…

It just doesn’t last.

And so it becomes chasing the next achievement and living for the next conquest hoping that the next thing will be the one that makes you consistently happy…

But it doesn’t work that way.

If it did, celebrities would be the happiest people on the planet, yet many celebrities, with everything a man could want, succumb to dramatic interpersonal relationships and drug addictions.

I call this the Elvis example, where you achieve your wildest dreams and it’s still not enough to make you feel good. Where do you go from there? If you’re like Elvis you in drugs and food and your story ends in an early death.

But I want to tell you there’s a better way. You can still be a peak performer and pursue all the good things in life, yet you can be happy in the process – the key is state control and state control is the most important skill you can possibly master. Because your entire life is nothing more than a series of state changes – state being a combination of thoughts, feelings and sensations – your entire experience of life from birth to death is nothing more than a series of state changes.

And every person on this planet wants to be in a pleasant state as often and possible and a painful state as little as possible – anyone who disagrees is delusional or dumb. If there were a magic pill, without side effects, that made you feel blissfully happy every day, every person would take that pill. It’s a fact that every human desire and therefore every human action is a desire for either pleasure or a desire to avoid pain. Unfortunately many people are not self aware, and because of ignorance they haven’t mastered state control, and because of poor state management many people often do things that cause them pain instead of bring them pleasure.

In a rational world, 90% of what we would learn in school would be state control. That world would have very little crime because happy, self aware people don’t want to hurt other people, they want to share happiness and positivity.

But we don’t live in a rational world. We live in a world where many people couldn’t even tell you what their purpose is on this planet. Where many people don’t even realize that the pursuit of happiness is the most logical way to live and that structuring your life to be as consistently happy as possible only makes sense.

Living your whole life hating yourself outside of brief periods of happiness when you hit your goals is not a rational way to live. Chasing money and status as the sole source of happiness and self worth is a losing game. Defining your happiness and self worth by your bank account is a recipe for misery.

It’s not just irrational, it’s insane, playing the self hatred game is an insane game to play because it’s a game you can’t win. Because someone is always tougher or taller or wealthier or has a bigger c*ck. If you want to play the comparison game, and beat up on yourself because someone else is tougher or taller or stronger or makes more money, you’re always going to feel unworthy.

Taken to it’s logical extent, you can always find a way to feel unworthy no matter how successful you are. Unworthy because you’re not the UFC heavyweight champ, or because you don’t have a p*rnstar c*ck, or because you don’t have 160 billion dollars like Jeff Bezos.

Even when you become the best salesman in your office, and transition your sales skills into building an 8 figure business of your own, you’ll always find someone else who is doing better, someone else who makes you feel bad about what you’ve accomplished. As long as you don’t like yourself, and choose to feel bad about yourself becomes someone else is doing better, you’ll never be consistently happy, because someone is always doing better.

Someone always has a bigger private jet, or bigger biceps, or a bigger bank account.

But it doesn’t have to be that way, all you have to do is stop agreeing to play a losing game, it’s that simple.When you were a teenager, you dreamed about money, and cars, and women and you thought when you got those things that you’d be happy. That’s the key word HAPPINESS…

But at some point along the way you lost site of the forest for the trees and your priorities became purely about conquest at the expense of happiness. Money and status and women are tools for happiness, NOT the end goal, it’s THE FEELING of consistent happiness that you really want, SO START THERE.

It’s true that having money and success and the ability to have relationships with women does make it easier to be happier, but those things do not make you happy in and of themselves. They are merely tools. But if without state management, all your achievements will be nothing more than Pyrrhic victories.

Choose to feel good about yourself, choose positivity, choose to be in the best state available at all times as your PRIMARY PRIORITY IN LIFE. Stop sacrificing your happiness because you didn’t achieve the arbitrary goal you set for yourself.

Don’t get me wrong, being a peak performer is great, setting goals is great, challenging yourself is great but beating yourself up is not. You can go for all the good things in life, and for fulfilling your potential, without beating up on yourself. It’s as simple as choosing not to indulge negative thoughts and dialogue, and choosing to create a positive narrative for yourself.

Imagine your life as a movie and you’re the narrator, and throughout the whole moving you’re constantly telling yourself kind things, and picking yourself back up, and motivating yourself and you have a whole chorus of backup singers behind you and inspirational music – because it’s your movie and you can create whatever kind of narrative you want. And the narrative of “I’m garbage because someone else is more successful than me” doesn’t make any sense.

The problem is not having high standards and hitting goals, the problem is telling yourself you’re garbage and unworthy until you hit your goals. And when you hit those goals only allowing yourself to be happy for a month or a week or a day until you determine you’re still not good enough until you hit the next thing.

Money, status and women are tools for happiness, they don’t solve the problem of self hatred. Choosing not to hate yourself solves that problem. Choosing to ruthlessly manage your state and refuse to indulge in sadness, anger or self loathing solves the problem. Choosing to be grateful for what you have and excited about all the new opportunities, goals and adventures in your future solves the problem. Choosing to love yourself solves the problem.

Choosing to do all those things right now is what you need to do, and choosing to reframe negative thoughts all day, every day is what you need to do. And if you lost yesterday, choosing not to beat yourself up over it today is the right move. Choose to be a peak performer, and a high achiever, but also choose to enjoy your life, and looking forward to hitting your goals, and enjoy hitting your goals.

Choosing to set a target 3 years in the future and telling yourself you’re sh*t until you hit that target makes no f*cking sense. Telling yourself you’re sh*t because you missed revenue targets last month is not the way either. In fact, telling yourself you’re sh*t is never a good frame – because it means you’re sacrificing your state because some event happened.

Choosing to hate yourself until x happens, and either failing at hitting x and being miserable, or hitting x being happy for a brief period in time only to revert back to misery is an insane way to live. Because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result.

Happiness is a skill, in fact it’s the most important skill, and like all skills it takes practice. You will not magically become happy 5 years from now because you made more money or got more women if you spend the next 5 years neglecting that skill.

Using self hatred as fuel to hit some arbitrary goal that will briefly allow you to choose not to hate yourself for a brief period of time is not the way to live. The way to live is to choose to be in the best state available at all times regardless of circumstance. The man you want to be is cheerful and charming so use everything in your power to be that guy at all times.

I’m not saying don’t aim for outward achievements, I’m all for 100% aiming to fulfill your potential, and for being a peak performer, I’m saying don’t hate yourself on the way to hitting your goals because it’s f*cking insane. Instead make your beliefs your serve you, be happy and use your achievements and future goals as tools to increase your happiness.

If you’re going to compare yourself to people, compare yourself to your old self or to people you grew up with or to people who don’t have the opportunities that you’ve had and you’ll find yourself feeling grateful for what you have. Millions of people have aids and cancer and diabetes or pickup garbage, wade through sewers or have to work in factories to survive – just the fact that you don’t is worthy of being grateful for.

Being miserable and self hating is the same as being ungrateful, not only does it hurt you, but you hurt everyone around you because no one wants to have to be around your miserable ass – being ungrateful is selfish.

When you see people doing better then you in your industry, be happy for that too, because you know that more success and more money is available too, and they’ve already blazed the trail and made the mistakes for you, so you get to model their success. Every scenario can be framed as a win, and as moving forward and as positive as long as you commit to positivity.

Hating yourself is a choice, and a terrible choice to make, because nobody can make you feel anything, every emotion you’ve ever felt has been your choice, so stop choosing to feel bad about yourself, regardless of whatever arbitrary event happened.

Punishing yourself psychologically for 3 days because you missed target makes about as much sense as jabbing a knife through your leg for 3 days as physical punishment, it’s that insane. Most people are aware enough not to physically torture themselves because some event happened or because they made some mistake, so don’t torture yourself psychologically either because it’s just as insane.

A better way to live is to make happiness your primary priority, train yourself to constantly monitor your state, and change your focus whenever you’re feeling bad. Gratitude works great, so does throwing yourself into your work, and the king of all state changes is physical activity, the easiest way to change your thoughts is to change your physical stage. When you do an hour of hot yoga, its impossible not to feel 15% better. When you do a hard workout of heavy weights, cardio and follow that up by a steam or a long hot shower and then a cold shower, it’s impossible not to feel 15% better.

State control is the name of the game, self hatred, for whatever reason, or because of whatever external event happened is not, it’s insane. Having high standards is great, but not when you allow them to strangle you. High standards will help you have the body you want, and the lifestyle you want, and the girlfriend you want, and the income you want – but all those things are worthless when you use self hatred as fuel.

When you exist just to acquire things because you hate who you are, and the payoff only lasts a month or a week or a day before something happens that knocks you off the brief moment of happiness you had in a sea of misery…you’re playing the wrong game.

If you want to be as happy as possible as often as possible, which is the absolute most logical thing you can do with your life, you have to become a master of being aware of how your feeling and constantly choosing the positive, because positivity is the only logical path.

You have to be able to choose the positive even when things don’t go your way, and to love yourself regardless of whether you closed the deal, and sometimes you have to love yourself like your life depends on it, because for some people it does, depression kills millions of people a year in suicide, and suicide is always the end result of negative thinking.

Negative thinking taken to it’s logical conclusion is self hatred and suicide. Positive thinking taken to it’s logical conclusion is self love and love of life – it’s obvious what the right choice is and waging that daily battle against negativity is the most important thing you can do with your life.

By all means set high standards, fulfill your potential, be a peak performer, but don’t hate yourself in the process because it just doesn’t f*cking make sense. If you blow a deal or miss a workout out, definitely check yourself for a second, but don’t beat yourself up for 3 days and sacrifice state, just re commit to working harder and doing better next time.

And lastly if you’re a peak performer and want help on living a happier life, sign up for my peak performer’s coaching program and I’d be happy to custom-tailor a plan for you which will help you create the right self image and give you all the positive reframes and psychological strategies you need to live your best life.

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Buyers are liars until proven otherwise.

They’re flaky, unaccountable, unreliable and dishonest.

And yet that’s the type of behavior you have to put up with to get paid when it comes to outbound sales.

Fortunately I’ve been able to build an inbound money machine here at RLD where clients pay upfront and online and I love all of my coaching clients…

But it wasn’t always that way. And it’s not always going to be that way for you depending on the type of business you’re in.

Sure can get your revenue high enough that you can spend 20k a month on marketing and run purely on inbound leads paid upfront, or eventually you can make enough cash that you can hire other guys to pitch, close and handle clients for you.

But until then you’ll have to get your hands dirty, because the truth is, outbound sales means getting comfortable having uncomfortable conversations and being professional in the face of buyer bullsh*t…

But that’s why they pay you the big bucks, whether as a salesman or as an entrepreneur.

I spend close to a decade in cutthroat corporate sales and have very clear memories of exactly what that reality is like and I can tell you from first experience that buyers are liars until proven otherwise.

Buyers Lie for Three reasons:

1) Because they can be

They know they have power and they take pleasure in using it against you knowing you have to be professional. Or even if they don’t take pleasure in it, they don’t care enough about you to be accountable or honest.

2) Because They Don’t Have The Money

And are too embarrassed to admit that they can’t afford your services. You would think that people wouldn’t care whether a total stranger knows they can’t afford something, but many people do.

3) Because They’re scared to have an uncomfortable conversation

They don’t want to break rapport with you and either risk hurting your feelings or risk you putting pressure on them through objection management. Most people are not comfortable having uncomfortable conversations and would rather tell you they’ll think about it and dodge your calls instead of telling you the truth.

That’s not to say that all buyers are liars, or that all buyers are bad people…

Some clients will do exactly what they say, these are usually business owners who have experience selling and therefore know how to be good clients. Business owners will also be the type of people who are comfortable having uncomfortable conversations and will politely but firmly tell you that they’re not interested, which saves you a lot of time.

And it’s not to say that buyers are liars because they’re bad people, although you will probably find yourself dealing with at least some people who aren’t very polite. On average buyers will dodge your calls not because they’re bad people, but because they don’t want to risk hurting your feelings by telling you know.

But you should assume that all buyers are liars until you have the money in your hand, that way you’re not frustrated, or disappointed. And most importantly, you have a realistic expectation of the amount of outbound touch points you need to make to hit your targets. The reality is buyers are liars until proven otherwise…

You should expect the following things to happen when selling:

1) Buyers Telling You That They’ll get back to you

They won’t.

2) Buyers telling you that they’ll think about it

The fact is they already have thought about it and it’s a no, if you let them off the phone without isolating and managing their objection, that deal is DOA. (hint their objection is almost always the money)

3) Buyers telling you that they’ll look at the proposal you sent them

They won’t. Buyers will rarely look at your proposal or media kit unless you’re walking them through it on the phone or presenting your proposal in person.

4) Buyers agreeing to appointments or calls

Prepare to get flaked on and rescheduled on a lot.

5) Buyers lying about being decision makers

When in fact they don’t make the decisions and therefore are not even buyers. Often times the guy you’re talking to doesn’t sign the checks and you might not find out until months later that the VP of marketing you’ve been talking to for 6 months has no power to authorize any deals, and the CFO signs off on everything. You then realize you never got to the real objection, which was that he can’t close the deal himself, and you were pitching the wrong person.

It might sound insane, but people will pretend to be decision makers to make themselves feel powerful, or at the very least so they don’t have to admit that they don’t make decisions, even to total strangers. And often times it’s the least powerful people that treat you the worst and pretend to have the most power, I can’t tell you how many times in the past I’ve tried to get through to a decision maker, only to have the secretary grill me about my reasons for reaching out to the DM, and tell me with total certainty that he wouldn’t be interested, as if she can speak for the CEO of the organization.

6) Buyers telling you that they’ll do the deal

A verbal agreement is as good as the paper it’s written on.

7) Buyers telling you that they’ll sign the contract

This can be a tough lie to swallow, especially when your manager is breathing down your neck about your targets and you have to keep explaining to him why the guy hasn’t signed it, or you need money as a young entrepreneur to pay your expenses. I’ve been in situations where guys were telling me they would sign the contract that day for months and would try to make me feel as if I was being unreasonable because he was just about to get to it.

8) Buyers telling you that they’ll wire you the money

A guy can agree to the deal, sign the contract and still not pay you. Or you can have clients who pay you, just not on time and you have to chase them down at the end of the month, sometimes for weeks. That was something I had to deal with at my last sales job, because our billing system was archaic and run by our incompetent office manager, as opposed to the beautiful, automated upfront payment system I’ve created for RLD.

9) Buyers telling that they sent you the money

Yes, some clients will actually lie about sending you money, and when you bring it up, they’ll tell you the bank must be slow to process the payment. In these cases it’s usually because the guy doesn’t have the money and is trying to buy himself time and is to embarrassed to tell you. Often times he’ll pay you two days later and act as if his payment finally went through (btw calling him out as a liar is not the best move, handling the situation delicately and allowing him to save face is the right move).

It doesn’t matter if:

• The lead sounds promising
• They tell you they’ll get back to you
• They tell you they’re interested
• They tell you they’ll do the deal
• They tell you they’ll sign the contract
• They sign the contract
• They tell you they’ve sent you the money

It’s not a deal until you have the money in your hand!

So you’d be smart to assume that all buyers are liars until proven otherwise and not be surprised when you have to consistently deal with buyer behavior bullsh*t. If you find yourself consistently frustrated when trying to get new clients it’s because you haven’t properly managed your expectations.

Anger comes from the difference between expectations and reality, therefore you want your expectations in line with reality as much as possible. And that comes from using past data effectively. Or if your new to sales or entrepreneurship, just take my word for it and use my past data and experiences.

The smart way to deal with buyer behavior is:

1) Charge it to the game

Recognize buyer bullsh*t as a cost of doing business, and that dealing with client headaches is part of why you make good money, because most people don’t want to deal with clients.

2) Always be polite and professional

Remember that your job is not about being right, it’s about getting paid, and everything out of your mouth you should maximize your chances of getting paid. Calling a potential client out for lying or getting aggressive is a surefire way to make sure you don’t get paid. Remember, you get paid for selling and for service, being professional in the face of unaccountable behavior is called good client service and it’s how you make big bucks. Sales is not rocket science, it pays well because you do the things that other people don’t want to do, like having uncomfortable conversations and handling client headaches with composure.

3) Manage your expectations

Being angry or disappointed doesn’t help you be happier or close more deals, in fact those emotions have the opposite effect. It’s much better to assume that buyers are liars until proven otherwise and adjust your emotions accordingly. Remember that all you have to do is follow your sales process consistently and good things will happen.

4) Put in the work

If you’re new to sales or entrepreneurship, recognize it will take more work than you expect to get new clients on board. You can take my word for it that a lot of deals and promising leads will fall through, so make sure to put in more work that you would have thought necessary to make up for it.

Eventually though you’ll figure out your closing percentage so that you can do accurate money math on your targets and know exactly how many outbound touch points you have to make to hit your financial goals (with that said, always aim to improve and optimize your sales process so that you can constantly be increasing your closing percentage.)

5) Build a money machine

The good news is that life is a layer cake, and the more successful you get the less buyer bulls@%t you have to deal with, and there may come a time where you don’t have to deal with any, this is what I call a luxury. A luxury is not Louis Vuitton it’s leveling up so you don’t have to do things you don’t want to do. If you’re a salesman, use your experience and the cash you save to build your own business. If you already have your own business, go hard on optimizing your sales system and getting your revenue up so that you:

1. Can invest in inbound marketing where clients come to you and pay upfront
2. Can invest in hiring guys to pitch and close your deals for you
3. Can build an automated online billing system where you get paid upfront through automatic recurring payments and don’t have to chase clients down with an invoice every month at the end of every month
4. Do what I did and create enough valuable content where you don’t have to pay for marketing and where clients buy in to you, treat you well, and trust you enough to pay online and upfront without even having to speak to you on the phone (may not work for your industry and there is a limit to how much people will pay without talking to someone)
5. Do all of the above

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Motivation is great…

But it’s dedication that gets you across the finish line.

I wrote that in 2015 and its as today as it was then.

Whether you’re motivated or not you get your tasks done and never, ever give up.

With that said, pursuing your goals is a lot more fun when you’re motivated.

And ideally you have as much motivation as possible.

And one of the best ways to get motivated is to get your payoff as quick as possible.

In business or in sales that payoff is getting a new client.

Some of the best money you’ll ever make is that first new client in a new business.

It opens up a whole new reality….

“I just talked to a stranger, asked for money, and got $100, and there are millions of people who need my service.”

Most guys get stuck on all the other stuff in regards to building a business and feel their motivation
fade after the initial two month high of starting their own business.

This is because they don’t put their primary focus on getting a customer as soon as possible.

Part of that is the fear of selling, the other part is not having the right information.

The right information is you want to take your ideas to monetization as fast as possible.

This is important for 3 reasons:

1. You get to see what works as soon as possible
2. You get paid
3. Three you get the emotional and psychological payoff ASAP

That’s why I push all my guys to get a client in their first month in business.

And to prioritize that over everything else.

The same applies to any goal you’re trying to achieve.

Instead of trying to lose 2 pounds a month and not see any type of meaningful result until month three…

Push for losing 2 pounds a week and see 8 pounds drop off the scale by the end of month 1.

Winning is motivation, and the more you win, the more motivated you’ll be.

So get your wins as fast as you can by getting your payoff as fast as possible.

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One is to close to none.

Whether it’s in sales, business, friendships or sometimes…

Even your dating life.

Maybe monogamy is the right move for you in your dating life, assuming you’ve done your homework, have your eyes wide open, and know all the pros and cons…

But I can tell you when it comes to getting paid by clients, monogamy is a very dangerous proposition…

One client is too close to none.

One client means you’re fragile.

What you want is to become is what Nassim Taleb Calls Antifragile…

Or the ability to survive and thrive if/when things go wrong.

And I’d go as far as to say that you can’t be antifragile enough.

You have to be tough to be happy in this world and becoming as antifragile as possible comes with incredible benefits.

One of those benefits is being able to live a life of independence…

The ability to live where you want and do the kind of work you want.

The ability to take your motorcycle up to the mountains on a Tuesday afternoon just because.

The ability to take Sunday afternoon off to lay in bed with your girl and eat ice cream.

The way to get that type of independence is expanding your circle of people you depend on.

It might sound counter-intuitive but the reality is you become more independent by depending on more people.

Because there is no true, 100% independence, no man is an island.

In the complex world we live, we’re all dependent on others to survive, from food, to clothes, to shelter to thousands of other things.

But independence is a relative term, it’s defined in comparison to dependence.

In reality though its actually dependence on many people as opposed to a few.

And by dependence I mean financial dependence, because money is freedom in this world.

When you have money, you have power, because with it you can get people to do what you want, which is either produce a good for you, or do a service for you.

With enough money you can buy your independence…

The fact is, we live on an economic planet, and unless you’re born with a silver spoon in your mouth, you need to buy your freedom.

Your independence comes with a price, but it’s a price well worth paying…

And by independence, what I really mean is not having to do things you hate for money, because you have FU money.

The way to get more money is to get more people paying you.

Or in other words to get diversify your dependence.

Depending on a boss is dangerous, because jobs pay bullsh*t money and your boss can turn off that tap at any time.

And you can’t come and go as you please, not only do you as a grown man have to call another man your boss…

But you also let him tell you what to do, when to come in, when to eat, where to sit, where to piss and sh*t, what time you can leave,

Depending on tens or hundreds or thousands of clients is a much stronger position, not just financially, but in terms of quality of life.

Independence means you can come and go as you please and not have to do what you hate – you can do neither of those things when you have to depend on a boss for table scraps.

Independence in this world means financial freedom – and to get it you can’t depend on just one guy.

Independence comes from maximizing the amount of people you depend on financially by adding value and making them dependent on you for goods and services.

When done ethically it’s the ultimate win/win.

But it’s not just depending on a boss or a parent or a girlfriend that’s dangerous.

One is to close to none even in your own business and even if it’s a high ticket client.

Even a big client paying you $10,000 per month is still to close to none, because you can go from 120k per year to zero in less than a heartbeat.

As opposed to 10 clients at $10,000 per month clients where you can eat a yearly turnover rate of 25% and still be able to live well.

Even in the case of black swan quarter where you lose 50% of your revenue, you still have 5 clients at 10k per month and you’re still able to not only survive but thrive.

This is what means to be antifragile, and antifragility should be one of your primary priorities in life.

Unfortunately most entrepreneurs grossly underestimate the amount of work needed to get there and once they start to see a little success they relax and stop pushing people into their pipeline.

I saw this happen all the time when I worked in cutthroate corporate sales, guys got burned out and let their pipeline go slack.

They lied to themselves that they were maintaining, that they were in neutral, but in reality there is no neutral, gravity brings a flatline down, they just couldn’t see it until it was too late.

And by the time they realize they’re slipping, and they’re missing their targets by 30% a month, their head is already on the chopping block, because it cutthroat corporate sales, you’re always one or two bad quarters away from getting fired.

Instead you want to keep that pipeline full to the point of having more clients than you can handle – this is what we call a high quality problem.

The solution is to either hire more people, charge more for new clients to match demand, or do both, ideally you do both.

You’ll always have problems, I just want you thinking about bigger problems, problems like how to handle all your new clients and what to do with all the money you make.

Keeping pumping people into that pipeline to make sure you have a margin of safety and to keep your revenue increasing year over year.

Bringing on at least one new, high ticket client per month is a great goal, but the more the better.

Setting yearly or even quarterly revenue and acquisition is also important, especially when your yearly wealth goal with total commitment.

To diversify your financial dependence, you have three basic channels (advanced channels being equity and debt):

Outbound Sales: cold calling, pitching in person, or pitching to people through email, IM, or through their social media pages
Inbound Marketing: Google, Youtube, Facebook, Instagram or Linkedin ads
Organic Traffic: Attracting clients by providing valuable content on Social Media or through your website

The name of the game is finding who has your money and getting their attention.

From there it’s a matter of putting them in your pipeline, closing them, and keeping your pipeline packed with hot prospects.

In short you get your independence and financial freedom by getting as many people to pay you as possible.

Because your network is your networth…

Because people can’t buy from you if they don’t know you, so you want to get as many potential clients in your network as you possibly can.

And I’m not talking about some garbage, waste of time, networking event –  I’m talking about your network of people who pay you money.

The bigger your network of people paying you, the more money you make, the less fragile you are, and the more independence you have.

The price for independence is hard work and discipline, but I promise you it’s well worth the effort.

So get out there, grind hard, get antifragile, and get free!

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It’s like a motto growing up from parents to teachers to role models

If the middle class mentality could be defined in a statement it would be “that sounds risky”

It implies two things, what you’re doing is dangerous and don’t take risks

And there is some truth to that statement, don’t take DUMB risks is good advice

Calculated risks on other hand are something different entirely

But more importantly, what you don’t learn with a middle class mentality is that everything is a risk…

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Complacency will kill you, figuratively and literally…

Because everything changes and nothing lasts forever.

Neglecting those words will cost you your health, wealth and even your life.

If you don’t believe me, listen to the Buddha who will tell you that existence is temporary and transient.

Or the famed investor Jim Rogers, who says the world changes every 15 years.

Or if you don’t those guys, just open a book on history.

You’ll see that England was the biggest empire the world had ever known in 1918, but by 1945 it was reduced to rubble.

And now Singapore,a former British colony built on swampland with no natural resources now has more millionaires per capital than England or anywhere else in the world.

Or look at former titans Kodak, Blockbuster, Radio Shack, Toys R Us and Lehman Brothers filing for bankruptcy.

Or Chrysler and GM only existing because the government bailed them out.

Or Sears, J. Crew and Neiman Marcus on their way to bankruptcy…

Half of the S&P 500 will be replaced in the next decade. 

No company is safe from complacency and failure to adapt to the times.

Complacency kills because there is no neutral in life.

Neutral is just an illusion, life only looks neutral in the moment.

But in hindsight, you can see that you we’re going down.

Because gravity always brings a flatline down.

And every year you’re either going up or you’re going down.

So knowing that, the most logical thing to do is get up and stay up…

For as long as you possibly can, until the damn wheels fall off.

And the only way to know you’re going up for sure is to get better every year.

So aim to get healthier every year.

Aim to get wealthier every year.

Aim to get your revenue up every year

Aim to get your profit up every year

Aim to get more winners in your inner circle every year.

And aim to keep getting better for as long as you possibly can.

If you’re smart you know that on a long enough timeline everything fails…

But if you’re smart and tough you’ll know that the logical thing to do is to push that failure off for as long as you can.

And that means getting healthier for as long as you can, getting wealthier for as long as you can, and building a business that outlives you.

Since everything changes, the smart thing to do is make that change for the better.

Be great, and aim to be greater every year, it only makes sense.

Aim to push your luck for as long as you can.

Aim to push your finances as far as you can…

Because why the f#ck not, regular life is boring.

Not only does complacency kill, but it’s not even f#cking fun.

So f#ck regular life and f*ck complacency.

Get up, stay up, stay moving forward and ride that motherf#@ker until the wheels fall off.

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First off, recognize everything is an investment, not just when it comes to finances

Everything you buy is an investment

The question is, whether it’s a good investment or a bad investment…

A gym membership is a good investment, a carton of cigarettes…not so much

You need to stop thinking about spending money and start thinking about investing the tool known as money….

You’re investing, investing in your health, wealth, relationships an lifestyle

Every time you take your wallet out, remind yourself that you’re making an investment

This will change the entire way you look at money

Looking at every dollar you spend as an investment will stop you doing dumb sh$t

It’s impossible to be a drug addict while holding the mindset that drugs are a good investment in your health

Instead view everything you buy as an investment…

Because everything you buy is an investment.

So logically, the smart thing to do, is to make good investments.

And the best investment you can make is in making more income.

Because income is what makes all the other investments possible.

Forget about bonds and stocks that you’re lucky to get 6% out of.

6% is worthless unless you’re already rich.

Invest in getting your income to six figures…

And while you’re doing that, invest in getting your savings account to six figures.

Forget about all the other sh*t, you’re LARPing and lying to yourself.

Get 100k in the bank, and get 100k coming in every year…

And once you do that, aim to get $250k coming in every year.

Forget about everything else until then…

Forget about CNBC and your dollar cost averaging strategy.

Get your income and your savings up – that is the best investment you can make.

With it you can buy financial freedom, health, stability, food, shelter, clothes, and all the other investments you need to make in life.

Without income and savings you sleep on the street.

In summary, EVERYTHING is an investment, so make the best possible investment you can by investing in yourself and your financial freedom.

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Just say no to average.

Just take it off the table.

Because f*ck not having the things you want.

And f*ck having to do the things you hate.

And f*ck having to call a mediocre man your boss.

Just f*ck regular life altogether.

Don’t let regular life even be an option.

Stop thinking you have something to lose.

Because 50k is not middle class.

50k after taxes, and unemployment insurance, and social security, and your premiums is $3800 a month.

That’s $1800 more a month than the guy below the poverty line taking home 2k/month.

The middle class is a lie.

The truth is 99% of people do not have financial security, they live on credit and in fear.

Average is working a job you hate, spending money you don’t have, and worrying about your spending.

Average is not having the things you want, and having to do the things you hate.

To get the things you want and to not have to do what you hate, you need to get paid!

You need to go hard at getting wealthy and you need to be do or die.

As long as you have average to fall back on you’re not all in and you’re not do or die.

So stop thinking average is something to have – you know regular life is sh*t.

Start thinking about average life as an STD, something you can’t wait to get rid of.

Don’t let average be an option…

Instead, aspire for higher, go all in, be willing to do or die, and never, ever, ever give up!

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SUMMARY

• You don’t have the money to defend yourself in court
• Or as Peter Thiel said a single digit millionaire can’t defend himself in America
• Grant Cardone’s lawsuit cost him 200k per month
• It’s why most people settle – and that still costs an arm and a leg
• Contracts only protect you when you’re rich
• In fact when you’re rich enough, the contract doesn’t even matter
• When you’re rich you can extract what you want contract or no contract
• Unless you’re rich you’re f#$ked, just like many other areas in life
• You’re best bet is to charge your losses to the game or maybe try to settle and get a piece back
• But even better is protecting yourself as much as you can by:

1. Go into business for yourself (partners are dangerous)
2. If you partner, partner with a close, capable, trustworthy friend (otherwise strangers and enemies)
3. Get paid upfront, don’t build a business where you have to chase clients downto pay you at the end the month and assume a contract will protect you
4. Outsource your work to reputable companies with cash as opposed to individual
5. Be ethical – limits the chance of you being involved in anything legal

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After having spent the bulk of my 20s being selfish, I’ve realized that helping others makes me happier than anything.

For the last 6 months unofficially, and the last month unofficially I’ve been coaching clients on how to live their best life and I can tell you that helping my coaching clients makes me happier than anything else.

As opposed to my life in corporate sales, where I sold mediocre products because I needed money, with coaching I’m selling something I believe in 1000% and I actually look forward to my coaching calls.

In fact my coaching calls are often the high point of my week.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not telling you to become a self-sacrificing martyr.

Money is and always will be my primary priority in business and it should be yours too.

As the always eloquent Lil’ Wayne aka says”

“I’ve got a stripper attitude, only money makes me move”

Because without revenue coming in your business will fail.

And then you can’t help yourself, your family, your friends or your clients.

But just because money is your primary priority in business doesn’t mean it should be your only priority.

In many sales jobs I worked, and often times quit, salesman we’re encouraged if not forced by management to view clients as an ATM.

To offer as little as possible and ask for as much as possible.

The metric was always new clients, new clients, new clients…

Because the old clients would get burned and churned.

And so would the salesmen for the matter.

I worked at one company that had an 80% turnover in staff from year to year.

The good thing is, when you run your own business, you control the entire sales process, from managing expectations to client service.

And in your business, money should be your primary priority, but happy clients should be a very close second.

Having revenue goals is great but so is having goals for how many people you can help.

One way to do that is to ask yourself, how many hundreds, thousands or even millions of people can you help over a lifetime.

Even if you can help 8 clients a month, for $1000 each, you can make six figures, and get the satisfaction of overdelivering and making your clients happy.

Because happiness is what it’s all about.

And happiness is the same emotion as love.

Whether it’s love for money, for a cheeseburger or for other people – when you feel love, you feel happy.

So why not structure your business around giving love to your clients, and receiving love and appreciation in return?

Not only do you make more money, but you get the gift of loving what you do, the gift of being happy.

And happiness is what it’s all about.

In all four areas of your life, your health, your wealth, your lifestyle, and your relationships, the logical end goal is always maximizing happiness.

If you’re feeling depressed, and you’re spending all night in your room, the best thing you can do for yourself is start helping others and get paid for the privilege.

Being in a depressed state is selfish and self sabotaging.

And I know, I suffered some serious depressed states in my lifetime.

And that’s not me trying to negate the pain, I know that pain very well and wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.

What I’m saying is that isolating yourself only makes you feel more depressed, and more unhappy.

Every single time I’ve chosen to be depressed, I also chose to isolate myself.

I told myself I didn’t have the energy to talk to anyone, and that in turn only made me feel worse.

When in fact, one of the best ways to boost your state is going out in helping others.

You can go from depressed to at least neutral in just one day of being of service.

And if you’re already happy, being of service in your business, and being paid for the privilege, will only make you happier.

The biggest problems in the world are health, wealth, relationships and lifestyle.

Each one of those verticals is a multitrillion dollar industry.

And every single one of the six billion people on this planet has problems in those areas, problems you can help solve.

When you pick the right service business for you, that solves the right problems, you get the twin gifts of wealth and happiness.

Because self esteem has two pillars: SUCCESS and SELF WORTH.

SUCCESS comes from competition and how well you’re doing compared to others.

SELF WORTH comes from cooperation, helping others, and feeling like a good person.

To maximize your happiness you need both and the right service business can do that for you.

Because without self worth, all the money in the world is just cold consolation.

As Jordan Belfort describes in his book, he had to do drugs all day to deal with the stress of his business.

This is because deep down he knew he was ripping people off and didn’t feel good about himself, even with hundreds of millions of dollars in the bank, he had to turn to narcotics to get through the day.

Chasing success at the expense of self worth will only end in a Pyrrhic victory.

Because you’re cheating yourself of one of life’s greatest joys, helping others.

If you’re unethical in business, you literally rob your emotional bank account to pay your financial bank account, which destroys the whole purpose of having money in the first place.

Because money is merely a tool for maximizing happiness.

So start living a life of service and reap the twin benefits and getting paid for the value you add, but also for the privilege of being able to help others.

Not only will you be happier for it, but so will your friends, family and clients.

And lastly if you need help building or optimizing a business that makes you happier and wealthier through a life of service, check out my peak performance coaching program. 

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I still think networking is garbage

But building a network isn’t.

In fact building the biggest possible network of people to sell to is the best possible thing you can do for your business and your bottom line.

See why your network is your networth and how to put your network on steroids here:

Your Network Is Your Networth

Notes

• Who has my money? LITERALLY
• You get rich by other people giving you money
• Your network is your networth
• But not traditional networking, I still that’s garbage
• RLD is really just a social network on steroids
• I add value, reach millions of people, and get paid depending on how much value I add
• The proper use for your network is selling
• Getting them to give you money in exchange for value
• Or providing value to them and making them a partner in your deals
• Going to networking conferences and getting a bunch of business cards is a waste of your time
• Instead you need to be thinking, as my man GC says, who has my money and how do I get it
• This applies to clients in your business, or if you’re not there, getting hired in a sales job
• To get money all you need to do is:
• 1. Figure out who has your money
• 2. Figure out what value you need to add to their lives to get it
• 3. Close
• You can see how to do all the above in my book how to sell
• The more people you know and the more valuable you are the more money you make
• You expand your network by
• 1. Mastering and constantly refining your skill – I recommend mastering a service over a product
• 2. Building and promoting your brand through organic SEO, marketing, and outbound sales
• 3. Mastering and constantly refining your close
• Warren Buffett didn’t get rich off stock picking, he only earns 20% a year
• He got rich off of selling that service to millions, the service being a 12% net return over the SandP average
• He got rich off of OPM or other people’s money through selling
• Thats why the diploma he got from the Dale Carnegie course still hangs in his office
• How to win friends and influence people is the name of the game when it comes to getting OPM
• And that applies to investors, getting loans, or selling clients
• And you can start with the people you know now?
• If you’re running a business have you pitched everyone you know
• If not you’re slacking on your macking
• Same applies to your outreach – 100 to 400 outbound contacts per day is what you need to be doing
• Whether thats cold calls, emails, Facebook or all the above
• Not to mention your inbound marketing
• The name of the game is attention, you can’t get money with attention
• And the more attention you get, the more likely you get paid
• And getting paid, just like getting women is a numbers game
• And you have the ultimate equalizer and accelerator, the internet
• I get 300,000 views a month between google search on my website and my Youtube channel
• That all comes from Google, and all for free, Google is a gift from God for business owners
• And today is the best time to be a business owner
• You’re living in the beginning of the greatest technological revolution of all time and it’s wide open
• Just by adding coaching to my business I’ve nearly 5xed my income in a month
• And that coaching is available to you if you want to supercharge your business
• See what I did there? Added value and asked for the sale because I’m always selling
• If you want to supercharge your sales pickup my book how to sell or hit me up directly for coaching
• If you’re not there yet financially that’s ok too, just click on revolutionarylifestyledesign.com/money and get a ton of content for free
• And remember your network is your networth, find who has your money and go get it

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To buy your freedom and join the one percent of people who get to do what they want to do in life, you need to have money.

And to get that money you need get your income up and stash that cash.

To see how change your entire attitude towards saving money, check out this video:

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If you don’t know what a dead bedroom is consider yourself lucky, it’s a sexless relationship, and there is an entire reddit forum devoted to the topic.

But there should be thousands of reddit forums and websites devoted to the topic, because millions, if not tens of millions of people are living in sexless relationships.

Instead people in sexless relationships over tell themselves that sex isn’t a big deal, which it isn’t, when you’re having sex consistently, but it’s a huge deal when you’re not having sex regularly.

Not having sex in a relationship is the beginning of the end, especially if you’re not getting along, no sex plus fighting is how relationships die.

Remember, there is no neutral in the game of life, you’re either going up or going down, and when you think you’re maintaining, you’re usually going down, it’s just a slow enough ride that you can’t see it until it’s too late.

How To Defeat A Dead Bedroom With Karezza

In the past people called it the 7 year itch.

Now there’s science behind it, scientists called the Coolidge effect.

The Coolidge effect is:

” a biological phenomenon seen in animals, whereby males and females exhibit renewed sexual interest whenever a new partner is introduced to have sex with, even after cessation of sex with prior but still available sexual partners.”

Or in laymen’s terms, people get bored of f*cking each other, just like people will get bored of anything if it’s the only thing on the menu.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a $100 filet mignon, if you have steak for breakfast, lunch and dinner every day, you’re going to get bored of steak.

And that’s a big problem, because the basis of every romantic relationship is love, so when you’re not actively making love, the love between the two of you weakens over time, which means your relationship weakens over time.

The divorce rate is 50%, I’d be willing to be that would be cut in half, if people were able to consistently have deeply fulfilling, blissful, karezza-style sex throughout the entire length of a marriage. When you’re able to have sex like that, whatever fights or resentments you built up over the course of a week are gone in an instant.

With a dead bedroom however, you never have that reboot, and the fights and the bickering fester into resentment, or worse, into cheating. If you haven’t had sex with your partner in years, you’re effectively celibate, which naturally makes it a lot harder to be faithful, especially when you don’t see the situation changing any time soon.

What most guys don’t know, unless they’re already married, is that women tend to get bored first. You could even make the argument that women are WORSE suited to long term monogamy then men are, since they tend to get bored of sex first, and initiate 70% of the divorces.

Not to mention, in today’s society, with Tinder and all the other available options for affairs, women now cheat as much as men do. An eye-opening book is Michelle Langley’s “Women’s Infidelity“, which outlines both her own infidelity as well as the infidelities of the women she interviewed. It’s worth the read, but if you don’t have the time I’ll summarize it: the Coolidge Effect made them get bored of f*cking their husbands, so they f*cked someone else, and it made them feel alive again.

Ultimately, you can make the argument that humans aren’t designed to pair bond for a lifetime and that’s why many people get bored of f*cking each other after 4-7 years. Which is enough time to have and raise a few kids, whereby nature considers your mission accomplished, and tell you to go find and f*ck other people.

You can make the argument that this is why you should never get monogamous. Or that you should live as a serial monogamist, ready to cut the cord when sex starts drying up, while having casual sex between relationships. And both of those strategies are legitimate options.

But monogamy has some pros to, especially if you’ve found a high quality woman you really connect with and who you’ve built a life with. It’s nice to know, assuming you’ve screened for the right woman, that you don’t have to worry about STDs, or her hooking up with another guy before she comes to see you, or even worse her getting pregnant by another guy. Obviously you can’t guarantee fidelity, but with excellent screening, and putting her through the trust test, you can minimize the probability.

With that said, I’m not trying to make the case for monogamy, if you want the pros and cons, I suggest you read my article on how to develop your dating gameplan. I’m also not trying to make the case for legal marriage, especially in a western country, with a 50% divorce rate, and the way judgements in family courts are structured, it’s way too much of a legal risk these days.

Whether you want to be monogamous or not is up to you. If you do choose to be monogamous, or are already in a monogamous relationship, I think you’d be wise to look into non-ejaculatory, deeply-bonded, karezza-style sex.

It’s the ultimate relationship hack because it allows you to transmute your base-level, primitive sexual energy into higher, more fulfilling sex. And because both you and your partner aren’t org@sming, your dopamine levels stay high, your prolactin levels stay low, and you avoid the Coolidge Effect. Not to mention the fact that your mood and energy levels double once you’ve gone a few months of NoF@P and No PMO, while transmuting that energy into blissful sex with your partner.

An excellent book on the subject is Marnia Robinson’s “Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow.” As opposed to “Women’s Infidelity”, “Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow” doesn’t just cover the problem, it outlines the solution as well. You can also find a lot more information on the Coolidge Effect and Karezza at Marni’s excellent site reuniting.info, as well as a lot of crowdsourced experience from couples who have resurrected their dead bedrooms through non-org@smic spiritual sex.

The whole idea is to not org@sm, not to masturbate, and to let your sexual energy build. And to transmute that energy into blissful experiences with your girl through affectionate touch, deep eye contact, slow connected sex, and to try and move the energy up from your pelvic floor into your heart chakra.

Which of course all sounds like bullsh*t….

But I can tell you from personal experience that Karezza is the real deal and is the best sex I’ve ever had. From that point on, every other type of sex became just a pale imitation.

It started for me when I hit 30 and was in love for the first time, and living with a girl for the first time. I’d started to realize that ejaculation was becoming a problem both for my energy and my mood, and had been practicing multiple org@sms for a while.

But it wasn’t until I found myself up late at night in the living room almost every night j*rking off to p*rn that I knew I had a problem. It was a total shock to the system to go from a decade of sexual excess to monogamy, to the point that where I felt like I was losing my mind in yoga class watching girls bend over in front of me in near sea-through spandex pants.

So I committed, and explained things to my girlfriend, and we started experimenting and had amazing sex. She never really liked rough sex all that much to begin with so she adapted to it faster than I did. And to my surprise I realized I liked making love way more than all the kinky stuff I’d done before. And that this was the feeling I was actually chasing, but never finding, through all of my sexual adventures.

Unfortunately that wasn’t enough to save the relationship, but that was because she was just fundamentally incompatible with me, it wasn’t sex that was our problem, it was everything else, and even amazing sex wasn’t enough to solve it.

But it wasn’t just a one time thing, I was able to have that kind of sex with girlfriends after her, and even with a few girls who I was seeing non-exclusively who I cared about and connected with. And it wasn’t just that the sex was good, it goes far beyond good sex, to the point where I can say that the best moments I’ve had over the last decade were when I was having non-ejaculatory, heart-centered, karezza style s*x with a woman I cared about.

This was especially true when I hadn’t masturbated for months. My record for NoF@P and No PMO is 8 months, and by the end of that 8 months the sex I was having was out of this world. I would be walking around in euphoria for the rest of the day. And my mood and energy were through the roof, not to mention I had cyclops-style laser beam eye contact with everyone I met, and it was also one of the most productive periods of my life.

Now don’t get me wrong, it takes a lot of discipline to control your sexual energy. And I haven’t been able to make it past more than a few months of no org@sm since then. And it takes time to find a good girl that you really care about. And karezza is not guaranteed to save your relationship. But it is a total game changer, and I can’t speak highly enough about it as both a relationship management technique, and a strategy for achieving blissful states.

