Rainbow Baby Quest

Angry Beyond Words!!!!

2014-07-18T21:51:00.000-05:00

I found out a couple days ago that yet another of my younger cousins and her husband are expecting their first baby. I know they struggled for a year with fertility issues due to my cousin's endometriosis but that doesn't make me feel sorry for how long it took them to become pregnant, after over 7 years of infertility that amount of time seems like nothing.

So, yes, I'm angry. I'm not angry that they are having a baby. I love my cousins and want them to be happy. I'm angry because we've wanted kids for so long and once again one of my younger cousins is pregnant or their wife is having a baby. They're having a baby and not us.

I know this isn't a punishment but it feels like it is. I'm angry that there are people I know that can just snap their fingers and get pregnant while I struggle to even ovulate at all. I hate that people, including my best friend, just tell me to "lose weight and it'll happen." What the HELL do they know? They don't know what it's like to struggle in this way. Six months, a year, I'd love it if I only had to "struggle" to get pregnant for that short period of time.

I feel like I do when people that think they know everything there is to know about weight loss or hypothyroidism. It's times like this when I begin to wonder if we will ever have kids. I'm tired of the struggle. I'm tired of the endless frustration of not ovulating cycle after cycle. I'm tired of everyone else in the world getting pregnant before me. I'm tired of looking at the news and yet another celebrity is pregnant.

So, yes, I'm angry. I'm angry that my cousin who has been given everything she wants whenever she wants, who "struggled" for six months, is pregnant. I'm angry that my younger brother and three of my 4 younger cousins have had living children before us. I love all of them and love their kids but it doesn't mean that I can't be angry that they were blessed with living children while we may not be.

Jump Starting My Fertility the Natural Way!!!

2014-04-12T22:24:00.002-05:00

I first learned about glandular supplements from my chiropractor when I went to see her the first time over a year and a half ago. For a short while I took thyroid glandulars but after I ran out of the first bottle, I didn't replace them because I wasn't for sure they were working.

Well, about seven months ago I started the Trim Healthy Mama plan and was able to lose some of the weight my hypothyroidism had put on me and a lot of the supplements and supplies they recommend come from Swanson's Vitamins. Two months ago I bought a bunch of glandular supplements including women's reproductive glandulars, adrenal glandulars, pituitary glandulars, and thyroid glandulars. At the time, my cycles were anything but regular, in fact I was using USP progesterone cream to induce my cycles every month. The combination of all of those glandulars seems to have started me ovulating again. I ovulated last month and it seems, according to EWCM and CP, that I may ovulate again this month, or may have ovulated today actually if my suspicions are correct.

I never expected that taking these supplements could jump start my fertility again, especially after only taking one of each kind of glandulars per day. I take the women's reproductive and thyroid glandulars with my thyroid medication, then I take the adrenal and pituitary glandulars in the afternoon.

I can't hardly believe it's true but I'm seeing results from it. I'll know for sure in about two weeks time if these supplements have indeed restored my fertility. For a very long time, I haven't believed that I would be capable of getting pregnant without fertility drugs/treatments but this may be proving me wrong.

Another thing I want to add in is that my cycles are currently lining up with the full moon, which follows the Lunaception principles, and it happened naturally that way.

Crazy Chemicals

2014-01-22T14:52:00.001-06:00

On my latest track to find ways to improve my health and hopefully get pregnant in the future, I've been reading up on the "no 'poo" craze. Before you go thinking this has something to do with using the toilet, the "no 'poo" means no shampoo. It sounds crazy because in our society, it's the expected norm to use shampoo/body wash/home products and not question what's in any of them.

There's a lot of crunchy mamas that have gone this way and as it turns out there may be something to it. There are a lot of dangerous chemicals just in shampoo and body wash that can wreak havoc on the hormones. Here's just a small list of chemicals that can cause all sorts of health issues that I copied directly from Discover Health and Wealth.

