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2011-12-28T06:08:00.000-08:00

How To Get Out Of Any Conversation

We've all been there: trapped in a seemingly neverending conversation with no obvious way out. How do you escape without hurting the other person's feelings. Never fear — whether you're at a party, on the phone, or stuck in an email chain, we have exit strategies for you.

Focus on your conversation partner.

This may not be the advice you want to hear when someone's been talking your ear off for twenty minutes about his cat's dental problems. But really, the only reason it's stressful to get out of situations like these is that you don't want to make your (long-winded) conversation partner upset. I spoke to Ann Marie Sabath, author of Business Etiquette: 101 Ways to Conduct Business with Charm and Savvy, who says the key to avoiding this is to "focus on the other person." Don't just say "I need to get to a 2:00 meeting" — instead, "Say something the other person mentioned during your encounter like 'Joe, I hope your son's soccer game goes well.'" Bringing the attention back to the other person can let them know you were listening to them, not just looking for a way out. I also talked to Jacqueline Whitmore, founder of EtiquetteExpert.com and author of the upcoming Poised for Success: Mastering the Four Qualities That Distinguish Outstanding Professionals, who puts this a bit differently: "you have to engage before you disengage." Let the person know that you're interested in them and what they have to say before you take off.

Take control.

Whitmore says,

There's something called a conversational rambler, somebody who will just go on and on if you allow him or her to. If you have a conversation with someone like that, you have to take control — otherwise you're going to zone out, and that person's going to keep talking. One of my suggestions is, take control of the situation by asking that person a question, and then that person will answer the question, and then you conclude.

If you control the flow of conversation, you have more influence over when it ends. And you can bring it to a natural close without suddenly interrupting someone.

Prepare in advance.

If you're on the phone, and you know you don't have much time, Whitmore advocates stating that up front, "letting them know what your timeframe is." That way when you have to leave after ten minutes, you're not being a jerk — you already let them know this was going to happen. This strategy could also work, with some modification, at a party — "I'm on my way out, but I just wanted to say hi." Warning: do not use this method if you are not actually on your way out, because then the person will see you chatting with others and be annoyed.

Use subterfuge tactics.

Kat Griffin, founding editor of Corporette.com, advocates a little harmless "subterfuge" to get out of seemingly endless conversations. Going to get another drink is an oldie, but also a goodie — nobody can begrudge you for getting more refreshments. Just remember that if you promise to bring someone else back something, you should actually do it. Griffin says you can also say something like, "if you'll excuse me, I've got to go to talk to Bob — I want to make sure I catch him before he leaves tonight." This one is more believable if it looks like Bob might actually leave soon, and less so if everybody just got there. Griffin also has an innovative technique for dealing with chatty coworkers:

Print something that you don't need to print, and say, "I've got to get this thing printed, come with me down the hallway." At least then you can get them out of your office and out of your space. And then once you get to the printer with them, linger. Don't head back to your office, head to ladies' room, head to kitchen. Don't go back to your office where it can be comfy and it's just the two of you talking, and he or she can go on and on for hours.

The double-edged sword of "I'm going to let you go."

Whitmore offers this as a possible way of putting a graceful end to a phone call:

You could say something like, "I want to respect your time and I notice that I have another appointment in a few minutes, could I answer this question and then we take this call another time." You want to make it sound like you're the one who's being mindful of the other person's time, not that that person is wasting your time.

In my experience, this one can work well if you're sincere about it. "I know you're really busy, so let's catch up again soon," can sound good if the person actually is really busy, or if you're both in a time-crunch situation. It works less well if you're just chatting with a friend and then they suddenly say they're going to "let you go." That can sound condescending and a bit transparent. In general, sounding like you're being mindful of the other person's time works best when you actually are.

Be direct over email.

Griffin's advice for avoiding endless email chains is simple: "the more abrupt and direct you are the less a reply is necessary." She advocates the following, especially if you're emailing a work subordinate: "just thanks and then period, stop asking questions, stop pondering what could be done, don't even sign it." In general, Whitmore and Griffin agree that you don't need to reply to a thank-you. And if a group email chain becomes too long and lacking in substance, Griffin says you should feel free to ignore it. You can always ask somebody to bring you up to speed later if you need to.

Schedule another time to talk.