If I ever choose to be monogamous again, it will only be with a girl who is on the same page, and who is willing to have spiritual sex with me. Not only is spiritual sex an amazing experience, but without it, I doubt I would be able to be in a monogamous relationship for more than 6 months. If you’re struggling with a dead bedroom, and you think the relationship is worth saving, I highly recommend you try karezza as well as check out the related resources below:

Related Resources

• Reuniting.info
• Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow
• Women’s Infidelity
• How To Transmute Your Sexual Energy: Ejaculation, Energy, Tantra, NO F@P, NO PMO, Sex, Levels, Expectations
• How To Develop Your Dating Gameplan Part 4: Your Relationship Gameplan/Casual Sex Vs. Polyamory Vs. Monogamy Vs. Pros Vs. Celibacy
• Girlfriend Series Part 1: How To Find The Right Girl
• How To Have Healthy Relationships With Women Part 1
• How To Have Healthy Relationships With Women Part 2
• How To Have Healthy Relationships With Women Part 3

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Viewing life as a game is the most useful mental map I’ve found for being able to live your best life.

Viewing life as a game not only makes life a lot more fun, but it gives you tremendous insight into the human condition.

And within the Metagame of life, we all play minigames, each with their own rules, levels, rewards and punishments.

The money game, the fame game, the women game, the power game, the status game, recognition game, the love game…

And within all those games are even smaller games we play with each other to get those things.

Every person on the planet is gaming each other, all the way down to little children crying and throwing a tantrum when they aren’t allowed to have ice cream.

With the desired end result for all our games is to maximize pleasure and minimize pain.

Unfortunately, many of our games end badly, often times with the opposite result of maximizing pain.

Because some people, still play child’s games as adults, crying, screaming or threatening when they don’t get their way.

People play bad games, not because they want to be miserable, being miserable is just the end result, the play bad games because of

• Lack of self-awareness
• Lack of understanding of what motivates other people
• Being blind to the negative patterns and games you’re running
• Not knowing how to get what you want in a positive, constructive way
• Not being able to create win/win scenarios for other people
• Or a combination of all the above

People who consistently play bad games are toxic people, hurting themselves and others in a misguided attempt at happiness.

People who play good games are happy, positive people who live fulfilling lives and uplift other people around them.

How To Play Good Games

Good games, in a sentence, are games you play with your friends, family, clients and girlfriend(s) where the end game is maximum happiness, and win/win scenarios for you and your people. In life, he who has the most joy wins, so it only makes sense to play for maximum joy. Some great games to play with other people are

1. Mutual value escalation

The goal of mutual value escalation is to move through life together with your people, helping each other to do better, be better, and lifting each other up when you fall. Helping yourself and your people maximize their health, wealth, relationships and life style.

Another name for the game could be I’m great, your great, lets help each other be our best selves. Mutual value escalation comes from a place of seeing yourself as your best self, seeing other people as their best selves, and encouraging them to fulfill their potential. Seeing someone as their best self is an incredibly powerful way to relate to people, especially if you’re the first person in their lives to recognize their potential and support their goals.

The rules are to stay positive, supportive, give good advice when asked, and occasionally give unsolicited advice when you think that your friend or your girl is making a major mistake. Ultimately, it’s about seeing your people as the best versions of themselves, and supporting and encouraging them to be that person.

When not played properly it turns into a game of value de-escalation, where you’re telling that person they’re no good, and they’re telling you the same, which is not where you want to be.

2. Us Vs. Them

Us vs. them might sound like a bad game at first, and it definitely can be depending on who’s playing and what the goals are, but it can be a great game when you play it ethically. Because the reality is, at least half of life is a competition, competition for money, resources, women, clients, customers, housing, status and all the other things people are playing for.

Life becomes a lot more fun when you have people to help you compete. For me, having a group of guys who can not only support me in my goals, but offer valuable business advice, introduce me to women, making me more competitive in getting what I want.

The same logic applies to your company, you want people on your team who are committed to helping you make money, get more clients, more revenue, more traffic, or whatever else you need to compete.

Us. vs them applies to romantic relationships too, at the end of the day, there are very few people who will be loyal to you when you’re down, and a large part of being in a relationship is to have someone in your corner.

Us vs them, is like mutual value escalation, but projected outward into the competition of life. Where you work as a team to help each other win, and help each other compete ethically. And if someone is being unethical to your people, you help your people throw stones at their enemies, not necessarily in the literal sense, but you have each other’s backs.

Every successful organization, government, nation or enterprise plays us vs. them, as humans we’re tribal creatures. With that said, us vs. them goes badly in two ways:

1. Ethical failure: you can see this in nations when they attack a neighbor for resources and territory
2. Infighting: When instead of cooperating within your team, you start to compete within your team, and us vs. them becomes us vs. us, this is how companies implode, friendships end, and divorce starts.

3. Recognition and appreciation

The recognition and appreciation game is a great game to play because it’s so easy to play, it costs you nothing to do, it makes other people happy, and almost no one else does it. The rules are simple, recognize people for doing things for you, and show them your appreciation.

Most people are too hungry for their own recognition to give it to others, or they don’t really listen to other people, and it doesn’t occur to them to appreciate the other person. Ironically though, the more you appreciate other people, the more they tend to appreciate you.

In fact you could say the recognition and appreciation game is the entire basis behind Dale Carnegie’s classic How To Win Friends And Influence People, which is hands down the best book on navigating interpersonal relationships.

The recognition and appreciation game is also incredibly important in business: recognizing and appreciating your clients, customers and supporters is extremely important, that’s why I play the recognition and appreciation game every day in the comments section of my videos and articles.

Failure to play the recognition and appreciation game often leads to resentment, especially in romantic relationships, in fact not being appreciated is probably the #1 complaint from women about men. Which can lead women to play the:

• “I do so much for you” game and you to play the “I’m not a mind reader” game
• Or the “I didn’t ask you to do those things, you did them because you wanted to” game
• Or the “Does everything you do have strings attached to it?” game

And then before long you’re both playing us vs. us instead of us vs. them, and it’s the beginning of the end of your relationship.

4. Let’s have fun

Let’s have fun is probably my favorite game, underneath my dedication to my mission and go-getter attitude, I’m basically a 12 year old who only wants to do things that are fun. I hate going to the dentist, doing chores, seeing distant relatives or any of the other things adults my age spend their life doing. It’s part of why I took such a radical turn in my life, so I could set my life up where I do the minimum of things I don’t want to do, as opposed to the guys I used to work with, who had to do something they didn’t want every day of the week, on top of a job they hated.

Ultimately, adult life doesn’t have to be boring, and you don’t have to do chores when you make enough money to pay other people. Whenever I sit down with my friends, family or girlfriends I want to have fun. Jokes, impressions, funny movies, Family Guy, standup comedy, dancing, drinking, sex – whatever it is, free time for me is either fun time, or reading time, if it’s not fun I’d rather spend time learning or working on my business. I’m always thinking about how to have fun and try to bring a playful attitude to the people around me.

If it’s a girl I’m dating and we’re chilling at my place I’m not above tickling, playfighting, teasing, doing a silly dance or giving her something only to snatch it back at the last minute, basically being 8 years old. When you keep it playful you make other people feel the same way and life becomes more fun for everyone.

In short, healthy relationships are based on feed, not need. And especially not blame, shame, guilt or fear, sure if someone is violating your boundaries, or disrespecting you, there is a place for guilt and shame in moderation, but not much, when you have the right people in your life, most problems can be solved without resorting to negative emotions.

The whole idea of good games is win/win scenarios, with a win being more happiness for everyone involved. But, just as important as playing good games, if not more important, is avoiding playing bad games.

How To Stop Playing Bad Games

Bad games, in a sentence are games that you play with friends, lovers, family and clients that end in win/lose or even lose/lose scenarios. Win/lose is where you’re trying to get over on someone and lose/lose is even worse, where you know you’re willing to take a loss, only so you can drag someone down with you.

With that said, the logic of bad games does not apply to competition outside of your inner circle as covered in us vs. them. In life you need to compete for jobs, clients, customers, women, investment and that often means someone else taking a loss while you’re taking a win. That’s the natural order of life, and as long as you’re ethical and respectful, it’s your duty to compete OUTSIDE or your inner circle, so you’re able to better help yourself and help your people.

Competing within your circle is the kind of win/lose behavior you want to avoid, because ultimately you make other people less happy, and even though you might get a temporary win, the resentment you cause in others eventually kills those relationships, leading to a loss. Ultimately win/lose and lose/lose games within your circle ends in a loss for you.

When you look around, you’ll see how much time people spend setting up games, losing them, then being upset about the loss. Often times those games are about controlling others, failing at getting control, being angry about your lack of control, yet refusing to recognize that you’re playing the wrong game, and refusing to take action to change your games.

And when I say you, I mean you, because you have total control over all the games you CHOOSE TO play, because you choose to play them all, no one has or can every make you play a game you don’t want to. Even the game of employee in a job you hate, you chose to take that job you can say you “have” to work there for money, but that’s only because you didn’t start your own business. And you can say you couldn’t have started a business because you didn’t have the cash or the acumen, but that’s only because you didn’t spend the last decade saving and studying the business game.

I played the corporate salesman game for a while for money, suits and status. I had the act down, the suit, the phone, the studied mannerisms, the corporate buzzwords, the appropriate objections, the right venues to take clients….but I hated every minute of it. I recognized that no matter how much money I made at that game, it wasn’t even close to worth it to have to wake up every day and do what I hate. .

So I decided to play the personal development guru game and it’s been 100 times more fun. Building this business was the best decision I’ve made in the last decade, and I’m on pace to smash my sales income, not to mention that my income is now geoarbitraged in a country that’s a third of the price of Canada. And I’m only getting started, God willing I have the rest of my life to play this game, build my brand, and help as many guys as I can.

Changing your games from bad to good is one of the best things you can do for yourself, especially the interpersonal games you play. In fact there is an entire school of thought called Transactional Analysis based around becoming aware of the games you and the people around you play. This is incredibly important, because once you can recognize a bad game, you can:

1. Stop creating bad games for yourself and for others
2. Refuse to play bad games that are offered to you
3. Get rid of toxic people in your life who only want to play bad games

Tolstoy in Anna Karenina rightfully said that:

“Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”

And that quote, also known as the Anna Karenina principle applies to all people in all walks of life and all the games they play. There are maybe a handful of good games that make you happier, but there are a near infinite amount of games that make you and the people around you less happy. If you truly want to be happier, it’s your job to get rid of those games. To do that you need to know what a bad game is.

The manual for games analysis is Eric Berne’s seminal book Games People Play, which covers the basics of his philosophy known as Transactional Analysis as well as lists 100 games people. Or you can check out the bullet point summary here.

Here is a small list and chart that I’ve taken from an excellent site,, analyzing a few of the bad games people play as identified by TA. Take a look and see how many bad games you play now, and how many bad games other people are trying to play with you.

The bad games I’ve played in the past but don’t play anymore are:

1. Courtroom: Where I would use my IQ and logic to bludgeon people in arguments, especially girlfriends
2. Now I’ve Got You: Where I would get revenge on people who wronged me, now I just get revenge through success
3. Uproar: When I would raise my voice to my mom as a teenager and sometimes as an adult to girlfriends, this is something I’ve put a lot of work into, and can proudly say that I’ve raised my voice 3 times in the last five years. Ideally I will raise my voice 0 times in the next five years.

The bad games I still play are:

1. Blemish: Which is finding faults in others, part of this is because I have high standards for myself, so I have a gut level reaction to people who don’t take pride in operating at a high level. With that said I try to quickly reframe that with self censorship, humility and compassion. And although I might think something, I’m pretty good at keeping my negative thoughts about others to myself.
2. Clever Me: Also known as bragging, and I’ll admit I still do this with my friends, but in moderation, and my friends are kind enough to indulge me. Ultimately I don’t see it as a big problem, and I do the same for my friends, in fact I want to be around guys who are proud of their accomplishments and confident about their future.

But for the most part I’ve done a pretty good job of uprooting and getting rid of my negative games. I’ve raised my voice maybe 3 times in the last five years, and I haven’t had a real argument with a friend since I can remember, and I rarely if ever send the angry text or email or end relationships dramatically. With that said, some women get dramatic with me at the end of a relationship, but I don’t agree to play the game, in fact that’s usually half the reason I wanted to stop seeing them.

We’re all human, and it’s not about beating yourself up, instead it’s about getting rid of your bad games so you can be happier, and so you can make your people happier. It’s really worth your time to sit down and see what bad games you’re playing and how to change them.

How To Play Better Games

The first step in learning to play better games is to get rid of people who play bad games. For a good relationship to work, everyone needs to be on the same page, playing good games, but for relationships to go bad, it only takes one person playing bad games, because it’s impossible to co-create good games with someone who wants to play bad games.

It’s a fact that one bad apple spoils the whole bunch, which is why it’s much easier to just remove toxic people from your life, instead of trying to change their behavior. With that said, no one is perfect, most people play some bad games, but when you’re dealing with a good person, a quick conversation can usually steer the relationship back on track.

The second step is looking within, and taking responsibility for changing the bad games you play. In my industry, a lot of content creators try to teach guys how to be more “alpha”, which is useful to a degree, but a better frame instead of trying to be more alpha, try to be a better leader, and a better player in the game of life. Start with happiness and look more towards creating experiences that make you happy, then trying to live up to some anonymous bloggers idea of what a man should be.

We don’t live in the jungle anymore and true alpha behavior can easily end you up in jail. Not to mention the fact that alpha isn’t always available, if you landed a plum job as a hedge fund equities trader, trying to act like the alpha in that shark tank will get you fired within hours.

I’ve made a lot more progress controlling my natural aggressive instincts, and transmuting them towards positive goals then I ever did indulging them. I went from the kid who would scream at his teammates for costing me a soccer game, to someone who almost never raises his voice, or creates dramatic situations. And every year I develop more emotional control, and more productive, positive ways to resolve conflicts.

It’s become incredibly obvious to me, especially after close to a decade in sales, that you catch way more flies with honey, and that controlling your emotions, and doing things like not sending that angry email is incredibly important.

Blame, shame, passive aggression, or even aggressive aggression are rarely the best ways to get what you want.

Sure, sometimes you have to call attention to someone breaking the rules of a game you agreed to play or violating your boundaries. But you can almost always deliver criticism gently and in between two compliments, which is so much more effective.

And sure, in the rare case of self defense, aggression is useful. But if you’re playing the game of life to the fullest, the fact that you have to defend yourself in a street fight, means you’ve already made a major mistake and got caught slipping.

For the most part, you want to put effort into creating good games, and in times of conflict, you want to take a deep breath, not send that angry email, not raise your voice and think about how to create a positive solution.

The ironic thing is, using restraint, creating positive solutions, and finding a way to give the other person what they want gets you what you want in the long run. And using blame, shame, and aggression to force a solution, often leads to you not getting what you want, or only getting what you want in the short term, and suffering the repercussions in the long term.

In summary, all life is sales, every communication you make is selling some type of experience, even down to polite conversation with the checkout girl. You can choose to create positive games and sell a win/win experience for the people you interact with. Or you can chose to create losing games, pay no attention to what other people want, try and force results with blame, shame and aggression, and move through life like a bull in a china shop.

The choice is yours, I recommend creating the best games you can, when you do, you and everyone around you becomes happier, and you get one step closer to living your best life every day of the week.

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And more than that, you need to make the choice to do it.

Lastly, you need a gameplan, a set of go-to actions you can use to feel better, both immediately, and over the long run.

To learn what depression is, and the choice you need to make to defeat it, and to get your set of go-to feel good actions, watch the video and audio below. Also make sure to check out the related resources, if you need more content to get you feeling better.

What You Need To Know About Depression

Related Resources

• How To Prevent Depression Through Purpose, Potential, Passion And Eustress
• How To Fight Depression: The Definitive Guide To Feeling Better
• Why You’re Depressed And What To Do About It

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The best mental map I’ve found for enjoying your life is to view it as a game.

And to use that map to steer yourself towards positive territory, or more specifically, positive experiences.

Within the great game of life, there are many mental maps you can use, not just for happiness, but for clarity.

Alchemy is one of those mental maps, even though it’s long been out of fashion with the intelligentsia.

The alchemists we’re the original chemists, and the end result of their experiments is modern science.

But that’s only part of the picture, the real alchemy, hidden behind sacred geometry, is the science of creation.

Of transmuting the WILL, or thought energy, into physical form.

And the WILL is the most powerful force on this planet, both in the divine WILL, from which the universe was spontaneously created out of the nameless, formless intelligence of the SPIRIT. And of the WILL of man, endowed to us by that SPIRIT, with a certain amount of potential given to each man.

The car, and the light, and the very computer or smartphone you’re reading this on, are direct examples of that WILL, of the WILL of those alchemists who fulfilled their potential and their purpose and changed the very fabric of our reality.

But it goes deeper then that…

Picture a magical ritual where through certain clothes, phrases, decorations, candles, and symbols, a regular room is turned into a magical doorway, and within that room, is an outline on the floor, a magical circle, within which the ritual is performed.

Magicians or alchemists believe that by performing rituals within a magical circle, in a room that is properly prepared, and with the right intent, that they can transmute their thought energy, from the uncreated ether, into the physical world.

You might believe magic doesn’t work, and that candles and clothes and circles have no affect on reality. And you might think in today’s day and age that anyone who considers themselves a magician is either dumb or outright delusional. After all it’s just a room with a circle on the floor.

But before you judge, think clearly about the things that you do believe in, because you be surprised. When you see alchemy for the first time you’ll be shocked at how you missed it before, and how many rituals you either perform or at least believe in.

True alchemy is taking the concept of a thought or an idea, and manifesting it into a magical object or event, that has a physical reality, through the power of setting, ritual, and belief.

Take the event of a Brazilian soccer superstar worth hundreds of millions, dressed in his national team’s colors, scoring the winning goal in the World Cup finals, in overtime, to a stadium full of adoring Brazilian fans, and to billions of people watching on TV. The entire event, to billions of people worldwide, and especially the people in the stadium, is an incredibly significant event, with a tremendous amount of energy infused in both the game and the end result.

Now take the actual reality, a man in colorful cloth kicks a ball past another man into a metal frame. The significance, the hundreds of millions of dollars paid, the stadium, the billions of people watching, the national colors, the national pride, the thrill of victory, the agony of defeat, the very idea of the existence of a soccer game, down to the very act of renaming the kick of a ball into a metal frame as a goal, and an overtime goal at that, is all part of an elaborate ritual. And the alchemical result directly and significantly affects the energy of billions of people worldwide, with the Brazilian player becoming a hero for the ages.

In that ritual, billions of people celebrate a child’s game with a passion they rarely express for anything else, they bet, and cry, and cheer, boo, and scream at the TV as if it has an effect, and some grown men will risk death, injury or jail to fight in the street against other grown men who support the opposite team. All for a guy who kicked a ball past another guy into a metal frame.

In effect, the soccer player is the magician, the stadium is the magical setting, the crowd cheering is the incantation, the team jerseys are the costume, the magical circle is the net, and the ability to kick the ball into the net is the end result of decades of practicing ritual, and the magician’s belief of turning his childhood thought of being a world cup hero into a reality.

But when it comes to ritual and alchemy, a soccer game is just the tip of the iceberg.

Let’s take what might be the ultimate ritual, the creation of money. The central bankers are the magicians, perhaps the greatest of all time, the mint is the ritual room, the printing press is the magical circle, and the end result of their alchemy is the creation of magical pieces of paper called money, that cost next to nothing to produce, that are valued at trillions of dollars, and that are used by 6 billion people in exchange for real goods and services, all because of the alchemy of central bankers, and the agreement of the rest of the population.

And through the ultimate sleight of hand, the sorcerers of central banking, who own the central banks, and the means of production to create the money out of thin air, loan this money to governments at interest, interest which 6 billion people on the planet pay, for the use of the banker’s alchemical creation. You can say what you want about central bankers, but whatever way you want to slice it, you have to respect their power as magicians. Because everything in your life is directly affected by those magical pieces of paper, through which you can get other people to cook for you, clean for you, and build a house for you, among a million other things.

Rituals and magic exist in the real world, it’s just that most men who define themselves as magicians are practicing the wrong rituals. The central bankers create magical paper through thought and give that paper reality by blessing it in the form of a stamp. In their ritual they spend a penny on the creation of a bill worth a thousand dollars, and then loan that bill to the population at large, for indefinite yearly interest. The wealth and mindshare transfer is beyond monumental, the guy in the hooded cloak doesn’t hold a candle to the true magicians operating the central banks.

The next most powerful magicians are the government officials, who work hand in glove with the central bankers. The middle-aged men, most of whom couldn’t fight if their lives depended on it, yet they control all the force on the planet, by controlling the guys with guns. The robes are power suits, the swearing in statement is the ritual, the bible where he places his hand is the magical circle, and the end result is a civilian becomes a temporary sovereign, in charge of all the guys with guns within his territory through words and the papers he signs, and the population accepts the arrangement.

You can say what you want about the idea of government, good cases can be made for both the pros and the cons, but whatever you think, you have to respect the power and the game of the magicians behind it.

When you open your eyes you can see ritual and alchemy everywhere you look.

You can see how the broke, high school dropout, William Bradley Pitt became Brad Pitt, the incredibly wealthy superstar, worshiped by millions through the power of the acting rituals he performed on the movie screen.

You can see how the magicians at Hermes sell a Birkin Bag that costs $800 dollars to produce for an average price of $7,000 all the way up to $300,000, for a bag made of nothing more than dead crocodile skin and some metal that people consider precious.

Magic applies all the way down to your every day life, every graduation, religious, Christening, birthday, wedding or funeral ceremony is an elaborate ritual with an alchemical intent. After a Bar Mitzvah ritual, a Jewish boy is accepted as a man by members of his community. After a graduation ceremony, a student becomes a high school graduate, ready for the next ritual of University.

Look at your own life and see all the rituals you and the people around you participate in. See all the areas where real life magicians create alchemy through ritual and intent, producing for consumers, and where hundreds or thousands or millions or even billions of consumers accept and believe in the magical creations that these producers thought and WILLED into existence.

And ACCEPTANCE and BELIEF are the keys to it all. First in the magician in himself through thought, secondly through his own BELIEF in his skill at performing the ritual, and thirdly in his subjects believing and accepting his alchemical creations.

That’s the key to it all, AGREEMENT.

Agreement is what gives power to ceremonies, and money, and government, and nations, and armies, and sports teams, and movie stars, and moguls, and CEOs, and entrepreneurs.

Agreement is what makes one man wealthier, higher status, more successful, better looking, more stylish and more powerful than another man.

The magician learns the game from other magicians, gets the thought, practices the rituals, and produces a result through alchemy.

And all alchemy traces back to those ancient magicians of old who created language, language that allowed us as humans to rise far above all the other animals.

Those ancient magicians who had an idea, created sounds with their mouth, and associated those sounds with people, places and things, and finally, they got those same people to agree and accept their sounds as words. Words that have become so powerful, it’s impossible to image life without them.

Imagine the reality of a chimpanzee, who shares 96% of our DNA, yet they’ve never spoken or even thought one single word. Just imagine their inner monologue for a second with no words, nothing but images and sounds. This is the power of agreement in words, without words our world and our inner life would be no richer than a chimpanzee’s.

It’s all a WORD game, and you’re playing it right now by reading this very article.

That’s why the Bible says “In the beginning, there was the word.”

If you truly want to optimize your life, and fulfill your potential, and become the most powerful alchemist you can be, recognize that AGREEMENT is the key to the whole game, and the more agreement you have, the more powerful you become. It all starts with a thought you pull from the ether with your WILL, a thought where you first get agreement from yourself that you can manifest that thought into reality. And then it’s about studying the great magicians, learning and practicing and refining your ritual, and finally getting AGREEMENT from others through alchemy that your creation is a reality.

Becoming an alchemist means becoming a master at agreement. Everything you want in life comes from other people agreeing to give it to you, money, sex, love, friendship, influence, fame – you name it.

But a ritual with black robes and chanting is not the most efficient way to get what you want, and to be honest, on a psychic level I don’t like involving myself in any ritual that seems dark and secretive. I’d prefer to stay in the light. And luckily for me, and for you, you don’t need to sit around in a dark room all day chanting to get what you want.

It’s much better to wake up early and perform your workday ritual in the sunshine, honing your skills and sharpening your intent, so that through the alchemy of your entrepreneurial ritual, you can manifest money. Because say what you want about money, and how it’s created, without it you’re on the streets, with it, you either solve or dramatically reduce every problem you have.

It’s an ugly truth, especially when you understand how it’s created, but it’s a truth nonetheless. In the WORD game of life, the magical paper called money is an absolute necessity, and the more of it you have, the easier your life is.

If you’re going to spend your workday mastering any ritual, master the entrepreneurial ritual, the employee ritual rarely gets you paid what you deserve, and at best you’re an assistant to a magician. Now, without money or marketable skills, an apprenticeship might be useful, but recognize that every Forbes 500 member is an owner, and in almost all cases, it’s ownership of a single company that made them the bulk of their fortune, from Apple to Berkshire to Google.

To become an entrepreneur you study the great magicians and how they produced capital. You study the ritual of sales, marketing, and product creation. You refine your ritual over time, learning from your mistakes. You study consumers and see what gets their agreement. And ultimately you develop the wardrobe of an entrepreneur, you create the ritual of a business, you learn the magical words of salesmanship, and you stand inside the magical circle of creation and produce your product or service. And through the intent behind your alchemy, you bring that product or service into existence through the AGREEMENT of your customers and clients.

And when you devote yourself single-mindedly to the alchemy of business, you’ll be shocked at what you can achieve. I went from being a salesman at a job I hated to a content creator at a business I own and love. And since I started the ritual, millions of people have listened to my words, and thousands of people have paid me money to read my words, listen to my words, or to watch me speak my words.

And you have the potential to do the same. And not just in business, but in all areas of life, it comes down to a thought, to learning the game, to refining your game, and ultimately getting what you want through enough intent and action that other people give you their agreement. And the best way to get that agreement is by adding value.

In the game of life there are three ways to get people to AGREE to give you what you want:

Force, theft and adding value.

Of the three, adding value is white magic, theft and force are black magic, unless used in self defense or for the defense of your people.

At this point you might be wondering where I stand, and I’ll tell you I try my best to stay on the right hand path. I’ve studied the left hand path but I don’t like where it leads in this life, and I’m scared to think where it takes you after you die.

Crowley died a fat, penniless, drug addict. Mussolini was hung by his ankles in the town square. And Madoff is rotting away in jail. Sure, many people get away with their dirty deeds and their black magic, but they live every day in fear of attack, or of getting caught, and their deeds come back to them in other ways. In lawsuits, in broken marriages, in drug addicted children, and in unhappiness, despite all the trappings of success. And God only knows where they go after they’re time is up in this world.

It’s easier to be happy by adding value, instead of by relying on theft and force. You don’t have to worry about getting caught or getting shot. You don’t have to mistrust everyone in your inner circle, waiting for the smallest sign of betrayal because you chose to play a game where a loss is death or jail.

Instead life is better when you choose to play the game of adding value to get AGREEMENT. You can live in peace and ease, knowing that the more value you add, the better you do, and the more people you help.

In my experience, the happiest people I know are the people who live their life to add value to others. And I don’t think you have to sacrifice money, and clothes, and women, and influence, I think you can have all those things and still walk on the right hand path. Just as long as you get those things by adding value, instead of using force and theft.

Just don’t get caught in the trap of worrying about what other people are doing. At the end of the day, there are both pros and cons to banking and government, alchemical creations can’t survive without benefiting people. And although I don’t like some things about how the world is run, I also recognize I get a lot of benefit from people agreeing to the existence of things like banks, and government, and money.

For me, life is an endlessly fascinating game, and I prefer to look and learn instead of being angry. I look for insight, and to understand other people’s games, to study the magicians whether good or bad, and to learn from them equally. To study what gets agreement, and ultimately to take that knowledge to add value to my life and the lives of my people. Knowledge itself isn’t evil, it’s the intent and the actions of the alchemist that matter.

As far as the power of your personal alchemy goes, there are limitations, chances are you couldn’t play in the NBA even if you wanted to. But I bet you can build a six figure business, and if you already have one, I bet you can double your income in a few years or less if you crystallize your intent and refine your ritual. The same applies to the other health, wealth, relationships and lifestyle games you want to play, when you’re committed to your rituals, when you’re disciplined, and when you refine your will and apply your intent to manifest what you want in your reality.

In the past, my true potential always surprised me. At one point in trading I struggled to make $1000 dollars in a month, within a year I had made $100,000 in a month. In sales I had to manifest $40,000 a month in revenue, with no more than a phone and an internet connection in order to keep my job. And now, I’m the guy on the other end of the screen, and I get paid for nothing more than my words. It’s all alchemy as far as I’m concerned, and the more agreement I get as an authority, the more I recognize the power of the ritual, and the malleability of reality. And the same is true in your life, as long as you commit to getting what you want.

So in short, commit to your goals, study the masters, recognize game, refine your ritual, crystallize your will, and use your intent to become an alchemist in the great game of life. Commit to applying your potential in all areas of your life. And do it the right way, by adding value, and ultimately you’ll create a happier life for yourself and for the people you touch.

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How I Stay Money Motivated

1. Wealth Protection (never having money problems again)

I’m still a poor boy at heart and I’m afraid of losing what I have now, and what I will make in the future. Outside of a debilitating illness, poverty is my biggest fear. I still wake up in a cold sweat some nights where I dreamt I was back at a terrible job I used to work. With that said, I manage that fear by staying on top of my financial game. And I think it’s good to have some financial fear, because fear is your friend, when you use it correctly.

I know there is no neutral in the game of life and I need to keep working and be grateful for what I have. That also means diversifying income streams outside of my primary business, as well as diversifying my financial holdings into physical assets, as opposed to having all my income and all my assets as a few digits on a computer screen.

Where it stands now, all my revenue comes from my online, as well as being stored online as some digits in a bank, which makes me uncomfortable. I’m vulnerable to cyber attacks, identity theft, inflation (which can be as high as 10%/year in bad times), and the potential of the bank I’m invested with to collapse. With a physical asset like real estate, I don’t have any of those risks, not to mention I can live in it, if I get hit with some type of black swan event.

I still agree with the bulk of what I wrote in my article on why you shouldn’t invest in real estate, but I wrote that with a focus on North American real estate, where most of my supporters live. Now I live in SEA, which is a different story. As opposed to Canadian real estate, SEA real estate is cheap enough to buy without a mortgage, my best friend does property management, and I’m able to diversify outside of my USD income. Even though I’m Canadian, my income is mostly from the US, and in the case of a US economic collapse I’m willing to bet that my income would take a hit, the value of the USD would take a hit, the US property market would take a hit, as well as the Canada taking a property and currency hit as well.

For me goal number 1 is getting rich, and IMO the best way to do that is business ownership. Goal number 2 is protect what you have. And goal number 3 is getting richer by investing in income producing assets that have the potential to appreciate. I’d much rather own real estate or bonds that payout 5% a year and have the potential to appreciate, rather than an index fund where you don’t get dividends, not to say an index fund or an ETF is necessarily a bad investment, it certainly beats mutual funds.

Right now I’m leaning towards protecting my wealth and getting more income streams through SEA real estate. Both as an owner and landlord, as well as by investing in my buddies’ friends property management, rental and real estate sales business.

That way I’m getting a piece of all the properties we manage, rent and sell. and have another stream of business income. I’m also able to protect my wealth and get another income stream by owning SEA property and renting it out. And I have my best friend managing the company, as well as scouting and managing properties for me. Not to mention, at worst my SEA real estate is at least keeping up with inflation, and in the best case scenario, I’m getting decent appreciation every year.

Also, one future move I’m looking at is creating a private SEA investment fund for my readers to protect their money. Grant Cardone, who I use a lot as a model for my personal development business, has Cardone Capital, a multi family investment fund with 800 million in AUM. Not only would I be able to help my readers protect their assets and get a check every month, but I’d get a piece of the management, rental and property sales income. But I’d also be able to own a lot more properties than I otherwise would by doing JV deals with my readers, as opposed having to take out mortgages.

Also SEA real estate also works a currency play for the next 30 years. I figure there is a 50% chance we see a US economic depression in our lifetime, which is a big problem for me, both because I get paid in USD, and because most of my readers, viewers and customers live in the US. Even without a collapse, it’s hard for me to see how the US currency won’t decline against SEA currencies.

Right now I get 31 Thai Baht per every US dollar, which allows me to have a comfortable life in Thailand by geoarbitraging my income. But I see that arb getting worse and worse over time, especially if Thailand pulls a Singapore and becomes a wealthy country, which is very possible. As of today, 1 USD only gets you 1.35 SGD. Having a portfolio of real estate in Thai Baht, that I bought cheaply, paying me in Thai Baht every month is also a currency play against the USD for my financial future.

SEA property again is a possibility here as both another income stream, as well as a currency play against the USD, and an asset I can actually live in if my business takes a big hit in the collapse.

Lastly, wealth protection for me is being able to save and invest enough cash so that I can continue to live the good life in my old age. I never plan on retiring, but I doubt I will be able to work the same hours I do now in my 70s.

2. Automation And Outsourcing Things I Hate

I’m pretty automated already, with my entire life being run on my Wunderlist task app. But I still have to answer emails, pick up and drop off my laundry, pick up my supplements from the concierge and organize them, book flights and hotels, handle my visa, and do offline shopping and organizing, as well as other chores I don’t want to do. I want to hire an assistant within the next few years who does all of that, so I literally have to do nothing except check my Wunderlist every month and make sure it’s optimized.

I also want to outsource editing, tagging, uploading and all the other things I hate doing. I want someone to handle my social media, coaching requests as well as do the grunt work in organizing my future courses and seminars. And to get good people, I expect to pay a lot of money. My end goal is cutting my work hours down to 9 Am to 2 PM every day, and only do the things that I love in my business, while still seeing my income go up every year.

3. Fun Stuff

I’m also motivated by all the fun stuff I can by, not only do I have income goals, but I have monthly spending goals and wish list goals. And I hate spending savings on things that don’t make me income, so all of these goals have to come out of what I made that month, before the money goes into savings or is reinvested in my business.

A good rule to keep yourself from going back to the poorhouse is to save a good deal of your money every month, and to treat your savings account as sacred. Once it’s in savings, it should only leave for emergencies, or investing in assets that produce you income.

With that said, not only should you have income, savings and reinvestment goals, but I also believe in having spending goals, because spending is what you’re doing it all for.

Some things I want to buy without having to dip into savings are:

• Spending $3k to 5k/month on a beastmode penthouse in Pattaya
• A ridiculous motorcycle
• Spending 2k per month on an office in a high rise for me and my boys (although not sure if I’ll need one)
• Getting an SUV and driver for me and the boys on weekend nights out
• Renting Pattaya booze cruise party boats to throw parties for me and the boys (and the girls) twice/month
• Unlimited monthly clothes budget (still a minimalist but I like the idea)
• Unlimited monthly food, drink and entertainment budget
• Unlimited monthly biohacking budget
• Being able to take 2 to 3 long semi-vacations every year and maintain my lifestyle in those countries and paying for those vacations with what I made that month while still hitting my monthly savings targets

4. Getting My Visa Handled Permanently

Visas can be a big headache living abroad, and is something I want to get handled, some options are:

• Redomiciling my business in Labuan, which gets you a 2 year renewable Malaysian Visa
• Dropping $300,000 on some property in Malaysia to get a long term Visa
• Dropping the equivalent amount in Thailand for the same
• Buying a $30,000 Thailand elite visa which gets you a 10 year, multi entry Thai Visa

5. Blowing Up My Reach Online

If I’m being honest, I like fame and influence as much as I like money. I’m starting to get recognized on the street and I want that to become a regular thing. I heard that a friend of a friend was complaining about being recognized too often in Chiang Mai, so he left. I think guys like that are in the wrong business, you should always be happy to hear from a fan, especially because it’s those guys who pay for you to live well.

I also want to show everyone I grew up, or worked with, that I smoked them in the game of life, especially the people who said personal development and making money online was too competitive, and that moving to Thailand was crazy. I’m vain and I’m petty and I love proving people wrong. I’m also very competitive and I want to prove to the world that I’m the best in the business.

Right now the #1 guy in my niche is Grant Cardone, who spends 1 million a month on advertising. Grant Cardone is 60, by the time I’m 60, which is 24 years from now, I want to be bigger than he is, and to do that, I’ll eventually have to spend a lot of money on getting the word out. Which means I’m going to have to make a lot of money to pay for the marketing, as well as have a lot of high end products and services on the back end so I can get an ROI from those marketing dollars.

Also, I want to expand my reach because I love helping guys. When I’m my best version of myself, I’m kind and compassionate and have a big heart. One of my favorite things to do is interact with my supporters, and get positive feedback for helping guys live better. It gives me an incredible sense of purpose to help guys, and I want to help as many as I can before I die.

Lastly, I want to expand my reach because it will make me more money and I just love making more money, seeing more money come in always makes me happy.

6. Potentially Having A Family

As I said in my article on my thoughts on having children, I’m still unsure. I’m sure I will never get legally married, and risk having the government redistribute my assets. And monogamy and children definitely come with some cons, but, if I structure things the right way, it might be a big win that could add to my happiness. Having a kind, loyal woman to come home to, with dinner waiting, and two adorable half-asian girls sounds appealing. Especially because I would be raising the kids in SEA where parents are respected, and where kids are a lot happier.

Also having grandkids would give my mom a sense of purpose, and she would be able to live with me and my family. And I would also be able to afford private nursing care for her as well as the best medical treatment in SEA.

By structuring things the right way, I mean being super rich, or at least super rich for SEA. As I keep telling you guys, money either solves or dramatically reduces all your problems. I want enough money to rent a huge house with a lot of space and have a chef, nanny, and maid and driver, as well as be able to send my kids to the best schools.

Having all those things in place would allow my wife to not have to work, and not have to do tedious chores. I want her to be comfortable and happy. I’m willing to pay top dollar for this in exchange for having my kids and doing 90% of the childcare, and helping to manage the household through Wunderlist.

That’s not to say I won’t be a hands on father, I will, I just don’t want to have to change diapers, take the kids to the dentist or to soccer practice, my time is better used making money. I’d also have a ton of help to make my wife’s life easier. Ultimately by having a lot of money, I would hope to stop a lot of potential fights over money or lack thereof, which is what most couples fight over, either directly or indirectly.

At the end of the day, having two exhausted parents who work all day, who don’t have help, and who are worrying about money every month, leads to a lot of fights and stress. I grew up poor, and I promised myself that if I had kids of my own, that I would only do it if I can do it the highest standard.

I’m still unsure, but I’m 36 now, and if I do have kids, I would do it between 40 and 45, with a woman a decade younger than me, and being wealthy I’d be able to pay for fertility treatments for her if I had to. So I’m still working to get my income up so that I could have kids if I wanted to. If I don’t choose to have kids, that just means more disposable income for me.

7. Health

After turning 36 this year, health is increasingly becoming a bigger priority. I can’t slide on my diet like I used to and expect to feel good. TRT has been a big boost but I want to do a lot more, by 40 I want to have

• A hair transplant, and possibly one every year (at least potentially, I might just keep shaving it)
• Fix my flat feet, which cause a tilted pelvis, knee pain and light scoliosis in my upper back
• Fix my nose, I have a deviated septum from a hockey stick to the face that gives me sleep apnea
• Get a better cpap machine than I have now, and get an oxygen machine to go with
• Get a low dose, anti aging, prescription for GH
• Get prescriptions for all of the latest anti aging tech
• Get a genetic test and intensive blood work done, and get my levels to optimal on everything
• Get regular checkups with the best clinic in Thailand or Malaysia
• Continue to get the best supplements (doing pretty well with that now)
• Continue to experiment with the best, legal mood boosting drugs and supplements

8. Taking Care Of My Mom

My mom is in her mid 70’s now and I live halfway around the world, it’s something I think about every day. I’ve been selling her on retiring out here since before I left, and she came out this year and had a blast, but she’s not sold yet.

I’ll never put her in a home and I don’t want to move back to Canada, so I want to make the deal as enticing for her to come out as possible, and having money helps. I want to have a huge house where she gets her own space, be able to afford private nursing care at home, as well as be able to pay for the best medical treatment in SEA.

Top dollar medical care in Bangkok or Malaysia, is way better than she would get in Canada, where medicine is socialized, you have limited doctor choice at the hospital, you can’t get a private room, and you’re waiting forever. If she has any issues, I want to be able to pay for a private room in the best hospital, with the best doctor on the continent.

Also half of why I want to have a family is to give my mom a new sense of purpose with some grandkids as well as having my non-legal wife help out with my mom, which as I covered already, costs me money.

9. Charity

Lastly, I want to be able to give back, and I believe the first place you should start is people you know. Right now I all I do is tip well, and save all my change to give to my cleaning ladies niece, who comes with her to clean and is adorable. But that’s not nearly enough, I want to be able to do more.

I want to be able to help anyone in my life who needs money, as well as help you guys by either giving away money to my readers who have health problems, or starting an interest free loan organization to give you guys loans to start businesses that you can pay back over a decade without interest.

Some people say it’s selfish to make money, I say it’s selfish not to make money, the more money you can make, the more you can help people. You can say that you help people with your time, and that’s true and it’s a good, but you can help a lot more people when you have a seven figure income, and can afford to give $100,000 away per year to those in need.

Summary

There is a lot of work to be done if you want to live life at the highest levels, and that takes money, if you’re not money motivated you’re not on top of your game. Don’t think just because you’re comfortable you can slide, because you can’t, there is no neutral in life, and you’re either going up, or going down.

The last thing you want is some health problem, or some black swan financial event to remind you of that fact. If you grew up poor like me, I don’t have to remind you of that, but if you grew up middle class, you need to burn that fact in your brain.

If you want more help on money motivation, check out part 1, if you haven’t already. Also if you haven’t set your goals and wishlist for what you want, I recommend you check out my book How To Get Organized to see how I set everything up, it will make a major positive impact on your life.

Lastly, here are some more resources on how to spend wisely and how to plan for your financial future:

Related Resources

• How To Prepare For A Potential U.S. Economic Collapse
• 10 Reasons Why The Stock Market Won’t Make You Rich
• Everything You Need To Know About Equities Trading: History, Industry Overview, My Experience And Advice
• How To Spend Money Wisely
• How To Plan Your Financial Future: Income, Savings, Credit, Cash, Currencies, Passports, Housing, Taxes, Business, Investments

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People who tell you money isn’t important are people who have given up on money.

The truth is, money is extremely important.

Without money, you’re living on the streets.

And having just a little bit of money means living a subsistence level lifestyle which is barely better than being on the streets.

If you don’t get your finances handled, money will become by far the biggest problem in your life.

But I’m not talking about getting money so you can buy luxury goods.

That’s not what getting money is about.

The best thing about having money is not having to do what you hate.

When you have money:

• You don’t have to apply for a job again.
• You don’t have to work a job you hate
• You don’t have to call another man your boss
• You don’t have to make a 100 cold calls a day
• You don’t have to live in constant fear of not hitting your target that month
• You don’t have to have coworkers
• You don’t have to live for the weekends.
• You don’t have to dread Mondays
• You don’t have to cram yourself on to a crowded rush hour car every day
• You don’t have to wait for the bus in winter
• You don’t have to take public transit again
• You don’t have to drink or take drugs to numb the pain
• You don’t have to be ashamed that you have less savings as an adult then as a teenager
• You don’t have to ask your friends and parents for money
• You don’t have to clean your place
• You don’t have to cook for yourself
• You don’t have to do grunt work around the house
• You don’t have to do grunt work in your business
• You don’t have to try and fix your car or your motorcycle yourself
• You don’t have to worry if you can afford to pay this month’s rent
• You don’t have to worry if you can make the next minimum balance credit card payment
• You don’t have to pay off one credit card with another credit card
• You don’t have to be slowly strangled to death by debt
• You don’t have to choose between buying food and something else
• You don’t have to save all your change to bring to the bank in exchange for a $50 bill
• You don’t have to move back in with your mom
• You don’t have to live in a sh*$hole apartment
• You don’t have to live in fear in a dangerous neighborhood
• You don’ have to worry about what your girlfriend is going to order off the menu
• You don’t have to be ashamed to answer what it is you do for a living
• You don’t have to keep explaining away your business failures to friends and family
• You don’t have to choose between going for dinner or going for drinks
• You can’t have to save all your change and convert it into a $40 bill
• You don’t have to worry about a health problem bankrupting you
• You don’t have to worry about how you’re going to take care of your elderly parents
• You don’t have to live in a cold, depressing country
• You don’t have to feel like a failure
• You don’t have to feel like you’re not living up to your potential
• You don’t have to pretend that you don’t care about money.
• You don’t have to live in pain from health problems you can’t afford to fix.
• You don’t have to be ashamed of not being able to buy Christmas presents for your family.
• You don’t have to borrow money from your mom to survive
• You don’t have to feel like less of a man
• You don’t have to try and make sense of being poor
• You don’t have to keep lying to yourself that it’s not that bad
• You don’t have to work to two jobs to get by
• You don’t have to worry that one day you’re going to snap and hurt somebody
• You don’t have to survive off Subway 6 dollar footlongs
• You don’t have to live off peanut butter, protein powder and rice
• You don’t have to feel powerless
• You don’t have to keep begging God to give you a break
• You don’t have to live paycheck to paycheck
• You don’t have to feel the life being sucked out of you
• You don’t have to try to try and survive without savings

When you have money you don’t have to do any of those things, plus the thousand other things you hate to do.

