My Feelings

मैं भाव सूची उन भावों की

2011-10-09T18:33:00.001+05:30

मैं भाव सूची उन भावों की, जो बिके सदा ही बिन तोले

तन्हाई हूँ हर उस ख़त की, जो पढ़ा गया हो बिन खोले ||

हर आंसू को हर पत्थर तक, पहुचाने की लाचार हूक

मैं सहज अर्थ उन शब्दों का, जो कहे गए हैं बिन बोले

जो कभी नहीं बरसा खुल कर, मैं उस बादल का पानी हूँ

लव कुश ही पीर बिना गाई, सीता की राम कहानी हूँ

मैं भाव सूची .....................................................||

जिनके सपनों के ताजमहल, बनने से पहले टूट गए

जिन हाथों में दो हाथ कभी, आने से पहले छूट गए

धरती पर जिनके खोने और, पाने की अजब कहानी है

किस्मत की देवी मन गयी, पर प्रणय देवता रूठ गए

मैं मैली चादर वाले उस, कबिरा की अम्रत वाणी हूँ

लुव कुश की पीर ..............................................||

कुछ कहते हैं मैं सीखा हूँ, अपने जख्मो को खुद सीकर

कुछ कहते हें में हँसता हूँ , भीतर भीतर आंसू पीकर

कुछ कहते हैं में हूँ विरोध से, उपजी एक खुद्दार विजय

कुछ कहते हैं मैं रचता हूँ, खुद मैं मरकर खुद में जीकर

लकिन मैं हर चतुराई की, सोची समझी नादानी हूँ

लुव कुश की पीर ..............................................||

By Dr. Kumar Vishvash ::

क्या कर लोगी पढ-लिख कर..????

2011-10-06T21:13:00.001+05:30

नाजुक हाथ में कलम चाहिये

पकड़ा देते खुरपी और गेंती

मन के अन्दर शर्म न आती

ये है उनकी खुद की बच्ची

घर के कहते लोग सब

क्यो करोगी पढ़ाई

तुम्हें नौकरी तो करना नहीं है

करना है निनाण और गुड़ाई........

घर का करो काम

चूल्हे पर रोटी बनाना सीखो

सुबह शाम घास है लाना

यहाँ बैठ कर आँख मत मीचो

कितनी लड़कियाँ पढ़ कर भी

करती है खेत की कटाई

बक बक बातें मत कर

नहीं तो कर दूँगा तेरी पिटाई.......

कसूर माँ बाप का नहीं,

ऐसा है रहन सहन और सोच है कई गांवो की

जहाँ की बेटियाँ खुद

उगाती है पेड़, अपनी छाँव का

ये दुर्दशा गाँव की बेटियों की,

किससे करें वे अच्छी आशा

उनके मन मे एक ही शंका,

कोशिश करना व्यर्थ है मिलेगी वही निराशा.....

छोटी से उमर में ही

पकड़ा देते हैं भैंस की रस्सी

नाजुक हाथ में कलम चाहिये

पकड़ा देते खुरपी और गेंती

मन के अन्दर शर्म न आती

ये है उनकी खुद की बच्ची........

अपने हाथों की लकीरों में बसा ले मुझको

2011-04-30T17:19:00.000+05:30

अपने हाथों की लकीरों में बसा ले मुझको
मैं हूँ तेरा नसीब अपना बना ले मुझको

मुझसे तू पूछने आया है वफ़ा के मानी
ये तेरी सादादिली मार न डाले मुझको

मैं समंदर भी हूँ, मोती भी हूँ, ग़ोताज़न भी
कोई भी नाम मेरा लेके बुला ले मुझको

तूने देखा नहीं आईने से आगे कुछ भी
ख़ुदपरस्ती में कहीं तू न गँवा ले मुझको

कल की बात और है मैं अब सा रहूँ या न रहूँ
जितना जी चाहे तेरा आज सता ले मुझको

ख़ुद को मैं बाँट न डालूँ कहीं दामन-दामन
कर दिया तूने अगर मेरे हवाले मुझको

मैं जो काँटा हूँ तो चल मुझसे बचाकर दामन
मैं हूँ गर फूल तो जूड़े में सजा ले मुझको

मैं खुले दर के किसी घर का हूँ सामाँ प्यारे
तू दबे पाँव कभी आ के चुरा ले मुझको

तर्क-ए-उल्फ़त की क़सम भी कोई होती है क़सम
तू कभी याद तो कर भूलने वाले मुझको

वादा फिर वादा है मैं ज़हर भी पी जाऊँ " रवि"
शर्त ये है कोई बाँहों में सम्भाले मुझको