If a coworker is talking to you when you don't have the time, Griffin suggests the following:

What I've always found to be helpful is to Say, "I really want to hear this but I've got so much work to do, let's grab a drink after work," or "let's get a manicure later on this afternoon." Show that you're interested and you want to be her friend but that now is not the time.

Similarly, if you need to leave a party, "I've got to go, but let's hang out soon" is a time-honored exit strategy. A caveat: empty plans to hang out later are pretty transparent. If you actually don't want to pick up the conversation at a later date, don't suggest this. However, if you'd like to talk more, but just not right now, making plans for later on can be a way of reassuring people that you're not just blowing them off. And then you can resume at a time when talking is fun for you, not stressful.

Weird World :Dead Mother Spams Kids From Beyond the Grave

2011-12-28T06:05:00.000-08:00

Dead Mother Spams Kids From Beyond the Grave

In what may be the first case of tragic e-mail spam, a family keeps receiving spam emails from their dead mother's email account. From wtsp.com:

The emails started about two months ago, almost two years to the day after Cassie Woods' mom died of nearly untreatable scleroderma. Woods' heard a beep on her phone in September and looked down and saw it was from her mom's email account. "My mom was my best friend," she says through tears.

The emails kept coming to everyone in Paula Case's address book. A hacker had hijacked her account. "I don't think it's fair that me and my sisters have to suffer seeing an email from my mom that's not even here," Woods says weeping.

The family has tried to get Yahoo to deactivate her account, to no avail. This has been a with Facebook for years—the site sometimes cruelly reminds users to "keep up" with friends who have died. But in this case, seems like it would be pretty easy to adjust the spam filter.

2011-12-28T06:03:00.000-08:00

See How Many People Replied to Your Emails This Year

ToutApp's got an interesting year-end tool that scans your Gmail account and gives you a year-end inventory of stuff that's happened in your account. Among the useful things they provide are total emails sent/received, what percentage of your emails got replied to and what percentage do you reply to emails.

ToutApp also gives stats like your top 10 most contacted people, and arranges all your contacts into 3 different circles in order of closeness. It's free, so if you're at all curious about your email habits, give it a shot.

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2011-12-28T06:01:00.000-08:00

DIY Honey Sticks Add a Little Sweetness to Any Holiday Drink

If you're planning a New Year's Party or just serving up tea or hot toddies to your friends in the cold weather, a little sweetness is in order. You can add a little visual interest and a little sweetness to those drinks by making your own flavored honey sticks, and all you need are some colored straws, the honey, and flavored extracts. In a few minutes, you'll have flavored honey sticks that you can use for grown-up and kid beverages alike.

The method is pretty simple—you'll need a bendy straw to do it, and you can just trim off the bendy part and put the open end into the jar of honey or up to the jar's pour spout. If you have a narrow funnel that can pour into the straw body, that will work too. Just fill the straw about 4/5 of the way with honey, and then use a dropper to add a few drops of the flavored extract you want, whether it's lemon, vanilla, almond, peppermint, or anything else you want to try.

The folks at Serious Eats suggest leaving one end taped shut and the other end open, so you can put the sticks into a container tape-end down and your guests can turn them over and squeeze the honey out, but you could seal both ends of the straw with some parchment paper or freezer paper and a quick hit on either end with an iron. That way they're more like the honey sticks you would get in a store, and they'll keep much longer. Then your kids or guests can grab a flavor they like, add it to their tea or drink, and enjoy. Have a better way to make the sticks? Let's hear it in the comments below.

Most Popular Android Apps and Posts

2011-12-28T05:58:00.000-08:00

2011 was a great year for Android fans, with lots of new and improved apps and the sweet introduction of Ice Cream Sandwich. Here are the most popular Android-related posts and downloads.

The Always Up-To-Date Guide to Rooting Any Android Phone

With all the different devices out there running different versions of Android, the rooting process can be a little different for every phone. Here's a one-stop guide that should get you up and running with root access, no matter what device you have.

The 10 Best Android Apps that Make Rooting Your Phone Worth the Hassle

Android phones are spectacular little devices because they're able to so much that others simply can't, but one big snag in that greatness is that many of those best features require that the phones be rooted.

Top 10 Awesome Android Features that the iPhone Doesn't Have

We love both Android and iOS, but the open nature of Android just means it can do things others just can't. Here are our favorite Android apps and features that you won't find on its Apple-clad brethren.