That’s why it’s so important to recognize how big the money problem is.

Recognize this, outside of health scares, money is by far your biggest problem.

We live on an economic planet, and money affects every single area of your life.

Without money you’re going to suffer a lot in this life, make no mistake.

It’s extremely difficult to be happy living a subsistence level lifestyle.

Having money either solves or dramatically reduces every problem you have.

And the biggest problem you have is doing things you hate.

When you get rid of having to do things you hate, it opens the door for happiness to come inside.

Human beings are naturally happy, if you have any doubt look at little children.

You can regain a lot of your child like happiness by getting your finances handled.

When you have money, you have the freedom to live the way you want to.

So go get that cash, and get the life you deserve.

And if you want to learn exactly how to do get paid, check out these money making resources:

Money Making Resources

• How To Sell: Learn How To Become A Beast In Sales And Start Getting Paid Today!
• How To Succeed In Corporate Sales In One Sentence
• The Definitive Guide To Sales Part 1: Industry Overview
• The Definitive Guide To Sales Part 2: Life As A Salesman
• The Definitive Guide To Sales Part 3: How To Sell
• The Definitive Guide To Sales Part 4: How To Serve Your Clients
• The 6 Biggest Sales Mistakes And How To Avoid Them
• How To Make More Money And Be More Productive By Finding Your One Thing
• How To Do Money Math
• How To Make Money Online Part 1: Selling A Service
• How To Make Money Online Part 2: Selling A Product (Blogging, Dropshipping, Amazon FBA)
• How To Make Money Online Part 3: Traffic, Price, Conversion Rates, Promotion, Affiliate Marketing
• How To Make Money Online Part 4: Passion Vs Profit
• 31 Six Figure Service Businesses
• How To Start A Service Based Business: A Step-By-Step, No-Bullsh*t, Ultra-Practical Guide

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It’s my opinion that all of us, are the Spirit incarnated into a body to experience life.

You can choose to agree or disagree with this idea.

But one thing we can all agree on is that we’re all human beings, walking around covered in cloth, eating, drinking, and breathing the same air as everyone else.

Yet some people have much better lives than other people, why is that?

Because some people play the game of life to their advantage and some don’t.

In fact many people don’t even realize a game is being played and suffer the consequences.

The reality is, if you don’t play the game of life you get played.

Just like if you’re sitting at the poker table and you don’t know who the sucker is, that sucker is you.

The game of life is not fair, just or reasonable.

And if you don’t play the game well, it’s not fun, I’m speaking from experience here.

But when you know how to play, you can create a damn good game for yourself.

But to do that you need to use your illusions to your advantage.

By illusions I mean concepts that only exist as thoughts, spoken words, and words on a page or a computer screen.

But these particular concepts that have no physical reality whatsoever.

Government being a good example an illusion that people agree has existence.

But government has no actual existence in the physical world.

You can’t taste, touch, see, smell or hear government because it only exists as an idea or a word.

In reality, it’s a bunch of guys in suits, who tell the guys that wear uniforms and carry guns, what to do.

Now take the concept of an apple as opposed to the concept of government.

The concept of an apple, like the concept of government, exists as a thought, spoken word, and a word on a page or a computer screen.

But, an apple also exists in the physical world, you can taste, touch, smell and hold an apple in your hands.

Now whether you think government, or any other illusion, is beneficial or destructive is besides the point.

The point is that people believe in illusions and those beliefs have actual, physical effects on your reality.

This applies to all the major concepts, or illusions, that people agree have existence.

That’s why it’s important to learn how to use your illusions to your advantage.

The smart way to play is to use every illusion you can to create a better life for yourself, starting with these five:

Your character, money, masculinity, status and power.

How To Use Your Illusions

1) Character

You’re the nameless, formless Spirit, who incarnated into a body to play the game of life, at least that’s what I believe. Your self image is an illusion that you can compare it a character you would play in a video game, where your real identity is player 1.

Everyone on the planet, with the exception of children presents a carefully created image to other people. They try to present a coherent narrative of what they want you to see, and hide what they don’t want you to see. Most guys don’t walk around talking about their bowel movements, or cheating on their wives, or the p*rn they secretly watch.

As you get to know someone you get to know more about what’s going on behind the mask, but at first you’re meeting his representative. And when I say mask I mean it, the word persona actually comes from the Greek word for actor’s mask.

And everyone on the planet has a persona or personality, myself included. But just because you have insight into this, doesn’t mean the rules of the game don’t apply to you. If you want to have the good things in life, you need to use the illusion of your avatar to get them.

The good news is that there is a lot you can do to upgrade your self-image, or character in the game of life. The first step is to look at life as a fun game to be played, much like a video game, where your looks, money, status, intelligence and charm, are your attributes. And as you progress through life you level up by achieving your goals.

I used to be a salesman and although I had my money, style, fitness and game together, I hated my job. So I became Will Freemen and leveled up my character to lifestyle designer. I did it by creating a coherent narrative, and since 2012, I’ve been producing content that offers solutions to life’s problems. The end result has been money, influence, and respect in my niche. As well as being able to do what I love for a living, and live in sunny Thailand instead of cold Canada.

A more extreme example of a character upgrade would be The Rock. He failed at his first upgrade of playing in the NFL. So he went to the WWE playing the babyface character of Rocky Maivia. Rocky Maivia didn’t get much traction, so he became The Rock, a brash, funny, charismatic, heel character and went on to become of the biggest stars in the business. He then leveraged his personal brand and went to Hollywood. Through his brand, charm, attractiveness, acting skills, networking ability and a lot of performance enhancing drugs, he became the best paid actor on the planet, with millions of fans worldwide.

At the end of the day, our avatar is an illusion, but you can use your illusion to live better. And you can have a lot of fun in the process. God created you to think, feel, smell, taste, touch, hear and play through the temporary vehicle of the body, so it only makes sense to use your character to enjoy life to the fullest.

2) Money

Money itself, exists only as a thought or a word. In reality, the things people call money are nothing more than pieces of paper or digits on a computer screen. But six billion people on the planet agree that special paper and digits on a computer screen have value. And therefore you need that special paper or those digits to play the game of life. Without money you can’t survive, but with enough of it, you can do whatever you want.

When you play the money game right, you get financial security, you get to do work you enjoy, and you don’t have to work a job you hate. With enough money you can either solve or dramatically reduce every problem in your life, from food to clothing to shelter to health to your dating prospects.

You can talk all you want about how money is just a fiat currency produced by central banks, but you can’t pay your rent in economic insights. And don’t think Bitcoin changes that fact, because you can’t pay your rent in bitcoin, at least not yet. Bitcoin is merely just another storehouse of wealth, similar to gold, but much more volatile.

Calling Bitcoin a currency is an exaggeration, yes you can buy steroids with it online, but in the real world, you can’t even buy so much as a chocolate bar with Bitcoin, at least not yet. The whole buzz about Bitcoin is really about one thing, how much it’s worth…in fiat, US dollar, magic paper currency. If it couldn’t be exchanged for currency, no one would care about crypto.

Now that’s not to say that you won’t be able to buy things in stores with Bitcoin in the future, or that blockchain tech hasn’t and won’t continue to the change the game, but some virtual coins you own online are no more real than some magical pieces of paper. It doesn’t matter what the instrument is, all that matters is that people value it, either because you can exchange it directly for goods and services, or you can exchange it for special paper or digits on a screen.

The bottom line is, despite money being nothing more than a concept, the more money you have, the more you can influence people to give you goods and perform services for you, and therefore the easier your life will be.

3) Masculinity

Masculinity is merely an idea about how men should act. Some culture warriors will say masculinity is nothing more than a social construct, and that’s true, because everything is a social construct. Society is nothing more than people, and every construct or concept the human race has ever created has naturally been created by people.

Being masculine is merely and idea about how to think, dress and act in the game of life. But, it’s also an idea that is the product of millions of years of male evolution and is consistent across all cultures. And it’s an idea that will help you navigate the game of life.

Not everyone will agree with me, some guys choose at an early age not to adopt the masculine behaviors of older men, and actively resist adopting gender norms in adulthood, and that’s perfectly fine with me.

But, the fact of the matter is, being masculine will get you more respect from men and more attention from women. When you’re confident, can speak with certainty, have a firm handshake, can look people in the eye and can control your emotions, you become a more attractive man overall.

Playing the game of life as a masculine man will make it easier to make friends with like-minded winners, to sell more effectively in business, to get more women, and to have a better chance of being able to hold on to the women that you actually get.

4) Status

Status is a concept based on one person being superior to another person. Status is an illusion, an arbitrary agreement that one person outranks another person. But the fact that people agree that people differ in status affects every aspect of human behavior.

On average the people with the most advantages and attributes have the highest status. Advantages and attributes like money, power, respect, connections, looks, physique, charm and the ability to speak with authority. Some of those advantages and attributes are genetic, but many of them can be learned and gained through playing the game of life well.

Status, like money and masculinity gets you more respect from men, and more attention from women. As a general rule, the most attractive men on the planet to women are men with the highest status: billionaires, CEOs, celebrities, politicians, athletes, musicians and actors. Genetics plays a big part in how attractive you are to women, but status is by far the biggest amplifier of attraction in regards to women.

Not only that, but status applies to all social relationships. There is a hierarchy in politics, the military, corporations, academia, media, Holllywood, athletics, all the way down to friendships and romantic relationships. In a perfect world, all people would have equal respect and dating prospects, but we don’t live in that world, not even close.

People are not treated equally. Anyone who tells you otherwise is either lying to themselves or is trying to manipulate you. The hot girl who says she believes in equality is not being honest with herself, it’s no accident she happens to marry the handsome, high status guy and not the janitor. And your boss at work is trying to manipulate you by telling you to take an ownership mentality in his company and that everyone on the team is equal, when in reality he calls the shots, has 100% equity, and gets all the profits.

With that being said, you don’t need to be a CEO or a billionaire to make status work for you. Height, muscle, shoulder width, masculinity, and attractiveness can all raise your status in the world. The muscular, 6’5, good-looking, masculine acting guy instantly gets a lot more respect and attention from women than the shy, 5’2, 100 lb guy. At the end of the day, people’s instincts are primitive, and they respond differently to a guy who looks like he would have been a tribal leader, prior to the agricultural revolution.

You can’t change your height or your shoulder width, but adding 50 lbs. of muscle, dressing well, walking and talking with confidence, and acting masculine, go a long way in terms of giving you status. So does renting a nice car, and a nice condo, and making sure they’re featured on your online dating profile. You don’t have to have those things if they’re not in your budget, but they do help.

You can also choose to amplify your situational status, because status applies differently to every situation. If you’re a young, good-looking guy, with no money and no status, you can still get status in a packed club full of 10’s by becoming a club promoter. You’ll be a lot more successful with women this way than by running around trying to cold approach every girl in the club.

During the day you could work for a wealthy CEO and have no status in his organization, but as a promoter on a packed dance floor full of 10’s who know you, you outrank your boss. That is, unless he buys a bottle service table from you, and buys out the bar for the hottest girls in the club, then he regains status over you in that situation.

At the end of the day, status is an illusion, we’re all just Homo sapiens walking around in cloth, but other people buy into it in the game of life. And so having status gets you real, tangible results, like women in your bed. You can think that the status game is superficial and choose not to play, but you’ll get less respect from men and less attention from women.

The fact is, improving your status, whether situationally or in general, will get you more respect from men, and more attention from women. Not to mention you’ll have higher quality friendships and romantic relationships when the people you’re spending time with see you as someone who is high status and valuable.

5) Power

Power is an illusion. The only difference between powerful people and people without power, is that when a powerful person tells someone to do something, they do it. When the middle-aged man in a suit called the head of state tells the middle-aged men who wear the generals uniforms to bomb people in another place in the world, they do. When the guy in the janitor’s uniform commands someone to do something, nobody listens. But both people are just humans wearing cloth, however one person invested a lot of effort into getting other people to agree that he has power.

With that being said, compared to the other illusions, power comes with the most drawbacks. You’ll find that pursuing power for power’s sake is a Pyrrhic victory and has the least ROI of all the illusions in terms of your happiness. Often times power comes with a lot stress, a lot of responsibility, and having power sometimes threatens your safety. And more importantly, real power is very difficult to get. Most guys can only get their hands on a little bit of power.

The highest most guys get is middle management. And that takes 20 years of diligent service of climbing the corporate ladder. In return you get mediocre money, an office, and 20 people who report to you. For that, the corporation expects you work long hours and to handle all headaches of managing people for much less money than you would make as a successful entrepreneur. And the corporation also expects to be the top priority in your life, severely restricting your freedom.

To me that’s a bad deal for a small amount of power.

Real power comes from, in order of importance:

1. Force

2. Money

3. Salesmanship

Or a combination of all three.

Force is off the table, both for ethical reasons, and because the government (another illusion) has a monopoly on it. And I definitely don’t recommend getting into the dirty business of politics or becoming a professional revolutionary, both of those paths don’t sound very fun to me.

Instead you want just enough power to help you get the things you want in life, and to do that, you need salesmanship and money. Salesmanship, or the art of persuasion, is an extremely powerful skill to have. But it doesn’t touch money in terms of influencing people, and I’m telling you this as a guy who literally wrote the book on how to sell. This is because money is really just concentrated influence.

Mark Zuckerberg, through having billions of dollars, is able to get 30,000 people working day and night to make him more money. And because he pays for their lives, and can cut off their resources at any time, he has tremendous power over the people that work for him.

It doesn’t matter how persuasive you are, money trumps salesmanship. You can sell people on your vision, and they might stick around for a little while, but the vast majority of people can’t see past the next few months. The best way to get them to do what you want is to pay them money every month. People will tell you it’s not about the money, but it’s always about the money. And the more money you pay someone, the more power you have over that person.

With that being said, paying people money just to have power over them is a bad play in my opinion. You should only take on as many employees as you need to hit your financial targets. Personally I’d rather not have to manage people when I can avoid it, as 90% of business stress comes from managing people. Not to mention that If I want to travel that month, or need to do a visa run, I’d have to worry about how business is being handled at my office.

Luckily, because of the type of business I have, I’m able to manage my operation by being a client of various companies and contractors online. I use my power as a client to get companies to host my website, podcast and YouTube channel, among other things. I also use my power as a client of independent contractors and pay them to do graphic design as well as help me create products. And if the company or contractor isn’t doing the job up to my standards, I have the power to quickly and easily switch to one of their competitors.

For social situations, money helps as well, everyone wants to hang out with a wealthy guy, but salesmanship is also important. By making people feel good, and adding value to their lives, you can persuade people to give you power and treat you as the leader of your social circle, or the leader of your romantic relationship.

But again, it’s not about getting power over people for power’s sake, or just so that you can manipulate them. It’s about only getting as much power as you need to make more money and create happy experiences for yourself, your friends and the women in your life.

The primary reason it’s good to have some power in your business and in social situations is so that you don’t have to live with other people controlling your life. It’s much harder to get your needs met when you give your power to your boss, friends or girlfriend. It’s easier to be happy when you have control over your revenue, control over your social experiences, and you get the respect that comes with being a leader.

You don’t have to like the game but you have to play it

At least if you want to be able to live well.

You might be able to see through illusions.

And you might think that money, status, and power are worldly and superficial.

You might wish you didn’t have to worry so much about making money

You might wish that women didn’t care about status and arbitrary fashion trends.

You might wish you lived in a world where people believed in self governance.

You might wish the game was different.

Sh$# I wish the game was different.

I wish we lived in a world where everyone was happy, healthy and wealthy.

But we don’t live in that world… and to get food, clothing, shelter, women, freedom and all the other good things in life, you have to play for them.

Don’t think just because you can see through the game that you don’t have to play, that’s dumbsmart, the game is the game is the game.

Illusions might not have any physical existence themselves, but other people agree they exist, therefore you need to use them to your advantage.

Lastly, it’s not enough just to use your own illusions, you have to respect other people’s illusions as well, and play your hand accordingly.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that when you poke holes in other people’s illusions, they will reward you for your intelligence and insight.

People don’t reward other people who poke holes in their reality, especially when it comes to the concepts that they’re most proud of, in fact they respond with outright hostility.

You can guarantee with mathematical precision, that by attacking other people’s beliefs, they will most certainly shoot the messenger.

If you don’t believe me, try telling the cop that pulls you over, or the custom’s agent at the airport, that you don’t agree that they have authority over you, and that the government they claim to represent is just a concept without physical reality.

I guarantee that you will end up in a world of hurt, because they have all the guns, and guns have real world physical consequences.

The smart player doesn’t pick a fight with a superior force.

The smart move in that situation would be to play the role of respectful, harmless citizen, comply with the person’s requests, and have all your documentation ready to be shown.

The same logic applies to all situations that involve other people’s illusions, you will get much further in life by respecting them.

Playing the game is not about showing off how insightful you are, or using your intelligence as a way to attack other people, it’s about playing the right card at the right time.

In Summary

Illusions are concept that exist as thoughts, spoken words, or words on a page or screen, but in and of themselves have no physical existence.

But, because people agree that certain illusions exist and are important, those illusions affect your physical reality and your experience of life.

And they affect your life to such an extent that it’s hard to imagine the modern world without them.

You can think some illusions are superficial, but they still affect you nonetheless.

You can wish the world was different, but the world is the way it is.

Therefore, if you want to get the most joy out of life, it only makes sense to use your illusions to your advantage.

When you approach life as a game to be played, where illusions are attributes of your character that can be upgraded, life becomes a lot more fun.

But, to play at the highest level, you not only have to use your own illusions, but you have to respect other people’s illusions as well, and play your hand accordingly.

Disrespecting other people’s illusions as a way to prove your intelligence will only end with you suffering real world consequences.

So, view life as a fun game where he who has the most joy wins, play it to the best of your ability, respect other people’s illusions, and use your own illusions to create the best possible life for yourself.

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Crowley said do as thou wilt.

Nietzche said will to power.

Christ said not my will but thine.

And all of them were right because the will can be used for anything.

For empty hedonism, for power, or to be sacrificed to God.

Christ used his will to create a spiritual kingdom of Godliness, peace and love.

Stalin used his will to create a worldly kingdom of godlessness, war and hatred.

Both chose and both reaped what they sowed.

You have the same choice, to apply your will to anything you want.

And your will, the human will, is the most powerful force on the planet.

Everything you use, from electricity, to cars, to computers is testament to that fact.

Testament to the will of Edison, Ford and Gates.

The only way to get the things you want in this life is by concentrating and applying your will.

This is the real secret to success.

Without will you don’t have a prayer.

It starts with the thought of wanting something.

That could be anything from wanting a pizza to wanting to build an empire that outlives you.

To manifest your will in the physical world requires taking action on that thought.

That could be as easy as picking up the phone and ordering a pizza.

Or as difficult as devoting the next 50 years of your life towards building a dynasty.

The proper way to apply your will is towards your wealth, health, relationships, lifestyle and spirit.

When you apply your will properly you become proud of your accomplishments.

When you apply your will improperly you become ashamed of your failures.

I can guarantee that with mathematical precision.

The key to success is concentrating your will and applying it correctly.

Because the truth is, there is no such thing as a weak willed person.

There are only people who apply their will constructively and people who apply their will destructively.

The addict is not a weak willed person.

The addict is just addicted to the wrong thing.

The truth is everyone is addicted to something.

For some people their addictions are their work, their wives and their children.

For other people their addiction is black tar heroin.

Whatever you love in your life becomes what you’re addicted to.

The addict isn’t weak willed, he just chose to love something that doesn’t love him back.

The addict who destroys his career and his family for another drink is not weak willed.

He’s just he’s addicted to the wrong thing.

He’s addicted to something that’s destructive instead of constructive.

Had he chosen something constructive he could have built a legacy that outlived him.

He could have had his jersey hanging in the pantheon of greatness with Edison, Ford, and Gates.

But he chose to be addicted to the wrong thing, like millions of other men throughout history.

A good rule to remember is that the wrong thing is usually the easy choice.

And the hard choice is usually the thing that’s better for you.

I guarantee you have a hard choice to make right now that you’ve been putting off for months if not years.

Applying your will correctly means learning to get high off of the harder thing.

That means getting high off of achievement and the pride that comes with a job well done.

I’ve lived to get high off weed and I’ve lived to get high off of achievement.

And I can tell you with certainty that living to getting high off of getting things done is the way to go.

Getting high off your mission, your physique, your discipline, your work ethic and in helping others.

You will be happier living this way then by diverting your will into drugs, donuts and distractions.

You’ll become your strongest self, and your strongest self is your happiest self.

What they say is true, it’s a good life if you don’t weaken.

Life punishes weakness and rewards strength, this is a fact.

Your stronger self is your higher self.

The more you feed your higher self the more you love yourself.

The more you feed your lower self the more you hate yourself.

The end result of self hatred is depression and the final solution to depression is suicide…

It is that serious.

But you don’t have to be miserable when you have a will.

Because where there’s a will, there’s a way.

And the best time to start strengthening your will is today.

Because willpower is a muscle.

The same principles that apply to building muscle apply to building your will.

To strengthen your will you need goals, consistency and progressive resistance.

You need to goals to define where you want to go and what you want to accomplish.

You need consistency to take action on your goals every day.

And you need progressive resistance to keep challenging yourself.

When you have those three things you become a force to be reckoned with.

If you’ve been down for a while, make today the day you get up.

Because you’ve got a lot of lost time to make up for.

If you’ve just been maintaining, stop lying to yourself.

You’ve been losing ground and you know it.

There is no neutral in the game of life, gravity always brings a flat line down.

If you’re not going up, you’re going down.

And if you’re going up, stay up.

Because in this world you’re either getting stronger or you’re getting weaker.

And everything you do in one area affects everything you do in every other area.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking skipping a workout is just skipping a workout.

Skipping a scheduled workout, even just once, weakens your will.

When you fail yourself you feel guilty, and when you feel guilty you want something to make you feel better.

So you add a cheat meal to your skipped workout.

And you tell yourself the day is already shot so you might as well enjoy it.

And that you’ll just reset yourself tomorrow.

And then tomorrow comes and you’re feeling weaker and worse than you did the day before.

And you’re one step farther away from hitting your health goal for the year.

And if you don’t get it together you’re going to keep going down.

Every downward spiral you’ve ever been on started that exact same way.

One bad decision leading to another bad decision.

That’s the danger in breaking promises to yourself.

When you break promises to yourself you stop trusting yourself.

When you stop trusting yourself you start hating yourself because you’ve become a liar.

And everyone hates liars.

When you stop trusting yourself you lose faith in being able to achieve your goals.

And then you feel depressed and deflated, it’s truly a vicious cycle.

And it’s a cycle some people live their whole lives experiencing.

Where they sabotage themselves the second they start getting things together.

Or they get things together for a few years but let themselves fall off.

Because they stopped doing the things that got them there.

Life doesn’t take days off and neither should you.

You have to wake up willing to win every day or suffer the consequences.

Because everything counts.

There is no such thing as sitting on the sidelines in the game of life.

You can rest when you’re dead, but not now.

You have to wake up to win every day and get sh$# done.

Because no one wants to be unfulfilled or depressed or addicted…

That’s just where you end up after a series of bad choices.

After months or years or decades of applying your will in the wrong way.

After consistently thinking the wrong thoughts.

After consistently taking the wrong actions.

After consistently taking the easy way.

After consistently applying your will to things that destroy you.

Instead you need to apply your will to things that restore you.

You need to become addicted to things that empower you.

You need to become obsessed with things that make you successful.

Because it’s be obsessed or be average…or even worse.

And you need to be obsessed with the right things.

Because the being obsessed with the right things will make you consistently happy.

And happiness is what the game of life is all about.

Life is a game where he with the most joy wins.

But the easy win doesn’t give you long term joy.

That donut might make you happy in the moment, but it makes you less happy in the long run.

The things that make you happier are the things that enhance your health, wealth, relationships, lifestyle and spirit.

Those are the things you need to be obsessed with.

Those are the things you need to concentrate on.

Those are the things you need to apply your will to getting.

Because you owe it to yourself to be happy.

When you cheat on your goals you cheat on yourself.

You need to wake up to win in this game.

Because there is no neutral in the game of life.

Every day you’re either moving closer to getting what you want or further away.

Make today the day where you get closer.

And do the same tomorrow.

Be in it to win it, it’s the only way to play.

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A lot of people are living with beliefs that hurt them.

Beliefs that cause doubt, despair and depression.

Good beliefs give you faith, hope and happiness.

Without good beliefs, you will suffer much more than you have to in this life.

Because beliefs shape your reality.

When you take control of your beliefs you take control of your reality.

To understand how to have better beliefs, you first need to understand what beliefs really are.

What Beliefs Really Are

Beliefs are a form of knowing.

Beliefs are necessary and the right beliefs are useful, but beliefs are the lowest form of knowing.

Beliefs are ideas that do not come out of direct experience.

Moses parted the Red Sea…

That’s a statement but it’s not from anyone’s direct experience.

It doesn’t mean that it’s not true…

It just means that we can’t be certain because we weren’t alive to experience it.

The things we’re certain about are beyond being beliefs.

The things we’re certain about are certainties.

And certainty is the highest form of knowing.

Because certainty comes from direct experience.

And direct experience is our reality.

Belief Vs. Certainty

It’s not that beliefs can’t be useful, or that the negative beliefs aren’t destructive.

It’s that beliefs are a less reliable form of knowing than certainty.

A belief about the future can turn out to be true, but it can also turn out to be false.

Certainty is what you know.

I know that if I jump up, I’ll come right back down.

I know that with complete certainty.

It’s something I’ve experienced before.

Something I’ve experienced consistently for my entire life.

And something I could easily prove right now, if I had to.

I’m certain that if I jump off my balcony I will die.

If you asked most people why that is, their answer would be because of gravity.

But its the fall that’s certainty, gravity is merely the belief.

Most people would say gravity because it’s what they were taught in school.

Even though they only have a vague understanding of the principle.

Most people would never have had a reason to question the belief…

So gravity is their simple, knee jerk reaction.

And their belief in gravity comes from agreement.

Because all beliefs are based on agreement.

The most widely held beliefs, that seem to form an objective reality, are based on nothing more than the agreement of the masses.

Beliefs Are Bought And Sold Through Agreement

Beliefs are defined as truth by agreement.

People agree to a belief when they see that belief as the strongest argument for explaining the experiences of people, places and things.

People agree to a belief by either selling themselves or being sold by someone else.

And the bulk of most people’s beliefs are sold to them by thought leaders, often times from beyond the grave.

Hundreds of years ago Newton got agreement from the best and brightest minds of the time that gravity is the best explanation for why things that go up must come down.

Gravity fits the criteria of a belief in that it describes the experience of people, places and things.

Gravity says that if a person or things goes up, it must come down to a specific place on the planet.

And for hundreds of years gravity was an extremely useful mental map for describing and predicting experiences.

But the belief of gravity is not reality, it’s the experience of people, places and things that’s reality. 

The belief is only a reality in the sense of a person experiencing a thought about gravity. 

The belief of gravity is still taught in schools and has agreement on a massive level.

If you asked most people why they come down after they jump up, their answer would be gravity.

They we’re sold this belief through Newton by way of the public school system.

And very few people investigate this belief because there is so much agreement on the idea.

This despite the advances in modern quantum mechanics that make Newtonian physics outdated.

The outcome of gravity is so predictable that most people have no need to question the belief.

To the point that most people think of gravity as an objective law of the universe.

In fact most people don’t even consider gravity a belief, they consider gravity a certainty.

Because they’re certain that when they jump up, they will come back down.

But it’s the experience of jumping up and coming down that’s certainty, gravity is just a belief.

And it’s a belief, or mental map, that modern physicists have already left behind. 

It has agreement because at one point in time Newton created the most powerful argument.

And that argument got agreement from the top minds of that time.

And eventually the argument got agreement from the masses based on the authority of those minds.

And it still has agreement because the school system is still far behind the cutting edge of science.

Even though gravity has already been dethroned as the most powerful argument.

The so called “objective laws” of science are merely the strongest arguments at a particular time in human history.

Until those so called “objective laws” are inevitably dethroned by a more powerful argument.

At one point in time the best and brightest scientific minds believed the world was flat and the sun revolved around the earth.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking the same thing won’t happen to the supposedly “objective laws” we’re taught today 300 years from now.

It’s gotten to a point where even the leading quantum physicists have moved away from trying to create objective laws of reality, and have accepted model agnosticism.

The best and brightest scientific minds have left the idea of discovering objective laws behind and instead offer beliefs or theories like string theory, simulation theory or the metaverse in an attempt to explain how the universe works.

The Illusion Of Objectivity

If the best and brightest scientific minds have given up on the idea on an objective reality, I think it’s time we do the same.

Beliefs aren’t objective reality, because there is no objective reality.

Your reality is subjective and is based on your experience.

No two people have the same belief systems, even identical twins.

Because no two people have the same experience of life.

Even two lovers standing next to each other watching the sunset will be viewing the sunset from a slightly different angle.

And they will have different thoughts and feelings related to watching the sun go down.

If you’re in severe pain, no one will be able to sell you an argument that your pain is not real.

You will have total certainty that you’re in pain because that pain is your experience.

The world is made up of 6 billion people and each person has different experiences.

And therefore each of those 6 billion people is living in a different reality.

That’s not to say that our individual realities don’t interact with each other.

I’m speaking to you as a character in your reality right now.

And it’s not to say that there aren’t commonalities across all people and nationalities.

The vast majority of people value food, clothing, shelter and medical care.

The vast majority of people value relationships, money and entertainment.

The vast majority of people compete for social status, influence and recognition.

But some people don’t, some people give all that up to live with the forest monks in Northern Thailand.

Sure that’s a minority of people but it proves that some people differ on even the most basic values.

But even in the majority of people, no two people have the same belief system.

Sometimes those differences can be very small.

Small enough for people to believe in the illusion of a common objective reality.

But there are also billions of people with massive, monumental differences in their belief systems.

And therefore massive, monumental differences in their realities.

There are 1 billion Muslims on the planet and 500 million atheists.

Both groups are convinced that their beliefs are objective truths.

Both groups have an entirely different reality because of their beliefs.

To the point where some people in those groups are willing to go to war over those beliefs.

You might even be reading this thinking one of those belief systems is the objective truth.

But the truth is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

We are all playing different games in the great game of life.

We each live in different reality tunnels and interact with each other and the world through these tunnels.

In the same way that different characters interact in an MMO or Massive Multiplayer Online game.

At this point I hope we’re in agreement on:

• The fact that bad beliefs cause you pain
• What beliefs really are
• The difference between beliefs and certainty
• How beliefs are bought and sold through agreement
• The fact that your experience of reality is always subjective

Having an understanding of these key concepts is crucial because they give you the basis to recreate your entire belief system to serve you.

Why You Need To Make Your Beliefs Serve You

By serve you I mean using your beliefs to create the most consistently positive states to experience every day.

With state being a combination of the thoughts, feelings and sensations within your body.

Your entire life is nothing but an experience of consistently changing states.

Sometimes you’re thinking positive thoughts, feeling joyful, and having healthy sensations signaled to you through your body.

Other times your thoughts are negative, you’re feeling angry, and the sensations from your body are ones of sickness.

If you can truly understand the idea that your entire life is a subjective experience, and that you’re consistently shifting through states, the only logical conclusion is to make those states as positive as possible.

And to extend that line of thinking even further, the most logical thing to do is to build your entire belief system around creating those states.

Beliefs Are Your Mental Map For The Journey Of Life

Despite the fact that beliefs don’t come out of direct experience…

Having beliefs is still a necessary part of playing the game of life.

Because the right beliefs can help you consistently experience the most positive states available.

Beliefs are your mental maps for steering your ship through the game of life.

But they’re not the territory, the territory is direct experience.

Good beliefs will lead you to the territory of good experiences.

And bad beliefs will lead you to the territory of bad experiences.

The best beliefs will lead you to the best territory.

Which means consistently experiencing the best available states on a daily basis.

In other words using your beliefs as mental maps to create and live your ideal lifestyle.

Negative Beliefs Destroy Your Ability To Live Your Ideal Lifestyle

Having negative beliefs will prevent you from living the life you deserve.

Negative beliefs take you to negative territory.

To get to positive territory you need to start by examining your beliefs.

And when you truly examine your beliefs, you will be shocked at how many negative beliefs you have.

These beliefs will be things you picked up from your parents, teachers, friends or society at large.

Or a belief you decided on at 13 and carried through into adulthood.

If I hadn’t examined and dismantled the pessimistic nihilism I believed in at 13, my life would have been miserable.

When you truly internalize that there is no objective reality holding you back, and that reality is malleable, you’ll be shocked at how much you can change for the better.

At 20 I was depressed, broke, on drugs, failing out of University, had no direction and no idea what to do with my life.

At 30 I was positive, comfortable, focused and sober, but I was working a job I hated, and living through six miserable months of Canadian winters every year.

Now I have a personal development business, do what I love, make passive income online, and live in the warmth and sunshine of Thailand.

None of that would have been possible if I hadn’t dismantled and reframed the negative beliefs that were holding me back.

The easiest way to define a negative belief is as a mental map that consistently steers your ship into to negative territory, with territory being your experience of life.

When you examine your reality you will shocked at how many beliefs you have that are either holding you back or outright crippling your consistent happiness.

Having been in the business of helping men live better since 2012 I’ve realized there are hundreds of thousands if not millions of men with the following negative beliefs:

Beliefs about life like:

• I shouldn’t expect more than a mediocre amount of happiness in my adult life
• It’s immature to want to enjoy adulthood as much as I enjoyed adolescence
• Life gets worse as you get older and there’s nothing I can do about it
• I’m too old to change my life and should live in regret of not having made changes in my youth
• Life sucks and then you get old, sick and die
• The world is fair, just and reasonable and I should continue to expect life to be fair
• Self improvement is mental mast$%bation and a total scam
• Being positive isn’t realistic in the face of all the challenges in life
• It’s OK for me to succumb to depression and misery instead of fighting back to positivity
• Life is objectively miserable and I should just give up trying to be happy
• Scientific materialism is the one true faith and life is meaningless, random and amoral
• The world is going to hell in a handbasket and now is the worst time to be alive in history
• Being excited and enthusiastic about life is for dumb, primitive people

Beliefs about yourself like:

• I failed in the past and therefore will continue to fail in the future, despite changing my tactics
• I’m not worthy of love and respect as I am
• I don’t deserve to have good things
• I’m too shy and embarrassed to improve myself and start acting confident
• Being cool and confident is for other guys, not for me
• I wasn’t cool in high school so I shouldn’t be cool as an adult
• I shouldn’t try to be a boss as an adult because people will see through me and make fun of me
• I should let an imaginary audience of people dictate my life decisions
• I shouldn’t take risks because I might fail
• If I don’t follow the path my parents want me to, I’m a disgrace to my family
• Dad was right about me, I’m a loser and I’ll never amount to anything
• I should accept a life of quiet desperation like my dad did
• I’m a victim of circumstances and bad things always happen to me
• I deserve to have bad things happen to me because I’m no good
• I should quit when things get really hard
• I should quit because I failed in the past and I’ll just fail again in the future
• I should be ashamed of my race and embarrassed about the actions of other people in my race
• I should be ashamed of my class and let it limit my opportunities for success
• I shouldn’t have to compete really hard to get what I want, I should be entitled to it
• It’s selfish to make happiness my primary priority
• I should live to please people and put their needs first so that they approve of me
• My mediocre, unfulfilling, subsistence level life is something to lose
• It’s selfish not to follow the path my parents me on, they sacrificed so much for me
• I should live my life for the approval of my parents and society, at the expense of my happiness

Beliefs about money like:

• Money isn’t all that important and I should be grateful for the little money that I have
• Money doesn’t have a massive impact on every area of my life
• Money can’t solve or dramatically improve every problem in my life
• I don’t deserve to make a lot of money and be financially free
• Money is the root of all evil and wealthy people are bad people
• I can only get rich if I steal from other people and do dirty business
• Having financial freedom is how the other half lives, it’s not for people in my class
• I should be ashamed to pursue financial freedom because there are poor people in the world
• I should be happy with making mediocre money because I have more than people in poor countries
• It’s wrong to want to be rich because there are poor people in other countries
• Sales is not the most important skill when it comes to getting rich
• I don’t like selling because selling is dirty, sales is for dumb, primitive, douchebags
• I don’t need to learn how to sell because my products and services should sell themselves
• I’ll be happy calling another man my boss once I find my “dream job”
• I should be satisfied with my mediocre, unfulfilling, subsistence level job
• I can get rich by investing in the stock market and giving all my money to wall street
• I should spend more time reading about investing then getting my income up
• I should spend more time reading about investing than getting my tax bill down
• I should let someone else manage my money for me
• Getting legally married is not a massive financial risk in today’s day and age
• Getting legally married is not a massive financial risk because I have game so the odds don’t apply to me
• Crypto, forex or equities trading is a good way to make money

Beliefs About business like:

• Building a business doesn’t require massive sacrifices
• I can build a business and still have a ton of hobbies and social commitments
• The first two years of building a business is not going to be extremely challenging
• I will be excited and motivated every day in business
• Motivation is more important than dedication in building a business
• It’s OK to quit on a business when I no longer have the same motivation as I did when I started it
• Reading quotes and books from entrepreneurs counts as working
• Sales isn’t going to be incredibly important in my business so I don’t need to learn how to sell
• I should trade crypto or forex instead of starting a business
• I should start a tech startup even though I can’t program and don’t have an IQ of 160
• I should dump all my money into a franchise and hope it works
• I can live like a wandering hobo and build a business from the beach in Thailand
• I should move to Thailand with limited savings and no revenue to start a dropshipping business
• I should blindly trust a random guy online who sells courses on making money
• I should spend my free time chasing girls instead of building a business
• I can be unethical in business and not expect to suffer the consequences

Beliefs about other people like:

• I will get more respect being seen as an intellectual than as a man of character and achievement
• It’s more important to be right than it is to get what I want
• I should consistently argue with friends, family and clients to prove that I’m right
• People will respond well to being proven wrong
• It’s my duty to be angry about politics and culture
• It’s my duty to start arguments with other people who have different political and cultural views
• When I aggressively prove someone wrong they will bow down to my superior intellect
• I should live like a caricature of an alpha male and try and dominate every conversation
• My family will appreciate me dropping truth bombs about life at Christmas dinner
• Being brutally honest, blunt and argumentative is a smart way to move through life
• I shouldn’t have to put any effort into learning how to win friends and influence people
• I shouldn’t have to put any effort into how my message will be received by others because I’m right
• Being right is more important than effectively persuading other people
• I can’t make new, like-minded friends as an adult
• Everyone I get close to will try to screw me over
• I should stop being nice to people because they’ll just screw me over in the end
• Everyone is selfish and only cares about themselves…except for me

Beliefs about politics like:

• I should spend the bulk of my free time reading about politics, even though it makes me angry
• I should spend the bulk of my free time commenting on political blogs instead of building a business
• I have time to spend being angry about politics even though I’m poor
• Politicians care about me even though they don’t know my name
• My opinion about politics is very important and my twitter activism has an impact on the world
• It’s my duty to save western society and my efforts will eventually be effective
• I can have an impact on politics without billions of dollars, holding office or controlling an army
• I should enroll in aggressive political movements that make me angry and unhappy
• I should give my mindshare to political influencers so they can get richer and more famous
• I should consistently start arguments with people who don’t have the same political views I do
• I can post about politically incorrect topics on social media without real world consequences
• I should sacrifice my happiness for political and cultural movements

Beliefs about dating like:

• Game doesn’t work and confidence and charm has no effect on women
• Learning game is pointless because you have to look like a movie star to get women
• There are no good women in modern society so I should pump and dump every girl I meet
• I’m not attractive enough and there is nothing I can do about it
• Taking massive action on raising my attractiveness to women is not worth my time
• Taking massive action on raising my sexual market value won’t get me better quality women
• I have to be disrespectful and act like an jerk to get hot women
• Women are too much trouble, I should just avoid them altogether
• I don’t deserve to get attractive women because I’m unworthy
• Complaining about women is a good use of my time
• I should complain about women instead of working on my looks, status, money and game

Beliefs about your looks like:

• I’m unattractive to women and there’s nothing I can do about it
• Putting in a lot of work on my sexual market value won’t get me significantly hotter women
• I shouldn’t have to work on my sexual market value because women should like me for who I am
• Only guys who look like models get women so I shouldn’t bother improving myself
• I can’t lose weight because of my genetics
• Working out is for dumb meatheads and is a waste of my time
• I can’t put on muscle
• Real men don’t take good care of their physique, hygiene and appearance
• People don’t make snap judgments everywhere I go based on my hygiene, physique and style
• Caring about sexual market value is only for dumb, primitive, douchebags
• Fashion trends are arbitrary, and therefore dressing well is a waste of time
• I can get 10s without working on my looks if I just learn the right game to say to them
• Looks don’t matter because the dating coach who sells bootcamps online says so

Beliefs about sex like:

• I should be ashamed of my natural, masculine sexuality
• I can’t be a spiritual person and have a healthy sex life
• Sex is dirty, wrong and immoral
• God will punish me for enjoying sex with women
• I should act like an asexual robot for the approval of society
• I should pretend I’m asexual in public and secretly watch p*rnography at home
• I should feel ashamed after I have sex with a girl I’m not committed to
• It’s morally wrong to have sex with younger women
• I suck in bed and will never be able to please a woman
• Being good in bed is not important
• Women aren’t as sexual and as horny as men
• Women don’t care about sex as much as men
• Women who enjoy sex are dirty and no good
• My girlfriend and I don’t have sex anymore but it’s not a big problem
• Women don’t care about sex, sex is something women do to make men happy
• I will be emotionally fulfilled by having a ton of one night stands
• Making women org@sm is not important and does not significantly affect my retention rates
• Tantric or karezza sex is useless and a waste of time
• Rough, anonymous sex is better than deeply bonded spiritual sex

Beliefs about relationships like:

• I should always avoid falling in love so that I don’t get hurt
• I should dump girls before things go bad so I don’t get hurt
• All women lie, cheat and steal from men
• Because a woman in my past cheated on me I don’t trust any of the 3 billion women on the planet
• I should cheat on my girlfriend before she cheats on me to soften the blow
• Women only care about men for their money
• Quality women will eventually see through me and leave me for a better guy
• I’m fundamentally not worthy, and don’t deserve a good woman and a healthy relationship
• Drama is a necessary part of every relationship
• All modern women are no good
• I can get out of the friendzone
• I can and should get my ex girlfriend back
• I’ll never be able to meet another girl as good as my ex because she was “the one”
• I’ll never be able to get a quality girlfriend because I’m unworthy
• I’ll never be able to keep a quality girlfriend because I’m unworthy
• I don’t deserve a quality girlfriend, even if I somehow get lucky
• I can’t have healthy relationships with multiple women at the same time
• It’s morally wrong to have relationships with multiple women at the same time
• I should commit to a girl when I don’t want to if she shames and guilt trips me into it
• I should let any decent looking girl become my girlfriend without massively screening her first
• I need to get married and have kids so I can help save western society
• I should have a family and children solely for the approval of my parents
• I should to get married and kids solely for the purpose of being a respectable member of society

And that’s just a small list of the negative beliefs that millions of guys are walking around with.