माँ

2011-04-29T15:19:00.000+05:30

बेसन की सोंधी रोटी पर खट्टी चटनी जैसी माँ ,
याद आता है चौका-बासन, चिमटा फुँकनी जैसी माँ ।
बाँस की खुर्री खाट के ऊपर हर आहट पर कान धरे ,
आधी सोई आधी जागी थकी दुपहरी जैसी माँ ।
चिड़ियों के चहकार में गूँजे राधा-मोहन अली-अली ,
मुर्गे की आवाज़ से खुलती, घर की कुंड़ी जैसी माँ ।
बीवी, बेटी, बहन, पड़ोसन थोड़ी-थोड़ी सी सब में ,
दिन भर इक रस्सी के ऊपर चलती नटनी जैसी मां ।
बाँट के अपना चेहरा, माथा, आँखें जाने कहाँ गई ,
फटे पुराने इक अलबम में चंचल लड़की जैसी माँ

सुख देती हुई माओं को गिनती नहीं आती
पीपल की घनी छायों को गिनती नहीं आती।
लबों पर उसके कभी बददुआ नहीं होती,
बस एक माँ है जो कभी खफ़ा नहीं होती।
इस तरह मेरे गुनाहों को वो धो देती है
माँ बहुत गुस्से में होती है तो रो देती है।
मैंने रोते हुए पोछे थे किसी दिन आँसू
मुद्दतों से माँ ने नहीं धोया दुप्पट्टा अपना।
जब भी कश्ती मेरी सैलाब में आ जाती है,
माँ दुआ करती हुई ख्वाब में आ जाती हे

सर्दी में मौसम से बचाती, तन के कपडे जैसी माँ

बेसन की सोंधी रोटी पर खट्टी चटनी जैसी माँ ,

अपने दिलो में मुझको जला कर रखना

2011-04-26T16:48:00.000+05:30

अपने दिल को पत्थर का बना कर रखना ,
हर चोट के निशान को सजा कर रखना ।

उड़ना हवा में खुल कर लेकिन ,
अपने कदमों को ज़मी से मिला कर रखना ।

छाव में माना सुकून मिलता है बहुत ,
फिर भी धूप में खुद को जला कर रखना ।

उम्रभर साथ तो रिश्ते नहीं रहते हैं ,
यादों में हर किसी को जिन्दा रखना ।

वक्त के साथ चलते-चलते , खो ना जाना ,
खुद को दुनिया से छिपा कर रखना ।

रातभर जाग कर रोना चाहो जो कभी ,
अपने चेहरे को दोस्तों से छिपा कर रखना ।

तुफानो को कब तक रोक सकोगे तुम ,
कश्ती और मांझी का याद पता रखना ।

हर कहीं जिन्दगी एक सी ही होती हैं ,
अपने ज़ख्मों को अपनो को बता कर रखना ।

मन्दिरो में ही मिलते हो भगवान जरुरी नहीं ,
हर किसी से रिश्ता बना कर रखना ।

मरना जीना बस में कहाँ है अपने ,
हर पल में जिन्दगी का लुफ्त उठाये रखना ।

दर्द कभी आखरी नहीं होता ,
अपनी आँखों में अश्को को बचा कर रखना ।

"रवि" तो रोज ही आता है मगर ,
अपने दिलो में मुझको जला कर रखना

साथी, सब कुछ सहना होगा

2011-04-25T17:12:00.000+05:30

साथी, सब कुछ सहना होगा!

मानव पर जगती का शासन,
जगती पर संसृति का बंधन,
संसृति को भी और किसी के प्रतिबंधो में रहना होगा!
साथी, सब कुछ सहना होगा!

हम क्या हैं जगती के सर में!
जगती क्या, संसृति सागर में!
एक प्रबल धारा में हमको लघु तिनके-सा बहना होगा!
साथी, सब कुछ सहना होगा!

आ‌ओ, अपनी लघुता जानें,
अपनी निर्बलता पहचानें,
जैसे जग रहता आया है उसी तरह से रहना होगा!
साथी, सब कुछ सहना होगा!

Analysis of Our Emotional Brain

2011-04-22T12:31:00.000+05:30

The emotional brain is driven by our dopamine system. Dopamine is responsible for our emotions and is the fuel of our hidden decision-making.

While it may seem that our emotions are somewhat instinctual, hence fixed, they are quite the contrary. In fact, they reflect the emotional brain’s view of how the world is working at a particular point in time.