SOPROPYL ALCOHOL: This is a solvent and denaturant (poisonous substance that changes another substance's natural qualities). Isopropyl alcohol is found in hair color rinses, body rubs, hand lotions, after shave lotions, fragrances and many other cosmetics. This petroleum derived substance is also used in antifreeze and as a solvent in shellac. According to a Consumer's Dictionary of Cosmetic Ingredients, inhalation or ingestion of the vapor may cause headaches, flushing, dizziness, mental depression, nausea, vomiting, narcosis and coma.
MINERAL OIL: Baby oil is 100% mineral oil. This commonly used petroleum ingredient coats the skin just like plastic wrap. The skin's natural immune barrier is disrupted as this plastic coating inhibits its ability to breathe and absorb the natural Moisture Factor (moisture and nutrition). The skin's ability to release toxins is impeded by this "plastic wrap", which can promote acne and other disorders. This process slows down skin function and normal cell development causing the skin to prematurely age.
PEG: This is an abbreviation for polyethylene glycol that is used in making cleansers to dissolve oil and grease as well as thicken products. Because of their effectiveness, PEG's are often used in caustic spray-on oven cleaners and yet are found in many personal care products. PEG's contribute to stripping the natural Moisture Factor, leaving the immune system vulnerable. They are also potentially carcinogenic.
PROPYLENE GLYCOL (PG): As a "surfactant" or wetting agent and solvent, this ingredient is actually the active component in antifreeze. There is no difference between the PG used in industry and the PG used in personal care products. It is used in industry to break down protein and cellular structure (what the skin is made of) yet is found in most forms of make-up, hair products, lotions, after shave- deodorants, mouthwashes and toothpaste. It is also used in food processing. Because of its ability to quickly penetrate the skin, the EPA requires workers to wear protective gloves, clothing and goggles when working with this toxic substance. The Material Safety Data Sheets warn against skin contact, as PG has systemic consequences such as brain, liver, and kidney abnormalities. Consumers are not protected not is there a warning label on products such as stick deodorants, where the concentration is greater than that in most industrial applications.
SODIUM LAURYL SULFATE (SLS) & SODIUM LAURETH SULFATE (SLES):
Used as detergents and surfactants, these closely related compounds are found in car wash soaps, garage floor cleaners and engine degreasers. Yet both SLS and SLES are used more widely as one of the major ingredients in cosmetics, toothpaste, hair conditioner and about 90% of all shampoos and products that foam. Mark Fearer in an article, Dangerous Beauty, says "...in tests, animals that were exposed to SLS experienced eye damage, along with depression, labored breathing, diarrhea, severe skin irritation and corrosion and death". According to the American College of Toxicology states both SLS and SLES can cause malformation in children's eyes. Other research has indicated SLS may be damaging to the immune system, especially within the skin. Skin layers may separate and inflame due to its protein denaturing properties. It is possibly the most dangerous of all ingredients in personal care products. Research has shown that SLS when combined with other chemicals can be transformed into nitrosamines, a potent class of carcinogens, which causes the body to absorb nitrates at higher levels that eating nitrate-contaminated food." According to the American College of Toxicity report, "SLS stays in the body for up to five days..." Other studies have indicated that SLS easily penetrates through the skin and enters and maintains residual levels in the heart, the liver, the lungs and the brain. This poses serious questions regarding its potential health threat through its use in shampoos, cleansers and toothpaste. Animals that were exposed to SLS experienced eye damage, along with depression, labored breathing, diarrhea, severe skin irritation and corrosion and death.
CHLORINE: According to Doris J. Rapp, M.D., author of Is This Your Child's World?, exposure to chlorine in tap water, showers, pool, laundry products, cleaning agents, food processing, sewage systems and many others, can effect health by contributing to asthma, hay fever, anemia, bronchitis, circulatory collapse, confusion, delirium, diabetes, dizziness, irritation of the eye, mouth, nose, throat, lung, skin and stomach, heart disease, high blood pressure and nausea. It is also a possible cause of cancer. Even though you will not see Chlorine on personal care product labels, it is important for you to be aware of the need to protect your skin when bathing and washing your hair.
DEA (diethanolamine) MEA (momoethanolamine) TEA (triethanolamine):
DEA and MEA are usually listed on the ingredient label in conjunction with the compound being neutralized. Thus look for names like Cocamide DEA or MEA, Lauramide DEA, etc. These are hormone disrupting chemicals and are known to form cancer causing nitrates and nitrosamines. These are commonly found in most personal care products that foam, including bubble baths, body washes, shampoos, soaps and facial cleansers. On the show CBS This Morning, Roberta Baskin revealed that a recent government report shows DEA and MEA are readily absorbed in the skin. Dr. Samuel Epstein, Professor of Environmental Health at the University of Illinois said, "repeated skin applications of DEA-based detergents resulted in a major increase in the incidence of two cancers - liver and kidney cancers". John Bailey, who oversees the cosmetic division for the FDA said the new study is especially important since "the risk equation changes significantly for children."
FD & C COLOR PIGMENTS: Many color pigments cause skin sensitivity and irritation. Absorption of certain colors can cause depletion of oxygen in the body and even death according to a Consumer's Dictionary of Cosmetic Ingredients. Debra Lynn Dadd says in Home Safe Home: "Colors that can be used in foods, drugs and cosmetics are made from coal tar. There is a great deal of controversy about their use, because animal studies have shown almost all of them to be carcinogenic."
FRAGRANCE: Fragrance is present in most deodorants, shampoos, sunscreens, skin care, body care, and baby products. Many of the compounds in fragrance are carcinogenic or otherwise toxic. "Fragrance on a label can indicate the presence of up to 4,000 separate ingredients. Most of all of them are synthetic. symptoms reported to the FDA have included headaches, dizziness, rashes, skin discoloration, violent coughing and vomiting, and allergic skin irritation. Clinical observation by medical doctors have shown that exposure to fragrances can affect the central nervous system, causing depression, hyperactivity, irritability, inability to cope, and other behavioral changes." Home Safe Home.
IMIDAZOLIDINYL UREA and DMDM HYDANTOIN: These are just two of the many preservatives that release formaldehyde (formaldehyde-donors). According to the Mayo Clinic, formaldehyde can irritate the respiratory system, cause skin reactions and trigger heart palpitations. Exposure to formaldehyde may cause joint pain, allergies, depression, headaches, chest pains, ear infections, chronic fatigue, dizziness and loss of sleep. It can also aggravate coughs and colds and trigger asthma. Serious side effects include weakening of the immune system and cancer. Nearly all brands of skin, body and hair care, antiperspirants and nail polish found in stores contain formaldehyde releasing ingredients.

It's been six days since I eliminated shampoo and body wash from my use. I ask my husband to smell my hair almost daily to see if there's any odor but he says my hair smells good (which is probably because I haven't been able to bring myself to eliminate the conditioner I use only on the ends of my hair and nowhere near the scalp). I use a natural cornstarch based powder after I shower so that no one can complain I smell because I haven't been using body wash and my husband tells me even before I put it on that I just smell clean.

The big change that I've noticed since I've done this is that I don't lose near as much hair in the shower as I did before. I had attributed the hair loss to my hypothyroidism before but comparatively I'm losing probably 3 strands every time I rinse my hair now compared to closer to 25 when I used shampoo. I would love to get rid of the big bulk size conditioner I bought last month and switch over to a more natural conditioner like diluted apple cider but I can't bring myself to do it after I spent so much money on it. I'm thinking of giving it to my mom who doesn't pay as much attention to the chemical additives in health and beauty products.

It's Been A While...

2014-01-17T22:25:00.001-06:00

I did my last HCG trigger shot on Halloween and unfortunately it didn't work. We had a lot of stress at that time (the possibility of adopting my SIL's baby, a very unplanned move and resulting financial stress from being on our own financially for the first time in 3 years, a flight/visit to Las Vegas to visit my husband's family before Thanksgiving, and a ton of family drama while we were there) and I'm attributing it to that. After some discussion, and looking at how much we owed our specialty pharmacy for the shots, we decided that it doesn't make sense to continue doing them with so many obstacles that are keeping them from being successful.