Negative beliefs that are not objective reality.

And every single one of those beliefs is hurting millions of men every year.

And every single one of those millions of men would be better off holding completely opposite beliefs.

And every single one of those negative beliefs can be dismantled, reframed, reality tested and used to steer your experience back into positive territory.

And not just the beliefs on the list – every, single, negative belief you have can be dismantled, reframed, reality tested and used to steer your experience back into positive territory.

When you truly understand there is no objective reality, you realize you never have to be held hostage by another belief again.

And you’ll see that you have a tremendous sense of freedom in being able to recreate your reality.

But to get to that place of freedom, you need to know how to dismantle your negative beliefs.

How To Dismantle Your Negative Beliefs

Dismantling your negative beliefs is as simple as doing 3 things:

1) Examining your negative beliefs: You can’t change what you’re not aware. Chances are a few of the beliefs on the list hit home. And there is a good chance that this is the first time you actually thought about that particular belief. Often times people carry negative beliefs around for decades subconsciously.

2) Choosing to look at your negative beliefs as mental maps instead of objective truths: When you believe a belief is an objective truth, you feel it’s a waste of time to even examine the belief, even when that belief is hurting you. When you truly move beyond the idea of an objective truth, you open your mind to endless possibilities.

When you look at beliefs as mental maps, the question becomes, how do I redraw this mental map so that I can sail out of negative territory into positive territory. You can redraw every negative mental map on the list above if you put in the effort. It just comes down to wanting to find a way to win.

3) Finding a way to disagree with your negative beliefs and create a better mental map: Your negative beliefs, without question are the result of agreement at some point in the past. Every belief in that list that hit home with you is a result of agreement in the past.

And that agreement came about through either logic or emotion. Someone or some event in your life caused you to agree with a particular belief either through logic or emotion. And if logic or emotion got you into a negative belief in the first place, logic and emotion can get you out.

An example of using logic can be used on the belief that it’s your duty to spend your free time being politically engaged, even when that engagement is ineffective and makes you unhappy. This is not logical because it contradicts the most logical strategy for living – maximizing your happiness.

You can’t believe it’s your duty to be an angry political blog commenter and be serious about being happy at the same time, you have to choose one or the other. And if you willingly choose to do things that make you unhappy, you’re sabotaging yourself.

A logical reframe of that belief is to choose to stop reading and watching things that make you angry, because being angry is counterproductive. That doesn’t mean you have to put your head in the sand and pretend everything is right in the world. It just means choosing to disengage with things that make you angry and changing your focus from negative inputs to positive inputs like personal development.

You simply examine the belief, use logic to replace the negative input with positive input, remove the negative emotion, and replace it with the positive emotion you get from improving yourself. And if you feel guilty for removing yourself from politics, recognize that anyone that demands you do things to sabotage yourself in the name of their movement is not your friend, and therefore you owe them no loyalty.

The same 3 tactics can be used on all your negative beliefs. One of the best things you can do for yourself is write down a list of all the beliefs you have that are hurting you. Go through them one by one and find a way to disagree with them using logic and emotion. And do that until you have an effective mental map to steer you into positive territory and away from negative territory.

When you do this you create an entirely new narrative for yourself and an entirely new reality for you to live in.

Dismantling and reframing negative beliefs will take you farther than almost every personal development technique. But dismantling negative beliefs is only half the battle.

The other half of the battle is creating positive, outcome-based beliefs.

When you go through the above list of negative beliefs you’ll notice the bulk of them are statements about “reality”. Statements like: “women only care about money”. You can easily disprove that beliefs by listing all the other things women care about. And by finding examples of women who are with guys that aren’t wealthy. And you can create a better belief of “wealth is attractive to women, along with many other things”.

But a positive outcome-based belief is different. A positive outcome-based belief is a goal you can’t prove right away because it takes time to accomplish. A goal like losing weight or building a business. Outcome-based beliefs take a different skillset then simply dismantling a negative statement about reality.

How To Build Better Outcome-Based Beliefs

An empowering outcome-based belief is:

1. Practical: In the sense that it’s useful to you in the real world as opposed to philosophical speculation.
2. Positive: The belief serves you in creating consistently happier states.
3. Possible: The outcome of the belief is possible and is also within your capabilities (As opposed to a goal like playing in the NBA, which is only possible for the genetically elite).

You create those outcome based beliefs by using:

1. Willpower: Committing to creating positive outcomes for your future.
2: Creativity: Using your creativity to overcome the doubt of you achieving that outcome.
3: Emotion: Infusing that belief with a positive emotion related to your future success.
4: Logic: Backwards engineering other people’s success and reality testing that success with regards to your capabilities. Or in some rare cases, if your outcome hasn’t been done before, only deciding to pursue the goal if you have a rare insight into why it can be done and a major edge on accomplishing the goal – Steve Jobs inventing the smartphone was an example of a goal that was rare, audacious, but ultimately possible.

An example of an empowering belief is:

I can create a sales-based, six figure, service business. That belief is empowering because it’s:

1. Practical: Earning more income and getting control of your revenue is useful to your life goals
2. Positive: Success, making money, and not having to work a job will make you happier
3. Possible: There are hundreds of thousands if not millions of guys with six figure businesses

You can create that outcome-based belief for yourself by using:

1. Willpower: Committing to creating the outcome of building a six figure business
2. Creativity: Using your creativity to reframe and discard all doubt that gets in the way of your commitment
3. Emotion: Infusing the end result of being successful in business with a massive positive payoff and picture
4. Logic: Using logic to find and backwards engineer the success of other businessmen. You can reality test the example of a sales-based service businesses where your expenses are low, your margins and ROI are high, and you’re not reinventing the wheel. This business is within your capabilities because all you need to do is to master a skill, learn how to sell, contact a certain amount of people per day, overcome objections, deliver great customer service, work like a dog and become psychologically strong. These are things every guy with an IQ over 100 can do. You’re not limited by genetics like you would be if you wanted to play NBA basketball, which is not possible for the vast majority of men no matter how hard they work, how much they learn, and how tough they are.

When you create the right outcome-based empowering beliefs your quality of life will get so much better.

Not only do you get to watch with pride as your belief becomes certainty, but you get to surprise yourself with how successful you’ve become, and surprising yourself in a positive way is one of the best things in life.

Also, when you set and achieve challenging goals for yourself, you’ll be in good company.

Our entire world is built by men who believed and achieved.

All human progress is the result of an outcome-based empowering beliefs set to action.

Often times in spite of tremendous disagreement from other people.

Millions of people would have disagreed with Edison on his idea for harnessing electricity.

They would have called him a fool and a delusional old man.

They would have told him that it was an objective fact that electricity wasn’t possible.

And they were all wrong.

The result of one’s man belief is that the whole world has electricity.

And no one remembers the naysayers, but Edison’s legacy lives on long after his death.

He proved them all wrong through the power of his belief.

And his belief became certainty.

Each one of us has the direct experience of electricity in our homes.

We’re as certain of being able to switch on a light as we are that we’ll come back down after we jump.

Creating empowering beliefs and manifesting them into the physical world is the real alchemy.

Manifesting your beliefs is magic.

Getting to certainty in your outcome-based belief

As we covered already, beliefs and certainty are not the same thing.

Beliefs are useful and necessary but they aren’t certainty.

Certainty is a result of direct experience.

This logic applies not just to your statements about reality but to your outcome-based beliefs.

How To Solidify Your Outcome-Based Beliefs

The problem with outcome-based beliefs is that outcome-based beliefs take effort, effort which can be tiring, frustrating and painful.

And that pain and sometimes lack of success will cause you to doubt the possibility of accomplishing your goal.

And if you indulge that doubt then you end up quitting on yourself.

This is a big problem, in fact it’s the biggest problem when it comes to achieving your goals.

Disbelieving in your goals and then indulging that doubt is the biggest cause of failure.

Because you can’t fail when you don’t quit.

That’s why it’s better to be as close to certainty in your goals as possible.

And the way you do that is to start to experience them now.

If we continue with the example of building a six figure business, imagine what success would look like and be as detailed as you can. From the kind of clients you have to the condo you’ll be living in to where you live to the money in your bank account to the things you own. You can go online and find the things that you want and put them up on your whiteboard. You can even create a bank statement with the money you want in your account and put that up there too.

Because success is creating a moment in your physical reality. So it only makes sense to start creating that moment now. Because the present moment is all that exists. You might not be able to get to total certainty without direct experience but you can get close.

You can at least get to being certain that you will build a six figure business or you will die or be incapacitated trying. And I mean this literally. When you’re truly committed, and you won’t quit no matter what, only death or incapacitation will stop you. When you adopt this mentality, you become a very dangerous man indeed.

Think of it like sitting in a restaurant and deciding that you want to leave. When you decide to leave the restaurant you’re certain that you can get up and walk out the door. To the point that in your mind you’re already there and thinking about the things you’re going to do when you leave.

All you have to do is get the check, pull your chair out, and negotiate the obstacles in your way, which are the people, tables and chairs that are blocking your exit. You know you can do all these things because you’ve seen people leave restaurants thousands of times and because you have direct experience of leaving restaurants. You could also die or be incapacitated on your way out the door, but that thought doesn’t cross your mind.

You can apply the same logic to building a six figure business, which you’ve decided is practical, positive and possible and within your capabilities. Once you’ve made the commitment, you get to work on mastering your skill, selling, contacting 100 people per day, overcoming objections and everything else needed to hit your goal. And when unexpected obstacles get in your way, you move around them.

The only thing that’s different from walking out of a restaurant is the time it takes and the fact that you don’t have experience doing it. So instead you model other people’s experiences, just like you did when you were a kid and you first learned how to leave a restaurant. And since you’re not going to quit, death or incapacitation is the only thing stopping you from reaching your goal.

When you approach your goals with this attitude, you might not be able to get to total certainty, but you can get damn close. You can tell yourself that you’ll build a six figure business and that only death or incapacitation will get in the way of your success. And you can say that statement with total conviction because you’ve made the decision that you’re not going to quit, no matter what.

When you choose the right goals and approach your goals with that type of total commitment you become a force to be reckoned with. And barring some type of freak accident, your eventual success is inevitable.

Lastly, when you combine the reframing of your negative beliefs to positive ones, with the creation, belief and achievement of the right goals, you recreate your entire reality for the better. And the effect will be nothing less than a monumental increase in the quality of your life as well as the control you have over your environment.

So In Summary…

Beliefs are not objective reality.

Because there is no objective reality.

Reality is experience and your experience is subjective.

Your beliefs are merely statements about the reality of people, places and things.

A person’s beliefs are merely the best mental maps available to that person at that particular time.

Beliefs are bought and sold through agreement.

The bulk of most people’s major beliefs are sold to them by thought leaders, often from beyond the grave.

And those beliefs are constantly being challenged by more powerful arguments.

Over time, the bulk of the world’s widely beliefs are dethroned by more powerful arguments.

Beliefs are necessary and useful to navigate the game of life, but they’re not certainty.

Certainty comes from experience.

And it’s experience that is your reality.

And your experience of life is nothing more than a series of state changes.

States are thoughts, feelings and sensations.

The logical way to live is by structuring your life so you can consistently experience the most positive states possible.

To consistently experience the most positive states possible, you need to get control of your beliefs.

That means making your beliefs serve you.

When you serve bad beliefs, you suffer more than you have to.

When you make your beliefs serve you, you live better.

And living better is the most logical way to live.

Every person on the planet wants to feel as much pleasure and as little pain as possible.

The right beliefs will maximize the pleasure you get out of life and minimize the pain.

Positive beliefs are mental maps that steer your ship into the territory of positive experiences.

Negative beliefs are mental maps that steer you into the territory of negative experiences.

And there is nothing logical about willingly choosing negative experiences.

Negative beliefs can and do kill.

Both metaphorically and literally.

There are 1 million suicides a year and every one them is the end result of a negative belief.

But it doesn’t have to come to suicide to feel the effects of negative beliefs.

Every single negative belief you have results in negative experiences.

And negative experiences are counterproductive to living your ideal life.

Structuring your life to be as happy as possible is the most logical thing you can do.

And the foundation of your ideal lifestyle is built on your belief system.

When you choose to reframe your negative beliefs to positive ones, create positive outcome-based beliefs, and commit to achieving those goals, you build your house on a solid foundation.

With positive beliefs you can create an epic narrative for yourself and recreate your reality.

With positive beliefs you can learn to exert incredible control over your environment.

With positive beliefs you can manifest magic in the physical world.

From cars, to skycrapers, to smartphones – every massive step forward for mankind is a direct result of positive people applying positive beliefs to reality.

When you commit to positivity you become a force for good – for yourself and for others.

All that’s good in the world comes from positive people.

And positivity is the only path that makes sense.

So commit to building the best beliefs you can, commit to positivity, and create the life you deserve.

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Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds.

– Bob Marley

You are not an ideology.

Isms, ives, ists and ians are for proles.

Isms, ives, ists and ians are what the classes sell the masses.

Often times from beyond the grave.

Marx has been dead for hundreds of years.

Yet his ideology lives on…

With hundreds of millions of people being killed in it’s name over the last hundred years.

And hundreds of thousands of men still misidentifying themselves as Marxists.

And all those deaths, every single one of them, was in vain.

But the concept goes well beyond Marx, it applies to all ideologies.

The truth is…

You Can’t Be An Ideology.

You’re the Spirit incarnated into a human body, you can’t be anything else.

It’s not possible to be an ive or an ian.

To be a progressive or a libertarian.

And beyond the individual level, your tribe can’t be an ism because tribes are made of people, not ideas.

And for them to be your people they have to know your name at the very least.

You’re a Spirit incarnated into a human body and you can’t be anything else.

Sure you might call yourself an entrepreneur as a short hand way of communicating to others.

But you have to know that you’re merely a human who does business.

It seems like a small difference, but it’s a big difference.

Especially when it comes to ists, ives and ians.

In this election cycle I saw people fighting and dying in the streets over isms.

Over movement leaders who don’t even know their name.

Because they believed they we’re an ist.

And that an ism was their tribe.

But it was all in vain.

Because isms and ists are mental viruses.

You are not an ist and your tribe is not an ism.

All philosophy starts with first premises, and the premise that you’re an ist who belongs to an ism is not even possible.

You are the Spirit incarnated into a human body to play the game of life.

Your tribe is the people you are close to, who know your name, and who care about you.

Thinking otherwise is mental slavery.

And is intellectually lazy.

When you identify with an ism, you signal that other people are doing your thinking for you.

To the point where some people will literally answer questions with:

“I’m a conservative, so I think this or I believe that…”

“I’m this concept, so I believe X, because a thought leader in my ism believes X.”

When you follow this line of thinking it becomes very easy to find yourself in situations that are counterproductive to your self-interest.

Identifying with isms, ists, ives and ians hurts you in many ways.

Identifying with an ism can lead you to spending all of your free time-consuming content related to your ism and being angry and outraged at the current state of affairs.

In social situations, identifying with an ism can get you into a heated debate at the water cooler or to ruining Christmas dinner with your family.

On social media, identifying with an ism can get you de-platformed, de-monetized, fired, or even being denied entry into certain countries, this is especially true if your ism is politically incorrect.

In the streets, identifying with an ism can end with you fighting and dying at the hands of someone who believes just as strongly in another ism.

That’s the downside, but the upside isn’t much better.

You don’t get social status, money, influence and respect from your peers – that goes to the thought leaders in your movement.

All you get is to be a pawn in some rich man’s game, often times a game he’s still playing from beyond the grave.

Here’s what should matter to you: your health, wealth, relationships and lifestyle.

Movements and movement leaders aren’t going to pay your rent. Or get you out of a depressive state. Or find you a loving girlfriend. Or build a business for you. Or do anything for you that actually matters – you have to do those things for yourself.

What should matter to you is creating and living your ideal lifestyle.

Or even simpler than that, creating a life where you consistently experience as many pleasurable moments as possible, and minimize as many painful moments as possible.

You can call this Randian self-interest, but you’d be wrong, that’s just another ian.

Moving towards pleasure and away from pain is what every human already does every single moment of the day.

Or at least they try to, but most people aren’t very good at it and actively end up doing things that sabotage their happiness.

This is because they live unconsciously, don’t examine their beliefs, don’t make happiness a priority, and allow their mindshare to be hijacked by mental viruses.

Mental viruses work by hijacking your billion year old brain.

A brain that was designed to live in the small hunter-gatherer tribes we lived in for the bulk of human history.

Where we knew each others names and our leaders cared about our survival and the survival of our tribe.

And we had a common belief system to help us predict our reality and deal with the elements.

But 10,000 years ago we experienced the most monumental change in human history, the agricultural movement.

From agricultural we learned to grow crops and settled into cities.

And being able to mass produce crops we were able to develop large cities.

And for the first time we lived around people who weren’t our kin.

And those large cities created anonymity.

And out of that anonymity came crime.

And so we gave part of our power away to leaders to protect us from that crime.

Leaders who weren’t our kin and who didn’t know our names.

Leaders who weren’t part of our tribe.

Leaders who sold us on their movement.

And that system continues today.

But that system continues well beyond politics.

Today people identify with hyper-fractionalized isms, ians, ives, ists and identities.

To the point where people identify with what they eat and choose their tribe along those lines.

People mistakenly identify themselves as carnivores or vegans and fight each other along those misguided tribal lines.

While the thought leaders of those movements sell products online and get mindshare, influence, money, fame and power from people who buy into their movement.

I eat meat and vegetables but my identity is not defined by the food I eat, and my tribe is not defined by people who eat the same foods as me.

Think of the insanity of creating an identity based around the foods you eat, and believing that you’re part of tribe of millions of other people solely on the basis of eating those same foods.

Some people will actually ruin Christmas dinner by attacking their family members for their food choices. Family members who know them, love them, and are part of their actual tribe. This is total insanity.

Not only is it insane and counter productive, but it’s a waste of precious time.

How can anyone justify spending their precious time promoting identity politics when they’re poor?

Time is the one thing you can’t buy back and you only have so much of it.

And the prime of your youth is the time when you have the most energy.

That precious energy and time needs to be devoted to building your financial freedom.

This is especially true if you plan to have a family of your own and plan to take care of your parents in their old age.

And surely you want to be able to help your close friends succeed in their business goals so you have like minded guys to enjoy your success with.

How can you possibly justify LARPing as an activist on twitter when you’re not financially free?

When your future, the future of your close friends, the future of your potential partner and children, and the future of your parents depends on you succeeding.

Where success in our world depends on money. Even a child knows that this is an economic planet. Having money either solves or dramatically helps you with every problem you might face. And without it, you’ll have a very difficult time trying to enjoy a high quality of life.

Not to mention all the time it takes to look after your health, get in shape, get your style together, build your tribe, create your ideal lifestyle, and potentially raise a family (if you choose to have kids).

With all those goals and obligations, how can you possibly justify wasting all that time playing identity politics?

Not only will joining a movement not help you, you’ll be worse off because of it. You’ll have devoted the prime years of your youth to a cause instead of taking care of business.

Think how many elderly parents are going to suffer because they’re children misguidedly tried to pursue some sense of significance through identity politics.

Think how many children will suffer through living a subsistence-level lifestyle because their parents spent the prime of their youth trying to force people to only eat certain foods.

Movements give you nothing and ask everything

Not only do you not get the mindshare, money, power, influence and fame of a movement leader but nothing of consequence will change because of your participation.

The minimum requirement for a seat at the table of change is a billion dollars or an army of your own. And not a twitter army, a real army with real guns. And even with those things behind you, you’re wading into a war. And war is misery for everyone involved.

If you don’t have either of those things, you don’t matter, at least not on the political stage.

But I’ll tell you who you do matter to – YOURSELF.

And that’s the person you should be living for.

For your happiness and the happiness of the people in your actual tribe,  people that know and love you.

That’s why I’m not selling you on a movement and I never will.

My goal is to liberate you and give you the strategies to live your best life

That’s why I chose the name Will Free Men.

I’m not trying to change the world and I never will.

I’m trying to change your life and the life of everyone else reading this article.

If you know me and love me, I consider you a part of my tribe.

But there is no movement I’m trying to sell you.

Instead I sell self improvement products to help you live a better life.

And I promote those products through creating free content, in the hopes that you become a customer.

In return I get the satisfaction of helping others, as well as money, influence and status.

But it’s a transparent exchange of value.

I offer value without shaming you into acting against your self-interest.

Without hijacking your amygdala through fear.

Without me pretending to be a self-sacrificing martyr who doesn’t care about profit.

Without trying to make a mental slave out of you by implanting your mind with an ism, ian or ive.

Instead I sell you on yourself and give you strategies for living a happier life.

If I give enough value, I get paid with money, influence, respect and status.

If I don’t give enough value, you’re free to discard me and my content.

These are the types of value exchanges you need to start making for yourself.

If you’re going to give your mindshare and money to someone, make sure you get value out of the exchange.

Amazon’s kindle library is the greatest storehouse of knowledge in human history.

You have a near infinite supply of articles, audios and videos to choose from online.

All the greatest ideas of the last two thousands years are available to you at the click of a button.

And you’re free to pick and choose the ideas and beliefs that serve you best.

You can even keep many of the same beliefs you have now as you move beyond isms and ideologies.

Including ideas you learned from movement leaders.

Just don’t take their ideologies with you.

Movement leaders are not necessarily evil people, although many ruthlessly and shamelessly exploit movements for personal gain while believing in nothing more than their own self-interest.

Others are true believers and are as much of a slave to the mind virus as their followers.

You can learn from either, in the same way you can learn from historians, scientists, actors and entrepreneurs (even though those aren’t real identities either).

And you can pick which beliefs and ideas serve you and discard the rest.

With that said, if you’re able to move beyond ideologies, don’t expect other to do the same.

The First rule of fight club is don’t talk about fight club.

You can still use the words other people use, just as long as you understand the difference.

In fact I would recommend that you do use the words other people use.

And that you play the game of being a normal person with strangers, distant relatives and clients.

Especially with clients because clients give you money.

Do not make the mistake of talking about fight club.

Do not think people will be happy with you when you try to kick out the identities they stand on.

They will most certainty shoot the messenger.

If you try and take a fanatic progressive to task for allowing an ism to hijack their reality, expect the response to be white-hot rage.

It’s better to keep some things to yourself and your close, like-minded friends.

I can talk about this stuff on my site and my channel, but that’s because I’m speaking to my guys.

In my real life, I don’t talk about the deeper truths of life with anyone but my close friends.

Forget about trying to force the truth down people’s throats, it’s a waste of time and potentially dangerous

Focus On Playing the Game Of Life To The Best Of Your Abilities

Although nationalism and nations are ideas, you still have to pay your taxes because jail is real.

Although nationalism and nations are ideas, you need to follow the law because guns are real.

Although capitalism, communism and fascism are isms, I’d rather live where people believe in capitalism.

I go where I’m treated best and have no plans to move to North Korea.

I prefer to live where people believe in money instead of a place where people believe that the state owns all the goods and services.

But just because I prefer to live in a country where other people believe in capitalism, doesn’t mean I identify as a capitalist.

I identify as a human who does business by selling goods and services in the free market.

That’s my reality, being a human who produces and sells content online.

A decade ago I mistakenly considered myself a libertarian, today I know better.

But I still want to live in a country that has low taxes and a healthy respect for free enterprise.

Or at the very least, a country that doesn’t tax foreign sourced online income.

Even though I know that nationalism is just another ism.

But I respect Other People’s beliefs and you should too

Don’t make the mistake of being dumbsmart and blurting out truths that don’t serve your best interests.

I was born on a part of God’s green earth where people identify as Canadian.

I know that Canada is an idea and that’s defined by lines on a map.

I know that the map is not the territory.

I know that I’m not a Canadian, and I’ve discarded all the baggage that comes with nationalism.

But if a stranger asks me my nationality I’ll say Canadian.

Because I’m not going to start a fruitless conversation with a stranger about isms, ives, ian, and ists.

Not only will it not go anywhere but most people will find my line of thought rude or annoying.

And that goes against my strategy of creating happy experiences for myself and others.

When you’re in the matrix, use the matrix’s words, even if you can see the code.

This is especially true when you’re speaking with powerful people.

The police officer who pulls you over is not going to want to hear a lecture on ideologies.

Neither is the customs officer.

When the customs officer asks for my passport and Nationality, I will respectfully give him what he wants.

I give the people with all the guns what they want because I like not going to jail.

I don’t pick fights with powerful people and neither should you.

Nationalism and governments might be ideas, but the guys with guns are real.

The same logic applies to powerful people aligned with other movements and ideologies.

Do not make the mistake of thinking that other people’s rules don’t apply to you because you’re smart.

Follow the laws of the land, even if you don’t believe in the rules.

You’ll find that most of the laws are things you would do anyways when you align your wants with your happiness.

When you align your wants with your happiness, you won’t want to do things that hurt others.

So don’t worry about handing your passport over to customs and don’t make a fuss.

A player in the game of life doesn’t pick battles with powerful people.

Be a player in the game of life.

Not in the sense of picking up another ideology.

But in the sense of playing the game of life as a strategy for maximizing happiness.

When you see the game of life for what it is, it becomes crystal clear that you either play or get played.

And that playing for happiness is the most logical thing you can do.

Not fighting unnecessary battles because you let your mind get hijacked by an ideology.

Or because you removed yourself from an ideology and think you shouldn’t have to play the game.

A player in the game of life always aims to play the right card at the right time.

A player in the game of life chooses the path of least resistance to get to his destination.

In Summary…

You are not an ism an ist and ian or an ive.

Those are traps that get you nothing and take everything.

You are not the country you were born into.

The country is a map of the territory you live in.

The territory is the direct experience in living in that particular part of God’s green earth.
You’re not even your job title or your car or the money you have in the bank.

Those are merely tools to get you a better quality of life.

You are the nameless, formless Spirit.

And through the miracle of creation you incarnated into a human body.

Your tribe is the people who know you and love you.

You are here to directly experience reality as a human being.

To think, feel, hear, touch, taste, smell and see.

Your life is nothing more than series of state changes from moment to moment.

And state is a combination of the thoughts, feelings and sensations that come to you through the body.

As a human you will naturally want to experience as much pleasure and as little pain as possible.

This is what every person on this planet wants, but most people struggle to control their state.

They indulge negative beliefs and allow ideologies to hijack their mind.

They allow those negative beliefs and ideologies to spoil the natural, happy way of living they had as a child.

Since you naturally want to experience pleasure and avoid pain….

The most logical way to live is to create a lifestyle based around living in the best available state at all times.

And being able to extend that state and that lifestyle to the people who know you and love you.

I call this the playing the game of life.

Not in terms of empty hedonism because that’s another ism that ends in unfulfillment.

But in terms of maximizing joy.

Because in the game of life, he who has the most joy wins.

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Scientific Materialism Is Murdering Us

“Scientific materialism is a strange philosophy for everyone to be attached to . . . Why should it be the preferred philosophy?

Of all the philosophies, it’s the one that allows the least hope relative to any matter whatsoever!”

– Adi Da

Materialism, or more accurately scientific materialism is a deadly poison disguised as a philosophy. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I’m against science, it’s just that I’m against the smug certainty that all that exists is matter, and the thudding, unconscious, drumbeat of despair that comes with that mentality.

Scientific materialism, taken to its logical conclusion, ends in nihilism. Where nothing matters, life is random and pointless, you have no soul, no life after death and no loving creator.

Millions of our young men are living in this reality. In depression and in a desperate struggle for meaning. I lived through that reality as a young man and it wasn’t pretty, it was downright devastating. It’s especially difficult when you also aren’t succeeding on a worldly level. When you don’t have the health, wealth, relationships and lifestyle that you want and you believe human life has no meaning.

It seems every week we witness another angry young man shooting up a school or running over a group of people in his car, in a desperate act of revenge against a world he believes has wronged him. The media then writes these acts of aggression of as “senseless” and looks to point the blame at parents, counselors and guns.

The truth is, these tragic acts are the result of men living without positive relationships and positive thinking. And even more than that, these are men who are living without a worldly mission and a sense of spiritual purpose. The end result is tragedy for both the young man and his victims.

The reality is, millions of our young men are living without a purpose, and are unconscious slaves to the scientific materialism they’ve been taught in school. Or more accurately, the godless, supposedly objective philosophy they’ve been indoctrinated into for 40 hours a week over the course of 20 years.

That’s not to say that the science, reason and logic you learn in school isn’t useful, it is. And that’s not to say that our school system and culture is responsible is to blame for the actions of those young men because every man is responsible for his own actions…

But it is to say that you’ve been indoctrinated into a philosophy since kindergarten where and the message that’s been shoved down your throat is that matter is all that exists. And that philosophy, when taken to its logical conclusion, ends in nihilism.

Where we’re nothing more than evolved apes, living on an orb spinning through an unfriendly universe, with no purpose and no afterlife. And this philosophy is smugly taught as an objective truth.

Sure, western governments and academics give lip service to freedom of religion. But the implied message we get through school and culture is that religious people are stupid and delusional. Instead we’re encouraged to channel our natural spiritual instincts towards materialism in the form of mother earth and social justice.

And that so-called objective materialism is taught as the only reality. When in fact it’s just one of thousands of reality tunnels. It’s just the one you happened to be born into at this time in western civilization. And yet the most dogmatic materialists, the ones that claim to stand for reason, logic and skepticism, are convinced their philosophy is the one true faith. And they’re as dogmatic and aggressive about it as the religious fundamentalists they hate.

The consequences of living with this philosophy has been devastating for our society.

The conscious, sensitive, curious, intelligent men take it the worst, because they pursue the philosophy to its logical conclusion – nihilism. And they end up they turning to Reddit, or 4chan memes or drugs or alcohol or twitter activism in a desperate attempt to numb the pain or find some type of purpose.

For the unconscious materialist, who lives an unexamined life, materialism means living for Facebook timelines, instagram likes, sex, wine and watching reality TV while working a mediocre marketing job. Their purpose on the planet is not a concern. They’re reality is as small as their social circle and smartphone.

It’s no wonder, that despite all our progress in technology, and all our prosperity, depression is higher than it’s ever been. People have never been less mentally healthy. We live in a world where 1 in 6 Americans are on psychiatric meds.

But you don’t need stats to see it. All you have to do is get on the early morning subway in any major metropolitan city in the west and look into the eyes of all the people on their way to work. You’d be lucky to see one happy face on that train car full of people living unfulfilled, isolated, atomized lives.

You Can Be Both Spiritual And Logical

If you’re atheist or agnostic, I get it, I’ve been there…

And I don’t want to preach about spirituality, because I’m far from a saint. I just want to open the door, just a little bit…

Because spirituality is in your best interests and you can explore it with logic while still maintaining a healthy respect for science.

Because science and the philosophy of soul crushing scientific materialism are two completely different things:

Science Vs. Scientific Materialism

Science is an incredible discipline that has given us incredible technology and has advanced our quality of life tremendously.

Scientific or dialectical materialism is the official philosophy of Marx, Engels, Stalin and the Communist party – the party responsible for 100+ million deaths in the 20th century.

And it’s a philosophy built on faulty science. The belief that all reality is material is an outdated mode of thinking embedded in Newtonian physics. While Newtonian physics is a great way to understand the world on a basic level, the latest science has moved well beyond Newton’s conclusions.

The scientific materialism, reason and logic you learnt in school is a product of enlightenment era thinkers, Newtonian science and the Prussian school system of the 1800s. Some of it useful, but the philosophy as a whole is archaic.

Here is what you’re taught, either directly in science class, or indirectly through the culture at large:

1. Everything is essentially mechanical.
2. All matter is unconscious.
3. Nature is purposeless, and evolution has no goal or direction.
4. Minds are inside heads and are nothing but the activities of brains.
5. Memories are stored as material traces in brains and are wiped out at death.

None of these claims are actually scientific, at least not according to the latest research.

Chris Draper explains that physicists now believe that:

“…quantum mechanics is mind-dependent; meaning, the behavior of particles is determined by the act of observation. Therefore, the mind cannot be reduced to matter, because quantum mechanics presupposes the existence of minds.

Take another dogma: The belief that everything is mechanical. Again, the problem with this claim is it is based upon an outdated description of the universe purported by Newtonian mechanics.

The twenty-first century revealed that 74 percent of the mass of the universe is attributed to a mysterious repulsive force known as dark energy.

The remaining 22 percent is attributed to an unaccounted force known as dark matter. Visible matter as described by Newtonian physics, such as stars, planets and galaxies, makes up a mere 4 percent of the universe’s mass.

The belief that the constants of physics don’t vary has been called into question, too. Cutting edge theories in physics, such as string theory, suggest that our universe is just one among many in a so-called megaverse.

Rather than existing uniformly throughout the megaverse, the laws of physics vary from one region to the next.”

Recent science itself no longer supports the scientific materialism we’re taught in school, and the culture that’s grown up around it. Modern science, especially quantum mechanics tends towards model agnosticism. They’ve thrown in the towel on an objective reality.

Scientists can only offer their best models as theories, theories like string theory, metaverse theory and simulation theory. The best and brightest scientific minds have left objective materialism behind and admitted they don’t know how it all works.

Scientific materialism is outdated, making us unhappy and the best and brightest minds of modern science can’t speak with certainty on the big questions.

Science Can’t Our Explain Why We Exist

Science has given us incredible technology like the automobile and the smartphone, but do you know what’s even more incredible? The fact that you exist!

The fact that you incarnated into a body to taste, smell, touch, feel, think and move about an infinitely expanding universe with billions of other lifeforms is absolutely astounding.

Science can approximate the age of our universe, but science can’t tell us what came before matter, energy, space and time.

Science can’t tell us what created and sustains matter, energy, space and time.

Science can’t tell us why we incarnated into these bodies and what are purpose is while we’re here.

And science can’t tell us what happens after we die.

Science does not have answers to what created the world, what sustains it and why we and all the billions of life forms are here.

Terence Mckenna says:

“Modern science is based on the principle: ‘Give us one free miracle, and we’ll explain the rest.’ The one free miracle is the appearance of all the mass and energy in the universe and all the laws that govern it in a single instant from nothing.”

And he’s right.

Science does not solve why we’re here, what our purpose on this planet is, and what happens after we die.

Logic can’t explain why we exist in an infinitely expanding universe, because there is nothing logical about existence! There is nothing logical about the spontaneous creation of matter, energy, time and space!

What created matter, energy, space and time?

Why do we exist as a species?

What are we evolving towards?

A peer-reviewed study in the latest scientific journal will never have those answers because science is based on measurement, and you can’t measure whats beyond measurement – what’s beyond time, space, energy and matter! And yet it is from this great beyond, that our very universe exists. It couldn’t be any other way.

Some people, including myself, call this great formless beyond the Holy Spirit. And it’s this Holy Spirit that created the universe.

You can use the scientific model of the big bang and trace our universe back billions of years…

But you ultimately get to a point where matter was spontaneously created by what’s beyond matter. There is no way around this fact. And therefore that “non-matter”, or Spirit has to be the very essence of matter and what sustains matter to this day. Because matter is created out of the Spirit and it cannot be separate from that Spirit.

Although the Holy Spirit is the creator of all matter, and exists within matter, its pure essence will never be found in matter. You’ll never find the Holy Spirit under a microscope, no matter how small a particle you examine, because if you could, it wouldn’t be The Spirit and would be subject to matter, energy, space and time.

And most importantly, if what the spiritual authorities say is true, you have the potential to directly experience this Holy Spirit in this lifetime. Because this Spirit is a part of you and is what created you, sustains you and gives you the consciousness to interact with the world.

The goal of all spiritual traditions is to merge your river with God’s ocean and return home to the Holy Spirit, beyond the reach of the inevitable death and decay of the vehicle that you chose to play the game of life with.

I think it’s only logical to examine the idea that you’re a spirit and have only temporarily incarnated in this body. And that you can have direct experience of that Holy Spirit in this life time. Even if you have to take baby steps and start slowly, I truly believe you won’t be disappointed.

Only The Spiritual Authorities Speak With Certainty On The Nature Of Our Experience

Scientific materialism is outdated. The best and brightest minds admit that they can no longer speak with certainty on the nature our existence – the best they can offer is theories.

It’s only the spiritual masters who can speak about our true nature with certainty because they speak from direct experience.

You don’t have to believe what they say but I think we can agree that they speak with certainty, and that if science admittedly doesn’t have the answers to the big questions, looking to spiritual authorities who speak with certainty might be worth you’re time.

It’s true that there are plenty of spiritual frauds and plenty of people who exploit spirituality for power and profit. But it’s my belief that there are a select group of spiritual masters who achieved the ultimate goal – spiritual enlightenment. And that their wisdom is worth looking into.

I’m not asking you to believe on blind faith, or because I said so, I’m just suggesting that you investigate their teaching for yourself and come to your own conclusions.

Being Spiritual Does Not Have To Mean Being Religious

If you’re still hesitant, I get it, especially if dogmatic, fundamentalist religion was slammed down your throat as a child. But remember, religion is not the Spirit, religions are just one of many maps to the territory of the Spirit, which is your ever present, true nature.

Unfortunately a lot of religious teaching is the misinterpretation by men of what the enlightened beings through history we’re trying to communicate with us. Often times religion is sold through guilt and shame for power and profit.

At first glance it’s easy to write-off religion as mass delusion, but that’s the easy way out. Because religions rarely have the best emissaries, in fact the most dogmatic, aggressive messengers are usually the last people who should be speaking for that religion.

But when you go to the heart of the religion and read the actual words written by the master, it becomes difficult to deny the wisdom in those words. The religious traditions and rules of men aren’t important, it’s the direct message from the being that beat the final boss in the game of life that’s important.

The Case For Spirituality

In fact, it’s hard to think of something more important then the investigation of why we’re put on this planet, Especially if there is even the smallest possibility that the death of this body is not the end of our existence. And that what we do while we’re alive has a spiritual purpose.

The idea that we might live on after the death of this body can sound hard to believe at first but consider the insanity of the fact that you already incarnated into one body already!

Is it really such a stretch to imagine that you won’t reincarnate into another vehicle in this universe or maybe even into the higher, more peaceful realm of the spirit?

I don’t think it is. To me that doesn’t seem illogical at all. And when you look at every major and minor tradition, with all the saints, sages and enlightened beings, they all say that what we do while we’re here has a spiritual purpose and that affects where we go next.

If that’s not enough of a case for spiritual investigation listen to what Tesla, perhaps one of the most brilliant scientific minds in our history has to say on the universe:

“TESLA: Everything is light. In one of its ray is the fate of nations, each nation has its own ray in the great source of light which we see as the sun. And remember: no one, who had existed, is dead. They transformed into the light, and so still exist. The secret lies in the fact that the light particles restore their original state.

JOURNALIST: This is the resurrection!

TESLA: I prefer to call it: return to the previous energy. Christ and some others knew the secret…”

Even Einstein believed in more than just soul crushing materialism. It’s true he didn’t believe in a personal God, but he believed in an impersonal creator of our universe.

He told David Ben-Gurion that “There must be something behind the energy.” And he told Max Born that he didn’t think religious belief was a sign of stupidity, or unbelief a sign of intelligence.

Einstein did not believe in a personal God who answers prayers and interferes in the universe, but he did believe in an intelligent Spirit which created the universe and the laws that govern it.

Here are just a few of the things Einstein said in regards to the Holy Spirit:

“Behind all the discernible concatenations, there remains something subtle, intangible and inexplicable. Veneration for this force is my religion. To that extent, I am in point of fact, religious.”

“Everyone who is seriously involved in the pursuit of science becomes convinced that a spirit is manifest in the laws of the universe – a spirit vastly superior to that of man.”

“This firm belief in a superior mind that reveals itself in the world of experience, represents my conception of God.”

There is no difference between the universe and everything in it with god. That god is not separate, not beyond time, not beyond space, not personally conscious entity in exception of one known composite or aspect of it and that is us (humanity) which is conscious.

In short, everything else is god whether living or non-living, conscious or not conscious, or the universe itself as a whole is God. That there is no distinction.”

Those quotes could have been taken from the mouth of Ramana Maharshi or any other nondualist saints. Einstein might not have believed in a personal God, but he certainly believed in the Holy Spirit, immanent in everything – the creator and sustainer of this universe.

If you’ve read this far, I think we can agree that science doesn’t answer the big questions. And there are authorities who speak with certainty on spirituality. And you have the choice to examine the teachings of those authorities.

Choosing To Examine Your True Nature Is A Choice Worth Making

You have the choice to leave the big questions unexamined, but I believe that in doing so, you’re making a major mistake. Especially when we live in a time where we have instant access to the entire human history of spiritual wisdom from masters like Buddha, Christ, Ramana Maharshi, Anandamayi Ma and many others.

And I promise you this, when you listen to the direct words they speak, stripped of the dogma and distortions from their supposed messengers, you can’t help but hear wisdom in those words.

And more importantly, you can use those words to aim for a direct experience of that Holy Spirit while you’re in this life cycle. The Spirit that exists outside the bounds of time and space. The Spirit that can’t die because it was never born. The Spirit that incarnated us into these bodies. The Spirit that created and sustains the entire universe.

It only takes one glimpse of the ultimate reality, through direct experience, to make you a believer. Unfortunately I’ve only had a handful of transcendental experiences in my life, but those experiences we’re enough to convince me that there the Holy Spirit is a reality.

And each with each day that passes I get little glimpses into that reality. I can see that this body is just the vehicle. But what I really am is what the thoughts, feelings and sensations come to. The sight, smells, tastes, noises come to me as the Spirit, through the vehicle of the body.

It might take a leap of faith at first to be able to see it, but it’s not a big leap. Especially when you start to study the right spiritual material. Because you begin to see the truth of those words reflected in your actual experience.

Things like

1. The presence of God
2. Having a spiritual purpose
3. Being rewarded for being kind and good
4. Feeling love
5. Existing beyond the bounds of name and form

These are all things I’ve experienced and all things that I believe you can experience as well.

Personal Development Vs. Spirituality

If you’re with me this far, and you’re a long time reader of my content you might be confused. Because the bulk of the content I’ve released since 2012 is about personal development…

Content like making more money, getting women, having better sex and getting in better shape – all things that feed the “ego” and nurture the body. And if you know me on a personal level, you’ll know I’m far from being a saint. My “ego” is as big as it’s ever been and yet here I am extolling the values of spirituality.

To the intelligent reader it would seem that spirituality and personal development are in direct opposition to each other, and in many cases they are.

But here’s the reality, Rome wasn’t built in a day, and becoming an enlightened being doesn’t happen overnight. The true lions of mankind are 1 in a billion.

Pursuing enlightenment or Christ consciousness or sat-chit-ananda or whatever you want to call the ultimate reality is a noble mission. In my opinion, beating the final boss in the game of life and experiencing complete liberation and bliss is the best thing you can do for yourself…

But that’s not going to happen overnight, I’ve been on the spiritual path for the last 20 years and may very well be on the path for the next 50 years or even 50 life cycles.

If you choose to pursue the spiritual path, prepare for a long walk to the finish line. And in that time rent is still going to be due. Poverty is still going to be painful. Being sick is still going to hurt. And working a mediocre office job is still going to suck.

I’ll leave it to the false prophets to pretend they’re above the demands of the body and the ego while they collect checks for their teachings, live comfortable lives of material abundance and sell austerity to the gullible masses.

If you want to move to a monastery and devote your entire waking life to pursuing the ultimate reality, you have my respect, and I tip my hat to you. Because I know I don’t have the discipline to do that, at least not yet. And I know I still have many attachments to this world and this body.

Walking The Middle Path Between Self Improvement And Spirituality

Because I don’t have the discipline to walk the purely spiritual path, and because I’m still attached to the comforts of this world, I choose to walk the middle path. On the middle path I can pursue both personal development and spiritual development, and that’s the path I’m offering to you.

Personal development is an excellent medicine for the pains of life. When you pursue personal development you’re able to minimize the amount of suffering and maximize the amount of happiness in your life.

Minimizing suffering and maximizing happiness is my aim in my daily life. It’s also my worldly mission to minimize the suffering of as many men as I can reach through this vehicle: Revolutionary Lifestyle Design. And that’s why I will continue to produce personal development content until the day that I die.

But personal development is not enough. While personal development is an excellent medicine for the suffering in your life, it’s not the cure. The cure is total liberation from attachment to the flesh and living purely in the Holy Spirit.

