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When we think of releasing–oftentimes it is about releasing the past, releasing limiting beliefs–essentially letting go of something negative.

But what about releasing something inside of us that needs to be brought forward and expressed?  One definition of “releasing” is to “set free from confinement or bondage.”  Is your own Inner Greatness being held back and confined–being held in bondage?

Here are some symptoms that you may have that reflect you ARE holding your Inner Greatness back:

• You feel very stuck and frustrated
• You yearn for something much more in your life–something grander than what you are experiencing (you are yearning for expression of your Greatness)
• You have self-doubt and question your capabilities (this means you’re not seeing your Greatness)
• You are having problems with abundance–not enough money flowing to you (when you fully express your Greatness–abundance is a natural consequence)
• You are getting jealous of others who are fully expressing their Greatness
• You don’t take action in alignment with your Greatness–ie You hide out and play small

If you catch yourself doing some or all of the above you need to put yourself on a “Greatness Alert” and do the following.

Tips to Release Your Greatness

1.      Trust that because you exist–you have this Greatness within you–no one is exempt from this–no one!  Look in the mirror and say “I came from Greatness (the Divine) and I have that very same Greatness(spark of the Divine) within me”

2.      Let your Greatness flow through you unrestricted by your Self-Judgment.  Let go of any self-judgment–it will hold back the free flow of your Greatness.

3.      Just because others hold themselves back doesn’t mean you have to.  Many people hold back their Greatness and get so disconnected from it they don’t even believe it is even there.  By you connecting with your Greatness you will inspire them to do the same.

4.      Take Action that is in Alignment with your Greatness. Ask if I were fully connected with my Greatness right now–what decision would I make here–what would I do?

5.      Consciously Cultivate your Connection with the larger Greatness (the Divine) that is Supporting you to Express your Greatness.  The Divine, the Universe is on your side–wanting you to express your Greatness Full out–expressing your Love, Your Creativity and Your Joy.  Close your eyes and feel this loving support with you RIGHT NOW.

By feeling this loving support from the Divine–it will give you the courage to step into the Greatness that you were meant to express and be!

I was always looking outside of myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within.  It is there all the time.” Anna Freud

One of the most common issues I work with in my work with clients is Self-Worth.  Many people are unable to see the true magnificence of who they really are. 

They are blind to it because of distorted perceptions they have of themselves.  It is like they are looking at themselves through a clouded, dirty window that is distorted–and when they look through this window they believe these distortions are really true.

What a relief for them when they find out this is what they have been doing!  Clearing away these distortions—like scrubbing the window clean—reveals the truth—that what is on the other side of the window–is their beautiful Authentic Self—Radiant, Loving, Joyful, Creative, Compassionate, Fun and Sparkly.

You may be reading this—thinking– Is that  really me—all of those things.  Yes–absolutely.  You may think–”Well I don’t feel so Joyful—or Sparkly.”  And yes, that might be true–because you may be operating in old patterns of your Conditioned Self which will block your experience of your Joy, Your Sparkly energy. 

But the good news is the Joy is always there, the Sparkly energy is always there—it never goes away.  It is like the Sun beaming brightly on the other side of the passing clouds it is Constant, Bright and nothing can ever take it away.

So see if you can tune into this energy of your Authentic Self right now.  Drop below your worries, fears, self-doubt, irritation and begin to feel the Love, the Joy, and the Excitement of your Authentic Self—that just wants to be, to Love, to Express and Have lots of FUN.

I would love to hear from you what happens when you do this.  You can post your answer below.

Here is Nessa and I on Pebble Beach in Sister Bay. It has these real beautiful stones and rocks that are so smooth. I loved taking them and rubbing them on my face–they were so soft and smooth.

Here is Nessa holding some of the stones in her hand.

This was our view from the beach. Look at how blue the water is!

Here is Nessa doing the Tree Pose on a flat rock that was on the beach–she is quite a talented woman:)

Niyo came with us that day—here he is on our walk in Peninsula State Park in Fish Creek. He LOVES this place.

We ended our day with dinner at the Chef’s Hat in Ephriam, WI–which had a window overlooking the water. We had a great waiter—and despite having some mishaps with our meal—we had a great time with him–he was very sweet.

What would you do if you were not afraid?  What risks would you take in your life?  What would it look like to take a leap in your life?  Many of us spend most of our time creating what we think of as safety and security in our life—having a job that pays well, having a home, saving for the future, keeping our relationships the same etc.  Essentially establishing and maintaining the status quo. 

Now there is nothing wrong with this except that many people tend to error on the side of not knowing when it is time to make a change—when it is time to take a leap.  You see we are expansive Spirits who are here to grow, learn and express our full potential.  These signals that our Spirit wants to grow are very subtle and can be easily covered over by the voice of what we “should” be doing in our life.  When this happens it can lead to problems in our lives.