After a long talk, including talk about will we be happy if we aren't blessed with living children or any more pregnancies, we've decided to put off fertility drugs and TTC for an undetermined amount of time. We aren't doing anything as drastic as going on birth control but we are focusing on preparing ourselves for any eventuality. We've decided I'm going to focus on getting healthy so that it could eventually happen on its own without the aid of fertility drugs.

Our overall decision is that we do want children but after almost 8 years of TTC, we are done stressing about it, so we are moving on to NTNP (not trying, not preventing). If we aren't blessed with our own biological children we will find some way to adopt in the future. Until then we are done doing things in preparation for the possibility of a child coming later in the year/future. We have put many things off because of the "What if we have a baby by then" mentality.

We have never been just a couple together and do things to enjoy that. We've always planned for a life full of children (at one time we discussed having 6 children), and started TTC 3 1/2 months after we got married, but during this discussion we decided that if we are always putting things off in anticipation of those children, we will never get to do them and will have put them off for no reason because the children won't be coming along. So, we are going to start living life like a couple who do not have children. Which means going on vacations that we've discussed and always put off doing because of the possibility of having children by the time we can afford it comes along, and going off for romantic weekends together, and just enjoying being the two of us.

We will be absolutely thrilled if we do eventually get pregnant with a healthy rainbow baby, but we are done with temping and charting and robotic scheduled sex. If we are meant to have children, they will come in their own time. I'm done saying I want to have children by the time I'm whatever age, now I'm saying, "If I have children, I will be happy to have them at whatever age I'm blessed to be given with them." When we began our TTC journey, I always said I wanted to be done having kids by the time I was 30, but here I am at 33 1/4 years and we only have our two angels and if that's all we get, then we'll have two angels waiting for us in heaven.

It's a Do-Over

2013-10-30T16:15:00.002-05:00

Unfortunately, last cycle resulted in a BFN and a very short LP. I believe I'm Vitamin K deficient from years of anemia and menometrogghia and that's part of the reason why I had the short LP. I stopped taking vitamin K after confirming ovulation then 10 days later AF shows up.

I'm hopeful that this cycle will take. We also have some news that may or may not be newsworthy. My youngest SIL is PG and at the moment wants us to adopt her baby. I'm not even certain that she's going to want to give us the baby once she's gotten used to the idea of being PG. The main reason she wants to give us the baby, right now, are because she's been living on the streets with her boyfriend and his toddler son, neither of them are employed, her boyfriend is in jail, and she's a recovering meth addict.

DH and I don't want to get our hopes up because his sister has been very wishy-washy in the past with things. She'll claim she's going to do something right up until it's time to do it then change her mind or find an excuse not to do it. I've done my research into adoption in our state just in case and when we see them, we will explain the process and options to them.

Not that we can afford the adoption process but we'll find a way if she sticks to her decision. I'm also hoping that she'll get over the infatuation with her boyfriend while he's in jail and realize that a guy that can drag his 3 year old out to live on the streets and has no way of supporting that child has no business becoming a father to another one. She has no business being a mother, either, because she has never even tried to get a job, chose to live on the street with this guy rather than live with her parents (she's only 23), and has been addicted to meth (and smokes pot regularly).

There are times when I wonder how people as messed up as this can be given children. Don't get me wrong, I love my SIL and want to help her but she has issues.

My biggest concern is that she is flighty. I'm concerned that she'll stick to the decision after having the baby and in a few months, or a few years, decide she's ready to be a mother to this child and want it back. In our state, she has 6 months to change her mind (we live 2000 miles apart) and we can't afford to bring the baby back if she does change her mind. I know we'll have to stress to her that we are adopting the baby and they are giving up all parental rights to us. The way she phrased it when she asked us makes me think that she does think it's going to be temporary and it won't be. She'll have to understand that we would be mom and dad, not her and her boyfriend.

She'll have to understand that when we come to visit and bring the baby, we aren't bringing her child, we would be bringing our child. I'm trying not to stress myself out about it but it's a huge event in our life if this happens and if it happens I want it to be as smooth as possible for her and for us. I know how she's going to feel going into the hospital pregnant and coming out with nothing. I don't want her to go through that pain. I think it will be especially hard on her because unlike ours, her baby won't have died, it will be going to live with someone else and she will be able to see it living and growing up. Pray for us and her. I'm anticipating her deciding to keep the baby, but I guess anything is possible.

Dear God, I hate waiting!

2013-10-16T21:44:00.000-05:00

I'm an impatient person. There are some things I have patience for but getting a BFP after ovulating for the first time in nearly 3/4 of a decade, I want it to show up immediately. I'm trying to maintain my faith in God blessing us with a healthy baby/pregnancy this time, but it gets harder with each BFN.

I'm constantly reminding myself that with both of my angels I didn't get a BFP until I was 3 days late. With my first, I was in denial that I was even PG because I'd gotten a BFN 4 days before AF was due (that was once upon a time when my cycles were every 32 days like clockwork and before my thyroid issues). With my second, it was my first time charting and I was absolutely positive that I was PG even though I hadn't gotten a BFP. I tested probably 5 times before I got the BFP, and of course, I got it when I was 3 days late.

Since I work as a church secretary, I've been praying a lot while at work (when I have the time) and blessing myself with holy water. KYFX for me to get a BFP.

Yes and No

2013-07-25T21:47:00.004-05:00

I'm thrilled to say that the second round of 100mg clomid and 10,000 units of hcg made me ovulate but I didn't get pregnant. What sucks is that I didn't call in to my doctor soon enough, so we have to skip a cycle since I'll be almost half way through the new cycle before I can get in to discuss the next round.

I think he'll increase the clomid to 150mg because it took 8 days after the hcg shot for me to ovulate. I'm also going to ask him for prescription progesterone to use on the next cycle post-ovulation because my post-o temps were on the low side, making me believe that my progesterone level was low.