I pursue that through observing. And that means observing the entirety of your experience, from anger to lust to going out and getting drunk with your boys. You can have human flaws and enjoy worldly things while still pursuing the spiritual path – the key is to try and remember to observe life from the point of view of the Spirit as much as possible.

God And The Holy Spirit

Einstein believed only in God in his impersonal form, as the Holy Spirit. I believe in God both in his personal and impersonal form, both transcendent and immanent. And that it’s my ignorance and mindlessness that keeps me separated from the Holy Spirit and attached to the pleasures and pains of the flesh – this is why I choose to reach out to God on a personal level.

One way to look at God is through the mental map of the Holy Trinity with:

1. God As The Son: The Christ In The Flesh Who Gave Us The Word (spiritual wisdom)
2. God As The Father: The Living, Personal God We Pray To In The Highest Realm Of Consciousness
3. God As The Holy Spirit: God as the nameless, formless Spirit which we and the universe came from and the Spirit we return to at the end of our journey

By Christ, I mean the title of the Anointed One, which is the meaning of the word Christ. The son of man who merged completely with God and The Holy Spirit. With Jesus Christ being the translation of Yeshua Or “Joshua the Anointed One”. But Jesus doesn’t have to be your Guru, I believe in other enlightened beings as well. And I think it’s wise to look to them as models with the idea that the end game of our evolution is to merge with the Holy Spirit.

Understanding Vs. Experience

If you’re with me so far, I know we’ve covered some pretty deep ground, and I appreciate you taking the time to absorb the message, but lets bring things back down to our common, day-to-day reality. You might have received the message so far, but understanding and experience are completely different things.

It’s one thing to understand that God as the Holy Spirit is immanent in all of creation, but it’s another thing entirely to be able to love your neighbor as yourself. Especially when your neighbor threatens your life when he cuts you off to make an illegal U turn in traffic.

I struggle with all the normal human emotions and I try to remember God as much as I can, but I fail much more often than I win. Because outside of the occasional transcendental moment, my day to day experience doesn’t match my understanding of the Spirit on an intellectual level. That’s why I choose to follow the middle path to God.

The Middle Path

The middle path to God is pursuing both personal development and spiritual growth while having both a worldly and a spiritual mission. My worldly mission is RLD and my daily life is structured around maximizing my happiness and minimizing my suffering.

I indulge in food, sex, alcohol and the pleasures of the flesh within my ethical boundaries but I still try to keep my eyes on the ultimate prize. If I’m being honest though, I tend to live a more worldly than spiritual life, at least at my current level of evolution.

I say a prayer every morning to God to show my gratitude, to ask for closer communion, to apologize for my sins and occasionally to ask for worldly things. Throughout the day I focus on my wealth, health, lifestyle and relationships, all the while trying (and usually failing) to stay present and aware that I’m the Spirit. And then at night, I try and schedule at least an hour for spiritual reading.

I’ve found this middle path to be the most effective way to live. You’re free to pursue your path any way you want but in my experience, the middle path is the best bridge to both worlds.

By following the middle path you know longer have to be a slave to soul crushing materialism. But you also get to enjoy your life while pursuing your spiritual mission. In my experience this is a much more consistent approach then trying to negate the flesh entirely only to crash back down to earth when you relapse (which you will).

If I could choose to do one thing for you, it would be to put you on the spiritual path, and the path I recommend is the middle way. I can’t get you to the finish line because I’m not there yet, but I can point you to the lions of mankind who’ve achieved the ultimate victory.

Saints like Christ, Buddha, Nisargadatta Maharaj, Ramana Maharshi, Anandamayi Ma, Ramakrishna and Rumi. Some followed the path of insight, others the path of love. I try to follow both paths but insight comes easier to me than love.

If you want to follow the path of love, read Jesus, Anandamayi Ma, Ramakrishna and Rumi. If you want to follow the path of insight and understand what you really are, read Buddha, Ramana Maharshi And Nisargadatta Maharaj.

You are that

A good place to start is reading is I Am That by Nisargadatta Maharaj.

Because you are that.

That which is beyond name, form, time and space.

That which can never be born and therefore can never die.

That which is your true nature.

That Holy Spirit.

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Part of that is because many entertainers, despite being extremely talented in one area, are still operating with a consumer’s mentality, instead of a producer’s mentality. A recent study showed that as many as 80% of former NFL players go broke.

Or in the case of Nicholas Cage and many others, they hand their money over to “money managers” and accountants without keeping an eye on their assets and end up in bad deals and having their cash stolen.

Or they get legally married without a prenup. That mistake cost Michael Jordan $160 million in his divorce. Rupert Murdoch lost $1.7 billion, that’s billion with a B.

Or they end up on the wrong side of a lawsuit without having their assets properly protected.

Even saavy entrepreneurs lose cash when they pick the wrong partners or wrong investments. I can think of two friends who have lost a lot of money putting their cash into the hands of the wrong people.

So many guys kill themselves to get rich through their business or skill, and then blow a fortune trying to make that money work for them or not properly protecting that wealth.

The golden rule when it comes to investing money is don’t lose money. That’s why wealth protection is so important and has to come before appreciation.

Check out the video and audio to see why it’s so important to protect your wealth and why you need to be in complete control of your own financial destiny.

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People that tell you they do things without ego are lying, every human instinct is toward pleasure and away from pain.

Even if that instinct is charity, you still get a payoff for helping other people, in fact helping others is one of the best ways to be happy.

I don’t like the word ego, I think it’s inaccurate, a better term is your self, but I’ll use it here as it’s term people are familiar with.

The bulk of the ideas in this video and audio come from the Treatise On Love and incredible essay on human behavior through the lens of ethology, or the study of animal behavior applied to humans.

For the sake of argument I’ll use the authors terms of egotist or a person who is aware of their place in the world and will fight for it and an egocentric, a person who literally, although mostly unconsciously, acts as if the world revolves around them.

Most people tend toward one pole or the other, with the worst people in the world at the extreme ends of each pole. The defining feature of both the extreme egotist and extreme egocentric is low empathy. With that said, all of us tend to swing towards one pole or the other.

Understanding these concepts are important for understanding people and being able to see how people relate to the world around them. Check out the video and audio below as well as the bullet point summary:

Summary: Egotism Vs. Egocentrism

I don’t like either the words ego, egotist or egocentric, but they’re the best maps I have on this topic. The key point of understanding is in how people relate to the world and their place in it.

Egotism

• An egotist understands people well but still puts themselves above others, it is an attribute of high rank
• Men tend to be more egotistic in general (definitely plenty of egocentric men however)
• An egotist looks at the world as a place to fight for his material interests and how he ranks against others
• An egotist can self evaluate and see where he stacks up compared to other people
• Egotists have a much more realistic view of the world through understanding other people
• A person who tends towards egotism can also understand the emotions of other people
• Egotists will have much better success in sales, business, athletics etc.
• Low empathy egotists are the Stalin’s and Mussolini’s of the world
• They understand the suffering they cause to people, but believe it’s necessary

Egocentrism

• Egocentrism is inability to WISH to put yourself in another person’s shoes
• If men tend towards egotism women tend towards egocentrism
• The true egocentric only thinks about the world from their own perspective
• Therefore they have a bad understanding of other people and what motivates them
• They see themselves, mostly subconsciously, as the center of their own universe
• The easiest way to see what this looks like is by watching children, children are egocentric
• Children until the age of 5 rarely ask why
• Egocentric people don’t ask why and don’t have a great curiosity about the world
• Most people grow out of egocentrism when they hit their teenage years and develop social awareness
• Some people don’t, an extreme egocentric person has little understanding of other people
• For an extreme egocentric person, other people are just characters in their reality
• Egocentric people assume the world is as concerned about their problems as they are
• These are the people that cut the line in the supermarket and explain that they’re in a hurry
• Egocentric people don’t notice the inconvenience because they don’t think about others
• If attacked “how can you do this to me?”, “why are you being so mean to me?”
• An egocentric person can have empathy for others but still not understand the effects of their behavior on other people
• They can read gestures and emotions, but they can’t and don’t have an interest in other people’s inner worlds
• An egocentric person is in love with their own inner world and therefore the mirror
• Low empathy egocentric people, much like low empathy egotists feel very little guilt
• Egocentric people are more likely to succeed in the arts as opposed to business

Examples

The partnership of Kanye and Jay Z is a good example of egocentrism vs. egotism (not saying either of these guys are bad guys). Kanye is extremely emotional and uncalibrated, he believes he’s the Steve Jobs of his generation and can’t understand why other people don’t see him the same way.

Jay Z is the opposite, a cold and calculating player in the game of life. He has a great understanding of people and social cues. He knows how to get people to do business with him and he knows what image to present to the public based on who he’s dealing with. You will never see uncalibrated emotional rants or tweets from Jay Z.

Conclusion

Understanding how people relate to the world is important. It’s also important for you to understand yourself, because it will be very hard for you to succeed as an egocentric person. Being able to sell to them is a crucial skill in the game of life and that means understanding people as well as how your behavior affects others.

I’m not saying to become an extreme egotist with low empathy (that’s not even possible unless you come from an abusive childhood and are already there). I’m saying to have empathy and be ethical, but also understand that a large part of success comes from understanding people and selling to them.

It also comes from knowing how you stack up compared to others and how to improve. When you take an egocentric view towards dating for example, it becomes very difficult to get what you want. As opposed to honestly assessing your sexual market value, assessing your game and comparing how you stack up to other guys – this is how you improve.

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We live on an economic planet. For you to be able to live the life you want, with an abundance of health, wealth, women and freedom you need to get paid. Unless you get financially free, you’re going to be hamstrung in every area of your life.

To get and keep wealth you only need to understand one basic principle: produce more than you consume. And the wider the gap between your production and your consumption, the faster you’ll be able to get and keep wealth.

You can’t get rich and think like a consumer it’s just not possible. Thinking like a consumer is leaving angry, poorly written comments on the Google app store, because the latest version of Google Maps doesn’t work 100% perfectly on your new Samsung Galaxy. There are literally millions of angry comments on the app store and I guarantee that none of those people are either a producer or successful.

A producer doesn’t leave angry comments because a producer knows that screaming in all caps, in the general direction the app store is not the way to get his problem solved. A producer knows that reaching out to a businesses through their customer service department or hiring someone to solve the problem is how you get things done.

Being a producer is about understanding the game. It’s also about patience and being able to delay gratification. Instant gratification is for consumers: the hot sale, the emotional appeal, the time sensitive giveaway – all of that is for consumers, and sold to them by producers. Waiting all night in the freezing cold for the new pair Jordans – consumer behavior.

And consumer behavior is a shortstop to working a job you hate and living paycheck to paycheck to survive. Consumer behavior is about mortgaging your future for things you want today. Consumer behavior is short term thinking.

Producer behavior is long term thinking. Producers want that long money and have the patience to persist in getting it. Producers know that to keep getting that money you need to keep producing more than you consume – no ifs ands or maybes.

If you can’t keep producing more than you consume, you’re going to lose what you have. There is no neutral in this game of life we’re playing. That’s why most lottery winners and many athletes end up broke after those big paydays stop coming in.

Because they were never producers to begin. They were consumers who hit the jackpot and broke their neck to give that money back to the producers of our game. The universe did a quick accounting check, noticed some irregularities on the books, and promptly took the money back.

Because consumers outnumber producers 99 to 1, there will always be a market for the few, brave reality creators in our marketplace of ideas.

The key to getting yourself into the productive class is solving problems for consumers. Steve Jobs solved a problem most people didn’t even know they had and he did so on a massive scale. His reward was influence, money, a legacy that lives on beyond his death, and his jersey forever hanging in the pantheon of greatness.

Producers find problems, solve them, and sell people that their products and services are the best solution. They keep selling until they get agreement, because agreement is reality and agreement is what gets you paid.

It’s simple, but not easy, that’s why 90% of businesses fail. And it’s why I recommend a sales based service business in a proven market. If you’re exceptional you can try reinventing the wheel, but for most guys the move is finding a problem in a proven market, selling the service that solves the problem and scaling up from there.

You can always expand your revenue streams as you grow, but you need to get out of the consumer class first, and that means you need to have a business where you produce your own revenue.

The truth is: the world is made up of producers and consumers, but consumers outnumber producers 99 to 1. Most work jobs they don’t like so they can eat off of a producer’s table and just barely make ends meet.

That’s not to say I don’t respect people who work jobs, I do. I respect the janitors, factory workers and garbagemen of the world. I respect people that work hard and thankless jobs so we can live comfortably…

But I won’t be one, and if you want the good things in life you can’t be either. I’ve been at the bottom and I’m not going back. If you want to get to the top you need to put in the work to become a producer.

The truth is you have to become a slave to success, and success a merciless master. You don’t get there by spending all your money on what you want this moment. You get there by giving OTHER PEOPLE what they want.

Being a producer is about giving other people what they want FIRST so you can EVENTUALLY get what you want. It’s about giving more than you take. It’s about adding value to as many people as you can.

People only love you as far as the value you can create for them. To be a producer means you deliver value day in and day out and you give more than you take.Being a producer is about being on your game every day.

While everyone else is out partying, you’re producing. Where everyone else is spending money, you’re saving money. Where everyone else is watching the movie you’re behind the curtain producing it.

Sure you can still go to the movies and enjoy yourself. And you can still spend money and have fun with your friends. But you can’t consume more than you produce, that’s a one way ticket to poverty.

If you want the live you deserve you need to become a producer. That means solving problems, putting your clients first, delaying gratification, and reinvesting in your money machine.

When you do all that you can consume whatever you want without putting a dent in your budget. You can have the life you want but you have to be a producer and you have to be patient.

So keep grinding, keep pushing, keep shoving, keep saving, keep reinvesting and keep producing.
And most importantly never ever, quit until you get the life you deserve.

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Think of your mission or any major goal you want to accomplish as a straight line.

Point A is where you are right now and Point B is where you want to go.

Just like in sales or any type of close, the path is linear.

And ideally you want to get to your destination as quickly and efficiently as possible.

The straight line isn’t the destination but it’s the best mental map I’ve found for getting where you want to go.

On that straight line you will find many obstacles in your way:

• 1st is Time: distance can only be covered in time
• 2nd is Space: to get somewhere requires you to move through physical space
• 3rd is Skills: skills you don’t have that you need to learn
• 4th is work: that you’ve done
• 5th is disagreeable people: people that will sabotage your mission
• 6th is doubt: and doubt is by far the most dangerous because doubt can convince you to walk off the straight line

With those 6 points in mind, imagine you’re at Point B right now, you decided on the destination you wanted to go to and put in the time, moved through physical space, developed the needed skills, done the hard work, cut off the dreamkillers and not allowed doubt to take you off the straight line.

When you’re defining your destination, or mission, you want to be as clear as possible. That could mean getting pictures of the office you want to work out of, the money in your bank account, the way your body looks, where you want to live, or all the above.

If that means finding pictures online, printing them and putting them on your whiteboard, then do that. The clearer your picture of the destination you want to go to, the easier it will be to get there. Just like you would use Google Street views to see a picture of where you want to drive to.

And you need to get your mind to where you’re not only certain that Point B exists, but you’re certain that you’re going to be able to drive there. Because certainty is the key to getting where you want to go.

If you doubt that Point B exists, you’ll never be able to get there. If you doubt your ability to drive to your destination, and allow that doubt to drag you off the line, you’ll never get there.

When you’re truly serious about your mission, it’s do or die. Elon Musk says he’s going to take us to Mars or die trying.

You don’t get to your destination with doubt, you get there with certainty. And you get there with the right maps, and through modeling the right people. Find the guy who is where you want to be, backwards engineer what he does, and use his map, just like you would use Google maps on a long journey.

Don’t indulge doubt and leave yourself a way out, because doubt is fear talking to you.

Fear of getting your hopes up and it not working out.

Fear of putting time and money into something that fails.

Fear of the humiliation of failure.

Doubt will destroy you if you don’t push it off your path.

Uncertainty can be a good thing in regards to things outside of your control, it served me well in my past life as a prop trader, where I would take a quick bet on a stock and bail if didn’t immediately meet my metrics.

But uncertainty isn’t suited to a mission. A soldier doesn’t stop fighting until he is victorious or he dies. You need a closed mind to accomplish your mission, because when you indulge doubt, you allow yourself to be taken off your path.

That’s not to say doubt won’t come up, and won’t continue to come up every damn day, you just have to push to keep pushing it off your path.

And not just your doubts, but the doubts of disagreeable people in your life, you can’t get to your destination when you let someone in your car who is trying to drive from the backseat and give you bad directions.

Disagreeable people will get in the way of your mission and make obstacles of themselves. Agreement is reality and people that disagree with your potential need to be pushed off your path. Because their disagreement can only add doubt to your mission.

When you’re committed to a mission, don’t let doubt stop you, instead only let death stop you. Because that just simplifies things, you can’t consider quitting because quitting is just not an option.

You can’t fail when you don’t quit, you can only die trying to get to your destination. When you take on that soldier’s mentality you become a very dangerous man indeed. Don’t let your mission be about if, make it about when.

Be at Point B already. Because the present moment is all that exists. Time is an illusion, you will never feel time passing, because you’re always in the present moment. So if you want to get to Point B, start BEING at Point B.

Start at Point B and work backwards from there, taking all the obstacles out of your way. Be at the business you want, in the office you want, in the condo you want, with the physique you want and have those pictures be front and center in your reality.

Right now you’re in current time as you read this article, but right now is also Point B, because you will always be in current time, so if you’re truly committed to getting to your destination, stay in certainty and BE at Point B.

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Because freedom has been one of the core values of RLD since the beginning of this site.

And many of the strategies I’ve posted since 2012 are about getting you free from a lifestyle where you’re unfulfilled and into a life where you are fulfilled.

I still stand by all those strategies and freedom is still one of my core values…

But it’s not what I live for.

I live for state, having the most consistently positive thoughts, positive emotions and positive sensations (feeling comfortable in your body and not in physical pain).

Sometimes I call this consistent happiness, but consistent state is more accurate.

My goal is to live my ideal day as much as possible and give you the tools to do the same.

Working towards getting free is important, but freedom alone doesn’t get you everything you want out of life.

When I was stuck in a job I hated and reading libertarian and travel blogs, freedom was much more important to me, because I didn’t have it.

But when I got free, and I got passive income, and I had the opportunity to lay by the beach all day drinking margaritas and hollering at women, I realized freedom wasn’t enough.

Check out the audio and video below to see why freedom is overrated and how to make freedom work for you.

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The short answer is no.

Not to say that spending money or even debt can’t be useful, spending money correctly certainly can be.

But spending money, and especially using debt can also murder your margins and bury your business.

Check out the video and audio below to see how to make money without spending money.

You’ll also learn when it’s ok to spend money, and how you should spend that money correctly.

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Money either solves or helps solve the majority of your problems.

But money isn’t enough, and neither is women or any of the other trappings of success.

Don’t get me wrong, having the good things in life makes it easier to be happy…

And I want you to have the good things in life.

But they’re just tools to get you state, and state is everything.

As men we’re built to have missions.

And without a mission, we’re lost, even when you have success, women and freedom.

You can have a ton of women, a lot of money, total freedom and still feel lost…

In fact, a good friend of mine has been living this very reality for the last month.

If you’re struggling, that might be hard to believe, but it’s the truth.

Men are built for missions, to have a purpose that fulfills our potential.

When you don’t have a purpose you’re lost.

When you’ve fulfilled your purpose, without finding another mission, you’re lost.

Just like when you beat a challenging video game…

You enjoy the success, you celebrate, but without another game to play you feel let down.

It’s the same in the game of life, you have to have something to play to feel fulfilled.

Believe me, free time and hobbies become boring real quick when they’re not scarce anymore.

Because those hobbies are no longer a stress release with time barriers and limitations.

Sure you’ll enjoy them at first, but eventually you get bored and sick of what you used to love.

It’s the same thing as having pizza every day for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

Without purpose you get bored of your hobbies and boredom leads to depression with mathematical precision.

Boredom is the first step towards depression.

Depression, in the literal sense of the word is compression or the flattening of your spirit.

Depression is boredom exemplified, the feeling of a flat, empty experience in life.

You have no interest in anything and nothing matters because you’re bored of everything.

In fact you could define a depressed man as a man who is bored of life and everything in it.

When you’re depressed and bored of everything, you’re living in daily distress.

If you have even one thing that interests you, like a girlfriend, it’s enough to keep you out of depression…

That is until she dumps you for making her your #1 priority and leaning on her for all your happiness.

Many men find themselves depressed after a break up and this is why.

It’s not because she dumped you, although that hurts…

It’s because she dumped and you had nothing else going on.

Breakups hurt but a breakup won’t put you into depression by itself.

A breakup only puts you into depression when you feel like you have nothing else to live for.

Total depression = bored of everything = nothing matters = total distress.

You can’t be depressed when you have a purpose and a mission.

Having a mission is what gives soldiers the strength to stay strong while living through a horror movie.

It’s only after they get home that they sink into depression because they’ve now lost their purpose.

That’s why you always have to have a purpose and make it a priority.

As opposed to a girlfriend, who will punish you for putting her on a pedestal…

Your purpose never punishes you for making it your primary priority.

Instead your purpose rewards you.

My mission wakes me up to passive income and positive comments from readers.

My mission rewards me every day with something to do and new challenges to accomplish.

With no purpose, or if your purpose is well below your potential, like working unfulfilling job…

Boredom and eventually depression are the end result, this is distress.

Just like if you’re player 1 and you have no video game to play, or the game you have now is too easy.

But on the other end, if you have purpose and that purpose demands more than your potential…

The end result is fear, irritability, breakdowns, and depression – also distress.

This is a common condition for a lot of corporate killers living in high stress environments.

You’re distressed when you’re below your potential and distressed when you’re pushed too far above what you’re capable of.

You need a mission and a purpose that challenges your potential and that stretches you, but not beyond your potential.

When you have the right mission, you have eustress, or positive stress that makes you stronger, more capable and most importantly, happier.

Eustress is what the great philosophers mean when they talk about adversity strengthening you.

But not all adversity is created equal, you do not need or want distress in your life.

Distress makes you weaker.

Distress like getting a disease or a divorce are not good examples of the kind of challenges you want to have in your life.

Eustress is making gains in the gym, where you’re causing microtears in the muscle, but with rest those tears heal and you become stronger.

Eustress is completing challenging projects in your business and getting those financial wins under your belt.

Your ideal mission is a game with the skill setting at the apex of your potential but not above it.

And that game is one that’s big enough to play for life.

I can play RLD create strategies and develop insights for living until the day I die.

I can do this because it’s my purpose, because I’m fascinated by life, because I have an infinite amount of topics to cover, and because there are no limits to the scalablity of my business.

I have a mission to hit by 40 within my metagame, and when I hit it, I’ll just create another mission for 50…

Thats the key – always having and creating new levels and missions within your metagame game.

When you have all that you get eustress.

You get high on pushing to your potential and making continual progress.

You get high on achieving and happy on growing.

And the more you achieve, the stronger and more confident you get.

You might not love selling real estate, but you can learn to get high on taking action, closing deals, building your empire and dominating your space.

And then ironically, leisure time and hobbies become more valuable, because they are a break in comparison to work.

Ironically, you can start to enjoy your leisure time and look forward to it, because you know you’ve earned it after a hard day’s work.

I love to read and expand my understanding of life after a hard days work, but I’d want to hang myself if all I did was lay in bed and read.

I like to have a few drinks with my friends at night, but I would lose my mind if all I did was drink margaritas on the beach all day.

I love to spend time with girls I like after work, but I know with certainty that spending every waking moment with that girl would destroy the relationship.

The key is having the right metagame, with the right mission that fulfills your passions, purpose and potential.

That metagame should fill the bulk of the day with eustress or productive stress.

Then after a hard day’s work, you get to play your other games, with the proper limiting barriers of time and energy so you don’t get bored of those games.

And the goal is to create a life around doing that every day…

Living somewhere sunny while on a mission you love that strengthens and fulfills you. And then after a hard days work, you get to enjoy going out with the boys, having girls over, eating good food, going to the movies, playing guitar or whatever games you like to play.

When you have the right games, and you stay winning and stay achieving, depression is a thing of the past.

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In the game of life you either play or you get played.

There is no sitting on the sidelines.

I’d rather play and play to win.

The metric for defining a win is joy and he who has the most joy wins.

And when joy isn’t available, which it often isn’t, you can at least play for the best state available at that time.

Consistent living in the best available state is the name of the game.

Designing a lifestyle where you live your ideal day as much as possible is the move.

But to get there you need to understand the game.

And the game of life is not fair or reasonable.

Some people are born starving, stick or with terrible handicaps.

And some people are born fed, healthy, attractive and wealthy.

Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people.

I don’t like it anymore than you do, but it’s the truth.

I’d love for everyone on this planet to be happy, healthy, attractive and wealthy.

But this is not reality.

The game of life is not fair or reasonable.

You might have been dealt a great deck of cards or a 2-7 offsuit.

But either way you want to cut it, you need to play your cards to the best of your abilities.

Because it’s not about deserve.

Au contraire mon frere.

Everyone on this planet deserves to be happy, healthy and wealthy.

But that’s not the game of life.

It’s not about deserve, in fact it’s better for you to take deserve out of your vocabulary entirely.

Because deserve is predicated on what should happen if life was fair and reasonable.

But life is not fair and reasonable.

To get what you want in the game of life you need to earn it.

And that means you have to play for it.

And this is especially true with people, you can’t get what you want with should and deserve.

Because persuading with should and deserve is persuading with shame and guilt.

And shame and guilt are the lowest level of persuasion.

As long as you think the world owes you something, your game will suffer.

Because being owed is about being right.

And being right is assuming the world is reasonable and fair.

But the world and the people in it are neither reasonable nor fair.

That means you need to give up being right.

And you need to forget about should and deserve.

Especially when it comes to people, because other people act in their self-interest.

Therefore to get what you want from other people your purpose has to play to that.

And playing to other people’s self-interest is about adding value.

It’s about playing for what you want and influencing that person through persuasion…

Persuasion within ethical boundaries.

Because ethics is important, not just for your happiness but for the value you can add.

Just because the world isn’t fair doesn’t mean you can’t treat other people fairly.

Because when you do you become a light unto the world.

When you can speak to someone’s self-interest through adding value and being fair with them…

You become a special kind of man.

You become a man that other people want to be around and do business with.

You become a leader of men.

And that logic applies to everyone potential situation in your game of life.

If an employee or contractor makes an obvious mistake.

A mistake you would never make.

A mistake that you’ve corrected them on time and time again…

Getting angry and using shame and guilt is playing the wrong card.  i

People respond to persuasion through self-interest.

When you get angry it means you’re not playing at the highest level you can be.

It means you’re still caught up in being right.

It means you’re still caught up in thinking about what you deserve.

It means you expect your employee or contractor to be playing at the same level as you are.

But the reality is, if they were, they probably wouldn’t be working for you.

Instead, the smart move is to accept reality, pull them to the side and gently correct their mistake.

Because that’s what’s in your best interest.

If you have to sacrifice being right to get the behavior you want, then do it.

And get used to it, because you’re going to have to do it often.

Success is about playing the right card, it’s not about what’s right or what you deserve.

It’s doing whatever needs to be done, within ethical boundaries, to get what you want.

And when you do that, you create win/win scenarios for you and your people.

If a client needs you to eat a mistake that wasn’t 100% your fault, you do it.

You forget about being right.

The back office might have messed up the order for the 100th time.

And for the 100th time you’re facing an upset client for someone else’s mistake…

But you still take total responsibility because it’s the right move.

When you try to pass the buck,your client will not only get more upset…

Not only that, but they won’t trust you with their business in the future.

Because they can’t trust you when you admit that giving them good service is out of your control.

Remember, the world is not fair and reasonable.

Therefore expecting it to be will only cause you frustration.

And needing to be right will cost you a lot of potential wins.

The world is not reasonable, and therefore being right is not the right attitude.

So forget about trying to be right, all the time.

Instead focus on being effective at getting what you want.

When you do, it opens up so many new possibilities for turning situations to your advantage.

And it doesn’t even cost you a dollar.

The truth is being petty and having to be right is weak game.

Boss player game is about doing what needs to be done to get what you want.

When you truly internalize this principle, you will make massive progress in your game.

Because the world is not reasonable.

Therefore, as George Bernard Shaw says…

“All progress is made by the unreasonable man.”

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Unless you have ownership it’s not your dream – full stop, end of discussion.

That company, that political movement, that sports team – none of those are yours.

For it to be your dream, you have to have equity.

When you have equity, your effort to fulfill that dream is worth it.

When you have equity you get paid on things you did a decade ago.

When you have equity you get a shot at total financial freedom.

When you have equity you get passive income.

When you have equity you get to reinvest the profits and benefit from compound interest.

When you have equity it’s yours dream.

When you work for someone else, it’s their dream.

Your company can have their best quarter in history but you’re not getting that a piece of that revenue You’re not going to get passive income from that company. You’re not going to get money from clients you brought on after you quit or get fired. And you’re not going to get rich because employees don’t get rich, owners get rich.

The owner, the C suite and the activist investors get rich, not you. That mission statement on the wall is not your mission – you are disposable to that company. You do not owe that company an ownership mentality. And that company is most definitely not a family, families don’t fire their brothers and sons.

That political movement isn’t your mission either. Your vote and your activism on social media gets you nothing. Politicians get money, power, respect and mindshare. Political influencers get adulation, donations and people buying their products. You get nothing…

Nothing on the upside at least. But you can definitely get something on the downside, especially if you’re promoting an unpopular movement. You can get publicly shamed, fired, de-platformed, de-monetized or even attacked in the streets.

Are you anti-fragile enough to risk a life’s worth of revenue over your tweets and blog posts? The leader of your movement doesn’t even know your name. Your fellow activists won’t help you pay your rent. Are you that good financially, emotionally and physically that you can afford to be giving all your mindshare to a movement?

Your sports team is no better. It’s a corporation whose representatives are 20 year olds, most of whom don’t even come from your city. You have one life, you can’t afford to spend it watching overpaid 20 year olds exercise. Who gives a f$#@ if they make it to the playoffs when you’re living paycheck to paycheck. What does “your team” winning the championship do for your mission in life?

Here is the reality, you can’t afford not to build your dreams.

You need to have a mission because you need to be able to survive and thrive and today’s world is not your grandfather’s world. 

Retirement costs a mil in today’s dollars let alone what it will be by the time you get to your 70’s. And those social programs won’t be waiting for when you get there. And to get there means you have to hustle, because that corporate job isn’t secure – the days of 30 years and a gold watch are gone. Your company will outsource your job to a robot or a person in the Philippines the second they can.

And it’s not just about that corporate job, it’s about your job in general. I’d bet automation will replace 30% of all jobs today within 30 years, if not sooner. There is a good chance a computer will be doing what you spent all that time in school specializing in.

The truth is, we also have major structural problems in our economy. Personal debt is at all time highs, and savings are at all time lows, most people you know are living paycheck to paycheck. The middle class is dying and those jobs are moving to Asia. This is the reality in the west…

You don’t have the luxury of buying into other people’s dreams. That 50k job, or that movement, or that sports team is not going to get you where you need to go. You need to look out for #1 and focus on fulfilling your dreams.

You need to solve taxes by either moving or getting your income above 100k and taking advantage of writeoffs and loopholes. Rich people don’t pay taxes like the poor, because you can’t stay rich paying 40% a year.

You need to solve debt by getting rid of it and getting your income up.

You need to get a business going so you can get paid and not be bound to any skillset. An entrepreneur will never be replaced by a robot.

You need to get control over inflation by reinvesting into your business and compounding that interest.

I’m talking about surviving and thriving in this brave new world.

I’m talking about creating and acheiving your mission on this planet.

I’m talking about getting control of your revenue where you can’t be fired.

I’m talking about becoming an entrepreneur who can pivot in and out of trends.

I’m talking about building a big safety net and getting rich and comfortable.

I’m talking about getting the women you want in your life.

I’m talking about getting healthy food in you and getting the physique you want.

I’m talking about building up your network of people who actually care about you.

All that stuff is a full time job, you don’t have time to be LARPing around as a twitter “activist”, or playing fantasy football, or giving the best years of your life to make your boss richer.

The only game you play is your game with your mission where you make the rules. Otherwise you’re getting played. And playing at the highest levels takes total dedication. People that care about you will help you and support you taking care of your wealth, health, relationships and lifestyle, people that won’t are getting in your way.

The good news is, despite all the bad news, today is the best time to be alive. For the last 10,000 years, the vast majority of our ancestors we’re feudal-level-serf-farmers. Today you can work from anywhere, build anything and have unlimited mobility.

You have access to technology and healthcare our ancestors only dreamed about. You have the internet, the greatest equalizer known to man. Everything you need to win is only a few keystrokes away online.

F$#@ everyone else’s mission, focus on yours and make your dreams a reality.

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It definitely was for me at 20 when I was smoking 7 joints a day.

Check out the video and audio below to hear about my experiences with weed, what weed does to your productivity and why you should quit smoking weed forever.

*(I also give the exception to the rule for which guys can smoke occasionally, becuase there’s always an exception to the rule)

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If I could define a man in one word it’s character.

Before all the external trappings of success, being a man is about character.

Because character is what gets you the things you want in life.

And character can’t be taken from you, even in a jail cell.

Think of your reputation as the external manifestation of your character.

If character defines you to yourself, your reputation is what defines you to the world.

And you need to guard that reputation with your life.

In the same way you protect your health and your wealth…

Because your reputation not only precedes you wherever you go, but it’s the legacy you leave behind.

And without it, all the success in the world is nothing more than a Pyrrhic victory.

Whats the point of being successful when everyone views you as a scumbag?

You’re chasing success because of the self esteem you get from it in the eyes of others.

But you rob yourself of that payoff when you do things that make people see you as dirty.

Your reputation is about you being accountable, reliable and ethical.

In other words being a stand up guy.

Now this isn’t about me preaching to you, or pretending I’m a saint, because I’m not.

This is about me selling you on reputation because it’s in your best interests.

When you gamble with your reputation, you’ll eventually lose.

It’s one thing to lose money on an investment because you can’t get that back.

But you can’t buy your reputation back.

Instead you have to go out into the world with the mark of Cain on you.

When you sell unethical products and services, word gets around.

That’s what people see on the first page of google.

Not only that, but you lose the long term money.

You lose clients instead of keeping them.

You lose referrals.

You lose word of mouth advertising.

You lose the goodwill of your brand.

Dirty business is short term thinking that costs you long term money.

Not only that, but dirty business can cost you your freedom.

As much money as Bernie Madoff made he can’t buy his freedom or his reputation back.

Harvey Weinstein can’t buy his reputation or his career back.

It takes a lifetime to build a reputation and five minutes to lose it.

And you’ll forever be fighting against being seen as that guy.

Sure you can get away with gambling your reputation for a little while…

But you don’t win there either.

You have to live with fear of being exposed every day.

You have to live with the fear of angry clients and customers looking for their money back.

You have to live with fear of being called out online.

You have to live with fear of lawsuits.

You have to do mental gymnastics with your mind to be able to look in the mirror.

You have to be constantly looking for new marks to burn and turn.

You have to expend tremendous psychic energy to be able to hide and keep your secrets.

And you rob yourself of the joy of adding value to others.

When you’re a stand up guy you don’t have to worry about any of that.

You can sleep easy and enjoy helping your clients and customers.

You can go all out on your mission because you know you’re doing the right thing.

And when your friends are stand up guys, you can do business on a handshake.

Contrary to popular opinion, most guys who do well keep their word.

If they didn’t they wouldn’t be in business very long.

Do you think Warren Buffett would be worth billions if he was running Ponzi schemes and shanking his business associates at the first opportunity?

Not a chance.

With guys at that level it’s a small world, and they all know each other.

One dirty deal and no one wants to do business with you.

Even in Hollywood, as tough as that town is, a lot of top guys there do business on a handshake.

Because they know the other guy is solid because of his reputation.

Your reputation precedes you wherever you go and it’s why you leave behind.

That’s why you have to guard it with your life.

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But what does it actually mean?

Why is it so important?

How do you know how much potential?

What is the price to pay for not living up to your potential?

Get the answers to those questions in the video and audio below:

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You need to take total responsibility for your life because when you don’t, you assume the role of victim.

You’re a victim when your narrative is built around bad things that other people did to you and your lack of control over processing those events.

That’s not a good narrative to have because as long as you continue to identify as a victim, bad things will continue to happen to you. In fact, bad things happening to you is the very definition of victimhood.

I’m not negating those negative things that happened to you. I know that many of us have suffered serious traumas outside our control…

What I’m saying is that, if you don’t take responsibility for controlling your narrative over those events, you will only end up suffering more.

When you refuse to take responsibility, you accept that life is out of your control. And as long you believe your life is out of control, you’ll never be able to build the life you want.

When you take responsibility for your past, your reward is control of your present and future. And having that control is crucial when it comes to building your ideal life.

Now I’m not saying you have total control over all the things that happen to you, I’m saying that you have total control over how you react to them.

Taking responsibility is a leadership move…

If you’re the commanding officer in the military and your mission fails you take ownership of that. Your superior doesn’t want to hear excuses. When you try to place blame you admit the fact that you couldn’t control your men.

When the back office messes up a client order, you take responsibility. The client doesn’t care that Marni messed up the order. When you don’t dont’ take responsibility you tell your client you can’t control your support staff or his clients orders and he will continue to have problems doing business with you in the future.

Taking responsibility is a character move. Think of any man you admire and I guarantee you he will take responsibility for his life, he’s not going to be blaming others for why he didn’t get what he wanted.

To get the life you deserve you need to:

Take responsibility for reframing negative events that happened to you that we’re outside your control.

Taking responsibility for mistakes you made that we’re inside of your control.

Taking responsibility for the things you’re currently unsatisfied with in your life.

Taking responsibility for creating the best present and best future you can.

You can’t control everything, but you can control what’s in your control.

And through dedication you can expand what’s in your control.

And for the things outside of your control, you can control how you respond to them.

You can control your emotional reactions and the narrative you create about all the events in your life.

This is not only a stone, cold fact but an absolute necessity if you want to be a victor in the game of life as opposed to a victim.

Responsibility can be a bitter pill to swallow sometimes, but you need to take your medicine to get better. And the more responsibility you take for your life, the better you will be able to play the game of life, and that’s what it’s all about it.

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The map is not the territory, but it will get you where you want to go.

This is a phrase you might have heard if you’ve studied NLP.

The original metaphor comes from the Copenhagen Interpretation by the noted semanticist Korzybski.

Robert Anton Wilson describes the Copenhagen Interpretation of Niels Bohr as:

“called “model agnosticism” and holds that any grid we use to organize our experience of the world is a model of the world and should not be confused with the world itself. Alfred Korzybski, the semanticist, tried to popularize this outside physics with the slogan, “The map is not the territory.” Alan Watts, a talented exegete of Oriental philosophy, restated it more vividly as “The menu is not the meal.”

The map is not the territory but it’s good enough to get you where you want to go.

The menu is not the meal but it’s good enough for getting you what you want to eat.

The same logic applies to your belief system.

Your beliefs are ideas, concepts, not physical reality.

But when you create the right beliefs they can get you what you want in life: health, wealth, women and happiness.

The right beliefs become the map that will take you where you want to go.

Therefore a smart man makes his belief system his serve him.

You don’t have to be a slave to negative beliefs anymore.

Because beliefs are malleable.

You don’t have to be a slave to scientism anymore.

And why you should you be?

Even the best scientific minds have admitted they don’t know what the f#@$ they’re talking about any more.

Science does not have a monopoly on truth.

Scientific facts are nothing more than the best arguments, determined by the agreement of the high priests and their peer-reviewed journals.

Scientific truths are merely the opinions of a handful of men, nothing more nothing less.

And those arguments are constantly being destroyed by newer better arguments.

They tell us something different every century. From physics to relativity to quantum theory to string theory to simulation theory. And they’re not even sure anymore.

And that doesn’t come as a surprise to me, because trying to grasp reality is like trying to grab air. It’s always just out of your reach. It’s like Icarus flying too close to the Sun. And often times it ends in madness, you can ask Nietzsche about that.

With humility and awe is how I view the universe. I can’t help but bow down before our creator and what he’s created. And when I want metaphysics, I don’t turn to science, I turn to his emissaries.

Not only do they have better models, but they have an end game…

Moksha, liberation, enlightenment, heaven – whatever name you want to call it.

I like happy endings, and I believe there is one in this game we call life.

But don’t get me wrong, I’m incredibly grateful for applied science and the technology and models we’ve been given through that discipline. I’m not anti-science in the slightest, quite the opposite.

Gravity tells me not to jump off the balcony. Hospitals exist to nurse me back to health. And I’m speaking to you through the miracle of the internet and the smartphone.

All of those models and technology have added tremendous value to my life, and to yours as well…

I’m just not a slave to scientism. Because scientism can’t speak with certainty in the realm of metaphysics. Even their best and brightest priests admit they don’t have the answers.

And how could they when their best men don’t have experience of that ultimate reality.

And how can you measure ultimate reality?

And what is science without measurement?

How can you measure what exists prior to time and space?

How can a universe be created out of nothing?

Why are even the smallest particles still separated by space?

What puts breath in my lungs?

What caused me to incarnate into this body?

You can take all the nihilistic, scientific, random, secular humanism, stir it up in a pot and it doesn’t answer those questions.

All you get from those great minds is uncertainty, and I don’t like uncertainty.

I like answers, and like men with answers, men who speak from authority.

And that authority comes from direct experience.

That’s why I prefer to get metaphysical models from:

• Christ
• Buddha
• Kabir
• Ramana Maharshi
• Nisargadatta Maharaj
• And others

The victors in the game of life.

Because happiness, health and wealth are great things in this world. And I’ve devoted my life to help you achieve those goals.

But as happy a lifestyle as you can create…

You still have death in the back of your mind, hanging over your shoulder, breathing down the back of your neck, waiting…

And I don’t like that ending to my game.

I want to be able to beat that final boss.

Of course the body will die, but what about the spirit, what you were before you were born?

So I turn to the spiritual authorities for guidance.

And their maps aren’t the territory, but I believe they will get me to where I want to go.

I can’t get you there, because I’m not there, but I can point you to the victors in the game of life.

And I highly recommend you study what they say while you plan your escape.

But while you’re here, there is no reason to suffer anymore than you have to.

That’s where you can use my strategies for health, wealth and happiness.

They’re not the territory or the meal…

But they can get you where you want to go…

To living a better life.

And the best metamap I’ve found for creating the life you want is to play life like it’s a game. A game where he who has the most joy wins. And everything I’ve ever written or filmed is with the aimed of getting you there.

So take those strategies and make them yours. And add and subtract what you need to add or subtract because you’re free to do so.

You’re free to take my models and make them yours, because there are no rules. Mom and dad went out for the weekend and they’re not coming back…

But don’t squander that freedom because you’ll pay the price for it. Make your beliefs serve you, and use them to make you happier.

Use my maps to get you where you want to go. Use my strategies to suffer less, while your spirit is trapped in the flesh. That’s what I’m here for.

But don’t stop there. I can’t get you to the finish line, but I can point you to those who can. The victors of this world. The lions of mankind.

In summary…

The map is not the territory, but the right maps will make you happier. Use my maps and create as much joy for yourself as you can in this world. And add and subtract whatever you like to make those maps more useful to you.

But don’t sleep on the ultimate victory. Recognize that science doesn’t have all the answers, but maybe, just maybe, there are men who can speak with authority on metaphysics.

Men who can speak with authority because they not only experienced the territory, but made that territory their home, and can point you how to get there. The lions of mankind. The victors of the game of life.

Take their models, investigate them, use them, and aim for total victory. Be as happy as you can while you’re here, but don’t forget to keep your eyes on the ultimate prize.

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“A feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities”

Another definition, a better definition, and the one I use…

Is to confide in yourself.

To rely on yourself.

The truth is, you have to rely on yourself in this life.

You think someone else is going to care as much about you as you do?

Au contraire mon frere.

If you’re not in the driver’s seat of your life who is?

How can you can you let someone else behind the wheel of your life and expect them to drive the way you want them to?

How can you let someone else drive and expect them to go where you want to go?

The answer is you can’t .

The answer is you can’t let someone else drive, unless you want to be a passenger for the rest of your life, subject to someone else’s will.

No…

That’s not going to work. Not for me. And if you’re reading this, not for you.

When you rely on yourself, and you stand up on your own two feet, and you put all your problems on your back and stand up straight…

You become a different breed of beast.