Here are some Signals that you may need to take a leap in your life:

1.   The biggest Signal is that you feel stuck and stagnant.  Because we are meant to grow and expand when we stop this expansion we will feel the energy inside of us start to get “stuck”.

2.   You tend to worry a lot. There is a lot of creative energy that wants to move within you and create—if you stop this energy from creating it has nowhere to go but into another activity like worry.  So stop worrying and start creating!

3.   You are over focused on other people and their problems. Because you don’t have a compelling leap you are making in your life you have no focal point for your energy—so you can get easily distracted by other people’s problems.  If you find yourself repeatedly caught about in other people’s issues—it is a signal you need to take leap in your own life.

4.   You feel depressed.  There is passion and dreams within you that long to be felt and expressed.  If you put a lid on these—you hold this energy back and you will feel depressed.

5.   You are jealous of other people and what they are doing in their own lives. This is another signal that you have untapped dreams inside of you.  Treat your jealousy as a gift, a signal that you have so much more inside of you that wants to be expressed— much more than you ever could imagine!

6.   You have low energy.  When you are not growing and expanding your energy starts to get dull and stagnate—which makes it even harder to start to make changes.  The key is to move out of your inertia to begin to make the changes that your Spirit is calling to make—and to keep moving forward.

7.   You are easily irritated and frustrated. Your Spirit can get a little cranky if you are not heeding its call for you to move forward in your life.  You can blame it on your job, your mate, your kids, your relatives—but it all comes down to the core issue—you must listen to your Spirit and begin to express this beautiful energy or you will be very frustrated.

8.   You feel hopeless. Your Spirit may be signaling that you need to Leap—but your conditioned self—your fears– block you from taking any action.  Just like a little kid who wants something so badly and the parents are ignoring these desires— and not doing anything about them—the child begins to feel hopeless.  The same dynamic operates inside of you.  Not listening to the voice of your Spirit over and over can lead to the same kind of hopeless resignation.  Instead listen to your Spirit and take action on these desires and you will feel your hope and excitement for the future begin to soar.

Learning to Fly—Flying Lessons

Lesson One: If you are confused what your Leap would be ask yourself “What is one thing that my Spirit has been quietly telling me to do for years—that I have been ignoring?”  It could be something small—like “My Spirit has been telling me to exercise regularly for years”.  Take action on this information because there is a wisdom in your Spirit—it knows what step needs to happen first—and this step will lead to the next—and then to the next.  Before you know it these smaller steps will build a momentum that will lead you to even bigger leaps.

Lesson Two: Know that you will be uncomfortable as you take your Leaps and learn to Fly.  Use this statement to help yourself “I am willing to be uncomfortable to make the changes I need to make.”  The more you acknowledge that uncomfortableness is just part of the process—not a signal that you need to stop—you will be able to continue to move forward.  The more you do this the more comfortable you will get with the uncomfortableness.

Lesson Three: Keep Your Eye on the Prize.  As you take your Leap there will be things that may appear that seem like obstacles in your path.  Your job is to keep focused on where you are going and NOT to get sidetracked into over focusing on these obstacles.  When I work with clients and this happens—the more they stay on track with their vision of where they are going—the more easily these apparent obstacles just fall away.

Lesson Four: As You Leap You Will begin to Adjust to a Higher, Lighter Vibration and your Body will shed dense energy so you Can Move Higher.  This can manifest in getting physically sick for a brief time as your body adjusts and releases the dense energy you have been carrying.  After you get better you will feel better than you did before you got sick—you will have upleveled.  You can also release this denser energy through feeling emotions of sadness, fear and anxiety.  Again these emotions will quickly move through and you will feel lighter and more free after they pass through. Remember the lighter you are—the easier it is to fly!

Lesson Five:  You will feel VERY supported as you take action and Leap.  Once you make the decision and leap you will feel amazing levels of support come to you from the Universe.  Clients of mine who had been sitting on the sidelines for years contemplating their leap are blown away with how supported they feel when they finally take action.  They say to me “If I knew it was going to feel this wonderful I would have made this change years ago!”  You will feel support from other people, circumstances will come together to support you in miraculous ways, doors will fly open, signals come that let you know you are on track.  You will meet people who are your “flying partners”—people on your path that are uniquely supporting you by giving you enthusiastic encouragement and also practical support and information.

Lesson Six: As you Leap and Begin to Fly you will Feel a Special Joy. You are meant to be flying—soaring in your life.  There is a special joy that is natural to our Spirits when we align with what we are meant to be doing in our life.  It is a joyful, fulfilling feeling that we are on track in our life—exactly where we are meant to be.  It is what everyone is longing for—and for good reason—this is the feeling that you are meant to be feeling each and every day.

So listen to the subtle—or not so subtle signals that you are meant to take a leap in your life.  Listen and leap—trusting that as you jump you will feel a sweet support and a cheering surrounding you –lifting you to fly even higher into the magnificent life that is meant especially for you!