I have about 2 weeks until I start the my progesterone cream regimen to begin the next cycle. I was skeptical that I even ovulated this cycle because of my post-o temps but AF arriving proved that I had. I'm hopeful that next cycle this will work. I've also had my thyroid meds increased because my levels were up again. I'm hoping when I go in for my follow-up I'll be able to convince my doctor to put me on Armour or Natur-throid instead of synthetic levothyroxine.

Hopefully next cycle will be successful for us.

The Excitement Has Worn Off

2013-07-06T23:22:00.001-05:00

So, it's been almost 6 days since I got my HCG trigger shot. So far there's been no thermal shift. I'm trying not to be pessimistic, after all it really hasn't been that long. I'm giving the shot 12-14 days to work and if it doesn't then, I get to go back to the ob/gyn for the final round.

It's a little upsetting to think that this dosage might not work. I don't want to think about having to go on to 150mg of clomid for 5 days and the same strength trigger as this time. I really wanted this shot to work, even if I didn't get pregnant on it. At least then we'll know the right dosages for everything.

I was so excited when we found out that this ob/gyn was going to help us get pregnant but now my biggest fear is that we'll have to do the fertility specialist after this. I know I'm not healthy enough to do IVF or even get a fertility specialist to agree to help us. I keep telling DH that if I can't have children, then I'm not going to continue being overweight. I'm tired of getting my hopes up.

For the first time in forever, I'm feeling resigned to the fact that we may not be able to have children of our own. It hurts me inside to know that this may very well be true. I'm still praying this works but my hopes aren't as high as they were.

Another Cycle with Fertility Drugs

2013-06-26T23:39:00.000-05:00

So, AF finally started about 2 weeks ago. I've done 100mg of clomid from cd5-9 and on Monday I go in for the 10,000 unit shot of HCG. I'm hopeful that this cycle we catch it. Part of me is hoping we do because we'll be due about 2 weeks before I was due with our angel daughter. The other part of me dreads that possibility because of what happened with our angel daughter. I don't really want to go through the same thing again at the same time of year.

The part that wants it to happen is bigger than the part that doesn't. I'm kinda hoping for twins. I know it'll be a lot harder on us to have two at once but we would be overjoyed by it.

Way Back When...

2013-06-26T23:32:00.002-05:00

So, I was checking my lunar calendar earlier this week and decided to look back at the cycle in June 2006 when I got pregnant with my angel daughter. To my surprise, that cycle started during the new moon and I conceived during the full moon. I wasn't even practicing lunaception then but that cycle was right on the money.

Ughhh....Frustrated!

2013-05-29T23:42:00.004-05:00

For the first time since I started using progesterone cream 3 years ago, I've had a cycle that it hasn't worked. Unfortunately, it's the first cycle using the clomid and hcg trigger. I stopped using the progesterone cream going on 9 days ago and no sign of AF. Normally, AF will start before I even finish 14 days on the cream.

I'm at a loss as to what's going on. I took a pregnancy test a week ago and it was a BFN. The only thing I can figure is that I O'd after I started the prog cream and I have to wait it out. I started temping again hoping to catch a temp drop so I'd know AF is coming but my temps are up and haven't shown any signs of coming down. I've also been temping before bed each night because I know I run a low grade fever post-O and my temps have been higher than 98.6 the last 3 days.

I don't want to get my hopes up and part of me is really hoping that I am PG. The other part of me just wants AF to start already so we can start the next cycle. I just want something to happen one way or the other.

First Trigger Shot Failed

2013-05-13T14:03:00.001-05:00

Unfortunately, our first trigger shot failed. I think it was partly because our ob/gyn didn't quite do it right. He told us to do it on CD14-16, so we did. After talking to a few others, I found out that we should have been doing OPKs to predict when I had an LH surge then do it when I got a positive OPK no matter what CD it was. So, we have a plan for next time but we have to wait a cycle because our ob/gyn is out of town on vacation until after my next cycle will have started, but I'm okay with that because I heard a lot of women who don't respond to the HCG can develop cysts and can't trigger the next cycle because of that, so I'd rather wait a cycle than waste the money on a cycle that we can't trigger on anyways.

I'm also trying Raw Apple Cider Vinegar. I'm adding one ounce twice a day to OJ and hoping to get some positive results from it. I've read that quite a few women with similar symptoms as me (not Oing) have done this and started Oing on their own. I've also heard for many years that it can help with weight loss but I'm not a fan of vinegar and not a huge fan of apple cider, so I didn't try it, but now that it can possibly help me with Oing, I'll try it. I'm hoping it'll kill 3 birds with one stone: help me lose some of the 110 pounds hypothyroidism helped me put on, hoping it will make me start Oing on my own, and hoping it will clear up my granuloma annulare (an auto-immune related skin rash) that I've had for years.

I'll keep you all updated.

Lunaception Update

2013-04-21T22:20:00.000-05:00

For the first time since I began practicing lunaception, I have a cycle that matches up with it. The new moon was on the 14th of April & that was the first day of my new cycle.

According to my lunaception research, a new cycle should start on the new moon & ovulation should occur on the full moon. I'm due to get my hcg trigger shot the day after the full moon (the 26th). We are really hopeful that we can catch the egg this first triggered cycle.

First Cycle with Trigger Shot

2013-04-15T22:12:00.004-05:00

Well, despite well-laid plans, I started spotting on our vacation, but it was towards the end of the trip, so it wasn't too bad. I'm going onto day 3 of clomid tomorrow morning and will be doing the trigger shot on April 25th...praying that we catch it.

Fantastic News!!!

2013-03-12T18:17:00.000-05:00

I went for a consultation with my new OB/GYN today and absolutely love him. After explaining my situation (hypothyroidism, diabetes, hemochromatosis), he did not once mention my weight (or needing to lose weight). He went through the info from our old perinatalogist and was like, "You've had a lot of heartache when it comes to this. Do you want more children?" When I said yes, he gave us 3 options.

1. Clomid with HCG trigger injections
2. Referral to a Fertility Specialist for more extensive fertility treatments
3. To do an endometrial biopsy to find out what is causing my issues.