You become your own best counsel.

You become the man you need to be.

You become a motherf#@$ing force to be reckoned with.

A man who confides in himself is a dangerous man indeed.

And I mean real confidence, not that snake oil “superhuman confidence” that some scammers are going to try to sell you.

Real confidence is feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Because that fear isn’t going anywhere. Fear is a daily fight. But with real confidence, you can control that fear, and make that fear your friend. Because fear is your friend when you can control it.

And confidence is about control.

To be the man you need to be means taking total control of your life.

Taking responsibility for your wins and your losses.

And acting with certainty because doubt is the destroyer of dreams.

You can be wrong but you can’t be in doubt.

Commitment, control, character – these are the traits of the man you need to be.

For me it was out of necessity.

I grew up without a father. Without much money. Without a gameplan.

My mom did the best she could, and I love her for it, but a woman can’t raise a man.

I realized young that I had to solve my own problems.

I had to learn about women, about work, about money, about pride, about masculinity and about life.

I learned I had to carve my own path…

And I made a lot of mistakes along the way.

But I got there eventually.

It took a lot of blood, sweat and tears to get to the other side but eventually I made it.

And that’s what I want to give you today.

I want to give you the confidence I didn’t have.

The confidence I got through trial, error and sheer force of will.

And I want you to have it without the struggle I had to go through to get to where I am now.

How To Be More Confident

1) Progressive resistance

Here’s the deal with confidence…

At first, you just have to feel the f#@$ing fear and just do it anyway.

That girl, that client call, that presentation – you just have to do it.

Confidence comes after the fact, after having done it hundreds if not thousands of times before.

Life doesn’t get easy until you get tough.

And to get tough you have to go through hell and keep going.

And after you’ve gone through it all, you get the gift of confidence.

But…

You don’t have to jump in the deep end right away.

You’re not going to be able to bench press 250 lbs. your first time in the gym.

You have to work your way up to that.

It’s the same across all aspects of your life.

If you’re too scared to make the first move, take some of that pressure off.

Baby step your way into it.

Just ask 1 girl that day for the time.

Just make 1 cold call and get someone on the phone.

Start from there and move up as you get more functional.

Don’t worry that confidence will come in time.

After doing the damn thing enough times, and pushing past enough progressive resistance, you’ll get beyond functional, you’ll get superfunctional. It’s not superhuman confidence, but it’s the closest thing.

And if you’re still struggling with motivation, it’s because you haven’t painted the right picture yet.

Create the result you want, calculate the amount of action you need to take, and link pleasure to taking that action.

If you want a girlfriend, figure out how many girls you need to talk to and link pleasure to that action. And when you crash and burn, recognize that you’re one girl closer to getting the one you want.

If you want money, do the money math, calculate how many potential client calls you need to make, and link pleasure to that action. And when you crash and burn, recognize that you’re one client closer to getting paid.

2) Be In The Best Available State At All Times

By state I mean thoughts, emotions, and sensations.

Specifically feeling as good and high energy as possible, with the blood flowing and all the positive neurotransmitters firing away.

The better your physical state the better your mental state and the more confident you’ll be.

Think of the last time you we’re in flow state, and everything was running smoothly.

I’ll bet you weren’t feeling fear when you we’re in that flow state, because it’s impossible to be in state and be afraid at the same time. In fact you could define state by the absence of fear.

Now that state isn’t going to be available at all times, but you want to at least aim for the best available state you can be in.

And the reality is, a lot of state is structural, we’re more human than we want to be:

• Good sleep
• Good food
• Good friends
• Good girls
• Exercising
• Extroversion
• Positive thinking
• Not ejaculating

All the above are crucial keys to keeping your state up.

The better your state is the better you feel and the more confident you’ll be.

3) Fake It Till You Make It

At one point in time, Mick Jagger was just a skinny, effeminate, upper middle class, English boy playing Black American blues music in drag and Rockstars didn’t exist. Until he convinced the world that Rockstars did exist and he was the biggest and baddest of them all.

At one point in time, every guy you’ve ever admired was an awkward 13 boy whose voice cracked and who was scared to talk to girls. And every single one of those guys became the guy they wanted to be by faking it at first.

A method actor doesn’t show up to set without preparing. He learns to become the character first and you need to do the same. Fake it till you make it, it will be awkward at first, but eventually it becomes second nature. And by that time, no one will remember who you used to be.

The secret to life is that it’s malleable, you can create so much for yourself when you put the work in.

4) Create And Identify With Confident Self Talk

You are what you tell yourself. Your image is your narrative, and its yours to create as you please.

I got this, I can do this, I’m on it and I won’t be stopped…

Start telling yourself those things every day and watch what happens.

Choose to identify with winner thoughts and let the loser thoughts fall to the ground in front of you.

Create a positive identity for yourself through identifying with positive thoughts.

Your insecurities are there you just don’t listen to them. Doubt, depression, despair – they’re all liars. Don’t hand the wheel over to those demons, it will only lead to the destruction of you and your vehicle.

There is no trick to it, you just do it, and you do it consistently, until you die. You have to wake up to win every day, to do battle against your demons, that’s the game of life.

The guy who appears confident has the same insecure thoughts you do, he just doesn’t listen to them. He creates positive thoughts, and positive self talk and identifies with those thoughts.

When you create positive self talk you become a good father to the boy inside you. And you need to be, because the boy is still there. He’s the one who gets scared and you need to say the right things to him.

When you do, you get the confidence you deserve. You get that strength that other people can feel. Not only can you confide in yourself, but your strength allows others to lean on you.

You become a light unto the world. When you stand up on your own two feet, and speak with certainty, people will gravitate towards you like moths to a flame.

Because the vast majority of people are looking for help, they’re looking for certainty. When you can sell certainty effectively, you will become a success.

5) Win

Half of your self esteem comes from competing, it’s an ugly truth but a truth nonetheless. There are real life, external metrics, metrics that all the “inner game” in the world won’t solve. To get that external success you need to get real wins.

If you’re struggling, just focus on getting those easy wins under your belt, like Cus D’Amato feeding tomato cans to a young Tyson. Because the more you’re winning, the more confident you feel. This applies to all areas of your life.

The fact is, not everyone can win, by the very definition of the word. But you want to be one of the guys that does. It’s not equal, it’s not fair, I don’t like it, and neither do you, but that’s life, and life sucks at the bottom, you need to be at the top.

The more wins you have in the past and present, the more confident you’ll be for the future.

6) Keep The Promises You Make To Yourself

To be confident, you have to trust yourself. When you break promises to yourself, you lose trust for yourself, just like you would lose trust in a father who was always promising to watch you play baseball but never made it to your games.

When you set a goal for that year, commit to it, treat it like there’s a gun to your head to get it done. If you’re wishy-washy or uncertain, then don’t say you’re going to do it. Take it off your task list.

Make and keep promises to yourself. The more you do that the more you’ll trust yourself and the more confident you’ll feel in your ability to get things done.

Conclusion

When you apply the above six steps, and you do it consistently, day in and day out, you’ll shock yourself with what you can achieve.

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, and that you’re not going to struggle, but nothing worthwhile is easy.

Stay up, stay on your game, keep fighting, keep pushing, keep shoving and get after whats yours!

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I’ve made some mistakes on the list in the past, and some in the present.

There are a lot little things you need to account for that most guys don’t realize.

When you don’t you end up in a place where you’re not happy.

I’m all for building a budget, living within your means and reinvesting in your business…

But when you do spend money, spend it wisely…

That means on things you’re going to use a lot.

And where you live is one of those things.

In a lot of ways you become your environment and the people you surround yourself with.

So you want that environment to be as positive as possible.

You want to save money on the things that don’t get you the right ROI.

If you’re going to cut, cut the fancy dinners, bar bills and car payments.

You might not be able to afford all of the things on this list, but at least 3 or 4 of them will be applicable to you now.

And if you’re getting your money online and planning to geoarbitrage that income to a cheaper country, your ideal place will be a lot easier to find.

If you’re moving up in the game of life you can start looking now, but if you’re still getting your weight up, you can look at your ideal place as something to motivate you to keep grinding.

Here’s what you need to know to rent the right condo for you:

How To Rent The Right Condo Or Apartment

1) Choose Renting Condos Over Apartments

• Buildings are nicer because more profitable (selling nice units to entice mony)
• Can negotiate discounts – especially by paying in advance to an individual owner
• Less hassle – at least in the west/credit check/co signing all that BS that apartment managers make you go through (does not apply to SEA)

2) Get A Furnished Place If Possible

• So much easier to get it and easier to get out (all places in Asia are furnished)
• Allows you to be a minimalist and be mobile and go to where the opportunities are

3) Get A Place Within Walking Distance Of Your Office (N/A if work from home)

• Cuts travel time and hassle
• Allows you to get rid of the car payments and save a ton of money

4) Live On A High Floor (The Higher The Better)

• Biggest factor is you cut down or eliminate street noise / guy trimming the hedges outside
• Another factor is the view a high floor gives you that Scarface-The-World-Is-Mine View
• My next place will definitely be at least 20 floors up

5) Avoid Facing Highways Or Busy Streets

• You want as much quiet as possible so living away from street noise is key
• I thought I had that down by living off a side street but I was wrong/didn’t do good enough homework
• Also in the middle of my lease they changed the flight plan (hence the planes you hear flying overhead during every other one of my videos)
• That’s why it’s good to be mobile and minimalist (see #2)

6) Rent A Nice Place To Avoid Thin Walls And Young, Noisy Neighbors

• Pricing will get rid of living around people you don’t like
• Degenerates who blast music through thin walls don’t live in nice places
• Make sure to take a look around at the people who live in the building before you sign

7) Avoid Being Close To Nightclubs

• You don’t want to wake up to pounding base at 2 AM three nights a week
• Even if you’re not super close to the club, sound tends to travel
• Make sure you do a walk around on a Friday or Saturday night to make sure you’re far enough away
• Especially important if you’re living downtown

8) Avoid Living Around Construction Or Potential Construction Like The Plague

• If a building is being built next door, avoid that condo like the plague, your life will be noise and jackhammering
• You also might lose that nice view from your high floor
• Also avoid areas where it looks like condos will be developed (you’re in a brand new building and there are a bunch of empty lots next door)
• Ideally you want to live around places that are built, ie. a new condo development and yours was the last empty lot
• *you can avoid this risk entirely by following step 13

9) Avoid A Place Facing Into The Courtyard

• If your condo has multiple building facing each other, avoid that courtyard
• You will have no privacy as people can see into your place and you can see into theirs
• You’ll also get that daily noise of the guy trimming the hedges in the courtyard

10) Live In A Big Building To Preserve Your Anonymity

• Small buildings with lots of security and staff are annoying
• It’s always the same people and they can always see your comings and goings
• You can start to feel boxed in
• A big, new building is much better because you have a rotating staff of people
• And with so many people living there and so much more space, you feel much mor anonymous and free

11) Live In A Place With Central Air

• This applies mostly to Asia where you need AC all year round, but in many places it’s a loud, ugly unit stuck on to the wall
• The transistors will break over time, you’ll need to clean it more often, and it’s loud as f#$C
• You want nice, clean, quiet central air that the building will fix instead of having to call a tech guy

12) Live On A Floor With Keycard Only Access

• Keycard access to the building is great, but only being able to access the floor you live on is better
• Makes you feel much more secure
• Also a lot less noise as people are coming and going less

13) Get A View Facing Water (This Is The Ultimate)

• By far the nicest view is facing the bay or lake even if it’s man made
• Took a vacation to Pattaya a few months ago and stayed in a high rise facing the lake, makes a big positive difference psychologically
• The big selling feature is no chance of development and construction and it’s super quiet
• High rise, high floor, facing the water with a beautiful view is tops

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He said he had quit 2 businesses and is on his 3rd business, is feeling uncertain, and is worried about going broke.

I thought this was an important topic so I put together a video and audio for you as well as a bunch of relevant, related resources.

Hope you find it useful.

How To Handle Uncertainty As An Entrepreneur

Related Resources

• 31 Six Figure Service Businesses
• How To Start A Service Based Business: A Step-By-Step, No-Bullsh*t, Ultra-Practical Guide
• How To Use Tunnel Vision To Succeed
• Why You Need A CLOSED Mind To Succeed
• How To Succeed By Mastering Momentum
• What I’ve Learned From A Decade Of Entrepreneurship: Expectations, Mistakes, Getting Started, Getting Investment, Obstacles

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Elvis had it all, the looks, the charm, the talent, the women, the career – everything a man could want.

He should have been happy…

Yet he eventually turned to drugs and food just to get through the day.

In the end his weight ballooned, his drug use worsened, and he died young.

A tragic end to a sensitive, good-hearted man, with all the talent in the world.

A sad story, but one you see all too often with celebrities.

He got everything he wanted and it wasn’t enough.

I can only imagine the day it dawned on him that  with everything he had, he wasn’t happy and how frightening it must have been.

Sure things we’re fun at first, but imagine, when that initial thrill wears off, and you have everything that any man could want, and it’s still not enough, where do you go from there…

What do you do when you get everything you want and it’s not enough to make you happy?

The answer is…

DO MORE

Because life is action and man is built for missions.

No matter how high the plateau, and how much you achieve, you will always need new missions and new games.

You will settle into whatever you acheived and get bored with your new reality.

Eventually you get bored of every game, and boredom is the first step towards depression.

Think of every video game, every board game and every sports game you’ve ever played…

Eventually you got bored.

When I finally got free and got to Thailand I was higher than I’d been in years.

I thought happiness would be a given, once I never had to do another 100 cold call day again.

Because I was happy whenever work was over.

But what I didn’t realize was, I’d lost the payoff of pain removal.

I’d lost the payoff of having to do something I hated and being happy just to be done with it for the day.

Just the end of a sales day was enough to make me happy, and a long weekend was a dream come true.

For the bulk of my life it was getting through the school day and then getting through the work day so I could do what I actually wanted to do.

And just not having to go to school or go to work made me happy.

If only I could work from home, I thought and live somewhere beautiful, and do what I want, then I would be happy for good…

But then I got there and it wasn’t enough…

It was at first, believe me, I was flying high as a kite when I first got free.

But that didn’t last.

And it took me months to admit it.

I would think:

“I have what I want, I’m so lucky in comparison to so many people, how is this not enough, what’s wrong with me?”

It took me months to admit that I was dealing with a fundamental problem that wasn’t going away.

But once I realized it, the answer became crystal clear.

I had to relearn how to live as a free man and that was a scary revelation.

But here’s the kicker…

I realized that total, unadulterated freedom is overrated…

Freedom, like everything else, is best in moderation.

Except instead of having someone else in control of your freedom.

Yyou need to have the self control to create discipline in the absence of authority.

I realized I needed structure to enjoy the freedom I’d earned.

I needed to stay on schedule every day, even though I didn’t have to be.

I needed to create new levels.

I needed to expand the scope of my mission and what I’m capable of.

I needed to create new games.

And I needed to keep doing those things until they put me in the ground.

So I sat down and created a bigger vision.

I built more levels.

I created new games.

And when I did all that, I got my sense of purpose back.

I got my stability and my foundation back.

I got my reason to wake up and go hard back.

And I got my well earned relaxation at the end of the day back.

Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case.

Total freedom takes down a lot of our best people.

The talented ones who are so successful that they get live outside of the confines of society.

People who don’t have to work…

Often times it hits musicians and artists the hardest.

Because discipline, structure and order is what they’re rebelling against.

Because it’s not cool to get up early and go hard, it’s not part of their identity.

Businessmen tend do handle their freedom better.

Because structure and the pride of achievement is built into their identity.

That’s why you see billionaires still out there grinding as hard or harder then the young go-getters even into their 70s.

And it’s not for the money, they have more than they could spend in 10 lifetimes.

It’s for the thrill of the game.

It’s because they get high on the game and on what they can achieve.

You have to play the game until the casket drops if you want to be consistently fulfilled.

And you have to learn how to get high on the game and on your achievements.

I’m not saying you can’t enjoy freedom and can’t be comfortable.

But that comfort has to come after a hard day’s work.

Because comfort is the enemy of progress.

And progress is what makes you happy.

Hitting new levels is what gives you that dopamine rush, what Stalin called “dizziness with success”.

It’s in your DNA as a man, you can’t fight it.

When you try and fight it, you suffer and feel unfulfilled, bored and ultimately depressed.

Comfort is the enemy of progress, and progress is happiness.

Progress at the right game, where you know you’re living up to your potential.

That’s why it’s so crucial you create the right games for yourself.

And that you don’t stop and you don’t quit and you keep creating and keep expanding.

There is no way out of hard work and progress, because progress is happiness.

Don’t get me wrong, enjoy your wins, and enjoy your success and by all means celebrate…

But recognize that the high won’t last forever.

So always be ready with the next level of the game that you’re aiming for.

Just like in a video game, once you pass one mission, you enjoy, you celebrate, you relax a little bit, but then you move on to the next mission.

But don’t stop just stop because you reached the summit.

Instead find new mountains to climb.

Because the wheel of life doesn’t stop spinning until you’re dead…

And not just when it comes to the mission game.

The more games you have to play, the more fun you get to have…

The fitness game, the style game, the love game, the friendship game, the travel game.

Happiness is having games and making those games work for you as you make progress.

It’s that simple.

You can relax, you can take a vacation, you can celebrate, but you can’t stop playing and you can’t stop creating and achieving.

And why would you…

There is so much out there for you to do, so many barriers to break through and things to achieve.

So keep creating games, keep leveling up, keep stretching, keep staying disciplined and keep progressing towards your dreams.

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Progress is crucial for achieving your health, wealth, relationships, and lifestyle goals.

But more importantly, progress itself makes you happy.

When you channel your obsession and addictions into success…

You learn to get high off of getting sh$# done.

In fact, you learn to live for getting things done.

You learn to get addicted to your daily wins.

Progress is what allows you to enjoy the journey to success.

Here are the 4 crucial keys to progress:

How To Make Progress

1) Get Sh@% Done Every day

Getting things done every day is the foundation of success. I use the Wunderlist app to run my life and live to check things off in my task list. To see my entire organizational system, check out my book How To Get Organized.

Getting things done every day is the most important metric, especially when a project is overwhelming. By cutting that project up into tiny daily tasks, you’re able to shock yourself with what you can accomplish in one month, one year and one decade.

Among the things I’ve learned since starting RLD in 2012 are:

• Webmaster skills
• Graphic design
• SEO
• Copywriting
• Online marketing
• Content writing
• Social media marketing
• Infoproduct sales
• Conversion rates
• Writing and marketing ebooks
• Surviving and thriving as an expat in a foreign culture and country

And a ton of other things I had no idea how to do before I got into this business. I was not a tech guy prior to starting businesses online, I didn’t even bother to get a cellphone until I was 27.

At one point all the above seemed incredibly daunting. But by doing the work every day, bit by bit, I got to where I wanted to be.

2) Practice What You Want To Make Progress On

By that I mean, the actual specific thing you want to make progress on, not the auxiliary stuff.

If you want to get your bench press up, focus on progressive resistance on the bench press. Not side delts, not deadlifts, not overhead rows. All those things are useful, but actually bench pressing is the best way to increase your bench.

If you want to get better with girls, start talking to girls, not going to improv classes. Improv classes might help your results with women, but the best way to get more women is to talk to women, to focus on the actual skill you want to improve on.

When I was a trader in my early 20’s, I would close down the library after work reading about traders, market wizards and biographies of titans of industries.

This was useful to a degree, but the best trader in our office was a 20 year old high school dropout who played the markets like a video game. A guy who had never read a business or trading book in his life. It wasn’t until a sat next to him, and started to shadow him, that I started to make real money.

3) 90% action/10% learning

Learning about business is not doing business. Learning about fitness is not working out. Not to say those things aren’t useful, they are. I spend 2 to 3 hours a day learning and consuming empowering content…

But not while I’m working. I get my information before work, during lunch, on break and after work. But during work, I’m getting sh$% done.

Even when if I’m doing a project on a complex subject like SEO, I still do research on my off time. For me, even research is not action. Action is knocking off tasks on your to do list.

You need to be 90% action, 10% learning. And the stuff that you learn, you need to focus on applying it, not just enjoying it in theory.

If you watch my content every day, I love and appreciate you for it, but I also want you to take action on it and apply it.

I’ll tell you how you know you’re doing work as opposed to learning…

That boring, frustrating task that you’ve been putting off forever, that’s work. Chances are the tasks you least want to do, are the ones that are going to be most useful to your business. Because your competitors don’t want to do them either.

4) Never Get Too Comfortable

Comfort is the enemy of progress, and since progress is happiness, comfort is the enemy of happiness. I want you to be comfortable, but not too comfortable. Getting too comfortable leads to complacency which leads to boredom which leads to depression.

Man was built to have a mission and get things done. When you’re too comfortable and not challenged, you contract and wither and get depressed. Without a mission, the walls of your condo will close in on you.

I’m not saying don’t have nice things and don’t have a comfortable place to come home too. I’m just saying, don’t get too comfortable.

The right way to get comfortable is after a long hard day at work. That means relaxing after a long day of productive suffering or eustress, which is a term for positive stress (as opposed to distress).

Ideally your work and home should be separate, working from home might be a dream of yours, but the reality is something different.

Instead you want to work a long, hard day at your place of work, and then come home to your place of comfort and relax, having earned your leisure time.

When you do this, your body will be buzzing with blood and energy, and sinking into the couch will feel great. When you sit at home on the couch all day, you won’t even be able to get comfortable in your own skin.

Comfort like all things in life, is best in moderation.

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See the game for what it is.

Not just game with women…

Women are a small piece of the puzzle.

I mean the game of life.

By recognizing game I mean recognizing reality.

The way things really are.

And not arguing with it.

Arguing with reality is mental weakness.

Protesting is for proles.

The rabbit doesn’t protest the lion, it runs.

The rabbit runs because it knows the lion doesn’t care about it’s protests.

In the same way the political class doesn’t care about the protests of the proles.

Its not fair but that’s the way it is.

It doesn’t matter whether its communism, capitalism or any other ism they want to sell you.

Outcomes in the game of life are always in-equal, because people are in-equal.

Even with capital off the table, power and status are still a competition and still not equal.

A quick look into the Russian Communist “utopia” will make that obvious.

If you think Stalin was equal to his comrades you need to read a history book.

In fact, you I suggest you read a lot of history books.

Reading history will put a bullet in your idealism, and that’s a good thing.

Because you need another ism like you need a hole in the head.

Instead you need to be able to see things clearly.

And history gives you sight beyond sight.

Because history repeats with mathematical precision…

History gives you the power to predict the future.

And my prediction for the future is that history will repeat itself.

People will form up into large tribes called Countries.

They will either elect or submit to strongmen through force.

Said rulers will wage wars against other countries for territory, resources and bragging rights.

People will continue to compete for food, clothing, shelter, women,money, power, status.

There has never been a time in history where this wasn’t the reality.

We can produce all the technological innovation in the world but human nature doesn’t change.

You can’t change the game because the game is bigger then you will ever be.

It was being played a long time before you got here.

And it will be played for a long time after you leave.

A true player recognizes and respects the game for what it is.

A true player doesn’t waste his precious time attempting to protest human nature.

A true player, plays the game to the best of his abilities until the casket drops.

When you get your mind right, the picture becomes crystal clear and you can read code.

You get instant insight into the motivations of the boss players.

You can see what it really takes to get and keep power.

To get power takes cunning, amorality, intelligence, luck, money, force, connections or all of the above.

To keep power means living on guard 24/7 in fear, stress and uncertainty.

But you also get to choose your path…

And instead of playing for power you can play for happiness and freedom.

For health, wealth, women and living life in the sunshine.

You can stop believing in other peoples dreams and start believing in yours.

You can leave all the isms and movements behind.

You can live your life on your terms and stay true to your path in the game.

When you stay true to the game, the game will be true to you.

But the key is, you have to play, there is no such thing as sitting on the sidelines in the game of life.

You need to get up and compete for money, food, resources, women and shelter.

This is the game…

You can do it ethically, and fairly, and add value, but you still have to compete…

You either play or get played, the game is not a spectator sport.

The good news is, you can create the life you want, when you’re willing to play for it.

And lucky for you, today is the best time to play the game of life in human history.

So get after it and go get what you deserve.

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The only thing I hate more than being poor is being sick.

I grew up with a single mother on a nurse’s salary living in a ground floor apartment.

My mom did the best she could and made a million sacrifices for my well being.

I was always fed and provided for…

But I hated not being able to do and have the things I wanted.

In my 20’s I made a lot of money trading.

But that money didn’t last.

And I didn’t take that money and invest it into a business even though I knew I should have.

I didn’t hate the idea of being poor enough to push past the pain.

When I finally did start businesses, I didn’t know what I was doing.

I made bad decision, chose bad partners, and went into debt.

I made mistakes and spent too much money because I didn’t do the right research and didn’t start the right businesses.

I made these mistakes because I didn’t hate poverty enough.

The result was tasting poverty again in my 20’s again and having to work odd jobs to survive.

I did this until I sold my way into a career in sales that I hated.

It was only until I got to a point where I hated poverty so much…

And I hated having to work I job I didn’t like so much…

That I was willing to do or die to get financially free.

Why You Need To Hate Being Poor With A Passion

Check out the video and audio below on why you need to hate being poor, and how to transmute that frustration into financial freedom. Also check out the related resources below on how to get your money up.

Related Resources

• How To Sell: Learn How To Become A Beast In Sales And Start Getting Paid Today!
• Why Big Business Can Lose Money And Your Business Can’t
• How To Spend Money Wisely
• How To Do Money Math
• How To Make More Money And Be More Productive By Finding Your One Thing
• 31 Six Figure Service Businesses
• How To Start A Service Based Business: A Step-By-Step, No-Bullsh*t, Ultra-Practical Guide
• How To Make Money Online Part 1: Selling A Service
• How To Make Money Online Part 2: Selling A Product (Blogging, Dropshipping, Amazon FBA)
• How To Make Money Online Part 3: Traffic, Price, Conversion Rates, Promotion, Affiliate Marketing
• How To Make Money Online Part 4: Passion Vs Profit
• How To Plan Your Financial Future: Income, Savings, Credit, Cash, Currencies, Passports, Housing, Taxes, Business, Investments

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From the environment, to predatory animals, to other hostile tribes of humans, your life and the life of your tribe was dependent on your ability to defend yourself.

Since then we’ve become the dominant predator species and risen so high on the food chain so that we’ve effectively removed our species from it. And we’ve outsourced the bulk of our defense to the military and police force.

The convenience of modern life makes it easy to get comfortable…

Until you drop your guard and run into a dumb thug who doesn’t care about jail and who’s willing to stick you up for a few hundred dollars.

To be able to protect yourself and your people it’s important to have an understanding of the basics of self-defense.

Just because you’ve never been in attacked doesn’t mean that threat isn’t present. I’m not a tough guy but I’d like to think I could defend myself and my people if push came to shove and that’s important. But more importantly is avoiding dangerous situations by using your brain.

How To Defend Yourself

1) Avoid Dangerous Situations

The first rule of self-defense is avoiding physical confrontation, every legitimate self-defense expert will agree.

Being in a fight, as a grown man is a worst case scenario, it doesn’t matter how good you are at MMA, nothing good can come from getting in a street fight.

In a fight you can get beaten, brain-damaged, stabbed or shot. Even if you’re winning the fight, and your fighting skills are on point, those scenarios are a reality. Because the guy decides to pull a weapon or has two friends with him that you didn’t see until it’s too late.

And even if you win, you can still get charged with assault when the cops show up and see you making it reign on some drunk degenerate. That could mean a fine, a mark on your record where you won’t be able to get hired at a major company, or even jail time for assault.

Here’s an example of a guy who starts the fight as an aggressor (a mistake), wins the fight, and ends up with an assault charge. When you start a fight, and provoke your opponent, even with good reason (like he disrepected your girl), you can easily end up with an assault charge.

To avoid dangerous situations you nee to follow six steps:

Step 1: Be alert and trust your instincts

The first step in assessing threats is awareness. You can walk around comfortable and relaxed, but you should train your radar to go off when something isn’t right, and you should listen to that voice. Fear, in moderation, is your friend.

Step 2: Get rid of your friends who like to fight or cause problems

Guys like that will only bring you down in life. You are the 5 people you surround yourself with. That’s why you should build a tribe of like-minded winners.

Step 3: Don’t go to places where degenerates hang out

This means dive bars, and dangerous clubs especially the after hours drug dens – nobody goes there except druggies, drug dealers and thugs. An easy way to do this is to only go to nice places, nice lounges, and nice restaurants. If you can’t afford to go somewhere nice, then stay in, or go out less. If you’re broke you shouldn’t be going out much anyway.

Step 4: Live in a safe neighborhood in a safe city

If you can’t afford to live somewhere nice, at least get a small apartment in somewhere that’s at least safe. Focus on getting your money up so you can live and go where you want. If you’re in a dangerous neighborhood, you have to do whatever you can to get out of there.

Step 5: Be respectful

Not only is it a better way to live, and better for your karma, but being respectful will keep you out of trouble. Don’t taunt guys or act aggressive, and be careful when you’re hitting on girls in a club situation. I see pickup guys advocating aggressive tactics on women, or approaching girls who are already with a group of guys, this is just asking for trouble. There are plenty of girls out there, and odds are, the girl who is going to go home with you is there with a girlfriend or two looking to get picked up, not with a group of guys.

Step 6: Avoid thugs when you see them

If you see thugs on the street, cross the street. If you see thugs around the ATM at night, stay far away. But again, when you focus on step 2, you will rarely see thugs. If you find yourself crossing paths with thugs, even once, consider how that happened and how to avoid it in the future.

Even if you went to a nice lounge downtown in a major city, when you walk home through downtown at night, or take the subway home at night, or go to the Mcdonald’s late at night, you still run the risk of having problems, especially if you’re well dressed with a nice looking lady on your arm.

If you live in a major city, and are planning to go out somewhere nice, make sure to budget for the Uber so that you can get yourself and your lady home without any problems.

Step 7: If you’re a wealthy businessman, especially in a country that’s not wealthy, consider getting security and a driver

Not only does this protect you, it makes a potential thief or kidnapper think twice.

When you follow the above rules, you should avoid the vast majority of dangerous situations, I haven’t been in a fight in more than a decade.

With that said, being able to defend yourself just in a worst case scenario is important

2) Learn How To Defend Yourself

Avoidance is great but you should also know how to defend yourself just in case. There are three major keys to defending yourself

1) Get built

Forget functional strength, the more muscular you are the better you can defend yourself, that’s why there are weight classes in MMA. Also the bigger you are  the less likely someone will try to test you. I’m not a big guy at 5’10, 180 lbs., but I was 120 lbs. in high school and that’s a big difference.

Even if you’re not super jacked, you don’t want to look like the little guy who is an easy target.

2) Know How To Defend Yourself

If you want to train in stuff that works, MMA is the best. Boxing, Muay Thai, Wrestling and BJJ are also all very good. With that said, I would avoid anything more than training and light sparring. Getting into a gym war with a well-trained fighter can leave you worse off than the real life scenario you’re training for. Recent studies show that even one concussion is very bad news for the health of your brain. Not to mention, you only have one body, and you need it for the rest of your life.

If you’re just a regular guy like me you should at least know how to do three things

1. Keep your hands up – hands down ends with you getting on the wrong end of a world star highlight reel
2. Learn how to throw tight crisp hooks with both hands – You can practice shadow boxing or on a bag, YouTube has tons of tutorials on this stuff. Also check out Iron Mike when he gets inside.
3. Basic head movement and footwork – Again, you should have the basics of boxing footwork and head movement down. YouTube is your friend and a little bit of shadow boxing now and then helps. You can also look to Tyson in his prime who had incredible defense, especially in terms of his head movement.

3) If it’s legal in your country and state, consider getting a firearm for your house as well as getting proper training on how to use it

If your house is being robbed, you’ll be thankful you have a gun to protect your family.

In some countries and states you even have the legal option to carry a weapon or even carry concealed. A gun is by far your best line of defense, but with that said, pulling a pistol and shooting someone in a club or bar brawl could put you in jail for manslaughter. It’s one thing to legally carry a gun, but it’s another to use it in self-defense. If you do choose to legally carry a weapon, it’s very important to understand and follow the laws of your country and state to the letter.

3) Know What To Do in A Fight Scenario

So we’ve covered the basics of awareness and self-defense. Let’s say imagine a potentially dangerous scenario in a club and how you should react…

1) Conflict Resolution

If you stepped on someones shoes or knocked their drink, the polite thing to do is apologize. Again if you’re in a nice establishment, there’s a very low chance an investment banker is going to pull a weapon on you for scuffing his loafers.

Normally, conflict resolution should resolve most problems before they escalate.

2) Leaving

But lets say conflict resolution doesn’t resolve your problem and there is a guy in front of you getting angry and ready to fight. Your best bet is to swallow your pride and leave. Forget about your pride for a second. There is no need to risk your bright future fighting against some dummy with no future who doesn’t care about his life. You have way to much winning to do in life and you have a mission to fulfill. 

Let that guy have the last word, because chances are he’ll end up in jail. Or at the least, will never accomplish anything in his life. You have way too much to lose on the path to success.

3) The Fight

If you’re boxed in, or you’re making a bad decision, which again I don’t advise, decide that you’re going to fight, and do before the other guy does. If you’re choosing fight over flight, make a firm decision to attack quickly and viciously and then GTFO.

If you’ve tried conflict resolution and it’s not working ad you’re boxed in and can’t get out, decide that you’re going to act in self-defense. But whatever you do don’t freeze up.

Keep your hands up and act like you don’t want to fight as you try to calm him down. If you’re lucky this will resolve the situation. But if he gets aggressive and presses forward, drop him like a sack of potatoes over Northern Ireland, before he even knows he’s in a fight. Flip the switch to savage and surprise him the ferocity of the tight hooks you’ve been training.

With that said, you want to make sure it’s in self-defense. You’re not moving forward. You’re trying to cool the situation own. You’re telling him you don’t want to fight. But when he makes a move into your personal space, you attack like a caged animal. That way, even though you’re striking first, if the police show up, all the witnesses will testify that you we’re acting in self-defense.

To properly defend yourself, you need to throw the first punch, or what some guys will call a suckerpunch. As far as I’m concerned, the sucker is the guy who didn’t see you coming and thought you’d be an easy target.  There is nothing unethical about striking first, considering the only reason you’re in the fight is because someone is being aggressive to you and threatening your safety.

You should never, ever be getting hit with the first punch, if you are you’ve already made at least 3 major mistakes,

1. You went to the wrong club or bar
2. You didn’t leave before the fight escalate
3. You let your opponent take the advantage by not striking first

Not only that, striking first, striking hard and striking viciously will give you a major advantage in any fight. Don’t make the mistake of putting on a world star hip hop display of posturing up for 20 minutes and talking sh$%,

When you posture up, puff out your chest and talk sh$# you:

1. Signal to everyone with a camera to start filming
2. Potentially alert the guys friends (who you haven’t seen) that there is a fight
3. Lose the element of surprise
4. Allow him to hit you first while you’re puffing your chest out
5. Allows your opponent to mentally psyche himself up

When you see two guys posturing up it’s because neither of them wants to fight. Each guy wants to intimidate the other so that he backs down without having to fight. But neither one wants to back down because of pride.This is a terrible mistake to make. You response to a threat is fight, flight or freeze, posturing up and talking smack is freezing.

Here is an example of why you should never posture up in a fight, especially with your hands down, even against someone smaller than you:

As we covered before, leaving is the best option. But if for whatever reason, you decided to commit to the fight as self-defense, you have to strike first, especially if he’s bigger than you. And you don’t stop until he’s knocked out.

None of this hair pulling, eye gouging, or groin strikes, that can easily make a tough guy just more pissed off. You want him unconscious. That means using those tight hooks you’ve trained with to connect to his jaw line. A solid hook or two to the button is knocking an untrained guy out. Even if he’s 230 lbs. of muscle, his jaw line isn’t.

Here is how a small guy can knock out a big guy with a tight clean hook to the jaw:

A knockout is a concussion, which is caused by the brain rattling up against the skull. The reason a hook to the jaw is so effective, is because it whips the head with such speed that it slams the brain into the skull, knocking your opponent out. And an unconscious opponent is a neutralized opponent.

Head and foot movement is good, but a real street fight is going to be ugly and awkward. You want to strike fast and furious for 30 seconds with tight, clean hooks aimed at his jaw.

You have to be careful about where you punch. Punching the forehead or side of the skull can easily break your hand, this is why boxers where gloves. You want to hit him on the button and knock him out as quick as you can.

Also I would avoid going to the ground if you can. As effective as BJJ is in MMA, I wouldn’t recommend it in a street fight. Because you don’t know how many guys you’re fighting, and while you have him down on the ground in an arm bar, his friends can rush over and stomp you out.

You also don’t want the cops showing up after you’ve broken a guys arm, it will make for a much harder claim of self defense.Ideally you want to keep things standing up so you can move or run if necessary.

I don’ recommend using a gun in a bar fight, even though you’re carrying it legally. The same goes for some other weapon like a champagne or beer bottle. That can easily get you charged with assault with a deadly weapon even if you we’re just trying to defend yourself.

What To Do If You Win The Fight

Ideally you knock him out quickly and viciously. And when you do, the smart move is to leave as quickly as possible, no good can come from sticking around. And you definitely don’t want to stand there bragging and posturing as the cops show up or as his friends rush out of the club and find him on the ground.

You also don’t want to start stomping the guy in the head, that’s a potential aggravated assault or even manslaughter, and you do not want police showing up while you’re doing that. Once he’s down you want to get you and your people out of there ASAP.

What To Do If You’re Losing The Fight

If you’re in a fight and you’re losing, or his friends jump in and make it a 3-on-1, the smart thing to do is cut your losses and get out of there. Get just enough room to move and get out of there ASAP.

Take it as a loss and live to fight another day, or better yet, never have to fight again because you’re living smart and working full-time on fulfilling your destiny. The last thing you want is to get knocked out on the street with three angry guys on top of you.

4) Know What To Do In A Robbery scenario

As opposed to a fight in a club, where someone might have a weapon, chances are if you’re getting robbed, the attacker is pulling a weapon on you. If you’re getting robbed at knife point or with a gun to your head, you’re in a very, very bad position. And you’ve made some major, major mistakes leading up to that point.

If that weapon is a knife and he pulls it at mid range, you have a better chance of running, but if it’s a gun, running will probably get you shot in the back. Some self-defense experts have “effective looking” training for gun and knife disarms, but I would rather give the guy what he wants rather than trying to wrestle a knife out of his hands at close range. Wallet, watch, whatever he wants, and do it quickly without protest and pray for the best.

The only time you should go for a gun disarm is as an absolute last, last resort. After you’ve given him what he wants and you see a look in his eyes like he’s going to blast you. At that point do what you have to do to survive and pray you make it through. But this is an absolute last resort. Ideally you should structure your life well enough and be aware enough that you don’t end up in this position.

Conclusion

If you find yourself having survived a fight without being hurt or getting an assault charge, or God forbid, an armed robbery, you need to seriously re-evaluate the decisions you make. After the dust settles, you need to figure out how you let yourself get into that situation in the first place and how to make sure it never happens again.

Because you have way to much winning to do in this world, and you can’t afford pissing away your potential by being in the wrong place at the wrong time. You need to play the game of life to win, and that means protecting yourself at all costs.

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I like to look at life as a game.

As a model or map, for creating consistent happiness, it’s the best I’ve found.

Not to say that the map is the territory.

And not to say that tragedies don’t happen on a daily basis.

But as a way to wake up being excited to be alive…

Viewing life as a game is the best way to build your ideal reality.

Where you’re living to level up across all areas.

To get the life you want takes tactics and strategies.

Today you hear a lot about mindfulness, being present and self-reflection.

All good things, but I think we hear a bit too much about staying present and being passive.

To me that’s half the battle, that’s defense.

Analyzing whats making you unhappy, being present with it and looking at it to take the charge out of the negative emotions are useful defensive tactics when something is bothering you.

Re-framing negative emotions is a terrific tactic, but again, by the time you’re wrestling with negative emotions and psychic pain.. you’re playing defense.

I want your offense to be so good, that you’re on the defensive as little as possible.

That means making the structural changes to create the lifestyle you want.

Lets say you get stuck up and stabbed by some dumb thug. You are now seriously on the defensive in the worst way possible. You’re fighting for your life. You could stay with the moment, and be present, and feel the sensations of the knife in your body…

But that’s probably not the best idea. The best idea is to take action by taking the knife out and going on the offensive as fast and ferociously as possible until you either open enough room to run away or neutralize your attacker.

Ideally you want to run from an attack before it happens, or strike first and strike hard. Because the time you’re playing defense, you’re in big trouble.

The reality is, in life, just as in sports, the best defense is a good offense.

When I was a kid I only played offense because I wanted to be upfront and scoring. And would only run back to defense if our team was in trouble.

I have the same mentality today…

• Staying busy
• Staying winning
• Staying engaged
• Staying taking down goals
• Staying connected to my inner circle.

I stay in it to win it.

And if I have a problem, I keep kicking in the door until the handles come off.

I don’t sit their making sense of my failures by meditating on them.

I’d rather impose my will on the world until I get what I want.

I think it’s crucial that you do that same

That you create a lifestyle and a mentality where you run on positive state.

That means positive:

1. Thoughts
2. Emotions
3. Sensations

Look at how little kids live, they have so many things they’re excited to do, they can’t wait to start the day and have fun.

Mindfulness is great as a tool for understanding yourself, and being able to discharge negative emotions. But you have to get out there and put in effort and create positive emotions

Because we’re more human than we’d like to admit…

• Diet
• Sleep
• Exercise
• Scheduling and staying organized
• Being consistent
• Having good relationships
• Having good friendships
• Purposeful work
• Living in sunshine

All these things make a massive difference. You can’t meditate away the negative effects of neglecting those areas.

Creating a positive reality and thinking positive will do more for your well-being then all your meditation efforts combined…

Introversion, being self-aware, being mindful, living in the present are all good to have on defense. But you can’t live your life on defense, not if you want to win. You need to be out there scoring points to win. And by win I mean being happy, because the man with the most joy is the man who wins the game of life.

You need to start with offense…

• Being extroverted, social and positive
• Being aware of others and your environment as opposed turning into your own thoughts
• Adding value to interactions
• Trying hard and caring about the results you achieve
• Living in the future and all of things you’re going to accomplish and being excited about those wins and that potential

If you feel like you’ve been sold into playing defense and are being strangled by it…

Step out onto the court and start playing offense and getting some points.

Life is better when you play to win.

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Netflix has 20 billion in debt and liabilites. According to the company they plan to be “cash flow negative for many years.”

I’d love to be able to be cash flow negative for the indefinite future while attracting billions of dollars in loans at favorable rates on lenient timelines.

Youtube for the better part of a decade was able to run on a loss and according to their CEO as of 2016 had “no timetable to profitability”.

I wish I didn’t have a timetable to profitability(BTW, I love YouTube). 

There is a long list of large and unprofitable companies. Companies that either we’re running at a loss for a long period of time or companies that still are. Companies like:

1. Snapchat
2. Twitter
3. Instagram
4. Amazon (due to continuously reinvesting profits as opposed to a bad business model)
5. Sprint
6. Sony

Huge companies can hemorrhage money, year over year because they:

1. Have access to large amounts of capital from VC’s
2. Have access to large amounts of capital from Banks at favorable rates and timelines
3. Have access to large amounts of capital from investors as publicly traded companies
4. Can pay minimal tax through complicated corporate structures and write-offs
5. Can potentially get bailed out by their friends in government because they’re “too big to fail”
6. Or all of the above

A company with potential to be big can take VC financing for years with no timetable of profitability, because VCs need to hit home runs. And they will happily dump money into a company they think will become public one day.

A big company can take massive loans from bankers because bankers need to loan massive amounts of money to make profits. And they will be much more flexible with large companies on payback because they can’t afford to take a massive default. They don’t care about your $40,000 loan. When you have $4 billion in loans they will do whatever they can to help you pay that money back.

A big company can afford to run at a loss as a public company because they have so much investor money to play with. And John Q Public can’t do anything about it because he owns $200 worth of stock. Instead a large company will run on the timetable of it’s activist shareholders who often have a much longer timeline to profitability.

A big company can pay legally minimal tax because they have the money to make the system work for them by exploiting every available loophole and creating complex tax shelters.