How to Get Better Battery Life from Your Android Phone

If you have a modern Android phone, you know the pain of turning on your phone at 5 PM only to realize it's deep in a low-battery coma. Here are the simple manual changes, and clever automatic tweaks, that will keep your phone awake and useful for far longer.

Lifehacker Pack for Android: Our List of the Best Android Apps

Whether you're an faithful Android user or you've just unboxed your first Android phone, there's a wealth of free and cheap apps in the Android Market that can turn your device into a mobile powerhouse.

Five Ways the Android-Powered Google Tablet Is Better than the iPad

The iPad is easily the best tablet you can buy right now, but that's changing. Google showed off their upcoming tablets today, casting a spotlight on the iPad's shortcomings.

The Best Music Player Application for Android

Android has no shortage of great music apps, but if you're looking for something that'll play nearly any local file, has a powerful equalizer, a handy tag editor, and tons of customization options, look no further than PowerAMP. More »

Supercharge Your Smartphone This Weekend

Got an Android or iPhone? Want to do more with it? Here are a bunch of little things you can do this weekend to supercharge your smartphone so it can do almost anything you want. More »

How to Pick Your Next Android Phone: The Specs That Matter (and the Ones That Don't)

Manufacturers are constantly popping out new Android phones, and it can all be a bit overwhelming when it comes time to buy a new phone. Here's how to avoid getting overwhelmed and narrow down your buying decisions. More »

First Look at the Highly Polished Android 4.0, "Ice Cream Sandwich" [Updated with Video]

Google just unveiled their new Nexus phone, the Galaxy Nexus, along with a preview of Android 4.0 Ice Cream Sandwich, coming to phones next year. Here's a look at the creamy new update to the Android operating system. More »

Top 10 Ways to Save Money with Your Smartphone

Your smartphone might be an expensive pocket computer, but it can help make up for its high price tag by cutting costs in other ways. Here are our top 10 ways to save money with your smartphone.
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Our Biggest Android Annoyances and How to Fix Them

We asked, and, boy, do our readers have some issues with their Android phones. Here's a few of the biggest sticking points, how to fix them, and a few tiny-but-aggravating issues our commenters figured out on their own.

Set Up and Get to Know Your New Android Phone

Sweet robotic joy-you just unwrapped an Android phone and, man, is it shiny. Here are our suggestions for apps to grab, settings to tweak, and really nifty things you can do with your Google-powered mini-computer.

How to Replace Your Wallet with Your Phone

If you like your wallet, by all means, hold onto it. But if you'd like to travel lighter and worry about one less thing to remember, you can put replace most of your wallet's functionality with your phone.

How to Find the Right Android Keyboard for You

Compared to your full-sized desktop keyboard, typing on your phone's tiny software keyboard just plain sucks. Luckily, Android users can choose from a myriad of different keyboards, meaning you can find one that caters to your typing style. More »

The Best Video Player for Android

Android has more than a few good video players on the Market, but the best we found-in terms of interface, browsing, and playback quality-was undoubtedly MoboPlayer.

So there you have it. It's been a great year for Android, so we've had a lot to write about. Whether your favorite of the year made the list or not, we'd love to hear about your favorite Android post or app in the comments. Happy end of 2011, Android users!

iOS:Project Management Tool Asana Unveils iPhone App for Collaboration on the Go

2011-12-28T05:55:00.000-08:00

iOS: Previously mentioned collaboration tool Asana made waves when it launched, but at the time it was missing support for mobile devices. Now, anyone with an iOS device can log in to their Asana account on the go, check in on their projects and activities, comment on tasks, and more.

When Asana launched, one of the features many people wanted was some way to access their accounts and to-dos on the go. The developers heard those pleas, and the new Asana iPhone app allows you to see your projects, upcoming to-dos, repeating tasks, and other items in the same, multi-layered view that makes the webapp popular. You can mark items as complete, comment on items, and while you can create tasks, they automatically get assigned to you, and you can change them on the web later. You can't reassign tasks in the mobile app either, but the developers note that they're working hard on the app, and right now they just wanted to give iPhone users a way to get into their accounts on the go.

Asana has updated several times since we looked at it last, so if you haven't tried it recently, it may be worth another look, specially if you have an iPhone or iPad and want to keep up with your to-dos on the go. The app is free in the iTunes App Store.

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