After some discussion, we both agreed that my hypothyroidism and the slightly elevated testosterone (why I'm on metformin because my diabetes is a very mild case) were the more likely culprits so option #3 left the table. I told him that I know DH and I can't afford more extensive infertility treatments right now and that I know I wouldn't be taken on as a patient because of my weight, which he agreed was a likely scenario, so option #2 is off the table, too. So, in a few days I'm going to be starting my progesterone cream for 2 weeks to begin a new cycle before the end of this month. DH and I will be going to visit his family in Las Vegas in a few weeks (right after I finish the round of clomid) and luckily it falls in that in between time. Then four days after we get back from Vegas, it'll be the day I go into the doctor's office to get the HCG trigger shot.

Hopefully, we will be successful the first month of trying. We are kind of hoping for twins but will be happy with any number as long as they are healthy and full term. I finally feel like God is guiding us down the path He wants us on and it's our time. I'd still love to have a baby before the end of this year, but I'll take early next year if I have to.

Good News...Bad News

2013-02-26T22:19:00.002-06:00

I had an incident of my menometrogghia last cycle and compared to 2 years ago when I last had it, it was fairly mild. I did, however, end up going to the doctor's office on Jan. 5 because I wanted to be sure that it wasn't caused by my thyroid meds and also because I was having multiple incidents of rapid heartbeat. They ran an EKG and bloodwork on me assuring me that the rapid heartbeat was probably caused by anemia due to how long AF had been lasting. They also told me to start taking my iron again and it should help the rapid heartbeat.

The next day I get a call from them saying that they were calling in a prescription for iron into my pharmacy because my blood iron levels were very low but they'd also requested more intensive deep organ iron levels as well and they'd let me know the results. I didn't have time to fill it that day, so after I got off work my mom was going to take me to the pharmacy since DH had our car. Just before we were getting ready to leave to get the iron pills, the doctors office calls me and tells me "Don't take the iron pills. Something came up on the other test we ran and we aren't sure what to make of it. We are going to make you an appointment with a hematologist. We'll call you when we get the appointment set up."

Talk about freaking me out. The only other time I've had a doctor's office make an appointment for me was when we found out DD was sick, so I knew something must be really bad if they were making the appointment for me. So I wait a week and ask if the appointment had been made yet, and they tell me they haven't done it yet. I got a call about 2 weeks ago from an oncology center telling me my doc wanted me to make an appointment. Talk about freaking me out, again, but it turned out the hematologist I was supposed to see works there.

So, yesterday I went in for the appointment and am annoyed by the possible diagnosis. The doc says that I'm a cross-breed because I have symptoms of iron deficient anemia but my organ tests show I have hemochromatosis/iron overload.

He acted at first like I should know what's wrong with me, but he soon figured out that no one else in my family has been diagnosed with this. It's either hereditary or something else is causing it, but more than likely it's hereditary so they are running a genetic test to confirm the diagnosis. It's also possible that hemochromatosis is what caused my hypothyroidism and diabetes. My blood iron levels are low but my organ levels were more than double what they should be. If it is hemochromatosis, then iron is building up in my organs because my body can't metabolize it correctly. He said that by having longer AF's, it benefits me because it gets rid of some of the excess iron (that's the only benefit I see from it).

The good news is that pregnancy isn't affected by it, and can actually help the condition because it lowers iron levels naturally. The bad news is that in order to get my ferritin/body iron levels down to normal, I have to go in once a week or so (after they confirm the diagnosis) and have them take a pint of blood. Once my levels get down to normal, I have to continue to have it done 1-4 times per year. I hate getting stuck and that woozy feeling afterwards, not sure if I can put up with it each week. I used to give blood all the time but stopped after I passed out after giving once and another time the blood clotted in the needle.

The bright side is that once they start doing the phlebotomy/taking the blood, that it can help with my hypo, diabetes, and reduce inflammation around the body enough that I may be able to lose weight. It also won't hurt me or affect the treatment if I do get pregnant, and with DH being pure Latino, it's not very likely that he's a carrier as Caucasions, Africans, and Northern Europeans are most likely to be carriers or have hereditary hemochromatosis.

Onto the semi-sucky part...I have to completely change the way I eat. I said a few weeks ago that I wanted to try to go vegan but wasn't able to stick to it, well, pretty much this diagnosis forces me to go to a vegan diet if I want to eat anything and get rid of the excess iron. I can't have red meat, use cast iron skillets, eat fish or shellfish, I have to cut down on my intake of animal-based fats, I can't take any supplements that include iron or Vitamin C, can't have sugar, can't eat any foods high in Vitamin C or iron, I can't have iron fortified cereals, I have to buy water that has no added iron, and whole grains (with the exception of brown rice) are out. Pretty much I can have very limited amounts of poultry, brown rice, fruits, vegetables, seeds, nuts, and limited amounts of low/no fat dairy.

Vitamin C and sugar enhance the absorption of iron, and since I have too much iron, they go by the wayside, which sucks because I love citrus fruits and am a sugar junky (though I try not to overdo it on the sugar anymore). Whole grains, with the exception of brown rice, are high in iron, so they are gone. Any foods that are iron-fortified or Vitamin C-fortified are out. I really had a difficult time with this when I was going vegan just to do it, now that I have to do it, it's going to make things harder. Plus, I've read that I should be drinking lots of black coffee or unsweetened tea (preferably decaffeinated) because the tannins in them fight the free radicals that the excess iron produces and can help eliminate some of the excess iron.

What really sucks for my family is that if this is hereditary, anyone in my family can have this. I've tried to convince my parents and DH for awhile that we should go vegan/vegetarian and if they end up with hereditary hemochromatosis, too, they'll have to even if they don't want to. It sucks for them since it's not a lifestyle they want, but more than that it sucks to have to watch for iron on food labels. Once my levels get down to the low end of normal, then I won't have to do the phlebotomy/blood-letting and I can introduce small amounts of foods with iron in them again. I see this as a benefit to me and my parents since we all have diabetes because if we have to give up sugar, then we can possibly get rid of the diabetes.