Here is Carol my Breathwork teacher–who I started working with when I was 26 years old—a mere 16 years ago (time flies when you are having fun!) Isn’t she beautiful—a true earth angel—one of the most loving people I have ever met.

Here is my roomate Bobbi—she is with Bill who was at the training with us. He is 70 years old and Wow can he dance!! We had a dance on Sunday night and he and Carol were dancing for HOURS—long after I was done dancing—and I LOVE to dance. That is the beauty of Breathwork it keeps you very young and energetic.

Here is a picture of Noga House.

Here is the Meeting Room where we would have our meeting sessions.

There is a stream in back that you can sit by.

Another area where you can sit.

Here is Gail from North Carolina, Carol, and Ray from Texas. Actually Ray is quite a dancer too–he was showing us some moves from his Nia classes.

We all want to feel more Joy in our lives.  It can be confusing and frustrating when you aren’t experiencing the Joy you know you could be feeling.  You can say to yourself “I want to feel better–I want to feel Joy–but I don’t know how to get to it.”  

The following are false beliefs about Joy that could be getting in the way of you experiencing a higher level of Joy in your life each and every day.

False Beliefs about Joy

1. I can’t be Joyful if everything in my life is not how I want it right now.  This is false.  You can be joyful any moment that you choose to be.   A phrase that can help with this is “I don’t have the job I really want—-but I can be happy now.” 

Practice cultivating the capacity to feel the Joy that is available to you right now—looking out at the window at a beautiful tree, feeling the love in your heart for someone you love, feeling the love from your spiritual connection that is ever present, feeling gratitude for what you do have.

2. I can’t be Joyful if someone around me is in a bad mood.  Start to get that your Joy is dependent on what you are focusing on internally—it is 100% in your hands not in anyone elses.  This shifts you from a victim into true empowerment.  Treat keeping your Joy level high—no matter what state anyone around you is in—like a practice—and the more you do it the better you will get at it!

3. I can’t be Joyful if something bad is happening in my Life   ” I can’t be joyful because: I am sick, someone I love is sick, my husband lost his job, I am getting divorced, I lost someone close to me.”  Again this is a limiting belief and see if you can open up to the moments of Joy that are available in the midst of challenge. 

The more you do this—the easier the challenge will be for you.   You will finally get that your Joy is not connected to external circumstances–it is inherently inside of you–available each and every moment–and you can reconnect with it at any time.

4. I can’t be Joyful because I don’t know how to be.  Many people are so disconnected from their Joy that they can forget how it feels to be Joyful.  The wonderful thing about this is your Authentic Self—which has aspects of your Inner Child—knows exactly how to be Joyful—it is very clear about this. There is no confusion on this level. 

The confusion comes in when your Conditioned Self blocks the Joy of your Authentic self with messages like “Don’t do that you will look stupid,” or “You need to be serious and responsible”, “All heck will break loose if you let go and be Joyful” , “I’m afraid of what others will think.”

These are the messages that need to be healed and released to let the natural Joy of your Authentic Self fully express itself.

Cindy came into to see me because she was being so critical with her husband Bob, who she loved very much.  She said “Some of the things that he does just irritate me and I can’t stop being critical of him.”  I suggested  “Why don’t you practice loving the things that irritate you about him—because they are a part of him and you love him.  You will be practicing being unconditionally loving—which will be healing for you as well as him. ” This was a new idea for her and she was skeptical that she could do it she said “You mean I can make this decision to love these things and have them not irritate me?”  I said “Yes, just give it a try and see how it feels.” 

Cindy returned two weeks later and was amazed by the transformation in her, in Bob and in their relationship.  She said “Every time I started to feel the irritation I said to myself—I am going to love this about him—and I surprised myself because I really started to love the quirky things about Bob—and now I love him even more.”    Cindy went on “It felt so good to be loving and not so critical—I felt closer to Bob and our kids—-and what surprised me the most is that I felt so much better about myself.  I felt that I was being more of who I truly am—which is loving—not critical.”  I said “That is right Cindy –you were being in alignment with your Authentic Self—which is unconditionally loving and accepting.”

She then said “And what really amazed me is the whole atmosphere in our house changed.  It felt more safe, warm and accepting—even the kids started being kinder to each other.  It is like everyone relaxed and felt more open and loving.”  I said “Yes, this shift from being critical to being loving can have a profound impact on the kind of atmosphere that you create in your relationships.”  She said “It was like my change created a ripple effect that affected everyone in the home.”  I said “Yes, it is very often that way that it only can take one person who has made a clear commitment to loving to help the others in the home shift into this as well.”

The above example can be applied to any of your relationships.  Once you get this simple but powerful truth that who you are—your very being is love—and when you begin to operate from who you are—your relationships are transformed, healed—and you become a living example of unconditional love and acceptance—a beautiful reflection of divine love.