You as a small to mid-sized entrepreneur or aspiring entrepreneur do not have those options. Sure you can structure your finances to legally minimize tax. And you might be able to get loans. But your situation is not even in the same ballpark as a large company.

You need to be profitable, and you need to be very profitable to survive and thrive. A product based company on razor thin margins is one month away from failure at all times. You need high margins and a high ROI to beat the 90% failure rate for most businesses.

A big company can even get bailed out by the government (aka the taxpayer) if they’re deemed to be big enough.

Since 2012 I’ve been more profitable, had higher margins and a significantly higher ROI than all the companies listed in this article combined.

I’m profitable, have high margins and a high ROI because I have to be – if not, it’s lights out for my business, because no government is going to bail me out. And I don’t have millions in executive options to cash out on and parachute into prosperity.

I’ve been lucky to make a product based business work. But for most guys, I recommend a service based business (and of this year have incorporated clients into my model so that I’m selling both products and services).

A service based business, with a skill you’ve mastered, and knowing how to sell, is your best bet at success because:

1. You have no inventory costs
2. You can run as a sole proprietor in the beginning with no payroll costs
3. Your upfront costs are negligible (phone, internet, and maybe a designation)
4. Your monthly expenses are negligible
5. You have a proven market instead of gambling on reinventing the wheel
6. Your margins and ROI are stratospheric

By the time a company gets big, the margins and ROI you’d get on a small to mid-sized service business are impossible. The high margins and ROI of the early days has been reinvested into the company, and combined with VC money, loans and public money.

At that point, the company has so much cash, it’s impossible to get the 100% or 1000% returns on billions of dollars.  The S&P 500, which is the 500 biggest and best companies have averaged an 8% return over the last 100 years.

The best fund managers like Warren Buffett and George Soros have averaged a 20% return for their investors. And Warren didn’t get rich off that 20%. He got rich off by getting investment from wealthy individuals through offering 12% higher returns than the S&P 500. To a billionaire investor, an extra 12% is enormous.

But none of that is your reality, the stock market won’t make you rich. You need to get rich off your business, end of discussion. Not stocks, not crypto, not forex trading – through your high margin, high ROI business.

And you need to be profitable and reinvest in that business, because a good business is a money machine.

And you won’t get access to all the enticing options that big companies have because life is not fair, not by a long shot.

Brad Pitt can get millions of dollars worth of free clothes now that he’s successful, but he doesn’t care or need those clothes, he needed them when he was a broke actor sleeping on couches.

Because that’s how life works, it doesn’t get easy until you succeed. You don’t get the freebies until you don’t need them. You don’t get comfortable until you get ahead, and by then you’re already tough as nails and hard as steel. And that’s just how it goes.

But that’s ok, because that’s the game of life.

The good news is, now is the best time to be alive in human history.

Now is the best time to build a business.

The internet is the greatest equalizer.

You have more opportunities to succeed than ever before.

All you have to do is build a profitable, high margin, high ROI business.

Don’t worry about occupying wall street.

Worry about getting yourself to the 1% where you can live comfortable and free.

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A city with a consistent flood of western tourists.

People who should be happy, after having spent the bulk of their year planning and saving to fly out to “paradise” for a week.

And yet they aren’t.

I had a lot of time to study people on vacation, outside of young kids getting f$#ed up at night, the majority of travelers are walking around with a permascowl on 10.

Here’s why:

Why Vacations Don’t Make You Happy

1) You’re out of control

Being out of control, especially as you get older, often works against you.

Occasionally, un-control will give you some new, amazing experiences, I found motorbiking in the mountains to be one of those…

But by the time you’re an adult you usually know what you like.

And you also need a lot more to be comfortable, you can’t just get drunk every night and sleep on couches and be cool with it.

On vacation you’re out of control and the bulk of your uncontrol experience are not motorbiking through the mountains on sunny day with a cool breeze behind you.

The bulk of your un-control experiences are things like:

• Being on a 24 hour flight with a crying baby
• Not getting the right foods (and possibly an upset stomach)
• Being hungover
• Being jetlagged with a f#@ed up sleep schedule
• Being hot and sweaty and tired from walking around in the heat all day
• Getting lost and having the GPS on your tourist sim card not work properly
• Having problems with your hotel
• Fighting with your girlfriend because of the above

2) You Can’t Take A Vacation From Yourself

A lot of people don’t like themselves, I see them everywhere, and I can tell by the look in their eyes.

I know the look because there was a time in my life where I didn’t like myself or my life.

People think a vacation will solve their self-hatred and self sabotage…

It won’t, because you can’t take a vacation from yourself.

And if you could, you wouldn’t be able to afford it.

You need total commitment to personal development to make your dreams a reality.

The only way out is through.

3) You Know You Have To Go Back To Work

2 days to fly in and get settled in, there for 7 and another 2 days to fly back out and get settled in at home.

And all the while, you know you have to go back to that cubicle and the fluorescent lights and the TPS reports.

And that’s hanging in the back of your mind.

And every day that goes by is one day closer to you having to go back to the office.

And by the time you get back to work, in the middle of February, with snow on the ground, you’re worse off than when you left.

Because you tasted freedom but you didn’t even get to finish your meal.

1 week a year is not freedom.

2 weeks a year is not freedom.

Freedom is never having to be chained to a cubicle and a chair again. 

Your entire life you had parents, teachers and bosses telling you what to do…

Is that how you want to spend your life? I sure is hell don’t.

Total freedom, total ownership of your revenue, that’s the play.

And I promise you, it’s worth it.

4) You Spent 20% of Your Net Worth

Most people in the west live lives they can’t afford.

Debt strangles their dreams.

From the house payment to the car payment to credit card debt…

The average guy lives paycheck to paycheck, even at $70,000 + a year.

Many guys don’t even have savings because they don’t spend wisely. 

But even at $50,000 in the bank, dropping $10,000 on a vacation is 20% of your net worth.

20% of your net worth on a week with nothing to show for it after!

But 20%, is a conservative estimate.

Some guys drop everything, or even worse, use credit to pay for that vacation…

Insanity!

That mentality will keep you chained to a chair and a cubicle for life.

Instead you could have bought a perpetual money machine and left the 9 to 5 jive forever.

And in this economy, you can build that money machine online and live anywhere you want.

I live where people take their vacations, and you can too, if you want to do the work.

Instead Of Blowing Your Cash On A Vacation

1. Stack your cash and invest in yourself 
2. Invest in personal development products and level up your life game
3. Learn how to sell
4. Build a perpetual money machine, also known as a service business
5. Get that money online so you can live anywhere and geoarbitrage your income
6. Build a life you don’t want to escape from where you’re living your ideal day every day

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You hear a lot of talk about being open minded today.

And being open minded is useful to a degree….

When you’re in the research phase of any endeavor it’s useful to be open minded.

And it’s useful to be open minded when you’re searching for new information.

But there is a time and place, and that time and place is peace time.

But success is not peace time.

To succeed means waging war.

In war you need to a closed mind.

You need to be certain.

You can be wrong, but you can’t be uncertain.

You have to believe in your decisions and follow through.

Grinding, day in and day out, again and again and again.

With a closed mind to all other thoughts outside of taking care of business.

Closing your mind to doubt.

And uncertainty.

And wanting to quit.

And questioning your decision.

And wondering if it’s worth it.

And wondering how long it’s going to take.

No, you don’t need an open mind when it comes to following through on your commitments.

An open mind is for deciding on what path to follow.

For modelling other people’s success and how you stack up against them.

For carefully weighing all your options.

For making sure you pick the most efficient path to success.

But once you pull that trigger.

Once you make that commitment to success.

You have to close your mind to everything else.

You have to keep your blinders on and keep grinding away, every, single, day.

You need to have tunnel vision.

You need to be tenacious, stubborn, unreasonable and relentless.

You need to be INTOLERANT of doubt, despair and depression.

You need to be closed minded to succeed.

You need to be in it to win.

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The failure rate for new businesses is 90%.

Even the best businesses fail.

Almost 90% of the Fortune 500 companies listed in 1955 no longer exist.

The average lifespan of a company on the S&P 500 is 15 years.

Companies fall apart because the executives forget about what got them there.

The same thing happens to countries.

If you want to watch how the west was won, watch The Revenant.

Tough, fearless, hard working, pioneers who built America with their bare hands.

No heating in the winters, no air conditioning, no infrastructure, no medical facilities.

Now life is easier than ever and people are lazy, decadent and weak.

They complain about microaggressions and expect the government to take care of them.

Everything has a lifecycle, whether it’s a business, or a country or you.

Creation, existence, destruction.

Or more accurately.

Creation, survive, thrive, survive, destruction.

Notice neutral is not in the lifecycle.

Because neutral is an illusion, you’re either going up or going down.

It only looks neutral in the moment.

When you look at the chart in hindsight, you’ll see that you we’re slipping.

Gravity brings a flat line down.

If you’re just maintaining every year, your business is failing.

You just don’t know it yet.

You might ask:

“If there’s no neutral, how do I know when I’m doing well”

You know you’re doing well when you’re going up.

You want to see hockey stick traction when you look at the chart of your business.

Consistently doing better this year than last year is good.

Consistently doing better this quarter than last quarter is better.

Consistently doing better last month than this month is best.

As long as you’re growing, you’re doing well.

And the faster you’re growing, the better you’re doing.

But neutral, or the illusion of neutral, is the beginning of the end.

Unless you get control.

Because every valley starts with the illusion of neutral.

And one of those valleys will take you out eventually, because nothing lasts forever.

That’s why it’s so important to stay on top of the illusion of neutral.

To make sure that your business cycle outlives you.

You want the money from your businesses and investments to outlive you.

If you outlive your money, you f$#@ed up.

Same goes for everything in life.

You’re either expanding or contracting.

You’re either going up or going down.

And you will have down days, down months and down years.

But don’t kid yourself, understand the reality of the situation.

Tomorrow is not guaranteed today and neutral doesn’t exist.

Stay up as much as you can, for as long as you can.

From the womb to the tomb motherf##@er.

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The way most people spend time on social media is a waste at best and a state killer at worst. The fact is you’ll never feel better after trolling through other people’s phony highlight reels on Fakebook for 2 hours.

With that said, I recognize the game has changed. And I also recognize that most guys, especially younger guys, haven’t and won’t give up their social media accounts.

So the question is how to make social media work for you. And social media as a term isn’t even relevant anymore. I no longer see a difference between social media and the internet. All I see are online platforms competing for your attention by giving you information.

People are now just as likely to get their news and information on Facebook or YouTube as they are through internet search. This is a massive change from even 3 years ago.

The internet at least to me is now:

• Google search (because bing and everything else don’t count)
• YouTube
• Facebook
• Twitter
• Linkedin
• Instagram (Snapchat looks to be dying)
• (*Amazon of course is huge but beyond the scope of this article as it’s mostly for buying products)

Here is how I recommend using the above platforms

1) Google search

Use google search to get useful personal improvement content. You want to spend your free time reading and watching content that add to your health, wealth, relationships, lifestyle, content that can be found on this site. My favorite way to get content is to bookmark sites I like (I’m old school). You can also subscribe to newsletters but I’d stay away from most forums. Some are good to browse but the signal to noise ratio is mostly bad, you want to only get content from authorities.

For business, if you have a brand, you should get a website. Yes content is moving towards video, but you can still host and stream all that video content on your site. 95% of my money comes from my site and I don’t see websites going anywhere anytime soon. Also, of all the platforms, your site is the only one you own.

2) YouTube

In the last few years, YouTube has become a massive resource of useful information (as opposed to cat vids). Again use it primarily for personal development and subscribe to useful channels like mine.

You can watch comedy in your free time but don’t add that to your subscription list. Your subscription list should be sacred, and only filled with useful content. Stay away from news, negativity and politics.

On a business level, YouTube is a game changer, my channel gets more views than my website. In today’s market you can blow up on YouTube alone. I highly recommend a YouTube channel to help build your brand.

3) Facebook

Facebook, much life YouTube has become an all inclusive ecosystem. With that said, I much prefer getting my videos and articles from Google and Youtube.

I use Facebook for nothing except promoting my content and I have no Facebook friends and I recommend you do the same. If you’re going to use Facebook just use it for subscribing to good personal development content. If you do have friends, don’t look throught their page or subscribe to their updates, total waste of time, you can talk about what’s going on when you see them.

If you want to stay in touch with friends, just add them to your messenger, you don’t have to be friends anymore on Facebook to connect with them on the app. Or just do what I do and use whatsapp instead.

Outside of business there is no reason to post on Facebook. And if you are going to post, make sure you don’t post thought crimes. Facebook book will eventually demand ID and suspend or permanenly ban violators from their platform, this is very bad for you as a businessman.

Because Facebook for business is useful, especially if you’re selling an expensive service. Facebook ad campaigns put google adwords to shame, it is the best platform to advertise on.

You can build a business on Facebook alone, I know a lot of coaches who have. I haven’t done much with my Facebook except reupload my youtube vids as FB vids (better for ranking and reach). Also it it’s for business, you can add and message people as friends, because customer relations and getting clients.

4) Twitter

Again, as per all the above, don’t waste your time posting personal stuff or watching your friends twitter feeds. If you’re going to use it on a personal level, use as an aggregator for personal development content.

For business you can also use for promoting your content. I haven’t used it much except for promoting new articles and videos but will be getting more active in the future.

On twitter I get better open rates then on my newsletter, and Twitter is a platform where you can post 100 times a day without people getting angry, this is a big advantage if you want to use Twitter to get the word out.

5) Linkedin

Linkedin can be used as an aggregator for personal development content as per the above, but it’s not the best for content aggregation. What Linkedin is really good for is for your business profile. Linkedin premium is a salesman’s dream for finding and getting a hold of decision makers.

You can also use it to promote your content, I have a profile but I haven’t used it much to promote RLD, but will at some point in the future.

6) Instagram

Instagram, of all the platforms is the worst, I don’t even bother. I think it’s terrible as a content aggregator and following/posting personal stuff on there is a total waste.

For business, conversion rates are lower because you can’t post long form content or vids.

With that said, I know some people have figured out how to make money on instagram. Fitness and lifestyle brands can do well for some guys, but I think there are better channels, at least for me.

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I just finished Ryan Holiday’s Book Conspiracy on How Peter Thiel took down Gawker.

In the book Holiday explains how Nick Denton and his staff at Gawker Media outed tech billionaire Peter Thiel in 2007 against his consent.

At the time, it was said that Thiel was exploring getting financed in the Middle East, and being outed as gay would hurt potential investment from that region. Thiel is also a notoriously private person, and wanted to be known for his achievements as opposed to his sexuality, which I think is fair.

Needless to say, when Gawker out him, Peter Thiel wasn’t happy.

He asked them to take down the article and they didn’t.

He asked them to stop attacking him and they didn’t.

They didn’t stop attacking him and the people he knew for years.

Gawker didn’t stop because they thought they we’re untouchable.

They we’re wrong.

And they f$#@ed with the wrong guy.

A billionaire with pride, patience and cunning.

Peter Thiel spent the better part of a decade and upwards of $20 million dollars getting his revenge.

They say revenge is a dish best served cold, and that’s how he served it.

Thiel calmly and coldly put Gawker out of business and bankrupted it’s owner Nick Denton.

One post in 2007, that took 10 minutes to write cost Nick Denton his $500 million company and all of his assets.

So guys people make the same mistake

They give people a reason to hate them when you don’t have to.

The truth is, as you start to get more successful, you start to get haters.

Whether you’re becoming popular socially or you’re the boss or you’re a public figure…

As you expand and get more exposure, you open yourself up to criticism.

That’s natural.

What’s not smart is to start fights you don’t need to.

What’s not smart is to turn strangers or friends into enemies when you don’t need to.

Because one day you could end up f$#@ing with the wrong guy.

Because one day you could end up f$#@ing with Peter Thiel and he’ll turn your lights out.

The smart thing to do is avoid making enemies whenever you can.

Because it literally costs you nothing not to.

To hold your tongue, to soften your criticism, to not send that email, to not send that text, to not respond to that comment…

Costs you nothing.

But without that discipline, you risk turning strangers, friends and employees into enemies.

This is especially true as you continue to expand and build your profile.

Look no further than Harvey Weinstein.

All actions have consequences, you just might not see it until a decade from now and it’s too late.

When you’re bankrupt because you picked a fight with a billionaire.

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Some guys think money is evil and so don’t focus on making any

Other guys don’t respect the value of a dollar and blow their money on frivolous things.

The truth is, this is an economic planet.

6 billions people depend on the economy to survive.

Before we would barter with each other for goods and services.

Now money is the measurement or metric of trade.

The more money you have, the more goods and services you can buy.

In other words money is concentrated influence.

The more you have, the more goods people will create for you, and the more things people will do for you.

From making your clothes to cooking your food to monitoring your health…

The more money you have the more other people will help you live the life you want.

And to simplify even more, the life you want is a life of consistent state.

Your state is a combination of feelings, thoughts and sensations in your body.

Money helps you create consistently good feelings, thoughts and sensations in your body.

Or even simpler, consistent happiness.

Money doesn’t by itself make you happier, but it makes it much easier to be happy.

Because there is not a problem money doesn’t solve or greatly help with.

From your health, to your relationships, to your lifestyle to your security to your freedom…

Money will solve your problem or help you in all of those areas.

But not just that.

Not having money will hurt you.

People who say money doesn’t matter are lying to you or lying to themselves.

Here are some consequences of not having money starting from the bottom of Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs and moving up from there…

1. Death – you can’t buy food and water you die (even farmland and tools cost money)
2. Homelessness – Many guys would be homeless if not for their parents money
3. Illness – you can’t pay for medical care and get sick
4. Poverty – you work a job you hate to eek out an existence
5. Mediocrity – you work a job you hate to live slightly above survival while being choked by debt

Here’s the truth about money.

Money is not evil, it’s merely the measurement of goods and services in our economy.

It is necessary to have money to survive.

The more money you have, the easier your life becomes.

The easier your life becomes, the easier it is to create a happy life.

That’s why it’s crucial you learn how to spend money wisely.

how to spend money wisely

The first thing you need to do is to change the way you look at money. Think of everything you spend as an investment because everything you spend is an investment. Every dollar you spend is an investment in your consistent happiness, and if it’s not, you’re not spending wisely.

1) Invest In Your Financial Survival

You have to start with survival. A lot of guys f$#@ this one up, even high income guys. The first investment you have to make is in your financial survival. You can’t do anything without a solid foundation.

1. Get Your Expenses Down: Unless you’re already rich, you need to start here
2. Invest In Paying Down Your Debt: Debt will choke the life out of your finances
3. Invest In Your Security: Also known as savings (one of the best investments you can make)
4. Invest In Supplies In Bulk: You can even do this with rent as a savings technique
5. Invest In Getting Your Income up: Check out my bulk how to sell to see how to do this

2) Invest In Your Health

As we move up on Maslow’s hierarchy you want to make sure that you’re at least taken care of your health. You don’t have to become a fitness freak, but investing some of your income into your health is essential.

That means eating well, getting the right supplements and getting proper medical care. The ironic thing, is it’s often cheaper to eat healthy (think chicken breast and brown rice) than it is to eat unhealthy.

3) Invest In Your Financial Freedom

Financial freedom is crucial to being able to live your best life. It’s very difficult to be able to be happy when you’re living paycheque to paycheque under flourescent lights in your cubicle with someone telling you what to do all day.

Financial freedom is the cornerstone of self actualization. When you’re financially free, you feel like you can breathe for the first time. For the first time no parent or teacher or boss is telling you what to do. And it’s not temporary freedom like that vacation where you’re counting the days until you have to go chain yourself to the desk again. But real freedom.

1. Invest in a high margin, high ROI money machine also known as a sales based service business
2. Reinvest your profits in your money machine and buy your freedom through leveraging compound interest and saving

4) Invest in your lifestyle

As you get secure, healthy and focused on your financial freedom. It’s a good investment to pick up some nice things as a reward for your hard work (within moderation).

1. Invest in your physique by getting a $40 a month gym membership
2. Invest in a nice wardrobe (which you can do for under $2000)
3. Invest in quality items that you use a lot, like a phone, computer, jacket or jeans
4. Invest in renting (not owning) in a living in a place that makes you feel good about yourself
5. Invest in outsourcing your chores and cooking to free up your time for leisure or making more cash

*notice how expensive trip to vegas is not on this list

Considerations

Two key things to think about before you spend any money:

1. Spend money on your consistent happiness not short term happiness that destroys your future (ie. doing heroin).
2. Consider your net worth before any major purchase. This will save you from buying a ton of dumb things. if you’re net worth is $5,000 and you want to go on a Vegas Trip with the boys that costs $5,000, you will be blowing 100% of your net worth on a weekend with nothing to show for it.

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It’s something a lot of people don’t see. They just accept what they’re told. They’ve never been able to breathe that rarefied air, if they even realize it’s possible at all…

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Uncle Sam Is 20 Trillion dollars down and that debt is rising faster than ever.

Debt to GDP is also rising quickly.

The US, in 2017 had debt equivalent to 105% of GDP for that year. 

There is a trade war with China looming.

And China has been hinting at the release of it’s Petro Yuan.

Not good.

The US is pumping up the money supply with Voodoo economics and stomping around the world enforcing the US petro dollar as the international standard.

Being deeply in debt and having a competitor for the world’s reserve currency is not a good position for the U.S. to be in.

Not for the U.S., and not for us as businessmen, whether you’re an American or not, most likely you rely on the US market for some of your business.

The stock market crashes on average every decade and it looks like we’re due for a crash now.

With that said, this article is not about fear mongering.

I’ve been hearing about an imminent potential crash for the last decade from doom and gloom websites advocating throwing all your money into their gold affiliate program today.

I’m optimistic, I think there is a good chance will see a collapse in our lifetime, but I think we’ve got another 15 or 20 years to go.

The US is the most powerful empire of all time and proven to be very resilient.

It could even be longer than that. Or there could be no collapse at all.

Of course there will be recessions along the way, but I wouldn’t underestimate the power of America’s economic and currency control, they still have by far the most powerful military on the planet.

With that said, as a businessman, having a gameplan for a potential economic meltdown is a good idea, even if you don’t live in the US and aren’t an American citizen.;

A calm, collected, rational plan on how to play your hand in case of an economic emergency in the future is a good idea.

How To Prepare For A Potential Economic Collapse

1. Create The Mindframe Of Surviving And Thriving No Matter What

Adapt and overcome is a motto that will serve you well in business and in life. Focus on getting your mind to where you’re confident that you can survive and thrive in any condition.

Not just get by, but actually do well, because you’re smart, capable, adaptable and prepared. While everyone else is watching the football game, you’re focusing on what needs to be done to protect your financial future.

Don’t give in to doubt or fear based consciousness. Fear in moderation is your friend because it keeps you on your toes, but anything more than that and fear becomes your enemy.

2. Focus On Getting Rich Now

Money is freedom.

Money is options

With money it will always be easier to survive and thrive.

You want to get as much money as possible coming in as income, reinvested into your business and stashed away before the sh$# the fan.

Even better if you can get your money online as it gives you the option to geoarbitrage in the future.

3. Get Your Banking Right

The top 20 safest banks in the world are in Germany, Switzerland, Singapore Hong Kong And Canada.

It takes until 40 to get to the US banks thanks to their reserve ratios, derivatives and who knows what else they’re doing.

Obviously in a collapse scenario you’d want your money in a safe bank offshore (legally of course).

But I realize not everyone wants to or is capable of leaving the US.

If it came down to it, I think having your money in the biggest banks is your best bet, banks like Citibank or JP Morgan.

Even if they’re technically less safer then some of the smaller banks, they’re the ones most likely to be bailed out by the government (as happened in 2008).

Another option as an American, is Canada, where it might be easier to open an account then in other places. TD is ranked as #9 in safety, although Canada is heavily dependent on the US.

If you’re living in Asia like me, your best options are Hong Kong and Singapore, both home to very strong banks. Unfortunately I’ve heard they’re difficult to get into these days. Another option is Malaysia, which has a favorable banking system for westerners and seems to be developing quickly.

4. Offshore Real Estate

If you’d be been following my work, you might be surprised to hear me recommend offshore real estate considering I did articles on why you shouldn’t buy a house or invest in real estate.

I still stand by those articles because the focus of them is on North American real estate.(some wealthy, smart and exceptionally hard working guys can make a lot of money investing in real estate in the west). From cost, debt and the appreciation myth, I still stand by my reasoning for most (but not all) guys living in the US.

But now I’m talking about wealth protection offshore which is a totally different ballgame. Because you probably don’t want to be holding real estate going into an economic collapse, just look at how many people forfeited their homes and properties in the last real estate crash.

Offshore real estate is solid, tangible, you can live in it and it’s very hard for your gov’t to take it away from you outside of an act of war. It’s a very real option for protecting your money in the future.

Also, in Southeast Asia where I live, the economies are developing quickly and real estate is very cheap. Plus in some cases it comes with benefits.

In Malaysia, $120,000 will get you a nice condo, and potentially residency (combined with a bank balance and monthly income) in the my second home program.

Then you’ve got:

• Money in a tangible, secure asset (assuming you did your due diligence on titles)
• A bit of appreciation per year.
• It’s cheap enough that you can buy without a mortgage
• You can rent it out when you’re not there
• The potential for residency as part of an investment package
• You have somewhere to live in the case of a US collapse
• You get a potential currency appreciation play against a declining USD

5. Protect Your Currency

If the US economy collapses, you probably don’t want the bulk of your cash in USD.

You only have to look at Weimar Germany to see what a collapse and hyperinflation will do (hint it’s wheelbarrows full of cash to pay for foodstuffs)

The same goes for stocks, all you have to do is look at the black Thursday to see what happens in a crash, you don’t want your money there.

You’ve got crypto and gold – and in a US economic collapse I could see money moving there.

A lot of money already is flooding into crypto as we speak, although none of my money (for reasons covered here).

With that said, both will be something to keep your eye on moving into an economic collapse.

But neither of those are really currencies, at least not yet, maybe some day you’ll be able to pay your bills with crypto but not yet, although it will be interesting to see how it plays out.

They’re gambles on those instruments appreciating to the USD, the sensation is always the price of those instruments in USD.

With that said, they’re definitely options to look at in the future, if you start to see a crash coming.

Another option, is offshore banking (again the legal kind) and keeping your money outside of the US, in a currency you believe will appreciate to the USD. Or in a basket of currencies to hedge your bets.

6. Consider Moving

I know I have many patriotic Americans reading this, and moving might sound like blasphemy, but I think it’s your obligation in life to do what’s best for you and your family.

I don’t think becoming a prepper and bunkering down is the ideal move. If something catastrophic happens in the US, you will not want to be there.

As far as I’m concerned, if the government can’t manage the economy, the social contract has been violated.

The truth is countries rise and fall, and it looks like America is on the way down (although, America is extremely resilient and could surprise everyone.)

The odds are, one of your ancestors probably moved to America in the last hundred years when it was the land of opportunity.

For me I think Asia is the next land of opportunity, because China will own this century. I don’t want to live in China but plan to benefit from their prosperity by living right next door in South East Asia (at least for now).

With that said, moving abroad a big adjustment and culture shock. I’m not selling you on leaving the US now. You really need to be a seasoned, disciplined entrepreneur to move halfway around the world, don’t buy into the digital nomad dream.

I’m optimistic, I think (and hope) we have another two decades if not longer before we see a collapse. Enough time to build your financial freedom in the US and think about where you want to live in the future.

7. Consider Incorporating Offshore

If the US collapses, I don’t see a situation where they would take your business from you. But I see a situation where corporate taxes go up.

Incorporating offshore is legal, and you’re still liable for US taxes (with whatever expat exemptions you get) but it’s something to think about if you’re planning on leaving the US.

Incorporating somewhere like Labuan gets you minimal tax on foreign sourced income, a 2 year renewable residency, and entry into Malaysian banks. Something to consider if you plan on moving abroad eventually.

8. Prep Your Business For A Hit (Offshore income streams and Payment acceptance)

In the event of a collapse I will expect a big hit to my business.

There are three things I want to have in place by then:

1. A gameplan on how to thrive in the event of a crash
2. Multiple sources of income that aren’t tied to the US
3. Acceptance of different payments

Some of the things I’m thinking about are:

• Getting RLD into China (minus the naughty stuff) and tapping the massive market there
• Getting clients outside of the US which I already have
• Putting out an economic survival guide.
• Setting up my site to take payment in Renminbi (when it becomes possible)
• Diversifying into service based businesses in Southeast Asia

I don’t know about the structure of your business, but I think it’s worth looking into how to prepare for the future.

9. Consider A Second Residency And Passport

If you are thinking of moving in the future, looking into residency scenarios and potential second passports is a good idea.

In Asia you can buy residency.

In Thailand it’s $15,000 for a 5 year elite visa.

Malaysia is much better where an investment in a business can get you a 2 year residency visa by incorporating in Labuan or a longer residency visa by investing in the my second home program.

With that said there is a difference between a residency visa and a tax resident, which is something to be aware of and do your homework on.

The other thing you can do is get a second passport, making you a citizen of another country (this is legal).

The best way to get it is by birth, if you have Hungarian, Irish and Israeli parents those options are open (also applies to a number of other countries).My dad is Irish so I’m looking to get an Irish passport in the next few years.

The good thing about another passport, especially an Irish one is it also allows you to live in the European Union.

You also have the extreme option of renouncing your US citizenship (I’m Canadian and don’t see myself renouncing).People around the world would die for a US passport, and I don’t recommend it at this point. Not unless you have another solid, first world passport or you’re very financially secure and committed. Andrew Henderson boldly just renounced his citizenship, you can see his take on renunciation here.

With that said, if it’s 15 years from now, and the government is cracking down on expats, and the collapse seems imminent, it might be something to consider.

Conclusion

All of the above ideas are good to consider going forward.

It pays to be prepared.

Although, despite what many people say, an economic collapse in our lifetime is not a sure thing.

I’d love for that to be the case and not have to watch the US crash.

But on the other hand, there is real potential for a crash, I think we have a few decades before that happens but that it’s smart to start planning now, there is a whole, wide, world available to you.

Just make sure to do your homework and consult with a qualified professional before you pull the trigger on anything. A lot of the options outlined are complicated and you don’t want to make mistakes. Also find the right financial professionals, the best expat tax lawyers in your country and expect to pay.

Also, don’t feel overwhelmed and fall into fear consciousness, especially if you’re just starting out. Assume you have plenty of time to get rich and you’re going to keep your eyes on the prize.

Lastly I’ve left you with some resources for you to use in putting together your plan:

• RLD Money Section: All my free content on getting paid
• How To Sell: My book on surviving, thriving and getting out of corporate sales and into your own business
• How To Plan Your Financial Future: My free, super-detailed guide to planning your financial future
• Go Where You’re Treated Best: My article on moving to where you’re treated best
• Nomadlist.com: Best website on analyzing potential countries to live in
• Nomadcapitalist.com: Andrew Henderson’s site on financial advise for expats – top quality

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That might sound like an arrogant introduction to an article (and it is). But it’s also a reality.

There are smarter and more driven men than me for sure.

But when you’re a capable go-getter and you make personal development a priority…

Often times you find yourself frustrated with other people’s decisions.

Whether it’s when you’re in traffic and a motorist threatens your life with a dumb decision.

Or you’re dealing with an employee who consistently makes mistake you think would be obvious.

If you’re nodding your head in agreement right now, chances are you’re frustrated.

And that’s a problem for three reasons.

1. It spoils your mood
2. When you act on your frustration, especially in business,  you sabotage your goals
3. You can find yourself acting unethically which you later regret when you calm down

The good news is you can get frustration under control and minimize it through four simple steps.

These steps have made a massive difference in my quality of life.

How To Handle Frustration With Other People

1) Lower Your Expectations

People are going to do dumb stuff in traffic.

Most dates will be mediocre, and most women will be late.

Most guys you meet, you won’t want to recruit for your inner circle.

Employees and contractors are going to do things wrong and at a lower standard then you would.

The guy you’ve been cold calling for 6 months, who agreed to sign, will waffle and then ignore you.

All these things are going to happen consistently.

The smart move is to lower your expectations, not for yourself but for other people.

It’s about controlling what you can control.

You can control everything you do.

But you only have a limited amount of control with other people.

When you lower your expectations, you eliminate a lot of frustration right off the bat.

When you go to the DMV expect it to be a disaster.

When you’re in rush hour traffic, expect people to do dumb sh$% consistently

When you have low expectations and you’ll rarely be disappointed.

And you’ll occasionally be pleasantly surprised.

2) Make Structural Changes

Lowering your expectations does a lot for situations you don’t have total control over.

With that said, if you’re finding yourself in rush hour traffic every day, that’s a problem.

Lowered expectations is playing defense, which is important.

But you also need to be on honest and see if you can solve problems at a structural level.

You can’t control other people, but you can control the situations you put yourself in.

You can control your environment by:

1. Going to good restaurants where you get good service
2. Going to nice lounges with your friends and avoiding thugs and degenerates
3. Finding the right girl who doesn’t create drama and adds value to your life
4. Getting the best employees and contractors you can afford, who do quality work
5. Avoiding traffic by living within walking distance of your office
6. Spending your leisure time with guys who are accountable and reliable

You can create a massive increase in your quality of life through making the right structural changes.

3) Become More Valuable

At this point you might be thinking…

“Will, that all sounds good, but hiring A+ employees, eating at nicer restaurant and living close to work all sound expensive.”

And you’re right, it usually costs money to solve problems.

Although that’s not always the case…

By getting rid of your car and moving close to the office you might actually save money.

But in many cases you’re going need to get your income up.

And that’s a good thing, because you need to get your income up in this economy.

But it’s about more than that, you want to make yourself more valuable.

When you increase your sexual market value, you get access to better women.

When you become more charming you get access to a better social circle.

Becoming more valuable makes a major impact on your ability to create structural changes.

4) Focus On Getting What You Want Instead of being right

Lastly, one of the biggest things you can do, is to make a mindset shift.

Forget about being right and focus on getting what you want.

I can’t emphasize how important this is.

Become a player in the game of life, and play to win.

I learned this every day in my former career in corporate sales. 

To succeed in the game of life you need to learn how to sell.

Because life is sales, every time you communicate you’re selling, whether you realize it or not.

If you need to correct an employee.

Pull them to the side and give them a sh$% sandwich.

That’s a compliment, followed by lightly correcting the problem, followed by another compliment.

When you’re dealing with clients, avoid contradicting and confronting them when possible.

Especially your best clients.

If that means accepting total responsibility for something not 100% your fault…

Do it, and do it without even missing a beat.

It costs you nothing to accept responsibility.

It costs you a fortune to insist on being right.

One client paying you $10,000 a month is $120,000 over the year.

Forget about being frustrated that you can’t be right.

Instead be proud about how well you play the game.

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Why Your Life Is So Expensive

1. Inflation

Your purchasing power is increasingly being devalued by central bankers printing more money also known as inflation. The supposed rate is 3% but I’d bet it’s closer to 5-7%, hence why prices are continually going up and the value of your dollar going down.

2. Credit

Also known as debt or borrowing today for tomorrow. Coming out of the great depression people knew better than to live on debt. Today’s generation doesn’t know how to live without debt. Credit is how everyone is rolling around in a new car, a new condo and going out for dinner every night. The end result is an entire generation with no savings living paycheque to paycheque.

3. Feminism

This is not a knock against women, we don’t do cultural politics here at RLD, just an observation from a financial perspective.

In the 1950’s a man could buy a house and feed his family on a reasonable salary because

1. Inflation was lower
2. People lived on less debt and therefore houses we’re more affordable
3. Women didn’t work

Since women entered the workforce the price of labor has been halved and one person can no longer afford to buy a house on their own. Two incomes has now been factored into the price making it impossible for the average man to buy a house on his own. Even with two incomes, many people end up with unreasonable levels of debt, a mediocre house in my own city of Toronto goes for $750,000.

What To Do About It

1. Cut your expenses (at least for now)

You can spend money when you’re rich. For now you have to cut your expenses, set a budget and stick to it, pay off your debt, and start stacking your cash.

2. Get Rich

The world is tough and hard and a competition for survival. To be able to be comfortable and free you need to aim to get in that top 1%. In the west that’s six figures and the more the better. In SEA where I live that’s $40k a year.

1. Learn how to sell
2. Find a valuable service
3. Start a sales-based service business
4. Go hard at putting in the numbers (ads, cold calls, emails, IM’s whatever needs to be done)
5. Consider moving your business online and georarbitraging your income to a cheaper country
6. Keep reinvesting your cash and leveling up
7. Get new income sources with the cash you have come in (thats when you can test product based businesses)
8. Minimize your taxes (being an expat and incorporating offshore helps)

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We live in a victim culture and it’s killing us.

All you have to do is hop online or log onto your social media to watch people compete in the underprivileged Olympics.

The truth is, now is the best time to be alive in history, it’s never been easier, especially if you’re born in a western country.

You have the greatest equalizer in the internet. Everything you need to know to succeed is available online.

You can build a business without having to leave your bedroom.

Our ancestors, we’re subsistence level farmers and feudal serfs with no healthcare and no medical technology.

The black plague wiped out a third of Europe.

Now that’s not to say bad things don’t happen today.

But when I hear about people complaining about microaggressions it makes me sick.

When I was young it was just my mom and me and we didn’t have much money.

Until I was 10 we had a rotary telephone and a black and white TV.

I’ll tell you though. I never thought of myself as a victim.

I was a happy kid. I was well loved and my mom gave me all the food, clothes that I needed.

I’m grateful to be alive and I’m grateful for what I had.

And I learned early on that I had to earn the things I wanted.

And so I never expected them to be given to me.

You can’t win when you think of yourself as a victim.

All you do is hurt yourself by tearing open old wounds.

All you do is allow the person that hurt you in the past to hurt you again in the present.

When you see yourself as a victim, the person that hurt you is still winning.

The truth is success is the best revenge.

And you can’t be successful when you think of yourself as a victim.

Why? Because bad things happen to victims.

Bad things happen to victims, that’s the definition of being a victim.

So don’t be a victim of circumstances.

Instead be a victor of circumstances.

And have the bad things that happened to you in the past be lessons to learn from.

And have the bad things that happen in the future be obstacles for you to overcome.

Be a victor of circumstances and take control of your destiny.

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And the reality is, you choose your beliefs.

Unfortunately, most people are programmed with and productive beliefs. From their parents, their teachers, from our culture and from themselves. Beliefs they’ve had for 5 or 10 or 20 years, that they’ve accepted as fact, but only because those beliefs haven’t been questioned.

The most logical way to live is to be happy.

But it’s very hard to be happy when you have beliefs that don’t serve you, beliefs that don’t serve you.

So wouldn’t it be logical to at least examine those beliefs.

Wouldn’t it be logical to see if there was room for a reframe. Even if just to open the door to possibility?

And if you could create new beliefs wouldn’t it be logical to create positive, empowering beliefs.

In other words, to make your beliefs serve you.

To make your beliefs serve your objectives instead of you being a slave to what you believe.

Make Your Beliefs Serve You

To make your beliefs serve you all you need is

1. Will: to use your will to explore your old beliefs and make effort to change them
2. Creativity: to use your creativity to manifest new outcomes
3. Reality: to reality test your beliefs

What if you sat down right now and investigated some beliefs that might be limiting your quality of life:

Examples Of Beliefs You Can Choose To Investigate

1) I Have Depression

You might be depressed now, but what if that was just a transient state?

What if you could think about all the happy memories and times you had in the last year, or at least the neutral times, to prove that your mood is constantly changing.

And what if you’re depressive state you’re in now was not purely genetic, but was affected by your lifestyle.

And you could create a better life for yourself through awareness, focus and action.

And you could model happy people, use deductive reasoning and reverse engineer their success.

And even if you only made yourself 10% happier this year, that would be a massive improvement.

2) Bad Things Happen To Me

Is that an objective fact?

Just because bad things happened in the past, does that mean bad things will happen in the future.

Can you think about good things that happened in the past and use your confirmation bias to believe that good things happen to you.

Can you reframe negative events in the past as learning experiences.

Can you accept that the past doesn’t accurately predict the future. And that by using your will to create the reality that you want, you can create a future where good things happen to you consistently.

3) Life Is Pointless And Meaningless

Is the idea that life is pointless and meaningless a fact or is it belief?

What if there was a point?

What if there was a meaning?

What if the world was an MMO (Massive Multiplayer Online Video Game) designed by your creator where you we’re giving certain limitations, but also a certain amount of potential for you to manifest. And it was your choice to manifest as much or as little of your potential as possible. And that you we’re rewarded for your efforts by joy in this cycle and an evolution of your soul into a more positive life cycle, in your next life of the wondrous video game called life.

4) The Universe Is Neutral At Best, Hostile At Worst

Is the amorality or hostility of the universe a fact, or just your belief?

Does science have all the answers to the questions of our existence.

Even using the latest scientific model of the big bang. Can science explain what happened prior to the big bang and created time, space, energy and matter, and also sustains time, space, energy and matter.

If science doesn’t have the answers, are there spiritual authorities that you can investigate who have a different, more positive model of our reality.

Would you agree that having a positive view of life, reality and possibly an afterlife would make you happier?

If you do, would investigating the teachings of those spiritual authorities be a good use of your time, even if there are some things that you initially disagree with.

5) Death Is Annihilation

Your physical body will die, that’s a fact.

But is that the end?

Are the billions of people who believe that your spirit’s journey continues after the vehicle of your body wears out all deluded (like I used to believe) or is that idea worth investigating.

Would your life be happier if you believed that death wasn’t the end of you?

As your reading this article right now, who is talking to you, Will Freemen, or am I just a spirit speaking to you through the vehicle of my body, and the character I play in this life cycle known as Will Freemen?

You already incarnated once, which is insane, is the idea of my spirit incarnating into another vehicle all that crazy?

And are there perfected souls you can learn from, well beyond my level of development, who have merged their river into the divine ocean. Souls like:

• Christ
• Buddha
• Ramana Maharshi
• Ramakrishna
• Ananadamayi Ma

What if you could dig up every belief that causes you doubt, depression and despair?

Or even just feeling mediocre and unmotivated?

Sure it’s hard but everything worth doing is hard.

And what else are you going to do, wallow in beliefs that cause you consistent pain

I say f*ck that, I say build the best belief system you can.

I say go hard as a motherf@#ker on it.

I say make your beliefs serve you.

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Most people focus on what they want instead of what makes them happy. We grow up with these imprints in our minds: money, girls, success, being fit…

And the truth is having those things does make it easier to be happier. And a lot of my site is devoted to getting you to succeed in those areas.

But money doesn’t make you happy in an of itself.

Women don’t make you happy in and of themselves.

Being jacked doesn’t make you happy in and of itself.

Happiness comes from within.

It’s a state, and in fact it’s the same emotion as love.

A cheeseburger makes you happy in the moment because you love that cheeseburger.

Your girlfriend makes you happy in the moment because you love her.

Success makes you happy in the moment because you love people seeing you as a winner.

But that’s the key, happiness is something that comes from within.

You just choose to ascribe happiness to certain things.

And therefore, your happiness is where you should start.

But a lot of guys lose the forest for the trees.

And live to chase things, and they aren’t happy chasing them, and they aren’t happy getting them.

Because they haven’t cultivated the skill of happiness.

And often times because the lifestyle that they’re trying to live doesn’t actually make them happy in reality.

That’s why you have to align your wants with what actually makes you happy.

Align your wants to creating your ideal lifestyle.

Where you’re living your ideal day as much as possible.

Not waking up every day chasing a Ferrari that you think will finally make you feel fulfilled.

For me I’m happy when.

• I wake up early
• I take my supplements and eat clean
• I exercise and do Yoga
• I have minimal tension in my body
• I look fit and stylish
• I do work that I love, like making videos, products, and coaching
• I help people through my mission and receive validation for my efforts
• I work around guys who have great energy
• I handle all my tasks for that day
• I have a girl that I love in my life
• I have deep bonding tantric/karezza style sex with my girl
• I live in a sunny, peaceful climate
• I have a high income and a solid safety net through saving
• I comfortably in a nice place
• I go to nice restaurants and venues with my friends
• I ride my motorbike up the mountains in the sunshine
• I listen to music that I love
• I have the time to read articles and books that interest me
• I watch positive, motivating media
• I have a good relationship with my mom
• I amplify positive thoughts and minimize negative thoughts
• I visualize the great future I’m going to have through fulfilling my mission

I’m also willing to bet, that most, if not all of those things would make you happy. And notice, most of those things don’t cost money or don’t cost much money. And that’s just a small list. You might like to play guitar, or play with your dog, or go fishing or any other number of activities. The important thing is you:

1. Be mindful and aware of what actually makes you happy (not what the media sells you)
2. Align what you want in life with what actually makes you happy
3. Structure your life around your ideal day and live that as often as you can

I had a conversation with a friend once whose idea of a good time was a trip to Vegas with the boys. I get it, part of the cultural narrative for young guys is a trip to Vegas where you booze it up, gamble and get women. You see it in movies, TV and in magazines.