This is going to be a tough transition and what's going to make it even harder is that we are going on a trip to visit family in Vegas. DH's family is very big on cooking, and specifically non-vegan foods, not even foods that are vegan friendly. I'm thankful to God that He got me a diagnosis and that He's forcing me into a lifestyle that I wanted but wasn't strong enough (willpower-wise) to do on my own. He's giving me motivation by showing me I can get pregnant with this disease and live that lifestyle. He's guiding me down the path that He wants me on. I know He'll be holding my hand during this transition and even afterwards, but I'm hopeful that this is the final diagnosis I need to move forward. I'm hoping God is going to bless us soon with the baby or babies we want.

Baby Race...Maybe

2013-02-17T16:22:00.001-06:00

A lot of women who haven't had trouble with infertility won't understand this feeling I've had lately, though a lot of women who have waited till later in life to have children will completely understand. It's hard to watch the people around you have babies when you want one of your own, it's especially hard if you have fertility issues like I and millions of other women have.

It's like every woman around you is having kids and every pregnancy announcement is a slap in the face. You dread even checking your facebook wall because you don't want to know who else is pregnant now. It was a slap in the face to me that, of all people, Kim Kardashian got pregnant before me. No, I don't know her personally but I don't agree with having a child with one man while married to another, no matter if they are in the midst of a divorce.

Recently, I attended a baby shower for my cousin's wife. I don't know her well and don't see them much except for at the occasional family function. I don't begrudge them a baby because they've had a loss just like I have. Those are actually the babies that I am happy to see are coming. Then I noticed something that really has my biological clock revving up to overdrive.

My 24 year-old cousin, T, just got married in December. It was a beautiful wedding but some of the circumstances had us questioning whether it was a "shotgun wedding" because it seemed rather rushed. We wondered if maybe because of their religious beliefs, T and her hubby weren't saying anything because they didn't want people to think they were having sex out of wedlock. Turns out she's not prego but at the baby shower she made it a point to say they were going to wait until summer 2014 before they start TTC.

Now, to a woman that has kids, that statement wouldn't bother them. After all, most newlyweds are constantly fielding the question as to when they are going to have kids. But to me, who has baby fever after a forced 4 month break from TTC because of my thyroid, that is like flashing a sign in front of my face that says: "Warning...Your Cousin Who Is 8 Years Younger Than YOU Could Have a Baby Before YOU!!!"

So, I try to ignore that sign and continue on at the shower as if nothing is happening. After all, most of that side of my family doesn't even believe DH and I should have kids after what happened with our angels and because of DH's chromosome defect. I don't even discuss it with them because at this point, after almost 7 years of TTC from start (before getting pg with DD) to now, I don't believe it's any of their business since they have that attitude about us having kids. I know they think that because they don't want to see us go through anymore losses, but it hurts my feelings because we want kids and they don't want that for us.

We get to the game portion of the shower and we play this game where you match candy bar names to pregnancy & birthing terms. After it was over, the sister of the mommy-to-be offered blank copies of the game to anyone who wanted it for future use. Well, my aunt, T's mom, jumps up and gets one. You have to know my aunt to see what I was seeing. She's not a planner by any means and she doesn't really host a lot of parties. This made me begin to wonder if maybe T and her hubby are TTC but not telling anyone but their parents.

So, now I'm on a mission to have a baby before T and her hubby. We start TTC again this cycle. Keeping our fingers crossed that we have one by the end of the year.

Trying to De-Stress Myself

2012-10-29T21:29:00.000-05:00

In my last post I mentioned just how stressed I am about not TTC, and it was definitely true. I'm envious of those people that get PG so easily because I've never been one of them.

I really think my thyroid meds have my hormones so out of whack that I don't really know what to think half the time. I'm taking time out to evaluate what it is that DH and I need now, and I think I really need to just let this go until my thyroid gets regulated.

I'm not giving up, but I'm not making it easy to stress myself out about it. I'm hiding my BBT thermometer, OPKs, and PG tests so I won't be tempted to temp or pee on anything. I think I need to totally put it out of my head at this time.

I am hoping my thyroid will regulate within the next 6 months, still and will proceed to the RE if it's not. I am also hoping to find a full time job, either at home or outside of the home, so DH and I can relieve one more stressful burden, living with my parents.

We both are hoping that finding good ways to combat the stress of our situation will make this forced break easier.

So Frustrating

2012-10-26T01:34:00.003-05:00

It has been so stressful not TTC this cycle, and I know this stress is going to continue as long as we are on this forced break.

I figured it would be easy because I stopped temping, using OPKs, and checking CM & CP but it hasn't been easy to just relax and stop trying all together. Of course, part of me wants to keep trying and the other part of me is saying that I know this break is for the best.

I guess I just kinda feel like this break is taking even more time away that we can't get back. I mean, when we started TTC almost 7 years ago, we thought at this point we'd have a couple of healthy, living children. Now, every time I babysit my nephews or my best friends kids, I can't help but think, "If we have kids, these kids are going to be old enough to babysit for us by the time our kids are this age." Then part of me wonders if it's ever going to happen.

It's really frustrating to know that I have no control over what is going on, though I am thankful that we finally have everything diagnosed so I'm not fighting an impossible battle. I just feel so discouraged right now, but I do know there's hope and I'm planning for a future with kids. I've decided that I'm going to give my GP until March 15 next year (6 months from diagnosis) to try to get my hypothyroid regulated and if it's not by then, I'm remaking the appointment with the RE that I canceled this month and am going to let her take it from there.

I also realize that even if my levels are within the normal range by that time, I will still have to go to the RE because they won't be optimal for pregnancy. Most GPs only care about getting the levels in a normal lab range, not getting them to an optimum level. I did find some of my lab results from 2 years ago and according to standards set in 2008, the levels were high but it wasn't treated because the lab that ran the test had a higher range they considered normal. This is such crap because I could have been diagnosed then and been regulated by now.