Dopamine is our reward system and dopamine neurons run on experience and expectation. If dopamine neurons predict a reward (based on past experience) and the reward happens, we feel pleasure and the neurons retain the connection. But, if the predicted reward does not happen, the dopamine neurons record the error for future reference.

Decisions from the emotional brain happen quickly, with little information, and feel like instinct or intuition. Because a conclusion from the emotional brain is not rooted in logic, we are unable to justify it. Instead, we feel that it is right, no reasons why.

Strengths and Weaknesses of Our Emotional Brain:

Strengths	Weaknesses
Knows more than we think we know Creates our wisdom Excels at complex decisions (too many factors)	Erroneously perceives patterns in randomness Feels loses more than gains Over-values immediate gains Is useless with numbers

Strengths:
The emotional brain knows more than we think we do. It is always busy deciding how the world is working based on what we are experiencing and then rewiring itself. As Lehrer states, “Even when we think we know nothing, our brains know something. That’s what our feelings are trying to tell us.”

Science confirms that the emotional brain is how we become experts. An expert is someone “having, involving, or displaying special skill or knowledge derived from training or experience”. Human expertise results, not from executing logic, but from our emotions. Because experts make decisions without the overhead of logic, experts appear to operate effortlessly, on autopilot, no explanations necessary.

The emotional brain is best for decisions for which the quantity of conditions is overwhelming and there is too much information for us to process with logic. “Complex problems….require the processing powers of the emotional brain, the supercomputer of the mind.”

Weaknesses:
Unfortunately, the emotional brain prefers to find patterns (dare we say, logic) where there is only randomness. It also likes to feel good and so it seeks to maximize rewards, especially unpredictable ones. Combining its susceptibility for invisible patterns and maximizing rewards, it can become quite excited when a slot machine, for no explainable reason, results in a win.

The emotional brain feels worse from losses than it feels good from gains. Lehrer gives an intriguing example. Credit cards alter the chemistry of our buying decisions! When we pay cash, we feel the immediate loss of money, a bad feeling. However, when we use credit cards, we feel the immediate gain of the purchased item without immediate loss (the loss is delayed). Each of these buying experiences activates a different part of the brain.

The emotional brain over-values immediate gains. While all gains feel good, immediate gains feel even better. Lehrer’s examples are fascinating. One is the temptation of subprime mortgages. The immediate gain that feels good is the buying of a house with a low fixed interest rate for the immediate future. The related loss – the higher variable interest rate – occurs in the more distant future. Therefore, the emotional brain is delighted with subprime mortgages. In fact, Lehrer points out that even people who qualified for better financial terms of conventional mortgages fell prey to the brain’s delight with immediate gain.

For 26/11 And Aydhya Kand

2010-11-26T11:55:00.000+05:30

कहीं मस्जिद की हलचल हे, कहीं मंदिर की बेताबी
मगर तामीर दोनों की, फकत इंसा ही करता है !

अगरचे दोनों मसकन में, खुदा ओ ईश रहते हैं

तो फिर ये आदमी क्यों कर यहाँ, फिरके बदलता है !

यहाँ इमां का सौदा है, खनकते चंद सिक्कों पे

भरम की बात पे देखो, धरम बेमोल बिकता है!

यहाँ हर शख्स प्यासा है, मगर ये प्यास है कैसी

लहू पीकर ही इंसा का यहाँ, इंसा बहकता है!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

यही खुदगर्ज मण्डी है, जिसे तुम दुनिया कहते हो

यहाँ मरघट तो हँसते हैं, मगर गुलशन सिसकता है!!!!!

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

2010-10-01T14:20:00.000+05:30

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE has become one of the most important parameters for success in the corporate world today. The term emotional intelligence means acknowledging and managing one’s feelings, understanding other’s feelings and then responding appropriately and effectively, so that people can work together smoothly and fulfill personal as well organizational goals.

In an organizational set-up an individual has to work in groups along with people having different ideas, suggestions and opinions. Emotional intelligence plays a significant role at such juncture. The person has to learn to control and manage his moods and impulses because effective use of his skill and knowledge depends largely on the effective regulation of emotions.
Our emotions and mood swings have a huge impact on the problem at hand. If we have better control over emotions, it will help us to find creative and workable solutions to the problem at hand. Whereas, in a bad bout of mood we may create even bigger problems or give unrealistic solutions to problems.

Hence, the need to be emotionally intelligent at the workplace can’t be undermined. At the same time it is not something that can be learnt overnight. It is largely learnt through life’s experiences. To develop emotional intelligence, individuals can follow the techniques given below:

Â Take responsibility for your emotions.