The reality however, at least for me is much different. For me a Vegas trip means:

• A few days of planning, taking time away from mission
• Making sure I have all my papers in
• Spending $5,000 with nothing to show for it afterwards
• Sitting and waiting in the airport
• A 24 hour Transatlantic flight where my back hurts and there’s a crying baby
• Having to go through immigration where I have to take off my shoes like a common criminal
• Drinking all weekend and eating badly
• Ejaculating too much with girls I don’t care about
• Gambling and mostly likely losing money, adding to the $5,000 I already dropped
• Sleeping in late and skipping the gym
• Leaving Vegas hungover, with my energy and bank account drained
• Taking another 24 hour transatlantic flight where I can’t move and my back is killing me
• Coming back home and having to catch up on work
• Taking a few days to get my sleep schedule back to normal
• Taking a week to get my energy level normal

If a Vegas trip with your boys is your dream, I don’t mean to sh*% on it, but I know for me, that would be my exact reality. Because I know myself and my wants are aligned with my happiness. And if I wanted some fun with the boys, I’d hop on a 2 hour, $50 flight from Chiang Mai to Bangkok. rent and AirBNB for a few weeks, work and exercise during the day, and go out with they guys a few hours at night. I’d be able to do that with barely a dip in energy, spending much less money, and keeping 90% of the daily routine that makes me happy in check.

With that said, you need to recognize what makes you happy and align your wants accordingly. If you’re chasing girls, and drugs, and Louis Vuitton, and fast food and all the things you think you want, and it’s not making you happy…

You need to sit down and figure out what does and align your wants accordingly. Because you can’t get to being happy if you don’t know where you’re going. When you find what makes you happy, picture how you would create a life around that and start building it.

It’s that simple. Unfortunately most people in the world won’t hear this message. And they’ll continue to be unhappy chasing things they think they want. If people put happiness as they’re primary priority, and aligned their wants accordingly, there would be no wars, no rape, no torture, no murder and no robberies.

Notice how committing crimes isn’t on my list of things that make me happy, and it’s probably not on your list either. Criminals are the least consistently happy people. Because when you sit down and look at it, living that way makes no one happy.

Look into the eyes of a serial killer and you’ll see the most miserable man on the planet. Who spent his life doing evil, chasing a sick, dirty high that destroyed the lives of others and himself.

The same logic applies all the way down to guys who are unethical in business. Bernie Madoff lived his whole adult life as a lie. Worrying about the day he would get caught. Sure he might have got high off of the money, but your conscience watches what you do, and deep down he hated himself. He knew he was a thief and a liar and eventually he would get caught and destroy the lives of his family, thousands of other people, and end up in prison.

Living a consistently happy life is a system, and being a good person is built into that system. And having wealth, health, good relationships and a fulfilling lifestyle are too. And so is having leisure time to do the things you’re interested.

And the good news is, all of those things are available to you when you align your wants with your happiness and go after them.

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If you have your own business keep at it or you’re close to starting one and you have the cash, I say go for it.

But if you’re already in sales or you don’t have the money or aren’t confident enough in your sales skills then this is for you.

How To Succeed In Corporate Sales In One Sentence

If you don’t have the cash, sales skills or confidence to build your own business now, corporate sales is the best move for getting paid and learning how to sell on someone else’s dime. And selling is by far, the most important skill in business, if you can sell you can make money anywhere in the world.

Corporate sales was my path to freedom, I started a business on the side, scaled that business up in my free time
and bought my freedom with the money I made. I leveraged my skills into my own business and I’ll never work for someone again, and you can to.

Ideally though, you do it all in the same industry. Say you want to sell real estate. Get hired, learn the ropes on someone else’s dime, and then go out on your own. You can switch to another industry like I did, but it’s an easier path to transition to what you already know.

With that said, whatever path you choose, if you’re in corporate sales, you need to learn how to survive and thrive. And this is the stuff that most sales trainers won’t tell you, with the exception of my man Grant Cardone. Sales is not sunshine and roses. The truth is, life in sales is hard. If you want to succeed, you need to remember this one sentence.

To succeed in sales you need to learn how to…

Eat Sh*t And Like The Taste

Because you’re going to be eating a lot of sh*t, so you better get used to it.

Corporate sales is cutthroat, especially outbound sales.

• You’ve got your 100 calls a day
• You’ve got people hanging up on you
• You you’ve got people you’ve been pitching for months cancelling the meeting at the last minute
• You’ve got people that won’t sign the contract even after they’ve agreed to it
• You’ve got client fires you have to put out
• You’ve got some clients that treat you well but a lot of them won’t
• You’ve got clients that take out their frustrations on you because you have to take it
• You’ve got support staff that mess up your client orders and put the blame on you
• You’ve got other salesman fighting you over clients

And the toughest part is that monthly target, where you’re 2 to 3 bad months away from getting fired at all times.
And your boss is riding you hard and breathing down your neck. And you feel like no one is in your corner, because they’re not

You’re the most valuable asset to the organized but you’re the first to get fired. Support staff can make mistakes all day because they don’t matter to the bottom line. But because your company’s revenue depends on you, you’re on the front lines of the firing squad.

You have to sell when you’re sick or in a bad mood. You have to wake up every day, put your armor on and go to war. You have to get on the phone and battle. You have to battle in front of clients in your presentation. You have to battle with the support staff to get your client’s taken care of. And you have to battle with your boss’s expectations, because he doesn’t care what you did for him last month.

Life in sales is no joke. 

So what do you do?

You learn how to eat sh*t and like the taste of it.

So you become a shark, never sleeping and always on the hunt for your next meal.

You listen to your motivational audios on the way to work.

You build your business at night.

You get your diet in check.

You get your 8 hours of sleep every night.

You become a beast, tougher than you ever thought you we’re capable of becoming.

Because that’s what you have to do to buy your freedom.

And that’s why sales pays well, because no one wants to do it, and most people can’t do it.

You get paid for your mental toughness and your persistence in the face of obstacles.

And that’s the key, that cold hard cash, the kind of money you can’t make at any other job.

Corporate sales, at the right company is where a 25 year old can make 100 to 400k a year.

And that my friend, if you want it, is your ticket out of working for a living.

With that kind of money you can buy your freedom, in fact that’s exactly what I did.

I used my sales training to stack my cash, leverage those skills into a side business, and became an entrepreneur.

I’ll never have to make a cold call or have a boss again

Because life is a layer cake, the higher you get, the less sh*t you have to eat.

Until you get high enough that all you do is breathe in that rarified air.

You start on the bottom rung of maslow’s hierarchy of needs and move up from there.

You get control of your revenue, scale up and leave the boss and the corporate world behind.

And as you scale up as an entrpeneur, you get to outsource more and more of the things you don’t want to do.

And if you have children you can get them involved in the business.

And they can pass it on to your grandchildren.

And you build inter-generational wealth so no one in your family has to eat sh*t again.

You can make all that happen…if you want to.

If you want to learn how to survive, thrive and build your exit from corporate sales, pick up my book How To Sell:

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As a metaphor, not as a 24/7 reality, treating your tasks like there’s a gun to your head is the best way to tell if you’re serious.

There is a big difference between I’m trying to lose weight vs. I’m going to lose weight no matter what.

If you can’t stick to a diet, or put in the cold calls you need for your business, it’s for one reason and one reason only, because you’re not serious. You’re not willing to absorb the pain today, to get the win tomorrow, and the next day and the next year.

For all those things you think you can’t do…

Think about if someone put a gun to your head and told you that you needed to lose 30 lbs. by the end of the year. You would eat 600 calories less than maintenance every day, I guarantee it.

The gun to your head is the ultimate clarification tool.

If you’re not serious, or you’re not ready to commit, that’s perfectly OK, just be honest with yourself.

And don’t put things you aren’t serious about in your task list.

If you follow my work you know I run my life management system through the Wunderlist task app. And everything that’s on my list for that day, I do.

I allow for a few exceptions (which I allow for in advance) when I’m travelling or on the 1st day of the year or quarter. And sometimes I will push one off tasks that crop up off into the future. But other than that everything is getting done.

My exercise and stretching is getting done.
My supplements are being taken.
My grooming is getting done.
My chores are getting done.
My content is being put out.
My business projects are being worked on.

In the same way you don’t skip brushing your teeth, you don’t skip getting your SH%$ done for that day.

If I’m not ready to go on a diet, I don’t put it in my task list.
If I’m not ready to cut my junk food intake down, I don’t put it in my task list.
If I’m not ready to take on another project, I don’t put it in my task list.

And if I am ready, If I’m really ready to commit, I take it seriously.

I don’t add things I’m not ready or don’t have time to commit to and I suggest you do the same…

Because you cheat yourself when you don’t follow through on what you said you were going to do.

And when you cheat yourself, you stop trusting yourself, in the same way you stop trusting a girl who cheats on you.

When you see 2 or 3 tasks that you don’t follow through on every day, and you let it slide, you stop believing in yourself.

And when you’re not accountable to yourself, everything else in your life will start to slide.

There is no neutral, gravity will bring a flat line down given enough time.

You’re either going up or you’re going down, but you can’t see it until it’s too late.

Make no mistake, cheating yourself is a slippery slope.

How you do one things is how you do everything else.

Now look, I’m not saying this to beat up on you.

I’ve failed myself a million times.

The difference is, now I understand the consequences of my actions, and you should too.

If you’re not serious about your goals, take them off your list.

It’s better to have 1 thing that you do every day, than 20 things you’re “trying” to do.

Don’t be afraid to be honest and take the things off your list that you’re not ready to do.

You can come back to them when you’re ready.

But everything you commit, to do…. you do, without excuses.

And if you slip up, stop everything, analyze what went wrong, and re-commit.

Do what you have to do to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

This is especially true if you’re an addict, because one thing leads to another.

It also means that you should be cautious about what you commit to.

Because your time is valuable.

But even more valuable is your discipline.

Because motivation won’t get you there, dedication will.

Commit, be dedicated, be disciplined and reap the rewards.

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VIDEO NOTES

• Learn how to define your dreams with a whiteboard in addition to my book how to get organized
• Learn how to think big across all areas
• Learn how to build a decision tree flow chart for what you want to accomplish
• Learn why you need to look at your whiteboard every day and visualized
• Learn all my goals and visions for the next 5 years in hyper detail

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SUMMARY

• Go where you’re treated best – from Andrew Henderson of nomadcapitalist.com
• Home is where the heart is, and my heart is where I have the best quality of life
• I have a better quality of life in Chiang Mai than I did in Canada
• Canada has high taxes, a high cost of living, and six months of winter – Chiang Mai has none of those things
• Building a business in your home country and moving to a country where you’re treated better is a real option for you
• You can get a nice apt for $300 a month, plus eat well, shop well and only go to nice places for much less money than back home
• And Chiang Mai is the first step – the future of this century is in Asia
• Already a third of the 10 safest banks in the world are in Asia (American banks start at 40)
• Already China has a higher GDP than the U.S. (which will continue to filter into SEA and HK)
• Robust banking and low tax opportunities exist in countries that welcome you like Malaysia for example
• In Malaysia you can incorporate in it’s offshore jurisdiction in Labuan at 3% of foreign sourced income
• Incorporation comes with a two year multi entry visa with residency
• You also get access to a robust banking system with actually inviting interest rates (HSBC Premier in Malaysia is offering 8%!!!)
• You get to live in sunny weather and in greater safety than in the U.S.
• You get the benefit of strong currency arbitrage
• You can buy property in an emerging market for appreciation but more importantly as a currency hedge against a declining USD
• You can get all the perks of your western lifestyle (high speed internet, online organic food delivery, nice restaurants, lounges and quality of women) all for a fraction of the price
• You don’t even have to move to Asia, just moving to NYC to a mid size town in Florida will save you a fortune and increase your quality of life
• It only makes sense to go where you’re treated best

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Summary

• Brands have a moat that protect you from competitors (think Coca Cola or Trump Towers)
• Your brand has name recognition, not just for your brand but for you personally (your hustle doesn’t)
• Your brand is long money, your hustle is short
• Your hustle is not a mission, your brand is
• You’ll never be as passionate about your short term hustle as opposed to your mission
• Your brand is bigger and therefore not dependent on any one platform (youtube, fb, twitter etc.)
• Your brand is fungible (I built my Youtube channel up off the back of my website)
• When you work on your brand you build brand equity or goodwill (this will pay you in $)
• Building a brand allows you to plan for your next decade or even your next 3 decades
• You can stand behind and be proud of your brand (your hustle is often anonymous)
• Your brand is long term money, your hustle is short term money
• Be a builder of great things that last, not a short term hustler of sh*% you don’t care about

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Summary

• A useful frame for looking at life is that it’s one part combat, one part cooperation
• By frame I mean a mental map, the map is not the territory but is useful nonetheless
• The first part of life is combat – for food, women, money, resources, status and many other things
• People talking about equality of outcome don’t like to acknowledge that reality
• The reality is that nature is a food chain, or a pyramid (not a metaphor, a reality)
• It’s only because we dominated it to such an extent that we we’re able to step out of it
• We, as men, are the most dominant predator species in the know universe
• Thats what allows us our current life of luxury and the opportunity to even discuss these things
• The rabbit doesn’t have that luxury, the rabbit doesn’t protest the lion, it runs
• Everyday you compete for resources, women, clients and many other things
• You need to eat living things to survive
• This is one half of life
• The second part of life is cooperation
• We we’re evolved to live in hunter/gatherer tribes cooperating with each other to compete for food
• You see acts of cooperation and kindness all the time and it’s a beautiful thing
• And if you’re smart, you’ll find the right people to cooperate with to get what you want
• That means building your tribe – the people that will help you compete
• It also means giving the best service to your customers and clients
• Most guys f$$# this up and compete within their tribe and cannibalize each other’s progress
• Or the forget about their clients once the contract is signed
• Building a competent, cooperative tribe is even more crucial in today’s world
• We’re living in the biggest technological revolution ever
• From the internet to social media to AR to VR to AI to automation to blockchain – it’s unprecendented
• The future is incredibly unpredictable and you need the right team in place to win
• If you’re smart, you’ll wake up ready to compete, but also ready to cooperate with the right people

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Unfortunately, most guys don’t know how to sell, not because they can’t, but because they haven’t taken the time to learn. Lucky for you I wrote the book on sales which you can pick up here (always selling):

With that said, you don’t need to buy the book to know what not to do in sales. Here are the six biggest sales mistakes and how to avoid them.

The 6 Biggest Sales Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

1) Not Managing Expectations

Managing your client’s expectations is extremely important in sales. The quickest way to lose clients is to overpromise and underdeliver. If your client is unsatisfied, in most cases it’s because you hadn’t properly prepared them.

If you work a sales job, it can be difficult because you’re not in total control of the sales material (another reason to start a business). But in your own business, there are no excuses. Overpromising might make you more money in the short term, but it will cost you in the long term.

You’ll lose what could have been long term recurring revenue. You’ll lose referrals. And most importantly, it will hurt your reputation – not good in today’s online age. Not only is managing expectations ethical, but you’ll make more money in the long run.

2) Not Charging Enough

If you don’t charge enough, you’ll never get financially free, it’s as simple as that. If your business model rests on $30/hour, you’re either in the wrong business, or you’re selling yourself short. You need to be in a business where you’re getting $100/hour at the minimum. Or if it’s not hourly, it’s selling a package that gets you paid, or a service that gets you paid.

You want to be in and industry where you’re at the top of the pack and you charge accordingly. Because it takes the same time and energy to close a $200,000 house as it does a $2,000,000 house.

Some gurus tell you not to sell your time for money. They say put your time into products and passive income, and I get it, I love getting passive income from my products, although it’s not an easy thing to do.

And there is no reason why you can’t do both. I say build a service business first and sell your time for a lot of money. Then you take shots at ecommerce with your monthly profits. Just do the money math to get to where you want to go.

3) Not Putting The Price Up Front

You can’t get paid without your clients knowing your price.

I see a lot of this, especially in online businesses. If someone is interested in your services or products, they want to see prices for what they get.

You want everything about your business to be up-front, especially the price. Not “schedule a strategy call to see if you’re qualified”. When I see this I know I’m getting hard sold, the guy is expensive and probably has a variable rate based on how much money he thinks I have.

Not that there is anything wrong with being expensive, in fact I encourage it (see part 2). But there is a problem with not being transparent and not offering everyone the same price.

Be transparent, let people know what your prices are, if you’re good you’ll get paid.

Look at how Dan Lok does it and he’s expensive, $3,000/hour for his introductory call – right out there in the open.

Or look at how Grant Cardone does it. And that’s at $15,000 for the hour – right out there in the open.

That means you can post your $1,000/month fitness coaching program and people will pay for it, if they believe in you and you have the right offer. You don’t have to worry about them taking your price and going to the next guy. Eventually that guy will have to give his price too.

Better to save your time and be straight up, instead of running through a bunch of “strategy calls” that go nowhere, and your leads get shocked when you drop the price on them.

Same applies in sales. When I worked in sales the guy would always have my price or my media kit (with the prices in it) by the end of the call.

If you don’t believe me, listen to what Grant Cardone has to say about pricing:

4) Not Asking For The Sale

Similar to #3, where you can’t get paid without your clients knowing what your price is, you also can’t get paid without asking for the sale. You don’t have to hard sell, but you do have to ask. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed.

5) Not upselling/crosselling

Similar to asking for the sale, is asking for the upsell. I added 20% to my bottom line when I switched my checkout provider to sendowl which allows for 1 click upsells. Same goes for your clients. The hardest thing to do in business is to get a new client. And that client, assuming they’re happy with your services, is 100 times more likely to buy from you again then a prospect is. Not upselling or cross-selling is just leaving money on the table.

6) Not Asking For Referrals

Lastly again, it’s about asking. It will never hurt to ask a satisfied client for a referral. It can only help you. You can even sweeten the deal with an affiliate commission, and turn them into a salesman for you. Referrals, especially for premium products and services, are some of, if not the best way to get new business.

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When it comes to money, most guys have their priorities backwards. They want to give their money away to wall street or flushing it down the toilet on speculative investments, before they even handle the basics.

The basics are:

1. Getting control of your income and build a money machine
2. Getting your taxes as low as possible
3. Getting control over inflation

Inflation is the expansion of the money supply, which leads to more currency flooding the market, and therefore that currency having less value over time.

The average official “inflation” stats in North America are 3% a year (although some experts estimate it being as high as 10%). This is a massive problem in terms of you winning the money game, although one that many people don’t even recognize.

Let’s say you have $100,000 in savings, using this inflation calculator at 3% per year, at 10 years in the bank, your purchasing power will be reduced to $74,409.39. That’s almost 30% of your wealth being taken from you. And that process only becomes more extreme over time, that’s why your grandmother will tell you that she used to be able to go to the movies for a nickel.

To get rich, you need to get inflation handled. Here are the 3 best ways:

1) Spend money as soon as you get it

This is in contradiction to most of the penny-pinching financial gurus out there, but the truth is, the best way to beat inflation is to spend your money as soon as you get it, that way your purchasing power doesn’t have a chance to erode over time.

Now, I’m obviously not saying spend all your money, I firmly believe in following your budget and saving a good chunk of what you make every month. With that said, spending a portion of what you make now is a good way to get the full value of your dollar.

First you can spend on your monthly expenses, but you can also do things like buying your supplies a year in advance in bulk. Or paying your rent a year in advance. Or paying your bills a quarter or a year in advance.

Not only are you avoiding inflation, but paying bills in advance is a great savings technique, because you know your money is immediately going to productive things instead of racking up your bar tab. Another option is to reinvest that money back in your business, so not only are you beating inflation, you’re utilizing compound interest, see below.

2) Put your money into your high margin business

If you don’t have a business, you need to start one. And if you don’t have a high margin business, you’re in the wrong business. For most guys I recommend a service based business.

As covered in point 1, taking your profit and reinvesting it in your business is an excellent way to beat inflation, especially when you’re in a high ROI business. I’d be hard pressed to think of a better thing to do with your money than reinvesting it back in yourself at a high rate of return.

3) Put Your Money Into An Income producing asset:

Once you’ve maxed out your investment in your business (or ideally businesses), you can beat inflation through investing in income producing assets like bonds. If you can get corporate bonds paying out 5% you’ve beaten inflation buy 2% a year, which doesn’t sound like a whole lot, but it definitely adds up over time.

Another option is real estate. I don’t like it for a number of reasons, especially in the west. Mostly because you need a lot of cash, a lot of time and a lot of sophistication – Grant Cardone is a great example of a guy with all three who has done very well in real estate.

With that said, for guys with more modest cash flows, for $50,000 you can get a nice condo in my part of the world (South East Asia) and AirBNB it out at a premium price. 7% cash flow and more is possible without having to drop a ton of cash or go into debt – easily enough to beat inflation, plus you hedge into a hard asset away from fiat currency (something you don’t get from bonds).

One Last Point

In the 3 above options I’m talking about beating inflation, not hedging. Hedging between gold/usd/euro/crypto or any other currency or asset is not a bet against inflation per say. It’s an important area, especially if you live outside of the country in which currency you get paid in, but it’s not a way to beat inflation. I can by Thai Baht as a hedge against USD, if I think the USD will weaken over time against the Thai Baht (which I do), but that’s a move based on the dollars purchasing power against other currencies and commodities, as opposed to a pure inflation play.

Conclusion

Hopefully you’ve got some good strategies to put into play to beat inflation, just make sure not to get too stressed or overwhelmed, especially if you don’t have much money or a functional business. Just keep the strategies in mind for the future and and them to your financial plan.

If you’re just focused on savings for the next few years, don’t worry about taking that 3% hit a year, it’s not that big of a deal, especially when you’re building up your war chest. Just don’t let it sit for 10 or 20 years where you’re losing 30% to 50% of your purchasing power.

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1) Choosing The Wrong Woman

By far the biggest mistake men make with women… is choosing to get serious with the wrong woman.

From nagging to demanding to bossy to downright toxic – so many men continue to put up with terrible behavior because they don’t know any better. They don’t know that there are sweet, kind women out there because they don’t screen properly.

For many guys, their screening criteria is no better than that “she’s hot” or “I’m getting action” and they put up with all kinds of bulls$!% just to hang on to their unhappy relationship.

The real killer though, is not just dating women who aren’t great people, it’s getting involved with women who are outright toxic. By getting seriously involved with a toxic person, there is no limit to how bad your life can get.

2) Accepting consistent drama as a natural part of relationships

Consistent drama is not a natural part of relationships. You might think it is, because you grew up with an abusive mother, and all your subsequent relationships with women we’re dramatic – but it’s just not the case. Not when you screen for high quality women, restrain your worst emotions, and focus on building happy, healthy relationships. 

Sure some fighting will happen occasionally, but it does not have to happen consistently, and if it does, you’re in a bad relationship. You’d be shocked at how little drama you can have in your life by following the principles outlined in the links above.

3) Starting a family before you can afford It

This applies whether you start a family on purpose or “on accident”. Starting a family before you can afford it means you lower your shot of getting ahead in life dramatically. Not to mention your wife and kids will suffer as compared to you deciding to have a family after you’ve already established yourself. And this is especially true in today’s day and age where the middle class is rapidly dying and you need to get into the 1% to start living well. 

It’s a nasty fact, it’s materialistic, but it’s also the truth.

Here are some guidelines for if you can afford to start a family:

• You’re in your 30’s
• You’ve already built your business
• You’re making six figures or the developing world equivalent
• You have or are working on multiple streams of income

4) Getting Legally Married

Despite what some influencers in the men’s self-improvement movement might want to believe, the 1950’s no longer exist and are not coming back anytime soon. Getting married, buying a house, working a job for life and retiring after 50 years of service is no longer a realistic life plan.

I’m not saying don’t have kids or start a family (because most of you will anyways), I’m saying don’t get the government involved in redistributing your assets – and there is a coin flip’s chance of that happening. Because you’re not going to end up on the right side of family court. You’ll end up broke at 50 in a studio apartment paying alimony for the rest of your life.

Now, there are, I’m sure a lot of happy marriages, and it helps if you have your SMV, game and relationship management skills together. But at the end of the day, of those 50% of divorces, 70% are initiated by women. As No matter how good your game is, or how good a father you are, you do not control the outcome (see point 7) !

If you want to go the lifetime monogamy route, just make sure you’ve done your homework. And if you’re planning on having a family as well, make sure you do everything possible to protect your assets in case of a divorce. From how you incorporate your company, to filing taxes, to separate bank accounts, to signing a cohabitation agreement, to asset distribution – be as prepared as humanly possible, because the courts are not in your favor.

5) Assuming your relationship will last forever

Nothing lasts forever, best case scenario, you live long and happy with your sweetheart, you have passion and sex all the way through, and death does you part within days of each other.

It’s possible, but more likely is that most of your relationships will end. If your relationship is going well, and you have a bright future, obviously looking at the positive side of things is the right move. With that said, banking your whole life on a relationship can be a dangerous move, you should always have other things in your life going on and be aware of how healthy your relationship is.

Too many guys don’t pay attention to signals and get “blindsided out of nowhere”. Instead do your best to keep a good relationship going, until it’s not good anymore, then don’t be afraid to put a bullet in it (even if it hurts).

6) Sacrificing your position

Despite what some people might tell you…

The fact is, most women only love up.

Women screen for taller, stronger, more money, smarter, older, higher status and higher rank in the relationship. This is why you want to maintain your position as a leader. I’m not saying be a tyrant, but the ideal relationship is one where you’re the leader – with a woman who is agreeable and looking for a man like you, if you don’t create that releationship you’ll have problems because she will be pushing hard for your position.

That’s why, if you’re a TYPE A personality, it’s better to leave TYPE A women to other guys instead of trying to force a round peg into a square hole. To alpha personalities only leads to fighting. Much better to find someone who is agreeable and looking for a man to take on a leadership position in the relationship.

7) Thinking You’re Above The Game

Pride comes before the fall. No matter how good you are at attracting women, how good your relationship game is, and how good you are in bed – the rules of the game always apply. Thinking that “you got this” or that the rules don’t apply to you anymore is setting yourself up to get smoked. There is a game with women, just like there is a financial game, a health game and a lifestyle game – and when you break the rules, you pay for it.

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The most important thing, when it comes to diet, is not the label, be it vegan, paleo, or any other identity-based diet. It’s avoiding foods you can’t digest properly, also known as food allergies. And this is something that only gets worse with age – when I slip up on my diet, I feel it.

Some common symptoms of food allergies are stomach aches, diarrhea, inflammation, leaky gut, IBS, skin problems and even mood disorders.

As the years have passed my gut has gotten progressively worse as well as the way my body reacts to sugar and carbs, and avoiding foods I’m allergic too has become a necessity. Not because I want to (foods I’m allergic to are my favorites), but because I have to, to be functional.

A good way to figure out what you’re allergic to is to understand FODMAPs (Fermentable, Oligo-, Di-, Mono-saccharides And Polyols”), which in layman’s terms means short chain carbohydrates that are poorly absorbed by the small intestine.

Some common FODMAPS are:

– Most fruits
– Onions and garlic (and any sauces made with onions and garlic
– Dairy: anything with lactose or containing dairy
– Gluten: this includes bread, cookies, pasta, pastries and cereals
– Nuts
– Beans
– Coconut

Some Non-FODMAP Allergens are:

– Caffeine
– Alcohol (especially beer due to gluten)

*deep fried foods

I have problems with all the above. Not all of these will affect you, but it’s important to know which ones do and to avoid them. For example you might be able to eat nuts without a problem but garlic hurts your gut. Or vice versa. The way to find out which foods you can tolerate, and which ones you can’t, is with a basic elimination test. That means starting with a FODMAP free diet, building up from there, and monitoring for any allergic reactions.

The simplest FODMAP free diet is:

– Chicken breast (organic if possible with minimal seasoning)
– Beef (organic if possible with minimal seasoning)
– Fish (organic if possible with minimal seasoning)
– Rice (brown rice if you can)
– Potatoes (not french fries)
– Vegetables
– No alcohol or caffeine

When I follow the above diet I feel terrific. When I follow the above and cheat occasionally I feel good. But when I cheat a lot – NOT GOOD.

If you struggle with eating healthy, at least aim to eat healthy during the day so that you can have energy to take care of business and cheat at night. Chicken breast and rice or steak and potatoes is the perfect lunch to give you energy for the rest of the day.

If you want to get even healthier than limit your potatoes and rice to keep from overloading on carbs and have your blood sugar stay nice and even.

As for caffeine and alcohol, I’ve quit both at various times. My life is better with caffeine for now, but it looks like alcohol is no longer a plus as it starts to take more of a toll on my body. I will probably be phasing it out completely.

As for vegetables, you can’t eat enough in terms of health. With that said, if you’re not getting enough, you can always take a concentrated superfoods greens powder every morning, with a superpowered multivitamin like I do.

Lastly it’s a good idea to avoid foods that have been deep fried, yes barbecue chicken is better than baked, and french fries are better than potatoes, but foods that have been fried in dirty oils aren’t good for your gut either and will slow you down and possibly cause problems with your gut.

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So let’s assume you’re in the right relationship for you, you’re a leader in the relationship and you’ve found a girlfriend who is agreeable and easy going.  This is the ideal relationship because women screen for RANK. Height, strength, confidence, posture, assertiveness, money and status are all major factors in a woman’s screening criteria for relationships. And as men we tend to value gentler, kinder qualities – having that polarity will make the relationship much easier on both of – as opposed to 2 TYPE A people fighting for dominance. \

With that said you don’t want to be a dictator or domineering, being too “alpha” will hurt you more than it helps you. The key is balance. Yes, many women want a strong, confident, man to lead them, but they also want someone who understands their feminine needs. In the real world, you can lose a girl just as easily by being too “alpha” or strong vs being too “beta” or weak.

The ideal balance is 70% strength, 30% softness. And I can tell you from personal experience, that time and time again women have told me that what they liked most about me was my kind heart. Of course they were only able to appreciate that because of my sexual market value but nonetheless, it’s important.

In the past I didn’t understand this. I wanted things to be my way or the highway (and still do to be honest). But I now recognize that If I want to be in a relationship there is a price to pay (just like everything else in life). Just like I know I’m expected to do certain things in business, I know I’m expected to do certain things in a relationship and I accept that price.

Check out the video/audio to see the relationship analysis you need to do, as well as the key tactics. Also, make sure to check out the bullet point summary below and the related resources.

How To Have Better Relationships

Notes And Summary

Relationship Analysis

1. Value Relationships – sit down, needs met, quality woman, mostly happy, future potential – this is rare, when you don’t value your relationship, you will end up tanking it, put in work like you do for your business
2. Consider Your Downside – 6 month state drop, 3 years to replace if ever, future plans derailed, rebuilding what you invested
3. No Neutral – You’re either going up or down, fighting +, sex -, beginning of end, change course up to survive, relate to above

Tactics (Still doing all from masculine frame within reason)

1. Make Your Relationship A Priority: 8 hours of business a day, give her at least a few quality hours a day (think loss)
2. Fresh Start: elicit more her values, ask for hers, re commit to being better than ever, ask for the same from her
3. Express Your Emotions More: when you feel them, in rich descriptions, very powerful
4. Commit to tantric/karezza sex: its the only thing can save you from the coolidge effect
5. Stay Reasonable:  address problems without raising your voice, solution oriented
6. Use Sedona Method: use release technique on anger, pointless fights, lose/lose situations (just release)
7. Schedule Kind Things: schedule nice things twice a week – dates, new restaurants, little gifts, thoughtful, just dont tell her, make occasional, and make it look spontaneous

Related Resources

• How To Have Healthy Relationships With Women Part 1
• How To Have Healthy Relationships With Women Part 2
• How To Have Healthy Relationships With Women Part 3
• How To Develop Your Dating Gameplan Part 4: Your Relationship Gameplan/Casual Sex Vs. Polyamory Vs. Monogamy Vs. Pros Vs. Celibacy
• How To Develop Your Dating Gameplan Part 5: Gameplan Models, My Gameplan, Conclusion

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The average unknown author with no brand behind them doesn’t have a chance. I didn’t realize how bad the situation was until I looked into how much other guys we’re making on Kindle when I was considering moving my products over there. Needless to say I didn’t do it. I want you to understand what the reality of making money on Kindle really looks like (and it’s not pretty).

Check the video/audio below to learn:

• Why the vast majority of authors make next to nothing on kindle
• What other guys are making on there
• Why most kindle “moneymaking systems” are not ethical and usually not profitable
• Exceptions to the rule
• Using kindle as a lead gen
• My thoughts on the future of ebooks and infoproducts

Also check out the related resources to see better ways to make money

Related Resources

• How To Sell
• How To Start A Service Business
• 31 Service Based Business Ideas
• How To Build A Coaching Business
• How To Make Money Online (What Actually Works, Not Internet Marketing BS)

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Unfortunately, as we get older, holding water weight becomes more of a problem because our kidneys aren’t as efficient as they used to be and therefore diet becomes a much bigger issue.

I’ve noticed a major difference in the last few years on how food affects me, and you might have as well if you’re watching my videos after I had pizza the night before. Or if you could see me now, on my yearly visa run in Vientiane, where I’m living on nothing but chicken baguettes and Beer Laos Dark (and loving it).

Fortuntately, when you know what you’re doing, you can get bloating under control. To the point where I’ll notice being 3 – 5 lbs. lighter when I focus on water weight. But that’s nothing compared to the elite level cutters, UFC athletes, where guys will cut as much as 20 to 30 lbs. of water weight leading up to a fight.

How To Cut Water Weight

1) Cut Down On Sodium

Best is no salt, better is less salt, but even if you get your cheat meals down to 3 times a week you’ll notice a big improvement. Salt makes water stick to you like glue

2) Eat Less Carbs

Carbohydrates, as the name says, are made up primarily of water. The more carbs you eat, the more water you’re ingesting.

3) Drink Less Water

Similar to point two, although this one should be obvious – if you want to hold less water weight, drink less water. There is a lot of advice today, especially in the fitness community on drinking tons of water, but I think this is a mistake. I think drinking when you’re thirsty or just enough to keep your urine clear is ideal.

At one point I was drinking 2+ liters a day and was more bloated, felt more pressure on my joints (especially my knees), and was going to the bathroom every hour.

4) Cardio (Steam Room)

Now, let’s say you ignored the above three points and cheated on your diet. A good way to get rid of water weigh that day is to go in and do a solid 20 to 45 minutes on the elliptical (yes it’s a girly machine bu tit’s better for your knees). You’ll sweat off a solid amount of weight from a good cardio session.

You can also hop in your gym’s steam room afterwards if you want to take it to the next level (steam room > sauna which is hard on your nose and throat).

5) Don’t lie down before you go out or have to be in front of a camera

Not directly related to water weight after lying down for a few hours or more, the blood pools in your face making you look more bloated. I notice it for about 20 minutes after I get, especially in the mornings. Obviously you have to lie down, but I would avoid lying down before you have to be on camera or in a photo

6) Get lean

The less body fat you have the leaner you’re going to look. If you want to look less bloated, getting your body weight down will make a major difference. I think a six pack is overrated, but getting down to a flat stomach will make a big difference.

7) Get your Estrogen Under Control

Estrogen has a major impact on how much water you hold, the more your estrogen spikes the more water you hold. This is something a lot of guys on TRT (myself included) notice. It’s something you’ll also see on guys doing their first test cycle, without the proper AI dose, where they’re walking around with a moon face.

Another major negative factor in terms of estrogen control are DHT inhibitors (used to control male pattern baldness). And not just finasteride, this applies to RU58841 and possibly nizoral.

While lowering DHT is great for your hairline, its not good for your estrogen profile. And this includes not just finasterid but RU58841 and possibly nizoral. Having been on TRT and using RU58841 on my research subject SWIM needed to use a ton of AI. After having dropped RU58841 (from use on my research subject) SWIM needs no AI.

8) Stay away from minoxidil

Minoxidil, another hair loss drug will help your hairline, but is also known to make your face hold water. I’ve been off it now for a few months and have noticed a difference in how lean my face looks.

Conclusion

Follow the 8 steps above and I’ll guarantee you’ll look a lot leaner in as soon as a few days. Lastly, I’ve tried dandelion root and most of the good natural, water pills and they don’t do much for me so I wouldn’t recommend them. I’ve heard the hardcore drugs and laxatives that bodybuilders use get great results, but they’re super unhealthy and wouldn’t recommend those either.

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An open mind can be useful when analyzing a concept or reevaluating a belief. But business is not a philosophical exercise, it’s a battlefield. So is success in any other goal you want to pursue. To be succesful means you have to pick the right business and attack it with a CLOSED mind. Because a closed mind is a certain mind.

Sure you can pivot and analyze and monitor, but the core of what you’re doing in any major endeavor, has to come from that closed minded tunnel vision towards your success and greatness.

To see how to use tunnel vision to succeed, check out the video and audio below. Also make sure to check out the related resources.

Related Resources

• Be Obsessed Or Be Average
• How To Succeed By Mastering Momentum
• How You Need To Think About Success: The Most Game Changing Mindset There Is
• What It Really Takes To Build A Business
• How To Be A Winner
• How To Get Your Life Together
• The Secret To Success
• Motivation Is Not Enough
• Use The Pain To Push You To Greatness
• How To Fight Fear, Anxiety, Worry And Stress

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But for succesful people work/life balance is a myth.

At least not until you’ve accomplished your mission.

When you’ve built a thriving business and attained financial freedom for you and your family…

You can do whatever you want.

But until then you need to become obsessed with your mission and obsessed with success.

Because if you don’t get obsessed you’ll never be better than average.

Check out the video, audio and related resources below to see why obsession is everything.

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We’re in uncharted territory here, and to be able to survive and thrive, you need to make getting rich part of your mission in life. Check out the video and audio below to see why I think getting paid has to be your top priority as well as the related resources for the tools you need to get your money up.

Related Resources

• How To Sell
• How To Start A Service Based Business: A Step-By-Step, No-Bullsh*t, Ultra-Practical Guide
• How To Do Money Math

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Related Resources

• How To Build A Service Based Business
• How To Sell (The Definitive Guide To Getting Hired, Surviving, Thriving And Getting Out Of Sales)
• How To Plan Your Financial Future: Income, Savings, Credit, Cash, Currencies, Passports, Housing, Etc.
• 31 Six Figure Service Businesses To Start
• How To Make Money Online Part 1: Selling A Service
• How To Make Money Online Part 2: Selling A Product (Blogging, Dropshipping, Amazon FBA)
• How To Make Money Online Part 3: Traffic, Price, Conversion Rates, Promotion, Affiliate Marketing

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I know this is serious stuff but I truly believe the video, audio and recommended resources below will allow you to make massive positive changes in your life.

Recommended Articles And Videos

• How To Fight Depression
• How To Use Affirmations
• How To Live With Less Regrets
• How To Change Your Mental State By Changing Your Physical State
• How To Reframe Your Negative Thoughts
• How To Handle Your Insecurities
• How To Fight Fear, Anxiety, Worry And Stress
• How To Live Better By Solving Your Recurring Problems
• How To Be Happier
• How To Be Happier By Living For Yourself (How To Stop Your Social Identity From Strangling You)
• How To Change Your Life: The Three Things That Actually Work
• How To Create A Positive Identity
• How To Defend Yourself Against Your Demons

Recommended Books

• Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It
• Hardcore Happiness
• The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook For Depression

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Check out the video and audio below to see exactly what it is, why it’s important, and how to structure your life around better decisions:

Additional Resources

• How To Make Better Decisions By Thinking Like An Investor
• How To Stay Out Of Trouble In Your Twenties

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I also give you the exception to the rule (not permission) but who might be OK to experiment in moderation.

Check out the full video and audio here:

Additional Resources

• How To Quit Anything

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First off, I want to seperate Blockchain and Cryptocurrencies. Blockchain is an incredible technology, it’s insanely disruptive and will continue to be. I see Blockchain being implemented across many industries like land titles, healthcare, finance, banking and many others. Heavyweights like Mark Cuban and Richard Branson also agree.

With that said, Bitcoin and Cryptocurrencies, although they rely on Blockchain tech, are completely different animals on which I have mixed views.

 My Thoughts On Bitcoin And Cryptocurrencies

Bitcoin Pros

• Bitcoin is innovative, disruptive and interesting tech
• Bitcoin is massive with a market cap of $162 Billion, equal to General Electric
• Virtual currencies delivered an insane return in 2017 of 1620%
• Crypto has more anonymity than owning traditional currency
• Better protection against hackers at least the cryptocurrency, especially if you hold in an offline wallet
• Useful for buying things online that you want to order anonymously
• Also useful because you don’t have to worry about credit card info being compromised
• For the super smart, with a big rig, mining bitcoin is an option, one you don’t have with currency
• Mining is also an ingenious way of controlling the supply of the currency/rarity
• Bitcoin can be used as a hedge against corrections or collapse of traditional currencies
• Unregulated without gov’t interference (I’ve also listed this as a con below)

Bitcoin Cons

• Limited as a means of exchange to certain places online (at least for now)
• Limited data as compared to 200 years of USD data and longer for GBP and gold
• Not backed by gov’t power, might be positive to some, but no one is enforcing it’s use
• Might not exists 30 years from now, USD and GBP almost certainly will
• Unregulated without gov’t protection
• We don’t know who created it although there are many theories
• If you’ve done your homework you know who owns the central banks and how they operate
• More anonymous than a bank, but I don’t believe in total anonymity online
• Not as anti establishment as believed: Bill Gates and other heavyweights support it
• Not immune to hacks, Mt. Gox hack, $450 mil in bitcoin lost and likely stolen

Bitcoin As A Trade

• As an ex pro trader, I def do not recommend active trading (gambling) in any shape or form
• I made a lot of money trading but it didn’t last and I was lucky
• We also had lightning fast execution, supercheap trades, and arbitrage opportunities
• None of those opportunities exist anymore, cowboy traders have been replaced by algo traders
• Actively trading your own account as an amateur is a disaster waiting to happen
• And please, please do not buy some scumbag’s scam Bitcoin trading system
• Even as a longer term trade, it’s still a NO for me on Bitcoin
• You have only a few years of technical chart data to play with
• No idea of the longer term ranges and patterns (as opposed to 100+ years of S&P data)
• You also have no fundamentals to play off of (Earnings reports, inflation, news on stock etc.)
• I definitely don’t recommend trading (gambling) Bitcoin or trading anything

Bitcoin as an investment

• Warren Buffett says “You can’t value bitcoin, because it’s not a value-producing asset.” and I agree
• At least in the traditional value investment model (Buffett/Munger/Ben Graham)
• It also doesn’t have a moat, or protection leaving it ripe for competitors
• As of now there are 2,000 cryptocurrencies including Ethereum and Litecoin
• Just because Bitcoin was first, doesn’t mean it will exist 10 years from
• Broadcast.com made Mark Cuban a billionaire, 17 years later it doesn’t exist
• You can look to the internet tech bubble to see 1000 of other non existent companies
• Whereas as a company like Facebook, which launched well after the boom, became dominant
• With that said, as a speculative buy and hold it’s an option, just not one that I like
• The idea is investing on the idea of bitcoin as a future means of exchange
• With that said, without chart patterns stretching back 100 years, you’re shooting in the dark
• At least with the tech bubble you had 100 years of data to go off off
• And you know that Equities/S&P crash every 8 to 15 years
• With Bitcoin you’ve got 5 years
• And at 10K a coin, buying the top of the market will hurt you
• Without chart patterns going back 100 years, its so hard to see if you’re not buying in at the top
• You could do a small buyin and dollar cost avearge in for the next 30 years but I still don’t like it
• With an index fund this is a move (although not my favorite)
• But that’s because you know the S&P will be here 30 years from now
• Because the index is based on the top 500 companies that produce real, tangible wealth
• Bitcoin could easily be delisted or regulated to death a decade from now