There are a lot of things that I would go back a few years to change and that would be one of them. I'm going to try to relax over the next couple of months and try to forget about TTC. The problem is that I'm just hitting the 6 week mark on my thyroid meds and I want to track my BBTs to see if it's having any effect on my cycles. I don't necessarily want to use it to TTC but I know that if I do track them, it's going to make the TTA (trying to abstain) harder to stick to, especially if I start Oing on my own thanks to the meds.

Getting it Right

2012-10-18T12:34:00.001-05:00

In order to try to boost my chances at getting my thyroid levels as well as my A1C optimized (and below diabetic levels), I'm trying something new. I've been unsuccessful at changing my eating habits in the past because in part that I'm lazy and don't want to have to keep track of every little thing but also because it's hard to keep yourself on track. I also freely admit, I don't like to exercise. I'm a couch potato.

I've tried several different things this year including doing Weight Watchers on my own and doing the Eat to Live program. I believe both of these programs can work wonderfully for people and before I had thyroid issues Weight Watchers worked great for me. What it comes down to, really, is that when you have hypothyroid your metabolism is working at a fraction of the speed it should be at optimally.

Because the thyroid isn't working optimally, it's harder to keep the motivation to continue plugging away at eating on these plans. At first, of course, I lose weight but that doesn't last past the first week. Then it's up and down like a yoyo. It gets frustrating and makes me want to give up. The only problem is, now I have a goal that I want to reach. It may not happen by December 19th when I get the results of the bloodwork for the first 3 months on thyroid meds, and I realize that's okay.

The important thing is that it happens at all. As long as I give it my best effort, it will work eventually. My goal is to get that IVF scholarship from INCIID and be healthy enough to be accepted by a fertility specialist to do it. I'll focus on having the money to pay for the PGD and doing the fundraising after that. It doesn't matter if it takes a year or more to get my levels right, though I pray that it doesn't take that long, what matters is that I get them optimized and get healthy.

I was very upset after researching what the side effects of hypothyroidism are on a fetus because every side effect was something that our baby, Nora, had. Granted, I don't know how much of her condition was caused by hypothyroidism and how much was caused by DH's chromosome defect, but the fact remains that if I had been diagnosed then, she might be alive today.

I realize that my condition did start in pregnancy. I started having a racing heart beat early in pregnancy, I was always tired (the kind of tired where I'd take a nap at work then go home and take a nap plus sleep eight hours or more a night), and I put on weight fast despite eating well the first few months.

This makes me realize just how important getting it right is because if I don't, we might never have children of our own. We have always said we'd like to adopt children as well as having our own, but when that's the only possibility a little part of your heart dies. I'm not saying we wouldn't love that child any less because that would still be our baby, but not getting to be there at birth and not getting to carry it, that would be heartbreaking.

Finally A Diagnosis

2012-09-18T14:05:00.001-05:00

I went to the doc today to get my well woman exam and results from bloodwork I had done last week. I was diagnosed as being diabetic, hypothyroidic, and Vitamin D deficient. They think the diabetes may be related to my thyroid issues, so they aren't going to put me on any medication for it or have me track my blood sugars yet. They want me to go back in 3 months and have my fasting blood sugar/A1C, tsh levels, and Vitamin D levels checked again. Then if my A1C drops that means the diabetes is related to the thyroid issues and I won't be put on medication, but if not then I go on Metformin.
I know it's not right to be relieved to have these problems, but a big part of me is relieved because I've been telling doctors for years that something is wrong and I literally could not lose weight no matter what I did. They, of course, started me on the smallest dosage of synthroid they possibly could, but I'm hopeful that there will be a turn around in my symptoms. I, honestly, feel like the people on Mystery Diagnosis who after so many years and doctors find out what's wrong with them and that they aren't imagining symptoms.
The sad thing is that we have to wait until we get my thyroid levels normalized to continue TTC. I really don't want to put it on hold, but I will if there's going to be developmental problems caused by it if I get pg. I'm hoping that with diet and exercise I can really start boosting my weight loss and help out my thyroid. I'm also still going to the chiropractor and getting treatments for insulin resistance and thyroid issues. I hope between the synthroid and the treatments at the chiro that I can get this regulated very quickly.

Still Trying

2012-08-21T01:09:00.000-05:00

I'm still plugging away at my lunaception, and have come to the conclusion that it might take longer than the estimated 3 months of sleeping in complete darkness before my body resets itself. I haven't been doing the grounding as much because, let's face it, it's not very fun to put your bare feet on the ground in a bed of dead grass. We have gotten some rain lately, though, so I'm hoping the grass will start perking up and I can get back to my barefooted ways.

I have started going to a chiropractor but not initially for the infertility/hormone balance acupuncture. Every year around this time, I get spasms in my neck and shoulder, well, this year it's been worse than most. I finally broke down and went to the chiropractor and dissected every little issue I have, including infertility. I showed her my BBT chart for this cycle and she took one glance at it and said, "You definitely have thyroid issues. Your temps are way below what they should be." I told her a few times I've taken my temp before bed and they were in the low 98's.

Then, she told me something amazing that I didn't know. She told me before all of these synthetic thyroid medications came out doctors prescribed glandulars to correct thyroid problems. Basically, it's thyroid tissues from animals. They stopped prescribing them when pharmaceutical companies came out with thyroid medications. She told me that I should look online for organic thyroid glandulars and start taking one capsule per day. Before you ask, they aren't the actual raw tissue, it's pulverized and freeze dried into capsules and you take one capsule per day if needed.

But before anyone considers doing this, they need to make sure they need it because the hormones the glandulars emit in the body can damage a healthy thyroid. The thyroid is in control of our metabolism and body temperature, so messing with that, no matter how badly you want a baby, is best under a doctor's care.