Â Instead of evaluating other people’s motives and actions, watch your own emotions and feelings.

Â Identify your mood swings. Relax when there is a rush of emotions and get going when you are feeling low.

Â Respect other’s feelings and try to incorporate their view point in decision making.

Â Acknowledge your negative feelings and try to reduce them.

Â Always give clear explanations to people working with you. Develop organizational culture that supports learning. Make use of persuasion rather than punishment to get the desired results.

It is increasingly recognized that IQ may account for about 20 per cent of an individual’s success in life. The remaining 80 per cent depends largely on his emotional intelligence. A person with an IQ level of 180 is not worth it, if he can’t relate to anyone in the organization and can’t manage himself and others working with him effectively.

Thanks

Ravendra Kumar Saraswat

The Control of Your Emotions: Kill Stubborn Weeds while Leaving the Carrots Intact!

2010-09-22T18:24:00.000+05:30

Not only the control of your emotions can be selective, but it is usually essential to know the cause. For most human beings, the cause of their emotions is found in some event of their recent or distant past, present, or future. But is this theory fully satisfactory and realistic?
It is clear that no one wants to control their emotions in such a way that it would make them all disappear--including the good or positive emotio... Not only the control of your emotions can be selective, but it is usually essential to know the cause. For most human beings, the cause of their emotions is found in some event of their recent or distant past, present, or future. But is this theory fully satisfactory and realistic?
It is clear that no one wants to control their emotions in such a way that it would make them all disappear--including the good or positive emotions. After all, what fun would there be to live a life without joy, without enthusiasm? The good news is this control can be selective, as these products that kill stubborn weeds in your kitchen garden while leaving the carrots intact. As a matter of fact, not only do carrots grow best when they are not cluttered by weeds, but so it is with human emotions. Now, you will most probably admit that it is difficult--if not impossible--to feel joyful while being anxious or depressed at the same time. The control of your negative emotions is usually sufficient in itself to allow positive emotions to blossom. However, to control a phenomenon, it is usually essential to know the cause. For most human beings, the cause of their emotions is found in some event of their recent or distant past, present, or future. And so we can often hear them say: - "This good news made me happy." - "My son's failures depress me." - "The death of my mother saddens me." - "My daughter's rudeness makes me angry." - "Heights scare me." Every time, the person identifies the event (good news, failure, death, rudeness, heights) as the cause of a particular emotion (joy, depression, sadness, anger, anxiety). Almost everyone will find that this theory is fully satisfactory and realistic. This is probably what you believe as well. And yet not only is this theory one of the most pernicious errors we can imagine, but a moment of reflection will suffice to prove that no event--whether past, present, or future--never causes the shadow of an emotion to anyone. Here are two arguments demonstrating the fallacy of this theory. Argument no. 1 Let's face it: Once an event has happened, it never disappears. For example, the deceased mother never returns to life. In this sense, every event is eternal. If the permanent death of the mother caused the sadness of her daughter, then it would logically follow that the daughter would be automatically condemned to feeling sad on a permanent basis--that is, after the death of her mother until her own death. Now, everyone knows that the sadness of the daughter would undergo some fluctuations: intense at first, then gradually more moderate, again more intense (for example, on the anniversary of the mother's death). From this point, the most important question to ask yourself is: How can a stable and unique event cause variable, sporadic, or even disappearing effects? Argument no. 2 You will most probably agree with me that several people do not necessarily feel the same emotion about the same event. For example, let's imagine that 100 people not only meet the same interviewer but are also turned down for the same job. Some of the hundred rejectees would feel disappointed, some angry, some depressed, and some would have other kinds of emotions. Very likely, they would not all feel exactly the same way. They would have a variety of emotions, most of them negative to be sure, but different kinds of negative emotions. Not all would feel depressed, and a few might even feel happy about being turned down for the job by the interviewer. This last group would have concluded that they really didn't want the job or that they wanted it but it had more disadvantages than advantages for them. Conclusion The conclusion is then inescapable. The real cause of human emotions can be found in the thoughts, beliefs, ideas, personal reflections, interpretations, opinions... in short, in the way we talk to ourselves about an event--whether past, present, or future. In other words, our emotions--positive or negative, good or bad--are never caused by an event. If you're not yet convinced--which is a possibility quite acceptable in my point of view--rest assured that I will continue to introduce you to other arguments. I insist heavily on this point because it is the cornerstone of the entire system by which you can learn to modify your own emotions and thus raise your level of happiness and improve the quality of your life.