Lunaception & Earthing Updates

2012-06-27T15:19:00.002-05:00

Okay, this is my assessment of my Lunaception and Earthing experiments. My April cycle started mostly on its own because I hadn't finished a full 2 weeks on the progesterone cream before AF was trying to start and I started spotting on CD39 of that cycle with AF starting 3 days later. My May cycle (the last one) I didn't even start the progesterone cream yet because I was waiting but with AF starting today that cycle was 39 days. Maybe I'm beginning to regulate to a possible 39 day cycle.

I do believe the Lunaception is helping a lot even though my cycles are not quite matching the moon phases yet. My husband and I have both started sleeping in a pitch black room as well as wearing sleep masks to block out any missed light sources. I am going to stop using the nightlight at the full moon until my cycle regulates its self for at least 2 cycles. I do, however, need to get a new BBT thermometer because I think mine is highly inaccurate. If I went by my most recent BBTs, I would think that I had possibly O'd about 2-3 days ago because I had a week of low temps then the last 2 days I had temp rises, but AF ruined that theory by showing her ugly head.

On to the Earthing. I do really enjoy Earthing but find I often do not have enough time to devote at least a half hour a day to do it. Most days I'm lucky if I get 10 minutes in. I can say that the days I do it, I experience less pain in my feet and ankles (I have always had foot and ankle issues) as well as less pain in my back the days that it bothers me.

Earthing makes me feel peaceful, and honestly, it helps me relax before bedtime if it's not too hot outside. I think I would do it just for the stress relieving benefits alone, but I do feel more, excuse the pun, grounded and even-tempered the days I practice it. I would love nothing more than to be able to walk around barefoot outside all the time, but it's not always that easy.

To sum it all up, if you have irregular cycles, for any reason, try Lunaception. It's actually very easy to do and once you get used to sleeping in a pitch black room, it's hard to adjust to sleeping in even a dimly lit room. As for the Earthing, if you need a stress reliever and can't find anything, then try it. It's not dangerous unless you aren't careful where you walk.

Another Few Things to Try

2012-06-14T11:49:00.002-05:00

On the days that I go to work at 1pm, I usually watch Dr. Oz while doing my work. Well, last week he had a show called The Dr. Oz Approved 7 Day Crash Diet, or something like that. It's based on Dr. Joel Furhman's nutrient dense diet that has resulted in some of his clients losing 125 pounds in a year. And, most people lose around 10 pounds the first week.

At first, I was skeptical because I don't like crash diets, and it's not really a crash diet if you stay on it but as I watched the show, I realized that it's not really a crash diet, it is a nutrient-dense diet plan. In reality, it's the way we should be eating instead of the way people eat modernly. Basically, you gorge yourself on fruits, vegetables, healthy oils, beans, and nuts. And by "gorge" I mean you can eat as much of these things as you want. You can have healthy cuts of meat and full fat dairy but you only need about 6oz of meat-based protein per day and only 1 serving of dairy products per day. You will get all of the calcium, vitamins, and minerals you need from the nutrient-dense foods you are eating. There are very few nutrients in dairy, meats, and poultry, you are better off getting your protein from beans and nuts.

There is a little bit more to it than what I've said but if you click on the link, you can read up on it and the basics of the plan are there too.

The second thing that I read recently on one of my favorite sites, Naturally Knocked Up, is about Vitamin A and Fertility. I never really thought about other sources of getting vitamin A other than through orange and red colored fruits and veggies, but this article has really opened my mind to another natural source of vitamin A, whole milk. For many, many years I have drank solely skim milk because it doesn't have the fat in it that regular milks do. Vitamin A helps the reproductive organs function properly and whole milk is a natural source of healthy fats and vitamin A.

The final thing I just discovered today is called earthing. It's based on the principal that all humans create energy and require physical contact with the earth to transfer that energy back to the earth. In this article, Can Walking Barefoot Lower Cortisol and Balance Hormones, this concept is discussed and it is very intriguing. In fact, I spent a half hour outside this morning walking around barefoot and getting my daily dose of vitamin D in, and I could tell in the first 5 minutes that my feet that I normally ache all day had stopped hurting and I felt more energy than I usually do in the mornings. Walking around outside barefoot may not be for everyone, so if that's the case, you can buy earthing sheets and computer mats to help ground your energy. This is also supposed to help with insomnia.

If you try any of these, let me know the results. I'll be posting about my results with hopefully all of these but if not all, at least the earthing.

Lunaception and Sugar Detox Update

2012-06-14T11:26:00.000-05:00

It has been a frustrating second cycle with lunaception and a dismal failure on phase 5 of the sugar detox. First, I believed that the lunaception had actually begun working for me the first month because I had high daily temperatures (I didn't track my basal temps because we weren't actively trying that cycle) for a few days then it dipped back down to normal and despite the fact that I was still using the progesterone cream to start my cycles, the next cycle began on its own without me stopping the progesterone cream beforehand.

This cycle, I'm on CD26 and my temps have begun to seesaw drastically, which means an anovulatory cycle. Each day that I have a temp drop we do the baby dance, but I'm disappointed because I may have a significant rise the next day but two days after it'll drop drastically again. I have decided to follow the original author, Louise Lacey's suggestion that until my cycles begin following the moon we sleep in complete darkness. I don't think this will hurt us any to do this for awhile.

As for the sugar detox, I've had a major backslide on it. It's been a difficult month for us financially and when you depend on others for your food supply, it's hard to eat what you need instead of what's available. Phase 5 is when you are supposed to eliminate all refined sources of sugar. I haven't been able to do that and for the first couple of weeks, I managed to keep my intake under 15g of refined sugars per day but we also had some pretty steady money coming in but the last few weeks we have been broke and depending on the food my parents buy to eat. My parents are not healthy eaters and they definitely do not care if foods comply with the sugar detox. My dad tries, he asks me if things are okay but that's only if I'm with him when he goes to the store.

I also haven't lost any weight. Originally when I'd started phase 5 I dropped about 5 pounds but that hasn't stayed off since I've been eating what's available which more often than not contains more than my desired daily intake of refined sugars. I'm hoping to get back on track once we get some money to go grocery shopping.